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Wondering why all of your favorite creators, journalists, and writers are moving to Substack? Have you signed up for a few but are basically confused about how to navigate the Substack universe? This episode is for you.

I moved my longtime newsletter the Secret Posts and membership community Secret Stuff to Substack back in December, and I have lots of thoughts about this trend and how to make it your Substack user experience better.

Click HERE to sign up for the Secret Stuff Substack, where you'll get all my Secret Stuff essays for free or can upgrade for the Book Club & Symposium meetings, plus lots of other goodies.

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Secret Stuff Substack

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How to listen to Substack podcast episodes in my podcast app

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Ep 272: Best Books of the Year (So Far)

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 07:30:00 GMT

My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me to talk about the best books we've read (so far) in 2025!

Join SECRET STUFF on Substack for our BONUS conversation and for Stephen King Summer

We've created special lists of all the books we talk about on amazon and on Bookshop

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Laura's Best Books of the Year (so far):

Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix

Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner

There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib

Show Don't Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld

Didion and Babitz by Lili Anolik

Yasmin's Best Books of the Year (so far):

Careless People by Sarah Wynn-Williams

Entitlement by Rumaan Alaam

It Begins with You: The 9 Hard Truths About Love That Will Change Your Life by Jillian Turecki

Steph's Best Books of the Year (so far):

Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson

Mutual Interest by Olivia Wolfgang-Smith

Like Mother, Like Mother by Susan Rieger

ALSO MENTIONED:

The Chani App

You Were Born for This: Astrology for Radical Self-Acceptance by Chani Nicholas

The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick

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Ep 271: The Birthday Journal

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 07:30:00 GMT

How to mark your special day with a dedicated Birthday Journal.

Whether you're celebrating on your actual birthDAY, or your birthday week, or taking your whole birthday month to look back and look forward on your life, these ideas and prompts will help you make the most of this period of introspection.

The 4 sections of the birthday journal:

Timeline

Who I Was

Who I Am

Who I Want To Be

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep. 249: 4 Ways To Journal (For People Who Don’t Like Journaling)

ALL JOURNAL PROMPT EPISODES

Other episodes about journaling:

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Ep 270: 10 Things About Surviving Breast Cancer (with Bethany Winters) REPLAY

Thu, 29 May 2025 07:30:00 GMT

In 2016, at age 47, Bethany Winters was diagnosed with Grade 3 Stage IIB Invasive Ductal Carcinoma. What followed was a year of intensive treatment, including chemotherapy, a double mastectomy, and total hysterectomy.

In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."

This is a tender and important conversation.

This episode originally aired in 2021. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this important conversation. 1 in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in their lifetime. Please take care while listening.

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Ep 269: Tremaine Family Check-In

Thu, 22 May 2025 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is a conversation with my husband, Jeff, and our two teenagers Lucy and Finch. We're answering listener questions about family dynamics, living in LA, how the kids feel about their parents' careers, and what they picture for their futures.

Other Tremaine family episodes:

Ep 59: Marry the person you could quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello from lockdown)

Ep 69: 22 Things Out Family Watched in Quarantine

BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From One Year of the Pandemic

Ep 138: 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids (with Lucy & Finch)

Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract for Teens

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Ep 255: Making R-Rated Art As A Mom (with Stacy Rukeyser)

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Stephen King Summer 2025!

Wed, 21 May 2025 05:00:25 GMT

The 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1! Join us as we deep dive on the world's greatest living story teller.

For Stephen King Summer 2025, we're reading:

THE SHINING (1977)

Under the Dome (2009)

And we're watching:

Christine (1983)

Episode 1 of The Outsider (2020)

Doctor Sleep (2019)

Stephen King Summer is a part of my Secret Stuff book club & membership community.

Browse Stephen King Summer MERCH

Not sure where to start with Stephen King? Jump right into Stephen King Summer OR listen to this episodes for book recommendations:

Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit

Ep 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read And What To Skip)

Hope to see you over on Secret Stuff for the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!

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Ep 268: Believe In Yourself So Much That You're Delusional (a ONE THING conversation with actress Fiona Rene)

Thu, 15 May 2025 07:30:00 GMT

I had no idea how much I needed this conversation with actor, producer, director, writer, and musician Fiona Rene. In just one hour she taught me the value of believing in yourself above all else, more than anyone else, almost to the point of delusion.

You might know Fiona Rene from her roles on Lincoln Lawyer, NCIS: Hawaii, I Know What You Did Last Summer, and her leading role in the #1 CBS show Tracker, but Fiona and I immediately connected over our Oklahoma roots. In this ONE THING conversation - where I ask my guests about the ONE THING they would tell you - we talk about self-confidence, the balance between "being" and "doing" and why believing in yourself above all else is the key to success.

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Ep 267: Sharing As Part of Grief (REPLAY)

Thu, 08 May 2025 07:30:00 GMT

This episode with my friend Amy Ortloff originally aired in August 2021 with the title Teaching People To Grieve With Me. As part of my effort to highlight the best of my past episodes, I wanted to replay this conversation, which is one of the most important I've ever shared.

Content warning: Child loss and suicide

In 2017, Amy Ortloff lost her middle child Ryan to suicide. Ryan was just 17 years old. Less than a week after his death, Amy took to her personal Facebook page and starting sharing every single day. She began by sharing stories about Ryan, family memories and examples of the kind of kid he was. She didn't want her child to be forgotten.

As the weeks went by, deep in grief, Amy also started sharing her own experiences of this devastating time she was living through. She shared what she was learning in therapy, she set and shared her personal boundaries for interaction for those in her small town Oklahoma community.

Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.

This episode is about the effects of that real-time sharing during the hardest time of her life, the positive and the negative. Amy was teaching us how to grieve with her, and it made an enormous impact on me long before I ever wrote a book about sharing stuff.

If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.

Please share this episode with anyone who needs to hear it.

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Ep 266: Best Books Lately

Thu, 01 May 2025 07:30:00 GMT

My favorite topic, any time of year.

Join the SECRET STUFF BOOK CLUB where we're about to kick off the 5th annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!

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Books I'm Looking Forward To Reading:

The Book Club for Troublesome Women by Marie Bostwick

Playworld: A Novel by Adam Ross

Broken Country by Clare Leslie Hall

Run for the Hills by Kevin Wilson

Three Biographies:

Sister Sinner by Claire Hoffman

Mark Twain by Ron Chernow

Manson by Jeff Guinn

Best Books Lately:

There’s Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib

Americanah by Chimimanda Ngozi Adichie

Parable of the Sower by Octavia E. Butler

Long Island Compromise by Taffy Brodesser-Akner

The Tell by Amy Griffin

Victorian Psycho by Virginia Feito

Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy

ALSO MENTIONED:

Ep. 258: Best Books Lately with Liz Hein

NYTimes 100 Best Books of the 21st Century

Ep. 98: How To Start a Book Club

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Ep 265: How Have You Changed In The Last 10 Years?

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is the very core of what 10 Things To Tell You is about: reflection, growth, and great conversations.

And this conversation happens to be with one of my oldest friends and very favorite person to be on the microphone with: Meg Tietz. We're talking through the many ways we've changed in the last 10 years - since 2015 - in our home & family, career, and spiritually/emotionally. We have so much to say about our mid-30s, mid-2010s selves, and we're encouraging YOU to reflect on your own changes from the last decade.

Meg is a writer, speaker, voice over artist, and internet pioneer. I have been following in her footsteps since high school, and she is responsible for giving me my first shot at podcasting when she launched the Sorta Awesome show in 2015. Together we created and produced Smartest Person in the Room and now we're both creating regularly on Substack.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Meg's Deconversion Series on Substack (Part 1) and Part 2 and Part 3

Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine

Ep 235: 4 Lessons After Publishing 2 Books

Ep 34: The Robbery

Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition

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BONUS: Are you underestimated?

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 21:22:14 GMT

Have you ever felt underestimated? Of course you have. Maybe YOU'VE underestimated yourself (which can somehow feel worse).

My friend and fellow podcaster and author Mary Marantz joins me to talk about her new book Underestimated: The Surprisingly Simple Shift To Quit Playing Small, Name The Fear, and Move Forward Anyway. I just love Mary and love what she has to say about taking our future into our own hands.

Click HERE to get Mary's preorder bonuses

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ALSO MENTIONED in this episode:

Dirt by Mary Marantz

Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots

Take the Achiever Quiz

Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense with Dr. Becky Kennedy

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Ep 264: Lessons Learned While Staying Put

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 07:30:00 GMT

You'll love this conversation if you've ever wrestled with the fact that achieving your dreams can look and feel different than you expected.

Annie B Jones is most well known for owning The Bookshelf bookstore and for her book-focused podcast From the Front Porch, but now she's on the other side of publishing industry as she releases her debut book of essays Ordinary Time: Lessons Learned While Staying Put.

In this conversation, Annie and I talk about how dreams don't always look the way you planned, like living near your hometown, owning a bookstore, even (especially?) writing a book! Our lives look so different from one another, but we found so many parallels.

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Ep 263: Make Bold Choices (In Your Home And In Your Life)

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 07:30:00 GMT

I have been waiting for the right moment to feature this conversation with interior designer Michelle Fahmy, founder of Haus of Meeshie, about bringing bold color and unique style to your home and life. For the past two years, Meeshie has helped bring fresh life to our family's home in Los Angeles, bringing a whole new vibe to our living spaces.

Since I've long preached the power of our spaces on this show, I knew Meeshie (with her very bold style) would be the perfect person to talk us through this topic. But this conversation ended up being about way more than just paint and wallpaper. Meeshie's own career trajectory and leaps of faith make this an inspiring message for how to create the colorful life you want.

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Check out the EXTRA THINGS conversation with Meeshie on Laura Tremaine's Secret Stuff

Episodes that pair well with this one:

Ep 236: Discovering what was always there

BONUS: 5 Rules To Create A House You Love

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BONUS: I Thought It Would Be Better Than This

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 07:30:00 GMT

Over the last few years I’ve watched my friend, Jessica Turner, privately and publicly walk through her husband’s coming out and their subsequent divorce as well as her efforts to find her equilibrium in this new family dynamic. Jessica has done it all with grace and kindness and honesty, sharing her story with incredible strength and vulnerability. Her newest book, I Thought It Would Be Better Than This, chronicles this journey and the lessons she’s learned from it.

In this conversation, Jessica shares what it was like to navigate her own grief about the end of her marriage while also remaining a friend and ally to her ex-husband as he navigated coming out as gay. She shares how she was helped by journaling and therapy (two drums I will continue to bang all my days) and the rules she has for herself when it comes to sharing difficult and vulnerable things online. Jessica’s hard won wisdom is applicable to anyone dealing with disappointment. or who thought to themselves about their love life, career, parenting, or just adulthood...I thought it would be better than this.

Learn more about Jessica Turner

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Buy her book (out now!) I Thought It Would Be Better Than This

Jessica's other books:

The Fringe Hours

Stretched Too Thin

Jessica's other appearance on 10 Things To Tell You:

Ep. 54: Best Books Lately with Jessica Turner

BONUS: How Influencers are making money off you. (a conversation with Jessica Turner)

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Ep 262: Searching for a Best Friend

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult.

Every week on this show I encourage you to take the prompts and topics to a best friend in order to have a deeper conversation and better connection. But what if you don't have a best friend? What if you used to have a best friend but now you don't and that pain still lingers? What if you want a best friend, but have no idea how to find that person?

In honor of my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs celebrating its book birthday this week, I wanted to rerun this episode from January 2021 with Heather Adams. Even though we recorded this years before The Life Council came out, you can see how I was already threading together the ideas that would eventually become the book.

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Ep 261: Favorite Things Winter 2025

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 07:30:00 GMT

I'm sharing my current favorite beauty products, apps, books, charities, and experiences of the last few months.

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What are YOUR favorite things in this season? Winter 2025 has been a doozy, so making a list of the things we love right now can give you such a boost of gratitude. I also really like how these lists mark a moment in time.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Opal phone blocking app

Money Hair Mask: Deep Hydrating and Strengthening Treatment

MdrnDock Travel Charger

Travel Hanging Organizer for Makeup & Skincare Products

Travel Organizer for Sunglasses & Jewelry

The Power of Intention by Wayne Dyer

Inner Excellence by Jim Murphy

Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation

Direct Relief

Altadena Girls

Grady Hendrix Author Event

Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix

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Ep 260: How To Backup and Digitize All Your Old Sentimental Photos (with Miss Freddy)

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 07:30:00 GMT

Professional photo organizer Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is BACK and this time she's helping us handle all those old, sentimental photos we all have stuffed in boxes in a closet somewhere.

Miss Freddy is answering my questions on how to make the physical photos into digital files and then how to organize and back them up online so we never have to worry they'll be lost or damaged in the future. She also says something to me about the 30,000 photos I have stored on my phone that might have just changed my life.

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Learn more about Miss Freddy's BACKUP BOOTCAMP

Listen to past episodes with Miss Freddy:

Ep. 41: 10 Tips to Organize Your Photos with Miss Freddy

Ep. 82: Create a Family Yearbook (10 Tips from Miss Freddy)

MENTIONED in this episode:

Epson FastFoto Scanner

ScanSnap portable scanner

Aura digital photo frame

Miss Freddy’s blog post: How to Convert DVDs to Digital Files

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Ep 259: 10 Questions for the Anniversary of a Big Event

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 08:30:00 GMT

This month marks 5 years still the Covid-19 pandemic turned our lives upside down.

In this episode, I'm sharing 10 questions that can be used as journal prompts or conversation starters on the anniversary of any big event.

I'm focusing my answers to these prompts on the five-year mark of the pandemic, but each question is crafted to be universal for any big event in your past.

JOIN ME ON SUBSTACK for a JOURNAL PARTY on this topic with the members of Secret Stuff

I'll also be posting all of the prompts on social media and in the show notes

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RELATED EPISODES:

10 Questions for Starting Over

10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything

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Ep 258: Best Books Lately

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 08:30:00 GMT

This is a very special episode of Best Books Lately. Special because it's been awhile since we've had one, special because it's with my longtime internet friend and book twin Liz Hein, and special because we're weaving together some of the most important themes of 10 Things To Tell You: sharing your stuff, connection, and, of course, BOOKS.

In this conversation, Liz and I are not only talking about the best books we've read lately (and we've both read some great things!), Liz is also sharing about the life of her father, legendary Chicago photographer Rich Hein, who passed away unexpectedly last month. Liz's book selections are inspired by her dad, and I love that we could honor his memory in this way.

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Rich Hein's obituary was on the front page of the Chicago Sun-Times

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LAURA'S BOOKS:

Beautyland by Marie Helene Bertino

Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix

Cue the Sun! by Emily Nussbaum

Liars by Sarah Manguso

We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer

LIZ'S BOOKS:

A Place for Us by Fatima Farheen Mirza

Hamnet by Maggie O'Farrell

The Remains of the Day by Kazuo Ishiguro

Wild Dark Shore by Charlotte McConaghy

There's Always This Year by Hanif Abdurraqib

ALSO MENTIONED:

Bob Dylan Goes Electric by Elijah Wald

How High We Go in the Dark by Sequoia Nagamatsu

How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix

The Southern Book Club's Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix

By Any Other Name by Jodi Picoult

The Book of Two Ways by Jodi Picoult

Small Great Things by Jodi Picoult

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

All Fours by Miranda July

Migrations by Charlotte McConaghy

Once There Were Wolves by Charlotte McConaghy

EPISODES MENTIONED:

Ep. 250 Best Books of the Year 2024

Ep. 252 Most Anticipated Books of 2025 with Traci Thomas of The Stacks podcast

Ep. 195 Why do smart people love dumb tv?

Ep 239 Horror for Beginners with Meredith Monday Schwartz

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Ep 257: How To Survive on Social Media in 2025

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 08:30:00 GMT

As the headlines get harder, the politics more divisive, and the platforms themselves more corrupt, many of us are rethinking our social media usage in 2025.

Yeah, sure, we've all said this before in the past. So we take breaks, or delete the apps off our phones, but we always come crawling back. Social media is just an ingrained part of our lives now. It's where we get our news, it's how we connect with others, it's a source of entertainment and expression.

And yet...there is something different about this moment in internet history. People really are fed up, but it also seems impossible to quit cold turkey. There has to be a middle ground between spending large chunks of our day scrolling and walking away from social media completely. In this episode I'm walking through my own personal process of changing my relationship with my phone.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Opal app

RELATED episodes:

Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working on the Internet

Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter

Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract (A conversation with my kids)

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Ep 256: Here Be Dragons: Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma (with Melanie Shankle)

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 08:30:00 GMT

Sometimes you read a friend's book and you're jealous they wrote something this good. This is how I felt when I read writer and podcast Melanie Shankle's latest Here Be Dragons: Treading the Deep Waters of Motherhood, Mean Girls, and Generational Trauma.

This book is about Melanie's very complicated relationship with her mom, woven together with her own Big Feelings about the mean girls that took over her daughter's high school experience. As someone who regularly preaches that all of us should be sharing our stuff, my jaw dropped at some of the stories that Melanie is able to share so well.

In this conversation, Melanie and I talk about all of those things. It's a tender topic, but Melanie is, as always, full of humor and wisdom in the face of it all.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs

Ep 243: Best Books Lately with Sophie Hudson

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Ep 255: Making R-Rated Art As A Mom

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 08:30:00 GMT

Now THIS is truly a conversation you won't hear anywhere else. My friend, television show runner Stacy Rukeyser, joins me to talk about making R-rated art when you're a mom.

Stacy has written on some really great shows over the years, but she was tasked with creating Netflix's first foray into erotica with her show Sex/Life back in 2021 and it brought up some questions about making this type of creative content when you're a mom. Stacy rightly points out that men likely wouldn't be asked (or be asking) the same type of questions, but it was a fascinating conversation to explore.

Stacy shares her fascinating Hollywood career trajectory, the column that broke open a One Tree Hill scandal, and the differences working in female-led writer's rooms.

This episode is a bit of a curve ball, but I think you'll be riveted.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Stacy's great grandfather Hall Caine

The Manx Man

Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz

Un-real on Netflix

44 Chapters About 4 Men by BB Easton

Hollywood Reporter article about the One Tree Hill writer's room

RELATED Episodes:

Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes (And how it affects you)

Ep 195: Why do smart people watch dumb tv?

Ep 216: Stop Deferring Your Life (A ONE THING conversation with Amy B. Harris)

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Ep 254: If I Started A Podcast Today...

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 08:30:00 GMT

Continuing my look back on 15 years of working on the internet (and the last decade as working as a podcaster), I'm addressing a question that I've gotten fairly often recently: Any advice on starting a podcast?

Based on my own mistakes working on three different shows, and observations about the podcast listening community and industry, in this episode I'm sharing what I would do if I started a new podcast today. While I speaking pretty specifically about podcasting in this episode, I also think that a lot of what I talk about applies to most creative endeavors on the internet in 2025.

I'm talking about creativity, marketing, mindset, equipment, and more. And at the end I give a little pep talk that maybe we all need.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Audacity recording/editing software

Riverside.fm software for remote recording

Single microphone I used for years recording in person

Current microphone I use

RELATED episodes:

Ep 124: Behind the Scenes of Podcasting

Ep 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know

Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections After 15 Years of Working On the Internet

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Ep 253: Regrets and Reflections on 15 Years of Working on the Internet

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 08:30:00 GMT

This month marks FIFTEEN years that I have been pursuing a career primarily by sharing myself on the internet. Starting with the Hollywood Housewife blog in January 2010, then building a social media presence, then becoming a podcaster and an author, and I have so many stories and thoughts to share about the last decade and a half.

On this episode, I'm talking about the things I did right, the things I definitely got wrong, and how I've evolved right along with the World Wide Web.

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MORE episodes on this topic:

Ep. 73: I Wrote a Book!

Ep. 63: Working From Home

Ep. 111: Behind The Scenes of Publishing, Marketing, and Launching a Book (with Kelly Gordon)

Ep. 166: How To Write a Book (in 10 Steps)

Ep. 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole)

MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep. 251: 10 Things I Learned in 2024

Sorta Awesome podcast

Smartest Person in the Room podcast

Racial Bias series on SPITR

Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

The Life Council by Laura Tremaine

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Ep 252: Most Anticipated Books of 2025

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 08:30:00 GMT

No matter the question, reading is the answer. And in a year starting off like 2025 is, we certainly need a lot of answers to life's questions.

I am thrilled to welcome fellow Angeleno bookworm Traci Thomas (host of The Stacks podcast) to talk about the most anticipated new book releases of 2025. We talk about novels and nonfiction by debut and beloved authors publishing this year and sorry not sorry about this conversation that will send your book budget soaring. There are so many good books to look forward to in the next six months.

Also in this episode, Traci really gives me a lot to think about in terms of how we talk about books and why it's okay to be publicly critical of books that don't work for us. As an author who is jumpy about that concept, Traci really shifted my perspective on this.

You can listen to Traci on The Stacks podcast

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MOST ANTICIPATED 2025 BOOKS:

January Books:

Black in Blues: How a Color Tells the Story of My People by Imani Perry
Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix

February Books:

Pure Innocent Fun: Essays by Ira Madison III
Show Don’t Tell by Curtis Sittenfeld
Death Takes Me by Cristina Rivera Garza
One Day, Everyone Will Have Always Been Against This by Omar El Akkad

March Books:

Hot Air by Marcy Dermansky
I'll Love You Forever: Notes from a K-Pop Fan by Giaae Kwon
There is No Place for Us: Working and Homeless in America by Brian Goldstone

April Books:

Dear Writer: Pep Talks & Practical Advice for the Creative Life by Maggie Smith
The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad
Authority: Essays by Andrea Long Chu

May Books:

Love and Exile by Shon Faye
The Last Supper: Art, Faith, Sex, and Controversy in the 1980s by Paul Elie

June Books:

Atmosphere by Taylor Jenkins Reid
Weepers by Peter Mendelsun

ALSO MENTIONED in this episode:

Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters
Episode 122 of The Stacks Podcast with Kiese Laymon, Breathe by Imani Perry Book Club
Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II
The Keep It Podcast
Read Traci's Most Anticipated List of 2025 with a different set of books than she talks about here
Suleika Jaouad’s Substack, The Isolation Journals

MORE BOOKS mentioned in this episode:

Blood in the Water by Heather Ann Thompson
South to America by Imani Perry
Vexy Thing: On Gender and Liberation by Imani Perry
May We Forever Stand: A History of the Black National Anthem by Imani Perry
Breathe: A Letter to My Sons by Imani Perry
Between the World and Me by Ta-Nehisi Coates
Looking for Lorraine by Imani Perry
The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix
How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix
Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld
American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld
You Like It Darker by Stephen King
Liliana’s Invincible Summer by Cristina Rivera Garza
American War by Omar El Akkad
Evicted by Matthew Desmond
Reagan: His Life and Legend by Max Boot
You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith
Between Two Kingdoms by Suleika Jaouad
The Book of Alchemy: A Creative Practice for an Inspired Life by Suleika Jaouad
Beloved by Toni Morrison
The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo by Taylor Jenkins Reid

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Ep 251: 10 Things I Learned In 2024

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 08:30:00 GMT

It may already be January, but it's time for my annual year-end reflection with 10 of the biggest things I learned that I hope will also resonate with you.

2024 was a weird year in so many ways. My lessons were all over the place, from examining self-confidence vs. self-esteem, finding out who I am in a crisis, being honest about what home renovations can bring up emotionally, facing my addiction to the news cycle, and discovering the big thing that motivates our family decisions.

It was a year full of light bulb moments. I hope this helps you reflect upon your own lessons, struggles, and triumphs of the last year.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023

Ep 238: The Conversation That Changed My Year

Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter

The neck alignment thing that really works

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Ep 250: Best Books of the Year!

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 08:30:00 GMT

It's the reading episode we look forward to all year! My real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a supersized conversation about the best books we read in 2024.

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Since Stephanie, Yasmin, and I did a half-year Best Books episode together during the summer, we only gloss over a few of the books we discussed in depth in June. You can see the show notes from Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far).

Also an EXTENDED CUT of this episode and the BONUS episode where the three of us share books that didn't work for us this year (including a big surprise from me) is available for paid members SECRET STUFF (now on Substack!)

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(Stephanie doesn't post books on IG)

MENTIONED in this episode:

Yasmin’s Best Books:

Ours by Phillip B. Williams

The Wedding People by Alison Espach

Guilty Creatures: Sex, God, and Murder in Tallahassee by Mikita Brottman

Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship by Terrence Real

Stephanie’s Best Books:

This Motherless Land by Nikki May

Real Americans by Rachel Khong

Blue Sisters by Coco Mellors

Laura’s Best Books:

Dinner for Vampires by Bethany Joy Lenz

Here One Moment by Liane Moriarty

Rebecca by Daphne du Maurier

Link to Patreon episode about the Bee Sting - (Available for $3!)

ALSO MENTIONED:

Yasmin’s Best Books (So Far) in the June Episode:

You Like It Darker by Stephen King

James by Percival Everett

Knife: Meditations After an Attempted Murder by Salman Rushdie

Stephanie’s Best Books (so far) in the June Episode:

Long Island by Colm Tóibín

Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver

Slow Horses by Mick Herron

Laura’s Best Books (so far) in the June Episode:

The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

The Book of Love by Kelly Link

How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman

The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck

Holly by Stephen King

Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption by Stephen King

Secret Windows by Stephen King

The Body by Stephen King

The Stand by Stephen King

Mansfield Park by Jane Austen

You Can Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith

Sociopath: A Memoir by Patric Gagne, Ph.D.

All Fours by Miranda July

The Life Impossible by Matt Haig

Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

Apples Never Fall by Liane Moriarty

The Immortalists by Chloe Benjamin

Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty

What Alice Forgot by Liane Moriarty

Nine Perfect Strangers by Liane Moriarty

A Year to Live by Stephen Levine

Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano

Within Arm’s Reach by Ann Napolitano

Martyr! By Kaveh Akbar

Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera

Couple Found Slain by Mikita Brottman

NPR Best Books of the Year list

NYT 10 Best Books of the Year list

NYT Best Books of the 21st Century

Ep. 243 Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson)

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Ep 249: 4 Ways To Journal (For People Who Don't Like Journaling)

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 08:30:00 GMT

I know why you don't journal. I also know why you should journal.

In this episode, I'm sharing all the benefits you'll gain from the occasional journal session and how to combat the (many) obstacles that keep you from starting. Then I'll share the 4 types of journaling that you can try in order to see growth and clarity in your life.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

My favorite plain notebook

The Artist's Way by Julia Cameron

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BONUS: Becoming A Romance Writer

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 22:34:00 GMT

My friend Nora Dahlia Zelevansky is a journalist, a novelist, a wellness writer, and now she's a romance author! As we celebrate the release of her latest book PICK UP, Nora and I chat about her writing trajectory, the differences between publishing and marketing the romance genre, and why she decided to write this book using a different name.

We also talk about how fiction helps us process our pasts, and especially how our high school selves might not have grasped the full story, and how we wrestle with that in adulthood.

So many aspects to this great conversation!

PICK UP by Nora Dahlia is out now!

Learn more about Nora Dahlia Zelevansky

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MENTIONED in this episode:

NaNoWriMo

author Sarah MacLean's books

Competitive Grieving by Nora Zelevansky

Roll, Red, Roll: Rape, Power, and Football in the American Heartland

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Ep 248: Taylor Swift (Laura's Version)

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 08:30:00 GMT

As Taylor Swift ends her earth-shattering Eras tour this weekend after a year and a half of dominating the charts and the headlines, I'm sharing how her music and her professional presence has shaped me as an artist, a mom, a business woman, and a former angsty teenager.

I hope this episode inspires you to share your own favorite Taylor Swift memories, songs, lyrics, and more.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Kate Kennedy’s Be There in Five podcast

Follow Kate Kennedy on IG

Ep 246: A Funeral for Twitter

“Taylor Swift | The Eras Tour (Taylor’s Version)”

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Ep 247: The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control (a book club meeting with author Katherine Morgan Schafler)

Thu, 28 Nov 2024 08:30:00 GMT

One of the books that has made the biggest impression on me in the last few years is The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler. I have talked about this book EVERYWHERE and insisted that even people who do not self-identify as "perfectionists" would get something out of it.

So you can imagine that I was thrilled with the Secret Stuff members chose TPGTLC as a book club pick and I was doubly thrilled when author Katherine Morgan Schafler agreed to attend our regular monthly book club meeting to discuss it.

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This episode is a replay of our book club discussion that was held over zoom, where Katherine and I held a great conversation about some of the major points of the book (including the five different types of "perfectionists"), and then Secret Stuff members got to ask her questions.

I loved our conversation so much that I wanted everyone to hear it (and to read the book!). If you like these types of book club meetings, consider joining the Secret Stuff Book Club for 2025. We always have the best meetings with thoughtful conversations.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown (also one of my favorite books of all time)

“Tracker” on CBS

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Ep 246: A Funeral For Twitter

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 08:30:00 GMT

I joined twitter in 2009 and for 15 years - until this very month - it has been my favorite social media platform. The one place where I am only a consumer and not a creator. The place where I met my earliest online friends. The place where I made most of my best online memories following breaking news, political, scandal, and pop culture.

And the only other person I know who has been obsessed with twitter for as long as I have been? None other than friend and podcaster Jamie Golden. Jamie and I have shared many obsessions over the years - and I write about her in The Life Council as the Fellow Obsessive friend - but our love of twitter has always been our biggest shared passion. And despite saying numerous times over the years that we'd never leave, we both decided in the last few weeks to depart our formerly favorite space.

And thus, a funeral for twitter.

In this conversation, Jamie and I talk about our earliest days on twitter, why we loved it so much, our favorite moments, a few of our regrets, and, of course, why we're leaving.

You don't have to care about twitter to enjoy this passionate conversation between friends. My hope for this episode is that you'll get a little glimpse into some social media history and that you'll see yourself in a discussion about how being online has changed us.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Black Twitter: A People’s History (hulu docuseries)

Extremely Online by Taylor Lorenz

So You've Been Publicly Shamed by Jon Ronson

JAMIE's past episodes of 10 Things To Tell You:

Ep. 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden

Ep. 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Ep. 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Holden RETURNS!)

Ep. 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Ep. 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)

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Ep 245: 5 Routines and Rituals That Keep Me Grounded

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 08:30:00 GMT

When the world feels hard, and our lives feel loud, it can be difficult to find equilibrium. In this episode, I'm sharing 5 practices in various areas of my life that make me feel a little more like myself, a little more like a human, a little more sane and calm.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Learn more about #OneDayHH

Join our Secret Stuff community for regular Symposium conversations

Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

Episode 195: Why Do Smart People Love Dumb TV? with Matt Marr

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Ep 244: 10 Journal Prompts To Finish The Year Strong

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 08:30:00 GMT

With less than two months left in 2024, I'm sharing ten questions that will help you finish the year strong. We're talking achievable goals, mantras, connecting with others, and lingering decisions that need to be made. These questions will give you clarity for the weeks ahead and and let you set intentions for how you want to feel and who you want to be at the end of 2024.

As always, you can take these questions to your journal for introspection and growth, or use them as conversation starters with friends and family.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

BONUS: How To Decorate For The Seasons Without Buying More Stuff ( Conversation with Myquillyn Smith, The Nester)

Ep 243: Best Books Lately (with Sophie Hudson)

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Reading is always the best form of therapy, distraction, entertainment, and education. And in this episode we talk about titles that serve all of those purposes.

Sophie Hudson (aka Boo Mama) is the co-host of The Big Boo Cast and she's also the author of seven books, including her latest A Fine Sight To See. She is always so fun to talk to and we had a blast talking about how long we've known each other, where we first met, how we both feel strongly about women in leadership, and, of course, the best books that we've read lately.

