In this 50th episode, I step away from interviews to share something deeply personal, the inner experience that has shaped my own grief journey over the past nine years.

This episode explores the ongoing dialogue between two parts of myself: the human mind, which feels the raw pain of loss, and the spiritual mind, which offers a sense of peace, perspective, and continued connection.

If you’ve ever felt torn between deep sorrow and moments of calm or meaning, this conversation may resonate with you.

In This Episode, I Share:

What it’s really like living with grief 9 years after losing my son Matthew

The internal conflict between emotional pain and spiritual understanding

Why grief doesn’t disappear — but life can grow around it

How both heartbreak and healing can exist at the same time

The importance of allowing all feelings without judgement

A comforting perspective on love, memory, and continued connection

Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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In this episode we talk about a powerful and often overlooked side of grief - anger.

Lucy brings a unique perspective on grief, emotional suppression, and why sometimes talking alone isn’t enough. In this conversation, we explore how movement, expression, and safe release can play a role in healing.

Lucy created her rage room as a place where people can safely release what they’re holding inside. While smashing objects might sound unusual at first, the intention behind it is deeply therapeutic - allowing people to physically move emotions that feel stuck in the body.

We also dive into Lucy’s personal experiences with grief, what helped her move forward, and why acknowledging the full spectrum of emotions, including anger can be an important part of the healing process.

If you’ve ever felt like your grief doesn’t fit the neat, quiet version society expects, this episode may help you feel less alone.

Recommended reading:

The Body Keeps The Score - Bessel van der Kolk

The Courage To Be Disliked - Fumitake Koga and Ichiro Kishimi

Metaphysical Anatomy - Dr. Evette Rose

Tapping Therapy (EFT) - www.thetappingsolution.com

Connect With Lucy Bee – theinsidejobwithlucybee@gmail.com

www.ragerooms-leamingtonspa.co.uk

Connect with your host Louise Bates:

https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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In today’s episode, I’m joined by Marianne Griffiths, a mother who shares her experience of losing her adult daughter - first through years of separation and struggle, and later through her heartbreaking sudden death in 2019 from SUDEP. 

SUDEP stands for Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy. It refers to the sudden, unexplained death of someone with epilepsy who was otherwise healthy, where no other clear cause is found after investigation.

In this deeply moving and important conversation, Marianne shares the story of her daughter, Abi, a young woman who spent much of her life fighting to be understood, supported, and believed.

From an early age, Abi faced learning difficulties, mental health challenges, and repeated trauma. Her family spent years navigating education systems, social services, and mental health support in search of the right care. Along the way, there were moments of hope, heartbreak, and resilience.

This is a conversation about unconditional love, advocacy, and the urgent need to listen to vulnerable voices before it’s too late.

In This Episode, We Explore:

Marianne’s journey as a mother navigating complex systems

Abi’s early life and the challenges she faced

The impact of separation when a child is taken into care

Living with ambiguous grief and loss

The reality of grieving twice

Advocacy within education, social care, and mental health services

The importance of being heard, seen, and believed

Remembering Abi and the legacy she leaves behind

Connect with your host Louise Bates:

https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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I’m joined by Debbie McLeod, known as The Midlife Mystic Mentor. Debbie is a counsellor, hypnotherapist, medium, spiritual guide, and the author of Best Friends Forever: Practical Steps and Wisdom to Ease the Pain of Pet Loss. Her work gently bridges emotional support with spiritual understanding, helping people navigate some of life’s most tender experiences.

Together, we dive into why losing a pet can feel so devastating, how to honour that grief, and the deep, spiritual connections many of us feel with our animals.

Debbie's book:

https://debbiemcleod.co.uk/services

Connect with Debbie:

instagram.com/midlifemysticmentor

Facebook - Midlife Mystic Mentor

https://www.facebook.com/DebbieandMollie/

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https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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Since that unimaginable loss, Helen has been learning to live with both grief, trauma and PTSD and her loss has shaped every part of her life. Yet from that deep heartbreak, Helen has created something truly special; a charity called Evelyn’s Gift, which shares kindness and compassion in Evelyn’s memory. Through this work, Helen has found small moments of light and a sense of purpose.

In this episode, Helen opens up about:

• What life was like before Evelyn died
• The events leading up to her daughter’s death and the devastating realisation that it was avoidable
• The long, painful journey of seeking answers through an inquest and civil litigation
• The ongoing fight for truth, accountability, and change
• How Evelyn’s Gift was born from grief, and how it continues to spread kindness in Evelyn’s name

We also talk about the challenges of medical trust and accountability, sharing personal reflections from my own experience with my son Matthew’s illness and the haunting “what ifs” that so many bereaved parents live with.

During our conversation, I also highlight the story of Jessica Brady, a 27-year-old engineer whose preventable death inspired ‘Jess’s Rule’, a vital reminder to doctors to take action when patients repeatedly present with the same symptoms.

Helen’s courage, honesty, and compassion shine through every word. Her story is not just about loss, it’s about turning pain into purpose, finding meaning through kindness, and keeping her daughter’s spirit alive in the most beautiful way.

So grab yourself a cuppa (and maybe a box of tissues) and sit back as Helen shares her powerful story and one that will stay with you long after the episode ends.

Connect with Helen through her wonderful charity www.evelynsgift.co.uk

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This episode explores:

• What those first hours and days after a loss can feel like
• The shock, numbness, and disbelief that often protect us in the beginning
• Why anticipatory grief doesn’t make the final moment any easier
• How emotions in early grief move in waves - sometimes tsunamis
• The fog, exhaustion, and confusion of that first week
• The strange push-and-pull of practical tasks in the middle of heartbreak
• The loneliness that can appear even when you’re surrounded by people
• The moment when the world seems to 'move on' while your grief is still raw
• The importance of glimmers, those tiny sparks of relief, laughter, or peace
• Why healing isn’t about forgetting, but about growing around your grief

This episode reminds listeners that grief has no timeline.

