The Date with Confidence Podcast

Important Things I Tell Myself After A Disastrous First Date

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 19:07:36 GMT

If you’ve ever left a first date feeling deflated, disappointed, or questioning if you’ll ever meet someone, this is for you.

I dive into the exact things I tell myself after a disastrous first date: the reminders, re-frames, and confidence resets that stop me from spiralling into “I’m unlovable” territory. Dating is full of highs and lows, and one bad date doesn’t define your worth.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share how I shift my mindset, process the frustration, and move forward with confidence (or take a break when I need to). Plus, I give some practical steps to help you reset and get back into a healthy dating headspace.

Whether your last date left you feeling flat, frustrated, or ready to delete the apps altogether, this episode will help you bounce back stronger.

Tune in now to hear:

1. How I feel after a bad first date

2. What actually counts as a “bad” first date

3. Don't take a bad first date personally (you're not unlovable)

4. How to stop a bad date from making you spiral

5. Can this bad date teach me anything?

6. A bad date is just a bad date

7. Practical confidence resets after a disappointing date

8. Why it’s okay to take a break from dating

9. Happy Hour: I know I said I wouldn't try this but...

10. My dating update: Am I finally back on the apps?!

11. Your dating dilemma: “I went on a bad first date and now he’s asked me for a second - I feel guilty saying no, what should I do?”

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Mentioned:

Important Things I Tell Myself Before A First Date

The ‘Near-Perfect’ Date That Became An Hilarious Nightmare

He Asked Me To Send Photos And Lied About His Age

This Is The Energy You Need To Take With You On A First Date

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This Is The Energy You Need To Take With You On A First Date

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 06:30:00 GMT

EPISODE 72: This Is The Energy You Need To Take With You On A First Date

Be honest—have you ever planned your wedding with someone you haven’t even met yet?

And then felt totally let down when they rocked up in a tracksuit and picked their nose through dinner?

(Yeah… I’ve been there too.)

After a 4-year dating break, I made a huge mistake: I over-romanticised first dates before they even happened. I’d build a whole fantasy based on a few messages, imagining instant chemistry and fairy-tale moments… only to feel disappointed when reality didn’t match the story in my head.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share why this mindset is unfair to both you and your date, and how shifting your energy, expectations, and self-talk can make first dates more fun, pressure-free, and genuinely enjoyable.

I also answer a listener’s dating dilemma on how to look and feel confident for a first date (even when you’re not feeling it inside). From go-to outfits to pre-date mindset hacks, you’ll walk away with simple, practical tips you can use straight away.

Tune in now to hear:

1. The biggest dating mistake I made after a 4-year break

2. Why over-romanticising first dates sets you up for disappointment

3. How to bring “open energy” instead of pressure to your dates

4. Simple mindset shifts to leave past bad dates behind

5. Dating dilemma: “I’m a single mum who’s just started dating, how can I look and feel confident even when I don’t feel it inside?”

6. The “first date outfit” test that works every time

7. Quick pre-date hacks: playlists, self-talk, and confidence boosts

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You Need To Hold Yourself To High Standards Too (It's Not Just About Him)

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 06:30:00 GMT

EPISODE 71: You Need To Hold Yourself To High Standards Too (It's Not Just About Him)

Be honest, are you holding yourself to the same dating standards you expect from others?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share a big shift I’ve made in my dating mindset—one that’s honestly changed everything. We always talk about what we want from someone else: effort, communication, chemistry, connection. But are you showing up in the same way you want them to? I’m diving deep into the dating standards you hold for yourself.

Because you can't control how someone else shows up, but you can choose the energy, effort, and self-respect you bring to the table.

Plus: I share examples of the standards I hold myself to, habits I’ve worked on, and why holding yourself to high standards makes it so much easier to walk away from people who aren’t a match.

I also share some Happy Hour excitement (spoiler: it involves a spicy margarita) and talk about the difference between compromise and self-abandonment in dating.

If you’ve ever ghosted yourself, ignored your boundaries, or let chemistry override red flags—this one’s for you.

Tune in now to hear:

1. What dating standards for yourself actually look like

2. How to tell when you’re not holding your own standards

3. Why "the vibe" might be clouding your judgment

4. Journal prompts to set realistic, self-respecting dating rules

5. Why holding standards for you makes it easier to walk away

6. Why I end things quickly when there’s no connection

7. How I show up physically, emotionally, and energetically for dating

8. The unattractiveness of self-abandonment disguised as “being nice”

9. Dating dilemma: “How do I hold standards without giving in to fear of missing out?”

Mentioned:

The Truth: You’re Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not Him

How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New

Your Dating Profile: How To Write One, When To Update It, What Not To Include

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You Fall For Potential, Not Proven Consistency: ChatGPT's Brutal Dating Advice

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 06:30:00 GMT

EPISODE 70: You Fall For Potential, Not Proven Consistency: ChatGPT's Brutal Dating Advice

Ever wondered what ChatGPT really thinks about your love life?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I asked ChatGPT to be brutally honest with me about my romantic blind spots… and she did not hold back. Using a juicy prompt inspired by Gala Darling, I got an AI-powered reality check on what might still be holding me back from the fairytale romance I know I deserve – and whew, it was a mix of eye-opening, confronting, and actually kind of empowering.

From over-functioning to falling for potential, I reflect on each truth, share how they show up in my real dating life, and explore what I’m doing to shift those patterns. I also spill the beans on what I’m updating in my dating profile, why I’ve taken a mini break from the apps, and whether or not I’d ever date a man’s brother. Yep, we go there.

Tune in for all the goss on:

1. The 4 dating blind spots holding me back (and probably you too)

2. Why I still fall for potential, not consistency

3. How my independence can actually block emotional intimacy

4. What “letting a man earn your vulnerability” actually means

5. The “cool girl” trap and second-guessing my own standards

6. Romanticising mystery and mistaking it for real connection

7. Happy Hour: Hinge cringe, my dating life update and a summer mocktail

8. Why I’m rethinking my dating profile prompts (again)

9. Should you ever date your ex’s brother?

The ChatGPT prompt from Gala Darling’s email: “Based on what I've told you about my dating life, tell me what my blind spots are in romance. If I want XYZ, what could I do differently to get that result? Be brutally honest!”

And I edited it to say:

“Based on what I've told you about my dating life (and what you've learned from The Date with Confidence Podcast transcripts), tell me what my blind spots are in romance. If I want the man that meets my standards and a fairytale romance, what could I do differently to get that result? Be brutally honest!”

Mentioned:

Gala Darling

How to Use ChatGPT to NEVER Settle in a Relationship

Using ChatGPT to write my future story

ChatGPT made my 5 year plan

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Releasing The Energy Of Past Lovers Isn't Fun, But You Need To Do It If You Want To Move On

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 18:42:49 GMT

EPISODE 69: Releasing The Energy Of Past Lovers Isn't Fun, But You Need To Do It If You Want To Move On

Ever felt like you’ve moved on from a past relationship… but something still lingers?

Maybe it’s the memory of an ex, the grip of a rebound that’s not quite right, or the way your body tenses when someone new gets too close.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m being honest about what it actually takes to clear the emotional baggage of past relationships so you can finally feel free and I open up about my own healing journey - working with my energy healer, facing uncomfortable truths, and using tools like EFT, breathwork, and unsent letters to truly let go.

If you’ve ever wondered why someone lives rent-free in your head—or why intimacy feels off even when it “should” feel right, this episode is for you.

Here’s what we cover:

1. Signs you’re still holding onto your ex’s energy

2. How past relationships affect your present dating reactions

3. Why letting go frees you from toxic loops and comparison

4. 6 powerful methods for releasing old relationship energy

5. Working with a professional energy healer for trauma and energy clearing

6. Breathwork’s powerful role in emotional release

7. Understanding toxic relationship dynamics and their energetic impact

8. You’re either gonna get it, or think I’m bat shit crazy…

9. Listener dating dilemma: mixed signals and limited time

10. Setting your standards and knowing when to walk away

Mentioned:

Marie Houlden: Mindset Coach & Energy Healer

The Breath Channel* (affiliate link)

How to Break Up with Someone in the Kindest Way

How to Quit Dating Someone You’re Just Not Into

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Your Dating Profile: How To Write One, When To Update It, What Not To Include (Rewrite Mine With Me)

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 06:30:00 GMT

EPISODE 68: Your Dating Profile: How To Write One, When To Update It, What Not To Include (Rewrite Mine With Me)

FYI: If you’re listening to this anywhere that isn’t YouTube, you may wanna skip between 19.45-24.30 as I’m updating my dating profile and if you can’t see it, it’s not that interesting…

In this juicy, slightly chaotic (but super helpful, I think) episode of The Date with Confidence podcast, I walk you through exactly how to write — or rewrite — your dating profile with confidence and clarity. We're talking prompts to avoid, what to actually include, and how to get into the best headspace before you even open the app.

I even screen-record myself updating my Hinge profile so you can see it in action (gulp). Vulnerable? Yes. Empowering? Also yes. If your profile needs a glow-up or you're just getting back into dating, this is for you.

During Happy Hour we also get into the Hinge Cringe of the week, Swipe Right Spotlight (am i even gonna keep this segment?!) and a Dating Dilemma that had me shouting: WASH YOUR FUCKING HANDS, PLEASE.

Tune in now to hear:

1. Why mindset is key before updating your profile

2. The two lists you have to have before writing your profile (and dating in general)

3. Prompts that give manipulators a script to use against you

4. When to update your profile (and what not to include)

5. Why passive-aggressive profiles won’t be getting you a decent date anytime soon

6. Changes I’m making to my own dating profile (watch as I tweak on YouTube)

7. A Dating Dilemma that reminded me of dating a guy I’d rather forget existed

Mentioned:

Attract on the Apps

Women on Dating Apps: Do NOT Use These Prompts

The Reason I Stopped Looking at Their Social Media

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How to Quit Dating Someone You're Just Not Into

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 06:30:00 GMT

EPISODE 67: How to Quit Dating Someone You’re Just Not Into

He didn’t make the bed so I ended it (but there’s more to this story….).

What started as a promising connection took a turn on date seven, when the effort (or lack of it) just didn’t match up. It took around 3 seconds for me to be fully checked out and this time I ended things immediately. That’s growth for ya…

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how to stop dating someone when you know it’s just not it, even if they’re “nice.” I talk about the guilt that can creep in when someone seems great on paper, the fear of letting a good one go, and why it’s actually kinder to end it sooner rather than later.

Plus, I’m introducing a fresh new format to the podcast (exciting!) — with updates from my own dating life, your dilemmas, and juicy mindset shifts to help you date with confidence.

The vibe of this episode:

1. Why it's okay to walk away from someone even if nothing’s “wrong”

2. The shame we feel when we ignore our gut and stay too long

3. How to end things kindly without overexplaining or apologising

4. Why texting is totally acceptable in early dating breakups

5. The exact message I sent when I realised he wasn’t the one

6. The realisations that came flooding within minutes of me getting the ick

7. What I’m doing next as I start dating again

If you’ve ever wondered whether you're being “too picky” or you’ve struggled to end things without overexplaining, this is the pep talk you need.

Mentioned:

Blindsided By Red Flags After Healing? How to Remove the Shame

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

We Know My Opinion On Shorts…

Manifest The One

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Don't Let Their Negative Dating Experiences Impact You (There Are Still Good Men Out There)

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 07:00:00 GMT

EPISODE 66: Don't Let Their Negative Dating Experiences Impact You (There Are Still Good Men Out There)

If you’ve ever thought:

“I used to feel hopeful about dating, but now all I hear is horror stories.”

“Everyone around me says men are trash, and part of me is starting to believe it.”

“There’s no such thing as a fairytale anymore, online dating is just full of ghosters, love bombers and men who only want sex”

…this is for you.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m calling out the negative dating narratives that aren’t yours to buy into. If you’ve ever found yourself absorbing horror stories from friends, group chats, or reels and wondering if love is even worth it anymore, this episode is your pep talk to believe in better.

I dive into how our mindset, beliefs, and standards shape our dating experiences—and how you don’t have to settle just because others did. I also share a personal dating story that reminded me firsthand that good men do exist, and explain why holding your standards is a powerful act of self-respect, not pickiness.

Here's the general vibe of the episode:

1. Letting Go of Fear-Based Dating Narratives: Why other people’s bad experiences don’t define your future

2. Reclaiming Hope in Dating: Shifting back into trust and belief that love is possible

3. The Power of Standards: Why you don’t need to lower the bar to find connection

4. Dating From an Empowered Place: Honouring your intuition and knowing when to walk away, even from someone who’s “good”

5. Loving Your Single Life: Why being single doesn’t mean you're behind—and how it actually supports high-standard dating

Mentioned:

Manifest The One

Confident AF: The Membership

Blindsided By Red Flags After Healing? How to Remove the Shame

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Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The Shame

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 14:21:58 GMT

EPISODE 65: Blindsided By Red Flags In Your 30s? Here's How To Remove The Shame

If you’ve ever thought, “How did I miss that?” “I should’ve known better” “I can’t believe I didn’t recognise that sooner” or “After everything I’ve worked on… how the fuck did I fall for this?” this is the episode for you.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m diving into something I don’t think we talk about enough: the shame that creeps in when you get blindsided by red flags, even after your healing era. You’ve done the work. You’ve been to therapy. You’ve raised your standards. So how tf did you still fall for someone who wasn’t good for you?

I’ve been there, and I know how disheartening it feels when you realise you ignored signs you swore you’d never overlook again. Listen now for your permission slip to forgive yourself, stop spiralling, and shift back into your confident, take-no-shit energy.