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As usual, my book selections were all of the place. And as a former English teacher, Sophie recommended all kinds of books to make us feel and think.

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Sophie’s picks:

Remarkably Bright Creatures by Shelly Van Pelt
I Cheerfully Refuse by Leif Enger
The Kingdom, The Power and The Glory: American Evangelicals in An Age of Extremism by Tim Alberta
The Barn by Wright Thompson

Laura’s picks:

The Wedding People by Alison Espach
All Fours by Miranda July
The Quiet Damage: QAnon and the Destruction of the American Family by Jesselyn Cook
I'm Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reed

Other books mentioned:

The Friendship Factor by Alan Loy McGinnis
The Girl on the Train by Paula Hawkins
Tom Lake by Ann Patchett
Sandwich by Catherine Newman
Peace Like a River by Leif Enger
No One Belongs Here More than You: Stories by Miranda July
Jesus and John Wayne By Kristin Kobes Du Mez
Pappyland by Wright Thompson
Dispatches from Pluto by Richard Grant
Same As It Ever Was by Claire Lombardo
Heavy by Kiese Laymon
Long Division by Kiese Laymon

Also Mentioned:

The Popcast with Knox and Jamie

Me and You and Everyone We Know (movie)

Melanie Shankle, the Big Mama Blog

Episode 239: Horror for Beginners (with Meredith Monday Schwartz)

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Ep 242: How To Plan A Girls Trip

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 07:30:00 GMT

I want you to go on a girls trip in 2025. I want it to be a priority. But if you've never been on a girls trip - or it's been a long time - the logistics can be daunting. So I'm helping you out! In this episode, I'm sharing thoughts and tips on:

Deciding the vibe
Choosing the guests
Where to go
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Providing fun extras

...and more. You will leave this episode excited to plan your own little getaway, whether it's a staycation with one friend or a milestone trip with a group.

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Ep 240: Favorite Things Fall 2024

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Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. by Laura Tremaine

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Ep 241: Prepping Teenagers for the Workforce

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Lori Zuker Briller co-founded a staffing and recruitment agency almost 20 years ago, and in the last few years she's noticed a concerning trend among the young people who are applying for positions in various industries: a decline in professionalism, a lack of understanding of the job market and job search processes, and an overall deterioration in etiquette.

As a mom of two daughters herself, Lori set out to create something that would help teenagers get back to the basics of professionalism and prepare for the adult world.

In this conversation, Lori and I discuss how we got here as a society (hint: Covid, a more casual culture, and a change in modern communication styles) and just a few things we can teach our teenagers to set themselves up for success.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Bosses Are Firing Gen Z Grads Just Months After Hiring Them (Fortune)

Why So Many Companies Are Firing Gen Z Employees (Inc.)

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Ep 240: Favorite Things Fall 2024

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 07:30:00 GMT

My favorite things for the Fall of 2024 include a bra, a neck alignment thing-y, a documentary, a book, what's making me feel pretty, and two unexpected events that turned out to be some of my favorite moments of the year (so far).

We share our Favorite Things around here because a) it's fun b) it forces us to notice our life and c) it serves as a gratitude list of sorts.

BONUS: this episode also contains a dozen recommendations from fellow listeners and members of the SECRET STUFF community.

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MENTIONED BY LAURA in this episode:

Recent Girl's Trip posts HERE and HERE

Under Outfit bra

Meeting Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey story HERE

A Woman of Independent Means by Elizabeth Forsythe Hailey

Neck alignment thing-y

“Nothin’ But a Good Time” on Paramount Plus

1000 Words: A Writer's Guide to Staying Creative, Focused, and Productive All Year Round by Jami Attenberg

Emma J. Shipley wallpaper

LISTENER VOICES Recommendations:

Prequel Lucent-C Vitamin C Serum

Nuuly Clothing rentals

Lost Man’s Lane by Scott Carson

ma:nyo Pure Facial Cleansing Oil

Aveeno Protect + Hydrate Body Sunscreen

Senté Even Tone Mineral Sunscreen

Skylight Calendar and App

Starling House by Alix E. Harrow

ILIA Balmy Tint Hydrating Lip Balm

Substack

Five-Senses Journal by Gretchen Rubin

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Ep 239: Horror for Beginners

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 07:30:00 GMT

It's October! I'm joined on this episode by my friend and co-host of the Currently Reading podcast Meredith Monday Schwartz, to talk about why we read (and love) books in the horror genre and to give you a pile of recommendations for this spooky season.

This is a conversation for longtime horror readers AND for those who are horror-curious. We cover everything from why escaping into scary stories HELPS our anxiety (yes, really), to how we believe horror books are often tackling some of the most important cultural topics.

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Laura’s Spooky Books:

We Have Always Lived in the Castle by Shirley Jackson
Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia
The Need by Helen Phillips
How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix (Mutual pick for Laura and Meredith)

Meredith’s Spooky Books:

Diavola by Jennifer Thorne
We Used to Live Here by Marcus Kliewer
I’m Thinking of Ending Things by Iain Reid

Scary Story Beginnings:

Horror Books Laura Always Talks About:

Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant
The Passage by Justin Cronin
The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones
Tender is the Flesh by Agustina Bazterrica

Meredith’s Rurther Reading Recs:

Devolution by Max Brooks
FantasticLand by Mike Bockoven
The Troop by Nick Cutter
Amazon Original Stories Creature Feature Collection

Laura’s TBR recs:

The Reformatory by Tananarive Due
The House of Leaves by Mark Z. Danielewski

Books Also Mentioned:

I’ll be Gone in the Dark by Michelle McNamara (The scariest book Meredith has ever read)
The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard
The Haunting of Hill House by Shirley Jackson
Lottery and Other Stories by Shirley Jackson
The Final Girl Support Group by Grady Hendrix
The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix
Sandwich by Catherine Newman
101 Horror Books to Read Before You’re Murdered by Sadie Hartmann

Also Mentioned:

Talking Scared Podcast
Episode 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read + What To Skip)
Storygraph (for tracking books and checking trigger warnings)
Sadie Hartmann @mother.horror on Instagram

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Ep 238: The Conversation That Changed My Year

Thu, 26 Sep 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Back in February, during a casual, late night conversation, my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) asked me a question that completely that changed my year.

The answer to a question I had never thought about came to me with such clarity. And since her question (and my answer) was about the Big Picture plan for my life, it only felt appropriate to ask Kendra to talk through it all with me here on the show.

Kendra Adachi's new book is called The Plan: Manage Your Time Like A Lazy Genius and it's out everywhere on October 8, 2024.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Episode 51: How to Create and Structure a Business Peer Group (with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Episode 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy Genius

Episode 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie B. Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

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Ep 237: How To Look Better In Photos

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has looked at a photo of themselves and wondered if that's what they really look like. Professional photographer Jess Koehler is my guest today as we talk through all the hangups that keep us from taking, sharing, or displaying photos of ourselves, and how we can overcome them.

This is not a typical "tips and tricks" episode (although we do weave tangible and emotional tips throughout). Jess and I are talking about WHY we should document ourselves, maybe even on our hardest days. We're talking about the benefits of having professional photos taken when our camera phones have become so advanced. And, yes, we're sharing all kinds of logistics on taking photos, from finding a professional photographer to using your Apple Watch as a selfie timer.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture?

Fleabag: A Love Story (BONUS episode with Sueann Fortener)

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Ep 236: Discovering What Was Always There (a ONE THING conversation with Joy Cho)

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This is the latest episode in the ONE THING series, where I host conversations with interesting people and ask them the ONE THING they would tell you.

You might know Joy Cho as the bright, stylish, happy face and founder of Oh Joy!, a lifestyle brand with millions of followers and whose products and designs have appeared in Target, Petco, House Beautiful (to name a few) and in collaborations with Keds, Casetify, Calpak (and more).

But even with a soaring career, Joy experienced a midlife crisis after a hard season in her family and a series of professional setbacks. She tried all the things you're supposed to when you're struggling: therapy, a life coach, but there was really ONE THING that pulled her out of a long funk.

In our conversation, Joy and I talk about how I fanned out on her not once but twice, how an outfit can change the way you move through the day, and why it helps to remember what we loved to do when we were kids.

I knew Joy would bring wisdom and insight to the show, and of course she over delivered.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Find all of Joy Cho's books here

Creative, Inc. (published 2010)

Blog, Inc. (published 2012)

Joy's mental-health-focused Substack

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Ep 235: 4 Lessons After Publishing 2 Books + Listener Q&A

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This is an episode for writers, aspiring authors, readers, and anyone who likes a peek behind-the-scenes.

We're going to talk about the publishing industry as it stands, how it's changed in the last few years, the rise of self-publishing, conquering self-doubt, money, and so much more.

I'm sharing 4 lessons I learned after achieving my lifelong dream of becoming an author. My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. published in 2021, and my second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs published in 2023.

RELATED Episodes:

Ep. 73 I wrote a book! (Agents, publishing, writing, and editing)

Ep. 111 Behind-The-Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book

Ep. 166 How to Write a Book (in 10 steps)

BONUS: 5 Things About Writing Your Own Story (with author, ghostwriter, and book coach Allison Fallon)

Ep. 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Martian by Andy Weir

Fifty Shades of Grey by E.L. James

The Shadow Work Journal by Keila Shaheen

How A Self-Published Book Broke All The Rules And Became A Best Seller (NYT)

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Ep 234: Best Books of the Summer

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 07:30:00 GMT

What is the best thing you read this summer? My guest Carmel Phillips and I are sharing the books that made the greatest impression over the last few months, including backlist titles and the buzziest books of the season. (And yes, of course we mention the NYT Best Books of the 21st century list that dropped in July.)

Carmel Phillips is a design and style blogger who regularly shares bold interiors, budget-friendly fashion, and a splash of book talk! I've wanted to have her on the show forever and this felt like the perfect time to chat.

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Carmel’s picks:

Bastard Out of Carolina by Dorothy Allison

The Island of Sea Women by Lisa See

The Women by Kristen Hannah

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin

Laura’s picks:

The God of the Woods by Liz Moore

All the Colors of the Dark by Chris Whitaker

Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara

You Like It Darker by Stephen King

Sandwich by Catherine Newman

ALSO MENTIONED:

Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant

The Humans by Matt Haig

The Midnight Library by Matt Haig

James by Percival Everett

Salvage the Bones by Jesmyn Ward

Long Bright River by Liz Moore

The Nightingale by Kristen Hannah

The Four Winds by Kristen Hannah

The Storied Life of A.J. Fikry by Gabrielle Zevin

We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman

Ep. 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far)

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Ep 233: 10 Ways To Achieve Kitchen Peace

Thu, 22 Aug 2024 07:30:00 GMT

The kitchen may be the heart of the home, but it's also the place most likely to collect clutter and be full to the brim of stuff. Professional organizer Tara Bremer of @house.peace shares with us 10 ways that we can achieve peace in the most used room in the house.

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As I'm in the middle of a kitchen remodel, I've been thinking a lot about how to make this space feel and function the way we want. I share a little more about the changes we're making to our home on Ep 230: Favorite Things Summer 2024 and Tara and I have a bonus conversation over on Secret Stuff about some of the crazy stuff she's come across while organizing for others as well as the mental health aspects that come up around hoarding and purging.

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The Home Edit organizing stuff at Walmart

The Home Edit labels at The Container Store

Talented Kitchen labels

Brother P-Touch Label Maker

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Ep 232: 10 Weird Things I've Done

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is inspired by Snoop Dogg at the Olympics.

In the early 2000s, I worked on Snoop's short-lived MTV show Doggy Fizzle Televizzle and when I made a joke about this on social media, my DMs quickly filled with questions and I realized this was a story I hadn't told in awhile.

So in this episode I'm sharing 10 weird things I've done - from watching Drew Barrymore crawl through a second-story window to calling the cops on a teenage prank gone wrong.

I hope you enjoy my weird stories, but even more than that I hope that they inspire you to tell YOUR weird stories. Text a friend, post on social media, or revisit your past in your journal. This is a fun one.

A list of these weird things originally appeared in my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. 10 Questions To Take Your Friendships To The Next Level

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Snoop Dogg’s Doggy Fizzle Televizzle

Jackass

Wildboyz

Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine (join to listen to the Secret Tapes episode with my friend Noah from Doggy Fizzle Televizzle)

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Ep 231: 3 Rules + 3 Mantras For This Busy Season

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 07:30:00 GMT

August is such a crazy month - the second "new year" as it's often called, except without the fresh start and instead with the idea that we're all gearing up for school, fall chaos, and, of course, all of that bleeding into the holiday season.

But I don't want the second half of the year to feel frazzled, so I'm setting myself up for (better) success with a few rules and mantras to live by.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Secret Stuff

Unreasonable Hospitality by Will Guidara

RELATED Episodes:

Episode 227: Time Anxiety

Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm

Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations For Right Now

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Ep 230: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2024

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 07:30:00 GMT

We're back with all new episodes and kicking it off by sharing my favorite things of the summer!

In this episode I'm recommending books, podcasts, documentaries, and more favorites from this season. I'm also sharing details on our current home renovation and an update on my sister's recovery from brain surgery.

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FAVORITES in this episode:

Home renovations
NYT 100 Best Books of the 21st Century list
Kindle remote page turner
The God of the Woods by Liz Moore
Day Date Foodie Adventures with Jeff
Changing up my artwork/Scout Design Studio art pieces
Who Killed JFK? podcast
Ashley Madison Sex Lies and Scandal on Netflix and The Perfect Wife on Hulu
One Hundred Stars Stork Robe
My sister’s recovery from brain surgery

ALSO MENTIONED:

Haus of Meeshie

My personal ballot for the Best Books of the 21st Century

Long Bright River by Liz Moore

“American Nightmare” documentary on Netflix

11/22/63 by Stephen King

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Ep 229: The Big Business of Celebrity Fish Tanks (with Nic Tiemens of Infinity Aquariums) REPLAY

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This episode originally aired in November 2021 and is a very fun departure from my usual interviews.

One of the strangest things about our life in Hollywood (and there are many, many strange things) is our enormous fish tank. Every time I share a little bit about our fish tank on social media, I get flooded with questions that I mostly can't answer.

So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.

In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.

My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.

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Ep 228: 10 Tips for Hosting Houseguests (REPLAY)

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This episode originally aired in August 2021, and is one of my personal favorites.

Ready to bust out the air mattresses?

This episode is FULL of practical, logistical, and emotional tips for hosting people in your home. I'm sharing everything from the 4 things that keep (most) guests happy, to the mindset shifts that will keep you from being overwhelmed or resentful.

Look, if there's one subject I can give many (many) words to, it's hosting houseguests. Since I moved to Los Angeles 20 years ago, I've hosted friends and family of all group sizes, from couch crashers in a tiny apartment to my entire extended family at our new home last month.

Our lovely lake house has also been a revolving door of guests over the years, where I've become an expert at managing meals, airport pickups, activities, and downtime for families and groups. I know that having guests can be an absolute honor and also completely exhausting. I hope this episode gives you the tools to plan and the freedom from pressure the next time you're the host.

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Ep 227: Time Anxiety (REPLAY)

Thu, 11 Jul 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This episode originally aired in November 2021, and has been one of the most downloaded and referenced episodes of the show.

Have you ever had the thoughts:

I don’t have enough time

Time is passing me by

I’m wasting too much time

If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.)

In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety.

I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety.

I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time.

Mentioned in this episode:

My IG post about Time Anxiety

Headspace meditation app

Other episodes about anxiety:

Episode 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety

Episode 57: Is it anxiety or is it intuition?

Ep 213: Anxiety always makes sense

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BONUS: How To Be Fine

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Are you thriving or are you just...fine? What about your friendships?

Two podcasters I've listened to for YEARS are tackling a new series this summer on friendship (the topic on everyone's tongue). I was so excited to welcome Kristen Meinzer and Jolenta Greenberg from the How To Be Fine podcast (formerly By The Book) to the show to talk about their podcasting roots, their relationship as business besties, their experiment of living by the advice of self-help books, and their latest project on friendship.

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Ep 226: Hollywood Horror Story

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This is a story about growing up feeling like an outsider and finding a book that made you feel less alone. And then growing up to create an adaptation of that book for the screen, in a dream project that took years to complete. This is a story about my friend Jill Killington and her work on the tv adaptation of Stephen King's THE STAND.

You don't have to like horror or Hollywood to appreciate this conversation. Jill gives us a behind-the-scenes Hollywood perspective that was new and fascinating to me even after knowing her for 20+ years and sharing a longtime love of Stephen King. I think you are going to love the insight and insider stories she shares in this episode.

NOTE: There are spoilers for THE STAND in this episode.

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BONUS: 10 Ways To Support A Friend Going Through Crisis or Chronic Hardship

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 19:11:00 GMT

Since I write and talk about friendship so much, a frequent question comes up around supporting a friend when they are going through something difficult. I think the answer on this can vary, depending on the particular hardship, but my guest today is someone who knows what friends need when their difficult life circumstance is ongoing.

Jessica Patay is the founder of We Are Brave Together, a nonprofit organization that provides respite, community, and resources for mothers caring for children of any age with disabilities, unique needs, or other medical or mental health challenges. She is is passionate about serving caregiving moms and creating authentic communities, and brings 10 tips to the conversation that will help us better support our friends who are caregiving mothers, daughters, partners, and more.

Jessica has also created an anthology for caregiving moms sharing their stories titled Becoming Brave Together: Heroic, Extraordinary Caregiving Stories From Mothers Hidden in Plain Sight

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Ep 225: Change Happens When You're Looking The Other Way (The Birthday Episode)

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 07:30:00 GMT

It's my birthday week! I'm turning 45. And every year around this time, I do a birthday episode looking back and looking ahead.

This year's theme is about the quiet changes that happen when you're distracted, or busy, or not paying attention.

Last year on my birthday I was convinced that something HUGE was going to happen in my 44th year. I thought I had an intuition about it. I journaled my heart out about what was coming for me. And then...when I approached the end of 2023 and then eventually the end of my 44th year, I was disappointed that what I thought was a premonition hadn't come true.

Instead, what I found was that I fundamentally changed in the last year. Through a series of events, heart aches, conversations, and maturity, I find myself at a really different place than I was last June. And while it might not be the seismic event I was anticipating, it has been earth shifting all the same.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Join us for Stephen King Summer!

Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023

Ep 180: 4 Metaphors for Turning 44

June Journal Parties on IG

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Ep 224: Best Books of the Year (So Far) with Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 07:30:00 GMT

We're halfway through 2024, which means it's time to take an inventory of the best books we've read in the last six months.

My real life book club joins me for a mid-year look at the literary landscape for the second year in a row. Regular guests Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith are always a delight to have on the show.

Apologies to your TBR after listening to this one.

IT'S NOT TOO LATE TO JOIN US FOR STEPHEN KING SUMMER!

Yasmin’s books:

You Like it Darker by Stephen King

James by Percival Everett

Knife by Salman Rushdie

Steph’s books:

Long Island by Colm Toibin

Neighbors and Other Stories by Diane Oliver

Slow Horses by Mick Heron

Laura’s books (on this episode):

Listen for the Lie by Amy Tintera

Sociopath by Patric Gagne

Somehow by Anne Lamott

Laura’s Best Books of the Year (So Far):

The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

The Book of Love by Kelly Link

How to Walk Into a Room by Emily P. Freeman

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Mentioned in this episode:

Stephen King Summer

E. Shaver Bookstore in Savannah, GA on Instagram

The Stacks Bookstore on Instagram

Ep 209: Best Books Lately with Sara Hildreth

Ep 218: Best Books Lately with R.Eric Thomas

Ep 212: 10 Questions for Every Room You’re In with Emily P. Freeman

Slow Horses on Apple+

Other Books Mentioned:

Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano

Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano

Silver Sparrow by Tayari Jones

An American Marriage by Tayari Jones

Holly by Stephen King

Cujo by Stephen King

How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix

Brooklyn by Colm Toibin

Anne of Green Gables by L.M. Montgomery

Bright Young Women by Jessica Knoll

Erasure by Percival Everett

Wide Sargasso Sea by Jean Rhys

A Million Little Pieces by James Frey

The Satanic Verses by Salman Rushdie

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Ep 223: You Only Die Once (a conversation about living with Jodi Wellman)

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Jodi Wellman is focused on death. And she wants you to think about it more, too.

Death is (clearly) not a popular topic, and something most of us avoid thinking about at all costs. But Jodi believes that knowing you have something to lose can help you live like you mean it. Her new book You Only Die Once: How To Make It To The End With No Regrets can walk you through making the most of your time on this earth.

In this episode, author and speaker Jodi Wellman shares 5 ways to live like you're dying:

Count your Mondays (quantifying your time can be remarkably clarifying)
Diagnose the dead zones (areas in life that feel dead inside)
Identify your deathbed pre-grets (regrets-in-the-making that can still be course-corrected)
Live wider (with vitality) and deeper (with meaning): identify a list of enlivening endeavors
Pick one small thing to take action on at a time

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BONUS: 5 Things About Modern Friendship (with Anna Goldfarb)

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Obviously friendship is a big topic around here, but one of the aspects we don't touch on much is how these important relationships have changed in modern culture. We now have hundreds of connections in our daily lives, where our ancestors probably never met that many people in their entire lifetime.

Friendship writer Anna Goldfarb brings us 5 Things to think about in our modern friendships that she expounds upon in her new book Modern Friendship: How To Nurture Our Most Valued Connections.

Called “the New York Times’ friendship correspondent,” Anna Goldfarb's reporting on friendships has appeared in The New York Times, The Atlantic, TIME , Vox, and more.

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Ep 222: Stephen King Starter Kit Part II (What To Read + What To Skip)

Fri, 31 May 2024 01:10:00 GMT

This episode is ONLY book recommendations. The original Stephen King Starter Kit episode has more of the author's biography and why I think reading Stephen King matters. You do NOT need to listen to Part I to enjoy Part II.

LISTEN TO STEPHEN KING STARTER KIT Part I

In this episode I'm sharing my personal favorites, what I would recommend if you don't like scary/horror (because there are plenty to choose from!), what I recommend for teenagers, and which Stephen King books I would never recommend you start with (even though they're popular).

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MENTIONED in this episode:

My favorite Stephen King novels of all time:

11/22/63

The Stand

Dolores Claiborne

If you don't like scary, maybe start with:

Carrie

Rita Hayworth and Shawshank Redemption

On Writing: A Memoir of the Craft

The Institute

Billy Summers

If you're okay with scary books, you might start with:

The Shining (horror)

Misery (psychological thriller)

I wouldn't start with:

Pet Sematary

Fairy Tale

On my own Stephen King "To Read" list:

From a Buick 8

Lisey's Story

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BONUS: Is Everyone Happier Than Me? (4 Ways To Be Happier Online with author Sarah Bragg)

Tue, 28 May 2024 07:30:00 GMT

It's a question we've all asked ourselves at some point....Is everyone happier than me?

A relatable thought made worse by the perfection of social media and knowledge that life could go take us on a hundred different paths. Did we choose the right one?

It's also the title of Sarah Bragg's new book, where she explores this topic with essays and stories from her own life and parenthood.

In this episode, Sarah gives us 4 ways to be happier online (since that's such a huge contributing factor to this question).

I loved this conversation with Sarah and know I'm not the only one kept awake at night with comparison and curiosity.

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Stephen King Summer is HERE!

Tue, 28 May 2024 02:39:10 GMT

My 4th annual book club dedicated to my favorite author (and the greatest living storyteller) is HERE!

Stephen King Summer 2024 officially starts June 2 but you can jump in at any time over the next three months to join us for two movie watch-a-longs and three books.

We're READING:

'Salem's Lot

King's second novel was originally published in 1975 and this is a vampire story.

You Like It Darker

This is King's latest collection of short stories that just published in May 2024. We will read one or two stories to discuss (this is perfect for those King-curious who don't want to commit to the novels).

11/22/63

One of my favorite novels of all time, this book is not scary and will let you into King's master storytelling without having to endure the horror.

We're WATCHING:

Firestarter

The Mist

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Ep 221: 10 Questions for a Road Trip

Thu, 23 May 2024 07:30:00 GMT

It's almost road trip season!

I'm giving you 10 prompts for great conversations in the car. I purposefully designed these to work with any age, and any type of relationship.

They're a mix of fun and deep, and in the episode I share alternatives or tangents you can take with each prompt, as well as sharing my own answers and stories.

Happy travels!

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Ep 220: The Future of the Beauty Industry (with Urban Decay and Caliray Founder Wende Zomnir)

Thu, 16 May 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Every now and then I have a guest on this show that just knocks my socks off and beauty industry pioneer Wende Zomnir is the latest fascinating person to get that title.

In the 1990's, the top makeup and beauty brands were formal, stodgy, and established. Urban Decay disrupted the industry with their bold colors, heavily pigmented formulas, and modern branding. My guest Wende Zomnir describes what it was like to create Urban Decay and how lucky connections and a broad vision contributed to it's success.

But now Zomnir is back with a new brand that is already on shelves at Sephora and poised to make another important splash in the beauty world: Caliray Beauty blends makeup with wellness to create innovative concoctions with innocent ingredients.

Zomnir gives me an EDUCATION in this episode about sustainability and the future of the beauty industry. She shares the obstacles to making clean makeup and is generous with her knowledge, passion, and shout outs to other beauty brands who are doing right.

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“Clean at Sephora” standards
Environmental Working Group (www.ewg.org)
Credo Beauty Clean Standard

RELATED to this episode:

Ep 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden

Ep 192: OBSESSED (More) Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden

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Ep 219: 10 Things My Mom Taught Me

Thu, 09 May 2024 07:30:00 GMT

My mom has taught me some really important things like:

Don't look for the shortest line, look for the fastest cashier

and

You don't want a marriage, you want a wedding

and so much more.

I'm sharing 10 of my favorite life lessons that my mom has taught me in the last 40 years.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 177: How To Find Your Signature Style

Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty (When You Don't)

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BONUS: 5 Things About Writing Your Own Story (with author, ghostwriter, and book coach Allison Fallon)

Tue, 07 May 2024 20:30:00 GMT

Ally Fallon is an author, ghostwriter, and book coach, which means she is exquisitely qualified to share tips on writing your story.

It doesn't matter if you plan to publish the story you want to tell, or just need to get it out onto the page for yourself, the insight she shares in this episode is so valuable. I also love following Ally on IG and have pointed my own journaling students towards her book The Power of Writing It Down.

Her new book is called Write Your Story: A Simple Framework to Understand Yourself, Your Story, and Your Purpose in the World and it's out now!

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Hero’s Journey by Joseph Campbell

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Sunday Stillness: The Old You and the Current You

Sun, 05 May 2024 07:30:00 GMT

How often are the old you and the current you in complete alignment?

I'm sharing a passage from Congratulations, The Best Is Over by R. Eric Thomas and a famous quote from writer Joan Didion.

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Ep 218: Best Books Lately (with author R. Eric Thomas)

Thu, 02 May 2024 07:30:00 GMT

The best episodes are book episodes and I am THRILLED to be joined for this edition of Best Books Lately by an author I have read and admired for years: R. Eric Thomas

In this conversation, Eric and I discuss his new book Congratulations, The Best Is Over and also how he found his distinct writing voice. And then, of course, we each share a few of the best books we've read lately. We laugh, we fan out, and we talk about great books.

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Eric’s Best Books Lately:

Martyr! by Kaveh Akbar

Good Material by Dolly Alderton

Idlewild by James Frankie Thomas

Drunk on Love by Jasmine Guillory

The Intuitionist by Colson Whitehead

Laura’s Best Books Lately:

The Book of Love by Kelly Link

The Michigan Murders by Edward Keyes

Family Family by Laurie Frankel

Related:

Stephen King Summer

Ep. 157: True Crime as Entertainment (A Victim’s Story with Amy B. Chesler)

Secret Stuff Book Club

Also Mentioned:

Abbott Elementary on ABC

Veep on HBO

The Righteous Gemstones on HBO

Dickinson on AppleTV+

Better Things on FX

Tom Lake by Ann Patchett

Commonwealth by Ann Patchett

Bel Canto by Ann Patchett

The Rachel Incident by Caroline O’Donoghue

Everything I Know About Love by Dolly Alderton

Libro.fm

This Is How It Always Is by Laurie Frankel

One, Two, Three by Laurie Frankel

Crook Manifesto by Colson Whitehead

Underground Railroad by Colson Whitehead

Chain Gang All-Stars by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah

John Henry Days by Colson Whitehead

Apex Hides the Hurt by Colson Whitehead

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Sunday Stillness: How Could You Know?

Sun, 28 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

How could you possibly know what you don't know? How could anyone?

Talking today about shame, grace, sarcasm, and expansiveness.

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Ep 217: Ask Me Anything (Family, Hollywood, and Career Questions from YOU)

Thu, 25 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

I'm answering listener questions like:

Do you ever wish you'd had more kids?

Is life in LA portrayed correctly on Real Housewives?

Will you ever write another book and on what topic?

JOIN SECRET STUFF for a few more BONUS (personal) questions about money, travel, and woo-woo stuff I've tried

It's always fun to hear what's on your mind through the questions you ask. I hope this episode also gives you a few questions to ask around your own tables.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 210: My Favorite Things (Right Now)

The walking pad I love

College sweatshirt from The Great

Nike by You

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BONUS: 5 House Rules To Create A Home You Love (with The Nester)

Tue, 23 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

I have been following Myquillyn Smith's home decor advice online for years and am so happy to welcome her back to the show to talk about her new book HOUSE RULES.

This new book from Myquillyn (aka The Nester) is not only gorgeous, it just lays it out bare in list form: these are the "rules" to create a space you love and want to be in.

In our conversation here, we talk about our favorite house rules and I also ask her to dive deeper into some of the rules I didn't fully understand.

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Sunday Stillness: Patience or Resolution?

Sun, 21 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

"I learned to stop praying for patience, instead pray for resolution."

From a post by JeriLynn Clifford, aka @the_hill_country_bon_vivant on IG

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Ep 216: Stop Deferring Your Life (a ONE THING conversation with Amy Harris)

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Introducing a new series of the podcast called ONE THING where I host conversations with interesting people and ask the ONE THING they would tell you.

I'm kicking the series off with my friend Amy B. Harris. Amy has been a producer, writer, and show runner on some of the most iconic shows of our lifetime. Her credits include Sex and the City, Gossip Girl, The Comeback, The Carrie Diaries, The Wilds, and more. She's also a mom raising her daughter in Hollywood, which is how we met and became friends.

My conversation with Amy is packed with wisdom and insight, along with her behind-the-scenes perspective on helping to create entertainment that shifts the culture.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 200: What's the ONE thing you would tell?

Childhood, Boyhood, and Youth by Leo Tolstoy

The Devil's Candy by Julie Salamon

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Sunday Stillness: What feels out of control?

Sun, 14 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Emotions like anger, fear, and anxiety are often rooted in a feeling of helplessness.

These feelings may or may not be tied to facts that are hard to ignore or release, or they be feelings that are holding us back from walking down our best path.

But today we're asking: What feels out of control?

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Ep 215: How To Center Yourself (When You're Spinning Out)

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

Maybe it was a weird conversation or an offhand remark or a comment on a social media post, but whatever happened, you're spinning out. This circumstance has tapped into all of your securities and now you're filled with self-doubt or anger or unworthiness.

How do you recenter yourself? I'm going to share 5 ways I've learned to quiet my mind amid chaos and guess what - I am NOT recommending journaling or meditation. I love both of those things (and they can be helpful), but I want to give you a few new tools to consider when you're having one of those days.

