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Summary

In this short reflection episode, I talk about a few key reflections on my recent episode with Aurora Remember. I discuss the importance of understanding yourself, particularly via diagnosis and self-acceptance. The power of authenticity can change our jobs and our relationships. I also highlight her push for us to lean into self-regulation rather than self-control. Lastly, I give my thoughts on why intelligence can't be expected to follow the rules or align with intuition. Check out the full episode (Season 3 - Episode 11) for the complete experience.

Key Points

• Authenticity is risky but rewarding
• We need to quiet the voice that tells us we need to be controlled rather than loved
• Intelligence is complex and not hierarchical

Stay In Touch with Aurora:

• @auroraremember on most platforms (embracing intensity on YouTube and IG)
• Embracing Intensity Podcast - https://embracingintensity.com/media/podcast/
• Aurora's Website - https://embracingintensity.com

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Database of Therapists for Black and other Marginalized Groups: https://link.sheldongayisbugn.com/therapistsformypeople
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/

Keywords

diagnosis, authenticity, self-regulation, self-control, intelligence, neurodiversity, accommodations, mental health, personal growth, belonging

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In this episode, I speak with Aurora Remember, a school psychologist and host of the "Embracing Intensity" podcast. We discuss the concept of neurodivergence, the difference between self-control and self-regulation, burnout and how to recover from it as well as how to improve the school experience for neurodivergent learners, especially twice-exceptional ones and those with disabilities. Aurora shares her personal journey of embracing her intensity and the challenges faced by gifted individuals. We go on to discuss the importance of creatively engaging the brain in learning, the challenges parents face in modern times, and the need for a shift in educational approaches to accommodate diverse learning styles. She also dispels the myth that "higher-level thinking" is hierarchical. Aurora shares insights that apply to everything from schools, friendships and even dating.

Key Points

• Intensity can overwhelm some but it can also be a strength.
• Neurodivergence includes a range of experiences that deviate from the norm.
• Self-regulation is more effective than self-control for managing energy.
• Authenticity is crucial for personal and professional fulfillment.
• Schools often overlook the internal struggles of neurodivergent students.
• Challenging preconceived notions in education can lead to better outcomes.
• Higher-level thinking is not always hierarchical, especially with neurodivergent minds.
• Creative problem-solving is essential for engaging gifted students.
• "Basic" tasks can be difficult for neurodivergent individuals.
• It's important to find joy in everyday tasks.
• Ditching all-or-nothing thinking can lead to better outcomes.

Stay in Contact with Aurora:

• @auroraremember on most platforms (embracing intensity on YouTube and IG)
• Embracing Intensity Podcast - https://embracingintensity.com/media/podcast/
• Aurora's Website - https://embracingintensity.com

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or as your personal gifted or neurodivergent discovery coach!: https://sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free list of Therapists for Melanated and Marginalized Groups: https://sheldongayisbugn.com/#resources
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/resources

Keywords

neurodivergence, burnout recovery, energy management, giftedness, self-regulation, education, authenticity, creativity, school psychology, embracing intensity, neurodiversity, twice-exceptional, education, parenting, learning challenges, self-regulation, higher-level thinking, emotional intelligence, energy balance, communication

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In this short, reflection episode, I talk about a few key reflections on my recent episode with Shakela Strawberry. I discuss the importance of adult's taking responsibility for educating our youth, including neurodivergent children. I speak about how the education industry can be a powerful arm of the oppressive systems we're fighting against. I also discuss the relevancy to recent developments regarding the US Department of Education's attempts to remove DEI initiatives. I also urge us to continue to imagine new educational paradigms that promote freedom and peace for all.

Key Points

• What the adults in schools need for success
• Why we need to pay attention to how our schools are structured
• The impact of the Education Department's "Dear Colleague Letter" defeat regarding DEI

Helpful Links:

• A.D.E. website: www.audacitytodaretoeducate.org
• Follow A.D.E. on Instagram: a_d_e_lab
• A.D.E. on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/audacitytodaretoeducate/
• Email Shakela: shakela@audacitytodaretoeducate.org
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/

Keywords

dear colleague, neurodivergence, advocacy, education, minority youth, parenting, school-to-prison pipeline, accommodations, giftedness, diversity, community

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In this episode, I chat with Shakela Strawberry, a mom, special-education teacher and non-profit founder who is a dedicated advocate for neurodivergent people. Shakela shares her journey from being a mother to an advocate and educator, highlighting the challenges faced by neurodivergent children in the education system. She discusses her nonprofit, A.D.E. (Audacity to Dare to Educate), which empowers neurodivergent folks. We talk about the complexities of mental health, especially as it relates to Black and otherwise melanated youth. She also speaks to the importance of having empathy as a parent and an educator. This leads to discussions such as how depression often manifests as anger in young Black men. Shakela shares alarming statistics about neurodivergence in education and its relationship to juvenile detention. She also discusses the importance of recognizing the strengths of neurodivergent people and the historical context of education for marginalized communities. This is a really good episode for parents, educators and those who felt the school system treated them more like a problem to fix than a human whose needs deserved support.

Key Points

• Neurodivergence is often misunderstood and misrepresented in education.
• Labels can be harmful and do not define a person's abilities.
• Neurodivergent individuals have unique strengths that should be embraced.
• Parents can educate themselves on how to support their neurodivergent children.
• Understanding the root cause of behavior is crucial for effective parenting.
• Community education is essential for understanding neurodivergence.
• Empathy can be cultivated through experiential learning and simulations.
• The school-to-prison pipeline disproportionately affects neurodivergent youth.
• Accommodations like audiobooks can significantly aid learning for neurodivergent students.
• A world where people are free to accept themselves without stigma is crucial to empowering neurodivergent individuals.