Here’s a sneak peek into what we discuss:

1. The shame spiral after ignoring red flags, even post-healing

2. Why subtle red flags are often the most damaging

3. How to stop blaming yourself and rewrite your narrative

4. The simple 4-step “Switch Your Story” process to release shame

5. Why they don’t deserve access to you (including your social media)

6. How to affirm your way back into an empowered mindset

7. Revisiting your standards, even if you’re not looking for “The One”

Mentioned:

Confident AF: The Membership

The Confidence Course

Am I Actually Delusional?! The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook Group

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How To Know When You're Ready To Date Again

Mon, 19 May 2025 04:00:00 GMT

EPISODE 64: How To Know When You're Ready To Date Again

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I open up about the grief, healing, and realisations that shaped my decision to return to dating after a tough year.

After losing two grandparents within weeks of each other and navigating the fallout of a painful dating experience, I took a long, conscious break. Now, I'm back—dating with intention, clarity, and a renewed sense of what I truly want.

If you’re wondering whether it’s time to get back out there, I’m sharing the signs, mindset shifts, and standards that helped me know I was ready.

Here’s what we discuss:

1. Dating After Grief: How loss and healing shifted my priorities and energy around dating

2. Conscious Dating vs. Dating From Habit: The difference between dating with intention and dating out of boredom or distraction

3. Signs You’re Ready to Date Again: What to look for emotionally and mentally before putting yourself out there

4. Dating With Standards: Why I no longer believe in giving people “chances” or ignoring red flags

5. Using Dating App Discernment: The new approach I take to swiping and filtering matches

6. Burned Haystack Dating Method: How learning about rhetorical patterns helped me decode dating profiles more effectively

7. Navigating Anxious vs. Avoidant Patterns: Recognising old wounds and shifting into secure dating energy.

Improving your dating life with The Standard Is You

The Standard Is You is a 12-week coaching programme to help you stop feeling behind, raise your standards, and become the love of your life in your 30s. This group programme is for the 30-something who’s done with settling — in dating, in career, in friendships, in everything.

If you're done with dating Chads who ask for photos before you've met, ghost you after a week, put in zero effort to actually get to know you and think that inviting you to dinner at their place is an appropriate first date, this is for you.

Mentioned:

How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New

Burned Haystack Dating Method Facebook Group

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How to Use ChatGPT to NEVER Settle in a Relationship

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 16:47:42 GMT

EPISODE 63: How to Use ChatGPT to NEVER Settle in a Relationship

The reason so many people (women especially) settle in average relationships with average men - and by average I mean not the type of person they actually want to be dating - is because they’re not crystal clear on their relationship vision.

But I’ve got just the solution for you…..a solution that means you’ll NEVER settle in a relationship with someone you’re not compatible with (or who doesn’t treat you how you deserve) again.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I explore how to use ChatGPT to improve your dating life by asking a question that’ll turn your standards list into a full blown dream relationship vision.

From building an intentional wishlist of standards to staying open-minded yet discerning in dating, I discuss how having a future story can inspire hope and prevent you settling for less than you deserve. I also share my personalised future story (cringe moments and all!) and the value of visualising everyday moments in a relationship that feel authentic and fulfilling.

Here’s what we cover:

1. Using AI for Personal Growth: How tools like ChatGPT can help craft a detailed vision for your dream life and relationship

2. Defining Relationship Standards: The importance of creating and regularly revisiting a list of non-negotiables in a partner

3. The Power of Visualisation: How visualising small, meaningful moments can make your dream relationship feel more tangible

4. Balancing Clarity and Openness: Avoiding rigid expectations while ensuring you don’t settle for less than you deserve

5. Dating with Intention: Leveraging your relationship vision to assess dating profiles and make aligned choices

6. Everyday Intimacy Matters: Why the little moments, like dancing in the kitchen or stargazing, are essential in building a lasting connection

7. Self-Worth in Dating: Staying true to yourself and your vision while navigating modern dating challenges

The prompt I used in ChatGPT:

“Can you intertwine a fairytale, healthy, "Nobody Wants This" style relationship with a tall, handsome, intelligent and caring man please? Please be specific about the type of man I'll be with based on this wish list: [and then I added my standards in a list of bullet points] ”

Mentioned:

Subscribe to my Your Confident 30s YouTube channel here

How to Manifest “The One”: Do This Before Dating

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Dating Advice: Stop Giving People Chances When Your Intuition's Off

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 18:22:33 GMT

EPISODE 62: Dating Advice: Stop Giving People Chances When Your Intuition's Off

Our monthly community episode is here!

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I answer the following questions:

Is it just me who finds it sexual when someone touches inside my belly button?
Would you be the one to initiate the conversation of going from dating to exclusive?
How would you ask someone out without literally saying 'do you want to go out with me'?
I’ve been seeing someone and my intuition is telling me something is off. I don’t know if I’m just being anxious and overthinking things. Should I give him a chance?

From deciphering whether anxiety is clouding judgement to trusting your gut feelings, I share my personal philosophy and experiences to help you date with confidence. If you’ve ever questioned whether to “give someone a chance,” this episode is a must-listen!

***BLACK FRIDAY BUNDLES: Available until 1st December***

How to Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New

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Redefining Love And Relationship Standards

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 12:58:46 GMT

EPISODE 61: Redefining Love And Relationship Standards

I’ve been reflecting on the kind of love I want to call into my life in a different way recently, a way that I’ve never considered before now. It’s causing me to reevaluate my relationship standards and helping me to go even deeper with what I desire from a relationship in the future.

Here’s a brief overview:

1. Evolving Relationship Standards: Shifting my focus from chemistry to enduring qualities like loyalty and support

2. Unconditional Care in Relationships:*Inspired by my grandparents, examining the beauty of caregiving within love

3. Desire for a Resilient Partnership: Seeking a partner who is committed through both joyous and challenging moments

4. Reflecting on Singlehood and Self-Knowledge: Embracing singlehood to gain clarity on relationship desires

5. Intentional Love: Moving from attraction-driven dating to a more values-centred approach

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The Truth: You're Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not With Him

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 08:25:56 GMT

EPISODE 60: The Truth: You're Actually Obsessed With Yourself, Not With Him

In this episode, I reflect on a transformative realisation about dating: sometimes, our obsession with a partner isn’t about them at all—it’s about how incredible *we* are.

After watching a TikTok that highlighted this, I began to look differently at my dating experiences. I now notice that the excitement and fulfilment I feel often comes from my own energy and personality, not necessarily the person I’m dating. I explore how this perspective can empower us to enjoy dating more fully and choose partners who truly match our worth.

Here's an overview of what we discussed:

1. Self-Worth in Dating: Understanding how our excitement often stems from our own confidence, not the other person

2. Avoiding Obsessive Attachment: Recognising when attachment is based on personal feelings, not the partner’s qualities

3. Reflecting on Personal Value: Learning to appreciate how much we contribute to enjoyable dates and moments

4. Empowered Dating Choices: Using self-awareness to avoid settling for partners who don’t truly align with our needs

Join me in this episode for a fresh look at dating through the lens of self-worth, and feel free to share if this resonates with your own experiences!

Mentioned:

The TikTok video that inspired this episode

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

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How To Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 08:00:45 GMT

EPISODE 59: How To Overcome Anxious Attachment When Dating Someone New

Is your anxious attachment style affecting your dating experience?

Are your relationships often overshadowed by feelings of insecurity or fear of abandonment?

Do you find yourself overthinking every text or interaction, constantly worried that your partner may pull away?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I explore how to manage anxious attachment and build lasting confidence in relationships. I share my own experiences with anxiety, offering tools and strategies for recognising triggers, communicating needs and reframing your mindset.

From handling insecurities to asking for reassurance, this episode offers actionable steps for anyone struggling with relationship anxiety. Through mindset shifts, practical exercises and emotional regulation, I guide you toward self-confidence and deeper connections, both with your partner and yourself.

Here's a peek at what we discussed:

1. Understanding Anxious Attachment: Recognising the difference between intuitive red flags and past trauma resurfacing

2. Healing Through Self-Work: How personal growth can reduce anxiety in new relationships

3. Practical Steps to Manage Anxiety: A three-step process to shift away from obsessive thoughts and ground yourself

4. The Role of Self-Worth: How building confidence and addressing feelings of "not enough" can improve relationship dynamics

5. Lessons from Past Relationships: Sharing personal stories to offer relatable, real-world insights into overcoming anxious attachment

6. Understanding Personal Triggers: Identifying what situations or behaviours heighten anxiety in relationships

7. Healthy Communication: How to express feelings and needs in a grounded, clear manner with tips on expressing needs for reassurance without overwhelming your partner.

8. Building Confidence: Tools and techniques to increase self-assurance and reduce anxious attachment

9. Managing Anxiety Early in Relationships: Balancing communication and independence when dating someone new

10. Self-Regulation in Relationships: Strategies to manage emotions and avoid impulsive behaviours driven by anxiety

11. Creating Healthy Relationship Dynamics: Learning how to balance independence and togetherness

This episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast has been a long time coming but I certainly hope it was worth the wait.

Mentioned:

How to Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn’t Messaged

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Resources

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Dating Advice: Should He Delete Photos Of His Ex?

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 07:00:11 GMT

EPISODE 58: Dating Advice: Should He Delete Photos Of His Ex?

It’s our monthly community episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast!

We kick things off with a hilarious dating story about an awkward, accidental belly-button encounter that broke the ice when a new girlfriend met her partner’s sister for the first time, followed by the loveliest feedback from a regular listener.

You'll also hear my advice on how to manage insecurities when it comes to a partner’s past relationships and how to keep things easy breezy when you start dating someone new.

Questions I answer:

What do you think about partners having photos of exes on their social media or phone - should they delete them out of respect for their current partner?
How do you stop yourself from future faking and keep things “easy breezy”?

Mentioned:

Mindset Shifts You Need to Make Around Dating

Am I Actually Delusional? The Rollercoaster of Modern Dating

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Resources

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The Reason I Stopped Looking At Their Social Media

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 08:51:07 GMT

EPISODE 57: The Reason I Stopped Looking At Their Social Media

I was swiping away on Hinge the other day when I was reminded of the thing that gives me the ick instantly....

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Watch Out: 7 Easy To Ignore Red Flags I'm No Longer Available For

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 07:00:44 GMT

EPISODE 56: Watch Out: 7 Easy To Ignore Red Flags I'm No Longer Available For

Have you ever been on a date with someone and something’s just felt….off?

You can’t put your finger on it because it’s not an “in your face” red flag, but your intuition is telling you something isn’t quite right.

As you reflect on the date(s), you realise there were subtle red flags that’d be easy to miss had you not been working so hard on yourself…..

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I dive deep into the seven easy-to-ignore red flags I’m no longer tolerating in relationships. These red flags are subtle but crucial to recognise if we want to raise our relationship standards and avoid settling for the wrong person.

I share my personal experiences over the last year, reflecting on how I’ve become more attuned to these signs now that I'm in my 30s.

From how someone speaks about their ex to the effort they put into a relationship, this episode will help you identify red flags you might be overlooking and encourage you to trust your instincts when dating.

Here’s a brief overview of what we discuss:

1. Spotting subtle bitterness and resentment towards past partners

2. The significance of how someone talks about strangers or makes spiteful, unnecessary judgements

3. Recognising when someone's words don’t match their actions (even if it’s a “little” thing)

4. Understanding the importance of mutual effort in the early stages of dating

5. How a partner’s response to your boundaries reveals their true character and why you should walk away when they don’t respect you

6. The importance of honesty about lifestyle choices early on and knowing your deal breakers before you start dating

7. Why their reaction to your feelings matters and what it says about respect in the relationship

This episode offers practical insight for anyone striving to date more consciously and confidently.

Mentioned:

He Asked Me to Send Photos

Dating Advice: Is This Really a Red Flag?

The Confidence Course

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Resources

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How To Be Happy In Your Skin When Divorced In Your 30s

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 07:00:08 GMT

EPISODE 55: How To Be Happy In Your Skin When Divorced In Your 30s

Back in the summer, I received a message on Instagram asking me “What would you suggest the best thing to do for someone who wants to find happiness in their own skin and not feel they need a girl's attention to feel confident and wanted?”.

This message came from someone who was going through a divorce and realised they had some work to do on themselves before they were ready to continue dating.

I had a lot to say in response to this so instead of typing out an essay, I recorded this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast. Tune in as I dive into the importance of self-validation, shifting perceptions of failure, and romanticising daily life to build inner happiness. The episode explores practical steps to rediscover joy, self-confidence and personal growth while navigating life post-divorce.

Here’s a peek at what we cover:

1. Acknowledging Attachment Issues: The importance of self-awareness in addressing attachment styles and emotional needs.

2. Shifting Perceptions of Failure: Redefining divorce and moving back home as part of life's journey, not a failure.

3. Romanticising Daily Life: Creating small moments of joy and practising gratitude to build daily happiness.

4. Building Self-Validation: Steps to shift from relying on external validation to becoming your own biggest cheerleader.

5. Self-Care and Confidence: How regular self-care activities contribute to mental and physical well-being.

6. Taking Action for Confidence: Challenging yourself by stepping out of your comfort zone to build self-assurance.

The episode offers a blend of empathy and practical tips to help you navigate post-divorce life and rediscover confidence in yourself.

Mentioned:

How to Be Confident in Yourself When Dating

The Confidence Course

Get Involved!

Resources

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Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.

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Single For 5 Years & Celebrating ONE YEAR Of The Podcast!

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 07:00:05 GMT

EPISODE 54: Single For 5 Years & Celebrating ONE YEAR Of The Podcast!

HAPPY ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!!

In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey through relationships, breakups and self-discovery. From overcoming codependency to setting healthy boundaries, I share some of the most transformative lessons I’ve learned while navigating love and loss over the past 5 years.

I open up about how fear of abandonment affected my past, the importance of respecting myself and why love alone isn’t always enough to sustain a relationship.

This episode is for anyone who’s ready to take ownership of their emotional well-being and create healthier relationship dynamics in their life.