There is no right way to feel.

Early grief is not meant to be solved - it is meant to be survived, one breath and one step at a time.

Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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We tend to think of grief as emotional or psychological - but our bodies feel it just as deeply. From exhaustion and sleep changes to physical tension, aches, heaviness, digestive issues, and that sense of being stuck, the body often speaks before the mind can make sense of what’s happening.

Drawing on personal experience, therapeutic insight, and the somatic wisdom explored in The Body Keeps the Score, Louise gently explains how grief impacts the nervous system and why these physical symptoms are not signs of weakness, but natural responses to profound loss.

In this episode, you’ll hear about:

How grief affects the body

• Stress responses like elevated cortisol, racing heartbeat, and weakened immunity
• Physical expressions of grief: tightness, heaviness, insomnia, aches, digestion changes
• Why symptoms like globus sensation (a lump in the throat) can appear during grief
• How tension, pain, and sensation can reflect emotional states
• Why the body remembers what the mind tries to manage

I lead listeners through a gentle body scan, inviting awareness of breath, tension, and sensation without judgment, without needing to fix anything.

Somatic tools that help grief move

• Gentle yoga for grounding, breath awareness, and emotional softening
• Breathwork to calm the nervous system and create emotional space
• Somatic therapy to help release stuck grief
• Everyday movement, as simple as walking or swaying, to help your body process loss

I share my own personal experience of using EFT tapping (Emotional Freedom Techniques) and EMDR therapy.

Somatic tools that help to regulate the nervous system, release stuck emotion, and reconnect with a sense of inner safety.

Recommended Reading:

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk

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As a bereaved mother and widow, Vanessa has endured more loss than most could imagine in one lifetime, yet she’s transformed her pain into purpose.

After losing her son Harry, her husband Anthony, and her father in quick succession, Vanessa dedicated her life to helping others navigate the landscape of grief.

Known for her raw honesty, compassion, and wisdom, Vanessa embodies the 'wounded healer', reminding us that grief isn’t something to get over, it’s something we learn to live alongside.

This episode dives deep into the spiritual beliefs that continue to support her, including soul contracts and signs from the other side.

Books:

Finding Meaning by David Kessler

Journey of Souls by Michael Newton

It's OK That You're Not OK by Megan Devine

Groups:

The Compassionate Friends: https://www.tcf.org.uk/professional/

Therapy:

Havening: https://www.havening.org/

EMDR Eye Movement Desensitisation Reprocessing

Breath Work

Yoga for grief

Connect with Vanessa:

Author website: https://www.vanessamay.co.uk/

Holistic Grief Coaching: https://wellbeingandnutrition.co.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/may.wellbeing.griefsupport/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/holisticgriefsupport

When Grief Takes Everything: A Survival Guide To Devastating Loss:

https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/1068196106/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.FTjfx4BGEGh5OtMwWsPp3QyzSIQ13pdbJDMjYetAwlXGjHj071QN20LucGBJIEps.oR8DgquK--qkSNuoU9m646vmb259bZaIqyEVSJyWt8c&qid=1760187628&sr=1-1

Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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Both can feel heavy, isolating, and overwhelming - but they’re not the same thing.

I'll talk through some of the ways grief shows up differently from depression, where they sometimes overlap, and why it matters to understand the distinction.

This isn’t about putting labels on your pain, it’s about giving yourself language, compassion, and clarity. My hope is that by the end, you’ll feel less alone in whatever you’re experiencing, and more supported in finding the help you need.

If you’ve ever wondered whether your grief is “normal,” or worried it might be something more, this episode offers gentle guidance and reassurance.

In this episode, I’ll talk about:

•What makes grief unique.

•What sets depression apart.

•The places where they overlap.

•And most importantly, how to recognize when it might be time to reach out for extra support.

Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

https://silenceofsuicidesos.org.uk/contact-us/

https://www.samaritans.org/

https://www.cruse.org.uk/get-support/

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What started as journaling soon transformed into poetry, eventually leading to her award-winning book, I Am Unique. Since then, Sue has gone on to create oracle cards, publish anthologies amplifying women’s voices, and inspire countless others to embrace creativity as a tool for self-discovery, healing, and transformation, especially in midlife and beyond.

Sue’s story is a moving reminder that even in the depths of loss, courage and creativity can help us reconnect with ourselves and what we’re here to share with the world.

Recommended reading:

The Artists Way by Julia Cameron

Sue Williams books:

Believe You Can Succeed

Believe You Can Face Your Fears and Confidently Claim a Life You Love

Believe You Can Live a Life You Love at 50+

Golden Threads Women's Shared Wisdom from the Tapestry of Life 

I Am Unique

Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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I’m joined by representatives from the incredible charity SOS Silence of Suicide, whose mission is to challenge stigma, encourage open dialogue, and ensure that no one feels they have to suffer in silence.

Their message is simple yet profound: Stop the Silence, Start the Conversation.

Together, we explore:

The importance of speaking openly about mental health and suicidal thoughts

How silence can be more dangerous than the struggle itself

Support for those bereaved by suicide

How SOS is working to create safe, non-judgmental spaces for anyone in crisis

The transformative power of compassion, listening, and shared humanity

We all open up about our own personal experiences and this episode may be sensitive for some listeners, so please take care while listening.

If you or someone you know is struggling, please know that support is available — you are not alone.

Learn more about SOS Silence of Suicide:

Website: silenceofsuicidesos.org.uk

Facebook: SOS Silence of Suicide  

Instagram: @sossilenceofsuicide

Twitter: @SOS_Initiatives 

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Her Father was bedridden for five years and died in 2008. Narinder explained how she experienced a mixture of sadness and relief - comforted by knowing he was no longer suffering.

