60 acast.com Unfollowing Mum https://instagram.com/tobyandroo en Harriet Shearsmith estrangement,toxic family,toxic parents,therapy, childhood trauma,narcissism,digital estrangement,emotional abuse,cptsd Harriet Shearsmith Unfollowing Mum : Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had is available for preorder NOW!

A therapist recommended podcast for cycle breakers by someone who has lived the experience. Host Harriet Shearsmith knows first hand how challenging it can be to navigate estrangement, toxic family and dysfunctional dynamics in a digital age where setting boundaries and protecting your peace is harder than ever. 

In 2023 we’re unfollowing mum. We’re breaking the cycle, unsubscribing from the drama by healing generational trauma and putting ourselves and our mental health first. 

Each week I will answer your anonymous questions, discuss experiences and tackle the issues surrounding estrangement, generational trauma and navigating toxic families. Sometimes I’ll speak to experts, people with lived experience and other cycle breakers to share their point of view.

You’re not alone, there is a community of people navigating parenthood without solid role models, learning to love themselves after emotional abuse whilst breaking the cycle for the future generations 💜

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]]> Unfollowing Mum : Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had is available for preorder NOW!

A therapist recommended podcast for cycle breakers by someone who has lived the experience. Host Harriet Shearsmith knows first hand how challenging it can be to navigate estrangement, toxic family and dysfunctional dynamics in a digital age where setting boundaries and protecting your peace is harder than ever. 

In 2023 we’re unfollowing mum. We’re breaking the cycle, unsubscribing from the drama by healing generational trauma and putting ourselves and our mental health first. 

Each week I will answer your anonymous questions, discuss experiences and tackle the issues surrounding estrangement, generational trauma and navigating toxic families. Sometimes I’ll speak to experts, people with lived experience and other cycle breakers to share their point of view.

You’re not alone, there is a community of people navigating parenthood without solid role models, learning to love themselves after emotional abuse whilst breaking the cycle for the future generations 💜

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> false Harriet Shearsmith info+63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e@mg-eu.acast.com 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e unfollowing-mum episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e/1673448309013-a119dc1422c92f8601b4c7e3948e1120.jpeg https://instagram.com/tobyandroo Unfollowing Mum Ep92 EMDR with Shelley Bradley-Scholey Ep92 EMDR with Shelley Bradley-Scholey Wed, 01 Oct 2025 16:19:11 GMT 40:11 68dd545e6d92c33f9cd5af48 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 68dd545e6d92c33f9cd5af48 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 92 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with trauma expert Shelley Bradley-Scholey. Shelley is the founder of Fortitude Psychological Therapy an independent therapy practice, She is an accredited EMDR Consultant & Training Facilitator, Accredited CBT Therapist, Supervisor & Lecturer at the University of Oxford, Registered Mental Health Nurse.


You can find her on Socials @fortitudepsychologicaltherapy or visit www.fortitudepsychologicaltherapy.co.uk


For free resources from The Trauma Toolbox visit www.fortitudepsychologicaltherapy.co.uk/freeresources


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with trauma expert Shelley Bradley-Scholey. Shelley is the founder of Fortitude Psychological Therapy an independent therapy practice, She is an accredited EMDR Consultant & Training Facilitator, Accredited CBT Therapist, Supervisor & Lecturer at the University of Oxford, Registered Mental Health Nurse.


You can find her on Socials @fortitudepsychologicaltherapy or visit www.fortitudepsychologicaltherapy.co.uk


For free resources from The Trauma Toolbox visit www.fortitudepsychologicaltherapy.co.uk/freeresources


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep91 Parentification, young parents & moving into helping professions]]> Wed, 24 Sep 2025 05:00:00 GMT 58:26 68cd3f952cf15c8db0faa72d true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 68cd3f952cf15c8db0faa72d 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 91 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Chantelle about her experiences of growing up with a teen mum, parentification and how she used her experiences to inspire her work as a child protection social worker.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Chantelle about her experiences of growing up with a teen mum, parentification and how she used her experiences to inspire her work as a child protection social worker.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep90 Enmeshed, estranged & toxic patterns: parents & in-laws]]> Wed, 17 Sep 2025 05:00:00 GMT 54:33 68c7fc14c5a5560eacd7e3ce true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 68c7fc14c5a5560eacd7e3ce 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 90 On this episode Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Hazel about her experiences of enmeshment with her father and subsequent estrangement, only for her to witness similar patterns of dysfunction with her husband and his mother, leaving her with the experience on both sides.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Hazel about her experiences of enmeshment with her father and subsequent estrangement, only for her to witness similar patterns of dysfunction with her husband and his mother, leaving her with the experience on both sides.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> EP89 Unknown number: Toxic parenting extreme EP89 Unknown number: Toxic parenting extreme Wed, 10 Sep 2025 16:01:15 GMT 37:47 68c1a0cb0fa00b581708f265 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 68c1a0cb0fa00b581708f265 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 89 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks about Netflix documentary Unknown Number: The Catfish Highschool which follows the shocking case of Kendra Licari and her horrendous abuse of her daughter and friends. please note, this episode contains spoilers for the documentary and discusses Munchausen by Proxy (now known as Factitious Disorder Imposed on another (FDIA))


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks about Netflix documentary Unknown Number: The Catfish Highschool which follows the shocking case of Kendra Licari and her horrendous abuse of her daughter and friends. please note, this episode contains spoilers for the documentary and discusses Munchausen by Proxy (now known as Factitious Disorder Imposed on another (FDIA))


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[Ep88 Summer holidays & IPT-AST to improve parenting skills]]> Wed, 16 Jul 2025 05:00:00 GMT 37:43 68769df85d5bb088747d9c5a true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 68769df85d5bb088747d9c5a 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 88 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of summer holidays growing up and how it differs from her parenting experience, she shares powerful insights from her book Unfollowing mum on Interpersonal psychotherapy - adolescent skills training (IPT-AST) and how we can use the programme to improve our communication with our children (and how we can reflect on where these skills were absent in our relationships with our parents)


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of summer holidays growing up and how it differs from her parenting experience, she shares powerful insights from her book Unfollowing mum on Interpersonal psychotherapy - adolescent skills training (IPT-AST) and how we can use the programme to improve our communication with our children (and how we can reflect on where these skills were absent in our relationships with our parents)


