60 acast.com How Not to Screw Up Your Kids https://drmaryhan.com/ en Dr Maryhan Parenting,wellbeing, mental health,anxiety,confidence Dr Maryhan Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.


Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.


The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.


The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.


We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!


This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...


We'd love to hear from you!


We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB

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]]> Hello, I'm psychologist and parenting expert Dr Maryhan and this is How Not To Screw Up Your Kids, the podcast for parents, grandparents, educators, and anyone else who wants to be part of a movement to raise confident children who grow up believing in themselves.


Follow now for twice weekly episodes - on Monday's you'll find shorter Bucket Emptying episodes, with longer episodes each Thursday.


The greatest gift we can give our children is self-belief. It will get them further in life than any qualification and is absolutely possible for each and every child; we just need the right information and support around us to teach them.


The old saying ‘it takes a village to raise a child” couldn’t be more true than now. Parenting has got a whole lot harder; not just because we are busier than ever but because our children are growing up in an ever changing, fast-paced world, which is so different to the one we grew up in. Our children have more pressure to be better, look better, do better, and in a world where lives are so publicly scrutinised and commented on through social media it’s really no wonder we’re seeing mental health problems sky rocketing amongst children, teens, and young adults. What you can expect from this podcast are honest conversations about parenting.


We’ll talk confidence resilience, anxiety, managing tech, and all the topics you’d expect as well blowing the lid off the widely help misconception that children are innately resilient. They’re not!


This podcast is for people who want to get real about parenting. You understand it can get messy sometimes and aren’t afraid to admit it. I have had more than my fair share of messy and I will no doubt share these with you along the way. I won’t dress things up but I will always give you something practical to take away and use in each and every episode. My guests and experts will be real people who have overcome their own adversities and bring with them a message to us as parents, as well as inspiring stories.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation...


We'd love to hear from you!


We want to hear what you love and what you don't love about the podcast, so we can keep making it better: https://podcastsurvey.typeform.com/to/SEyYrxGB

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> false Dr Maryhan contact@drmaryhan.com 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids https://feeds.captivate.fm/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids-dr-maryhan/ episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/66756955a4ecc30012453c07/show-cover.jpg https://drmaryhan.com/ How Not to Screw Up Your Kids https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/66756955a4ecc30012453c07 What I Know for Sure About Raising Confident Kids What I Know for Sure About Raising Confident Kids Wed, 15 Apr 2026 23:30:00 GMT 33:28 69e00934501ebe6715c1cb02 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/what-i-know-for-sure-about-raising-confident-kids 69e00934501ebe6715c1cb02 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 what-i-know-for-sure-about-raising-confident-kids full Today is my birthday, and it’s become a tradition of mine to reflect on life and what I’ve learned. So this year I’m reflecting in public, on the podcast with you.


I am going to share my top ten parenting lessons, drawn from my own experience, about how to raise confident children.


My two children are adults now, and I like to think I’ve learnt a lot over the years. I’ve gotten things right, and I’ve certainly gotten things wrong - we’re only human!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:13 - A birthday wish

03:44 - Parents to adult children

06:54 - Meal time is family time

08:55 - A roast dinner goes a long way

11:47 - Value systems are for life

15:19 - This too shall pass

18:36 - People pleasing

22:27 - Comparison through a softer lens

26:21 - Humans are complicated

28:51 - Don’t take yourself too seriously



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Today is my birthday, and it’s become a tradition of mine to reflect on life and what I’ve learned. So this year I’m reflecting in public, on the podcast with you.


I am going to share my top ten parenting lessons, drawn from my own experience, about how to raise confident children.


My two children are adults now, and I like to think I’ve learnt a lot over the years. I’ve gotten things right, and I’ve certainly gotten things wrong - we’re only human!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:13 - A birthday wish

03:44 - Parents to adult children

06:54 - Meal time is family time

08:55 - A roast dinner goes a long way

11:47 - Value systems are for life

15:19 - This too shall pass

18:36 - People pleasing

22:27 - Comparison through a softer lens

26:21 - Humans are complicated

28:51 - Don’t take yourself too seriously



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> 5 Powerful Reflection Questions to Build Confidence in Children 5 Powerful Reflection Questions to Build Confidence in Children Sun, 12 Apr 2026 23:30:00 GMT 14:30 69dc010179a641a1f3eebebb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/5-powerful-reflection-questions-to-build-confidence-in-child 69dc010179a641a1f3eebebb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 5-powerful-reflection-questions-to-build-confidence-in-child full I talk a lot about confidence, because it’s super important, and it’s something we all struggle with - yes, even us parents!


But a lack of confidence can manifest in so many different ways, it can be really tricky knowing how to spot the signs in our kids and support them through it.


So in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m giving you a cheat sheet, with five really powerful reflection questions you can use with any child at any age to help build their confidence.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:44 - Reflection builds competency

02:34 - What was going on for you?

04:48 - What were you feeling?

06:37 - Focus on the unmet needs

08:19 - Building a growth mindset

09:55 - Encouraging self-regulation



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> I talk a lot about confidence, because it’s super important, and it’s something we all struggle with - yes, even us parents!


But a lack of confidence can manifest in so many different ways, it can be really tricky knowing how to spot the signs in our kids and support them through it.


So in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m giving you a cheat sheet, with five really powerful reflection questions you can use with any child at any age to help build their confidence.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:44 - Reflection builds competency

02:34 - What was going on for you?

04:48 - What were you feeling?

06:37 - Focus on the unmet needs

08:19 - Building a growth mindset

09:55 - Encouraging self-regulation



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What to Say When Your Child Feels Anxious What to Say When Your Child Feels Anxious Wed, 08 Apr 2026 23:30:00 GMT 23:55 69d6c7d902639f375c791acf false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/what-to-say-when-your-child-feels-anxious 69d6c7d902639f375c791acf 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 what-to-say-when-your-child-feels-anxious full Anxiety is not a one size fits all thing. It can show up in so many different ways, from school refusal to bedtime worries and everything in between.


We think it’s our job as parents to find the magic solution, but there isn’t one! Instead, we have to find ways to navigate these tricky situations and the supportive presence our children need.


In today’s episode I am going to help you tackle your kids’ anxiety with some super practical tips you can start using right now. Plus, I share the words which are most likely to calm your child or teen and the things you should definitely avoid!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

The 30 Second Reset - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/bucket-emptying-30-second-reset/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - Introduction to anxiety

03:54 - What is the feeling of anxiety?

08:00 - 2 things you do that increase anxiety

11:54 - Stay calm and carry on

14:55 - Encourage and normalise

17:25 - Building long term confidence

20:05 - Skills take time to learn



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Anxiety is not a one size fits all thing. It can show up in so many different ways, from school refusal to bedtime worries and everything in between.


We think it’s our job as parents to find the magic solution, but there isn’t one! Instead, we have to find ways to navigate these tricky situations and the supportive presence our children need.


In today’s episode I am going to help you tackle your kids’ anxiety with some super practical tips you can start using right now. Plus, I share the words which are most likely to calm your child or teen and the things you should definitely avoid!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

The 30 Second Reset - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/bucket-emptying-30-second-reset/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - Introduction to anxiety

03:54 - What is the feeling of anxiety?

08:00 - 2 things you do that increase anxiety

11:54 - Stay calm and carry on

14:55 - Encourage and normalise

17:25 - Building long term confidence

20:05 - Skills take time to learn



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Good Mum, Not Enough Mum: Why It Still Never Feels Like Enough Good Mum, Not Enough Mum: Why It Still Never Feels Like Enough Sun, 05 Apr 2026 23:30:00 GMT 15:54 69d2d429d2e95f5131e9685f false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/good-mum-not-enough-mum-why-it-still-never-feels-like-enough 69d2d429d2e95f5131e9685f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 good-mum-not-enough-mum-why-it-still-never-feels-like-enough full Spoiler alert: being a mum is hard.


It’s ok to be a good mum and feel like you’re not enough. You might feel like you can’t tell other mums that, but I promise you we are all feeling the same.


So in this bucket emptying episode, I talk about why that feeling is so common, why it’s not a personal failure, and why being a good mum can still feel exhausting and heavy.


This episode isn’t about fixing these feelings, because I can’t do that. What we will do together is get comfortable with those feelings, and get honest with ourselves.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:38 - The two voices in your head

05:12 - Mad Mum

11:52 - Guilt is part of motherhood

14:32 - Final thoughts


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Spoiler alert: being a mum is hard.


It’s ok to be a good mum and feel like you’re not enough. You might feel like you can’t tell other mums that, but I promise you we are all feeling the same.


So in this bucket emptying episode, I talk about why that feeling is so common, why it’s not a personal failure, and why being a good mum can still feel exhausting and heavy.


This episode isn’t about fixing these feelings, because I can’t do that. What we will do together is get comfortable with those feelings, and get honest with ourselves.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:38 - The two voices in your head

05:12 - Mad Mum

11:52 - Guilt is part of motherhood

14:32 - Final thoughts


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Why Your Child Won't Listen, and One Thing to Try Tonight]]> Wed, 01 Apr 2026 23:30:00 GMT 18:23 69cd647dab5d25f9c9705edc false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-your-child-wont-listen-and-one-thing-to-try-tonight 69cd647dab5d25f9c9705edc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-your-child-wont-listen-and-one-thing-to-try-tonight full Do you ever feel like you are speaking to a brick wall?

Do your kids sometimes ignore you as if you’re invisible?

Do you feel the frustration eating away at you?


Well let me tell you something - you are not alone! Every child has moments, and some more than others, of simply not listening. There are so many reasons for this, and yes some of them are learned, but some are simply part of growing up.


In today’s episode I am going to explore the main reasons your children don’t listen to you, and give you some practical tips you can start using right now to get your kids wanting to listen to you, which will bring your stress levels down too!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - You are not alone

03:10 - Listening is self-regulation

06:51 - Patterns of behaviour

08:30 - A need for independence

11:00 - 5 steps to get your kids listening

13:42 - How to make your life easier



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do you ever feel like you are speaking to a brick wall?

Do your kids sometimes ignore you as if you’re invisible?

Do you feel the frustration eating away at you?


Well let me tell you something - you are not alone! Every child has moments, and some more than others, of simply not listening. There are so many reasons for this, and yes some of them are learned, but some are simply part of growing up.


In today’s episode I am going to explore the main reasons your children don’t listen to you, and give you some practical tips you can start using right now to get your kids wanting to listen to you, which will bring your stress levels down too!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - You are not alone

03:10 - Listening is self-regulation

06:51 - Patterns of behaviour

08:30 - A need for independence

11:00 - 5 steps to get your kids listening

13:42 - How to make your life easier



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: After School Meltdowns Bucket Emptying: After School Meltdowns Sun, 29 Mar 2026 23:30:00 GMT 11:20 69c96fd8b991732771664e6a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-after-school-meltdowns 69c96fd8b991732771664e6a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-after-school-meltdowns full After school tantrums are anything but random.


Often, they are a sign that your child has been trying super hard to follow the rules and be on their best behaviour all day - and for neurodivergent children they could be masking all day - and this is exhausting. So when you turn up, they release all of the emotions and big feelings.


It might not feel like it, but I promise you, that’s a good thing because it means you are their safe space.


But parenting these meltdowns is not easy, so in this episode I’m going to share some really practical tips that you can start using to make those moments feel less stressful and more manageable!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:40 - The one mistake every parent makes

01:56 - Discharging the battery

03:58 - 3 things your child needs

07:19 - Create reset time



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> After school tantrums are anything but random.


Often, they are a sign that your child has been trying super hard to follow the rules and be on their best behaviour all day - and for neurodivergent children they could be masking all day - and this is exhausting. So when you turn up, they release all of the emotions and big feelings.


It might not feel like it, but I promise you, that’s a good thing because it means you are their safe space.


But parenting these meltdowns is not easy, so in this episode I’m going to share some really practical tips that you can start using to make those moments feel less stressful and more manageable!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:40 - The one mistake every parent makes

01:56 - Discharging the battery

03:58 - 3 things your child needs

07:19 - Create reset time



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> The Manosphere and Raising Boys The Manosphere and Raising Boys Thu, 26 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 24:08 69c3ad1a176efa5257776d4b false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-manosphere-and-raising-boys 69c3ad1a176efa5257776d4b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-manosphere-and-raising-boys full From Adolescence to Louis Theroux, the manosphere has become a mainstream talking point, and that’s a good thing!


The manosphere is a term associated with toxic behaviour. Me, you, and all other parents out there know this is not what it means to be masculine or manly, but our kids don’t know that, and it is so important that we help them identify and understand problematic content when they see it, in age appropriate ways.


Today I am diving inside the manosphere… well, sort of… to give you some practical tips that you can use to support those tricky conversations, and to help your children become confident, independent and compassionate people.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:17 - What is the manosphere?

04:44 - The internet fills information voids

07:15 - Don’t panic

08:47 - Don’t say don’t

12:54 - Critical thinking skills

15:45 - Help your son navigate problematic content

21:19 - For single mothers



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> From Adolescence to Louis Theroux, the manosphere has become a mainstream talking point, and that’s a good thing!


The manosphere is a term associated with toxic behaviour. Me, you, and all other parents out there know this is not what it means to be masculine or manly, but our kids don’t know that, and it is so important that we help them identify and understand problematic content when they see it, in age appropriate ways.


Today I am diving inside the manosphere… well, sort of… to give you some practical tips that you can use to support those tricky conversations, and to help your children become confident, independent and compassionate people.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:17 - What is the manosphere?

04:44 - The internet fills information voids

07:15 - Don’t panic

08:47 - Don’t say don’t

12:54 - Critical thinking skills

15:45 - Help your son navigate problematic content

21:19 - For single mothers



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]]> Bucket Emptying: 5 Mindset Shifts Before Returning to Work Bucket Emptying: 5 Mindset Shifts Before Returning to Work Mon, 23 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 16:20 69bd58bd3bbfcfe8db692cf1 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-5-mindset-shifts-before-returning-to-work 69bd58bd3bbfcfe8db692cf1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-5-mindset-shifts-before-returning-to-work full Returning to work is not easy, especially for new parents.


You’ve probably had an extended time off. Your routine is different, your priorities are different, and life is different - you have a child now! So going back to work will never be the same as before.


It is hard to adjust to your new normal, but I am going to share five ways you can shift your mindset to deal with this big change.


Spoiler alert: parents might be superheroes, but we’re all still human. It’s ok to cut yourself some slack!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - You WILL have to drop things

04:57 - Control what you can in the moment

08:28 - Find the tribe you need

09:44 - Curate your own feed

13:29 - Your child needs YOU to be ok



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]]> Returning to work is not easy, especially for new parents.


You’ve probably had an extended time off. Your routine is different, your priorities are different, and life is different - you have a child now! So going back to work will never be the same as before.


It is hard to adjust to your new normal, but I am going to share five ways you can shift your mindset to deal with this big change.


Spoiler alert: parents might be superheroes, but we’re all still human. It’s ok to cut yourself some slack!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - You WILL have to drop things

04:57 - Control what you can in the moment

08:28 - Find the tribe you need

09:44 - Curate your own feed

13:29 - Your child needs YOU to be ok



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> Thriving as a Single Parent Thriving as a Single Parent Thu, 19 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 26:20 69bab8515c7b2d4bc6467482 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/thriving-as-a-single-parent 69bab8515c7b2d4bc6467482 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 thriving-as-a-single-parent full There are many myths about single parent families, and I’m telling you they are not true.


The success, wellbeing and happiness of your child has nothing to do with how many parents they live with. In fact, children with single parents are very high achievers.


But that doesn’t stop you feeling isolated, lonely, even out of your depth, wondering if you’re doing things right, or doing enough, or being as good a parent as everyone else.


Today I’m giving your mojo back. Whether you’re a single parent or not, the practical advice in this episode is valuable to all parents.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:57 - The myths of single parenting

06:07 - An invisible pressure

10:20 - 3 simple questions

14:41 - Boundaries

18:04 - Pick your battles

20:50 - Community buffers stress



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]]> There are many myths about single parent families, and I’m telling you they are not true.


The success, wellbeing and happiness of your child has nothing to do with how many parents they live with. In fact, children with single parents are very high achievers.


But that doesn’t stop you feeling isolated, lonely, even out of your depth, wondering if you’re doing things right, or doing enough, or being as good a parent as everyone else.


Today I’m giving your mojo back. Whether you’re a single parent or not, the practical advice in this episode is valuable to all parents.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:57 - The myths of single parenting

06:07 - An invisible pressure

10:20 - 3 simple questions

14:41 - Boundaries

18:04 - Pick your battles

20:50 - Community buffers stress



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]]> Bucket Emptying: 30 Second Reset Bucket Emptying: 30 Second Reset Mon, 16 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 16:43 69b2c48291324664df669ba1 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-30-second-reset 69b2c48291324664df669ba1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-30-second-reset full Calm down.


Every parent knows these are the worst two words you can ever say to your child in the midst of a meltdown… and we’ve all learnt the hard way!


Bringing your kids down from a tantrum can be impossible, and it’s much better if you have the tools and the tricks to diffuse a situation or calm them down before it escalates into a full tantrum.


In this episode I am going to share a life-changing parenting hack that you can use to relieve yours and your child’s overwhelm, and it only takes 30 seconds.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:05 - Calm down

02:54 - Meltdowns are not a behavioural problem

05:02 - The physiological sigh

10:21 - 3 things happen

12:28 - Smell the flower, blow out the candle



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]]> Calm down.


Every parent knows these are the worst two words you can ever say to your child in the midst of a meltdown… and we’ve all learnt the hard way!


Bringing your kids down from a tantrum can be impossible, and it’s much better if you have the tools and the tricks to diffuse a situation or calm them down before it escalates into a full tantrum.


In this episode I am going to share a life-changing parenting hack that you can use to relieve yours and your child’s overwhelm, and it only takes 30 seconds.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:05 - Calm down

02:54 - Meltdowns are not a behavioural problem

05:02 - The physiological sigh

10:21 - 3 things happen

12:28 - Smell the flower, blow out the candle



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> The 9 Expectation Changes to Supercharge Success The 9 Expectation Changes to Supercharge Success Thu, 12 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 33:04 69b1ebafd308577aad883d1a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-9-expectation-changes-to-supercharge-success 69b1ebafd308577aad883d1a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-9-expectation-changes-to-supercharge-success full You have high expectations for your kids. Every parent does, and I get it!


But sometimes we can present those expectations in ways that may not be as supportive to our children as we hoped.


Last week I talked through the behaviours you can model to boost your kids’ academic success, confidence and friendships, so today I’m going further and giving you practical, easy to use tips for each of these, that help you manage expectations and show up in the best way possible.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

9 Modelled Behaviours Boosting Academic Success, Confidence and Friendships - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/9-modelled-bevahiours-boosting-academic-success-confidence-friendships/ 


Highlights from this episode:

01:30 - The Eton of State Schools

05:57 - Expectation Does Not Guarantee Success

12:09 - 3 Tips for Academic Success

18:20 - Expectations for Confidence

25:14 - Building Friendships



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]]> You have high expectations for your kids. Every parent does, and I get it!


But sometimes we can present those expectations in ways that may not be as supportive to our children as we hoped.


Last week I talked through the behaviours you can model to boost your kids’ academic success, confidence and friendships, so today I’m going further and giving you practical, easy to use tips for each of these, that help you manage expectations and show up in the best way possible.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

9 Modelled Behaviours Boosting Academic Success, Confidence and Friendships - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/9-modelled-bevahiours-boosting-academic-success-confidence-friendships/ 


Highlights from this episode:

01:30 - The Eton of State Schools

05:57 - Expectation Does Not Guarantee Success

12:09 - 3 Tips for Academic Success

18:20 - Expectations for Confidence

25:14 - Building Friendships



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> Bucket Emptying: Grabbing the Opportunity Bucket Emptying: Grabbing the Opportunity Mon, 09 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 16:16 69ab160be2ffe1fef6472b2c false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-grabbing-the-opportunity 69ab160be2ffe1fef6472b2c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-grabbing-the-opportunity Do you agree with a social media ban in the UK? full The UK government has opened a public consultation on a potential social media ban for under 16 year olds, and this creates a huge opportunity for us.


It’s not just about giving our opinion to government, but as parents we now have a real chance to connect with our kids like never before.


What is their opinion on this?

How do they feel?

What matters to them, and why?


This is chance for us to encourage our children to find a voice, and learn how to speak up for themselves whilst respecting others opinions, even if they disagree with them.


And in this episode I share six reasons why this discussion is so important, and give you some practical tips to help you, as you navigate this tricky subject with your own kids.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

Why I Now Believe in a Social Media Ban - https://drmaryhan.com/why-i-now-believe-in-a-social-media-ban-for-under-16s/ 


Highlights from this episode:

00:53 - The social media ban

03:44 - See how your child sees things

07:54 - Having an opinion

10:16 - Using your voice

12:50 - An opportunity to shape the outcome



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]]> The UK government has opened a public consultation on a potential social media ban for under 16 year olds, and this creates a huge opportunity for us.


It’s not just about giving our opinion to government, but as parents we now have a real chance to connect with our kids like never before.


What is their opinion on this?

How do they feel?

What matters to them, and why?


This is chance for us to encourage our children to find a voice, and learn how to speak up for themselves whilst respecting others opinions, even if they disagree with them.


And in this episode I share six reasons why this discussion is so important, and give you some practical tips to help you, as you navigate this tricky subject with your own kids.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

Why I Now Believe in a Social Media Ban - https://drmaryhan.com/why-i-now-believe-in-a-social-media-ban-for-under-16s/ 


Highlights from this episode:

00:53 - The social media ban

03:44 - See how your child sees things

07:54 - Having an opinion

10:16 - Using your voice

12:50 - An opportunity to shape the outcome



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[9 Modelled Bevahiours Boosting Academic Success, Confidence & Friendships]]> Thu, 05 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 31:55 69a8b8d8618d0d8bf7e14de2 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/9-modelled-bevahiours-boosting-academic-success-confidence-f 69a8b8d8618d0d8bf7e14de2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 9-modelled-bevahiours-boosting-academic-success-confidence-f full If you have not yet watched American skier Eileen Gu’s interview following her silver medal at the recent Winter Olympics, click the link below, because it blew me away!


Her confidence and self-assuredness is an amazing example to lots of young people, especially young women and girls, and it got me thinking… are there common actions or traits of parents who raise successful, confident children?


We’re going to find out!


In this episode I am going to focus specifically on behaviours that boost academic success, confidence and friendships, and give you three practical tips for each.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

Eileen Gu Interview - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAhmzgTSBTI 


Highlights from this episode:

00:31 - Eileen Gu

05:17 - The Bobo Doll Experiment

10:28 - Modelling academic success

13:02 - Persistence over perfection

16:48 - Confidence is an inside job

19:19 - Model realistic confidence

24:17 - Friendship Jenga

27:16 - Model healthy friendships



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> If you have not yet watched American skier Eileen Gu’s interview following her silver medal at the recent Winter Olympics, click the link below, because it blew me away!


Her confidence and self-assuredness is an amazing example to lots of young people, especially young women and girls, and it got me thinking… are there common actions or traits of parents who raise successful, confident children?


We’re going to find out!


In this episode I am going to focus specifically on behaviours that boost academic success, confidence and friendships, and give you three practical tips for each.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

Eileen Gu Interview - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CAhmzgTSBTI 


Highlights from this episode:

00:31 - Eileen Gu

05:17 - The Bobo Doll Experiment

10:28 - Modelling academic success

13:02 - Persistence over perfection

16:48 - Confidence is an inside job

19:19 - Model realistic confidence

24:17 - Friendship Jenga

27:16 - Model healthy friendships



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Parenting in Public Bucket Emptying: Parenting in Public Mon, 02 Mar 2026 00:30:00 GMT 17:28 69a4ae23bbda7540f40c8abf false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-parenting-in-public 69a4ae23bbda7540f40c8abf 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-parenting-in-public full Children should be seen and not heard. Do you agree?


We’ve all heard that expression, and we were all probably told this by our own parents! But I have noticed more and more examples of adult only areas of public spaces - on trains or in shopping malls - so I wanted to tackle this head on.


For the record, I don’t agree with that saying, and in this episode I am going to share five reasons why it is better for us and our children when we encourage and support them to be included.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Seen but not heard

03:17 - Learning on the job

08:52 - Plan A, B, and C

14:16 - Focus on what you CAN control


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Children should be seen and not heard. Do you agree?


We’ve all heard that expression, and we were all probably told this by our own parents! But I have noticed more and more examples of adult only areas of public spaces - on trains or in shopping malls - so I wanted to tackle this head on.


For the record, I don’t agree with that saying, and in this episode I am going to share five reasons why it is better for us and our children when we encourage and support them to be included.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Seen but not heard

03:17 - Learning on the job

08:52 - Plan A, B, and C

14:16 - Focus on what you CAN control


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Managing Emotional Outbursts Managing Emotional Outbursts Thu, 26 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 31:53 699ee1821eb5ccf456135b74 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/managing-emotional-outbursts 699ee1821eb5ccf456135b74 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 managing-emotional-outbursts full Outbursts, tantrums, meltdowns… whatever you call them, they’re not fun!


But your kids are not hardwired to deal with their emotions, it’s a skill they learn over time, and it’s your job as parent to support them and encourage them to develop those skills.


It’s not easy - I can attest to that, having raised two kids myself! And that’s why in this episode I help you understand what causes emotional outbursts, how these present themselves in different ages and stages, and what you can do to support them.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - Fear of judgement

02:32 - Emotional regulation is learned

07:43 - Verbal and physical escalations

10:35 - The teen years

14:08 - The biggest causes of emotional outbursts

18:23 - How to handle outbursts

23:10 - Keep them safe

27:17 - What is the skills gap?



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]]> Outbursts, tantrums, meltdowns… whatever you call them, they’re not fun!


But your kids are not hardwired to deal with their emotions, it’s a skill they learn over time, and it’s your job as parent to support them and encourage them to develop those skills.


It’s not easy - I can attest to that, having raised two kids myself! And that’s why in this episode I help you understand what causes emotional outbursts, how these present themselves in different ages and stages, and what you can do to support them.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - Fear of judgement

02:32 - Emotional regulation is learned

07:43 - Verbal and physical escalations

10:35 - The teen years

14:08 - The biggest causes of emotional outbursts

18:23 - How to handle outbursts

23:10 - Keep them safe

27:17 - What is the skills gap?



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Pocket Money - 5 Benefits You May Not Have Considered Bucket Emptying: Pocket Money - 5 Benefits You May Not Have Considered Mon, 23 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 17:24 6998412aef4f96dbedf3bacb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-pocket-money-5-benefits-you-may-not-have-con 6998412aef4f96dbedf3bacb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-pocket-money-5-benefits-you-may-not-have-con full Should I give my children pocket money?

How much is enough?

Should they have to earn it through chores?


Knowing how much, when, and what can feel like a tricky minefield when thinking about pocket money for our kids. Some of you might decide simply not to do it, and that’s ok too.


I can’t give you the right answer, because only you know what’s best for your family, but in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five benefits of pocket money, from emotional regulation to financial skills, that might just help you find the answers you’re looking for.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Linking pocket money to chores

03:30 - Don’t eat the marshmallow!

05:29 - Opportunity cost

08:36 - Pocket money builds emotional regulation

11:04 - Finance and social conscience



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Should I give my children pocket money?

How much is enough?

Should they have to earn it through chores?


Knowing how much, when, and what can feel like a tricky minefield when thinking about pocket money for our kids. Some of you might decide simply not to do it, and that’s ok too.


I can’t give you the right answer, because only you know what’s best for your family, but in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five benefits of pocket money, from emotional regulation to financial skills, that might just help you find the answers you’re looking for.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Linking pocket money to chores

03:30 - Don’t eat the marshmallow!

05:29 - Opportunity cost

08:36 - Pocket money builds emotional regulation

11:04 - Finance and social conscience



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Confidence is on the Decline Confidence is on the Decline Thu, 19 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 40:29 69964679f8a4f13cffb42fb7 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/confidence-is-on-the-decline 69964679f8a4f13cffb42fb7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 confidence-is-on-the-decline with Kathryn McColl, co-founder at Hark full Did you know 1 in 3 children have little or no confidence?


Did you know girls are more likely to downplay their confidence?


And did you know that children from non-white and minority ethnic groups are likely to have less confidence than their white male friends?


Today I speak to Kathryn McColl, co-founder of Hark, the education agency that delivers programmes to over 90% of UK schools. Hark recently published their Listen Up report, which collected anonymous data from 1,400 children across the UK to better understand what they call the ‘confidence crisis.’


I drill down into some of their jaw-dropping insights, including the above, as we discuss why confidence appears to be on the decline among young people.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Kathryn:

More about Hark - https://harklondon.com/ 

Get the Listen Up Report - https://harklondon.com/listen-up/ 

Connect on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-mccoll-5a918329/ 



Highlights from this episode:

02:32 - What is Hark?

05:43 - Confidence means opportunity

11:08 - The impact of role models

15:11 - Transitioning from primary to secondary school

21:46 - Friction teaches confidence

27:09 - Post exam stress

29:37 - Girls hide their confidence

33:37 - The confidence ladder



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Did you know 1 in 3 children have little or no confidence?


Did you know girls are more likely to downplay their confidence?


And did you know that children from non-white and minority ethnic groups are likely to have less confidence than their white male friends?


Today I speak to Kathryn McColl, co-founder of Hark, the education agency that delivers programmes to over 90% of UK schools. Hark recently published their Listen Up report, which collected anonymous data from 1,400 children across the UK to better understand what they call the ‘confidence crisis.’


I drill down into some of their jaw-dropping insights, including the above, as we discuss why confidence appears to be on the decline among young people.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Kathryn:

More about Hark - https://harklondon.com/ 

Get the Listen Up Report - https://harklondon.com/listen-up/ 

Connect on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathryn-mccoll-5a918329/ 



Highlights from this episode:

02:32 - What is Hark?

05:43 - Confidence means opportunity

11:08 - The impact of role models

15:11 - Transitioning from primary to secondary school

21:46 - Friction teaches confidence

27:09 - Post exam stress

29:37 - Girls hide their confidence

33:37 - The confidence ladder



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Parenting Trends and How They Affect Our Own Parenting Bucket Emptying: Parenting Trends and How They Affect Our Own Parenting Mon, 16 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 21:52 6991d2fd483d38b26e687dbb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-parenting-trends-and-how-they-affect-our-own 6991d2fd483d38b26e687dbb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-parenting-trends-and-how-they-affect-our-own full From gentle parenting to FAFO, social media bombards us with content about the latest trends, so how do you really know what works and what doesn’t?


In today’s bucket emptying episode, I talk you through some of the biggest parenting trends, and explain how they can be impacting you, and the ways in which you might then choose to parent your own kids.


Because parenting is all-consuming. It’s a 24/7/365 gig, and the trends of day, whether we subscribe to them or not, can feel like they define us as parents. I’m here to tell you they don’t!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - FAFO Parenting

03:30 - Are we defined by the trends?

06:23 - Labels take away the overwhelm

09:56 - There’s no one size fits all approach

12:35 - Parental intuition

15:22 - Science vs media



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> From gentle parenting to FAFO, social media bombards us with content about the latest trends, so how do you really know what works and what doesn’t?


In today’s bucket emptying episode, I talk you through some of the biggest parenting trends, and explain how they can be impacting you, and the ways in which you might then choose to parent your own kids.


Because parenting is all-consuming. It’s a 24/7/365 gig, and the trends of day, whether we subscribe to them or not, can feel like they define us as parents. I’m here to tell you they don’t!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - FAFO Parenting

03:30 - Are we defined by the trends?

06:23 - Labels take away the overwhelm

09:56 - There’s no one size fits all approach

12:35 - Parental intuition

15:22 - Science vs media



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Let's Talk - 5 Ways to Start a Conversation About Mental Health]]> Thu, 12 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 25:13 698cfd115d2bf63a6d5edf21 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/lets-talk-5-ways-to-start-a-conversation-about-mental-health 698cfd115d2bf63a6d5edf21 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 lets-talk-5-ways-to-start-a-conversation-about-mental-health full Mental health is not just a buzz word, and oftentimes it goes hand in hand with physical health. But because we can’t see mental health, as parents it can be so easy to procrastinate these important conversations that provide a safe, supportive space for our children to really get honest with us.


Whether you’re listening to this during Children’s Mental Health week or at any other time of the year, these practical tips will really help you to kickstart conversations about mental health with your family.


It might not be easy, and it might take some time, but I promise you if you persevere and remain patient, your kids will eventually feel comfortable enough to talk to you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:15 - Physical health IS mental health

03:41 - I’ve noticed that…

07:17 - How are you feeling?

10:30 - Use books

15:09 - Teachable moments

16:38 - Talk out loud

18:46 - 3 things to consider



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Mental health is not just a buzz word, and oftentimes it goes hand in hand with physical health. But because we can’t see mental health, as parents it can be so easy to procrastinate these important conversations that provide a safe, supportive space for our children to really get honest with us.


Whether you’re listening to this during Children’s Mental Health week or at any other time of the year, these practical tips will really help you to kickstart conversations about mental health with your family.


It might not be easy, and it might take some time, but I promise you if you persevere and remain patient, your kids will eventually feel comfortable enough to talk to you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:15 - Physical health IS mental health

03:41 - I’ve noticed that…

07:17 - How are you feeling?

10:30 - Use books

15:09 - Teachable moments

16:38 - Talk out loud

18:46 - 3 things to consider



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying: Valuing Children - 5 Ways to Build a Sense of Belonging Bucket Emptying: Valuing Children - 5 Ways to Build a Sense of Belonging Mon, 09 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 19:33 6988e24645f62cfe949b5c86 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-valuing-children-5-ways-to-build-a-sense-of 6988e24645f62cfe949b5c86 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-valuing-children-5-ways-to-build-a-sense-of full A sense of belonging is a basic human need. Without it can lead to loneliness, depression and many other mental and physical health issues.


So to celebrate Children’s Mental Health Week, the theme of which this year is ‘this is my place’, I am going to give you five tips to help your children build their sense of belonging, because the world is a better place with them in it, and it’s our job as parents to help them believe that.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ 

Attachment Theory: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/attachment-theory/ 



Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - Children’s Mental Health Week

02:21 - Attachment theory

05:48 - Emotional availability

09:27 - Help them to explore

11:58 - Don’t diminish their interests

14:05 - Belonging starts at home

16:32 - You are important



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> A sense of belonging is a basic human need. Without it can lead to loneliness, depression and many other mental and physical health issues.


So to celebrate Children’s Mental Health Week, the theme of which this year is ‘this is my place’, I am going to give you five tips to help your children build their sense of belonging, because the world is a better place with them in it, and it’s our job as parents to help them believe that.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Children’s Mental Health Week: https://www.childrensmentalhealthweek.org.uk/ 

Attachment Theory: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/attachment-theory/ 



Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - Children’s Mental Health Week

02:21 - Attachment theory

05:48 - Emotional availability

09:27 - Help them to explore

11:58 - Don’t diminish their interests

14:05 - Belonging starts at home

16:32 - You are important



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Navigating Exam Stress Navigating Exam Stress Thu, 05 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 40:16 6983b00d37d752e9a35e8526 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/navigating-exam-stress 6983b00d37d752e9a35e8526 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 navigating-exam-stress full From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids.


You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure.


That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - It comes down to two things

03:17 - Stay in your own lane

07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage

12:29 - Supercharge your revision

17:12 - Talk to your children

21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun

24:23 - Rest and restore

27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us

30:37 - What not to do

35:28 - Trust their process!



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> From the 8 Plus to A-Levels, exams can be a stressful experience… often as much for you, the parent, as the kids.


You want the best for them, and of course you want them to do well, but it’s important to make sure we create a supportive environment, and not inadvertently add to the pressure.


That’s why, in this important episode, I’m going to talk you through the dos and do nots of navigating exam season, and give you a bunch of super practical advice, which you can use right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - It comes down to two things

03:17 - Stay in your own lane

07:29 - How to overcome self-sabotage

12:29 - Supercharge your revision

17:12 - Talk to your children

21:15 - A balanced routine includes time for fun

24:23 - Rest and restore

27:17 - Support ought to be directed by the child, not us

30:37 - What not to do

35:28 - Trust their process!



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> A new perspective on emotional co-regulation A new perspective on emotional co-regulation Mon, 02 Feb 2026 00:30:00 GMT 17:40 697fa2693dc163046e507032 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/a-new-perspective-on-emotional-co-regulation 697fa2693dc163046e507032 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 a-new-perspective-on-emotional-co-regulation full In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London.


In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More about Sam and his work:

Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ 

Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ 

Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools 


Highlights from this episode:

01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation

07:00 - Stress contagion

11:17 - Matching our children’s state

14:24 - Meet them where they’re at



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> In this bucket emptying episode, I look a bit closer at my conversation with Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London.


In last week’s interview he spoke to us at length about his research, but in today’s episode I want to drill down just a little more into some of his comments on emotional coregulation, and I’m going to share my own thoughts and some useful tips which you can put into action right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More about Sam and his work:

Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ 

Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ 

Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools 


Highlights from this episode:

01:25 - Sam Wass on emotional coregulation

07:00 - Stress contagion

11:17 - Matching our children’s state

14:24 - Meet them where they’re at



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Neuroscience and Emotional Regulation in Children, with Professor Sam Wass Neuroscience and Emotional Regulation in Children, with Professor Sam Wass Thu, 29 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 1:03:48 69766fb81f18d4661c299645 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/neuroscience-and-emotional-regulation-in-children-with-profe 69766fb81f18d4661c299645 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 neuroscience-and-emotional-regulation-in-children-with-profe full Does your child ever get worked up, and you find it escalates super fast but feel powerless to bring them down from that ledge?


Every parent has been there, but it’s only in recent years that we have really begun to understand the reasons why, and it’s all about neuroscience.


Children’s brains are changing and developing all the time, which means as parents it can be so difficult to keep up, and know how to support them with things like emotional regulation, so I want to talk though some of these challenges and give you some practical advice that I hope will help you and your family.


To have this conversation I am joined by Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London, and shares some of his expertise, to help us all understand some of the science behind emotional regulation.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More about Sam and his work:

Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ 

Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ 

Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools 


Highlights from this episode:

04:10 - Measuring brain stem activity

08:08 - Nature versus nurture

13:18 - Panic disorders

17:20 - Long term effects of children in high stress states

21:23 - Brain stem arousal is trending up

25:29 - You’re only still when you’re dead

31:25 - Children hate broccoli because of science

35:18 - We’re going on a bear hunt

42:33 - Quadrants

48:00 - Mums and dads play differently

53:29 - Co-regulating

59:14 - Stress contagion



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does your child ever get worked up, and you find it escalates super fast but feel powerless to bring them down from that ledge?


Every parent has been there, but it’s only in recent years that we have really begun to understand the reasons why, and it’s all about neuroscience.


Children’s brains are changing and developing all the time, which means as parents it can be so difficult to keep up, and know how to support them with things like emotional regulation, so I want to talk though some of these challenges and give you some practical advice that I hope will help you and your family.


To have this conversation I am joined by Professor Sam Wass, who you may recognise from such TV shows as The Secret Life of 4 Year Olds. He is is currently Director of the Institute for the Science of Early Years at the University of East London, and shares some of his expertise, to help us all understand some of the science behind emotional regulation.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More about Sam and his work:

Website: https://www.profsamwass.com/ 

Useful research: https://www.profsamwass.com/tweet-threads/ 

Institute for the Science & Early Years of Youth: https://www.isey.org/ct-for-ey-and-schools 


Highlights from this episode:

04:10 - Measuring brain stem activity

08:08 - Nature versus nurture

13:18 - Panic disorders

17:20 - Long term effects of children in high stress states

21:23 - Brain stem arousal is trending up

25:29 - You’re only still when you’re dead

31:25 - Children hate broccoli because of science

35:18 - We’re going on a bear hunt

42:33 - Quadrants

48:00 - Mums and dads play differently

53:29 - Co-regulating

59:14 - Stress contagion



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Stop Making Life Easy! 5 Proven Ways to Build Your Child's Resilience]]> Mon, 26 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 18:36 6975f10c1f18d4661c1827cb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/stop-making-life-easy-5-proven-ways-to-build-your-childs-res 6975f10c1f18d4661c1827cb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 stop-making-life-easy-5-proven-ways-to-build-your-childs-res full “I can’t do it!” - as parents we hear this all the time.


Our children are learning new skills and experiencing new things every day, which means they are always facing things they’ve never done before. This can be scary, and often our kids might think they can’t do it or they’re not good enough.


That’s why building resilience is so important. It gives them the foundation they need to persevere, to fail without fear, and to find that inner strength when things feel tough or challenging.


In today’s bucket emptying I’m going to share five things you can do to create that shift, and help to build that resilience. And the best part: these are things you can start doing right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:49 - Non-friction

06:23 - Modelling resilience

08:19 - Curated friction

10:20 - Boredom please

12:44 - Conflict is friction

14:16 - Don’t rush in to fix setbacks


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> “I can’t do it!” - as parents we hear this all the time.


