60 acast.com It Is Complicated https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated en Queer,Non-Binary,Trans, Conversation,Complicated Because the answer to every question is ... It is complicated. Josephine Baird and Dr J are contrary beings, where the answer to every question is "it's complicated", what might seem to be simple topics, like name, age, pronouns, or more complex ideas like games, brains, pain and anger - are all treated with gentle discussion.

Josephine is a computer games academic, activist and artist - and is a "Femme of International Mystery"

Dr J has the job title "Harbinger of Change" at Thoughtworks, the gender "Transgressive Non-Binary GenderQueer" and is a Troublemaker and #queernuisance - "because ... branding".

They talk through topics from their various viewpoints - in a careful, kind and generally amusing way - even when there is pain there is laughter - because ... dark.

Exposure is great - it doesn’t put food on the table. If you want to support us making more queer things like this- https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated

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]]> Josephine Baird and Dr J are contrary beings, where the answer to every question is "it's complicated", what might seem to be simple topics, like name, age, pronouns, or more complex ideas like games, brains, pain and anger - are all treated with gentle discussion.

Josephine is a computer games academic, activist and artist - and is a "Femme of International Mystery"

Dr J has the job title "Harbinger of Change" at Thoughtworks, the gender "Transgressive Non-Binary GenderQueer" and is a Troublemaker and #queernuisance - "because ... branding".

They talk through topics from their various viewpoints - in a careful, kind and generally amusing way - even when there is pain there is laughter - because ... dark.

Exposure is great - it doesn’t put food on the table. If you want to support us making more queer things like this- https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated

If you want to get into a discussion with us - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd or find us on Mastodon https://ohai.social/@itiscomplicated


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]]> true Dr J Harrison info+5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5@mg-eu.acast.com 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 it-is-complicated episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5/1590876440599-28a8a22c183bdad9b23526b470ae5d5a.jpeg https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated It Is Complicated Happy 2025 Happy 2025 Wed, 24 Dec 2025 12:23:21 GMT 3:37 694bdb39c9578c8cdae24f73 false https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/happy-2025 694bdb39c9578c8cdae24f73 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 happy-2025 full Thank you for your listening and support - 2025 has been a year - we are back in mid-2026


We love you, we appreciate you, we thank you for your support.


Love - Dr J and Josephine

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]]> Thank you for your listening and support - 2025 has been a year - we are back in mid-2026


We love you, we appreciate you, we thank you for your support.


Love - Dr J and Josephine

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]]> An update - Life is a complicated bitch! An update - Life is a complicated bitch! Sun, 10 Aug 2025 17:19:03 GMT 6:08 6898d487f9482328d0ac1ba2 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/an-update-life-is-a-complicated-bitch 6898d487f9482328d0ac1ba2 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 an-update-life-is-a-complicated-bitch We say thank you and talk about moving trailer A very short update - recorded in one take and un-editedby Dr J - so it makes some sense.


1) We are still here

2) We appreciate our listeners

3) We are planning a move to SubStack - we'll be doing that in coming weeks


We will record episodes possibly talking about the break (or not) - and publish the backlog - see you soon.

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]]> A very short update - recorded in one take and un-editedby Dr J - so it makes some sense.


1) We are still here

2) We appreciate our listeners

3) We are planning a move to SubStack - we'll be doing that in coming weeks


We will record episodes possibly talking about the break (or not) - and publish the backlog - see you soon.

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]]> Queer Voices - Suzanne Osten - Chaos is complicated Queer Voices - Suzanne Osten - Chaos is complicated Sun, 10 Nov 2024 11:49:21 GMT 55:10 672faebb35347017705c5fda true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-voices-suzanne-osten-chaos-is-complicated 672faebb35347017705c5fda 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-voices-suzanne-osten-chaos-is-complicated and gorgeous and glorious and brave full 1 62 In this special episode of It Is Complicated, we remember Suzanne Osten, who died on the 24th October 2024 


This interview was recorded a year ago, we are releasing it now as a tribute to her. We do have a backlog of episodes, this one felt important to put out first. 


Josephine met Suzanne in 2005 after Suzanne saw one of her performances and invited her to be in an opera, even though neither of them had experience in being in, or directing an opera. 


Suzanne’s adventurous spirit and willingness to try new things left a lasting impression on Josephine, and you can hear in the conversation how Suzanne was a force of nature—creative, chaotic, and always up for a challenge. 


This episode celebrates Suzanne’s incredible impact on the art world and her lasting friendship with those who knew her.


Suzanne Osten’s IMDB page https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0652305/


Transcript (from zoom) for this episode IIC Episde 62


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]]> In this special episode of It Is Complicated, we remember Suzanne Osten, who died on the 24th October 2024 


This interview was recorded a year ago, we are releasing it now as a tribute to her. We do have a backlog of episodes, this one felt important to put out first. 


Josephine met Suzanne in 2005 after Suzanne saw one of her performances and invited her to be in an opera, even though neither of them had experience in being in, or directing an opera. 


Suzanne’s adventurous spirit and willingness to try new things left a lasting impression on Josephine, and you can hear in the conversation how Suzanne was a force of nature—creative, chaotic, and always up for a challenge. 


This episode celebrates Suzanne’s incredible impact on the art world and her lasting friendship with those who knew her.


Suzanne Osten’s IMDB page https://www.imdb.com/name/nm0652305/


Transcript (from zoom) for this episode IIC Episde 62


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> It is complicated Episode 61 - Queer Voices - CN Lester - Working is complicated It is complicated Episode 61 - Queer Voices - CN Lester - Working is complicated Fri, 28 Jun 2024 11:30:42 GMT 1:11:44 667dbaa8fad4724cde5e42fc true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/it-is-complicated-episode-61-queer-voices-cn-lester-working- 667dbaa8fad4724cde5e42fc 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 it-is-complicated-episode-61-queer-voices-cn-lester-working- We always have portfolio careers full 1 61 Dr J, Josephine and CN Lester discuss their multi-hyphenate, portfolio working lives. Even for those with salaried jobs, there is always the side gig (or two or three) and projects. 


Performers, academics, scientists, consultants, photographers, authors - there is not a single role that defines them.


This was recorded in March 2023 - since then - Josephine's book is available at Where it all started Novel , and CN Lester short story is out in the anthology Furies: Stories of the Wicked, Wild and Untamed - Dr J is still writing their first book proposal


https://whereitallstartednovel.com/

https://burleyfisherbooks.com/products/9780349017167

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]]> Dr J, Josephine and CN Lester discuss their multi-hyphenate, portfolio working lives. Even for those with salaried jobs, there is always the side gig (or two or three) and projects. 


Performers, academics, scientists, consultants, photographers, authors - there is not a single role that defines them.


This was recorded in March 2023 - since then - Josephine's book is available at Where it all started Novel , and CN Lester short story is out in the anthology Furies: Stories of the Wicked, Wild and Untamed - Dr J is still writing their first book proposal


https://whereitallstartednovel.com/

https://burleyfisherbooks.com/products/9780349017167

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]]> Pressure is complicated Pressure is complicated Mon, 11 Mar 2024 19:58:58 GMT 57:55 65ef628228cb6000168520ff true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/pressure-is-complicated 65ef628228cb6000168520ff 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 pressure-is-complicated and we come with a content warning full 1 60 This episode comes with a content warning - it is dark! Some of the darker places ended up on the cutting room floor, and it is still dark. Be safe when you listen to this.


An apology to Brianna Ghey and her family. Dr J managed to mispronounce their surname all the way through. We picked this up in the final edit. 


In this episode we tackle the level of transphobia that is now so entrenched in our society that people with privilege can make a jibe about it within parliament. 


We talk about the impact of this upon us personally, and as a group. 


We do our best to bring our usual sense, humour and compassion to this conversation. We approach the impacts and arrive at a resolution.


It is by advocacy for ourselves and others like us, that we can get through this.


We also end up with an usual Breathtaking rant from Dr J - who has a Billy Joel obsession going on right now, as well the Muppets - Tenderly!


Muppets - Dr Teeth & the electric mayhem - Tenderly


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 60 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated - your subscriptions help us pay our guests for their time


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you - or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform

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]]> This episode comes with a content warning - it is dark! Some of the darker places ended up on the cutting room floor, and it is still dark. Be safe when you listen to this.


An apology to Brianna Ghey and her family. Dr J managed to mispronounce their surname all the way through. We picked this up in the final edit. 


In this episode we tackle the level of transphobia that is now so entrenched in our society that people with privilege can make a jibe about it within parliament. 


We talk about the impact of this upon us personally, and as a group. 


We do our best to bring our usual sense, humour and compassion to this conversation. We approach the impacts and arrive at a resolution.


It is by advocacy for ourselves and others like us, that we can get through this.


We also end up with an usual Breathtaking rant from Dr J - who has a Billy Joel obsession going on right now, as well the Muppets - Tenderly!


Muppets - Dr Teeth & the electric mayhem - Tenderly


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 60 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated - your subscriptions help us pay our guests for their time


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you - or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform

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]]> Queer Voices - Samantha Béart - Performing is complicated Queer Voices - Samantha Béart - Performing is complicated Wed, 06 Dec 2023 23:39:32 GMT 1:21:38 65708e07ffda88001257fd82 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-voices-samantha-beart-performing-is-complicated 65708e07ffda88001257fd82 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-voices-samantha-beart-performing-is-complicated And a place we explore full 1 59 In the fifth in our Queer Voices series we talk with Samantha Béart, actor, currently known for playing Karlach in Baldur’s Gate 3. We talked about how games and performances and performing in and for games, allowed us to explore, examine and find ourselves.


We get into the ways games have allowed us to understand the world and ourselves, the joy of the “Fuck around and Find out” nature of some games, how trauma can be understood within a game. How games can take us deeper and into places we didn’t expect allowing us to explore and have positive experiences. There are some gigantic nerd theory moments.


Links we talk about:

Where it all started: https://whereitallstartednovel.com/

Paragraph 175 - film about homosexuality in German controlled regions in WW2: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paragraph_175_(film)

The Ukie census of the Games Industry - https://ukie.org.uk/UK-games-industry-census-2020

Karlach isn't a good girl blog post - https://www.tumblr.com/sailorgundam308/731617898834034688/karlach-isnt-a-good-girl

From Queer to Eternity podcast - https://play.acast.com/s/from-queer-to-eternity/samanthabeart - which is almost 'Part 1' of this conversation


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 59 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you about routine.

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]]> In the fifth in our Queer Voices series we talk with Samantha Béart, actor, currently known for playing Karlach in Baldur’s Gate 3. We talked about how games and performances and performing in and for games, allowed us to explore, examine and find ourselves.


We get into the ways games have allowed us to understand the world and ourselves, the joy of the “Fuck around and Find out” nature of some games, how trauma can be understood within a game. How games can take us deeper and into places we didn’t expect allowing us to explore and have positive experiences. There are some gigantic nerd theory moments.


Links we talk about:

Where it all started: https://whereitallstartednovel.com/

Paragraph 175 - film about homosexuality in German controlled regions in WW2: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paragraph_175_(film)

The Ukie census of the Games Industry - https://ukie.org.uk/UK-games-industry-census-2020

Karlach isn't a good girl blog post - https://www.tumblr.com/sailorgundam308/731617898834034688/karlach-isnt-a-good-girl

From Queer to Eternity podcast - https://play.acast.com/s/from-queer-to-eternity/samanthabeart - which is almost 'Part 1' of this conversation


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 59 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you about routine.

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]]> Queer Voices - Laura Kate Dale - Is joy complicated? Queer Voices - Laura Kate Dale - Is joy complicated? Fri, 27 Oct 2023 12:05:24 GMT 49:51 653af0c3238f6100125a333c true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-voices-laura-kate-dale 653af0c3238f6100125a333c 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-voices-laura-kate-dale Or is found in the small things full 1 58 In the fourth in our Queer Voices series we talk with Laura Kate Dale, games journalist, author, and accessibility consultant. We started on how some of our narratives are routed in negativity, and how that can be turned into talking about Joy and Euphoria, small or large.


This leads into us talking about how the little things can fight back against the system every day, challenging how we see our own lives. We can overlook the small joys, taking them for granted, ignoring the heart sing moments. We can be proud of ourselves in the small moments and in the big moments, and we have our narratives that are outside of the normative view of the world.


Our special interests this week are trains, train data, weddings and Baldurs Gate 3. 


Find Laura Kate Dale here: https://laurakbuzz.com/

Get Stories of Autistic Joy here: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/stories-of-autistic-joy-laura-kate-dale/7460206?ean=9781839978098 in the UK and https://us.jkp.com/products/stories-of-autistic-joy for other countries


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 58 Transcript


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Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you about routine.

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]]> In the fourth in our Queer Voices series we talk with Laura Kate Dale, games journalist, author, and accessibility consultant. We started on how some of our narratives are routed in negativity, and how that can be turned into talking about Joy and Euphoria, small or large.


This leads into us talking about how the little things can fight back against the system every day, challenging how we see our own lives. We can overlook the small joys, taking them for granted, ignoring the heart sing moments. We can be proud of ourselves in the small moments and in the big moments, and we have our narratives that are outside of the normative view of the world.


Our special interests this week are trains, train data, weddings and Baldurs Gate 3. 


Find Laura Kate Dale here: https://laurakbuzz.com/

Get Stories of Autistic Joy here: https://uk.bookshop.org/p/books/stories-of-autistic-joy-laura-kate-dale/7460206?ean=9781839978098 in the UK and https://us.jkp.com/products/stories-of-autistic-joy for other countries


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 58 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you about routine.

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]]> Queer Voices - Rosie Garland - Routine is complicated Queer Voices - Rosie Garland - Routine is complicated Mon, 18 Sep 2023 10:24:46 GMT 1:10:13 65075287cb582e001181a9fe true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-voices-rosie-garland-routine-is-complicated 65075287cb582e001181a9fe 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-voices-rosie-garland-routine-is-complicated Sometimes routine feeds and nourishes us full 1 57 In the third in our Queer Voices series we talk with novelist, poet and performer Rosie Garland. We set off talking about what we all have on (and sadly some of the opportunities to see Rosie are now in the past due to our slowness to release this due to 2023). We talk about performing and writing.