Years later, her grief took on a new shape. The sudden loss of her eldest brother Gurjit in 2021, followed by the death of her younger brother Jagdip in 2023.

This brought pain of a different kind - sharper, more unexpected, and deeply disorienting.

Narinder opens up about how the Sikh community stepped forward during these times of loss and she shares the important role of Sikh customs and traditions in mourning.

Members of the Sikh community came together to surround her family with prayer and support.

Those who were able to read from the scriptures brought the sacred words into the house, filling the home with comfort and reverence. The presence of the scriptures offered both spiritual strength and a reminder that she was not alone in her grief.

This heartfelt conversation explores how grief is never the same twice, and how faith, culture, and community can both comfort and challenge us in times of loss.

Connect with Narinder through her Facebook group or Facebook page, both called - The Live Well Learning Hub. 

Narinder's book 'Reflections' A Guided Journal: is available from Amazon.

Recommended reading:

Anita Moorjani Dying to Be Me

Bill Kirkpatrick: Going Forth

The Miracle Morning: Hal Elrod

A Gift For Grief: Louise Bates

Donna Ashworth: Growing Brave

Connect With Your Host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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So often, people mean well but don’t know what to say - and sometimes the phrases we’ve all heard, like “they’re in a better place” or “everything happens for a reason”, can sting more than they soothe.

I share some reflections on the language of grief: what feels supportive, what can feel blunt, and how even simple, honest words can make a big difference.

I also explore how grief can shift the way we speak and listen to each other.

If you’ve ever struggled to find the right thing to say - or wished someone had said something different, this conversation is for you.

Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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I share personal stories, including how my husband Bill and I honour our son Matthew’s birthday, and why we’ve chosen sunshine over tradition when it comes to Christmas.

I also explore the emotional weight of anticipation, the quiet moments that catch us off guard, and the small, meaningful rituals that help keep love present in our everyday lives.

This episode is for anyone navigating the painful first year, or supporting someone through theirs, or simply trying to understand the complex, unpredictable journey of grief.

You’ll be gently reminded that:

• There’s no right way to grieve—only your way
• It’s okay to feel joy, guilt, longing, and laughter all at once
• Even in grief, there are glimmers of love and connection

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In this deeply personal episode, I open up about my own journey through grief: the loss that shattered me, the heartbreak I never expected, and the surprising gifts that emerged from the pain, such as clarity, resilience, compassion, and a deeper connection to life and much more.

This conversation is an honest invitation to see grief as more than something to “get through.” Instead, what if we approached it as a sacred journey, a path that, while brutally painful, can transform us in ways nothing else can?

Whether you’re grieving a loved one, navigating a major life change, or supporting someone through loss, this episode will help you:

• Understand the hidden lessons and gifts in grief
• Find meaning and hope during painful seasons
• Embrace healing while honoring your loss

Grief can break us but it can also open us.

If you’ve ever wondered how to keep going when life falls apart, or how to show up for someone who’s hurting, this episode is for you.

Connect With Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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But are these stages really universal? And do they truly reflect your unique grief journey?

Join me as I explore:

• The origins of the five stages and why they’ve become so popular.
• Common misconceptions and myths around grief stages.
• How grief is a deeply personal experience that doesn’t always follow a set path.
• Ways to recognise and honour your own unique process of healing.
• Tips for supporting yourself and others through grief, beyond the stages.

Whether you’re grieving a loss or supporting someone who is, this episode will help you find freedom from expectations and embrace your own authentic grief.

Tune in and discover why your grief story deserves to be honoured on its own terms.

Recommended reading: On Death & Dying by Elizabeth Kubler Ross

Connect with Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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It’s a question that comes up easily in conversation, often asked with good intentions and without much thought.

But for those of us who have experienced the loss of a child, it can bring a wave of emotion.

It touches a tender part of us, stirring grief, love, and the quiet reality of what could have been.

In this episode, I explore the emotional weight this question can carry. I speak honestly about the pause that comes before answering, and the personal journey of navigating between truth and emotional safety.

I share my own experience with this question, and offer reflections on how we can hold space, for ourselves and for others when loss is part of the story.

This episode is for anyone who carries grief quietly, who continues to love a child no longer here, and who wishes their experience could be acknowledged without needing to explain.

In this episode, I reflect on:

The emotional impact behind a seemingly simple question

What it’s like to parent a child who is no longer living

Why grief often lives in the things left unsaid

How to honour our children while protecting our own emotional boundaries

The unique challenges of invisible motherhood or fatherhood

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This episode reflects the quiet, often unacknowledged grief that follows the end of a relationship. Unlike death, there’s no formal goodbye—just the lingering presence of memories, lost dreams, and shared routines. It speaks to the pain of mourning someone who is still alive, the emotional confusion it brings, and the lack of visible closure.

Yet, within this sorrow lies a potential gift: the opportunity for healing, reflection, and growth. The message is one of compassion and solidarity for anyone navigating heartbreak—not just from a person’s absence, but from the end of love itself. It invites us to honour our grief, not fix it, and to gently uncover meaning amid the loss.

If you are grieving someone who is still alive, if your heart is heavy with unanswered questions and silent prayers, know that you are not alone.

Let us walk this path together, with open hearts and gentle hands, as we seek to find the gift within our grief.

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Recommended reading:

The journey by Brandon Bays 

The Celestine Prophecy by James Redfield

Permission to screw up by Kristen Hadeed

Connect with Catherine Thompson: https://linktr.ee/catherinewilliamson

Connect with Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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It comes in waves, in quiet moments, and sometimes in the most unexpected ways.

My guest today Vicki Holton has walked through many forms of grief, each unique in its own weight.

Now, she faces a new and deeply painful chapter: the anticipatory grief of knowing her son lives with a life-limiting heart condition.