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RELATED to this episode:

Ep 123: How To Feel Pretty When You Don't

Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm

Ep 193: 10 Things To Help with Grief and Loss

Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense

Ep 57: Is it Anxiety or Intuition

Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for Right Now

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Sunday Stillness: What are your friendship philosophies?

Sun, 07 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

My 5 Friendship Philosophies are:

Friendship is a TO DO
Believe the Best
Just Go
Like Every Selfie
Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend

I explain these all in more detail in The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I also encourage the reader (and the listener) to find their own friendship philosophies. Rules to live by that will make your connections stronger and your mental load lighter.

This Sunday, sit with these ideas and also come up with your own.

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Ep 214: A Friendship Reckoning

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 07:30:00 GMT

The first story I tell in my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs is called A Friendship Reckoning. In this chapter, I share about a painful conflict with a friend that almost led to the end of our deep friendship, and how we reconciled with one big, meaningful, conversation in my backyard.

I chose to keep that friend anonymous in the book, but she revealed herself in an episode my Secret Tapes podcast series and I'm airing it publicly here for the first time.

There is so much about this conversation that gets to the heart of what I was trying to convey in The Life Council. We talk about the origin of our friendship, how our friendship styles have changed over the last few years, and, of course, we finally delve into what went wrong that almost led her to ending our friendship, and how we decided to save it together.

The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs was released into the world one year ago this month! I'm celebrating that by sharing this beautiful conversation with my dear friend Patty.

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Sunday Stillness: What do you remember?

Sun, 31 Mar 2024 07:30:00 GMT

As much as I try to move forward and move on, the body remembers.

So instead of pushing it aside, I'm doing a small exercise to honor where we were four years ago this week. This prompt works for any type of event anniversary, birthday, or ending.

I remember...

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Ep 213: Anxiety Always Makes Sense (with Dr. Becky Kennedy from Good Inside)

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is important for anyone with anxiety or anyone with a loved one who suffers from anxiety.

Four years ago, in the earliest days of the Covid-19 pandemic, I stumbled across a video of clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy giving advice on how to manage the increasing anxieties of the lockdown. I asked her to be a guest on the podcast and we then recorded one of the most important conversations of my life.

I aired that episode as a BONUS in March of 2020, and decided that I wanted to replay it now as the world continues to feel fraught and uncertain. We could all use Dr. Becky's reminder that anxiety always makes sense.

Since we recorded this conversation, Dr. Becky Kennedy has become a household name in the parenting space. She has a podcast, a #1 New York Times best selling book, a Ted Talk, courses and seminars, and an informative and popular Instagram account.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Original BONUS Episode with Dr. Becky at Home: Anxiety Always Makes Sense

Ep 18: 10 Thoughts on anxiety (my personal story around mental health)

RELATED episodes:

Ep. 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety

Ep. 57: Is It Anxiety or Intuition?

Ep. 86: 10 Thoughts on Therapy

Ep. 145: Time Anxiety

Ep. 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm

Ep. 182: 10 Things About 10 Years in Therapy

Ep. 188: Moms and The Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)

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Sunday Stillness: Who do you tell?

Sun, 24 Mar 2024 07:30:00 GMT

The whole concept of this show is predicating on TELLING things. But WHO do you tell? It's not always a simple answer.

Mentioned in this episode:

Joy Cho's reel about sharing your stuff

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Ep 13: Who do you tell?

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Ep 212: 10 Questions For Every Room You're In (with Emily P. Freeman)

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 07:30:00 GMT

One of my greatest teachers of the last few years is author, podcaster, and speaker Emily P. Freeman. I have learned so much from her work and devoured her latest NEW YORK TIMES best selling book How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away.

Emily says, "Our whole life is like a house, and every commitment, community, role, and relationship is like a room." In this conversation, Emily and I continue her room metaphor and she asks 10 Questions from her book that we can use to discern our own sense of belonging, and our choices to stay or leave.

The framework of these 10 questions is perfect for 10 Things To Tell You and I loved unpacking each of these questions and concepts with Emily.

Find out more about Emily P. Freeman

Buy How To Walk Into A Room: The Art of Knowing When To Stay and When To Walk Away

Listen to The Next Right Thing podcast

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Did I choose this room or did it choose me?
What are the corners, sections, people, or parts of this room that I’m avoiding?
What is good and beautiful about this room?
Where are the caution flags?
Is anyone or anything missing from this room? If so, who or what?
Who has the power in this room?
Who or what will be affected by my decision?
To what extent can I be myself in this room?
If God is in this room, what is the action of the divine?
Do I want to stay in this room?

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Ep 211: The Cell Phone Contract (a conversation with my kids)

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 07:30:00 GMT

My daughter Lucy is 14 and has had a cell phone for about a year and a half. My son Finch is 12 and will get his first cell phone in just a few months. While we're in the transitional time as a family, I thought it would be a good time to sit down with them and talk through all the feelings, convenience, and concerns that comes with teen cell phone usage.

This conversation surprised me. Both kids said things I'd never heard them say before. I hope that this episode is a fun peek into our family dynamics and also an encouragement to have your own conversations about cell phones and social media.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep. 48: Should We Post Our Kids on Social Media? (with Nish Weiseth)

Ep. 59: Marry the Person You Can Quarantine With (with Jeff Tremaine)

Bonus: 22+ Things Our Family Watched During Quarantine

BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello From ONE YEAR of the Pandemic

Ep. 138: 10 Questions to Ask Your Kids (with Lucy and Finch)

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Sunday Stillness: Gratitude

Sun, 10 Mar 2024 08:30:00 GMT

Welcome to a new series I've created called Sunday Stillness. A few minutes each week to meditate on one idea that will bring us closer to who we want to become.

These few minutes are about gratitude.

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Ep 210: My Favorite Things (Right Now)

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 08:30:00 GMT

Every few months I love to share with you my favorite things of the moment: what's bringing me joy, what's making me feel stylish or organized or peaceful, new discoveries or apps or anything that is making life just a little bit better.

I share my favorite things because it's FUN (which is reason enough) but also because it's always an exercise in gratitude. I strongly encourage YOU to sit down and make a Favorite Things list this week.

Favorite Things (Right Now):

The walking pad

The bag

The video app

The retro friendship act

The weekend away

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Also MENTIONED:

Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle by Emily Ngoski and Amelia Ngoski

Episode 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites with Jamie B Golden

Merit Bronze Balm

Nars bronzer

Charlotte Tilbury blush

Benefit Dandelion blush

Co-Star astrology app

Episode 49: Where are your bandaids?

Links to Kendra, Bri, and Jamie (The Mastermind!)

Kendra Adachi

Website - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/

Podcast - https://www.thelazygeniuscollective.com/lazy

Instagram @thelazygenius - https://www.instagram.com/thelazygenius/

Bri McKoy

Website - https://brimckoy.com/

The Cook’s Club Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/cooksclub

Instagram @brimckoy - https://www.instagram.com/brimckoy/

Jamie Golden

Website - https://knoxandjamie.com/

B. Golden Substack - https://jamiebgolden.substack.com/

Instagram @jamiebgolden - https://www.instagram.com/jamiebgolden/

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BONUS: Kate T. Parker is a Force of Nature

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 08:30:00 GMT

I have followed photographer Kate T. Parker on Instagram for years now and continue to be inspired by her depictions of her fierce and dynamic daughters (and their friends). I love seeing her raw and authentic sports photos since I have two little athletes in my house. You'll probably recognize Kate's work from her books Strong Is the New Pretty and Play Like A Girl.

In this BONUS episode, I wanted to chat with Kate about her origin story, her work, and especially her new book Force of Nature.

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Sunday Stillness: Self Esteem vs. Self Worth

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 04:22:17 GMT

Welcome to a new series I've created called Sunday Stillness. A few minutes each week to meditate on one idea that will bring us closer to who we want to become.

This episode was inspired entirely by an IG reel from Katherine Morgan Schafler, author of The Perfectionist's Guide To Losing Control (one of my favorite books of 2023 and a 2024 selection for the Secret Stuff Book Club).

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Ep 209: Best Books Lately (with Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters)

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 08:30:00 GMT

Sara Hildreth of Fiction Matters returns to the show so we can each share the best books that we've read lately.

This conversation starts with a thoughtful discussion about reviewing books on social media (#Bookstagram #BookTok) versus being a literary critic and Sara makes some excellent points about the way we talk about books online these days. And then Sara and I each share four of the best books we've read lately, including a novel I just finished that may be one of my favorites of all time.

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Sara shares a great backlist title and a celebrity memoir, and I share an interesting novel that flew under the radar last year and the book I'm flat embarrassed to recommend (but kind of loved).

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Also on Secret Stuff this week will be a deep dive on The Bee Sting by Paul Murray (because I just had to talk about this incredible novel with someone)

Sara's Best Books Lately:

The Custom of the Country by Edith Wharton

The Laughter by Sonora Jha

Best of Friends by Kamila Shamsie

Run Towards the Danger by Sarah Polley

Laura's Best Books Lately:

The Bee Sting by Paul Murray

All The Sinners Bleed by S.A. Cosby

Big Swiss by Jen Beagin

The Future by Naomi Alderman

Also mentioned:

Episode 107: 10 Reasons to Read (A Conversation with Sara Hildreth of @fictionmatters)

The Remains of The Day by Kazuo Ishiguro

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

Passing by Nella Larsen

The Buccaneers by Edith Wharton

Roman Fever and Other Stories by Edith Wharton

Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby

Home Fire by Kamila Shamsie

Neapolitan Novels by Elana Ferrante

Women Talking by Miriam Toews

Fight Night by Miriam Toews

The Power by Naomi Alderman

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Ep 208: How My Anxiety Has Changed In My 40s

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 08:30:00 GMT

It's been awhile since we've talked directly about mental health, and I wanted to give a personal update about what I've noticed is different about my lifelong anxiety in the last few years. I attribute these changes to aging, and evolving lifestyle, and a few different habits that I have really prioritized since I turned 40.

As always when I share on this topic, it is meant to be purely my own experience and is not medical advice.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Sorta Awesome Episode 26: The Truth About Anxiety

Sorta Awesome Episode 101: The Truth About Anxiety (Part II)

10 Things To Tell You Episodes by Topic (scroll to the mental health section)

Episode 18, 10 Thoughts on Anxiety

Episode 86: 10 Thoughts On Therapy

Episode 182: 10 Things About 10 Years in Therapy

Episode 203: Meditation for Beginners

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Ep 207: 10 Tips To Build Your Best Wardrobe

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 08:30:00 GMT

I always thought that a benefit to getting older was that I would settle into a signature style, but the truth is that my 40s has been sort of a fashion roller coaster. Maybe it's a changing body, maybe the pandemic led to some lazy dressing habits, or maybe our personal style is just always evolving.

Alison Lumbatis is a professional style confidence expert and her tips on social media over the years have been so life-giving to me. (You also might remember her from Ep 134: 10 Tips To Wardrobe Confidence.) In this episode, she is sharing 10 tips for taking stock of your closet and building a functional wardrobe that serves your needs and also makes you look great.

Learn more about Alison Lumbatis

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Check out her Outfit Formulas

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Episode 177: How to Find Your Signature Style

Outfit Formulas Quiz

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Ep 206: What have you been wrong about? (Kelly Corrigan Asks 10 Big Questions)

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 08:30:00 GMT

The tables are turned in this episode as author and podcaster Kelly Corrigan asks Laura 10 big questions:

1. Best live performance you’ve ever seen?

2. Last book that blew you away?

3. If your high school did superlatives, what would you have been most likely to become?

4. What’s your go-to mantra for hard times?

5. Is there anyone you would like to apologize to?

6. When was the last time you cried?

7. What’s something big you’ve been wrong about?

8. If you could pass one law or overturn one supreme court case...

9. If your mother wrote a book about you, what would it be called?

10.If you could say four words to anyone, who would you address and what would you say?

Learn more about Kelly Corrigan

Kelly Corrigan Wonders podcast

Read Kelly Corrigan's books

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Shark Heart by Emily Habeck

Far From the Tree by Andrew Solomon

Episode 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023

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We're moving to THURSDAYS!

Tue, 06 Feb 2024 08:30:00 GMT

10 Things To Tell You is now moving to THURSDAYS!

Same great conversations, journal prompts, book talk, and introspection - just a different day.

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Ep 205: 10 Things All Podcast Fans Should Know

Tue, 30 Jan 2024 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is not just for 10 Things To Tell You podcast fans, but for all podcast fans IN GENERAL.

You might have heard rumblings about the state of the podcast industry, as popular shows get canceled and massive layoffs keep happening at some of the largest audio companies. It's true that podcasting as a whole is going through some growing pains, and this is not just at the corporate level. Big and small shows are affected by these changes and listeners (YOU!) might already be feeling it.

In this episode, I'm walking through 10 things I want podcast fans to know. I'll share some backstory to how we got here, what is different about podcasting (and podcast listening) now, why your podcast ads sometimes sound wonky, and what I would tell someone wanting to start a podcast now.

I'm also sharing a little announcement about a big change coming to 10 Things To Tell You!

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Invisibilia podcast from NPR

Heavyweight podcast from Gimlet Media

More Perfect podcast from NPR/WNYC Studios

Death, Sex, & Money podcast from WNYC Studios

RELATED EPISODES:

Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey

Ep 73: I Wrote A Book!

Ep 111: Behind the Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book

Ep 166: How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps)

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Ep 204: Didn't I Just Feed You? 10 Tips for Saving Your Sanity in the Kitchen

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 16:33:29 GMT

Published

Jan 23, 2024

Didn't I Just Feed You? is such a relatable mom thought and is also the title of the popular podcast from my guests Meghan Splawn and Stacie Billis, two professional cooks with a collective 20+ years of experience in test kitchens, on television, at food publications, and more.

They know their way around a kitchen, and want to make your life as the family cook easier. In this episode, Meghan and Stacie are sharing 10 Tips for Saving Your Sanity in the Kitchen. These women made me think, made me laugh, and made me actually WANT to cook for my family.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Make It Easy: 120 Mix-and-Match Recipes to Cook From Scratch by Stacie Billis

Instapot >> Amazon | Target | Walmart

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Ep 203: Meditation for Beginners

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 16:32:29 GMT

Published Jan 16, 2024

Mindfulness meditation has changed my life. It has helped with my anxiety, productivity, and inner peace.

But even though I'd been hearing about the benefits of this practice (and even read several books on it!), it took me years to get started. Mostly this is because I thought meditating had to be formal. I thought it required a certain amount of time or a certain personality type. But this isn't true! Anyone can meditate. You can start as small as one minute at a time.

In this episode, mindfulness educator Laurie Cousins walks us through 10 tips for the meditation-curious, those beginning a meditation journey, and anyone in need of a refresher for what a meditation practice can bring.

Laurie Cousins is our guest today and she leads the meditation group that finally got me to make this practice a regular part of my life. Laurie has trained at UCLA and USD and specializes in trauma and resiliency. She is also passionate about mindful parenting, and facilities several groups with this focus.

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Journaling for Grownups is BACK!

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 16:30:04 GMT

Published

Jan 12, 2024

My two week course JOURNALING FOR GROWNUPS is back!

The cart closes on Thursday, January 18th so grab it now.

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Ep 202: The Secret To Good Goal Setting

Fri, 26 Jan 2024 16:28:55 GMT

Published

Jan 09, 2024

Do you find goals motivational or defeating? Does all the hubbub around the first of the year feel fresh or frustrating?

In this conversation with professional goal coach Abbie Schiller, we unpack all the reasons that setting goals makes us groan, and why it doesn't have to be that way. Instead we can look at goals as a framework that moves us forward to create better lives.

Abbie and I also discuss what happens when you don’t meet your goals, how to identify the obstacles that get in our way, and how to get unstuck when your “new year new self” aspirations meet the reality of carpool and errands.

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Abbie's "Change One Thing" webinar

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Jonathan Fields

How To Live A Good Life by Jonathan Fields

The Good Life Project Podcast

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Ep 201: 10 Things I Learned in 2023

Tue, 02 Jan 2024 08:30:00 GMT

2023 was an unexpected roller coaster for me, both personally and professionally.

I'm sharing 10 things I've learned in the last twelve months, from losing money in my business to a mistake I made in my parenting.

This episode is one of my favorites that I put together each year because it forces me to take a clear look at what's working and what's not in my life. I hope it's helpful to you to hear someone else process through some of these things as we start a new year together.

Happy 2024!

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Episode 174: 3 Things I’ve Learned While Working With a Business Coach (A Conversation with Retha Nichole)

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Ep 200: What is the ONE thing you would tell? (Celebrating TWO HUNDRED episodes with past guests of the show)

Tue, 26 Dec 2023 08:30:00 GMT

TWO HUNDRED EPISODES! It's a milestone worth celebrating.

We're going back to the roots of the show and asking ourselves, What is the ONE thing you would tell? Not 10 Things. Not 3 things. But the most important message you would share with others if given a pen, a keyboard, or a microphone.

I share the ONE thing that I want impart to others, and I'm joined by more than a dozen past guests of 10 Things To Tell You sharing their ONE thing.

Thanks for being here. Happy 200!

So grateful for my special guests in this episode:

Anne Bogel from What Should I Read Next?

Emily P Freeman from The Next Right Thing

Andrew Och is the First Ladies Man

Kaytee Cobb from Currently Reading

Bethany Winters

Sarah Stewart Holland from Pantsuit Politics

Mary Marantz from the Mary Marantz Show

Dr. Christine Koh from Edit Your Life

Meredith Monday Schwartz from Currently Reading

Shawn Smucker

Miss Freddy professional photo organizer

Elizabeth Passarella author of It Was An Ugly Couch Anyway

Retha Nichole Business Coach

Lindsay Lawler singer and soul sister

Beth Silvers from Pantsuit Politics

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Final Episode of Sorta Awesome Episode 472: Awesome Ever After

Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz)

Episode 150: 10 Things To Tell You

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Ep 199: Best Books of the Year 2023

Tue, 19 Dec 2023 08:30:00 GMT

It's one of my favorite conversations of the year!

I love books. I love lists. I love the end of the year. So naturally I LOVE the annual Best Books of the Year conversation with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.

We're back together for our SIXTH annual Best Books of the Year conversation. This one felt a little different from year's past because in 2023 we chose to do a mid-year episode called Best Books of the Year (So Far). In Episode 179 from back in June, we talked about many of the big, buzzy books that released in the first half of the year, which let us share other favorites in this year-end conversation.

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I hope you enjoy this monster episode!

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Laura’s Best Books of the Year:

Shark Heart by Emily Habeck

We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman

Spare by Prince Harry

The Perfectionist’s Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

Search by Michelle Huneven

Happiness Falls by Angie Kim

How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told by Harrison Scott Key

Hey Hun: Sales, Sisterhood, Supremacy, and Other Lies Behind Multi-Level Marketing by Emily Lynn Paulson

How to Sell a Haunted House by Grady Hendrix

Yasmin’s Best Books of the Year:

You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith

Holly by Stephen King

The Center by Ayesha Manazir Siddiqi

Hot Springs Drive by Lindsay Hunter

Stephanie’s Best Books of the Year:

Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano (mutual best pick)

The Heaven & Earth Grocery Store by James McBride

Good Omens: The Nice and Accurate Prophecies of Agnes Nutter by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett

The Humans by Matt Haig

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Smartest Person in the Room series with Yasmin

Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

Dear Edward by Ann Napolitano

Friends, Lovers and the Big, Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry

The Color of Water by James McBride

Deacon King Kong by James McBride

Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah

Mr. Mercedes by Stephen King

Misery by Stephen King

It by Stephen King

11.22.63 by Stephen King

Thursday Murder Club Series by Richard Osman

American Gods by Neil Gaiman and Terry Pratchett

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

The Best Minds by Jonathan Rosen

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Ep 198: 10 Questions for the End of the Year

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 08:30:00 GMT

It's my favorite time of year! Not because of the holiday season, but because I love getting reflective, looking back over the last twelve months and looking ahead to changing of the calendar.

The 10 questions in this episode are meant to bring introspection (if you work through them alone) and connection (if you bring them up in conversation). Bring these to your journal, to your travel companions, to the holiday table, or just let them flow through your mind in these last few weeks of the year as we wind down 2023 and gear up for 2024.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

10 Questions for Starting Over

10 Questions To Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything

Journaling for Grownups

Laura on Instagram

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Ep 197: Modern Manners for Teens

Tue, 28 Nov 2023 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who loves a teenager.

I'm the mom of a teenager and a preteen, and cultural norms and expectations have definitely shifted from my own childhood in the 80s & 90s. Sometimes I feel like I'm learning modern manners alongside my kids instead of teaching them from a place of authority.

My guest Brooke Romney believes that the only thing harder than parenting a modern teen is being a modern teen. In this episode, Brooke and I talk about a few of the rules that stuck out to me from her guide 52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens. This was a conversation I didn't even know I needed to have, and I loved it.

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52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 1

52 Modern Manners for Today's Teens Volume 2

52 Modern Manners for Kids

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Ep 196: Symposium: Britney Spears's New Memoir

Tue, 21 Nov 2023 08:30:00 GMT

A few times a year, I like to let you listen in on the conversations we're having in the Secret Stuff patreon community. Each month we meet twice over zoom to talk about something culturally relevant (we call this Symposium) or to talk about books (a pretty traditional Book Club). This Secret Stuff meeting was a bit of a mashup of the two.

When it was announced that icon and legend Britney Spears was releasing a memoir this fall, I knew it would make a splash in the publishing industry and in the celebrity world. And it did. The Woman In Me sold over a million copies in it's first week of release and there were a few bombshell's from the singer's life, most notably about her relationship with Justin Timberlake.

But what is just as fascinating about the content of the book is the way she chose to tell it, and that she was able to tell it at all. After 13 years in a conservatorship held by father, where everything she did was tracked and controlled, Britney is finally free to share her side of the story.

As usual, the Secret Stuff community had smart, thoughtful, and compassionate takes on the memoir itself and on Britney's place in music history and our pop culture lexicon.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Woman in Me by Britney Spears

Tell Me Everything by Minka Kelly

I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy

The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey

Takeaways from Britney Spears's memoir (NYT)

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BONUS: 4 Rules For Sharing Your Story (Especially When It's Hard) with Carmen Rita Wong

Fri, 17 Nov 2023 08:30:00 GMT

I love memoirs. I love hearing other people's stories in their own words. And, of course, I champion the idea to Share Your Stuff.

But what if the story you need to tell is really difficult? What if it's hard to do justice to the truth while also protecting (or not protecting) other people? My guest for this conversation is author Carmen Rita Wong and she is sharing her own 4 rules to doing this well.

Carmen Rita Wong's memoir is called Why Didn't You Tell Me? and is a book about secrets and identity.

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Ep 195: Why do smart people love dumb TV?

Tue, 14 Nov 2023 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has asked themselves why they're so invested in what is clearly outrageous, manipulative, and phony "reality" television shows.

I watch Real Housewives every weekday on my lunch break, and as I've gone through phases of watching with both fascination and disgust, I’ve asked myself: why do smart people love dumb tv? What is it that we’re drawn to? Why do we get so sucked into the drama? Is it aspirational or escapism or something darker or is it just not that deep?

And so I decided to explore that topic with the perfect guest: Matt Marr, cohost of the Reality Gays podcast. In this episode, Matt and I talk about our history of reality tv watching (starting with the Real World in the 90s), and we talk about how we think reality TV has changed culture, why we’re so invested in the lives of these reality TV personas, and so much more. We talked for over an hour and didn’t even scratch the surface of all that we could have discussed.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Instagram Christopher Ryan Stamey - @christopherryanstamey
90 Day Fiancé on TLC
Real Housewives franchise on Bravo
RuPaul’s Drag Race on MTV
Passions Soap Opera on NBC
The Real World on MTV
Duck Dynasty on A&E
Bittersweet by Susan Cain
Indian Matchmaking on Netflix
Love is Blind on Netflix
Married at First Sight on Lifetime
Pig Royalty on Amazon Prime Video
Nanny 911, now on Amazon Prime Video
Doggy Fizzle Televizzle on MTV
Crowned on FOX
America’s Next Top Model on UPN/The CW
Joe Millionaire on FOX
The Swan on FOX
90 Day Fiancé: The Last Resort on TLC
The Golden Bachelor on ABC

If you liked this episode you may like:

Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes and How They Affect You

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Ep 194: On Endings and Intuition (with Meg Tietz)

Tue, 07 Nov 2023 08:30:00 GMT

10 Things To Tell You exists because Meg Tietz put a microphone in my hand nearly a decade ago when she launched the Sorta Awesome podcast and asked me to be a regular cohost. That invitation changed my life, along with the thousands of Sorta Awesome listeners who have been touched by Meg's words and wisdom for all these years.

Meg Tietz has long been a pioneer in the online space. She was one of the earliest mommy bloggers to build a large audience and one of the earliest independent podcasters in the girlfriend chat genre. I am lucky enough to have been friends with her since our childhood years in Oklahoma and have watched the way that she has shaped an entire corner of the internet.

Meg recently announced that she is bring the Sorta Awesome podcast to a close, and in our conversation here we reminisce about her online journey and talk about what it means to decide to end something that is going well, simply because you know it's time.

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Sorta Awesome episodes mentioned:

Ep. 123: Intuition, Friendship, and The Future (from 12/1/2017)

Ep. 26: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 1 (also known as the face shaving episode)( from 9/10/2015)

Ep. 101: The Truth About Anxiety, Part 2 (from 5/19/2017)

Ep. 54: Ten Friends Every Woman Needs (from 4/7/2016)

Ep. 139: Resurrection: New Life on The Other Side of a Faith Shift (from 3/30/2018)

Ep. 192: Heartbreak, Doubt, And Finding Faith Through The Storm (Rebekah speaks about miscarriage) (from 4/17/2019)

Ep. 90: Exploring Hope and Healing for Postpartum Depression (from 2/24/2017)

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Sorta Awesome cohost Kelly Gordon

Sorta Awesome cohost Rebekah Hoffer

Sorta Awesome Hangout (facebook group)

Serial Podcast

Voxer app

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#OneDayHH is Wednesday, November 8!

Fri, 03 Nov 2023 07:30:00 GMT

The 11th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge will be Wednesday, November 8!

This is the ONE DAY of the year we dedicate to documenting what our lives look like right now, hour by hour. In this short episode, I'm sharing more about what #OneDayHH is, what makes it so special, and why you should participate.

#OneDayHH takes place on Instagram, and you're welcome to share in stories, reels, the main feed, or whatever feels comfortable for you. The point is to share what "a day in the life" looks like for you in the Fall of 2023. You'll be so glad that you took one day to notice these details, because our lives never look the same from one year to the next.

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Follow me on Instagram @laura.tremaine to see my day!

Can't wait to share my day and see yours on Wednesday, November 8, 2023.

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Ep 193: 10 Things To Help With Grief and Loss

Tue, 31 Oct 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone walking through grief or for those wanting to support a loved one who is grieving.

The world is especially heavy right now. From global events and also from a season of what feels like unending loss and pain. In this episode, guest Christy Knutson joins us to share 10 things that will help us to keep in mind when we're grieving or anticipating loss.

Christy Knutson is the co-founder of NEAR, a website on a mission to improve the way we care and connect during times of serious illness or grief.

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The 5 Stages of Grief as described by Elizbeth Kubler Ross

Finding Meaning: The 6th Stage of Grief by David Kessler

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Ep 192: OBSESSED: Skincare & Makeup Favorites (with Jamie Golden)

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Jamie Golden is back!

This week I'm welcoming one of my favorite people (and favorite guests) back to 10 Things To Tell You to talk about our shared obsession: skincare and makeup.

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On this episode, my fellow obsessive Jamie and I share our current (and all-time) favorite skincare and beauty products. No need to write everything down - links to everything we discuss will be in the show notes for you to bookmark and reference for the future.

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More about Jamie:

The Popcast with Knox & Jamie

Faith Adjacent podcast

Jamie's new substack B. Golden

Episode 14: Skincare and Makeup Favorites with Jamie Golden (April 30, 2019)

Episode 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers in Your Face (Jamie Golden RETURNS!) (Feb 23, 2021)

Episode 51: Masterminds: How To Create and Structure A Business Peer Group (Feb 4, 2020)

Episode 164: Are We Friends or Not? (March 7, 2023)

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Jamie's Beauty Obsessions:

Paula’s Choice Skin Perfecting 2% BHA Liquid Exfoliant

Herbivore Phoenix Rosehip Anti-Aging Facial Oil

Charlotte Tilbury’s Magic Cream Moisturizer

Haus Labs by Lady Gaga Triclone Concealer

Kosas Brow Pop Nano Feathering Eyebrow Pencil

Gucci Sun-Kissed Glow Bronzer

Crown Affair The Hair Towel

Laura's Beauty Obsessions:

Dr. Gross Alpha Beta Peel pads

Living Libations Best Skin Ever Oil

Sunday Riley Power Couple

Cle de peu concealer

L'oreal Voluminous Curved Brush Mascara

Milk Makeup Lip and Cheek cream blush stick (in Rally)

Pat McGrath Trance Lipstick (in Full Panic)

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Ep 191: How BookTok and Gen Z Are Changing the Way We Read + Best Books Lately (with Alex Cash)

Tue, 17 Oct 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Where a 40-something aunt (me) chats with her 20-something niece (Alex) about what we're reading, where we get our book recommendations, and how the algorithm affects both of these things.

I often find my 24-year-old niece reading on the couch in our shared home. Sometimes she's pulled something off my bookshelves, but more often she's in her own world of reading, influenced by her age, tastes, and, of course, TikTok.

In this episode, Alex and I talk about the differences in what her generation is reading (and why) and mine. Then we share the best books we've both read lately.

I loved talking with her officially on microphone because it reminded me that there is always so much to learn from other generations. (And because I always love to talk about reading.)

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Wattpad

Chloe In Letters

Ep. 187 Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

Currently Reading Podcast

Series of Unfortunate Events series by Lemony Snicket

Harry Potter series by J.K. Rowling

Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer

The Glass Menagerie by Tennessee Williams

The Pearl by John Steinbeck

A Court of Thorns and Roses series by Sarah J. Maas

A Certain Hunger by Chelsea G. Summers

Bunny by Mona Awad

The Corrections by Jonathan Franzen

Less by Andrew Sean Greer

The Need by Helen Phillips

The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard

56 Days by Catherine Ryan Howard

Billy Summers by Stephen King

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Alex's Best Books Lately:

The Secret History by Donna Tartt

Cannery Row by John Steinbeck

Euphoria by Lily King

Pet Sematary by Stephen King

Laura's Best Books Lately:

How To Stay Married: The Most Insane Love Story Ever Told by Harrison Scott Key

Happiness Falls by Angie Kim

The Trap by Catherine Ryan Howard

The Great Work of Your Life by Steven Cope

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Ep 190: Whose voice lives rent free in your head? (And how to mute them)

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who struggles with outside influences they can't shake.

I thought when I turned 40 that I had turned a corner in my personal developement, that the shift into caring less about other people's opinions would also mean that my inner critic would pipe down.

But here I am, a few years down the road, and the voices from my past live rent-free in my head and their chatter can affect my confidence and my choices.

In this episode, I'm talking about the five types of voices that rattle around in our heads and how we can identify them and turn down their volume.

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Ep 189: About the Hollywood Strikes (and How They Affect You)

Tue, 03 Oct 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who cares about tv and movies.

I have 10 things to tell you about the historic Hollywood strikes of 2023. The Writers Guild of America and the Screen Actors Guild have been fighting for wage increases, protection against artificial intelligence, and more. Think it doesn't affect you? Think again!