We move onto what feeds us, the activities that we do every day, or maybe only sometimes, that feed our souls and hearts and minds. They keep us going, the routines that are concrete and quantifiable things we do.


When we are busy, when we are doing “too much`’, when we do it right, we are doing things that feed us and make us feel as ourselves and help us carry on. What feeds our souls is important and necessary.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 57 Transcript


Rosie Garland - http://www.rosiegarland.com/


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you about your use of routine.

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]]> In the third in our Queer Voices series we talk with novelist, poet and performer Rosie Garland. We set off talking about what we all have on (and sadly some of the opportunities to see Rosie are now in the past due to our slowness to release this due to 2023). We talk about performing and writing.


We move onto what feeds us, the activities that we do every day, or maybe only sometimes, that feed our souls and hearts and minds. They keep us going, the routines that are concrete and quantifiable things we do.


When we are busy, when we are doing “too much`’, when we do it right, we are doing things that feed us and make us feel as ourselves and help us carry on. What feeds our souls is important and necessary.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 57 Transcript


Rosie Garland - http://www.rosiegarland.com/


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - get in touch on Patreon as social media is a trash fire - we’d love to connect with you about your use of routine.

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]]> Complicated more than usual Complicated more than usual Mon, 17 Jul 2023 14:23:52 GMT 44:04 64b4599f4e9feb0011ef2449 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/complicated-more-than-usual-dr-j-at-work 64b4599f4e9feb0011ef2449 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 complicated-more-than-usual-dr-j-at-work Where we learn what Dr J does for work full This is a special episode where we have Dr J on the Mind the Product podcast - https://www.mindtheproduct.com/business-analysts-in-product-dr-j-harrison/ 


Dr J also talks about 2023 and why they haven’t had a chance to watch any Keanu Reeves recenlty


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special Complicated Complicated Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - Our Mastodon - https://ohai.social/@itiscomplicated- or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform - We are both on Insta - https://www.instagram.com/drjharrison/ and https://www.instagram.com/josephineabaird/  or find Dr J on Threads - https://www.threads.net/@drjharrison

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]]> This is a special episode where we have Dr J on the Mind the Product podcast - https://www.mindtheproduct.com/business-analysts-in-product-dr-j-harrison/ 


Dr J also talks about 2023 and why they haven’t had a chance to watch any Keanu Reeves recenlty


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special Complicated Complicated Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - Our Mastodon - https://ohai.social/@itiscomplicated- or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform - We are both on Insta - https://www.instagram.com/drjharrison/ and https://www.instagram.com/josephineabaird/  or find Dr J on Threads - https://www.threads.net/@drjharrison

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]]> Safe is complicated Safe is complicated Fri, 31 Mar 2023 10:35:04 GMT 47:22 64262ac36f707e00119b1512 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/safe-is-complicated 64262ac36f707e00119b1512 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 safe-is-complicated being here less so full 1 56 Released on Trans Day Of Visibility.


This episode we talk about the way you can tell if a space is safe, the flags we see, both green and red, how they can co-exist, and that we can spot duplicity and performative actions. 


We also talk about being here - for each other. That simple notion of being here, as someone to talk to, as someone to step up, as someone who takes the blows so you don’t. 


Our being here is winning, we are hope, bruised and bloodied, running back into the battle!


That video from Matt Ricardo - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=637OvuxB_bY&t=3s&ab_channel=MatRicardo


Correction - Dr J thinks Richard Grint played Ron Weasley, we all know it's Rupert Grint.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 56 Transcript


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]]> Released on Trans Day Of Visibility.


This episode we talk about the way you can tell if a space is safe, the flags we see, both green and red, how they can co-exist, and that we can spot duplicity and performative actions. 


We also talk about being here - for each other. That simple notion of being here, as someone to talk to, as someone to step up, as someone who takes the blows so you don’t. 


Our being here is winning, we are hope, bruised and bloodied, running back into the battle!


That video from Matt Ricardo - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=637OvuxB_bY&t=3s&ab_channel=MatRicardo


Correction - Dr J thinks Richard Grint played Ron Weasley, we all know it's Rupert Grint.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 56 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re left twitter - we are sometimes on Mastodon - https://ohai.social/@itiscomplicated- or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform

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]]> Queer Voices - Dr Joe Parslow - Breathing together is complicated Queer Voices - Dr Joe Parslow - Breathing together is complicated Tue, 31 Jan 2023 10:41:40 GMT 1:01:09 63d82b9060521f0011d8c511 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-voices-dr-joe-parslow-breathing-together-is-complicate 63d82b9060521f0011d8c511 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-voices-dr-joe-parslow-breathing-together-is-complicate full 1 55 In the second in our Queer Voices series we talk with Dr Joe Parslow -  Lecturer in Popular and Queer Performance and Hashtag Doctor Husband Boyfriend Joe - about drag and queer performance, breathing and togetherness - and the complications around making space and getting to breathe in those spaces. 


The queer notion of breathing together, coming together, and aspiration. Reflecting energy between the performers and the audience. How this connects us all in the space.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 55 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - and Mastodon - https://ohai.social/@itiscomplicated- or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform

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]]> In the second in our Queer Voices series we talk with Dr Joe Parslow -  Lecturer in Popular and Queer Performance and Hashtag Doctor Husband Boyfriend Joe - about drag and queer performance, breathing and togetherness - and the complications around making space and getting to breathe in those spaces. 


The queer notion of breathing together, coming together, and aspiration. Reflecting energy between the performers and the audience. How this connects us all in the space.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 55 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - and Mastodon - https://ohai.social/@itiscomplicated- or leave us a rating or a review on your favourite podcast platform

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]]> eNBy City - being on a panel is not a binary eNBy City - being on a panel is not a binary Tue, 24 Jan 2023 18:04:23 GMT 31:50 63d01ce8d3d4c600101a48bd true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/enby-city-being-on-a-panel-is-not-a-binary 63d01ce8d3d4c600101a48bd 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 enby-city-being-on-a-panel-is-not-a-binary we get into new words and ideas full This is a special episode of a panel discussion recorded at eNBy City with Dr J, malakai, Haz and Lilly. We are talking to a room of mostly students. 


The event focussed on Queer Joy.


This is the third part of a three part recording.


We have done our best with the recording to clean up the sound during this last part of the panel discussion.


This was recorded for the Hear & Queer Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@hearqueer5656 


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special 3 eNBy City Transcript


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]]> This is a special episode of a panel discussion recorded at eNBy City with Dr J, malakai, Haz and Lilly. We are talking to a room of mostly students. 


The event focussed on Queer Joy.


This is the third part of a three part recording.


We have done our best with the recording to clean up the sound during this last part of the panel discussion.


This was recorded for the Hear & Queer Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@hearqueer5656 


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special 3 eNBy City Transcript


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]]> eNBy City - being on a panel has multiple parts eNBy City - being on a panel has multiple parts Sun, 08 Jan 2023 15:52:40 GMT 28:58 63bae6c88d926b0011e7ef2d true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/enby-city-being-on-a-panel-has-multiple-parts 63bae6c88d926b0011e7ef2d 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 enby-city-being-on-a-panel-has-multiple-parts our talk gets a bit deeper full This is a special episode of a panel discussion recorded at eNBy City with Dr J, malakai, Haz and Lilly. We are talking to a room of mostly students. 

 

The event focussed on Queer Joy.

 

This is the second part of a three part recording.

 

Be aware about half way through we pulled the recording equipment apart - and it means the audio quality drops - I’ve done my best to equalise it and improve it - malaki and myself still have a pretty much working mic, Haz, Lilly and the audience have a mic that isn’t working so well

 

This was recorded for the Hear & Queer Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@hearqueer5656 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special 2 eNBy City Transcript

 

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]]> This is a special episode of a panel discussion recorded at eNBy City with Dr J, malakai, Haz and Lilly. We are talking to a room of mostly students. 

 

The event focussed on Queer Joy.

 

This is the second part of a three part recording.

 

Be aware about half way through we pulled the recording equipment apart - and it means the audio quality drops - I’ve done my best to equalise it and improve it - malaki and myself still have a pretty much working mic, Haz, Lilly and the audience have a mic that isn’t working so well

 

This was recorded for the Hear & Queer Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@hearqueer5656 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special 2 eNBy City Transcript

 

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]]> eNBy City - being on a panel is complicated eNBy City - being on a panel is complicated Wed, 04 Jan 2023 19:38:40 GMT 31:07 63b5d5c008aab500113f0a7b true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/enby-city-being-on-a-panel-is-complicated 63b5d5c008aab500113f0a7b 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 enby-city-being-on-a-panel-is-complicated talking with queers is joyful full This is a special episode of a panel discussion recorded at eNBy City with Dr J, malakai, Haz and Lilly. 

 

The event focussed on Queer Joy.

 

This is the first part of a two (or more) part recording.

 

This was recorded for the Hear & Queer Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@hearqueer5656 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special eNBy City Transcript

 

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]]> This is a special episode of a panel discussion recorded at eNBy City with Dr J, malakai, Haz and Lilly. 

 

The event focussed on Queer Joy.

 

This is the first part of a two (or more) part recording.

 

This was recorded for the Hear & Queer Podcast - https://www.youtube.com/@hearqueer5656 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Special eNBy City Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> Ambition is complicated Ambition is complicated Thu, 08 Dec 2022 14:18:27 GMT 1:05:44 638fbfc16e6bd100116e1218 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/ambition-is-complicated 638fbfc16e6bd100116e1218 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 ambition-is-complicated we have some, maybe full 1 54 When asked the question “where do you want to be in ten years?” we break down - why? We spend so much time surviving, how do we then look towards a future? Our futures we see are not chrononormative, and we often step outside of the standard expectations.


How do we see ambition, and its link to opportunity? Can you be ambitious when you can’t believe you can achieve it? What does ambition mean when you always think you won't have another chance to have a job? What does it mean when you have been knocked back consistently?

 

When opportunity is there and we don’t have the drive, or ambition, what does that mean? Is it about our difference? Our lack of linear progression? What does mainstream ambition mean when you’re non-normative? Does being trans and non-binary impact on our desire for mainstream success?

 

How does this impact on us in the workplace? In job interviews? Does a company seeing a place for us make a difference?

 

We then get into the breathtaking nature of Keanu Reeves in Cyberpunk 2077, voice acting, the tall stompy lady, and storytelling in games. We mention:


Cyberpunk 2077

Resident Evil Village

Thomas was alone

Hugwave (from itch.io)

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 54 Transcript

 

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]]> When asked the question “where do you want to be in ten years?” we break down - why? We spend so much time surviving, how do we then look towards a future? Our futures we see are not chrononormative, and we often step outside of the standard expectations.


How do we see ambition, and its link to opportunity? Can you be ambitious when you can’t believe you can achieve it? What does ambition mean when you always think you won't have another chance to have a job? What does it mean when you have been knocked back consistently?

 

When opportunity is there and we don’t have the drive, or ambition, what does that mean? Is it about our difference? Our lack of linear progression? What does mainstream ambition mean when you’re non-normative? Does being trans and non-binary impact on our desire for mainstream success?

 

How does this impact on us in the workplace? In job interviews? Does a company seeing a place for us make a difference?

 

We then get into the breathtaking nature of Keanu Reeves in Cyberpunk 2077, voice acting, the tall stompy lady, and storytelling in games. We mention:


Cyberpunk 2077

Resident Evil Village

Thomas was alone

Hugwave (from itch.io)

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 54 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> Queer Voices - Kate Bornstein - Hope is complicated Queer Voices - Kate Bornstein - Hope is complicated Fri, 28 Oct 2022 09:04:32 GMT 51:03 635af26f7cf277001151de5a true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-voices-kate-bornstein-hope-is-complicated 635af26f7cf277001151de5a 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-voices-kate-bornstein-hope-is-complicated and queer joy simply makes our hearts sing! full 1 53 In the first in our Queer Voices series we talk with queer legend, writer and performer Kate Bornstein. We set off talking about Hope, flow through ideas of gender expression and authenticity, the nature of being authentic. If Hope and Fear are a binary, or can co-exist in a moment.

 

We enter the realms of superheroes and secret identities, why Batman is an Elon Musk wank fantasy, and why Neil Gaiman’s Endless are perfection as a theology to lean into. 

 

We land on queer joy as the connected reflections of our authentic selves, making our hearts sing! Queer joy may also have a Freddie Mercury moustache and a purple leopard print corset and heels!

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 53 Transcript

 

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]]> In the first in our Queer Voices series we talk with queer legend, writer and performer Kate Bornstein. We set off talking about Hope, flow through ideas of gender expression and authenticity, the nature of being authentic. If Hope and Fear are a binary, or can co-exist in a moment.

 

We enter the realms of superheroes and secret identities, why Batman is an Elon Musk wank fantasy, and why Neil Gaiman’s Endless are perfection as a theology to lean into. 

 

We land on queer joy as the connected reflections of our authentic selves, making our hearts sing! Queer joy may also have a Freddie Mercury moustache and a purple leopard print corset and heels!

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 53 Transcript

 

Your Get out of Hell free card GetOutofHellFree.jpeg

 

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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about queer hope and authenticity

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]]> Having a plan is complicated Having a plan is complicated Tue, 06 Sep 2022 20:26:04 GMT 34:42 6317acdc30a52e001251587b true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/having-a-plan-is-complicated 6317acdc30a52e001251587b 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 having-a-plan-is-complicated and we do have one! full 1 52 We’re back in a rare in the room together recording - We touch on the last six months for both of us - covid features prominently, as does fatigue and mental health. 

 

Talking about plans, having one, and ambition, or appearing not to have some. Why we want to keep doing this podcast and what plans we have into 2025.

 

How does it feel to have a three year plan? Well as queers, this is .. complicated.

 

We made 50+ episodes without any real plan - so why do we think we need one?

 

We want to be a “good” podcast - and we talk about what “good” means.

 

The plan then - includes a series called “Queer Voices”.


J explains this in a non-linear musing on “Only an Octave apart” and how Mx Justin Vivian Bond and Anthony Ross Costanzo's voices blend and bring deeper meanings to the songs they duet. 