In this heartfelt conversation, we explore the complexities of grieving—what it looks like, how it evolves, and what might lie ahead.

While this episode holds sorrow, it is also woven with hope, strength, and unexpected light.

Recommended Book: Love You Forever by Robert Munsch

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Connect with Vicki through her socials: Vicki Holton

Instagram: AEBWELLNESS

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As someone who bridges the gap between the physical world and the spirit world, Grant shares how mediumship can be a powerful tool in the grieving process.

He is known for his compassionate, grounded approach to spiritual connection.

He works with individuals and groups to help them find comfort and clarity after loss and is passionate about helping people understand that they are never truly alone.

Together, we explore how connecting with loved ones who have died can offer validation, comfort, and sometimes even the permission to move forward. Whether you're a sceptic, a believer, or somewhere in between, this conversation offers compassionate insight into how mediumship can provide hope for those navigating the pain of loss.

What We Cover in This Episode:

What a medium is and how Grant discovered his abilities

Common misconceptions and fears around mediumship

Real-life stories of how spirit communication has helped the grieving

How validation from spirit can ease guilt, unanswered questions, and unresolved emotions

Tips for those who are curious or seeking a session with a medium

The importance of ethical, compassionate practice in spiritual work

Why It Matters:

Grief is often filled with lingering "what ifs," regrets, and a yearning for continued connection. Mediumship, when practiced responsibly, can offer reassurance that our loved ones are still with us in spirit and that love truly transcends death. Grant’s work illustrates how these messages can become a profound part of the healing journey.

Checkout his website: www.grantharrismedium.com

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In her practice, Clare offers innovative walk-and-talk grief groups and retreats, providing a compassionate space for individuals to process their emotions in a supportive environment. Many of the most effective therapists are those who have endured significant emotional challenges themselves; they transform their pain into purpose. Clare exemplifies this transformative journey, using her experiences to guide others toward healing and hope.

Website: www.peopleboost.co.uk

Books recommended: The Grief Recovery Handbook by John James and Russell Friedman

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In the wake of profound loss and the ongoing anticipatory grief surrounding her daughter’s diagnosis, Paramjit has emerged as a remarkable authority on the complexities of grief. Despite these overwhelming challenges, she is affectionately known as "Positive Paramjit," embodying resilience and hope in the face of adversity.

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Recommended books:

Why Me, Why This, Why Now? by Robin Norwood

Books paramjit has been a contributing author.

Golden Threads by Sue Williams

Huntingtons's heroes - chapter titled Sheenams wish 

Turning points moments - chapter titled opening the gifts of care

Women of Spirit - ordinary women extraordinary lives chapter titled - Thank you Daddy I'm no longer afraid of dying.

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Mediumship is a controversial topic among believers and sceptics alike.

While some may dismiss this practice as mere trickery - many individuals find solace in connecting with their departed loved ones.

Mediums claim to communicate with spirits of the deceased, providing comfort and closure to those left behind.

They work like a cosmic phone line connecting and delivering messages from the other side.

The idea that our loved ones continue to exist in some form after death can bring a sense of peace and reassurance during times of intense sorrow.

Dealing with grief is never easy, but some people turn to mediumship as a way to cope with the loss of a loved one.

Whether you believe in the validity of mediumship or not, it is undeniable that it offers a unique perspective on how we can navigate the complex emotions of grief and find healing in different ways.

Anything that brings us comfort it is a good thing.

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Recommended book: E-Squared by Pam Grout

E-Squared is a lab manual with simple experiments to prove once and for all that there really is a good, loving, totally hip force in the universe.

Rather than take it on faith, you are invited to conduct ten 48-hour experiments to prove each of the principles in this book.

Yes, you read that right. It says prove.

For more information about Dayle and the services and training

she provides, check out her website: www.dayleadams.com

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This devastating moment not only shattered the future they had planned together, but also forced Liza to navigate the overwhelming shock, disbelief, and profound grief that accompanies suicide.

The unanswered questions lingered, adding to her pain, and to make matters worse, Liza later discovered the staggering amount of debt they were in.

It's rare for me to be at a loss for words, but witnessing Liza's incredible strength and resilience left me speechless.

Conversations like these are not easy to have, and this episode is certainly a tough listen.

Liza has survived a tragedy that most of us can't even imagine, yet today she courageously shares her story.

While she may still be a work in progress, the loss of her father years later taught her the importance of letting go.

For the last few years, Liza has taken herself along the path of self-development and this has been like therapy for her.

She is now a transformative coach, trainer, author, and international speaker, deeply committed to empowering women through life’s transitions.

With expertise in health, wealth, and relationships, she takes a holistic approach that honours the space between 'no longer' and 'not yet.'

Liza facilitates transformative change by inspiring and empowering clients to take ownership of their lives, turn challenges into opportunities, step confidently into their potential, and achieve their goals.

Her trauma-informed, heart-centered, and somatic approach guides clients toward clarity and purpose while supporting the acceleration of personal and professional development.

If Liza can turn her life around – we all can!

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If you would like to contact Liza, email: lizawilson@me.com

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Get ready to delve into the fascinating world of past life regression, soul contracts, and reincarnation as Jessica guides us through her expertise. Her fascinating belief about life and death helped her to come to terms with the sudden death of her brother.

Reflecting on her spiritual journey, Jessica shares, “I've always been spiritually minded ever since I was a young girl, I was always fascinated with Astrology growing up. My journey into Holistic therapies has been an ongoing unwinding path for many years.”

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Losing a child is an unimaginable and heartbreaking experience that no parent should ever have to go through. It can leave emotional scars that may never fully heal, impacting every aspect of a person's life.

Despite facing such a devastating loss, Rachel alongside her Husband Tim, found the strength to establish a charity in honour of their daughter Molly.

This charity, known as Molly Olly’s, serves as a beacon of hope and support for other families going through similar hardships.

