Sex in Space

Find Out How Sex Toys Can Help You Talk About Sex: Rewriting Your Body Script to Be Shame-Free

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 10:26:59 GMT

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Sanja Zündorf, the founder of entzück dich selbst. For a long time, Sanja thought she was the only woman who masturbated – it wasn’t something she spoke about with her friends, even though they were very open in talking about sex. She began researching this topic in 2019 and realised how many women know very little about their bodies, as well as how many women are ashamed of masturbating, and the way they masturbate. Sanja found in her survey that rubbing against pillows was a very popular method of masturbation but also associated with a lot of shame. Her mission is all about destigmatising masturbation and one of the ways she does this is by designing and selling a collection of sex toys specifically designed for pillow humping.

In this episode, Toshi and Sanja spoke about:

Practical tips for how you can start to feel less shame about masturbation
Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act
How the language we speak can shape our feelings towards our bodies and pleasure
And why your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!).

Find Sanja and her work here: https://entzueckdichselbst.com/de

Check out Sanja on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/entzueckdichselbst/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro.

00:58 – Who is Sanja and what does she do?

01:51 – What makes Sanja’s sex toy different to others on the market?

04:09 – Unpacking shame: Sanja’s early relationship with masturbation.

06:54 – How Sanja helps others feel okay about self-pleasure.

08:49 – How to feel less shame about masturbation.

11:35 – Why Sanja views masturbation as a feminist act.

14:42 – What do people think of pillow humping saddles?

21:06 – Why this sex toy is a self-love statement.

22:24 – How our language can contribute to our shame around masturbation.

30:09 – The importance of teaching kids the anatomically correct terms for their body parts

31:20 – Where you can see the saddles in person.

35:59 – Is using a phallic toy feminist?

39:12 – Your masturbation habits are normal (and sexy!).

45:15 – Where you can find more about Sanja and her work (and how you can participate).

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Rethinking Virginity, Sexiness and All the Ways We Make Love

Sun, 08 Feb 2026 16:28:10 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, Toshi spoke with Hollie McNish, an award-winning poet, writer and performer. Together they had a conversation Hollie’s latest book, ‘Virgin’. It's a six-letter word that holds such incredible power - the power to pressure, to judge, to harm, to praise, to profit, to punish. But virginity is also just a concept, a label that has been pressed upon people for centuries in numerous cultures worldwide. In ‘Virgin’, Hollie McNish unpicks the role this word has played in her own life, as well as others.

00:00 – Intro

01:04 – Who’s Hollie McNish? – Why you need to know!

01:41 – What inspired Hollie to write ‘Virgin’?

05:29 – What’s virginity got to do with purple carrots?

08:22 – The problem with ‘body count’.

12:54 – What does it mean to be sexy?

28:16 – How media shapes the way we think, feel and see the world.

34:11 – We can stop apologising!

41:07 – Social media’s not all bad – here's why.

45:43 – The ways we make love in real life.

49:25 – Time to get comfortable talking about sex, and why.

56:21 – Where to find Hollie and her work.

Check out Hollie here:

https://www.holliepoetry.com/

https://www.instagram.com/holliepoetry/?hl=en

Find 'Virgin' here:

https://www.bookbaruk.com/product-page/virgin-by-hollie-mcnish

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Music as Resistance and Healing: Willis Chimano on How Art Has the Power to Create Change

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 12:42:24 GMT

Willis Austin Chimano, known simply as Chimano, is formally a key member of Africa’s biggest band Sauti Sol. Hailing from Nairobi Kenya, Chimano, through the frequency of grace, love and discernment now embarks on a solo career designed to set the world on fire through his music, product lines and advocacy.

Chimano is celebrated for his deep baritone voice, dynamic stage presence, and distinct fashion sense. His first solo EP "Heavy is the Crown" highlights Chimano's vocal prowess and his ability to blend different musical styles, including pop, soul, and electronic influences. The EP has been well-received by fans and critics alike, noting Chimano's bold step in expressing his individuality and exploring new artistic territories.

Chimano is known for his bold fashion choices, often seen in flamboyant and stylish outfits that challenge traditional norms. He has been an advocate for self-expression and individuality, inspiring many fans to embrace their unique identities. In a landmark moment for his personal life and the LGBTQ+ community in Kenya, Chimano publicly came out as gay in 2021. His openness about his sexuality has been a significant step toward breaking down barriers and challenging societal norms in a region where LGBTQ+ rights are often underrepresented.

Chimano's influence extends beyond music. His advocacy for self-expression and his courage in sharing his personal journey have made him a role model for many. Through his solo work, he continues to inspire and entertain, leaving a lasting impact on the African music scene and beyond.

Find more of Chimano here: https://www.willischimano.com/

Check him out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/willis.chimano/?hl=en

We asked Chimano which song he’d like us to play alongside this podcast episode. Here is ‘Beautiful Day,’ his song of choice: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3DICz0wi8RU

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:36 – Who is Chimano?

01:54 – Being a part of Sauti Sol

04:15 – Chimano’s experience of coming out publicly

12:40 – Rethinking his identity as an artist

21:13 – The importance of a positive mindset and how to achieve it

26:43 – Reflecting on your Chimano’s childhood relationship with music

34:30 – Chimano's message to young queer people in Africa

37:29 – What’s next for Chimano

42:23 – Outro

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Why Showing Adolescence in Schools Is a Miss – and What Works Instead

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 13:14:23 GMT

In this episode, Toshi sat down with Issy from Our Streets Now to talk about why showing Adolescence in schools isn’t a good idea – as well as some alternatives.

Our Streets Now is a UK based organisation that is looking to end public sexual harassment. It was founded in 2019 by two teenage sisters, sharing how they experienced the world as young women. They spoke about feeling afraid walking home at night. About being harassed in their school uniform. About how their lives were restricted by the fear of public sexual harassment. And about how this was an everyday reality for millions of women, girls and people of marginalised genders up and down the country.

They began a petition to make public sexual harassment (PSH) a criminal offence. Within 100 days, that petition had over 100,000 signatures. It now sits at almost half a million. It caught the attention of local media, then national media, then policymakers at the heart of government. And, in 2023, the five year campaign to make PSH a crime was a success.

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

00:55 – What is Our Streets Now and what do they do?

03:20 – All about the workshops run by Our Streets Now about sexual harassment

07:06 – How different genders respond differently to these workshops

10:23 – How to get students involved in difficult conversations about sexual harassment

13:43 – What do young people want to know?

18:40 – How we are all part of the problem

25:24: The ‘little and often’ approach – and why it’s so useful

26:54 – Should Adolescence be shown in schools as a learning resource?

31:14 – The alternative to showing Adolescence in schools

34:25 – How can parents and carers support these conversations?

37:41 – Issy's message to young people

39:13 – Where to find out more about Our Streets Now

40:50 – Conclusion

Find out more about Our Streets Now: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/

Our Streets Now support: https://www.ourstreetsnow.org/support

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The UK’s Oldest Dominatrix: Mistress Sofia on confidence, consent, and why seeing a dominatrix can be good for your health

Sun, 12 Oct 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Toshi spoke with Mistress Sofia, the UK’s oldest dominatrix. Together they had a conversation about what it means to be a dominatrix, how Mistress Sofia got into this work, common misconceptions and what she’s learned in her time being a dominatrix.

Check out more of Mistress Sofia here: https://www.mistress-sofia.co.uk/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:47 – Who is Mistress Sofia?

01:20 – What does it mean to be a dominatrix?

02:12 – How did Mistress Sofia get started in this work?

04:05 – Why does Mistress Sofia not use the world ‘client’?

05:03 – How do people serve Mistress Sofia?

06:58 – Is Mistress Sofia a sex worker?

08:48 – “I always ask what their kinks are”

10:06 – Caning is not as simple as it looks

12:16 – For new dominatrixes: learn from Mistress Sofia

13:20 – What does it mean to be dominant?

14:58 – Mistress Sofia on confidence

16:24 – “You cannot do this for the money”

17:23 – What does Mistress Sofia love about her job?

19:13 – What is a lifestyle slave?

20:19 – When did Mistress Sofia realise she was dominant?

21:59 – Mistress Sofia’s message to women

23:14 – How does being 75 impact her work?

24:54 – Is seeing a dominatrix while you’re in a relationship considered cheating?

27:00 – Why seeing a dominatrix can be a kind of therapy

29:30 – Navigating shame

33:07 – Final thoughts

34:58 – Mistress Sofia’s thoughts on findoms

36:16 – Why Mistress Sofia doesn’t work with women

36:44 – Goals for the future

37:59 – Where to find more of Mistress Sofia

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Inside the Manosphere: The Cultural Gap the Manosphere Fills

Sun, 14 Sep 2025 21:29:10 GMT

For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to have a conversation with Will Adolphy, a former manosphere insider turned therapist. Will is a psychotherapist, educator, and speaker specialising in men’s mental health, masculinity, and emotional wellbeing. He leads M-Path, delivering talks and workshops to schools across the UK on masculinity, empathy, and the online world influencing boys. Will also hosts regular online parent + staff sessions for anyone interested in understanding the manosphere and how to approach conversations with boys more deeply.

Find him on Instagram @psychwill.

Check out Will’s website here: https://www.willadolphy.com/.

Trigger warning: mention of rape, suicide.

In this episode, we discuss:

Will’s story: how he was drawn into the manosphere and why online masculinity influencers attract young men.
The scale of the issue: why this content is so widespread and influential.
Inside the manosphere: Will’s experience with anti-feminist, anti-woke spaces.
Engaging young men: how we can create safer, more open conversations about masculinity.
A deeper problem: the manosphere as a symptom of society’s lack of support for men.
Recovery steps: from self-empathy to accountability partners and honest dialogue.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

01:02 – Who is Will Adolphy?

03:06 – What drew Will to online masculinity influencers and why are they so appealing to young men and boys?

10:07 – How big is this issue?

12:05 – Will's experience of the manosphere

14:51 – How can we engage young men in this conversation?

17:31 – The manosphere isn’t the problem: it’s a symptom of the problem

19:00 – The difficulty of opening up as a man

21:22 – How was Will impacted by this masculinity content?

26:29 – The importance of having empathy for yourself

28:27 – What created the big shift for Will

33:53 – Will's step by step process for recovery

38:08 – How to find an accountability partner

39:45 – The importance of having open conversations

48:44 – What Will would want his younger self to know

53:34 – How do we become men?

58:36 – Conclusion

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Boys Won’t Be Boys: They’ll Be Who We Help Them Become

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 14:01:08 GMT

In this conversation, Daniel Guinness, co-founder and managing director of Beyond Equality, discusses the importance of engaging young boys and men in conversations about gender equality and mental health. He talks about his personal journey into this work, the organisation’s initiatives, and the impact of their programs on the boys and men who participate. Daniel emphasises the need for safe spaces for discussion, the importance of reframing how we see rejection, and advice for men who are trying to make new friends after a move.

TW: mention of self-harm.

Check out Beyond Equality here: https://www.beyondequality.org/

Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/beyond_equality

Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro

00:56 – Who is Dan Guinness and how did he get started in this space?

08:28 – What does Beyond Equality do and who do they work with?

12:56 – How do boys and men of different ages respond to these conversations?

15:22 – Working with a men's pie-making group

16:47 – Why you can’t do Beyond Equality’s work via powerpoint or podcast

19:06 – How do boys and men feel about Beyond Equality’s workshops?

24:33 – How societal structures prevent us from connecting with others

25:41 – Talking with boys and men who are resistant to these topics

31:26 – Why it’s a good thing to change your mind

32:37 – What has Dan learned from this work?

39:17 – Advice for young men trying to create friends after a move

46:38 – Reframing rejection for men

50:57 – Dan's message to young men – you're not the only one

52:55 – How you can support Beyond Equality

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The Man Who Came Out to a Nation: The Legacy of Roger Butler

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 13:29:38 GMT

In today’s episode, we were lucky enough to talk with Christopher Stephens and Louise Radnofsky, authors of ‘The Light of Day: The first man to come out at the dawn of gay liberation.’ This book is the story of the first man to come out voluntarily, using his own name, to the entire British public.

Toshi had a conversation with Christopher and Louise about Roger’s story and why he decided to come out publicly to all of Britain, as well as Christopher’s relationship to Roger. They also discussed why so many stories from gay men during this period have been lost, the similarities between the way that society treated gay and blind people at this time, the importance of intergenerational friendships amongst queer people, and Christopher and Louise’s take on what makes a life important.

Find a copy of the book here: geni.us/TheLightOfDay

Follow Christopher here: https://www.instagram.com/cwbstephens/

Check out Louise here: https://www.instagram.com/louiseradnofsky/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:45 – Intro to Christopher and Louise

02:36 – What is the book ‘The Light of Day’ about?

05:35 – Deciding on how these stories would be woven together

08:16 – How have people responded to the book so far?

10:40 – Do you know Raymond Gregson or Robert G. Moorcroft?

12:58 – Why have so many stories from gay men during this time been lost?

15:25 – What was it like for Christopher to read letters from Roger after his death?

18:44 – The similarities between society’s treatment of gay and blind people

21:51 – Intergenerational friendships amongst queer people

27:29 – The special nature of this audiobook

30:52 – Why did Roger Butler decide to come out publicly to all of Britain?

36:13 – Why you should read ‘The Light of Day’

39:49 – Reflecting on changes in law and society when it comes to homosexuality

43:17 – Where can you find a copy of ‘The Light of Day’?

45:26 – What makes a life important?

48:54 – Conclusion

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The Astronaut Lovers: Director Marco Berger on his Approach to Filmmaking

Sat, 19 Jul 2025 07:57:02 GMT

Today we’re really excited to bring you a conversation with Marco Berger, an Argentinian film-maker, for a conversation about one of his latest works, which is the queer romcom ‘The Astronaut Lovers’.

Together, Tim and Marco discuss why Marco never reads reviews, what it means to follow your dreams, and why he believes cinema is an illusion. They also talk about his next project, his creative process and advice for upcoming filmmakers. Whether you’re a filmmaker yourself, a dreamer, or just curious about queer cinema that challenges norms, this episode is for you.

Find more of Marco Berger here: https://www.instagram.com/marcobergercine/?hl=en

Explore his films on Mubi: https://mubi.com/en/cast/marco-berger

Read about Marco and ‘The Astronaut Lovers’ in The Guardian: https://www.theguardian.com/film/2025/mar/26/director-marco-berger-interview-queer-romcom-the-astronaut-lovers

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer and intro

01:41 – What inspired ‘The Astronaut Lovers’?

07:44 – Why Marco doesn't read reviews about his films

14:02 – Why you should always follow your dreams

16:52 – Why the cinema is a lie

21:56 – Can you separate the artist from the art?

23:37 – Marco's next project

27:07 – All about Marco’s creative process

32:24 – Where can you watch ‘The Astronaut Lovers’?

39:51 – Advice for upcoming filmmakers

45:26 – Final thoughts and where you can find Marco

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Are Marriages Meant to Last? An Expert Weighs In

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 14:51:36 GMT

In this episode, Jane and Dr Bonnie Comfort explore what makes love last - from managing desire, resentment, and mismatched expectations to unpacking how porn, childhood, and power dynamics shape our relationships. They discuss why falling in love is easy but staying in love takes daily effort, how to navigate conflict with humor, and what a real apology looks like. Plus, we look at the surprising lessons from ‘Babygirl,’ why people watch porn for more than just pleasure, and whether marriages are truly meant to last.

Dr. Bonnie Comfort has been a practicing psychologist for 30 years. She has an MSW from the University of Manitoba and a PhD in psychology from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology Los Angeles. Her novel, “Denial,” a psychological thriller from Simon & Schuster, was published in eight countries and translated into five languages. As an expert on marital therapy, she has been a guest multiple times on podcasts about marriage and has taken extensive workshops with marital and sex experts like Terrence Real, David Schnarch, John Gottman, and Marty Klein. She currently lives in Portland, Oregon, with her long-time partner, Douglas Covey, MD.

Find out more about Dr. Bonnie at http://bonniecomfort.com.

Check out her book, ‘Staying Married is the Hardest Part’: https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/staying-married-is-the-hardest-part-bonnie-comfort/1146385315

Timestamps

00:00 – Trailer

00:38 – Why falling in love is easy, but staying in love is a daily practice

05:41 – Can you change your partner?

08:07 - Managing different desires

11:51 - How our expectations of sex and bodies are shaped by porn

16:35 - Why do people watch porn?

18:53 - What ‘Babygirl’ can teach us about sex and relationships

21:24 - How to work through resentment in a relationship

24:15 - How do childhood experiences impact our relationships?

28:46 – Understanding power imbalances in a relationship

32:25 - How do you know if a relationship needs work, or is fundamentally broken?

35:14 - This is the formula for a great apology

37:19 - Recovering from affairs in a relationship

39:46 - Are marriages meant to last?

43:18 – Here's something a therapist wants you to know

44:25 - What Dr Bonnie wishes was included in sex ed

46:42 – Dr Bonnie’s sexiest song

47:20 – Conclusion

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Understanding Image-Based Sexual Abuse, Deepfakes & the Law

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 05:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we had a conversation with Professor Clare McGlynn, a law professor and expert on violence against women and girls, about image-based sexual abuse.