Helpful Links:

• A.D.E. website: www.audacitytodaretoeducate.org
• Follow A.D.E. on Instagram: a_d_e_lab
• A.D.E. on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/audacitytodaretoeducate/
• Email Shakela: shakela@audacitytodaretoeducate.org
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/

Keywords

neurodivergence, advocacy, education, dyslexia, special education, creative learning, equity, awareness, empowerment, depression, minority youth, parenting, school-to-prison pipeline, accommodations, giftedness, diversity, community

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In this episode, I speak with Michael Asaku-Yeboah, a vocational therapist and inclusion consultant. This is a DEEP conversation where we discuss things like the importance of understanding one's neurodivergence, what it's like for neurodivergent people in corporate spaces and how he's doing work to help Fortune 100 companies and others create spaces where all minds can thrive. Michael has seen the qualitative and quantitative impacts of his work, repeatedly demonstrating that this work isn't just about feeling good, it can save and earn companies significant amounts of money and other resources. Michael is making an impact not only in the US but also in his home country of Ghana where many of the schools are also suffering from colonized curriculum. This is a conversation about self-discovery and acceptance as well as how companies can avoid unwittingly creating barriers to the very culture and goals they say they desire.

Key Points

• We should be questioning our perceptions of intelligence, i.e. favoring memorization over demonstrated understanding.
• Diagnosis and self-identification of neurodivergence can be life changing
• Neurodivergent individuals often face unique challenges in corporate settings.
• Inclusive education can help change narratives around learning. Neurodivergent individuals can be highly intelligent but may struggle with traditional learning methods.
• Even parents can be unaware that their children may be neurodivergent.
• There's substantial data that demonstrates that supporting neurodivergent people has material financial benefits for companies
• Coaching can help neurodivergent individuals navigate workplace challenges effectively.
• Neurodivergent individuals often contribute significantly to innovation and creativity.
• Intersectionality plays a crucial role in understanding neurodivergent experiences.
• Complex trauma can significantly impact neurodivergent individuals' behaviors.

Helpful Links:

• Connect with Michael Asaku-Yeboah: https://www.linkedin.com/in/maykoi/
• Eisenhower Matrix: https://asana.com/resources/eisenhower-matrix
• NeuroNest (Under Construction as of Feb 2026): https://neurovocafrica.com/neuro/
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/

Keywords

neurodiversity, inclusion, disability management, coaching, education, corporate culture, Ghana, mental health, intersectionality, workplace inclusion, perfectionism, empathy

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In my latest conversation, I get the honor of chatting with David Hester, PhD again. Per usual, we talked about just about EVERYTHING (haha). David shares his thoughts on neuroplasticity (old dogs CAN learn new tricks), the promise and dangers of artificial intelligence and the need for ethical tech, perceptions of neurodivergence that aren't based in deficits and a future where diverse perspectives are valued and integrated into decision-making processes. We also explore the intersection of technology, masculinity, and emotional intelligence. He shares the ways in which he's looking to impact a billion people through his work at LifeGuides, MusingU and more. We simply let our minds and hearts delve into every topic as if there are no boundaries...because there really aren't when you've got a mind like Dave's. The dialogue emphasizes the importance of community, healthy relationships, and the being free of binary thinking, while also addressing the future of humanity in a technologically advanced world.

Key Points:

• Neuroplasticity allows for continuous learning and adaptation.
• We must demand equitable access to technology for all communities.
• Neurodivergent people can possess unique perspectives that can drive innovation.
• Understanding our own narratives can shift perceptions of self.
• Representation of Black men in various spaces is crucial.
• Artificial intelligence is being used to do things like implant ideas in dreams
• Creating inclusive and engaging work environments requires ongoing training.
• Masculinity as a binary isn't a global belief-system

Helpful Links:

• Connect with David Hester, PhD: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhesterjr/
• The Union - Coworking and Collaborating Space (Seattle): https://www.theunion.io/
• Dr. Tracy Marks YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/drtraceymarks

Keywords:

neuroplasticity, neurodivergence, giftedness, organizational growth, representation, equity, technology access, personal growth, societal norms, community, technology, social impact, AI, neuroscience, ethical AI, corporate culture, technology, masculinity, emotional intelligence, gender fluidity, community, relationships

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Summary:

In this episode, I reflect on some of my favorite episodes that are good to review during this time of rest and restoration. Listen to hear how you can help 2026 be a transformative year for me.

Suggested copy for introducing me to your network:

• Hi [Insert Name] — I wanted to put Sheldon Gay on your radar. He’s doing thoughtful and timely work around giftedness, neurodivergence, leadership, and burnout, especially for Black and other traditionally marginalized groups. I immediately thought of your team when I learned he’s available for speaking. Given the challenges many teams are facing right now with regard to inclusion efforts as well as recruiting and retaining top talent, I thought his perspective could be especially helpful. If it’s useful, I’d encourage you to reach out and connect with him directly. Here's his website: sheldongayisbugn.com.