Here’s a peek at what we discuss:

1. Codependency and Self-Worth: Recognising how my happiness depended on someone else and reclaiming my self-worth

2. Fear of Speaking Up: How fear of abandonment silenced me and the power I found in voicing my truth

3. Setting Boundaries: Learning to stick to my boundaries without fear of being left, and walking away when my boundaries aren’t respected

4. Why Love Isn't Always Enough: Understanding that love alone doesn’t guarantee a healthy relationship

5. Embracing Self-Respect: Prioritising my own well-being and learning to respect myself in love

6. Moving on with Peace: Letting go of resentment and looking back at my relationship with gratitude and acceptance

7. Trusting in My Own Timeline: Finding peace in my own journey and trusting that everything will unfold in the right time

Tune in to hear my raw reflections on love, healing, and creating a future rooted in self-love.

CELEBRATE ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!

From now until 1st October, save 50% on any of the resources here when you enter code DWCCELEBRATE

Mentioned:

I Know What I Deserve Now

The Nose Picker Date Story

Weird Comments I’ve Received on Hinge

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

Get Involved!

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow your host Rebecca Hawkes on Instagram and TikTok.

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Dating Advice: He Hasn't Said “I Love You” Yet

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 07:00:00 GMT

EPISODE 53: Dating Advice: He Hasn't Said “I Love You” Yet

We’re back baby!!

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I take a deep dive into my recent experiences with dating and how they've made me reflect on my own values, self-awareness and boundaries. After ending a ‘relationship’ with someone whose views didn't align with mine, I took some time off from dating to process everything. I talk about the subtle red flags I’ve learned to recognise and how my 30-something self is more attuned to what I truly want in a partner.

I also share some recent dating stories, including a date that went well but ended without any follow-up. While I acknowledge that I have high standards, I'm unapologetic about them—I want someone who's certain about me. I reflect on a missed connection where someone was uncomfortable with my work, but I see that as a sign they may not have been the right fit.

After a not-so-quick catch up, I also answer your questions about dating anxiety, discussing how to let go of insecurities and focus on self-worth in relationships.

Questions I answer:

How do I let go of being hyper anxious before it ruins what could be an amazing relationship?
I’ve been dating someone for 3 months and have already deleted my dating apps but he still has his on his phone - how do I talk to him about it?
We’ve been dating for 9/10 months now but he hasn’t said “I love you” - surely he should know by now?

Our community episodes happen on the second week of every month. Want to get involved? You can contribute your stories to The Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

CELEBRATE ONE YEAR OF THE DATE WITH CONFIDENCE PODCAST!

From now until 1st October, save 50% on any of the resources here when you enter code DWCCELEBRATE

Mentioned:

Interview on The Remote Life Podcast: iTunes / Spotify / YouTube

Am I Delusional?!

Resources

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We Need to Talk

Mon, 06 May 2024 16:07:54 GMT

EPISODE 52: We Need to Talk

There's some things we need to catch up about....

Resources Mentioned:

Manifest The One

The 9 Red Flags You Need to Stop Ignoring Immediately

Heal Your Heart: Powerful Journalling for Breakup Grief

The reel I was talking about

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Resources

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If I Wanted to Fall in Love, This is What I'd Do

Mon, 22 Apr 2024 16:53:55 GMT

EPISODE 51: If I Wanted to Fall in Love, This is What I'd Do

This video was shared on my YouTube channel in February and I thought it'd be something you'd benefit from listening to too so here ya go....

After 4 years of being single, I'm ready to fall in love again. In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I talk about my commitment to intentional dating with the goal of finding a meaningful relationship and I reveal the key steps I'm taking, the challenges I'm facing and the transformative lessons I'm learning on the path to love.

Here's a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Falling in Love with Yourself: The foundational step in any relationship journey is cultivating self-love. Learn why loving and accepting yourself is crucial before seeking love from others.

2. Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: Uncover the importance of putting yourself out there, even when it feels uncomfortable or daunting. Gain insights into building confidence and navigating the world of dating apps.

3. Building Trust in the Process: Explore the significance of trusting that your dream relationship is not only possible but also on its way. Discover practical tips for shifting your mindset and creating a positive, magnetic energy.

4. Setting Standards and Boundaries: Understand the power of writing a wish list and defining your standards and expectations. Learn how these lists act as guiding principles, helping you avoid settling for less than you deserve.

5. Manifestation Practices: Delve into two powerful manifestation practices and understand how these practices align your energy with your desired relationship, making you more open to love.

Join me in this honest and empowering discussion about self-discovery, growth and the pursuit of a love that aligns with your highest self. If you're on a similar journey or seeking guidance in your relationship pursuits, this is for you!

Episodes Mentioned:

How to Manifest 'The One'

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here's How to Believe In It

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Resources

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An Alternative Perspective On The 5 Love Languages

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 07:00:30 GMT

EPISODE 50: An Alternative Perspective On The 5 Love Languages

“Love Languages are a load of rubbish!” was his response when I asked him to take the 5 Love Languages quiz, which led to an in depth discussion and a new, alternative perspective on Gary Chapman’s Love Languages.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I dive deep into the concept of Love Languages, reflecting on personal experiences and their impact on relationships. Exploring my own journey with the Love Languages, I highlight how recognising and communicating our preferred languages can deepen connections with the people we’re dating. I also offer the alternative perspective that was given to me recently and how this point of view has made me think of the Love Languages differently.

Do I now agree it’s a load of bollocks? You’ll have to listen to find out….

Here’s what we cover:

1. Introduction to Love Languages: Exploring the five love languages and their significance in relationships

2. Personal Reflection: Reflecting on personal experiences and insights into Love Languages

3. Prioritising Love Languages: Understanding the importance of prioritising top Love Languages for yourself and a partner

4. Balanced Approach: Advocating for a balanced approach to incorporating all five Love Languages in relationships

5. Debate and Alternative Perspective: Considering differing viewpoints on the rigid application of Love Languages and proposing an alternative perspective

6. Application to Self-Love: Discussing how Love Languages can be applied to self-care and self-appreciation

7. Open Communication: Emphasising the role of open communication and mutual understanding in relationships

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Resources

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MAFS S11: Lessons You Need To Improve Your New Relationship

Mon, 15 Apr 2024 07:00:46 GMT

EPISODE 49: MAFS S11: Lessons You Need To Improve Your New Relationship

Who knew that your Married At First Sight Australia addiction could improve your new relationship?

Whether you’re actively dating and looking for ‘The One’ or you’ve just started seeing someone new (it’s ok, you don’t have to call it a relationship yet), I’m sharing the important lessons we can learn from the remaining couples in Season 11 of Married At First Sight Australia so you can avoid the mistakes they’ve made.

First, here are the remaining couples in MAFS Season 11 that I’ll be talking about in this episode:

1. Timothy & Lucinda

2. Tim & Sara

3. Tristan & Cassandra

4. Richard & Andrea

5. Ridge & Jade

6. Jonathan & Lauren

7. Jack & Tori

8. Jayden & Eden

Alongside the relationship lessons we can learn, I’ll also be sharing my honest opinion on each of the couples including the groom that fills me with unmeasurable levels of rage and how one of my favourite couples has the biggest lesson for us all, even if you’ve been in your relationship for a long time.

Once you’ve listened to the episode, come over to Instagram to share your thoughts with me or fill out the contribute form here and I’ll share your feedback in the next community episode.

Confidence Boosting Resources:

(Dis) Comfort Zone Come Down

This Simple Concept Will Help you Date with Confidence

How to Create Daily Confidence That Actually Lasts

The 3 Layers of Confidence You Need to Master

The Confidence Kit

The Confidence Course

Want help communicating with confidence? Check out Level Up In Love or Loved Up

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Resources

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Dating Advice: He Asked Me To Make A Video With Him, What Should I Do?

Thu, 11 Apr 2024 07:04:44 GMT

EPISODE 48: Dating Advice: He Asked Me To Make A Video With Him, What Should I Do?

It’s that time of the month again….Community Episode!

This episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast is all about YOU. We’ve got dating stories, bad responses to your dating profile prompts and some particularly juicy questions including:

1. A guy I’m dating asked if he could film us having sex, am I overreacting?

2. I don’t get many matches on dating apps and it’s making me feel rejected, what can I do?

3. It’s been 5 days and he hasn’t asked me out on a second date, is he still interested?

4. All my friends are married so I have no one to talk to about dating, how can I stop feeling so lonely?

5. The guy I’m seeing told me he’s had sex with a man and I don’t know how to feel about it, should I end things with him?

Our community episodes happen on the second Thursday of every month. Want to get involved? You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Share your best or worst dating stories, your biggest icks, dating tips you think everyone should know or ask me anything about my dating life or a burning question you need an answer for.

Sign up for the FREE one day coaching event to get instant feedback, support and helpful tips from me to improve your dating life: Count me IN!

Episodes mentioned:

How to Be Confident When Dating

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

How to Be More Attractive to Men

The Guaranteed Way to Be Single Forever

Confidently write a successful dating profile with Attract on the Apps

Resources

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How to Be More Attractive to Men

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 07:08:22 GMT

EPISODE 47: How To Be More Attractive To Men

Want to become more magnetic to the man of your dreams?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we’re talking about how to be more attractive to men including the pep talk every woman needs, actionable steps to feel more attractive in your own skin and common things that can instantly put men off.

Episodes Mentioned:

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

How to Be Confident When Dating

How to Feel Confident Having Sex with Someone New

The Nightmare First Date

Resources Mentioned:

Build Body Confidence

The Confidence Course

Don’t miss the Secret Announcement….

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

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Dating Apps: I'm Immediately Swiping Left If I See This

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 07:00:12 GMT

EPISODE 46: Dating Apps: I'm Immediately Swiping Left If I See This

We’ve got a fun one today, friend!

Join me in this lighthearted episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast as I dive into the world of dating profiles, sharing my instant "swipe left" criteria. From nicknames to topless photos, I explore what repels me and why. Drawing from my personal experiences and observations, I shed light on common pitfalls in online dating profiles, offering humorous yet insightful commentary along the way.

Here’s a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Instant No-Gos: Exploring various aspects of dating profiles that immediately turn me off, from nicknames to topless photos.

2. Bio Etiquette: Discussing the importance of detailed bios and the frustration of encountering vague or empty profiles.

3. Values Alignment: Highlighting the significance of aligning values and lifestyle preferences, such as prioritising health and avoiding excessive drinking.

4. Authenticity vs. Image Crafting: Reflecting on the authenticity of profile content versus the portrayal of an idealised image.

5. Environmental Awareness: Examining attitudes toward wildlife and nature conservation, with a focus on ethical considerations in profile photos.

6. Personal Preferences: Sharing individual preferences and deal-breakers, such as grooming habits and social media integration.

7. Humorous Profile Excerpts: Offering amusing examples of quirky or unusual profile statements encountered during my online dating journey.

Join me for an entertaining exploration of the dos and don'ts of online dating profiles, with a touch of humour and self-reflection. Whether you're a seasoned online dater or a curious observer, this episode offers insights and laughs alike.

Don’t miss the Secret Announcement….

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You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Introducing.....Loved Up

A confidence-boosting membership dedicated to helping you let go of insecurity, build more self trust and improve all areas of your love life.

This membership is designed to support you in all areas of your romantic life, whether you’re single and ready to mingle, healing yourself from heartbreak, not-so-happily coupled up or head over heels in love and looking to make things EVEN better.

Resources

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Dating Someone New? Expect This To Happen

Mon, 01 Apr 2024 07:00:05 GMT

EPISODE 45: Dating Someone New? Expect This To Happen

I did not expect this to happen when I started dating someone new….

And I’m not going to lie, some of the things that’ve been coming up since I started dating the new guy in January have come as a bit of a shock.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we’re exploring the unexpected memories that’ve been bubbling to the surface since I’ve been dating someone new, the complexities of healing from past heartbreak, and I’m highlighting the importance of self-compassion and acceptance as you navigate feelings of guilt and sadness while embracing the joys of present experiences.

Here’s a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Surprising Challenges in New Relationships: I’m reflecting on unexpected triggers and memories that’ve been resurfacing as the connection with the new guy begins to grow.

2. Healing from Past Heartbreak: I’m acknowledging the lingering effects of past relationships and the process of releasing emotional baggage.

3. Navigating Feelings of Guilt and Sadness: We’re discussing strategies for coping with guilt and sadness associated with reminiscing about past relationships.

4. Managing Doubts and Insecurities: We’re exploring techniques for distinguishing past patterns from present experiences and choosing to trust in new relationships.

5. Embracing Present Joys: I’m highlighting the significance of savouring moments of joy and connection in new relationships while honouring past experiences.

6. Practising Self-Compassion: I’m encouraging you to be gentle with yourself and embrace self-compassion while navigating the complexities of dating and relationships.

7. Choosing to Focus on the Present: I’m offering guidance on redirecting your attention from past memories to present experiences and creating a positive outlook on new relationships.

This episode provides valuable insights into navigating the emotional landscape of new relationships, emphasising the importance of self-awareness, self-compassion, and embracing the journey of healing and growth.

Get Involved!

Introducing…..Level Up In Love & Loved Up!

Level Up In Love

A 3 month close-proximity coaching container dedicated to helping you date with confidence, build better boundaries, raise your relationship standards and finally manifest the dream relationship you've always deserved.

Loved Up

A confidence-boosting membership dedicated to helping you let go of insecurity, build more self trust and improve all areas of your love life.

Visit the website here. Follow on Instagram.

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You Need This To Survive Dating In Your 30s

Thu, 28 Mar 2024 08:00:20 GMT

EPISODE 44: You Need This To Survive Dating In Your 30s

Dating can be brutal, can't it?

There are moments in dating where you're just like “what the fuck am I doing?”

There are moments where we question ourselves, we question our choices and we question whether it's even worth it.

To survive the shitshow that dating can be, there’s one thing you need.

And in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’ll be revealing exactly what that is.

Here’s what we cover:

1. The Importance of a Solid Support System: Highlighting the necessity of having friends who provide encouragement, feedback and empathy in the dating journey

2. Diverse Perspectives: Emphasising the value of friends who offer varied viewpoints and challenge your assumptions to promote personal growth

3. Balancing Compassion and Tough Love: Exploring the roles of compassionate listeners and assertive friends who offer both soothing reassurance and blunt honesty.

