60 acast.com Friendings https://shows.acast.com/friendings en Sabina Schaare Friendship, breakup, grief, loss, friend, women,healing,self-awareness Sabina Schaare A conversation about friendship break-ups Friendship endings affect us deeply, yet no one really talks about them.

Friendings throws some much-needed light on this subject so that we feel less alone than we already do without that one friend in our lives.

Through this gentle exploration we can learn to be better friends, especially to ourselves as we come to know our own values and motivations, limitations and boundaries better through these vital relationships.

Host, Sabina Schaare, shares stories of the friendings that she’s still grieving and making sense of, and her broader thoughts on the nature of friendship and friendship break-ups.

Additional perspectives and experiences provided by podcast guests who bravely and generously share stories of friendship break-ups they continue to ponder.

Subscribe to catch the latest episodes.

Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Friendship endings affect us deeply, yet no one really talks about them.

Friendings throws some much-needed light on this subject so that we feel less alone than we already do without that one friend in our lives.

Through this gentle exploration we can learn to be better friends, especially to ourselves as we come to know our own values and motivations, limitations and boundaries better through these vital relationships.

Host, Sabina Schaare, shares stories of the friendings that she’s still grieving and making sense of, and her broader thoughts on the nature of friendship and friendship break-ups.

Additional perspectives and experiences provided by podcast guests who bravely and generously share stories of friendship break-ups they continue to ponder.

Subscribe to catch the latest episodes.

Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> false Sabina Schaare info+64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752@mg-eu.acast.com 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 friendings episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752/1693883730773-8bb32227e5b6214bcc6e0ed57d0e560b.jpeg https://shows.acast.com/friendings Friendings Taking responsibility in friendship with special guest, Ruby Johnson Taking responsibility in friendship with special guest, Ruby Johnson Thu, 04 Jul 2024 00:47:54 GMT 49:00 6685efb9f364c640082de586 false https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/the-joy-of-self-discovery-through-friendship-ruptures 6685efb9f364c640082de586 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 the-joy-of-self-discovery-through-friendship-ruptures The joy of self-discovery through friendship ruptures full 2 5 Guest insights: The show welcomes expert breathwork facilitator and trainer, Ruby Johnson. Ruby is the founder of the College of Wholistic Education and creator of the field of Wholistic Psychonomy, a transformational modality that empowers people to take control of their lives and become their own healer. She operates primarily in Adelaide and the Gold Coast, Australia. We speak about taking responsibility for ourselves in friendship and beyond, courageous conversations and how victimhood is not possible when there is trust. Ruby is nothing if not a straight shooter and I so appreciate her honesty. I hope you do, too!

 

References:

To get trained by Ruby, check out the College for Wholistic Education website

Follow Ruby on Instagram and Facebook


Follow the show and get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

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]]> Guest insights: The show welcomes expert breathwork facilitator and trainer, Ruby Johnson. Ruby is the founder of the College of Wholistic Education and creator of the field of Wholistic Psychonomy, a transformational modality that empowers people to take control of their lives and become their own healer. She operates primarily in Adelaide and the Gold Coast, Australia. We speak about taking responsibility for ourselves in friendship and beyond, courageous conversations and how victimhood is not possible when there is trust. Ruby is nothing if not a straight shooter and I so appreciate her honesty. I hope you do, too!

 

References:

To get trained by Ruby, check out the College for Wholistic Education website

Follow Ruby on Instagram and Facebook


Follow the show and get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Motherhood and Friendship Motherhood and Friendship Tue, 04 Jun 2024 02:11:23 GMT 39:24 665e76f283b0a60012b50345 true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/motherhood-and-friendship 665e76f283b0a60012b50345 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 motherhood-and-friendship A story of many friendship losses and learnings full 2 4 Sabina shares: My experience of friendship has changed so much since becoming a mother. Makes sense given my experience of virtually everything, including myself, has as well!


References:

Alanis Morissette on Mom & Mind podcast (YouTube)

Conversation with Alanis Morissette podcast

Donald Winnicott’s Good Enough Parenting concept

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR Institute)

Emotional Freedom Technique – TED Talk by Dr Peta Stapleton

Fleishman is in Trouble by Taffy Brodesser-Akner (Penguin Random House)

Fleishman is in Trouble miniseries official trailer

The Nuclear Family was a Mistake by David Brooks (The Atlantic)

 

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Sabina shares: My experience of friendship has changed so much since becoming a mother. Makes sense given my experience of virtually everything, including myself, has as well!