 

What happens when Queers are given space to give voice and starting to open that conversation and give space for that conversation to talk about what a queer voice is and what it means to have a queer voice and how those queer voices can change some of the meanings of what we're listening to. 

 

We get deeper into this.

 

We end on, as always, the breathtaking nature of Keanu Reeves. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 52 Transcript

 

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]]> We’re back in a rare in the room together recording - We touch on the last six months for both of us - covid features prominently, as does fatigue and mental health. 

 

Talking about plans, having one, and ambition, or appearing not to have some. Why we want to keep doing this podcast and what plans we have into 2025.

 

How does it feel to have a three year plan? Well as queers, this is .. complicated.

 

We made 50+ episodes without any real plan - so why do we think we need one?

 

We want to be a “good” podcast - and we talk about what “good” means.

 

The plan then - includes a series called “Queer Voices”.


J explains this in a non-linear musing on “Only an Octave apart” and how Mx Justin Vivian Bond and Anthony Ross Costanzo's voices blend and bring deeper meanings to the songs they duet. 

 

What happens when Queers are given space to give voice and starting to open that conversation and give space for that conversation to talk about what a queer voice is and what it means to have a queer voice and how those queer voices can change some of the meanings of what we're listening to. 

 

We get deeper into this.

 

We end on, as always, the breathtaking nature of Keanu Reeves. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 52 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> Hearing it is complicated Hearing it is complicated Fri, 20 May 2022 10:08:06 GMT 36:40 6286a3b5357f6d00117e77cb true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/hearing-it-is-complicated 6286a3b5357f6d00117e77cb 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 hearing-it-is-complicated and we can say it for ourselves! full 1 51 Well 2022 has been a right nightmare already!! This time we talk (in Dr J’s case very excitedly) about the words we need to hear and what it means to hear them.

 

Dr J has four things they always wanted to hear - and by saying them to another person - they get to also hear them for themselves:

- I am proud of you

- I love you

- I think you are an amazing person

- I can’t wait to see your brilliant future

 

Josephine reflects what it means to hear these things - especially when you are struggling with recovery from post-covid fatigue and trying to work full time, teaching, write a PhD, have a life with her partner and child, and editing this podcast. Spending all their spare energy worrying about what they have not been able to do they needed to hear that they are worth spending energy on. 

 

We are resilient and powerful and have coping mechanisms that protect us. Our hypercritical voice overwhelms the outside voices and the negative voice grinds you down, and you get exhausted and they gain more power.


Coping mechanisms include shedding the skins of old selves, old ways of coping, and putting these aside and looking at what behaviours we do now. In the past help was not there, and we needed to get through, so we found ways. High standards and hypervigilance got us here, and might not be what gets us through now. 

 

We feel stressed and worried, our brain isolates us further and we forget we are not alone. We loose our connection with external voices and our ability to hear and engage with them. 

 

When we reach out, connect and are heard it is powerful. We start to connect to reality, we heal, and we get into better spaces.


We want to tell you lovely young queers - hey, it sucks, and I’m sorry you have to cope the way you are right now. I really do hope you find yourself in a position where you don’t have to cope with everything. It’s not about you, it’s about the culture and structures you are in, and your response to that is normal and natural. I am very proud of you, I am very excited to see what you do, and you are loved. And you are an amazing person.


Dr J then raves about the wonderful “Hello cruel world” by Kate Bornstein https://g.co/kgs/m2fsSp - and will send you a copy if you need it if you DM them on Twitter.

 

Earnestly expressing this, our want to make the world better for everyone is a good thing. Being there for you and for each other makes us feel really lovely things!


Note: There are some sound issues with Josephine’s recording - we decided the emotional content of the episode was worth putting out even if the sound wasn’t up to our standards.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 51 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> Well 2022 has been a right nightmare already!! This time we talk (in Dr J’s case very excitedly) about the words we need to hear and what it means to hear them.

 

Dr J has four things they always wanted to hear - and by saying them to another person - they get to also hear them for themselves:

- I am proud of you

- I love you

- I think you are an amazing person

- I can’t wait to see your brilliant future

 

Josephine reflects what it means to hear these things - especially when you are struggling with recovery from post-covid fatigue and trying to work full time, teaching, write a PhD, have a life with her partner and child, and editing this podcast. Spending all their spare energy worrying about what they have not been able to do they needed to hear that they are worth spending energy on. 

 

We are resilient and powerful and have coping mechanisms that protect us. Our hypercritical voice overwhelms the outside voices and the negative voice grinds you down, and you get exhausted and they gain more power.


Coping mechanisms include shedding the skins of old selves, old ways of coping, and putting these aside and looking at what behaviours we do now. In the past help was not there, and we needed to get through, so we found ways. High standards and hypervigilance got us here, and might not be what gets us through now. 

 

We feel stressed and worried, our brain isolates us further and we forget we are not alone. We loose our connection with external voices and our ability to hear and engage with them. 

 

When we reach out, connect and are heard it is powerful. We start to connect to reality, we heal, and we get into better spaces.


We want to tell you lovely young queers - hey, it sucks, and I’m sorry you have to cope the way you are right now. I really do hope you find yourself in a position where you don’t have to cope with everything. It’s not about you, it’s about the culture and structures you are in, and your response to that is normal and natural. I am very proud of you, I am very excited to see what you do, and you are loved. And you are an amazing person.


Dr J then raves about the wonderful “Hello cruel world” by Kate Bornstein https://g.co/kgs/m2fsSp - and will send you a copy if you need it if you DM them on Twitter.

 

Earnestly expressing this, our want to make the world better for everyone is a good thing. Being there for you and for each other makes us feel really lovely things!


Note: There are some sound issues with Josephine’s recording - we decided the emotional content of the episode was worth putting out even if the sound wasn’t up to our standards.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 51 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> Making it is complicated Making it is complicated Wed, 20 Apr 2022 16:14:02 GMT 48:01 625ff912588713001323468d true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/making-it-is-complicated 625ff912588713001323468d 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 making-it-is-complicated and we celebrate being here full 1 50 This time we celebrate creating 50 podcast episodes - or 51, or 52 depending on how you count. We are excited about this - and there are moments when Dr J is obviously super excited. Josephine maintains some sort of dignity. 

 

When we started the podcast we were both locked down in our spaces without structure from our day jobs (Dr J was furloughed, Josephine was between work), and 18 months later we are still in the same rooms, having conversations, and quite different lives in some ways.


In others not much has changed. The isolation, exacerbated by our queerness, leaves us reaching out for others like us, and reflections of ourselves in media.


This is why making space, and taking up space, in TikTok, in podcasts, and in the world is so important.


We then move onto a long and excited discussion on Matrix Resurrection - and the breathtaking Keanu Reeves (and Carrie-Ann Moss) and what we thought about the film. 

 

Links: The Matrix Sequels are good, actually - https://youtu.be/M0VnYcMHuDc

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 50 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> This time we celebrate creating 50 podcast episodes - or 51, or 52 depending on how you count. We are excited about this - and there are moments when Dr J is obviously super excited. Josephine maintains some sort of dignity. 

 

When we started the podcast we were both locked down in our spaces without structure from our day jobs (Dr J was furloughed, Josephine was between work), and 18 months later we are still in the same rooms, having conversations, and quite different lives in some ways.


In others not much has changed. The isolation, exacerbated by our queerness, leaves us reaching out for others like us, and reflections of ourselves in media.


This is why making space, and taking up space, in TikTok, in podcasts, and in the world is so important.


We then move onto a long and excited discussion on Matrix Resurrection - and the breathtaking Keanu Reeves (and Carrie-Ann Moss) and what we thought about the film. 

 

Links: The Matrix Sequels are good, actually - https://youtu.be/M0VnYcMHuDc

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 50 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> Taking up space is complicated Taking up space is complicated Wed, 15 Dec 2021 18:02:18 GMT 39:51 61ba23abddb0de0019ab9444 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/taking-up-space-is-complicated 61ba23abddb0de0019ab9444 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 taking-up-space-is-complicated being present takes it out of us full 1 49 Being in the room and taking up space is difficult. It takes a lifetime to believe that we should be in *this* room having *this* conversation, having self faith, self belief and humility is a challenge. Saying “I am here” is the hardest thing.


It is simply correct that it is this way - I am here is sufficient. It is right that I am included. 

 

Lack of self belief is a structural problem - there are those (Cis white men with a posh accent) who are assumed to belong, speak, take up space. It is not everyone who gets included by default. We are read when we go into those environments, how you walk in, how you talk, is all used to make judgments about the value placed on your words. 

 

“I am here, I am present, I am listening” - I am taking up space - how you read me, how you react to my presence in this space has nothing to do with me. That is a huge mind shift, removing that apology, those moments of dissonance, which reduce ourselves in the presence of structure.


Josephine goes on a rant/reflection from a talk on glamour from the Knutepunkt conference from Erik Winther Paisley (@ewpaisley) - which drives us into talking about how we can use the skills we have to boost our confidence and our feeling of correctness when we are here. 

 

We talk about the things we do to build that belief in ourselves that it is correct we are here. We share our tactics and how we build each other and ourselves up.


We also talk about how breathtaking Keanu Reeves is and why J has watched the Matrix Resurrections trailer many many times. Josephine presses “X” to doubt. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 49 Transcript

 

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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> Being in the room and taking up space is difficult. It takes a lifetime to believe that we should be in *this* room having *this* conversation, having self faith, self belief and humility is a challenge. Saying “I am here” is the hardest thing.


It is simply correct that it is this way - I am here is sufficient. It is right that I am included. 

 

Lack of self belief is a structural problem - there are those (Cis white men with a posh accent) who are assumed to belong, speak, take up space. It is not everyone who gets included by default. We are read when we go into those environments, how you walk in, how you talk, is all used to make judgments about the value placed on your words. 

 

“I am here, I am present, I am listening” - I am taking up space - how you read me, how you react to my presence in this space has nothing to do with me. That is a huge mind shift, removing that apology, those moments of dissonance, which reduce ourselves in the presence of structure.


Josephine goes on a rant/reflection from a talk on glamour from the Knutepunkt conference from Erik Winther Paisley (@ewpaisley) - which drives us into talking about how we can use the skills we have to boost our confidence and our feeling of correctness when we are here. 

 

We talk about the things we do to build that belief in ourselves that it is correct we are here. We share our tactics and how we build each other and ourselves up.


We also talk about how breathtaking Keanu Reeves is and why J has watched the Matrix Resurrections trailer many many times. Josephine presses “X” to doubt. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 49 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being present.

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]]> Performance is complicated Performance is complicated Wed, 06 Oct 2021 16:35:14 GMT 35:25 615dc237d4831a001644ac18 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/performance-is-complicated 615dc237d4831a001644ac18 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 performance-is-complicated it changes your life! full 1 48 Performance changes your life, it changes how you think about things, it changes how you feel about yourself. 

 

This is a favourite theory of Dr J’s, and in our case it is true. We met over performance, we found ourselves and identity through performance, and we find ourselves and our experiences reflected in performance. 

 

We tell the tale of workshopping J’s gender identity, and how that came about. How performance built on ideas and conversations, allowing an identity to form.


We talk about the way characters are built (if we like to perform them) and why we sometimes are a character and sometimes not. 

 

We discover there are times when a performance reflects back a view of themselves to the audience, and you get this amazing, near spiritual moment of psychosocial experience within the room. 

 

We also talk about how breathtaking Keanu Reeves is in a particularly dreadful film - River’s Edge - and Content Warning - cover the plot and how that is still sadly reflective of society today.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 48 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about performance.

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]]> Performance changes your life, it changes how you think about things, it changes how you feel about yourself. 

 

This is a favourite theory of Dr J’s, and in our case it is true. We met over performance, we found ourselves and identity through performance, and we find ourselves and our experiences reflected in performance. 

 

We tell the tale of workshopping J’s gender identity, and how that came about. How performance built on ideas and conversations, allowing an identity to form.


We talk about the way characters are built (if we like to perform them) and why we sometimes are a character and sometimes not. 

 

We discover there are times when a performance reflects back a view of themselves to the audience, and you get this amazing, near spiritual moment of psychosocial experience within the room. 

 

We also talk about how breathtaking Keanu Reeves is in a particularly dreadful film - River’s Edge - and Content Warning - cover the plot and how that is still sadly reflective of society today.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 48 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about performance.

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]]> Scheduling a podcast is complicated Scheduling a podcast is complicated Wed, 15 Sep 2021 09:24:27 GMT 37:25 6140de7e2527ca00124503ca true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/scheduling-a-podcast-is-complicated 6140de7e2527ca00124503ca 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 scheduling-a-podcast-is-complicated meanwhile Keanu Reeves is Breathtaking full 1 47 This week we cover two topics - Working full time and creating a podcast, and the movie Constantine starring Keanu Reeves. 

We have gone from a time when we had less restrictions on our time (lockdown, combined with furlough/unemployment was good for podcasting) and we both now have very full on full time jobs, one of us has a partner, and a child they want to spend time with, the other has houseplants. We both have mental health to take care of (does this year ever give up throwing shite around?), and like to spend some time for ourselves.

 

We are making a great podcast - we’ve created a brilliant thing here and want to find a sustainable way to keep doing this. We want this podcast to continue to be high quality, in content and in sound quality. 


So we have decided to go for a twice a month podcast release. This we believe is sustainable and gives us time for life and self care and great podcasting. 

 

We recorded this discussion - so we are reminded when we are at our lowest, that this isn’t personal, it is systemic, our reactions is personal - and this is a good decision for us.

 

It also means J get’s time to watch movies - and is currently re-watching all of Keanu Reeve’s output. 

 

They recently saw Constantine - and have some … feelings … about the movie. Just how much? There’s a 15 minute rant about the movie, and this is the abbreviated version. While Keanu is breathtaking there is some … cognitive dissonance… for someone who is a fan of the Jamie Delano Hellblazer stories and what they tell us about Good and Evil and life and politics. This gets a little loud at times.


As always we launch into ideas - the banality of good and evil and the notions of redemption - how we can make a more equal society.


Tldr; Constantine terrible movie, great conversation

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 47 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> This week we cover two topics - Working full time and creating a podcast, and the movie Constantine starring Keanu Reeves. 