4. Avoiding Echo Chambers: Discussing the dangers of surrounding yourself with individuals who only offer validation without constructive criticism

5. Creating a Judgment-Free Space: Advocating for supportive communities where you can freely express vulnerabilities without fear of judgement or ridicule

6. Celebrating Successes and Failures: Highlighting the importance of a community who celebrate achievements and provide solace during setbacks, fostering resilience and optimism in the dating journey

Introducing…..Level Up In Love & Loved Up!

Level Up In Love

Think: a private group chat with your besties where you can talk about dating dilemmas, how to confidently communicate your wants, needs and desires, get support after a shitty dating experience and celebrate all the positive moments in your dating and relationship journey.

Loved Up

A confidence-boosting membership dedicated to helping you let go of insecurity, build more self trust and improve all areas of your love life (without weekly calls or another FB group to keep track of...).

Get Involved!

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Subscribe to our YouTube channel.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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How to Stop Dating Losers: You Deserve More

Mon, 25 Mar 2024 08:00:47 GMT

EPISODE 43: How to Stop Dating Losers: You Deserve More

It’s time to stop dating losers. It's time to stop dating dickheads. It’s time to stop dating people who are not worth your time, energy and effort.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I tackle the issue of settling for less in relationships. I share why I’m refusing to accept the bare minimum in relationship and how to raise your relationship standards.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Refusing to Settle: Addressing the tendency to settle for less than you deserve in relationships and the importance of raising your standards

2. Building Self-Worth: Strategies for increasing self-esteem, confidence and belief in your deservingness of a healthy, fulfilling relationship

3. Recognising Toxic Patterns: Identifying and breaking free from toxic relationship patterns and behaviours, including self-abandonment and acceptance of mistreatment

4. Surrounding Yourself with Positive Examples: Seeking out and learning from examples of loving, healthy relationships to inspire and guide personal standards

5. Anchoring into a Greater Purpose: Finding external reasons beyond yourself to commit to raising relationship standards, such as setting an example for future generations or children

6. Practical Strategies for Transformation: Providing actionable steps for cultivating self-respect, setting boundaries and manifesting the relationship you desire

Introducing…..Loved Up!

Join the membership here

Episodes Mentioned:

How to Be Confident in Yourself When You’re Dating

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

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The Guaranteed Way to Be Single Forever

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 08:00:50 GMT

EPISODE 42: The Guaranteed Way To Be Single Forever

I’ve noticed a trend in Facebook groups for women who are actively dating.

This trend is super common and ridiculously easy to get sucked into.

It’s also a pattern that’s guaranteed to keep you single forever.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m revealing the unhealthy dating mindset that you need to let go of and what you need to do instead to give yourself the opportunity of manifesting the dream relationship you’ve always deserved.

Here’s what we cover:

1. The Pitfall of Generalizing: How negative perceptions of men based on past experiences are impacting your ability to meet the man of your dreams

2. Impact on Dating Dynamics: How defensive attitudes and mistrust influence interactions with potential partners and starts things off on the wrong foot immediately

3. Self-Sabotage and Emotional Barriers: Recognising patterns of behaviour that perpetuate loneliness or dissatisfaction in relationships

4. Embracing Vulnerability: Overcoming fear and insecurities to authentically engage with new romantic prospects and how this can open you up to love with a green flag guy

5. Moving Forward with Empowerment: A simple strategy for releasing past resentments and cultivating a more positive outlook on love and dating

6. Taking Control of Your Dating Journey: Empowering you to break free from negative cycles and create fulfilling relationships based on trust and mutual respect

By addressing these underlying issues and reframing perspectives on dating, you’re encouraged to embark on a journey of self-discovery and openness to new romantic possibilities.

Introducing…..Loved Up!

Join the membership here

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Important Changes I Made To How I Date Now I'm In My 30s

Mon, 18 Mar 2024 17:45:42 GMT

EPISODE 41: Important Changes I Made To How I Date Now I'm In My 30s

Are you ready to leave the mistakes you made in your twenties behind and date with confidence in your thirties?

Do you need guidance on what those mistakes *could* have been?

Would you like to make changes to the way you’re dating so you can manifest your dream relationship?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I delve into the significant changes I've experienced in dating as I transitioned from my twenties to my thirties.

1. Shifting How We Meet: Dating in my twenties often began with an in person physical attraction, while in my thirties, all but one of my first dates has come from dating apps.

2. Challenging the Lust-Led Approach: Previously led by physical chemistry, discover why I now focus more on emotional and intellectual connection.

3. Revised Priorities in Partner Attributes: I no longer seek the handsome, rich, drives-a-flash-car boy I used to and instead have found something that turns me on more than the amount of money he has in the bank or the brand of clothes he wears…

4. Embracing Sobriety in Dating: Moving away from using alcohol as a crutch for confidence, I've embraced sober dating which has lead to building more genuine connections.

5. Transformed Mindset and Behaviour: Transitioning from insecurity and game-playing in my twenties to self-acceptance and authenticity in my thirties, learn how I've cultivated healthier approaches to dating.

6. Positive Self-Talk and Affirmations: From self-doubt to self-assurance, I've shifted my internal dialogue to affirmations of self-love and worthiness which has been a game changer for my dating life.

7. Overcoming Anxiety and Fear of Abandonment: While anxiety and fear of loss once dominated my dating experience, I've learned to manage these emotions (though there’s still times I struggle because, hello, I’m a human being).

The Dating Debrief

I’m running a brand new FREE masterclass called The Dating Debrief where I’ll be revealing how I went from anxious, codependent and unable to speak up in relationships to confidently dating, able to set solid boundaries, and having the time of my (love) life.

Episodes mentioned:

Am I Delusional?!

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

Dating Advice: How Can I Stop Comparing Myself?

How to Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn’t Messaged

Dating Diaries: A New Year, A New Season

My First Date of 2024: Everything You Need to Know

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

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Dating Advice: How Can I Stop Comparing Myself?

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 08:00:04 GMT

EPISODE 40: Dating Advice: How Can I Stop Comparing Myself?

It’s our second (official) community episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast!

This episode is dedicated to you, your questions, your icks and your dating stories. This month, you asked:

I’m dating a really lovely guy and I’m scared it’s all going to go wrong - how do I prevent self sabotage and cope with this fear?
My ex wanting to sleep with other people knocked my confidence: how do I stop comparing myself to other women and feel confident in myself again?
How can I deal with feelings of jealousy about my ex and new women he may be with?

PLUS: I received an awesome message about our last community episode (When’s the best time to discuss a fetish with someone you’re dating?). If you’ve got a fetish or kink that you’re worried people will judge you for, you need to listen to this…

To be included in next month’s community episode, contribute here.

The Dating Debrief

Episodes mentioned:

Dating Advice: When's The Best Time to Discuss a Fetish With Someone You're Dating?

How to Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn’t Messaged You

How to Feel Confident Having Sex With Someone New

How to Manifest ‘The One’: Do This Before Dating

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

Other resources mentioned:

Watch the video on the (Dis)Comfort Zone Come Down

What Does Self Love Mean And How To Love Yourself More

Build Body Confidence

The Confidence Kit

Level Up In Love: A 3 month close-proximity coaching container dedicated to helping you date with confidence, build better boundaries, raise your relationship standards and finally manifest the dream relationship you've always deserved. Early Bird Discount Expires 17th March 2024: Level Up In Love

Visit The Date with Confidence website here. Follow on Instagram.

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How To Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn't Messaged

Mon, 11 Mar 2024 17:39:16 GMT

EPISODE 39: How To Quit Obsessing Over Why He Hasn't Messaged

Have you ever been frozen in an anxious spiral, obsessing over why your latest match on Bumble hasn’t replied to your message yet?

Or you’ve been on an amazing second, third, fourth date with someone but now they’re not as texty as they were?

This is the episode for you.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I tackle the common dating struggle of obsessing over unanswered messages and offer practical solutions to break free from this cycle.

Dating-induced anxiety is a real challenge, especially for those new to stable relationships. I share personal experiences and insights into managing anxiety in the dating world, highlighting the importance of building self-confidence.

Here’s what we cover:

1. The Cycle of Dating Anxiety: Exploring the anxious thoughts and fears that arise while waiting for a message from someone you're dating.

2. The Root Cause: Addressing the root cause of dating anxiety – a lack of self-confidence and self-esteem.

3. Continuous Self-Improvement: Emphasising the ongoing process of building self-confidence and self-esteem as a solution to long-term anxiety.

4. Realistic Expectations: Encouraging realistic reasoning for delayed responses, avoiding irrational assumptions about the other person's intentions.

5. The 90/90 Mindset Concept: Introducing the concept of striving for 90% confidence 90% of the time, allowing for occasional moments of anxiety.

6. Mindset Exercises: Sharing practical mindset exercises like positive affirmations and reframing thoughts to alleviate anxiety.

7. Practical Actions: Offering actionable steps to distract yourself from obsessive thoughts, including mood-boosting playlists and processing with friends.

8. Energetic Exercises: Exploring energetic exercises like breathwork, EFT tapping and box breathing to manage physical symptoms of anxiety.

By listening to this episode, you'll gain valuable insights into managing dating anxiety, understanding its root causes, and incorporating practical exercises to navigate these challenging moments.

The Dating Debrief: How I went from anxious, codependent and unable to speak up in relationships to confidently dating, able to set solid boundaries, and having the time of my (love) life. Get your FREE ticket: https://rebeccalucyh.co/debrief

Level Up In Love: A 3 month close-proximity coaching container dedicated to helping you date with confidence, build better boundaries, raise your relationship standards and finally manifest the dream relationship you've always deserved. Early Bird Discount Expires 17th March 2024: Level Up In Love

Box breathing method: https://www.rebeccalucyh.com/blogposts/box-breathing-technique-to-reduce-anxiety-and-relax

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

Visit The Date with Confidence website here.

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Dating Advice: Is This Really a Red Flag?

Thu, 07 Mar 2024 08:00:48 GMT

EPISODE 38: Dating Advice: Is This Really A Red Flag?

Let’s talk about red flags in dating.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m answering a number of questions about whether something is a red flag and you should run a mile or if you’re simply being oversensitive and you need to work on your self esteem.

(Spoiler alert: you’re not being sensitive).

Here are the questions I answer - is it a red flag if a man:

1. Refers to women in a derogatory way?

2. Unmatches you on a dating app immediately after getting your number?

3. Updates his dating profile after organising a fourth date with you?

4. Is on multiple dating apps?

5. Has been in multiple relationships but has never been in love?

6. Doesn’t have social media?

7. Mainly follows women on Instagram?

8. Takes a while for messages to be delivered on Whatsapp?

9. Speaks about his ex in a nasty way/is rude about his ex?

10. Lies about the number of people he’s slept with?

11. Stops replying at 7pm and tells me he’s fallen asleep?

12. Has slept with a lot of women (close to 100)?

13. Asks if I’m out on the pull when we’ve been seeing each other for a couple of months?

The quicker you raise your relationship standards and stick to the boundaries you set for yourself, the quicker you’ll meet the green flag guy you’ve always deserved

And to show you exactly how to do that, I’m running a brand new FREE masterclass called The Dating Debrief where I’ll be revealing how I went from anxious, codependent and unable to speak up in relationships to confidently dating, able to set solid boundaries, and having the time of my (love) life.

Get The Confidence Course for FREE when you join Level Up In Love

Early Bird Discount Expires 17th March 2024: Level Up In Love

Episodes mentioned:

Am I Delusional?

I Know What I Deserve Now

He Lied About His Age

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here. Visit The Date with Confidence website here.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram.

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How To Be Confident In Yourself When You're Dating

Mon, 04 Mar 2024 10:37:18 GMT

EPISODE 37: How To Be Confident In Yourself When You're Dating

You deserve your dream relationship. And in order to get that, you need to put yourself out there.

But putting yourself out there can feel pretty terrifying, can’t it?

In this episode of The Date With Confidence Podcast, I'm sharing how to be confident in yourself when you’re dating so you can get that dream relationship you deserve.

1. The Importance of Confidence: Confidence is a game-changer in dating and life. It enables you to be your authentic self, connect more deeply, and communicate effectively.

2. Building Confidence: Overcoming fears associated with dating requires asking a powerful question: What scares you more, putting yourself out there or reaching 90 years old without the loving relationship you dream of?

3. Reasons Confidence Matters in Dating: We take an in depth look at the many reasons working on your confidence should be a priority if you’re in your dating era.

5. Three Layers of Confidence: We look at reframing your thoughts about dating, taking practical steps like using confidence anchors, embracing the discomfort of leaving your comfort zone and cultivating a lasting confidence that permeates all aspects of your life, enhancing your dating experiences.

Remember, the more confident you become, the closer you are to manifesting your dream relationship. If you want to explore these concepts further, check out the recommended episodes and The Confidence Course. Here's to dating with confidence and finding the love you deserve!

Get The Confidence Course for FREE when you join Level Up In Love

Early Bird Discount Expires 17th March 2024: Level Up In Love

Resources mentioned:

Your Dream Relationship Exists

Am I Delusional?

How to Handle Rejection

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

Mindset Shifts You Need to Make

Important Things I Tell Myself

How to Act & Feel Confident Before a First Date

The (Dis)Comfort Zone Come Down

Contribute to the podcast here.

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Psychological Tricks To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 08:00:25 GMT

EPISODE 36: Psychological Tricks To Make A Man Fall In Love With You

A few weeks ago, I was having a little scroll on TikTok and a video popped up in my feed: Psychological Tricks to Make a Man Fall In Love With You.

I’ve got a few thoughts and feelings about this so in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I thought I’d share with you my own tips and tricks to make a man fall in love with you.