Helpful Links:

• Season 1 Episode 2 "Why Are We BUG'N?": https://open.spotify.com/episode/4suruvJEx1sdqw1kdOEKUz?si=zL8mWVCpScWUjPcLW5n8Eg
• Season 3 Episode 2 "Why Anger is Necessary for Joy": https://open.spotify.com/episode/1OCMXHZWRC2iOsau77e3Jv?si=i01SJ3yQTmWUP_goL_kZXQ
• Season 3 Episode 1 "Is it a Neurodivergent Excuse or Reason?": https://open.spotify.com/episode/0lOLLlDt2JzivxUie0o3gn?si=t0BXb7XpQri7_3t3TjnrKQ
• Season 2 Episode 11 "It Must Be My MEgo": https://open.spotify.com/episode/1CoIkccfPzeLfxaLkZ6L1S?si=mPDBBV5jTW6d26uaAleXhg
• Season 3 Episode 3 "Mom...I'm Autistic": https://open.spotify.com/episode/7C8HTURxc6bL0eiVOY2DTJ?si=FFc7FGPCRRiLbarRpfbaVg
• Season 2 Episode 7 "It Must Be Good Grief": https://open.spotify.com/episode/6HAw4IM2SWSPlEgnQTzUYJ?si=61d3b4ef53084e4e
• Cosmic Cheer Squad Guest Interview "Compassionate Mirrors": https://open.spotify.com/episode/5WV81qYuymV9wVTyZ5UT8g?si=QgPSG3ZkTv-D0BHs29jD8Q
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link

Keywords: podcast, reflection, support, neurodivergent, community, personal growth, Black men, mental health, grief, joy

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In this episode, I speak with Dr. Jeff, an expert helping people with ADHD transform their lives, especially in the workplace. We discussed Dr. Jeff's personal journey with ADHD, the challenges he faced, and how he developed a system to help others harness their ADHD. He tells us about being saved from wandering into the street, teaching himself to code, how Adderall was helpful until he had a heart attack and couldn't take it anymore and much more. Dr. Jeff helps us see how humor can bring peace with our journey.

Key Points:

• ADHD doesn't have to be viewed as a deficit
• How accountability can help change habits and achieve goals.
• Self-compassion is key; failure is not a reflection of one's worth.
• Mindset shifts can transform one's approach to challenges.
• Community support enhances personal growth and accountability. Understanding ADHD can lead to better career choices.
• Living with uncertainty can heighten adrenaline and dopamine levels.
• Being able to laugh at life can help us find a way through
• Creating supportive environments can enhance productivity.

Helpful Links:

• Email Dr. Jeff: Drjeff@Drgetinfocus.com
• Schedule a call with Dr. Jeff: https://drgetinfocus.com/schedule-page (for clarity Kick-start session)
• Video about study demonstrating racial disparity in hiring: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DG1grIqvz_N/
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link

Keywords: ADHD, neurodivergence, superpower, productivity, accountability, mindset, personal growth, mental health, self-awareness, Schlemiel

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In this episode, we speak with Ayanna Sanaa Davis, an award-winning autism advocate, discussing her unique journey as a Black autistic woman. She shares about her misdiagnosis where she was erroneously institutionalized as well as how art has given her a voice, even when she hasn't wanted to verbalize. She even shares about the time she experienced physical violence in the classroom because someone lacked compassion for her neurodivergence. We explore the importance of representation, the journey to diagnosis, the impact of race on autism, and the cultural aspects of neurodivergence. The conversation emphasizes the need for empathy and understanding in a world that often overlooks the unique experiences of neurodivergent individuals.

Key Points:

• Neurodivergent advocacy is evolving beyond just accommodations.
• Art is a beautiful outlet for expressing emotions and thoughts.
• Representation is crucial for Black autistic individuals, especially young ones.
• Being undiagnosed can lead to a lifelong search for identity.
• Cultural aspects significantly influence the experience of autism.
• Autistic burnout is distinct and can have lasting effects.
• Community support is essential for neurodivergent individuals.
• Empathy is needed to understand the challenges faced by neurodivergent people.
• Race plays a critical role in the experiences of autistic individuals.
• Education on neurodivergence should include cultural competence.

Helpful Links:

• Follow Ayanna across ALL social platforms at @phenomenallyautistic
• Connect with Ayanna and all her projects: https://linktr.ee/Phenomenallyautistic
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link

Keywords: neurodivergence, autism, representation, black community, art, healing, social justice, advocacy, mental health, cultural aspects, bipolar

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In this episode, I had the pleasure of speaking with Janelle Johnson, LMFT-S, a licensed marriage and family therapist, as well as a neurodiversity and disability advocate. We had a good ole time discussing the future of intersectional neurodivergent advocacy, especially as it relates to race and gender. Janelle shared a POWERFUL personal story about her own self-diagnosis. Janelle shared about her critically important research and her vision for a future where neurodivergent leaders are prominent in various sectors, advocating for equity and representation. We also discussed the importance of self-reflections, especially as it relates to our own internalized ableism. We also discuss some of the challenges neurodivergent folks face in therapy, as well as some helpful tips for identifying the right therapist for you. Janelle also shared some truly striking stats from her research as it relates to what the true "face of autism" looks like now and in the future. She is an amazing thought-leader in this space and I'm super excited for you to listen to our discussion.

Key Points:

• Neurodivergent advocacy is evolving beyond just accommodations.
• You can't speak about neurodivergence or disability without talking about race and gender.
• Self-diagnosis is valid and can be a powerful realization.
• Beatboxing can be a form of stimming for some individuals.
• Therapists need to understand the cultural context of their clients.
• Emerging data shows disparities in autism diagnoses among racial groups.
• Neurodiversity should be rethought beyond traditional labels.
• The future should include more neurodivergent leaders in various fields.
• Community is enough and has always been enough.
• Challenging internalized ableism is crucial for personal growth.
• Embracing one's identity can lead to joy and fulfillment.
• Nuance and intersectionality are vital in understanding diverse experiences.