Our children are learning new skills and experiencing new things every day, which means they are always facing things they’ve never done before. This can be scary, and often our kids might think they can’t do it or they’re not good enough.


That’s why building resilience is so important. It gives them the foundation they need to persevere, to fail without fear, and to find that inner strength when things feel tough or challenging.


In today’s bucket emptying I’m going to share five things you can do to create that shift, and help to build that resilience. And the best part: these are things you can start doing right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:49 - Non-friction

06:23 - Modelling resilience

08:19 - Curated friction

10:20 - Boredom please

12:44 - Conflict is friction

14:16 - Don’t rush in to fix setbacks


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA["Why Won't They Sleep?" The Hidden Factors Affecting Your Child's Sleep Part 2]]> Thu, 22 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 35:05 6970a2a42c9b0cd88ab5f933 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-wont-they-slee-part-2 6970a2a42c9b0cd88ab5f933 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-wont-they-slee-part-2 full Why won’t my kids go to sleep at their bed time?


It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20, every parent in the world will ask themselves this question, because sometimes, even if we stick to the routine, they just won’t settle down and get in bed.


In this episode I continue our discussion around sleep, sharing some of the ways in which overtiredness can impact our kids and what you can do about it. Plus, I explain how things like puberty, technology and other factors have a bigger impact than you might realise.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:37 - Blankets and putty

03:50 - Chronic sleep deprivation

09:10 - Puberty and hormones

12:27 - The emotional tank

18:06 - Sibling dynamics and room sharing

22:25 - Over scheduling

26:02 - How to tackle overtiredness 


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Why won’t my kids go to sleep at their bed time?


It doesn’t matter if your child is 2 or 20, every parent in the world will ask themselves this question, because sometimes, even if we stick to the routine, they just won’t settle down and get in bed.


In this episode I continue our discussion around sleep, sharing some of the ways in which overtiredness can impact our kids and what you can do about it. Plus, I explain how things like puberty, technology and other factors have a bigger impact than you might realise.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:37 - Blankets and putty

03:50 - Chronic sleep deprivation

09:10 - Puberty and hormones

12:27 - The emotional tank

18:06 - Sibling dynamics and room sharing

22:25 - Over scheduling

26:02 - How to tackle overtiredness 


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Creating New Habits by Stacking Bucket Emptying: Creating New Habits by Stacking Mon, 19 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 14:04 696a36784796fcbb57f0e4e0 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-creating-new-habits-by-stacking 696a36784796fcbb57f0e4e0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-creating-new-habits-by-stacking full New year is my favourite time of year.


It’s a chance for us to turn a blank page and make conscious changes in our lives. Maybe you want to improve your health, or perhaps you have certain career goals, or maybe you just want to save for that dream family holiday.


Whatever it is you set out to do this year, it all comes down to one thing: habits.


Saving money is a habit.

Eating better is a habit.

Exercising more is a habit.

Making time for yourself and your family… you guessed it, is a habit!


So in this episode, I’m going to talk through how you can create positive new habits for yourself through stacking. By following this method, you can create super meaningful changes in your life by stacking small, easy new habits.


The combined results over time can be life-changing!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:58 - New year, atomic habits

02:16 - Focus on the system not the goal

04:34 - The two types of results

06:24 - The habit that works all of the time

09:02 - Little steps for a big change

10:34 - A profound reminder


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> New year is my favourite time of year.


It’s a chance for us to turn a blank page and make conscious changes in our lives. Maybe you want to improve your health, or perhaps you have certain career goals, or maybe you just want to save for that dream family holiday.


Whatever it is you set out to do this year, it all comes down to one thing: habits.


Saving money is a habit.

Eating better is a habit.

Exercising more is a habit.

Making time for yourself and your family… you guessed it, is a habit!


So in this episode, I’m going to talk through how you can create positive new habits for yourself through stacking. By following this method, you can create super meaningful changes in your life by stacking small, easy new habits.


The combined results over time can be life-changing!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:58 - New year, atomic habits

02:16 - Focus on the system not the goal

04:34 - The two types of results

06:24 - The habit that works all of the time

09:02 - Little steps for a big change

10:34 - A profound reminder


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA["Why Won't They Sleep?" The Hidden Factors Affecting Your Child's Sleep Part 1]]> Thu, 15 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 35:35 69677ad190f7d9d87f947e33 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-wont-they-sleep-the-hidden-factors-affecting-your-childs 69677ad190f7d9d87f947e33 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-wont-they-sleep-the-hidden-factors-affecting-your-childs full It’s bedtime. You’ve done all the right things. You followed the routine. There are no disruptions. And yet… the kids just won’t go to sleep!


We’ve all been there, which is why in this episode, the first of a two-part special, I am going to explore the hidden reasons your children might not sleep.


Some of these things might be hiding in plain sight, and that’s ok. Over the next two episodes I am going to show you what they are, and give you some practical tips to help you manage them, so that your little ones get to sleep as peacefully and as stress-free as possible.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:13 - I wish I knew this earlier…

03:57 - The 3 main functions of sleep

06:18 - 5 bedtime essentials

08:32 - Cool rooms make better sleep

12:36 - Morning bright light is crucial

17:28 - Noise

20:25 - The bedroom as a multipurpose space

23:56 - Diet, hydration and timing

30:16 - Physical activity and energy release


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> It’s bedtime. You’ve done all the right things. You followed the routine. There are no disruptions. And yet… the kids just won’t go to sleep!


We’ve all been there, which is why in this episode, the first of a two-part special, I am going to explore the hidden reasons your children might not sleep.


Some of these things might be hiding in plain sight, and that’s ok. Over the next two episodes I am going to show you what they are, and give you some practical tips to help you manage them, so that your little ones get to sleep as peacefully and as stress-free as possible.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:13 - I wish I knew this earlier…

03:57 - The 3 main functions of sleep

06:18 - 5 bedtime essentials

08:32 - Cool rooms make better sleep

12:36 - Morning bright light is crucial

17:28 - Noise

20:25 - The bedroom as a multipurpose space

23:56 - Diet, hydration and timing

30:16 - Physical activity and energy release


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: 10 Powerful Questions to Get Your Kids Talking Bucket Emptying: 10 Powerful Questions to Get Your Kids Talking Mon, 12 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 23:41 6960d67f8a20edf9ab93e77a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/10-powerful-questions-to-get-your-kids-talking 6960d67f8a20edf9ab93e77a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 10-powerful-questions-to-get-your-kids-talking full What did you do today?


It’s the question every parents asks when we pick our kids up from school, nursery, or wherever they’ve been. The response is usually ‘I don’t know,’ ‘nothing,’ or a disinterested grunt or huff, am I right?


Getting our kids to open up can be painful and frustrating, so in this bucket emptying episode I am sharing 10 questions that will get your children talking.


These are everyday questions, but when used at the right time can be super powerful, and you can start using them right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:36 - Wrong questions, wrong time

03:18 - What made you laugh?

05:20 - What are you looking forward to?

07:07 - Who did you help today?

10:41 - What did you learn about yourself?

11:52 - What did someone do that you admired?

13:55 - What’s the nicest thing someone has done for you?

15:03 - What have you tried hard at today?

16:54 - What are you grateful for?

17:58 - What family rule or tradition would you like to create?

19:33 - Complete this sentence…


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What did you do today?


It’s the question every parents asks when we pick our kids up from school, nursery, or wherever they’ve been. The response is usually ‘I don’t know,’ ‘nothing,’ or a disinterested grunt or huff, am I right?


Getting our kids to open up can be painful and frustrating, so in this bucket emptying episode I am sharing 10 questions that will get your children talking.


These are everyday questions, but when used at the right time can be super powerful, and you can start using them right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:36 - Wrong questions, wrong time

03:18 - What made you laugh?

05:20 - What are you looking forward to?

07:07 - Who did you help today?

10:41 - What did you learn about yourself?

11:52 - What did someone do that you admired?

13:55 - What’s the nicest thing someone has done for you?

15:03 - What have you tried hard at today?

16:54 - What are you grateful for?

17:58 - What family rule or tradition would you like to create?

19:33 - Complete this sentence…


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]]> The Comparison Trap: Why We Compare, When to Say Yes, and the 48-Hour Rule The Comparison Trap: Why We Compare, When to Say Yes, and the 48-Hour Rule Thu, 08 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 40:18 695eed15313b808065ea94fc false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-comparison-trap-why-we-compare-when-to-say-yes-and-the-4 695eed15313b808065ea94fc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-comparison-trap-why-we-compare-when-to-say-yes-and-the-4 full It’s said that comparison is the thief of joy, and there’s truth to this.


Whether it’s your kids thinking their life is so unfair because their friends have phones, or go to parties and they’re not allowed, to you as a parent constantly judging yourself against the other mums and dads at the school gate.


In this episode, I show you how to avoid the dreaded comparison trap. I explain the five step response framework, share some helpful tips to stop you comparing yourself against other parents, and talk through some examples to help you put all of this into practice.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:57 - What are we doing wrong?

04:37 - The five step response framework

08:17 - When to say yes

14:41 - Coping when the answer is no

17:41 - Age appropriate conversations

21:17 - School gate gossip

24:50 - Give yourself 48 hours

27:31 - Talk it through with your tribe

29:26 - Neurodiversity and social media

32:23 - Examples

36:06 - Separation comparison from genuine concern


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]]> It’s said that comparison is the thief of joy, and there’s truth to this.


Whether it’s your kids thinking their life is so unfair because their friends have phones, or go to parties and they’re not allowed, to you as a parent constantly judging yourself against the other mums and dads at the school gate.


In this episode, I show you how to avoid the dreaded comparison trap. I explain the five step response framework, share some helpful tips to stop you comparing yourself against other parents, and talk through some examples to help you put all of this into practice.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:57 - What are we doing wrong?

04:37 - The five step response framework

08:17 - When to say yes

14:41 - Coping when the answer is no

17:41 - Age appropriate conversations

21:17 - School gate gossip

24:50 - Give yourself 48 hours

27:31 - Talk it through with your tribe

29:26 - Neurodiversity and social media

32:23 - Examples

36:06 - Separation comparison from genuine concern


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: 10 Things to Say to Your Children Every Day Bucket Emptying: 10 Things to Say to Your Children Every Day Mon, 05 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 23:02 695ae3701002b08bc817c869 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-10-things-to-say-to-your-children-every-day 695ae3701002b08bc817c869 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-10-things-to-say-to-your-children-every-day full I believe in you.

I will always love you.

I am always here for you.


How often do you say any of these things to your children?


The truth is, it’s probably less you’d like to admit, and you’re not alone. As parents, it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day of parenting, that we forget to give our kids the affirmation and reassurance they want and need from us.


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share ten things that you can start saying to your children right now to build self-belief, confidence and resilience.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:57 - What is confirmation bias?

05:14 - Tell me more about…

08:22 - Big emotions can be tricky

10:07 - I like the way you…

12:20 - I’m always here when you need me

14:59 - Each day I am learning more about you

17:06 - I am grateful I am your parent because…

18:37 - Within you is your greatest self



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> I believe in you.

I will always love you.

I am always here for you.


How often do you say any of these things to your children?


The truth is, it’s probably less you’d like to admit, and you’re not alone. As parents, it’s easy to get caught up in the day to day of parenting, that we forget to give our kids the affirmation and reassurance they want and need from us.


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share ten things that you can start saying to your children right now to build self-belief, confidence and resilience.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:57 - What is confirmation bias?

05:14 - Tell me more about…

08:22 - Big emotions can be tricky

10:07 - I like the way you…

12:20 - I’m always here when you need me

14:59 - Each day I am learning more about you

17:06 - I am grateful I am your parent because…

18:37 - Within you is your greatest self



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> The Power of Failed Goals: Why Broken Resolutions Build Confidence and Capability in Children The Power of Failed Goals: Why Broken Resolutions Build Confidence and Capability in Children Thu, 01 Jan 2026 00:30:00 GMT 27:40 6954ffa2e3c8c736bd6836e3 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-power-of-failed-goals-why-broken-resolutions-build-confi 6954ffa2e3c8c736bd6836e3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-power-of-failed-goals-why-broken-resolutions-build-confi full Have you and your family made New Year resolutions?

And how many have you broken already?


I love making resolutions. It’s the highlight of my year. But statistics show that most New Year resolutions are broken, so you are not alone! However, making resolutions, even if we break them, can still be super valuable for our personal growth and in building confidence, especially in our kids.


In today’s episode I will show you how to set intentions and make realistic, achievable resolutions. I will explain how you can give yourself the best chance of succeeding, but also talk through why it’s ok to break your resolutions.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:35 - The highlight of my year

02:26 - The 10 most popular resolutions

07:06 - Intentions nurtures habits of success

08:53 - I am capable of doing hard things

12:20 - Empowering children with agency

15:30 - Use your imagination

19:41 - Confidence is experiential

21:52 - The world is better because you are in it

25:04 - Create a habit to reflect



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Have you and your family made New Year resolutions?

And how many have you broken already?


I love making resolutions. It’s the highlight of my year. But statistics show that most New Year resolutions are broken, so you are not alone! However, making resolutions, even if we break them, can still be super valuable for our personal growth and in building confidence, especially in our kids.


In today’s episode I will show you how to set intentions and make realistic, achievable resolutions. I will explain how you can give yourself the best chance of succeeding, but also talk through why it’s ok to break your resolutions.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:35 - The highlight of my year

02:26 - The 10 most popular resolutions

07:06 - Intentions nurtures habits of success

08:53 - I am capable of doing hard things

12:20 - Empowering children with agency

15:30 - Use your imagination

19:41 - Confidence is experiential

21:52 - The world is better because you are in it

25:04 - Create a habit to reflect



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> The Best of 2025 The Best of 2025 Mon, 29 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 32:17 694b0f9b6d80a931eb447878 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-best-of-2025 694b0f9b6d80a931eb447878 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-best-of-2025 full As 2025 draws to a close, I thought the best way to round out another year of the podcast is to give you a compilation of our best bits and the best tips in one episode.


Consider this your How Not to Screw Up Your Kids cheat sheet for 2025!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:05 - Rage Against the Screen

04:27 - Empowering Children with Disabilities

11:11 - Generation Zombie

15:56 - Raising Happy ADHD Children

24:50 - How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> As 2025 draws to a close, I thought the best way to round out another year of the podcast is to give you a compilation of our best bits and the best tips in one episode.


Consider this your How Not to Screw Up Your Kids cheat sheet for 2025!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, have a very happy new year, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:05 - Rage Against the Screen

04:27 - Empowering Children with Disabilities

11:11 - Generation Zombie

15:56 - Raising Happy ADHD Children

24:50 - How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Merry Christmas: The Best of How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Merry Christmas: The Best of How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Thu, 25 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 38:26 694aebb66d80a931eb39c108 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/merry-christmas-the-best-of-how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids 694aebb66d80a931eb39c108 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 merry-christmas-the-best-of-how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids full Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas from me and the team at How Not to Screw Up Your Kids. However you are celebrating, and whatever you’re doing, I hope you’re having some well earned time off, and getting some precious quality time with your loved ones.


Just in case you need a few wise words of encouragement in your ear, here are some of the best bits from the last year of the podcast, taken from some of your most favourite episodes.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:51 - Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys

11:46 - I Yell… Then I Cry… Then I Google ‘Gentle Parenting’

16:05 - The Five Things All Children Need

28:08 - Building Children and Teens’ Self Belief and Confidence

31:00 - From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Happy Holidays and Merry Christmas from me and the team at How Not to Screw Up Your Kids. However you are celebrating, and whatever you’re doing, I hope you’re having some well earned time off, and getting some precious quality time with your loved ones.


Just in case you need a few wise words of encouragement in your ear, here are some of the best bits from the last year of the podcast, taken from some of your most favourite episodes.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:51 - Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys

11:46 - I Yell… Then I Cry… Then I Google ‘Gentle Parenting’

16:05 - The Five Things All Children Need

28:08 - Building Children and Teens’ Self Belief and Confidence

31:00 - From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Start Right, End Right - Daily Routines for Calmer, Happier Kids Bucket Emptying: Start Right, End Right - Daily Routines for Calmer, Happier Kids Mon, 22 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 17:20 6943debdaccce1f842b279ce false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-start-right-end-right-daily-routines-for-cal 6943debdaccce1f842b279ce 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-start-right-end-right-daily-routines-for-cal full Our children are sponges. They absorb our energy.


So when we start our day with a bang, that rubs off, and our kids will be unbalanced from the get go. And that just sets us all up for a difficult day, doesn’t it?


So, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share my top tips on how to set up your day for calm, cooperation and compassion.


I will give you 5 things that you can do at the start of your day, and 2 things to do at the end, and you can start them right now!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:30 - Less bang, more fizz

02:38 - The wake up rule

05:26 - Screen time embargo

07:20 - Early movement

09:51 - Get ready

11:14 - Today is a new day

15:00 - One lesson learnt



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Our children are sponges. They absorb our energy.


So when we start our day with a bang, that rubs off, and our kids will be unbalanced from the get go. And that just sets us all up for a difficult day, doesn’t it?


So, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share my top tips on how to set up your day for calm, cooperation and compassion.


I will give you 5 things that you can do at the start of your day, and 2 things to do at the end, and you can start them right now!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:30 - Less bang, more fizz

02:38 - The wake up rule

05:26 - Screen time embargo

07:20 - Early movement

09:51 - Get ready

11:14 - Today is a new day

15:00 - One lesson learnt



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> The Reconnected: Transform Your Parenting in 20 Minutes a Week The Reconnected: Transform Your Parenting in 20 Minutes a Week Thu, 18 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 53:31 69429bc56873d7b0460fe1a9 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-reconnected-transform-your-parenting-in-20-minutes-a-wee 69429bc56873d7b0460fe1a9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-reconnected-transform-your-parenting-in-20-minutes-a-wee full Are you close to your children?

Do you still feel connected as they get older?

Do you spend as much time with them as you want?


I’m going to guess that you answered no to at least one of these questions. Am I right?


Today I am joined by Emma and Eleanor from The Reconnected, to discuss the importance of making time to connect with our children… and ourselves.


We talk about breathwork and why we all need to make time for ourselves, because if we can’t show up for ourselves, we won’t be able to show up for our kids.


We also discuss the challenges of raising kids in today’s world, where technology and screens can feel like barriers disconnecting us from our children.


And we talk about the confusing amount of information online, and why it’s almost impossible to get the right support if you don’t know where to look for it.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because this is a bumper seasonal episode to help you navigate the Christmas break with your kids…



More from The Reconnected:

The Website: https://thereconnected.com/ 

The Book: https://thereconnected.com/reconnected-parenting-book/ 

Get the App: https://thereconnected.com/app/ 



Highlights from this episode:

02:43 - The terrible 2s

06:28 - I am going to nail this

11:52 - Modern life is set up for disconnection

16:16 - I CAN have time for myself

20:30 - Breathwork is not a last resort

25:04 - Tell me how to fix it

30:03 - A rock and a hard place

34:22 - Who are your 5 most inspiring people?

39:35 - Connection is always the solution

43:01 - Repairing the damage

49:01 - Give yourself permission



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Are you close to your children?

Do you still feel connected as they get older?

Do you spend as much time with them as you want?


I’m going to guess that you answered no to at least one of these questions. Am I right?


Today I am joined by Emma and Eleanor from The Reconnected, to discuss the importance of making time to connect with our children… and ourselves.


We talk about breathwork and why we all need to make time for ourselves, because if we can’t show up for ourselves, we won’t be able to show up for our kids.


We also discuss the challenges of raising kids in today’s world, where technology and screens can feel like barriers disconnecting us from our children.


And we talk about the confusing amount of information online, and why it’s almost impossible to get the right support if you don’t know where to look for it.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because this is a bumper seasonal episode to help you navigate the Christmas break with your kids…



More from The Reconnected:

The Website: https://thereconnected.com/ 

The Book: https://thereconnected.com/reconnected-parenting-book/ 

Get the App: https://thereconnected.com/app/ 



Highlights from this episode:

02:43 - The terrible 2s

06:28 - I am going to nail this

11:52 - Modern life is set up for disconnection

16:16 - I CAN have time for myself

20:30 - Breathwork is not a last resort

25:04 - Tell me how to fix it

30:03 - A rock and a hard place

34:22 - Who are your 5 most inspiring people?

39:35 - Connection is always the solution

43:01 - Repairing the damage

49:01 - Give yourself permission



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]]> The Secret to Child Cooperation: 7 Psychology Proven Strategies The Secret to Child Cooperation: 7 Psychology Proven Strategies Mon, 15 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 22:03 693eb72b41eacf5e81c3a02d false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-secret-to-child-cooperation-7-psychology-proven-strategi 693eb72b41eacf5e81c3a02d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-secret-to-child-cooperation-7-psychology-proven-strategi full How do you get your children to cooperate with you, when they just don’t want to?


It’s a problem we all face - our kids will refuse to do something not because they don’t want to, but because we’re telling them to, and it’s so frustrating! So what’s the answer?


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to introduce you to the psychology of cooperation, and give you some simple, helpful, and practical tips you can use right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:12 - Cooperation is transactional

03:28 - Validate your children’s feelings

04:47 - Explain why

08:10 - Focus on effort and process

10:55 - Self Care

14:17 - Connecting actions to feelings

16:08 - Challenge just enough

19:18 - Offer choices where possible



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]]> How do you get your children to cooperate with you, when they just don’t want to?


It’s a problem we all face - our kids will refuse to do something not because they don’t want to, but because we’re telling them to, and it’s so frustrating! So what’s the answer?


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to introduce you to the psychology of cooperation, and give you some simple, helpful, and practical tips you can use right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:12 - Cooperation is transactional

03:28 - Validate your children’s feelings

04:47 - Explain why

08:10 - Focus on effort and process

10:55 - Self Care

14:17 - Connecting actions to feelings

16:08 - Challenge just enough

19:18 - Offer choices where possible



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Boost Your Child's Confidence in 10 Days]]> Thu, 11 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 32:47 6939fe4be521382d95f3ba4b false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/boost-your-childs-confidence-in-10-days 6939fe4be521382d95f3ba4b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 boost-your-childs-confidence-in-10-days Yes, it really is that simple! full Does your child struggle with their confidence?

Do you wish you could help?


Well you’re in luck, because confidence is a learned skill, and there are many easy things you can do to help build self-confidence in your kids.


In this episode, I’m going to give you a 10 day plan, which you can start using right now, to help develop those skills and improve confidence. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and confidence is just about giving the right parts of the brain a workout - from taking the lead on tasks to positive reinforcement, it’s easy if you know how!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - One focus per day

03:16 - The Seven Cs

11:48 - Day 1: A wall of fame

14:55 - Day 2: Encourage self-talk to be more growth oriented

16:43 - Day 3: Ask for their help

19:28 - Day 4: Give descriptive praise

21:34 - Day 5: Reflective on 3 good things and 1 learning

22:56 - Day 6: Set aside time to play

25:46 - Day 7: Acknowledge their feelings

27:06 - Day 8: Ask them to do something

28:43 - Day 9: Stage appropriate choices

29:46 - Day 10: Reflect on the last 10 days



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]]> Does your child struggle with their confidence?

Do you wish you could help?


Well you’re in luck, because confidence is a learned skill, and there are many easy things you can do to help build self-confidence in your kids.


In this episode, I’m going to give you a 10 day plan, which you can start using right now, to help develop those skills and improve confidence. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and confidence is just about giving the right parts of the brain a workout - from taking the lead on tasks to positive reinforcement, it’s easy if you know how!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - One focus per day

03:16 - The Seven Cs

11:48 - Day 1: A wall of fame

14:55 - Day 2: Encourage self-talk to be more growth oriented

16:43 - Day 3: Ask for their help

19:28 - Day 4: Give descriptive praise

21:34 - Day 5: Reflective on 3 good things and 1 learning

22:56 - Day 6: Set aside time to play

25:46 - Day 7: Acknowledge their feelings

27:06 - Day 8: Ask them to do something

28:43 - Day 9: Stage appropriate choices

29:46 - Day 10: Reflect on the last 10 days



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]]> How to Avoid Resentment How to Avoid Resentment Mon, 08 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 18:05 6935fbb9a63c6eaa591aa1ef false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/how-to-avoid-resentment 6935fbb9a63c6eaa591aa1ef 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-to-avoid-resentment full Do your children resent you?

Do you resent your children?

How good are you at managing this?


Resentment is a funny thing. It feels like it comes out of nowhere, but actually, it can be the result of many small little events that build up and up until it overflows.


Then, you find yourself arguing with your children, or worse, that resentment just continues to simmer, and it becomes harder to resolve.


We’ve all heard that old saying that prevention is better than cure, so in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some of the most effective ways you can avoid resentment, and give you some really useful tips to help you put these into practice.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:50 - Communicate your needs

09:19 - Manage expectations

14:15 - Learn how to delegate



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do your children resent you?

Do you resent your children?

How good are you at managing this?


Resentment is a funny thing. It feels like it comes out of nowhere, but actually, it can be the result of many small little events that build up and up until it overflows.


Then, you find yourself arguing with your children, or worse, that resentment just continues to simmer, and it becomes harder to resolve.


We’ve all heard that old saying that prevention is better than cure, so in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some of the most effective ways you can avoid resentment, and give you some really useful tips to help you put these into practice.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:50 - Communicate your needs

09:19 - Manage expectations

14:15 - Learn how to delegate



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Supporting Our Children Through Separation and Divorce Supporting Our Children Through Separation and Divorce Thu, 04 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 38:18 69304f2397950fea6794b68f false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/supporting-our-children-through-separation-and-divorce 69304f2397950fea6794b68f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 supporting-our-children-through-separation-and-divorce full On Christmas Day in 1986, 30 million Brits were glued to their screens as Eastenders’ Dirty Den handed divorce papers to Angie Watts, in one of the most watched television episodes of all time.


As shocking as that was in 1986, the reality today is that separation is commonplace and 40% of marriages end in divorce. Many parents part ways, and often our children get caught in the crossfire, through no fault of their own.


With January approaching, when separations are at their highest, how do we make sure our kids don’t suffer from our actions?


And how do we ensure children grow up feeling happy, safe and loved when their parents divorce or separate?


On this episode I am joined by James Hayhurst, the founder of The Parents’ Promise, which is doing some incredible work to campaign for more awareness of separation, and the resources to support children who are experiencing a separation at home.


Whether you have separated, you are going through a divorce, or perhaps you experience this yourself as a child, this episode will really make a difference.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More about James:

The Parents’ Promise - https://theparentspromise.org.uk/ 

James on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameshayhurst1/ 


Mentioned in this episode:

17 Signs of Parental Alienation - https://www.parentingstyles.com/parenting/dynamics/parental-alienation/ 



Highlights from this episode:

02:49 - What is The Parents’ Promise?

05:31 - We can do better

09:05 - We need to talk about divorce

11:33 - What to be mindful of

15:23 - What do young people think?

19:21 - Long term goals

22:49 - Bad partner does not mean bad parent

27:01 - 17 signs of parental alienation

30:28 - Move fast and create things

37:02 - Get involved



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> On Christmas Day in 1986, 30 million Brits were glued to their screens as Eastenders’ Dirty Den handed divorce papers to Angie Watts, in one of the most watched television episodes of all time.


As shocking as that was in 1986, the reality today is that separation is commonplace and 40% of marriages end in divorce. Many parents part ways, and often our children get caught in the crossfire, through no fault of their own.


With January approaching, when separations are at their highest, how do we make sure our kids don’t suffer from our actions?


And how do we ensure children grow up feeling happy, safe and loved when their parents divorce or separate?


On this episode I am joined by James Hayhurst, the founder of The Parents’ Promise, which is doing some incredible work to campaign for more awareness of separation, and the resources to support children who are experiencing a separation at home.


Whether you have separated, you are going through a divorce, or perhaps you experience this yourself as a child, this episode will really make a difference.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More about James:

The Parents’ Promise - https://theparentspromise.org.uk/ 

James on LinkedIn - https://www.linkedin.com/in/jameshayhurst1/ 


Mentioned in this episode:

17 Signs of Parental Alienation - https://www.parentingstyles.com/parenting/dynamics/parental-alienation/ 



Highlights from this episode:

02:49 - What is The Parents’ Promise?

05:31 - We can do better

09:05 - We need to talk about divorce

11:33 - What to be mindful of

15:23 - What do young people think?

19:21 - Long term goals

22:49 - Bad partner does not mean bad parent

27:01 - 17 signs of parental alienation

30:28 - Move fast and create things

37:02 - Get involved



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> The Christmas Survival Kit for Parents The Christmas Survival Kit for Parents Mon, 01 Dec 2025 00:30:00 GMT 29:33 692cb72ab7087a11102f0068 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-christmas-survival-kit-for-parents 692cb72ab7087a11102f0068 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-christmas-survival-kit-for-parents full From Elf on a Shelf and advent calendars to the business of seeing the whole family in such a short period… Christmas can be stressful, and it can be super overwhelming, especially for us parents.


Santa doesn’t do organising for us, which means the holiday season is often wrought with so much pressure to get everything right, and so often we put that pressure on ourselves.


So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five top tips to help you manage the upcoming festive season, which you can start using right now to make your holiday planning easier, stress free and successful!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:03 - The silly season

04:19 - Plan ahead

08:56 - Be realistic with yourself

16:02 - Always have a backup plan

18:50 - Don’t take things too seriously

22:52 - Have the difficult conversations in advance



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> From Elf on a Shelf and advent calendars to the business of seeing the whole family in such a short period… Christmas can be stressful, and it can be super overwhelming, especially for us parents.


Santa doesn’t do organising for us, which means the holiday season is often wrought with so much pressure to get everything right, and so often we put that pressure on ourselves.


So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five top tips to help you manage the upcoming festive season, which you can start using right now to make your holiday planning easier, stress free and successful!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:03 - The silly season

04:19 - Plan ahead

08:56 - Be realistic with yourself

16:02 - Always have a backup plan

18:50 - Don’t take things too seriously

22:52 - Have the difficult conversations in advance



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Helping Children with Setbacks Helping Children with Setbacks Thu, 27 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 29:29 6926f5bf30ebd386484d37a9 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/helping-children-with-setbacks 6926f5bf30ebd386484d37a9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 helping-children-with-setbacks full Whether it’s toppled block towers, disappointing test results, or missed goals on the sports field, setbacks are a daily occurrence for our children, and I want to show you how to transform them into powerful opportunities for growth.


This is about raising resilient kids who see mistakes not as failures, but as stepping stones.


In this episode, I will share a practical framework you can use at home, and explain how you can use the exposure ladder templates in my resource library to break down those setbacks into small, easy steps.


This is all about reframing challenges in a way that encourages confidence and curiosity, and helps your kids become the happiest, healthiest, and most successful version of themselves.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:24 - The full body alarm

04:54 - Support, don’t solve

06:36 - Positive praise

10:29 - The power of yet

12:55 - Exposure ladders

16:06 - Creating a safe space to take risk

18:40 - Practice is reflective too

20:33 - Maryhan’s playbook

23:00 - Sport, performance, and neurodiversity

27:26 - Listener challenge



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Whether it’s toppled block towers, disappointing test results, or missed goals on the sports field, setbacks are a daily occurrence for our children, and I want to show you how to transform them into powerful opportunities for growth.


This is about raising resilient kids who see mistakes not as failures, but as stepping stones.


In this episode, I will share a practical framework you can use at home, and explain how you can use the exposure ladder templates in my resource library to break down those setbacks into small, easy steps.


This is all about reframing challenges in a way that encourages confidence and curiosity, and helps your kids become the happiest, healthiest, and most successful version of themselves.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:24 - The full body alarm

04:54 - Support, don’t solve

06:36 - Positive praise

10:29 - The power of yet

12:55 - Exposure ladders

16:06 - Creating a safe space to take risk

18:40 - Practice is reflective too

20:33 - Maryhan’s playbook

23:00 - Sport, performance, and neurodiversity

27:26 - Listener challenge



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: 6 Things Your Children Worry About... and What to Do About Them Bucket Emptying: 6 Things Your Children Worry About... and What to Do About Them Mon, 24 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 32:44 69238770e842b164eecdfc3e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-6-things-your-children-worry-about-and-what 69238770e842b164eecdfc3e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-6-things-your-children-worry-about-and-what full As parents, we worry. It’s in our nature!


Are they safe?

Are they hungry?

Are they happy?

The list goes on…


But SPOILER ALERT: our kids worry too!


The world is a scary place, and the world around them is constantly changing, with new things to learn and new experiences to process all the time.


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to reveal the six most common things your children worry about AND I will share some super practical tips to help you deal with them. Because remember, your job as mum and dad is to support, and that means empowering our little ones to fix things themselves, so that they grow up to be confident, independent, and well-rounded adults.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Becoming Me - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/becoming-me-the-school-years/ 

Breathing & Take 10 - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - Worry is an important emotion

02:25 - Worried about social relationships

06:21 - Worried about social media

08:52 - Worried about big life changes

11:09 - Worried about to-do lists

15:45 - Worried about inconsistency

19:14 - Worried about trauma

22:03 - Name it to tame it

23:46 - Deep breaths

25:39 - Maryhanisms

29:08 - A worry window



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> As parents, we worry. It’s in our nature!


Are they safe?

Are they hungry?

Are they happy?

The list goes on…


But SPOILER ALERT: our kids worry too!


The world is a scary place, and the world around them is constantly changing, with new things to learn and new experiences to process all the time.


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to reveal the six most common things your children worry about AND I will share some super practical tips to help you deal with them. Because remember, your job as mum and dad is to support, and that means empowering our little ones to fix things themselves, so that they grow up to be confident, independent, and well-rounded adults.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Becoming Me - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/becoming-me-the-school-years/ 

Breathing & Take 10 - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - Worry is an important emotion

02:25 - Worried about social relationships

06:21 - Worried about social media

08:52 - Worried about big life changes

11:09 - Worried about to-do lists

15:45 - Worried about inconsistency

19:14 - Worried about trauma

22:03 - Name it to tame it

23:46 - Deep breaths

25:39 - Maryhanisms

29:08 - A worry window



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[How to Deal with Academic & Exam Stress]]> Thu, 20 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 31:04 691de6a28f2dd34e46554cfa false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/how-to-deal-with-academic-exam-stress 691de6a28f2dd34e46554cfa 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-to-deal-with-academic-exam-stress full Are your children currently revising for exams, working hard on an essay, or worrying about homework?


Academic stress is very real, and sometimes the things we do to help, only seem to create more anxiety and overwhelm. So what can you do as parents, to help your kids through homework and revision?


In this episode I’m going to talk through some of the things you must not do, and give you some super practical tips that you can start using right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:43 - This is the end goal

03:57 - 3 things to avoid

08:24 - Don’t feed the comparison Gremilins

09:38 - Get the foundations right

12:12 - Don’t get caught up on revision timetables

14:55 - Where is the source of stress?

19:34 - Big tasks into bitesize chunks

22:40 - Break the procrastination cycle

22:51 - Connect the dots



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Are your children currently revising for exams, working hard on an essay, or worrying about homework?


Academic stress is very real, and sometimes the things we do to help, only seem to create more anxiety and overwhelm. So what can you do as parents, to help your kids through homework and revision?


In this episode I’m going to talk through some of the things you must not do, and give you some super practical tips that you can start using right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:43 - This is the end goal

03:57 - 3 things to avoid

08:24 - Don’t feed the comparison Gremilins

09:38 - Get the foundations right

12:12 - Don’t get caught up on revision timetables

14:55 - Where is the source of stress?

19:34 - Big tasks into bitesize chunks

22:40 - Break the procrastination cycle

22:51 - Connect the dots



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Tantrum or Meltdown? Bucket Emptying: Tantrum or Meltdown? Mon, 17 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 16:00 691a52bae42e3466f2dfb4c6 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-tantrum-or-meltdown 691a52bae42e3466f2dfb4c6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-tantrum-or-meltdown Not all buckets are created equal! full Do you know the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?


Most parents think they’re the same, but they’re not!


That’s why in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to talk you through the key differences between what they are and how to manage them, because mastering this might just be the difference between a quick win and a sleepless night!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this Episode:

You Child’s Bucket - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/help-your-child-with-emotional-regulation/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:07 - I want versus I can’t

03:04 - Dealing with no

05:33 - The different responses to a tantrum and a meltdown

09:06 - Tantrums are for everyone

11:32 - Not all buckets are created equal



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do you know the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?


Most parents think they’re the same, but they’re not!


That’s why in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to talk you through the key differences between what they are and how to manage them, because mastering this might just be the difference between a quick win and a sleepless night!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this Episode:

You Child’s Bucket - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/help-your-child-with-emotional-regulation/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:07 - I want versus I can’t

03:04 - Dealing with no

05:33 - The different responses to a tantrum and a meltdown

09:06 - Tantrums are for everyone

11:32 - Not all buckets are created equal



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Inside and Out: A Conversation About Emotions Inside and Out: A Conversation About Emotions Thu, 13 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 41:21 69151a72c1ed8717c57131fa false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/inside-and-out-a-conversation-about-emotions 69151a72c1ed8717c57131fa 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 inside-and-out-a-conversation-about-emotions with Daniel Weisberg full What’s the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?

When should you start worrying about behaviour?

And how do you regulate your kids’ screen time?


In this episode, the tables are being turned as I am the one being interviewed. Daniel Weisberg, Managing Director of CAYP Psychology, asks me about emotional regulation, tantrums, neurodivergence, and lots more.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this Episode:

CAYP - https://www.cayp-psychology.com/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - The last drop in the bucket

05:14 - Meet your child where they’re at

07:12 - Common meltdown triggers

09:57 - HALT

15:25 - When should you worry about behaviour?

17:02- The S word

22:12 - Why is it so hard to switch off?

25:20 - Neurodivergence and regulation

27:30 - Create tech free periods

33:18 - Next steps

38:20 - When is further intervention needed?



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What’s the difference between a tantrum and a meltdown?

When should you start worrying about behaviour?

And how do you regulate your kids’ screen time?


In this episode, the tables are being turned as I am the one being interviewed. Daniel Weisberg, Managing Director of CAYP Psychology, asks me about emotional regulation, tantrums, neurodivergence, and lots more.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this Episode:

CAYP - https://www.cayp-psychology.com/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - The last drop in the bucket

05:14 - Meet your child where they’re at

07:12 - Common meltdown triggers

09:57 - HALT

15:25 - When should you worry about behaviour?

17:02- The S word

22:12 - Why is it so hard to switch off?

25:20 - Neurodivergence and regulation

27:30 - Create tech free periods

33:18 - Next steps

38:20 - When is further intervention needed?



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying: 5 Parenting Lessons I Learnt from Mumsnet's Justine Roberts]]> Mon, 10 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 13:16 6910e88dc1ed8717c55e4c18 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-5-parenting-lessons-i-learnt-from-mumsnets-j 6910e88dc1ed8717c55e4c18 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-5-parenting-lessons-i-learnt-from-mumsnets-j full Nobody is a perfect mum, and none of us know everything… not even the experts.


That’s why I found my recent chat with Justine Roberts, founder of Mumsnet, so fascinating. She shared her own insights as a founder, an influencer to millions of parents, and a mum, and it blew my mind.


We covered everything from how to regulate our kids’ use of technology, to why there’s so much shame around weight loss drugs. It’s a conversation not to be missed!


That’s why, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m sharing the top five takeaways from that interview, and if you’re also interested in hearing more from Justine, listen to the full episode now - it’s just below this one in the podcast feed.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this Episode:

Listen to the full Justine Roberts interview: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/rage-against-the-screen-children-tech-social-media-with-mumsnet-founder-justine-roberts/ 

Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/ 

The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone 



Highlights from this episode:

00:52 - Worry is a universal part of motherhood

02:39 - Community is crucial

04:54 - Power in numbers

07:37 - Technology & kids is a scary combo

10:11 - Taking the opportunity



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Nobody is a perfect mum, and none of us know everything… not even the experts.


That’s why I found my recent chat with Justine Roberts, founder of Mumsnet, so fascinating. She shared her own insights as a founder, an influencer to millions of parents, and a mum, and it blew my mind.


We covered everything from how to regulate our kids’ use of technology, to why there’s so much shame around weight loss drugs. It’s a conversation not to be missed!


That’s why, in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m sharing the top five takeaways from that interview, and if you’re also interested in hearing more from Justine, listen to the full episode now - it’s just below this one in the podcast feed.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this Episode:

Listen to the full Justine Roberts interview: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/rage-against-the-screen-children-tech-social-media-with-mumsnet-founder-justine-roberts/ 

Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/ 

The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone 



Highlights from this episode:

00:52 - Worry is a universal part of motherhood

02:39 - Community is crucial

04:54 - Power in numbers

07:37 - Technology & kids is a scary combo

10:11 - Taking the opportunity



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Rage Against the Screen: Children, Tech & Social Media with Mumsnet Founder Justine Roberts]]> Thu, 06 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 34:23 690bd6a5b27ff20ceb3904e2 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/rage-against-the-screen-children-tech-social-media-with-mums 690bd6a5b27ff20ceb3904e2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 rage-against-the-screen-children-tech-social-media-with-mums full Would you give your eight year old a smartphone?