Here are the 10 Things I talk through in this episode:

What are the basics of the strike?
What is the history here?
What exactly do Hollywood writers do? How do they get paid?
So why are they striking?
(And what does striking mean? Can they not work at all?)
What does mandatory staffing mean?
What is the AI threat?
Some notable things that happened during this strike.
What was finally negotiated?
How does this all affect the viewer?

I want this show to be about connection, conversation, and sharing our stuff. The Hollywood strikes are something our family cares about, so I'm sharing it here with you.

If this episode teaches you something, please share it on social media or with a friend.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Secret Stuff Episode with Jill Killington

Smartest Person in the Room: Hollywood Series

Deadline Hollywood

Fran Drescher speech

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Ep 188: Moms and the Mental Load (with Dr. Morgan Cutlip)

Tue, 26 Sep 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for moms who are drowning in this season.

After years of rarely talking about parenthood on this show, this topic suddenly continues to find me. I'm not sure if this because of my kids' ages (11 & 13) or just the season I'm in, but motherhood is something I want to talk about more now than I did when the kids were young.

My guest today is Dr. Morgan Cutlip, a highly sought after relationship expert, who has helped hundreds of thousands of people worldwide learn how to form and maintain healthy relationships. Dr. Morgan has been a featured relationship expert with Good Morning America, Teen Vogue, and The New York Times. Her new book, Love Your Kids Without Losing Yourself, is out now.

Dr. Morgan and I talk about motherhood as an identity and the mental load of parenting that so often falls more heavily on women. We also discuss how that affects our mood, our partnerships and sex drive. I even share a real life example of this dynamic happening in my home right now.

If you've been carrying the mental load in your family, I hope this conversation resonates with you and that you'll know you're not alone.

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C ome As You Are by Emily Nagowski

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Ep 187: Book Bans: 5 Things A Librarian Wants You To Know

Tue, 19 Sep 2023 07:30:00 GMT

The episode is for anyone looking for an insider perspective on the rise of book bans in America.

My life’s greatest passion is reading. Books are my lifeblood. And so you will not be surprised that I have been greatly alarmed by the rise of book bans in America in the last few years. The idea of banning books is so archaic to me, so outdated, so harmful, it’s as if we have learned NOTHING from history.

My guest is writer and librarian Emily Jones. As a former teacher and current librarian in Arkansas, Emily shares her perspective on the fear and concern around certain books that are available in these public spaces.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Origin of the Species by Charles Darwin

Leaves of Grass by Walt Whitman

The Handmaid’s Tale by Margaret Atwood

How To Be An AntiRacist by Ibram X. Kendi

It's Perfectly Normal: Changing Bodies, Growing Up, Sex and Sexual Health by Robie Harris

This Book is Gay by Juno Dawson

Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher

The Hate U Give by Angie Thomas

The Bluest Eye by Toni Morrison

Starring Sally J. Freedman as Herself by Judy Blume

The Big Bath House by Kyo Maclear

Episode 183: 5 Things I Wish I’d Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy)

Episode 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023

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Ep 186: College Roommates, Marriage Pacts, and Overdue Apologies (A Secret Tapes Conversation with my Soul Sister Lindsay Lawler)

Tue, 12 Sep 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has (or wants) a Soul Sister.

In my book about friendship THE LIFE COUNCIL: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about my freshman college roommate and longtime LA roommate Lindsay Lawler. In the book, and in my life, Lindsay occupies the seat on my my life council that I call the SOUL SISTER. And in this conversation you’re going to see why. We have been connected spiritually and logistically and our lives have been intertwined since we were 18 years old.

In this episode, Lindsay and I talk about living in the dorms together, living in the Hollywood hills together, the ways we (accidentally) broke one another's hearts, and the ways we light each other up. Our bond and this conversation is a special one.

But the BIG reason I wanted to share this Secret Tapes conversation with Lindsay with you right now is that Lindsay is a singer and songwriter based in nashville and her latest album comes out this week! It’s called Peaches Holyoke and the first single Trying To Get Back To Texas is available on all streaming platforms now.

This is Lindsay’s first full length album in 8 years, it features 13 tracks, and you might also hear that new single Trying To Get Back To Texas spinning on OUTLAW COUNTRY on Sirius XM Channel 62.

I love Lindsay, I love her music, and after listening to this excerpt of our Secret Tapes conversation about our deep friendship for over 25 years, i think you will love her too.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 28: Motherhood Through Adoption with Lindsay Lawler

Ep 164: Are We Friends Or Not? (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Business Besties Kendra Adachi, Jamie Golden, and Bri McKoy)

Ep 176: The Mentor (A Secret Tapes Conversation with Cyndi Finkle)

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Ep 185: Analyzing the Results of the Listener Survey

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone interested in how the podcast sausage gets made.

We're doing something a little different in this episode. I'm analyzing the results of this summer's podcast listener survey, where more than 1,000 people gave their feedback on 10 Things To Tell You. Listeners shared their favorite (and least favorite) episodes of the show, and suggested topics and guests for the future.

I wanted to talk these results through with you because I value your feedback and want to involve you in the bigger picture of what we're creating here. I love making 10 Things To Tell You for you, and I also want to continue to make it helpful and entertaining.

I'm also sharing some of my personal thoughts on the state of the podcasting industry right now, and as a listener, you're part of that industry. So I'm giving a little peek behind the curtain of what's happening from the creator side, based on my own experience and from conversations with many of my podcast friends.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Sorta Awesome podcast

Smartest Person in the Room podcast

Are you a chili cooker or a pizza orderer?

Who do you see in the picture?

10 Ways To Feel Better

Pay Attention To What You Skip

Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh My!

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Ep 184: 8 Questions for the End of the Summer

Tue, 29 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone looking to transition well between the end of summer and beginning of fall.

Whether you mark the end of summer by the school calendar, the weather, or football season, we have come to the end of the season.

In this episode, I'm walking through 8 questions to ask yourself as we close one chapter of the year and enter into another. As usual, these questions work best when you share them with a friend, partner, coworker, or the whole family. They're also great for taking to your journal and sitting with your thoughts in this seasonal transition.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep. 180: Four Metaphors For Turning 44

Ep. 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023

On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen

Monsters: A Fan's Dilemma by Claire Dederer

Atomic Habits by James Clear

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Ep 183: 5 Things I Wish I'd Known When I Was Learning To Cook (with Bri McKoy)

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for cooking newbies, confident chefs, and everyone in between!

Bri McKoy is one of my favorite creators on the internet (and one of my favorite people, period). She's back on the podcast to talk about her new book The Cook's Book: Recipes for Keeps & Essential Techniquest To Master Everyday Cooking, which launches this month.

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In this conversation, Bri shares 5 things she wish she'd known when she was learning how to cook. And I have to tell you, I've been cooking for 20 years and I loved hearing her talk about these things.

The Cook's Book by Bri McKoy comes out 8/29 and is so beautiful and useful, you will for sure want one for your own shelf and also one to give as a gift.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Ep 164: Are we friends or not? (a conversation with my business mastermind Jamie Golden, Kendra Adachi, and Bri McKoy)

Ep 24: 10 Favorite Kitchen Tools (with Bri McKoy)

Come and Eat by Bri McKoy

The Everyday Kitchen Masterclass

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Ep 182: 10 Things About 10 Years of Therapy

Tue, 15 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for the therapy-curious and therapy champions.

Ten years ago this summer, I was in one of the lowest points of my life. I had a toddler and a baby, was grieving the death of a loved one, the diagnosis of another loved one, and the near-fatal crisis of yet another loved one. My husband was away making a movie, so I was solo parenting and circumstantially very isolated during a rainy season that had flooded our home.

And also....I had just started therapy for the first time.

I needed the therapy. Making that phone call was one of the best decisions I've ever made. But as many people will tell you: it often gets (a lot) worse before it gets better.

In this episode, I'm sharing 10 Things About Therapy that I've learned or noticed or want to share after 10 years of being on this journey.

There are practical tips and also my personal stories. This is completely my own experience and not meant to be prescriptive or authoritative - just me, sharing my stuff.

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My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.

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BONUS: What Drives You with Kevin Miller

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Kevin Miller is a former pro athlete, respected personal development guide, top-ranking podcast host, published author, and father of nine who has devoted himself to helping people elevate their personal experience and improve the way they show up for others.

After our fantastic conversation a few months ago on his show The Self Helpful Podcast, I knew I wanted to talk to him about his new book What Drives You.

One of the things I've been working on personally this summer is examining and resetting some of the systems in my life, mostly professionally related, but also personally. This book and this conversation came at the perfect time. Identifying what motivates you can be such a key to your success.

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Ep 181: Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023

Tue, 08 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

We're back with all new episodes!

I have so many Favorite Things to share with you from this summer. Remember that we share favorite things every few months as an exercise in gratitude but also because it's a fun and low stakes way to share ourselves. What we're into at any given moment is a reflection of our tastes and interests.

My Favorite Things (Right Now) Summer 2023:

Birthday Journal
NEST NY Himalayan Salt and Rose Water Candle
Everyday Habits App
Adult Friendship bracelets (the one I bought here)
Taking loved ones on a trip of a lifetime
Abbott Elementary
The Retrievals
Basecamp
Shark Heart by Emily Habeck
Event Culture

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ALSO MENTIONED in this episode:

TLC Book Club Drop Ins

Secret Stuff private podcast & membership community

Book Soup Event with Emily Habeck

Books we’re reading in Secret Stuff:

On Writing by Stephen King

On Our Best Behavior by Elise Loehnen

Monsters by Claire Dederer

Birthday Journal IG post

Fabled Bookshop

Commonplace Books OKC

NEST NY Himalayan and Rose Water Candle

Everyday Habit App

Find What Feels Good App

Stretch It App

Ring Concierge Best Friends Bracelet

What we did in London IG post

What we ate in London IG post

Wimbledon IG post

Abbot Elementary

Succession

The Righteous Gemstones

The Retrievals podcast

Basecamp

Asana

ClickUp

Shark Heart by Emily Habeck

Elizabeth Barnhill’s IG

Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant

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BONUS: Remaining You While Raising Them with Alli Worthington

Fri, 04 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

I met author Alli Worthington over a decade ago when we were both in the mommy blogging world, and I've long looked up to her as an entreprenuer and innovator in the online space. And while I was a mommy blogger back then who didn't write much about motherhood, Alli was creating conferences, writing books, and raising FIVE boys and a stepdaughter.

So of course with that kind of expertise, I am excited to share this conversation about motherhood that's aimed at the MOTHER. Alli's latest book Remaining You While Raising Them is the opposite of an instruction manual for parenting, which is what makes it so refreshing.

In this episode, Alli and I talk about mom guilt, real self care, and the different ways social media and the likes can make us feel like we’re not measuring up. We also talk about our identities as mothers, the magic question Alli wants women to get in the habit of asking themselves, and why it’s important to allow our kids to see us get angry sometimes.

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Alli Worthington is known for her straight-talking encouragement and practical tools that help women reach their dreams in business and life. She is a speaker, podcaster, author, and life and business coach who launched Called Creatives, a cohort of women speakers and writers. Alli lives with her husband, Mark, and their five sons outside of Nashville with the only golden retriever who refuses to retrieve.

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REPLAY: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh My!

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.

August feels like the second "new year" on the calendar. Even if you're no longer super aware of the school calendar as a student, parent, or teacher, it still feels like a fresh start after the summer and heading into the last half of the year.

This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year. In this replay episode from the end of 2019, I’m sharing my experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board for the future.

Let me be clear that I am no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions.

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Mentioned in this episode:

Episode #6: Revisiting Judy Blume with Cara Pence

Episode #29: What are your intentions?

Wayne Dyer

2019 Word of the Year: RELEASE

2020 Word of the Year: TRANSLATE

Article: Why Vision Boards Don’t Work

Episode #38: Books for personal growth

Episode #35: Ask me in 3 months

Episode #41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos

Episode #45: 10 Questions to ask at the end of the year

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REPLAY: Pay Attention To What You Skip

Tue, 25 Jul 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.

This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.

The things we avoid are the things that can be teaching us something. I'm talking about the topics and people who give me a little twinge that I should pay attention to, both in real life and on social media.

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Tools of Titans by Tim Ferriss

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REPLAY: 10 Ways To Feel Better

Tue, 18 Jul 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.

This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.

I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk.

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BONUS EP: Intentions, Affirmations, and Vision Boards, Oh my!

Ep 46: Book Club 2019

Best Books of 2019 blog post

Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

Gretchen Rubin (her podcasts and her books)

The Next Right Thing by Emily P Freeman (her podcast and her book)

Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal

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REPLAY: Who do you see in the picture?

Tue, 11 Jul 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.

This episode is for you if you’ve ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped.

This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.

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Episode #4: How do you connect to your body?

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BONUS: Amy Keller Laird has OCD and created the website MENTAL

Fri, 07 Jul 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Amy Keller Laird is the founder of Mental, the first mental health lifestyle platform for women. Previously, she was the Global Editor-in-Chief of Women’s Health and Beauty Director of Allure. Amy is a thought leader in wellness, mental health, and beauty, having appeared as an expert on Today, Good Morning America, The Doctors, and Entertainment Tonight. She has OCD, and has been named a Friend of NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) for her journalistic work in mental health.

In our conversation, Amy shares 10 Things she wants you to know about mental health in this moment, including tools that can help you and thoughts on destigmatizing the way women talk about living with mental health struggles.

Learn more about Amy Keller Laird

Check out the MENTAL website

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Calm Strips

Fired over zoom: what to do next

6 Reasons you might want to reconsider ADHD

Is it ADHD? Or bipolar? Could it be both?

How to find your best weighted blanket

Poet Brianna Pastor

Use Astrology to boost your mental health

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REPLAY: Are you a chili cooker or a pizza orderer?

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As we near the 200th episode of 10 Things To Tell You, we're using this summer to pull a few episodes out of the archives from the first year of the show.

This episode and this concept is brought to you by an old boyfriend, who (I think?) made up this analogy and it contributed to the end of our relationship and also has stayed with me as a major life question and metaphor.

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Netflix docuseries REMASTERED: Devil and the Crossroads

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Ep 180: Four Metaphors for Turning 44 (a birthday episode)

Tue, 27 Jun 2023 07:30:00 GMT

June is my birthday month, and every year I create a personal episode for the occasion. This year, instead of waxing nostaligic or sharing what I've learned in the last year, I'm taking us on a journey.

Of metaphors.

I'm sharing four metaphors that feel especially apt for life right now:

One Point (clap clap) At A Time

There are years where you wander and years when you're on the road

Accelerate through the turn

You are not lost

I hope you take something from this episode that helps you on your path.

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Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working with a Business Coach

Their Eyes Were Watching God by Zora Neale Hurston

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Ep 179: Best Books of 2023 (So Far) with Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith

Tue, 20 Jun 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Instead of waiting for the end of the year to talk about our favorite books, my real life book club members Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith and I decided we should have a mid-year meeting to discuss some of the great things we've read in this first half of 2023.

We talk about the best novels, memoirs, personal growth, and general nonfiction books that stand out, and even share some of the personal things going on in our lives that have affected our reading habits lately.

We also unintentionally talk a lot about Hollywood in this episode - where the three of us all live and work - discussing the writer's strike and multiple celebrity memoirs.

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LAURA’S FAVORITES:

We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman

The Perfectionist’s Guide To Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

Spare by Prince Harry

Beloved by Toni Morrison

I Have Some Questions for You by Rebecca Makkai

Romantic Comedy by Curtis Sittenfeld

STEPHANIE’S FAVORITES:

Maame by Jessica George

Burn It Down by Maureen Ryan

Pineapple Street by Jenny Jackson

YASMIN’S FAVORITES:

Friends, Lovers, and the Big Terrible Thing by Matthew Perry

The Shards by Bret Easton Ellis

Everybody Knows by Jordan Harper

You Could Make This Place Beautiful by Maggie Smith

OTHER BOOKS MENTIONED in this episode:

Extremely Loud and Incredibly Close by Jonathan Safran Foer

The Tender Bar by J.R. Moehringer (Prince Harry’s ghost writer)

I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy

Educated by Tara Westover

The Glass Castle by Jeannette Walls

Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Demon Copperhead by Barbara Kingsolver

The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai

Tomorrow and Tomorrow and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin

Tales from the Boom Boom Room by Susan Antilla

Glamarama by Bret Easton Ellis

Less Than Zero by Bret Easton Ellis

Prep by Curtis Sittenfeld

American Wife by Curtis Sittenfeld

You Think It, I’ll Say It by Curtis Sittenfeld

Into Thin Air by Jon Krakauer

Hello Beautiful by Ann Napolitano

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BONUS: The Elevation Approach with Tina Wells

Fri, 16 Jun 2023 07:30:00 GMT

I am coming off of an intense season where the work-life balance scale was tipped firmly in the work direction. I know the ebb and flow of this equation and I have come to understand that sometimes imbalance is exactly what is needed while tending to something important. But none of us want to feel out of balance for long.

This is why I loved chatting with my guest Tina Wells, author of the new book The Elevation Approach. Tina has had an entrepreneurial journey like no other and in the book she redefines this idea of work-life balance by introducing the concept of work life harmony.

In this conversation we talk about the difference between balance and harmony as it relates to our very full lives. She shares her elevation approach, the routines and rituals that have helped her as she works towards harmony, and how this can affect your relationships on this journey.

Tina Wells is a business strategist, advisor, author, and the founder of RLVNT Media. Tina is also the author of 16 books, including the best-selling tween fiction series Mackenzie Blue and its 2020 award-winning spinoff series, The Zee Files. Her new book, The Elevation Approach, is out now.

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Ep 178: Finding Identity Where You Live (a conversation about homes and hometowns with Elizabeth Passarella)

Tue, 13 Jun 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Elizabeth Passarella and I have a lot in common: we're both authors, and mothers, and both moved from small, southern cultures to big cities to become writers. I spent my twenties working in reality tv while she spent the same time period as an editor at the top beauty magazines.

And then, having never met but with many mutal friends and chasing similar literary dreams, we released both of our books just weeks away from one another - first in 2021 and then this spring of 2023. On such familiar paths but on opposite coasts, it felt like the most natural thing in the world to finally record a conversation together.

Elizabeth Passarella is a contributing editor for Southern Living and former editor at Real Simple and Vogue. She has spent more than 20 years writing about food, travel, home design, and parenting in a variety of magazines. She is the author of two books, Good Apple: Tales of an Southern Evangelical in New York and her latest It Was an Ugly Couch Anyway: and Other Thoughts On Moving Forward. She grew up in Memphis, Tennessee, and currently lives in New York City with her husband and three children.

Elizabeth and I talk about her experience moving from the south to New York City, what happened when she bought an apartment in her building that belonged to a hoarder, and the ways she is able to write so honestly about her family. I truly enjoy Elizabeth and her writing and I know you will love this conversation too.

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Ep 177: How To Find Your Signature Style

Tue, 06 Jun 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Do you have a signature style? Do you want to have one?

I have a few signature styles, things that I feel good in, looks that I'm known for, a style of expressing on the outside how I feel on the inside: bold lipstick, head scarves, and sweatshirts. These things anchor my favorite outfits.

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In this episode, I'm taking away some of the myths of signature styles. They don't have to be forever choices. They don't have to be considered classic. They don't even have to be flattering. (Yes, really!)

Then I share three steps for finding your own signature style. (Hint: you start in your own closet.)

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Ep 42: Have you lost your style? (a conversation with Amber Haines)

Ep 134: 10 Tips to Wardrobe Confidence (with Alison Lumbatis)

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Ep 176: The Mentor (a Secret Tapes conversation with Cyndi Finkle)

Tue, 30 May 2023 07:30:00 GMT

When I sat down to write The Mentor chapter of The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I thought I was going to reveal that The Mentor was the seat that has remained empty on my own life council.

But as I wrote, I realized that I have had mentors along the way, women who have lit the path the ahead of me and shown me who I wanted to be. Chief among those is my friend Cyndi Finkle - a woman who so greatly influenced me when I moved to Los Angeles that I can trace so many of my decisions to her and her example.

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When Cyndi and I sat down to record this conversation for the Secret Tapes series, we had barely seen each other in nearly ten years, even though we live within miles of one another. It was a chance for me to tell her how much she meant to me during the most important year of my life, and to hear her side of what it felt like to take a 22-year-old sorority girl fresh out of Oklahoma under her wing.

This conversation is part of my SECRET TAPE series - 10 episodes of conversations with some of the people I write about in The Life Council. The Secret Tapes were created as a preorder bonus for those who purchased The Life Council ahead of its release date, but I am opening the series back up for a limited time for those who only discovered The Life Council after it was published.

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STEPHEN KING SUMMER is here!!

Fri, 26 May 2023 17:21:00 GMT

The third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER starts June 1!

This year we're reading two books and watching two movies together.

We'll kick off STEPHEN KING SUMMER with a movie watchalong of The Shining on Sunday, June 4 and throughout June & July we'll be reading THE STAND.

Later in the summer we'll do a movie watchalong of The Dead Zone, and in August we'll be reading King's nonfiction work ON WRITING: A memoir of the craft.

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Stephen King Summer is part of my Secret Stuff Patreon membership community that offers special programs a few times a year like this one. Secret Stuff is $7/month and Stephen King Summer runs June - August. Your total would be $21 (charged monthly).

When you join Secret Stuff to participate in Stephen King Summer, you also get all the other Secret Stuff goodies like personal episodes, general reading roundups, and more.

All of the Stephen King Summer meetings will take place over zoom, and the book club discussions will be recorded and turned into podcast episodes so you can listen on the go if you can't make it LIVE.

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Nervous to dive in to Stephen King? Things are always less scary when we do them together!

Listen to EP 121: Stephen King Starter Kit for more info on why I love this author and why I want you to read him

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Hope to see you this summer for the third annual STEPHEN KING SUMMER!

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Ep 175: How To Have Hard Conversations With Friends (with Danielle Bayard Jackson)

Tue, 23 May 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Over the last few months of talking about the many layers to adult friendship as I promote my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I've received so many questions about friendship conflict and how to navigate it with grace or end a friendship with love.

I've answered these questions to the best of my ability with my own life experience, but I also know when it's time to call in a certified expert. Danielle Bayard Jackson is a female friendship coach and educator who speaks nationally about the science of women’s platonic connections. Her coaching business, Friend Forward, is dedicated to teaching women how to create and maintain better female friendships.

In this episode, Danielle gives us actual scripts for how to start those hard conversations with friends. I hung onto every word.

We all have friendship conflict sometimes and get tongue-tied or scared when we need to say the hard thing. These tips and thoughts from Danielle will give you concrete take aways for your next ackward yet necessary conversation.

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Laura's episode of the Friend Forward podcast

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BONUS: Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots (a conversation with Mary Marantz)

Mon, 22 May 2023 01:32:00 GMT

There is something about Mary Marantz’s story and writing that I just connect so deeply with. Her memoir DIRT was one of my favorite reads of 2021 (listen to our conversation about it here) and she is back on the show to talk about her newest book, Slow Growth Equals Strong Roots, which came out last fall.

In this episode, Mary and I talk about striving to be the most put together person in the room in the pursuit of perfection and acceptance, feeling like we need to prove that we deserve whatever success or opportunity we have, and how our little girl selves would be so happy with who we have become. (And how even still we wonder what it would be like if our lives were different.)

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Ep 174: 3 Things I've Learned While Working With A Business Coach (a conversation with Retha Nichole)

Tue, 16 May 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Eighteen months ago I started working with a business coach. It was the end of 2021 and I was, frankly, falling apart in several ways. In an effort to make something (anything) work, I hired business coach Retha Nichole to help me figure out how to prioritize the various aspects of my online work. I wanted to feel less scattered and I wanted to make more money.

At first, I felt embarrassed that I needed outside help with my business. And it wasn't an overnight fix. It has taken me almost two years (and multiple launches) to see all that has come out of this relationship, both emotionally and financially.

In this episode, I'm sharing the three most important things I've learned while working with business coach Retha Nichole:

How to prioritize
How to plan
How to make more money

In turn, Retha shares the main reasons people reach out to hire her. This conversation is not meant to sound like an infomercial - I want you to listen as a way to opening your mind to outside help in areas of your life that aren't working.

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Ep 173: The Life Council Book Club (Live Replay)

Tue, 09 May 2023 07:30:00 GMT

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs came out last month, and one of the greatest pieces of feedback I've already received is that it would make a great book club pick!

I agree wholeheartedly - I envisioned both of my books being read with a friend, partner, or group. Which is exactly why I offered a book club as a preorder bonus and why I chose The Life Council as the April book club pick for Secret Stuff (my membership community).

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Today's episode is a live replay of the Secret Stuff book club meeting. (Recorded and replayed with permission.) All the meetings for Secret Stuff are held on zoom, with optional participation from members, and this the best work I'm doing online right now. We talk about all kinds of things together (not just books) and it's just so meaningful to connect twice a month with this community. So you can imagine how extra special it was to meet and discuss The Life Council.

If you haven't read The Life Council, you'll still appreciate this candid conversation about friendship, including our struggles and joys. If you've already read The Life Council and are ready to talk about it, I hope this episode is a stand-in for the types of conversations I hope will come out of reading this book.

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Platonic by Marisa G. Franco

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BONUS: Create Anyway (A conversation about art and perfectionism with Ashlee Gadd)

Fri, 05 May 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As someone who has been writing and creating on the internet for over a decade, I know first hand all the challenges that one can face in their pursuit of creative work. The desire to create is there, but the obstacles are real, especially if you become a parent and feel like your time, resources and energy are limited. My guest, Ashlee Gadd, is the perfect person to speak to his as she has just released a book called Create Anyway: The Joy of Pursuing Creativity in the Margins of Motherhood

Ashlee and I ended up talking for two hours about art and perfectionism, how it takes a village to create good work, and the social media of it all. We also took a tangent and had a fascinating discussion about paid communities (including Patreon - where I host Secret Stuff), and metrics and some of the more in-the-weeds parts of content creation. That part of the conversation will be available to Secret Stuff members only.

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I felt so inspired after talking with Ashlee. You don’t have to be a writer or online creator to enjoy this conversation. All of us are wired for some sort of creative expression and life can always get in the way of that. You can buy Ashlee’s book Create Anyway wherever you buy books. I hope this conversation inspires you to pursue your own creative outlet with abandon.

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Ep 172: 4 Questions To Tap Into Your 10-year-old Self

Tue, 02 May 2023 07:30:00 GMT

As I head back to my home state of Oklahoma this week to promote The Life Council, I'm feeling nostalgic in every way. Even as life has marched forward, and I entered my twenties, then my thirties, and now my forties, I have found it useful to tap back into the childhood version of me. It reminds me who I am in my core and it reminds me where I came from.

And sometimes, even as I evolve in a positive way, I need that reminder of where I started. I want to tap into that original spirit.

This episode has four questions to ask yourself about your childhood self. We're going to talk about:

Place

People

Our bodies

Our dreams

Maybe you think about your childhood self all the time. Maybe it's been a long time since you really remembered that version of you.

This episode and these questions will bring you back to who you were when you were young.

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Serendipity (Caroline's Story)

Fri, 28 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Welcome to the final episode in my Friendship Stories series.

My guest today is someone you might recognize if you've ever emailed or DM'd the show, or you've just heard me talk about her giant contribution to 10 Things To Tell You, my book launches, and all other behind-the-scenes operations around here: Caroline!

In this episode about the serendipity of friendship, Caroline tells us the story of her longtime friend Judi. After Judi experiences a tragic loss, Caroline was there for her when she needed it most. This is a story about the gift of friendship and how friends help us navigate life’s ups and downs. Throughout the course of this conversation Caroline also shares about her twin sister, Jill, which is a friendship story in and of itself.

Caroline’s multiple friendship experiences were the perfect ones to cap off this Friendship Stories series because I think it highlights the width and breadth of good friendship and its importance in our lives.

This episode concludes the Friendship Stories series, which I loved putting together as part of my research and then launch of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.

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Ep 171: Favorite Things (Right Now)!

Tue, 25 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

It's time for another episode of Favorite Things (Right Now)!

As a reminder, we do Favorite Things episodes because they're fun and also because thinking about what we're really into right now is another way of making a gratitude list.

Plus who doesn't love hearing and sharing awesome things?!

On this episode, I'm sharing a variety of favorites, including:

The Life Council Book Tour

New Favorite Alarm Clock

The Perfectionist's Guide to Losing Control by Katherine Morgan Schafler

Laura Beth Davidson and also Jess Koehler

Aura

Judy Blume Forever

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BONUS Episode with Emily Ley: 5 Tips for Morning Routines

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: A Bridge Across Cultural Differences (Carol & Gloria's Story)

Sun, 23 Apr 2023 19:07:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

Carol and Gloria's friendship spans a few cultural differences, including race (Carol is Asian and Gloria is Black) and a large age gap (they have twenty years between them). In this episode, Carol speaks candidly about how these differences affects their friendship and bring both challenges but also beautiful gifts.

This conversation is also one about the importance of openness and vulnerability in friendship. I do want to say that as a white woman hosting this conversation, my job here was to listen to their lived experiences that are so different from my own. Carol and Gloria listened to this episode after we recorded it to make sure that their perspectives were represented.

Carol and Gloria’s friendship definitely qualifies as unique and I think you’ll enjoy hearing about it.

The FRIENDSHIP STORIES series is a set of conversations I had while writing my new book The Life Council: Every Woman Needs.

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: The Breakup (JeriLynne's Story)

Fri, 21 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

Over the last few months, we’ve heard a number of uplifting stories about unique and transformative friendships in this series. But today’s episode is about an aspect of friendship that is painful and rarely discussed: the friendship break up.

My guest, JeriLynne, shares that when her marriage ended, there was collateral damage in the form of friendship loss as well. That friendship breakup left her without real closure and she continues to struggle to be vulnerable in friendships.

While it’s certainly easier to talk about all the positive aspects of friendship, I think it’s also important to discuss these harder, more painful parts of these formative relationships. JeriLynne’s experience is significant and unfortunately a very real part of these friendship.

I write about friendship breakups and friendship loss in The Life Council in a chapter called The Empty Chair.

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Ep 170: The Old Friend (a conversation with Shauna Niequist)

Tue, 18 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

In my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I write about how the "old friend" doesn't necessarily mean than you've known one another for decades. All that is required to hold that Life Council seat is to have a friend who has known you from one version of yourself into another. That actual timeline might vary.

But Shauna Niequist is one of my oldest friends however you measure it. We met in the late 90's working at summer camp, where (as I wrote about in my first book Share Your Stuff), I learned from Shauna a different way to walk in the world than I had previously been exposed to.

For twenty-five years, Shauna has been a friend, role model, mentor, and, yes, even a fellow obsessive as we discuss in this episode.

Shauna Niequist is the New York Times bestselling author of Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, Present Over Perfect, and I Guess I Haven't Learned That Yet. She is married to Aaron, and they live in New York City with their two sons.

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Island Life (Kammy's Story)

Fri, 14 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

The childhood that my guest Kammy is going to describe in this conversation is unlike any I've ever heard. She grew up on a remote island just two square miles in size, without much contact with the rest of the world. Looking back, Kammy can see that the friendships from this time in her life shaped her relationships to come, and the bond she shares with other children from the island is unrivaled. This is a fascinating conversation so different from the rest of our Friendship Stories.

The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.

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Ep 169: Battle Buddies (with Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland of Pantsuit Politics)

Tue, 11 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

In the framework of my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, the duo behind the Pantsuit Politics podcast could be considered Business Besties or Old Friends, but I see them primarily as BATTLE BUDDIES.

Beth Silvers and Sarah Stewart Holland have spent nearly ten years publicly discussing the American political landscape on the podcast Pantsuit Politics, and, well, you can imagine why I see them as having walked through a battle together.

Somehow, though, these two women have navigated these conversations with integrity, grace, and - especially - nuance.