Helpful Links:

• Janelle's Mental Health Practice - Bridges Family Life Center: http://www.bridgesflc.com/
• Take the neurodivergent research survey, and share with your networks! https://ncsu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_3yOrtajDF32kG8e
• Malcolm X quote on Black women: https://speakola.com/political/malcolm-x-speech-to-black-women-1962
• Neurodivergent Therapist Database: https://ndtherapists.com/
• Hire me to speak or as your personal coach! sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link

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In this episode, I delve into the complexities of anger, highlighting a number of ways that its presence is a pathway to healthier relationships. I discuss the importance of investigating anger rather than suppressing it and, furthermore, how societal norms, especially those dictated by systems of oppression, create extra burdens for melanated and marginalized people. I also share how anger helped me discover I was gifted and how it can help you understand your mind as well. I then provide actionable steps for harnessing your anger constructively to transform your life and community.

Key Points:

• Acknowledging anger is essential for manifesting joy.
• Understanding emotions is crucial for personal growth.
• Safety in relationships starts with Self.
• Healthy relationships require the ability to express anger constructively.
• Investigating anger can reveal deeper traumas and needs.
• We must create safe spaces for all emotions, including anger.

Helpful Links:

• Josh Johnson uses humor to discuss anger
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!: sheldongayisbugn.com
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link

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In this episode, I explore and explain something that can be a bit confusing, the difference between excuses and reasons. Many of us have seen this come up in our neurodivergent communities. It seems we run into challenges when sharing our intent and thought process. It's frustrating because we want to improve and maintain our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, I help you understand how radical accountability and prioritizing connection can foster healthier relationships.

Key Points:

* Radical accountability involves taking ownership of one's actions and their impact.

* Healthy relationships require prioritizing connection over being right.

* Modeling healthy behavior can help others learn how to communicate effectively.

* Being an elite apologizer means acknowledging impact first, then intent.

* Personal growth involves recognizing our own triggers and patterns.

Helpful Links:

* Hire me to speak or buy some merch!: sheldongayisbugn.com

* Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults: https://groupme.com/join_group/108040800/igLaxqNG

* ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people: ndconnect.app

* Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy: https://umbrellaopensdoors.org/

* Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights: https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSelanG1R71TcGjzHIyVW1f8fkE7MaWx-D2j7OtHsIGrdQhi_Q/viewform?usp=sf_link

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In this episode, I have a powerful conversation with Reverend Nicholas Young about the intersections of faith, mental health, and the unique challenges faced by gifted and otherwise neurodivergent people. We touch on the importance of community, the role of grief in both ministry and therapy, and how to continue to center love and connection in a world filled with so many challenges. We also talk about the importance of working with Black boys to give them the things we wish we had as children. This is an important discussion for our community. Please connect with Nick and let me know what you think about this conversation!

Key Points:

• The intersection of faith and mental health is crucial for holistic healing.
• Grief work is a significant part of both ministry and therapy.
• Community plays a vital role in combating loneliness, especially for gifted individuals.
• Creating safe spaces for Black boys is essential for their emotional well-being.
• Love and connection are fundamental to overcoming life's challenges.
• Gifted individuals may feel isolated and misunderstood in traditional settings.
• It's important to honor each person's unique experiences and needs.
• Therapists and ministers should work together to provide comprehensive support.

Connect with Rev. Nicholas Young on socials at @nickyoungslife

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Free GroupMe Community for Talented and Gifted adults
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I explore the concept of being a mirror in relationships and how we can learn emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and personal growth. I delve into how our interactions with others can serve as mirrors, revealing lessons about ourselves. I discuss leveraging boundaries, the role of triggers in emotional responses, and the necessity of compassion for oneself and others. We talk a little James Baldwin and Rumi. This episode is about how we take more control of how we feel about our lives, spend less time bound by what happens around us and, ultimately, create amazing relationships that have more compassion, joy and safety.

Key Points:

• Why being a mirror is critical to our best relationships
• Love involves magnifying each other's strengths and light
• How triggers reveal unresolved feelings from our past and a meaningful path forward
• Using self-reflection as a powerful tool for personal growth
• Why boundaries are essential for protecting our emotional well-being
• Why validating our emotions as valid can serve as a guide for self-discovery
• Increasing our awareness of times when people are projecting their insecurities onto us
• How investigating our own perceptions can lead to healthier relationships

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella ND - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I discuss the recent proposal by RFK Jr. to create a database of autistic individuals, expressing deep concern over the implications of such a move. He emphasizes the importance of community, advocacy, and understanding the complexities surrounding autism and neurodivergence. Sheldon calls for collective action against systemic oppression and misinformation, urging listeners to remain vocal and supportive of marginalized communities.

Key Points:

• The proposal to create a national database tracking autistic people is extremely problematic
• I acknowledge my privilege in choosing a neurodivergent label with less stigma
• The increase in autism diagnoses is due to better awareness, not an epidemic.
• This should be yet another reason we start taking data-privacy more seriously
• The narrative around autism needs to be more inclusive and expansive

Helpful Links:

• What You Need to Know About the New Autism Data Registry
• 2019 Study on ADHD Rates by Race/Ethnic Group
• Background of Lebensborn
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I take my time really digging into the concept of ego, exploring its role in self-awareness and personal identity. I discuss the importance of understanding the ego as both a source of strength and a potential obstacle. I briefly discuss Freud while leaning much more heavily on the thoughts of Mooji and my own thoughts about how we conceptualize our Self.

I talk a bit about psychological theories and then continue my journey by discussing the nature of consciousness, identity, and the transient nature of our experiences. I really go into the complexities of identity, authenticity, and the role of ego in shaping our self-perception. I also make sure to frame this from a neurodivergent perspective, since that significantly shapes how we see and interact with the world. At the end of the day, this is a deep and complex conversation about how to become truly aware of our true Selves so that we can not just survive but thrive through the connections we foster from a truly authentic and unmovable place that isn't bound by current or past circumstances.