We all find our own ways to deal with grief and Rachel has found her way through her amazing charity www.Mollyollys.co.uk

This charity not only keeps Molly’s memory alive – it helps thousands of other families going through the darkest days of their lives.

Molly Olly’s is a small charity but if you can afford to donate, you will be supporting a charity very close to my heart.

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In August, Andy's grief will mark its sixth year, and throughout this time, he has gained valuable insights and wisdom that can potentially help people who are newly bereaved, or for others who feel stuck in their grief.

Andy eloquently describes grief as an entity that occupies the space once filled by his wife, and he has learned to embrace it with tenderness and understanding. He has reached a point where he feels empowered to manage his grief, rather than allowing it to dictate his emotions and actions. He explains, "I control grief - it doesn't control me".

Throughout his grieving process, Andy has found unwavering support from his friends and family, especially his grandchildren, who he believes carry on Helen's spirit. They frequently reminisce about Helen, keeping her memory alive and present in their lives.

When faced with the task of rebuilding his life without Helen, Andy acknowledges the difficult choice he had to make, knowing that his wife did not have the same opportunity. His resilience and strength in the face of adversity serve as an inspiration to all who listen to his story.

I highly recommend tuning in to this episode, as Andy's words are sure to resonate with anyone who has experienced loss or is seeking guidance on their own journey of healing.

It certainly inspired and helped me!

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Books we discussed:

Facing The Storm by Ray Owen

Language of Loss by Sasha Bates

Still a Way to Go by Andy Smith

Good Grief and Other Poems by Andy Smith

Twelve Months and Counting by Andy Smith

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In this episode, Alan Cox reflects on his beloved late wife Jenny, and the profound impact she had on their lives. Together, they developed The Balance Procedure, a simple yet effective self-help tool designed to bring about a sense of calm, peace, and balance within the body.

Alan explains how this technique helped him when Jenny died suddenly from a heart attack.

He also discusses how The Balance Procedure is evolving by incorporating a labyrinth - either using hand held labyrinth or walking labyrinth.

Alan's way of dealing with his grief is by using this technique alongside his attitude of gratitude mindset.

He focuses his attention and thoughts on all the amazing years he spent with his wife Jenny.

Alan talks about his grief in a matter-of-fact way and while some may perceive Alan's pragmatic approach to grief as being remote or indifferent, it is proof that The Balance Procedure is working in his life.

For more information about The Balance Procedure go to www.thebalanceprocedure.com

For someone who has lost the love of his life, he has a real sense of calm, peace and balance.

This episode can hopefully give others struggling with their intense sadness hope that life can be good again - it certainly inspired me!

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While many people watched from a distance, feeling disconnected from the devastation, my guest today Rob Halligan had a much more personal and harrowing experience.

His father's office was located on the 99th floor of the World Trade Center.

On that fateful day, Rob's father tragically lost his life. Despite the immense shock and loss, Rob found solace in his faith.

As a Christian, he acknowledges that his relationship with God has been tested and challenged in ways he never imagined.

Beyond the shock, horror and collective grief experienced by the world, Rob's story serves as a poignant reminder of the individual tragedies that occurred on 9/11.

His resilience and faith in the face of such profound loss are truly inspiring.

We didn't get a chance to talk about Global Care - a charity close to Rob's heart.

For more information about this charity check out https://www.globalcare.org/

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Connect with Rob Halligan:

• Website: robhalligan.co.uk
• Bandcamp: robhalligan.bandcamp.com/community
• Facebook: facebook.com/HalliganMusic
• Twitter: @RHalligan
• Email: blatant.promotions@gmail.com

#Folk #RobHalligan #SingerSongwriter #FaithAndMusic #StorytellingThroughMusic #AcousticFolk #MusicAndFaith #ChristianMusic #UKMusic

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I want to take a moment to express my gratitude to all of you who have been listening and supporting the podcast. Your feedback and encouragement have meant the world to me. Hearing how this podcast has resonated with you and aided you in your own healing process has been incredibly rewarding.

As I prepare for future episodes, I'm excited about the possibilities that lie ahead. While the core theme of grief will remain at the heart of this podcast, I'm open to exploring different angles and perspectives in order to provide a more comprehensive understanding of this complex topic.

Remember to check out The Twins Parable by Pablo J.Luis Molinero as discussed in this episode.

Louise xx

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I actually cried during this episode as sharon talked about her experience. Her story is heart breaking, from the moment she found out her son’s heartbeat had stopped, to the way the hospital cared for her during and after the labour. Sharon could hear the cries of other babies being born, knowing her baby had died. After the birth, her son Luca was taken away and she didn’t get to see her son for nine hours. 

This is my longest episode to date and it’s a real tearjerker. Grab a cuppa and a box of tissues and find out how Sharon’s son Luca was born sleeping. Discover how she went from having a breakdown, to starting an award-winning charity in Luca’s name. This lady is incredible. If you would like to get in touch with Sharon or support her charity in any way, check out her website: (https://thelucafoundation.org.uk)

Sharon's podcast is called - Live the life you love

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Other links and books we talked about today:

Mo Gawdat - Solve For Happy

Angel Warrior - Sharon Luca-Chatha

Why Did Grandad Die - Sharon Luca-Hatha

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Child loss is one of the most excruciating experiences a parent can endure. However, within the midst of the overwhelming pain and confusion, lies an opportunity to transform this darkness into a beacon of light by offering support to others who are also grieving.

Eight years on and Emily is now a Certified Grief Coach and author of her published book called ‘Confessions of Child Loss’. She holds regular online workshops and webinars supporting others navigating the grief journey and she also has a beautiful blog called ‘Just Playing House’.