Should children be banned from social media?

How much screen time is too much?


As parents in a digital world, we ask ourselves these questions all the time, and there never seems to be a right answer. But in today’s episode I am joined by Justine Roberts CBE, the founder of Mumsnet, to discuss these very issues.


Justine shares her insights on the relationship between children and tech, what Mumsnet are doing it about it, and she makes a very exciting announcement - you heard it here first, and you do not want to miss this!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More About Justine & Mumsnet:

Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/ 

Rage Against the Screen: https://www.mumsnet.com/news/rage-against-the-screen 

The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone 



Highlights from this episode:

02:07 - Mums don’t get training

06:07 - The taboo of weight loss drugs

10:38 - Are parenting experts part of the problem?

14:18 - Rage Against the Screen

19:56 - AI’s impact on the brain

22:35 - The addictive algorithms of social media

26:21 - The Other phone

30:54 - More parents are taking their kids’ phone away



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Would you give your eight year old a smartphone?

Should children be banned from social media?

How much screen time is too much?


As parents in a digital world, we ask ourselves these questions all the time, and there never seems to be a right answer. But in today’s episode I am joined by Justine Roberts CBE, the founder of Mumsnet, to discuss these very issues.


Justine shares her insights on the relationship between children and tech, what Mumsnet are doing it about it, and she makes a very exciting announcement - you heard it here first, and you do not want to miss this!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More About Justine & Mumsnet:

Mumsnet: https://www.mumsnet.com/ 

Rage Against the Screen: https://www.mumsnet.com/news/rage-against-the-screen 

The Other phone: https://www.mumsnet.com/articles/the-other-phone 



Highlights from this episode:

02:07 - Mums don’t get training

06:07 - The taboo of weight loss drugs

10:38 - Are parenting experts part of the problem?

14:18 - Rage Against the Screen

19:56 - AI’s impact on the brain

22:35 - The addictive algorithms of social media

26:21 - The Other phone

30:54 - More parents are taking their kids’ phone away



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Unhealthy Friendships Unhealthy Friendships Mon, 03 Nov 2025 00:30:00 GMT 25:25 6907a39252ec2a4b130ef472 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/unhealthy-friendships 6907a39252ec2a4b130ef472 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 unhealthy-friendships How to spot the red flags AND deal with them full Is your child friends with a bad influence?

Are they being bullied or treated poorly by someone they think is a friend?

Do they struggle to broaden their social circle?


If you relate to any of the above, then this episode is a must listen, because I am going to explain the how, the why, and the what you can do about those unhealthy friendships your children find themselves in.


It happens to everyone, even us parents! But knowing how to spot them and, importantly, knowing how to support your children to see it for themselves, is the real challenge. You might just learn a thing or two about your own relationships as well!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Friendships: The Whole Nine Yards: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/helping-children-with-friendships/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - Toxic is toxic

03:43 - The warning signs of an unhealthy friendship

05:33 - Focus on the behavior, not the child

09:31 - Listen without judgment

13:43 - Red friend green friend

19:30 - Encourage them to broaden their social network



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


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💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Is your child friends with a bad influence?

Are they being bullied or treated poorly by someone they think is a friend?

Do they struggle to broaden their social circle?


If you relate to any of the above, then this episode is a must listen, because I am going to explain the how, the why, and the what you can do about those unhealthy friendships your children find themselves in.


It happens to everyone, even us parents! But knowing how to spot them and, importantly, knowing how to support your children to see it for themselves, is the real challenge. You might just learn a thing or two about your own relationships as well!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Friendships: The Whole Nine Yards: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/helping-children-with-friendships/ 



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - Toxic is toxic

03:43 - The warning signs of an unhealthy friendship

05:33 - Focus on the behavior, not the child

09:31 - Listen without judgment

13:43 - Red friend green friend

19:30 - Encourage them to broaden their social network



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does My Child Have OCD? Does My Child Have OCD? Thu, 30 Oct 2025 00:30:00 GMT 30:48 6901fd8ee5f14b413100af99 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/does-my-child-have-ocd 6901fd8ee5f14b413100af99 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 does-my-child-have-ocd full Diagnoses of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, are rising sharply.


But how do you know if you or your child might have it?

And what can you do about it?


It can be hard to find the right info about symptoms, causes, and treatment. So In this episode I’m going to talk through what OCD is, but also what it isn’t, and what the common early signs are.


Plus, I’ll give you some super easy, practical things you can do right away to support your children in the best way possible.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Reports of OCD triple: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdr612zrl0no 

The life event scale: https://www.simplypsychology.org/srrs.html 



Highlights from this episode:

01:33 - Are we taking OCD seriously enough?

04:50 - Obsessions versus compulsions

07:54 - Why has there been an increase?

10:16 - Keep it in the family

11:39 - Life events and external triggers

14:51 - OCD early warning signs

18:33 - OCD or anxiety?

21:18 - How can we help our children?

24:42 - Challenge the intrusive thoughts



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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]]> Diagnoses of Obsessive Compulsive Disorder, or OCD, are rising sharply.


But how do you know if you or your child might have it?

And what can you do about it?


It can be hard to find the right info about symptoms, causes, and treatment. So In this episode I’m going to talk through what OCD is, but also what it isn’t, and what the common early signs are.


Plus, I’ll give you some super easy, practical things you can do right away to support your children in the best way possible.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Reports of OCD triple: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/cdr612zrl0no 

The life event scale: https://www.simplypsychology.org/srrs.html 



Highlights from this episode:

01:33 - Are we taking OCD seriously enough?

04:50 - Obsessions versus compulsions

07:54 - Why has there been an increase?

10:16 - Keep it in the family

11:39 - Life events and external triggers

14:51 - OCD early warning signs

18:33 - OCD or anxiety?

21:18 - How can we help our children?

24:42 - Challenge the intrusive thoughts



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]]> Get Your Children Reading! Get Your Children Reading! Mon, 27 Oct 2025 00:30:00 GMT 23:34 68fe6993deee754a72a4a3dc false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/get-your-children-reading 68fe6993deee754a72a4a3dc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 get-your-children-reading full Are you looking for fun and free or low cost family activities?

Have you considered reading?


Before you switch off, hear me out, because reading can be an incredibly relaxing and enjoyable activity, and I’m here to explain how you can encourage your children to want to read.


However, there’s been a huge decline in recent years of young people who enjoy reading, and it’s on us - the mums, the dads, the parents, the guardians and the teachers - to do something about this.


Reading a good book can be great for the soul, and help not just your kids, but also you, to empty your buckets. That’s why this topic is so important to me.


I will tell you the three main benefits of reading, and what you can do to make reading feel like less of a chore to your kids.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Get Britain Reading by The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/uk/get-britain-reading?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 



Highlights from this episode:

00:41 - Get Britain reading again

04:55 - The numbers don’t lie

07:26 - The three benefits

10:52 - Paper beats screen

15:05 - Take the hard work out of reading

19:14 - Model reading for pleasure



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]]> Are you looking for fun and free or low cost family activities?

Have you considered reading?


Before you switch off, hear me out, because reading can be an incredibly relaxing and enjoyable activity, and I’m here to explain how you can encourage your children to want to read.


However, there’s been a huge decline in recent years of young people who enjoy reading, and it’s on us - the mums, the dads, the parents, the guardians and the teachers - to do something about this.


Reading a good book can be great for the soul, and help not just your kids, but also you, to empty your buckets. That’s why this topic is so important to me.


I will tell you the three main benefits of reading, and what you can do to make reading feel like less of a chore to your kids.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Get Britain Reading by The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/uk/get-britain-reading?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 



Highlights from this episode:

00:41 - Get Britain reading again

04:55 - The numbers don’t lie

07:26 - The three benefits

10:52 - Paper beats screen

15:05 - Take the hard work out of reading

19:14 - Model reading for pleasure



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> Becoming Me - The School Years Becoming Me - The School Years Wed, 22 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 33:50 68f91a3253978989ad7be2ca false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/becoming-me-the-school-years 68f91a3253978989ad7be2ca 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 becoming-me-the-school-years full Are you getting in your child’s way?

Should you praise effort or results?

And are you strict enough with enforcing your own rules?


In today’s episode, I’m expanding on a recent episode (linked below), where we explored how your children build their sense of self, to answer the above questions and more.


I’m going to give you the five areas where I believe you can really help your children navigate their most critical stage of identity development. This usually happens around 7-8 years old, but every child is different, so no matter where you are in your parenting journey, this episode will definitely help you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity



Highlights from this episode:

01:28 - Ages 7 to 8 are critical

06:00 - The 8 stages of identity development

09:03 - Do what you say you will

13:28 - Are you getting in your child’s way?

19:17 - Manage your expectations

22:27 - The benefits of praising effort

28:35 - The world is NOT school

31:57 - Episode cheat sheet



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]]> Are you getting in your child’s way?

Should you praise effort or results?

And are you strict enough with enforcing your own rules?


In today’s episode, I’m expanding on a recent episode (linked below), where we explored how your children build their sense of self, to answer the above questions and more.


I’m going to give you the five areas where I believe you can really help your children navigate their most critical stage of identity development. This usually happens around 7-8 years old, but every child is different, so no matter where you are in your parenting journey, this episode will definitely help you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Mentioned in this episode:

Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity



Highlights from this episode:

01:28 - Ages 7 to 8 are critical

06:00 - The 8 stages of identity development

09:03 - Do what you say you will

13:28 - Are you getting in your child’s way?

19:17 - Manage your expectations

22:27 - The benefits of praising effort

28:35 - The world is NOT school

31:57 - Episode cheat sheet



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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]]> <![CDATA[When School Doesn't Work - Part 2]]> Sun, 19 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 40:36 68f2460d21f81950de9994db false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/when-school-doesnt-work-part-2 68f2460d21f81950de9994db 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 when-school-doesnt-work-part-2 with Kate Shand and Ruth Morgan full What went wrong?

Have I failed my children?


That’s the question many parents ask themselves when contemplating home schooling. But in reality, the school system simply isn’t the best choice for some children.


In the second part of our discussion, we look closer at the process of choosing a home schooling option, what a good education really looks like, and when or why you might transition your kids back into a school environment.


To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…


Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.


She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/


Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ 


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - What does good schooling look like?

08:49 - Neurodivergent burnout

12:31 - The journey back to school

18:50 - The growth option

21:38 - Breaking social moulds

23:55 - Give yourself the space to mess up

28:57 - Every parent has their own story

33:41 - Pushing over the cliff edge



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]]> What went wrong?

Have I failed my children?


That’s the question many parents ask themselves when contemplating home schooling. But in reality, the school system simply isn’t the best choice for some children.


In the second part of our discussion, we look closer at the process of choosing a home schooling option, what a good education really looks like, and when or why you might transition your kids back into a school environment.


To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…


Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.


She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/


Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ 


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - What does good schooling look like?

08:49 - Neurodivergent burnout

12:31 - The journey back to school

18:50 - The growth option

21:38 - Breaking social moulds

23:55 - Give yourself the space to mess up

28:57 - Every parent has their own story

33:41 - Pushing over the cliff edge



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[When School Doesn't Work - Part 1]]> Wed, 15 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 38:54 68ef6ed5ce402940bc74e230 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/when-school-doesnt-work-part-1 68ef6ed5ce402940bc74e230 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 when-school-doesnt-work-part-1 with Ruth Morgan and Kate Shand full Has your child ever refused to go to school?


It’s a morning routine all parents dread, but for nearly one in five parents, this is a common occurrence.. But what do you do?


In the first of this special two part episode, I am going to explore the reasons why our kids might not want to go to school and the ways in which both parents and educators can identify and support this.


Because as absenteeism continues to rise, maybe it’s time to stop blaming our kids, and start considering that maybe school doesn’t work for them.


To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…


Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.


She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/


Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ 


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:20 - These stats might shock you

05:32 - School refusal

11:46 - How to manage school incapacity

15:23 - Home schooling doesn’t have to be plan z

18:55 - Why are the stats going up?

21:21 - Ruth’s story

29:00 - School support for neurodivergence

32:06 - Schools get a different version of your child

36:35 - A message to schools



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Has your child ever refused to go to school?


It’s a morning routine all parents dread, but for nearly one in five parents, this is a common occurrence.. But what do you do?


In the first of this special two part episode, I am going to explore the reasons why our kids might not want to go to school and the ways in which both parents and educators can identify and support this.


Because as absenteeism continues to rise, maybe it’s time to stop blaming our kids, and start considering that maybe school doesn’t work for them.


To have this discussion I am joined by two very special guests…


Ruth Morgan is a mum to two children, one of whom is ASD. She shares her daughter’s story with us, and it will really resonate with any of you experiencing similar difficulties.


She is also an ⁠integrative psychotherapist who specialises in neurodivergent adults , especially late diagnosis and co-presenting mental health difficulties, and she also offers coaching to parents whose children are going through diagnosis or related challenges for the family. You can contact Ruth at https://ruthmorgan.co.uk/


Kate Shand is the founder and CEO of Enjoy Education, which provides bespoke educational services tailored to the unique needs of families and students globally. She is also a founding member and vice president of The Tutors’ Association, committed to raising tutoring standards across the industry and around the world. You can find out more at http://www.enjoyeducation.co.uk/ 


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:20 - These stats might shock you

05:32 - School refusal

11:46 - How to manage school incapacity

15:23 - Home schooling doesn’t have to be plan z

18:55 - Why are the stats going up?

21:21 - Ruth’s story

29:00 - School support for neurodivergence

32:06 - Schools get a different version of your child

36:35 - A message to schools



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: When Bedtime Feels Frazzling Bucket Emptying: When Bedtime Feels Frazzling Sun, 12 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 23:48 68ec2125f513ad2b81fdc022 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-when-bedtime-feels-frazzling 68ec2125f513ad2b81fdc022 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-when-bedtime-feels-frazzling full Does your child refuse to go to bed?

Is the nighttime routine a daily stress?

And why won’t your children sleep when they’re tired?


Today’s episode is a listener question, and one I’m sure affects most parents, because it’s all about how to make bedtime less of a battle and more of a breeze.


I am going to talk through the reasons why the sleep showdown happens, give you three things you can do, and give you the ultimate bedtime checklist to work through. There’s no perfect, instant solution because every child is different, but if you take the right approach with the right mindset, you’re halfway towards a peaceful evening!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have it All? - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all/ 


Highlights from this episode:

02:47 - Audit your shoulds

05:06 - Are we setting impossible standards?

08:28 - Find a moment to empty some of your bucket

12:21 - Download Mode

15:12 - How to set boundaries

17:37 - Where can your child have more autonomy?



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does your child refuse to go to bed?

Is the nighttime routine a daily stress?

And why won’t your children sleep when they’re tired?


Today’s episode is a listener question, and one I’m sure affects most parents, because it’s all about how to make bedtime less of a battle and more of a breeze.


I am going to talk through the reasons why the sleep showdown happens, give you three things you can do, and give you the ultimate bedtime checklist to work through. There’s no perfect, instant solution because every child is different, but if you take the right approach with the right mindset, you’re halfway towards a peaceful evening!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Mentioned in this episode:

Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have it All? - https://drmaryhan.com/episode/parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all/ 


Highlights from this episode:

02:47 - Audit your shoulds

05:06 - Are we setting impossible standards?

08:28 - Find a moment to empty some of your bucket

12:21 - Download Mode

15:12 - How to set boundaries

17:37 - Where can your child have more autonomy?



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What Do Teens Need Most from their Parents? What Do Teens Need Most from their Parents? Wed, 08 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 28:42 68e6e1a3cf3fb4880015c721 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/what-do-teens-need-most-from-their-parents 68e6e1a3cf3fb4880015c721 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 what-do-teens-need-most-from-their-parents full Are you more emotionally mature than your children?

Do you project your problems onto your kids?

Does your child feel like a burden or a failure?


These might be tough questions to think about but, according to a recent study, these are common things your teenagers might be thinking, but do not feel like they can tell you.


And don’t worry, you are not a bad parent, and this isn’t a generational thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re a boomer or a millennial, sometimes we can get so busy doing the day-to-day parenting, that we forget to pay attention and listen - truly listen - to what our kids are trying to tell us.


That’s why I’m doing today’s episode, which is all about helping you to understand what your teens really need from you, and giving you some practical advice which you can start using right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:21 - What do you wish you could tell your parents?

06:40 - 3 ways you’re not showing up for your teens

12:32 - Invest in self-awareness

15:53 - Reflect in whatever way works for you

18:01 - Start showing up

21:18 - Honest conversations



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Are you more emotionally mature than your children?

Do you project your problems onto your kids?

Does your child feel like a burden or a failure?


These might be tough questions to think about but, according to a recent study, these are common things your teenagers might be thinking, but do not feel like they can tell you.


And don’t worry, you are not a bad parent, and this isn’t a generational thing. It doesn’t matter if you’re a boomer or a millennial, sometimes we can get so busy doing the day-to-day parenting, that we forget to pay attention and listen - truly listen - to what our kids are trying to tell us.


That’s why I’m doing today’s episode, which is all about helping you to understand what your teens really need from you, and giving you some practical advice which you can start using right away.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:21 - What do you wish you could tell your parents?

06:40 - 3 ways you’re not showing up for your teens

12:32 - Invest in self-awareness

15:53 - Reflect in whatever way works for you

18:01 - Start showing up

21:18 - Honest conversations



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]]> <![CDATA[What's All the Fuss About Breathwork?]]> Sun, 05 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 18:16 68e2b4dd5f95c3d41935fc49 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/whats-all-the-fuss-about-breathwork 68e2b4dd5f95c3d41935fc49 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 whats-all-the-fuss-about-breathwork full When I say breathwork, what comes to mind?


Many of you will think of yoga, meditation, or something a bit silly. I’m sure most of you don’t think it can help your children, and I get it!


But did you know that good breathwork can have real, physical benefits on our nervous system, our brain, and our body? In other words, it’s not just some hippy dippy nonsense, and I’m going to explain why.


This means when our kids are stressed, scared, overwhelmed or anxious, good breathing can be the difference maker in a situation that usually gets out of control very quickly.


In this bucket emptying episode, I want to dispel any stigma you might have around breathwork. I’m going to tell you exactly how & why it helps, and give you some practical, actionable exercises you can start doing right now.


Here’s the Take 10 method to get you started: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/ 


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:35 - Fight, flight or freeze

05:48 - The physical benefits of breathwork

08:07 - Getting creative with breathwork

12:40 - Biometrics are a great learning aid



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> When I say breathwork, what comes to mind?


Many of you will think of yoga, meditation, or something a bit silly. I’m sure most of you don’t think it can help your children, and I get it!


But did you know that good breathwork can have real, physical benefits on our nervous system, our brain, and our body? In other words, it’s not just some hippy dippy nonsense, and I’m going to explain why.


This means when our kids are stressed, scared, overwhelmed or anxious, good breathing can be the difference maker in a situation that usually gets out of control very quickly.


In this bucket emptying episode, I want to dispel any stigma you might have around breathwork. I’m going to tell you exactly how & why it helps, and give you some practical, actionable exercises you can start doing right now.


Here’s the Take 10 method to get you started: https://drmaryhan.com/episode/breathing-techniques-for-anxious-children/ 


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, take a deep breath, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:35 - Fight, flight or freeze

05:48 - The physical benefits of breathwork

08:07 - Getting creative with breathwork

12:40 - Biometrics are a great learning aid



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have It All? Parenting at Work: Can We Really Have It All? Wed, 01 Oct 2025 23:30:00 GMT 39:06 68dd737d7be17a7f018ba99d false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all 68dd737d7be17a7f018ba99d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 parenting-at-work-can-we-really-have-it-all full “I want it all. I want it now” - timeless words sung by the late Freddie Mercury, and sampled by every child ever, including your own, am I right?


But let’s be honest, they’re not the only ones. As parents, we put ourselves under so much pressure to keep up with the Joneses and have it all… but what does that even mean?


A big house?

Private school?

Or maybe just financial security?


In this episode, I am here to tell you one thing, and one thing only: you are not perfect, and that’s okay! It’s time to follow my seven tips and embrace the beautiful, incredible, imperfect you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

00:37 - Having it all… but at what cost?

06:21 - There’s no such thing as work-life balance

10:20 - Your inner conflict

16:11 - All does not mean perfect

18:01 - Asking for help is not a weakness

21:28 - Be present for yourself

27:11 - Be ruthless

32:41 - You are imperfect, and that’s ok

34:22 - Who are you?




💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> “I want it all. I want it now” - timeless words sung by the late Freddie Mercury, and sampled by every child ever, including your own, am I right?


But let’s be honest, they’re not the only ones. As parents, we put ourselves under so much pressure to keep up with the Joneses and have it all… but what does that even mean?


A big house?

Private school?

Or maybe just financial security?


In this episode, I am here to tell you one thing, and one thing only: you are not perfect, and that’s okay! It’s time to follow my seven tips and embrace the beautiful, incredible, imperfect you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

00:37 - Having it all… but at what cost?

06:21 - There’s no such thing as work-life balance

10:20 - Your inner conflict

16:11 - All does not mean perfect

18:01 - Asking for help is not a weakness

21:28 - Be present for yourself

27:11 - Be ruthless

32:41 - You are imperfect, and that’s ok

34:22 - Who are you?




💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying: ADHD & Neurodivergence in Children - The Facts]]> Sun, 28 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 27:58 68d946ecacc34956e628b9ea false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-adhd-neurodivergence-in-children-the-facts 68d946ecacc34956e628b9ea 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-adhd-neurodivergence-in-children-the-facts The Best Bits with Jessie Hewitson full Let’s be clear: tylenol does not cause autism.

It does not cause ADHD.

Neurodivergence is not contagious.

And it is not a disease to be caught or cured.


You’ve probably heard these claims being made by certain politicians and Presidents recently, but let me assure you: there is no credible scientific evidence to support this.


As parents, we already feel so much shame and guilt about our kids’ neurodivergence, be it ADHD, autism, or anything else.


Why didn’t I spot it sooner?

Am I a terrible Mum?

Have I failed my child?


We’ve all been there, and the answer is no, no, NO! So in this episode I am sharing the best bits from my recent interview with journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.


We cover everything from Mum guilt, to the school system, and what you can do to create a more positive, supportive environment for your neurodiverse kids.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because we’re about to take the RFK out of ADHD, and give you some home truths you don’t want to miss…


Listen to the full episode with Jessie here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson/id1571503566?i=1000723801183 


Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

00:58 - ADHD Myth Versus Reality

03:37 - The Broken School System

06:50 - Mom Guilt

10:10 - Guilt and Motherhood Go Hand in Hand

11:06 - Let the Doctor Make the Call

12:56 - How to Rebuild Self-Esteem in Neurodivergent Children

15:28 - Epiphany at the Cinema

18:12 - F You All

20:11 - A Neurotypical World

21:55 - Be the Shield from Society’s Judgment

22:24 - Do You Have ADHD?



More from Jessie:

Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf 

Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 

Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk

Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson 



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Let’s be clear: tylenol does not cause autism.

It does not cause ADHD.

Neurodivergence is not contagious.

And it is not a disease to be caught or cured.


You’ve probably heard these claims being made by certain politicians and Presidents recently, but let me assure you: there is no credible scientific evidence to support this.


As parents, we already feel so much shame and guilt about our kids’ neurodivergence, be it ADHD, autism, or anything else.


Why didn’t I spot it sooner?

Am I a terrible Mum?

Have I failed my child?


We’ve all been there, and the answer is no, no, NO! So in this episode I am sharing the best bits from my recent interview with journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.


We cover everything from Mum guilt, to the school system, and what you can do to create a more positive, supportive environment for your neurodiverse kids.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation, because we’re about to take the RFK out of ADHD, and give you some home truths you don’t want to miss…


Listen to the full episode with Jessie here: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson/id1571503566?i=1000723801183 


Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

00:58 - ADHD Myth Versus Reality

03:37 - The Broken School System

06:50 - Mom Guilt

10:10 - Guilt and Motherhood Go Hand in Hand

11:06 - Let the Doctor Make the Call

12:56 - How to Rebuild Self-Esteem in Neurodivergent Children

15:28 - Epiphany at the Cinema

18:12 - F You All

20:11 - A Neurotypical World

21:55 - Be the Shield from Society’s Judgment

22:24 - Do You Have ADHD?



More from Jessie:

Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf 

Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 

Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk

Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson 



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does Self-Control Make Successful Children? Does Self-Control Make Successful Children? Wed, 24 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 32:29 68d42ef707474c67717b5240 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/does-self-control-make-successful-children 68d42ef707474c67717b5240 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 does-self-control-make-successful-children full Someone leaves you in a room with a tasty treat. You can eat it right away, but you’ve been promised two treats if you resist for 15 minutes. What do you do?


This isn’t a riddle, but a very important experiment called The Marshmallow Test, and I bring this up to show you that building self-control and willpower in our kids is an age-old challenge for parents like you and me.


Which is why in this episode, I talk through some of the crucial factors that impact self-control and explain why taking the time to help your children develop this important skill, can set them up for success in adult life.


Plus, I share some super practical tips which you can start using right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 


Highlights from this episode:

00:22 - What the Tokyo World Athletics teaches parents

02:55 - What is self-control?

08:45 - The marshmallow test

12:20 - Crucial factors

16:54 - Be a role model for your kids

22:35 - How to encourage self-control

27:48 - We are the scaffolding



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Someone leaves you in a room with a tasty treat. You can eat it right away, but you’ve been promised two treats if you resist for 15 minutes. What do you do?


This isn’t a riddle, but a very important experiment called The Marshmallow Test, and I bring this up to show you that building self-control and willpower in our kids is an age-old challenge for parents like you and me.


Which is why in this episode, I talk through some of the crucial factors that impact self-control and explain why taking the time to help your children develop this important skill, can set them up for success in adult life.


Plus, I share some super practical tips which you can start using right now.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here: https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 


Highlights from this episode:

00:22 - What the Tokyo World Athletics teaches parents

02:55 - What is self-control?

08:45 - The marshmallow test

12:20 - Crucial factors

16:54 - Be a role model for your kids

22:35 - How to encourage self-control

27:48 - We are the scaffolding



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚 For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚 For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Boosting Low Self-Confidence Boosting Low Self-Confidence Sun, 21 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 12:09 68cc7685f524410c4b353c24 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/boosting-low-self-confidence 68cc7685f524410c4b353c24 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 boosting-low-self-confidence full Is your child’s self-confidence at rock bottom?

Are you feeling a bit helpless, or lost at how to help?


Firstly, remember we have all been there, I promise you! And secondly, this bucket emptying episode builds on our previous episodes about confidence, but this time I talk specifically about how to boost really low self-confidence in your kids and teens.


I’m going to share three things that I guarantee you will find super helpful when managing your child’s low self-confidence.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

01:10 - What is self-confidence?

03:27 - Building a new, capable mindset

05:16 - Learning to try

07:48 - Shake it off



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Is your child’s self-confidence at rock bottom?

Are you feeling a bit helpless, or lost at how to help?


Firstly, remember we have all been there, I promise you! And secondly, this bucket emptying episode builds on our previous episodes about confidence, but this time I talk specifically about how to boost really low self-confidence in your kids and teens.


I’m going to share three things that I guarantee you will find super helpful when managing your child’s low self-confidence.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

01:10 - What is self-confidence?

03:27 - Building a new, capable mindset

05:16 - Learning to try

07:48 - Shake it off



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[Building Children and Teens' Self Belief and Confidence]]> Wed, 17 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 31:36 68caa70ed40e25a925e70e61 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/building-children-and-teens-self-belief-and-confidence 68caa70ed40e25a925e70e61 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 building-children-and-teens-self-belief-and-confidence full Confidence is something we all struggle with, sometimes on a daily basis.


But for our kids, who are dealing with new experiences, new challenges, and constant change all the time, their confidence and self belief is being really tested. Childhood is not quite as easy as we like to remember.. we’re all guilty of that!


That’s why I’m kicking off a trilogy of episodes, taking a long hard look at confidence in our children, and how we, as parents, can support them through the tough times and help them build their self-belief.


Remember, our goal is to be the scaffolding for our kids, to help them grow into healthy, resilient and confident people, and I’m here to guide you through every step.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

02:01 - These stats might shock you

05:00 - The difference between self belief and self confidence

06:30 - You must model confidence for your kids

10:58 - Effort > result

14:04 - Set regular goals

17:17 - Cultivate curiosity for new things

20:35 - I don’t like chores

23:20 - How thoughts drive feelings

26:52 - Our faith in them is unconditional



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]]> Confidence is something we all struggle with, sometimes on a daily basis.


But for our kids, who are dealing with new experiences, new challenges, and constant change all the time, their confidence and self belief is being really tested. Childhood is not quite as easy as we like to remember.. we’re all guilty of that!


That’s why I’m kicking off a trilogy of episodes, taking a long hard look at confidence in our children, and how we, as parents, can support them through the tough times and help them build their self-belief.


Remember, our goal is to be the scaffolding for our kids, to help them grow into healthy, resilient and confident people, and I’m here to guide you through every step.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



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Highlights from this episode:

02:01 - These stats might shock you

05:00 - The difference between self belief and self confidence

06:30 - You must model confidence for your kids

10:58 - Effort > result

14:04 - Set regular goals

17:17 - Cultivate curiosity for new things

20:35 - I don’t like chores

23:20 - How thoughts drive feelings

26:52 - Our faith in them is unconditional



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]]> What to Do in the Moment of Non-Compliance What to Do in the Moment of Non-Compliance Sun, 14 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 18:57 68c4212aac97a487dffd1a52 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/what-to-do-in-the-moment-of-non-compliance 68c4212aac97a487dffd1a52 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 what-to-do-in-the-moment-of-non-compliance full Do you find yourself getting louder and louder when your kids don’t listen to you?

Are you constantly fighting to get them to do what you ask?


In the second of our two part bucket-emptying special, I am helping you manage your child’s non-compliance: when they just say no or, more annoyingly, they ignore you completely!


Last week we talked through some of the main reasons why your children do this, and if you haven’t listened to that yet, spoiler alert: they’re not naughty.


On this episode, I give you six practical things you can do right now to manage those moments when you just want to pull your hair out.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



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Highlights from this episode:

01:56 - Not all buckets are created equal

06:18 - Keep it simple

09:35 - Take a moment to reset

12:03 - Use a quieter voice

14:46 - Can you turn it into a game?

16:07 - Praising progress



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]]> Do you find yourself getting louder and louder when your kids don’t listen to you?

Are you constantly fighting to get them to do what you ask?


In the second of our two part bucket-emptying special, I am helping you manage your child’s non-compliance: when they just say no or, more annoyingly, they ignore you completely!


Last week we talked through some of the main reasons why your children do this, and if you haven’t listened to that yet, spoiler alert: they’re not naughty.


On this episode, I give you six practical things you can do right now to manage those moments when you just want to pull your hair out.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

01:56 - Not all buckets are created equal

06:18 - Keep it simple

09:35 - Take a moment to reset

12:03 - Use a quieter voice

14:46 - Can you turn it into a game?

16:07 - Praising progress



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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]]> From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children From Google to the Great Outdoors: Why Spending More Time Outside is GOOD for Your Children Wed, 10 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 43:59 68c182cbb2dfbf7f9f4890a8 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/from-google-to-the-great-outdoors-why-spending-more-time-out 68c182cbb2dfbf7f9f4890a8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 from-google-to-the-great-outdoors-why-spending-more-time-out with Tish Feilden full On today’s episode, I am joined by Tish Feilden, formerly a teacher and psychotherapist, but today one of the founders of Jamie’s Farm.


Alongside her son, they have created a life-changing program that, in their words, leaves children ‘better equipped to thrive academically, socially and emotionally during their school years and beyond.’


We have a great chat about the benefits of putting the screens down, getting your children outside, and giving your kids the autonomy and the agency they need to thrive as confident, independent people.


You don’t want to miss this!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More from Tish

Visit Jamie’s Farm: https://jamiesfarm.org.uk/ 

Tish on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tish-feilden-a8a7b14b/?originalSubdomain=uk 



Come to the Webinar

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Highlights from this episode:

02:33 - A whole different ball game

06:02 - Why go to school when I can Google it?

11:19 - Give your kids a sense of purpose

15:39 - Embrace change and milk a cow

21:17 - Help

26:31 - It’s only a little electric shock

29:28 - A week without phones

33:02 - Every emotion is healthy

37:20 - Your job as a parent is never complete



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]]> On today’s episode, I am joined by Tish Feilden, formerly a teacher and psychotherapist, but today one of the founders of Jamie’s Farm.


Alongside her son, they have created a life-changing program that, in their words, leaves children ‘better equipped to thrive academically, socially and emotionally during their school years and beyond.’


We have a great chat about the benefits of putting the screens down, getting your children outside, and giving your kids the autonomy and the agency they need to thrive as confident, independent people.


You don’t want to miss this!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



More from Tish

Visit Jamie’s Farm: https://jamiesfarm.org.uk/ 

Tish on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/tish-feilden-a8a7b14b/?originalSubdomain=uk 



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

02:33 - A whole different ball game

06:02 - Why go to school when I can Google it?

11:19 - Give your kids a sense of purpose

15:39 - Embrace change and milk a cow

21:17 - Help

26:31 - It’s only a little electric shock

29:28 - A week without phones

33:02 - Every emotion is healthy

37:20 - Your job as a parent is never complete



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Why Won't My Child Comply?]]> Sun, 07 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 20:32 68bd6d801af371182a569886 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-wont-my-child-comply 68bd6d801af371182a569886 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-wont-my-child-comply full Do your children refuse to follow boundaries?

Do you think you are never being listened to?


In the first of a two part bucket emptying special, we are going to figure out the tricky issue of setting boundaries and getting our kids to actually respect them!


But here’s a spoiler: you should not feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries. As a parent, it’s your job to be the rulemaker, and your kids won’t always like or understand that. And in this episode I’m going to share 5 of the biggest reasons for non-compliance to help you understand why your child is saying no.


Then, in the next bucket emptying episode, we can explore some of the things you can start doing right away to help you deal with this.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

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Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries

03:04 - Our kids want some control over their own lives

06:37 - Pushing boundaries is not just a phase; it’s a cycle

10:28 - Is your child capable of doing what you’re asking them to do?

15:40 - Catching them off guard



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]]> Do your children refuse to follow boundaries?

Do you think you are never being listened to?


In the first of a two part bucket emptying special, we are going to figure out the tricky issue of setting boundaries and getting our kids to actually respect them!


But here’s a spoiler: you should not feel guilty for setting healthy boundaries. As a parent, it’s your job to be the rulemaker, and your kids won’t always like or understand that. And in this episode I’m going to share 5 of the biggest reasons for non-compliance to help you understand why your child is saying no.


Then, in the next bucket emptying episode, we can explore some of the things you can start doing right away to help you deal with this.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - Don’t feel guilty about setting boundaries

03:04 - Our kids want some control over their own lives

06:37 - Pushing boundaries is not just a phase; it’s a cycle

10:28 - Is your child capable of doing what you’re asking them to do?

15:40 - Catching them off guard



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity Becoming Me: How Your Children Develop Their Sense of Identity Wed, 03 Sep 2025 23:30:00 GMT 40:25 68b8432a7450e0cb415173d7 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/becoming-me-how-your-children-develop-their-sense-of-identit 68b8432a7450e0cb415173d7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 becoming-me-how-your-children-develop-their-sense-of-identit full Your sense of self is so important, and a lot of it is wrapped up in who we think we are and how we compare ourselves to others.


The same goes for your children, and supporting this will be one of your biggest challenges as parents.


That’s why, in this episode, I’m going to explain what identity is, I’ll talk through the different developmental stages, and what you can do to help your kids navigate these particular stages in their life, as well as your own.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



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Highlights from this episode:

04:19 - What is identity?

08:24 - Conflict is at the core

11:38 - Infancy conflicts

14:20 - Autonomy and purpose

18:54 - Primary school and self-confidence

23:02 - Adolescence and identity

26:35 - Intimacy versus isolation

29:23 - Middle age stagnation

34:10 - Old age despair



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Your sense of self is so important, and a lot of it is wrapped up in who we think we are and how we compare ourselves to others.


The same goes for your children, and supporting this will be one of your biggest challenges as parents.


That’s why, in this episode, I’m going to explain what identity is, I’ll talk through the different developmental stages, and what you can do to help your kids navigate these particular stages in their life, as well as your own.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Come to the Webinar

Join me and the How Not To Screw Up Your Kids Community as I unpick how we can help our children build their sense of self, so they feel more confident day to day. Find out more and book your place here:  https://stan.store/drmaryhan/p/next-60-minutes-with-dr-maryhan-1st-october-8pm- 



Highlights from this episode:

04:19 - What is identity?

08:24 - Conflict is at the core

11:38 - Infancy conflicts

14:20 - Autonomy and purpose

18:54 - Primary school and self-confidence

23:02 - Adolescence and identity

26:35 - Intimacy versus isolation

29:23 - Middle age stagnation

34:10 - Old age despair



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Quietening Our Inner Critic Bucket Emptying: Quietening Our Inner Critic Sun, 31 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 13:06 68b437bee9dcbdcab9ceee70 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-quietening-our-inner-critic 68b437bee9dcbdcab9ceee70 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-quietening-our-inner-critic You are good enough! full Do you compare yourself to other parents?

Do you sometimes think you’re not good enough?


Here’s a secret… you are good enough, and every parent out there has the same doubt. I say it’s time to silence the inner critic!


In this short bucket emptying episode, I give you four practical tips you can start doing today, to get rid of your inner critic and start being the happiest, most confident version of yourself. Because you cannot possibly look after your kids if you don’t first look after yourself.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:49 - Every parent experiences at least one of these

03:16 - “I’m a bad parent”

04:46 - Give yourself some slack

05:49 - What’s your mantra?

07:46 - Find your tribe

09:50 - Go to sleep!



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Do you compare yourself to other parents?

Do you sometimes think you’re not good enough?


Here’s a secret… you are good enough, and every parent out there has the same doubt. I say it’s time to silence the inner critic!


In this short bucket emptying episode, I give you four practical tips you can start doing today, to get rid of your inner critic and start being the happiest, most confident version of yourself. Because you cannot possibly look after your kids if you don’t first look after yourself.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:49 - Every parent experiences at least one of these

03:16 - “I’m a bad parent”

04:46 - Give yourself some slack

05:49 - What’s your mantra?

07:46 - Find your tribe

09:50 - Go to sleep!



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For all previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


💚  For the free resource library, visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


💚 Brands and advertisers, email contact@drmaryhan.com 



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Raising Happy ADHD Children with Jessie Hewitson Raising Happy ADHD Children with Jessie Hewitson Wed, 27 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 46:14 68af056a982c36846e31c8b5 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson 68af056a982c36846e31c8b5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 raising-happy-adhd-children-with-jessie-hewitson Everything You Know About ADHD is Wrong! full Everything you know about ADHD is probably wrong.


That’s the title of an influential article written by today’s guest, journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.


Jessie joins me to talk about the challenges she faced before her son’s diagnosis, the guilt she feels as a parent for not acting quicker or better during that time, and why the education system is built for a neurotypical world… and the problems you might face if you are also parenting a neurodiverse child.


This is a fascinating conversation that will reframe everything you think you know about neurodivergence, autism and adhd.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:51 - The social shaming around ADHD

11:01 - ADHD myth versus reality

14:54 - ASD or ADHD?

20:33 - Rebuilding self-esteem in ADHD children

27:23 - F you all

31:31 - A neurotypical world

35:57 - Barriers in the system

40:04 - Do I have ADHD?



More from Jessie:

Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf 

Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 

Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk

Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Everything you know about ADHD is probably wrong.


That’s the title of an influential article written by today’s guest, journalist and author Jessie Hewitson. Her sons are both neurodivergent and, it turns out, so is she, which she discovered while writing her book on ADHD.


Jessie joins me to talk about the challenges she faced before her son’s diagnosis, the guilt she feels as a parent for not acting quicker or better during that time, and why the education system is built for a neurotypical world… and the problems you might face if you are also parenting a neurodiverse child.


This is a fascinating conversation that will reframe everything you think you know about neurodivergence, autism and adhd.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:51 - The social shaming around ADHD

11:01 - ADHD myth versus reality

14:54 - ASD or ADHD?

20:33 - Rebuilding self-esteem in ADHD children

27:23 - F you all

31:31 - A neurotypical world

35:57 - Barriers in the system

40:04 - Do I have ADHD?