Key Points:

• We are not our bodies or minds; they are vessels and lenses through which we experience Life.
• Ego can manifest as both strength and obstacle.
• Self-acceptance is crucial as we navigate change.
• We must challenge our perceptions of Self.
• Connection is fundamental to our existence and well-being.
• We often see others through the lens of our own experiences.
• Shame and guilt can prevent personal growth and acceptance.
• We are all interconnected, and our experiences shape our identities.

Helpful Links:

• Mooji on "What is Ego?"
• Annaka Harris discusses the illusion of self and free will
• Audre Lorde - "Learning from the '60s"
• "Ego Tripping" by Nikki Giovanni
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I reflect on some things we need to leave in 2024 and some key things we need to make sure we're honing in on for 2025. I discuss things like patriarchy, the importance of internal validation, and the need for authentic community connections. How healthy boundaries and the power of imagination in creating new ways of being change our future? Join me as I think critically about our roles in perpetuating and dismantling oppressive systems while embracing our own power and authenticity moving forward into the new year.

Key Points:

• Why we must name patriarchy and accept that it harms and is perpetuated by more than "men"
• Healthy boundaries are true game-changers for life
• Imagining new ways of being can truly be an act of resistance and disrupt systems of oppression

Helpful Links:

• Lecrae interviews Jason Wilson
• Adam Grant interviews Loretta J. Ross
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this previously recorded episode, I speak with Dr. Matt Zakreski, a clinical psychologist specializing in neurodivergence and giftedness. We explore the complexities of being neurodivergent, the importance of self-discovery, and the need for supportive environments for gifted individuals. Dr. Matt shares his personal experiences as someone who was identified as gifted early but had to wait several years to be diagnosed with ADHD. The discussion highlights the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals and the necessity of creating inclusive spaces that recognize and nurture diverse talents. We also discuss the significance of DEI work, the need for community and connection, and the role of self-awareness in navigating systemic issues that impact us all. This is a great start to our discussion that we will pick up again in the new year. Take a listen and check out Dr. Matt's book via the link below as well.

Stay in contact with Dr. Matt:

• Dr. Matt on Instagram
• Dr. Matt's website

Helpful Links:

• Grab Dr. Matt's Book!
• Hire me to speak or buy some merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Summary:

In this episode, I explore the complex nature of grief through personal experiences I've encountered over the past year or so. I reflect on the multiple deaths/transitions that led me to this point in my journey. I discuss the death of our cat, my grandmother, the challenge of ending a long-term marriage as well as the death of Self. Through these stories, I outline griefs as an integral part of love and personal growth. It's likely my most personal episode to date.

Key Points:

• Grief is part of love
• The loss of a pet is not something to be overlooked
• Being present during a loved one's transition is a deep act of love.
• The end of a marriage is a special kind of grief.
• The death of Self requires powerful internal work and ongoing challenges
• Grief is not something to be avoided; it can be a teacher.

Helpful Links:

• Hire me to speak or buy some merch! - HOLIDAY 2024 SALE use code "SKULLGERBIL"
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online community for neurodivergent people
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I reflect on the emotional aftermath of the recent elections in the United States. I acknowledge the real and healthy grief many of us are experiencing. I spoke off the cuff and without any notes or quotes or prepared thoughts, just my heart. I give the briefest glimpse into why this goes much deeper than whether "my team won". I also mention how it caused me to further reflect on the grief from deaths, divorce and more in the past year or so. I emphasize why and how we should process grief as a natural part of love and connection. Whether or not you listen to the episode, I urge you to seek community and not face this journey in isolation.

Key Takeaways:

• Today has been tough for many, especially marginalized communities.
• The US political system is often inhumane and unjust.
• Grief is a natural response to love and loss.
• Processing grief is essential for mental health.
• Community support is crucial during difficult times.
• It's important to make peace with our attachments.
• Isolation can exacerbate feelings of grief and despair.
• Finding community can help in navigating grief and identity.

Helpful Links:

• Support the podcast by buying "I Must Be BUG'N" merch!
• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds - Use code "Sheldon"
• Dr. Mick - Licensed Therapist who shares knowledge while gaming
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Today we're welcoming back friend of the podcast, Dr. Kimberly Douglass. We're catching up with her and speaking more in-depth about what it means to, as she says, "Decolonize Neurodivergence" as well as why it's so important. Per usual, we just vibe and share our thoughts about how systems of oppression create unnecessary and harmful conditions we must work to free ourselves from, especially melanted and marginalized communities. Dr. Kimberly also discusses her program for women that helps them tackle this problem in their lives.

Key Takeaways:

• How "Gifted and Talented" programs often fail students by creating a sense of exceptionalism while neglecting their human needs.
• Why we need to continue the pursuit of community-centered support rather than individualism.
• Recognizing and challenging oppressive systems is crucial in reshaping familial and societal dynamics.
• Futurism should focus on redefining relationships and include marginalized voices in shaping the future.
• Self-reflection and healing are crucial in the process of decolonization.

Connect with Dr. Kimberly Douglass:

• Decolonizing Neurodivergence Program for Women
• douglass@drkimberlydouglass.com
• drkimberlydouglass.com

Helpful Links:

• Wait, Could I Be Gifted? The "Quiz"
• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• ND Connect - Online Neuro-inclusive Community
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Join me for my first guest/collaboriation episode where I was interviewed by Arash Zaghi of the "Square Pegs" podcast. This is one of my favorite episdoes because Arash's vision is very much aligned with mine.