In this episode, we discuss:

What image-based sexual abuse is and why you should use this term rather than ‘revenge porn’
Who is impacted by image-based sexual abuse
The role of Google and tech platforms in the rise of deepfake sexual abuse
Where to seek help if you’re a victim, and what you can do if you’re worried someone might share your nudes
Why deepfake detection tools work better on images of men
And what you can do as a listener to support this work

Clare McGlynn is a Professor of Law at Durham University in the UK, with expertise in the legal regulation of sexual violence, pornography and online abuse, particularly cyberflashing and image-based sexual abuse (taking, creating and sharing intimate images without consent). She works closely with policy-makers, victim-survivors and the voluntary sector to shape law and policy reforms, as well as with social media and other companies to improve their policies. In 2020, Clare was appointed an Honorary KC (King’s Counsel) in recognition of her work championing women’s equality in the legal profession and shaping new criminal laws on extreme pornography and image-based sexual abuse.

Find more of Professor Clare McGlynn here: https://www.claremcglynn.com/

Find her on social: https://bsky.app/profile/claremcglynn.bsky.social

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/clare-mcglynn-32b898238/

Check out the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign here: https://www.endviolenceagainstwomen.org.uk/new-campaign-experts-call-for-image-based-abuse-law/

Sign the petition to stop image-based abuse: https://chng.it/dgY7sbkqTP

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:27 – How Clare McGlynn got into this work

01:50 – Revenge porn vs image-based sexual abuse

03:10 – Who is most at risk?

04:11 – The invisible threat of image-based sexual abuse

06:01 – What laws are in place to protect against this?

08:33 – How tech platforms have contributed to the rise of deepfake sexual abuse

12:10 – The conversations we need to be having with young people

13:55 – About the ‘Stop Image Based Abuse’ campaign

16:33 – What to do if you’re a victim of image-based sexual abuse

18:40 – Why have we been so slow to address this issue?

21:12 – What Clare wants you to understand about image-based sexual abuse

23:27 – Why we should stop calling it ‘deepfake porn’ - and what to say instead

27:00 – Why deepfake detection tech works better on images of men

30:18 – What you can do as a listener to help support this work

31:31 – Positive accomplishments in this work

33:09 – Do this if you’re worried someone might share your nudes

34:59 – Conclusion

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How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis: A Guide from a Women's Health Expert

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 10:22:10 GMT

Kate Muir is a women’s health expert and campaigner, documentary maker, and author of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’, as well as groundbreaking books on the menopause and the pill.

We had a conversation about:

Why HRT has such a bad reputation - and why it's actually a wonder drug for women
Tips for advocating for your health needs with a doctor
Vaginal estrogen, and why it's like Chanel for your vulva
Advice for regaining sexual confidence
Women and wine (and Kate's personal story)
How age bias impacts women
And more.

The smart guide that every midlife woman needs to read …

‘A midlife crisis is a magnificent moment, and nobody should miss out on it. We need to reframe this time of questioning for a new generation of women who want to revive and thrive for longer. We must reclaim the midlife crisis from madmen with red sports cars - and make the space our own.’

Kate’s investigations into women’s health ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause’ and ‘Everything You Need to Know About the Pill’ are out in paperback. She pitched and produced two award-winning menopause documentaries, ‘Davina McCall: Sex, Myths and the Menopause’ and ‘Sex, Mind and the Menopause’ for Channel 4 current affairs, which ignited a massive menopause conversation in the UK. Her most recent documentary was ‘Pill Revolution’ investigating contraceptive chaos.

Kate was chief film critic of The Times for seven years, and is the author of three novels. She is an expert public speaker on women’s health, the menopause and contraception, and an activist for The Menopause Charity.

Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/

Grab a copy of ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’ which is out TODAY: https://www.simonandschuster.co.uk/books/How-to-Have-a-Magnificent-Midlife-Crisis/Kate-Muir/9781398525504

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:43 – Who is Kate Muir?

01:32 – Kate’s latest book: ‘How to Have a Magnificent Midlife Crisis’

05:27 – Why does HRT have such a bad reputation?

08:35 – What you really need to know about HRT and its long-term health impacts

13:30 – Tips for advocating for your needs with a doctor

16:34 – Vaginal estrogen: Chanel for your vulva

21:33 – How to regain sexual confidence

23:04 – Why testosterone is so important for women

26:30 – Digital detox

29:50 – Women and wine

34:47 – How is divorce connected to perimenopause and menopause?

38:09 – How age bias impacts women

43:07 – Kate’s psychedelic adventure

49:56 – Final message

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Sex Ed for Guys: How a TikTok Project Is Rethinking Sex Ed

Thu, 29 May 2025 14:52:21 GMT

In this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with some of the team behind the TikTok account, Sex Ed for Guys. Sex Ed for Guys is a sex ed project by Colby College students researching privilege at elite all-boys schools. Toshi spoke with two Colby students – Christopher and Conor – and Professor Adam Howard, who are all involved in the project.

Together, they had a conversation about:

How the project started and who it reaches
What their creative process is like, and the research that informs each video
What kind of response people have to their content
The real-world conversations sparked by the project
How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere

Adam Howard, Ed.D, is the Charles A. Dana Professor of Education and Chair of the Education Department at Colby College. For over two decades, Howard has researched elite schools around the world, peeling back the layers of how privilege works through their daily practices, relations, structures, and policies. Employing a collaborative approach in most of his major studies, he teams up with privileged young people to make insider’s knowledge of how privilege works within elite schools more evident.

Find Sex Ed for Guys on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@sexedforguys

Check out more about the research here: https://privilegedbrotherhoods.org/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:59 – Introducing the team behind Sex Ed for Guys

02:41 – What is Sex Ed for Guys?

05:45 – Who is watching Sex Ed for Guys?

07:50 – What kind of response is the team getting to this work?

09:40 – What is the process to creating these videos?

13:13 – The video about female pleasure that got the channel shadowbanned

17:13 – Some favourite videos from the channel

21:52 – How these videos create real life conversations

26:20 – How Sex Ed for Guys is offering an alternative to the manosphere

29:22 – Why Sex Ed for Guys is so accessible for young people

34:06 – Biggest learnings from this project

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On the House: The World’s First Free Period Products Paid for By Ads

Thu, 22 May 2025 09:52:28 GMT

Remy Tucker is the founder of On the House, an organisation that is working to ensure that every woman has access to period products. They achieve this by providing free, sustainable sanitary pads, funded through their unique advertising model.

Remy leads On the House with a deep commitment to women's health and marketing innovation. As a former midwife, she has firsthand experience with the challenges women face in accessing essential menstrual products. This understanding sparked her desire to find a sustainable solution that would make these products available at no cost.

On the House combines Remy's healthcare background with her marketing expertise to create a unique business model. By integrating advertising directly onto the product packaging, On the House provides free menstrual products while generating revenue. This innovative approach does more than solve a problem—it transforms the way solutions are delivered.

Driven by a genuine passion to make a difference, Remy is dedicated to empowering women through accessible healthcare solutions. On the House is not just a business; it’s a reflection of her commitment to positive change, providing essential products one box at a time.

Check out On the House here: https://onthehousegroup.com/

Together, we spoke about:

What On the House is and how free pads are funded through ads
Why Remy started On the House
Why taking free period products helps everyone
How the system actually works – and where you’ll be able to find these period products
How you can support Remy’s mission and help end period poverty

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:25 – What is On the House?

01:08 – What motivated Remy to create On the House?

05:29 – Remy’s advice for anyone wanting to start a business

07:17 – How On the House donates to charity – while giving away free period products

09:29 – What kind of products are On the House offering?

10:45 – How does the system actually work?

12:51 – Why you should take free period products, even if you can afford them

14:15 – What kinds of brands are supporting On the House?

16:58 – Remy’s biggest challenges so far

19:52 – When and where is On the House launching?

21:24 – What are some of Remy’s biggest wins so far?

23:27 – What you can do to support On the House

25:06 – Who does period poverty impact?

28:28 – Remy’s final message to listeners

29:23 – What other businesses have used this model before?

31:56 - Conclusion

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How to protect kids from abuse with body safety education: top tips for parents

Thu, 15 May 2025 09:18:55 GMT

TRIGGER WARNING: This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners. Please use your discretion.

In this episode, Tim spoke with Jayneen Sanders about body safety education. Jayneen Sanders (aka Jay Dale) is an experienced author, publisher, elementary school teacher, mother of three and an active advocate for Body Safety, Gender Equality and Respectful Relationship Education being taught both in homes and in schools. She is also lead author of Engage Literacy published by Capstone Classroom, and has had published over 130 stories for children. Jayneen feels passionately that we can do so much more to keep our children safe by teaching them age-appropriate and empowering prevention education.

Jayneen is a strong public advocate for children’s safety, education and empowerment. You can follow her on social media channels to access important news, development and resources.

In this episode, we cover:

Why teaching kids about body autonomy and consent from an early age is essential
Why you shouldn’t tell your children to keep secrets – and what to say instead
How to identify signs of grooming
Protective strategies to keep your kids safe from groomers
The role parents and caregivers play in preventing abuse through open, ongoing conversations
Practical tips for starting body safety conversations

Check out Jayneen’s books here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk

Download her free body safety posters here: https://e2epublishing.info/en-uk/collections/posters/Body-Safety+Consent

Find Jayneen on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jayneensandersauthor?utm_source=ig_web_button_share_sheet&igsh=ZDNlZDc0MzIxNw==

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trigger warning

00:19 – Trailer

00:47 – Who is Jayneen Sanders and how did she get involved in this work?

08:08 – The role of parents in teaching kids body safety education

10:29 – How have attitudes towards this topic changed over time?

14:27 – What is a groomer, and how can you spot one?

19:30 – How body safety education prevents abuse

24:22 – Why parents need to stop using the word “secret” - and what to use instead

27:38 – How does pornography and tech impact children?

30:15 – Which children are most at risk of sexual abuse?

34:21 – How conversations can help prevent abuse

36:43 – Top tips for having the body safety talks with kids

40:39 – What kind of topics do Jayneen’s other books cover?

45:25 – Where can you find Jayneen’s books and free resources?

46:54 – Jayneen’s final message to parents

48:15 – Outro

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Crossing the Line: The role of porn in sexual abuse

Thu, 08 May 2025 08:53:07 GMT

TRIGGER WARNING:

This episode is about child sexual abuse and covers subjects which might be seriously distressing for some listeners, including mention of suicide, sexual assault, child sexual abuse material and torture. Please use your discretion. If you are in any need of help or support, please contact one of your country’s sexual abuse support organisations – they are there for you.

We are dedicating our 100th episode to the work of the phenomenal Michael Sheath. We had a really important conversation with Michael that – amongst other things – covered the need to call out the relationship of online pornography with sexual offending.

Since 1987, Michael has been dedicated to working with child sexual abuse offenders, beginning his journey as a probation officer and later becoming the Principal Practitioner at The Lucy Faithfull Foundation – a charity devoted to preventing child sexual abuse. His critically acclaimed work with male survivors of sexual abuse at HMP Blakenhurst earned him the prestigious Butler Trust Award in 1997.

Michael’s passion for understanding people's stories has resulted in a powerful and significant book, a collection of five theatrical monologues that delves into the human impacts of child sexual abuse, trauma, and the often-overlooked effects on secondary victims like the families of offenders. All these narratives are told from the perspective of those directly affected. Michael's own story is pretty compelling. In this episode, you'll hear from him about his very impactful work in a profound conversation that shines a light on this ever-critical issue.

In this episode, we cover:

Michael Sheath’s journey into working with child sexual abuse offenders
The difference between contact offenders and online/download offenders
How pornography shapes harmful sexual behaviours
The link between online pornography and child sexual abuse
How sex offenders feel about their behaviour
The psychological impact of this work on professionals – and how they deal with it
Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’

Buy Michael's book from Amazon UK, or get it direct from the publisher here.

All proceeds will go towards Children Heard and Seen, a charity which supports children with a parent in prison.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trigger warning and intro

01:37 – How Michael Sheath got involved in this work

07:55 – What's the difference between a ‘contact offender’ and a ‘downloader/online offender’?

16:54 – The influence of pornography on young people’s sexual behaviours

20:01 – How legal porn sites suggest problematic content, and why that’s an issue

25:39 – The role of porn in child sexual abuse

31:16 – Why people use porn and how these sites keep you hooked

34:12 – How do some sex offenders feel about their behaviour?

37:32 – Navigating the consequences of being a child sexual offender

39:17 – How do sex offenders feel towards the victims?

45:24 – How Michael manages his mental health working in this industry

50:00 – About Michael’s book, ‘Crossing the Line’

54:20 – We need sex education that’s not pornography

55:20 – What’s next for Michael Sheath?

57:07 – Conclusion

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The Childfree Choice: Insights from a Sociologist

Thu, 01 May 2025 11:35:02 GMT

For this episode, Toshi spoke with sociologist Dr. Amy Blackstone about the childfree choice. Amy is a childfree woman who wrote the book, ‘Childfree by Choice: The Movement Redefining Family & Creating a New Age of Independence,’ which explores the history and growing movement of adults choosing to forgo parenthood. Amy has shared her research on the childfree choice in The Atlantic, Washington Post, Huffington Post, on the Katie show, and other venues.

Amy’s teaching and research interests include the sociology of gender, work, food, families, and healthcare. She has served as a consultant on workplace sexual harassment cases, and her research on this topic has been cited in the New York Times, USA Today, BuzzFeed, TIME, NBC News, and other outlets. She is passionate about food and has taught the Sociology of Food at UMaine and in Italy.

In this episode, we cover:

Dr Blackstone’s personal journey to being childfree
What the science says about ‘maternal instinct’
How gender impacts the experience of being childfree
Some of the reasons people decide to be childfree
How childfree individuals contribute to future generations in ways beyond parenting

Find Dr. Amy Blackstone at her website: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/

Grab a copy of ‘Childfree by Choice’: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/childfreebychoice

Listen to her podcast, ‘Nevertheless, Persisting’: https://www.amyblackstonephd.com/neverthelesspersisting

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:34 – Intro

00:58 – Did Dr Blackstone always know she wanted to be childfree?

06:28 – Does science support the idea of ‘maternal instinct’?

08:54 – What's the difference between being ‘childfree’ and ‘childless’?

13:44 – How do men and women experience being childfree differently?

17:13 – Why do people decide to be childfree?

20:01 – How childfree people shape future generations

26:28 – How have people’s attitudes towards being childfree changed over time?

29:05 – Pros and cons of being childfree

34:55 – Do childfree people regret their choices?

40:35 – What should young people know about being childfree?

44:33 – Dr Blackstone’s final message for listeners

45:42 – Where to find Dr Blackstone and her work

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Can You Love a Chatbot? Exploring Emotional Attachments to AI and the Future of Human-AI Relationships

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 22:33:28 GMT

TW: mention of suicide in this episode.

This week, Tim had a conversation with social scientist Dr Julie Carpenter, where they explored emotional attachments to AI and the future of human-AI relationships.

Dr. Julie Carpenter is an award-winning researcher in the field of human-technology interaction whose work investigates the dynamic interplay between technology and human identity, social relationships, and connection.

Her recent book, The Naked Android: Synthetic Socialness and the Human Gaze, explores the narratives people construct about AI and robots, their expectations of robotic behaviour, and how these cultural beliefs influence the design and use of real-world robots.

She is a Research Fellow in the Ethics + Emerging Sciences Group, a non-partisan organization dedicated to examining the ethical, social, and risk implications of emerging technologies.

In this episode, we cover:

How our emotional attachments to pets can help us understand the way we might bond with AI
The difference between AI and robotics
Real-world examples of how people have formed emotional attachments to military robots
The ethical concerns surrounding human-AI relationships
How our perspective of different brands can impact how we use AI
What people are looking for when it comes to intimate AI relationships
And Dr Carpenter’s thoughts on the future of AI

Find Dr Julie Carpenter here:

Website: jgcarpenter.com

Bluesky: @jgcarpenter

Mastodon: https://fediscience.org/@jgcarpenter

Timestamps:

00:00 – Trailer

00:55 – Who is Dr Julie Carpenter?

08:13 – How we form emotional attachments with pets, and how this relates to AI

11:36 – What is the difference between AI and robotics?

15:58 – Stories of emotional attachment to military robots

25:14 – A short message from Sex in Space

25:27 – Dr Carpenter’s thoughts on human-AI relationships

29:49 – How brand association changes the way we use AI

31:39 – What are the risks when it comes to using AI?

35:21 – Ethical considerations of AI relationships

45:41 – What are people looking for with intimate AI relationships?

49:27 – Exploring consent when it comes to AI

55:01 – Is Dr Carpenter optimistic about the future of AI?

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#97 - Cindy Gallop / MakeLoveNotPorn Academy: creating the Google of sex ed

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 15:06:01 GMT

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Dr. Jane Cherrington spoke with Cindy Gallop about MakeLoveNotPorn Academy. Cindy has 35 years of experience in brand building, marketing and advertising, and in 2009 at TED, launched MakeLoveNotPorn.tv – ‘Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference.’ Since then, she’s turned MLNP into the world’s first human-curated, user-generated social sex video sharing platform, socialising sex to promote consent, good sexual values and behaviour.

MakeLoveNotPorn Academy, the subject of today's episode, is an aggregator hub for the best of the world's sex education content all in one place, searchable by age appropriateness, cultural sensibility, and personal comfort level.

The Academy's goal is to be a platform and directory for all the brilliant sex educators currently blocked, censored and de-platformed everywhere, to make their work more accessible to parents, teachers, children, young people, everyone.

The Academy will be 100% human-curated: human eyes will vet every piece of content pre-publishing to ensure it's safe, educational, non-judgemental and fact-based.