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Ep87 TW parental death after estrangement Ep87 TW parental death after estrangement Wed, 09 Jul 2025 08:44:19 GMT 35:54 686e2be3fe0897380e070aef false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 686e2be3fe0897380e070aef 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 87 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares a letter from 'Tanya' about parental suicide after estrangement, an enabling parent who haven't worked on their own trauma and continue to choose people who harm them and the impact affairs have on toxic family dynamics.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares a letter from 'Tanya' about parental suicide after estrangement, an enabling parent who haven't worked on their own trauma and continue to choose people who harm them and the impact affairs have on toxic family dynamics.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Ep86 The golden child with Lauren Smallcomb Ep86 The golden child with Lauren Smallcomb Wed, 02 Jul 2025 05:00:00 GMT 54:56 6862ab879951fac41bff1011 false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 6862ab879951fac41bff1011 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 86 On this episode of the show, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with author of Golden Child: My descent to scapegoat and rise to freedom and mind & body practitioner Lauren Smallcomb about her experiences as a former golden child and what it looks like to fall from the golden child perch.


You can find Lauren at instagram.com/goldenchildbook or @flourish_therapy and find her book at flourishtherapy.kartra.com/page/goldenchild


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode of the show, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with author of Golden Child: My descent to scapegoat and rise to freedom and mind & body practitioner Lauren Smallcomb about her experiences as a former golden child and what it looks like to fall from the golden child perch.


You can find Lauren at instagram.com/goldenchildbook or @flourish_therapy and find her book at flourishtherapy.kartra.com/page/goldenchild


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Ep85 Breaking no contact after 4 years, harassment and toxic parents Ep85 Breaking no contact after 4 years, harassment and toxic parents Wed, 25 Jun 2025 05:00:00 GMT 43:09 6849a4971a37473f7d01ca71 false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 6849a4971a37473f7d01ca71 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 85 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares a recent experience where she had to break no contact with her mother due to harassment, how she handled the situation and what it looks like to stay in a place of 'self' during these experiences.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares a recent experience where she had to break no contact with her mother due to harassment, how she handled the situation and what it looks like to stay in a place of 'self' during these experiences.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> Ep84 Being the scapegoat: the slow burn route to estrangement Ep84 Being the scapegoat: the slow burn route to estrangement Wed, 18 Jun 2025 05:00:00 GMT 46:33 6849a4a886b5e77739ee8977 false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 6849a4a886b5e77739ee8977 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 84 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith reads out a letter from a listener, sharing their experience of growing up in a toxic family dynamic as the scapegoat and how that led to estrangement.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith reads out a letter from a listener, sharing their experience of growing up in a toxic family dynamic as the scapegoat and how that led to estrangement.


Harriet’s books:

Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you’d had is available here: https://amzn.to/3FKHqde

Cycle Breakers: Free yourself from emotionally immature parents and be the parent you wish you’d had (US edition): https://www.amazon.com/Cycle-Breakers-Yourself-Emotionally-Immature/dp/B0F1ZY9G8K/


Visit harrietshearsmith.com for resources on estrangement and navigating family dysfunction or to submit a letter to the podcast. You can also book a session with Harriet here: https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> <![CDATA[EP83 Narcissistic, Emotionally immature & toxic - what is the difference?]]> Wed, 11 Jun 2025 15:44:42 GMT 29:01 67e3ce9bd322e1c5cfaa75ea true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67e3ce9bd322e1c5cfaa75ea 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 83 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats about the difference between emotionally immature, narcissistic and toxic parents.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3Xdu12Y

Or visit www.harrietshearsmith.com for helpful resources, tools and to book an appointment with Harriet.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats about the difference between emotionally immature, narcissistic and toxic parents.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3Xdu12Y

Or visit www.harrietshearsmith.com for helpful resources, tools and to book an appointment with Harriet.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[EP82 The "phone works both ways" dads]]> Wed, 05 Mar 2025 05:57:00 GMT 1:02:02 67bf2aa23beb1d1463a2aef9 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67bf2aa23beb1d1463a2aef9 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 82 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with an anonymous guest regarding her experiences with parental alcoholism, a narcissistic and self centred father and toxic parent dynamics.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3Xdu12Y

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with an anonymous guest regarding her experiences with parental alcoholism, a narcissistic and self centred father and toxic parent dynamics.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3Xdu12Y

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[EP81 "You remind me of my mum" :: Navigating familiar triggers]]> Wed, 26 Feb 2025 06:00:00 GMT 32:30 67bdf9e9ce4aee402acad5df true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67bdf9e9ce4aee402acad5df 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 81 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the experience of being triggered - both memories that conversations with people will bring up, and what it is like to recognise your abusive parent's behaviours in someone else.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3Xdu12Y



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the experience of being triggered - both memories that conversations with people will bring up, and what it is like to recognise your abusive parent's behaviours in someone else.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3Xdu12Y



Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[EP80 *TW* Abusive step parents, enabling parents & the physiological effect of trauma]]> Wed, 12 Feb 2025 06:00:00 GMT 51:32 67ab9bde9c6f7f7f280bf8e7 false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67ab9bde9c6f7f7f280bf8e7 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 80 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Diana, childhood sexual abuse and cancer survivor, about her experiences growing up in an abusive household and discovering the betrayal of her mum in adulthood. They discuss the physiological impact of trauma and Diana's views on her healing journey.


For more from Diana, you can find her here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diana__pearson__

Tiktok: https://tiktok.com/diana__pearson

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]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Diana, childhood sexual abuse and cancer survivor, about her experiences growing up in an abusive household and discovering the betrayal of her mum in adulthood. They discuss the physiological impact of trauma and Diana's views on her healing journey.


For more from Diana, you can find her here:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/diana__pearson__

Tiktok: https://tiktok.com/diana__pearson

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]]> EP79 What happens when your narc parent is cheated on? EP79 What happens when your narc parent is cheated on? Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:58:00 GMT 35:59 67977f22dc087d2d2913134e true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67977f22dc087d2d2913134e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 79 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of growing up with a narcissistic parent who has been cheated on and how that unique dynamic can present in the parent/child relationship.


You can get a copy of Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wanted here: https://amzn.to/42rOl3N

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about her experience of growing up with a narcissistic parent who has been cheated on and how that unique dynamic can present in the parent/child relationship.