I share my journey as a neurodivergent person, reflecting on childhood experiences, educational challenges, and the importance of advocacy. I discuss how my unique learning needs were often misunderstood, highlighting the critical role of supportive environments and the value of diverse thinking in STEM fields. We also discuss the intersectionality of being Black, gifted, and neurodivergent, addressing systemic biases and the importance of community and self-acceptance. Our discussion emphasizes the need for educational reform to better accommodate non-traditional learners and calls for a holistic approach to learning that recognizes and nurtures diverse cognitive abilities. 

Square Pegs Podcast is a series of intimate conversations about navigating life and learning within the neurodiverse community, hosted by Dr. Arash Zaghi, Professor at the University of Connecticut School of Engineering. In each episode, we talk to neurodiverse students and experts in the field of neurodiversity. 

Episode Highlights:

00:42 Meet Sheldon Gay: host of "I Must Be BUG'N" podcast 

02:18 Sheldon's early school experiences 

05:37 Discovering a passion for math and science 

07:53 Divergent thinking and early academic challenges 

11:10 The impact of real-world applications in education 

15:42 Challenges in traditional education systems 

27:41 The evolution of cognitive skills 

28:24 Embracing uniquely brilliant minds 

29:43 Changing systems to fit diverse minds 

30:27 Choosing an MBA over engineering 

32:18 Innovative projects and missed opportunities 

33:39 Starting the "I Must Be BUG’N" podcast 

34:42 Challenges of being neurodivergent in marginalized communities 

38:08 The importance of diagnosis and acceptance 

47:07 Creating a supportive community 

53:15 Advice to younger self 

Helpful Links:

• Wait, Could I Be Gifted? The "Quiz"
• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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We're back with the conclusion of our latest episode where I talk with the amazing LaToya Hinton, PhD. She is a late-identified AuDHDer who's gifted. LaToya is a mixed methods researcher, data nerd, python programmer and advocate for neurodivergent women leaders. She had so much to share about her experience of seld-discovery, how her relationship with her parents may have impacted her neurodivergent journey and the need for understanding, acceptance, and support for neurodivergent individuals in leadership roles.

Key Takeaways:

• Why self-discovery and self-acceptance are critical, especially for marginalized communities
• Societal expectations can limit the authentic expression of people's humanity
• How inclusive and accessible work environments are crucial for neurodivergent individuals
• The intersectionality of neurodivergence and race should be considered in discussions of diversity and inclusion

Information Mentioned in this Episode:

• LaToya on LinkedIn
• Neurodivergent Women Leaders: Creative Mentorship and Support
• Tecessibility Website

Helpful Links:

• Wait, Could I Be Gifted? The "Quiz"
• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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We're back with a new episode where I talk with the amazing LaToya Hinton, PhD. She is a late-identified AuDHDer who's gifted. LaToya is a mixed methods researcher, data nerd, python programmer and advocate for neurodivergent women leaders. She had so much to share about her experience of seld-discovery, how her relationship with her parents may have impacted her neurodivergent journey and the need for understanding, acceptance, and support for neurodivergent individuals in leadership roles.

Key Takeaways:

• Late diagnosis of neurodivergence can be challenging but also life-changing in a positive way.
• Being curious about lived-experience can completely change relationships
• Creating safe spaces and providing resources and support is crucial for neurodivergent individuals, particularly in the workplace.

Information Mentioned in this Episode:

• LaToya on LinkedIn
• Neurodivergent Women Leaders: Creative Mentorship and Support
• Tecessibility Website

Helpful Links:

• Wait, Could I Be Gifted? The "Quiz"
• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Ok, the self-awareness episode is HERE....finally. This is something I've been chewing on for MONTHS but I finally found time and space to start breaking down my thoughts. This first episode covers a lot of ground but is really just about the basics.

I attempt to share my thoughts on:

1. Why should want to look in the mirror
2. What self-reflection is
3. How we know we need to look in the mirror
4. Why it even matters and
5. What the drawbacks are

I share a few visual examples so you can either watch this on YouTube or use the links below. This is a really important discussion that we'll be having throughout this Season. I hope you enjoy. Let me know in the comments and please SHARE!

Links Reference in the episode:

• Self-Awareness Presentation
• Different Perspectives Video
• A Guide to Shadow Work
• Cold Doesn't Exist
• Jerry Colonna Speaking about Radical Self-Inquiry
• Mooji - Observing Ego vs Ultimate Observing

Helpful Links:

• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode I spoke with Shea Belsky who is the Chief Technology Officer for Mentra, a hiring platform for neurodivergent job seekers. We talked about the impact of more people receiving a diagnosis or even self-identifying as neurodivergent. Shea shares his experience as someone who was diagnosed with autism early in life and how it colors his career and even his recent marriage. He tells us about the work they're doing at Mentra to empower neurodivergent job-seekers to advocate for themselves in ways they may not have felt comfortable or been aware of. They also work to challenge companies on how they're creating neuro-inclusive environments that not only will hire but retain people of diverse neurotypes. We have an encouraging conversation around the future of hiring. Check out the latest episode and let us know what you learned!

Connect with Shea Belsky:

• https://www.linkedin.com/in/sheabelsky
• https://www.instagram.com/sheabelsky
• https://sheabelsky.com

Helpful Links:

• Mentra - A Neurodiversity Employment Network
• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Welcome to Season 2! In this episode we start out STRONG. I had the honor of having a discussion with Angela Davis aka the Kitchenista. She allowed me to create a safe space to discuss her journey of neurodivergent discovery. She shares her thoughts on going from being misdiagnosed when she was younger (all too common for Black women) while feeling it wasn't a perfect fit and ultimately finding clarity through ADHD and autism identification. Angela has built a very successful brand online showcasing her amazing recipes and cooking skills. She's a self-taught culinary virtuoso on a mission to empower home cooks. Listen as she reflects on her experiences growing up and how those insights inform her self-awareness and healing as an adult. We discuss how difficult it can be feeling no one else understands your experience while also having a very public an established persona. Now that she's making meaningful shifts in her life and feeling more empowered to communicate with and choose HER people, we talk a bit about what that looks like. Ultimately, this episode is an emotional exploration of the early-stages of neurodivergent discovery and acceptance. I'm just SO glad that allowed me to create a container for her to vulnerably and accessibly share her story.