In this episode, we cover:

What MakeLoveNotPorn Academy is
Why this platform is so important
Who it’s for (parents, kids, adults, teachers)
What resources you’ll be able to access on MakeLoveNot PornAcademy
How sex educators will be able to use the platform
How MLNP will make money
What you can do to contribute towards this project

Find Cindy Gallop here: https://cindygallop.com/

Check out MLNP Academy: https://www.mlnp.academy/

Find the email template for Masterclass here: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1hSJQb8LXtZvKYQ29kk-Jv5IrHt5merfqn6RQvCNbTsE/edit?usp=sharing

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:43 – What is MakeLoveNotPorn Academy?

09:22 – What are the criteria for educators on MLNP Academy?

12:44 – How sex educators will be able to use the platform

16:30 – Who is sponsoring this project?

19:38 – Why MakeLoveNotPorn is such a great name

23:59 – It’s about the people who get it

26:36 – How much money does MLNP Academy need to raise?

29:51 – How will MLNP Academy make money?

32:58 – Cocomelon for sex ed

34:05 – Agents of Ishq

35:20 – What can you do to help?

36:49 – Help us get Cindy Gallop on Masterclass

38:18 – MLNP operates in the market of human happiness

40:33 – An quick note from Sex in Space

40:49 – Outro

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#96 - Dr Brian Willoughby / A parent's guide to understanding porn exposure in kids and teens

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 16:37:57 GMT

In this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr Brian Willoughby, a Professor in the School of Family Life at Brigham Young University and a research fellow at The Wheatley Institute. Dr. Willoughby is considered an international expert in the field of couple and marital relationships, sexuality, and emerging adult development. Together, Tim and Dr. Willoughby discussed the facts around porn exposure in kids and teens, and shared practical tips for parents to help them navigate having these conversations with young people.

Find out more about Dr Willoughby here: https://fhssfaculty.byu.edu/directory/brian-willoughby

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

02:09 – How Dr Willoughby got started studying pornography

05:32 – What are some of the reasons young people are being exposed to pornography?

10:35 – Porn chats with kids should be about ‘when,’ not ‘if’

13:36 – Two key pieces of advice for parents

17:44 – What are the messages young people are getting from watching porn?

22:32 – The difference between porn consumption for young people today compared to older generations

24:03 – The importance of monitoring and open communication

25:47 – When to have these conversations, and what to say

27:51 – Using teachable moments

29:19 – What resources we’re still missing

33:25 – Is there a place for pornography use in a relationship?

35:56 – Viewing pornography use as a risk in the same way we view alcohol consumption

40:33 – The benefits of talking with kids about pornography

43:44 – Dr Willoughby’s #1 piece of advice for parents

44:56 – Recommended resources + filling the education gap

48:08 – Where to find more of Dr Willoughby

49:03 – Conclusion

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#95 - Victoria / Understanding sex work as a social service

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 03:49:10 GMT

In this episode, Toshi had a conversation with Victoria, a former escort who is the president of UTSOPI in Belgium, which is the Belgian Union of Sex Workers. Together, they had a conversation about the way that Victoria views sex work as a social service, something that’s not just about physical intimacy but is very connected to human emotions and is effective at combating loneliness. Toshi and Victoria also discussed the stigma that is still associated with sex work, why you should be hugging the people in your life, and the difference between loneliness and being alone.

#94 - David Jay / Exploring asexuality: intimacy, relationships and community

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 02:49:11 GMT

On today’s episode, Toshi had a conversation with David Jay, who is the founder of the Asexual Visibility and Education network, which is the world’s largest online asexual community. Together, they had a conversation about the experience of being asexual and the expectations that society has around sexuality, as well as how David has redefined relationships and intimacy as an asexual person. They also discussed three-parent families and the importance of building a community of care, and finished the conversation talking about why conflict is actually a really good thing.

Find AVEN (Asexuality Visibility and Education Network) here:

https://www.asexuality.org/en/

Find David's book, Relationality: How Moving from Transactional to Transformational Relationships Can Reshape Our Lonely World, here:

https://amzn.asia/d/f7Z2uVq

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:26 – What does it mean to be asexual, or ‘ace’?

03:26 – What is compulsory sexuality?

04:39 – David’s experience as a young ace person

06:32 – How society has different sexual expectations for different bodies

08:15 – The impact of asexuality on how David sees relationships and intimacy

11:12 – The benefits of having intentional friendships

13:33 – Why you should be thinking about creating a community of care

16:35 – What it’s like to be in a three-parent family

19:44 – Two things you can learn from this podcast

23:01 – Advice if you want to be more intentional in your friendships

24:24 – Why being asexual is so liberating

26:39 – What David would have wanted his younger self to know

28:20 – How the ace community has changed over time

33:04 – Why relationships with others are so important

37:19 – Why conflict is a really good thing

39:34 – David’s message to ace listeners

40:43 – Conclusion

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#93 - Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle (re-release)

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 06:10:12 GMT

This week, we’re re-releasing one of our most popular podcast episodes – a conversation with 72-year-old OnlyFans sex worker, Michelle Hardenbrook. Jane chatted with Michelle about how she got started in the industry at the age of 55, how she educated herself about sex and intimacy, as well as Michelle’s thoughts on penis size, shape, and confidence, how to experience orgasm after prostate cancer, and advice for any listeners who are wanting to understand sex work better.

Find Michelle here: https://www.instagram.com/terrytowngal1951/?hl=en

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:39 – How Michelle got started in sex work at the age of 55

04:43 – Practical tips for managing finances as a sex worker

07:31 – Michelle’s transition to working online and building an audience

13:02 – Michelle’s role as a mentor and the value she brings to other sex workers

14:23 – Michelle’s thoughts on pimps in the industry

16:35 – Michelle’s life lesson: don’t panic

18:15 – How Michelle educated herself about sex and intimacy

20:31 – Michelle’s experience with vibrators

23:30 – Michelle’s response to unsolicited images

25:29 – Michelle’s thoughts on pen*s size, shape and confidence

28:20 – The impact of aging on libido and sexual experiences

30:42 – How Michelle helps clients who have had prostate cancer

34:18 – Advice to listeners who don’t understand sex work

35:52 – Michelle's advice for new sex workers

38:31 – Conclusion

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#92 - Vanessa Hamilton / Sexuality education for parents: top tips for tricky talks (re-release)

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 00:28:10 GMT

This week we’re re-releasing another of our podcast episodes. This time, we’re revisiting a conversation that Jane had with Vanessa Hamilton, a sexuality educator and founder of the education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’.

Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, she is a parent of 3 teens and is an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Vanessa has immersed herself in helping parents, teachers and health professionals understand human sexuality and, specifically, how it relates to children.

Together, she and Jane spoke about the key topics parents should address with their kids about sexuality education, including consent, pleasure, and pornography. Vanessa provides strategies for tackling uncomfortable situations and gives examples of how to use teachable moments with young people, as well as providing a script for responding when a child asks how babies are made.

You can find more of Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:49 – How Vanessa ended up in the sexuality education space

03:26 – The scale of the sex ed gap within adults

04:48 – The impact of confidence on having sex ed chats

05:47 – How to talk with young people about sending nudes

07:18 – Vanessa’s take-home message to parents

08:50 – When should you start thinking about having conversations with your kids about sexuality?

09:42 – Why your tone is more important than what you say to a child

10:13 – What topics you should be covering with your kids (and why saying something is better than saying nothing)

12:47 – The majority of parents support this education

13:38 – Why Vanessa doesn’t like the term ‘sex ed’ (and what she uses instead)

15:20 – Reframing how we think about pleasure

17:01 – How consent is part of our everyday experiences

19:59 – How to explain how babies are made

23:35 – What are the contributing factors towards teen pregnancies?

24:46 – What kids are learning about sex from pornography

26:36 – Why Vanessa wrote her book ‘Talking Sex’

29:11 – How to respond when you encounter an uncomfortable situation with your child

31:10 – How to practice having conversations about sexuality

32:22 – The barriers for male parents having these kinds of conversations

34:14 – Examples of how to use teachable moments with your kids

38:15 – Make yourself the adult that your kids can come to

39:56 – Why it’s important to give young people a framework to think about pornography

42:10 – How to respond if you think your child has seen inappropriate content online

43:21 – How to get a copy of Vanessa’s book ‘Talking Sex’

44:23 – Vanessa’s book on consent for parents and teachers

45:05 – Just get started: it’s easier than you think

45:39 - Conclusion

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#91 - Dr Laurie Mintz / Tips for a satisfying sex life (re-release)

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 19:00:25 GMT

This week here at Sex in Space we’re re-releasing one of our episodes from 2023. In this podcast, Jane had the privilege of sitting down with Dr. Laurie Mintz, an author, therapist, speaker and emeritus professor, to talk tips for a better sex life.

Dr Laurie is more than qualified to speak on this topic, as the author of two popular press books: Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship. These books were written with the aim of empowering women sexually and they both have published studies demonstrating that readers enhance their sexual functioning.

Dr Laurie aims to provide scientifically accurate, sex-positive information to enhance female pleasure. She gives presentations and workshops to professionals and lay audiences, and has a TEDx talk that’s received more than 2.5 million views.

Together, she and Jane spoke about what causes women to have low libidos, the two types of desire (and why you should know them), what the orgasm gap is and why it exists, the truth about sex positions, the issue with penis-size jokes and practical takeaways for a better sex life.

Find Dr. Laurie’s website here: https://www.drlauriemintz.com/

Watch Dr. Laurie’s TEDx talk here: https://youtu.be/oD2ja2BT-0E?si=e_qwyGySYx7GXRWg

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

03:15 – Why Laurie wrote her first book

04:53 – What causes women to have low libidos?

07:31 – The two types of desire (and why you should know them)

09:10 – Why we need to rethink the way we talk about sex

14:59 – How reading Dr. Laurie’s book can improve your sex life

17:04 – Shame and sex are enemies

18:44 – What inspired Dr. Laurie to start educating about the clitoris

20:37 – What is the orgasm gap and why does it exist?

23:03 – The need for porn literacy

25:19 – Why sex ed in the Netherlands is so effective

26:42 – The truth about sex positions

29:53 – Why women have pain with penetration (and what you can do about it)

32:50 – Why do women fake orgasm?

34:42 – The issue with slut-shaming and penis size jokes

36:07 – What does it mean to be sexually active?

37:37 – Dr Laurie’s communication tips

41:34 – Why it’s important to learn how to pleasure yourself

43:53 – 12 commandments for a better sex life

46:05 – Conclusion

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#90 - 13 Experts Share Tips for a Better Sex Life

Fri, 20 Dec 2024 00:10:46 GMT

On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – thirteen of our top tips from experts on how to have a better sex life. We’ll cover things like how you can use responsive desire to feel aroused – and why taking time to build arousal is so important, how to bring variety into your sex life, advice on how to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner, and more.

Our experts include:

Dr Laurie Mintz: author, speaker, therapist and emeritus professor, whose life’s work has been committed to helping people live more authentic, meaningful, joyful—and sexually satisfying—lives.

Melody Thomas: creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them.

Dr Ian Kerner: licensed psychotherapist and nationally recognized sex therapist who works with individuals and couples on a range of relational issues that often lead to distress.

Susan Bratton: intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long.

Damian Weatherald: disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, sex educator, and sex toy guru.

Dr Jenn Gunsaullus: keynote speaker, sociologist, sex coach, and author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women.

Suzanne Werder: nurse practitioner from the New Zealand Sexual Health Society.

Hollie McNish: award-winning poet, writer and performer.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:36 – How to use responsive desire to feel aroused

01:25 – How to give and receive feedback with a sexual partner

02:06 – Why it’s important to take time to build arousal

03:15 – How to practice self-advocacy in non-sexual situations

03:57 – Why you should embrace laughter in sexual experiences

04:40 – How trying something new in bed can help build intimacy

05:14 – How we can reframe the way we think about condoms

05:48 – Use a hand massage to practice communication

07:02 – Why it’s important to treat others how they want to be treated

07:42 – Why you should be asking questions in bed

09:03 – Why it’s important not to rush into sex

10:54 – How to bring variety into your sex life

13:33 – How to prioritise your own pleasure

14:17 – Conclusion

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#89 - Ella D'Aloia - How yoni massage can transform your relationship with your body

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 01:17:46 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had a conversation with Ella D’Aloia. Ella is a certified holistic sex coach and therapeutic yoni massage practitioner who specialises in female sexuality. Together, Ella and Toshi spoke all about yoni massage - what it is, what the benefits are, what to expect from a session and how to find the right practitioner. They also had a conversation about how through her intimate and supportive approach, Ella helps women to reclaim their bodies, pleasure and sexuality so they can live a life filled with joy, pleasure and aliveness.

Find Ella here: https://www.ella-daloia.com/

Or check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ella_daloia_/

TIMESTAMPS:

00:00 – Intro

00:46 – How Ella got started in this space

02:46 – What is a yoni massage?

05:39 – What are the benefits of a yoni massage?

11:57 – How many sessions does a person need?

14:50 – Is yoni massage sexual?

17:18 – Why you need to do your research into yoni massage practitioners

18:20 – How does Ella create a safe space for clients to feel comfortable?

19:34 – What can you expect from a yoni massage session with Ella?

23:05 – Standout client experiences for Ella

25:44 – What Ella has learned from her work as a yoni massage practitioner

28:57 – Ella's message if you’re feeling hesitant about getting a yoni massage

30:27 – Can you have a yoni massage if you’re on your period?

31:44 – Why it’s so important to be connected to our bodies

33:22 – Where listeners can find Ella and her work

33:55 – Is there a version of yoni massage for men?

35:06 – How you can check if a practitioner is certified

37:12 – Conclusion

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#88 - Dr. Niobe Way / Why listening to boys could change everything

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 00:50:00 GMT

In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr. Niobe Way about the social and emotional lives of young boys and men.

Dr. Niobe Way is an internationally recognised NYU developmental psychologist who has spent nearly 40 years researching social and emotional development and has found that boys and young men desperately want and need the same thing as everyone else: close friendships. Yet they and we grow up in a stereotyped “boy” culture, one that devalues and mocks those relationships, rather than recognising that they’re necessary for human survival. Her social science research has made her an expert on friendships, loneliness, teenagers, gender stereotypes, masculinity and the roots of violence.

In this conversation, Dr. Way shares insights from her latest book, ‘Rebels with a Cause: Reimagining Boys, Ourselves and Our Culture’. She explains how these “rebels,” as she calls the boys and young men in her research and in her classrooms, teach us about their and our crisis of connection, evidence of which is visible in our soaring rates of depression, anxiety, loneliness, suicide, and mass violence. They also teach us about the solutions to the crisis, which is to care, to listen with curiosity, and to take individual and collective responsibility for the damage we have done to them, to ourselves, and to the world around us.

Find Dr. Way here: https://www.niobe-way.com/

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Intro

01:26 – How Dr. Way got started researching boys and their friendships

03:57 – The four themes she learned from young men

10:56 – Close: the movie about boy friendships

12:08 – Which men are most at risk of suffering from this crisis of connection?

16:38 – What Dr. Way means when she refers to ‘boy’ culture

17:20 – Why curiosity is key to connecting with others

21:29 – Dr. Way’s advice for parents

24:06 – The impact of technology and how we use it on ‘boy’ culture

26:07 – How we could change technology to connect better with others

28:15 – Having feelings is normal for everyone

33:41 – Why ‘boy’ culture is not just about masculinity

38:40 – Society tolerates our ‘soft sides’ more when we’re younger

39:37 – What we can learn from listening to children and teenagers

43:02 – Why this book is not Dr. Way’s opinion

45:25 – Dr. Way’s hopes moving forward

49:11 – Why Dr. Way focused her work on boys and young men

50:32 – Where to find more of Dr. Niobe Way

52:54 – Outro

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#87 - Kate Muir / Everything you need to know about the menopause

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 02:31:49 GMT

On this week’s episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk again with Kate Muir, a women’s health expert, investigative journalist, documentary maker, and author of books on the menopause and the pill. Together they had a conversation all about the menopause and Kate’s book, Everything you needed to know about the menopause but were too afraid to ask.

Kate and Toshi discussed the difference between perimenopause and menopause, the impact of the menopause on mental and physical health, the role of hormone replacement therapy (HRT), and what young people should know about the menopause.

Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/

Check her out on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/menoscandal/?hl=en

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:35 – Kate's story with the menopause

03:29 – The difference between perimenopause and menopause

06:56 – The impact of the menopause on physical and mental health

10:10 – How does hormone replacement therapy work for the menopause?

13:24 – Is there a relationship between hormone replacement therapy and breast cancer?

15:39 – Societal attitudes towards HRT

21:34 – The accessibility of health knowledge

23:18 – How women's relationship to menopause has changed over time

25:22 – Why so many women suddenly put on weight in midlife

27:37 – Osteoporosis, bone density and HRT

32:30 – The impact of hormones on Alzheimer's and dementia

36:34 – Why we need to be getting hormones to all those who need it

38:35 – What young people should know about the menopause

40:15 – The rewiring of the brain during the menopause

42:45 – The impact of AI on accessibility of science

45:36 – Kate’s new book, How to have a magnificent midlife crisis

48:07 – Advice to people wanting to support someone going through the menopause

50:30 – Where to find more of Kate’s work

51:28 - Conclusion

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#86 - Dr. David Perl / Understanding and healing from limerence

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 01:59:56 GMT

On today’s episode, we were joined by Dr David Perl, a qualified expert on limerence. Growing up with a father who survived Auschwitz and a mother facing frustration and anger as a stay-at-home mum, David’s path to success was anything but ordinary. Seeking the approval of his parents, he pursued a career in medicine, graduating from the prestigious University of London in 1984. Exploring various disciplines within medicine, including psychiatry and aviation medicine, he eventually founded docleaf, a renowned Crisis Management and Trauma Psychology Consultancy. Along the way, he acquired expertise in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), hypnotherapy, psychotherapy, counselling, and even earned an advanced postgraduate diploma in Leadership Coaching. However, it was his own personal experience of developing limerence in 2010 that ignited a new purpose for David. Determined to help others impacted by limerence, he founded limerence.net, a platform that includes a supportive forum to aid individuals on their healing journey. Together, Toshi and David had a conversation all about limerence – what it is, who is impacted by it, and ways to deal with it.