We have gone from a time when we had less restrictions on our time (lockdown, combined with furlough/unemployment was good for podcasting) and we both now have very full on full time jobs, one of us has a partner, and a child they want to spend time with, the other has houseplants. We both have mental health to take care of (does this year ever give up throwing shite around?), and like to spend some time for ourselves.

 

We are making a great podcast - we’ve created a brilliant thing here and want to find a sustainable way to keep doing this. We want this podcast to continue to be high quality, in content and in sound quality. 


So we have decided to go for a twice a month podcast release. This we believe is sustainable and gives us time for life and self care and great podcasting. 

 

We recorded this discussion - so we are reminded when we are at our lowest, that this isn’t personal, it is systemic, our reactions is personal - and this is a good decision for us.

 

It also means J get’s time to watch movies - and is currently re-watching all of Keanu Reeve’s output. 

 

They recently saw Constantine - and have some … feelings … about the movie. Just how much? There’s a 15 minute rant about the movie, and this is the abbreviated version. While Keanu is breathtaking there is some … cognitive dissonance… for someone who is a fan of the Jamie Delano Hellblazer stories and what they tell us about Good and Evil and life and politics. This gets a little loud at times.


As always we launch into ideas - the banality of good and evil and the notions of redemption - how we can make a more equal society.


Tldr; Constantine terrible movie, great conversation

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 47 Transcript


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about scheduling and Constantine the movie

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]]> Working from home is complicated Working from home is complicated Sun, 15 Aug 2021 12:26:32 GMT 44:10 6116ab5a7d6cb90012d11353 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/working-from-home-is-complicated 6116ab5a7d6cb90012d11353 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 working-from-home-is-complicated Desks are liminal spaces full 1 46 Based on a listener request for a discussion on working from home in the current culture environment from a perspective that is not a middle class straight white cis man - we touch on the advantages we have as queers that’s made this easier, and what advantages that others within our community might not have. 

 

We cover the way work has changed, and how output in academia has increased but only by men (are you surprised? We weren’t). Having more than one job is normal for most minority groups, including women. Housework and childcare is work, and who does it makes a difference.

 

Work is not just the day job, it’s also the side hustle, the fun job, the extra things we do (like podcasts) - and that impacts our space. Does work become a liminal notion mixing public and private spaces?


How much more inclusive have we been able to be? We both have the huge advantage of having work that can be done remotely, and our experience is not universal. Is a commute and an office still desired? Are we building a huge technological divide.

 

Tackling this through a queer, non-normative, lens shows the advantages and disadvantages that impact us all. There is no “normal” office to return to.

 

We have a transcript for this episode -IIC Episode 46 Transcript 

 

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]]> Based on a listener request for a discussion on working from home in the current culture environment from a perspective that is not a middle class straight white cis man - we touch on the advantages we have as queers that’s made this easier, and what advantages that others within our community might not have. 

 

We cover the way work has changed, and how output in academia has increased but only by men (are you surprised? We weren’t). Having more than one job is normal for most minority groups, including women. Housework and childcare is work, and who does it makes a difference.

 

Work is not just the day job, it’s also the side hustle, the fun job, the extra things we do (like podcasts) - and that impacts our space. Does work become a liminal notion mixing public and private spaces?


How much more inclusive have we been able to be? We both have the huge advantage of having work that can be done remotely, and our experience is not universal. Is a commute and an office still desired? Are we building a huge technological divide.

 

Tackling this through a queer, non-normative, lens shows the advantages and disadvantages that impact us all. There is no “normal” office to return to.

 

We have a transcript for this episode -IIC Episode 46 Transcript 

 

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]]> Etiquette is complicated Etiquette is complicated Tue, 27 Jul 2021 16:12:56 GMT 38:57 61002914d9f77c0012134e5d true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/etiquette-is-complicated 61002914d9f77c0012134e5d 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 etiquette-is-complicated What is respect and what are we hiding behind our politeness? full 1 45 How did covid change how we do this politeness thing? Is there queer etiquette? What happens when we rub against people’s expectations when we state our boundaries?

 

Is our queer etiquette a reaction to the hypocrisy of the middle-class “polite”? How can we be respectful, equitable, and inclusive? What is the height of “good manners”? Is making people comfortable where we should be aiming? Is respect where this aims for?

 

We touch on how crossing countries can mean crossing class, and how that can change how we are read, and how we can be masked, and unmasked. Some of it we learn, some of it we gain as an advantage without any effort. 

 

When we approach this playfully and performatively is this our “sweet spot”? 


It might not actually be that complicated - Be Kind, Be respectful, and use Lovely.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 45 Transcript

 

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]]> How did covid change how we do this politeness thing? Is there queer etiquette? What happens when we rub against people’s expectations when we state our boundaries?

 

Is our queer etiquette a reaction to the hypocrisy of the middle-class “polite”? How can we be respectful, equitable, and inclusive? What is the height of “good manners”? Is making people comfortable where we should be aiming? Is respect where this aims for?

 

We touch on how crossing countries can mean crossing class, and how that can change how we are read, and how we can be masked, and unmasked. Some of it we learn, some of it we gain as an advantage without any effort. 

 

When we approach this playfully and performatively is this our “sweet spot”? 


It might not actually be that complicated - Be Kind, Be respectful, and use Lovely.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 45 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about etiquette.

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]]> Allies are complicated Allies are complicated Mon, 12 Jul 2021 14:30:01 GMT 38:21 60e76e8488b69a001452e962 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/allies-are-complicated 60e76e8488b69a001452e962 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 allies-are-complicated When it is performative and when is it solidarity? full 1 44 Recorded during Pride Month, when everything has a rainbow slapped on it, what is allyship? When is it performative? What is the context that Allyship can happen within?


When does the allyship have an investment? When is it solidarity? When will people stand between their LGBTQ+ employees and harm?


How can we tell the difference? Is there a macro level and a micro level set of actions? Can we always tell which it is? Seeing our sense of self used as a marketing tool by some can be soul destroying.

 

It is about having a solidarity mindset, putting the investment in - and we can tell. Have more than Diversity/Equity/Inclusion group make a comment. Queers are for everyday and not just for gay Christmas.


Dr J’s writing about their experience with Thoughtworks - “I am here” is one of the most profound statements that can be made around Pride

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 44 Transcript

 

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]]> Recorded during Pride Month, when everything has a rainbow slapped on it, what is allyship? When is it performative? What is the context that Allyship can happen within?


When does the allyship have an investment? When is it solidarity? When will people stand between their LGBTQ+ employees and harm?


How can we tell the difference? Is there a macro level and a micro level set of actions? Can we always tell which it is? Seeing our sense of self used as a marketing tool by some can be soul destroying.

 

It is about having a solidarity mindset, putting the investment in - and we can tell. Have more than Diversity/Equity/Inclusion group make a comment. Queers are for everyday and not just for gay Christmas.


Dr J’s writing about their experience with Thoughtworks - “I am here” is one of the most profound statements that can be made around Pride

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 44 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about what upbeat can feel like.

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]]> Being upbeat is complicated Being upbeat is complicated Tue, 08 Jun 2021 16:57:04 GMT 38:11 60bf6986e9f6d3001a9107b4 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-upbeat-is-complicated 60bf6986e9f6d3001a9107b4 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-upbeat-is-complicated When is the smiling face a mask? full 1 43 Being upbeat is complicated - when is the smiling face a mask?

 

In the face of a continuing pandemic and life doing it’s worst, we discuss being upbeat, having humour about the situation. How do we engage in a non-cynical way when we have this rolling anger underneath it all?


Is our humour and positivity good for us, and for those around us? Should we let our anger show more clearly? We are angry and positive at the same time. Is our optimism in spite of it all a sign of us being non-normative?


It is OK to be positive. It is OK not to be OK. It is OK to be angry. It is OK to imagine a world where we queers are winning as the glittery cockroaches we are! It is OK to have all of these at the same time!


Anger can be ridiculous. How can we use kindness and positivity when we react against the anger and frustration, and look at how we can change the world for the better?


Being queer can be detrimental to your well being and there are some days “when you just can’t”. There should be no pressure to be happy or positive. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 43 Transcript

 

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]]> Being upbeat is complicated - when is the smiling face a mask?

 

In the face of a continuing pandemic and life doing it’s worst, we discuss being upbeat, having humour about the situation. How do we engage in a non-cynical way when we have this rolling anger underneath it all?


Is our humour and positivity good for us, and for those around us? Should we let our anger show more clearly? We are angry and positive at the same time. Is our optimism in spite of it all a sign of us being non-normative?


It is OK to be positive. It is OK not to be OK. It is OK to be angry. It is OK to imagine a world where we queers are winning as the glittery cockroaches we are! It is OK to have all of these at the same time!


Anger can be ridiculous. How can we use kindness and positivity when we react against the anger and frustration, and look at how we can change the world for the better?


Being queer can be detrimental to your well being and there are some days “when you just can’t”. There should be no pressure to be happy or positive. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 43 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about what being upbeat can feel like.

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]]> Lockdown easing is complicated Lockdown easing is complicated Tue, 04 May 2021 16:01:56 GMT 30:44 609129accbde607346c0ce1b true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/lockdown-easing-is-complicated 609129accbde607346c0ce1b 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 lockdown-easing-is-complicated What is this normal we will return to? full 1 42 Lockdown easing is complicated - what is this normal we will return to?

 

One of us has had a second vaccine and can stop shielding - and now we can think about what this means for us and how this is impacting on our mental health. 

 

It is more complicated than you’d first think - when we talk about “returning to normal” what does that mean when “normal” wasn’t a good place for us? What social inequalities are highlighted in this conversation - who are we ignoring in our “return to normal” conversation? 

 

How can we tackle the capitalist hegemony? What superpowers do we have as queers that make us special, that make us able to see the world differently and able to challenge the “normal”. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 42 Transcript

 

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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about what lockdown easing means for you.

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]]> Lockdown easing is complicated - what is this normal we will return to?

 

One of us has had a second vaccine and can stop shielding - and now we can think about what this means for us and how this is impacting on our mental health. 

 

It is more complicated than you’d first think - when we talk about “returning to normal” what does that mean when “normal” wasn’t a good place for us? What social inequalities are highlighted in this conversation - who are we ignoring in our “return to normal” conversation? 

 

How can we tackle the capitalist hegemony? What superpowers do we have as queers that make us special, that make us able to see the world differently and able to challenge the “normal”. 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 42 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about what lockdown easing means for you.

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]]> Imposter Syndrome is complicated Imposter Syndrome is complicated Tue, 20 Apr 2021 17:07:41 GMT 38:41 607ed298ab544679fd49bdb7 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/imposter-syndrome-is-complicated 607ed298ab544679fd49bdb7 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 imposter-syndrome-is-complicated If I had cis white straight man confidence I would.. full 1 41 Imposter Syndrome is complicated - if I had cis white straight man confidence I would..

 

We talk about the impact of imposter syndrome on queers. The extra layers that we deal with at times - when you’ve been told by a culture that you’re not good enough, that you’re somewhat suspect - how do we start to enter more normative spaces?

 

We give examples of how we overcome this when we face it - and how we fail to overcome it on our own - how we can get ourselves into establishment spaces. We talk about how it is something that we can bring Allies/Accomplices along to help us with.


Even when we are the experts in the room, we fear so much being seen as arrogant when we are assertive, when we state our reality, when we challenge the status quo, that we doubt if we should be there. That self doubt means we reduce ourselves, we apologise, and mask our efforts. 

 

You can listen to Josephine try and get Dr J to have confidence in real time, and reflect how messed up the world is that we struggle to have confidence.  How can we develop that “This is me, and that’s OK” confidence?


For the record:

Josephine Baird is a PhD applicant, and a lecturer in Game Design at the University of Uppsala - and is an expert on Trans representation and story telling in games. 

 

Dr J has a PhD in Immunology, works as a Service Designer/Business Analyst at ThoughtWorks, is a TEDx speaker, and is an expert on building inclusive teams that deliver.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 41 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> Imposter Syndrome is complicated - if I had cis white straight man confidence I would..

 

We talk about the impact of imposter syndrome on queers. The extra layers that we deal with at times - when you’ve been told by a culture that you’re not good enough, that you’re somewhat suspect - how do we start to enter more normative spaces?

 

We give examples of how we overcome this when we face it - and how we fail to overcome it on our own - how we can get ourselves into establishment spaces. We talk about how it is something that we can bring Allies/Accomplices along to help us with.


Even when we are the experts in the room, we fear so much being seen as arrogant when we are assertive, when we state our reality, when we challenge the status quo, that we doubt if we should be there. That self doubt means we reduce ourselves, we apologise, and mask our efforts. 

 

You can listen to Josephine try and get Dr J to have confidence in real time, and reflect how messed up the world is that we struggle to have confidence.  How can we develop that “This is me, and that’s OK” confidence?


For the record:

Josephine Baird is a PhD applicant, and a lecturer in Game Design at the University of Uppsala - and is an expert on Trans representation and story telling in games. 

 

Dr J has a PhD in Immunology, works as a Service Designer/Business Analyst at ThoughtWorks, is a TEDx speaker, and is an expert on building inclusive teams that deliver.

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 41 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about what you would do if you had cis white straight man confidence.

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]]> Being visible is complicated Being visible is complicated Mon, 12 Apr 2021 17:03:33 GMT 32:58 60747d6568784912b771d735 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-visible-is-complicated 60747d6568784912b771d735 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-visible-is-complicated Positive visibility matters full 1 40 Being visible is complicated - Positive visibility matters.

 

For Trans Day of Visibility we decided to do an episode on why we are visible. Dr J celebrates a ten year anniversary of being out publicly as non-binary in their workspaces. What it means to be visible in spaces where we are celebrated and how that impacts on us, and people who see us. What it feels like to have your face plastered all over the Stockholm Subway, and what’s changed in the past ten years.

 

We celebrate having Social Media timelines full of smiling visible Trans and Non-Binary people on TDOV and how that feels to see the breadth of our experience represented. 

 

What it means in workspaces to feel that inclusivity - where you’re made to feel comfortable - when you don’t have to worry about bringing all of yourself to work.