I've been a fan of Beth & Sarah for years now, and respect their work so much. It was honor to have them on the show to talk about their friendship and partnership.

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The Secret Tapes are BACK (for a limited time)

Fri, 07 Apr 2023 07:54:00 GMT

The Secret Tapes and all other ORDER BONUSES for my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs are back for a limited time!

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Purchase The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your receipt number to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and get all of the order bonuses including the exclusive book club, the printable discussion guide with journal prompts, and the Secret Tapes private podcast series.

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The Secret Tapes are 10 episodes of conversations with some of the friends I write about in The Life Council. These are not just idle chats, these are insightful and meaningful conversations.

You do NOT want to miss out on these bonuses. You have until midnight Sunday, April 9 to go to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com to fill out the form and claim your bonuses.

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Ep 168: The Life Council is OUT NOW! (10 things I haven't told you yet about my new book)

Tue, 04 Apr 2023 07:30:00 GMT

I have 10 things to tell you about my new book The Life Council, which launches TODAY April 4, 2023 in every format: paperback, hard cover, ebook, and audiobook (read by me).

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This is my second book in two years, and the process and mindset behind writing and marketing The Life Council has been so different from launching my first book in 2021.

In this episode, I wanted to share with you ten thoughts about the book, the creative process, why I felt like a fraud writing it, and why I believe in its message so deeply.

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Ep 167: Five Friendship Philosophies (an audiobook excerpt from The Life Council by Laura Tremaine)

Tue, 28 Mar 2023 07:30:00 GMT

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs launches in ONE WEEK!

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This episode is an excerpt from the audiobook version of The Life Council, read by me. The sections I'm sharing here are called A Friendship Reckoning and Five Friendship Philosophies.

If you like what you hear, and want more on this topic, THE LIFE COUNCIL is available in hard cover, ebook, audiobook, and paperback on April 4!

And if you PREORDER one of those versions before midnight eastern standard time on release day (April 4), then you're eligible for all of my preorder bonuses, including my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, created especially for those who preorder The Life Council.

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Just one short week until The Life Council is out in the world and I can't wait!

The Five Friendship Philosophies:

Friendship is a To Do
Believe the Best
Just Go
Like Every Selfie
Your Spouse Is Not Your Best Friend

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Men and Women CAN Be Friends (Kerith & Lee's Story)

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 07:30:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode in my FRIENDSHIP STORIES series!

Can men and women be "just friends"? Kerith & Lee are here to answer that OF COURSE they can. Their unique friendship story starts with a surgery that results in hours-long phone marathons and a friendship that stretches across time and gender roles.

In this conversation you’ll hear what Kerith’s husband thinks of their friendship, how it’s impacted Lee’s dating life, and how others have reacted to their unusual friendship.

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Ep 166: How To Write A Book (in 10 steps)

Tue, 21 Mar 2023 07:30:00 GMT

My second book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs comes out in just two weeks, and so I have writing on my mind.

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Becoming an author has been my life's biggest dream since I was in elementary school, but I was in my 40's and had been writing professionally for over a decade before it finally happened. And, truthfully, my first two books are not what I ever pictured myself writing!

I created this episode because I really wish someone had broken down the process of writing a book for me years ago. And because I think a lot of people want to write a book, but have no idea where to start.

Although the 10 steps I walk through here follow my own process of writing nonfiction, a lot of what I'm sharing here could apply to any sort of creative endeavor. I'm talking about preparation, mindset, rituals, and radical honesty.

How To Write A Book (in 10 Steps):

Be honest about the WHY (and if a book is the best format to tell your story)
Decide what you’re really trying to say
Outline, outline, outline
Give yourself a deadline
Find your rituals
Measure something
Write for yourself, rewrite for your audience
Use an editor and don’t take the edits personally
Let the book become what it’s supposed to be
Call it done

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Ep 165: Best Books Lately (with Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of Currently Reading)

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 07:30:00 GMT

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is BOOKS and two of my very favorite people to talk books with are Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of the Currently Reading podcast.

I've been such a fan of these two women and their podcast since it launched and it is always fun to chat with them about the best books we've read lately.

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Meredith and Kaytee fall into both the Business Bestie and Fellow Obsessive seats in my framework for my new book The Life Council, and we talk more about their relationship and business origin story over on my Secret Stuff patreon.

But for this episode, we wanted to go straight to the reading recommendations!

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Kaytee’s books:

Black Cake by Charmaine Wilkerson

Emily Wilde's Encyclopaedia of Faeries by Heather Fawcett

The Light We Carry by Michelle Obama

Meredith’s books:

The Rook by Daniel O’Malley

The Drift by C.J. Tudor

Daphne by Josh Malerman

Laura’s books:

How To Sell A Haunted House by Grady Hendrix

Leaving the Saints by Martha Beck

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Kindle Oasis

Casebot Kindle Case

Hench by Natalie Zina Walschots

The Windsor Knot by SJ Bennett

The Southern Book Club’s Guide to Slaying Vampires by Grady Hendrix

Into the Drowning Deep by Mira Grant

The Chalk Man by C.J. Tudor

The Way of Integrity by Martha Beck

Birdbox by Josh Malerman

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BONUS: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Pen Pals. (Sarah's Story)

Fri, 10 Mar 2023 08:30:00 GMT

Welcome to another episode in my Friendship Stories series.

When I was young, I always dreamed of having a pen pal. It seemed like something straight out of a movie! Well wait until you hear Sarah's story...it really is like some magical fiction.

In the years before the internet connected us all, Sarah and her childhood pen pal exchanged hundreds of letters. But when they went to college, they naturally lost touch. A very serendipitous mutual aquaintance reconnected Sarah and her long lost letter writing friend and THEN....well, you just have to listen to find out.

I just loved this story of friendship evolving through pen and paper across the decades.

The Friendship Stories series came from the dozens of interviews I conducted while writing my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs.

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Ep 164: Are we friends or not? (A Secret Tapes Mastermind Conversation with Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Tue, 07 Mar 2023 08:30:00 GMT

Back In 2019, I infamously said on this podcast that the women in my business Mastermind were not my friends.

Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi are back to refute that claim and also take their offical seats on my Life Council as my "Business Besties," as I write about them in my book.

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In this conversation we tell our Mastermind origin story, share the biggest mistake we've ever made as a group, talk through our occasional professional jealousies, and dissect what makes an actual Business Bestie.

This conversation is part of my private podcast series called The Secret Tapes, a free bonus available ONLY to people who preorder my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs. Preorder The Life Council in any format from any retailer and take your order confirmation to TheLifeCouncilBookBonuses.com and fill out the form to get your bonuses within 24 hours - including the FULL episodes of The Secret Tapes.

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The Popcast with Knox & Jamie

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The Life Council PREORDER BONUSES Are Here!

Fri, 03 Mar 2023 14:00:00 GMT

My new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs will come out on April and starting TODAY you can get all three of my PREORDER BONUSES with your proof of purchase.

CLICK HERE TO CLAIM YOUR PREORDER BONUSES

Preorder The Life Council in any format (hard cover, paperback, ebook, or audio) and take your order/confirmation number to this page and fill out the form to get these bonuses:

Discussion Guide & Journal Prompts
Entry into The Life Council Book Club with live zoom meets and an exclusive FB group dedicated to all things friendship for the next two months
Access to my private podcast series called THE SECRET TAPES - 10+ episodes with friends I write about in The Life Council.

Trust me, you do not want to miss these FREE bonuses and they will go away once the book is released - they're for preorders only!

Purchase The Life Council by going to your favorite bookseller like amazon, bookshop, barnes & noble, or your local indie and make sure and save your order confirmation number.

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After we confirm your purchase, you'll get an email within 24 hours delivering all the bonuses to you!

Thank you for cheering me on as I launch another book into the world. I truly think these bonuses will enhance your reading experience and can't wait for you to read The Life Council!

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Ep 163...has disappeared

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 18:30:00 GMT

You're not crazy - Episode 163 has been removed from the feed.

This is a short explanation for why.

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BONUS: 5 Tips for Morning Routines (with Emily Ley)

Ep 162: 10 Ways to Handle Overwhelm

Ep 159: Reading Roundup

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BONUS: 5 Tips for Morning Routines (with Emily Ley)

Fri, 24 Feb 2023 08:30:00 GMT

You'll have to excuse my fangirling on this episode, but it's a full conversation about something I love to talk about (routines - especially morning routines) with someone I've long admired (Simplified founder Emily Ley) and I just couldn't contain my excitement.

In this conversation you'll hear Emily Ley talk about her 5 of her best tips for a successful morning routine and she's full of grace about the whole deal. As in: do what works for you! But also here are some fresh ways to think about it.

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Loftie Alarm Clock

It's One of Use by J.T. Ellison

Essentialism by Greg McKeown

Atomic Habits by James Clear

Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott

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Ep 162: 10 Ways To Handle Overwhelm

Tue, 21 Feb 2023 08:30:00 GMT

We all have seasons of overwhelm, whether it's a packed schedule, an insane To Do list, or events that require a lot of emotional processing. I've been navigating my own overwhelm in the last few months while juggling a larger-than-normal workload with travel and family obligations. So I sat down to make a list of the things that are helping me handle it.

Circumstances are often largely out of our control, but we can still find pockets of peace that keep us in the present and help us maintain a clear mind.

I made this episode for me, but I hope it helps you, too.

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The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

Burnout by Emily Nagoski and Amelia Nagoski

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BONUS: 4 Ways To Model Well-Being For Generations To Come with Toye Penny

Fri, 17 Feb 2023 08:30:00 GMT

In this busy season I’m so aware of how neglectful I can get about my own self care. When life feels crazy, the first thing to fall to the bottom of my priority list is ME. And I’m becoming increasingly aware of what I’m teaching my own children in this realm.

So when Toye Penny reached out to share 4 ways to “Model Well-Being for Generations to Come” I knew I needed to hear what she had to say. Toye shares helpful, thoughtful and practical ways to love the next generation by loving ourselves well first.

Toye Penny is a Luxury Well-Being Strategist, Author of Love “Them”, Love You More, and creator of The Love You More Method℠. She specializes in helping High Performing CEO Moms put their oxygen mask on first so they can save everyone around them. Toye is a wife, mother to 3 daughters, and she seeks to intervene in women’s lives so children won't have to be the result of generational trauma passed down from their mothers. You can learn more about her work by going to ToyePenny.com.

I loved chatting with Toye and hope you take as much from this conversation as I did.

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Ep 161: My Husband Is Not My Best Friend

Tue, 14 Feb 2023 08:30:00 GMT

One of my core friendship philosophies is that my spouse is not my best friend.

When I talk about this, people raise their eyebrows. Some assume our marriage is in trouble or that we're ill matched. It has become so common in romantic relationship culture to claim that you're married to your best friend that anything else seems unhealthy.

But while my husband Jeff is the most important person in my life, he is NOT my best friend. He's my partner. My co parent. My lover. I have best friends, and those relationships are different. Early in our marriage, when I tried to make Jeff be my best friend, the pressure for him (and me) to be all things to one another was too much.

We both needed and wanted lots of different types of relationships in our lives. Our marriage was stronger when we were closely connected to our friends.

I write more about this in my new book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, but I wanted you to hear Jeff and I talk about it with each other. We don't have the exact same take on this topic, and our perspectives shift with age and in various seasons, as almost everything does.

My hope is that this conversation will give you something to think about that counters the current cultural ideal that our partners have to be our best friends. Maybe it will become a talking point with YOUR partner or with your best friends.

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Ep 160: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Betrayal. (Melissa's Story)

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 08:30:00 GMT

This is a conversation about infidelity.

Welcome to another installment of the FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where guests share their experiences of the friendships that have shaped their lives.

In this episode, Melissa tells us about her best friend "Lauren."

This story has several jaw dropping moments, but this isn’t a perspective only about scandal. There are also so many details here about those friends - or sometimes even acquaintances - who met Melissa in the moment, just when she needed it most.

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Ep 159: Reading Roundup January 2023

Tue, 31 Jan 2023 08:30:00 GMT

My favorite thing in the world to talk about is books and while I will always have occasional reading episodes here as part of 10 Things To Tell You, did you know that I do a reading roundup every single month as part of my Secret Stuff membership?

Every month on Secret Stuff I share what I've been reading lately (the good, the bad, and the unfinished), and I wanted you to have a sneak peek to what one of those episodes sounds like.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Kindle Paperwhite vs. Kindle Oasis

What Laura Read:

Now Is Not the Time to Panic by Kevin Wilson

The Anatomy of Anxiety: Understanding and Overcoming the Body’s Fear Response by Ellen Vora, M.D.

We All Want Impossible Things by Catherine Newman

Our Missing Hearts by Celeste Ng

Spare by Prince Harry

Also mentioned:

Nothing to See Here by Kevin Wilson

Perfect Little World by Kevin Wilson

Little Fires Everywhere by Celeste Ng

Geek Love by Katherine Dunn

The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones

The Great Believers by Rebecca Makkai

Friday Black by Nana Kwame Adjei-Brenyah

The Passage by Justin Cronin

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Ep 158: Sexism and Ageism Had a Baby and Called It Menopause (a conversation with Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz)

Tue, 24 Jan 2023 08:30:00 GMT

This conversation is for anyone who will go through menopause, is currently going through menopause, or who has already gone through menopause.

Dr. Suzanne Gilberg-Lenz is my personal gynecologist and I trust her completely with the information she shares in this episode about the changes that women go through biologically, hormonally, physically, and emotionally. She's recently published Menopause Bootcamp: Optimize Your Health, Empower Your Self, and Flourish As You Age.

In this conversation we talk about her path to this work that combines holistic and modern medicine and her compassion and mission to help other women find the answers they need for this next stage of life.

Don't be scared by the "m" word. This conversation (and this information) is helpful, thoughtful, practical, and important.

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Ep 157: True Crime as Entertainment (A Victim's Story with Amy B. Chesler)

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 08:30:00 GMT

This is an important topic. Since the explosion in popularity of the true crime genre over the last decade, I've questioned the ethics of crime as entertainment. Many of us have become obsessed with grisley stories of murder.

But have you ever actually talked to someone whose loved one was murdered? Would it change your opinion on the true crime entertainment genre?

This episode is a conversation with author, award-winning blogger, and actress Amy B. Chesler. Amy's mother was murdered in 2007 and her book Working for Justice: One Family's Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing is about the events before and after this tragic event.

Amy surprised me with her take on the popularity of the true crime genre and it definitely affected how I consume these stories.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Amy B. Chesler's website

Working for Justice: One Family’s Tale of Murder, Betrayal, and Healing by Amy B. Chesler

Evil Lives Here episode with Amy Chesler

"Making a Murderer" Documentary on Netflix

"The Real Bling Ring: Hollywood Heist" Documentary on Netflix

"Keep Sweet: Pray and Obey" Documentary in Netflix

I Know What You Did Last Summer by Lois Duncan

Killing Mr. Griffin by Lois Duncan

Who killed My Daughter by Lois Duncan

Something Was Wrong podcast

Unsilenced Voices podcast

"A Murder in Mansfield" documentary on Amazon Prime

Dirty Money podcast

Dirty John podcast

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Ep 156: FRIENDSHIP STORIES: Soul Mates Christi & Cindy

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 08:30:00 GMT

Introducing FRIENDSHIP STORIES: a new series where we explore different aspects of one of the most important relationships of our lives. We're going to talk about friendships that work and friendships that end. We're going to hear about soul mates, infidelity, friendship breakups, rogue bridesmaids, and more.

Last year when I was researching for my book The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs, I did dozens of interviews with women about their friendships. We talked about the best parts and the worst pain of adult friendship and these stories were fascinating. I am excited to share some of them with you over the next few months leading up to the release of The Life Council.

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We're kicking off the series with soul mates Christi and Cindy, friends who met at work over twenty years ago when they both had toddler daughters. Though they met when their circumstances were similar, things soon changed when Christi's husband joined the military after 9/11, and their family began a life adventure that took them away from their home in Louisiana indefinitely.

In our conversation, Christi and Cindy share why their friendship works and how their opposite personalities have shaped them into better people. We talk about their first big fight, the fact that they're jealous of each other's spouses, and how their friendship has survived the long distances. They also give excellent advice for making new friends.

I wanted to kick off the Friendship Stories series with a beautiful story, and Christi and Cindy are such an excellent example of what it takes to find and maintain a friendship soul mate.

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Journaling for Grownups

Thu, 05 Jan 2023 18:35:00 GMT

I'm hosting a class this month called Journaling for Grownups!

I'm going to teach you:

WHY journaling can change your life
MYTHS of what journaling is (and is not)
FOUR ways to journal that can be effective in any season

We're going to talk through:

ETHICS of journaling when you're writing sensitive information about yourself and others
SECRECY of having a journal with deeply personal thoughts that could potentially be read by others

And together we're going to:

Journal together with my guided prompts using the four journaling styles
Have a Journaling for Grownups community where you can post your questions and progress

Journaling for Grownups starts SUNDAY, JANUARY 8 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET with a 90 minutes zoom gathering

The second zoom gathering will be SUNDAY, JANUARY 22 @ 4pm PT / 7pm ET for 90 minutes

**Replays will be available if you can't attend LIVE**

Journaling for Grownups is FREE for annual members of my Secret Stuff Community

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Hope to see you there!

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Ep 155: 3 Affirmations and 3 Habits for the New Year

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 08:30:00 GMT

Happy 2023!

As we kick off a new year, it's natural to think about what we want to do differently going forward. For me, I want to return to some habits that promote work/life balance and I'm activitely working to shift some of my mindsets by using affirmations.

Somewhere along the way I got out of the affirmation habit (I really stopped doing my whole morning routine in general) and while it was fine for awhile, I'm definitely noticing it now. The simple repetitions that you write in a journal or put on a sticky note on your mirror really do make a difference to your self-talk.

So I'm sharing the 3 affirmations and 3 habits that I'm working on in the early days of this new year, and I hope these help you as you think about the changes you want for 2023.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod

Episode 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for RIGHT NOW

Episode 145: Time Anxiety

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Ep 154: 10 Things I Learned in 2022

Tue, 27 Dec 2022 08:00:00 GMT

The week between Christmas and New Years is one of my favorite parts of the year. I love the reflection, the final Best Of lists, the hope and excitement for the year ahead.

In the past, I've called this final episode of the year "10 TAKEAWAYS from 20__" but as I was journaling through all that had happened in 2022, I realized that (for me) it was all about the lessons learned.

From Covid wreaking havoc to writing my second book to welcoming two new members to our household, 2022 became a season of learning how to change.

I hope that listening back to the lessons I took from the year inspires you to think about the biggest takeaways of YOUR 2022.

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jackass forever

Max the Dog Trainer

The Life Council (preorder!)

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Ep 153: Best Books of the Year 2022

Tue, 20 Dec 2022 08:30:00 GMT

It's the FIFTH annual Best Books of the Year episode with my real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith.

This is one of my very favorite conversations every single December and I do not apologize that it is super sized!

Yasmin, Stephanie, and I share 3-4 of our favorite books of 2022 across all genres.

As usual, there are some suprises, some curveballs, and LOTS of opinions.

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Laura’s Picks:

I’m Glad My Mom Died by Jennette McCurdy

The Measure by Nikki Erlick

The Only Good Indians by Stephen Graham Jones

Yasmin’s Picks:

Small Things Like These by Claire Keegan

Mercury Pictures Presents by Anthony Marra

Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want To Be by Becky Kennedy

Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention-- And How to Think Deeply Again by Johann Hari

Steph’s Picks:

Tomorrow, and Tomorrow, and Tomorrow by Gabrielle Zevin

People Love Dead Jews: Reports From a Haunted Present by Dara Horn

Ghosts by Dolly Alderton

Sirens & Muses by Antonia Angress

Also Mentioned:

The Line that Held Us by Dave Joy

Foster by Claire Keegan

The Storyteller: Tales of Life and Music by Dave Grohl

Selena Gomez: My Mind & Me documentary from Apple TV+

The Leftovers by Tom Perrotta

Good Inside with Dr. Becky Podcast

My Heart is a Chainsaw by Stephen Graham Jones

The Nothing Man by Catherine Ryan Howard

Never Let Me Go by Kazuo Ishiguro

We Are All Completely Besides Ourselves by Karen Joy Fowler

Booth by Karen Joy Fowler

Detransition, Baby by Torrey Peters

Alone Together: Why We Expect More from Technology and Less from Each Other by Sherry Turkle

Reclaiming Conversation: The Power of Talk in a Digital Age by Sherry Turkle

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Ep 152: Favorite Things of 2022

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 08:30:00 GMT

I'm sharing my Favorite Things of 2022 including my favorite style choices, kitchen items, apps, and gadgets and more.

At the end of the episode, a few listeners share their favorites, too!

We share Favorite Things on this show because it's fun and as an act of gratitude. If you share your stuff on social media, make sure to tag @10ThingsToTellYou.

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MENTIONED in this episode:

Kindle Paperwhite

Kindle Oasis

Sunday Riley Power Couple

Share Your Stuff, I’ll Go First

Secret Stuff patreon community

Not A Gift Guide

CEO Glow by Sunday Riley

V-Line Lifting HydroGel and Collagen Mask

Clarins V-Facial Intensive Wrap

Chrysler Pacifica Minivan

Life 360 app

Stubbs Brand Citrus and Onion Marinade

Blue’s Hogg Smokey Mountain BBQ sauce

MZ Wallace bags

Think Royln bags

Accupuncture

Canvas Lamp

Jennifer Zeuner gold Margaux hoops

LISTENER Favorite Things:

New Babies!

NPR Podcast “Up First”

Waterproof Trash Can for car

Currently Reading podcast

Caroline Winkler YouTube Channel

Calm App

Google Translate App

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Ep 151: 10 Questions for Starting Over

Tue, 06 Dec 2022 08:30:00 GMT

We all have to start over sometimes. A project, a job, a relationship, a new year.

And for me, this podcast! 10 Things To Tell You is BACK and this week I'm sharing 10 (oops, actually 9!) prompts that will help you think through anything you're starting over.

Take these prompts to your journal, to a business partner, to significant other, or anyone who is walking alongside you in your fresh start.

NOTE: Your ears are not deceiving you - one prompt is missing from this episode. I accidentally skipped prompt #7. The question was meant to be "What are your top two priorities?" so add that one in as you're journaling.

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Sorta Awesome podcast

Smartest Person in the Room podcast

Atomic Habits by James Clear

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SURPRISE! Guess who's back??

Fri, 02 Dec 2022 08:30:00 GMT

10 Things To Tell You is returning to weekly Tuesday episodes starting December 6!

At the beginning of 2022, I took a step back from weekly podcasting in order to focus on my family, my health, and more importantly to write my second book.

And I did that!

(Preorder The Life Council: 10 Friends Every Woman Needs in all formats now.)

I always knew I wanted to return to podcasting, but I wasn't sure if it would be 10 Things To Tell You or if I would be ready for a new project. After I turned in The Life Council this fall, I realized I still have LOTS of things to tell. And I just love what we've created together on the 10 Things To Tell You podcast. So I'm bringing it back!

I've already recorded dozens of conversations for you for 2023, including a series on friendship that is fascinating. I can't wait for you to hear it.

But I wanted to go ahead and relaunch in December because I love end-of-the-year episodes designed to make us think about how to end the year strong.

10 Things To Tell You will have a fresh look, new music, and renewed energy, but the concept will stay the same: sharing ourselves is the key to connection. Each episode will continue to give you a prompt that you can take to your journal or use as a conversation starter. Because sharing yourself will make you less lonely. Sometimes we just need a little nudge.

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Ep 150: 10 Things To Tell You (The Final Episode)

Tue, 04 Jan 2022 08:30:00 GMT

This final episode of the 10 Things To Tell You podcast contains the the 10 most important things I have to tell you:

READ
SHARE
NOTICE
MOVE
DECORATE
ARMOR UP
DOCUMENT
PRACTICE
LISTEN
THANK

Thank you for being on the ride with me - for listening and sharing and also showing up on Tuesdays, ready to reflect or learn something or simply to chat. It has been such an honor to make these episodes for you, and I will never forget our time here together.

Laura

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BONUS: My Personal Best Books of the Year (from SECRET STUFF)

Mon, 03 Jan 2022 06:06:49 GMT

After the final episode of 10 Things To Tell You airs, you will still be able to find me talking about books and reading (my favorite topic) in these places:

On my personal Instagram account: @laura.tremaine
In my free email newsletter the Secret Posts
In regular episodes of my SECRET STUFF Patreon

This episode is an excerpt from the SECRET STUFF Patreon podcast where I share my top books of the year (10 fiction and 10 nonfiction).

If the book episodes will be the biggest thing you'll miss about the regular 10 Things To Tell You show coming to a close, consider joining the SECRET STUFF Patreon to get your monthly reading fix. We have a book club meeting and personal reading episodes every month.

I'll be sharing this "Best Of" list to the Secret Post email subscribers this week (it's free!) and also to social media. But this shared episode is the only place I talk through why each book made the list.

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Ep 149: 10 Takeaways from 2021

Tue, 28 Dec 2021 08:30:00 GMT

I'm sharing my 10 Most Important Takeaways of 2021, a year that was personally hard and full of change and life lessons.

On this solo episode, I talk about everything from my word of the year to moving houses to confusing health problems to spiritual insight.

And at the end I'm telling you about a big decision I made regarding the future of the show.

Thanks for listening, friends. I am honored and grateful that you would spend so many hours with me in your ears every week for the last three years.

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Ep 148: 10 Questions for the End of the Year 2021

Tue, 21 Dec 2021 08:30:00 GMT

10 Prompts for self-reflection or great conversation at the end of the year (any year).

My third annual 10 Questions for the End of the Year episode is here and while some of it may be a little familiar, there's a lot of new thoughts in this one.

Take these 10 questions to your journal, the holiday table, or to start any great conversation with friends, family, co-workers, neighbors, or anyone at all.

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Ep 147: Best Books of the Year 2021

Tue, 14 Dec 2021 08:30:00 GMT

My real life book club is BACK with our annual conversation about the Best Books of the Year!

Please welcome my friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith back to the show for our fourth annual Best Books of the Year episode.

We talk about what our reading life looked like in 2021, and then we each share a few of the best books that we read in the last twelve months.

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**Please note that my OFFICIAL and FINAL Best Books of the Year 2021 list won't be posted until the very end of December. I'll share that list online and on social media.

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Call for Friendship Stories

Mon, 13 Dec 2021 03:51:47 GMT

I'm working on my next book, and while I can't give you too many details yet, I would love your help on one particular aspect:

I want your unique friendship stories!

This next project is all about friendship, and I'm collecting unique friendship stories that could potentially be used in the book or part of a podcast series on the same topic.

Here's what I'm looking for:

Stories about a surprise in a friendship
The heartbreak of a friendship breakup
Something very unusual about a friendship (a wide age gap, for example, or a workplace friendship, etc)
Something dramatic that happened within a friendship (someone saved a life, a cult infiltrated a friendship, a friend married another friend's ex, etc.)

If you think you have a unique friendship story that fits this description (or anything along these lines), I would love to hear from you.

Please fill out the form HERE:

https://www.10thingstotellyou.com/friendshipstories

And of course feel free to share this call out with anyone who might be interested.

I can't wait to hear from you!

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Ep 146: Four Mistakes I Don't Regret

Tue, 07 Dec 2021 08:30:00 GMT

I’m sharing four mistakes I don’t regret in my:

Education
Marriage
Business
& Body

As we come to the end of another calendar year, I’m (as always) nostalgic and reflective. Here are some of the biggest choices in my life that were the “wrong” choices, but I don’t regret them. (Okay, one of them I do regret.)

At the end of the episode, we hear listener voices chiming in with some of their biggest life lessons over the last few years. (Listener voices are always my favorite part of the episode.)

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Ep 145: Time Anxiety

Tue, 30 Nov 2021 08:30:00 GMT

Have you ever had the thoughts:

I don’t have enough time

Time is passing me by

I’m wasting too much time

If this is something that really affects your mood, your schedule, and you're full of frazzle, overwhelm, or a continuing existential crisis, then you may have Time Anxiety. (Not an official thing - just a name I gave to something that affects me regularly.)

In this episode, I’m sharing about my own Time Anxiety and how it hurts my productivity and my parenting. I’m also talking about how to notice ALL the messages we get in our culture about TIME, and why those messages are giving us constant low-level hums of anxiety.

I’m also sharing a few concrete methods I use to combat Time Anxiety.

I hope you find this episode helpful or at the very least like you’re not the only one obsessed with the passage and managing of time.

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Ep 144: On Belonging, Burying the Past, and One GREAT Question

Tue, 23 Nov 2021 08:30:00 GMT

I hope that you hear exactly what you need to in this episode.

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Ep 143: Planning and Paper Planners (with Sarah Hart-Unger)

Tue, 16 Nov 2021 08:30:00 GMT

We're in the home stretch of 2021 and plans for 2022 are starting to take shape. So I am so excited to welcome Sarah Hart-Unger to the show to talk about planning (rituals, philosophies, and more) and planning tools (paper planners, apps, and books).

Planning and productivity is a side hobby of mine, but Sarah Hart-Unger is much more of an expert. She's a doctor, a mom, a blogger, and has not one but TWO podcasts on these topics. You can find her blogging daily at TheShuBox.com and on her podcast Best Laid Plans (all about planning tools) and as a cohost with Laura Vanderkam on Best of Both Worlds (all about time management and work/life balance). We had a great conversation about ALL of these things, which left me excited for the year ahead in both work and family life.

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Ep 142: The Tremaine Fish Tank (with Nic Tiemens from Infinity Aquariums)

Tue, 09 Nov 2021 08:30:00 GMT

Well this episode is a bit of a departure.

So I finally recorded a conversation with someone who could! Nic Tiemens is the co-founder of Infinity Aquariums and not only does he take care of the Tremaine Tank for us every week, he has installed and maintained tanks for some of the biggest celebrities and most beautiful homes in the world.

In this episode, Nic shares how he stumbled into this line of work, why you shouldn't ever get a fish tank on a whim, and the insane new project he's been working on for two years in Bel Air.

My husband Jeff also joins us for part of the conversation, because he's the real reason we have a 1,500 gallon fish tank in our dining room.

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#OneDayHH 2021 is November 9th!

Fri, 05 Nov 2021 07:30:00 GMT

My annual social media challenge #OneDayHH will take place on Tuesday, November 9th 2021.

This short, informative episode will explain a little more about what #OneDayHH is, how it works, and why it's so meaningful.

#OneDayHH stands for One Day Hour by Hour, and that's what we do: document ONE DAY in our life, hour by hour. Sharing the things that don't usually get shared, like routines and spaces and outfits and all that other minutia.

We do it because it's fun, and that's reason enough. But this minisode might give you a little more inspiration to jump in.

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Ep 141: 6 Classic Novels You Should Read (with guest Colleen Powell)

Tue, 02 Nov 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who misses being a student.

I have a running list of classic novels that I want to re-read as an adult or read for the first time because I missed them in high school English class.

And so once a year or so, I force myself to pick up those novels that end up on All Time Best lists like this one. Or this one. Or even this one.

If you have the same literary burden, this episode is meant to help you choose a classic that won't be a total bore.

I'm joined by my friend and Patreon producer Colleen Powell, a former teacher and current audio editor outside of Chicago.

Colleen helps me with the Secret Stuff Book Club, and this winter we're reading a few classic novels starting this November with Little Women by Louisa May Alcott.

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In our conversations, Colleen and I are sharing both the best contemporary books we've read lately AND the best classic novels we'd recommend to anyone.