Check out Dr David’s site here: https://limerence.net/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

02:32 – David's experience with limerence

05:29 – What is limerence?

07:10 – Why do people get limerence?

10:14 – Advice for someone dealing with limerence

11:26 – How can we get over limerence?

13:37 – Limerence and affairs

15:13 – Can limerence turn into love?

16:43 – David’s key tips for getting over limerence

19:47 – Should you tell your limerent object about your feelings?

22:46 – Why self-compassion is so important if you’re struggling with limerence

26:44 – Understanding male and female friendships

32:01 – Limerence is a symptom

33:45 – Where you can find more of David

35:21 – Conclusion

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#85 - Amal Awad / Beyond veiled clichés (her book title!)

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 01:04:42 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, we were lucky enough to be joined by Amal Awad. Amal is a writer, director and performer, and as a journalist has contributed to publications including The Guardian, The Sydney Morning Herald, ELLE and Frankie. She’s produced and presented for ABC Radio National, and is the author of eight books, both fiction and non-fiction.

Together, Amal and Jane had a conversation about the complexity of the experience of wearing a veil, and the personal and societal pressures that play into this. They spoke about modesty and the policing women’s bodies in society, as well as the contrasts between wearing the veil in the Western world compared to in the Arab world. Amal and Jane also had a discussion about female sexuality and education around sex and bodies.

Find Amal here: https://amalawad.com/

Read 'Beyond Veiled Clichés': https://amzn.asia/d/bOs4xPc

Watch ABC Australia’s video, Why Muslim women wear a hijab, burka or niqab & the importance of modesty in Islam: https://youtu.be/hkLjExxCQdY?si=piVVLOL-uLBCT5me

TIMESTAMPS

00:00 – Intro

00:41 – How does Amal’s work connect with Sex in Space?

02:23 – The need for nuanced conversations about the veil

06:51 – Amal’s experience wearing a headscarf

11:22 – The policing of women and their bodies

15:08 – The veil and symbolism

19:16 – The difference between belief and faith

22:57 – Wearing the veil in the Arab world vs the Western world

26:23 – Female sexuality and religion

32:24 – Understanding the lack of education around sex and bodies

35:07 – Different expressions of modesty

38:54 – Why Amal chose to stop wearing the headscarf

43:25 – About Amal’s book: Bitter and Sweet

49:16 – Conclusion

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#84 - Arielle Zadok / From screen to real life: intimacy, consent & sex education

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 03:11:01 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, we were joined by Arielle Zadok. Arielle is an intimacy coordinator, sexologist and founder of The Sexy Directory, an upcoming sex education platform launching in 2025. When she’s not facilitating intimacy on film and television sets, you can find her leading transformative intimacy workshops and speaking about sensuality, sexuality and intimacy at events. Arielle also hosts and produces Birds & Bees Don’t Fck, a show that normalizes how sex education of the past failed us, and how we all managed to get through that. Each week she brings on a comedian or sexpert for these fun, free flowing, educational conversations.

Together, Arielle and Tim had a conversation about the role of intimacy coordinators in film and television, the responsibility of media creators to portray sex and intimacy in an authentic way, what makes a great sex scene, and the impact that misinformation from places like pornography has on real sexual interactions.

Find Arielle here: https://www.ariellezadok.com/

Follow her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ariellezadok

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:39 – The state of sex ed

03:53 – Arielle’s early interest in sex and sexuality

08:20 – How Arielle got started as an intimacy coordinator

13:59 – The need to portray intimacy in an accurate way

17:53 – What does a good sex scene look like?

20:12 – Intimacy coordination and kink

23:10 – What Fifty Shades of Grey got wrong about kink

30:18 – Does intimacy coordination exist in pornography?

34:35 – The problem with using porn as a form of sex ed

37:00 – Where we should be learning about sex from

39:05 – How messages about shame and masturbation impact our sex lives

44:13 – Education and The Sexy Directory

49:49 – Where to find Arielle

50:27 – Conclusion

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#83 - Top 10 sex ed parenting tips from experts

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 21:00:07 GMT

On this week’s episode of the podcast, we have a special bonus episode – ten of our top parenting sex ed tips from experts. We’ve spoken with a lot of parenting experts on our podcast over the years and we wanted to put together some of our favourite tips from these conversations. We’ll cover things like how to talk with your kids about consent, masturbation and porn, advice for how you can be the kind of parent your kids feel safe to come to – and why that’s so important – as well as how you can respond, rather than react, when they ask you a tricky question.

00:00 – Intro

00:34 – Make it normal for your kids to talk to you about what they see online

02:07 – Why you don’t want to shame kids for their bodily reactions to sexual content

03:10 – Be the go to place for your kids to learn facts and values, rather than the media/porn

04:06 – Think about helpful sex conversations you've had in your own life

05:27 – Why your tone matters even more than what you say when having sex talks with your kids

06:20 – How to talk with kids about masturbation

06:59 – How to explain to kids how babies are made

09:28 – How to talk with your kids about porn

10:50 – How to teach kids about consent

12:12 – How to respond rather than react when your child asks you a tricky sex question

14:26 – Conclusion

Our experts include:

Cath Hakanson, qualified sexual health nurse, author, speaker and the founder of Sex Ed Rescue.

https://sexedrescue.com/

Vanessa Hamilton, sexuality educator and the founder of education business ‘Talking The Talk Healthy Sexuality Education’, with over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse.

https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/

Dr Jane Cherrington, PhD in discursive psychology, with some post-doctoral work around the themes in porn, founder of the Sex in Space Project.

https://sexinspace.com/

Justin Hancock, writer/editor of BISH, a trained sexual health trainer, qualified youth worker, and a sex and relationships educator since 1999.

https://www.bishuk.com/

Nikki Denholm, director at The Light Project, which aims to equip youth, their whānau and communities to build porn literacy and positively navigate the new porn landscape.

https://thelightproject.co.nz/

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#82 - Danielle Broster / Understanding online sexual extortion: how to keep your kids safe

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 22:00:00 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, we were joined by Danielle Broster from the Australian Federal Police. Danielle is a Senior Prevention Officer for their Online Child Safety Team, which she has been a part of for five years. The Australian Federal Police lead an education program called Think U Know, which aims to prevent online child sexual exploitation. Together, Danielle and Tim had a conversation all about sextortion – what it is, who it affects and the warning signs that someone might be a victim, as well as advice for parents on what they can do to help protect their kids against sextortion.

TRIGGER WARNING: this episode discusses topics related to sextortion, online exploitation, and the manipulation of young people. These are sensitive and potentially distressing subjects, so listener discretion is advised. If you find any part of this conversation overwhelming, please reach out to support services if needed.

Find Think U Know here: https://www.thinkuknow.org.au/

ACCCE (Australian Centre to Counter Child Exploitation): https://www.accce.gov.au/

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

02:33 – How Think U Know started and what they do

04:08 – What is sextortion and who does it target?

11:07 – Do perpetrators follow through with threats?

12:45 – How big is the issue?

15:42 – Advice to help prevent sextortion

20:30 – What conversations to have at what age

22:00 – What are the red flags that suggest someone might be at risk?

23:46 – What empowers young people to report sextortion?

25:46 – Signs someone might be the victim of sextortion

27:58 – Balancing privacy and trust with your child

31:05 – What to do if you find out your child is a victim of sextortion

34:15 – How the AFP is helping prevent sextortion

36:32 – Top tips for both parents and teens

38:05 – Where to find more information

40:57 – How the tech landscape has changed over time

43:57 – Conclusion

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#81 - Teri Hofford / Unf*cking how we see our bodies

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 22:30:58 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by the lovely Teri Hofford. Teri is a body image educator, bestselling author, photographer and TedX speaker who helps people unf*ck their beliefs around bodies and business so that they can move closer to their most authentic selves. We were very excited to have a conversation with her today about all things relating to body image – the meaning that we make out of our bodies and where those thoughts come from, how we can reframe negative thoughts about ourselves, what confidence can look like for different people, and why being curious is so important when it comes to shifting the way we think and feel about our bodies.

Find Teri here: https://terihofford.com/

Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/terihofford

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:50 – What Teri does and how she got involved working in this space

03:06 – 5 reasons you look bad in photos

06:50 – Using photography to explore difficult subjects

08:44 – How to change your attitude towards your body

11:10 – Treat yourself like you’d treat a friend

13:07 – 3 steps to reframing negative body talk

16:17 – The impact of asexuality on body image

23:55 – Most common myths about body image + confidence

27:40 – Teri’s project celebrating bodies as they are

30:30 – Body Image Bootcamp: what it’s all about

33:34 – Being able to freely exist in your body

35:10 – Our bodies are a representation of what we feel about ourselves

40:14 – Teri’s message to her younger self

42:16 – Why we have to be intentional to reframe our thoughts about our bodies

45:02 – You’re not as special as you think you are

49:04 – Where to find Teri

50:05 - Conclusion

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#80 - Tina Horn / Understanding kink, fetish and pleasure

Wed, 09 Oct 2024 03:50:11 GMT

On this week’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Tina Horn – a writer, educatrix, and media-maker. She is the author of Why Are People Into That?: A Cultural Investigation of Kink (Hachette), a book based on her long-running indie fetish podcast. Tina is the creator/writer of the sci-fi sex-rebel comic book series Safe Sex /SfSx, and the cult detective thriller Deprog; she was also the host/cowriter of the phone sex podcast Operator (Wondery). Her reporting on sexual subcultures has appeared in Rolling Stone, Playboy, Hazlitt, Glamour, Jezebel and elsewhere; she is the author of two other nonfiction books and has contributed to numerous anthologies including We Too: Essays on Sex Work and Survival, which she also coedited. Tina has lectured on adult entertainment politics and queer BDSM identities at universities and community centres all over North America, and works as an on-set consultant for theatre, film, and television including the dominatrix scenes of Pose. She is a LAMBDA Literary Fellow, an AVN nominee, the recipient of two Feminist Porn Awards, and holds an MFA in Creative Nonfiction Writing from Sarah Lawrence.

Find Tina here: https://www.instagram.com/tinahornsass/?hl=en

Or at her website: https://tinahorn.net/

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

01:50 – What is a kink?

05:20 – The influence of the internet on our sexual behaviours

07:06 – How would you define rough sex?

08:49 – Our relationship with obsession

14:00 – Connecting to others through sexuality

15:59 – How to bring your desires and fantasies to life

22:02 – Different kinds of foot fetishes

26:50 – Embracing pleasure

29:13 – Places we can learn from

32:36 – Learning about sex from observation and conversations

34:08 – Why are people into that? The cultural investigation of kink.

35:30 – Conclusion

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#79 - Melody Thomas / How good sex became a great project

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 23:16:37 GMT

For this episode we were thrilled to be joined by Melody Thomas, the creator and host of The Good Sex Project – a podcast about good sex, good relationships and how to have them.

Together, Melody and Toshi spoke about what she’s learned from her two seasons creating this podcast, how the work has impacted Melody’s own sex life, what she wishes she knew earlier about sex and relationships, and some of the most memorable moments from the conversations she’s had.

Check out The Good Sex Project here: https://interactives.stuff.co.nz/the-good-sex-project-podcast/

Timestamps

00:00 – Intro

00:40 – What is The Good Sex Project all about?

02:09 – How people have responded to The Good Sex Project

03:51 – Melody’s biggest learnings about sex and relationships

07:39 – Advice to feel more comfortable talking about sex

10:05 – Taboos that still need to be broken down

12:59 – Sex advice Melody would give to her younger self

14:31 – How you can prioritise your own pleasure

17:00 – Communication tips

18:47 – Identifying unhealthy relationships

20:20 – Why asking questions is so important

21:55 – The expectations we take from porn

22:57 – How Melody’s sexual experiences have changed over time

24:17 – How sex-negative thinking can impact our physical experiences

26:33 – Where listeners can tune into The Good Sex Project

27:06 – Conclusion

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#78 - Anil Padavatan / Understanding transgender healthcare

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 23:25:02 GMT

On the latest episode of the Sex in Space podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Anil Padavatan, the Health Programs Lead at GATE, (Global Action for Trans Equality), about trans healthcare. Together, they had a conversation about what trans healthcare is, why and how all kinds of people – not just those who are transgender – access services like puberty blockers and hormone replacement therapy, they debunked some common myths and misinformation surrounding this topic, and looked at the different ways that families can exist in the world.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:39 – What is GATE?

01:13 – What does it mean to be transgender?

02:42 – What is trans healthcare?

03:38 – What is gender affirming care?

04:48 – Some examples of gender affirming care

05:18 – Some reasons a person might access gender affirming care

06:09 – Cisgender people also access gender affirming care

08:13 – How do puberty blockers work?

09:37 – Are puberty blockers reversible?

10:41 – When can people use puberty blockers?

13:13 – Risks and benefits of puberty blockers

16:41 – The reality of medical interventions for young people

18:45 – What is hormone replacement therapy and who uses it?

21:34 – Being transgender and fertility

26:23 – What is gender affirming surgery?

27:50 – Who is able to access gender affirming surgery?

30:05 – The facts around gender affirming surgery and regret

34:25 – Different kinds of families

37:42 – Conclusion

Resources:

World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH) Standards of Care 8:

https://www.wpath.org/soc8

Guidelines for gender affirming healthcare for gender diverse and transgender children, young people and adults in Aotearoa, New Zealand:

https://patha.nz/Guidelines

Southern African HIV Clinicians Society Gender Affirming Healthcare Guidelines: https://www.sahivsoc.org/Subheader/Index/sahcs-guidelines

Cornell University Public Policy Research Portal, What does the scholarly research say about the effect of gender transition on transgender well-being?:

https://whatweknow.inequality.cornell.edu/topics/lgbt-equality/what-does-the-scholarly-research-say-about-the-well-being-of-transgender-people/

GATE Knowledge Portal:

https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/

Reaffirming Autonomy of Trans and Gender Diverse Children and Adolescents:

https://gate.ngo/knowledge-portal/publication/reaffirming-autonomy-of-trans-and-gender-diverse-children-and-adolescents/

Trans and Intersex Rising Zimbabwe:

https://trinrizim.weebly.com/

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#77 - Dr Paula Hall / Compulsive porn use: what you need to know

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 23:00:20 GMT

On this week's episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr Paula Hall, a sexual and relationship psychotherapist who specialises in helping people affected by sex addiction and porn addiction. Dr Hall has been working as a therapist for 30 years and currently runs the biggest clinic in the UK, and the biggest therapy training programme for compulsive sexual behaviours.

Together, Dr Hall and Toshi spoke about identifying problematic porn use, advice for anyone who thinks that their porn consumption might be an issue, the impact that compulsive porn use has on partners and how they can access support of their own, why being anti-porn is not the solution and why compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue.

Dr Hall is the author of several books including Understanding & Treating Sex and Pornography Addiction, Sex Addiction: The Partner’s Perspective, Confronting Porn, and Sex Addiction: A Guide for Couples. Dr Hall has also peer reviewed a number of papers.

Watch her TED Talk on sex addiction here: https://youtu.be/-Qf2e3XZ8Tw?si=8VpOEgOynjCgDxjU

Learn more about the Laurel Centre: https://thelaurelcentre.co.uk/

Find more info about Pivotal Recovery here: https://www.pivotalrecovery.org/

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:40 – Dr Hall’s background + work

03:41 – Porn addiction vs compulsive porn use

06:02 – When is someone’s porn use problematic?

08:31 – Advice if you think your porn use might be an issue

10:33 – How shame gets in the way of people seeking help

12:45 – Why you need to work out what healthy sexuality means for you

14:36 – The impact of compulsive porn use on partners

16:55 – Support for partners of someone with compulsive porn use

18:43 – Dr Hall’s message for parents

24:06 – Why being anti-porn is not a solution

27:44 – The issue with trying to block pornography

29:28 – How moral debates can get in the way of helping people

33:18 – Compulsive porn use is the symptom of a bigger issue

35:52 – How the brain changes when a behaviour shifts from being recreational to compulsive

38:22 – One thing Dr. Hall wants you to take away from this podcast

39:31 – About Pivotal Recovery

40:43 - Conclusion

Software mentioned by Dr Hall -

Canopy: https://canopy.us/

Qustodio: https://www.qustodio.com/en/

Covenant Eyes: https://www.covenanteyes.com/

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#76 - Catherine Carr / Unpacking 'About the Boys'

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 04:32:04 GMT

Tim was joined by Catherine Carr for this episode – Catherine is producer of the acclaimed BBC Radio 4 series 'About The Boys.' This insightful five-part series takes a deep dive into the lives of teenage boys in the UK, exploring their challenges, fears, and hopes in a world that's rapidly changing. The show has been praised for its honest and raw portrayal of boys' experiences, offering a platform for their voices to be heard. Catherine, who is also a mother of boys, brings a unique and empathetic perspective to the series, making it a must-listen for anyone interested in the lives of young men today.