You can get a copy of Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wanted here: https://amzn.to/42rOl3N

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[EP78 Estrangement, alienation & freedom]]> Wed, 22 Jan 2025 06:00:00 GMT 50:55 67892af7c2824244c27a93e5 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67892af7c2824244c27a93e5 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 78 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with 'Laura' about her lived experiences with a narcissistic mother who alienated her father and eroded her self worth and confidence. 'Laura' shares how she's found empowerment through therapy and cutting contact.


If you find any of the topics on Unfollowing Mum useful, you can buy Harriet's book here: https://amzn.to/3DTQsn0

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with 'Laura' about her lived experiences with a narcissistic mother who alienated her father and eroded her self worth and confidence. 'Laura' shares how she's found empowerment through therapy and cutting contact.


If you find any of the topics on Unfollowing Mum useful, you can buy Harriet's book here: https://amzn.to/3DTQsn0

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]]> <![CDATA[EP77 University & estrangement]]> Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:58:00 GMT 26:25 67867da24c4d17f5eb30f900 false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 67867da24c4d17f5eb30f900 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 77 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares the first written submission for the lived experience stories shared on the podcast. This listener has shared their lived experience of going to university and becoming estranged, as well as some resources for fellow estranged students.


https://www.standalone.org.uk/guides/adultchildren/


https://www.bethanywebster.com/blog/going-no-contact/


https://www.ucas.com/applying/applying-university/individual-needs/estranged-students


Grab a copy of Harriet's therapist recommended book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3E4hdVC

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares the first written submission for the lived experience stories shared on the podcast. This listener has shared their lived experience of going to university and becoming estranged, as well as some resources for fellow estranged students.


https://www.standalone.org.uk/guides/adultchildren/


https://www.bethanywebster.com/blog/going-no-contact/


https://www.ucas.com/applying/applying-university/individual-needs/estranged-students


Grab a copy of Harriet's therapist recommended book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3E4hdVC

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]]> EP76 Happy New Year EP76 Happy New Year Wed, 08 Jan 2025 05:48:47 GMT 25:40 677d4ce71f00b28b23b212c3 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 677d4ce71f00b28b23b212c3 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 76 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the new year and what it means for cycle breakers, estrangements and toxic family dynamics.


Order Harriet's new book here: https://amzn.to/3DW5ZCv

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about the new year and what it means for cycle breakers, estrangements and toxic family dynamics.


Order Harriet's new book here: https://amzn.to/3DW5ZCv

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]]> EP75 Christmas boundaries with Natasha Nyeke EP75 Christmas boundaries with Natasha Nyeke Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:56:01 GMT 45:17 676000c264b31a6479786db9 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 676000c264b31a6479786db9 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 75 On this final episode of the year, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with therapist Natasha Nyeke about boundaries at Christmas.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy Patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/41BCzn3

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]]> On this final episode of the year, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with therapist Natasha Nyeke about boundaries at Christmas.


You can find Harriet's book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy Patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/41BCzn3

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]]> <![CDATA[EP74 Unethical care & how to find the right therapist or coach]]> Wed, 11 Dec 2024 14:47:00 GMT 32:19 6759a5e442ff44cc4d3fb13e false http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 6759a5e442ff44cc4d3fb13e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 74 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith has a bit of a rant about unethical care, a lack of trauma informed care and why finding the right therapist matters.


You can find Harriet's book: Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3VxO1ME


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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith has a bit of a rant about unethical care, a lack of trauma informed care and why finding the right therapist matters.


You can find Harriet's book: Unfollowing Mum: Break unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3VxO1ME


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]]> <![CDATA[EP73 Sleep: the impact of narcissistic parents & attachment styles]]> Wed, 04 Dec 2024 05:47:41 GMT 49:17 674f8a999ec377e55e09c36e true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 674f8a999ec377e55e09c36e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e with Kelly aka My Child Sleep Consultant full 73

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]]> <![CDATA[EP72 Navigating antenatal & postpartum depression with toxic family]]> Wed, 27 Nov 2024 06:00:39 GMT 38:28 673df876fc7e86ea70b031de true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 673df876fc7e86ea70b031de 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 72

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]]> <![CDATA[EP71 Thanksgiving, family politics & actual politics]]> Wed, 20 Nov 2024 10:22:38 GMT 31:48 673db86fbdb21820917d2207 true http://instagram.com/harrietshearsmith 673db86fbdb21820917d2207 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 71 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about thanksgiving and how to navigate the holiday period as an estranged or low contact adult.


You can grab a copy of Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3AQYKL6

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about thanksgiving and how to navigate the holiday period as an estranged or low contact adult.


You can grab a copy of Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had here: https://amzn.to/3AQYKL6

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]]> <![CDATA[EP70 Covid weddings & cutting contact whilst pregnant]]> Wed, 13 Nov 2024 06:00:20 GMT 35:41 67127e12fb3e57696178c259 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 67127e12fb3e57696178c259 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 70 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with guest Alyssa about her experience of cutting contact contact with her toxic mother.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can order here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with guest Alyssa about her experience of cutting contact contact with her toxic mother.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy patterns and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can order here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> EP69 Coming out, lack of acceptance and moving on with life EP69 Coming out, lack of acceptance and moving on with life Wed, 06 Nov 2024 06:00:52 GMT 39:45 6707ee8a011dc7d644fbb021 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6707ee8a011dc7d644fbb021 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 69 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Sariah about her lived experience of growing up in a Mormon home as a member of the LGBTQIA community and what that meant for her relationship with her parents, sense of self and how she found empowerment.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Sariah about her lived experience of growing up in a Mormon home as a member of the LGBTQIA community and what that meant for her relationship with her parents, sense of self and how she found empowerment.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep68 Breaking the cycle when you're not a parent with Angèle Cristina]]> Wed, 30 Oct 2024 06:00:17 GMT 49:14 67055292895ea409eaa00d22 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 67055292895ea409eaa00d22 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 68 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with life coach Angèle Cristina about breaking the cycle for YOU without being a parent. You can find Angèle here: https://www.instagram.com/angelecristinaofficial/profilecard/?igsh=dG5rOHQ2OHhxdm9l


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with life coach Angèle Cristina about breaking the cycle for YOU without being a parent. You can find Angèle here: https://www.instagram.com/angelecristinaofficial/profilecard/?igsh=dG5rOHQ2OHhxdm9l