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Links & books discussed in this episode include:

Grief Recovery Institute

Emily’s website - www.afterchildloss.com

Megan Devine - www.refugeingrief.com

Dr. Mary Neal - To Heaven and Back (near-death experiences)

Jeff Olsen - Knowing (near-death experiences)

Dr Joanne Cacciatore, Grief From Darkness To Light

Comforting Truths from Heaven by Jeff Jansen

Bearing the Unbearable by Dr. Jo Cacciatore

Signs by Laura Lynne Jackson

Grief Recovery Institute

Psychic Medium - Laura Lynne Jackson

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Becci describes herself as an over sharer and she loves to talk but she admits that when her dad died, she found it hard to talk about her grief. Becci started writing and this gave her a way of processing her grief. Her dad’s death has been extremely difficult, but Becci recognises the gifts that have come from her experience, and she appreciates that she can now truly connect with her patients going through grief.

Sharing our grief stories with others reminds us that we are not alone in this journey. When we open up and let others in, we give them permission to do the same. Suddenly, we find ourselves surrounded by people who have walked similar paths and faced similar heartaches. And it's in these shared experiences that healing begins to take place. We learn from each other's stories, gain insight into new coping strategies, and find solace knowing that someone truly understands. These connections become a form of solidarity, creating a sense of community amidst the chaos of grief. So let's continue to share our stories because together, hand in hand, we can navigate this difficult terrain and emerge stronger on the other side.

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Links:

https://www.cruse.org.uk/

https://www.bluecross.org.uk/pet-bereavement-and-pet-loss

https://www.bereavementandbeyond.co.uk/

The End of the Line by The Traveling Wilburys https://youtu.be/UMVjToYOjbM?si=WCc8anKmi_XKAGqn

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After experiencing loss herself, Gabriella became aware of what was available to those bereaved. Having had a tribute ring made from the ashes of her grandfather Pop’s to whom she was very close, she was also well aware of the financial implications of many of the options available.

Being a lover of nature, she enjoys getting out into the garden with her boys and her oldest especially loves to see when new flowers bloom and is fascinated by the insects and creatures that they bring into the garden.

In more recent times, Gabriella lost another grandfather and started looking for a way to also commemorate him, whilst being mindful of the environment, and trying to find something significant at a more modest cost, the idea of seed hearts came into being.

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After the death of her husband, Jane discovered just how complex, confusing and challenging things can be for those left behind. She has used the pain of her own experience to help guide others.

Her book, Gifted By Grief, was published in 2015 followed by, Before I Go: The Essential Guide to Creating a Good End of Life Plan. It, along with the accompanying Workbook, is the basis for all her programmes.

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For more information about Jane and her products, check out her website. https://beforeigosolutions.com/

References:

The Grief Recovery Method

Louise Hay – You Can Heal Your Life

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Within her business, Time To Heal Together, Kelly uses her skills as a qualified Advanced Drawing and Talking Practitioner to support children, young people and adults to process their painful memories and emotions in a safe way. It can be particularly helpful for people who are experiencing anxiety, depression, low self-esteem, isolation, bereavement, trauma, family separation, the impact of special educational needs.

As a child Kelly witnessed her mum's mental health difficulties and then at the age of 15 her mum died from a brain tumour. These experiences created a passion in Kelly for supporting others with their emotional well-being.

Kelly has kindly offered half price sessions to anyone who has listened to this episode.

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Email Kelly – kelly.higss84@gmail.com

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Bill has not had any therapy and has decided to bury his grief in a box, in a big hole, covered in a thick layer of concrete. Bill’s advice for others though is to not do it like him! He uses dark humour to deal with most of life’s experiences and grief is no exception. Burying grief is not a strategy I would recommend but it’s important to remember that we do not judge how other people grieve.

When it comes to grieving, men and women often exhibit different patterns of coping and expressing their emotions. While these differences are by no means universal, they do tend to reflect general societal expectations, conditioning and gender roles that have been ingrained over time. For example, men may feel pressured to adopt a stoic behaviour and suppress their feelings as a way of upholding traditional notions of masculinity. Consequently, they might be more inclined to isolate themselves or engage in activities that distract them from the pain. On the other hand, women are generally encouraged to be more openly emotional and seek support from others during times of grief. This can manifest in sharing their feelings with friends or family members, seeking therapy or counselling, or participating in support groups. It is important to remember, however, that these differences are not absolute, and individuals may vary greatly in their grieving styles regardless of gender.

Bottling up your feelings or burying emotions can lead to all sorts of anxiety, depression, and even physical health issues. Allow yourself the space and time to feel what you need to feel - cry if you want, punch a pillow if it helps! Find healthy outlets like talking to a friend or therapist. Feeling is healing.

Acknowledging your emotions is the first step towards healing and finding true emotional well-being.

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Recommended reading:

Letters to Matthew by Louise Bates, which include the poems as discussed in this episode: Shipwreck by G. Snow & The Twins Parable by Pablo Molinero.

Matthew's albums:

Fightback by Matt Bates

Kaleidoscope by Matt Bates

Louise Bates Links

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My guest today is Kate Tym and I love her enthusiasm and humour when it comes to talking about funerals. This is a fascinating episode which has really made me think about how I want people to celebrate my life when I die.

The traditional funeral, with its sombre atmosphere and black attire, is slowly evolving into a more personalized and casual experience. People are moving away from rigid religious ceremonies towards celebrations of life that truly reflect the individuality of the person who has died. Picture this - instead of mournful hymns a sing-a-long, the family dog in attendance and a toast raised to say goodbye. The celebration of life can be separated from the burial or cremation, freeing you up to hold your farewelling in any setting you like, with no time restrictions and atmospherically very different to a church or crematorium send-off. In short, these changing trends indicate a shift towards embracing life even when faced with death – because after all, it's about celebrating someone's journey rather than mourning their departure. 