More from Jessie:

Buy the book: https://a.co/d/eHGvsxf 

Read her article in The Times: https://www.thetimes.com/life-style/parenting/article/my-adhd-family-what-you-think-wrong-gq6s6hl3c?msockid=2f94feb8d57068851bbdebd1d476690b 

Visit NeuroUniverse: https://www.neurouniverse.co.uk

Connect on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jessie-hewitson 



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]]> Bucket Emptying: First Day at School Jitters Bucket Emptying: First Day at School Jitters Sun, 24 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 29:33 68aa4ad773bf5b62987d2a0d false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-first-day-at-school-jitters 68aa4ad773bf5b62987d2a0d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-first-day-at-school-jitters 10 Top Tips to Help Your Children Overcome New School Nerves full The first day at a new school can be a scary experience for many children, as well as us parents! But what do you do if your kid is super nervous?


We often feel like the bad guy making them go in when they clearly don’t want to, even when we know it’s the best thing for them, so in this week’s bucket emptying episode, I give you my ten top tips for managing those first day jitters.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:21 - It’s normal to feel nervous

05:33 - Active listening

09:28 - Pulling back bedtime

13:28 - Role play problem solving

14:55 - Prep ourselves

18:03 - Protect their energy

21:35 - A happy child is more likely to learn

24:51 - Pulling everything together



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]]> The first day at a new school can be a scary experience for many children, as well as us parents! But what do you do if your kid is super nervous?


We often feel like the bad guy making them go in when they clearly don’t want to, even when we know it’s the best thing for them, so in this week’s bucket emptying episode, I give you my ten top tips for managing those first day jitters.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:21 - It’s normal to feel nervous

05:33 - Active listening

09:28 - Pulling back bedtime

13:28 - Role play problem solving

14:55 - Prep ourselves

18:03 - Protect their energy

21:35 - A happy child is more likely to learn

24:51 - Pulling everything together



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> Is My Child School Ready? Is My Child School Ready? Wed, 20 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 34:12 68a6471b73bf5b629836ee63 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/is-my-child-school-ready 68a6471b73bf5b629836ee63 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 is-my-child-school-ready How to Spot the Red Flags full Is your child about to start school for the first time?

Are they about to return from their Summer holidays?

How do you know if they’re ready?


Studies suggest that a majority of parents believe their children are ready for school, but many teachers believe a large portion of kids are not ready for school when they start. So who’s right?


In this episode, I explore some of the red flags that might suggest your child is not fully prepared for the challenges of starting school, and offers some practical advice on what you can do to help.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - A common myth

05:53 - What does school ready mean?

08:53 - Figure out your starting point

10:58 - 6 honest questions to ask yourself

17:07 - The art of negotiation

18:55 - Managing conflict and separation anxiety

23:43 - Closing the skills gap



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]]> Is your child about to start school for the first time?

Are they about to return from their Summer holidays?

How do you know if they’re ready?


Studies suggest that a majority of parents believe their children are ready for school, but many teachers believe a large portion of kids are not ready for school when they start. So who’s right?


In this episode, I explore some of the red flags that might suggest your child is not fully prepared for the challenges of starting school, and offers some practical advice on what you can do to help.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - A common myth

05:53 - What does school ready mean?

08:53 - Figure out your starting point

10:58 - 6 honest questions to ask yourself

17:07 - The art of negotiation

18:55 - Managing conflict and separation anxiety

23:43 - Closing the skills gap



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]]> <![CDATA["You Don't Trust Me!"]]> Sun, 17 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 16:00 68a1ba83436325e2782df327 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/you-dont-trust-me 68a1ba83436325e2782df327 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 you-dont-trust-me ...5 Useful Responses When Your Child Says This full As parents, it’s our job to make the rules and enforce them. And it’s our children’s job to challenge those boundaries and push us to our limits.


That’s why, when we try getting them to do something they simply don’t want to do, we often hear “you don’t trust me!”


Even though it’s normal and age appropriate, I get it - it’s so frustrating. How do you parent this? How do you respond to this apparent lose-lose scenario?


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you five different responses you can use when your kids say this.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:41 - We’re all learning

05:00 - Our role is to keep you safe

07:07 - Laying down the law

10:00 - Reinforcing family values

11:33 - A hard no



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]]> As parents, it’s our job to make the rules and enforce them. And it’s our children’s job to challenge those boundaries and push us to our limits.


That’s why, when we try getting them to do something they simply don’t want to do, we often hear “you don’t trust me!”


Even though it’s normal and age appropriate, I get it - it’s so frustrating. How do you parent this? How do you respond to this apparent lose-lose scenario?


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you five different responses you can use when your kids say this.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:41 - We’re all learning

05:00 - Our role is to keep you safe

07:07 - Laying down the law

10:00 - Reinforcing family values

11:33 - A hard no



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> 5 Essential Skills for Life Success 5 Essential Skills for Life Success Wed, 13 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 47:15 68978f7f86fca13628bbc732 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/5-essential-skills-for-life-success 68978f7f86fca13628bbc732 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 5-essential-skills-for-life-success full Are your children smart? Spoiler alert: it doesn’t matter.


I don’t believe that academic intelligence means your child will be successful in life, because real life is about so much more than grades.


In this episode I am going to reveal what I think are the five essential life skills your kids need to be successful. I’ll tell you what they are, and give you practical ways you can develop this skill in your child.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

03:56 - The 5 Skills

05:40 - Planning

17:07 - Social curiosity

25:19 - Self-regulation

32:38 - Focus

42:18 - Adaptability



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]]> Are your children smart? Spoiler alert: it doesn’t matter.


I don’t believe that academic intelligence means your child will be successful in life, because real life is about so much more than grades.


In this episode I am going to reveal what I think are the five essential life skills your kids need to be successful. I’ll tell you what they are, and give you practical ways you can develop this skill in your child.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

03:56 - The 5 Skills

05:40 - Planning

17:07 - Social curiosity

25:19 - Self-regulation

32:38 - Focus

42:18 - Adaptability



💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For the free resource library, previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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]]> Bucket Emptying: Active Listening and the Power of Repetition Bucket Emptying: Active Listening and the Power of Repetition Sun, 10 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 19:05 6894b2bbb5f8d99f35e4884b false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-active-listening-and-the-power-of-repetition 6894b2bbb5f8d99f35e4884b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-active-listening-and-the-power-of-repetition full Do your children shut down when you ask them questions?

Are they often frustrated that you don’t understand them?

Do they think you don’t listen, or worse, don’t care?


Active listening doesn’t come naturally to us. It’s a learned skill, and it helps us show our kids that we’re not just hearing them, but we understand them, and when their guard comes down you will be AMAZED at the results.


In this episode I am going to show you what active listening is and how you can start doing it today to create more meaningful conversations with your children of any age.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Highlights from this episode:

02:20 - A conversation of sounds

07:40 - When our children are more articulate

11:50 - Examples of active listening

14:12 - It doesn’t need to work every time


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


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]]> Do your children shut down when you ask them questions?

Are they often frustrated that you don’t understand them?

Do they think you don’t listen, or worse, don’t care?


Active listening doesn’t come naturally to us. It’s a learned skill, and it helps us show our kids that we’re not just hearing them, but we understand them, and when their guard comes down you will be AMAZED at the results.


In this episode I am going to show you what active listening is and how you can start doing it today to create more meaningful conversations with your children of any age.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…


Highlights from this episode:

02:20 - A conversation of sounds

07:40 - When our children are more articulate

11:50 - Examples of active listening

14:12 - It doesn’t need to work every time


💚 Please share with at least one friend, and let’s build our village together


💚  For the free resource library, previous episodes, and to submit episode topics you want me to talk about, visit https://drmaryhan.com/podcast/ 


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]]> 5 Hacks to Help Siblings Get Along 5 Hacks to Help Siblings Get Along Wed, 06 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 30:53 6893c6d0eef665d629dbac3e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/5-hacks-to-help-siblings-get-along 6893c6d0eef665d629dbac3e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 5-hacks-to-help-siblings-get-along full Do your children constantly fight and argue?


There are many reasons why brothers and sisters butt heads, and it’s totally normal, but often we’re too busy doing damage control that we don’t take a step back to think about what we can do differently.


In this episode, I’m going to give you five hacks which you can start using immediately to help your warring children get along (mostly).


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:04 - Create opportunities for whole family time

04:19 - Special time for each child

12:08 - I want to be a cat

18:58 - Create own time space

20:59 - Establish a family pact

25:24 - Use schedules and rotas for high conflict situations

28:59 - The power of praise



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


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]]> Do your children constantly fight and argue?


There are many reasons why brothers and sisters butt heads, and it’s totally normal, but often we’re too busy doing damage control that we don’t take a step back to think about what we can do differently.


In this episode, I’m going to give you five hacks which you can start using immediately to help your warring children get along (mostly).


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:04 - Create opportunities for whole family time

04:19 - Special time for each child

12:08 - I want to be a cat

18:58 - Create own time space

20:59 - Establish a family pact

25:24 - Use schedules and rotas for high conflict situations

28:59 - The power of praise



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: How to Parent Defiant Children Bucket Emptying: How to Parent Defiant Children Sun, 03 Aug 2025 23:30:00 GMT 14:00 688cbf53fcf1b79f7b801947 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-to-parent-defiant-children 688cbf53fcf1b79f7b801947 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-to-parent-defiant-children full What do you do with defiant children who won’t get involved in group activities?


I recently had this question from a listener, and I’m sure they’re not the only parent dealing with this! So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you some practical tips and easy things you can do right away, so that you and your children are happier!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:23 - The behaviour is not the issue

04:49 - Unmet needs

07:38 - Skills gaps

11:17 - Reframing



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What do you do with defiant children who won’t get involved in group activities?


I recently had this question from a listener, and I’m sure they’re not the only parent dealing with this! So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you some practical tips and easy things you can do right away, so that you and your children are happier!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:23 - The behaviour is not the issue

04:49 - Unmet needs

07:38 - Skills gaps

11:17 - Reframing



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[So... You're Expecting]]> Wed, 30 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 32:17 688a9afabe8bca0ca2bfaa67 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/so-youre-expecting 688a9afabe8bca0ca2bfaa67 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 so-youre-expecting 10 essential tips for new parents full Whether you’re expecting your first child or your tenth, parenting never gets easier.


At every age, with every new addition, we as new parents have to learn to expect the unexpected, and if you learn that when you’re expecting, the unexpected might not end up being so… unexpected. You see?


In this episode, I’m going to help you prepare for your parenting journey, because even though there’s no magic wand, as a mum of two and a child psychologist, I’ve picked up a few life lessons that I’d like to share with you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:44 - Expect the unexpected

04:56 - What of parent do you want to be?

09:26 - What kind of child do you want to raise?

14:55 - Connection is critical

20:26 - Parenting is the hardest thing you will ever do

22:46 - Don’t lose the old you

25:14 - Nurture your tribe

28:47 - Learn to take care of yourself



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Whether you’re expecting your first child or your tenth, parenting never gets easier.


At every age, with every new addition, we as new parents have to learn to expect the unexpected, and if you learn that when you’re expecting, the unexpected might not end up being so… unexpected. You see?


In this episode, I’m going to help you prepare for your parenting journey, because even though there’s no magic wand, as a mum of two and a child psychologist, I’ve picked up a few life lessons that I’d like to share with you.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:44 - Expect the unexpected

04:56 - What of parent do you want to be?

09:26 - What kind of child do you want to raise?

14:55 - Connection is critical

20:26 - Parenting is the hardest thing you will ever do

22:46 - Don’t lose the old you

25:14 - Nurture your tribe

28:47 - Learn to take care of yourself



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Bucket Emptying: How to Survive Car Journeys with Kids Bucket Emptying: How to Survive Car Journeys with Kids Sun, 27 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 17:45 68838b383781311f9137bb74 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-to-survive-car-journeys-with-kids 68838b383781311f9137bb74 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-to-survive-car-journeys-with-kids full If you’re a parent, you might dread the thought of a long car ride. Managing your kids’ hunger, boredom, and frustration is like being in parenting hell until you reach your destination.


Well, you’re not alone.


So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some quick tips and simple hacks to help you manage those long journeys without having a meltdown!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:28 - Support the podcast

02:24 - Get everyone involved in planning

04:47 - Get your children to pack their own bags

10:11 - Plan A, B, C, and D

12:46 - The element of surprise

15:28 - Reflect back and learn for next time



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> If you’re a parent, you might dread the thought of a long car ride. Managing your kids’ hunger, boredom, and frustration is like being in parenting hell until you reach your destination.


Well, you’re not alone.


So in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share some quick tips and simple hacks to help you manage those long journeys without having a meltdown!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:28 - Support the podcast

02:24 - Get everyone involved in planning

04:47 - Get your children to pack their own bags

10:11 - Plan A, B, C, and D

12:46 - The element of surprise

15:28 - Reflect back and learn for next time



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Children Need More Play and Less Experiences Children Need More Play and Less Experiences Wed, 23 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 32:49 688163cc911cb5ab74a7492e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/children-need-more-play-and-less-experiences 688163cc911cb5ab74a7492e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 children-need-more-play-and-less-experiences full Do you feel overwhelmed by the pressure to provide constant experiences?

Have kids who are "always bored" or glued to devices?

Or struggle with guilt about not doing "enough" activities?


Then this episode is for you. I challenge the modern parenting myth that we need to pack our children's lives with endless activities and experiences. Instead, I reveal why unstructured play is actually your child's most powerful learning tool.


I break down exactly how play develops emotional intelligence, social skills, problem-solving abilities, and academic success - often better than formal lessons. I also share game-changing strategies for different age groups, from toddlers to teenagers.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:28 - Play to recharge

04:45 - Play to work through and resolve issues

08:16 - Play to teach social skills

14:12 - Play is a safe space to fail

17:24 - Reframe the purpose of play

23:11 - Allocate time to play

27:24 - Never too old to play



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Do you feel overwhelmed by the pressure to provide constant experiences?

Have kids who are "always bored" or glued to devices?

Or struggle with guilt about not doing "enough" activities?


Then this episode is for you. I challenge the modern parenting myth that we need to pack our children's lives with endless activities and experiences. Instead, I reveal why unstructured play is actually your child's most powerful learning tool.


I break down exactly how play develops emotional intelligence, social skills, problem-solving abilities, and academic success - often better than formal lessons. I also share game-changing strategies for different age groups, from toddlers to teenagers.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:28 - Play to recharge

04:45 - Play to work through and resolve issues

08:16 - Play to teach social skills

14:12 - Play is a safe space to fail

17:24 - Reframe the purpose of play

23:11 - Allocate time to play

27:24 - Never too old to play



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA["I'm Rubbish at Everything!": 5 Steps to Handle Your Child's Self-Criticism]]> Mon, 21 Jul 2025 02:00:00 GMT 14:54 68781a80b93bd5454d8ee6c5 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/im-rubbish-at-everything-5-steps-to-handle-your-childs-self 68781a80b93bd5454d8ee6c5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 im-rubbish-at-everything-5-steps-to-handle-your-childs-self full What do you do when your child says "Everyone hates me," "I'm rubbish at everything," or "I'm a loser"?


In this bucket-emptying episode, I share exactly how to respond in the moment when your child is being self-critical.


I'll walk you through my 5-step approach to handle these heartbreaking moments without dismissing their feelings or being overly positive. You'll learn why that internal dialogue matters so much, how to validate their experience while offering a more realistic perspective, and my powerful "pause and reframe" technique that helps children catch themselves before negative self-talk becomes hardwired.


This is about what to do RIGHT NOW when these comments happen - not the long-term strategies (that's coming in a full Thursday episode). Whether your child occasionally has these moments or this has become a pattern, these techniques will help you respond in a way that actually helps rather than accidentally making things worse.


Remember: self-criticism reflects their internal monologue, and with the right approach, we can help them develop a healthier inner voice. Their brains are incredibly plastic - we have time to turn this around.


Key topics covered:

  • Understanding your child's internal dialogue and self-talk
  • The 5-step response framework for self-critical moments
  • Why validation comes before correction
  • Teaching the "pause and reframe" technique
  • How to model healthy self-talk as a parent


This episode is perfect for parents dealing with children who struggle with self-esteem, negative self-talk, or perfectionism.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:35 - What is self talk?

03:50 - Validate your child’s feelings

05:55 - Offer a realistic alternative

08:30 - Pause and reframe

11:56 - Rome wasn’t built in a day



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> What do you do when your child says "Everyone hates me," "I'm rubbish at everything," or "I'm a loser"?


In this bucket-emptying episode, I share exactly how to respond in the moment when your child is being self-critical.


I'll walk you through my 5-step approach to handle these heartbreaking moments without dismissing their feelings or being overly positive. You'll learn why that internal dialogue matters so much, how to validate their experience while offering a more realistic perspective, and my powerful "pause and reframe" technique that helps children catch themselves before negative self-talk becomes hardwired.


This is about what to do RIGHT NOW when these comments happen - not the long-term strategies (that's coming in a full Thursday episode). Whether your child occasionally has these moments or this has become a pattern, these techniques will help you respond in a way that actually helps rather than accidentally making things worse.


Remember: self-criticism reflects their internal monologue, and with the right approach, we can help them develop a healthier inner voice. Their brains are incredibly plastic - we have time to turn this around.


Key topics covered:

  • Understanding your child's internal dialogue and self-talk
  • The 5-step response framework for self-critical moments
  • Why validation comes before correction
  • Teaching the "pause and reframe" technique
  • How to model healthy self-talk as a parent


This episode is perfect for parents dealing with children who struggle with self-esteem, negative self-talk, or perfectionism.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:35 - What is self talk?

03:50 - Validate your child’s feelings

05:55 - Offer a realistic alternative

08:30 - Pause and reframe

11:56 - Rome wasn’t built in a day



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[How to Stop Impulsive Behavior in Kids: 6 Proven Strategies for ADHD, Anxiety & Emotional Regulation]]> Thu, 17 Jul 2025 02:00:00 GMT 29:54 68778a9c5d5bb08874b7c11a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/how-to-stop-impulsive-behavior-in-kids-6-proven-strategies 68778a9c5d5bb08874b7c11a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-to-stop-impulsive-behavior-in-kids-6-proven-strategies full Struggling with your child's impulsive behavior?


In this episode, I share 6 game-changing strategies to help children break free from autopilot reactions and develop better impulse control. Whether your child has ADHD, anxiety, or gets emotionally dysregulated, these techniques will help them pause, think, and respond more thoughtfully.


I'll walk you through my traffic light zone system to identify when your child needs support most, plus teach you practical tools like the STOP method, 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique, and my favorite snap card game that makes learning impulse control fun.


These strategies work for neurotypical kids too - and they're just as valuable for us parents when we find ourselves reacting on autopilot. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and with practice, we can all get stronger at managing our impulses.


Key topics covered:

  • Understanding impulsivity vs impulses
  • The red, amber, green zone system
  • 6 practical strategies you can start using today
  • Why starting with low-stakes situations is crucial
  • How to model impulse control for your children


If you’re a parent of children with ADHD, anxiety, or any child who struggles with big emotions and reactive behaviors, then this episode will be especially relevant.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - The 4 traits of impulsivity

04:09 - Red amber and green zones

09:04 - The brain is a muscle

11:29 - Start with low stakes and easy wins

13:09 - 3 things you can do right now

19:56 - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1

22:55 - STOP

27:26 - Children do what they see



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Struggling with your child's impulsive behavior?


In this episode, I share 6 game-changing strategies to help children break free from autopilot reactions and develop better impulse control. Whether your child has ADHD, anxiety, or gets emotionally dysregulated, these techniques will help them pause, think, and respond more thoughtfully.


I'll walk you through my traffic light zone system to identify when your child needs support most, plus teach you practical tools like the STOP method, 5-4-3-2-1 grounding technique, and my favorite snap card game that makes learning impulse control fun.


These strategies work for neurotypical kids too - and they're just as valuable for us parents when we find ourselves reacting on autopilot. Remember: the brain is a muscle, and with practice, we can all get stronger at managing our impulses.


Key topics covered:

  • Understanding impulsivity vs impulses
  • The red, amber, green zone system
  • 6 practical strategies you can start using today
  • Why starting with low-stakes situations is crucial
  • How to model impulse control for your children


If you’re a parent of children with ADHD, anxiety, or any child who struggles with big emotions and reactive behaviors, then this episode will be especially relevant.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - The 4 traits of impulsivity

04:09 - Red amber and green zones

09:04 - The brain is a muscle

11:29 - Start with low stakes and easy wins

13:09 - 3 things you can do right now

19:56 - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1

22:55 - STOP

27:26 - Children do what they see



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: How to Handle Public Tantrums - 5 Expert Strategies for Parents Bucket Emptying: How to Handle Public Tantrums - 5 Expert Strategies for Parents Sun, 13 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 14:32 6873a11ec81f4db04afc7bde false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-to-handle-public-tantrums-5-expert-strat 6873a11ec81f4db04afc7bde 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-to-handle-public-tantrums-5-expert-strat full Every parent has been there – your child has a complete meltdown in the middle of the grocery store, and you feel all eyes on you. In this essential Bucket Emptying episode, I share 5 game-changing strategies for handling public tantrums without the shame spiral.


Discover how to transform these challenging moments from overwhelming experiences into opportunities for connection and growth. I break down the psychology behind emotional dysregulation and provide practical techniques you can use right away.


What You'll Learn:

  • Why ignoring public judgment is crucial for your child's development
  • How to prioritize safety while maintaining your child's dignity
  • Preparation strategies that prevent tantrums before they start
  • The power of involving children in daily tasks and planning
  • Reflection techniques to break the cycle of public meltdowns


Whether you're dealing with toddler tantrums, preschooler meltdowns, or even teenage emotional outbursts, this episode offers compassionate, practical guidance that works. And remember, tantrums are simply a window into our child's inner world. With the right tools, we can help them navigate big feelings with confidence.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Tantrums are a lens into their world

03:59 - Calm, quiet reassurance

06:40 - Prepare for the worst, hope for the best

09:29 - Our children WANT to help

10:31 - Reflect and learn



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Every parent has been there – your child has a complete meltdown in the middle of the grocery store, and you feel all eyes on you. In this essential Bucket Emptying episode, I share 5 game-changing strategies for handling public tantrums without the shame spiral.


Discover how to transform these challenging moments from overwhelming experiences into opportunities for connection and growth. I break down the psychology behind emotional dysregulation and provide practical techniques you can use right away.


What You'll Learn:

  • Why ignoring public judgment is crucial for your child's development
  • How to prioritize safety while maintaining your child's dignity
  • Preparation strategies that prevent tantrums before they start
  • The power of involving children in daily tasks and planning
  • Reflection techniques to break the cycle of public meltdowns


Whether you're dealing with toddler tantrums, preschooler meltdowns, or even teenage emotional outbursts, this episode offers compassionate, practical guidance that works. And remember, tantrums are simply a window into our child's inner world. With the right tools, we can help them navigate big feelings with confidence.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Tantrums are a lens into their world

03:59 - Calm, quiet reassurance

06:40 - Prepare for the worst, hope for the best

09:29 - Our children WANT to help

10:31 - Reflect and learn



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[Generation Zombie: How Screen Time is Hijacking My Child's Brain Development with Dr. Charlotte Armitage]]> Wed, 09 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 50:07 686e68a9fe25e4b1db4966ff false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/generation-zombie-how-screen-time-is-hijacking-my-childs-bra 686e68a9fe25e4b1db4966ff 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 generation-zombie-how-screen-time-is-hijacking-my-childs-bra full I'm sharing something that honestly terrifies me as a parent - how our devices are literally rewiring our children's brains from as early as 4 months old.


Today I'm joined by Dr. Charlotte Armitage, author of Generation Zombie, and what she reveals about screen time and brain development will change how you think about tech in your home.

.

What we dive into:

  • Why I discovered that babies as young as 4 months are now interacting with screens (and what this does to their developing brains)
  • How I learned that 20% of children starting school need speech therapy - and the connection to our device use
  • Why dopamine addiction from screens is creating behaviors that look exactly like ADHD
  • The shocking truth about how prams now come with iPad holders for babies
  • What happened when I realized I was modeling constant device use without knowing it
  • Why AI chatbots are the next level of concern for our kids' social development

.

This episode is essential if you're dealing with:

  • A child who can't focus or sit still at school
  • Constant battles over screen time limits
  • Worries about your own device modeling
  • Questions about when (or if) to give your child a smartphone
  • Concerns about your child's social skills and friendships

.

I'll be honest - some of what Charlotte shares made me want to throw all our devices out the window! But she also gives us hope with practical strategies we can implement right now. We talk about creating device-free zones, the importance of eye contact during feeding, and why our children don't need to "learn" technology young.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…

.

More from Charlotte:



Highlights from this episode:

03:57 - New tech means new challenges

08:20 - RIP IRL

14:10 - Attachment issues from tech use

19:44 - A boom in speech and language therapy

24:38 - ADHD and technology

32:15 - What is Generation Zombie?

36:41 - Impact into teen years

42:28 - The risks of AI

.

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend

.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> I'm sharing something that honestly terrifies me as a parent - how our devices are literally rewiring our children's brains from as early as 4 months old.


Today I'm joined by Dr. Charlotte Armitage, author of Generation Zombie, and what she reveals about screen time and brain development will change how you think about tech in your home.

.

What we dive into:

  • Why I discovered that babies as young as 4 months are now interacting with screens (and what this does to their developing brains)
  • How I learned that 20% of children starting school need speech therapy - and the connection to our device use
  • Why dopamine addiction from screens is creating behaviors that look exactly like ADHD
  • The shocking truth about how prams now come with iPad holders for babies
  • What happened when I realized I was modeling constant device use without knowing it
  • Why AI chatbots are the next level of concern for our kids' social development

.

This episode is essential if you're dealing with:

  • A child who can't focus or sit still at school
  • Constant battles over screen time limits
  • Worries about your own device modeling
  • Questions about when (or if) to give your child a smartphone
  • Concerns about your child's social skills and friendships

.

I'll be honest - some of what Charlotte shares made me want to throw all our devices out the window! But she also gives us hope with practical strategies we can implement right now. We talk about creating device-free zones, the importance of eye contact during feeding, and why our children don't need to "learn" technology young.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…

.

More from Charlotte:



Highlights from this episode:

03:57 - New tech means new challenges

08:20 - RIP IRL

14:10 - Attachment issues from tech use

19:44 - A boom in speech and language therapy

24:38 - ADHD and technology

32:15 - What is Generation Zombie?

36:41 - Impact into teen years

42:28 - The risks of AI

.

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend

.

DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: Using Jenga to Build Family Connection Bucket Emptying: Using Jenga to Build Family Connection Sun, 06 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 13:45 686adda091efcd9815bedc15 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-using-jenga-to-build-family-connection 686adda091efcd9815bedc15 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-using-jenga-to-build-family-connection full Have you ever played Jenga?


Sure, it’s a fun family game, but when you think about it - working together to build a structure taller and taller and, when it eventually topples, rebuilding without hesitation and starting again - Jenga is the perfect analogy for a family.


Which is why in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to show you how Jenga can be used to build a strong, meaningful connection with your family… and become a stronger, happier, and more resilient family for it.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:45 - Nothing is more challenging than a disconnected family

02:02 - Why Jenga?

05:52 - What qualities do you bring to your family?

09:25 - Family gratitude



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Have you ever played Jenga?


Sure, it’s a fun family game, but when you think about it - working together to build a structure taller and taller and, when it eventually topples, rebuilding without hesitation and starting again - Jenga is the perfect analogy for a family.


Which is why in today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to show you how Jenga can be used to build a strong, meaningful connection with your family… and become a stronger, happier, and more resilient family for it.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:45 - Nothing is more challenging than a disconnected family

02:02 - Why Jenga?

05:52 - What qualities do you bring to your family?

09:25 - Family gratitude



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> My Child is a Force of Nature... and So Am I! 7 Strategies for Parenting Strong-Willed Kids My Child is a Force of Nature... and So Am I! 7 Strategies for Parenting Strong-Willed Kids Wed, 02 Jul 2025 23:30:00 GMT 27:11 68650470cc507bdab681cad9 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/my-child-is-a-force-of-nature-and-so-am-i 68650470cc507bdab681cad9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 my-child-is-a-force-of-nature-and-so-am-i full Strong-willed, stubborn, defiant, opinionated, headstrong - that's how I like to think of myself for recording a podcast during a heatwave! But it could also be some of the words you use to describe your child. If so, this episode is for you.


I know what it's like when your child is naturally headstrong. They can be a force of nature, and some days parenting them feels impossible... especially if they inherited these character traits from you! In this 30-minute episode, I'm sharing my 7 go-to strategies to help you overcome those daily challenges we all face.


What I'll share with you:

  • How I've learned to reframe those impossible situations
  • My favorite ways to empower kids through meaningful choices
  • Why I discovered that strong-willed children learn differently (and how to work with their nature)
  • Communication techniques that actually work in my home
  • How we established family values that stick
  • Why I believe being quick to apologize changes everything


This episode is perfect if you're dealing with:

  • Daily power struggles and defiant behavior
  • A child who seems impossible to parent some days
  • The challenge of parenting a mini-me who inherited your headstrong traits
  • Feeling like you're parenting in a "war zone"


Whether you're in the thick of it right now or just need some fresh strategies for your force-of-nature child, I'm here to offer hope and practical solutions that have worked for me and countless other parents.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:00 - Podcasting in a heatwave

00:56 - Parenting in a war zone

05:48 - Common traits of headstrong children

08:36 - How to reframe a situation

13:45 - How to empower by giving our kids choices

17:12 - Strong-willed children learn from experience

18:54 - Communicate regularly

21:19 - Family values

23:30 - Be quick to apologise



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Strong-willed, stubborn, defiant, opinionated, headstrong - that's how I like to think of myself for recording a podcast during a heatwave! But it could also be some of the words you use to describe your child. If so, this episode is for you.


I know what it's like when your child is naturally headstrong. They can be a force of nature, and some days parenting them feels impossible... especially if they inherited these character traits from you! In this 30-minute episode, I'm sharing my 7 go-to strategies to help you overcome those daily challenges we all face.


What I'll share with you:

  • How I've learned to reframe those impossible situations
  • My favorite ways to empower kids through meaningful choices
  • Why I discovered that strong-willed children learn differently (and how to work with their nature)
  • Communication techniques that actually work in my home
  • How we established family values that stick
  • Why I believe being quick to apologize changes everything


This episode is perfect if you're dealing with:

  • Daily power struggles and defiant behavior
  • A child who seems impossible to parent some days
  • The challenge of parenting a mini-me who inherited your headstrong traits
  • Feeling like you're parenting in a "war zone"


Whether you're in the thick of it right now or just need some fresh strategies for your force-of-nature child, I'm here to offer hope and practical solutions that have worked for me and countless other parents.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:00 - Podcasting in a heatwave

00:56 - Parenting in a war zone

05:48 - Common traits of headstrong children

08:36 - How to reframe a situation

13:45 - How to empower by giving our kids choices

17:12 - Strong-willed children learn from experience

18:54 - Communicate regularly

21:19 - Family values

23:30 - Be quick to apologise



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: When Parental Guilt Drives Your Decisions Bucket Emptying: When Parental Guilt Drives Your Decisions Sun, 29 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 12:04 6861b2f7f1f2337369058979 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-when-parental-guilt-drives-your-decisions 6861b2f7f1f2337369058979 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-when-parental-guilt-drives-your-decisions Ask yourself these two questions... full Do you suffer from parental guilt?

Do you often guilt yourself into doing things you know you shouldn’t do?

Does this guilt manifest in material stuff like toys and treats?


You don’t need to feel embarrassed, we’ve all been there. It’s so easy to feel that guilt, and then we do whatever it takes to make that guilt disappear.


If you think your parental guilt is getting better of you, I’m here to help.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:31 - The dictionary defines guilt as…

03:22 - You can flex the rules

04:34 - How we can check ourselves

07:03 - Ask yourself these two questions

09:51 - Shifting from guilt to reason



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do you suffer from parental guilt?

Do you often guilt yourself into doing things you know you shouldn’t do?

Does this guilt manifest in material stuff like toys and treats?


You don’t need to feel embarrassed, we’ve all been there. It’s so easy to feel that guilt, and then we do whatever it takes to make that guilt disappear.


If you think your parental guilt is getting better of you, I’m here to help.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:31 - The dictionary defines guilt as…

03:22 - You can flex the rules

04:34 - How we can check ourselves

07:03 - Ask yourself these two questions

09:51 - Shifting from guilt to reason



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> How to Turn Homework into a Game and Make Learning Fun How to Turn Homework into a Game and Make Learning Fun Thu, 26 Jun 2025 02:00:00 GMT 50:46 685bd8524a2d8b8b51f11b0a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/how-to-turn-homework-into-a-game-and-make-learning-fun 685bd8524a2d8b8b51f11b0a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-to-turn-homework-into-a-game-and-make-learning-fun full Today’s episode is a massive treat, as I am joined by Sophie David, a play guru, influencer and now author of Read, Write, Play: 100 Easy Ways to Make Phonics Fun for Children Aged 3-7.


In this conversation, Sophie explains how she implements all of the information and resources on her website, to create a fun learning environment for her kids, from phonics and reading to homework, screen time, and more!


As Mary Poppins once sang:

In every job that must be done

There is an element of fun

You find the fun and snap!

The job's a game


The same applies to our kids’ education, and it begins at home, with us. Learning is as fun as we choose to make it, and our job as parents is to unlock the curiosity in our children and help them want to learn.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Additional Resources:

Little Happy Learners: https://www.littlehappylearners.co.uk/ 

Sophie’s book, available now: https://geni.us/readwriteplay 

Connect with Sophie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/littlehappylearners/ 



Highlights from this episode:

03:10 - Sophie’s journey

09:00 - You are your baby’s best friend

15:16 - Monkey see monkey do

20:26 - There is no normal

26:28- Phonics is not just about ABC

32:38 - Managing screen time

37:48 - Learning is experiential

41:50 - Mum, businesswoman, funlover, and author

45:27 - Where do we start?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Today’s episode is a massive treat, as I am joined by Sophie David, a play guru, influencer and now author of Read, Write, Play: 100 Easy Ways to Make Phonics Fun for Children Aged 3-7.


In this conversation, Sophie explains how she implements all of the information and resources on her website, to create a fun learning environment for her kids, from phonics and reading to homework, screen time, and more!


As Mary Poppins once sang:

In every job that must be done

There is an element of fun

You find the fun and snap!

The job's a game


The same applies to our kids’ education, and it begins at home, with us. Learning is as fun as we choose to make it, and our job as parents is to unlock the curiosity in our children and help them want to learn.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, and enjoy the conversation…



Additional Resources:

Little Happy Learners: https://www.littlehappylearners.co.uk/ 

Sophie’s book, available now: https://geni.us/readwriteplay 

Connect with Sophie on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/littlehappylearners/ 



Highlights from this episode:

03:10 - Sophie’s journey

09:00 - You are your baby’s best friend

15:16 - Monkey see monkey do

20:26 - There is no normal

26:28- Phonics is not just about ABC

32:38 - Managing screen time

37:48 - Learning is experiential

41:50 - Mum, businesswoman, funlover, and author

45:27 - Where do we start?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying: Overcoming Our Fears and Leaving Our Children in Someone Else's Care]]> Sun, 22 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 15:03 68584dc68d560ebfbbd889ee false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-overcoming-our-fears-and-leaving-our-childre 68584dc68d560ebfbbd889ee 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-overcoming-our-fears-and-leaving-our-childre full Leaving your child with someone else is one of the hardest things a parent will do.


What if they need me and I’m not there?

Am I just being a bad parent?

What if they don’t like the babysitter?


These are all rational concerns, but they shouldn’t stop you because, as we’ve discussed before, you cannot look after your children if you don’t look after yourselves.


That’s why in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share four rational fears you might have when you leave your kids in someone else’s care, and what you can do to overcome them.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, take the next 46 minutes to relax, and enjoy the conversation…


Read Dr. Maryhan’s article in Bubble Life, as mentioned in this episode, Navigating Separation Anxiety: https://joinbubble.com/for-parents/navigating-separation-anxiety-expert-tips-from-dr-maryhan_29690.html 


Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Common myths are getting in your way!

02:43 - Are you being selfish?

05:23 - What if something goes wrong?

07:58 - What if they feel abandoned?

11:4 - What if my child doesn't get on with this? 



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Leaving your child with someone else is one of the hardest things a parent will do.


What if they need me and I’m not there?

Am I just being a bad parent?

What if they don’t like the babysitter?


These are all rational concerns, but they shouldn’t stop you because, as we’ve discussed before, you cannot look after your children if you don’t look after yourselves.


That’s why in this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share four rational fears you might have when you leave your kids in someone else’s care, and what you can do to overcome them.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, take the next 46 minutes to relax, and enjoy the conversation…


Read Dr. Maryhan’s article in Bubble Life, as mentioned in this episode, Navigating Separation Anxiety: https://joinbubble.com/for-parents/navigating-separation-anxiety-expert-tips-from-dr-maryhan_29690.html 


Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Common myths are getting in your way!

02:43 - Are you being selfish?

05:23 - What if something goes wrong?

07:58 - What if they feel abandoned?

11:4 - What if my child doesn't get on with this? 



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[The Invisible Load; Why You're So Tired (and How to Stop Resenting Everyone!)]]> Wed, 18 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 46:20 6852c747002f9da49af30085 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-invisible-load-why-youre-so-tired-and-how-to-stop-resent 6852c747002f9da49af30085 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-invisible-load-why-youre-so-tired-and-how-to-stop-resent with Rania Robinson - mum, CEO, and my sister!) full Is your brain always on?


You’re brushing your teeth, but also mentally planning meals, remembering the pickup times and wondering if you’ve RSVP’d to the latest birthday party?


Parenting is tough, and the burnout is real. I’m here to tell you not to be ashamed about that, but to talk about it, because every parent out there is feeling it!


To talk more about this invisible load, and the impact it can have on your life, work, mental and physical health,,I’m joined by Rania Robinson, the CEO of Quiet Storm, a mum of two children and she also happens to be my sister, so trust me when I tell you she knows a thing or two about juggling that invisible load!


We had an amazing chat about the ups and downs of balancing parenthood with a career, and why it can feel like being a mum and an employee simply doesn’t co-exist.


We also discuss how gender roles can pile more pressure on you as a mum because, let’s face it, you’re probably the one who keeps track of everything… and everyone!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, take the next 46 minutes to relax, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:54 - Taking control of your own destiny

07:38 - A thankless role

12:26 - Heartbreaking

22:05 - Gender differences and family dynamics

28:16 - Resentment building

32:29 - Navigating mumspeak

37:08 - Mad mum moments



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Is your brain always on?


You’re brushing your teeth, but also mentally planning meals, remembering the pickup times and wondering if you’ve RSVP’d to the latest birthday party?


Parenting is tough, and the burnout is real. I’m here to tell you not to be ashamed about that, but to talk about it, because every parent out there is feeling it!


To talk more about this invisible load, and the impact it can have on your life, work, mental and physical health,,I’m joined by Rania Robinson, the CEO of Quiet Storm, a mum of two children and she also happens to be my sister, so trust me when I tell you she knows a thing or two about juggling that invisible load!


We had an amazing chat about the ups and downs of balancing parenthood with a career, and why it can feel like being a mum and an employee simply doesn’t co-exist.


We also discuss how gender roles can pile more pressure on you as a mum because, let’s face it, you’re probably the one who keeps track of everything… and everyone!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa, take the next 46 minutes to relax, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:54 - Taking control of your own destiny

07:38 - A thankless role

12:26 - Heartbreaking

22:05 - Gender differences and family dynamics

28:16 - Resentment building

32:29 - Navigating mumspeak

37:08 - Mad mum moments



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Help! My Seven Year Old Has a Boyfriend. Help! My Seven Year Old Has a Boyfriend. Sun, 15 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 11:28 684ef4d64ed3341b0fee40b4 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/help-my-seven-year-old-has-a-boyfriend 684ef4d64ed3341b0fee40b4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 help-my-seven-year-old-has-a-boyfriend full It’s a moment most parents dread, but it’s inevitable for all of us… when your child tells you, for the first time, that have a boyfriend or girlfriend.


And for many of us, this might be much sooner than we’d expect. Not teenagers, but while they’re still in primary school.


When this happens, it’s so important to deal with it head on, and I’m here to tell you exactly how to do this. And, if you find this bucket emptying episode useful, listen out for an episode coming very soon where I dive into the topic of sex education and relationships in far more detail.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:05 - Going down the rabbit hole

03:06 - Be curious and interested

06:07 - Where are they getting their information?

08:38 - Correct the knowledge gaps



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> It’s a moment most parents dread, but it’s inevitable for all of us… when your child tells you, for the first time, that have a boyfriend or girlfriend.


And for many of us, this might be much sooner than we’d expect. Not teenagers, but while they’re still in primary school.


When this happens, it’s so important to deal with it head on, and I’m here to tell you exactly how to do this. And, if you find this bucket emptying episode useful, listen out for an episode coming very soon where I dive into the topic of sex education and relationships in far more detail.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:05 - Going down the rabbit hole

03:06 - Be curious and interested

06:07 - Where are they getting their information?