Listen to ‘About the Boys’ here: https://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/m001yshm/episodes/player

Freddie Feltham, mentioned in the podcast: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2024/jan/06/im-andrew-tates-audience-and-i-know-why-he-appeals-to-young-men

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:26 – Catherine’s background

03:26 – What ‘About the Boys’ is all about

06:14 – The two stories that kicked off the project

11:37 – How Catherine put the series together

12:47 – Societal perceptions of young boys

16:29 – Letting the boys tell their story

18:30 – The impact of social media on boys

21:03 – Problematic male influencers

24:51 – The gaps in education for young people

29:00 – Where young people are learning from

31:45 – Tips for talking with kids about sexuality and relationships

33:17 – The spaces boys inhabit: real and online

37:41 – The importance of honest conversations

40:41 – Ending on a note of optimism

41:27 – Will there be an ‘About the Girls’?

43:10 – Conclusion

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#75 - Verity Johnson / Male strip clubs - a lesson on female sexuality

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 23:00:49 GMT

Toshi spoke with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee, who MC’s for Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club. Toshi and Verity had a conversation about what audience members can expect from a night at Men of Steel, Verity’s advice for anyone thinking of going but who might be a little nervous, as well as what she’s learned about female sexuality in New Zealand from working at Men of Steel – including the differences between different generations of women and their attitudes towards sexuality, and tips for becoming less apologetic about your sexuality and desires as a female.

Check out Men of Steel here: https://www.menofsteel.co.nz/

Find them on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubmenofsteel/?hl=en

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:40 – What is Men of Steel?

02:35 – How people respond to the experience

03:48 – What does a typical night look like at Men of Steel?

06:55 – Who goes to this male strip club?

09:25 – Female sexuality in New Zealand

13:07 – What to know if you feel nervous about going to Men of Steel

15:00 – What Miss Vee wishes people knew about Men of Steel

16:58 – Views around male stripping over the past 25 years

18:54 – Different generational attitudes towards sex

22:16 – Advice on embracing your sexuality

23:54 – Listen to this if you’re thinking about coming to Men of Steel

24:28 – Ticket info

24:42 – Conclusion

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#74 - Kate Barnhart / Supporting LGBTQ+ homeless youth

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 00:58:38 GMT

For this episode, Toshi was joined by Kate Barnhart from New Alternatives NYC, a multi-service drop-in centre for LGBT homeless youth and young adults in New York City. They provide a range of services, everything from food, court advocacy, school supplies and supportive counselling. Together, Kate and Toshi spoke about the work that New Alternatives does, and why it’s so important.

Find New Alternatives NYC here: https://www.newalternativesnyc.org/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:30 – Why LGBTQ+ youth are more at risk of being homeless

01:56 – What services does New Alternatives NYC offer?

03:31 – Meeting mental health needs

05:28 – How LGBTQ+ youth respond to the services offered by New Alternatives

06:04 – Memorable moments working at New Alternatives

08:43 – Who volunteers at New Alternatives

10:12 – Why Kate founded New Alternatives

11:42 – What Kate’s learned from working here

12:42 – Why this job is like solving a puzzle

13:24 – How listeners can support New Alternatives NYC

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Sex in Space / Trailer

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 23:31:17 GMT

Sex in Space is a weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.

Available everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found. Subscribe to make sure you never miss an episode!

Check out the full podcast episodes mentioned in the trailer:

Dr Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/26-laurie-mintz-satisfying-sex-lives/id1554815508?i=1000622992065

Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/38-vanessa-hamilton-sex-ed-for-parents-top-tips-for/id1554815508?i=1000633155903

Dr Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/43-dr-jane-cherrington-how-to-talk-with-your-kids-about-porn/id1554815508?i=1000641628876

Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/30-morgana-oreilly-lets-talk-bodies/id1554815508?i=1000626751039

Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/23-michelle-hardenbrook-owning-the-onlyfans-side-hustle/id1554815508?i=1000613465077

Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/37-shaneel-lal-banning-conversion-therapy-in-nz/id1554815508?i=1000632494766

Alex Layendecker / Sex in space: https://podcasts.apple.com/nz/podcast/69-dr-alex-layendecker-sex-in-space/id1554815508?i=1000663034331

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#73 - Susan Bratton / An intimacy expert's guide to great sex

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 22:30:36 GMT

Toshi was joined by the wonderful Susan Bratton for today’s episode. Susan is an intimacy expert to millions, who is known as an ‘orgasmanaut’ and is an advocate for all those who desire intimacy and passion their whole life long. She's created a whole bunch of techniques that transform “having sex” into making love, and is the bestselling author and publisher of an incredible 44 books.

In this episode, Toshi and Susan spoke about why sex is a lifelong skill, the different kinds of orgasms the human body can experience, why bedroom communication skills are so important and how to get better at them, Susan’s top tips for having a great sex life, how to figure out your relationship values, and how to use erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life.

Find more of Susan here: https://susanbratton.com/

Find her on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/susanbratton

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:20 – Susan the ‘orgasmanaut’

02:08 – What is an extended orgasm?

04:15 – What is an expanded orgasm?

06:07 – Susan’s experience with orgasms

07:43 – Susan's sex advice for younger people

11:00 – Matriarchal perspectives on sex

12:00 – Understanding pleasure and the female body

12:53 – The three ‘prongs’ to great sex

14:30 – The important thing to do to have a great sex life

16:21 – The sexual soulmate pact

21:03 – Working out what you want in bed

22:55 – How to communicate what you want with a partner

26:45 – Sharing favourite frames after you make love

28:51 – Figuring out your relationship values

32:55 – Using erotic playdates to add variety to your sex life

36:01 – Summary and conclusion

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#72 - William Moore / Exploring Male Girth Enhancement - the science and the impacts

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 01:50:50 GMT

In this episode, Tim had the opportunity to talk with William Moore, founder of the AdvancedYOU clinic, and developer of PhalloFILL Male Girth Enhancement. They spoke about all things penis girth enhancement, from the reasons people seek this help and treatment, to the processes of the procedure, the effects and benefits, the impacts of pornography on male body image, and the future of biohacking your health.

Learn more about PhalloFILL: https://phallofill.com/

Find more about William here: https://advanced-you.com/

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#71 - Verity Johnson / Club Burlesque: celebrating freedom, sexuality and desire

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 01:49:47 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Verity Johnson, also known as Miss Vee. Verity is a newspaper columnist, MC at Men of Steel, New Zealand’s only male strip club, and the owner of Club Burlesque – New Zealand’s first burlesque club.

Together they spoke about:

What burlesque is and what it celebrates
Why Verity started Club Burlesque
What you can expect if you go to a show
The kind of audiences you’ll find at Club Burlesque
How burlesque encourages audiences to reconsider societal attitudes towards sex
What it teaches us about desire
The relationship between burlesque, freedom and sexuality
And what you might get out of an experience at a burlesque show.

Club Burlesque’s 2024 season runs from July 26 – September 13 in Auckland, New Zealand.

Check out Club Burlesque (and find tickets) here: https://theclubburlesque.com/

Find Club Burlesque on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/clubburlesquenz/?hl=en

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

00:33 – What is burlesque?

02:54 – Understanding eros

03:25 – Why Verity started Club Burlesque

04:44 – What you can expect from a night at Club Burlesque

06:31 – Misconceptions about burlesque

07:44 – Redefining how we think about society’s attitudes towards sex

09:05 – What burlesque teaches you about desire

11:38 – On not being afraid of your sexuality

14:10 – Club Burlesque vs Men of Steel

15:04 – Seeing Auckland reclaim its sexy side

17:00 – How can we start to deconstruct shame in society?

18:42 – Where you can find more information about Club Burlesque

18:55 – Give yourself permission to enjoy sex and desire

19:52 – Conclusion

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#70 - Daniel Principe / Empowering boys to navigate masculinity and culture

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 22:42:00 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, Tim and Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Daniel Principe, a passionate youth advocate and educator. He champions boys across Australia to challenge culture and aspire to live courageous, respectful and empathetic lives.

In the podcast Daniel, Tim and Toshi spoke about:

What ideas are being communicated to young boys about masculinity
How to navigate peer pressure
Why it’s important to choose your friends well
What Daniel’s work looks like in practice
What young people really think about Andrew Tate
Why the sigma meme is so popular with young boys
The realities of young people’s porn use
How parents and caregivers can support their kids
And why soft skills are so important

Daniel is a board member of the DART Institute, an ambassador for the Women’s Resilience Centre and an ambassador for the national campaign Consent Can’t Wait. Having presented to tens of thousands of young people in every Australian state and territory, Daniel is no stranger to the complex challenges that our distracted digital world presents in adolescence.

By partnering with schools and communities, Daniel encourages young people to recognise and resist distorted attitudes towards bodies, relationships and sex. He invites his audiences to instead aspire to healthy relationships built on mutual respect and empathy. Daniel is a regular guest on TV, radio and podcasts to discuss healthy masculinity, consent, respectful relationships and the cultural challenges young people are facing. None of these evolving challenges sway Daniel’s confidence that all young people can flourish if we create spaces for them to be their best selves.

You can check out Daniel here: https://www.danielprincipe.com.au/

Find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/lastoftheromans/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:01 – Who Daniel is and what he does

05:13 – Championing boys, challenging culture

06:05 – What ideas are being communicated to boys about masculinity?

11:50 – Unpacking where our desires come from

14:32 – Advice for navigating social pressure and why it’s important to choose your friends well

17:15 – Social expectations in sex and relationships

18:22 – Responses of young people to Daniel’s workshops

20:04 – What Daniel’s work looks like in practice

24:33 – Why we need to have empathy for young people navigating online spaces

30:41 – Young people’s thoughts on Andrew Tate

35:52 – Understanding the appeal of the sigma meme

40:05 – The realities of young people’s porn use

48:23 – Why soft skills are so important

51:03 – How parents and caregivers can help

56:44 – Daniel's message for young people

58:32 – Conclusion

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Dr Alex Layendecker / Sex in space

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 23:33:49 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was thrilled to be able to talk with Dr. Alex Layendecker of the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute (ASRI) about all things sex in space. Together, they spoke about:

Why there was a need for a private research organisation to investigate sex in space
When we might expect to see regular people going to space
The short and long-term risks of sex in space
Has anyone had sex in space?
The first married couple in space
Why ASRI’s research focuses on more than just the act of sex
And how humans might evolve in off-Earth environments

ASRI is a 501c3 non-profit research organisation that is dedicated to the study of human sexuality and reproductive factors as they apply to outer space environments. Dr. Layendecker is the founder and current director of ASRI. He is a 2008 graduate of the United States Air Force Academy and served seven years as a USAF space operations officer for spacecraft launch and recovery, before transferring to the USAF Reserve as an HH-60G helicopter pilot for Combat Search and Rescue. He completed a Master of Public Health (2013) and PhD in Human Sexuality (2016) for the Institute for Advanced Study of Human Sexuality, where his doctoral research focused on human sexuality and reproduction in off-Earth environments, the history of research in this area, and the research gaps that must be filled in the future in order to make long-term settlement of other worlds a viable possibility.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:19 – What is the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute all about?

02:36 – Dr. Layendecker’s background and research

06:23 – Old space vs new space

08:30 – When might regular people have access to space?

11:29 – The race to fill all the research gaps

13:57 – The first symposium for the study of human reproduction and sexual health in space

15:09 – Short and long-term risks about sex in space

17:40 – Why this research is so important

21:45 – Has anyone had sex in space?

31:20 – The animals that have mated in space

32:11 – Why the research focus is not just on the act of sex

34:36 – How will humans evolve in off-Earth environments?

38:01 – Funding research into sex in space

41:30 – The future of space travel

43:28 – Would Dr. Layendecker travel to space?

46:15 – Conclusion

Find more about Dr. Layendecker and the Advanced Spacelife Research Institute here:

ASRI: https://www.asri.space/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/astrosexresearch

Twitter: https://x.com/ASRI4Space

Links mentioned in the podcast:

The International Scientific Symposium for the Study of Human Reproduction & Sexual Health in Space: https://www.space-reproduction.org/

SpaceBorn United: https://www.spacebornunited.com/

The Overview Effect by Frank White: https://www.amazon.com.au/Overview-Effect-Exploration-Evolution-Library/dp/162410262X

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#68 - Dr. Evan Goldstein / Anal health and pleasure

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 07:18:08 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to speak with Dr Evan Goldstein, leading anal health expert in the U.S. Dr Goldstein is the founder and CEO of Bespoke Surgical, a first of its kind health practice specialising in gay men’s sexual health and wellness, and has just published a new book, Butt Seriously: The Definitive Guide to Anal Health, Pleasure, and Everything In-Between.

Together, Tim and Dr. Goldstein spoke about anal health and pleasure, hygiene practices – including why you should avoid using wet wipes and bidets- debunked common assumptions and misconceptions, and more.

Check out Butt Seriously here: https://a.co/d/cRLA0vF

Find Dr. Goldstein here: https://drevangoldstein.com/

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#67 - Dr. Ian Kerner / Sex ed, desire and communication

Tue, 09 Jul 2024 05:51:33 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Dr. Ian Kerner, licensed psychotherapist, lecturer, and New York Times bestselling author of books including She Comes First: The Thinking Man’s Guide to Pleasuring a Woman, and most recently, So Tell Me About The Last Time You Had Sex: Laying Bare and Learning to Repair Our Love Lives.

Together, Ian and Tim spoke about the importance of prioritizing pleasure in sexual relationships, the need for accurate sex ed and the impact that pornography has on sexual attitudes and behaviours. They also discussed the rise of sexual anxiety, the challenges that couples face in maintaining desire and the need for open communication.

Find Dr. Ian here: https://www.iankerner.com/

Find his TED Talk, 'A sex therapist's secret to rediscovering your spark' here: https://www.ted.com/talks/ian_kerner_a_sex_therapist_s_secret_to_rediscovering_your_spark?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

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#66 - Madam Bella Cummins / Running a brothel the right way

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 23:00:52 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, we were privileged to be joined by Madam Bella Cummins, the owner and operator of Bella’s Hacienda Ranch, in Wells, Nevada. Bella’s Hacienda Ranch is the only legal brothel run entirely by sex workers, and it attracts customers from all over the US and beyond.

At 74 years old, Cummins is the longest serving living female legal brothel owner in the US. In 1987, she acquired the struggling Hacienda Ranch Brothel and transformed it into the famed "Bella's Hacienda." Leveraging her understanding of business and financial expertise, Cummins successfully turned the establishment into one of the most prosperous adult entertainment destinations in the state.

During the COVID pandemic, when the legal brothels were shuttered by Nevada’s governor, Cummins creatively obtained an escort license for her business, allowing sex workers to sustain their income by providing non-sexual companionship services.

In an era when sex workers were often disparaged and marginalized, Cummins pioneered a revolutionary approach within the industry. As the only legal brothel entirely run by sex workers, Bella’s Hacienda eliminated exploitative elements, creating a female-led workplace culture centred around trust and teamwork. This environment allowed sex workers to find camaraderie, support, and personal growth, challenging stereotypes and fostering a more positive image of women in the adult entertainment sector.

Check out Bella's Hacienda Ranch here: https://bellas.us/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

02:06 – Bella's background

03:49 – Bella's experience of sex ed

05:23 – How Bella was introduced to brothels

09:00 – Bella's vision and mission

11:10 – Where Bella’s attitude came from

13:40 – Thoughts on Madams in other houses

14:26 – Lessons learned in life

16:14 – The difference between sensuality and sex

17:20 – Why Bella’s offers adult male virgins a discount

24:29 – Advice to young women wanting to get into the industry

27:06 – Bella’s relationship advice

30:26 – Bella's plans for the future

32:48 – Why there is a need for brothels

34:30 – Bella's message to listeners

36:04 – Conclusion

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#65 - Shaun Hill / Sex, drugs and consent

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 23:00:00 GMT

On today’s episode of the podcast, Toshi was able to sit down with Shaun Hill, the ReWired Project Lead, from the New Zealand Drug Foundation. ReWired is a non-judgemental support group for people who want to bring their party’n’play into focus.

Together, Shaun and Toshi had a conversation about chemsex, the ReWired project, sex, drug use and consent, communication and pleasure.

Check out ReWired here: https://www.rewired.org.nz/

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00:00 – Intro

01:38 – How Shaun's perceptions around drug use changed over time

05:58 – What does chemsex and party’n’play mean?

07:53 – What is the ReWired project all about?

09:50 – How ReWired has changed over time

11:31 – The value of hearing people’s journeys

13:28 – Reflecting on the Four F's: friends, family, fucks and finances

16:16 – Sex should be about fun and pleasure

17:42 – Challenges working at ReWired

20:09 – How to navigate consent when drug use is involved

23:49 – How to navigate consent in spaces where it’s given non-verbally

28:43 – One thing Shaun wishes more people knew about consent

31:50 – Where to find more info about ReWired

32:36 – Conclusion

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#64 - Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers / How to overcome sexual shame

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 23:00:55 GMT

For this episode of the podcast, Tim had the opportunity to talk with Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers, a sex therapist, founder of the Northwest Institute on Intimacy, a former professor of Marriage and Family therapy at Seattle Pacific University, an AASECT-certified supervisor, mother, wife and author. Her mission is to provide education and tools that empower people to rise above sexual shame and embrace their value. Together Tim and Dr. Tina discuss sexual shame, its origins, the role of religion, effective parenting strategies and more.

Find Dr. Tina here: https://www.tinaschermersellers.com/

Check out her book, Shameless Parenting: Everything You Need to Raise Shame-free, Confident Kids and Heal Your Shame Too: https://a.co/d/efnEOkV

Explore Dr Tina’s other book, Sex, God and the Conservative Church: https://a.co/d/eaU5zMK

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#63 - Dr Fiona Vera-Gray / Women talk porn

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 23:00:10 GMT

For this episode we were lucky enough to be joined by Dr. Fiona Vera-Gray, one of the UK’s leading feminist academics working on sexual violence, and the Deputy director at the Child and Women Abuse Studies Unit at London Metropolitan University.