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Best Books We've Read Lately:

The Guncle by Stephen Rowley A Swim in a Pond in the Rain by George Saunders The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune Oh William! by Elizabeth Strout 6 Classics You Should Read: Frankenstein by Mary Shelley Catcher in the Rye by J.D.Salinger The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough Native Son by Richard Wright Jane Eyre by Charlotte Bronte Little Women by Louisa May Alcott

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Mrs. Dalloway by Virgina Woolf Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy Confederacy of Dunces by John Kennedy Toole In Cold Blood by Truman Capote Franny and Zooey by J.D. Salinger Nine Stories by J.D. Salinger My Name is Lucy Barton by Elizabeth Strout Olive Kitteridge by Elizabeth Strout Olive, Again by Elizabeth Strout

This spoiler-free (well, except for Jane Eyre) reading conversation has a ton of information and opinions. Enjoy!

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Ep 140: Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume VIII

Tue, 26 Oct 2021 07:30:00 GMT

It's the last Favorite Things episode of the year!

I'm sharing some real biggies for my life right now, but we also have listener voices chiming in with their Favorites of 2021.

My list includes a new pair of jeans that made me feel great, two documentaries I can't stop thinking about, and some personal choices around my home and kids.

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Ep 139: Ask Me Anything

Tue, 19 Oct 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Well this MONSTER of an episode is brought to you by my inability to pick and choose among the great questions I got for this session of Ask Me Anything.

I'm sharing stuff about our new house, reading nonfiction, kids & tech, purposeful "no's", how I've changed, and vulnerability hangovers.

(I might have a vulnerability hangover after this episode!)

Thank you to all who sent in such question questions - I'm sorry I couldn't get to all of them.

I let it all hang out here, but for some of the questions that are even MORE personal, I'll be answering those over at Secret Stuff later this week.

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Ep 138: 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids

Tue, 12 Oct 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Fall schedules are SO full around here, and this time of year our family can easily go weeks without a meaningful conversation. I've created 10 Questions To Ask Your Kids that you can pick and choose, modify for your family dynamics, or toss up one at a time over a week or so in order to spark great conversations between kids and adults.

These questions work for all ages (as long as the child can hold a conversation) and are a mix of light, fun, and deep.

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After I share all 10 prompts, I have a short conversation with my own kids: Lucy, age 11, and Finch, age 9.

Ep 137: 10 Things About Surviving Breast Cancer (with Bethany Winters)

Tue, 05 Oct 2021 07:30:00 GMT

October is Breast Cancer Awareness Month, and I have long wanted to have this conversation with my friend, stylist, and breast cancer survivor Bethany Winters.

Content Warning: Bethany speaks candidly about her experience in this episode. Please take care while listening.

In this episode, Bethany shares 10 Things about breast cancer survivorship, and how it's not ever really over even when declared "cancer-free."

This is a tender and important conversation.

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Ep 136: 3 Changes I'm Making To Find Balance

Tue, 28 Sep 2021 07:30:00 GMT

My health, hormones, and heart have been on a swinging pendulum and this fall I'm on a mission to get centered. We can't control everything that's happening in the world, but we can pay attention to our bodies and our homes and our rituals to create the best space for us to thrive. I'm sharing 3 (small-ish) changes I've been making to navigate the logistics and emotions of the last year.

1. Less liquids

2. Monotasking + Margin

3. End-of-Day rituals

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Ep 135: Writing Your Own Plot Twist (with Roxy Stone and Katelyn Beaty)

Tue, 21 Sep 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone seeking a life change.

We cannot, of course, plan for many of the plot twists that life throws our way. Breakups, pregnancies, a PANDEMIC...there are many major life moments that can catch us totally by surprise. But what if we WANT to shake things up? What if we're seeking a new direction in our story?

This conversation with Roxy Stone and Katelyn Beaty from the Saved by the City podcast is all about purposefully creating our own life plot twist.

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Ep 134: 10 Tips for Wardrobe Confidence with Alison Lumbatis

Tue, 14 Sep 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who needs a little style boost this fall.

Okay, so it's been 18+ months of sweatpants and work-from-home pajamas and I'm over it. I want to feel cute in my clothes again.

But I'm not totally sure where to start. My body has changed, my style has changed, my wardrobe needs have changed. Thank goodness for Alison Lumbatis, CEO of Get Your Pretty On and author of the new book The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas.

In this episode, Alison walks us through 10 Tips for Wardrobe Confidence, and I basically needed every single one of these. I hope this conversation gives you the motivation to clear out the closet and put your best foot (shoe?) forward.

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Ep 133: Declutter Like a Mother (with Allie Casazza)

Tue, 07 Sep 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone overwhelmed with all their STUFF.

But rest assured, this isn't just another minimalist approach to your home. It's not even a get-rid-of-everything attitude. Allie Casazza has such a relatable story about the drowning days of early motherhood and how it led her to an AHA moment about all her STUFF.

Eventually she created the online movement - and now book - Declutter Like a Mother.

In our conversation, Allie and I talk about the myth of the hot mess mom, how much your space matters, and more. I really liked her fresh perspective on something I've been tackling in my own life for years.

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BONUS: Make Some Noise with Andrea Owen

Sun, 05 Sep 2021 23:39:59 GMT

Kicking off Self-Improvement September with writer, podcaster, and speaker Andrea Owen, author of the new book Make Some Noise: Speak Your Mind and Own Your Strength.

Andrea's backstory of hitting rock bottom while also people pleasing and "powering through" was something I could relate to, and the tips she gives in this new book were definitely something I needed to hear right now.

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Ep 132: Best Books of the Summer 2021

Tue, 31 Aug 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This summer I read NINE books that I gave a 5-star rating. NINE. This is unheard of, to read such incredible books all in the same couple of months. But now I'm so excited to share them with you!

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List of books that I talk about on this episode:

The Meaning of Mariah Carey by Mariah Carey The Happiness Equation by Neil Pasricha The Art of Gathering by Priya Parker Misery by Stephen King Mexican Gothic by Silvia Moreno-Garcia Billy Summers by Stephen King Who is Maud Dixon? by Alexandra Andrews Razorblade Tears by S.A. Cosby The Paper Palace Miranda Cowley Heller FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Other Episodes related to this one: Ep 107: 10 Reasons to Read (with @fictionmatters Sara Hildreth) Ep 119: Best Books Lately with Anne Bogel Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit Ep 126: Books We Wish We'd Written (with Shawn Smucker) SPONSORS: Noom. Go to Noom.com/10Things to start your trial Skillshare. Go to Skillshare.com/YOU for a free month of premium membership * Thanks so much for listening to 10 Things To Tell You! Rating, reviewing, and sharing the podcast really helps to grow the show. Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on IG Follow @10ThingsToTellYou on FB Sign Up for Episode Emails Join the Connection Group Listen to SECRET STUFF Buy SHARE YOUR STUFF. I'LL GO FIRST.

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Ep 131: Teaching people to grieve with me (A conversation with Amy Ortloff)

Tue, 24 Aug 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Content warning: Child loss and suicide

This episode is one of the most tender and important I’ve ever shared on this show, and I am just so deeply grateful to Amy Ortloff for having this conversation with me and letting me make it public.

Amy's sharing was raw and vulnerable. It was heartbreaking and powerful. I made a point to read her posts every day that first year after Ryan.

If you or someone you know is having suicidal thoughts, please contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741.

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BONUS: A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself with Sarah Bragg

Fri, 20 Aug 2021 13:58:28 GMT

I'm so happy to welcome fellow debut author Sarah Bragg to the show! Sarah's book A Mother's Guide to Raising Herself: What Parenting Taught Me About Life, Faith, and Myself is out this week.

We have a great conversation about permission in motherhood and finding our voices.

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Ep 130: Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume VII

Tue, 17 Aug 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Making a Favorite Things list is an act of gratitude.

And I remind you of this every 10 episodes of 10 Things To Tell You by listing 10 of my favorite things that are always all over the map: gifts, books, beauty products, philosophies, whatever I'm using or loving or thinking about right now.

And I want YOU to take a few minutes this week and think about 10 things that are bringing your joy. And then I want you to share those things somewhere, either with a friend or social media, or just in your journal or planner. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE

My 10 Favorite Things Right Now:

1. Bartesian

2. Shoes (Born sandals and Amanu custom sandals)

3. Grounded candle and lotion

4. Mailerlite

5. Reading with YOU (IG Reading Parties + Secret Stuff book club)

6. Trampoline

7. Getting back to things that tether you

8. Being an aunt

9. Eye stuff: StriVectin anti-wrinkle eye concentrate and Maybelline Sky High mascara

10. Tremaine fish tank

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BONUS: Hope Anyway with Leeana Tankersley

Fri, 13 Aug 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This conversation with Leeana Tankersley kicks off a series of BONUS author episodes coming through the fall.

Hope Anyway is Leeana Tankersley’s sixth book, and it comes after Tankersley found herself sorting through immense grief following the unexpected end of her long marriage.

Leeana Tankersley is funny and relatable and a great writer. I just loved our conversation that was full of vulnerable moments (me) and kind wisdom (her).

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Ep 122: Don’t Give Away Your Power (10 Thoughts on Turning 42)

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Ep 129: What was the biggest year of your life? (A conversation with my roommate from 2001)

Tue, 10 Aug 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Exactly 20 years ago, I was in the middle of the biggest year of my life. I graduated college, moved to Los Angeles, was grieving a devastating heartbreak, and the country was weeks away from the tragedy of 9/11.

In this episode, I am asking YOU to think about the biggest year of your life. The answer may not be so obvious from the outside; it may not be the year you moved or married or had a baby or changed careers. The biggest year of your life may be full of loss or transformation, or both.

Twenty years ago in 2001, I moved across the country with someone I barely knew. We rented an apartment together, figured out Los Angeles together, made friends together, and, eventually, worked on jackass the movie together (something that changed both of our lives).

This is the first time I've ever shared a public conversation with my old friend and roommate Dr. Megan, even though I've been talking and writing about our time together for two decades now.

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Ep 128: 10 Tips for Hosting Houseguests

Tue, 03 Aug 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Ready to bust out the air mattresses?

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Ep 127: "You read my journals?!" (A conversation with my Mom)

Wed, 28 Jul 2021 00:30:00 GMT

My mom returns to the podcast with some new thoughts about how she feels having a daughter who shares herself on the internet, the advice she would give mid-life women, and a long ago conversation between us in the car when she realized there was something...strange...about me.

I love to feature real conversations with friends and loved ones on this show. My mom is one of my favorite people, and I'm grateful she's willing to make these conversations public.

This was a fun, sweet hour together and I encourage YOU to sit down with someone this week and have a meaningful chat.

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Ep 126: Books we wish we'd written (A conversation with author Shawn Smucker)

Tue, 20 Jul 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This conversation with my old friend Shawn Smucker is one of the best I've had in awhile. We talk about reading and ghost writing and self-publishing and (not) censoring what our kids read. And we also talk about the books we wish we'd written. Somehow I shock Shawn with one of my answers!

Shawn Smucker is the author of six novels, including his latest The Weight of Memory (which I devoured in a day). Shawn calls The Weight of Memory "a modern day fairy tale."

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Ep 125: 10 Questions for Couples

Tue, 13 Jul 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you and someone else. These 10 Questions are meant for couples, but this isn't a big sit-down heart-to-heart. This is meant to be FUN. Stay open to your own answers and don't assume you know your partner's answers. Because the main point of these particular prompts is to build CONNECTION. The questions don't go too deep (in case you have a partner resistant to this type of conversation), but you should definitely come away from any discussion using these prompts feeling just a little bit closer.

Most of the prompt episodes like 10 Questions for the End of the Year or 10 Questions to Ask Yourself in the Middle of Anything or 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic are great for groups or families, but they also work well for your own introspection and journaling.

THIS episode, though, this one is MEANT to be shared with someone else. And while I primarily had romantic couples in mind when I wrote the questions, they're definitely not lovey-dovey. If you don't have a partner, these prompts would also work well with a best friend or a roommate.

I share all 10 Questions with you at the beginning of the episode, then sit down with my husband Jeff Tremaine to use the prompts as a starting point for our own conversation. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE

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Ep 124: Behind the Scenes of Podcasting

Tue, 06 Jul 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Every now and then I like to show a little peek behind the curtain. Whether you’re a current podcaster, an aspiring one, or just a curious listener, I hope you learn something in this episode about creating a weekly podcast.

I’m sharing my thoughts on producing a show, what equipment I use to record, editing episodes, hidden costs, and making money.

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Ep 73: I wrote a book!

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Ep 123: How to feel PRETTY (when you don't)

Tue, 29 Jun 2021 07:30:00 GMT

As you might imagine, this episode isn't all about vanity. We all know appearance isn't everything. But it's almost impossible to dismiss it entirely. So this episode is a mix of practical tips and also some mindset shifts.

I made this episode for me. But I hope it's helpful for you.

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Ep 122: Don't Give Away Your Power (10 Thoughts on Turning 42)

Tue, 22 Jun 2021 07:30:00 GMT

June is my birthday month and so of course I'm feeling (extra) reflective.

In this episode I'm sharing 10 Things I Learned (or am still learning) in the last year. A year that included a worldwide pandemic, publishing my first book, and moving houses after a decade.

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Related episodes:

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Ep 87: 3 Mistakes I've Made Recently

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Ep 121: Stephen King Starter Kit

Tue, 15 Jun 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Stephen King is a genius and I believe we will one day study him in academic settings like we do other literary giants.

(He's also my favorite author.)

I'm making a case today for why YOU should read this master storyteller. He has created some of the most iconic characters and plot lines and imagery in history, but he gets a bad rap from casual readers because his most popular work is horror.

But horror as a genre might not be what you think it is. I believe you can handle it, or at least some of it. And I don't think readers should dismiss such an important author just because his work is deemed "scary."

In this episode we talk about:

Why Stephen King matters
His brief biography
What stands out about his writing and his stories
My personal favorites
Where you should start

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BONUS: Secret Tapes Snippet (A conversation with my parents)

Fri, 11 Jun 2021 20:33:33 GMT

One of the most personal and meaningful projects I’ve ever made was my podcast series called The Secret Tapes. It's a series of interviews I did with the people I write about in my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.

The Secret Tapes were released in January solely to people who preordered SYSIGF. But now the Secret Tapes are a part of Secret Stuff, the private podcast I launched on Patreon. All eleven episodes of conversation and interviews are available as part of the Secret Stuff membership. This BONUS episode is a snippet of the Secret Tapes conversation I had with my parents. Let's just say that their recollections of everything I wrote about in SYSIGF are slightly different.

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Ep 120: Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume VI

Tue, 08 Jun 2021 07:00:00 GMT

Favorite Things! Again!

I'm sharing my current favorites: including home stuff, beauty products, travel outfits, what's helping me sleep, a new bra obsession, and what I can't stop giving as a gift.

In case you hadn't noticed, I moved the frequency of the Favorite Things (Right Now) episodes up from every twenty episodes to every TEN. This was in direct reaction to your feedback on the listener survey, so thank you for listening, sharing, and making this show better all the time. And remember, the Favorite Things episodes are meant to inspire YOU to share YOUR favorite things (doesn't have to be 10). Post on social media, text a friend, start a great conversation over a meal. Share your stuff. (Literally.)

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Ep 119: Best Books Lately with Anne Bogel

Tue, 01 Jun 2021 07:30:00 GMT

The fabulous Anne Bogel of What Should I Read Next? returns to the show to talk about her 2021 Summer Reading Guide and the best books she’s read lately.

Anne Bogel (aka Modern Mrs. Darcy) is one of my favorite people to talk books and reading with, and I look forward to her annual Summer Reading Guide each year. We talk about how long it takes her to make the guide, and what her reading life looks like after she’s done.

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I also share the best things I’ve read lately (thank goodness my reading life is mostly back to normal!) and of course I kick off the show with a little announcement about my latest project Secret Stuff.

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INTRODUCING: Secret Stuff by Laura Tremaine

Tue, 01 Jun 2021 07:05:00 GMT

I am so excited to let you in on a little secret: my latest project, a private podcast called Secret Stuff.

I am so excited to combine the ideas behind my podcast 10 Things To Tell You, my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First, and my newsletter the Secret Posts into SECRET STUFF.

Secret Stuff will be a membership hosted by Patreon.

Monthly content will include:

BONUS Books & Reading episodes (with all my honest reviews, Best Of lists, and secret content that didn't make it into the main podcast episode).
EXTRA conversations with friends and guests.
PERSONAL topics that are just too sensitive to throw into an IG caption.

Each season there will be a SPECIAL program like:

Stephen King Summer (let's read my favorite author together - don't be scared!)
Journaling for Adults class
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To be clear, the 10 Things To Tell You podcast isn't going anywhere. I love making this show and it will stay free and weekly.

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Ep 118: 10 Questions for a Successful Summer

Tue, 25 May 2021 07:30:00 GMT

We're kicking off the summer season with 10 Questions that will help make it successful.

Answer these prompts in your journal or with a partner, or go around the table with your colleagues or family. These questions are slightly summer-flavored, but really they could used at the beginning of any season.

Mentioned in this episode:

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Ep 95: 10 Questions for the end of the year

Ep 76: 10 Questions to ask yourself in the middle of anything

Ep 23: What are you measuring?

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BONUS: Marriage & Martinis

Fri, 21 May 2021 07:30:00 GMT

When I stumble across someone on the internet who is sharing themselves in a very vulnerable or very unique way, I take notice.

And this is what happened when I found Danielle and Adam of Marriage and Martinis. Their podcast goes ALL THE WAY there. They talk about their relationship and also just LIFE in a way that I don’t think I’ve heard anywhere else.

In this episode, I talk with Danielle about the Marriage and Martinis origin story, why they've chosen to share their relationship in such an open way, and how their friends, family, and community have responded to their honesty. FULL SHOW NOTES HERE Listen to Marriage and Martinis

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Ep 117: 10 Financial Tips for Freelancers (with The Freelance CFO Katelyn Magnuson)

Tue, 18 May 2021 07:30:00 GMT

One of the things we’ve never discussed on this show is MONEY. Even though I know it’s one of the topics that we wish people spoke more openly about.

A lot of us are flying pretty blind in our money situation. Are we making enough? Are we saving enough? Are we spending or investing it right? How much money could I *actually* make if I started a side hustle?

A year of the pandemic has made a lot people rethink their careers, and there’s a lot of interest in going full time freelance, pursuing a passion, or monetizing a creative pursuit.

My guest for this episode is Katelyn Magnuson, aka The Freelance CFO, and she’s here to give us 10 Tips for Going Freelance. We start with some basics, but i’ve been in the freelance game for over a decade, and I still learned a lot in this conversation.

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Ep 116: Selfie Shame

Tue, 11 May 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Now THIS is a topic I've been wanting to cover for a long time.

Because whenever I do a social media challenge (like the currently running #OneDayMay) and I encourage people to post a selfie (as I often do), I scroll through tons of posts where women are APOLOGIZING for their self-portrait in the caption.

There are many reasons both personal and cultural that we feel extra vulnerable about taking and sharing selfies on social media, but in this episode I’m talking about the three most common reasons I see:

We’re unhappy with the way we look
We feel like selfies are indulgent, narcissistic, and annoying
We don’t mind being in photos, but we wish someone else was taking them

I look at selfies from all kinds of angles in this episode, hoping that it leads away from selfie shame and into selfie empowerment. But I also want to talk about why we judge other people’s selfies, and my unpopular opinion about oversharing.

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BONUS: Competitive Grieving (A conversation with author Nora Zelevansky)

Sat, 08 May 2021 18:48:18 GMT

Author Nora Zelevansky is my the very first novelist I've ever had on 10 Things To Tell You!

We're discussing her new book (out May 11) Competitive Grieving, a darkly comic novel about the dynamics of friendship following loss. Competitive Grieving is inspired by true events in Nora's life, and we talk about the themes and and relatability of her fictionalized version.

Nora was one of the first friends I ever made in Los Angeles, and she's also one of the co-founders of the original book club I talk about so often. We have been friends, confidants, and cheerleaders for one another for almost two decades and I am so happy to welcome her to the show. Competitive Grieving is Nora Zelevansky's third novel and this is a spoiler-free conversation.

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Ep 115: Taking up space (with Kate Kennedy of Be There in Five)

Tue, 04 May 2021 07:30:00 GMT

When I first found Kate Kennedy's podcast Be There in Five, I just wanted Taylor Swift analysis. But I stayed for her series on Mommy Bloggers. Then I couldn't get enough of her pop culture commentary, hilarious tangents, and well-researched episodes about everything I wanted to talk about (that other people weren't talking about).

I also texted every podcast friend I have to ask, "Have you seen what Kate Kennedy is doing?" Because her show was defying all the rules. Be There in Five's episodes are often 2+ hours long, and mostly solo. It was empowering to watch a woman unapologetically take up so much space with her words and ideas and air time. AND be smart and funny on top of it.

So I was beyond excited to have this conversation with Kate about leaning into your skillset, finding your own personal "football game," and what "being authentic" means when you're one person online and another with your family.

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Ep 114: How to feel like YOU (when you don't)

Tue, 27 Apr 2021 07:30:00 GMT

I made this episode for me. But I hope you enjoy it, too.

A few thoughts on feeling more like yourself when you've been out of sorts.

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Announcing #OneDayMay!

Mon, 26 Apr 2021 01:23:22 GMT

It feels high time for another social media challenge, right? To get us into the habit of sharing ourselves and simply for FUN.

As a spinoff of my popular annual challenge #OneDayHH and last year's quarantine challenge #OneDayCV, I'm introducing #OneDayMAY. Thirty-one mini prompts for every day in the month of May, designed to get us sharing.

Because I believe sharing is the antidote to loneliness and the key to connection. I also know that it doesn't come naturally to everyone. These social media challenges are happy, helpful prompts that get us to show up and be present.

You can view all of the prompts HERE.

I'll also be posting them daily on IG @10ThingsToTellYou

And answering them for myself on IG @laura.tremaine

See you on social media starting May 1!

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Ep 113: Best Books Lately (with Sarah's Bookshelves Live)

Tue, 20 Apr 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Good news! My reading rhythms are back, which means more book content than ever before. I am so happy to share this conversation with Sarah from Sarah's Bookshelves Live about the best books we've read lately.

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Ep 112: Who was there? (A Conversation with Shauna Niequist)

Tue, 13 Apr 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Whenever I hear someone speak of a mentor or extra wise friend, I always think about my relationship with Shauna Niequist. We met working together at a summer camp when we were both young, and she then has offered me truth and guidance for more than two decades.

Shauna Niequist is a NYT best-selling author of five books: Cold Tangerines, Bittersweet, Bread & Wine, Savor, and Present Over Perfect. She lives in New York City with her husband Aaron and their two sons. I wrote about Shauna in Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. in Chapter 2: Who was there? Shauna was there in one of the most important conversations of my life, when I called her heartbroken in Oklahoma and she answered the phone at exactly the right moment in Chicago.

In this episode, we talk about belonging, and magical moments, and books (because we both just love to talk about books). As usual, she left me with several things to ponder after we were done speaking, specifically about what we're actually saying when we share our pain.

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Ep 111: Behind-The-Scenes of Publishing, Launching, and Marketing a Book

Tue, 06 Apr 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone interested in the peek behind the curtain of the book publishing industry.

Back when writing a book was just a dream, I made a promise to myself that if I ever published, I would share the experience openly and candidly. I used to crave all the information about agents and book deals and publicity and marketing and all the things that it seemed like authors very rarely talked about.

Back on Ep 73: I wrote a book! I shared about everything I knew up to that point: getting attention from agents, shopping a book proposal, and, of course, writing and editing my first book.

Because I'm now on the other side of the book launch, this episode is a follow up to Ep 73. Here we're going to talk about mostly marketing:

Are preorder bonuses a bribe?

Is traditional publishing going the way of the dinosaur?

Who pays for the publicity?

How does getting paid to write a book work?

I'm joined for this conversation by my friend Kelly Gordon, because I knew she would be a great person to talk through this topic. Kelly is a co-host of the Sorta Awesome podcast.

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The Big Boo Cast BONUS episode with Laura Tremaine

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Ep 110: Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume V

Tue, 30 Mar 2021 07:30:00 GMT

It’s time for another Favorite Things episode!

If Episode 100 was a Favorite Things HALL OF FAME, Episode 110 is back to my regularly scheduled Favorite Things RIGHT NOW. My current favorite reads, follows, apps, gadgets, beauty products, whatever I’m into currently lands on these Favorite Things episodes, and this one is full of great recommendations.

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BONUS: Before and After the Trailer with Author Mary Marantz

Fri, 26 Mar 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This is one of the best conversations I’ve had this year with the author of one of the best books I’ve read this year.

Mary Marantz is a writer, podcaster, speaker, and the author of the book DIRT: Growing Strong Roots in What Makes the Broken Beautiful. I read this memoir after I appeared on Mary’s podcast The Mary Marantz show and I was blown away by her writing and her story.

In our conversation, Mary and I talk about our similarities growing up in the country and then choosing to flee from it, only to discover that our roots will always be a part of our soul. There are so many parts of Mary’s story that I relate to, things that I’ve never said out loud and things that I’ve never seen expressed so beautifully.

At one point, I get choked up sharing something that I’ve never shared publicly.

I hope you’ll enjoy this special conversation.

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Ep 109: 8 Tips to Celebrate YOURSELF

Tue, 23 Mar 2021 07:30:00 GMT

This is not a suggestion to pour a glass of wine and take a hot bath. We're not talking self-care here. We're CELEBRATING.

Whether it's a milestone birthday, a promotion at work, or anything else you deem worthy of a major moment, don't wait on someone else to throw you a party. You can host your own event celebrating...YOU.

It's not weird. It's fun. And it's better than a pity party.

I'm sharing 8 tips for celebrating YOURSELF, from weekend trips to simple birthday dinners. Attitude adjustments and practical things to think about.

The world is starting to open back up again and it's time to celebrate.

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Ep 108: Best Books Lately (with Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb of the Currently Reading podcast)

Tue, 16 Mar 2021 07:30:00 GMT

Not at all sorry to have two books & reading episodes in a row! Especially because my guests for this Best Books Lately conversation are two of my favorites voices in the book-ish world.

Meredith Monday Schwartz and Kaytee Cobb are the two women behind the Currently Reading podcast and I think that you will love their varied recommendations in our conversation. (I contribute almost nothing of value to this episode since my reading habits have been so out-of-whack, however I do talk about a few recent best sellers that just didn’t do it for me.)

I hope hearing us talk about what books we’ve loved (or haven’t) so far in 2021 will spark your own conversations or that you share on social media.

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BONUS: Tremaines Wave Hello from ONE YEAR of the Pandemic

Sun, 14 Mar 2021 00:49:33 GMT

In March of 2020, just three weeks into the global pandemic bringing Los Angeles to a standstill, we recorded a family episode called Ep 59: Marry the Person You Want to Quarantine With (the Tremaines Wave Hello).

And now we're back....only it's been ONE YEAR of the pandemic and we still haven't returned to school or work full time. Our family (me, my husband Jeff, our 11 year old daughter Lucy, and our 9 year old son Finch) returned to the couch and the microphone to talk about the last year has looked like for us.

We used the loose framework and questions from Episode 106: 10 Questions To Mark One Year of the Pandemic to talk about the challenges of joys of the last twelve months.

I hope that our family conversation sparks one of your own, whether you record it or not.

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Ep 69: 22+ Things We've Watched During Quarantine

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Ep 107: 10 Reasons to Read (A conversation with Sara Hildreth of @fictionmatters)

Tue, 09 Mar 2021 08:30:00 GMT

Let’s talk about books that are NOT my book! In the last few months while launching my first book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First., my personal reading life has taken a major nosedive. For the first time in years, I’ve been unable to focus on reading any sort of fiction with consistency.

But after I had this conversation with Sara Hildreth of @fictionmatters and the Novel Pairings podcast, I suddenly had a renewed interest in my favorite hobby of all time: READING! Sara just brings that out in people.

In this conversation, Sara and I each share 5 reasons we read fiction, why it has matters to us personally and how it changes the world. I just loved chatting with her and we could have talked for hours.

I hope this episode makes you run to your bookshelves or sparks a great conversation about why reading fiction matters to YOU.

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Ep 106: 10 Questions to Mark ONE YEAR of the Pandemic

Tue, 02 Mar 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This month marks one year of the coronavirus pandemic really changing our lives.

To mark that time, I’m offering 10 Questions for you to journal through or use as a framework for important conversations with friends, family, coworkers, or online.

Let’s talk about the ways in which we’re different, and that we’re the same. Let’s talk about what we learned and what we regret. Let’s talk about what was reset, and what we’ll never again take for granted.

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Ep 105: Needles, Lasers, and Fillers (Jamie Golden RETURNS!)

Tue, 23 Feb 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone curious about vanity procedures for your skin.

At long last, Jamie Golden returns to the show! Jamie is responsible for the THE MOST DOWNLOADED episode of 10TTTY ever: Episode 14 Makeup & Skincare. This time she's back to talk about anti-aging, but less about products and more about procedures.

Jamie and I share our own experiences with botox, lasers, and filler (yes, filler) in our own faces, because we both wish women would dish on this stuff more often.

You might know Jamie from her popular podcasts The Popcast and the Bible Binge, or from her hilarious social media presence on IG & twitter.

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BONUS: Moms Don't Have Time To....(with Zibby Owens)

Fri, 19 Feb 2021 08:30:00 GMT

I am super excited to welcome fellow podcaster and fellow February author to the show. Zibby Owens is the podcaster behind the popular show Moms Don't Have Time To Read Books, where she has some of the greatest author interviews.

But now Zibby herself is the author! This week she released Moms Don't Have Time To....A Quarantine Anthology, with essays about not having time to read, work out, eat, have sex, or breathe. All written by some of the fabulous authors that have appeared on her podcast.

Something extra special about the anthology is that all proceeds go to the Susan Felice Owens Program for Covid-19 Vaccine Research at Mount Sinai Health System.

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Ep 104: Old Friends/New Friends

Tue, 16 Feb 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This supersized episode is actually two conversations:

the first with one of my oldest and dearest friends, Kimi Dallman, a bridesmaid in my wedding and childhood friend from summer camp

and

the second with a new-er mom friend, Tracy Herriott, a friend I've traveled with more in the last four years than anyone else in adulthood besides my husband.

Old friends and new friends have different benefits and fill really different spaces in our lives. I wanted to have these conversations with two women who mean a lot to me, and encourage YOU to reach out to the old friends who have been there through every season, and to feel gratitude for the new friends in your life who only know the most current version of yourself.

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Ep 103: Journaling for Grownups

Tue, 09 Feb 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who thinks journaling is just for heartbroken teenage girls.

I'm sharing 8 thoughts on Journaling for Grownups:

What to ask yourself about journaling
What to let go of (and what to cling to)
Methods of journaling to try
And the BIG tip that will give you journal freedom

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Ep 102: Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.

Tue, 02 Feb 2021 08:30:00 GMT

My first book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. launches into the world this week!

This book was born out of this podcast. So if you enjoy this show, you will LOVE the book version.

I think it will spark deeper connections in your conversations and meaningful introspection within yourself.

But as much as I talk about SHARING on this show....I'm ready to talk a little bit about the STUFF part of "Share Your Stuff."

Because we all have baggage. Pain. Traumas. Triumphs.

And on this episode, I'm dipping into a few very vulnerable things that have happened to me over the last ten years that led me to a place to write this book. Times when I've been knocked down for my sharing. When I questioned myself because someone told me to be smaller.

This isn't something I've ever talked about online, but I think it is time to share it now. During launch week.

I'm going first.

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Ep 101: What are you afraid of? (A FREE audiobook chapter from Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First. + an excerpt from the foreward by Jenna Fischer)

Tue, 26 Jan 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This is an extra special episode, because I'm giving you a FREE chapter from my new book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.