Positive visibility matters, to those who are out, and to those who are yet to make that leap. It is a privilege to be visible

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 40 Transcript

 

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]]> Being visible is complicated - Positive visibility matters.

 

For Trans Day of Visibility we decided to do an episode on why we are visible. Dr J celebrates a ten year anniversary of being out publicly as non-binary in their workspaces. What it means to be visible in spaces where we are celebrated and how that impacts on us, and people who see us. What it feels like to have your face plastered all over the Stockholm Subway, and what’s changed in the past ten years.

 

We celebrate having Social Media timelines full of smiling visible Trans and Non-Binary people on TDOV and how that feels to see the breadth of our experience represented. 

 

What it means in workspaces to feel that inclusivity - where you’re made to feel comfortable - when you don’t have to worry about bringing all of yourself to work.


Positive visibility matters, to those who are out, and to those who are yet to make that leap. It is a privilege to be visible

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 40 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about the positive impacts on visibility.

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]]> Why we need Queer Spaces Why we need Queer Spaces Mon, 29 Mar 2021 17:50:52 GMT 31:11 60620671bf7aa5623df9bf6a true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/why-we-need-queer-spaces 60620671bf7aa5623df9bf6a 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 why-we-need-queer-spaces Special Episode for the Queer House Party Radio Show. full 1 39 Why we need Queer Spaces - Special Episode for the Queer House Party Radio Show. You can see it here:  https://foundation.fm/show/the-friday-takeover

 

Talking about how we met and how queer spaces were involved in that - why queer spaces are needed and what they provide to queers that other spaces don’t - tldr; it’s being in a space where we are not in a minority- finding people like ourselves there, and seeing our experiences reflected from the stage.


Why the smoking areas in queer spaces are the community spaces we all need! The oral histories that are made in spaces like this - the celebrations, the care, and the mourning that can happen.


We also talk about the queer mindset that makes Queer House Party work so well - and why we pour ourselves into it. How making people feel “seen” makes our hearts sing!


Queer House Party - the iconic queer online party

 

Dr J’s TEDx talk - https://youtu.be/K1ZJJInlNxE?t=4791 (raw streamed version with no captioning - the proper one will be up soon)

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 39 Transcript

 

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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about the need for Queer spaces in real life and online.

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]]> Why we need Queer Spaces - Special Episode for the Queer House Party Radio Show. You can see it here:  https://foundation.fm/show/the-friday-takeover

 

Talking about how we met and how queer spaces were involved in that - why queer spaces are needed and what they provide to queers that other spaces don’t - tldr; it’s being in a space where we are not in a minority- finding people like ourselves there, and seeing our experiences reflected from the stage.


Why the smoking areas in queer spaces are the community spaces we all need! The oral histories that are made in spaces like this - the celebrations, the care, and the mourning that can happen.


We also talk about the queer mindset that makes Queer House Party work so well - and why we pour ourselves into it. How making people feel “seen” makes our hearts sing!


Queer House Party - the iconic queer online party

 

Dr J’s TEDx talk - https://youtu.be/K1ZJJInlNxE?t=4791 (raw streamed version with no captioning - the proper one will be up soon)

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 39 Transcript

 

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]]> Gaining our voice is complicated Gaining our voice is complicated Thu, 25 Mar 2021 11:41:21 GMT 34:50 605bb31c7181cf5e4555b037 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/gaining-our-voice-is-complicated 605bb31c7181cf5e4555b037 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 gaining-our-voice-is-complicated So is making ourselves heard full 1 38 Gaining our voice is complicated - So is making ourselves heard.

 

This week we have a guest - Michelle Belcher - https://www.michellebelcher.tv/ and we three talk about voices, gaining our voices and giving voice to our thoughts.


What does it mean to gain your voice? What decisions do we make to be heard (and seen) as ourselves? How can we prepare ourselves for changes to our voices? What do we give up when we try and be heard as ourselves?

 

What does it mean when we have to work to make sounds right? How does this impact on our way of communicating?


When you hear us, how do you read us?


Tickets to Dr J’s TEDx talk - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/tedxsquaremile-2021-tickets-139184890755

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 38 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> Gaining our voice is complicated - So is making ourselves heard.

 

This week we have a guest - Michelle Belcher - https://www.michellebelcher.tv/ and we three talk about voices, gaining our voices and giving voice to our thoughts.


What does it mean to gain your voice? What decisions do we make to be heard (and seen) as ourselves? How can we prepare ourselves for changes to our voices? What do we give up when we try and be heard as ourselves?

 

What does it mean when we have to work to make sounds right? How does this impact on our way of communicating?


When you hear us, how do you read us?


Tickets to Dr J’s TEDx talk - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/tedxsquaremile-2021-tickets-139184890755

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 38 Transcript

 

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]]> Being Trans is complicated Being Trans is complicated Mon, 15 Mar 2021 19:50:21 GMT 36:54 604fba7d05fc882137a2fb95 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-trans-is-complicated 604fba7d05fc882137a2fb95 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-trans-is-complicated Especially in times of covid! full 1 37 Being Trans is complicated - especially in times of covid! 

 

This week we have a guest - Michelle Belcher - https://www.michellebelcher.tv/ and we three talk about coming out as trans or non-binary, how we found ourselves, how this changes in the midst of covid, and how that reflects on the ways we’ve all come out, as queer, as trans, as non-binary - often more than once.


We cover history, the gaming industry - and talk how Gilgamesh (via a musical) and Octodad (a video game) show that we queers have always been here.

 

Tickets to Dr J’s TEDx talk - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/tedxsquaremile-2021-tickets-139184890755

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 37 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about the complications of trans in times of covid.

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]]> Being Trans is complicated - especially in times of covid! 

 

This week we have a guest - Michelle Belcher - https://www.michellebelcher.tv/ and we three talk about coming out as trans or non-binary, how we found ourselves, how this changes in the midst of covid, and how that reflects on the ways we’ve all come out, as queer, as trans, as non-binary - often more than once.


We cover history, the gaming industry - and talk how Gilgamesh (via a musical) and Octodad (a video game) show that we queers have always been here.

 

Tickets to Dr J’s TEDx talk - https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/tedxsquaremile-2021-tickets-139184890755

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 37 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about the complications of trans in times of covid.

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]]> Getting healthcare is complicated Getting healthcare is complicated Mon, 08 Mar 2021 22:42:10 GMT 37:01 6046a842386dc86d49aa2529 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/getting-healthcare-is-complicated 6046a842386dc86d49aa2529 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 getting-healthcare-is-complicated what script can we use? full 1 36 Getting healthcare is complicated - what script can we use? We talk about getting healthcare/medical interventions and the experiences we have had. We talk about ‘Trans broken arm” (or in one of our cases Trans Broken leg), and while sometimes we think we’ve had privilege - we find out we didn’t.


Content Note: We discuss medical procedures and transphobic treatment


We talk about a script of three questions to make interacting with healthcare as a trans/non-binary/gender non-conforming person better.


- What pronoun do you prefer?

- What hormones do you make and which do you take?

- Would you want a bottle or a pan?


This is written up more here: https://drjharrison.github.io/portfolio/genderfluid-the-solution/


If you want to have more discussion on Jesus Fucking Karen! We recommend watching Lindsay Ellis on Transphobia in the media (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cHTMidTLO60&t=3004s) and ContrePoints (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7gDKbT_l2us) on JK Rowling


Honestly - after both of those wonderful videos - we feel we have flogged this dead horse sufficiently to move along - for now. 

 

We now will end on a positive note - discussing how Keanu Reeves is Breathtaking

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 36 Transcript

 

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]]> Getting healthcare is complicated - what script can we use? We talk about getting healthcare/medical interventions and the experiences we have had. We talk about ‘Trans broken arm” (or in one of our cases Trans Broken leg), and while sometimes we think we’ve had privilege - we find out we didn’t.


Content Note: We discuss medical procedures and transphobic treatment


We talk about a script of three questions to make interacting with healthcare as a trans/non-binary/gender non-conforming person better.


- What pronoun do you prefer?

- What hormones do you make and which do you take?

- Would you want a bottle or a pan?


This is written up more here: https://drjharrison.github.io/portfolio/genderfluid-the-solution/


If you want to have more discussion on Jesus Fucking Karen! We recommend watching Lindsay Ellis on Transphobia in the media (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cHTMidTLO60&t=3004s) and ContrePoints (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7gDKbT_l2us) on JK Rowling


Honestly - after both of those wonderful videos - we feel we have flogged this dead horse sufficiently to move along - for now. 

 

We now will end on a positive note - discussing how Keanu Reeves is Breathtaking

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 36 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about healthcare.

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]]> Being queer is complicated Being queer is complicated Mon, 22 Feb 2021 22:16:29 GMT 30:28 60342d3dd8b07d39e4375c32 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-queer-is-complicated 60342d3dd8b07d39e4375c32 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-queer-is-complicated Are we queer enough? full 1 35 Being queer is complicated - are we queer enough? We talk about the notion of queer and the extended ideas that come with queer and when are we “queer enough” - and when can we call ourselves queer?


Where does “queer enough” begin? Who gets to decide? Do we recruit? 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 35 Transcript


The short film we mention - Queerer than Thou - on YouTube - Queerer Than Thou

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being queer enough.

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]]> Being queer is complicated - are we queer enough? We talk about the notion of queer and the extended ideas that come with queer and when are we “queer enough” - and when can we call ourselves queer?


Where does “queer enough” begin? Who gets to decide? Do we recruit? 

 

We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 35 Transcript


The short film we mention - Queerer than Thou - on YouTube - Queerer Than Thou

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about being queer enough.

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]]> Being bullied is complicated Being bullied is complicated Mon, 15 Feb 2021 17:33:58 GMT 34:17 602a609583adfd717c081681 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-bullied-is-complicated 602a609583adfd717c081681 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-bullied-is-complicated and how others respond is also full 1 34 Being bullied is complicated - and how others respond is also. This comes with a content note - we discuss bullying and violence.

 

We talk about that phrase “Don’t be a victim” and the status quo warriors who say it to us - and what that means in terms of how bullying works and the complications of our responses - the social scripts we play and those we play against.


We give our ideas on how to solve such a complex situation from our different perspectives - and we have quite different views.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 34 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about bullying and how we as groups respond.

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]]> Being bullied is complicated - and how others respond is also. This comes with a content note - we discuss bullying and violence.

 

We talk about that phrase “Don’t be a victim” and the status quo warriors who say it to us - and what that means in terms of how bullying works and the complications of our responses - the social scripts we play and those we play against.


We give our ideas on how to solve such a complex situation from our different perspectives - and we have quite different views.


We have a transcript for this episode - IIC Episode 34 Transcript

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about bullying and how we as groups respond.

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]]> Lockdown and Covid trauma Lockdown and Covid trauma Mon, 08 Feb 2021 17:10:27 GMT 40:50 60213e92bedc7652d895d5a2 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/lockdown-and-covid-trauma 60213e92bedc7652d895d5a2 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 lockdown-and-covid-trauma and queer survival is complicated full 1 33 Lockdown and Covid trauma - and queer survival is complicated. How queers are surviving the lockdown and the extended trauma of the Covid pandemic. We talk about privilege, and the privilege of being able to shelter - and how we as queers have developed superpowers to survive these long slow trauma events - we are glittery cockroaches who will be there at the end of days - not just surviving - partying!


We talked about two books - Jamie Hale’s book of sonnets - Shield - available here: https://vervepoetrypress.com/product/jamie-hale-shield-pre-order-free-uk-pp/?v=7516fd43adaa


Kate Bornstien “Hello Cruel world” -  available from all booksellers - so go independent and support your local bookshops! https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/214002/hello-cruel-world-by-kate-bornstein-foreword-by-sara-quin/


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about if queers are glittery cockroaches partying at the end of days

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]]> Lockdown and Covid trauma - and queer survival is complicated. How queers are surviving the lockdown and the extended trauma of the Covid pandemic. We talk about privilege, and the privilege of being able to shelter - and how we as queers have developed superpowers to survive these long slow trauma events - we are glittery cockroaches who will be there at the end of days - not just surviving - partying!


We talked about two books - Jamie Hale’s book of sonnets - Shield - available here: https://vervepoetrypress.com/product/jamie-hale-shield-pre-order-free-uk-pp/?v=7516fd43adaa


Kate Bornstien “Hello Cruel world” -  available from all booksellers - so go independent and support your local bookshops! https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/214002/hello-cruel-world-by-kate-bornstein-foreword-by-sara-quin/


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about if queers are glittery cockroaches partying at the end of days

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]]> 2021 continues 2021 continues Wed, 27 Jan 2021 11:31:45 GMT 9:06 6011375a50ba7e56c75ae239 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/2021-continues 6011375a50ba7e56c75ae239 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 2021-continues A live recording bonus 2 Bonus Episode 2 -  2021 continues - and is 2020 plus one. A special episode, recorded live (so unedited, and one of us is on pain medication), where we cover the last 26 hours or so… and why our “homework” is late.


TLDR; Josephine has a broken leg after a fall in the snow

 

This will lead to another episode in the future - “So you’re trans/non-binary and engaging with basic healthcare” or "What to do when you as a medical professional find out your patient is trans/non-binary"

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about the shite fest that is 2021


No transcript today - our apologies for this lack of accessibility - the one of us who is awake enough doesn't have the typing skills - the other is on pain meds, and is happily floating around at the moment - and so we lack the capacity this week to get them done.

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]]> Bonus Episode 2 -  2021 continues - and is 2020 plus one. A special episode, recorded live (so unedited, and one of us is on pain medication), where we cover the last 26 hours or so… and why our “homework” is late.


TLDR; Josephine has a broken leg after a fall in the snow

 

This will lead to another episode in the future - “So you’re trans/non-binary and engaging with basic healthcare” or "What to do when you as a medical professional find out your patient is trans/non-binary"

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to connect with you about the shite fest that is 2021


No transcript today - our apologies for this lack of accessibility - the one of us who is awake enough doesn't have the typing skills - the other is on pain meds, and is happily floating around at the moment - and so we lack the capacity this week to get them done.