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> Ep67 Jealousy and shame from narcissistic mothers Ep67 Jealousy and shame from narcissistic mothers Wed, 23 Oct 2024 05:00:03 GMT 35:21 66e80404361783afe1c0b25e false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66e80404361783afe1c0b25e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 65 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with an anonymous guest about her lived experience of growing up in the 80s with a toxic mother and the shame surrounding sex, jealously of joy and how unhealed trauma impacts the parental role.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with an anonymous guest about her lived experience of growing up in the 80s with a toxic mother and the shame surrounding sex, jealously of joy and how unhealed trauma impacts the parental role.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> EP66 Emotionally unavailable and abandoning fathers EP66 Emotionally unavailable and abandoning fathers Wed, 16 Oct 2024 05:00:05 GMT 41:23 66e8335e4f38fdc2a5b287ad true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66e8335e4f38fdc2a5b287ad 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 66 On this episode, host and empowerment coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with Emma about her experience of abandonment from her father.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host and empowerment coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with Emma about her experience of abandonment from her father.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep65 PMDD & weaponised mental health conditions]]> Wed, 09 Oct 2024 05:00:08 GMT 1:12:08 66ed716bc33f703b9e6d312b true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66ed716bc33f703b9e6d312b 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 65 On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks with integrative psychotherapist and PMDD advocate Josie about her experiences with PMDD and how easily mental health conditions can be weaponised in toxic family dynamics.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks with integrative psychotherapist and PMDD advocate Josie about her experiences with PMDD and how easily mental health conditions can be weaponised in toxic family dynamics.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> <![CDATA[EP64 Generational trauma, hispanic cultural norms & living with a toxic parent]]> Wed, 02 Oct 2024 05:00:38 GMT 44:25 66f1242d53d1bcf49e5d44a5 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66f1242d53d1bcf49e5d44a5 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 64 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Cristina about her lived experience growing up in a Hispanic family where it's commonplace to live in a multigenerational home and what that has meant for her difficult relationship with her mother.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Cristina about her lived experience growing up in a Hispanic family where it's commonplace to live in a multigenerational home and what that has meant for her difficult relationship with her mother.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> <![CDATA[EP63 Discussing different sibling perspectives with Louise & Frankie]]> Wed, 25 Sep 2024 04:53:43 GMT 1:19:46 66df53386a4ad6e33d633513 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66df53386a4ad6e33d633513 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story with siblings full 63 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with siblings Frankie & Louise about their lived experiences with a toxic father. They discuss how different their relationships with dad have looked through the years and share their views on their childhoods. You can listen to Louise's podcast Mums Work and Chaos episode featuring Harriet here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6pyjVmIlBG7h1AmBhMDXHH?si=AtUtqk4KSF6uUZ0cryAY7A


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks with siblings Frankie & Louise about their lived experiences with a toxic father. They discuss how different their relationships with dad have looked through the years and share their views on their childhoods. You can listen to Louise's podcast Mums Work and Chaos episode featuring Harriet here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6pyjVmIlBG7h1AmBhMDXHH?si=AtUtqk4KSF6uUZ0cryAY7A


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> EP62 How can therapy help with Lucy Hills-Gale EP62 How can therapy help with Lucy Hills-Gale Wed, 18 Sep 2024 04:56:15 GMT 47:37 66acbc71da0a3151728a4bb0 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66acbc71da0a3151728a4bb0 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 62 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with therapist Lucy Hills-Gale about how therapy can help you to move through your lived experiences and heal. Lucy shares her exercises and advice during this episode, and you can also find her at Space to Talk Counselling, which you can find here: https://www.spacetotalk.co.uk/ and on her instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/spacetotalk_counselling and facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/Spacetotalkcounselling/


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with therapist Lucy Hills-Gale about how therapy can help you to move through your lived experiences and heal. Lucy shares her exercises and advice during this episode, and you can also find her at Space to Talk Counselling, which you can find here: https://www.spacetotalk.co.uk/ and on her instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/spacetotalk_counselling and facebook here: https://www.facebook.com/Spacetotalkcounselling/


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> <![CDATA[EP61 I've got news! (and why we feel lazy when resting)]]> Wed, 11 Sep 2024 04:56:01 GMT 32:47 66deded8ccdd28b9d67b17d4 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66deded8ccdd28b9d67b17d4 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 61 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares some exciting news and talks about why she feels 'lazy' taking the summer off podcasting to spend with her kids.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith shares some exciting news and talks about why she feels 'lazy' taking the summer off podcasting to spend with her kids.


If you have found Unfollowing Mum pod useful, consider pre-ordering Harriet's new book Unfollowing Mum: Break Unhealthy habits and be the parent you wish you'd had, available on 7th November 2024. You can preorder here: https://bio.to/UnfollowingMum

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]]> EP60 What comes after the confrontation? (TW: Covert SA) EP60 What comes after the confrontation? (TW: Covert SA) Wed, 10 Jul 2024 04:59:06 GMT 39:02 668d5e53d6a41d01e755f9d3 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 668d5e53d6a41d01e755f9d3 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 60

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]]> <![CDATA[EP59 Breaking cycles, boundaries & repair with Natasha Nyeke]]> Wed, 26 Jun 2024 04:54:12 GMT 53:07 667aee500d0708c0968899df true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 667aee500d0708c0968899df 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 59 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with therapist and coach Natasha Nyeke about breaking the cycle, repairing the relationship with your emotionally immature parent and feeling your feelings.


You can find Natasha here:


https://www.instagram.com/theimperfect.therapist

https://www.natashanyeke.com/

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with therapist and coach Natasha Nyeke about breaking the cycle, repairing the relationship with your emotionally immature parent and feeling your feelings.


You can find Natasha here:


https://www.instagram.com/theimperfect.therapist

https://www.natashanyeke.com/

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep58 Father's day - the aftermath.]]> Wed, 19 Jun 2024 10:46:15 GMT 33:29 6672b6f7660cbf1abca0b024 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6672b6f7660cbf1abca0b024 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 58

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]]> <![CDATA[EP57 Religious abuse & estrangement]]> Wed, 12 Jun 2024 05:06:14 GMT 42:35 666876609264d00012ea58d7 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 666876609264d00012ea58d7 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 57 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to author Lyn Smith Gregory about religious trauma, abuse and the resulting estrangement from stepping out of the church.

