Uzazi Podcast

UZAZI #25 The Roles of Parents

Thu, 06 Aug 2020 08:50:55 GMT

Parenting is an intricate combination of behaviours that individually and jointly combine to impact outcomes for children. parenting primarily seeks to influence, teach and control children. Parents were thought to play twin roles in helping children develop: nurturing children, and providing structure Jaki is an ICF credentialed Life Coach who uses the Goal Achievement approach. She helps clients achieve their life goals, including career, academic and parenting goals. Contact her on jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke to know more about how she helps parents achieve their goals.

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Uzazi #24 Parenting Adult Children

Wed, 15 Jul 2020 13:15:02 GMT

In Kenya we are observing more and more children leaving home later - in their late twenties and beyond. This is partially driven by the amount of time taken to finish school and properly establish oneself financially. But how do parents relate with children who are legally adult, but still live at home? Catherine Waiyaki shares her experience as a young parent and how it drove her to invest in learning and later helping others learn, how to parent effectively. She shares practical wisdom to help you navigate the years when your child is no longer a child.

Catherine can be reached on cathywaiyaki@gmail.com.

Jaki is an ICF credentialed Life Coach who uses the Goal Achievement approach. She helps clients achieve their life goals, including career, academic and parenting goals. Contact her on jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke to know more about how she helps parents achieve their goals.

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Breaking The Cycle: Choosing to Break Away from Negative Parenting Experiences

Wed, 08 Jul 2020 13:16:38 GMT

We first learn how to parent from how we were parented. In this podcast Lillian talks about the sense of not belonging that plagued her for years because her parents couldn't be with her from a young age. She speaks of the lessons she learnt about her it affected her approach to disciplining her own child, and reflects on the lessons she learnt ob how to do it differently.

You can find Lillian here: https://www.facebook.com/lillian.ndambuki

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Family Mental Health during COVID-19 pandemic

Wed, 06 May 2020 08:00:01 GMT

Restrictions have been introduced to manage the spread of Coronavirus. These restrictions have led to anxiety and stress. Counsellor and Teen Therapist speaks about the impact of the restrictions on family mental health, and makes suggestions about what families can do to mitigate this.

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Uzazi #20 Get rid of the small things that add up to make big obstacles

Mon, 04 Nov 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Parents are never just parents, or only parents. They are also running a business, or working a job. They are siblings and caregivers to their parents. They are neighbours and team members somewhere. Their lives are full of action. That's why they cannot afford to spend time trying to kill a mosquito rather than sleeping and rejuvenating themselves for the next meaningful activity.

Today's podcast talks about the little things that add up to big things and so take us away from the meaningful work we do as parents.

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Uzazi #19 Inspiration from Eliud Kipchoge

Tue, 22 Oct 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Eliud Kipchoge's sub 2 hour marathon run has gone into the history books. While parenting is not a race, there are parallels and lessons that we can draw from Kipchoge's run. Vision, focus , preparation, support, pace setters, and, most importantly, running the race. Today's podcast draws inspiration from this event.

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Uzazi #18 It's the long holiday!

Mon, 14 Oct 2019 03:00:00 GMT

While children cheer for the long holiday, parents are groaning. What will you do with the children for two months at home? Well, there are plenty of things to choose from. Just remember that downtime is important for them, and the holidays present a great opportunity for you to help them learn how to self manage.

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Uzazi #17 Care for Elderly parents

Mon, 23 Sep 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Life is, after all, a cycle. To be human is to be dependent. This isn't a weakness but a necessary condition of being alive - Nicci Gerrard. How true, especially for the elderly.

What is your child learning from you about care for the elderly? Old people get slow, forgetful and more and more needy as physical strength reduces, and, in some cases, their mental alertness reduces. How do you treat your aging parents?

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Uzazi #16 Rewrite your story change your life

Tue, 27 Aug 2019 03:00:00 GMT

When the stakes are high we default to a certain way of making decisions. You can observe this way, identify patterns and discover the story behind that behaviour. That means you can rewrite that story. What is the systemic story that drives your parenting decisions? How are you writing your children's story? Today's episode reflects on where our stories come from, and how we can change the influence they have on our actions.

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Uzazi #15 Sexual Assault and Molestation of Minors

Mon, 19 Aug 2019 03:00:00 GMT

If instinct tells you something is going on with your child, believe it. And believe your child if they tell you that someone makes them uncomfortable, or touches them inappropriately. When minors are sexually assaulted parents need to be courageous, to support and protect their child.

In this podcast Dr. Jane Wasike Siminyu talks about some practica things you can do to protect your child from sexual molestation, and what to do in case it happens.

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Uzazi #14 Teaching your children about money

Mon, 12 Aug 2019 03:00:00 GMT

As early as age 3, children can start learning financial management. Prepare a shopping list, take them to the market with you to demonstrate planning. By age 6, they can learn how to save, and begin to practice delayed gratification as they wait to build up enough funds to pay for something they want. What financial habits and values are you teaching your child?