In Share Your Stuff, I'll Go First., each chapter asks one BIG question (a lot like this show!) and then I answer the question in essay form.

Chapter 3 asks: What are you afraid of?

I know this is a deep question to dig in on, and not every single question in the book requires vulnerability. But if I only let you read one thing, I wanted it to be about your fears. Because a lot of us have lived with a lot of fear in the past year, and naming it makes it less scary.

This chapter will also be a good sample of what to expect in Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First., which releases on 2/2.

BONUS: There's also an excerpt in this episode of the foreward to the book, written and read by my friend Jenna Fischer.

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INTRODUCING: The Secret Tapes

Sat, 23 Jan 2021 05:13:18 GMT

Introducing The Secret Tapes, a private podcast series I created ONLY for people who have purchased my book Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.

The Secret Tapes are conversations with the people I write about in the book, along with behind the scenes commentary about many of the stories I share in the pages of Share Your Stuff.

You know how when you read a memoir, you always wonder what the author’s family and friends thought about what they wrote? You know how you always want just a little bit more? The Secret Tapes is the MORE.

These conversations are hard and beautiful and funny and complicated, and these short little snippets gives you a taste of what you’ll hear in the episodes.

Want to hear the full conversations?

You’ll have to order Share Your Stuff. I’ll Go First.
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Take your receipt/order/confirmation number to the Share Your Stuff Book Bonuses page and fill out the form.

You’ll immediately get an email with access to all THREE of the Book Bonuses, including the Secret Posts.

Questions? Email hello@shareyourstuffbook.com for tips or troubleshooting.

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Ep 100: Favorite Things Hall of Fame

Tue, 19 Jan 2021 08:30:00 GMT

Holy Moses it's episode 100!!

We're celebrating this milestone with a Favorite Things Hall of Fame. These are some of my favorite things across these categories:

Beauty Products

Books & Writing

Intimates

Food

Gadgets

Online platforms & Follows

Podcasts

Shopping

Home

Journals & Planner

I know...it's a LOT of favorites.

Many of these I've talked about regularly, but some might be new to you. And best of all: it's all in one place!

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BONUS: Women Should Be Talking More About This (A Conversation with YARLAP Founder MaryEllen Rieder)

Mon, 18 Jan 2021 02:18:31 GMT

In this BONUS episode we’re talking about pelvic floor health, which is something I’ve been wanting to talk about on the show for a long time. I REALLY wish women talked more about this topic with one another, and understand the effects of pelvic floor health on our overall health, including our sex lives and incontinence.

My guest is MaryEllen Reider, co-creator of the women’s wellness device YARLAP. The YARLAP is an FDA-approved device, and it recently won an Women’s Health FEMTECH award. (Please note: I have not tried it yet.)

We talk about the importance of pelvic floor, what is happening in your body when you orgasm (or don’t), when you can’t control your urge to urinate, and more.

MaryEllen offered a discount code to listeners, (enter Joy at checkout for 30% off) but I want to be clear that this is not sponsored, nor is it a partnership or affiliate. I just wanted to start this conversation among women.

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Ep 99: Searching for a Best Friend (A Conversation with Heather Adams)

Tue, 12 Jan 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anything who has gone through a friendship breakup, or who desires finding a best friend as an adult.

This conversation with Heather Adams about searching for a best friend is tender for both of us. I just became acquainted with Heather in 2020, because she is the CEO and founder of Choice Publicity, the firm helping me with the Share Your Stuff book launch, but when I heard her podcast episode on This Intentional Life about her quest for an adult best friend, I knew I wanted her to talk about it on 10 Things To Tell You.

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Ep 98: How To Start a Book Club

Tue, 05 Jan 2021 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who wants to start a book club!

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People love the idea of being in a book club, but I think most of us would rather join an already formed group, with procedures in place and a warm and fuzzy vibe already established. But if that isn’t readily available to you, guess what the next best thing is? Start one yourself!

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It doesn’t have to be an overwhelming task. You don’t have to have a lot of people (really!) and you don’t have to have a perfectly articulated theme or objective. What you want to do is read, and then talk about what you read with someone else. It really is that simple.

But beyond that, it’s nice to have some basics:

Identify your WHY
Choose members wisely
Decide on some logistics (like how to choose a book, who leads the discussion)
Set expectations early
Have your first meeting
Adjust as necessary

Sure, there are some details that can be fun or tedious: choosing a schedule, consistent communication), but start with the fundamentals, keep it as simple as possible, and figure out what REALLY works for your group.

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BONUS: (More!) Best Books of the Year (According to Laura)

Thu, 31 Dec 2020 01:36:13 GMT

This episode is for those who just can't get enough book talk.

On Episode 96, my real life Book Club shared our top 3-ish favorite books of the year. And while I loved that discussion, there are still so many great books from 2020 I wanted to share with you! So as promised, this is a BONUS episode with my full list of favorite reads in 2020.

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Ep 97: Top 10 Takeaways from 2020

Tue, 29 Dec 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone reflecting back on this bizarre year and trying to find some silver linings.

Well, it’s been a YEAR, right? One for the history books.

But in this episode, I’m not looking at what 2020 will mean for the world at large, but I am sharing my top 10 personal takeaways. What I learned in my business, in our family, how we consume entertainment, and so much more.

I hope that hearing my main takeaways from this bizarro year makes you think about your own. What you’ll remember, what will never be the same, and the lessons that will bring you closer to the person you want to be.

Mentioned:

10 Questions To Ask at the End of the Year

3 Mistakes I’ve Made Recently

Wherever You Go, There You Are by Jon Kabat Zinn

What’s your BIG STORY?

Stillness is the Key by Ryan Holiday

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Ep 96: Book Club's Best Books of the Year 2020

Tue, 22 Dec 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This is always one of my favorite episodes of the year!

My real life book club friends Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith join me for a long and lively conversation about some of our favorite books of 2020.

We talk about how the pandemic affected our reading life and why our book club didn’t meet for 7+ months.

Before we share some of our favorites, we also use the episode as a bit of stand-in for our regular meeting and you can hear us discuss our December book club pick A Burning by Megha Majumdar.

Then we each share 3 or 4 of our favorite books of the year. Because I had already shared most of mine on earlier episodes, I was really excited to hear Yasmin and Stephanie’s picks, since they were outside the box of what we’ve already talked about on the show in the last few months.

I do plan to do a BONUS episode in the last few days of the year, talking through a few more interesting books I read in 2020 that didn’t make it into this conversation.

FULL SHOW NOTES HERE with all the books and links

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Ep 95: 10 Questions for the End of the Year

Tue, 15 Dec 2020 08:30:00 GMT

10 prompts for self-reflection or good conversation as we near the end of the year.

2020 was nuts no doubt. There was confusion and loss and frustration and grief. But I hope we can all point to some moments of beauty as well. This episode asks 10 questions to help you come to terms with year.

Take these questions to your journal or use them to spark a good conversation.

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Ep 94: Don't Be A Zombie (A pep talk for your intuition)

Tue, 08 Dec 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has struggled in 2020 to listen to their intuition.

These words are for myself as much as they are for you. In this year of uncertainty, of noise, of conflict in relationships, of missteps and self-doubt, I have come into this holiday season unable to tap fully into my own intuition.

I’m sharing about:

WHY we need to listen to our intuition now more than ever
HOW to listen to our intuition when we’re new to the practice or need a reset
ANXIETY and intuition and how it’s often hard to discern the two (but I have one failsafe method)
RELATIONSHIPS and intuition
MESSING IT UP

and

GETTING IT RIGHT

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Ep 93: Big Announcements + Ask Me Anything

Tue, 01 Dec 2020 08:30:00 GMT

Big News Today!

I'm revealing the 3 BONUSES you will receive if you preorder my book Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First.

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Also, the podcast and website has a whole new look! I worked with Braid Creative on a much-needed brand refresh. Check it all out here.

Most of this episode is a long round of Ask Me Anything, where I take questions collected on social media. We cover a broad range of topics, from how I made friends with strangers on the internet, to coping with anxiety during the pandemic, to sharing my kids names online for the first time in eleven years.

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Ep 92: Holiday Movies and Holiday Hacks (A conversation with Mary Carver + listener voices!)

Tue, 24 Nov 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who needs to get into the holiday spirit.

I’m so excited to kickoff the season by talking about holiday movies with Mary Carver from Hooked on Holiday Movies. But confession: I’ve never watched a Hallmark or Lifetime holiday movie! So everything Mary shares with me is a pleasant surprise, and she might have even convinced me to give these movies a try.

However, our conversation is framed around holiday movies, but we actually talk about so much more, including how we talk about romance stories with our children, and also diversity and inclusion in consumer Christmas culture.

At the end of the episode, we hear a batch of listener-submitted holiday hacks - everything from keeping track of your gift list to carving out time for yourself.

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Ep 91: Mommy Juice Culture and the Sober Mom Squad

Tue, 17 Nov 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This is an important episode.

In this conversation with Emily Lynn Paulson and Celeste Yvonne, we’re discussing the prevalence of the “mommy juice” culture, the jokes, memes, and idea that parenthood requires drinking for survival.

Both openly sober for years, Emily and Celeste created the Sober Mom Squad, a community created during the COVID-19 pandemic that hosts weekly free virtual meetings to discuss motherhood and our transitions to new family dynamics and homeschooling.

In the episode, Emily and Celeste share their (very different) personal stories, and offer tips and thoughts on coping through a pandemic and during the holiday season without using alcohol.

Please note: I am not sober. I drink alcohol. But I have also become concerned with the motherhood culture that pushes drinking as a means to deal with anything hard. I originally recorded this episode as a BONUS, but decided it was such an important topic that I wanted it to land in as many ears as possible.

What I’m hoping you’ll hear in this conversation with Emily and Yvonne is just an invitation to think about alcohol differently.

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Ep 90: Best Books Lately with Dr. Cara Pence

Tue, 10 Nov 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone looking to add to their To Read stack.

For this fall book discussion, I’m joined by one of my oldest and closest friends, Dr. Cara Pence. You might remember Cara from Ep 6: Revisiting Judy Blume. We’re each sharing the best books we’ve read lately and talking through two recent best sellers. (One we loved, one we didn’t.)

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Ep 89: About First Ladies (with First Ladies Man Andrew Och)

Tue, 03 Nov 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone curious about the impact and influence of the First Ladies of the past American Presidents.

It's election week in the USA, and so today we're turning to a piece of our past that we don't always think of when we have ballots on the brain: First Ladies.

Fun fact: There have been more First Ladies than there have been Presidents.

On this fun and informative episode, I'm joined by First Ladies expert, the self-proclaimed First Ladies Man, Andrew Och. Andrew is a speaker and author who focuses on the American First Ladies.

We have a wide ranging conversation about all the various roles and influence that First Ladies of the United States have had, from Martha Washington to Melania Trump.

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BONUS: Destined for Greatness with Sarah Nuse

Fri, 30 Oct 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who needs a little pep talk.

My college friend Sarah Nuse accidentally started a full blown company in the late 90's when we were both still living in a sorority house. Two decades later, Tippi Toes Dance has franchises all over the world.

In our fun and inspiring conversation, Sarah shares her trajectory from being a fired waitress to being a successful business woman. We talk about working with family (her parents AND her sisters work with her on Tippi Toes), letting life unfold, and leaning into your strengths.

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Ep 88: Write Down Right Now (10 Prompts For This Historic Moment)

Tue, 27 Oct 2020 07:30:00 GMT

In America, we are in the middle of a major historic moment. We’re 9 months into a global pandemic and 1 week out of a high-stakes Presidential election.

This episode has 10 journal prompts meant for you to document YOUR feelings in this important era. Hopefully, this will something that will give you some clarity, and something to look back on in the future. We’re covering the pandemic and the election with thoughtful, simple questions that will mark this moment in time.

We are in charge of writing our own history. Let's get to it.

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Ep 87: 3 Mistakes I've Made Recently

Tue, 20 Oct 2020 07:30:00 GMT

Mistakes. We’ve all made ‘em.

In this episode, I wanted to share 3 mistakes I’ve made recently (personally and professionally) as a jumping off point for talking about missteps, how we corrected them, and what we learned.

Of course, not all mistakes are equal. And we don’t always want to harp on things we did wrong. But it can be helpful to hear about other people’s mess ups, and talking about it can hold us accountable for our own actions.

Because next time we’ll do it differently.

Right?

This episode features listener voices at the end sharing their own recent mistakes.

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#OneDayHH 2020

Fri, 16 Oct 2020 00:20:06 GMT

The 8th annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is Thursday, October 22, 2020.

This short little episode will give you all the details, explanations, and logistics for my annual social media challenge #OneDayHH.

#OneDayHH is a chance to document what a day-in-the-life looks like for us right now, in this season, in this year.

This is my favorite social media day of the year. I hope you'll join in!

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Ep 86: 10 Thoughts on Therapy

Tue, 13 Oct 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone curious about therapy.

October is Mental Health Awareness Month, and so I wanted to put together a few thoughts on the number one thing that has helped me navigate my anxiety: talk therapy.

I’ve struggled with anxiety since childhood, but I didn’t try therapy until I was 35 years old, and drowning under the weight of new motherhood and postpartum. In this episode, I am sharing 10 thoughts on therapy, including how to find a therapist, how to pay for therapy, and some of the most important things I’ve learned in 6 years of regular therapy after decades of coping with my mental health alone.

Please note: I am not an expert of any kind. Please talk to a doctor or medical professional if you are experiencing mental health struggles. This episode is only meant to share my own experience.

Also note: I am talking about general talk therapy. There are many specialized treatments and therapists available for a wide range of issues dealing in trauma, relationships, etc. Always research the help you’re seeking.

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Ep 85: Ask Me in 3 Months (2020)

Tue, 06 Oct 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has ONE BIG TASK they really want to get done before the end of the year.

It’s October, which means we have less than three months until the end of the year. And while 2020 has been one of the weirdest years in modern history, we still somehow have normal life things that have slipped through the cracks.

Those things that we just keep procrastinating: home improvement, emotional chores, creative projects. These aren’t goals, they’re just tasks, the ones that keep slipping to the bottom of the priority list.

Let’s commit to choosing ONE thing we want to get done between now and the end of 2020 and share it as a way to stay accountable. Let’s make our future January 2021 selves super proud of how we finished the Wild West of 2020.

Original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge

Ask Me in 3 Months (2019)

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BONUS: How influencers are making money off you. (A conversation with Jessica Turner)

Sun, 04 Oct 2020 22:29:58 GMT

Have you ever wondered how influencers are making money through their blogs and social media posts? Have you ever wanted to try and make some of that money yourself?

In this BONUS episode, I'm pulling back the curtain a little on how I make money using affiliate links on my blog and social media posts.

And one of the smartest women I know - Jessica Turner of The Mom Creative - is talking with me about her new course Affiliate Marketing for Influencers.

We're all being influenced every day, and sometimes we don't even know it. Jessica and I share how this works, and how to do it legally and with integrity.

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Ep 84: Where did we begin? (A relationship origin story with Jeff Tremaine)

Tue, 29 Sep 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone curious to hear the other angle of an origin story.

It’s our wedding anniversary! This week, my husband Jeff and I celebrate 13 years of marriage, and so I thought it would be fun to have him on the show to share HIS side of our relationship’s origins. This is something I’ve talked and written about for years, but (surprise!) he has a different take.

This week I want YOU to talk a partner or best friend about your relationship’s origin story. Ask, “Where did we begin?” and “What do you remember about that time?” and “Tell me your version.”

Even if you think you know what someone is going to say about your relationship’s origin, you might be surprised at what comes up.

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BONUS: Eby founder Renata Black

Fri, 25 Sep 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is sponsored by EBY.

I am proud to partner on this bonus episode with EBY, a seamless underwear membership co-founded by actress and entrepreneur Sofia Vergara and my guest today, entrepreneur Renata Black.

In our conversation, Renata shares her passion about giving our everyday choices (like buying underwear) real power, and explains how a portion of every purchase of EBY panties or bras becomes part of their Microfinance program, empowering women around the globe with small loans.

We also talk about underwear in general (ha!) and the soft, seamless technology that keeps EBY pieces in place all day.

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Ep 83: Best Books Lately with Christine Koh

Tue, 22 Sep 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone looking for their next great book to read.

It’s time for another episode about the best books we’ve read lately! This time I'm joined by Christine Koh, an author, speaker, blogger, podcaster, designer, and scientist. Yes, Dr. Christine Koh is all of those things, and on this episode she is sharing books that speak to the Asian American experience AND her newfound love of the romance genre.

I'm sharing two books about cults, what I'm reading before I fall asleep at night, and the novel that took me totally by surprise.

So there is a LOT packed into this conversation.

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BONUS: Break the Good Girl Myth with Majo Molfino

Fri, 18 Sep 2020 22:53:10 GMT

This episode is for anyone who struggles with her inner "good girl."

I read Break the Good Girl Myth: How To Dismantle Outdated Rules, Unleash Your Power, and Design a More Purposeful Life by Majo Molfino this summer and the whole idea resonated with me: identifying as a good girl, wanting to be seen as a good girl, and simultaneously wanting to get out of that trap.

Even at 40-something, I am still dismantling these parts of my identity, and I could see myself - and so many of my friends - in the five different types of “good girls” that Majo writes about.

In our conversation, Majo shares a little more about “Breaking your good girl myth MEANS” and I share the parts of me that still sees myself a good girl, where that feels healthy and where that feels woefully outdated.

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Ep 82: Create a family yearbook (10 Tips from Miss Freddy)

Tue, 15 Sep 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode will motivate you to create a family yearbook (or any other kind of photo book).

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Miss Freddy is back!

Last year’s Ep 41: 10 Tips to organize your digital photos with professional photo organizer Miss Freddy was so popular that I couldn't wait to have Casey (aka Miss Freddy) back on the show for more ideas about what to do with all the photos we’re drowning in.

This time we’re focusing on family yearbooks, but Miss Freddy’s advice applies to any sort of digital photo book you want to create. She’s sharing the steps, the tools, and the mindset to create an album you’ll be so happy to have.

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BONUS: Decorate your home for the seasons without buying more stuff. (A conversation with Myquillyn Smith, The Nester)

Sat, 12 Sep 2020 20:56:45 GMT

Myquillyn Smith (aka The Nester) has influenced the way I think about decorating my home for years, through her blog, social media, and books. Her latest book Welcome Home is about decorating your home for the seasons without buying a bunch of expensive decor, and how you can signal the natural cycle of the year using scents and textures and sound. These concepts apply even when you live somewhere where the temperature doesn't change much!

Myquillyn gives me a little pep talk about creating a home that is the background for family memories, and she reveals a fairly genius way to decorate for the holidays that removes a bulk of the stress. (Why hadn't I thought of this before??)

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Ep 81: Who brings it out?

Tue, 08 Sep 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is part pep talk, part permission, and part mindfulness around the nuance and energy of friendship. I'm sharing about loneliness, the benefit to shallow friends, the necessity of friends who make you talk, and the call to look closer at old friendships (and whether or not they're all serving you).

Related or mentioned episodes:

Ep 2: Are you lonely?

Ep 49: Where are your bandaids?

Ep 75: Who are you talking about?

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Ep 80: 10 Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume IV

Tue, 01 Sep 2020 07:30:00 GMT

It’s time for another round of Favorite Things!

This episode is a list of my current favorite things, and as usual, my picks are all over the place. I’m sharing my new project management app (which has changed my work life), a podcast recommendation, interesting people to follow on Instagram, what I’m getting my husband for his birthday, a new (old) beauty product, and more.

I hope this list encourages YOU to share your current favorite things!

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Ep 79: 10+ Mantras and Affirmations for RIGHT NOW

Tue, 25 Aug 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who needs a little help with their attitude and self-talk right now.

I know I beat this drum regularly, but I really believe that the way we speak to ourselves shapes the way we move in the world. And these days, my self-talk can be all over the place. On this episode, I’m sharing my own personal current mantras and affirmations, and also just talking about how these things can work in your life. (Hint: it’s not magic. It’s brain science.)

But the best part of this episode is hearing from the listeners who sent in THEIR own mantras. So many great words out there.

BONUS: How white women can stop avoiding hard conversations. (A conversation with Jenna Arnold)

Fri, 21 Aug 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone interested in raising their hand.

Jenna Arnold is an educator, entrepreneur, activist and mother who lives in New York City, and her new book is Raising Our Hands: How White Women Can Stop Avoiding Hard Conversations, Start Accepting Responsibility, and Find Our Place on the New Front Lines.

In this BONUS episode, Jenna and I talk through a few of the reasons white women statistically stay silent about important issues: perfection, performance, and peacekeeping.

I really liked Jenna's book and am excited to share this conversation with you.

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Ep 78: Trust your intuition, use your brain. (A conversation with Meg Tietz)

Tue, 18 Aug 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who needs a good, long, catchup with girlfriends.

It's been awhile since we've had a huge dose of girlfriend chat on the show, but great conversations are the driving force of 10 Things To Tell You. In our long overdue conversation, Meg and I each share five things we need to catch up on. We talk loneliness, Real Housewives, true crime obsessions, the perfect amazon purchase, shoes, and intuition.

Meg Tietz created and hosts the Sorta Awesome podcast (where I'm a former co-host), and she just launched a new daily show called Awesome Today. She also runs the fantastic FB group called Sorta Awesome Hangout. Follow her on IG.

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Ep 77: What's your BIG story?

Tue, 11 Aug 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode looks at your life like a movie.

What's your BIG story? The main narrative arc to your life? The story that is central to your identity? Anyone who knows you well knows this story. Maybe it happened in childhood. Maybe you're currently in the middle of it. But we all have one, big, main story. In movies and in literature, they call this the Hero's Journey. It's one of the the most common storytelling devices in art. On this episode, I'm sharing my own BIG story. The thing that I arrange events into Before & After.

I can't wait to hear yours.

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Ep 76: 10 Questions to ask yourself in the middle of anything

Tue, 04 Aug 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who could use an honest evaluation in the middle of something. (And maybe a reset.)

In the beginning, we make plans. Set goals. Hope for the best. At the end, we evaluate how it went. We make notes for next time. We accept our trophies or don't. But what about in the middle? Don't we need to stop down and ask some hard questions in the MIDDLE? To see if we're on track? To make tweaks? To define what it means to "finish well"?

Here are 10 Questions to ask yourself when you're in the middle of anything. The middle of a project or the middle of a season, all 10 questions apply.

For me, I'm answering from the middle of the year. It's hard to believe, but we are still in the very middle of 2020. And I have LOTS of feelings about the first half, and the tweaks I want to make for the months remaining.

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Ep 75: Who are you talking about?

Tue, 28 Jul 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who had felt icky, gleeful, guilty, or triumphant after talking about someone else.

Look, we all do it sometimes, right? We gossip or vent or judge someone in conversation with friends. But does talking about someone behind their back REALLY say more about us than it does about them? Let’s discuss.

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BONUS: More great books to read!

Sat, 25 Jul 2020 03:51:37 GMT

This episode is for anyone who can't get enough of the book talk.

We didn't have time for me to share ALL the great books I've been reading on the recent reading episode, so this is a little bonus to tell you all about my current book stack, including a new novel that's a contender for favorite of the year, and a nonfiction book that I am forcing myself to read with an open mind.

I'm also sharing a few of the books in my immediate To Read pile, plus the three books that I've preordered for fall release.

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Ep 74: Best Books Lately with Sarah Bessey

Tue, 21 Jul 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is a midsummer reading check-in.

It's time for another episode about BOOKS and this time I'm joined by my good friend Sarah Bessey. Sarah is a writer, speaker, and all around woman of wisdom. She is the author of Jesus Feminist, Out of Sorts, and the spiritual memoir Miracles and Other Reasonable Things. She is also the cofounder of the Evolving Faith conference.

On this episode, Sarah and I each share the best books we've read lately, including popular novels, Canadian authors that fly under the radar, and social justices resources.

The full list of books discussed can be found in the show notes.

You can also view them on Bookshop.org.

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Ep 73: I wrote a book! (Agents, publishers, writing, and editing.)

Tue, 14 Jul 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone curious about the process of writing and publishing.

I wrote a book! Share Your Stuff. I'll Go First will launch in February 2021, but I'm taking some time this week to talk all about the behind-the-scenes details I've always been curious about with other authors.

I'm answering questions from the 10TTTY Connection group about how I got an agent, crafted a book proposal, signed a book deal with a publisher, wrote & edited the book, and chose a cover.

There is SO MUCH to say about this longtime dream coming to fruition, after years of uncertainty and rejection.

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Ep 72: Has the internet ever changed your mind?

Tue, 30 Jun 2020 12:43:31 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has has been told that there's no use fighting on facebook.

Has the internet ever changed your mind on an issue? Is it easier to hear a new perspective from friends and acquaintances or from strangers?

The episode is all about the ways that people’s social media posts ARE changing our culture, through snark, humor, memes or thoughtful shared experiences.

Let’s be honest about when a post has opened our eyes or when we’ve decided to dig in our heels. I share my own thoughts on this topic, as well as a few ways (some silly, some serious) that the internet has changed my perspective. At the end of the show a few listeners chime in with their thoughts.

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Ep 71: Kendra Adachi is The Lazy Genius

Tue, 23 Jun 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is part friendship, part therapy, part work/life balance.

I am so excited to share this conversation with my friend Kendra Adachi (aka The Lazy Genius) because not only do we talk about being “work friends” and how that narrow relationship title offers us freedom in our friendship, but Kendra also applies her Lazy Genius principles to my problem prioritizing work tasks. And I have kind of am embarrassing breakthrough.

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Ep 70: Age is just a number, right?

Tue, 16 Jun 2020 07:30:00 GMT

Please indulge me in a little birthday episode.

I turn 41 this week and though it’s not the major milestone I celebrated last year, I still have things to say. This episode is half nostalgic nonsense and half preach-y. I guess this is what happens when I go off script.

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Ep 69: BONUS! 22+ Things we watched in quarantine

Mon, 15 Jun 2020 00:55:19 GMT

This BONUS episode is for anyone looking for something interesting to watch (for families and for grown ups).

On roughly week 11 of the Los Angeles lockdown due to the coronavirus, I sat down with my husband Jeff and our two kids - ages 8 & 10 - for a lighthearted chat about all the movies, documentaries, and tv series we watched during quarantine since this season meant a LOT more screen time for our family than usual.

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Ep 68: Hometown: A conversation about race with LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, and Danielle Williams

Tue, 09 Jun 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone trying to understand another person's experience.

I’ve wanted to have this conversation with my hometown friends since I made the BIAS series on Smartest Person in the Room in 2018. I preferred to do it in person back then, but when the recent protests started over the murder of George Floyd, I asked if they would be willing to record online instead.

LaToyia Brown, Monica Pickens, Danielle Williams and I grew up in Ardmore, Oklahoma, a town that sits on I-35 about halfway between Oklahoma City and Dallas. Population 25,000. Ardmore is 63.2% White and 10.2% Black. I am white and LaToyia, Monica, and Danielle are Black. As I’m learning more about the racial divide in our country, I wanted to ask these friends about their lives in our hometown. I wondered if they experienced discrimination, what was taught in their homes and churches, and what they think about America now versus when we were kids.

I had no idea what they were going to say when I pressed record. Our conversation is vulnerable, honest, and imperfect. But the point of 10 Things To Tell You is to forge connection through conversation, and I believe that is what happened here.

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Ep 67: Social Shaming Around COVID-19 (A Conversation with Kristen Howerton)

Tue, 26 May 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has felt shamed or judgmental over choices made during the global pandemic.

Admit it you’ve either hidden your own activity or judged other people’s choices in the last few months. I’m joined by blogger, podcaster, and author Kristen Howerton (who you may know from her blog Rage Against the Minivan or from her weekly self-care podcast Selfie) to discuss the social shaming that we’re doing and feeling during this unprecedented season of the coronavirus.

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Ep 66: Do you have a morning routine?

Tue, 19 May 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone looking for an anchor to their day.

I promise I'm not going to tell you to get up at 5am. I hold the word "morning" pretty loosely in this context, but I do think a time to pause and commit to ritual at some point in your day can bring much needed structure.

On this episode, I'm sharing my personal morning routine and giving you a few different ways to think about this topic.

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Ep. 18: 10 Thoughts On Anxiety

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Ep 65: Summer Reading Guide with Anne Bogel of Modern Mrs. Darcy

Tue, 12 May 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who is excited for summer reading!

I am so excited to welcome Anne Bogel, three-time author, blogger at Modern Mrs. Darcy, podcaster at What Should I Read Next? and someone who reads more books than anyone else I know!

Anne recently released her latest book called Don't Overthink It. You can also go to her website to sign up to get her FREE (and much anticipated!) Summer Reading Guide.

On this episode, Anne and I talk about what our reading life looks like during the global pandemic, how the Instagram #Bookstagram community has changed the way we share what we're reading, and, of course, we give a few recent reading recommendations.

Click here for the full show notes (with links to all the books we talk about).

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Ep 64: Love Flood

Tue, 05 May 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone looking for a quick, meaningful exercise to boost spirits.

I'm sharing my experiences with Love Floods, from my days as a summer camp counselor to current friendship and colleagues.

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Ep 63: Working from home (A conversation with Emily P Freeman)

Tue, 28 Apr 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you are working from home right now and need some tips or mindset shifts to be less distracted and more productive.

My guest is Emily P Freeman, The Next Right Thing author and podcaster. Her work-from-home structure of Theme Days is something I adopted months ago and on this episode we talk about her approach to this schedule and how she's modifying it during the Covid 19 stay-at-home orders.

We also talk about the things that we're measuring to feel accomplished, and how social media is making us feel right now when our main connection with the outside world is the internet.

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Ep 62: Should you reread or burn old journals and letters?

Tue, 21 Apr 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode if for you if you’re staring at that old shoebox full of memorabilia and aren’t sure what to do with it.

A friend messaged me to ask if she should keep or toss a stack of old journals. In a weird coincidence, I was in the middle of a project that required I pull out some of my old journals from decades ago.

I’m sharing stories of rereading journal entries, the ritual of throwing old memories away, and what I learned from discovering a long ago letter.

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Ep 61: What if it's not that deep?

Tue, 14 Apr 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you strive to find meaning in everything.

I want you to think about whether everything deserves the energy you're giving it.

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Ep 60: 10 Favorite Things (Right Now) Volume III

Tue, 07 Apr 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone looking for a little cheer and distraction.

It's another Favorite Things episode! My current favorites are definitely influenced by the current coronavirus quarantine, but there's a little something for everyone here: books, beauty products, kitchen items, and the few mindsets that are keeping me sane in self-isolation.

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Ep 59: Marry the person you want to quarantine with (the Tremaines wave hello)

Tue, 31 Mar 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone needing a little light distraction.

The Tremaines are waving hello from week 3 of self-isolation to stop the spread of coronavirus. This episode ended up being an accidental model for the type of conversations you could be documenting in your life and family right now during this historic time.

My husband Jeff and I start the show by answering questions from the 10TTTY FB Connection group, including: have we learned anything about one another during this time? How do we balance accepting one another while also pushing the other to grow? How are we connecting right now?

Then our kids jump on for just a few minutes and share their thoughts on what spring break in self-isolation looks like.

This turned into a fun, family-centered show.

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Ep 58: 10 Ways to write your own history

Tue, 24 Mar 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're looking for ways to document your life during the everyday (or during a historic moment).

As the world fights a global pandemic, we are part of a pivotal moment in history. Whether you're hunkering down at home, in an essential job to keep the economy afloat, or on the front lines in the medical profession, this is a time for us to write our OWN stories. Don't simply trust what the history books will say. Document it for yourself.