These are the greatest tools you’ll ever learn and will not only help you find love with someone else, but will also help you fall head over heels in love with yourself…

Here’s what we covered:

1. What I Really Think: I’m openly sharing my thoughts on using psychological tricks to make someone fall in love with you and emphasising the desire for genuine connections built on authenticity.

2. Desiring Love for Who You Are: I reveal how I want someone to fall in love with me and the foundations I want our romantic relationship to be built upon.

3. Building Self-Confidence: I uncover simple yet powerful techniques to help you transform your inner narrative so you never feel like you need to reach for external tricks to be attractive to someone.

4. Acting Confident: We discuss utilising tools like grooming and dressing well to enhance self-confidence as well as surrounding yourself with confident individuals, limiting exposure to negativity.

5. Feeling Confident: We’re looking at the link between body confidence and the perceived need of psychological tricks plus how to improve your body confidence with one simple tool.

Don’t forget to check out Level Up In Love: A 3 month close-proximity coaching container dedicated to helping you date with confidence, build better boundaries, raise your relationship standards and finally manifest the dream relationship you've always deserved.

Early Bird Discount Expires 17th March 2024: Level Up In Love

Resources mentioned:

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

The Confidence Kit

The Confidence Course

Build Body Confidence

Get Involved!

Visit The Date with Confidence website here.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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How to Level Up In Love

Mon, 26 Feb 2024 08:00:24 GMT

EPISODE 35: How to Level Up In Love

Are you ready to level up in love?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I delve into the crucial aspects of levelling up in love, drawing from personal experiences and insights.

We cover a LOT in this ep, here’s a tiny overview:

1. Mindset Tips for Levelling Up: We’re starting this episode by exploring in depth 3 powerful mindset tools you can use to help you improve your dating life whether you’re just getting started or you’ve been seeing someone for a while.

2. Learning to Be Less Reactive: We’re highlighting the significance of managing your reactions in new relationships. Instead of impulsively expressing emotions, I’m sharing exactly what I do to allow me to communicate from a calmer, more objective standpoint.

3. Remove the Mask: We couldn’t ignore the importance of authenticity when it comes to dating! I talk about why it’s ok if your opinion is different to someone else’s and how I felt confident using my voice again.

4. Striking the Balance Around Vulnerability: Finding a balance between openness and oversharing is crucial. I’m sharing my experience of being excessively vulnerable early on in relationships, leading to vulnerability hangovers and potential misunderstandings.

5. Understanding Triggers: I’m opening up about how I navigate moments where past traumas influence my reactions to seemingly simple situations.

6. Observation vs Criticism: Using this simple phrase has helped me to not only communicate things better with the person I’m dating but it’s also allowed me to reassure myself in moments where, historically, I’d have felt rejected.

7. Stop Ignoring Intuition: We’re acknowledging the importance of intuition during dating and I’m sharing practical tips for how to build a deeper connection with yourself. I share personal experiences of ignoring my intuition and the subsequent lessons I learned.

8. Anxiety vs Butterflies: We’re distinguishing between anxiety and the excitement of butterflies. My suggestion is to get curious about these feelings, practising self-soothing techniques and resetting the nervous system for better emotional well-being.

We end the episode stressing the value of self-validation and I invite you to explore Level Up In Love, a brand new three-month program aimed at helping you date with confidence, set better boundaries and manifest a healthy relationship.

Find out more here: Level Up In Love

Episodes mentioned:

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

How to Deal with Rejection When You’re Dating

Am I Delusional?

Watch the video on the (Dis)Comfort Zone Come Down

You can contribute your stories to the Date with Confidence Podcast here.

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Date Three Would've Happened If He Hadn't Said This

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 08:00:04 GMT

EPISODE 34: Date Three Would've Happened If He Hadn't Said This

Ready for some pre-date stalking and a potentially awkward kiss?

It’s another cringe-filled dating story!

In this episode of The Date With Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing all the gossip about the first two dates I went on with Tech Guy and why I chose not to see him again (despite agreeing to the third date initially).

Here’s what we cover:

1. Online Stalking Revelation: Working in tech means he’s a stalking pro apparently. There’s a fine line between honesty and over-sharing, what side of the line do you think this was?

2. Positive First Impressions: I talk about the positive aspects of the first date, from finding him attractive to the cosy little venue he’d booked and engaging conversation.

3. Deal-Breaker Dilemma: We had an uncomfortable discussion about relationship deal-breakers on the way to the tube which left me questioning myself and my standards.

4. Quizzie Rascals: Date number two saw us teaming up in a pub quiz. But there were a few moments where I felt myself shrinking due to his behaviour. Not what you want from a potential partner.

5. Train Station Awkwardness: Discover the moment that made me cringe harder than I ever have and ultimately led me to cancelling the third date we’d planned.

Whilst this episode contains a funny story about my dating life, it also shares the importance of holding onto personal standards and boundaries in the dating world….

Episodes mentioned:

My First Date of 2024: Everything You Need to Know

You’re Allowed to Change Your Mind at ANY Point

How to Cancel a Date with the ‘Nice One’

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Resources

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Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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How to Feel Confident Having Sex with Someone New

Mon, 19 Feb 2024 08:00:16 GMT

EPISODE 33: How To Feel Confident Having Sex With Someone New

After my last break up, I chose not to have sex for over four years.

During that time, feelings of embarrassment and shame for going so long without came up and I was also faced with many new fears: what if no one found me attractive ever again?

What if no one wanted to have sex with me?

What if someone new didn’t like my body?

What if I’ve forgotten how to have sex and perform badly for someone new?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I share the practical strategies I used to help me increase my sexual confidence again so that when the time came for me to jump into bed with someone new, not only would I feel ready for it, but I’d feel my most sexually empowered, most sexually confident self.

If you’re feeling nervous about having sex with someone new, this episode’s for you.

Here’s a peek at what we cover:

1. Facing Post-Breakup Insecurities: I discuss the challenges and self-doubt that can arise after a significant relationship ends, leading to a hiatus from sexual encounters

2. The Importance of Sexual Confidence: I emphasise the significance of feeling confident in your own skin and explore the impact of self-assurance on the overall experience of sex

3. Three Layers of Confidence: Introducing The 90/90 Mindset Concept, I break down the three layers of confidence you need to master, focusing on how these layers apply to sexual confidence

4. Positive Self-Talk: I share my simple strategy for shifting negative thoughts to positive beliefs, encouraging excitement and anticipation for future sexual experiences

5. Acting Confident: We look at practical tips including investing in attractive underwear, using perfume, and maintaining good self care habits to feel sexy and confident, even when not in a relationship

6. Conjuring Up Confidence: I reveal the enjoyable exercise you can use to conjure up feelings of confidence in your body within minutes so that when the time comes for sex with someone new, your body’s used to these feelings

7. Self-Fulfilment: As an advocate for fulfilling your own sexual needs, we talk about building an intimate connection with yourself to enhance confidence and enjoyment during partnered experiences

8. Building Trust: While discussing trust in the context of sexual encounters, I’m encouraging you to trust your instincts and communicate openly with your partner(s)

Throughout the episode, I touch on the importance of detachment, honesty and self-awareness when re-entering the dating and sexual scene, offering a relatable and empowering perspective on embracing your sexuality.

Check out The Confidence Course for more practical tools to increase your self confidence - sexual and otherwise.

Episodes mentioned:

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

I Know What I Deserve Now

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Dating Advice: When's The Best Time to Discuss a Fetish With Someone You're Dating?

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 08:00:22 GMT

EPISODE 32: Dating Advice: When's The Best Time to Discuss a Fetish With Someone You're Dating?

When’s the right time to discuss your kinks with someone you’re dating?

Did she know who I was when she messaged me?

And what should I do if my ex friend’s ex boyfriend swipes right on me?

This episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast is dedicated to you, your questions and your dating stories. I’m sharing my advice and also discussing why having a unique fetish is nothing to be ashamed of.

Here’s a glimpse at what we cover:

1. Community Episode Kickoff: Every second Thursday of the month is now dedicated to YOU. Your questions and stories are at the heart of these community episodes, making it an engaging space for everyone.

2. Navigating Fetishes in Dating: A listener bravely shares concerns about having a particularly niche fetish and seeks advice on when and how to discuss it with potential partners. I emphasise the importance of confidence and open communication when dating and share two different approaches to broaching the topic.

3. Confusing Dating Scenario: We unpack a question left on The Date with Confidence Podcast YouTube channel and try to solve the mystery of what the listener should do next.

4. Dating App Dilemma: Would you match with an ex friend’s ex boyfriend? I’m sharing how I reacted in this situation and what I’d recommend doing if you find yourself in the same one.

5. Hilarious Dating Escape: A lighthearted dating story is shared, recounting the amusing experience of running away from a date who expected a kiss. We all know how much I relate to this one!

Thank you to everyone who contributed to this episode and remember, your dating experiences and questions are valued here. If you want to be part of the next community episode, visit https://datewithconfidencepodcast.com/contribute.

Until next time, happy dating!

Episodes mentioned:

The Near Perfect Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

Get Involved!

Resources

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How To Have Fun On Valentine's Day When You're Single

Mon, 12 Feb 2024 08:00:56 GMT

EPISODE 31: How To Have Fun On Valentine's Day When You're Single

If you’re sick of being single or trying to manifest ‘The One’ as fast as you possibly can, Valentine’s Day can bring up some negative feelings.

Whether you’re embracing your single era or you’re actively hunting for your dream relationship, join me in this episode of The Date With Confidence Podcast where we're tackling a timely topic—how to enjoy Valentine's Day when you're flying solo.

While the day may trigger feelings for some, I’m here to shift the narrative and make it a celebration of self-love and empowerment.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Navigating Valentine's Day Solo: Acknowledge that Valentine's Day might stir emotions, especially if you're actively manifesting your ideal relationship.

2. Digital Detox: Discover the simple step to take control of your emotional well-being. Remove potential triggers in advance and keep your mindset in a positive, empowered state.

3. Plan a Fun Activity: Break the pattern of feeling left out and create a positive experience for yourself by planning a date night with yourself, your friends or your family.

4. Cosy Night In: If socialising isn't your vibe, organise a cosy night in for one with a special meal, candles, and self-pampering. Embrace being your best date.

5. Act As If: Incorporate this potent manifestation practice to take your manifesting powers to a whole new level so that one day you can experience your perfect Valentine’s Day with your dream partner. Raise your vibration and reinforce your belief in attracting the ideal relationship.

6. Celebrate Yourself: Transform Valentine's Day into a celebration of you with these tips for how to show yourself love on Valentine’s Day.

Remember, Valentine's Day is just another day. Loving yourself deeply is the key and whether in a relationship or single, you are worthy of the love you desire. Celebrate the amazing person you are this Valentine's Day and every day. Sending you love, and catch you in the next episode!

Content Mentioned:

How to Manifest ‘The One’: Do This Before Dating

Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here’s How to Believe In It

Date Yourself: How To Feel Confident Taking Yourself Out

Additional Valentine’s Content:

How To Survive Valentine's Day When You're Single (and Don't Want To Be)

What Does Self Love Mean And How To Love Yourself More

Get Involved!

Resources

The Confidence Course

Visit The Date with Confidence website here.

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Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here's How to Believe In It

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 08:00:48 GMT

EPISODE 30: Your Dream Relationship Exists: Here's How To Believe In It

What you think, you believe and what you believe, becomes your reality.

And this is so important when it comes to dating.

If you enter the dating world with the belief that what you truly desire from a partner doesn't exist or isn't available to you, you’ll never find ‘The One’.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we delve into the power of belief, how it shapes your dating reality and the practical actions you can take to build solid belief in your dream relationship.

Here’s a glimpse at what we cover:

1. The Power of Belief: We explore how your beliefs shape your dating experiences and why it's crucial to build the belief that your dream relationship is possible.

2. Building and Holding Belief: Learn practical steps to build and maintain the belief in your dream relationship, preventing you from settling for less than you deserve.

3. Finding Evidence: Discover the importance of seeking evidence for your dream relationship's existence, drawing inspiration from real-life examples around you.

4. Mantras for Reprogramming: Understand the impact of the phrases you tell yourself and learn how to use empowering mantras to reshape your beliefs positively.

5. External Anchors: Explore the concept of anchoring your desire for a dream relationship to something greater than yourself, whether it's a family member, friend, or even a pet.

6. Valuable Self-Reflection: Reflect on your past relationships, identify patterns, and consciously commit to breaking free from unhealthy cycles for your own well-being.

Remember, what you believe becomes your reality. So, join me on this journey of transforming your beliefs and manifesting the dream relationship you deserve. If you enjoyed this episode, leave a review on iTunes, share with friends, and stay tuned for more empowering content.

Episodes Mentioned:

How to Manifest ‘The One’: Do This Before Dating

Interview with My Grandad: Dating Advice from an 81 Year Old

Get Involved!

Resources

Visit The Date with Confidence website here.

Follow The Date with Confidence Podcast on Instagram + follow your host Rebecca Hawkes here.

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How to Manifest 'The One': Do This Before Dating

Mon, 05 Feb 2024 08:00:33 GMT

EPISODE 29: How to Manifest 'The One': Do This Before Dating

Are you ready to manifest love, romance and your dream relationship into your reality?

Join me in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast as we deep dive into the mental, practical and energetic manifestation practices for manifesting ‘the one’.