Chapters

• 00:00 Introduction to Angela Davis, the Kitchenista
• 09:51 Discovering Neurodivergence and Embracing Creativity
• 25:56 Navigating Burnout and Mental Health
• 46:04 Recognizing and Understanding Neurodivergence
• 53:46 The Power of Community
• 01:01:35 Awareness and Ableism
• 01:09:39 Navigating Communication and Participation
• 01:17:48 Finding Supportive Friends

Connect with Angela Davis - The Kitchenista:

• https://patreon.com/kitchenista
• @thekitchenista on Instagram

Helpful Links:

• SuperNova Momma Discusses Culturally Relevant Stimming
• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In the final episode of my first Season, I interview Kaitlin Smith, MSW, Founder of Our Wild Minds. We talk about her work creating an amazing community for gifted BIPOC adults. Kaitlin shares her story, including the challenges of facing racism, sexism and mysogyny that created a significant misalignment with colleagues within her preparations to become a psychotherapist. She talks about how these factors influenced her decision to move away from psychotherapy and into the work she's currently pursuing that has even further implications for communities she cares about.

This is an in-depth conversation that covers many areas, including how acorns can help us fight systems of oppession and bring us closer to Octavia Butler. We also talk about topics like the power of recognizing our place within the ecosystem as more than "apex predator". In this conversation, we challenge stereotypes and shift perspectives, discuss discovering a connection to nature, investigate the power of possibility and wonder, as well as the importance of building capacity for giftedness and other neurodivergent experiences.

Key Topics:

• The impact of racism, sexism and misogyny in the field of psychotherapy
• Addressing internalized racism and assumptions is crucial for creating inclusive spaces for gifted individuals and the broader society
• The benefits of connecting with nature, including access to holistic and affordable food and medicine
• How embracing possibility and wonder can lead to personal growth and the pursuit of ambitious goals, but it may also present challenges in a world that often values conformity.

Connect with Kaitlin Smith:

• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ourwildminds/
• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/our.wildminds/
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/kaitlinsm1th
• Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kaitlinnoelsmith/

Helpful Links:

• Community for Black/BIPOC Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Brilliant Article "Acorns and Octavia" by Kaitlin Smith
• "What the Robin Knows" book by Jon Young
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I have a wonderful conversation with Sydney Elaine Butler, an HR professional and Founder of Accessible Creates. We discuss the importance of centering neurodivergent voices and experiences, as well as Sydney's personal journey and understanding of neurodiversity. Sydney shares insights on improving internal HR practices and workplace accessibility, particularly for women. Sydney also highlights the importance of avoiding misconceptions about neurodivergence when providing accommodations, as well as the need for individualized approaches. We talk about the importance of continuous learning and being open to making mistakes as part of the journey towards inclusivity.

Key Topics:

• Centering neurodivergent voices and experiences is crucial for creating inclusive and accessible workplaces.
• Understanding and embracing one's multiple identities is essential for personal growth and authenticity.
• Improving internal HR practices and workplace accessibility is vital for supporting neurodivergent individuals.
• Women in the workplace often face unique challenges and need support and understanding.
• Balancing personal and professional growth is important for overall well-being and success. Advancements in technology, such as AI and software tools, can improve accessibility and accommodations in the workplace.
• Avoid assuming what accommodations individuals need and instead listen to their specific needs.
• Creating safe and inclusive spaces requires continuous learning, embracing neurodivergent differences, and being open to making mistakes.
• Individuals should be patient and compassionate with themselves, understanding that their experiences and needs may differ.

Connect with Sydney:

• linktr.ee/sydneyelainebutler - this has all their social links

Helpful Links:

• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In this episode, I speak with Dr. Kimberly Douglass, a coach and consultant to neurodivergent adults who also identifies as AuDHD. Dr. Douglass delves into the concept of decolonizing neurodivergence. We talk about how refusing homework for her son helps her push back against the systems that seek to determine our societal outcomes. She shares why genuine curiosity, grace, and connection in supporting neurodivergent individuals is critical. I also learned about how she helps neurodivergent people, especially creatives, unlock their potential and make progress where they've felt stuck. At the core of this discussion is emphasizing the importance of seeing individuals as whole persons and creating space for self-discovery and acceptance.

Key Topics:

• Decolonizing neurodivergence is about challenging the ideas that seek to forget the individual and see us only as commodities
• Current diagnostic criteria and support systems are often based on research conducted on white boys, which leads to a lack of understanding and support for individuals from marginalized communities.
• Making sure your message reaches the people who need to hear it, and that won't include everyone.
• How Black and marginalized individuals often face stereotypes and surveillance, which can overshadow our needs and lead to misinterpretation of our behavior.
• Creating space for self-discovery and acceptance and how that's key to neurodivergent healing and thriving.

Connect with Dr. Douglass:

• douglass@drkimberlydouglass.com
• drkimberlydouglass.com

Helpful Links:

• Community for Black Gifted Adults - Our Wild Minds
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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On this episode I chat with my good friend, Dr. Patty Williams, a trauma therapist and advocate for the gifted and neurodivergent community. Dr. Patty shares her personal journey as a 2E child and now therapist. I speak with Dr. Patty about her upcoming book, healing gifted trauma and how we heal. She also discusses the Bloomers group, a Facebook community for gifted and twice exceptional adults. It's a great conversation that I've been looking forward to sharing with you all for awhile.