You can find more about Lyn here: https://lynsmithgregory.com/about/

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to author Lyn Smith Gregory about religious trauma, abuse and the resulting estrangement from stepping out of the church.

You can find more about Lyn here: https://lynsmithgregory.com/about/

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]]> <![CDATA[EP56 Bi cultural straddling & the unhealthy family dynamic with Sahaj Kohli]]> Wed, 05 Jun 2024 05:00:50 GMT 34:00 665f28eb5259600012561f9e false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 665f28eb5259600012561f9e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 56 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Sahaj Kohli, therapist, author of But what will people say? and founder of @browngirltherapy. Sahaj shares her wisdom about setting boundaries and navigating dysfunctional family dynamics as a bi-cultural child of immigrants and breaking generational trauma cycles within collectivist, multicultural families.

You can find Sahaj's book here:

https://amzn.to/3Vawj0N

And follow @browngirltherapy on instagram

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]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks with Sahaj Kohli, therapist, author of But what will people say? and founder of @browngirltherapy. Sahaj shares her wisdom about setting boundaries and navigating dysfunctional family dynamics as a bi-cultural child of immigrants and breaking generational trauma cycles within collectivist, multicultural families.

You can find Sahaj's book here:

https://amzn.to/3Vawj0N

And follow @browngirltherapy on instagram

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 55 Scapegoating, estrangement & lies with Harriet Gleeson]]> Wed, 22 May 2024 05:00:29 GMT 40:54 664c564a9d6f81001292acab false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 664c564a9d6f81001292acab 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 55

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep54 Fight response, anger & shame]]> Wed, 15 May 2024 11:07:04 GMT 27:58 664497583fa3790012b6169c true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 664497583fa3790012b6169c 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 54 On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about fight response, anger and shame.

You can find her here: https://www.instagram.com/unfollowing_mum

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]]> On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about fight response, anger and shame.

You can find her here: https://www.instagram.com/unfollowing_mum

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep53 Self care, boundaries & guilt for cycle breakers with Emma Benyon]]> Wed, 01 May 2024 16:33:26 GMT 37:56 66326ed6ac8cdb001260608e false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66326ed6ac8cdb001260608e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 53 On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with coach Emma Benyon about self care, guilt and setting boundaries as a cycle breaking parent.

You can find Emma here: https://www.instagram.com/emmabenyon.coach and https://emmabenyoncoaching.co.uk/

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]]> On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith chats with coach Emma Benyon about self care, guilt and setting boundaries as a cycle breaking parent.

You can find Emma here: https://www.instagram.com/emmabenyon.coach and https://emmabenyoncoaching.co.uk/

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]]> <![CDATA[EP52 Generational trauma & toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants ]]> Wed, 24 Apr 2024 05:00:18 GMT 55:39 6627eb46d1e1b20011a61002 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6627eb46d1e1b20011a61002 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 52 On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Rachel Varkey, host of It's Fine! Pod, about her experiences of generational trauma and toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants. They talk about the 'that's just white woman stuff' myth that surrounds cycle breaking and challenging our generational trauma.


You can find Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/itsfinethepod?igsh=N3Fjdmp5ZXRtNXE1

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]]> On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats to Rachel Varkey, host of It's Fine! Pod, about her experiences of generational trauma and toxic family dynamics as a child of immigrants. They talk about the 'that's just white woman stuff' myth that surrounds cycle breaking and challenging our generational trauma.


You can find Rachel here: https://www.instagram.com/itsfinethepod?igsh=N3Fjdmp5ZXRtNXE1

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 51 Why is setting boundaries with your partner's family SO tough?]]> Wed, 17 Apr 2024 10:53:38 GMT 27:32 661faa33f5dc560016989dc3 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 661faa33f5dc560016989dc3 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 51 On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about setting boundaries with your partner's family and why it's so tough - from when they won't to navigating healthy reactions when you've never experienced them before, she breaks it down in this short episode.

You can get in touch with Harriet at @tobyandroo or harriet@tobyandroo.com

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]]> On this episode, host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about setting boundaries with your partner's family and why it's so tough - from when they won't to navigating healthy reactions when you've never experienced them before, she breaks it down in this short episode.

You can get in touch with Harriet at @tobyandroo or harriet@tobyandroo.com

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]]> Ep 50 Late ADHD/ASD diagnosis and childhood trauma Ep 50 Late ADHD/ASD diagnosis and childhood trauma Wed, 10 Apr 2024 04:46:28 GMT 26:17 66154ff12178ca001696242a true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 66154ff12178ca001696242a 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 50

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep49 F.O.G - Fear, Obligation & Guilt: a narcissistic parent's toolkit]]> Tue, 12 Mar 2024 20:01:36 GMT 34:05 65f0b4a00ab42100165b8dc9 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65f0b4a00ab42100165b8dc9 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 49

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]]> <![CDATA[EP48 Complicated feelings that come up around Mother's Day ]]> Wed, 06 Mar 2024 05:56:37 GMT 28:51 65e0a11bcedd730017927897 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65e0a11bcedd730017927897 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 48

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 47 Baiting - what is it & how do we stop it?]]> Wed, 28 Feb 2024 06:00:41 GMT 27:15 65de0eb2acbfff00160c4579 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65de0eb2acbfff00160c4579 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 47

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]]> EP 46 Ending relationships and attachment styles EP 46 Ending relationships and attachment styles Tue, 20 Feb 2024 15:28:00 GMT 22:29 65d4c501eed9780016fa0d7c true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65d4c501eed9780016fa0d7c 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 46 On this week's episode host and coach Harriet Shearsmith talks about endings - her relationship with them, how that is impacted by attachment styles and why it relates of our toxic parents.