I'm sharing 10 simple ways to write your own history, for your own private documentation or to share publicly. All of these methods are simple and easily available.

If you choose to document on Instagram, tag the show and use the hashtag #OneDayCV

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BONUS: Anxiety always makes sense (A conversation with Dr. Becky from DrBeckyAtHome)

Thu, 19 Mar 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you need to understand and better cope with your anxiety.

Dr. Becky from Dr. Becky At Home is a clinical psychologist who specializes in helping people cope with anxiety and stress. I found her on Instagram when someone shared one of her posts, and what followed is one of the best and most important conversations I’ve ever had on this show. Dr. Becky encourages us to form a relationship with our anxiety, and our conversation includes all of the things I’ve always wanted to ask: what does self-talk REALLY look like? What does it mean if we really can’t find the source of our anxiety? How do we balance being “strong” in front of our kids while also letting them see us have natural emotions? I am so excited to share this one with you. This will be a conversation I will reference for a long time. DrBeckyAtHome on Instagram DrBeckyAtHome website * Full show notes for this episode @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook

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Ep 57: Is it anxiety or intuition?

Tue, 17 Mar 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you have a hard time distinguishing between your anxiety and your intuition.

As someone who talks openly online about both my lifelong anxiety and following my intuition, this is a question I get a lot. I don't have all the answers, and don't always get this 100% correct, but on this episode I'm talking through how we can conflate these two things, and the #1 question I ask myself to know the difference.

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Ep 56: Who were your cultural icons when you were young?

Tue, 10 Mar 2020 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're in the mood for a little light-heartedness.

Today I'm taking a walk through the cultural icons of my youth and what it says about who we were drawn to when we were kids. Whether it's actors, fictional characters, musicians or sports stars, the people we wanted to be when we were young say something about our personalities.

This is a fun conversation to have at a party or on a road trip. (Spring break, anyone?) But there are still insights and connections to be made with a pop culture topic.

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Ep 55: Living Abroad with Kids (10 Takeaways with Julie Stillwell)

Tue, 03 Mar 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever dreamed of living abroad with your family for a year.

I've been dying to share this conversation with my dear friend Julie Stillwell. In 2018, Julie and her husband Tom took their two young daughters to live in Amsterdam for one year. All four had lived in Los Angeles their whole lives, so this was a family adventure with a hundred takeaways.

We talk about the logistics of moving abroad and the emotions of both leaving and adjusting. We talk living without a car and sending their kids to the International School. We talk about style and food in Amsterdam versus the United States. We talk about why life seems simpler and slower in this part of Europe, and how temporary absence can actually deepen relationships.

There are so many nuggets of wisdom and things to think about in this episode. It made me realize that sitting down with a friend and giving full focus to something big in their life isn't something I do enough.

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BONUS: 10 Books in my To Read pile + listener recommendations!

Sat, 29 Feb 2020 04:00:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you can never get enough book talk.

This Best Books lately episode ran longer than I expected and I didn't have time to tell you about all the awesome books in my MASSIVE To Read pile. I chose 10 of the books waiting on my kindle or on my bedside to share with you, and then listed the rest over on the blog. (You can find my full To Read list here.)

I love hearing what YOU'RE reading lately, and so the last few minutes of this bonus episode includes listener recommendations, straight from their own mouths. So now my To Read pile is somehow larger than it was before I recorded this...

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Ep 54: Best Books Lately with Jessica Turner + A Conversation about American Dirt with Stephanie Newman-Smith

Tue, 25 Feb 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you love to read (and follow literary controversies).

Book episodes are the best episodes! We spend the first half hour talking about the best books we've read lately with Jessica Turner, and we take a brief detour to talk about #Bookstagram and our current reading habits (including a new hobby Jessica picked up and the #ReadYourBooks challenge she's hosting online).

In the second half of this extra long episode, I'm joined by my real-life book club friend Stephanie Newman-Smith to talk through the layers of controversy around the novel American Dirt by Jeanine Cummins. We talk about who can tell what stories, how the publishing industry is complicit in silencing non-white voices, and the bizarre marketing missteps around the novel that Oprah picked for her book club.

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Ep 53: Whose voice is inside your head?

Tue, 18 Feb 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you struggle with negative self-talk.

A lot of have a critical voice in our head telling us all sorts of ugly things that lead to second-guessing and self-doubt. But where did that voice originate? Did it come from a parent? An old coach or similar authority figure from your youth? An ex?

On this episode, I'm sharing about the critical voices in MY head and why identifying them (instead of struggling to ignore them) is helpful to squash them for good.

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Ep 52: What would YOU tell you to do?

Tue, 11 Feb 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're stuck on a decision.

This is simple. This is basic. But next time you're spinning out on making a decision (any decision), ask yourself:

What would YOU tell you to do?

This little exercise can bring immediate clarity when we're lost in a sea of Pro/Con lists and justifications.

On this episode, I'm sharing how this has applied to my own life, especially when I lost myself for a bit in my mid-thirties.

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Ep 51: Masterminds: How to create and structure a business peer group (with guests Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi)

Tue, 04 Feb 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’re interested in creating a mastermind group to grow your business.

In this episode, I'm sharing how to start a business mastermind, who should be in it, how to find those people, and ideas on how to structure your group.

After I give my thoughts, I'm joined in conversation with the three other members of my mastermind: Jamie Golden, Bri McKoy, and Kendra Adachi. They each share something important to think about when creating a mastermind.

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Ep 50: Who were you 10 years ago?

Tue, 28 Jan 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you forgot to self reflect about the new decade on New Years Eve.

Happy first birthday to 10 Things To Tell You! 🎉 We're celebrating one year of good questions and solid conversations. In the beginning of this episode, I share some of the best episodes of the past year (both statistically and personally) and reflect on making these first 50+ episodes.

After that we get down to the central question: Who were you 10 years ago? This is a great ice breaker question OR a chance to see if you remember the beginning of the last decade the same way your friends and family do. Who was 2010 YOU, and would she be happy with 2020 you?

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Ep 49: Where are your bandaids?

Tue, 21 Jan 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're using a flimsy bandaid over something that needs stitches. Metaphorically.

On this episode I'm sharing three ways in which I have used a bandaid to cover up something that really needed more attention: a medical problem, a relationship strain, and a frustration in the house.

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Ep 48: Should we post our kids on social media? (A conversation with Nish Weiseth)

Tue, 14 Jan 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’ve ever second-guessed posting photos of your kids online.

Nish Weiseth - a friend I met through mommy blogging years ago - recently posted on Instagram that she was going to take a step back from posting her family online, because her kids are getting older and she started questioning her own motivations. I thought her take was really interesting, so I reached out and asked her to have a friend-to-friend conversation on this topic…publicly.

The first half of this episode is about posting photos of our kids and why our thoughts have changed on it over the years, and the second half turns towards why we post online at all.

We get really honest and vulnerable, but we don’t come to any conclusions. I get on my high horse at one moment and then admit I might be wrong.

I hope our conversation inspires you to ask your friends and coparents about their feelings on posting family pics online, and their genuine motivation for posting on social media at all.

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Ep 47: 10 Ways to feel better

Tue, 07 Jan 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’ve ever needed to shake off a bad mood or a bad day.

I’m sharing 10 ways to pull myself out a funk.

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BONUS: Intentions, Affirmations, & Vision Boards, Oh my!

Sat, 28 Dec 2019 20:17:20 GMT

This episode is for you if you’re thinking about setting intentions, starting affirmations, and creating a vision board for the new year.

On this episode, I’m sharing my (relatively recent) experience with setting intentions, writing down affirmations, and creating a vision board.

Let me be clear that I no expert on any of these things, but I do believe that something goes on in your consciousness when you stay open to receiving what the world has to offer (instead of closing yourself off from anything you don’t understand), and by putting in place a few practices that might positively affect your mood, spirit, and actions.

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Ep 46: Book Club 2019 (Best, Worst, and Buzziest Books of the year)

Tue, 17 Dec 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you are a reader!

It's the most wonderful time of the year, when all the Best Of book lists come out. Of course I couldn't resist putting in my own two cents! Joining me on this episode are two friends from my real life book club: Yasmin Dunn and Stephanie Newman-Smith. Listening to all our words here is like listening to our actual book club meeting.

We talk about the buzziest books of the year, books that missed the mark for us, and important nonfiction reads.

In the last hour of the show, we each name a handful of books that stand out as favorites in 2019, and we purposefully tried to highlight books that aren't being discussed everywhere else.

Full show notes here (including a list of all the books we discussed, by category)

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Ep 45: 10 Questions for the end of the year

Tue, 10 Dec 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you enjoy end-of-the-year reflection and journaling.

It's the end of the year, and the end of the decade, and even though we're still a few weeks out from kissing 2019 goodbye and ushering in 2020, I'm posing these questions a little early so that you'll have time to think about your answers this month.

There are 10 questions in this episode meant to make you reflect upon on the last twelve months and get some clarity for what you want in the coming year. The prompts are a mix of light and deep, some to document a simple moment in time, others to help you grow.

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Ep 44: What are you doing well?

Tue, 03 Dec 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you need a little encouragement during a busy season.

Thank you to listener Aimee who suggested this topic! On this episode, I'm sharing two things I'm doing well right now and two things I'm letting go of for the holiday season. But the real key to this prompt is using it to start a conversation with a friend or a group of friends.

After listening, shoot a text to someone and ask, "Hey, where are you killing it these days?" because when people pause and reflect on this just for a minute, it shifts your mindset. We're all doing okay.

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Ep 43: 2 Tips for social anxiety + Ask Me Anything

Tue, 26 Nov 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if the social events of the holiday season are giving you anxiety.

On this mish mash of an episode, I offer two tips for handling social anxiety AND I answer a few listener questions. There’s also a little housekeeping at the beginning of the show, with some updates and reminders about recent episodes.

In the Ask Me Anything section, I talk about how the book writing is going, my long ago jobs in reality television, and the one habit I started tracking that gave me immediate progress in working from home.

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BONUS: Half Baked Harvest cookbook author Tieghan Gerard

Sat, 23 Nov 2019 05:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're looking for a little inspiration in the kitchen.

Sometimes I like to have people on the show just to inspire or share something cool they're doing. I am super excited to welcome Tieghan Gerard, because I have followed her food blog Half Baked Harvest for years now.

Tieghan started her (massively popular and insanely beautiful) website Half Baked Harvest when she was NINETEEN years old. Now she runs the whole empire with the help of her family.

She also has a new cookbook out called Super Simple: More than 125 Recipes for Instant, Overnight, Meal-Prepped, and Easy Comfort Foods.

In our short chat, Tieghan and I talk about what cooking and food should be, and how her new book is a direct response to her follower's requests for good food that is super simple.

I hope this conversation is just the shot of inspiration you need to get in the mood for holiday cooking and time around the table.

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Ep 42: Have you lost your style? (A conversation with Amber Haines)

Tue, 19 Nov 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if don't recognize the person in the mirror.

On a recent girls weekend, my good friend Amber Haines and I got into a conversation about being uncomfortable in our skin lately. It's more than simply aging, we both feel like our personal sense of style (something we've been proud of in the past) has taken a back seat in the past few years during a busy life.

This topic is both shallow and not. We discuss body changes, hiding ourselves, the mental hurdles of buying new clothes, and the logistical aspects of getting dressed up for a day when you don't see anyone except your kids.

This is a no shame, no judgment, authentic conversation between friends. We plan our next steps to get our groove back - the emotional part, and the practical part - and will do a check in on this topic in 3 months.

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Ep 41: 10 Tips to organize your photos with Miss Freddy

Tue, 12 Nov 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you are overwhelmed by photos.

My guest Casey von Stein (aka Miss Freddy) is here to give us 10 Tips on how to organize all our photos. We talk about how to get photos from your phone to one central place, which services to use as backup, and what to do with them all once they're wrangled.

We cover a lot of information on this episode, including why google photos and iCloud are NOT the best services to rely on, the things we should mentally let go of while we're organizing, and which photo books are the highest quality.

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#OneDayHH is coming!

Mon, 11 Nov 2019 04:55:59 GMT

The 7th Annual #OneDayHH social media challenge is happening on Friday, November 15th.

#OneDayHH is a yearly event on social media (mostly Instagram) where we document what a day-in-the-life looks like right now. One day, hour by hour. On this mini episode, I'm explaining how the challenge works and why it's special.

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Ep 40: 10 Favorite Things (Right Now) (Again) + 2 special announcements!

Tue, 05 Nov 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’re looking for tv & podcast recommendations, awesome people to follow on instagram, the latest skincare holy grail product, and more!

I have a LOT of (current) Favorite Things to share on this episode, as well as a very special and personal announcement. But truthfully, the best part of this episode are the listener voices at the end sharing THEIR favorite things. I love having YOU on the show!

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Ep 39: What needs a lighter hand?

Tue, 29 Oct 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if there's an area in your life you suspect you might be a little heavy-handed.

If we're heavy handed about something it's usually because we care about that thing. But often this is less effective than we intended. On this episode we're talking about everything from makeup, to relationships, to posting on social media.

What in your life could use a lighter touch?

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Ep 38: Books for growth

Tue, 22 Oct 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're seeking books to expand your perspective.

Reading and personal development are two of my passions, and on this episode they intertwine.

I've broken down the books for personal growth into 4 categories:

Introspection

Spirituality

Body

Humanity

Or, put another way: Discovering ourselves, finding God, connecting to our body, and learning about others.

On this episode, I'm listing a few books in each category that has taught me something and expanded my mind in some way.

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Ep 37: Who do you see in the picture?

Tue, 15 Oct 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever looked at a photo of yourself and gasped.

This has happened to all of us, right? We've looked a photo of ourselves and seen a stranger.

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Ep 36: Jenna Fischer & Angela Kinsey are best friends and Office Ladies

Tue, 08 Oct 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you met your best friend at the office.

Jenna Fischer and Angela Kinsey are well known for their iconic roles as Pam Beesly and Angela Martin on one of the most beloved tv shows of all time, The Office. But in real life they are also best friends, and now they're business partners launching their new podcast Office Ladies.

On this very special episode, Jenna and Angela talk with me about one of my favorite topics: friendship. We talk about childhood friends, how hard it is to make good friends as adults, and the trickiness of friendship when the dynamics change.

Angela shares her biggest heartbreak with a friendship, and Jenna talks about a time when her feelings were hurt in a friendship. Plus I tell the story of the two VERY awkward ways I met each of these women, and they tell me the origin story of their friendship on set all those years ago.

This episode is PACKED with stories, laughs, and a few tears.

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FLEABAG: A Love Story (BONUS episode!)

Sat, 05 Oct 2019 05:20:56 GMT

This episode is for you if you were wrecked by Season 2 of the television show Fleabag.

FLEABAG is a two-season television show created by, written by, and starring the incredible Phoebe Waller-Bridge. It swept the 2019 Emmys, winning SIX of the ELEVEN it was nominated for, including Outstanding Comedy Series, Outstanding Lead Actress, and Outstanding Writing for a Comedy Series.

I binged Fleabag last week and couldn't go one more day without talking about it. I recruited my friend Sueann Fortener to sit down with me so we could gush and cry and analyze all of our emotions around this spectacular season of television.

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Ep 35: Ask me in 3 months

Tue, 01 Oct 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if there is something you want to get done before the end of the year.

Today's prompt came from the original 10 Things To Tell You social media challenge.

We all have something that we just keep procrastinating. Let's commit to completing this task between now and January 1. I'm sharing two of the things that I really want to sit down and finish (both on my To Do list for literally years) and a few ideas for things you might want to be held accountable to in the next three months.

Also in this episode I talk about my favorite planner. (And here's the blog post where I talk about how I chose this planner after a million minutes of internet research.)

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Ep 34: The robbery. (One year later)

Tue, 24 Sep 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever experienced something that could have been worse.

Last September, our home was robbed while I sat in the backyard. On this episode, I'm sharing the details of that day, as well as what followed.

I'm encouraging you to talk about the things that have happened to you that leave a mark.

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Ep 33: Recent Revelations

Tue, 17 Sep 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’ve had any recent revelations you want to share.

If you’re a regular listener to this show, you are probably the type of person who is striving for growth, who aims to be self-aware, and who is paying attention. And if you’re paying attention, you’re learning. Always.

So this week I'm sharing with you a few of my own personal recent revelations (some shallow, some deeper), and I am actively encouraging you to share your own. Not only privately or in your journal, this time I’m challenging you to share on social media.

I want you to tell us a recent revelation you’ve had in your life. It’s an exercise in sharing of yourself AND I just want to see what people are thinking about these days. It helps me see the pulse of the listeners and create content for the show.

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Ep 32: What is it about pets?

Tue, 10 Sep 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you have a pet.

This is the last show I ever thought I would do, but I just have to hand it to my dog. I'm asking you to reflect on what your pet brings to your life (now or in the past).

I'm sharing about why we got a dog when I was so opposed to it, and the role he played in a recent scary event in our life.

This episode is short and sweet. Like Kona Rocket. (That's right, he has his own instagram.)

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Ep 31: Best Books Lately with Alyssa Hertzig

Tue, 03 Sep 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you like HOURS of book talk.

We're talking the best books we read over the summer and our lists are LONG. My guest Alyssa Hertzig is chatting with me about the best novels, memoirs, and nonfiction books we've read in the last few months.

Find Alyssa on her blog The Sparkly Life, and on Instagram. She also has a new bookstagram account @alyssaisbooked.

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**SPOILER ALERT** While almost all of this episode is spoiler free, I did include a spoiler-full analysis of the novel The Need by Helen Phillips at the end of the show after the closing music.

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Ep 30: Pay attention to what you skip

Tue, 27 Aug 2019 21:27:16 GMT

This episode is for you if you're interested in general mindfulness for personal growth.

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Ep 29: What are your intentions?

Tue, 20 Aug 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for your if you’re curious about how setting intentions works.

If you’ve heard the phrase “setting intentions” and thought it was just a bunch of vague feel-good language, think again. In this episode, I’m sharing how setting intentions can lead to getting the most out of your day, your experiences, and your interactions with others.

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Ep 28: Motherhood through adoption with Lindsay Lawler

Tue, 13 Aug 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you or a loved one has ever struggled through the fertility process, or if you’re interested in the topic of adoption.

I am so happy to share this conversation with one of my dearest friends, Lindsay Lawler, who recently became a mother when she adopted her baby girl on Thanksgiving Day 2018.

Lindsay shares the story of her experience with infertility, medical treatments, and adoption. As a reminder, neither Lindsay nor I are medical experts OR adoption experts. We both encourage you to do all your research when planning to grow your family.

In this episode, we discuss:

listening to your body
finding out your egg count
connecting with your doctor
marriage strain
how adoption should NOT be a last resort
staying positive but also allowing yourself emotions
finding an adoption agency
trusting the outcome
fears after placement

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Ep 27: Ask Me Anything

Tue, 06 Aug 2019 07:30:00 GMT

You asked, I answered.

This episode covers everything from favorite authors, skincare updates, self-doubt, the big thing that happened to me earlier this year, and whether or not I'm making money on this podcast.

I also include a little Q&A with my mom at the end of the episode.

This was not a show I was planning on doing, but apparently I have a lot of words to give your questions. Thanks for hanging in there with the change in format in this completely unscripted episode.

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Ep 26: What are your partner's strengths?

Tue, 30 Jul 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever been in a partnership. (Any kind of partnership.)

I’m talking about different types of partnerships and how calling out our partner's strengths can lead to bigger conversations about what’s working and what needs work.

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Ep 25: Where are you?

Tue, 23 Jul 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're feeling a little unmoored right now.

I’m asking you Where Are You? in three different ways:

Where are you in your mind? Where are you on the timeline? Where are you in your space?

In this episode I’m sharing a few mindfulness routines, reading from the anthology On Being 40-ish, and urging you take up space in a room and in a photo.

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Ep 24: 10 Kitchen tools with author & food blogger Bri McKoy

Tue, 16 Jul 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you need more motivation in the kitchen.

I'm in a cooking rut. After a season of convenience foods and lazy standbys, I'm ready to get back to the basics in the kitchen. My friend Bri McKoy is sharing the 10 essential kitchen tools that will inspire and motivate new habits for feeding my family.

We really just wanted to talk about cooking. But of course I tried to make it deep.

You can find Bri McKoy on Instagram and on her blog Our Savory Life.

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Ep 23: What are you measuring?

Tue, 09 Jul 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone who has struggled with meeting a goal, or knowing what to prioritize.

We’re all measuring something, but are we using the right metric? Are we measuring time or result? Are we measuring our waist or our health? We can measure our social media or our water intake, but if we’re not setting ourselves up for success, then we’ll fail emotionally every time.

In this episode, I’m musing over some measurements that caught me off guard, and how I’m shifting my perspective on some of the things I'm actively measuring.

I’m asking you to give an honest assessment of the things in your life (big and small) that you’re measuring, and ask yourself if you’re using the right metric.

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Ep 22: When you walk into the room

Tue, 25 Jun 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever walked into a room.

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Ep 21: 10 Thoughts on turning 40

Tue, 18 Jun 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever had a milestone birthday.

I'm turning 40 this week! I'm sharing all my wisdom, big feelings about that. From body changes to watching the clock tick, here's how I'm handling turning the big 4-0.

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Ep 20: 10 Favorite Things (Right Now)

Tue, 11 Jun 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're looking for recommendations on new podcasts to binge, books to read, or summer style choices.

These are a few of my favorite things right now. Take this prompt as a nudge to list out a few of YOUR favorites to share with others.

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(Believe me, you're going to want the show notes for this one.)

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Ep 19: What is your best trip? (Plus 10+ travel tips!)

Tue, 04 Jun 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever taken a trip.

What is the best trip you've ever taken? And what does "best" even mean? Was the best location, with the best people, was it simple or revelatory or both?

This prompt is a great conversation starter.

In this episode, I'm sharing some of my favorite trips of all time. And at the end of me rambling, there are 10+ travel tips sent in my listeners. That's the best part of the whole show!

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Ep 18: 10 Thoughts on Anxiety

Wed, 29 May 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled with anxiety or ever watched a loved one form coping mechanisms to handle their anxiety.

I have more than 10 things to tell you about anxiety, but here is a place we can start the mental health conversation. In this episode, I'm sharing my lifelong anxiety starting in childhood, through the teenage and young adult years, after I had children, and into the present day.

I'm talking about what anxiety looks like for me, healthy and unhealthy coping mechanisms, and the things that have given me the most relief.

The goal of this type of episode is just to share a common human experience. I hope that it makes you check in with your own body, be honest about mental health struggles, and bring about some understanding of the anxiety that millions of people live with every day.

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Ep 17: Revisiting Flowers in the Attic with guest Meg Tietz

Tue, 21 May 2019 07:30:00 GMT

Content warning. The themes in this book include child abuse and sexual violence.

This discussion of Flowers in the Attic by VC Andrews is finally here! Meg Tietz and I sit down to talk about this cult classic novel that women of a *cough* certain age passed around among friends.

We thought we were in for a giggly conversation about a silly book. What we found between these pages surprised us both.

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Ep 16: Are you a chili cooker or a pizza orderer?

Tue, 14 May 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever felt stuck in your roles.

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Ep 15: What is your mantra?

Tue, 07 May 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever needed a mantra, to get through the day, a season, or your life.

What is your mantra? Do you have one? Do you need one?

On this episode, I share three different mantras that I've used over the years and that I still call upon when needed. We also hear from listeners who sent in their own life mantras.

10 Things To Tell You is an interactive podcast. Each episode has a prompt and a topic that I want you to take to your journal, text to your best friend, or answer on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.

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Ep 14: Skincare & Makeup with Jamie Golden

Tue, 30 Apr 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you want to learn more about taking care of your skin, or if you're always looking for new makeup recs.

Guest Jamie Golden is giving us a skincare education. If you have no idea what serums you need or how to make your face look more like it did 10 years ago, you are about to take notes.

Jamie is most well-known for her popular (hilarious) podcasts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie, and The Bible Binge, but her personal obsession is skin care. Jamie's Instagram is full of beauty tips and recommendations.

On this episode, Jamie walks us through our basic skincare needs while Laura shares five or her favorite current beauty buys, from hair products to lipstick to a magical foundation.

Full show notes (with everything we recommend) here.

Jamie Golden is on Instagram.

Jamie co-hosts The Popcast with Knox and Jamie and the Bible Binge.

Find The Popcast on Instagram and Facebook. The Bible Binge on Instagram. and on facebook.

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Ep 13: Who do you tell?

Tue, 23 Apr 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’ve ever wondered “Who am I supposed to tell these 10 Things to….?”

Every week I go on and on about how we all have 10 Things To Tell, but WHO do you tell?

Friends? A sibling? A partner? No one?

This episode is about the people who deserve your trust. I'm telling you the 3 things that make me want to share with someone, and what happens if that trust is broken. There's one thing in particular I really want you to pay attention to.

I hope this episode makes you think about the relationships in your life that inspires you to share your stuff, in both new and lifelong friendships.

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Ep 12: Who did you expect to be?

Tue, 16 Apr 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for anyone whose life didn't turn out exactly as they expected.

Who did you expect to be?

Not who did you *want* to be or who did other people want you to be? But WHO did YOU expect to be at this stage of your life? And are you that person?

I've thought about variations of this theme for years, maybe even my whole adulthood. Because my life hasn't turned out at all like I expected. Okay, that's not entirely true.

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Ep 11: Best Books I've Read Lately

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 05:12:03 GMT

This episode is for you if you're always looking for new reading recommendations.

I'm listing the best books I've read lately, including novels, memoirs, and self-help. These are the books I can't stop talking about.

And I'm asking YOU to share the best book(s) YOU'VE read recently. Post on social using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou for all of us looking for something great to read.

Click here for the show notes with the full list of titles I discuss in this episode.

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Ep 10: What Are Your Family Rules?

Tue, 02 Apr 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever been in a family.

Family rules. We all have 'em. Curfews, screen time, don't wear shoes in the house, finish the food on your plate. In this episode we're talking about our most basic family rules and also the unspoken rules of a family that shapes our behavior.

Answer this question in your journal, with a friend, or on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou:

What are your family rules?

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Ep 9: 10 Ways to journal

Tue, 26 Mar 2019 07:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you're interested in starting or keeping a journal.

On every single episode of this podcast, I've encouraged you to take the prompts to your journal. But what if you don't have a journal?

This episode walks you through why I think having a journal is crucial for your personal growth, and can be a wonderful documentation of your life.

I'm giving you 10 very different ways to approach journaling. From spiritual to quick to apps on your phone, there are so many ways to keep a journal of your thoughts.

If you DO journal, please share your process on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou

Full show notes for this episode here.

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Ep 8: Movie Director Jeff Tremaine has things to tell you

Thu, 21 Mar 2019 06:39:32 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever wondered the difference between a Hollywood director and a producer.

Every now and then this show will take a break from the personal introspection and hear from a guest who has something interesting to say. I'm kicking off that series with my talented husband, producer/director Jeff Tremaine.

In this episode we talk about his new movie The Dirt, a Netflix biopic about the rock band Motley Crue. Jeff shares why the film took nearly 10 years to make, and the most crucial decision he made in the beginning.

We also discuss how we stay connected in our marriage when apart for months at a time, and how he feels about making a movie that doesn't always align with his own values.

You can find all the show notes here.

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Ep 7: What are you assuming about others?

Tue, 12 Mar 2019 07:35:53 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever made assumptions about others that turned out not to be true.

Sometimes I assume that everyone else is killin' it at life and I'm the only one flailing around. Sound familiar?

In this episode, I share some of the silly things people have assumed about me and a few things that I assume about everyone else. (None of these things are true.)

Find the full show notes here.

Take this topic to your journal, text your best friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.

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Ep 6: Revisiting Judy Blume

Tue, 05 Mar 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if Judy Blume's novels made an impact on your childhood.

This is the first in the REVISIT series, where we're going to look at things from the past and see how they affected us then and how we feel about them now. Today's topic: Judy Blume.

Specifically, her three novels:

Are you there, God? It's me, Margaret.

Blubber

and Starring Sally J. Freedman As Herself.

My guest on this episode is my childhood friend Cara Pence, and we get a little emotional as we delve into the more painful themes of these books. This is a true conversation between friends.

You can read the full show notes here.

Take this topic to your journal, text your best friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.

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Ep 5: Tell me about your teachers.

Tue, 26 Feb 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever had a teacher who made an impact on your thinking and development.

Tell me about your teachers.

Today we're talking about the school teachers (or coaches, or activity instructors) who have made a difference in our lives in one way or another. I'm sharing the teachers who taught me how to think, trusted me, and even a few who left a mark I wish I didn't have.

At the end of the episode, we hear from a few listeners.

You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.

See the full show notes here.

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Ep 4: How do you connect to your body?

Tue, 19 Feb 2019 08:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you’ve ever felt disconnected from your own body. This episode is NOT about weight or exercise. We’re talking about the mind/body connection and the spiritual awakening that can occur when you really tune into your body instead of living on autopilot. I’m welcoming Pilates studio owner and movement teacher Kerri Campbell as my guest as we discuss and answer the question How do you connect to your body? Age, trauma, pain, and depression are just a few of the things that can cause us to disconnect from our body over time. In this episode we’ll talk about how to recognize if your brain and body have gone numb to one another and the mindset shift that will motivate positive change instead of constant self critique. Read the full show notes here. You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on Instagram and @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook. You can sign up here to receive episode news and notifications.

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Ep 3: Where do you live?

Tue, 12 Feb 2019 05:05:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever thought about where you live and how it affects you.

Where do you live?

This is one of the most basic, get-to-know-you questions, and the answer can vary. Our country, state, city, and neighborhood all say something about us, whether we like it or not.

On today's episode, we're not just talking about our zip codes, we're talking about how our location is currently affecting who we are. I live in Los Angeles, so I have 10 Things To Tell You about my little pocket of L.A.

You can take this prompt to your journal, text it to a friend, or post on social media using the #10ThingsToTellYou hashtag.

See the full show notes here.

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Ep 2: Are You Lonely?

Tue, 05 Feb 2019 05:05:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you've ever felt lonely. Which means this episode is for everyone. Loneliness feels like one of the great taboo topics of adulthood. But all around me, I see and hear people whispering that they’re profoundly lonely. In this episode I’m going to tell you about a time in my life when I was really lonely, and the two things I did that turned it around for me. The prompt for this week: Are you lonely? Or When were you lonely? Take your thoughts to your journal, to a friend, or to social media using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou. Make sure and follow @10ThingsToTellYou on facebook and Instagram. You can sign up for episode emails and see the full show notes here.

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Ep 1: When do you read?

Tue, 29 Jan 2019 05:30:00 GMT

This episode is for you if you want tips on how to read more, or if you already have a reading habit.

We're kicking off the 10 Things To Tell you podcast with my favorite thing: BOOKS! People are always asking me how I read so much, and mainly people want to know:

WHEN do you read?

HOW do you read?

WHAT do you read?

I’m answering all of those questions and so much more. I’m telling you my secret to reading (roughly) one book a week. If audiobooks count the same as reading a book you hold. And I confess my dilemma over rating books publicly.

Read the full show notes here.

After you listen to the episode, I want you to answer the questions for yourself. Text your reader friends and ask them about their reading routines. Or post on social media your reading habits and opinions using the hashtag #10ThingsToTellYou.

Make sure you tag the show on Instagram and Facebook if you post!

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Welcome to 10 Things To Tell You!

Mon, 21 Jan 2019 23:56:05 GMT

I’m Laura Tremaine, and I have 10 things to tell you.

Each episode of this new podcast will ask a question, and you're encouraged to take that prompt to your journal, to your best friend, or to social media.

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