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For more information about Kate and what she does, check out her website here: https://coffinclub.co.uk/

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Tapping Therapy is a therapeutic practice that combines elements of talk therapy with acupuncture and energy medicine. It involves tapping on certain acupressure points on the body while verbalizing specific statements related to the problem or issue at hand. This process helps to regulate the body's energy system and release blockages that can contribute to emotional distress or physical ailments. Tapping Therapy is a very gentle technique and ideal to support people going through grief.

Janice has used the pain of her own grief to help others and I highly recommend her book, ‘Joy Beyond Grief’ to my clients because I appreciate how much it helped me in my journey.

For more information about Janice and the topics we discussed in this episode, check out the links below.

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Janice's Website

Janice's Book - Joy Beyond Grief

Louise Bates Links

EFT Tapping Therapy info

Sue Ryder Grief Support

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When it comes to grieving the loss of an estranged sibling or loved one, the pain can be uniquely complex. It's not only the grief over their physical departure but also the mourning of a relationship that never had a chance to fully mend. The emotions may range from deep sadness and regret to confusion and anger. We find ourselves questioning what could have been different, what we could have done to bridge the gap between us. In many ways, this type of loss is accompanied by waves of guilt and unresolved feelings that can take years, even decades, to process. While society often romanticizes about family bonds, it's important to acknowledge that sometimes relationships break down irreparably due to circumstances beyond our control. Grieving an estranged sibling or loved one involves embracing the complexity of these emotions and finding solace in cherishing the memories we did have instead of dwelling on what could have been.

We also discuss generational conditioning and how men are told to be strong and not cry. Phrases like, big boys don't cry and don't be like a girl, do not help the cause. 

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SUDEP (Sudden Unexpected Death in Epilepsy)

Connect with Ashley in LinkedIn

Ashley's Instagram

We discussed the teaching of Brene Brown and Gabor Mate.

Check out their books.

They also have lots of free info on YouTube and various other social network sites.

Louise Bates Links

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Sally is autistic and ADHD and works as a psychotherapist, counsellor, hypnotherapist and mentor for clients who are, or think they may be neurodivergent. She is a public speaker and advocate for neurodivergence and hosts a podcast on this topic. Sally is a radio presenter, with a show called, Love Your Mind on Frome fm. Her show is dedicated to mental health and neurodiversity. Sally is promoting neurodivergent psychotherapy, counselling and coaching by building awareness of the benefits of neurodivergent professionals within the mental health sector. She is a contributor, on a book project being written by autistic therapists, for neurodivergent therapists and the wider neurodiversity community.

I resonate a lot with what Sally shares and it's making me question whether I flutter on the edges of being neurodivergent. Getting to understand myself at a deeper level is a good thing and helps me to be a better version of myself - and aren't we all always a work in progress anyway? This episode is fascinating and I love how Sally describes her thoughts and experience of grief. This will help so many people going through grief who's journeys may be similar.

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Sally's podcast

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Rachel explains how Narayan was stillborn at nearly 7 months, and how no one asked her about the birth story. She believes that we are conditioned to avoid talking about grief, and she wants to change this. Today, this podcast provides Rachel with the opportunity to talk about her daughter and the beautiful water birth experience, where Narayan was born in her water sac.

Rachels questions if we could find gratitude in the journey of grief and if we could recognize the magic moments scattered throughout this difficult journey? Events like this have the power to enrich our lives. Rachel believes that we have the ability to choose the meaning of this change in our lives. The stillbirth of her daughter grounded her, gave her confidence, conviction, and gratitude that were missing before. Could the experience of grief bring the deeper connection to life that we have been missing?

We also talk about glimmer moments which are micro moments of happiness. None of us choose the journey of grief but we can choose to look for the glimmer moments.

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Recommended reading:

On Grief and Grieving by Elizabeth kubler Ross

On Death and Dying by Elizabeth kubler Ross

Dying Into Life: The Yoga of Death, Loss and Transformation

We Were Gonna Have a Baby, But We Had an Angel Instead by Pat Schwiebert

Ask Me His Name by Elle Wright

The AKAL Meditation (Akal is a mantra to help with the transition of a passing soul. Typically chanted 5 times or more to honour the departed soul and all who are connected to the soul. A beautiful mantra to aid with the grieving process)

Louise Bates Links

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Losing a child is undoubtedly one of the most devastating experiences a parent can endure, no matter the child's age. However, when it comes to losing a young child, the dynamic of grief takes on a distinct set of challenges. The dreams and aspirations that were once filled with the promise of their future suddenly become shattered hopes, leaving parents grappling with an overwhelming sense of emptiness and incompleteness. Moreover, the loss feels unjust as these young lives are often seen as innocent and untainted by the complexities and hardships of the world. The absence of their laughter, hugs, and milestones creates an irreplaceable void that forever haunts parents' hearts. In this way, understanding this intricate aspect of child loss becomes paramount in providing support and empathy to grieving families navigating through unimaginable grief.

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Louise writes on her blog, www.blanketsandbiscuits.com and is currently writing her first book.

Writing has always been her passion, and she has found it a vital way to come to terms with her grief and to find a way forward. 

She set up Fred Bennett’s Don’t Look Down, a special named fund with the Children’s Cancer and Leukaemia Group, to raise funds for research into ALL, which is about to break the £100,000 fundraising mark.

She has written articles on grief for the Huffington Post and the New Statesman, and appeared as a contributor on Newsnight, BBC Breakfast, Good Morning Britain, ITV News, Sky News and Global radio.

By day, she runs Armadillo Social, a marketing and training agency.

Louise’s cancer charity: www.dontlookdown.org.uk

Louise’s Web: www.blanketsandbiscuits.com

Recommended reading

It’s okay that you’re not okay by Megan Divine

It’s The Year Of Magical Thinking, by Joan Didion

September is Childhood Cancer Awareness Month, so it is timely that we talk about child loss and cancer today.