Earlier this year, Fiona published her book, Women on Porn, where she interviewed 100 women on their experiences with pornography – how they first encountered it, how they consume it, how it has affected their sex lives and relationships, what they like and what they don’t. Toshi and Fiona spoke about what inspired the book, how people have responded to it, how porn impacts our sex lives and the conflicting feelings that many women have towards their porn use.

Check out Fiona here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/

Find Women on Porn here: https://www.fionaveragray.com/book-women-on-porn.html

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Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:14 – What kicked off the book?

02:58 – What are sexual scripts?

04:29 – How does porn impact our sex lives?

06:26 – The problem with the Fast and Furious analogy

08:03 – Balancing regulation and privacy

09:49 – Removing the judgement from the conversation

13:33 – It’s not as simple as pro-porn or anti-porn

15:34 - What women say about their first sexual experiences

17:30 – Advice if you feel conflicted about your porn use

22:05 – How people have responded to Women on Porn

24:00 – What positive impacts can porn have?

27:32 – Fiona’s challenges working in this space

29:24 – Men’s responses to her work

30:51 – Supporting young people

32:50 – Women’s responses to Fiona’s work

34:32 – Feeling validated by other women's experiences

36:00 – What about feminist/ethical porn?

38:09 - How our sexual desires are shaped by culture

40:26 – Conclusion

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#62 - Lucy Sante / It's never too late to transition

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 23:00:39 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, we were thrilled to be joined by Lucy Sante, a Belgian-born American writer, teacher, and critic, who has contributed to the New York Review of Books for four decades about film, art, and photography. She transitioned at the age of 67 after downloading an app on her phone that had a gender-swapping feature, allowing Lucy to see herself as a woman.

Earlier this year, she published a book called I Heard Her Call My Name, a Memoir of Transition, which brings together two threads of personal narrative – the first, the arc of her life, and the second, her recent transition that allowed her to reach a place of inner and outer alignment.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:23 – Feelings after promoting her book

02:10 – Lucy's experience being trans

04:40 – Containment vs desire

07:28 – Lucy's upbringing

08:52 – What triggered Lucy’s transition

11:45 – The impact of age on transitioning

13:56 – Lucy's social experiences as a kid

17:25 – First encounters with trans people

18:41 – Finding courage from others

21:33 – Why Lucy might have transitioned 25 years earlier

22:31 – Gender in society

25:33 – The debate with feminism

27:11 – The joy of transitioning

31:42 – Being transgender is not a choice

33:51 – Conclusion

Check out Lucy's book here: https://lucysante.com/book/i-heard-her-call-my-name/

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#61 - Annah Pickering / Sex work advocacy

Tue, 28 May 2024 01:41:57 GMT

For this episode of the podcast, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Annah Pickering, the regional co-ordinator for the NZPC – the Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Worker’s Collective. The Sex Worker’s Collective is a national organisation here in New Zealand that empowers and advocates for the rights of sex workers, as well as doing work internationally around the decriminalisation of sex work.

Check out the NZPC here: https://nzpc.org.nz/.

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#60 - Susie Orbach / Why fat's still a feminist issue

Mon, 20 May 2024 21:19:26 GMT

For this episode, Jane had the privilege of speaking with Susie Orbach, who is a British psychotherapist, psychoanalyst, social critic and the writer who hit the world with the iconic book: Fat is a Feminist Issue, which is an important examination of the obsession we have with food and body image. Written over 40 years ago, it remains hyper relevant to this day.

Fast forward to 2009, and Susie followed up on this idea with Bodies. In this book she argues that the way we view our bodies has become synonymous with how we see ourselves – our body becomes the way that we measure our self-worth. In Bodies, Susie suggests ways that we might be able to heal from this kind of messaging.

In the podcast, Susie spoke with Jane about this amazing body of work, and three main themes emerged – the development of feminism and the way that our perception of it has changed over time, our struggle as humans to be both connected and autonomous, and the way in which the food and beauty industries profit so significantly from body insecurity.

What you’ll find in the podcast:

How feminism was perceived when Susie was young

What role should work have in our lives?

The shift from relying on each other to competing

Can we find common ground with others?

Why connection is so important

Why do so many of us feel bad about our bodies?

How we can change the way we feel about bodies

Why you should read Bodies

A reflection on the times we’re living in

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#59 - Chanel Contos / How to do consent when it comes to sex

Mon, 13 May 2024 23:35:40 GMT

For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to talk with Chanel Contos, founder and CEO of Teach Us Consent, a campaign that mandated consent education in Australia. Chanel discussed the success of this campaign and the response she received from people within Australia and internationally. She unpacks what people can expect from her book, Consent Laid Bare, and discusses the last chapter which is titled “Dear Boys and Men” and what she hoped to achieve with this particular part of the book. Chanel also gives her advice on how to have healthier conversations and practices around consent and understanding personal boundaries.

Find out more about the Teach Us Consent campaign here: https://www.teachusconsent.com/

Grab a copy of Consent Laid Bare: https://amzn.asia/d/87nIuxU

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

01:11 – What is the Teach Us Consent campaign?

03:22 – Responses to the campaign

03:52 – What Chanel has learned from working in this space

04:40 – What's most rewarding about being involved in this work

05:43 – What you’ll find in Chanel’s book

07:20 – Dear Boys and Men

10:11 – How to help people feel comfortable to say “no”

12:10 – What is affirmative consent?

14:24 – Advice to help have better consent practices

17:07 – How you can get in touch with your own boundaries

18:57 – Goals for the future

19:45 – How Chanel got into this space from starting in IT

20:46 – How you can support Teach Us Consent

21:17 - Conclusion

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#58 - Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus / Stories we have about sex

Mon, 06 May 2024 23:12:32 GMT

For today’s episode, Jane had the pleasure of speaking with Dr. Jenn Gunsaullus. Dr. Jenn is a clinical sexologist, sociologist, and relationship coach who has more than 20 years of experience in the sexual health and relationships space. She is the author of From Madness to Mindfulness: Reinventing Sex for Women, and is an international speaker about couples' desire, sexual consent, healthy relationships, body image, erotic play, effective communication, women's empowerment, and mindful intimacy.

Find more of Dr. Jenn here: https://www.drjennsden.com/

Timestamps:

00:00 – Intro

02:22 – How Dr. Jenn got involved in this work

04:28 – Changes in the sex + sexuality space over time

06:40 – Why it’s important to do hard things

09:29 – What is a growth mindset?

12:51 – How awkward encounters can increase intimacy

14:19 – Dr Jenn’s course for couples

15:46 – Rewriting our sexual stories

17:22 – 10 day refresh for couples

18:11 – Our complicated relationship with pleasure

21:49 – From Madness to Mindfulness

26:00 – The lack of education around the clitoris

28:47 – Dr. Jenn’s tips for parents

31:56 – Advice for couples

38:25 - Conclusion

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#57 - Damian Weatherald / Why people with disabilities might be having better sex

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 02:06:49 GMT

For today’s episode, Toshi had the pleasure of chatting with Damian Weatherald. Damian is an avid gig-goer to live music, sport, comedy, theatre and travel. He’s also a disability advocate and inclusivity consultant, a sex educator, and sex toy guru.

We came across Damian on Instagram, when we asked our followers which topics they’d like to hear us discuss on the podcast. Damian approached us and said that he would love to speak with us about sex and disability, and we were super keen to have this conversation with him.

You can find him on Instagram here: https://www.instagram.com/wheelie.rocking.pink/

Check out his website here: https://www.damianweatherald.co.uk/

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#56 - Trish Dribnenki / Thinking differently about drug use

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 23:00:05 GMT

For today’s episode, Toshi had the privilege of chatting with Trish Dribnenki, National Policy and Practice Lead for the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme.

Together, they spoke about the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme – what started it, the services that it offers, and Trish’s role within the programme. Trish unpacked harm reduction and some of the misconceptions that people have around this philosophy, as well as how her work in this space has helped her navigate her own feelings of shame and self-stigma around drug use, and how us as listeners can make small changes in our daily lives to help reduce the stigma around drug use.

Find more information about the New Zealand Needle Exchange Programme here: https://www.nznep.org.nz/

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#55 - Sarah / Pantydeal: The sexy second hand online marketplace (more than panties)

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 23:00:16 GMT

For this week’s episode of the podcast, Jane had the opportunity to speak with Sarah from Pantydeal. Born and raised in Australia, Sarah moved to Berlin after graduating from Ballet school. In the last few years she focused her time on Event Management in the Cabaret and Burlesque scene. In 2023 she started with Pantydeal, an online market place and social community for buyers and sellers of used panties. It’s the largest platform of its kind and has a large focus on sex, kink and body positivity.

Check Pantydeal out here: https://pantydeal.com/.

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#54 - Kate Muir / Everything you need to know about the pill

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 22:30:01 GMT

For this episode, Toshi had the opportunity to speak with Kate Muir - women’s health expert, investigative journalist and documentary maker in the UK – about her latest book, Everything You Need to Know About the Pill (but were too afraid to ask), which is released April 11th, 2024. They spoke about what inspired the book, how the pill impacts hormones and libido, Kate unpacked some misconceptions around contraception, and explained why we need to be educating young people better about their options, and they discussed trans, non-binary and male contraception, as well as exploring the history of the pill – including the fact that it was female-funded!

Kate has also produced the recent Davina McCall: Pill Revolution documentary, and created two ground-breaking Channel 4 films on the menopause, which ignited a massive conversation among women. Her book Everything You Need to Know About the Menopause (but were too afraid to ask) is out now in paperback. She is a campaigning speaker, and a founder member of The Menopause Charity.

Find more of Kate here: https://katemuir.co.uk/

Check out her book Everything You Need to Know About the Pill (but were too afraid to ask) here: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Everything-Need-Know-About-afraid/dp/1398529516

Find Kate on social: @pillscandal and @menoscandal.

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#53 - Nikki Denholm / Saying 'know' to sex

Wed, 03 Apr 2024 00:28:29 GMT

Jane had the privilege of speaking with Nikki Denholm for today’s podcast about her role as Director at The Light Project. With a background in health, Nikki is a pioneer who has specialised in establishing and leading positive, community-driven and solution-focused projects in response to emerging sexual health and gender issues. Nikki is also a company director of Exposure International – a collective of storytellers who want to bridge the gap between story and those who need to hear it. She’s the Project Director of the FGM Education Programme, and deservedly has been awarded a MNZM (New Zealand Order of Merit).

Jane and Nikki chatted about what The Light Project is and how Nikki got to where she is, the impact of pornography on young people, what's required to help young people be prepared for the kind of content they might see online, why it's so important for parents to have conversations about sex, sexuality and pornography with their kids, how the resources available on The Light Project and In The Know can help both parents and youth become more educated about the online world of pornography, and Nikki's thoughts on our latest book, How to talk with your kids about porn.

Check out the Light Project here: https://thelightproject.co.nz/

Find In The Know here: https://www.intheknow.co.nz/

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#52 - Zoe Madden-Smith / The subjects sex ed didn't teach you

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 21:09:31 GMT

For today’s episode, Toshi had the privilege of chatting with Zoe Madden-Smith, multimedia journalist at Re: News, an online news platform here in New Zealand. Zoe has a passion for telling stories that centre and resonate with young people, being 26 years old herself, and she’s especially drawn to stories about sex, health, and anything that’s seen as ‘too taboo’ to talk about (which are some of the things we love to talk about here at Sex in Space).

We spoke about how she got into this role at Re: News, why the media has such an important role to play in sex education, what she wishes she’d learned from her own sex ed, and more.

Zoe was nominated for Video Journalist of the Year and Best Feature Video in the 2023 Voyager Media Awards, and was Runner Up Junior Feature writer of the year in 2022. She also has experience directing and producing a whole bunch of short and long-form stories. You can email her at zoe@renews.co.nz if you have an idea for a story.

If you want to check out more from Re: News, you can find them at:

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#51 - Blokes Talk Sex / What is sex?

Tue, 19 Mar 2024 00:49:51 GMT

Today’s episode of the Sex in Space podcast is the second in our Blokes Talk Sex series. In the first episode, Tim and Jeremy had a conversation about their experiences growing up with pornography, and today they’re back to discuss the question, “what is sex?”. They unpack what the word really means, and what acts are included in the definition, the myth of virginity, and more.

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#50 - Dr. Rogena Sterling / The history of the sex gap in biology classes

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 21:00:29 GMT

Today’s episode is the second instalment in our series with Intersex Aotearoa. Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Dr. Rogena Sterling, who is deputy chair at Intersex Aotearoa, and a lecturer and researcher at the University of Waikato. Rogena has a passion for human rights, a key focus of their PhD, and was the first openly intersex person in New Zealand to receive a PhD. Last year, Rogena published a chapter titled ‘Janet and John’: Intersex Invisibility in the New Zealand Curriculum, which looks at the way intersex has been excluded from the Western education system and explores ways that intersex can be better represented and included in the curriculum. The focus of today’s episode is, more broadly, the history of intersex – how the story of intersex has changed over time, what we can learn from the past, and why it’s so important to educate about what it means to be intersex.

You can find more information about Rogena’s chapter, ‘Janet and John’: Intersex Invisibility in the New Zealand Curriculum here: https://www.intechopen.com/books/1002139

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#49 - Hollie McNish / How to liberate yourself from shame

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 21:00:12 GMT

Toshi was lucky enough to chat with award-winning poet, writer and performer, Hollie McNish, for this episode. We found Hollie after watching a clip of her performing one of her poems, called ‘When I Am Dead, Will You Finally Shut the Fuck Up’ (which you’ll get to hear her read in the podcast). We sat down with Hollie to talk more about her work – the inspiration behind her poems, and how people respond to them, how we can challenge shame through language, sex education, masturbation, and her new book Lobster: and other things I’m learning to love, which comes out on the 14th of March 2024. Head to Hollie’s website, holliepoetry.com to pre-order your copy.

Sign up to Hollie’s online reading of Lobster: and other things I’m learning to love here: https://www.fane.co.uk/hollie-mcnish

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#48 - Masha Plotkina / Meet Quinky, the 'Duolingo of sex ed'

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 21:44:55 GMT

For this episode, Toshi had the chance to chat with the wonderful Masha Plotkina, winner of the Young Female Entrepeneur of the Year 2020, and the founder and CEO of sex and wellness app Quinky. Quinky is the 'Duolingo of dating and relationships’ and is designed specifically for Gen Z audiences, and it looks to debunk taboos surrounding intimacy in a playful and fun way. We spoke with Masha about what users can expect from the app, the inspiration behind it, and what she hopes to achieve with Quinky.

Find out more about Quinky here: https://quinky.me/

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#47 - Scott Jones / Navigating faith and sexuality

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 21:59:36 GMT

Jane got to connect with Rev. Dr. E. Scott Jones for this episode of the Sex in Space podcast. Scott is the Senior Minister of the First Central Congregational United Church of Christ in Omaha, Nebraska, USA, and this episode explores his ability to navigate faith, family and sexuality while living in challenging, conservative environments.

Scott has taught in the Philosophy Department of Creighton University and is the author of Open: A Memoir of Faith, Family, and Sexuality in the Heartland. Scott grew up as a Southern Baptist in the state of Oklahoma, where he earned his B.A. in Religion and Philosophy at Oklahoma Baptist University and an M.A. and Ph.D. in Philosophy from the University of Oklahoma. In 2015 Scott and his former husband celebrated the birth and adoption of their son. Fathering is the true delight of Scott’s life. Scott is active as an activist and serving on non-profit boards for a variety of organizations. He is currently involved in a local clergy action network fighting for gender-affirming care for adolescents and reproductive justice in the State of Nebraska. Scott enjoys hiking, reading, gardening, home DIY projects, and travel.

Find Scott’s book here: https://a.co/d/bC1dDM9

Listen to his TED Talk here: https://youtu.be/-Wbjg_iBDBE?si=y2y_6aqcJuYHIlvk

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#46 - Dr Melissa Kang / Welcome To Sex

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 23:56:40 GMT

This episode we had the privilege of chatting with the lovely Dr. Melissa Kang. Renowned in Australia and New Zealand for her iconic Dolly Doctor magazine column, but also a practicing medical doctor for marginalized youth. With academic roles at UTS and the University of Sydney, she uniquely navigates adolescent sexuality and health. Dr. Kang, alongside the wonderful Yumi Stynes, co-authored best-selling books in the "Welcome To" series, covering vital topics from periods to consent, boobs, and sex. Her expertise extends to mainstream media discussions on these critical super subjects.

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#45 - Jelly O'Shea / An introduction to intersex

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 22:22:41 GMT

This is the first instalment in our podcast series in collaboration with Intersex Aotearoa. For this episode, Jane had the privilege of chatting with Jelly O’Shea. Jelly is a queer Pākehā intersex individual, was born in Ōtepoti/Dunedin and hails from Irish, Scottish, Dutch, and English roots. Currently residing in Te Whanganui-a-Tara/Wellington, with their rescue staffy Nessi and partner Flo. As a dedicated advocate and activist, Jelly passionately champions collaborative, community-led initiatives aimed at transforming marginalised communities affected most by the confines of patriarchal capitalism. Their focus lies in ensuring equitable health and wellbeing outcomes for intersex individuals and their whānau (families) across Aotearoa. With a firm belief in the power of advocacy, Jelly tirelessly works towards effecting positive change and striving to contribute to an inclusive society that embraces and uplifts those historically overlooked or marginalised.

Find out more at https://www.intersexaotearoa.org/.