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]]> Media is complicated Media is complicated Mon, 18 Jan 2021 17:23:51 GMT 32:33 6005549feece2d1012652d45 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/media-is-complicated 6005549feece2d1012652d45 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 media-is-complicated Or maybe not full 1 32 Media is complicated - or maybe not. We talk through the Bechdel test, what it is for and how it works and propose our own version for Trans and Non-Binary representation in film/TV/shows.


The Laverne Totah Test:


1) Have a Trans or Non-Binary Character

2) Played by a Trans or Non-Binary actor

3) Whose main narrative purpose is not tragedy

 

It’s simple! It’s setting the bar incredibly low (we talk about why this is important). It is simple to pass the Laverne Totah Test - you can simply have a trans character, played by a trans actor, walk on screen, look around, and walk off!


This is the alpha, the 0.9 version - so let us know what you think of this on our Twitter...


We reference the Breathtaking - Keanu Reeves, Laverne Cox, Josie Totah, Elliot Page and of course Alison Bechdel who presented the original test in Dykes to Watch out for.


Now with improved accessibility - we will have a transcript for this episode (we're running a bit slow on these - thanks 2021)

 

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Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on our test for Trans and Non-Binary in media



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]]> Media is complicated - or maybe not. We talk through the Bechdel test, what it is for and how it works and propose our own version for Trans and Non-Binary representation in film/TV/shows.


The Laverne Totah Test:


1) Have a Trans or Non-Binary Character

2) Played by a Trans or Non-Binary actor

3) Whose main narrative purpose is not tragedy

 

It’s simple! It’s setting the bar incredibly low (we talk about why this is important). It is simple to pass the Laverne Totah Test - you can simply have a trans character, played by a trans actor, walk on screen, look around, and walk off!


This is the alpha, the 0.9 version - so let us know what you think of this on our Twitter...


We reference the Breathtaking - Keanu Reeves, Laverne Cox, Josie Totah, Elliot Page and of course Alison Bechdel who presented the original test in Dykes to Watch out for.


Now with improved accessibility - we will have a transcript for this episode (we're running a bit slow on these - thanks 2021)

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on our test for Trans and Non-Binary in media



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]]> Introducing ourselves is complicated Introducing ourselves is complicated Mon, 11 Jan 2021 17:17:59 GMT 32:18 5ffb5393da94564c957bf556 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/introducing-ourselves-is-complicated 5ffb5393da94564c957bf556 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 introducing-ourselves-is-complicated And it can be an emotional journey full 1 31 Introducing ourselves is complicated - and it can be an emotional journey. We talk through what a change in employment can mean, what being visibly ourselves when we are employed can mean. We cover the notions of visibility and safety, and how this complicates our lives and the decisions we make every day about visibility. 

 

How our fear of loss can impact on our ability to enjoy, and relax in spaces.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on our Introductions dilemma.

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]]> Introducing ourselves is complicated - and it can be an emotional journey. We talk through what a change in employment can mean, what being visibly ourselves when we are employed can mean. We cover the notions of visibility and safety, and how this complicates our lives and the decisions we make every day about visibility. 

 

How our fear of loss can impact on our ability to enjoy, and relax in spaces.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on our Introductions dilemma.

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]]> Being lighthearted is complicated Being lighthearted is complicated Mon, 04 Jan 2021 17:44:56 GMT 36:12 5ff338897644b6392de8d092 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-lighthearted-complicated 5ff338897644b6392de8d092 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-lighthearted-complicated We attempt to do something fun and fail due to complications full 1 30 Being lighthearted complicated - we attempt to do something fun and fail due to complications. We discuss postcolonial readings of popular Christmas songs, Latin for “in the middle of”, we attempt to answer simple random questions, and thanks to events we even had to add a postscript as events and people’s comments overtook our conversation - thanks to a particular trans person's comments in the media.


We go on many journeys - and rants abound. Yes… everything is complicated.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on us trying to be Lighthearted..



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]]> Being lighthearted complicated - we attempt to do something fun and fail due to complications. We discuss postcolonial readings of popular Christmas songs, Latin for “in the middle of”, we attempt to answer simple random questions, and thanks to events we even had to add a postscript as events and people’s comments overtook our conversation - thanks to a particular trans person's comments in the media.


We go on many journeys - and rants abound. Yes… everything is complicated.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on us trying to be Lighthearted..



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]]> Being ourselves can be complicated Being ourselves can be complicated Mon, 21 Dec 2020 17:28:27 GMT 32:22 5fe0cb414121d1125e62527a true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-ourselves-can-be-complicated 5fe0cb414121d1125e62527a 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-ourselves-can-be-complicated and it is so freeing! full 1 29 Being ourselves can be complicated - and it is so freeing! In a special episode, we interview the amazing Max Marchewicz (wheeliequeermerbabe on insta) - a BSL interpreter, access consultant, and fellow member of the Queer House Party crew - talking about the joy of being able to be yourself in your workplace, the fun of working online and how that makes a more queer way of working, 


How have our disabilities, our neurodiversity, and our queer life experience helped us navigate the changes the pandemic wrought upon us?


Also covering what a diagnosis can mean around neurodiversity.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on the concepts of Social Media.

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]]> Being ourselves can be complicated - and it is so freeing! In a special episode, we interview the amazing Max Marchewicz (wheeliequeermerbabe on insta) - a BSL interpreter, access consultant, and fellow member of the Queer House Party crew - talking about the joy of being able to be yourself in your workplace, the fun of working online and how that makes a more queer way of working, 


How have our disabilities, our neurodiversity, and our queer life experience helped us navigate the changes the pandemic wrought upon us?


Also covering what a diagnosis can mean around neurodiversity.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on the concepts of Social Media.

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]]> Social Media is complicated Social Media is complicated Mon, 07 Dec 2020 21:15:58 GMT 34:08 5fce9b8f45125375070768c6 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/social-media-is-complicated 5fce9b8f45125375070768c6 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 social-media-is-complicated and trolling can be fun! full 1 28 Social Media is complicated - and trolling can be fun! The way we use social media is different when you are non-heteronormative - we use social media to connect to people we don’t know and have never met - more heteronormative people tend to connect to people they do know and have met.

Why do we have these differences in how we use social medias? Are we only creating bubbles?

What are trolls, how do we react to them, and how can we use their tactics for good?


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on the concepts of Social Media.

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]]> Social Media is complicated - and trolling can be fun! The way we use social media is different when you are non-heteronormative - we use social media to connect to people we don’t know and have never met - more heteronormative people tend to connect to people they do know and have met.

Why do we have these differences in how we use social medias? Are we only creating bubbles?

What are trolls, how do we react to them, and how can we use their tactics for good?


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode


Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on the concepts of Social Media.

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]]> Value is Complicated Value is Complicated Mon, 30 Nov 2020 22:22:11 GMT 38:15 5fc57093f9d5a77e7e768fae true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/value-is-com 5fc57093f9d5a77e7e768fae 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 value-is-com Value is Complicated full 1 27 Value is complicated - How do we value ourselves and each other in an imperfect world that all too often undervalues us? We talk about how to value our time, each other, our differences and our similarities. 

 

We talk about mutually valuing is a wonderful way to exchange what we value in each other. And we also talk about making sure that we are not undervalued when making those exchanges.

 

We know it can be really hard to value ourselves, so please know that we value you. And we take a little over 30 minutes this week to tell you just how and why.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on the concepts of Gaming.



Image Description - Two people face a large microphone - on the left wearing glasses with blue hair is a person who is some version of non-Binary - they have a heart shaped necklace - on the right wearing glasses and bright red lipstick with white hair is a trans woman with a circular necklace - the mic between them is large retro and chrome styled. Above both of them are the words It Is Complicated


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]]> Value is complicated - How do we value ourselves and each other in an imperfect world that all too often undervalues us? We talk about how to value our time, each other, our differences and our similarities. 

 

We talk about mutually valuing is a wonderful way to exchange what we value in each other. And we also talk about making sure that we are not undervalued when making those exchanges.

 

We know it can be really hard to value ourselves, so please know that we value you. And we take a little over 30 minutes this week to tell you just how and why.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on the concepts of Gaming.



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]]> Gaming is complicated Gaming is complicated Mon, 23 Nov 2020 17:28:14 GMT 35:40 5fbbe32625d96c522b3d70fe true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/gaming-is-complicated 5fbbe32625d96c522b3d70fe 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 gaming-is-complicated How do we understand stories within games? full 1 26 Gaming is complicated -  How do we understand stories within games? Skyrim might be the only game according to one of us - that doesn’t prevent us talking about the ideas that make games work and how that allows us to make sense of our world. Games are more serious as media than we think - they promote discourse and participation. 


How does modding a game allow us to build on our experience, and build something that allows for us to represent ourselves more within games. 


Why creating the Bandit Protection Society in Skyrim would be a wonderful thing and why is this not a possible choice. Why thinking outside the normative rules of a game is creative and frustrating in turns.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated

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]]> Gaming is complicated -  How do we understand stories within games? Skyrim might be the only game according to one of us - that doesn’t prevent us talking about the ideas that make games work and how that allows us to make sense of our world. Games are more serious as media than we think - they promote discourse and participation. 


How does modding a game allow us to build on our experience, and build something that allows for us to represent ourselves more within games. 


Why creating the Bandit Protection Society in Skyrim would be a wonderful thing and why is this not a possible choice. Why thinking outside the normative rules of a game is creative and frustrating in turns.


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]]> Building Community is complicated Building Community is complicated Mon, 16 Nov 2020 17:30:34 GMT 35:37 5fb254d1fb03e03cc402a714 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/building-community-is-complicated 5fb254d1fb03e03cc402a714 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 building-community-is-complicated How we form networks differs in “queer’ world from straight world. full 1 25 Building Community is complicated -  How we form networks differs in “queer’ world from straight world. Common experiences help us bond deeply and quickly, and yet those can also be temporary. How does this style work when you try it in the more normative world?

 

How do we subvert the normative ways of networking to locate and bond with queers like ourselves? How does the description of ourselves and how we interact change when we use a normative lens? We describe queers as parkour runners through the social scripts of interactions.


We also describe the best practices we’ve seen - in Queer House Party - and how they are an exemplar of how these connections are built.


Dr J introduces the notion of using six words in all conversations:

Be Kind

Presume the Best

Empathise


It is also Trans Day of Remembrance on the 20th - there is a vigil online based in the UK - we wanted to remind everyone about this as we Mourn the Dead and fight like hell for the living.


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]]> Building Community is complicated -  How we form networks differs in “queer’ world from straight world. Common experiences help us bond deeply and quickly, and yet those can also be temporary. How does this style work when you try it in the more normative world?

 

How do we subvert the normative ways of networking to locate and bond with queers like ourselves? How does the description of ourselves and how we interact change when we use a normative lens? We describe queers as parkour runners through the social scripts of interactions.


We also describe the best practices we’ve seen - in Queer House Party - and how they are an exemplar of how these connections are built.


Dr J introduces the notion of using six words in all conversations:

Be Kind

Presume the Best

Empathise


It is also Trans Day of Remembrance on the 20th - there is a vigil online based in the UK - we wanted to remind everyone about this as we Mourn the Dead and fight like hell for the living.


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]]> Getting it out is complicated Getting it out is complicated Mon, 09 Nov 2020 17:46:39 GMT 37:15 5fa965a66f23cc0d98073cd9 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/getting-it-out-is-complicated 5fa965a66f23cc0d98073cd9 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 getting-it-out-is-complicated Why it’s important to have a rant buddy full 1 24 Getting it out is complicated -  Why it’s important to have a rant buddy. We sometimes need spaces to vent, to get those things off our chest. To talk about what is worrying us, and processing it out of our heads. Without that space, and those people, we suffer - trying to hold things and working things through on your own is hard.


We cover why the podcast started and why we keep talking and talking and ranting. How Covid lockdown made this wonderful thing exist.


Common processing and knowing you're not the only one is so important to rebuilding some mental health. Conversations make a difference, hearing voices that haven't usually been included talking about things we've possibly all experienced, allows us to make connections and see different ways of coping with the same events.


This episode has a lot more silliness than we expected at times - laughing is a valid way of processing trauma.


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]]> Getting it out is complicated -  Why it’s important to have a rant buddy. We sometimes need spaces to vent, to get those things off our chest. To talk about what is worrying us, and processing it out of our heads. Without that space, and those people, we suffer - trying to hold things and working things through on your own is hard.


We cover why the podcast started and why we keep talking and talking and ranting. How Covid lockdown made this wonderful thing exist.


Common processing and knowing you're not the only one is so important to rebuilding some mental health. Conversations make a difference, hearing voices that haven't usually been included talking about things we've possibly all experienced, allows us to make connections and see different ways of coping with the same events.


This episode has a lot more silliness than we expected at times - laughing is a valid way of processing trauma.


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]]> Production is complicated Production is complicated Mon, 02 Nov 2020 19:47:40 GMT 33:52 5fa0625c3da27426ac26a8ad true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/production-is-complicated 5fa0625c3da27426ac26a8ad 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 production-is-complicated Is it better to be paid or be heard? full 1 23 Production is complicated -  is it better to be paid or be heard. We talk about producing events, as a pair with over 35 years of production experience between us - we talk about the best ways we’ve approached production - and tell some tales of when it’s gone wrong.


We talk about Queer House Party - becuase it is one of the best examples of what happens when you centre accessibility and inclusion - in every part of it’s mindset and practices.


“The massive amounts of organisation that has to happen before anyone gets onto that stage or in front of that camera, or joins that particular party to enjoy the space – to have that public moment of support or to share their story – that process, from beginning to end has to have the same values that you would like to see on the stage.”


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]]> Production is complicated -  is it better to be paid or be heard. We talk about producing events, as a pair with over 35 years of production experience between us - we talk about the best ways we’ve approached production - and tell some tales of when it’s gone wrong.


We talk about Queer House Party - becuase it is one of the best examples of what happens when you centre accessibility and inclusion - in every part of it’s mindset and practices.


“The massive amounts of organisation that has to happen before anyone gets onto that stage or in front of that camera, or joins that particular party to enjoy the space – to have that public moment of support or to share their story – that process, from beginning to end has to have the same values that you would like to see on the stage.”