We explore the exact exercises I used before I started dating and the ones I use as I’m actively dating to manifest my dream partner. I’ve broken my process down into three sections to make it easier for you to implement these practices so you too can work to manifest the one into your life.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Believing in the Dream: Dive into the crucial aspect of fostering belief in the possibility of your dream relationship

2. Embracing Trust: Despite past relationship hurdles, make a conscious choice to trust that the perfect person will appear in your life at the right moment

3. Clarity Unveiled: Explore the process of gaining clarity on your desires in a partner and understand why this clarity plays a pivotal role in manifesting The One

4. Elevating Standards: Learn strategies to avoid settling for a relationship that falls short of what you genuinely deserve

5. Crafting Your Wish Lists: Navigate the creation of two distinct wish lists, distinguishing between non-negotiable standards and flexible expectation

6. Manifesting with Letters and Boards: Uncover effective manifesting techniques, such as letter writing and vision boards, as powerful tools to attract the right person into your life

7. Active Manifestation: Recognise that manifestation involves more than just jotting down desires; actively engage in social activities and dating environments

8. Visualisation Mastery: Take your visualisation practice to a whole new level when you incorporate these tiny experiences into your daily vision

9. Feeling the Future: Shift your energy from a sense of lack to an abundance mindset by imagining and embodying the feelings you'd experience in your dream relationship

10. Gratitude in Solo Moments: While manifesting The One, find gratitude in your current solo journey

Remember, you are worthy of the love you seek—keep those standards high and trust in the unfolding of your romantic destiny.

Episodes Mentioned:

Mindset Shifts You Need to Make Around Dating

5 Powerful Types of Vision Board You Can Create

How to Cancel a Date with the ‘Nice One’

Disclaimer: these are practices I use myself and of course, they do not promise any results

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My First Date Of 2024: Everything You Need To Know

Mon, 29 Jan 2024 08:00:29 GMT

EPISODE 28: My First Date Of 2024: Everything You Need To Know

Are you ready to hear all the details about my first date of 2024?

Because that's exactly what we're going to talk about in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast. From the nerves that crept in before the date to the (not so) unexpected turns, I’m sharing all the juicy details about my first date with someone I first met over 12 years ago….

Here are the key topics covered:

1. The Build-Up: I’m setting the stage, describing the anticipation and pressure of meeting someone I knew from over a decade ago.

2. Overcoming Nerves: I’m detailing exactly what I did to ease the first date jitters and ensure I arrived at the date feeling confident and excited instead of anxious.

3. Axe Throwing Adventure: He’d booked us an activity that I’d never done before – axe throwing. We spent the afternoon laughing, sharing stories and engaging in conversation that flowed naturally, even after a decade.

4. Thoughtful Gestures: Before we even met, he showed he was thoughtful, yet from the start of the date until we said goodbye, the thoughtful gestures kept on coming.

5. Communication and Comfort: Discover what makes the communication so top notch and learn how he’s continually made me feel safe both via message and in person.

6. Gentlemanly Acts: I detail the multitude of gentlemanly behaviours, from driving me home (over a two-hour round trip) to small acts of kindness, challenging the conventional dating experiences.

7. Bet You Didn’t See This Coming: I’m ending the episode with a surprising revelation….a revelation that makes me a massive hypocrite. And I’m not even sorry.

Episodes Mentioned:

Am I Delusional?!

The Near Perfect Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

Sex on the Third Date?! Dating Rules You Need to Ditch

This Simple Concept Will Help You Date with Confidence

You're Allowed to Change Your Mind At ANY Point

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Dating Diaries: A New Year, A New Season

Mon, 22 Jan 2024 08:00:52 GMT

EPISODE 27: Dating Diaries: A New Year, A New Season

It's the start of a new year which means it's the start of a new dating season!

We've got a lot to catch up on in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast so grab yourself a cup of something (or a glass of something - no judgement from me) and get ready to hear a very brief overview of my dating life in 2023, my dating predictions for 2024 and all the goss on my very first date of the new year.....

Here's a glimpse at what we covered:

1. Reflecting on 2023: A quick recap of my dating life in 2023, including the number of dates, cancelled plans, dating app experiences, and where I made the most matches.

2. Changing Trends in Dating: My observations on the evolving dating landscape in 2024, with a focus on people seeking alternative, organic ways to connect outside traditional dating apps.

3. Embracing Bold Moves: I'm encouraging you to be brave and make the first move, just like my friend did....

4. Reconnecting with an Old Acquaintance: Brace yourself for the unexpected reconnection with someone from my past. I'm detailing how we met, reminiscing about old times and sharing how a catch up became my first date of 2024.

5. The Excitement and Anxieties of a First Date: As always, I'm being honest about my feelings ahead of this date. The biggest question: will the chemistry still be there?!

Episodes About Guys I Dated in 2023:

Am I Delusional?! Part 1 / Part 2

The Near Perfect Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

I Know What I Deserve Now

He Wanted Me to Send Photos & Lied About His Age

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You're Allowed to Change Your Mind at ANY Point

Mon, 15 Jan 2024 08:00:19 GMT

Episode 26: You're Allowed to Change Your Mind at Any Point

You're allowed to change your mind at any point, especially and most importantly, when it comes to your body.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we dive into the topic of consent and why it's also ok for you to change your mind to a no, even after you've said yes.

Here's a sneak peek at what we cover:

1. Consent Matters: Highlighting the importance of consent and the discomfort around saying "no" in various situations.

2. Setting Boundaries: I'm sharing my experiences of setting boundaries, such as not kissing on the first date, and the importance of sticking to them.

3. Navigating Uncomfortable Conversations: We're exploring instances where uncomfortable conversations arise, like when explicit photos are requested, and how to assertively say "no."

4. Changing Your Mind: I emphasise that it's okay to change your mind at any point, illustrated through personal experiences of withdrawing consent during an intimate moment (and how a decent guy will actually respond to your no).

5. Handling Reactions: We discuss the challenging aspect of dealing with others' reactions to saying "no" and emphasising that you shouldn't feel responsible for managing someone else's response.

6. Consent is Attractive: We reflect on the attractiveness of consent, respect, and communication in dating scenarios, and the impact of these factors on feeling safe.

7. Standing Strong: I encourage you to stand by your decisions, say "no" when needed, and focus on self-care and mindset work to help you say no with confidence.

Remember, you're allowed to say "no" whenever, wherever, and however many times you need.

Episodes Mentioned:

Ted: I Know What I Deserve Now and This Is NOT It

Rob: He Wanted Me to Send Photos and Lied About His Age

Changed your mind? Listen to How to Cancel a Date with the 'Nice One'

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I Ignored the Guy Who Cancelled Last Minute

Mon, 08 Jan 2024 08:00:48 GMT

EPISODE 25: I Ignored the Guy Who Cancelled Last Minute

You don't owe anyone a response. You don't owe anyone a response. If someone hasn’t treated you the way you deserve, you don’t owe them anything.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I'm talking about a recent (near) dating experience where I chose not to respond to a last-minute cancellation. I'm no longer available to not be respected by men. And I wanna encourage you to adopt this energy too.

Here are some of the key things we chat about:

1. You Don't Owe Anyone a Response: I'm emphasising the importance of understanding that you don't owe anyone a response, especially if they haven't treated you with the respect you deserve.

2. Respecting Your Boundaries: I'm encouraging you to set boundaries and not tolerate disrespectful behaviour, emphasising that it's okay to prioritise self-respect over responding to someone who cancels last minute.

3. Reflecting on Red Flags: I'm opening up about the red flags I'd seen before this guy cancelled the first date and how I believe I had a lucky escape in the end.

4. Dealing with Rejection: I touch on my own sensitivity to rejection and provide insight on how to handle rejection with resilience and self-compassion.

5. Empowering Yourself: I'm revealing the negative thoughts that flooded my brain when this incident happened and sharing how you can take charge of your inner narrative, practice self-awareness, and choose thoughts that empower and uplift you.

Remember, you have the power to shape your own narrative in the world of dating. Prioritise self-respect, set healthy boundaries, and choose thoughts that empower you. Subscribe, review, and share the podcast with your single friends for more dating insights.

Episodes mentioned:

How to Deal with Rejection When You're Dating

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The Energy You Need to Take Into Dating in 2024

Mon, 01 Jan 2024 08:00:11 GMT

EPISODE 24: The Energy You Need to Take Into Dating in 2024

You’re a 10/10. You always have been, always will be.

And in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing practical tips for how to feel like a 10/10 so you can date with confidence and stop settling for less than you deserve.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. The Barbie Movie Epiphany: Discussing the influence of a particular Barbie movie song lyric that sparked the realisation about the energy we need to be taking into our dating lives.

2. Overcoming Past Insecurities: Opening up about personal experiences and the lingering effects of being rated poorly in a previous relationship, urging you to break free from such negative mindsets.

3. Embracing the 10 out of 10 Mindset: Encouraging you to consciously adopt a mindset of self-worth, emphasising that everyone deserves to view themselves as a perfect 10, regardless of societal standards.

4. Authenticity and Confidence: Exploring practical ways to embody the 10 out of 10 energy, including positive affirmations, authentic self-expression, and acts of self-love.

5. Building Deeper Connections: Discussing the impact of approaching relationships with the confidence of being a perfect 10, fostering authenticity, and building genuine connections with others.

6. Self-Care Practices: Highlighting the importance of self-care, from physical well-being to mental health activities, reinforcing the idea that taking care of yourself contributes to the 10 out of 10 mindset.

7. Facing Negativity Head-On: Encouraging you to challenge negative thoughts and external judgments, and to confidently assert your self-worth in all aspects of life.

As the podcast concludes, I encourage you to radiate authenticity, embrace your uniqueness, and carry the empowering energy of being a 10 out of 10 into every relationship and situation you encounter in 2024 and beyond.

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Interview With My Grandad: Dating Advice From An 81-Year-Old

Mon, 25 Dec 2023 08:00:03 GMT

EPISODE 23: Interview With My Grandad: Dating Advice From An 81-Year-Old

This is hands down my favourite episode I’ve ever recorded.

I have the most special guest on The Date with Confidence Podcast: my grandad.

In this episode, we delve into the charming story of how my grandparents met and why grandad believes their 57 year marriage has been so successful. Plus, he reveals to me what he really thought of my ex boyfriends and gives me dating advice I never expected.

Here's a peek at what we discussed:

1. Love At First Sight: Grandad shares the story of how he met my nan at work, highlighting a moment of love at first sight and the charming details of their courtship

2. Reflections on Longevity: Grandad reflects on his 57-year-long marriage, emphasising the significance of love, tolerance, and a willingness to give and take in making a relationship last.

3. Dating Criteria and Priorities: Grandad emphasises the importance of finding a partner who prioritises and cares for you and shares how he’s always put nan first.

4. Telling the Truth: I ask Grandad what he really thought about my ex boyfriend and he doesn’t hold back!

5. Traditional Dating vs. Modern Apps: Drawing a comparison between past and present, Grandad expresses scepticism about dating apps. He encourages face-to-face interactions, suggesting that personal connections are more genuine than online profiles.

6. Paying for Dates: Grandad gives his opinion on who should be paying the bill on the first date and how suggesting to split it could cause embarrassment on their part.

7. Relationship Progression: Reflecting on his own relationship with my nan, Grandad talks about the natural progression of their relationships and how they became a couple - did he ask her to become his girlfriend?

8. Final Words of Wisdom: The episode concludes with a reflection on a long and happy life, acknowledging the challenges of ageing but emphasising the fulfilment derived from family and meaningful connections.

This episode offers listeners a heartwarming glimpse into the enduring love story of my grandparents, coupled with timeless dating advice from a man with a wealth of life experience. It's not just an interview; it's a family legacy shared with you.

Links to episodes mentioned:

The Near Perfect Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

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He Wanted Me to Send Photos and Lied About His Age

Mon, 18 Dec 2023 08:00:25 GMT

EPISODE 22: He Wanted Me to Send Photos and Lied About His Age

Guess who's got a new dating story for you....

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I've got a brand new first date story about Rob*. Find out why my friends insisted I sack him off immediately and how I responded when he continued to ask me to send photos of myself. Plus, the shock reason he lied about his age and didn't tell me until we met.

Here's a peek at what we cover:

1. Matching & Initial Impressions: Where we matched the first time, where we matched the second time, why I labelled him as a fuck boy immediately and the reason I was totally ok with this.

2. Red Flags & Misgivings: Requesting photos wasn't the only red flag Rob raised but still, I went on a date with him.

3. Age Deception & Uncomfortable Moments: He arrives to the date 15 minutes late and confesses to lying about his age on dating apps. Initially this didn't bother me, until he revealed the reason for the deception....

4. Banter & Awkward Interactions: I'm sharing the instances of 'banter' that made me uncomfortable and why, at 33 years old, I'm no longer available for this.

5. Dinner & Unwanted Advances: The date progresses to dinner and then we have another drink in the pub before Rob's unwanted physical advances make me feel uncomfortable.

6. Post-Date Communication: Rob's post-date messages further reveal his persistence in seeking photos despite my clear boundaries.

7. Friend's Opinions & Not Replying: Every friend I've spoken to about Rob has told me to sack him off immediately and did I end up ghosting him?

Links to episodes mentioned:

Hitting the Reset Button in July (the story of losing Jasper 💔)

The Near Perfect Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

Date Yourself: How to Feel Confident Taking Yourself Out

I Know What I Deserve Now and This Is NOT It

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I Tried Bumble Speed Dating Twice: Here's What Happened

Mon, 11 Dec 2023 08:00:50 GMT

EPISODE 21: I Tried Bumble Speed Dating Twice: Here's What Happened

I decided to give Bumble Speed Dating a shot, not just once, but twice. I’d heard good things about it from a few people so thought I’d have a go myself. What’s the harm, eh?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing what happened during my experience and why I swiftly backed out the first time.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Discovering Bumble Speed Dating: I've always wanted to try speed dating in real life, but finding a friend to join me proved trickier than I thought so when a friend introduced me to Bumble Speed Dating, I signed up on a Sunday night, looking to bounce back into the dating scene after a recent rejection.

2. Expectations vs. Reality: I’m revealing all about my intentions for the speed dating; my initial expectations were high, why I was hoping for a confidence boost and how I was using it as a reminder of the abundance of potential matches. Unfortunately, the reality turned out quite different.

3. Handling Rejection: The rejection factor hit hard, especially during a vulnerable period. I share insights on handling rejection and the importance of not internalising it.

4. The Setup of Bumble Speed Dating: I’m filling you in on how Bumble Speed Dating works so if you wanna give it a try yourself, you know what to expect.