As promised the recommended quiz for attachment styles is: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/

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As promised the recommended quiz for attachment styles is: https://www.attachmentproject.com/attachment-style-quiz/

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]]> EP45 Birthdays - mine, theirs and why they are complicated EP45 Birthdays - mine, theirs and why they are complicated Wed, 07 Feb 2024 05:55:59 GMT 29:38 65c2b90b9f16b50017e28de8 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65c2b90b9f16b50017e28de8 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 45

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]]> <![CDATA[EP44 Emotionally immature parents, emotionally dismissive fathers & post-accountability repairs]]> Wed, 31 Jan 2024 05:55:57 GMT 49:10 65a934cafe019d0017adba78 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65a934cafe019d0017adba78 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 43

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]]> <![CDATA[EP43 TW Normalised sexual abuse & life after]]> Wed, 24 Jan 2024 05:55:00 GMT 38:16 65a94bfdd25b440016cb7ff0 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65a94bfdd25b440016cb7ff0 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 44

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep42 New Year pressures, toxic positivity & post-Christmas chaos]]> Wed, 17 Jan 2024 05:51:02 GMT 31:12 65a6a5e74e0b4c0016f2abce true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65a6a5e74e0b4c0016f2abce 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 42

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]]> Ep 41 Setting Boundaries at Christmas Ep 41 Setting Boundaries at Christmas Wed, 13 Dec 2023 06:00:20 GMT 43:51 65789a24a69e0b0016939c1d true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 65789a24a69e0b0016939c1d 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Your questions answered full 41

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep40 Self discovery, being LGBTQ+ & neurodivergent with a toxic parent with Cara MacB]]> Wed, 06 Dec 2023 05:54:50 GMT 1:02:50 656decfcd8a7660012088527 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 656decfcd8a7660012088527 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Breaking the cycle through lived experience full 40 On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Cara MacB about her lived experienced as a non-binary, neurodivergent person growing up with a toxic parent and how that stifled her sense of self. You can find Cara at

Instagram: https://instagram.com/cara_macb

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]]> On this week's episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Cara MacB about her lived experienced as a non-binary, neurodivergent person growing up with a toxic parent and how that stifled her sense of self. You can find Cara at

Instagram: https://instagram.com/cara_macb

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]]> <![CDATA[EP39 *TW* Narcissistic fathers, enabling mothers & childhood sexual abuse]]> Wed, 29 Nov 2023 05:43:35 GMT 1:05:54 6564b92d48a51c00126a6045 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6564b92d48a51c00126a6045 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 39

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]]> <![CDATA[EP38 *TW* Toxic motherwound, invalidation & silencing sibling sexual abuse with Christie Hayes]]> Wed, 22 Nov 2023 05:55:31 GMT 48:25 6557cb906a413b001234a4c8 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6557cb906a413b001234a4c8 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 38 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith chats with Christie Hayes, toxic mother wound coach and therapist about sibling sexual abuse, invalidation and toxic mother wounds.


You can find Christie at: https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery and via her facebook group Adult daughters breaking free from toxic relationships with their mother.

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You can find Christie at: https://www.instagram.com/toxic_mother_recovery and via her facebook group Adult daughters breaking free from toxic relationships with their mother.

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]]> <![CDATA[EP37 Trauma responses & C-PTSD trigger reactions]]> Wed, 15 Nov 2023 06:00:14 GMT 40:09 654b8a241064430012615aaf true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 654b8a241064430012615aaf 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 37

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]]> <![CDATA[EP36 Toxic mothers, Spiritual abuse & Hispanic generational trauma with Rebecca Dominguez]]> Wed, 01 Nov 2023 05:56:38 GMT 59:31 654110cd30d6750012565612 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 654110cd30d6750012565612 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 36

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]]> <![CDATA[EP35 Weaponising single parenthood, society's bias & toxic divorce]]> Wed, 25 Oct 2023 05:00:04 GMT 27:10 653818b5ebdabd001213e788 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 653818b5ebdabd001213e788 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 35

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]]> <![CDATA[EP34 The Mother wound & challenging the inner critic with Marie Selleck]]> Wed, 18 Oct 2023 04:50:15 GMT 48:28 652d628e2681ee001287ac83 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 652d628e2681ee001287ac83 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 34

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]]> <![CDATA[EP33 Dissecting "An Estranged Parent's POV" Meme]]> Wed, 11 Oct 2023 04:55:42 GMT 43:06 6523fb36e446e7001157eb28 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6523fb36e446e7001157eb28 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 33

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]]> <![CDATA[EP32 Narcissistic fathers & invalidating teens]]> Wed, 04 Oct 2023 05:00:14 GMT 56:32 651aa82d8b1f920011793441 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 651aa82d8b1f920011793441 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 32

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]]> EP31 :: Health scares when estranged EP31 :: Health scares when estranged Wed, 27 Sep 2023 13:49:41 GMT 31:35 651432f5b4b34000119a425f true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 651432f5b4b34000119a425f 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 31

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]]> <![CDATA[EP30 TW: Covert sexual abuse & toxic parents dating]]> Wed, 16 Aug 2023 05:00:39 GMT 41:08 64d11c381c49bf0011e4745b true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64d11c381c49bf0011e4745b 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 30

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep29 Golden children, spirituality & healing with Stephen]]> Tue, 08 Aug 2023 05:03:34 GMT 46:42 64cfa83d2b596500115a6a4c false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64cfa83d2b596500115a6a4c 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 29

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]]> Ep28 Victim mode, toxic positivity and surface level healing with Triinu Ep28 Victim mode, toxic positivity and surface level healing with Triinu Wed, 02 Aug 2023 05:00:11 GMT 46:05 64c7ba00fc49e20011d35aab true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64c7ba00fc49e20011d35aab 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 28

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]]> Ep27 Financial impact of estrangement Ep27 Financial impact of estrangement Wed, 26 Jul 2023 04:57:02 GMT 28:07 64bfcb571f0c500011bdd0c3 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64bfcb571f0c500011bdd0c3 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Students, summer holidays and support. full 27

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep26 Toxic parents, narcs in disguise & weaponised trauma with Josh Connolly]]> Wed, 19 Jul 2023 04:42:10 GMT 58:50 64b66c8be331870011e93183 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64b66c8be331870011e93183 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 26

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep25 Jonah Hill, weaponising "therapy speak" & grief after estrangement ]]> Wed, 12 Jul 2023 05:00:56 GMT 30:20 64ad3a30af73b500118ed546 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64ad3a30af73b500118ed546 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 25 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about Jonah Hill and THAT boundaries text drama, weaponising therapy terminology and the grief after estrangement.