08:38 - Correct the knowledge gaps



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[What to Expect When You're Expecting... and Beyond]]> Wed, 11 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 37:10 6849b0bebb82390574709031 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/what-to-expect-when-youre-expecting-and-beyond 6849b0bebb82390574709031 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 what-to-expect-when-youre-expecting-and-beyond Six Things to Keep You Grounded! full This week I am revisiting a classic episode from last year about what to do when expecting your child - however we find ourselves embarking on the journey to parenting.


It's also supremely relevant for all the other stages of our children's lives as they reach them -as these are another birth - walking, talking, preschool, school, university, first job, leaving home...


My six pointers will help keep you grounded and sane.


Here are the highlights: 

(01:14) Parents-to-Be consume information by the barrel load 

(05:13) Read about different milestones, not just birth 

(08:02) Parenting isn’t black and white 

(11:12) It’s always messier than you expect! 

(14:16) Don’t fall into this parenting trap... 

(16:46) The right time to have difficult conversations with partners 

(20:36) Make sure communication with co-parents is open and often 

(23:17) Different do what they see, not what we say 

(26:32) Self-care is critical 

(30:22) Every child develops and adapts uniquely 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> This week I am revisiting a classic episode from last year about what to do when expecting your child - however we find ourselves embarking on the journey to parenting.


It's also supremely relevant for all the other stages of our children's lives as they reach them -as these are another birth - walking, talking, preschool, school, university, first job, leaving home...


My six pointers will help keep you grounded and sane.


Here are the highlights: 

(01:14) Parents-to-Be consume information by the barrel load 

(05:13) Read about different milestones, not just birth 

(08:02) Parenting isn’t black and white 

(11:12) It’s always messier than you expect! 

(14:16) Don’t fall into this parenting trap... 

(16:46) The right time to have difficult conversations with partners 

(20:36) Make sure communication with co-parents is open and often 

(23:17) Different do what they see, not what we say 

(26:32) Self-care is critical 

(30:22) Every child develops and adapts uniquely 


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: How Not to Raise Entitled Children Bucket Emptying: How Not to Raise Entitled Children Sun, 08 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 12:46 6839e04db2e4c2434b102701 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-not-to-raise-entitled-children 6839e04db2e4c2434b102701 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-not-to-raise-entitled-children Kindness is Not a Box-Ticking Exercise! full Do you have entitled kids?

Are you at a loss about what to do with them?


In this bucket emptying episode, I give you some practical advice to help you tackle entitlement in your children, because we both know all kids are kind at heart, so let’s bring that out in bundles!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:30 - Our kids have more than we did

03:41 - Agency versus contribution

08:21 - Acts of service

10:36 - An important caveat



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]]> Do you have entitled kids?

Are you at a loss about what to do with them?


In this bucket emptying episode, I give you some practical advice to help you tackle entitlement in your children, because we both know all kids are kind at heart, so let’s bring that out in bundles!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:30 - Our kids have more than we did

03:41 - Agency versus contribution

08:21 - Acts of service

10:36 - An important caveat



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[I'll Take of Myself When... Why Putting Off Our Own Needs May Be Negatively Impacting Our Children]]> Wed, 04 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 54:56 68398659b2e4c2434bf27ce1 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/ill-take-of-myself-when-why-putting-off-our-own-needs-may-be 68398659b2e4c2434bf27ce1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 ill-take-of-myself-when-why-putting-off-our-own-needs-may-be with Tina Lond-Caulk, The Nutrition Guru full As the great Ru Paul would say, “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?”


As parents, we instinctively put our children and family before ourselves, but that’s not always the best thing! In this episode I discuss the importance of self care, and why neglecting your own needs could be bad… not just for you, but for everyone.


And joining me to discuss this is a super special guest, Tina Lond-Caulk, otherwise known as the Nutrition Guru. She is a bestselling author and speaker with over 20 years of experience as a clinical nutritionist.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


Connect with Tina:

The Nutrition Guru Website: https://www.thenutritionguru.co.uk/ 

Tina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenutritionguru/

Tina on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTTPdaxsREbzkRKtl29OnXg

The Nutrition Guru on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenutritionguru


Mentioned in this episode:

Sensate: https://www.getsensate.com/?variant=40503515250777

Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - Mamma Mia!

05:01 -The building blocks of self care

09:44 - Food is medicine

14:23 - Optimal versus recommended

19:00 - For the coffee lovers

23:56 - Placing ourselves at the bottom of the list

29:30 - Habit stacking

36:46 - Gina Ford, Get in the Bin!

41:06 - Dealing with fussy eaters

44:45 - Go nuts

50:05 - The science of alcohol




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> As the great Ru Paul would say, “if you can’t love yourself, how the hell you gonna love someone else?”


As parents, we instinctively put our children and family before ourselves, but that’s not always the best thing! In this episode I discuss the importance of self care, and why neglecting your own needs could be bad… not just for you, but for everyone.


And joining me to discuss this is a super special guest, Tina Lond-Caulk, otherwise known as the Nutrition Guru. She is a bestselling author and speaker with over 20 years of experience as a clinical nutritionist.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


Connect with Tina:

The Nutrition Guru Website: https://www.thenutritionguru.co.uk/ 

Tina on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thenutritionguru/

Tina on YouTube:https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCTTPdaxsREbzkRKtl29OnXg

The Nutrition Guru on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thenutritionguru


Mentioned in this episode:

Sensate: https://www.getsensate.com/?variant=40503515250777

Insight Timer: https://insighttimer.com/



Highlights from this episode:

01:24 - Mamma Mia!

05:01 -The building blocks of self care

09:44 - Food is medicine

14:23 - Optimal versus recommended

19:00 - For the coffee lovers

23:56 - Placing ourselves at the bottom of the list

29:30 - Habit stacking

36:46 - Gina Ford, Get in the Bin!

41:06 - Dealing with fussy eaters

44:45 - Go nuts

50:05 - The science of alcohol




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: A Little Bit of the Right Praise Can Go A Very Long Way Bucket Emptying: A Little Bit of the Right Praise Can Go A Very Long Way Sun, 01 Jun 2025 23:30:00 GMT 16:34 683837a3998551779f0752e2 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-a-little-bit-of-the-right-praise-can-go-a-ve 683837a3998551779f0752e2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-a-little-bit-of-the-right-praise-can-go-a-ve And A SHOCKING Confession (but not really) full Confession time: I have put my kids’ artwork in the bin.


Let’s face it, we can’t keep everything they do, and not everything they do will be successful or, in your opinion, praise-worthy.


But praise isn’t just about the outcome; it’s not about winning or losing. Praise, when used at the right time and in the right way, can be super powerful at building confident, resilient children.


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five ways that you can give praise that will nurture skills, build character, and help you raise children who don’t fear failure and feel supported to try anything.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:29 - Hacks

02:43 - A whole splodge of nothing

05:36 - Be specific

06:49 - Effort over outcome

11:01 - Celebrate the small wins

13:26 - Hone in on skills




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Confession time: I have put my kids’ artwork in the bin.


Let’s face it, we can’t keep everything they do, and not everything they do will be successful or, in your opinion, praise-worthy.


But praise isn’t just about the outcome; it’s not about winning or losing. Praise, when used at the right time and in the right way, can be super powerful at building confident, resilient children.


In this bucket emptying episode, I’m going to share five ways that you can give praise that will nurture skills, build character, and help you raise children who don’t fear failure and feel supported to try anything.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:29 - Hacks

02:43 - A whole splodge of nothing

05:36 - Be specific

06:49 - Effort over outcome

11:01 - Celebrate the small wins

13:26 - Hone in on skills




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Diffusing Tantrums Without Losing It Diffusing Tantrums Without Losing It Thu, 29 May 2025 02:00:00 GMT 36:44 6837506e9bd0275f2c4a253a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/diffusing-tantrums-without-losing-it 6837506e9bd0275f2c4a253a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 diffusing-tantrums-without-losing-it How to Keep Your Cool When Things Get Heated! full What do you do when you’re out in public and your child absolutely loses it?


Dealing with tantrums can be a daily occurrence as parents, but have you ever been at the end of tether and lost your cool?


You’re not the worst parent - we’ve all been there! And that’s why, in this episode, I’m going to help you deal with the meltdowns and the tantrums.


You’re going to understand what can cause them, how you can prevent them, and what to do in the moment so that you can handle the situation like the pro you are.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:38 - Tantrums are not just for toddlers

03:26 - Why do tantrums happen?

11:15 - How to prevent tantrums

16:17 - Being aware of the triggers

19:39 - Positive attention

27:03 - Managing tantrums in the moment




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What do you do when you’re out in public and your child absolutely loses it?


Dealing with tantrums can be a daily occurrence as parents, but have you ever been at the end of tether and lost your cool?


You’re not the worst parent - we’ve all been there! And that’s why, in this episode, I’m going to help you deal with the meltdowns and the tantrums.


You’re going to understand what can cause them, how you can prevent them, and what to do in the moment so that you can handle the situation like the pro you are.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:38 - Tantrums are not just for toddlers

03:26 - Why do tantrums happen?

11:15 - How to prevent tantrums

16:17 - Being aware of the triggers

19:39 - Positive attention

27:03 - Managing tantrums in the moment




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: My Child is Obsessed with Being First for Everything! Bucket Emptying: My Child is Obsessed with Being First for Everything! Mon, 26 May 2025 00:00:00 GMT 19:01 6831c23d381499796b224193 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-my-child-is-obsessed-with-being-first-for-ev 6831c23d381499796b224193 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-my-child-is-obsessed-with-being-first-for-ev What can you do to help? full Does your child the one who always runs to the front of a crowd, or insists on being the first in the bath, or can’t wait their turn during a game?


Don’t worry, because you’re not alone! Insisting on being first is a common challenge faced by parents, so in this bucket emptying episode I am going to explain the reasons why this happens, and give you some practical things you can do to address it.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:03 - The biggest reasons for it

05:20 - Seeing siblings as more capable

06:56 - What can you do about it?

12:47 - It’s about they feel about themselves

15:53 - Descriptive praise and why it works




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does your child the one who always runs to the front of a crowd, or insists on being the first in the bath, or can’t wait their turn during a game?


Don’t worry, because you’re not alone! Insisting on being first is a common challenge faced by parents, so in this bucket emptying episode I am going to explain the reasons why this happens, and give you some practical things you can do to address it.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:03 - The biggest reasons for it

05:20 - Seeing siblings as more capable

06:56 - What can you do about it?

12:47 - It’s about they feel about themselves

15:53 - Descriptive praise and why it works




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[I Yell... Then I Cry... Then I Google 'Gentle Parenting']]> Thu, 22 May 2025 02:00:00 GMT 34:01 682b2fd0696b5d1232d12961 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/i-yell-then-i-cry-then-i-google-gentle-parenting 682b2fd0696b5d1232d12961 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 i-yell-then-i-cry-then-i-google-gentle-parenting full As parents, we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. To be patient. To never lose our temper. But spoiler alert: we’re still human.


In this episode I’m here to help you in those moments where things are about to bubble over, and then you lose your cool. Because when you do that, you feel awful: it’s not who you are. I get it!


I am going to share six things that you can do to help, so you no longer yell, you no longer cry, and you no longer have to Google for answers.


Remember: behind every super parent is a normal parent!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:38 - I’m a terrible parent!

05:18 - How does it get to this?

07:36 - The stress bucket

14:53 - Self care is not a luxury

16:02 - Managing expectations

23:32 - Do-overs

26:40 - Finding alternative solutions

29:40 - Be kind




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> As parents, we put so much pressure on ourselves to be perfect. To be patient. To never lose our temper. But spoiler alert: we’re still human.


In this episode I’m here to help you in those moments where things are about to bubble over, and then you lose your cool. Because when you do that, you feel awful: it’s not who you are. I get it!


I am going to share six things that you can do to help, so you no longer yell, you no longer cry, and you no longer have to Google for answers.


Remember: behind every super parent is a normal parent!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:38 - I’m a terrible parent!

05:18 - How does it get to this?

07:36 - The stress bucket

14:53 - Self care is not a luxury

16:02 - Managing expectations

23:32 - Do-overs

26:40 - Finding alternative solutions

29:40 - Be kind




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: A Life-Changing Strategy for You and Your Kids Bucket Emptying: A Life-Changing Strategy for You and Your Kids Mon, 19 May 2025 02:00:00 GMT 19:40 682746a1696b5d1232048afb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/a-life-changing-strategy-for-you-and-your-kids 682746a1696b5d1232048afb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 a-life-changing-strategy-for-you-and-your-kids Child Problem or Adult Problem? full Are you a problem solver?


You’re a parent, so of course you are! But not all problems need us to swoop in and save the day. As hard as it might be, our children sometimes need the opportunity to problem-solve, make mistakes and build those core skills that make them confident, resilient people.


In today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you a life-changing strategy to help you identify those moments.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:35 - The ability to problem solve

04:07 - When to intervene as parents

07:35 - Accepting agency

10:57 - What is a child problem?

15:56 - Multilayered examples




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Are you a problem solver?


You’re a parent, so of course you are! But not all problems need us to swoop in and save the day. As hard as it might be, our children sometimes need the opportunity to problem-solve, make mistakes and build those core skills that make them confident, resilient people.


In today’s bucket emptying episode, I’m going to give you a life-changing strategy to help you identify those moments.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:35 - The ability to problem solve

04:07 - When to intervene as parents

07:35 - Accepting agency

10:57 - What is a child problem?

15:56 - Multilayered examples




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> How to Choose the Right School for Your Child How to Choose the Right School for Your Child Thu, 15 May 2025 02:00:00 GMT 37:07 68247688571d171f0479f950 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/how-to-choose-the-right-school-for-your-child 68247688571d171f0479f950 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-to-choose-the-right-school-for-your-child full What should I look for in a school?

Are grammar schools really better than comprehensive?

How important are Ofsted reports?


In this episode, as another year of school applications approaches, I’m going to guide you through the complicated and confusing world of choosing a school for your kids, with the help of my super special guest Melanie Sanderson, Managing Editor at The Good Schools Guide.


The Good Schools Guide has been the number one independent resource on UK schools since 1986, providing parents with unbiased information to help them research and pick the right education for their children.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


Find Out More:

The Good Schools Guide: https://www.goodschoolsguide.co.uk/

Mel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melanie-sanderson-520305190/


Highlights from this episode:

02:20 - What is the Good Schools Guide?

07:12 - Sharp-elbowed parents (and why you should avoid them)

11:05 - Grammar schools

16:24 - The number one piece of advice for parents…

19:25 - Do Ofsted reports matter?

23:45 - SATs

25:28 - Preparing our 4 year olds for school

31:31 - How to look for a school




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> What should I look for in a school?

Are grammar schools really better than comprehensive?

How important are Ofsted reports?


In this episode, as another year of school applications approaches, I’m going to guide you through the complicated and confusing world of choosing a school for your kids, with the help of my super special guest Melanie Sanderson, Managing Editor at The Good Schools Guide.


The Good Schools Guide has been the number one independent resource on UK schools since 1986, providing parents with unbiased information to help them research and pick the right education for their children.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


Find Out More:

The Good Schools Guide: https://www.goodschoolsguide.co.uk/

Mel on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/melanie-sanderson-520305190/


Highlights from this episode:

02:20 - What is the Good Schools Guide?

07:12 - Sharp-elbowed parents (and why you should avoid them)

11:05 - Grammar schools

16:24 - The number one piece of advice for parents…

19:25 - Do Ofsted reports matter?

23:45 - SATs

25:28 - Preparing our 4 year olds for school

31:31 - How to look for a school




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying: Why Won't My Children Listen?]]> Mon, 12 May 2025 02:01:00 GMT 15:01 6820a9f6182b2144affa6103 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-wont-my-children-listen 6820a9f6182b2144affa6103 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-wont-my-children-listen And what you can do about it. full Do your children never pay attention to you?

Are you at your wit’s end?


Don’t worry, every parent struggles to get their kids to pay attention, and in this bucket emptying episode I’m going to share three things you can do that might help.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:04 - The reasons for their inattention

03:27 - Outside distractions

07:12 - Focus on the power of one

12:19 - Setting boundaries




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do your children never pay attention to you?

Are you at your wit’s end?


Don’t worry, every parent struggles to get their kids to pay attention, and in this bucket emptying episode I’m going to share three things you can do that might help.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:04 - The reasons for their inattention

03:27 - Outside distractions

07:12 - Focus on the power of one

12:19 - Setting boundaries




💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Getting Out of Children's Way Builds Resilience]]> Thu, 08 May 2025 02:00:00 GMT 39:33 681b2c7424b1daf01affe088 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/getting-out-of-childrens-way-builds-resilience 681b2c7424b1daf01affe088 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 getting-out-of-childrens-way-builds-resilience full Do you like to fix your child’s problems?

Are you trying to be their best friend?


Sorry to break this to you, but these are some of the reasons why your kids may not be building the resilience you hoped. And I get it - we all want to help our children, and we hate seeing them struggle, but building identity and resilience is about learning how to fail and how to problem solve.


In this episode, I talk you through SPRING, or the fundamental building blocks of resilience, and reveal the eight ways we as parents can be impacting our children’s resilience.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - Mental health stats

04:16 - A complex cause and effect

07:36 - Stress is designed to help you

10:41 - Self-regulation

12:20 - You’ve got to be in it to win it

13:43 - Relationships

14:34 - Identity

16:52 - Saying NO

17:35 - Setting goals

19:38 - We’re not working with the end in mind

21:13 - Modelling resilience

23:32 - We want to take the pain away

26:57 - Supporting failure, not preventing it

29:21 - We are not our child’s best friend

32:29 - Stop obsessing over the right decision!

35:36 - Being a parent of one of many roles we have



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Do you like to fix your child’s problems?

Are you trying to be their best friend?


Sorry to break this to you, but these are some of the reasons why your kids may not be building the resilience you hoped. And I get it - we all want to help our children, and we hate seeing them struggle, but building identity and resilience is about learning how to fail and how to problem solve.


In this episode, I talk you through SPRING, or the fundamental building blocks of resilience, and reveal the eight ways we as parents can be impacting our children’s resilience.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:59 - Mental health stats

04:16 - A complex cause and effect

07:36 - Stress is designed to help you

10:41 - Self-regulation

12:20 - You’ve got to be in it to win it

13:43 - Relationships

14:34 - Identity

16:52 - Saying NO

17:35 - Setting goals

19:38 - We’re not working with the end in mind

21:13 - Modelling resilience

23:32 - We want to take the pain away

26:57 - Supporting failure, not preventing it

29:21 - We are not our child’s best friend

32:29 - Stop obsessing over the right decision!

35:36 - Being a parent of one of many roles we have



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: Empowering Children with Disabilities Bucket Emptying: Empowering Children with Disabilities Sun, 04 May 2025 23:30:00 GMT 12:30 680f3fe892c5c49bd1b027f4 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/empowering-children-with-disabilities 680f3fe892c5c49bd1b027f4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 empowering-children-with-disabilities with Author and Journalist Cathy Reay full What does being the best really mean?

What does ‘fitting in’ look like?


Parents and children living with physical disabilities live with a unique set of challenges. They often find themselves judged or ridiculed, and this can have a big impact on our kids.


On this week’s bucket emptying, I welcome back Cathy Reay, a disabled writer and journalist, and mum of two (plus a very cheeky cat!). She also works in educational publishing. How To Be Disabled and Proud (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...) is her first children’s book.


We discuss how to empower our kids with self-confidence and resilience in relation to living with a disability, so they grow up seeing it not as a weakness, but as their superpower.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Cathy:

Website: https://www.cathyreay.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathyreaywrites/ 

X: https://x.com/cathyreaywrites?lang=en 

How To Be Disabled And Proud: How To Be Disabled and Proud: (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...): Amazon.co.uk: Reay, Cathy: 9780241676967: Books 



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - The desire to just fit in

04:28 - The power of community and connection

06:32 - What does the ‘best’ even mean?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> What does being the best really mean?

What does ‘fitting in’ look like?


Parents and children living with physical disabilities live with a unique set of challenges. They often find themselves judged or ridiculed, and this can have a big impact on our kids.


On this week’s bucket emptying, I welcome back Cathy Reay, a disabled writer and journalist, and mum of two (plus a very cheeky cat!). She also works in educational publishing. How To Be Disabled and Proud (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...) is her first children’s book.


We discuss how to empower our kids with self-confidence and resilience in relation to living with a disability, so they grow up seeing it not as a weakness, but as their superpower.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Cathy:

Website: https://www.cathyreay.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathyreaywrites/ 

X: https://x.com/cathyreaywrites?lang=en 

How To Be Disabled And Proud: How To Be Disabled and Proud: (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...): Amazon.co.uk: Reay, Cathy: 9780241676967: Books 



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - The desire to just fit in

04:28 - The power of community and connection

06:32 - What does the ‘best’ even mean?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> When the Stakes Feel High When the Stakes Feel High Wed, 30 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 31:25 68122033f3c711a5d008c2ea false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/when-the-stakes-feel-high 68122033f3c711a5d008c2ea 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 when-the-stakes-feel-high NSFP: Not Safe for Parents full WARNING: this podcast is not for parents.


I spend a lot of my time visiting schools and speaking to classes full of children of all ages, so for once I’m dedicating a podcast episode to you, the kids.


This episode is all about giving you the skills and the understanding you need to manage those days when things feel overwhelming. Maybe your mental health is taking a hit, and maybe you have moments when the pressure gets too much.


Well here’s the secret: it’s ok! And here are some things you can do to manage that.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:45 - It’s about what matters to YOU

02:46 - The seesaw

05:29 - Your brain has one job

08:40 - Two parallel lines

11:29 - Inner critic versus inner cheerleader

15:16 - The 1% rule

19:58 - Your stress bucket

23:58 - Doom scrolling



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> WARNING: this podcast is not for parents.


I spend a lot of my time visiting schools and speaking to classes full of children of all ages, so for once I’m dedicating a podcast episode to you, the kids.


This episode is all about giving you the skills and the understanding you need to manage those days when things feel overwhelming. Maybe your mental health is taking a hit, and maybe you have moments when the pressure gets too much.


Well here’s the secret: it’s ok! And here are some things you can do to manage that.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:45 - It’s about what matters to YOU

02:46 - The seesaw

05:29 - Your brain has one job

08:40 - Two parallel lines

11:29 - Inner critic versus inner cheerleader

15:16 - The 1% rule

19:58 - Your stress bucket

23:58 - Doom scrolling



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: Sharing Bedrooms Bucket Emptying: Sharing Bedrooms Sun, 27 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 16:19 680a1d0333604afdc20d4985 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-sharing-bedrooms 680a1d0333604afdc20d4985 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-sharing-bedrooms Do your kids constantly fight over bedroom space? full Do your children share a room?

Do they argue?

Are you at your wits end?


Sibling rivalries, particularly when it comes to shared bedrooms, can be fierce, but sometimes we just don’t have a choice.


But there’s good news…


There is a way to make it work. From pairing the right children (and it might not be what you think) to creating private space and time for each child, I am going to share some top tips and expert advice that will help you make sharing bedrooms feel less like a daily battle!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Developmental matching

02:28 - Managing expectations

05:08 - Actionable day to day tips

08:56 - Allowing private time for each child

11:58 - The roommate agreement

13:32 - Sleep



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Do your children share a room?

Do they argue?

Are you at your wits end?


Sibling rivalries, particularly when it comes to shared bedrooms, can be fierce, but sometimes we just don’t have a choice.


But there’s good news…


There is a way to make it work. From pairing the right children (and it might not be what you think) to creating private space and time for each child, I am going to share some top tips and expert advice that will help you make sharing bedrooms feel less like a daily battle!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:26 - Developmental matching

02:28 - Managing expectations

05:08 - Actionable day to day tips

08:56 - Allowing private time for each child

11:58 - The roommate agreement

13:32 - Sleep



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Why Paternity Leave Matters with The Dad Shift Why Paternity Leave Matters with The Dad Shift Wed, 23 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 40:51 6808bf5c3744a61721945dae false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-paternity-leave-matters-with-the-dad-shift 6808bf5c3744a61721945dae 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-paternity-leave-matters-with-the-dad-shift full Did you know the UK has the worst statutory paternity leave in Europe?


Are you aware of the significant long term implications of reduced parental leave?


And did you know that countries with better statutory paternity leave also have a smaller gender pay gap?


In this episode, I am joined by Alex Lloyd Hunter, co-founder of The Dad Shift, to discuss everything from why he’s putting paternity leave on the agenda to breaking down traditional 1950s family stereotypes.


This is one of my favourite conversations that will really get you thinking a bit differently about parental leave.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


Learn more about Alex and The Dad Shift:

Website: https://dadshift.org.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadshiftuk



Highlights from this episode:

02:09 - What does the law currently mean?

04:30 - The benefits of supporting fathers

09:58 - The way we parent is changing

12:42 - More companies are acting

15:44 - The traditional male role has changed

20:36 - Celebrity Dad quotes

23:27 - Challenging male stereotypes

26:21 - Losing the paternal bond

31:35 - Upcoming campaigns

34:42 - What does good change look like?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Did you know the UK has the worst statutory paternity leave in Europe?


Are you aware of the significant long term implications of reduced parental leave?


And did you know that countries with better statutory paternity leave also have a smaller gender pay gap?


In this episode, I am joined by Alex Lloyd Hunter, co-founder of The Dad Shift, to discuss everything from why he’s putting paternity leave on the agenda to breaking down traditional 1950s family stereotypes.


This is one of my favourite conversations that will really get you thinking a bit differently about parental leave.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


Learn more about Alex and The Dad Shift:

Website: https://dadshift.org.uk/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadshiftuk



Highlights from this episode:

02:09 - What does the law currently mean?

04:30 - The benefits of supporting fathers

09:58 - The way we parent is changing

12:42 - More companies are acting

15:44 - The traditional male role has changed

20:36 - Celebrity Dad quotes

23:27 - Challenging male stereotypes

26:21 - Losing the paternal bond

31:35 - Upcoming campaigns

34:42 - What does good change look like?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: The Superpower of Eating Together Bucket Emptying: The Superpower of Eating Together Sun, 20 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 11:48 680540854c1756d49ca64d56 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-the-superpower-of-eating-together 680540854c1756d49ca64d56 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-the-superpower-of-eating-together Family Time is Important - Take Your Opportunities! full How often do you sit down and eat together as a family?


If you’re a little embarrassed about the answer, then I have some news for you… you’re not alone. Most families do not regularly make time to eat together, and I get it! School, work, hobbies, errands - life gets in the way.


But eating together can have real benefits, not just on your kids but on your whole family, and in this episode I explore some of those reasons, and encourage you to think about how you can find time to enjoy meals together more often.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:19 - This stat might surprise you…

03:14 - Show your children who their tribe is

05:34 - The benefits of family mealtime

08:02 - Finding their voice to express themselves



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> How often do you sit down and eat together as a family?


If you’re a little embarrassed about the answer, then I have some news for you… you’re not alone. Most families do not regularly make time to eat together, and I get it! School, work, hobbies, errands - life gets in the way.


But eating together can have real benefits, not just on your kids but on your whole family, and in this episode I explore some of those reasons, and encourage you to think about how you can find time to enjoy meals together more often.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:19 - This stat might surprise you…

03:14 - Show your children who their tribe is

05:34 - The benefits of family mealtime

08:02 - Finding their voice to express themselves



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> School Refusal with Dr. Dan Weisberg School Refusal with Dr. Dan Weisberg Wed, 16 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 46:14 67ffa14b47809c35bd47d5e1 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/school-refusal-with-dr-dan-weisberg 67ffa14b47809c35bd47d5e1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 school-refusal-with-dr-dan-weisberg Does your child hate school? full Is your child refusing to go to school?

Do they seem frequently distressed?

Is the school run the worst part of your day?


School refusal is a growing problem, with more and more children missing more school than ever. But here’s a big spoiler: it’s not your fault.


There are so many reasons why our kids don’t want to go to school, and on today’s episode I am going to unpack what those reasons are, and provide you with some actionable tips to help you manage this in an appropriate and constructive way.


To discuss this, I am joined by Dr Daniel Weisberg, a highly-specialised clinical psychologist and the managing director of CAYP Psychology, an award-winning independent clinical psychology service for Children, Adolescents, and Young People.


Daniel worked for NHS services for over ten years. He has substantial experience of working with children, adolescents and young people experiencing health, social, emotional and psychological difficulties.


He shares some of his valuable insights to help us better understand the whys and hows of school refusal.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Daniel and CAYP:

Website: https://www.cayp-psychology.com/

ADHD Resource: https://www.cayp-psychology.com/wp-content/uploads/1.-ADHD-Assessments.pdf


Highlights from this episode:

01:42 - Understanding childrens’ brains

06:02 - Prevention is better than cause

07:51 - The root causes of school refusal

13:59 - There’s no magic potion

19:00 - Masking

22:28 - Managing avoidance without causing distress

25:30 - Expectation anxiety versus reality

28:33 - Children don’t come with an instruction manual

32:45 - Overthinking

35:48 - Understanding perspective

39:08 - Is the system failing us?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Is your child refusing to go to school?

Do they seem frequently distressed?

Is the school run the worst part of your day?


School refusal is a growing problem, with more and more children missing more school than ever. But here’s a big spoiler: it’s not your fault.


There are so many reasons why our kids don’t want to go to school, and on today’s episode I am going to unpack what those reasons are, and provide you with some actionable tips to help you manage this in an appropriate and constructive way.


To discuss this, I am joined by Dr Daniel Weisberg, a highly-specialised clinical psychologist and the managing director of CAYP Psychology, an award-winning independent clinical psychology service for Children, Adolescents, and Young People.


Daniel worked for NHS services for over ten years. He has substantial experience of working with children, adolescents and young people experiencing health, social, emotional and psychological difficulties.


He shares some of his valuable insights to help us better understand the whys and hows of school refusal.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Daniel and CAYP:

Website: https://www.cayp-psychology.com/

ADHD Resource: https://www.cayp-psychology.com/wp-content/uploads/1.-ADHD-Assessments.pdf


Highlights from this episode:

01:42 - Understanding childrens’ brains

06:02 - Prevention is better than cause

07:51 - The root causes of school refusal

13:59 - There’s no magic potion

19:00 - Masking

22:28 - Managing avoidance without causing distress

25:30 - Expectation anxiety versus reality

28:33 - Children don’t come with an instruction manual

32:45 - Overthinking

35:48 - Understanding perspective

39:08 - Is the system failing us?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: How Do We Have Conversations About Disability? Bucket Emptying: How Do We Have Conversations About Disability? Sun, 13 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 14:31 67f9124ad67315f9f4f2a11d false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-do-we-have-conversations-about-disabilit 67f9124ad67315f9f4f2a11d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-do-we-have-conversations-about-disabilit with Author and Journalist Cathy Reay full “Disability is not an us and them conversation, and it’s not a pity conversation. It’s about teaching kids compassion and an openness to collaboration”


These are the words of today’s guest Cathy Reay, a disabled writer and journalist, and mum of two (plus a very cheeky cat!). She also works in educational publishing. How To Be Disabled and Proud (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...) is her first children’s book, and on this week’s bucket emptying episode we are discussing how to have conversations with children about disability.


Spoiler alert: we’re all accommodating disability every day, we just don’t realise it, so this may not be as challenging as you think!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Cathy:

Website: https://www.cathyreay.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathyreaywrites/ 

X: https://x.com/cathyreaywrites?lang=en 

How To Be Disabled And Proud: How To Be Disabled and Proud: (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...): Amazon.co.uk: Reay, Cathy: 9780241676967: Books 


Highlights from this episode:

00:53 -The vast spectrum of disability

04:04 - Disabled people have different skills, not lesser ones

06:03 - We’re not there to make you feel better

10:28 - It’s not a big deal… do don’t make it one



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



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]]> “Disability is not an us and them conversation, and it’s not a pity conversation. It’s about teaching kids compassion and an openness to collaboration”


These are the words of today’s guest Cathy Reay, a disabled writer and journalist, and mum of two (plus a very cheeky cat!). She also works in educational publishing. How To Be Disabled and Proud (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...) is her first children’s book, and on this week’s bucket emptying episode we are discussing how to have conversations with children about disability.


Spoiler alert: we’re all accommodating disability every day, we just don’t realise it, so this may not be as challenging as you think!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Connect with Cathy:

Website: https://www.cathyreay.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cathyreaywrites/ 

X: https://x.com/cathyreaywrites?lang=en 

How To Be Disabled And Proud: How To Be Disabled and Proud: (or at least kinda sorta okay with it...): Amazon.co.uk: Reay, Cathy: 9780241676967: Books 


Highlights from this episode:

00:53 -The vast spectrum of disability

04:04 - Disabled people have different skills, not lesser ones

06:03 - We’re not there to make you feel better

10:28 - It’s not a big deal… do don’t make it one



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway Wed, 09 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 17:09 67f53fb9fbfca819ff30699a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/feel-the-fear-and-do-it-anyway 67f53fb9fbfca819ff30699a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 feel-the-fear-and-do-it-anyway The 5 Truths About Fear... and What You Can Do About It full “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”


This quote from prolific American businessman Henry Ford is one I use often, because usually our fears - of failure, of self-worth, or of anything else - usually stem from within.


The power of positive thinking, right? A positive attitude with confidence and resilience can manifest better outcomes, so in this episode I am going to tackle this with you.


This episode is based on the international bestselling book Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I’m going to tackle Susan’s five truths about fear, and provide some real world examples and actionable steps you can take to manage your kids’ fears (and maybe your own, too!).


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:15 - As Henry Ford would say…

02:37 - Fear never goes away

06:12 - Everyone feels fear

07:38 - Change creates fear

11:06 - Action is the only way to get rid of fear

13:20 - Doing comes first



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> “Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t, you’re right.”


This quote from prolific American businessman Henry Ford is one I use often, because usually our fears - of failure, of self-worth, or of anything else - usually stem from within.


The power of positive thinking, right? A positive attitude with confidence and resilience can manifest better outcomes, so in this episode I am going to tackle this with you.


This episode is based on the international bestselling book Feel the Fear And Do It Anyway by Susan Jeffers. I’m going to tackle Susan’s five truths about fear, and provide some real world examples and actionable steps you can take to manage your kids’ fears (and maybe your own, too!).


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:15 - As Henry Ford would say…

02:37 - Fear never goes away

06:12 - Everyone feels fear

07:38 - Change creates fear

11:06 - Action is the only way to get rid of fear

13:20 - Doing comes first



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying: Consequences Aren't Working]]> Sun, 06 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 9:02 67eda96a9524713132d8d1a3 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-consequences-arent-working 67eda96a9524713132d8d1a3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-consequences-arent-working full Does your child never seem to listen to you?

Do punishments never work?

Are you running out of ideas?


Well, here’s some tough love: your consequences aren’t working, and it’s probably your fault. Of course we should make sure misdemeanors are met with consequence, but if your child doesn’t seem to listen, then the consequences clearly are not effective or appropriate.


In this bucket emptying episode, I talk you through three things you can consider, so that consequences are not just punishments, but lead to a meaningful change in behaviour.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:27 - Consequences should be connected to the crime

03:12 - What is driving the behaviour?

06:23 - Consequences should be instructive, not punitive



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does your child never seem to listen to you?

Do punishments never work?

Are you running out of ideas?


Well, here’s some tough love: your consequences aren’t working, and it’s probably your fault. Of course we should make sure misdemeanors are met with consequence, but if your child doesn’t seem to listen, then the consequences clearly are not effective or appropriate.


In this bucket emptying episode, I talk you through three things you can consider, so that consequences are not just punishments, but lead to a meaningful change in behaviour.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:27 - Consequences should be connected to the crime

03:12 - What is driving the behaviour?

06:23 - Consequences should be instructive, not punitive



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys Adolescence: Lessons for Raising Boys Wed, 02 Apr 2025 23:30:00 GMT 25:38 67ed081d95247131329e17e5 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/adolescence-lessons-for-raising-boys 67ed081d95247131329e17e5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 adolescence-lessons-for-raising-boys Is society setting up our men to fail? full From the education system, to conflicting expectations, to technology and social media… Netflix’s hit TV show Adolescence has raised many issues about how young men and boys are being raised and the challenges they face.


By ignoring some of these underlying problems, we are letting down our children.


Our kids deserve to grow up in a world where they feel safe.


This starts with making sure we - as parents, as teachers, as role models, and as a society - are raising our boys with the skills and the emotional intelligence to thrive in the real world.


To help you with this, I am going to respond to some of the key questions and themes raised by Stephen Graham’s series, and give you some actionable advice that you can start putting into practice right away.


This episode is not an easy one, so find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and get ready for the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:19 - Misogyny and Incel

04:51 - The issues facing young men in today’s world

06:46 - Start having conversations

08:51 - Educate yourself

12:12 - What steps can you take as a family?

14:24 - Teaching empathy and acceptance

17:44 - Identity creates agency

20:10 - Role models



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> From the education system, to conflicting expectations, to technology and social media… Netflix’s hit TV show Adolescence has raised many issues about how young men and boys are being raised and the challenges they face.


By ignoring some of these underlying problems, we are letting down our children.


Our kids deserve to grow up in a world where they feel safe.


This starts with making sure we - as parents, as teachers, as role models, and as a society - are raising our boys with the skills and the emotional intelligence to thrive in the real world.


To help you with this, I am going to respond to some of the key questions and themes raised by Stephen Graham’s series, and give you some actionable advice that you can start putting into practice right away.


This episode is not an easy one, so find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and get ready for the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:19 - Misogyny and Incel

04:51 - The issues facing young men in today’s world

06:46 - Start having conversations

08:51 - Educate yourself

12:12 - What steps can you take as a family?

14:24 - Teaching empathy and acceptance

17:44 - Identity creates agency

20:10 - Role models



Additional resources:

The Lost Boys Report from the Centre for Social Justice: https://www.centreforsocialjustice.org.uk/library/lost-boys



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: How to Start Difficult Conversations Bucket Emptying: How to Start Difficult Conversations Sun, 30 Mar 2025 23:30:00 GMT 11:48 67e8751c903a636fc17f5e93 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-to-start-difficult-conversations 67e8751c903a636fc17f5e93 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-to-start-difficult-conversations Adolescence Has Got Everyone Talking! full If you haven’t yet seen Adolescence on Netflix, what have you been doing?!


Jokes aside, this TV show has been a triggering one for many of us, but especially those parents of boys. It has brought to light many issues around the manosphere, masculinity, and a generation of children who, without a safe space to have open and honest conversations with grownups, can be easily influenced by harmful content elsewhere.


That’s why this week’s bucket emptying episode is all about how to have those difficult conversations with your kids. As the grown up in the room, it is your job to take the reigns with this, and I’m going to help you!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:56 - We’re not looking for just one deep conversation

02:56 - Seize natural opportunities

05:07 - Instigate the conversation if needed

08:33 - Don’t confuse silence for an opportunity to keep talking

10:10 - Leave them wanting



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> If you haven’t yet seen Adolescence on Netflix, what have you been doing?!


Jokes aside, this TV show has been a triggering one for many of us, but especially those parents of boys. It has brought to light many issues around the manosphere, masculinity, and a generation of children who, without a safe space to have open and honest conversations with grownups, can be easily influenced by harmful content elsewhere.


That’s why this week’s bucket emptying episode is all about how to have those difficult conversations with your kids. As the grown up in the room, it is your job to take the reigns with this, and I’m going to help you!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:56 - We’re not looking for just one deep conversation

02:56 - Seize natural opportunities

05:07 - Instigate the conversation if needed

08:33 - Don’t confuse silence for an opportunity to keep talking

10:10 - Leave them wanting



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Lazy or Bored? Lazy or Bored? Thu, 27 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 23:10 67e4248dd6912226b5b2e6b9 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/lazy-or-bored 67e4248dd6912226b5b2e6b9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 lazy-or-bored 5 Ways to Create Active Lifestyle Habits for the Whole Family full New research from the World Health Organisation (WHO) ranks children in England and Wales near bottom for physical activity.


This reflects a world where children are becoming less active… in fact, between the ages of 7 and 16, our kids will spend on average half a year - that’s six whole months - playing video games. But here’s the thing…


Our children are not lazy, and we’re not heading for some Wall-E world where we all whizz around on floating chairs! They could just be bored.


I believe we can make positive changes to get our children, and ourselves, living a healthier and more active lifestyle, so in this episode I share my top tips to help you get moving!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:39 - Stat attack!

04:39 - What’s the default at home?

10:02 - Start from where you are, not from where you think you should be

13:23 - Explore natural curiosities in other activities

17:57 - Creating family activity time



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> New research from the World Health Organisation (WHO) ranks children in England and Wales near bottom for physical activity.


This reflects a world where children are becoming less active… in fact, between the ages of 7 and 16, our kids will spend on average half a year - that’s six whole months - playing video games. But here’s the thing…


Our children are not lazy, and we’re not heading for some Wall-E world where we all whizz around on floating chairs! They could just be bored.