5. The Power of Mindset: The second time around was different. I entered with a better mindset, I engaged in more meaningful conversations and learned the importance of being true to my dating preferences.

6. Real-Life vs. Virtual Dating: While Bumble Speed Dating didn't quite hit the mark for me, I still hold out hope for trying the real-life version, where chemistry is more tangible.

Join me in this episode as I navigate the highs and lows of virtual speed dating, sharing insights and lessons along the way. It's a journey worth taking, but maybe not for everyone. Remember, the dating world is full of surprises – good and bad.

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I Know What I Deserve Now and This Is NOT It

Mon, 04 Dec 2023 08:00:16 GMT

EPISODE 20: I Know What I Deserve Now and This Is NOT It

A few weeks ago, I went for dinner with two of my besties and as we enjoyed our food, I revealed all about a new guy on the scene who would be taking me on a date 4 days later.

They suggested I record a pre-date episode that I could reflect back on after this initial date.

And that’s exactly what this episode was *supposed* to be.

But something happened……

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we’re having a candid and empowering chat about setting boundaries and knowing your worth when it comes to dating. It’s not the episode I had planned but it’s packed full of powerful reminders we all need from time to time.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. The Anticipated Date: Initially, the plan was to delve into the pre-date excitement, expectations, and the lead-up to a potentially exciting rendezvous with a brand new match.

2. The Unexpected: The message I had a feeling was coming but didn’t want to receive and why I was so outraged by it.

3. Boundaries and Self-Worth: I’m sharing how proud I am of my own personal growth when it comes to setting strong boundaries and recognising my own value. Gone are the days where I’ll settle for second best.

4. Empowerment through Experience: Each disappointing encounter reinforces my commitment to high standards and self-worth. I want to encourage you to adopt a similar mindset to the one I share, recognising when a situation doesn't align with your value.

Remember, you're not alone in navigating the dating world, and setting boundaries is a powerful act of self-love. Until next time, stay empowered and confident.

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This Simple Concept Will Help You Date With Confidence

Mon, 27 Nov 2023 08:00:15 GMT

EPISODE 19: This Simple Concept Will Help You Date With Confidence

Whether it's a first date, second, third, fourth date that fills you with anxiety…

Or whether the idea of connecting with people on apps makes you feel sick…

Or whether it's putting yourself out there for the first time if you've been single for a long time…

Or you just want to enter a room feeling full of confidence instead of fear…

The concept I’m sharing with you in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast is going to help you feel confident in every aspect of dating (and other areas of your life!).

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Introduction to The 90/90 Mindset Concept: Discover the concept I created that encompasses the lessons, tools and techniques that have helped me to create unwavering self confidence over the past 12+ years.

2. Understanding The 90/90 Mindset: Understand the first core principle of the concept that’ll have you waving buh-bye to unrealistic mindset goals and saying hello to an empowering mindset that’ll support you in your dating life.

3. You Only Need 90 Seconds: Learn how just 90 seconds of confidence can help you transform the trajectory of your life and open you up to an abundance of possibilities.

4. Three Layers of Confidence: We take a deep dive into the three layers of confidence you need to focus your attention on to feel confident on every date, help you set solid boundaries and raise your relationship standards.

5. Think Confident: Uncover the mindset that can negatively impact your dating experience and understand how to change your thought patterns to help you enjoy dating.

6. Act Confident: Confidence comes from taking action and to help you take confident action, learn the instant confidence boosters that’ll shift your energy in seconds.

7. Feel Confident: Understand how to consciously create the feeling of confidence so you can conjure it up into your body whenever you need it.

Remember, dating confidently isn't about perfection; it's about progress. Dive into these practices, transform your mindset, and watch how confidence becomes your natural state.

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How to Cancel a Date with the 'Nice One'

Mon, 20 Nov 2023 08:00:24 GMT

EPISODE 18: How to Cancel a Date with the 'Nice One'

You’ve been on a lovely date with a lovely guy and had a lovely time.

But however lovely it was, he’s just not doing it for you. The problem is, you’ve committed to another date.

How can you cancel a date with the nice one, without coming across as a complete arsehole?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing the exact message I send to the lovely men who just aren’t for me. Learn the one thing you need to remember when rejecting someone and steal my script for the next time you need to cancel on someone.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Great First Date: Hear about the lovely first date I had with a genuinely nice guy at the start of the year.

2. Change of Heart: Learn why I had to cancel the second date we had planned and how ultimately, this lead to me deciding not to see him again.

3. Feeling the Guilt: I share why I’ve always felt guilty about cancelling plans in the past and how him paying for the date made me feel like I owed him a second one (even though he wasn’t that type of guy).

4. The Honesty Approach: Discover the honest and respectful approach I take when it comes to cancelling dates or rejecting someone I’m just not into.

5. Respectful Closure: It's crucial to remember that you don't owe anyone anything. Understand that it's okay to change your mind.

6. Positive Responses: I’m revealing how the men I’ve sent this message to have responded when I’ve politely and respectfully said I’m just not into them.

Ultimately, we all date with the goal of finding a genuine connection, and sometimes it just doesn't happen. It's better to be honest early on than to force something that isn't there. So, if you ever find yourself needing to cancel a date with the "nice one," use an upfront and respectful approach – it works! Feel free to use my script if it helps.

You’ll find the full script on the episode page here.

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"Wanna level up to bride?" Weird comments I've Received on Hinge

Mon, 13 Nov 2023 08:00:21 GMT

EPISODE 17: "Wanna Level Up to Bride?" Weird Comments I've Received on Hinge

Have you ever been told you “look saucy as a bowl of spaghetti”?

Or been asked to dress up like a bridesmaid for a first date?

Are you ever left confused about whether someone’s trying to make a joke or genuinely means the wild shit that’s coming out of their fingertips?

Surely I can’t be the only one who receives weird af comments on their dating profile, can I?

In this lighthearted episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I thought we'd do something a bit different. I’m taking you behind the scenes of my Hinge profile and sharing some of the weirdest comments I've received on my photos.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Saucy as Spaghetti: From bizarre compliments to a comparison with a bowl of spaghetti, some comments are just plain weird.

2. Dress Up for Me: One comment suggested we go on a date with me dressed as a bridesmaid. A bit presumptuous, right?

3. Intense Dating Proposals: Some people get a bit too intense, like planning spin classes at 5 a.m. for a first date or suggesting we honeymoon in the Maldives before we've even matched.

4. The Art of Banter: There's a fine line between playful banter and taking things too far. Mocking each other can be fun, but some of the comments I received were not what I’d call ‘banter’....

5. Unique or Weird?: When someone calls you "unique," is it a compliment or a polite way of saying "weird"?

6. "I'm Too Deep": One guy claimed to be "too deep" for his own good - was this a euphemism…?

I'd love to hear your bizarre dating app encounters too, so feel free to share your screenshots or stories. Remember, these comments are all in good fun and not to shame anyone so if you’ve got a comment to share, please remove the person’s image/name.

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Sex On The Third Date?! Dating Rules You Need To Ditch Now

Mon, 06 Nov 2023 08:00:14 GMT

EPISODE 16: Sex On The Third Date?! Dating Rules You Need To Ditch Now

Should you have sex on the third date?

Should the guy pay for everything on a first date?

Should you really be waiting for hours before responding to a message from them?

And, is it an absolute no no to talk about your exes on a first date?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we're diving into the world of dating rules and why it's time to ditch them for good.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. The Pressure to Have Sex on a Third Date: Remember the old dating rule about having sex on the third date? Well, I say it's time to ditch that expectation. It's okay to take your time and build an emotional connection before anything physical.

2. Who Pays on a First Date: While it's great when your date picks up the check, let's not make it an expectation. I appreciate it for sure, but I'm down for equality and sometimes prefer to split the bill. It's about finding a balance that works for both parties.

3. Stop the Texting Mind Games: Why wait for hours to respond to a message? Let's be real, playing these games doesn't lead to healthy relationships.

4. Talking About Exes on a First Date: Contrary to the old advice, I find it healthy to discuss past relationships on a date. It helps you understand your potential partner's expectations and deal-breakers, making it easier to decide if you're compatible.

5. Authenticity is Key: Don't try to be your best self, try to be your true self. Being authentic on your dates is crucial. It allows both you and your date to form a genuine connection and know if you're compatible from the start.

So, let's ditch those outdated dating rules and embrace a more authentic and open approach to dating. Remember, it's about finding the right connection, not following a set of rigid rules.

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How To Deal With Rejection When You're Dating

Mon, 30 Oct 2023 07:00:23 GMT

EPISODE 15: How To Deal With Rejection When You're Dating

Let's talk about rejection.

Rejection happens to all of us, no matter what stage of life we're in, no matter what stage of dating we're in, no matter how old we are, how young we are: we're going to get rejected at some point. Fact.

Just as we’re going to reject someone at some point.

Whilst rejection is a totally normal part of life, it doesn’t mean it doesn’t suck. It’s painful, it makes us question ourselves and can reopen our not enoughness wounds.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how I deal with rejection when it comes to dating plus I’ll reveal the exact 7 day plan I followed after a recent rejection.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Rejection Happens to Everyone: There’s no shame in being rejected (despite what this recent comment said on my Instagram….)

2. Responding to Rejection in Your 20s vs. 30s: We discuss how my response to rejection has evolved from my 20s to 30s.

3. The Impact of Toxic Behaviours: I get open and honest about the toxic behaviours I exhibited in my younger years in response to rejection.

4. Coping Strategies for Rejection: I’m sharing my updated coping strategies for rejection, including seeking support from a coach, focusing on self-love, and why I choose to jump straight back into dating.

5. The 90/90 Mindset Concept: I’m revealing my secret to being able to handle rejection without losing self confidence. When you understand these 3 things, rejection will stop having such a massive impact on you.

6. An Action Plan for Dealing with Rejection: I’m breaking down exactly what I did in the 7 days that followed a recent rejection and how each of these steps helped me to deal with rejection.

This episode is a valuable resource for anyone dealing with rejection in the dating world, offering insights and actionable steps to boost self confidence and maintain a positive mindset.

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Closure & New Beginnings: Am I Delusional?! Part 2

Mon, 23 Oct 2023 07:00:05 GMT

EPISODE 14: Closure & New Beginnings: Am I Delusional?! Part 2

When something ends quicker than you expected, how do you handle it?

What actions do you take to prevent these patterns repeating themselves?

How do you release the trauma so it doesn’t impact you in the future?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast - a follow up to the "Am I Delusional?!" episode that was released two weeks ago - I’m giving you an insight into the coaching session I had after a recent dating experience came to an end quicker than I expected it to. I’m taking you behind the scenes of the trauma work we did together, how I got closure for myself and discoveries I made about myself thanks to this experience.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Personal Healing Session: I discuss my session with Marie Houlden, a mindset coach and energy healer, who uses various modalities like breathwork, EFT, hypnosis, and trauma-informed techniques. For more on her work, go here*.

2. Emotional Turmoil: I openly share my emotional rollercoaster, including feelings of confusion, self-doubt, anger, and hurt after the breakup.

3. Seeking Closure: Find out whether I sent a final message to get closure or whether I chose to leave things with the first, angry message I sent him.

4. Reconnecting with Myself: Learn about the transformative, energy clearing technique that helps me gain clarity around what to do, release any past trauma and allows me to heal my heart.

5. Reflection on the Relationship: I reflect on the dating experience and my emotional needs, as well as the fear of jumping into a full-blown commitment at this point in my life.

6. Moving Forward: I discuss what I did to further cement the closure for myself and how I'm open to new dating experiences, reaffirming my sense of self and purpose.

Join me on this journey of healing and self-discovery, demonstrating how moments of emotional turmoil can lead to growth and transformation.

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The 'Near Perfect' Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

Mon, 16 Oct 2023 07:00:56 GMT

EPISODE 13: The 'Near-Perfect' Date That Became a Hilarious Nightmare

I’m not sure you’re ready to hear this story….

Let me set the scene: it's a Thursday evening in London, and I'm gearing up for a first date with someone who isn’t my type but seems promising. I've had my fair share of dating adventures in the past four years of single life, but this one... well, let's just say it's one for the books.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing the comical and cringe-worthy story of a first-date experience I recently had. Get ready to cringe along with me as I reveal all the gory details of the hilarious nightmare that was a first date.

Here are the key topics covered:

1. Accepting a New Date: Just days after being rejected by the guy in the previous episode (Am I Delusional?!) I start chatting with a new guy who asks me out on a date. The way he asks me out is hot. Things look promising.

2. Preparation for the Date: I’m putting in all the effort; the fake tan comes out, the outfit’s on point and I spend a couple of hours doing my hair and makeup, anticipating an enjoyable date with a genuinely nice guy.

3. Meeting at the Station: Discover why I always opt to meet my dates at the train station and why I think it’s the secret to breaking the ice and kicking the date off in the best way possible.

4. First Impressions Shattered: Learn how my hopes were instantly shattered when I met him outside of the station. I promise I’m not a snob!

5. Persistent Nose Issues: I can’t even believe this happened! I reveal exactly why this was the worst date I’ve been on and how the dinner table etiquette was far from ok.

6. Awkward Bill Moment: Is this not the most awkward ending to a first date?!

7. Rejection: I don’t believe in ghosting so I’m sharing exactly what I said to him two days later to let him know I wouldn’t be going back for seconds (and why I felt like such an arsehole afterwards!)

This date was certainly one for the books! While it didn't end in romance, it’s given us something to laugh about. There are people out there who’ll think he was an amazing date but on this occasion, he wasn’t for me.

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Am I Actually Delusional?! The Rollercoaster Of Modern Dating

Mon, 09 Oct 2023 07:00:25 GMT

Episode 12: Am I Actually Delusional?! The Rollercoaster Of Modern Dating

Am I actually delusional? Did I make this shit up? Am I just living on a whole different planet?!