You can find Harriet on instagram, tiktok and threads at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum

You can also book a 1:1 empowerment coaching session with Harriet at https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about Jonah Hill and THAT boundaries text drama, weaponising therapy terminology and the grief after estrangement.

You can find Harriet on instagram, tiktok and threads at @tobyandroo or @unfollowing_mum

You can also book a 1:1 empowerment coaching session with Harriet at https://app.simplymeet.me/harrietshearsmith

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep24 Long term estrangement & consciously parenting teens with Katie Pratley ]]> Wed, 05 Jul 2023 05:00:26 GMT 1:00:19 649d847098863d0011c398b7 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 649d847098863d0011c398b7 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 24 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to parent/teen coach Katie Pratley about cycle breaking parenting of teens and her lived experience with parental estrangement over the last two decades.

You can find Katie at @thehappywellbeingclub on tiktok and instagram, at her FREE FB group Calm Connected Parent Club as well as her website thehappywellbeingclub.co.uk

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You can find Katie at @thehappywellbeingclub on tiktok and instagram, at her FREE FB group Calm Connected Parent Club as well as her website thehappywellbeingclub.co.uk

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]]> <![CDATA[EP23 Emotional abuse, faking illness & guilt trips with Alexis Higgins]]> Wed, 28 Jun 2023 05:00:21 GMT 1:10:06 649adada71939a00114cec4e true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 649adada71939a00114cec4e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 23

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep22 Consumed by trauma, self responsibility & self blame]]> Wed, 21 Jun 2023 05:01:42 GMT 25:52 6491871d3d5c0f001195e4a0 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6491871d3d5c0f001195e4a0 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Inner critic challenges full 22

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]]> <![CDATA[Ep21 Importance of talking, toxic parents & trauma with Ben Cole Edwards]]> Wed, 14 Jun 2023 04:55:10 GMT 51:04 6488408ea5f8c90011e364e8 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6488408ea5f8c90011e364e8 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Trauma Corner full 21 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to author and life coach Ben Cole Edwards about the importance of breaking stigma and talking about our trauma, toxic parents and how it impacts us as adults.

You can find Ben at Ben Trauma Corner on tiktok, instagram and youtube.

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You can find Ben at Ben Trauma Corner on tiktok, instagram and youtube.

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]]> <![CDATA[EP20 Court, access requests & grandparents rights with Alisha]]> Wed, 07 Jun 2023 04:55:58 GMT 1:00:37 647f1632b19ea100117e0aad false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 647f1632b19ea100117e0aad 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 20

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]]> EP 19 Boundaries with Dr Deering EP 19 Boundaries with Dr Deering Wed, 31 May 2023 04:52:33 GMT 28:46 645cf06d6de49d001119c4c3 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 645cf06d6de49d001119c4c3 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 19 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to psychologist and Mother/daughter relations personal trainer Dr Michelle Deering about boundaries. Find Dr Deering at:


Instagram: https://instagram.com/motherdaughterconnections

Coffee chat: https://calendly.com/motherdaughterconnections/coffee-chat?month=2023-05

Diffuse arguments: https://curativeconnections.ac-page.com/less-arguments

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to psychologist and Mother/daughter relations personal trainer Dr Michelle Deering about boundaries. Find Dr Deering at:


Instagram: https://instagram.com/motherdaughterconnections

Coffee chat: https://calendly.com/motherdaughterconnections/coffee-chat?month=2023-05

Diffuse arguments: https://curativeconnections.ac-page.com/less-arguments

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]]> <![CDATA[EP18 Trauma, cycle breaking & overwhelm with Libby Ward]]> Wed, 24 May 2023 04:52:48 GMT 57:01 645cc6b7a28eb000114761bd true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 645cc6b7a28eb000114761bd 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Diary of an Honest Mom full 18

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 17 Was it neglect or just "a different time?"]]> Wed, 17 May 2023 05:00:57 GMT 35:28 645394a91ea74a00110a854f true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 645394a91ea74a00110a854f 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 17

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]]> EP 16 Toxic shame with Maggie Nick EP 16 Toxic shame with Maggie Nick Wed, 10 May 2023 04:55:10 GMT 1:03:00 645410f1d40189001179ed03 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 645410f1d40189001179ed03 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Parenting without shame full 16 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks toxic shame and how we can parent our children without shame with therapist & parenting expert Maggie Nick who is known online as Maggie With Perspecticals.


You can find Maggie at : https://instagram.com/maggiewithperspectacles and https://www.tiktok.com/@maggiewithperspectacles

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks toxic shame and how we can parent our children without shame with therapist & parenting expert Maggie Nick who is known online as Maggie With Perspecticals.


You can find Maggie at : https://instagram.com/maggiewithperspectacles and https://www.tiktok.com/@maggiewithperspectacles

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]]> EP 15 Addressing generational trauma in parenting with Dr Emma Svanberg EP 15 Addressing generational trauma in parenting with Dr Emma Svanberg Wed, 03 May 2023 05:00:40 GMT 1:04:37 64088c67c3e19d001175a6bd false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64088c67c3e19d001175a6bd 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 15 On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Dr Emma Svanberg, clinical psychologist and author of Parenting for Humans, about generational trauma, cycle breaking parenting and reparenting yourself.


You can find more from Emma at:


Instagram: https://instagram.com/mumologist

Buy her brilliant book "Parenting for Humans" https://amzn.to/3FaLKyP


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]]> On this episode host Harriet Shearsmith talks with Dr Emma Svanberg, clinical psychologist and author of Parenting for Humans, about generational trauma, cycle breaking parenting and reparenting yourself.


You can find more from Emma at:


Instagram: https://instagram.com/mumologist

Buy her brilliant book "Parenting for Humans" https://amzn.to/3FaLKyP


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]]> <![CDATA[EP 14 Parentification & parental alcoholism with Jemma Wilson]]> Wed, 26 Apr 2023 04:54:55 GMT 1:09:57 64429fce510ea80011e03953 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64429fce510ea80011e03953 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 14

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 13 Misconception, excuses & estranged parents on tiktok]]> Wed, 19 Apr 2023 04:50:07 GMT 28:06 643e82541ae2800011c86bb2 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 643e82541ae2800011c86bb2 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 13

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]]> EP 12 Adopted by a Narcissist with Gaynor CherieAnn EP 12 Adopted by a Narcissist with Gaynor CherieAnn Wed, 12 Apr 2023 05:00:28 GMT 52:33 64072df51538e80011e5ab19 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 64072df51538e80011e5ab19 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 12

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 11 Prince Harry, Jennette McCurdy & the impact of public figures discussing estrangement]]> Wed, 05 Apr 2023 04:50:02 GMT 24:48 6426c87af5c6b500114ba37c true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 6426c87af5c6b500114ba37c 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 11

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 10 Narcissistic parents with Helen Villiers & Katie McKenna]]> Wed, 29 Mar 2023 04:45:47 GMT 1:13:45 63f8f9b7d326430011365b34 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63f8f9b7d326430011365b34 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Psychotherapist special full 10 on this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna who specialise in working with adult children of narcissistic parents, healing the effects of parentification and emotional abuse.