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#44 - Justin Hancock / A U.K. take on sex ed

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 20:23:17 GMT

On this episode of the podcast, Jane had the opportunity to chat with Justin Hancock, who has been a relationships and sexuality educator since 1999. He writes resources for young people at his website BISH, which is a crowdfunded website visited by thousands of young people every day. His website BISH Training is for practitioners who want to access resources and training. Justin's latest book, 'Can We Talk About Consent?' is a guide for teenagers about how to actually do consent (find it here: https://www.bishuk.com/can-we-talk-about-consent/).

Justin also hosts the podcast Culture Sex Relationships, which features interviews with academics and practitioners about their work, touching on cultural theory, which informs his in-depth and thoughtful advice episodes. To find out more about his work visit https://justinhancock.co.uk/

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#43 - Dr. Jane Cherrington / How to talk with your kids about porn

Sun, 14 Jan 2024 22:09:01 GMT

For today’s episode, Toshi sat down with Dr Jane Cherrington from the Sex in Space team, to talk about a new book that we’re releasing. It’s coming out this January 19th – it’s called ‘How to talk with your kids about porn’. It's going to be available in print form from Amazon, or you’ll also be able to grab a downloadable PDF copy from our website at sexinspace.com. Dr Jane was one of the researchers and writers for this book, so I spoke with her bit more about it – where the idea came from, why it matters, what readers can expect, and what she’s learned.

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#42 - Mike Parish / Dementia support in the queer community

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 23:00:09 GMT

TW: mention of abuse.

For this episode, Jane had the pleasure of chatting with Mike Parish. Mike spent 40 years as an officer in the London Fire Brigade training in disaster management. In 2018 he co-founded www.forbrian.co, a dementia interventions company. Then in 2021, he founded the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group, which provides advice, support, knowledge and expertise in supporting LGBTQ+ people living with or caring for someone with dementia. Mike is also the husband of Tom Hughes, who he met in 1975 and lived in a beautiful, loving relationship with until Tom passed away with dementia in 2022.

You can find more information about the LGBTQ+ Dementia Advisory Group here:

https://www.lgbtqdementiaadvisorygroup.net/about

You can find more of Mike here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jM5MYiStPD0&ab_channel=ssfdocumentary

Below are some of the resources Mike refers to in the podcast:

Ted and Noel: https://www.channel4.com/programmes/ted-noel/on-demand/75436-001

Compassion in Care, ‘Stripped of all Pride’ report: https://compassionincare.com/news/stripped-of-all-pride/

LGBTQ+ Learning Framework for social and care service providers to use: https://www.skillsforcare.org.uk/Support-for-leaders-and-managers/Supporting-a-diverse-workforce/LGBTQ-learning-framework.aspx

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#41 - Blokes Talk Sex / Growing up with porn

Tue, 12 Dec 2023 22:46:34 GMT

Sex in Space is excited to introduce a new podcast series: Blokes Talk Sex, where we chat with men from all walks of life about all things sex. For this first episode, Jeremy and Tim spoke about their experiences with pornography growing up, and shared their thoughts as parents about why it's important to educate kids about pornography before they see it.

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#40 - River Scott / LGBTQI+ Creative storytelling with purpose

Thu, 30 Nov 2023 00:24:40 GMT

This is episode 40! Get ready for a good one. Tim got to connect with the incredible River Scott. River is a multi-award-winning writer, broadcaster, podcaster, audio producer, and a dynamic force in the world of content creation. Their passion for storytelling is abundantly evident, and as a dedicated LGBTQI+ activist, they channel their energy into making a positive impact. Join us as we explore the fascinating story of a creative mind with a purpose.

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#39 - Mitch Larsson / Being a male escort

Wed, 08 Nov 2023 20:47:20 GMT

For this episode, Tim was lucky enough to have a conversation with Mitch Larsson. Mitch has led a pretty interesting life - he's a father of one, and he's moved through a number of careers including sales, law, and professional photography, before a moment of clarity led him to become a highly successful male escort. More recently, he's a columnist for Mamamia, and the author of 'Time For Her - A Memoir of True Romance'.

You can find more of Mitch here: https://beyouagain.com.au/

Check out his book 'Time For Her' here: https://www.shawlinepublishing.com.au/our-titles/new-releases/display/380-time-for-her%3A-a-memoir-of-true-romance

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#38 - Vanessa Hamilton / Sex ed for parents: top tips for tricky talks

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 23:20:27 GMT

Jane had the pleasure of chatting with Vanessa Hamilton from Talking the Talk Healthy Sexuality Education in this week's episode of the Sex in Space podcast. Vanessa has over 25 years of experience as a registered sexual health nurse, and she’s also the parent of 3 teens, an award-winning author, highly respected speaker, podcaster, blog writer and educator on the topics of human sexuality, consent and respectful relationships. Her latest book release is 'Talking Sex: A Conversation Guide for Parents' which provides parents with strategies and educational points to help them feel confident having conversations about human sexuality with their kids.

You can find Vanessa here: https://www.talkingthetalksexed.com.au/

Or on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/talkingthetalk/

And check out her book, 'Talking Sex: A Conversation Guide for Parents' here: https://ambapress.com.au/products/talking-sex

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#37 - Shaneel Lal / Banning conversion therapy in NZ

Tue, 24 Oct 2023 21:50:27 GMT

Tim had the wonderful privilege of chatting with Shaneel Lal. They are an Activist for queer and indigenous communities, a columnist – for the NZ herald, a model, political commentator, Young New Zealander of the Year 2023, Instrumental in the successful campaign to ban conversion therapy in Aotearoa, and the author of a bestselling autobiography titled One of Them, which is great and out now.

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#36 - Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue / Talking diversity and pleasure with your kids

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 03:40:28 GMT

For this episode, Tim had the privilege of chatting with Cath Hakanson, who runs Sex Ed Rescue. Sex Ed Rescue helps parents find a better way to have conversations with their kids about sex. Sex Ed Rescue can help you with: giving age-appropriate answers to tricky questions about sex, starting conversations that feel natural and guided by your personal values, and having a closer relationship where your child knows that they can ask you about anything, no matter what.

In part 2, we cover diversity and pleasure.

If you want to check out part 1, we cover the origins of Sex Ed Rescue, and talking with your kids about porn.

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#36 - Cath Hakanson, Sex Ed Rescue / Age-appropriate conversations about porn

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 03:37:10 GMT

In part 1, we cover the origins of Sex Ed Rescue, and talking with your kids about porn.

In part 2, we cover diversity and pleasure.

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#35 - Jioji Ravulo / Liberating sexuality

Tue, 10 Oct 2023 02:11:18 GMT

In this episode, Jane spoke with Professor Jioji Ravulo. Jioji is the Professor and Chair of Social Work and Policy Studies in the Sydney School of Education and Social Work at The University of Sydney. His research, writing and areas of interest include health and wellbeing, youth, diversity and inclusion, decoloniality and educational leadership. Jioji has been involved with and invited to author over 70 publications, including peer reviewed journal articles, scholarly book chapters, research reports, and opinion pieces.

Here at Sex in Space we found Jioji after watching his TED Talk, 'A liberating vision of identity that transcends labels'. You can check it out here: https://www.ted.com/talks/jioji_ravulo_a_liberating_vision_of_identity_that_transcends_labels?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

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#34 - Alex DiFrancesco / Why we were transfixed by trans fiction

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 22:06:24 GMT

On this episode, Jane had a conversation with writer, editor, and book lover, Alex DiFrancesco. Alex is a US-based commissioning editor of gender and sexuality books for Jessica Kingsley Publishers. We found them after reading an article that they wrote in the Guardian about the culture wars that surround them as a trans person editing children’s books – you can check out that article here: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2023/jul/28/childrens-books-lgbt-transgender-acceptance

Alex has also written some of their own books, including All City, Transmutation, and Psychopomps, and you’ll hear them talk about their novels in the podcast.

Find Alex here:

https://alexdifrancesco.com/

Or on Twitter:

https://twitter.com/Alex_JKPGender

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#33 - Paul Barlow / Media, politics, and the sexual ideology dog whistles

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 23:09:11 GMT

Tim had the privilege of chatting with Paul Barlow. Paul is a media and marketing veteran with a decade of experience spanning technology, entertainment, politics, and more. As a former Stuff columnist, he's contributed to renowned New Zealand publications like Waikato Times, NZ Herald, and NBR. Paul's expertise extends to crafting content and strategies for diverse industries, including professional sports, cinemas, concerts, and corporations. But that's not all! No stranger to the world of media, having worn various hats as a radio host and podcast producer and presenter. His podcast series, "Paul... The Other One," boasts a dedicated following of over 10,000 fans across Facebook, TikTok, and YouTube. With a knack for delivering easily digestible insights and engaging long-form content, Paul is equally at ease both behind and in front of the microphone.

You can check more of Paul over on TikTok:

https://www.tiktok.com/@paul_barlownz

or at:

https://paultheotherone.com/

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#32 - Angelique Jurd / Angel the adorable kitten + gay romance

Mon, 18 Sep 2023 23:21:42 GMT

In this episode, Tim sat down with Angelique Jurd, who writes male-male romance fiction which she describes as “people-driven stories, about slightly ‘broken’ boys”. Angel’s first book, Jesse’s Smile, was published in 2018. When she first went through school, Angel got a degree in languages, before travelling around the world, starting a family, working as a business journalist, before going back to school to study English Literature and Media Studies, after which she started writing contemporary gay romance. Angel is also a kitten, and, if anyone wants to see the fantastic cat ears she was wearing during the podcast, you can check out the video version of this conversation on our YouTube channel, Sex in Space.

Find Angel here: https://angeliquejurd.com/

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#31 - Mama Doctor Jones / How to unlearn bad sex ed

Mon, 11 Sep 2023 23:26:05 GMT

In this episode, Toshi spoke with Dr Danielle Jones, who you may know from her social media as Mama Doctor Jones. Dr Jones is a board-certified ObGyn who, in 2021, moved from Texas, in the U.S., to Invercargill, New Zealand. Her mission is to change the world through empowering, entertaining education about women and AFAB (assigned female at birth) health. Dr Jones has a following of over 2.5 million across her various platforms, where she makes edu-tainment about all things periods, pregnancy, gynaecologic health and sex education.

You can check out Mama Doctor Jones here:

https://mamadoctorjones.com/

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#30 - Morgana O'Reilly / Let's talk bodies

Tue, 05 Sep 2023 00:02:34 GMT

In this episode, Jane sat down in the studio with Morgana O’Reilly to talk all things bodies. Morgana is multi-talented: a successful actress, writer, performer, storyteller, and mum of two. She caught our attention at Sex in Space when she recently wrote and performed a solo show, Stories About My Body, which Jane had the pleasure of going to see.

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https://www.facebook.com/ladymorganaoreilly/

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#29 - Nocturness / Avant-garde burlesque, and performance art

Mon, 28 Aug 2023 02:34:54 GMT

In this episode, Toshi talks to Nocturness. A performance artist, special effects model, stripper and a burlesque performer who has spent more than 10 years in the adult entertainment industry. She has a day job as a body piercer, and she also runs Libra Moon Stagewear, sewing clothes for strippers and burlesque performers. Nocturness is also the founder of Nocturne Sanctum, in which she directs and produces avant-garde events, including Concept Stage Spot.

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https://www.instagram.com/_nocturness_

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#28 - Vixen Temple / Sex work activism

Tue, 22 Aug 2023 01:33:11 GMT

In this episode, Toshi was lucky enough to speak with Vixen Temple, who is incredibly multi-talented. Vixen is a sex worker, a Takatāpui performance artist, a writer, a poet, a sex witch, and sex work activist. We’re delighted to have her join us to talk about just a fraction of the work that she’s doing – and given who we are that’ll be focusing on sex.

For more Vixen, check out:
www.instagram.com/vixentemple.666

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#27 - Jo Corrall / This is a vulva

Sun, 13 Aug 2023 23:33:52 GMT

We had the pleasure of talking all about vulvas with the lovely Jo Corrall. Jo is the founder of This is a Vulva, a sex education and vulva acceptance project. Her mission is to teach people what the vulva is (newsflash – it is not a vagina) and celebrate the diversity in genitalia. When people learn about vulva diversity and see photos and images of vulvas that look like their own, they start to accept their own genitals and feel happier! Who doesn’t love that?

You can check more of Jo, the vulva gallery, her book and more at:

www.thisisavuvla.com

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#26 - Laurie Mintz / Satisfying sex lives

Tue, 01 Aug 2023 00:37:48 GMT

In this episode, our very own Dr Jane Cherrington had the pleasure of chatting with Dr Laurie Mintz, a feminist author, therapist, professor, and speaker, whose life work has been committed to helping people live satisfying sex lives. She’s also the author of two incredibly important books when it comes to empowering women sexually – Becoming Cliterate: Why Orgasm Equality Matters and How to Get It, and A Tired Woman’s Guide to Passionate Sex: Reclaim Your Desire and Reignite Your Relationship.

02.00 - Intro

05.03 - Looking for lost libido!

10.40 - Why words about sex matter

16.19 - Why you should read Becoming Cliterate

18.30 - The Orgasm Gap

24.33 - We need porn literacy

26.15 - Why sex education matters

28.12 - The problem with sex positions

31.26 - How to prevent pain with penetration

33.20 - Why do women fake orgasm?

36.15 - Why slut shaming is a problem

37.36 - What does sex mean?

39.07 - Practical communication tips for lovers

40.59 - Why you should be using ‘I-statements’

42.19 - Stop asking questions that are not questions!

43.02 - This book can teach you how to masturbate

45.43 - Dr Laurie’s 12 commandments

47.35 - Conclusion

If you want to hear more from Dr Laurie Mintz, you can find her at drlauriemintz.com

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#25 - Suzanne Werder / Sexual health in practice

Wed, 12 Jul 2023 04:20:05 GMT

Our very own Jane Cherrington had the pleasure of sitting down with Suzanne Werder, a nurse practitioner from the New Zealand Sexual Health Society. With an impressive 29 years of experience in the field of sexual health, working within Aotearoa's unique and diverse society, Suzanne has had a career serving individuals of all ages and backgrounds on things such as sexual disease prevention and education to promoting sexual well-being and wellness. Let’s dive in.

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#24 - GET SOME with Michelle Fischler / All things sex in space

Tue, 04 Jul 2023 01:52:03 GMT

We're excited to share a recording of our team—Jane, Toshi, and Tim—chatting with the incredible Michelle Fischler for her podcast, GETSOME. Michelle is a certified Sex Therapist who fearlessly and insatiably explores human sexuality, inspiring transformative conversations across cultures, belief systems, and lifestyles. We discussed everything from Kangaroo Vaginas to literal sex in space. A huge thanks to Michelle for inviting us and allowing us to share this recording. Let's get started!

Make sure to check out GETSOME with Michelle Fischler on all major podcast platforms. For more information about Michelle, visit michellefischler.ca.

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Don't forget to leave a like, follow, comment, or review wherever you're tuning in from. Your support means the world to us. Until next time, safe travels and see you on the next episode!

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#23 - Michelle Hardenbrook / Owning the OnlyFans side-hustle

Thu, 18 May 2023 01:31:33 GMT

Jane jumped in for an awesome chat on this one with Michelle Hardenbrook. She's a dynamic and thoroughly original online sex worker who is in the top 1% of earners on OnlyFans – oh and she's 71. Hope you enjoy!

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#22 - Jo Robertson / Sex therapist and parent consultant

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 23:58:49 GMT

In this episode, we are honoured to feature Jo Robertson, a trailblazing sex therapist, betrayal trauma specialist, and parent consultant who has dedicated her career to helping individuals and families navigate the complex landscape of sexuality and relationships. With her extensive expertise and experience, Jo serves as the research and training lead for The Light Project, a charitable trust that provides essential support and education to youth, families, and professionals dealing with the challenges of pornography and other sexual issues. To learn more about Jo and her inspiring work, visit her website at https://www.jorobertson.org/ and check out her compelling TEDxTalk at https://www.tedxchristchurch.com/jo-robertson. Don't forget to explore The Light Project's invaluable resources and programs at https://thelightproject.co.nz/.

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#21 - Cindy Gallop / Make love, not porn

Fri, 24 Mar 2023 01:17:46 GMT

On this episode Toshi and Tim talk TikTok, fantasy penis size and throw out some more social and podcast recommends. The main event this time though is a really great interview with the wonderful and powerful Cindy Gallop.

On her website Cindy describes herself as: a brand and business innovator, consultant, coach and keynote speaker – we would add to that list – she is also a fabulously innovative sex activist.

With a background of a high powered and awarded day job in advertising that spanned continents she stepped right out of the comfort zone of the industry and founded the radical online space of Make Love Not Porn – and if you’ve not already heard of it – you’ll know about it after today. Through this sort of work, she is reframing and opening space for healthy conversations about the ever-increasing bombardment of porn and sexual content we are exposed to at all ages, and using those conversations to facilitate better, more open, and healthy sexual relationships.

Cindy also describes herself as an experienced, confident women up for the challenge of re-education, rehabilitation, and reorientation when it comes to sex. Awesome.

Find out more about Cindy at:

https://cindygallop.com/

https://www.instagram.com/cindygallop/

https://twitter.com/cindygallop

https://www.linkedin.com/in/cindygallop/

and be sure to check out MakeLoveNotPorn:

https://www.instagram.com/makelovenotporn/

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#20 - Roald Dahl, snake clits and a new co-host

Thu, 23 Feb 2023 23:52:37 GMT

Tim and awesome co-host Toshi sit down for a live recording and talk all things new at Sex in Space Towers. We cover Roald Dahl, Snake Clits, TikTok comments sections, recommendations for your eyes, ears and brains and lots more.