Louise Bates Links

#ChildhoodCancerAwarenessMonth

#CCAM

#ChildhoodCancer

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In today’s episode we are talking about suicide and bereavement by suicide. This can be a very emotive subject so if you feel this may be too difficult for you to listen to, please feel free to tune into a different episode. There are links below to various organisations if you feel you need to talk to somebody afterwards. You will also find links to other topics we discuss.

Today I am honoured to have Charlie Hart as my guest. Charlie has personally experienced the tragic loss of her son Iggy in April 2019 aged 15 to suicide. There is a vast difference between normal death and death by suicide, but Charlie has reassured me that she finds talking about her experience very cathartic.

Iggy was obsessed with cars. He wanted to be a mechanical engineer when he grew up and was planning his work experience with a car mechanic.Talking about Iggy not only keeps his memory alive, but it hopefully reaches others out there who have been touched by the tragedy of suicide.

Charlie Hart (she/they) is a qualified, experienced HR Analyst and Inclusion Consultant. Charlie identifies as a ‘Queer AuDHDer’, as she is bisexual, autistic and has ADHD. An enthusiastic and passionate public speaker, Charlie’s specialist subjects are ‘neurodiversity’ understanding and acceptance, fostering a culture of inclusion, belonging and psychological safety in the workplace, and ‘intersectionality’ - especially the ‘double rainbow’ intersection (people on both the autistic spectrum and the LGBTQIA+ spectrum). Charlie is a social media influencer and neurodiversity advocate under the persona Ausome Charlie.

I hope this episode helps to break down the stigma surrounding suicide and the outdated language that is still used. We need to support those who are struggling with bereavement by suicide. Society needs to hear these conversations. We need to become more grief literate particularly in this very delicate area.

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Survivors of Bereavement by Suicide (SOBS) support group

https://uksobs.org/

AIM for the Rainbow (the queer corner of Autistic Inclusive Meets)

Introduction to Iggy’s Initiative:

Introduction – AIM for the Rainbow (rainbowaim.com)

Helplines 

If You Need Help – AIM for the Rainbow (rainbowaim.com)

SHOUT Crisis Text Service:

Shout - UK's 24/7 Crisis Text Service for Mental Health Support | Shout 85258 (giveusashout.org)

Because many people, especially social anxious and autistic young people, do not like making phone calls. This is like the Samaritans but you can text them, too.

Ausome Charlie blogs, some of which talk about grief and CPTSD:

www.ausomecharlie.com

https://charlieausomehart.wordpress.com/2021/01/25/iggys-initiative-introduction/

Louise Bates Links

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Hazel is a volunteer at Marie Curie hospice and on the Board of Trustees for MND Association. In the summer of 2022, she donated a kidney to save the life of her brother. In March 2023 Hazel won Inspirational Author award, from Ladies First Professional Development network and was a finalist for the Inspirational Woman award. This episode is a captivating blend of tears and laughter, designed to inspire, support, and uplift the listener.

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Books recommended by Hazel in this podcast -  A Widow's Journey: Reflections on Walking Alone, by Gayle G. Roper - The Gift of Peace: Thoughts for a Peaceful World, by Brahma Kumari - A Gift For Grief; by Louise Bates

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Books discussed in this episode - Grief is the thing with feathers by Max Porter / With death in mind by Kathryn Mannix

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After the suicide of a great friend, Dayle founded ‘Our Light Inside’. This service allows people to digitally document information, memories and messages which can then be passed to their loved ones when they die. The idea is for them to gift information to support their families through the loss and grief.

Dayle’s Mum has Lewy Body Dementia which is very fast acting and watching her lose mental and physical abilities showed the need to plan for end of life in addition to post death. To support the expansion of Our Light Inside to cover dying, death, loss and grief, Dayle is also training in 'End Of Life Facilitation'. Dayle has directed the pain of her grief in a practical way by creating ‘Our Light Inside’. This service will help people positively plan their end of life, but you don’t need to wait for a diagnosis or old age – you can sign up now while you are fit and healthy!

We also talk about anticipatory grief and mediumship. Buckle in and enjoy the ride. 

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https://ourlightinside.com/

Louise Bates Links

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Nineteen years ago, Tracey’s husband Tony died suddenly while on a golfing holiday in Spain with his friends and colleagues. Tracey not only had her own grief and shock to contend with, but she also had to break the news to her two gorgeous boys. Today she bravely talks about that dark period in her life and how she navigated her way through.

Tracey is now a certified grief recovery specialist and the founder of surviving bereavement – life after loss, organising pop up bereavement cafes to support people going through grief and loss.

In 2019 Tracey became a published author with her book Hidden Strength. On top of all this, she is also the director of Ladies First Professional Development Ltd. This year she is the proud winner of - networker of the year.

There are tears and laughter in today’s episode.

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For more information about what we discussed please check out these links:

https://survivingbereavement.com/

https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/

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By sharing my story, I hope to create an environment where others feel comfortable opening up about their own grief. I understand that grief is a complex and challenging topic, often making it difficult for individuals to openly discuss and express their emotions in a genuine and meaningful manner, but I have always been an over sharer! My goal is to establish a safe and supportive space where vulnerability and transparency are not only accepted but embraced.

I am fully committed to my mission of helping society become more grief literate. I believe these conversations surrounding grief need to be heard in order for others to learn how to engage in them. By shedding light on this often overlooked aspect of life, I aim to educate and raise awareness, ultimately fostering a more compassionate and understanding society.

Join me on this podcast journey as we delve into the depths of grief, sharing stories, insights, and lessons that will undoubtedly touch your heart, broaden your perspective and hopefully loosen your grief. Together, we can navigate the complexities of grief and find solace in the power of shared experiences.

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Connect with your host Louise Bates: https://linktr.ee/louisebates

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