You can find Helen on instagram & tiktok via @liberationhelen or on facebook with Liberation Therapy and you can find Katie on instagram and tiktok via @katiemckennapsychotherapist . They have a joint podcast called In Sight - Exposing Narcissism whihc you can find on any streaming platform.

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]]> on this episode host Harriet Shearsmith speaks to psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna who specialise in working with adult children of narcissistic parents, healing the effects of parentification and emotional abuse.


You can find Helen on instagram & tiktok via @liberationhelen or on facebook with Liberation Therapy and you can find Katie on instagram and tiktok via @katiemckennapsychotherapist . They have a joint podcast called In Sight - Exposing Narcissism whihc you can find on any streaming platform.

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 9 Childhood trauma & toxic family with Elspeth Van Der Hole]]> Wed, 22 Mar 2023 05:03:34 GMT 1:26:40 63f62d2dd326430011b4242e true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63f62d2dd326430011b4242e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 9 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Elspeth Van Der Hole about her experience with childhood trauma, toxic family dynamics and surviving estrangement following the death of her father.


You can find Elspeth at:

https://instagram.com/elspethfit

https://www.elspethillustrates.com/

http://www.elspethvanderhole.com/

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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to Elspeth Van Der Hole about her experience with childhood trauma, toxic family dynamics and surviving estrangement following the death of her father.


You can find Elspeth at:

https://instagram.com/elspethfit

https://www.elspethillustrates.com/

http://www.elspethvanderhole.com/

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 8 Estrangement on Mother's Day]]> Wed, 15 Mar 2023 06:00:15 GMT 30:37 641044c8868c2f0011c67bfb true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 641044c8868c2f0011c67bfb 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 8

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]]> <![CDATA[EP 7 Importance of community, estrangement grief & cycle breaking with Abbey Williams]]> Wed, 08 Mar 2023 06:00:44 GMT 43:14 63f37f3eedc2dc0011146e31 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63f37f3eedc2dc0011146e31 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 7 In this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to the brilliant Abbey Williams (MSW,LSW) about the importance of community, estrangement grief and breaking the cycle as a parent.

For more from Abbey, you can find her at:

Instagram: https://instagram.com/youthemother

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/youthemother

Her website for coaching & support: https://youthemother.com

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]]> In this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to the brilliant Abbey Williams (MSW,LSW) about the importance of community, estrangement grief and breaking the cycle as a parent.

For more from Abbey, you can find her at:

Instagram: https://instagram.com/youthemother

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/youthemother

Her website for coaching & support: https://youthemother.com

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]]> EP 6 Lack of Self in adult children of toxic parents EP 6 Lack of Self in adult children of toxic parents Wed, 01 Mar 2023 06:01:57 GMT 28:23 63fe26e6ce247f001130cdfc true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63fe26e6ce247f001130cdfc 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Who am I? full 6

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]]> <![CDATA[EP5 Surviving parental alcoholism & abuse with Helene Rabbitt]]> Wed, 22 Feb 2023 05:55:28 GMT 1:19:08 63e67f094534bc0010e311b4 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63e67f094534bc0010e311b4 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e Lived experience story full 5

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]]> EP4 Addressing the Motherwound with Michaila Tyson EP4 Addressing the Motherwound with Michaila Tyson Wed, 15 Feb 2023 06:00:13 GMT 1:03:47 63da7ec7f6391d001156a29e true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63da7ec7f6391d001156a29e 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 4 On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to mentor and self worth coach Michaila Tyson about the Motherwound. They discuss reparenting yourself, mothering without a positive role model and what it means to do the shadow work involved in healing from a dysfunctional or toxic dynamic with a mother.

You can find Michalia and her work:


Instagram: https://instagram.com/iammichailatyson

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iammichailatyson



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]]> On this episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks to mentor and self worth coach Michaila Tyson about the Motherwound. They discuss reparenting yourself, mothering without a positive role model and what it means to do the shadow work involved in healing from a dysfunctional or toxic dynamic with a mother.

You can find Michalia and her work:


Instagram: https://instagram.com/iammichailatyson

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@iammichailatyson



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]]> EP3 Access denied :: Cutting off toxic Grandparents EP3 Access denied :: Cutting off toxic Grandparents Wed, 08 Feb 2023 05:55:27 GMT 34:30 63e0f46a7f67b200118ed047 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63e0f46a7f67b200118ed047 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 3

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]]> <![CDATA[EP2 Gratitude, scapegoating & accountability.]]> Wed, 01 Feb 2023 06:00:42 GMT 38:56 63cc016da0216b00109be89d true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63cc016da0216b00109be89d 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 2

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]]> EP1 Welcome to Unfollowing Mum EP1 Welcome to Unfollowing Mum Wed, 25 Jan 2023 06:00:37 GMT 33:52 63c95c89ebbb670011077e49 true http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63c95c89ebbb670011077e49 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e full 1 Welcome to the first episode of Unfollowing Mum, a podcast for cycle breakers by someone who gets it. In this introductory episode, host Harriet Shearsmith talks about how Unfollowing Mum came into being, shares some of her story, addresses the importance of talking about taboos and looks at what estrangement really means.


Remember, whatever you're going through, you're never alone.

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Remember, whatever you're going through, you're never alone.

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]]> Introducing Unfollowing Mum Introducing Unfollowing Mum Thu, 19 Jan 2023 13:21:38 GMT 1:31 63c943e38c482b0010664165 false http://instagram.com/tobyandroo 63c943e38c482b0010664165 63bd707a2327eb00108cce7e trailer

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