Key Topics

• The challenges with identifying and supporting gifted and 2E people, especially when their giftedness masks other needs or conditions.
• Why imposter syndrome can be common among gifted individuals, leading them to question their expertise and belonging in their field.
• Why she wants to move away from the term "asynchronous development"
• The importance of safe and inclusive community, such as the Bloomers group
• More

Connect with Dr. Patty:

• https://brightinsight.support/about.html
• brightinsightadvocate@gmail.com

Helpful Links:

• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Umbrella US - Non-profit focused on neurodivergent advocacy
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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In Part 2 of my conversation with Dr. Dave Hester, we discuss the importance of challenging our perspectives by not identifying with them, self-acceptance and compassion, rejection sensitivity and emotional permanance, Rumi and more.

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• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/davidhesterjr

Helpful Links:

• LifeGuides Website
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• ND Connect - online community for neurodivergent people
• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Dr. Dave Hester is a Vice-President at LifeGuides, tech-innovator, speaker, psychologist, transformational leader with a goal of improving the wellbeing of 1 billion human lives.

In Part 1 of my conversation with Dr. Dave Hester, we discuss his background, whether his family supported his neurodivergent journey, how LifeGuides aligned with his personal mission and how it's transforming workplaces as well as other neurodivergent curiosities about how life works.

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• LifeGuides Website
• Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
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• Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
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Today I was absolutely HONORED for my first guest to be Dr. Joy Lawson Davis, the award-winning author and preeminent advocate for Black and marginalized gifted students.

Dr. Davis' most recent books include "Bright Talented & Black: A guide for Families of Black gifted learners 2.0”; “Empowering Underrepresented Gifted Students: Perspectives from the Field” and “Culturally Responsive Teaching in Gifted Education: Building Cultural Competence and Serving Diverse populations”.

Our amazing discussion includes:

• Her experience as a Black gifted child
• The resistance she experienced in doing her work as a Black woman
• How we can identify gifted students and more

Connect with Dr. Davis:

• Email: profjoy1022@gmail.com
• Website: https://drjoylawsondavis.com/
• Twitter/X: @davis_joy

NOTE: I apologize sincerely for the background noise. They say the library is a quiet place but I can assure you that is not always true (haha).

Helpful Links:

• The G-Word Film
• Link to Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Link to ND Connect - online community for neurodivergent people
• Link to Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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This episode is a QUICK check-in to let you all know where I've been and a few of the exciting things coming soon. Join me for this quick insight and feel free to catch-up on previous episodes you may have missed. I hope everyone is doing AMAZING and has at least one person that can help them feel seen and heard.

Lots of things, including GUEST episodes coming soon * insert looking eyes emoji *

Helpful Links:

• "If I Let Go, Will Everything Be Okay?" - Sadhguru video (~11mins)
• Link to Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• TikTok list of neurodivergent-focused apps
• Link to ND Connect - online community for neurodivergent people
• Link to Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Join me as I discuss many of the reasons the holidays aren't as pleasant for us as they are for others.

I also share some helpful tips for making this holiday season better, regardless of what you may have experienced in the past.

TO AVOID THE DISCUSSION OF PAST TRAUMAS, SKIP TO THE 20 MIN MARK

Helpful Links:

• link to Facebook virtual Thanksgiving info
• TikTok list of neurodivergent-focused apps
• Link to ND Connect - online community for neurodivergent people
• Link to Bloomers Gifted and 2E Facebook Group
• Link to Neurodivergent Sanctuary Facebook Group
• Link to “I” vs “You” statements from Sadaf Siddiqi on IG
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights

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Forgive me for ANY background audio issues. I appreciate your patience while I work to improve it.

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As they say, none of us is free until we're all free and we can't be free if we're held to neuronormative standards.

Helfpul Links:

• Dabrowski's Overexcitabilities
• Overexcitabilities and Highly Gifted People
• Submit your Questions or Misunderstood Insights
• Multi-Exceptionality and Asynchronous Development
• Bloomers: Gifted and 2e Adults (Facebook Group)

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We mask because we're afraid of being hurt or abandoned. We get so fixated on the mask and getting people to accept and respect our "normalcy" that we lose sight of who we are and want to be. However, the truth is that the point at which we can let go of those expectations we give ourselves the most safety and freedom.

I talk a bit about this and give some good examples. I'd love to hear your thoughts after you've taken a listen...

Helpful Links:

• Tweet about young people not hating math
• Tweet thread about how to use redirection phrases
• How we should affirm children beyond saying "they're smart"
• Page Turner's post about letting go of the embarrassment of being human
• What is dyscalculia?

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I speak to things like:

• How the mentality that "a child should stay in a child's place" is problematic
• The consequences of not talking about the "touched" family member
• How Black feminist insights help identify the root of the structures that keep us stuck
• Why some of the things meant to keep Black (and IPOC) people safe can be traumatic for neurodivergent people
• And more (smile)

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Here are some supporting resources for this discussion:

• The Neurodiversity Podcast - Low-Demand Parenting: Bridging Divisions, Fostering Trust
• Look Harder for Gifted Children of Color: They are Everywhere! (mentions Dr. Jenkins' work)
• We are Gifted 2 - check out the work of Dr. Joy Lawson Davis who continues the legacy of Dr. Jenkins
• Where is the outrage about the pipeline to prison for gifted students?
• How some of America’s most gifted kids wind up in prison
• ADHD, Autism, Giftedness Venn Diagram

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P.S. in this episode where I use the word "weakness", I'm referring to perceived weakness rather than a defined one.

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