References:

Alanis Morissette on Mom & Mind podcast (YouTube)

Conversation with Alanis Morissette podcast

Donald Winnicott’s Good Enough Parenting concept

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR Institute)

Emotional Freedom Technique – TED Talk by Dr Peta Stapleton

Fleishman is in Trouble by Taffy Brodesser-Akner (Penguin Random House)

Fleishman is in Trouble miniseries official trailer

The Nuclear Family was a Mistake by David Brooks (The Atlantic)

 

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> <![CDATA[Spirituality of Friendship with special guest, Suzanne Pfitzner - Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Astrologer]]> Mon, 06 May 2024 21:28:02 GMT 1:19:46 66394b64573e5b0013512558 false https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/spirituality-of-friendship 66394b64573e5b0013512558 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 spirituality-of-friendship How friendship offers a path to self-knowing, personal growth and spiritual awakening full 2 3 Guest insights and share: The show welcomes Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Consulting Astrologer, Suzanne Pfitzner. We discuss all manner of things thanks to Suzanne’s breadth of knowledge and experience: the way our astrological charts can influence how we show up in friendship; the spiritual text, A Course in Miracles, and how applying its principles provides a new and ultimately freeing way of looking at our friendships; and also using Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbour Worksheet to see how what we’re thinking and believing is the cause of our suffering. Suzanne also shares her story of a recent friending and how she has been making sense of it since. I so enjoyed this conversation and I hope you do, too.


Contact Suzanne

 

References:

The Work of Byron Katie

No Bad Parts by Richard E Schwartz (I recommend the audiobook)

A Course in Miracles

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

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]]> Guest insights and share: The show welcomes Counsellor, Psychotherapist and Consulting Astrologer, Suzanne Pfitzner. We discuss all manner of things thanks to Suzanne’s breadth of knowledge and experience: the way our astrological charts can influence how we show up in friendship; the spiritual text, A Course in Miracles, and how applying its principles provides a new and ultimately freeing way of looking at our friendships; and also using Byron Katie’s Judge Your Neighbour Worksheet to see how what we’re thinking and believing is the cause of our suffering. Suzanne also shares her story of a recent friending and how she has been making sense of it since. I so enjoyed this conversation and I hope you do, too.


Contact Suzanne

 

References:

The Work of Byron Katie

No Bad Parts by Richard E Schwartz (I recommend the audiobook)

A Course in Miracles

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

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]]> <![CDATA['Norah Jones']]> Sun, 31 Mar 2024 13:30:54 GMT 1:09:27 65fb8d6e2201590017cea399 false https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/norah-jones 65fb8d6e2201590017cea399 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 norah-jones A story of a friendship breakup full 2 2 Guest share: Amy charts the course of her most important friendship, from its early hedonistic days to what could be its end... if she lets it. Themes include the impact of a friend's partner's behaviour on the friendship, changing life stages, the perils of mixing friendship and money, especially without clear boundaries, and how clearly we are able to see our friend and the nature of the friendship itself to then inform how we wish to proceed.


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

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]]> Guest share: Amy charts the course of her most important friendship, from its early hedonistic days to what could be its end... if she lets it. Themes include the impact of a friend's partner's behaviour on the friendship, changing life stages, the perils of mixing friendship and money, especially without clear boundaries, and how clearly we are able to see our friend and the nature of the friendship itself to then inform how we wish to proceed.


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

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]]> Psychology of friendship with special guest, Dr Ahona Guha Psychology of friendship with special guest, Dr Ahona Guha Fri, 01 Mar 2024 01:06:05 GMT 1:10:01 65d830df3b0504001779cc27 false https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/psychology-of-friendship 65d830df3b0504001779cc27 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 psychology-of-friendship How attachment styles, trauma and different coping strategies can show up in friendship and the role friendship can play in our healing full 2 1 The show welcomes clinical and forensic psychologist, Dr Ahona Guha, to provide her unique professional insights into how to navigate factors such as trauma, attachment styles and other unconscious coping strategies that can show up between friends. Don’t miss this one!

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

References:

Life Skills for a Broken World by Dr Ahona Guha (2024)

Reclaim – Understanding complex trauma and those who abuse by Dr Ahona Guha (2023)

Follow Dr Ahona Guha on Instagram

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter 

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]]> The show welcomes clinical and forensic psychologist, Dr Ahona Guha, to provide her unique professional insights into how to navigate factors such as trauma, attachment styles and other unconscious coping strategies that can show up between friends. Don’t miss this one!