I believe we can make positive changes to get our children, and ourselves, living a healthier and more active lifestyle, so in this episode I share my top tips to help you get moving!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:39 - Stat attack!

04:39 - What’s the default at home?

10:02 - Start from where you are, not from where you think you should be

13:23 - Explore natural curiosities in other activities

17:57 - Creating family activity time



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying: Flaw or Skills Gap? Bucket Emptying: Flaw or Skills Gap? Mon, 24 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 11:07 67dd36d91eb5b2f42349c04e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-flaw-or-skills-gap 67dd36d91eb5b2f42349c04e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-flaw-or-skills-gap Spoiler alert: your kids might not be as lazy as you think! full Does your child always leave their room in a mess?

Do they leave tasks to the last minute?

Are they always on their phone, or wanting to be?


As parents we tend to think of things like this as an issue, but in this episode I’m going to help you pivot, because these are not flaws. They’re just skill gaps.


When we can reframe these traits of our kids, then we can start to identify how they might need help and support, to gain new skills and overcome some of these day to day challenges.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:50 - We’ve all been there

03:07 - Reframing makes a big difference

07:50 - Neurodivergence



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does your child always leave their room in a mess?

Do they leave tasks to the last minute?

Are they always on their phone, or wanting to be?


As parents we tend to think of things like this as an issue, but in this episode I’m going to help you pivot, because these are not flaws. They’re just skill gaps.


When we can reframe these traits of our kids, then we can start to identify how they might need help and support, to gain new skills and overcome some of these day to day challenges.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:50 - We’ve all been there

03:07 - Reframing makes a big difference

07:50 - Neurodivergence



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> The Five Things All Children Need The Five Things All Children Need Thu, 20 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 32:36 67da910a13f133b29d4cb3c7 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/the-five-things-all-children-need 67da910a13f133b29d4cb3c7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 the-five-things-all-children-need Number 3 will SHOCK you! (not really, but made you click) full I am SO MAD!


Or I was when I first listened to a guest discuss their parenting views on another top podcast. Her guidance - that children should not be in daycare and that women should stay at home for the first couple of years - I felt was too dogmatic, and I immediately jumped on the mic to record this episode.


That professional’s opinion comes from an informed place. However, I strongly disagree with them, and in this episode I want to share what I believe are the five core things you should be providing for your children, irrespective of family structure and circumstances.


Because if you can focus on providing these things, your children will flourish.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


(now who wants to guess what podcast I was listening to?)



Highlights from this episode:

00:49 - The story behind this podcast

05:14 - Secure attachments

13:04 - Emotional support

19:29 - Communication

24:08 - Boundaries and structure

27:11 - Positive role models



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> I am SO MAD!


Or I was when I first listened to a guest discuss their parenting views on another top podcast. Her guidance - that children should not be in daycare and that women should stay at home for the first couple of years - I felt was too dogmatic, and I immediately jumped on the mic to record this episode.


That professional’s opinion comes from an informed place. However, I strongly disagree with them, and in this episode I want to share what I believe are the five core things you should be providing for your children, irrespective of family structure and circumstances.


Because if you can focus on providing these things, your children will flourish.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…


(now who wants to guess what podcast I was listening to?)



Highlights from this episode:

00:49 - The story behind this podcast

05:14 - Secure attachments

13:04 - Emotional support

19:29 - Communication

24:08 - Boundaries and structure

27:11 - Positive role models



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



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]]> Bucket Emptying: How Can I Help My Child Manage Exam Stress? Bucket Emptying: How Can I Help My Child Manage Exam Stress? Mon, 17 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 11:28 67d14e5ed219b38abbc70a81 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-how-can-i-help-my-child-manage-exam-stress 67d14e5ed219b38abbc70a81 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-how-can-i-help-my-child-manage-exam-stress full Exams can be a stressful time for our children, which makes them a stressful time for us mums and dads too! There’s a lot of pressure, which can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t need to be like this.


In this episode I help you to understand the difference between belief gaps, skills gaps and knowledge gaps, how to identify which one (or combination of) your child is struggling with, and share some tips on how you can help them manage this.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:47 - Expectation vs Reality

02:23 - Identify the mismatch

07:09 - Bridging the knowledge gap



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]]> Exams can be a stressful time for our children, which makes them a stressful time for us mums and dads too! There’s a lot of pressure, which can feel overwhelming, but it doesn’t need to be like this.


In this episode I help you to understand the difference between belief gaps, skills gaps and knowledge gaps, how to identify which one (or combination of) your child is struggling with, and share some tips on how you can help them manage this.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:47 - Expectation vs Reality

02:23 - Identify the mismatch

07:09 - Bridging the knowledge gap



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Seen But Not Heard: Helping Your Child Find Their Voice Seen But Not Heard: Helping Your Child Find Their Voice Thu, 13 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 26:47 67d15cf199101dfd47da8712 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/seen-but-not-heard-helping-your-child-find-their-voice 67d15cf199101dfd47da8712 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 seen-but-not-heard-helping-your-child-find-their-voice Quiet Can Be A Superpower! full Is your child quiet, shy or reserved?

Do they struggle to get heard in group settings?

Are you worried their introversion is holding them back?


As parents we naturally worry about our children, but here’s some breaking news: just because they might be reserved or quiet, it does not mean they lack belief or confidence.


They may not know how to assert themselves in certain situations as well as others, or even as well as you or their siblings, so in this episode I am going to help you spot the signs where additional support may be needed, and give you some expert advice on how to help your children find their voice.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Some children are naturally more reserved than others

03:10 - Home is a safe space

05:48 - The wooden spoon

09:05 - Does your child need additional support?

12:14 - Signs of low self-belief or lack of confidence

14:53 - A compliment is like a non-stick pan

18:53 - Finding opportunities for your child to test their capabilities

21:56 - Practice practice practice

23:36 - What are you modelling?



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]]> Is your child quiet, shy or reserved?

Do they struggle to get heard in group settings?

Are you worried their introversion is holding them back?


As parents we naturally worry about our children, but here’s some breaking news: just because they might be reserved or quiet, it does not mean they lack belief or confidence.


They may not know how to assert themselves in certain situations as well as others, or even as well as you or their siblings, so in this episode I am going to help you spot the signs where additional support may be needed, and give you some expert advice on how to help your children find their voice.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:09 - Some children are naturally more reserved than others

03:10 - Home is a safe space

05:48 - The wooden spoon

09:05 - Does your child need additional support?

12:14 - Signs of low self-belief or lack of confidence

14:53 - A compliment is like a non-stick pan

18:53 - Finding opportunities for your child to test their capabilities

21:56 - Practice practice practice

23:36 - What are you modelling?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Daytime Nap or Quiet Time? Bucket Emptying: Daytime Nap or Quiet Time? Mon, 10 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 14:25 67c97c0448f26a4bca38a782 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-daytime-nap-or-quiet-time 67c97c0448f26a4bca38a782 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-daytime-nap-or-quiet-time full Do you dread nap time? And is your child always resisting a nap?


As parents, we know there’s nothing worse than the tantrum of an overtired kid, so in this episode I’m here to help you create an effective routine to help your children rest and recharge.


Spoiler alert: maybe it’s time to detach yourself from nap time and start thinking about it as quiet time instead.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:14 - Why do children need naps?

03:55 - Tiredness is not an on-off switch

05:15 - Repetition is effective

07:39 - Pick up the cues

09:45 - Creating resilient children through quiet time

11:50 - Transitioning from naps to quiet time



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do you dread nap time? And is your child always resisting a nap?


As parents, we know there’s nothing worse than the tantrum of an overtired kid, so in this episode I’m here to help you create an effective routine to help your children rest and recharge.


Spoiler alert: maybe it’s time to detach yourself from nap time and start thinking about it as quiet time instead.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:14 - Why do children need naps?

03:55 - Tiredness is not an on-off switch

05:15 - Repetition is effective

07:39 - Pick up the cues

09:45 - Creating resilient children through quiet time

11:50 - Transitioning from naps to quiet time



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> When Your Parents Disagree with Your Parenting When Your Parents Disagree with Your Parenting Thu, 06 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 26:19 67c73b82fc5f88b98df53b7e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/when-your-parents-disagree-with-your-parenting 67c73b82fc5f88b98df53b7e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 when-your-parents-disagree-with-your-parenting Prevent all out family war with these top tips full Do your parents criticise your parenting?

Do you struggle to enforce your own rules on the Grandparents?

Do Nan and Grandad sometimes think they’re above the law of Mum and Dad?


If you’re constantly battling with your own parents over your children, don’t worry - we’ve all there at some point! I often had difficult conversations with my own Mum when raising my two children, and it’s not easy.


In this episode I’m going to help you manage these situations by sharing some top tips on how to approach this tricky topic with your parents, and resolve it before an all our family war breaks out!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - We rely on Grandparents

02:56 - Generational parenting differences

06:55 - An environment to talk openly

08:43 - Active listening

11:48 - Communicate your approach and the reasons behind them

14:55 - Acknowledge our parents’ feelings

19:54 - Setting boundaries



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do your parents criticise your parenting?

Do you struggle to enforce your own rules on the Grandparents?

Do Nan and Grandad sometimes think they’re above the law of Mum and Dad?


If you’re constantly battling with your own parents over your children, don’t worry - we’ve all there at some point! I often had difficult conversations with my own Mum when raising my two children, and it’s not easy.


In this episode I’m going to help you manage these situations by sharing some top tips on how to approach this tricky topic with your parents, and resolve it before an all our family war breaks out!


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:28 - We rely on Grandparents

02:56 - Generational parenting differences

06:55 - An environment to talk openly

08:43 - Active listening

11:48 - Communicate your approach and the reasons behind them

14:55 - Acknowledge our parents’ feelings

19:54 - Setting boundaries



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: The 5 Minute Rule Bucket Emptying: The 5 Minute Rule Mon, 03 Mar 2025 00:30:00 GMT 10:51 67c211488a16e0b976943a11 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-the-5-minute-rule 67c211488a16e0b976943a11 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-the-5-minute-rule full Do you ever find yourself procrastinating?

Do you ever struggle to focus on one task at a time?

And how many things are unfinished because something more important suddenly came up?


Both children and parents can get so easily distracted - I understand, the world is a busy, urgent place at times, and it feels like everything needs doing all at once!


In this episode, I help you apply the 5 Minute Rule to help you focus your energy on one thing at a time. By fully zoning in on one thing for even a short amount of time, you will get so much more out of that activity.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - What is the 5 Minute Rule?

03:54 - The 4 steps to implementing

06:03 - Beware of these pitfalls!

08:29 - It’s not just for procrastinators



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do you ever find yourself procrastinating?

Do you ever struggle to focus on one task at a time?

And how many things are unfinished because something more important suddenly came up?


Both children and parents can get so easily distracted - I understand, the world is a busy, urgent place at times, and it feels like everything needs doing all at once!


In this episode, I help you apply the 5 Minute Rule to help you focus your energy on one thing at a time. By fully zoning in on one thing for even a short amount of time, you will get so much more out of that activity.


So find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

01:02 - What is the 5 Minute Rule?

03:54 - The 4 steps to implementing

06:03 - Beware of these pitfalls!

08:29 - It’s not just for procrastinators



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> How to Teach Children About LGBT+ How to Teach Children About LGBT+ Thu, 27 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 42:14 67bef8266b976c335111094b false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/how-to-teach-children-about-lgbt 67bef8266b976c335111094b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 how-to-teach-children-about-lgbt With Amy Ashenden of Just Like Us full We have all heard of LGBT+ or pride, and terms like non-binary, asexual, trans, but do we really understand them? And as parents, how do we begin to have those conversations with our children?


In this episode I am joined by Amy Ashenden, Director of Communications and Engagement at Just Like Us, to talk about how to normalise conversations around LGBT+ and diversity, equality and inclusivity (DEI) more broadly.


Amy shares some fascinating insights from Just Like Us’ research, which forms the basis of their Guide for Parents, and you can access it using the link below. Amy is also a lesbian and a mum, who candidly talks about her own lived experience of growing up and living without the allyship she works so hard to encourage from all of us today.


This is such an important episode that you simply cannot miss, so find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



More from Amy and Just Like Us:

Visit their website: https://justlikeus.org/

Get their Guide for Parents: https://justlikeus.org/lgbt-guide-for-parents/



Highlights from this episode:

05:22 - What do we mean by LGBT+

09:26 - Looking past the stereotypes

13:46 - Parents leading the conversation

16:54 - Misinformation and social media

20:20 - “It’s just banter”

25:03 - Putting the B & T into LGBT

29:06 - Be an ally, not a saviour

32:04 - Dealing with homophobia in your own home

35:58 - Faith and allyship

37:03 - Just Like Us LGBT+ Guide for Parents Key Points



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> We have all heard of LGBT+ or pride, and terms like non-binary, asexual, trans, but do we really understand them? And as parents, how do we begin to have those conversations with our children?


In this episode I am joined by Amy Ashenden, Director of Communications and Engagement at Just Like Us, to talk about how to normalise conversations around LGBT+ and diversity, equality and inclusivity (DEI) more broadly.


Amy shares some fascinating insights from Just Like Us’ research, which forms the basis of their Guide for Parents, and you can access it using the link below. Amy is also a lesbian and a mum, who candidly talks about her own lived experience of growing up and living without the allyship she works so hard to encourage from all of us today.


This is such an important episode that you simply cannot miss, so find a comfy seat, pour yourself a cuppa and enjoy the conversation…



More from Amy and Just Like Us:

Visit their website: https://justlikeus.org/

Get their Guide for Parents: https://justlikeus.org/lgbt-guide-for-parents/



Highlights from this episode:

05:22 - What do we mean by LGBT+

09:26 - Looking past the stereotypes

13:46 - Parents leading the conversation

16:54 - Misinformation and social media

20:20 - “It’s just banter”

25:03 - Putting the B & T into LGBT

29:06 - Be an ally, not a saviour

32:04 - Dealing with homophobia in your own home

35:58 - Faith and allyship

37:03 - Just Like Us LGBT+ Guide for Parents Key Points



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: 5 Questions When Anxiety Strikes Bucket Emptying: 5 Questions When Anxiety Strikes Mon, 24 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 15:32 67b7159c7fd241a4ed688ea1 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-5-questions-when-anxiety-strikes 67b7159c7fd241a4ed688ea1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-5-questions-when-anxiety-strikes Helping you and your children Be Here Now full Anxiety affects us all, and in this bucket emptying episode I’m going to help your children and you as parents, to manage your anxiety and keep your mental health in check.


I’m going to share with you a strategy called Be Here Now, which consists of five simple questions to help you when anxiety strikes.


If you do regularly suffer from anxiety and depression, or you just need some additional support with your mental health, please do reach out or contact charities such as Anxiety UK. Remember, you are never alone.



Highlights from this episode:

02:38 - Be Here Now

06:31 - What am I doing right now?

07:03 - Am I thinking about something other than what I’m doing now?

08:00 - How am I feeling?

08:32 - What can I do now to help myself?

10:10 - Should I schedule time to problem solve?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Anxiety affects us all, and in this bucket emptying episode I’m going to help your children and you as parents, to manage your anxiety and keep your mental health in check.


I’m going to share with you a strategy called Be Here Now, which consists of five simple questions to help you when anxiety strikes.


If you do regularly suffer from anxiety and depression, or you just need some additional support with your mental health, please do reach out or contact charities such as Anxiety UK. Remember, you are never alone.



Highlights from this episode:

02:38 - Be Here Now

06:31 - What am I doing right now?

07:03 - Am I thinking about something other than what I’m doing now?

08:00 - How am I feeling?

08:32 - What can I do now to help myself?

10:10 - Should I schedule time to problem solve?



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025 - https://onemillionmoments.org/


💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Building Children's Social and Emotional Skills: Part 1]]> Thu, 20 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 28:00 67b4dae9d7f65bb045ba2893 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/building-childrens-social-and-emotional-skills-part-1 67b4dae9d7f65bb045ba2893 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 building-childrens-social-and-emotional-skills-part-1 How to identify soft skills in your kids full Who am I?


That’s what we’re asking In the first of a two part special on social and emotional skills.


They’re not the things you can really see or measure, and there’s no right or wrong answer, but they are so important to how your children interact with the world, and in shaping who they grow up to be.


Parenting styles come in all shapes and sizes, but unless you and your children know how to identify your super powers and your skills, knowing how to raise them, encourage them, and support them is just a big guessing game!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:33 - What are social and emotional skills?

03:55 - Different ages and stages

07:18 - Self-identifying your strengths

11:23 - Who am I?

14:20 - We become what people tell us we are

17:45 - Having the conversation with older children

20:00 - Part of a process

23:10 - How they experience emotions



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Who am I?


That’s what we’re asking In the first of a two part special on social and emotional skills.


They’re not the things you can really see or measure, and there’s no right or wrong answer, but they are so important to how your children interact with the world, and in shaping who they grow up to be.


Parenting styles come in all shapes and sizes, but unless you and your children know how to identify your super powers and your skills, knowing how to raise them, encourage them, and support them is just a big guessing game!


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:33 - What are social and emotional skills?

03:55 - Different ages and stages

07:18 - Self-identifying your strengths

11:23 - Who am I?

14:20 - We become what people tell us we are

17:45 - Having the conversation with older children

20:00 - Part of a process

23:10 - How they experience emotions



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: The Power of ONE Bucket Emptying: The Power of ONE Mon, 17 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 18:35 67adf973b859f4e0dbabec77 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-the-power-of-one 67adf973b859f4e0dbabec77 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-the-power-of-one Unleash Your Inner Super Parent with the Three Cs full As parents there’s always a million things to do and it’s so easy to get overwhelmed, which is why in this bucket-emptying episode I’m talking about the power of one. When you focus on one thing at a time, you will find it easier to deal with, and that’s going to help you and your children.


This episode is all about the three Cs - central, clarity, and consistency. I’m going to help you understand and apply the three Cs so that you can harness the power of one and channel your inner Super Parent.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:02 - The Three Cs

04:29 - Working out your one

06:48 - Create an objective measure

09:07 - Example 1: pre-verbal children

11:45 - Example 2: children who won’t listen

14:34 - Example 3: battling tech use



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> As parents there’s always a million things to do and it’s so easy to get overwhelmed, which is why in this bucket-emptying episode I’m talking about the power of one. When you focus on one thing at a time, you will find it easier to deal with, and that’s going to help you and your children.


This episode is all about the three Cs - central, clarity, and consistency. I’m going to help you understand and apply the three Cs so that you can harness the power of one and channel your inner Super Parent.


So pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

02:02 - The Three Cs

04:29 - Working out your one

06:48 - Create an objective measure

09:07 - Example 1: pre-verbal children

11:45 - Example 2: children who won’t listen

14:34 - Example 3: battling tech use



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> <![CDATA[Connection is Not Just for Valentine's Day]]> Thu, 13 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 22:14 67aa12ab9c6f7f7f28a0f152 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/connection-is-not-just-for-valentines-day 67aa12ab9c6f7f7f28a0f152 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 connection-is-not-just-for-valentines-day full It’s Valentine’s Day and love is all around… unless you have kids. A recent study shows that many parents with children have not had a date night in the past six months. However, as role models to our kids, it’s so important to make time for them, for ourselves, and for our partners.


So this episode is all about connection. I give you five reasons why you need to be spending more time with your partner and share some practical advice to help you do that.


Let’s keep the romance alive!



Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - Romance is dead… say the stats

04:00 - 5 reasons to prioritise time with your partner

06:47 - The secret to a long life

10:36 - Make time for yourselves and each other

13:36 - Plan, plan, plan

15:31 - A change of mindset

18:49 - Enlist help!



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> It’s Valentine’s Day and love is all around… unless you have kids. A recent study shows that many parents with children have not had a date night in the past six months. However, as role models to our kids, it’s so important to make time for them, for ourselves, and for our partners.


So this episode is all about connection. I give you five reasons why you need to be spending more time with your partner and share some practical advice to help you do that.


Let’s keep the romance alive!



Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - Romance is dead… say the stats

04:00 - 5 reasons to prioritise time with your partner

06:47 - The secret to a long life

10:36 - Make time for yourselves and each other

13:36 - Plan, plan, plan

15:31 - A change of mindset

18:49 - Enlist help!



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Helping Children Be More Courageous with Ebele Bright Bucket Emptying: Helping Children Be More Courageous with Ebele Bright Mon, 10 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 22:54 67a4c3fcc6d4451a01fc9f7d false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-helping-children-be-more-courageous-with-ebe 67a4c3fcc6d4451a01fc9f7d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-helping-children-be-more-courageous-with-ebe Unlocking Inner Superheroes Through Storytelling full On this week’s bucket emptying episode, I am joined by children’s author Ebele Bright (Fly Chico Fly and Shake Ben Shake).


Ebele also founded Announce World to share beautiful stories with both children and adults, inspired by the truths and life lessons she is passing on to her daughters. Her picture books, which encourage deeper conversation with children, are perfect for children aged 3-8, parents, teachers and anyone who has an influence on kids.


In this episode, we explore how we can help our own children feel more courageous, and how storytelling can be a super powerful way to unlock our kids’ inner superhero.



Highlights from this episode:

04:09 - Normalising emotion

08:57 - Turning on the lightbulb

12:38 - What would Mama Eagle do?

15:22 - The mindset to stand when you’re not there

18:38 - Learning how to fail



Buy Ebele’s Books:

Fly Chico Fly: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fly-Chico-Ebele-Bright/dp/1838294708/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=0si2F&content-id=amzn1.sym.f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_p=f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_r=262-7026818-4147105&pd_rd_wg=78N5e&pd_rd_r=5a208941-5a93-4a87-b384-e0cf6b38d170&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk


Shake Ben Shake: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Shake-Ben-Ebele-Bright/dp/1838294724/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=0si2F&content-id=amzn1.sym.f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_p=f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_r=262-7026818-4147105&pd_rd_wg=78N5e&pd_rd_r=5a208941-5a93-4a87-b384-e0cf6b38d170&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> On this week’s bucket emptying episode, I am joined by children’s author Ebele Bright (Fly Chico Fly and Shake Ben Shake).


Ebele also founded Announce World to share beautiful stories with both children and adults, inspired by the truths and life lessons she is passing on to her daughters. Her picture books, which encourage deeper conversation with children, are perfect for children aged 3-8, parents, teachers and anyone who has an influence on kids.


In this episode, we explore how we can help our own children feel more courageous, and how storytelling can be a super powerful way to unlock our kids’ inner superhero.



Highlights from this episode:

04:09 - Normalising emotion

08:57 - Turning on the lightbulb

12:38 - What would Mama Eagle do?

15:22 - The mindset to stand when you’re not there

18:38 - Learning how to fail



Buy Ebele’s Books:

Fly Chico Fly: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Fly-Chico-Ebele-Bright/dp/1838294708/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=0si2F&content-id=amzn1.sym.f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_p=f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_r=262-7026818-4147105&pd_rd_wg=78N5e&pd_rd_r=5a208941-5a93-4a87-b384-e0cf6b38d170&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk


Shake Ben Shake: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Shake-Ben-Ebele-Bright/dp/1838294724/?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_w=0si2F&content-id=amzn1.sym.f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_p=f7cacb80-afed-4bd2-a630-ebf24465f0d7&pf_rd_r=262-7026818-4147105&pd_rd_wg=78N5e&pd_rd_r=5a208941-5a93-4a87-b384-e0cf6b38d170&ref_=aufs_ap_sc_dsk



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> When Children Feel Emotions Intensely When Children Feel Emotions Intensely Thu, 06 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 30:47 67a270f40ef429ce22a8f89d false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/when-children-feel-emotions-intensely 67a270f40ef429ce22a8f89d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 when-children-feel-emotions-intensely full When your child struggles to handle their big emotions, what do you do? If you’re like me, you’ll listen to podcasts and read all the books. And, if you’re like me, you probably found none of them helped much in practice. Am I right?


Well, in this episode, I’m going to help you cut through the noise, to understand the reasons why your child might appear to be acting out or struggling with intense emotions. I am going to help you go back to the source, figure out why they happen, and then help you figure out what to do about it.


So, pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:49 - I don’t like labels

03:10 - Early development

08:16 - Is there a skills gap?

12:35 - Tweaking the brain circuits

15:00 - Validate the emotions

16:46 - Label the emotions

19:41 - Bridging the skills gap

21:58 - A toolkit for managing big emotions

23:37 - Change takes time and consistency



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> When your child struggles to handle their big emotions, what do you do? If you’re like me, you’ll listen to podcasts and read all the books. And, if you’re like me, you probably found none of them helped much in practice. Am I right?


Well, in this episode, I’m going to help you cut through the noise, to understand the reasons why your child might appear to be acting out or struggling with intense emotions. I am going to help you go back to the source, figure out why they happen, and then help you figure out what to do about it.


So, pour yourself a cuppa, find a comfy seat, and enjoy the conversation…



Highlights from this episode:

00:49 - I don’t like labels

03:10 - Early development

08:16 - Is there a skills gap?

12:35 - Tweaking the brain circuits

15:00 - Validate the emotions

16:46 - Label the emotions

19:41 - Bridging the skills gap

21:58 - A toolkit for managing big emotions

23:37 - Change takes time and consistency



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend


💚  mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: When Siblings Get Physical Bucket Emptying: When Siblings Get Physical Mon, 03 Feb 2025 00:30:00 GMT 10:46 679b93eb74564c4194a99a3c false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-when-siblings-get-physical 679b93eb74564c4194a99a3c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-when-siblings-get-physical How to Stop Play Fighting Going Too Far full Do your kids like to play rough?

Can they take it too far until one of them gets hurt?

Do arguments quickly escalate into physical fights?


You're not alone! Most parents with multiple children will experience this at some point, so in this week’s bucket emptying episode, I explain what you can and should do when siblings get physical, and share some quick tips you can use right away.


We explore how you can effectively diffuse a physical altercation between your children, and also help them to manage any big emotions which might be causing their physical outbursts.



Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - Stop the fight as soon as possible

03:42 - Put physical space between your children

05:12 - Judge the fight, not the people

07:47 - Talk it through



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Do your kids like to play rough?

Can they take it too far until one of them gets hurt?

Do arguments quickly escalate into physical fights?


You're not alone! Most parents with multiple children will experience this at some point, so in this week’s bucket emptying episode, I explain what you can and should do when siblings get physical, and share some quick tips you can use right away.


We explore how you can effectively diffuse a physical altercation between your children, and also help them to manage any big emotions which might be causing their physical outbursts.



Highlights from this episode:

01:46 - Stop the fight as soon as possible

03:42 - Put physical space between your children

05:12 - Judge the fight, not the people

07:47 - Talk it through



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Self-Esteem and Lying Self-Esteem and Lying Thu, 30 Jan 2025 00:30:00 GMT 31:07 67993f8f60e68f77d5be865e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/self-esteem-and-lying 67993f8f60e68f77d5be865e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 self-esteem-and-lying full Spoiler alert: all children lie! And many of our children will experience self-esteem issues, so it’s really important to understand how to recognise it, and support your children through these difficult times.


Does your child lie often about silly things?

Are they not growing out of it like you thought they would?

Do their lies cause upset or consequences to others?


If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone!


In this episode, I talk you through the key things you need to know, including what you should avoid and what you need to start doing to help.



Highlights from this episode:

01:22 - Children who lack confidence do this…

04:21 - Lying as a coping mechanism

09:17 - 2 things you should avoid

12:08 - 5 things to start doing

15:12 - Which line is longer?

18:31 - Praise the process

22:57 - Confidence is an inside job

26:34 - White lies



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Spoiler alert: all children lie! And many of our children will experience self-esteem issues, so it’s really important to understand how to recognise it, and support your children through these difficult times.


Does your child lie often about silly things?

Are they not growing out of it like you thought they would?

Do their lies cause upset or consequences to others?


If you answered yes to any of these, you’re not alone!


In this episode, I talk you through the key things you need to know, including what you should avoid and what you need to start doing to help.



Highlights from this episode:

01:22 - Children who lack confidence do this…

04:21 - Lying as a coping mechanism

09:17 - 2 things you should avoid

12:08 - 5 things to start doing

15:12 - Which line is longer?

18:31 - Praise the process

22:57 - Confidence is an inside job

26:34 - White lies



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying: Cultivating Contentment Bucket Emptying: Cultivating Contentment Mon, 27 Jan 2025 00:30:00 GMT 13:03 67935f70c2d52c7ac8b963d0 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-cultivating-contentment 67935f70c2d52c7ac8b963d0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-cultivating-contentment The Happiness Myth and the Power of Mantras full Whether your situation - be it parenting solo, coparenting, parallel parenting or something else - we can all agree that sometimes parenting is hell! That’s why this episode is all about finding contentment.


From the Happiness Myth to mantas, I share some top ways you can cultivate your own contentment, helping you stay happy, healthy and motivated to take on whatever life (and the kids) throw at you!



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - The Happiness Myth

03:03 - A typical scenario

04:43 - Scan the day

08:21 - The power of mantras



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Whether your situation - be it parenting solo, coparenting, parallel parenting or something else - we can all agree that sometimes parenting is hell! That’s why this episode is all about finding contentment.


From the Happiness Myth to mantas, I share some top ways you can cultivate your own contentment, helping you stay happy, healthy and motivated to take on whatever life (and the kids) throw at you!



Highlights from this episode:

00:48 - The Happiness Myth

03:03 - A typical scenario

04:43 - Scan the day

08:21 - The power of mantras



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Anxiety and Everyday Life Stress Anxiety and Everyday Life Stress Thu, 23 Jan 2025 00:30:00 GMT 26:55 6790b27d1dc9bbb210e05815 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/anxiety-and-everyday-life-stress 6790b27d1dc9bbb210e05815 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 anxiety-and-everyday-life-stress Balancing the Seesaw of Wellbeing full Does your child seem anxious or worried?

What are the signs to look out for?

And what can you do to help?


In this episode, I am going to talk you through how to manage anxiety and worry in your child, by applying what I call the Seesaw of Wellbeing. I help you to understand what an unbalanced seesaw looks like, how this might present itself in everyday life, and some actionable steps you can take to rebalance.



Highlights from this episode:

01:36 - The Seesaw of Wellbeing

06:37 - The symptoms of unbalanced seesaws

11:01 - The different kinds of unbalanced seesaws

12:47 - The three categories

16:32 - Anxiety

20:02 - What can we do to help?



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Does your child seem anxious or worried?

What are the signs to look out for?

And what can you do to help?


In this episode, I am going to talk you through how to manage anxiety and worry in your child, by applying what I call the Seesaw of Wellbeing. I help you to understand what an unbalanced seesaw looks like, how this might present itself in everyday life, and some actionable steps you can take to rebalance.



Highlights from this episode:

01:36 - The Seesaw of Wellbeing

06:37 - The symptoms of unbalanced seesaws

11:01 - The different kinds of unbalanced seesaws

12:47 - The three categories

16:32 - Anxiety

20:02 - What can we do to help?



💚 Let’s grow our village together, please  with at least one friend



💚  mentioned in the episodes



💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Rude behaviour Bucket Emptying Episodes; Rude behaviour Mon, 20 Jan 2025 00:30:00 GMT 13:12 676eb63ac82b0a641394c5b6 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-rude-behaviour 676eb63ac82b0a641394c5b6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-rude-behaviour full Today, I’m answering a listener question that I think will empty quite a few of your buckets. It’s all about rude behaviour.


Whether it’s a young child screaming, “I hate you!” or a teen being disrespectful, name-calling, or acting out in ways that feel rude, I’ll explore strategies to understand and address these challenges effectively.


Join me as we unpack the roots of rude behaviour and learn how to navigate these moments with clarity and confidence. 




💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


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]]> Today, I’m answering a listener question that I think will empty quite a few of your buckets. It’s all about rude behaviour.


Whether it’s a young child screaming, “I hate you!” or a teen being disrespectful, name-calling, or acting out in ways that feel rude, I’ll explore strategies to understand and address these challenges effectively.


Join me as we unpack the roots of rude behaviour and learn how to navigate these moments with clarity and confidence. 




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]]> Step by step guide to changing behaviour Step by step guide to changing behaviour Thu, 16 Jan 2025 00:30:54 GMT 31:18 676eaa465ca4d7b0d7241099 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/step-by-step-guide-to-changing-behaviour 676eaa465ca4d7b0d7241099 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 step-by-step-guide-to-changing-behaviour full Whether it’s managing emotions better, building confidence, or reducing anxiety this framework is all you need.


Here are the highlights:


(3:11) Kaizen principles and the ladder

(5:50) Let’s look at a child lacking confidence and the ladder

(18:40) Let’s look at a lack of motivation and the ladder



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]]> Whether it’s managing emotions better, building confidence, or reducing anxiety this framework is all you need.


Here are the highlights:


(3:11) Kaizen principles and the ladder

(5:50) Let’s look at a child lacking confidence and the ladder

(18:40) Let’s look at a lack of motivation and the ladder



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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; The power of one Bucket Emptying Episodes; The power of one Mon, 13 Jan 2025 00:30:37 GMT 13:12 676abbc92931d58818615a58 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-the-power-of-one 676abbc92931d58818615a58 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-the-power-of-one full In this episode, I’m introducing a transformative new concept: The Power of One.


Instead of concentrating on your child’s current behavioural challenges, I encourage you to shift your focus to building the relevant skills that address the root cause. 




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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> In this episode, I’m introducing a transformative new concept: The Power of One.


Instead of concentrating on your child’s current behavioural challenges, I encourage you to shift your focus to building the relevant skills that address the root cause. 




💚 Let’s grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Supporting children through divorce or separation Supporting children through divorce or separation Thu, 09 Jan 2025 00:30:34 GMT 33:29 676aac8ea5aeb35e7c3bcac0 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/supporting-children-through-divorce-or-separation 676aac8ea5aeb35e7c3bcac0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 supporting-children-through-divorce-or-separation full 42% of marriages end in divorce, and the negative impact can be minimised if you follow these simple steps. 


Here are the highlights:


(3:20) Trauma caused by separation or divorce

(7:30) Communication

(12:20) Have a plan about logistics

(18:45) Be available to answer their questions

(23:20) Provide Reassurance

(24:00) Behaviour regression is normal

(26:18) Accept parenting may be different to your co-parent

(28:40) Your children many appear to take sides




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> 42% of marriages end in divorce, and the negative impact can be minimised if you follow these simple steps. 


Here are the highlights:


(3:20) Trauma caused by separation or divorce

(7:30) Communication

(12:20) Have a plan about logistics

(18:45) Be available to answer their questions

(23:20) Provide Reassurance

(24:00) Behaviour regression is normal

(26:18) Accept parenting may be different to your co-parent

(28:40) Your children many appear to take sides




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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Descriptive praise Bucket Emptying Episodes; Descriptive praise Mon, 06 Jan 2025 00:30:11 GMT 12:30 67642d83621cdde43addb439 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-descriptive-praise 67642d83621cdde43addb439 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-descriptive-praise full Today, I’m sharing a super simple technique to add to your toolkit, which is powerful at encouraging our children to do more of what we want without the nagging. It's called descriptive praise. 

 

Join me as I share my 3 top tips to implementing this incredible tool.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Today, I’m sharing a super simple technique to add to your toolkit, which is powerful at encouraging our children to do more of what we want without the nagging. It's called descriptive praise. 

 

Join me as I share my 3 top tips to implementing this incredible tool.



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025




DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Your favourite guest moments of 2024 Your favourite guest moments of 2024 Thu, 02 Jan 2025 00:30:58 GMT 47:24 6764150d0033250918952da4 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/your-favourite-guest-moments-of-2024 6764150d0033250918952da4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 your-favourite-guest-moments-of-2024 full You’ve loved the guest episodes this year, so we’ve curated some of your favourite moments from 2024! Whether you’re revisiting old favourites or discovering gems for the first time, this compilation is packed with insights to inspire, motivate, and empower you.


Sit back, relax, and enjoy the best of the best from our incredible guests. 


Here are the highlights:


(0:00) Raising resilient women with Kim McCabe

(0:00) Libbi’s digital detox – one teen’s experience of life without their smartphone

(0:00) Brain Brilliance with Lucinda Miller

(0:00) Smartphone-free childhood; the power of the parent collective



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> You’ve loved the guest episodes this year, so we’ve curated some of your favourite moments from 2024! Whether you’re revisiting old favourites or discovering gems for the first time, this compilation is packed with insights to inspire, motivate, and empower you.


Sit back, relax, and enjoy the best of the best from our incredible guests. 


Here are the highlights:


(0:00) Raising resilient women with Kim McCabe

(0:00) Libbi’s digital detox – one teen’s experience of life without their smartphone

(0:00) Brain Brilliance with Lucinda Miller

(0:00) Smartphone-free childhood; the power of the parent collective



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Revisit my child won’t eat]]> Mon, 30 Dec 2024 00:30:34 GMT 9:27 6764104fb49c6255e8efa4fa false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-my-child-wont-eat 6764104fb49c6255e8efa4fa 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-my-child-wont-eat full Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia? Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.


If your child struggles with eating, you might find these additional episodes helpful (available on Apple and Spotify): 


Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller


Ep 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.






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]]> Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia? Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.


If your child struggles with eating, you might find these additional episodes helpful (available on Apple and Spotify): 


Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller


Ep 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller




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]]> Your favourite Dr Maryhan moments of 2024 Your favourite Dr Maryhan moments of 2024 Thu, 26 Dec 2024 00:30:10 GMT 47:39 67640818a977962b2e6256fc false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/your-favourite-dr-maryhan-moments-of-2024 67640818a977962b2e6256fc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 your-favourite-dr-maryhan-moments-of-2024 full They say, “Repetition is the mother of all learning,” so we’ve curated some of your favourite Dr Maryhan moments from 2024. Whether you’re revisiting old favourites or discovering gems for the first time, this compilation is packed with insights to inspire, motivate, and empower you.


Enjoy! 



Here are the highlights:


(0:00) Great habits for super young children

(0:00) Are we too soft? Part 1

(0:00) Raising confident girls

(0:00) Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 1

(0:00) Teaching children how, not what to think!

(0:00) Why validating emotions work


You can listen to the episodes that follow on from the episodes that are part of a series below:


Are we too soft? Part 2

Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 2

Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 3



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> They say, “Repetition is the mother of all learning,” so we’ve curated some of your favourite Dr Maryhan moments from 2024. Whether you’re revisiting old favourites or discovering gems for the first time, this compilation is packed with insights to inspire, motivate, and empower you.


Enjoy! 



Here are the highlights:


(0:00) Great habits for super young children

(0:00) Are we too soft? Part 1

(0:00) Raising confident girls

(0:00) Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 1

(0:00) Teaching children how, not what to think!

(0:00) Why validating emotions work


You can listen to the episodes that follow on from the episodes that are part of a series below:


Are we too soft? Part 2

Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 2

Friendships – the whole 9 yards Part 3



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025

 


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Revisit managing overwhelm over the festive season]]> Mon, 23 Dec 2024 00:30:52 GMT 10:10 67640612a977962b2e61dbae false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-managing-overwhelm-ove 67640612a977962b2e61dbae 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-managing-overwhelm-ove full Feeling overwhelmed by the holiday hustle? Don’t let the season steal your joy! In this episode, we’re revisiting How to Manage Festive Stress. I’ll share three practical tips to help you set realistic expectations, stay grounded, and fully embrace the magic of this time of year.


Tune in and discover how to navigate the festivities with ease, balance, and a little extra cheer! 


Listen to 25 for 2025



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]]> Feeling overwhelmed by the holiday hustle? Don’t let the season steal your joy! In this episode, we’re revisiting How to Manage Festive Stress. I’ll share three practical tips to help you set realistic expectations, stay grounded, and fully embrace the magic of this time of year.


Tune in and discover how to navigate the festivities with ease, balance, and a little extra cheer! 


Listen to 25 for 2025



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> 25 for 2025 25 for 2025 Thu, 19 Dec 2024 00:30:59 GMT 31:55 676185e3ad8634974173101f false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/25-for-2025 676185e3ad8634974173101f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 25-for-2025 full It’s my favourite time of year—goal-setting season!  I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions, but I do love creating meaningful promises and intentions using a framework that truly works.


In this episode, I’ll share my personal goal-setting process, the framework I use, and why setting goals can be such a powerful, life-changing practice.


Are you ready to dream big, get intentional, and make the year ahead your best yet? Let’s do this together! 


Here are the highlights: 

 

(2:18 Statistics for cynics 

(3:50) Why setting goals is important

(10:54) The framework 

(17:45) Reflection

(22:06) One big goal and small behaviour changes to support it

(25:10) Accountability with a buddy

(26:44) Manage your mindset




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.






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]]> It’s my favourite time of year—goal-setting season!  I’m not one for New Year’s resolutions, but I do love creating meaningful promises and intentions using a framework that truly works.


In this episode, I’ll share my personal goal-setting process, the framework I use, and why setting goals can be such a powerful, life-changing practice.


Are you ready to dream big, get intentional, and make the year ahead your best yet? Let’s do this together! 