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]]> Representation is complicated Representation is complicated Mon, 26 Oct 2020 12:07:04 GMT 30:19 5f96bbe962f02d430aa0c2a9 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/representation-is-complicated 5f96bbe962f02d430aa0c2a9 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 representation-is-complicated Good Representation is wonderful when we locate it. full 1 22 Representation is complicated - Good Representation is wonderful when we locate it. There is a lot going on at the moment - we wanted to bring a happier viewpoint, and talk about our favorite ways of seeing queers and non-binary and trans people within the media. 

 

What it means to see yourself represented in media - in a normalised way - where your story is about things other than your gender. 

 

What it means to be a person who washes their socks!

 

Media we talk aboutL


Chuck Tingle (@ChuckTingle) - Trans Wizard Harriet Porber And The Bad Boy Parasaurolophus: An Adult Romance Novel 

 

Dyke Hard


John Wick: Chapter 3 – Parabellum

 

True Porn vol 1 - and volume 2 

 

Small Favors: The Definitive Collection: The Definitive Girly Porno Collection

 

Queer House Party

 

Ikenfell 


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]]> Representation is complicated - Good Representation is wonderful when we locate it. There is a lot going on at the moment - we wanted to bring a happier viewpoint, and talk about our favorite ways of seeing queers and non-binary and trans people within the media. 

 

What it means to see yourself represented in media - in a normalised way - where your story is about things other than your gender. 

 

What it means to be a person who washes their socks!

 

Media we talk aboutL


Chuck Tingle (@ChuckTingle) - Trans Wizard Harriet Porber And The Bad Boy Parasaurolophus: An Adult Romance Novel 

 

Dyke Hard


John Wick: Chapter 3 – Parabellum

 

True Porn vol 1 - and volume 2 

 

Small Favors: The Definitive Collection: The Definitive Girly Porno Collection

 

Queer House Party

 

Ikenfell 


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]]> Class is complicated Class is complicated Mon, 19 Oct 2020 14:50:36 GMT 30:24 5f8da7bce2dbd533ea9995e5 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/class-is-complicated 5f8da7bce2dbd533ea9995e5 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 class-is-complicated Honorifics are the way shows full 1 21 Class is complicated - Honorifics are the way it can show up. What it means as a non-binary person to rub up against the service industry. Do impromptu lessons on gender help? How can we disrupt the power differential and how can we as queers perform class in a way that has respect and safety for all involved. When the Service industry runs to scripts, how can we make them more inclusive, in a way that works for everyone?


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]]> Class is complicated - Honorifics are the way it can show up. What it means as a non-binary person to rub up against the service industry. Do impromptu lessons on gender help? How can we disrupt the power differential and how can we as queers perform class in a way that has respect and safety for all involved. When the Service industry runs to scripts, how can we make them more inclusive, in a way that works for everyone?


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]]> Art is complicated Art is complicated Mon, 12 Oct 2020 10:24:32 GMT 36:14 5f84051f0cda4e485e45df94 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/art-is-complicated 5f84051f0cda4e485e45df94 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 art-is-complicated Censorship and that narrative is made more complex by queers full 1 20 Art is complicated - Censorship and that narrative is made more complex by queers - how does talking about queer lived experience blur this boundary? Josephine and Dr J talk with Suzanne Shifflett, painter and tattoo artist, based in Long Beach, California. We cover the hustle we all face as queer and artists, and how we constantly hustle to survive and be seen. We are the glittery cockroaches who find ways to survive.


The systematic cis-heteronormativity in society means than censorship of pornography impacts more on queers and women. How can we make our point and show our lived experiences? How do we subvert systems to make spaces for our voices?


For more of Suzanne’s art- her website, and her instagrams - paintings and tattoos . 

 

As this is episode 20 (or 21 if you count the special) - we want to say thank you to everyone who has listened, shared, and enjoyed what we are doing. We make the promise, that should we get enough on our Patreon so that Josephine can do this full time, we will talk about what Suzanne calls “the most unusual tattoo I have ever done”


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]]> Art is complicated - Censorship and that narrative is made more complex by queers - how does talking about queer lived experience blur this boundary? Josephine and Dr J talk with Suzanne Shifflett, painter and tattoo artist, based in Long Beach, California. We cover the hustle we all face as queer and artists, and how we constantly hustle to survive and be seen. We are the glittery cockroaches who find ways to survive.


The systematic cis-heteronormativity in society means than censorship of pornography impacts more on queers and women. How can we make our point and show our lived experiences? How do we subvert systems to make spaces for our voices?


For more of Suzanne’s art- her website, and her instagrams - paintings and tattoos . 

 

As this is episode 20 (or 21 if you count the special) - we want to say thank you to everyone who has listened, shared, and enjoyed what we are doing. We make the promise, that should we get enough on our Patreon so that Josephine can do this full time, we will talk about what Suzanne calls “the most unusual tattoo I have ever done”


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]]> Disability is complicated Disability is complicated Mon, 05 Oct 2020 10:37:14 GMT 34:45 5f7a44837a4fad53ee3c8078 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/disability-is-complicated 5f7a44837a4fad53ee3c8078 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 disability-is-complicated Access can be simple full 1 19 Disability is complicated - Access is simple. If you focus on accessibility where do we end up? If we change how we see disability, how does this impact on how we can focus on access.

 

What new technologies can we use to make spaces more accessible. We talk about Queer House Party and how we work to improve access - and how a recorded live stream of a QHP party is helping make auto captioning better.

 

We talk about how to include those who are “traditionally not included” using ideas of accessibility.


We also have the absolute fun of looking at a transcript from Acast - the auto transcription of an episode - let us know if you can guess the episode on our Twitter @itiscomplicatd


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]]> Disability is complicated - Access is simple. If you focus on accessibility where do we end up? If we change how we see disability, how does this impact on how we can focus on access.

 

What new technologies can we use to make spaces more accessible. We talk about Queer House Party and how we work to improve access - and how a recorded live stream of a QHP party is helping make auto captioning better.

 

We talk about how to include those who are “traditionally not included” using ideas of accessibility.


We also have the absolute fun of looking at a transcript from Acast - the auto transcription of an episode - let us know if you can guess the episode on our Twitter @itiscomplicatd


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]]> Neurodiversity is complicated Neurodiversity is complicated Mon, 28 Sep 2020 10:40:09 GMT 28:54 5f71a1febd7ee36d81303c96 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/neurodiversity-is-complicated 5f71a1febd7ee36d81303c96 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 neurodiversity-is-complicated Brains are complex! full 1 18 Neurodiversity is complicated - brains are complex? If we start with “A” where do you end up? What does it mean when you’re asked to mask your anxiety/autism? 

 

How we think and process the world is different, and complicated. Building our subjective views of the world.


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]]> Neurodiversity is complicated - brains are complex? If we start with “A” where do you end up? What does it mean when you’re asked to mask your anxiety/autism? 

 

How we think and process the world is different, and complicated. Building our subjective views of the world.


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]]> Privilege is complicated Privilege is complicated Mon, 21 Sep 2020 10:53:25 GMT 29:07 5f671891e9a7485c8c99efbb true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/privilege-is-complicated 5f671891e9a7485c8c99efbb 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 privilege-is-complicated Playing the Privilege game full 1 17 Privilege is complicated - based on a tweet by @ExteriorWorld - "are you a pornhub category or are you privileged?" - we examine what is privilege, it’s nuances, the intersections. 

 

We queers know how to play the Privilege game! How we use and subvert it.


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]]> Privilege is complicated - based on a tweet by @ExteriorWorld - "are you a pornhub category or are you privileged?" - we examine what is privilege, it’s nuances, the intersections. 

 

We queers know how to play the Privilege game! How we use and subvert it.


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]]> Transnormativity is complicated Transnormativity is complicated Mon, 14 Sep 2020 13:19:10 GMT 38:14 5f5f6dcecf97275640f75979 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/transnormativity-is-complicated 5f5f6dcecf97275640f75979 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 transnormativity-is-complicated Not normative for any given value of normative! full 1 16 Trans Normativity is complicated - Is there a "normal" narrative about how to be trans? How does this narrative impact on how we view the notions of Trans and Non-Binary? Is there a "normal" narrative for being Non-Binary? If this develops what does that mean for our future?

 

Not often talked about, we talk about it here! Here we introduce the topic, and promise to be back to develop the idea more.


Normative for a given value of Normative.


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]]> Trans Normativity is complicated - Is there a "normal" narrative about how to be trans? How does this narrative impact on how we view the notions of Trans and Non-Binary? Is there a "normal" narrative for being Non-Binary? If this develops what does that mean for our future?

 

Not often talked about, we talk about it here! Here we introduce the topic, and promise to be back to develop the idea more.


Normative for a given value of Normative.


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]]> Mental Health is complicated Mental Health is complicated Mon, 07 Sep 2020 10:24:00 GMT 45:39 5f55eed5b0cca03ff9b2b7d3 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/mental-health-is-complicated 5f55eed5b0cca03ff9b2b7d3 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 mental-health-is-complicated And it is a logical reaction to the pain we experience full 1 15 Mental Health is complicated - we go deep into mental health - why being trans and non-binary complicates discourses around Mental Health. We share a conversation around our different mental health journeys - and where we are now. Is our mental health a logical reaction to the pain and trauma we experience from being not-included in society?

 

Content warning: contains mentions of self harm, suicide, depression, anxiety and PTSD.

This is an episode to listen to in a good safe place for you.

We both also cry and laugh during the recording. Emotions are fine and complex - go with them - feel them.

 

Resources if you are impacted by any of the issues we discuss:

Mind - https://www.mind.org.uk/

Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.org/ or call 116 123 in the UK

Trevor Project - https://www.thetrevorproject.org/


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]]> Mental Health is complicated - we go deep into mental health - why being trans and non-binary complicates discourses around Mental Health. We share a conversation around our different mental health journeys - and where we are now. Is our mental health a logical reaction to the pain and trauma we experience from being not-included in society?

 

Content warning: contains mentions of self harm, suicide, depression, anxiety and PTSD.

This is an episode to listen to in a good safe place for you.

We both also cry and laugh during the recording. Emotions are fine and complex - go with them - feel them.

 

Resources if you are impacted by any of the issues we discuss:

Mind - https://www.mind.org.uk/

Samaritans - https://www.samaritans.org/ or call 116 123 in the UK

Trevor Project - https://www.thetrevorproject.org/


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]]> Discourse is complicated Discourse is complicated Mon, 31 Aug 2020 10:23:57 GMT 33:56 5f4ccfbd28b08a0a5036c4c0 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/discourse-is-complicated 5f4ccfbd28b08a0a5036c4c0 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 discourse-is-complicated Caution - contains latin - used badly by one of us. full 1 14 This time we talk about how arguments are structured? Why are we always asked to debate? How can we engage in the discourse in a way that is healthy for us? Can we use the conversation to educate people? What can we learn from all of this?


Caution - contains latin - used badly by one of us.


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]]> This time we talk about how arguments are structured? Why are we always asked to debate? How can we engage in the discourse in a way that is healthy for us? Can we use the conversation to educate people? What can we learn from all of this?


Caution - contains latin - used badly by one of us.


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]]> Reading is complicated and so is passing Reading is complicated and so is passing Mon, 24 Aug 2020 10:30:57 GMT 29:55 5f42dc61de45bf4fbe3a9c50 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/reading-is-complicated-and-so-is-passing 5f42dc61de45bf4fbe3a9c50 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 reading-is-complicated-and-so-is-passing Do non-binary people owe you androgyny? full 1 13 Reading is complicated and so is passing - what does it mean to be read as one gender? How does this change around safety? What value judgments are made about our lives because of these?

 

How does non-binary fit into this model? Do non-binary people owe you androgyny?


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]]> Reading is complicated and so is passing - what does it mean to be read as one gender? How does this change around safety? What value judgments are made about our lives because of these?

 

How does non-binary fit into this model? Do non-binary people owe you androgyny?


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]]> Employment is complicated Employment is complicated Mon, 17 Aug 2020 10:18:28 GMT 35:33 5f3a5974bd642a3cb1e908d5 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/employment-is-complicated 5f3a5974bd642a3cb1e908d5 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 employment-is-complicated Getting and holding a job is complicated full 1 12 Employment is complicated - How does being trans or non-binary play out in the job market (hint one of us is unemployed, the other has been through two years of therapy for PTSD from workplace trauma)?

 

Why do some of us end up with PTSD from our workspaces? How do we recognise this - and how do we keep going? What’s the answer to improving spaces for everyone?


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

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]]> Employment is complicated - How does being trans or non-binary play out in the job market (hint one of us is unemployed, the other has been through two years of therapy for PTSD from workplace trauma)?

 

Why do some of us end up with PTSD from our workspaces? How do we recognise this - and how do we keep going? What’s the answer to improving spaces for everyone?


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on employment.

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]]> Voices are Complicated Voices are Complicated Mon, 10 Aug 2020 10:03:56 GMT 38:31 5f311b8caa68a44631dde4e5 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/voices-are-complicated 5f311b8caa68a44631dde4e5 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 voices-are-complicated How do our voices change how we are read? full 1 11 Voices are complicated - what does our voice say about us? How do we build a relationship with our voice? How do our voices change how we are read?


When do we recognise our voice is ours? How has past trauma around voices impacted on this? 

 

We talk about how to sound like a cis-woman and why we might not want to do this for complex reasons.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

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]]> Voices are complicated - what does our voice say about us? How do we build a relationship with our voice? How do our voices change how we are read?


When do we recognise our voice is ours? How has past trauma around voices impacted on this? 

 

We talk about how to sound like a cis-woman and why we might not want to do this for complex reasons.


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript for this episode

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd - we’d love to hear your thoughts on voice.

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]]> Coming out is Complicated Coming out is Complicated Mon, 03 Aug 2020 14:46:44 GMT 36:25 5f28235538acc15dd9da0f02 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/coming-out-is-complicated 5f28235538acc15dd9da0f02 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 coming-out-is-complicated And it never seems to stop full 1 10 Coming out is complicated - when should you come out? About what? Why do you have to? Are we required to be “out”?