These are just some of the questions I was left asking myself after a recent dating experience that ended as quickly as it started. It was the first time I’d caught the feels for someone since my breakup 4 years ago and it was an experience to say the least.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I take you through a whirlwind of emotions as I recount the recent dating experience that left me questioning everything. It's a journey filled with excitement, vulnerability, deep conversations, unexpected twists, old wounds split wide open, self reflection and yet more personal growth (are we not done with this shit yet?!).

Here’s an overview of what you’ll hear:

1. The Connection: I recount my recent + intense connection with a guy I met on a dating app, highlighting the deep conversations + intellectual chemistry that attracted me to him.

2. Healthy Communication: I emphasise the importance of open + respectful communication, sharing a pivotal moment where we resolved tension by addressing our feelings honestly.

3. Exploring New Territory: We progress from intellectual connection to physical attraction, marking a significant milestone in my four-year journey of being single.

4. Aligned Values: We explore our compatibility, discussing shared values, love languages + potential future plans, hinting at the possibilities ahead.

5. Emotional Investment: Reflecting on how we discussed meeting parents, trips together + the complexities of love, I contemplate the depth of our connection.

6. Rollercoaster Dating: I share the ups + downs of a four-date journey that seemed promising at first but took an unexpected turn.

7. Empowerment & Self-Worth: I explore my newfound strength in handling rejection + the importance of self-worth in dating.

8. Personal Growth: I emphasise the growth and self-awareness achieved through this dating experience, ultimately leading to a stronger sense of self.

Make sure you’re subscribed to The Date with Confidence Podcast so you don’t miss the follow up episode where I reveal whether I did, in fact, send a follow up message to him…. 👀

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"Do you swipe right if their mate's more attractive?!" Dating Q&A

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 07:00:31 GMT

EPISODE 11: "Do you swipe right if their mate's more attractive?!" Dating Q&A

Who should pay on a first date? How do you deal with rejection? And most importantly, do you swipe right if their mate’s more attractive?!

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m hosting the first ever dating Q&A and answering the questions you submitted via Instagram. I hope you enjoy hearing my answers as much as I enjoyed recording this!

Here are the questions I answer for you:

1. How do you deal with rejection and turn it into something positive for the next date?

2. How do you stay consistent on dating apps?

3. Dating apps bore me, how can I make this more fun?

4. Are there really some apps better than others?

5. Who should pay on a first date?

6. Do you swipe right if you fancy their mate in a photo?

7. Do you give people your WhatsApp number?

8. How can you trust someone to set you up on a blind date?

9. How do you reject a friend of a friend without making it awkward for everyone?

I’d love to do more of these Q&A style episodes in the future so if you want to get involved, use the form below to submit your own dating questions.

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What It Really Means When You Get Ghosted

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:20:47 GMT

EPISODE 10: What It Really Means When You Get Ghosted

Getting ghosted can be a bewildering and disheartening experience, but before you let it shake your confidence, let's break down what's really happening behind those silent screens and unanswered messages.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we dive into what it really means when you get ghosted by someone and the key thing you need to remember the next time it happens to you.

Here are the key topics we cover:

1. Ghosting Experience: I share my own personal experience with being ghosted by someone I’d agreed to go on a first date with - what would have been my first date in 7 years!

2. Burnout and Ghosting: I reveal how my own personal challenges with burnout led to me unintentionally ghosting someone after a first date.

3. Learning from Experience: I reflect on my actions and how it helped me to understand what it really means when someone ghosts you - spoiler alert: it’s not about you!

4. The Courage to Be Honest: I emphasise that ghosting often stems from a lack of courage to communicate that you're not interested and the important thing you need to remember if you’re ever ghosted again in the future.

5. Remember Your Worth: We reinforce the idea that being ghosted is not a reflection of your value and that you deserve someone who treats you with respect.

Remember, if someone ghosts you, it's their loss, not yours. You’re brilliant, you’re amazing and you deserve someone who recognises that!

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How to Act & Feel Confident Before a First Date

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:15:35 GMT

EPISODE 09: How to Act & Feel Confident Before a First Date

You’ve matched with someone, had a bit of a chat back and forth, and they’ve asked you out on a date - yayyy! Whilst you’re excited at the prospect of meeting them face to face, there’s a part of you that feels anxious and worried about making a good first impression.

It’s completely normal to feel nervous before meeting someone for the first time and in this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how to act and feel confident before a first date so you can leave the anxiety at home and focus on having fun with your latest match.

Here are the key topics we cover:

1. Act Confident: Taken from the third core principle of The 90/90 Mindset Concept, we look at the Act Confident layer which is all about practical actions you can take to help you act confident on a first date.

2. Feel Confident: We explore how the Feel Confident layer is about nurturing inner confidence. I reveal the techniques I use to get my energy into a confident state before a first date.

3. Confidence Anchors: Discover the importance of confidence anchors and how they can enhance your self-assuredness to help you create a lasting impression on your date.

4. Mirror Work: Learn the power of looking at yourself in the mirror and understand how this simple practice can help you connect with your inner self to reinforce your self-esteem.

5. Feel-Good Rituals: Find out how playing your favourite songs or listening to a grounding meditation can calm pre-date jitters and leave you feeling energised.

6. Adaptability: Understand that these confidence layers can be applied not only to dating but to various aspects of life. It's about empowering yourself to exude confidence in any situation.

I'm thrilled to share these confidence-building techniques with you, so you can approach every date with a newfound sense of self-confidence. Remember, you've got this!

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Important Things I Tell Myself Before a First Date

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:10:40 GMT

EPISODE 08: Important Things I Tell Myself Before a First Date

Going on a first date can be both exciting and nerve-wracking. The anticipation, the butterflies, and the desire to make a great impression can lead to anxiety. However, the key to a successful first date lies in your mindset.

In this episode of The Date With Confidence podcast, I’m sharing valuable insights and practical tips for boosting your confidence before a first date including the important things I tell myself before I go on any date.

Here are the key topics we cover:

1. The 90/90 Mindset Concept: I introduce you to my unique concept aimed at helping you feel confident every day. It involves three core principles that’ll change the way you date from now on.

2. Changing Your Mindset: I emphasise the importance of maintaining a positive mindset before a date and highlight the significance of avoiding negative "what if" thoughts.

3. Managing Expectations: Why I’m against building up unrealistic expectations before a first date and what you should do instead.

4. Repeating Affirmations: Discover why I’m such an advocate of using positive affirmations to boost self-confidence and learn the exact affirmations I use before a first date.

5. Mindset Monologue: Learn the powerful exercise I teach inside of The Confidence Course that sees you spiralling upwards with positive "what ifs" to counteract any negative thoughts that may arise.

6. Reflecting on Past Experiences: I reminisce about past dating experiences, including both good and bad dates, highlighting the importance of maintaining a sense of humour and an open mind when approaching new dates.

Remember, going on a first date doesn't have to be daunting. By adopting these mindset techniques and preparing yourself mentally, you can increase your confidence and make the most of your dating experience.

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Mindset Shifts You Need to Make Around Dating

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:05:17 GMT

EPISODE 07: Mindset Shifts You Need to Make Around Dating

Are you stuck in a dating rut, feeling like you're trudging through an endless cycle of disappointment and frustration? It's time for a change, and that change starts with your mindset.

In this episode of The Date With Confidence podcast, I’m exploring the importance of changing your mindset when it comes to dating so you can stop feeling like dating’s a chore and start to view it as something FUN.

Here are the key topics we cover:

1. The Power of Mindset: I highlight the influence of your thoughts and beliefs on your dating experiences.

2. Common Negative Beliefs: I address the common negative beliefs that people hold about dating, such as thinking "men are trash" or that dating apps don't work and how they impact your dating life.

3. Shifting Your Energy: I encourage you to change your perspective and approach dating with a positive, open mindset so that you enjoy every date you go on, no matter how it ends.

4. Letting Go of Expectations: We look at why you need to stop putting too much pressure on dates to be amazing and how a relaxed attitude can lead to more meaningful connections.

5. The Impact of Self-Talk: I share the importance of changing the way you talk to yourself and why you need to start believing in the possibility of finding the right match.

By shifting your mindset and embracing a more positive perspective on dating, you can create a more enjoyable and successful dating experience.

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If I Wanted To Date Again After A Toxic Relationship, This Is What I'd Do

Fri, 29 Sep 2023 07:00:16 GMT

EPISODE 06: If I Wanted to Date Again After a Toxic Relationship, This Is What I’d Do

Healing is an ongoing process; it's not a quick fix or a magical transformation that happens overnight. It's a journey, a series of steps towards rediscovering your best self and finding the love you truly deserve.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing my personal journey of healing and growth after toxic relationships.

Here are the key topics we cover:

1. Recognising Toxic Relationships: I reflect on past toxic relationships and highlight how it's common not to realise the toxicity until after leaving them.

2. Taking Time for Healing: We discuss the significance of taking ample time to heal after a toxic relationship, emphasising the ongoing nature of healing.

3. Self-Compassion: I share why being kind and compassionate with yourself when triggers or old wounds (inevitably) resurface during the dating process is crucial.

4. Seeking Healthy Relationship Examples: I reveal the exercise that’s helped me to believe in the possibility of a healthy relationship and how important it is to find examples of what you desire.

5. Boosting Self-Confidence: We discuss how self-care, including practices like meditation, affirmations, and self-grooming, can help boost self-confidence and ease anxiety while dating.

6. Dating at Your Own Pace: I examine my own dating life and share why it’s ok to take dating at your own pace, even taking breaks when needed, to avoid burnout and prioritise self-care.

7. Seeking Professional Support: We remove the stigma around seeking support in the form of therapy, counselling, coaching, or healing sessions when you re-enter the dating world.

8. Using Fear to Your Advantage: I uncover the surprising strategy I used to help me overcome my fears around dating and falling in love again.

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Should I Really Delete Everything After a Breakup?

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:30:30 GMT

EPISODE 05: Should I Really Delete Everything After a Breakup?

In 2012, I went through my first of two catastrophic breakups. To help me process the breakup, my friends thought it’d be a good idea to take my phone and delete all evidence of the relationship.

They deleted every message he'd sent. They deleted him off Facebook. And they deleted his number. But I couldn’t handle it. I was not ready to stop re-reading our conversations.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing my thoughts on the commonly asked question “Should I delete everything after my breakup?” and comparing my own healing process when everything was deleted just weeks after my first big breakup versus me steadily deleting things over a period of a few years after my second big breakup 7 years later.

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Were They Really Your Best Friend? 6 Signs Your Ex Wasn't 'The One'

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:28:21 GMT

EPISODE 04: Were They Really Your Best Friend? 6 Signs Your Ex Wasn’t ‘The One’

I’ve been in 5 relationships since I was 17. One fizzled out after two years, one was destined to be temporary, one ended in a screaming match and me moving to another island, and two ended in catastrophic heartbreak.

They were unexpected and shook me to my core.

After both of these breakups, I kept repeating the same thing to myself “But he was my best friend”. I felt like I’d lost more than just a lover and if you feel the same, you should listen to this.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast we’re exploring the question: were they really your best friend? I’m also sharing 6 signs your ex wasn’t ‘The One’. My hope for you is that after listening to this episode, you’ll feel stronger, more empowered and ready to move on from the one(s) who didn’t deserve you.

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How to Self Care When You're Going Through a Breakup

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:25:55 GMT

EPISODE 03: How to Self Care When You’re Going Through a Breakup

A relationship ending can be one of the most difficult experiences to go through. It can be especially hard to practise self-care when you’re in the process of healing from a breakup. However, it’s important to remember that taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do to get yourself through the difficult time.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, I’m sharing how to self care when you’re going through a breakup, including the three layers you need to work on and my go to self care activities when I’m struggling.

Discover:

The difference between basic self care vs glamorous self care
The simplest ways to care for yourself mentally, physically and energetically when you’re struggling to get out of bed
3 Powerful mindset tools to help you actively work on your mindset as you process the breakup
Practical actions you can do to make yourself feel good again
The energy shifting activity that changed my life when I went through my last heartbreak
How to reconnect with yourself after a breakup
Why it’s ok to spend time grieving the end of a relationship

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How to Break Up with Someone in the Kindest Way

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:23:43 GMT

EPISODE 02: How to Break Up with Someone in the Kindest Way

Ending a relationship is never easy. When you come to the realisation that your relationship just isn’t working for you anymore, it can be hard to know how to approach it with your partner.

Whether you’ve been together for a few months, a few years or a few decades, the last thing you want to do is hurt them. But how do you break up with someone in a kind way?

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast I’ll be sharing how to break up with someone in the kindest way so you can keep any hurt or upset to a minimum. At the end of the day, if something no longer feels right, you need to walk away. Living a miserable life for fear of hurting their feelings is not the way to go.

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How to Know if You're in the Wrong Relationship

Mon, 25 Sep 2023 17:21:13 GMT

EPISODE 01: How to Know if You’re in the Wrong Relationship

Everyone deserves to be in a loving, healthy relationship where they feel supported, empowered and safe. But how do you know if you’re in the wrong relationship?

Relationships can be confusing, especially when it comes to deciding if something is worth staying in or walking away from. It can be difficult to determine when something is not right, when to draw the line, and if it’s time to move on.

In this episode of The Date with Confidence Podcast, we’ll be looking at 5 common signs you could be in the wrong relationship and what to do when you’re doubting whether to stay and make it work or pack your bag and move on.

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Welcome to The Date with Confidence Podcast

Fri, 08 Sep 2023 11:18:23 GMT

Welcome to The Date with Confidence Podcast, a place to come for dating advice, support and stories that'll fill you with hope or relief that your dating experience wasn't as bad as it could've been.

With practical episodes that'll provide you with easy to implement tips to help you feel confident af on your next date, alongside light hearted catch ups where your host Rebecca shares her own experience dating after 4 years of the single life, you're guaranteed to end each episode feeling less alone in your dating struggles, empowered to never settle again and confident that the best is yet to come.

And if it all falls to shit, there's a special first season dedicated to breakups. You're welcome, my friend.

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