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

References:

Life Skills for a Broken World by Dr Ahona Guha (2024)

Reclaim – Understanding complex trauma and those who abuse by Dr Ahona Guha (2023)

Follow Dr Ahona Guha on Instagram

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter 

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]]> <![CDATA['Katharine Hepburn']]> Fri, 29 Dec 2023 06:00:02 GMT 48:02 658e5e3a7782b3001694d5db true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/katharine-hepburn 658e5e3a7782b3001694d5db 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 katharine-hepburn A story of a friendship breakup (The Big One) full 1 10 Sabina shares: Here it goes... I'm finally talking about ‘the big one’, the friendship break-up from 25 years ago that I still grieve and which inspired this show.

This was a childhood friendship affected by a change of schools, and spans our coming of age. Themes include self-acceptance, inability to identify and articulate feelings as they arise leading to a tendency to lash out.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

References:

Platonic by Marisa G. Franco

Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

I Don't by Clementine Ford

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Sabina shares: Here it goes... I'm finally talking about ‘the big one’, the friendship break-up from 25 years ago that I still grieve and which inspired this show.

This was a childhood friendship affected by a change of schools, and spans our coming of age. Themes include self-acceptance, inability to identify and articulate feelings as they arise leading to a tendency to lash out.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

References:

Platonic by Marisa G. Franco

Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

I Don't by Clementine Ford

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> <![CDATA['Pink']]> Fri, 01 Dec 2023 10:11:18 GMT 1:12:51 6569930889a0480012554611 true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/pink 6569930889a0480012554611 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 pink A story of a friendship breakup full 1 9 Guest share: Claire shares her feelings of loss over a friendship that appeared to be fading, and confusion and disappointment at her friend’s avoidance when she tried to talk about her friend pulling away. Themes include passive-aggressive tendencies, expectations and gaslighting.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

References:

Emotional Freedom Technique – TED Talk by Dr Peta Stapleton

The Work of Byron Katie

No Bad Parts by Richard E. Schwartz (I recommend the audiobook so you can listen to sessions)

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Guest share: Claire shares her feelings of loss over a friendship that appeared to be fading, and confusion and disappointment at her friend’s avoidance when she tried to talk about her friend pulling away. Themes include passive-aggressive tendencies, expectations and gaslighting.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show

 

References:

Emotional Freedom Technique – TED Talk by Dr Peta Stapleton

The Work of Byron Katie

No Bad Parts by Richard E. Schwartz (I recommend the audiobook so you can listen to sessions)

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA['Patti Smith']]> Fri, 03 Nov 2023 02:54:22 GMT 54:58 653b2752238f6100126e3cf8 true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/patti-smith 653b2752238f6100126e3cf8 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 patti-smith A story of a friendship breakup full 1 8 Guest share: What happens when your friend develops feelings for the guy you fancy? Get set for a unique story about connection in the time of covid, fledgling friendships and, of course, shared crushes.

Themes include work friendships, online communication, dancing around the issue.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


References:

Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Guest share: What happens when your friend develops feelings for the guy you fancy? Get set for a unique story about connection in the time of covid, fledgling friendships and, of course, shared crushes.

Themes include work friendships, online communication, dancing around the issue.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


References:

Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA['Frida Kahlo']]> Fri, 27 Oct 2023 02:55:19 GMT 33:46 653b269818e0ae0011cbcc3e true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/frida-kahlo 653b269818e0ae0011cbcc3e 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 frida-kahlo A story of friendship loss full 1 7 Guest share: Friendings welcomes another podcast guest whose story charts the ups and downs of a lifelong friendship and its heartbreaking conclusion. Despite the deeply felt loss, there is much joy and laughter in this sharing. Themes include childhood friendship, supporting versus enabling, grief.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Guest share: Friendings welcomes another podcast guest whose story charts the ups and downs of a lifelong friendship and its heartbreaking conclusion. Despite the deeply felt loss, there is much joy and laughter in this sharing. Themes include childhood friendship, supporting versus enabling, grief.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> A Conversation Between Friends A Conversation Between Friends Fri, 20 Oct 2023 09:28:00 GMT 34:40 653241bb32aab90012f7252a true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/a-conversation-between-friends 653241bb32aab90012f7252a 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 a-conversation-between-friends full 1 6 I invited my friend, Kesia, to record a Friendings share but this episode isn’t it. We kept chatting and kept recording and magic happened! We discuss our shared experience of being women of colour in Australia, the Australian referendum on an Indigenous Voice to Parliament and whether or not it’s okay to ghost a friend.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Reference:

Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> I invited my friend, Kesia, to record a Friendings share but this episode isn’t it. We kept chatting and kept recording and magic happened! We discuss our shared experience of being women of colour in Australia, the Australian referendum on an Indigenous Voice to Parliament and whether or not it’s okay to ghost a friend.

Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Reference:

Emergent Strategy by adrienne maree brown

Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA['Chrissie Hynde']]> Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:11:22 GMT 32:49 6515f00848b6c800117b7cbf true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/chrissie-hynde 6515f00848b6c800117b7cbf 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 chrissie-hynde A story of a friendship breakup full 1 5 Sabina shares: I have mixed feelings about this friending, where my ultimate decision to let the friendship go gives me pause to consider exactly what kind of friend I am and what we owe each other once a friendship has run its course. Themes include mum friends, post-natal struggles, divorce, expectations, boundaries.


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Sabina shares: I have mixed feelings about this friending, where my ultimate decision to let the friendship go gives me pause to consider exactly what kind of friend I am and what we owe each other once a friendship has run its course. Themes include mum friends, post-natal struggles, divorce, expectations, boundaries.


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA['Britney']]> Fri, 22 Sep 2023 06:52:56 GMT 24:23 650d39cc9f48e100127c059d true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/britney 650d39cc9f48e100127c059d 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 britney A story of a friendship breakup full 1 4 Guest share: Friendings welcomes its first podcast guest who shares about a breakup with a best friend from her 20’s. There are a host of factors at play in this friending that point to the many challenges friendships seem to be faced with in these modern times. Themes include sexuality and heteronormative expectations, supporting versus enabling, feeling excluded, sustaining a friendship through changing lifestyles.


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Guest share: Friendings welcomes its first podcast guest who shares about a breakup with a best friend from her 20’s. There are a host of factors at play in this friending that point to the many challenges friendships seem to be faced with in these modern times. Themes include sexuality and heteronormative expectations, supporting versus enabling, feeling excluded, sustaining a friendship through changing lifestyles.


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Philosophy of friendship Philosophy of friendship Thu, 14 Sep 2023 22:24:29 GMT 12:55 64fa94d4cc8626001179a333 true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/philosophy-of-friendship 64fa94d4cc8626001179a333 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 philosophy-of-friendship Some discoveries and musings about what friendships can mean to us full 1 3 Sabina shares: Today we look at some philosophical thought relating the sorts of things we tend to base our friendships on and how that may impact how we process friendship loss. Sparked by an episode on ABC’s Philosopher’s Zone podcast that discusses how the philosophers Aristotle and Mary Astell considered friendship. Themes include aspects such as utility, pleasure and self-development that can define our friendships, and recognising chemistry with potential new friends.


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Sabina shares: Today we look at some philosophical thought relating the sorts of things we tend to base our friendships on and how that may impact how we process friendship loss. Sparked by an episode on ABC’s Philosopher’s Zone podcast that discusses how the philosophers Aristotle and Mary Astell considered friendship. Themes include aspects such as utility, pleasure and self-development that can define our friendships, and recognising chemistry with potential new friends.


Get in touch via Instagram @friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA['Madonna']]> Fri, 08 Sep 2023 03:15:08 GMT 33:14 64fa91bcad35b40011bc2e03 true https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/madonna 64fa91bcad35b40011bc2e03 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 madonna A story about a friendship breakup full 1 2 Sabina shares: Welcome to my first 'friending' (friendship ending) share. I tell the story of a friendship – its highs and lows – and how it came to an end. In the almost five years since, I’ve thought a lot about what unfolded between us in the end and, with time, I think I’ve gained a fuller perspective on what was going on for me at the time and also what may have been going on for her. Themes include post natal challenges, feeling out of alignment with a friend, boundaries, holding stuff in until you finally explode.


Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Sabina shares: Welcome to my first 'friending' (friendship ending) share. I tell the story of a friendship – its highs and lows – and how it came to an end. In the almost five years since, I’ve thought a lot about what unfolded between us in the end and, with time, I think I’ve gained a fuller perspective on what was going on for me at the time and also what may have been going on for her. Themes include post natal challenges, feeling out of alignment with a friend, boundaries, holding stuff in until you finally explode.


Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Welcome to Friendings Welcome to Friendings Tue, 05 Sep 2023 04:57:00 GMT 6:07 64f6b51db9eb1b00114e6298 false https://shows.acast.com/friendings/episodes/friendings-trailer 64f6b51db9eb1b00114e6298 64f69a7cdb70ff0011679752 friendings-trailer A brief introduction full 1 1 Hello and welcome to Friendings, a show that makes it okay to talk about friendships that have ended and the loss we often feel as a result. Let's reflect, learn and heal together.


Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

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]]> Hello and welcome to Friendings, a show that makes it okay to talk about friendships that have ended and the loss we often feel as a result. Let's reflect, learn and heal together.


Get in touch via Instagram at friendings.show


Show art by NZ artist John Lancashire a.k.a. monday.painter

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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