Here are the highlights: 

 

(2:18 Statistics for cynics 

(3:50) Why setting goals is important

(10:54) The framework 

(17:45) Reflection

(22:06) One big goal and small behaviour changes to support it

(25:10) Accountability with a buddy

(26:44) Manage your mindset




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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025




DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.






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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How to get children out of the house without stress! Bucket Emptying Episodes; How to get children out of the house without stress! Mon, 16 Dec 2024 00:30:11 GMT 16:03 675ae61fb8324e024f817fd3 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-how-to-get-children-out-of-the-hous 675ae61fb8324e024f817fd3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-how-to-get-children-out-of-the-hous full Are mornings at your house a whirlwind of chaos? Do you struggle to get the kids out of the house without losing your mind? If you’re nodding along, today’s episode is just for you!


In this week’s episode, I’m diving into a listener’s question: How can we make leaving the house with kids less stressful? It’s a challenge so many parents face, and let’s be real—it can sometimes feel impossible. 


Join me as I share my top tips.



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]]> Are mornings at your house a whirlwind of chaos? Do you struggle to get the kids out of the house without losing your mind? If you’re nodding along, today’s episode is just for you!


In this week’s episode, I’m diving into a listener’s question: How can we make leaving the house with kids less stressful? It’s a challenge so many parents face, and let’s be real—it can sometimes feel impossible. 


Join me as I share my top tips.



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]]> Small changes, big impact! Small changes, big impact! Thu, 12 Dec 2024 00:30:39 GMT 28:08 6759820fc2a496b7a3296c51 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/small-changes-big-impact 6759820fc2a496b7a3296c51 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 small-changes-big-impact full Meaningful changes often need very small tweaks. I’ll share five changes for you, and three changes for your children. The impact will be huge!


Here are the highlights: 

 

(1:48) Sleep deprived 

(6:08) One change at a time

(9:15) Practice saying no!

(13:37) Curate your tribe weekly

(21:08) Early sleep for your child

(23:05) Daily mantras

(24:50) Reflection and gratitude



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]]> Meaningful changes often need very small tweaks. I’ll share five changes for you, and three changes for your children. The impact will be huge!


Here are the highlights: 

 

(1:48) Sleep deprived 

(6:08) One change at a time

(9:15) Practice saying no!

(13:37) Curate your tribe weekly

(21:08) Early sleep for your child

(23:05) Daily mantras

(24:50) Reflection and gratitude



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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; The Seven C's - Competence]]> Mon, 09 Dec 2024 00:30:53 GMT 11:02 6752ddbb7205a5bc682e4853 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-the-seven-cs-competence 6752ddbb7205a5bc682e4853 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-the-seven-cs-competence full In today's bucket emptying episode, I'm introducing the Seven C's to help raise a super confident and resilient adult. The first of these is Competence.




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]]> In today's bucket emptying episode, I'm introducing the Seven C's to help raise a super confident and resilient adult. The first of these is Competence.




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.





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]]> Raising resilient men Raising resilient men Thu, 05 Dec 2024 00:30:50 GMT 35:59 674eecdfcb610c34f70e9f38 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/raising-resilient-men 674eecdfcb610c34f70e9f38 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 raising-resilient-men full It’s tough growing up as a male. Society and peers send conflicting messages – be strong, don’t cry! Raising resilient men is possible; it just requires a few tweaks.


Here are the highlights: 

 

(1:09) Current challenges for young boys 

(10:22) Active listening

(17:23) Don’t shy away from difficult conversations

(21:10) Be consistent with boundaries and values

(23:08) Don’t jump in to fix

(27:11) Positive male role models

(29:56) Self care

(32:08) Rights of passage


Listen to the Sow the seeds episode

Watch the Bucket Emptying episode



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> It’s tough growing up as a male. Society and peers send conflicting messages – be strong, don’t cry! Raising resilient men is possible; it just requires a few tweaks.


Here are the highlights: 

 

(1:09) Current challenges for young boys 

(10:22) Active listening

(17:23) Don’t shy away from difficult conversations

(21:10) Be consistent with boundaries and values

(23:08) Don’t jump in to fix

(27:11) Positive male role models

(29:56) Self care

(32:08) Rights of passage


Listen to the Sow the seeds episode

Watch the Bucket Emptying episode



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Activities Bucket Emptying Episodes; Activities Mon, 02 Dec 2024 00:30:32 GMT 11:38 6749b994f6ece089ea9ff456 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-activities 6749b994f6ece089ea9ff456 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-activities full I'm often asked about the challenges of extracurricular activities, whether it's finding engaging activities for young children to do with their parents, or the battles that often arise when encouraging teens to participate.


Today, I'm diving into this topic in the latest Bucket Emptying episode. I'll be sharing my top tips on how to make extracurriculars more enjoyable and meaningful for everyone involved.




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> I'm often asked about the challenges of extracurricular activities, whether it's finding engaging activities for young children to do with their parents, or the battles that often arise when encouraging teens to participate.


Today, I'm diving into this topic in the latest Bucket Emptying episode. I'll be sharing my top tips on how to make extracurriculars more enjoyable and meaningful for everyone involved.




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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025




DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Motherhood; what no-one tells you Motherhood; what no-one tells you Thu, 28 Nov 2024 00:30:47 GMT 31:06 6745cdc2d2e92c514d7fc5a8 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/motherhood-what-no-one-tells-you 6745cdc2d2e92c514d7fc5a8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 motherhood-what-no-one-tells-you full Facing into motherhood isn’t something you can really prepare for – it just sort of hits you unexpectedly. I share my thoughts after seeing Amy Adams in Nightbitch.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Facing into motherhood isn’t something you can really prepare for – it just sort of hits you unexpectedly. I share my thoughts after seeing Amy Adams in Nightbitch.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Affirmations Bucket Emptying Episodes; Affirmations Mon, 25 Nov 2024 00:30:48 GMT 13:46 6740844bc39ec4a407f3ffab false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-affirmations 6740844bc39ec4a407f3ffab 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-affirmations full In this week's bucket emptying podcast episode, I discuss affirmations and how using the technique I share for 30 days will help with your internal chatter. Once you've seen the benefits, you can share the resource with your children and add it to your family wellbeing toolkit. 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> In this week's bucket emptying podcast episode, I discuss affirmations and how using the technique I share for 30 days will help with your internal chatter. Once you've seen the benefits, you can share the resource with your children and add it to your family wellbeing toolkit. 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Smartphone-free childhood; the power of the parent collective Smartphone-free childhood; the power of the parent collective Thu, 21 Nov 2024 00:30:15 GMT 45:31 673e132cd1a6d05d3cb13017 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/smartphone-free-childhood-the-power-of-the-parent-collective 673e132cd1a6d05d3cb13017 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 smartphone-free-childhood-the-power-of-the-parent-collective full Join me for this inspiring story of parent power. When a WhatsApp group went viral a community of over 150,000 parents came together to change the culture around children and smartphones.  


Sign the SFC parent pact

Find your local SFC community




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Join me for this inspiring story of parent power. When a WhatsApp group went viral a community of over 150,000 parents came together to change the culture around children and smartphones.  


Sign the SFC parent pact

Find your local SFC community




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Your child's bucket]]> Mon, 18 Nov 2024 00:30:50 GMT 9:33 673a4258cf35dcb04a8a74a0 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-your-childs-bucket 673a4258cf35dcb04a8a74a0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-your-childs-bucket full I’ve just come back from a couple of days at The Independent School Show in London where I took the bucket for a live explanation and discussion with parents and children attending the show.


I wanted to share the visual with you and the examples of bucket emptying activities the children shared with me.


You can download your own bucket resource from my free resource library and to go through this with your child or teen. If they aren’t sure what fills their bucket, I’d recommend they journal for a week and see what comes up for them.


Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> I’ve just come back from a couple of days at The Independent School Show in London where I took the bucket for a live explanation and discussion with parents and children attending the show.


I wanted to share the visual with you and the examples of bucket emptying activities the children shared with me.


You can download your own bucket resource from my free resource library and to go through this with your child or teen. If they aren’t sure what fills their bucket, I’d recommend they journal for a week and see what comes up for them.


Watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on YouTube



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Non-compliance and Back-chat Non-compliance and Back-chat Thu, 14 Nov 2024 00:30:45 GMT 30:16 67335ad65671f9afe273e868 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/non-compliance-and-back-chat 67335ad65671f9afe273e868 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 non-compliance-and-back-chat full Frustrated with children who dig their heels in, or seem incapable of doing what we ask of them?? Then this episode is a must listen!!


Here are the highlights: 

 

(4:00) Stay calm

(8:33) Look for patterns

(11:57) Provide choices

(16:30) Be clear with instruction and expectation

(19:53) Boundaries

(21:56) Enforce consequences

(25:28) Descriptive praise


Listen to the Bucket Emptying Episode; Sow the seeds



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Frustrated with children who dig their heels in, or seem incapable of doing what we ask of them?? Then this episode is a must listen!!


Here are the highlights: 

 

(4:00) Stay calm

(8:33) Look for patterns

(11:57) Provide choices

(16:30) Be clear with instruction and expectation

(19:53) Boundaries

(21:56) Enforce consequences

(25:28) Descriptive praise


Listen to the Bucket Emptying Episode; Sow the seeds



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025




DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sow the seeds Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sow the seeds Mon, 11 Nov 2024 00:30:32 GMT 10:49 6730b09ae745a302d3e2f638 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/sow-the-seeds 6730b09ae745a302d3e2f638 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 sow-the-seeds full Today's bucket emptying episode is a new tool that you can add to your parenting toolkit. It won't necessarily work every single time, but it's a powerful tool that to have in your armoury and it is to sow the seed.


The idea behind sowing the seed is to park the approach that you may well have used most traditionally around nagging and reminding our children and our teens that we've said the same thing repeatedly and instead we start sowing small seeds. Join me as I explain how to use it.



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Today's bucket emptying episode is a new tool that you can add to your parenting toolkit. It won't necessarily work every single time, but it's a powerful tool that to have in your armoury and it is to sow the seed.


The idea behind sowing the seed is to park the approach that you may well have used most traditionally around nagging and reminding our children and our teens that we've said the same thing repeatedly and instead we start sowing small seeds. Join me as I explain how to use it.



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support


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]]> Brain Brilliance Brain Brilliance Thu, 07 Nov 2024 00:30:00 GMT 52:20 672a25cf743b21a61434b408 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/brain-brilliance 672a25cf743b21a61434b408 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 brain-brilliance full Today I'm joined by the founder and nutritional lead of NatureDoc, Lucinda Miller. Nutrition for brain health is Lucinda’s superpower, and in an easily accessible way for all parents.  


Purchase your copy of Lucinda's book


Find out more about Lucinda and visit Naturedoc



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]]> Today I'm joined by the founder and nutritional lead of NatureDoc, Lucinda Miller. Nutrition for brain health is Lucinda’s superpower, and in an easily accessible way for all parents.  


Purchase your copy of Lucinda's book


Find out more about Lucinda and visit Naturedoc



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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's revisit sleep struggles]]> Mon, 04 Nov 2024 00:30:50 GMT 11:32 6724e0f8cfc69928b1c327d3 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-sleep-struggles 6724e0f8cfc69928b1c327d3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-sleep-struggles full In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'm revisiting an episode answering a listener question about sleep struggles. Listen as I share my tips from babies to teens struggling to get to sleep.


If you need more support with this topic, please listen to Ep 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep



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]]> In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'm revisiting an episode answering a listener question about sleep struggles. Listen as I share my tips from babies to teens struggling to get to sleep.


If you need more support with this topic, please listen to Ep 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep



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]]> Libbi’s digital detox - one teen’s experience of life without their smartphone Libbi’s digital detox - one teen’s experience of life without their smartphone Thu, 31 Oct 2024 00:30:22 GMT 53:46 672103f52daf194541129519 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/libbis-digital-detox-one-teens-experience-of-life-without-th 672103f52daf194541129519 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 libbis-digital-detox-one-teens-experience-of-life-without-th full Libbi shares her experience of teen life on a 4-day digital detox and the surprising effects of being smartphone free.


Watch ITV’s Tonight Show


Get your tickets for the Independent School Show



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]]> Libbi shares her experience of teen life on a 4-day digital detox and the surprising effects of being smartphone free.


Watch ITV’s Tonight Show


Get your tickets for the Independent School Show



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How to set boundaries for children Bucket Emptying Episodes; How to set boundaries for children Mon, 28 Oct 2024 00:30:01 GMT 10:34 671b904682583ca5c480b242 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-how-to-set-boundaries-for-children 671b904682583ca5c480b242 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-how-to-set-boundaries-for-children full In today’s bucket emptying episode I'm talking about the thing I believe can have the biggest impact to us as parents in terms of emptying our bucket and that's around boundaries for your child or teen.


It might help to think of boundaries as lanes our children travel along, sometimes we may let them widen whilst in certain situations you may need to narrow the lane to keep your child safe.


Join me as I share my practical tips to help you set boundaries with confidence.



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]]> In today’s bucket emptying episode I'm talking about the thing I believe can have the biggest impact to us as parents in terms of emptying our bucket and that's around boundaries for your child or teen.


It might help to think of boundaries as lanes our children travel along, sometimes we may let them widen whilst in certain situations you may need to narrow the lane to keep your child safe.


Join me as I share my practical tips to help you set boundaries with confidence.



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]]> Ditch the fairy tales to raise resilient adults Ditch the fairy tales to raise resilient adults Wed, 23 Oct 2024 23:30:15 GMT 28:11 6717cb6430187dfb6c7985ec false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/ditch-the-fairy-tales-to-raise-resilient-children 6717cb6430187dfb6c7985ec 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 ditch-the-fairy-tales-to-raise-resilient-children full Shifting focus in this one area will have the biggest impact when it comes to raising resilient adults.


Here are the highlights: 


(2:15) Reflection on parenting

(3:45) Differences in parenting, then and now

(8:20 Happiness

(11:30) Have an honest conversation

(14:15) Stop making life easy

(18:12) Focus on accomplishment

(19:19) Don’t let failure go to waste

(23:20) Have faith in the process




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]]> Shifting focus in this one area will have the biggest impact when it comes to raising resilient adults.


Here are the highlights: 


(2:15) Reflection on parenting

(3:45) Differences in parenting, then and now

(8:20 Happiness

(11:30) Have an honest conversation

(14:15) Stop making life easy

(18:12) Focus on accomplishment

(19:19) Don’t let failure go to waste

(23:20) Have faith in the process




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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Learning to say no! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Learning to say no! Sun, 20 Oct 2024 23:30:29 GMT 11:04 6712619be61104a199dc4695 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-learning-to-say-no 6712619be61104a199dc4695 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-learning-to-say-no full Today I’m sharing a valuable bucket-emptying tip with you all - the power of saying no!


In our multifaceted roles as parents, employees, managers, children, siblings, and more, the ability to say no is crucial in preventing overwhelm and enabling us to focus on what truly matters. 


Many of us struggle with turning down opportunities or requests, but learning to gracefully decline can free up valuable time and energy for the things that align with our priorities. 




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]]> Today I’m sharing a valuable bucket-emptying tip with you all - the power of saying no!


In our multifaceted roles as parents, employees, managers, children, siblings, and more, the ability to say no is crucial in preventing overwhelm and enabling us to focus on what truly matters. 


Many of us struggle with turning down opportunities or requests, but learning to gracefully decline can free up valuable time and energy for the things that align with our priorities. 




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]]> <![CDATA[Let's revisit why punishments don't work]]> Wed, 16 Oct 2024 23:30:45 GMT 25:26 670e5f83488fde85598fd94e false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/lets-revisit-why-punishments-dont-work 670e5f83488fde85598fd94e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 lets-revisit-why-punishments-dont-work full I've received lots of emails asking about suitable punishments for specific behaviours, so I thought it was a great time to revisit this episode which was originally released in 2021.


Traditional methods of discipline and punishment can lead to power struggles missing the opportunity to teach our children anything and causing family tension.


Join me as I guide you through simple do's and don'ts to create routines and structures that yield positive results with your child or teen. 


Here are the highlights: 


(1:04) Our children are like buildings

(5:30) Appropriate consequences

(9:07) Random rewards

(12:09) The talk through strategy

(15:31) Let children be part of the decision-making process



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]]> I've received lots of emails asking about suitable punishments for specific behaviours, so I thought it was a great time to revisit this episode which was originally released in 2021.


Traditional methods of discipline and punishment can lead to power struggles missing the opportunity to teach our children anything and causing family tension.


Join me as I guide you through simple do's and don'ts to create routines and structures that yield positive results with your child or teen. 


Here are the highlights: 


(1:04) Our children are like buildings

(5:30) Appropriate consequences

(9:07) Random rewards

(12:09) The talk through strategy

(15:31) Let children be part of the decision-making process



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Morning Routine Bucket Emptying Episodes; Morning Routine Sun, 13 Oct 2024 23:30:56 GMT 11:47 670be346df4dd6f89625b0f4 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-morning-routine 670be346df4dd6f89625b0f4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-morning-routine full As parents, we can easily get caught up in habits that may not benefit us or our families. Perhaps we tolerate certain behaviours due to exhaustion or fear of change. 


It's time to step out of autopilot and start a morning routine. 


I invite you to watch today’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode and take on my SHINE morning routine for a week! Experience the difference and share your insights with me at contact@drmaryhan.com. 


Purchase your own Shine planner

Purchase your own How Not to Screw Up Your Kids notebook



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> As parents, we can easily get caught up in habits that may not benefit us or our families. Perhaps we tolerate certain behaviours due to exhaustion or fear of change. 


It's time to step out of autopilot and start a morning routine. 


I invite you to watch today’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode and take on my SHINE morning routine for a week! Experience the difference and share your insights with me at contact@drmaryhan.com. 


Purchase your own Shine planner

Purchase your own How Not to Screw Up Your Kids notebook



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025




DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[What's all the fuss about smartphones Part 2?]]> Wed, 09 Oct 2024 23:30:43 GMT 25:05 67051eb7895ea409ea8f2dd8 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/whats-all-the-fuss-about-smartphones-part-2 67051eb7895ea409ea8f2dd8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 whats-all-the-fuss-about-smartphones-part-2 full What options do parents have when it comes to smartphones? More than you think! It starts with a simple question – why.


Here are the highlights:


(0.42) Recap of Part 1

(4:15) My honest opinion

(7:25) Feature phones

(9:04) Pact with other parents

(11:30) Boundaries with a smartphone

(15:30) Model good smartphone use

(20:15) Digital detox



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> What options do parents have when it comes to smartphones? More than you think! It starts with a simple question – why.


Here are the highlights:


(0.42) Recap of Part 1

(4:15) My honest opinion

(7:25) Feature phones

(9:04) Pact with other parents

(11:30) Boundaries with a smartphone

(15:30) Model good smartphone use

(20:15) Digital detox



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; How do we manage our children's homework?]]> Sun, 06 Oct 2024 23:30:51 GMT 11:40 66fff2133b7964bedebcb398 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-how-do-we-manage-our-childrens-home 66fff2133b7964bedebcb398 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-how-do-we-manage-our-childrens-home full Today's Bucket Emptying podcast topic is homework. Are you facing challenges getting your child to finish their homework? 


One key question to ask is, whose homework is it - yours or your child's? 


Stay tuned as I reveal my top tips for navigating what can become a frustrating situation. 






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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Today's Bucket Emptying podcast topic is homework. Are you facing challenges getting your child to finish their homework? 


One key question to ask is, whose homework is it - yours or your child's? 


Stay tuned as I reveal my top tips for navigating what can become a frustrating situation. 






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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Raising resilient women Raising resilient women Wed, 02 Oct 2024 23:30:35 GMT 47:57 66fbd8a6fdb2501b6b2f6402 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/raising-resilient-women 66fbd8a6fdb2501b6b2f6402 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 raising-resilient-women full Join me and founder of Rites for Girls, Kim McCabe, as we discuss the unique challenges our girls face growing up, and how we can best support them to become the resilient women we know they can be.



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]]> Join me and founder of Rites for Girls, Kim McCabe, as we discuss the unique challenges our girls face growing up, and how we can best support them to become the resilient women we know they can be.



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; When should we push our kids? Bucket Emptying Episodes; When should we push our kids? Sun, 29 Sep 2024 23:30:35 GMT 10:55 66f94fce3b6dcb1c876124d6 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-when-should-we-push-our-kids 66f94fce3b6dcb1c876124d6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-when-should-we-push-our-kids full In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I delve into the challenging topic of navigating the balance between pushing our children and knowing when to step back. It's crucial to recognise the fine line between motivating them to excel in areas they are passionate about and potentially becoming overly involved as a parent and living vicariously through your child. 




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]]> In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I delve into the challenging topic of navigating the balance between pushing our children and knowing when to step back. It's crucial to recognise the fine line between motivating them to excel in areas they are passionate about and potentially becoming overly involved as a parent and living vicariously through your child. 




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]]> <![CDATA[What's all the fuss about smartphones Part 1?]]> Wed, 25 Sep 2024 23:30:26 GMT 27:02 66f2d1117a3d63d20f026a78 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/whats-all-the-fuss-about-smartphones 66f2d1117a3d63d20f026a78 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 whats-all-the-fuss-about-smartphones full I promise you a thorough review of the issues surrounding smartphones, and why schools are banning them.


Here are the highlights:


(2:11) Let’s look at the data

(9:35) 6 concerns

(23:05) Why are you considering giving your child a smartphone?



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]]> I promise you a thorough review of the issues surrounding smartphones, and why schools are banning them.


Here are the highlights:


(2:11) Let’s look at the data

(9:35) 6 concerns

(23:05) Why are you considering giving your child a smartphone?



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How can I help my child manage change? Bucket Emptying Episodes; How can I help my child manage change? Sun, 22 Sep 2024 23:30:15 GMT 10:15 66ed52bfd4cef78b2b3a9dd3 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-how-can-i-help-my-child-manage-chan 66ed52bfd4cef78b2b3a9dd3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-how-can-i-help-my-child-manage-chan full This episode, originally released last December, resonated with many seeking advice to support children navigating change. In the face of inevitable change, managing transitions can be daunting for both adults and children alike. From school shifts to relocations, adapting to new routines can pose unique challenges.


However, with proper guidance and assistance, children can cultivate resilience and learn to navigate change effectively. Join me as I delve into 3 essential principles to empower children in coping with and embracing change. 




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]]> This episode, originally released last December, resonated with many seeking advice to support children navigating change. In the face of inevitable change, managing transitions can be daunting for both adults and children alike. From school shifts to relocations, adapting to new routines can pose unique challenges.


However, with proper guidance and assistance, children can cultivate resilience and learn to navigate change effectively. Join me as I delve into 3 essential principles to empower children in coping with and embracing change. 




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]]> Children who struggle to make friends Children who struggle to make friends Wed, 18 Sep 2024 23:30:37 GMT 27:04 66eb12f47333591fcff6ef71 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/children-who-struggle-to-make-friends 66eb12f47333591fcff6ef71 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 children-who-struggle-to-make-friends full Does your child struggle to make friends and yet they are super chatty with adults? Is it impacting their self-esteem? I’ll share small wins they can gain today.


Here are the highlights:


(2:00) Skills your child may be struggling with

(11:45) Provide scaffolded play dates 

(15:28) Qualities of a good friendship

(19:35) Practice role play

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(22:30) Keep the faith



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]]> Does your child struggle to make friends and yet they are super chatty with adults? Is it impacting their self-esteem? I’ll share small wins they can gain today.


Here are the highlights:


(2:00) Skills your child may be struggling with

(11:45) Provide scaffolded play dates 

(15:28) Qualities of a good friendship

(19:35) Practice role play

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(22:30) Keep the faith



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help! My child has found upsetting content online Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help! My child has found upsetting content online Sun, 15 Sep 2024 23:30:06 GMT 11:44 66e43912d67a742c02db75e7 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-help-y-child-has-found-upsetting-co 66e43912d67a742c02db75e7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-help-y-child-has-found-upsetting-co full On this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I tackle an important listener question: "How do we help and support our children when they encounter upsetting content on their smartphones?"


Join me as I explore two key angles on this topic: Curation of their feed and reflection on their content curation.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> On this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I tackle an important listener question: "How do we help and support our children when they encounter upsetting content on their smartphones?"


Join me as I explore two key angles on this topic: Curation of their feed and reflection on their content curation.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Have we gone soft?? Have we gone soft?? Wed, 11 Sep 2024 23:30:22 GMT 27:41 66e04c584b27a5dfff596a83 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/have-we-gone-soft 66e04c584b27a5dfff596a83 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 have-we-gone-soft full Children develop resilience when we afford them opportunities to take risks. Could we be doing our children a disservice by over-protecting them??


Here are the highlights:


(5:30) Kirstie Allsopp’s 15-year-old interrailing

(6:25) Risk taking has positives 

(11:38) There is no right decisions

(15:20) No hard and fast age or stage

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(20:38) Practice together

(23:20) Reflect on your own choices


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Children develop resilience when we afford them opportunities to take risks. Could we be doing our children a disservice by over-protecting them??


Here are the highlights:


(5:30) Kirstie Allsopp’s 15-year-old interrailing

(6:25) Risk taking has positives 

(11:38) There is no right decisions

(15:20) No hard and fast age or stage

(17:58) Is it a me no or a them no?

(20:38) Practice together

(23:20) Reflect on your own choices


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help my 4 year old keeps interrupting! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help my 4 year old keeps interrupting! Sun, 08 Sep 2024 23:30:56 GMT 9:15 66c5c841b0de8bdc2fe56d2a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-help-my-4-year-old-keeps-interrupti 66c5c841b0de8bdc2fe56d2a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-help-my-4-year-old-keeps-interrupti full This week's Bucket Emptying episode tackles a common parenting dilemma: how to prevent your child from interrupting all the time??


Several listeners have asked for advice on to manage their young child who continues to interrupt despite knowing it's inappropriate behaviour. Listen as I share my top tips.



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]]> This week's Bucket Emptying episode tackles a common parenting dilemma: how to prevent your child from interrupting all the time??


Several listeners have asked for advice on to manage their young child who continues to interrupt despite knowing it's inappropriate behaviour. Listen as I share my top tips.



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]]> <![CDATA[Let's Talk School Success]]> Wed, 04 Sep 2024 23:30:48 GMT 29:01 66c5c7cbb0de8bdc2fe552de false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/lets-talk-school-success 66c5c7cbb0de8bdc2fe552de 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 lets-talk-school-success full In this episode, I delve into the secrets to school success, revealing that it's not just about academics! 


As parents, our ultimate aim is to raise children who grow into confident, resilient adults capable of leading fulfilling lives on their terms, not ours. I outline my top three tips for achieving this goal and offer practical advice on how you can introduce these strategies into your family life starting today. 



Here are the highlights: 

 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 



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]]> In this episode, I delve into the secrets to school success, revealing that it's not just about academics! 


As parents, our ultimate aim is to raise children who grow into confident, resilient adults capable of leading fulfilling lives on their terms, not ours. I outline my top three tips for achieving this goal and offer practical advice on how you can introduce these strategies into your family life starting today. 



Here are the highlights: 

 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Separation Anxiety Bucket Emptying Episodes; Separation Anxiety Sun, 01 Sep 2024 23:30:44 GMT 9:35 66c5c707aba59aa5bb76660f false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-separation-anxiety 66c5c707aba59aa5bb76660f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-separation-anxiety full This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. "How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"


 In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.




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]]> This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. "How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"


 In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Why Validating Emotions Works! Why Validating Emotions Works! Wed, 28 Aug 2024 23:30:30 GMT 23:45 66c5c689aba59aa5bb763c73 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/why-validating-emotions-works 66c5c689aba59aa5bb763c73 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 why-validating-emotions-works full We read about it everywhere. What’s all the fuss about validating children’s emotions and how does it actually help diffuse those big emotions??


Here are the highlights:


(2:30) A typical scenario


(7:10) Let’s banish some myths

(9:30) Name it to tame it

(12:35) I see you and hear you


(14:03) Builds confidence 

(15:30) Builds emotional literacy

(18:40) It allows you to set boundaries



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]]> We read about it everywhere. What’s all the fuss about validating children’s emotions and how does it actually help diffuse those big emotions??


Here are the highlights:


(2:30) A typical scenario


(7:10) Let’s banish some myths

(9:30) Name it to tame it

(12:35) I see you and hear you


(14:03) Builds confidence 

(15:30) Builds emotional literacy

(18:40) It allows you to set boundaries



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Mealtime Management Bucket Emptying Episodes; Mealtime Management Sun, 25 Aug 2024 23:30:50 GMT 10:16 66c5c5e5222779d3ef235d97 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-mealtime-management 66c5c5e5222779d3ef235d97 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-mealtime-management full Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all family members. 


Listen to this weeks Bucket Emptying podcast episode, as I explain how mealtime can provide an opportunity for children to fuel their bodies and connect with each other, fostering the development of essential life skills. 




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]]> Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all family members. 


Listen to this weeks Bucket Emptying podcast episode, as I explain how mealtime can provide an opportunity for children to fuel their bodies and connect with each other, fostering the development of essential life skills. 




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]]> Back to School Back to School Wed, 21 Aug 2024 23:30:50 GMT 28:33 66c5c501aba59aa5bb75ee38 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/back-to-sch 66c5c501aba59aa5bb75ee38 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 back-to-sch full Today I'm focusing on all things Back to School! 


Join me as I share tips to prepare your child's mindset, cultivate curiosity, managing back-to-school anxieties, and establishing good habits to help make the return to school easier when it happens.


Here are the highlights:

(1:45) Our role is to prepare them for a life beyond the immediate

(6:10) Reel in bedtimes

(9:20) Create some structure

(14:40) Work through back-to-school anxiety

(20:35) Reconnect your child to school

(23:45) Practice any significant changes 



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]]> Today I'm focusing on all things Back to School! 


Join me as I share tips to prepare your child's mindset, cultivate curiosity, managing back-to-school anxieties, and establishing good habits to help make the return to school easier when it happens.


Here are the highlights:

(1:45) Our role is to prepare them for a life beyond the immediate

(6:10) Reel in bedtimes

(9:20) Create some structure

(14:40) Work through back-to-school anxiety

(20:35) Reconnect your child to school

(23:45) Practice any significant changes 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How to help your child with disappointment Bucket Emptying Episodes; How to help your child with disappointment Sun, 18 Aug 2024 23:30:52 GMT 11:05 66c1effe930b5815c2f4d61a false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-how-to-help-your-child-with-disappo 66c1effe930b5815c2f4d61a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-how-to-help-your-child-with-disappo full Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is relevant for parents, grandparents, and anyone involved with children navigating disappointing results, whether academically or in relationships. 


The episode sheds light on the importance of not overemphasising academic benchmarks and highlighting that success takes various forms beyond traditional academics. 


Listen as I share my top tips to get you through this challenging time.



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]]> Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is relevant for parents, grandparents, and anyone involved with children navigating disappointing results, whether academically or in relationships. 


The episode sheds light on the importance of not overemphasising academic benchmarks and highlighting that success takes various forms beyond traditional academics. 


Listen as I share my top tips to get you through this challenging time.



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]]> Teaching children how, not what to think! Teaching children how, not what to think! Wed, 14 Aug 2024 23:30:06 GMT 26:03 66bcc537e861ebb52b254f5c false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/teaching-children-how-not-what-to-think 66bcc537e861ebb52b254f5c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 teaching-children-how-not-what-to-think full In a world where children are bombarded with information, it’s crucial to help them question the ‘facts’. Whether it’s friendship drama or social media hype.


Here are the highlights:


(03:02) We see things through our own lens

(8:04) Question the motives of the information provider

(13:44) Cognitive confirmation biais

(17:20) Have discussions around the table

(22:05) Encourage a scientific approach


Watch the video mentioned in the episode



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]]> In a world where children are bombarded with information, it’s crucial to help them question the ‘facts’. Whether it’s friendship drama or social media hype.


Here are the highlights:


(03:02) We see things through our own lens

(8:04) Question the motives of the information provider

(13:44) Cognitive confirmation biais

(17:20) Have discussions around the table

(22:05) Encourage a scientific approach


Watch the video mentioned in the episode



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How do I regulate my own emotions? Bucket Emptying Episodes; How do I regulate my own emotions? Sun, 11 Aug 2024 23:30:20 GMT 10:52 66b5f40f5f2de2802ab13033 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-how-do-i-regulate-my-own-emotions 66b5f40f5f2de2802ab13033 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-how-do-i-regulate-my-own-emotions full In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode, I’m answering the question - how do we as parents regulate our own emotions? 


If you’re a regular listener you know that I've covered some really big bumper episodes around ‘how do we help our children manage their big emotions’. 


One of the things I've talked about quite a lot in those episodes is about how we need to make sure that we're self-regulated so that when we meet our child's big emotions, when those emotions hit and meet ours, that we're self-regulated so that we're better able to manage their emotions. 


So that raises a big bucket emptying question of how do we actually regulate our own emotions? Join me as I share my top tips.



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]]> In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode, I’m answering the question - how do we as parents regulate our own emotions? 


If you’re a regular listener you know that I've covered some really big bumper episodes around ‘how do we help our children manage their big emotions’. 


One of the things I've talked about quite a lot in those episodes is about how we need to make sure that we're self-regulated so that when we meet our child's big emotions, when those emotions hit and meet ours, that we're self-regulated so that we're better able to manage their emotions. 


So that raises a big bucket emptying question of how do we actually regulate our own emotions? Join me as I share my top tips.



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]]> Building communication channels with children Building communication channels with children Wed, 07 Aug 2024 23:30:07 GMT 25:24 66b2243a5063c053df50d6ed false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/building-communication-channels-with-children 66b2243a5063c053df50d6ed 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 building-communication-channels-with-children full We all know how crucial communication is for raising resilient children – but how do we build them in the first place - or repair broken channels??


Here are the highlights:


(03:15) Practice good communication skills yourself - 6 steps

(15:25) Avoid lecturing

(17:18) Invest time to learn about what’s important to your child

(20:05) Be fully present

(22:00) Create opportunities 

(22:45) It may take time




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]]> We all know how crucial communication is for raising resilient children – but how do we build them in the first place - or repair broken channels??


Here are the highlights:


(03:15) Practice good communication skills yourself - 6 steps

(15:25) Avoid lecturing

(17:18) Invest time to learn about what’s important to your child

(20:05) Be fully present

(22:00) Create opportunities 

(22:45) It may take time




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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Helping children do difficult things Bucket Emptying Episodes; Helping children do difficult things Sun, 04 Aug 2024 23:30:34 GMT 10:46 66acc0b35019f4489157de01 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-helping-children-do-difficult-thing 66acc0b35019f4489157de01 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-helping-children-do-difficult-thing full I was recently asked to share 5 valuable tips to help parents prepare their children for their first residential trip and I thought this would be a great bucket emptying topic.


These tips are not only beneficial for overnight stays or sleepovers, but can also be applied to any situation that challenges our children and pushes them out of their comfort zone. 




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> I was recently asked to share 5 valuable tips to help parents prepare their children for their first residential trip and I thought this would be a great bucket emptying topic.


These tips are not only beneficial for overnight stays or sleepovers, but can also be applied to any situation that challenges our children and pushes them out of their comfort zone. 




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]]> Juggling motherhood and career Juggling motherhood and career Wed, 31 Jul 2024 23:30:11 GMT 23:08 66a8ccb066e879d7b6d3d6e5 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/juggling-motherhood-and-career 66a8ccb066e879d7b6d3d6e5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 juggling-motherhood-and-career full Work-life balance does not exist, and the mum-guilt needs to stop!!! Instead let’s focus on counterbalance using these top five strategies.


Here are the highlights:


(2:00) A heartfelt gift from me to you

(4:00) Sorry, you can’t have it all!

(5:35) Build your tribe

(9:08) Motherhood is just one role of many

(12:23) Manage your expectations

(15:29) Expect wobbly days

(19:06) It’s ok to say no to your children




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Work-life balance does not exist, and the mum-guilt needs to stop!!! Instead let’s focus on counterbalance using these top five strategies.


Here are the highlights:


(2:00) A heartfelt gift from me to you

(4:00) Sorry, you can’t have it all!

(5:35) Build your tribe

(9:08) Motherhood is just one role of many

(12:23) Manage your expectations

(15:29) Expect wobbly days

(19:06) It’s ok to say no to your children




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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sunday planning meetings Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sunday planning meetings Sun, 28 Jul 2024 23:30:03 GMT 10:00 66a37cd0d34ffa9141b7edb0 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-sunday-planning-meetings 66a37cd0d34ffa9141b7edb0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-sunday-planning-meetings full The purpose of my latest bucket-emptying session is to provide valuable insights to help alleviate your stress and enhance productivity, to stop your bucket overflowing. 


During the school holidays you have a wonderful opportunity to start Sunday planning meetings, which can be a game changer in preventing your bucket from filling up unnecessarily.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> The purpose of my latest bucket-emptying session is to provide valuable insights to help alleviate your stress and enhance productivity, to stop your bucket overflowing. 


During the school holidays you have a wonderful opportunity to start Sunday planning meetings, which can be a game changer in preventing your bucket from filling up unnecessarily.



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Who is really in charge?? Who is really in charge?? Wed, 24 Jul 2024 23:30:23 GMT 26:09 669f8f6a406d732ec2ca2bcd false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/who-is-really-in-charge 669f8f6a406d732ec2ca2bcd 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 who-is-really-in-charge full Is parenting a constant battle? Are struggling to maintain boundaries, reasonable expectations aren’t being met, or if your child is shouting and/or using their physical self to exert their emotions? This is a must listen episode!



Here are the highlights:


(2:00) Let’s get some realistic context

(6:19) Focus on what is out of control for you?

(10:35) Choose one area for 30 days

(14:57) Make a plan

(20:15) Communicate the skills you’re improving for your child/teen

(23:01) Coaching not lecturing



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Is parenting a constant battle? Are struggling to maintain boundaries, reasonable expectations aren’t being met, or if your child is shouting and/or using their physical self to exert their emotions? This is a must listen episode!



Here are the highlights:


(2:00) Let’s get some realistic context

(6:19) Focus on what is out of control for you?

(10:35) Choose one area for 30 days

(14:57) Make a plan

(20:15) Communicate the skills you’re improving for your child/teen

(23:01) Coaching not lecturing



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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Cheerful Treats & Grumble Chores]]> Sun, 21 Jul 2024 23:30:22 GMT 8:50 669a81e96a2f3a594d36f806 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-cheerful-treats-grumble-chores 669a81e96a2f3a594d36f806 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-cheerful-treats-grumble-chores full This episode features a unique bucket-emptying resource created on the spot during a chaotic school holiday moment when my children were young. 


As a control enthusiast, I always have a notebook handy, which led to the creation of this resource. It’s always been a hit with my kids, who used to request it frequently, and still talk fondly of it as adults.


If you're in need of a helpful resource to stop the grumbling during the school holidays, you need to listen to this episode! Please do share with anyone in your village that could do with some support during the school holidays.




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]]> This episode features a unique bucket-emptying resource created on the spot during a chaotic school holiday moment when my children were young. 


As a control enthusiast, I always have a notebook handy, which led to the creation of this resource. It’s always been a hit with my kids, who used to request it frequently, and still talk fondly of it as adults.


If you're in need of a helpful resource to stop the grumbling during the school holidays, you need to listen to this episode! Please do share with anyone in your village that could do with some support during the school holidays.




💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support.


💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bed-rot and Apathy Part 2 Bed-rot and Apathy Part 2 Wed, 17 Jul 2024 23:30:06 GMT 23:33 6697ff6ac86d4486beb7693b false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bed-rot-and-apathy-part-2 6697ff6ac86d4486beb7693b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bed-rot-and-apathy-part-2 full Bed-rot and apathy are learnt behaviours, which can be unlearnt! I'll give you 5 things you can do today to break these bad habits.


Here are the highlights:


(2:05) Brace yourself

(2:49) Choose your start date carefully

(5:00) Consistency is key

(7:36) Your expectations

(10:35) Understand the root cause

(12:41) Agree proportionate amount of time

(16:11) Do not tell them how to use the time

(18:29) Ground rules


Listen to bed-rot and apathy Part 1


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]]> Bed-rot and apathy are learnt behaviours, which can be unlearnt! I'll give you 5 things you can do today to break these bad habits.


Here are the highlights:


(2:05) Brace yourself

(2:49) Choose your start date carefully

(5:00) Consistency is key

(7:36) Your expectations

(10:35) Understand the root cause

(12:41) Agree proportionate amount of time

(16:11) Do not tell them how to use the time

(18:29) Ground rules


Listen to bed-rot and apathy Part 1


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Gratitude Bucket Emptying Episodes; Gratitude Sun, 14 Jul 2024 23:30:18 GMT 8:57 66916b7b0931c691504511bb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-gratitude-practice 66916b7b0931c691504511bb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-gratitude-practice full Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode delves into the powerful practice of gratitude. Research shows that our brain cannot differentiate between reality and imagination, so by focusing on what we're grateful for, we immerse ourselves in positivity and joy. This mindset not only brings small wins and happiness but also sets the right tone before bedtime.