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Uzazi #2 Dont let fear get in the way

Mon, 05 Aug 2019 03:00:00 GMT

I think most people know at some level or other that setting goals can help them achieve success. Knowing how doesn’t translate to doing though. Mostly, though, setting and achieving goals is fearsome because it implies accountability. Once you set a goal you are saying to yourself that its up to you to achieve that goal, and that can be frightening. If today you tell yourself that your vison for your child is bigger than your fear of failure you have already made a big stride in the right direction.

Jaki Wasike-Sihanya is a Goal Achievement Coach. She holds an Associate Certified Credential (ACC) from the International Coach Federation. She use the Goal Attainment approach to help her clients achieve their life goals, including parenting, career, and academic goals. She can be reached by email: jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke

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Uzazi #13 Rules about rules for your children part 2

Mon, 29 Jul 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Rules should be necessary, fair, clear and enforceable. If it meets the first three but is not enforceable, think about having a guideline instead. Also consider the frequency and intensity or impact of the problem behaviour you are trying to address. Don't create rules for everything.

Jaki is an ICF credentialed Associate Certified Coach who uses the Goal Achievement approach. She helps clients achieve their life goals, including career, academic and parenting goals. Contact her on jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke to know more about how she helps parents achieve their goals.

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Uzazi #12 Rules about rules for your children part 1

Mon, 22 Jul 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Rules establish a firm foundation for a discipline plan, A good rule is not a hope, an expectation or a demand. It clearly states what behaviour or action is required, and outlines the consequences of not observing the rule.

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Uzazi #11 Heal the Wound or you will bleed on your Child

Mon, 15 Jul 2019 03:00:00 GMT

For you to bleed on someone they must be close. Who gets closer to you than your children? Wounds can be physical, external and visible, or physical, internal and invisible. They could also be emotional, and more difficult to put a finger on.

Many wounds need a helping hand to clean and close. And if you have been carrying one around for many years, it probably needs more help to clean and close. So why not reach out, and get that bleeding to stop? It will help your child, but the greatest beneficiary is you.

Jaki is a Goal Achievement Coach with an Associate Certified Credential (ACC) from the International Coach Federation. She helps clients achieve their life goals, including career, academic and parenting goals. Contact her on jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke to know more about how she helps parents achieve their goals.

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Uzazi #10 Questions

Mon, 08 Jul 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Questions are children’s way of understanding the world around them. The questions your children ask can give you insight into their fears, challenges, and developmental understanding. They can also spark great conversations that build trust. If you are struggling with answering your children’s questions reflect on what the root cause is. Children’s questions can trigger feelings of helplessness or low self esteem if that was your experience growing up.

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uzazi #9 Twos and Teens

Mon, 01 Jul 2019 03:00:00 GMT

The distancing that is necessary for independence and autonomy to develop for Twos and Teens can be painful. Just when your kids are pushing you away the hardest is when it is most important for you to reassure them that you aren’t going anywhere. It isn’t easy, and, often, you’re feeling hurt, scared and helpless too. And sometimes, the behaviour of your twos and teens sets off triggers that result in your own ‘bad behaviour’.

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Uzazi #8 Failure

Mon, 24 Jun 2019 03:00:00 GMT

There are many stories of people who tried and failed many times before they succeeded beyond their wildest dreams. Such stories are powerful for encouraging your child. Still, the most powerful hero or heroine is yourself, and your example of triumph over failure.

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Uzazi #7 Trigger

Mon, 17 Jun 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Our triggers are usually rooted in experiences we had as children, and which experiences we could not deal with sufficiently at that time. Many things that parents do, and which can lead to undesirable consequences for their children, are reactions to triggers. Identify those triggers and you could stop certain unintended behaviours.

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Uzazi #6 Deceptions

Mon, 10 Jun 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Honesty appears on the list of qualities that parents desire in the children they are raising, yet many parents lie easily and often about small things and big ones.

Jaki is a Goal Achievement Coach. She helps her clients achieve their life goals, including parenting, career, and academic goals. She can be reached by email: jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke

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Uzazi #5 Protection Trap

Mon, 03 Jun 2019 03:00:00 GMT

Your primary role, parent, is to provide and allow opportunities for learning, not to stop your child from making mistakes.

Jaki coaches people to achieve their goals in life. email jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke to know. more

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Uzazi #4 In the Principal's Office

Mon, 27 May 2019 03:30:00 GMT

Jojo has been sneaking out of school to buy cigarettes. He has been caught twice, and because this is the third time his parents have been asked to come see the Principal.

Jaki coach's people to achieve their life goals. email jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke

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Four Steps to Parenting Intentionally

Mon, 20 May 2019 15:17:00 GMT

Four steps to becoming more intentional as a parent are 1) notice what you do and how it makes you and your child feel. 2) Seek the patterns in what you notice 3) break up the patterns if they are not having the desired impact or outcomes, and 4) build new ones that will.

Let me know how this exercise goes for you. my email address is jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke

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Uzazi #1 Begin with a Vision to raise a child with effective life skills

Tue, 07 May 2019 08:33:44 GMT

Jaki Wasike-Sihanya is a Goal Achievement Coach. She holds an Associate Certified Credential (ACC) from the International Coach Federation. She can be reached by email: jaki@lifeskillscoaching.co.ke

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