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#19 - Our Secret Spot / Journey into swinging

Sat, 11 Feb 2023 03:09:11 GMT

In this episode, we talk with Lawrence and Jess, the dynamic duo behind Our Secret Spot, the premier swingers club in Sydney, Australia. These two are on the cutting edge of sexual exploration and pleasure, and we were thrilled to have them on.

Our Secret Spot is more than just a nightclub, it's a portal to a world of fantasy, seduction, and satisfaction. It's a place where your wildest dreams can come to life and where you can explore your deepest desires in a safe and fun environment.

Lawrence and Jess have created a space that is both exciting and welcoming, and their commitment to providing a sexy, fun, and safe environment is what sets Our Secret Spot apart from the rest. So, buckle up and get ready to hear all about their journey, their vision, and what makes Our Secret Spot the go-to destination for swingers in Sydney.

Check them out at:
https://oursecretspot.com.au/

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#18 - We’ve written a book about the clitoris

Sun, 22 Jan 2023 23:33:00 GMT

BONUS EPISODE

Welcome to 2023! An exciting year for the Sex in Space crew. Dr Jane Cherrington and Tim sit down for a chat about the amazing new book "The Organ Education Forgot - A little book about the clitoris" that the team here have been working on.

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https://www.sexinspace.com/book

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#17 - Dr Laurie Betito / A regular ”sexpert”

Tue, 22 Feb 2022 02:10:36 GMT

Welcome! Today Dr Jane Cherrington is back, talking to Dr. Laurie Betito.

Dr. Betito is a Clinical Psychologist with a specialty in Sexual Wellness, and has been a practicing Psychotherapist for over 30 years, and has published several academic papers.

She’s a regular “sexpert” on TV in her native Canada, and she’s hosted her own show called “let’s talk sex” on MenTV. She’s been featured in such magazines as MENZ magazine. MUM magazine, and A2Z Parents. She’s written an amazing book titled “The Sex Bible For People Over 50”. She has 2 fantastic TEDxTalks, and she has her own excellent Podcast called “Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito”. She’s president of The Sexual Health Network of Quebec and the Director of the Pornhub Sexual Wellness Centre.

Check out:
https://www.drlaurie.com/

Follow her on the gram:
https://www.instagram.com/drlauriebetito/

Check out her TEDxTalk from TEDxMontrealWomen:
https://youtu.be/lnigGtrwAfs

Check out her TEDxTalk from TEDxJacksonHole:
https://youtu.be/0_eRNWN6fZc

Her shout-out for this episode is for the Sexual Health Network of Quebec:
http://shnq.ca/

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#16 - Dr Jane Fleishman / Sex and older adults

Thu, 13 Jan 2022 02:31:47 GMT

Welcome to the first episode of 2022. This week it’s our very own Dr Jane Cherrington, talking to Dr Jane Fleishman, who is an angelic trouble maker and sexuality educator, who specialises in sex and older adults, and she is on a mission…

Enjoy.

If you need little more Dr Jane Fleishman in your life, or maybe somebody else’s life, then head on over to:

https://www.janefleishman.com/

...and check out her TEDxTalk:

“Is it ok for Grandma to have sex?”

https://youtu.be/TgXBD48ju18

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Dr Jane Fleishman's shout out is for Woodhull Freedom Foundation.

They envision a world that recognizes sexual freedom as the fundamental human right of all individuals to develop and express their unique sexuality; to be personally autonomous with regard to bodily integrity and expression; and to enjoy sexual dignity, privacy, and consensual sexual expression without societal or governmental interference, coercion or stigmatization.

Hell yeah.

Check them out at:
https://www.woodhullfoundation.org/

and Woodhull Freedom on all your social channels.

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#15 - Girls Get Off / Empowering pleasure

Thu, 18 Nov 2021 20:19:26 GMT

Today we share an awesome interview with Viv and Jo, AKA Girls Get Off, who are on an absolute mission to empower women in all things pleasurable, removing the stigma or taboo that comes with talking about (and making the most of) getting off. They're all about riding that O Train and helping other women to do it too.

Check them out at:

https://girlsgetoff.co.nz/

Follow them at:

https://www.instagram.com/girlsgetoff/

https://www.facebook.com/girlsgetoff

The shout out for today, thanks to Viv and Jo, is for UN Women Aotearoa New Zealand. UN Women is the United Nations Entity for gender equality and the empowerment of women with a mission to ensure that globally, all women and girls have equal opportunities. Women’s empowerment is about ending violence, responding to women’s urgent needs in an emergency, providing training and supporting women’s employment, leadership and economic development.

UN Women Aotearoa New Zealand is one of thirteen National Committees spread out globally, who contribute to the mission of UN Women. Our role in Aotearoa New Zealand is to mobilise women’s empowerment efforts through raising awareness, contributing to projects that deliver better outcomes for women and girls – and their communities and in investing in sustainable projects that support local women to autonomously support the empowerment priorities of their communities.

Check them out at:
https://unwomen.org.nz/

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#14 - Sonya Renee Taylor / Radical self-love

Mon, 08 Nov 2021 21:51:53 GMT

Our Guest this Pod is the gorgeous Sonya Renee Taylor – award winning Performance Poet, long-time activist, educator and transformational leader. Force of nature. Sonya is Founder and Radical Executive Officer of the delightfully named: ‘The Body is Not An Apology’ (TBINAA), a digital media and education company promoting radical self-love and body empowerment as the foundational tool for social justice and global transformation.

Check her out at:

https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/

https://www.instagram.com/sonyareneetaylor/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100052496942731

Sonya's shout out is for the wonderful Tu Tama Wahine o Taranaki. They are a tangata whenua development and liberation organisation, helping to meet the needs of whanau, with services and activities based in education, justice, health, community and social development.

Their services are free, accessible and confidential to all individuals and whanau. Check them out at:

https://www.tutamawahine.org.nz/

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#13 - That‘s Handi / Disability and sexuality

Wed, 20 Oct 2021 23:46:42 GMT

Welcome to season 2!

This episode we are featuring an interview with Heather Morrison and Andrew Gurza. The co-founders of Handi.

Handi are literally making sex toys designed by and for disabled people. Handi was started with the belief that everyone should be able to ‘get off’ so they’re on a mission to put sexual pleasure within (everyone’s) reach. They unpack their fascinating origin story, their research and their fantastic first cab of the rank toy, The Handi Joystick. It’s a great chat and an awesome way to kick off season 2.

Check them out on facebook and the gram:

https://www.instagram.com/thatshandi

https://www.facebook.com/thatshandi

To register interest in the toys and buy the book, ‘The Handi book of love, lust and disability’ head on over to:

https://thatshandi.co

If you want to check out more of Andrew, he has a website AndrewGurza.com

He is AndrewGurza_ on all social channels:

https://www.instagram.com/andrewgurza_/

https://twitter.com/AndrewGurza_

And he also has award winning podcast of his own, called disability after dark. It recently won gold in the Outstanding Adult Series at the Canadian Podcast Awards.

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/episode-242-acknowledging-disability-is-like-opening/id1151890990?i=1000521820212

Their chosen charity shout out is for Cerebral Palsy Society of New Zealand. Find out more at:

https://cerebralpalsy.org.nz/

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#12 - Olivia Hall / Painful sex and reclaiming the word “fat”

Tue, 19 Oct 2021 08:39:17 GMT

This episode we are featuring an interview with the wonderful Olivia Hall.

Olivia has a master’s in gender at the London school of economics where she wrote her thesis on women’s experiences with painful sex and seeking medical support. She has an undergraduate degree in gender and politics from the university of Otago and completed her honours in sociology at Victoria university of Wellington. Her undergraduate thesis looked at fat women’s experiences navigating sex and sexuality in Aotearoa. She’s also a spoken word poet and toured New Zealand performing their feminist show How We Survive.

Check them out on the gram:

https://www.instagram.com/livs_hall

Their chosen charity shout out is for Wellington Rape Crisis. Find out more at:

https://wellingtonrapecrisis.org.nz

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#11 - School of Sexuality Education / Combating sexual illiteracy

Sun, 30 May 2021 23:20:00 GMT

In this episode we share an interview with a formidable double act, the lovely Dolly Padalia and Dr Emma Chan from the the School of Sexuality Education.

Since recording this interview, their organisation has had a name change. They used to be called Sexplain, so you’ll hear that pop up a couple of times during our chat.

Dolly Padalia is deputy CEO & COO of the School of Sexuality Education out of the UK - an organisation that offers inclusive and comprehensive sex education for the 21st century, with workshops on porn, consent, sexting and healthy relationships, in schools, universities, youth groups, and other learning centres. 37,358 young people have taken part in the School of Sexuality Education’s sex and relationship education workshops.

Dr Emma Chan, who is the School of Sexuality Education’s reproductive and sexual health lead, a doctor, a blogger, and activist. Her blog: squishsquashsquelch.com is far more than just “doodles” on love, sex, genitalia and gender. It’s really wonderful, creative and informative... the doodles themselves had us scrolling for days, and we highly recommend the recipe for homemade play dough.

Check them out on the gram:

https://www.instagram.com/school_sexed/

or via their website:

https://schoolofsexed.org/

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#10 - Cole Meyers / Authentic trans representation

Wed, 19 May 2021 02:39:06 GMT

For episode number 10 we are sharing great conversation we had with Cole Meyers. Cole is a writer, activist and educator. They are the writer and co-producer for the recent internationally and critically acclaimed film Rūrangi. He works as a consultant on trans and gender diverse narratives and inclusion in film, television, web series and theatre, including at Shortland Street, where he is currently a dialogue writer and previously a story-liner. He is a regular speaker and interviewee on trans representation, and is passionately focused on supporting the authentic representation, creative opportunities and powerful potential of gender diverse people.

Please check their amazing film at: https://rurangi.com/

or: https://www.facebook.com/rurangiofficial

or: https://www.instagram.com/rurangiofficial/

Cole's charity shout out for this episode is:

https://genderminorities.com/

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#09 - Evie Fehilly / Drag king, clown and sex educator

Mon, 03 May 2021 22:50:04 GMT

This week share a great conversation we had with Evie Fehilly. Sex educator, clown and sex clown. Drag king, queen and all-round queer mega-star, Fehilly creates taboo busting theatre, but also puts sex education at the core of her work – both hosting the sex-clown cabaret in London, and running workshops at feminist sex shop – Sh!

Check them out at:

https://www.instagram.com/eviefehilly

or:

https://www.eviefehilly.com/

Sh!

https://www.sh-womenstore.com/

Evie's charity of choice today is:

https://www.decolonisingcontraception.com/

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#08 - Dame Catherine Healy / Sex work, empowerment and activism

Wed, 21 Apr 2021 21:32:27 GMT

This week we bring you an amazing conversation with Dame Catherine Healy. She spearheaded the decriminalisation of sex work in New Zealand, is national co-ordinator and founding member of the NZPC, Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Workers' Collective, the only sex worker union in New Zealand, and is world-renowned speaker, researcher and advocate for sex workers rights and de-stigmatising our sex workers.

Check out NZPC, Aotearoa New Zealand Sex Workers' Collective

https://www.nzpc.org.nz

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#07 - Ash Holwell / Raising kids without gender

Mon, 12 Apr 2021 03:19:18 GMT

We're back after a little easter break. This week, we bring you the wonderful Ash Holwell!

Born in Whangārei NZ, Ash has trained, studied and worked as an industrial designer, artist, and theatre maker in Wellington, Rotterdam, Vienna, and Auckland. He is known in both Whangarei and Pōneke as a free-thinking entrepreneur, who creates spaces for community connection and radical resource distribution from the ground up. In Whangarei, he started Whare Bike, OneOneSix and in Te Whanganui a Tara he has recently opened Two/Fifty Seven, a collaborative workspace in the CBD encouraging cross-pollination across arts and business to amplify the impact of people working for the social good. He talks to us today as the father of Indigo Taetaeata Fox, who he is raising and supporting to grow into who they are without gender.

Ash has some great recommended reading for you this week, instead of the usual social links.

Check out:

Raising Them - Dr Kyl Myers

https://www.kylmyers.com/book

Raising Zoomer

https://www.raisingzoomer.com

French Children Don't Throw Food - Pamala Druckerman

https://www.amazon.com/French-Children-Dont-Throw-Food/dp/0385617615

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory -Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/More_Than_Two

Sex at Dawn - Dr Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_at_Dawn

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#06 - Chye-Ling Huang / Asian sexuality and open relationships

Tue, 30 Mar 2021 10:39:22 GMT

We sat down with Chye-Ling Huang, who is a Chinese-Pākehā director, writer and actress, and co-founder of Proudly Asian Theatre Company, which is dedicated to showcasing and empowering Asian storytellers in Aotearoa. She is currently lighting up the small screen in New Zealand playing 'Theo' on our national soap - Shortland Street. She dropped in to talk to us about her documentary Asian Men Talk About Sex and her experience of the intersections between sex, sexuality and Asian identity in New Zealand... and some other juicy stuff too.

The content is rich with this one!

Check her out on the gram:

https://www.instagram.com/chyeling.huang/

Watch Asian Men Talk About Sex:

https://youtu.be/v_nLwm-ev0o

Learn more about Proudly Asian Theatre:

http://www.proudlyasiantheatre.com/

Enjoy Life is Easy:

https://www.facebook.com/lifeiseasywebseries/

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#05 - Kassie Hartendorp / Sexuality and indigeneity

Wed, 24 Mar 2021 09:35:38 GMT

This week we're sharing a conversation with Kassie Hartendorp who is an incredible political activist and a passionate advocate for the LGBTQIA and takatāpui communities. She is Director at ActionStation - which is an independent, crowdfunded, community campaigning organisation - and studies Ahunga Tikanga – which are Māori Laws and Philosophy at Te Wānanga o Raukawa. She came to talk to us about indigenous gender, sexuality and the decolonisation of the ways we educate and celebrate LGBTQIA communities.

Check out their amazing work at:

https://actionstation.org.nz/

https://www.facebook.com/ActionStationNZ/

https://www.instagram.com/actionstationnz/

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#04 - Mark Fisher / HIV and making babies

Tue, 16 Mar 2021 10:19:36 GMT

This weeks interview is with Mark Fisher, an international and now local leader in the HIV sector, who now heads Body Positive, an organisation committed to advancing the care and quality of life for people living with HIV in Aotearoa. He has also worked closely with Women Positive and NZ Aids Foundation to set up the world’s first ever HIV positive Sperm Bank in 2019, which he will talk more about with us today, and the ongoing stigma that still surrounds the HIV positive community.

Check out Body Positive Inc:

https://www.bodypositive.org.nz

Sperm Positive:

https://www.spermpositive.com

and Positive Women:

https://positivewomen.co.nz

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#03 - Robyn Salisbury / Finding sex therapy

Mon, 08 Mar 2021 00:04:20 GMT

This weeks interview is with Robyn Salisbury – the founder of Sex Therapy NZ, and our local sex-centric agony aunt in the Sunday Star Times. She has spent thirty years as a clinical psychologist and sex specialist, she is the author of “Staying in Love” an incredible resource for couples navigating long term sexual connections – she advocates for healthy intimacy, pleasure at any age and the vitality of a life in which needs, desires and boundaries can be communicated freely.

Check out Sex Therapy NZ:

https://www.sextherapy.co.nz/

Read Robyn's amazing books:

Staying In Love: The Top Secrets of Great Relationships

https://g.co/kgs/CkjRmB

Free to Be Children: Preventing Child Sexual Abuse in Aotearoa New Zealand

https://g.co/kgs/bdFSm8

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#02 - Sarita Das / Pleasure positive sex

Mon, 01 Mar 2021 07:51:52 GMT

Sarita Das is a non-binary, queer, Bengali-Pakeha powerhouse who is both multi-disciplinary artist and Somatic Sex Educator. Their drag persona is Rotiboi, and they dabble in screen and theatre work – they are the host and co-creator of a queer strip club night in Auckland called BODYHAUS, which has been their life long dream, so we are here to talk to them about all things somatic sexology and otherwise.

Check them out!

Somatic Sarita:

https://www.somaticsarita.com/

https://www.instagram.com/somaticsarita/

https://www.facebook.com/somaticsarita/

BODYHAUS:

https://www.instagram.com/bodyhausnz

Sarita's chosen cause this week is:

https://www.gofundme.com/f/aid-for-hijra-trans-community-in-bangladesh

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#01 - Richie Hardcore / Porn and masculinity

Mon, 22 Feb 2021 21:06:28 GMT

Sex in Space Episode #01 goes live, with Richie Hardcore. Richie is an educator, public speaker, and activist; working in violence prevention, drug and alcohol abuse prevention, sexual consent, mental health, and wellness.

The charity Richie would like to support for this episode is http://www.gracefoundation.co.nz who work with people coming back into the community from incarceration, and help them reintegrate. They also run residential homes. He has worked with them and is a big supporter of their kaupapa.

If you want to see more of Richie, his work, or plug into his digitised thoughts, you can find him at https://www.instagram.com/richiehardcore on the gram and twitter, https://www.facebook.com/richie.hardcore/ on facebook, and he also has a website and blog at: http://www.richiehardcore.com

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Sex in Space / Trailer

Mon, 22 Feb 2021 09:11:18 GMT

Sex in Space is a new weekly podcast where we have open-minded conversations, delving into sex across all its infinite dimensions. Stories and voices from all genders, ages, relationships, life stages, ethnicities, walks of life, professions and ways of being in the universe.

Coming soon to everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found.

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Sex in Space

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Sex in Space / Teaser Trailer

Mon, 22 Feb 2021 07:23:47 GMT

Coming soon to everywhere extraordinary podcasts are found.

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