What does it mean to have to come out multiple times a day? How many times do you need to explain concepts - like gender and pronouns.


When do we stop coming out?


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]]> Coming out is complicated - when should you come out? About what? Why do you have to? Are we required to be “out”?


What does it mean to have to come out multiple times a day? How many times do you need to explain concepts - like gender and pronouns.


When do we stop coming out?


Now with improved accessibility - we have a transcript 

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> Age is complicated Age is complicated Mon, 27 Jul 2020 10:32:07 GMT 34:46 5f1ead2727bab30c9c0b089a true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/age-is-complicated 5f1ead2727bab30c9c0b089a 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 age-is-complicated Why is it so hard to guess someone’s age when they are queer? full 1 9 Age is complicated - how age works - and doesn’t work - when you’re outside of the “normal” pathways for your age.

 

Why is it so hard to guess someone’s age when they are queer? Does this work for or against us? What is it like restarting a career? Or getting back into education as an adult student?


How the structures of society are set up to assume a certain path and pace - and how that chrononormativity breaks down

 

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]]> Age is complicated - how age works - and doesn’t work - when you’re outside of the “normal” pathways for your age.

 

Why is it so hard to guess someone’s age when they are queer? Does this work for or against us? What is it like restarting a career? Or getting back into education as an adult student?


How the structures of society are set up to assume a certain path and pace - and how that chrononormativity breaks down

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd

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]]> Self Care is complicated Self Care is complicated Mon, 20 Jul 2020 10:29:13 GMT 34:30 5f156460a29d9721596af108 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/self-care-is-complicated 5f156460a29d9721596af108 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 self-care-is-complicated full 1 8 Self Care is complicated - we talk about the complications of “self care” - vital in the pandemic times - and how that plays out in our culture.

 

Social inequalities, and how to “Farm a Fuck” - and is having the time to “self care” is a white middle-class privilege? What is the best definition of self care?


This is almost a "Group therapy" session - where we self care while we talk about self care

 

The Gallery Brochure for Dr J’s Gallery QJ Flat Art Gallery

 

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]]> Self Care is complicated - we talk about the complications of “self care” - vital in the pandemic times - and how that plays out in our culture.

 

Social inequalities, and how to “Farm a Fuck” - and is having the time to “self care” is a white middle-class privilege? What is the best definition of self care?


This is almost a "Group therapy" session - where we self care while we talk about self care

 

The Gallery Brochure for Dr J’s Gallery QJ Flat Art Gallery

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd

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]]> Being hurt and angry is complicated Being hurt and angry is complicated Tue, 14 Jul 2020 16:55:18 GMT 39:22 5f0c76f8ec99f25efdfea4ff true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/being-hurt-and-angry-is-complicated 5f0c76f8ec99f25efdfea4ff 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 being-hurt-and-angry-is-complicated bonus Due to the nature of the discourse on trans lives at the moment we recorded a special episode. Normally we record more than a month in advance of publishing.


With the way the conversation is going we decided to do a special episode because we hadn’t heard a non-binary voice included in reacting to the current situation. 


This is a totally raw episode - content warning - much swearing and emotions including anger and fear and sadness and pain - mentions of suicidal ideations.


We feel powerless and sometimes not included in the conversation and under attack from the tidal wave of transphobia on the internet - there are impacts on our lives from this - and yet we know that 70% of the people are supportive of trans and non-binary lives


Being constantly forced out of spaces where you have family and connections hurts - always being told you don’t matter when you try to go into those spaces to connect.


People we stan:

Hbomberguy - https://www.youtube.com/user/hbomberguy

Lindsay Ellis - https://www.youtube.com/user/chezapoctube

“That red haired lesbian into vintage stuff” and “The fabulous Jessica” - Jessica Kellgren-Fozard - https://www.youtube.com/user/MissJessicaKH

 

Workplaces that celebrate their Non-Binary staff - ThoughtWorks - https://www.thoughtworks.com/

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


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]]> Due to the nature of the discourse on trans lives at the moment we recorded a special episode. Normally we record more than a month in advance of publishing.


With the way the conversation is going we decided to do a special episode because we hadn’t heard a non-binary voice included in reacting to the current situation. 


This is a totally raw episode - content warning - much swearing and emotions including anger and fear and sadness and pain - mentions of suicidal ideations.


We feel powerless and sometimes not included in the conversation and under attack from the tidal wave of transphobia on the internet - there are impacts on our lives from this - and yet we know that 70% of the people are supportive of trans and non-binary lives


Being constantly forced out of spaces where you have family and connections hurts - always being told you don’t matter when you try to go into those spaces to connect.


People we stan:

Hbomberguy - https://www.youtube.com/user/hbomberguy

Lindsay Ellis - https://www.youtube.com/user/chezapoctube

“That red haired lesbian into vintage stuff” and “The fabulous Jessica” - Jessica Kellgren-Fozard - https://www.youtube.com/user/MissJessicaKH

 

Workplaces that celebrate their Non-Binary staff - ThoughtWorks - https://www.thoughtworks.com/

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd

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]]> Humour is Complicated Humour is Complicated Mon, 13 Jul 2020 10:30:35 GMT 29:49 5f0b7d82d713d87fc790da9f true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/humour-is-complicated 5f0b7d82d713d87fc790da9f 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 humour-is-complicated When you keep waiting for the punch as a punchline full 1 7 Humour  is complicated - we talk about what is good humour - and what it feels like to be the subject of the joke - and why sometimes we “can’t take a joke”.

 

Why we always are worried there’ll be “that episode” in our favorite sitcom - and how we both perform humour and when we use it. When they go low, we go weird. 


People and sketches we refer to:

Noah Caldwell-Gervais on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5CYeHPLer3lbEhgonvbbAA

Trevor Noah at the Apollo - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vi7SeBI7z9A

 

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]]> Humour  is complicated - we talk about what is good humour - and what it feels like to be the subject of the joke - and why sometimes we “can’t take a joke”.

 

Why we always are worried there’ll be “that episode” in our favorite sitcom - and how we both perform humour and when we use it. When they go low, we go weird. 


People and sketches we refer to:

Noah Caldwell-Gervais on YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC5CYeHPLer3lbEhgonvbbAA

Trevor Noah at the Apollo - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vi7SeBI7z9A

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated


Give us feedback - we’re on twitter - https://twitter.com/ItIsComplicatd

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]]> CrowdFunding is Complicated CrowdFunding is Complicated Mon, 06 Jul 2020 10:29:27 GMT 31:25 5f0246bb6de1300f192a634a true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/crowdfunding-is-complicated 5f0246bb6de1300f192a634a 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 crowdfunding-is-complicated In which we talk about how ensuring what we do is sustainable is complicated full 1 6 Crowdfunding is complicated - we talk about how ensuring what we do is sustainable. How can we raise money - what are the ethics behind this?

 

We discuss why we built our patreon page and goals the way we did. We struggled to promote this and we get exasperated we don’t have cis-het bro programmer confidence when we talk about ourselves.

 

To hear more about the Queerest of the Queer Festival - https://anchor.fm/k-anderson/episodes/Her-Upstairs--Camden--London-with-Dr-J-eatucn


The books we talk about:

Mable Maney Books - https://www.thriftbooks.com/a/mabel-maney/412596/

Small Favours - http://www.colleencoover.net/?page_id=101

 

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]]> Crowdfunding is complicated - we talk about how ensuring what we do is sustainable. How can we raise money - what are the ethics behind this?

 

We discuss why we built our patreon page and goals the way we did. We struggled to promote this and we get exasperated we don’t have cis-het bro programmer confidence when we talk about ourselves.

 

To hear more about the Queerest of the Queer Festival - https://anchor.fm/k-anderson/episodes/Her-Upstairs--Camden--London-with-Dr-J-eatucn


The books we talk about:

Mable Maney Books - https://www.thriftbooks.com/a/mabel-maney/412596/

Small Favours - http://www.colleencoover.net/?page_id=101

 

Our Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/itiscomplicated

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]]> Allyship is Complicated Allyship is Complicated Mon, 29 Jun 2020 11:09:28 GMT 29:13 5ef76f79b9aeb6322fe4018e true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/allyship-is-complicated 5ef76f79b9aeb6322fe4018e 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 allyship-is-complicated In which we talk about how we can better at supporting others full 1 5 In which we discuss should we centre allies? How can we be good allies to others? How can I use my privilege to the best effect? Is allyship the only model? How can we be better support to others?

 

We discuss why allyship can be conditional and what impacts privileges have on this? And what new model can we move to - should we be accomplices and implicate ourselves?

 

How can we dismantle the structures that oppress us all? How do we get people to give up the benefits and privileges they have?

 

What is a more powerful model?


Places to donate to:


Black Girls Brunch - https://www.instagram.com/blackgirlsbrunchuk/

UK Black Pride - https://www.ukblackpride.org.uk/ukbp-donate

Black Minds Matter - https://www.gofundme.com/f/black-minds-matter-uk

Exist Loudly - https://www.gofundme.com/f/exist-loudly-fund-to-support-queer-black-yp

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]]> In which we discuss should we centre allies? How can we be good allies to others? How can I use my privilege to the best effect? Is allyship the only model? How can we be better support to others?

 

We discuss why allyship can be conditional and what impacts privileges have on this? And what new model can we move to - should we be accomplices and implicate ourselves?

 

How can we dismantle the structures that oppress us all? How do we get people to give up the benefits and privileges they have?

 

What is a more powerful model?


Places to donate to:


Black Girls Brunch - https://www.instagram.com/blackgirlsbrunchuk/

UK Black Pride - https://www.ukblackpride.org.uk/ukbp-donate

Black Minds Matter - https://www.gofundme.com/f/black-minds-matter-uk

Exist Loudly - https://www.gofundme.com/f/exist-loudly-fund-to-support-queer-black-yp

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]]> Queer Theory is Complicated Queer Theory is Complicated Mon, 22 Jun 2020 11:15:39 GMT 37:59 5eeb85a23db13d59699fea40 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/queer-theory-is-complicated 5eeb85a23db13d59699fea40 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 queer-theory-is-complicated In which we talk about all things theoretically queer full 1 4 We discuss why we find Queer Theory so difficult to wrap our heads around, why is it dense, and how can we understand it.


How deep is the queer theory rabbit hole? Are we included in the conversation?


Is Queer Theory something for to use every day or only for special occasions.


Do you have to be an academic to be queer?


Hello Cruel World - by Kate Bornstein

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]]> We discuss why we find Queer Theory so difficult to wrap our heads around, why is it dense, and how can we understand it.


How deep is the queer theory rabbit hole? Are we included in the conversation?


Is Queer Theory something for to use every day or only for special occasions.


Do you have to be an academic to be queer?


Hello Cruel World - by Kate Bornstein

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]]> Getting Dressed is complicated Getting Dressed is complicated Mon, 15 Jun 2020 11:08:08 GMT 31:07 5ee2112aa96ea834d9466b10 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/getting-dressed-is-complicated 5ee2112aa96ea834d9466b10 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 getting-dressed-is-complicated In which we talk about choice in clothing full 1 3 We discuss why we get dressed, sometimes in dresses, sometimes not, and how it changes how we are read and what complications occur - some intentional and some not.


Apparently nakedness is not an option.

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]]> We discuss why we get dressed, sometimes in dresses, sometimes not, and how it changes how we are read and what complications occur - some intentional and some not.


Apparently nakedness is not an option.

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]]> Playing with Ourselves is Complicated Playing with Ourselves is Complicated Mon, 08 Jun 2020 09:26:10 GMT 35:20 5ed9812eca917179063c4c81 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/episode-2-playing-with 5ed9812eca917179063c4c81 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 episode-2-playing-with In which we talk about inclusion in video games full 1 2 Playing with Ourselves is complicated

In which we discuss video games and why it is complicated to play them while seeing your life represented.

We also discuss whether or not Skyrim is the only video game in existence (tldr; it is!)


The video series we reference are:

Why The Sims Needs Disabilities ft @EnglishSimmer [CC] - by Jessica Kellgren-Fozard

My most used mods for disabilities in The Sims 4 - Collab with @Jessica Kellgren-Fozard by EnglishSimmer


Games we talk about

Celeste - on Steam - https://store.steampowered.com/app/504230/Celeste/

My Child Lebensborn - http://www.mychildlebensborn.com/

We shouldn't need to link to Skyrim it has been out since 2011 - The Elder Scrolls | Skyrim - Bethesda







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]]> Playing with Ourselves is complicated

In which we discuss video games and why it is complicated to play them while seeing your life represented.

We also discuss whether or not Skyrim is the only video game in existence (tldr; it is!)


The video series we reference are:

Why The Sims Needs Disabilities ft @EnglishSimmer [CC] - by Jessica Kellgren-Fozard

My most used mods for disabilities in The Sims 4 - Collab with @Jessica Kellgren-Fozard by EnglishSimmer


Games we talk about

Celeste - on Steam - https://store.steampowered.com/app/504230/Celeste/

My Child Lebensborn - http://www.mychildlebensborn.com/

We shouldn't need to link to Skyrim it has been out since 2011 - The Elder Scrolls | Skyrim - Bethesda







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]]> Our pronouns are complicated Our pronouns are complicated Sat, 30 May 2020 22:18:23 GMT 33:11 5ed2da0662be4f3172e10aa5 true https://shows.acast.com/it-is-complicated/episodes/our-pronouns-are-complicated 5ed2da0662be4f3172e10aa5 5ed2d8f149a22a580ac874c5 our-pronouns-are-complicated We attempt to introduce the podcast, ourselves and the subject of pronouns and how complicated all those endeavours are. full 1 1 In which our we attempt to introduce the podcast, ourselves and the subject of pronouns and how complicated all those endeavours are.


Pronouns are situational


They can make your heart sing.


That Lost Spaces Episode where Dr J confuses K Anderson with situational pronouns and tells a very explicit story

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]]> In which our we attempt to introduce the podcast, ourselves and the subject of pronouns and how complicated all those endeavours are.


Pronouns are situational


They can make your heart sing.


That Lost Spaces Episode where Dr J confuses K Anderson with situational pronouns and tells a very explicit story

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