Similar to how we must secure our oxygen masks first on a plane, prioritising our own gratitude practice is crucial before guiding our children to do the same. 

What are you grateful for today? 


Purchase your own Shine Planner

Purchase your own gratitude notebook from Amazon



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode delves into the powerful practice of gratitude. Research shows that our brain cannot differentiate between reality and imagination, so by focusing on what we're grateful for, we immerse ourselves in positivity and joy. This mindset not only brings small wins and happiness but also sets the right tone before bedtime.


Similar to how we must secure our oxygen masks first on a plane, prioritising our own gratitude practice is crucial before guiding our children to do the same. 

What are you grateful for today? 


Purchase your own Shine Planner

Purchase your own gratitude notebook from Amazon



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support.


💚 Complete my listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bed-rot and Apathy Bed-rot and Apathy Wed, 10 Jul 2024 23:30:56 GMT 26:01 668ed85950adcd2e71b0ade5 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bed-rot-and-apathy 668ed85950adcd2e71b0ade5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bed-rot-and-apathy full Struggling with children or teens who can’t be bothered, spend hours on sofas/beds glued to televisions or devices, never seem to want to do anything, and could happily while away the whole day in-doors?? I’ve got you covered in this two-part episode.


Here are the highlights:

(1:00) Warning - it’s going to be a slow journey

(3:30) Let’s look at the context behind the behaviour for your child

(10:35) The culture in your home around entertainment and boredom

(16:42) Is your child struggling with confidence?

(20:10) Overwhelm

(21:00) Sleep struggles

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Struggling with children or teens who can’t be bothered, spend hours on sofas/beds glued to televisions or devices, never seem to want to do anything, and could happily while away the whole day in-doors?? I’ve got you covered in this two-part episode.


Here are the highlights:

(1:00) Warning - it’s going to be a slow journey

(3:30) Let’s look at the context behind the behaviour for your child

(10:35) The culture in your home around entertainment and boredom

(16:42) Is your child struggling with confidence?

(20:10) Overwhelm

(21:00) Sleep struggles

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should I get my child a smartphone?? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should I get my child a smartphone?? Sun, 07 Jul 2024 23:30:45 GMT 14:26 668ae174453c109b961a3647 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-should-i-get-my-child-a-smartphone 668ae174453c109b961a3647 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-should-i-get-my-child-a-smartphone full Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for parents who are considering giving a mobile device to their child or teen. 


In 2023, 30% of eight-year-olds had their own smartphone. Yes, you read that right - a third of eight-year-olds own their own digital device. This data is quite eye-opening as it highlights the prevalence of smartphones among young children. 


It's crucial to carefully consider this decision within your family and determine what is best for your child. Tune in to the episode as I share my insights and advice on navigating this modern parenting dilemma.



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for parents who are considering giving a mobile device to their child or teen. 


In 2023, 30% of eight-year-olds had their own smartphone. Yes, you read that right - a third of eight-year-olds own their own digital device. This data is quite eye-opening as it highlights the prevalence of smartphones among young children. 


It's crucial to carefully consider this decision within your family and determine what is best for your child. Tune in to the episode as I share my insights and advice on navigating this modern parenting dilemma.



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support.


💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Friendships - the whole nine yards (Part 3) Friendships - the whole nine yards (Part 3) Wed, 03 Jul 2024 23:30:31 GMT 27:01 66844d314cb273e4614b4eef false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/friendships-the-whole-9-yards-part-3 66844d314cb273e4614b4eef 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 friendships-the-whole-9-yards-part-3 full Helping children navigate friendships issues is all about observing the do's and don'ts I'll share. When we follow these our children feel better equipped to handle anything.


A quick reminder that this is Part 3 in a 3 part series on Friendships. 

Listen to Part 1

Listen to Part 2


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Listen

(5:42) Ask questions to clarify

(7:04) Empathise with the lens they have seen the situation

(9:24) How can I help?

(10:47) Brainstorm together

(14:45) Ask about friendships regularly

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix

(17:50) Don’t push friendships

(20:25) Don’t assume your child is guilt free!

(22:40) Don’t ignore commentary

(23:50) Don’t ignore potential bullying


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Helping children navigate friendships issues is all about observing the do's and don'ts I'll share. When we follow these our children feel better equipped to handle anything.


A quick reminder that this is Part 3 in a 3 part series on Friendships. 

Listen to Part 1

Listen to Part 2


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Listen

(5:42) Ask questions to clarify

(7:04) Empathise with the lens they have seen the situation

(9:24) How can I help?

(10:47) Brainstorm together

(14:45) Ask about friendships regularly

(16:50) Don’t race in to fix

(17:50) Don’t push friendships

(20:25) Don’t assume your child is guilt free!

(22:40) Don’t ignore commentary

(23:50) Don’t ignore potential bullying


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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Making the right decision for your child Bucket Emptying Episodes; Making the right decision for your child Sun, 30 Jun 2024 23:30:34 GMT 10:58 66819283da59509cba7f7976 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/making-the-right-decision-for-your-child 66819283da59509cba7f7976 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 making-the-right-decision-for-your-child full Today's Bucket Emptying episode is about navigating the challenges of decision-making as parents. We often find ourselves searching for the ‘right’ choice, aiming to minimise the chances of making mistakes for our children.


But is there a ‘right’ decision???


Join me for a 10-minute conversation where I explore the concept of decision-making in parenting.



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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Today's Bucket Emptying episode is about navigating the challenges of decision-making as parents. We often find ourselves searching for the ‘right’ choice, aiming to minimise the chances of making mistakes for our children.


But is there a ‘right’ decision???


Join me for a 10-minute conversation where I explore the concept of decision-making in parenting.



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with with a friend, colleague or family member that could benefit from some support.


💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Friendships – the whole nine yards (Part 2) Friendships – the whole nine yards (Part 2) Wed, 26 Jun 2024 23:30:49 GMT 24:19 667c7cac9e1803392ecffee0 false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/friendships-the-whole-nine-yards-part-2 667c7cac9e1803392ecffee0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 friendships-the-whole-nine-yards-part-2 full In this week’s episode I’ll unpick practical ways we can support a child who might be struggling making friendships, as well as helping a child transitioning to a new school and starting afresh. 


A quick reminder - this is Part 2 in a 3 part series on Friendships. Part 1 is Episode 158


Here are the highlights:


(1:25) Characteristics required to make friends

(6:38) Conversational skills

(11:27) Practice

(14:31) Encourage openmindness 

(18:03) Importance of a diverse cycle of friends

(20:25) Be patient


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> In this week’s episode I’ll unpick practical ways we can support a child who might be struggling making friendships, as well as helping a child transitioning to a new school and starting afresh. 


A quick reminder - this is Part 2 in a 3 part series on Friendships. Part 1 is Episode 158


Here are the highlights:


(1:25) Characteristics required to make friends

(6:38) Conversational skills

(11:27) Practice

(14:31) Encourage openmindness 

(18:03) Importance of a diverse cycle of friends

(20:25) Be patient


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend


💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Revisit The Bucket ]]> Sun, 23 Jun 2024 23:30:32 GMT 7:05 66758390a4ecc30012486ccb false https://shows.acast.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids/episodes/bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-the-bucket 66758390a4ecc30012486ccb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episodes-lets-revisit-the-bucket full It’s a month of anniversaries, and this week we celebrate 1 year of the Bucket Emptying episode. So, I’m re-releasing the episode explaining the importance of yours, and your child’s bucket!

We don't notice our bucket filling until that last drop of water goes into the bucket and the water overflows, and we get explosions, big emotions, and often tears as a consequence.

But do you or your child know what fills your bucket? 


Listen as I share my top tips on how to empty your bucket and stop the inevitable overflow.


💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> It’s a month of anniversaries, and this week we celebrate 1 year of the Bucket Emptying episode. So, I’m re-releasing the episode explaining the importance of yours, and your child’s bucket!

We don't notice our bucket filling until that last drop of water goes into the bucket and the water overflows, and we get explosions, big emotions, and often tears as a consequence.

But do you or your child know what fills your bucket? 


Listen as I share my top tips on how to empty your bucket and stop the inevitable overflow.


💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with a friend or colleague who could do with a supportive hand


💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube


💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes


💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> <![CDATA[3rd Birthday - Let's Talk Managing Emotions]]> Wed, 19 Jun 2024 23:30:00 GMT 30:19 57d201b0-c700-4aeb-9d8b-d23288329efe false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ca9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.


Here are the highlights:

(1:53) The 3 main reasons why your child is having a meltdown

(4:29) Chronological vs developmental age

(7:12) Why not to meet fire with fire

(11:03) Managing emotions after a confrontation

(13:17) Be the role model for your child

(16:49) Glitter jars

(24:36) Create opportunities for children to practice

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]]> We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.


Here are the highlights:

(1:53) The 3 main reasons why your child is having a meltdown

(4:29) Chronological vs developmental age

(7:12) Why not to meet fire with fire

(11:03) Managing emotions after a confrontation

(13:17) Be the role model for your child

(16:49) Glitter jars

(24:36) Create opportunities for children to practice

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Growth Mindset As A Parent Bucket Emptying Episodes; Growth Mindset As A Parent Sun, 16 Jun 2024 23:30:00 GMT 12:17 c7a6ce29-a740-4225-a361-b2690bca5815 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453caa 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Today's bucket emptying episode comes to you in the week that is the 3rd anniversary of the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast which is now downloaded in 89 countries.

I had no idea this is what was going to happen and that you incredible people would be downloading not only one episode a week, but now two, each Monday and Thursday.

Thank you so much. It does not go unappreciated by me and my team. 

This week’s episode is for you as a parent, and it's particularly for you if you’re struggling with a particular aspect of your child's behaviour, mindset, language, whatever it is that is either triggering you or causing you a lot of challenges.

Listen as I share my top tips, and if this advice isn’t relevant to you please remember to share with a friend or colleague that could do with a hand this week.

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]]> Today's bucket emptying episode comes to you in the week that is the 3rd anniversary of the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast which is now downloaded in 89 countries.

I had no idea this is what was going to happen and that you incredible people would be downloading not only one episode a week, but now two, each Monday and Thursday.

Thank you so much. It does not go unappreciated by me and my team. 

This week’s episode is for you as a parent, and it's particularly for you if you’re struggling with a particular aspect of your child's behaviour, mindset, language, whatever it is that is either triggering you or causing you a lot of challenges.

Listen as I share my top tips, and if this advice isn’t relevant to you please remember to share with a friend or colleague that could do with a hand this week.

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Battles Over Different Parenting Styles Battles Over Different Parenting Styles Wed, 12 Jun 2024 23:40:00 GMT 27:51 3140b1e2-92da-443c-918c-3acf7383591e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cab 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 163 What can we do when we find our parenting varies so drastically from our partners that’s it’s causing real issues at home – impacting our children, our relationship and making family life feel like a battleground??


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Not minor disagreements, but core values

(5:00) Parenting is a reflection of what is happening in your entire life, not just your role as a parent

(11:22) Is your relationship sound?

(15:25) Never undermine your partner’s parenting in the moment, unless…

(19:30) Don’t avoid the difficult conversations

(23:12) Have faith in your ability to work it out

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]]> What can we do when we find our parenting varies so drastically from our partners that’s it’s causing real issues at home – impacting our children, our relationship and making family life feel like a battleground??


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Not minor disagreements, but core values

(5:00) Parenting is a reflection of what is happening in your entire life, not just your role as a parent

(11:22) Is your relationship sound?

(15:25) Never undermine your partner’s parenting in the moment, unless…

(19:30) Don’t avoid the difficult conversations

(23:12) Have faith in your ability to work it out

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]]> Parenting and Co-Parenting Parenting and Co-Parenting Wed, 12 Jun 2024 23:30:00 GMT 24:40 abe591fa-d5a6-4917-841c-33520ab4864e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cac 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 162 Parenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably.


This podcast episode is for you if…..


You want to be more consistent with your parenting

You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent – warts and all

You want practical ways to co-parent without the battles

Here are the highlights: 

(0:39) The 5 bedtime parenting styles

(2:45) Children thrive on consistent parenting

(8:34) Children’s behaviour tells us how they’re feeling

(10:13) Children learn how to self-regulate through observation

(13:41) Answering back is disrespectful

(18:50) Children should be grateful for all we do

(21:17) The Sunday family meeting template

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]]> Parenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably.


This podcast episode is for you if…..


You want to be more consistent with your parenting

You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent – warts and all

You want practical ways to co-parent without the battles

Here are the highlights: 

(0:39) The 5 bedtime parenting styles

(2:45) Children thrive on consistent parenting

(8:34) Children’s behaviour tells us how they’re feeling

(10:13) Children learn how to self-regulate through observation

(13:41) Answering back is disrespectful

(18:50) Children should be grateful for all we do

(21:17) The Sunday family meeting template

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parental Guilt Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parental Guilt Sun, 09 Jun 2024 23:30:00 GMT 8:55 16891812-e481-4e35-879f-27a09bfb8daa false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cad 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, the focus is on parental guilt. It's a feeling many of us experience almost as soon as our child is handed to us, impacting various aspects of our lives. 

To address this challenge, it's crucial to recognise when the guilt arises from a misalignment between our actions as parents and our perceived responsibilities. The first step is to identify and understand this disconnect. 

Join me as I explore strategies for managing your parental guilt. 

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]]> In today's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, the focus is on parental guilt. It's a feeling many of us experience almost as soon as our child is handed to us, impacting various aspects of our lives. 

To address this challenge, it's crucial to recognise when the guilt arises from a misalignment between our actions as parents and our perceived responsibilities. The first step is to identify and understand this disconnect. 

Join me as I explore strategies for managing your parental guilt. 

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]]> How to Sleep Better with The Sleep Mums How to Sleep Better with The Sleep Mums Wed, 05 Jun 2024 23:40:00 GMT 39:16 c932c100-8568-4752-a7d1-f25df8ee045f false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cae 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 161 This episode follows on from Episode 160 discussing sleep, but this time I've got company; I'm chatting to the fabulous Sleep Mums.

So come join us as we have a refreshingly honest conversation and share some super practical advice to help.

You're in for a treat!


Here are the highlights:

(02:45) Do you have a routine or not?

(08:37) Every child has different needs

(10:46) The difference between babies and children

(15:11) Routine is like a crib sheet

(17:44) Don’t get sucked into comparison

(23:26) How to help older children settle

(26:23) How to make sure you get enough sleep

(32:11) Is there a difference between men and women’s sleep?

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]]> This episode follows on from Episode 160 discussing sleep, but this time I've got company; I'm chatting to the fabulous Sleep Mums.

So come join us as we have a refreshingly honest conversation and share some super practical advice to help.

You're in for a treat!


Here are the highlights:

(02:45) Do you have a routine or not?

(08:37) Every child has different needs

(10:46) The difference between babies and children

(15:11) Routine is like a crib sheet

(17:44) Don’t get sucked into comparison

(23:26) How to help older children settle

(26:23) How to make sure you get enough sleep

(32:11) Is there a difference between men and women’s sleep?

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Helping Children Get a Good Night’s Sleep Helping Children Get a Good Night’s Sleep Wed, 05 Jun 2024 23:30:00 GMT 27:53 46c19dce-5a1d-4a62-9504-0a8a408c1200 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453caf 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 160 A survey by the NHS found that 29% of six to 10-year-olds had trouble sleeping on three or more nights in the previous week. Problems getting to sleep, waking in the night or waking early were even more common among older children, affecting 38% of 11- to 16-year-olds and the majority – 57% – of young people aged 17 to 23.

To me, it’s no wonder we have rising numbers of mental health challenges with sleep data like this!!!

I want this episode to be super practical and informative so you can help your child, or teen, if they are one of these children struggling.


Here are the highlights: 

(1:03) The 3 different functions of sleep

(5:36) Keeping the worries out of the bedroom

(10:52) With privilege comes responsibility

(13:25) Dressing the bedroom

(18:34) Help them find their own strategies

(22:52) The small things that shift the emphasis of the day



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]]> A survey by the NHS found that 29% of six to 10-year-olds had trouble sleeping on three or more nights in the previous week. Problems getting to sleep, waking in the night or waking early were even more common among older children, affecting 38% of 11- to 16-year-olds and the majority – 57% – of young people aged 17 to 23.

To me, it’s no wonder we have rising numbers of mental health challenges with sleep data like this!!!

I want this episode to be super practical and informative so you can help your child, or teen, if they are one of these children struggling.


Here are the highlights: 

(1:03) The 3 different functions of sleep

(5:36) Keeping the worries out of the bedroom

(10:52) With privilege comes responsibility

(13:25) Dressing the bedroom

(18:34) Help them find their own strategies

(22:52) The small things that shift the emphasis of the day



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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Breathing & Take 10]]> Sun, 02 Jun 2024 23:30:00 GMT 9:38 42b563e3-681a-42a0-86bf-814c9acbd3ae false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Today's bucket emptying episode is all an amazing breathing technique; Take 10.

You can use this an adult, as well as also teaching it to your kids. I've tried all sorts of breathing techniques, and young people often really struggle with this notion of focusing in on the breath, anchoring themselves in the breath.

Instead of asking them to focus on the breath itself and changing the breath, this strategy asks them to focus on counting their breath which is so much easier in the moment.

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]]> Today's bucket emptying episode is all an amazing breathing technique; Take 10.

You can use this an adult, as well as also teaching it to your kids. I've tried all sorts of breathing techniques, and young people often really struggle with this notion of focusing in on the breath, anchoring themselves in the breath.

Instead of asking them to focus on the breath itself and changing the breath, this strategy asks them to focus on counting their breath which is so much easier in the moment.

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> <![CDATA[Helping Girls Navigate Friendships with Amy & Jess]]> Wed, 29 May 2024 23:40:00 GMT 50:06 4b9095f6-0e9e-41f9-b87a-0a834fec0105 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 159 This episode was originally released in 2022, but friendships are still one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did.

They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys.


Here are the highlights:

(02:41) How the book came to be

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children

(17:12) Mom has issues too

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned

(42:03) Be humble

CLICK HERE TO BUY I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships NOW 

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]]> This episode was originally released in 2022, but friendships are still one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did.

They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys.


Here are the highlights:

(02:41) How the book came to be

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children

(17:12) Mom has issues too

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned

(42:03) Be humble

CLICK HERE TO BUY I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships NOW 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

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]]> Friendships - the whole nine yards (Part 1) Friendships - the whole nine yards (Part 1) Wed, 29 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 27:51 e29fa2da-39dd-4352-8cf1-06142205be1a false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 friendships-the-whole-nine-yards-part-1 full 158 In this series of three episodes I'll share how to help our children make good friendships, keep them, and how to avoid the dramas and toxicity.

Here are the highlights:

(2:55) Friendships aren’t permanent

(5:27) Different friends for different seasons and reasons

(9:02) One friend or lots?

(11:42) Gender differences

(13:18) Support the way your child likes to socialise

(15:12) Core skills that make a good friend are learnt at home

(18:09) Importance of turn-taking

(20:09) Encourage a curiosity about other people

(23:25) Red and green friends

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> In this series of three episodes I'll share how to help our children make good friendships, keep them, and how to avoid the dramas and toxicity.

Here are the highlights:

(2:55) Friendships aren’t permanent

(5:27) Different friends for different seasons and reasons

(9:02) One friend or lots?

(11:42) Gender differences

(13:18) Support the way your child likes to socialise

(15:12) Core skills that make a good friend are learnt at home

(18:09) Importance of turn-taking

(20:09) Encourage a curiosity about other people

(23:25) Red and green friends

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Reframe Mistakes]]> Sun, 26 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 9:20 c88b3f4a-07ce-4d93-9112-dcc5804e93dd false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Today's bucket emptying episode is for your children and I'm setting you a challenge and mindset shift to help your children take those plunges and not see mistakes or failures as catastrophic. 

The challenge is to start reframing mistakes and failure a full stop, and instead to start seeing it as a comma. Let me explain what that I mean.

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]]> Today's bucket emptying episode is for your children and I'm setting you a challenge and mindset shift to help your children take those plunges and not see mistakes or failures as catastrophic. 

The challenge is to start reframing mistakes and failure a full stop, and instead to start seeing it as a comma. Let me explain what that I mean.

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Siblings; How To Create Harmony Siblings; How To Create Harmony Wed, 22 May 2024 23:40:00 GMT 26:57 0493da9c-51b3-458a-85ad-7cd9e0d8cd4f false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 157 A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn’t just in how you deal with it in the moment it’s in how your child sees themselves in your family.

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family?

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality

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]]> A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn’t just in how you deal with it in the moment it’s in how your child sees themselves in your family.

Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family?

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality

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]]> Sibling Dynamics Sibling Dynamics Wed, 22 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 25:06 dad99d73-babe-46d9-9b06-0c92bc1b9b48 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 156 Children who grow up in the same family experience the family very differently. Siblings vie over the same family resources. When siblings fail to find their niche - conflict ensues. I'll help you audit your family to unravel the root of the issues.

Here are the highlights:

(1:40) Psychological context of individual 

(7:37) Sibling rivalry is normal

(8:21) Focus on needs 

(10:44) Comparison

(12:20) You don’t have to like someone to love them

(14:15) Respond to the motive, not behaviour

(15:03) Family roles

(17:50) Daily individual time with each child

(20:20) Don’t judge, referee or take sides

(21:45) Family connection

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]]> Children who grow up in the same family experience the family very differently. Siblings vie over the same family resources. When siblings fail to find their niche - conflict ensues. I'll help you audit your family to unravel the root of the issues.

Here are the highlights:

(1:40) Psychological context of individual 

(7:37) Sibling rivalry is normal

(8:21) Focus on needs 

(10:44) Comparison

(12:20) You don’t have to like someone to love them

(14:15) Respond to the motive, not behaviour

(15:03) Family roles

(17:50) Daily individual time with each child

(20:20) Don’t judge, referee or take sides

(21:45) Family connection

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Emotions & The Glitter Jar]]> Sun, 19 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 11:04 f1a65247-d081-48cb-b98b-a0f6b556ea97 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I want to show you a really great bucket emptying tool and strategy for your children that is the glitter jar.

Now, obviously a glitter jar is rather lovely and beautiful and very aesthetic in your home, but it's also a superb way of explaining emotions to children and teens, whether that's big emotions around anger, frustration, annoyance, jealousy, or whether it is around overwhelm, stress and anxiety.

I'd love to see your glitter jars, share your photos to contact@drmaryhan.com, and please share this episode with your friends, family and colleagues that need some extra support.

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]]> In today's Bucket Emptying episode, I want to show you a really great bucket emptying tool and strategy for your children that is the glitter jar.

Now, obviously a glitter jar is rather lovely and beautiful and very aesthetic in your home, but it's also a superb way of explaining emotions to children and teens, whether that's big emotions around anger, frustration, annoyance, jealousy, or whether it is around overwhelm, stress and anxiety.

I'd love to see your glitter jars, share your photos to contact@drmaryhan.com, and please share this episode with your friends, family and colleagues that need some extra support.

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Raising Confident Girls Raising Confident Girls Wed, 15 May 2024 23:40:00 GMT 30:01 eaf07ea2-3a8c-437c-8395-e0eae0bea192 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 155 There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind

(24:50) Praise bravery

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind

(24:50) Praise bravery

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]]> There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind

(24:50) Praise bravery

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hyper vigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind

(24:50) Praise bravery

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Self Belief Self Belief Wed, 15 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 31:02 850fdc20-a037-40cf-8df0-cae349362891 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 154 Self belief is the foundational layer to self-esteem and self confidence. Without it you're building on quick-sand. I will share ways to help children believe in their own capabilities - regardless of age.


Here are the highlights:

(5:25) I can have a go

(8:47) Don’t jump in to fix

(11:38) Provide options

(12:54) Break challenges into bite size chunks

(14:02) Feedback loop

(15:45) Constructive feedback on effort

(17:30) Social modelling

(21:14) Tackle self-limiting beliefs

(23:15) Fear of judgement

(24:34) Visualise success

(27:43) Constructive self-talk



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> Self belief is the foundational layer to self-esteem and self confidence. Without it you're building on quick-sand. I will share ways to help children believe in their own capabilities - regardless of age.


Here are the highlights:

(5:25) I can have a go

(8:47) Don’t jump in to fix

(11:38) Provide options

(12:54) Break challenges into bite size chunks

(14:02) Feedback loop

(15:45) Constructive feedback on effort

(17:30) Social modelling

(21:14) Tackle self-limiting beliefs

(23:15) Fear of judgement

(24:34) Visualise success

(27:43) Constructive self-talk



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.



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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Let's Tackle Your Overwhelm]]> Sun, 12 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 8:40 66a76a32-f519-432c-a7fb-cf44e064cbb9 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cb9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for everyone, not just parents! 

Have you ever stopped to think how many roles you juggle each week? It's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when you’re trying to keep everyone happy with a limited resource - time.

Listen in as I share my 3 practical tips. 

Oh, and don’t forget to share with friends and family who could use a little relief from their overwhelm.

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]]> This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen for everyone, not just parents! 

Have you ever stopped to think how many roles you juggle each week? It's easy to feel overwhelmed and out of control, especially when you’re trying to keep everyone happy with a limited resource - time.

Listen in as I share my 3 practical tips. 

Oh, and don’t forget to share with friends and family who could use a little relief from their overwhelm.

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> How To Get Children To Open Up How To Get Children To Open Up Wed, 08 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 20:33 6c530a8b-25d0-478c-a567-a2f963283583 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cba 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 153 How can we get a non-communicative child or teen to open up? Feels like mission impossible yet with a few tweaks, and a whole lot of faith it is possible. I'll share my top four don'ts and my top five dos.


Here are the highlights:

(00:45) You can’t help your child with anxiety or confidence if they won’t open up to you

(1:58) Don’t ask your child about their day

(3:27) Don’t expect overnight changes

(4:13) Don’t jump in with solutions

(5:07) Don’t take things personally

(6:55) Seize the opportunities

(9:45) Take care of yourself!

(11:15) Build in connection time with each child each day

(14:03) Listen

(17:22) Maximise non-eye contact moments


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> How can we get a non-communicative child or teen to open up? Feels like mission impossible yet with a few tweaks, and a whole lot of faith it is possible. I'll share my top four don'ts and my top five dos.


Here are the highlights:

(00:45) You can’t help your child with anxiety or confidence if they won’t open up to you

(1:58) Don’t ask your child about their day

(3:27) Don’t expect overnight changes

(4:13) Don’t jump in with solutions

(5:07) Don’t take things personally

(6:55) Seize the opportunities

(9:45) Take care of yourself!

(11:15) Build in connection time with each child each day

(14:03) Listen

(17:22) Maximise non-eye contact moments


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should We Ban Smart Phones?? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should We Ban Smart Phones?? Sun, 05 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 9:05 f0b016ef-1146-4c47-8e96-ff916fe12caf false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cbb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast I tackle a very topical listener question: “Should we ban smart phones??” 

Whilst I have very strong opinions regarding children’s use of smartphones, the internet, and social media, I don’t believe that banning them is the solution. Instead, let’s teach our children how to use them safely, which starts with modelling moderation of use of ourselves!


I’d love to know your thoughts on this topic. Do you know how much screen time you have each week?


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast I tackle a very topical listener question: “Should we ban smart phones??” 

Whilst I have very strong opinions regarding children’s use of smartphones, the internet, and social media, I don’t believe that banning them is the solution. Instead, let’s teach our children how to use them safely, which starts with modelling moderation of use of ourselves!


I’d love to know your thoughts on this topic. Do you know how much screen time you have each week?


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Managing Exam Stress Managing Exam Stress Wed, 01 May 2024 23:30:00 GMT 25:12 984ffc8e-b5d6-4446-afec-8c58752e2a08 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cbc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 152 How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.


Here are the highlights:

(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand

(03:00) Our role as parents

(4:00) Practical support

(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation

(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children

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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.


Here are the highlights:

(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand

(03:00) Our role as parents

(4:00) Practical support

(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation

(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help! I Hate Playing With My Children Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help! I Hate Playing With My Children Sun, 28 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 8:38 c8118c66-3d1a-46a9-b763-f123e3b84f3c false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cbd 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast, we tackle a wonderfully honest question: "Help! I hate playing with my children." 

As parents, it's natural to feel overwhelmed at times. But, we can learn a lot from our children by being authentic and vulnerable. 

Listen in to hear my top tips on how to connect with your children and make the most of your time together. 


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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> In this week's episode of the Bucket Emptying podcast, we tackle a wonderfully honest question: "Help! I hate playing with my children." 

As parents, it's natural to feel overwhelmed at times. But, we can learn a lot from our children by being authentic and vulnerable. 

Listen in to hear my top tips on how to connect with your children and make the most of your time together. 


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Changing Self-Critical Language Changing Self-Critical Language Wed, 24 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 29:44 48e35398-7cff-404c-9c78-c7aa7262ed44 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cbe 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 151 How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it's "I can't" all the way to "I am not enough" - they become the sum of what they hear and it's time to change!


Here are the highlights:

(2:35) Why is this important?

(6:06) A bit of science…

(7:58) Self-audit

(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play

(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?

(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel

(23:15) Get your child on board - don’t lecture!



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> How can we help our children change their constant self-critical talk? Whether it's "I can't" all the way to "I am not enough" - they become the sum of what they hear and it's time to change!


Here are the highlights:

(2:35) Why is this important?

(6:06) A bit of science…

(7:58) Self-audit

(13:41) The brain mechanisms at play

(15:20) Where do your child’s self-critical thoughts show up most?

(19:00) Focus on the direction they want to travel

(23:15) Get your child on board - don’t lecture!



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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; I Don't Want My Child To Grow Up!]]> Sun, 21 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 9:55 6ea148b7-a7eb-4230-80c8-4ff67eeb90b4 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cbf 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As parents, we all want to cherish every moment we have with our children. But what happens when the thought of them growing up becomes overwhelming? 

This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode tackles this listener question head-on. Listen in as I share my top tips on how to cope with this common fear.



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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> As parents, we all want to cherish every moment we have with our children. But what happens when the thought of them growing up becomes overwhelming? 

This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode tackles this listener question head-on. Listen in as I share my top tips on how to cope with this common fear.



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]]> Vulnerability In Parenting Vulnerability In Parenting Wed, 17 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 18:55 837e4d8f-8180-45a2-b5db-41ea0dc15967 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 150 Being vulnerable as a parent feels counterintuitive - aren't we meant to be strong, unwavering in our confidence, and stable?? Yes, and no! I'll share why vulnerability will in fact make you a better parent and how.


Here are the highlights:


(1:25) What do we mean by vulnerability?

(3:20) Be mindful who you’re vulnerable with!

(7:20) Vulnerability encourages and creates emotional connection

(8:55) Vulnerability creates harmony and peace

(8:29) Vulnerability cultivates a growth mindset

(12:39) Vulnerability humanises us as parents

(14:33) Vulnerability sets us free from having all the answers



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Being vulnerable as a parent feels counterintuitive - aren't we meant to be strong, unwavering in our confidence, and stable?? Yes, and no! I'll share why vulnerability will in fact make you a better parent and how.


Here are the highlights:


(1:25) What do we mean by vulnerability?

(3:20) Be mindful who you’re vulnerable with!

(7:20) Vulnerability encourages and creates emotional connection

(8:55) Vulnerability creates harmony and peace

(8:29) Vulnerability cultivates a growth mindset

(12:39) Vulnerability humanises us as parents

(14:33) Vulnerability sets us free from having all the answers



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; I'm Worried I Won't Be A Good Mum]]> Sun, 14 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 11:29 06cc9135-8e49-4dfe-90bf-e479d74017c6 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I answer a question from a listener who is expecting her first child and is worried she won't be a good mum.

Firstly, thank you! I've had some amazing questions from listeners recently and your answers help every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and educator that listens in. Your openness helps others.


Back to the episode, listen in as I share my 3 top tips for anyone feeling like an imposter, not just expectant mothers.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I answer a question from a listener who is expecting her first child and is worried she won't be a good mum.

Firstly, thank you! I've had some amazing questions from listeners recently and your answers help every parent, grandparent, aunt, uncle and educator that listens in. Your openness helps others.


Back to the episode, listen in as I share my 3 top tips for anyone feeling like an imposter, not just expectant mothers.


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> For Your Children For Your Children Wed, 10 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 25:54 c84ffde3-0b1c-4be4-8ea5-04ea19af50e8 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 149 Ever wished I could speak directly to your children and offer them my tips and advice?? Well this episode is just for them - alright, and you if you really must listen to it!! I share with them 5 empowering truths.


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Ever wished I could speak directly to your children and offer them my tips and advice?? Well this episode is just for them - alright, and you if you really must listen to it!! I share with them 5 empowering truths.


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Know Your Vulnerabilities Bucket Emptying Episodes; Know Your Vulnerabilities Sun, 07 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 8:01 95e930e7-ffe6-4792-b387-8b03d45a836c false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In today's bucket emptying episode, I talk about something that will help you as a parent, and that's about knowing your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities.

Children and teenagers thrive from a very consistent approach to boundaries, but our approach can relax when we are vulnerable.

Join me as I explain how knowing your weaknesses and our vulnerabilities is a really crucial part to knowing and understanding where you are being inconsistent with your parenting.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> In today's bucket emptying episode, I talk about something that will help you as a parent, and that's about knowing your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities.

Children and teenagers thrive from a very consistent approach to boundaries, but our approach can relax when we are vulnerable.

Join me as I explain how knowing your weaknesses and our vulnerabilities is a really crucial part to knowing and understanding where you are being inconsistent with your parenting.



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Are We Too Soft (Part 2) Are We Too Soft (Part 2) Wed, 03 Apr 2024 23:30:00 GMT 28:37 57666f66-35e7-4e5f-8e31-419b8bc5a9b8 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 148 Course correcting 101. How can we help children from 2 - 18 years operate outside their zone of comfort without compromising their emotional-wellbeing?? This is a super practical episode with lots of how toos. You won't want to miss it!!



Here are the highlights:


(2:30) Reminder of importance of high expectations, agency and boundaries

(4:20) Why have I chosen a toddler, 8 year old and 15 year old ages/stages of development? 

(8:26) Examples of how to hold your child to high expectations for each age/stage of development

(14:55) Examples of how to develop a sense of agency for each age/stage of development

(22:22) Examples of how to set boundaries for each age/stage of development



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Course correcting 101. How can we help children from 2 - 18 years operate outside their zone of comfort without compromising their emotional-wellbeing?? This is a super practical episode with lots of how toos. You won't want to miss it!!



Here are the highlights:


(2:30) Reminder of importance of high expectations, agency and boundaries

(4:20) Why have I chosen a toddler, 8 year old and 15 year old ages/stages of development? 

(8:26) Examples of how to hold your child to high expectations for each age/stage of development

(14:55) Examples of how to develop a sense of agency for each age/stage of development

(22:22) Examples of how to set boundaries for each age/stage of development



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; The Power Of Yet Bucket Emptying Episodes; The Power Of Yet Sun, 31 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 8:01 37860ca1-e38b-4e79-b255-9379a08042e6 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Have you heard of the "power of yet"? 

This tiny word holds an enormous amount of potential, and in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, you'll learn how to harness its power. 

Discover how adding 'yet' to a statement can unlock a world of possibilities for both you and your children.

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Have you heard of the "power of yet"? 

This tiny word holds an enormous amount of potential, and in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, you'll learn how to harness its power. 

Discover how adding 'yet' to a statement can unlock a world of possibilities for both you and your children.

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Are We Too Soft? (Part 1) Are We Too Soft? (Part 1) Wed, 27 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 22:07 11b2b169-f720-46ca-817a-b06e882ce9e0 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 147 Have we given our children an opt-out clause, allowing them to avoid difficult things, because we're so worried about their emotional being??? I think so. How do we course correct? I'll share in this two-part episode.


Here are the highlights:


(1:14) Has the pendulum swung too far?

(4:00) Children are a building under construction

(5:55) Are you preparing them for their future?

(11:16) Hold your children to high expectations

(14:17) Create a sense of agency for your child

(17:45) The importance of boundaries 



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Have we given our children an opt-out clause, allowing them to avoid difficult things, because we're so worried about their emotional being??? I think so. How do we course correct? I'll share in this two-part episode.


Here are the highlights:


(1:14) Has the pendulum swung too far?

(4:00) Children are a building under construction

(5:55) Are you preparing them for their future?

(11:16) Hold your children to high expectations

(14:17) Create a sense of agency for your child

(17:45) The importance of boundaries 



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episode; The One Minute Welcome Rule Bucket Emptying Episode; The One Minute Welcome Rule Sun, 24 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 9:48 8c768f77-28ba-44fe-8fe1-30e230e71f1e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full I've got a great Bucket Emptying tip for you today - the one minute rule.

This is super helpful to reset your mindset when returning home from work, collecting your children from school and is a great tip to teach your children too!

I hope you enjoy the episode. Please share with anyone you think could find it helpful.


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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> I've got a great Bucket Emptying tip for you today - the one minute rule.

This is super helpful to reset your mindset when returning home from work, collecting your children from school and is a great tip to teach your children too!

I hope you enjoy the episode. Please share with anyone you think could find it helpful.


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[Managing 'Big' Change]]> Wed, 20 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 18:59 d247afb7-f367-40ee-b2c9-2a01c5a27a17 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 146 Big change can feel super scary. What we might see as routine our children might feel is their biggest challenge yet! How we prepare them is crucial - remember we're raising resilient adults.



Here are the highlights:

(01:08) The balanced see-saw

(3:44) Acknowledge your child’s lens

(6:12) Be prepared

(9:31) Talk about it sooner rather than later

(12:40) Actively listen to your child

(15:21) Build your child’s toolkit and practice


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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Big change can feel super scary. What we might see as routine our children might feel is their biggest challenge yet! How we prepare them is crucial - remember we're raising resilient adults.



Here are the highlights:

(01:08) The balanced see-saw

(3:44) Acknowledge your child’s lens

(6:12) Be prepared

(9:31) Talk about it sooner rather than later

(12:40) Actively listen to your child

(15:21) Build your child’s toolkit and practice


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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Why It Takes A Village Bucket Emptying Episodes; Why It Takes A Village Sun, 17 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 10:44 1487f14c-d49e-4818-818b-ac7b2a94ce3f false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cc9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Why do parents need a village to raise resilient adults in the 21st century? 

Listen to this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode as I discuss the premise behind the "it takes a village" proverb and its relevance in our modern world. 

I'll explore the 3 key reasons we all need a village to thrive and succeed. 


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Why do parents need a village to raise resilient adults in the 21st century? 

Listen to this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode as I discuss the premise behind the "it takes a village" proverb and its relevance in our modern world. 

I'll explore the 3 key reasons we all need a village to thrive and succeed. 


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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Do Time-outs Work?? Do Time-outs Work?? Wed, 13 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 24:43 939ddfdb-d6b5-4444-a19b-621c78e0a874 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cca 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 145 When our child is throwing the mother of all tantrums what do we do? My advice has always been not to use ‘the naughty step’ for the simple reason that it takes a child who is experiencing some pretty big, sometimes scary emotions and isolates them. However, a 'time-out' can be used effectively when the timing is right. Let me explain...


Here are the highlights:

(01:00) Naughty steps and removal of a child can be negative if used inappropriately

(5:10) Understand the driver behind the behaviour

(6:49) Add in what your child perceives is lacking

(12:11) Work on your own big emotions

(15:04) Be super clear about difference between behaviour and character

(17:41) In the moment advice and how to use time-outs


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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> When our child is throwing the mother of all tantrums what do we do? My advice has always been not to use ‘the naughty step’ for the simple reason that it takes a child who is experiencing some pretty big, sometimes scary emotions and isolates them. However, a 'time-out' can be used effectively when the timing is right. Let me explain...


Here are the highlights:

(01:00) Naughty steps and removal of a child can be negative if used inappropriately

(5:10) Understand the driver behind the behaviour

(6:49) Add in what your child perceives is lacking

(12:11) Work on your own big emotions

(15:04) Be super clear about difference between behaviour and character

(17:41) In the moment advice and how to use time-outs


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Am I A Bad Child? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Am I A Bad Child? Sun, 10 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 10:03 0e95fe93-de28-4f51-9123-adaba60d151a false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ccb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode addresses a question from a concerned parent - how to support a child who is self-deprecating after making poor choices. 

Your child might say things like "I'm a bad person", "I'm a naughty person", or "I'm awful” after snatching a toy from a friend, getting angry when they’re frustrated or squabbling with a sibling.

Listen in as I explain how to help your child understand that their behaviour is separate from their identity and doesn’t define them!


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]]> This week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode addresses a question from a concerned parent - how to support a child who is self-deprecating after making poor choices. 

Your child might say things like "I'm a bad person", "I'm a naughty person", or "I'm awful” after snatching a toy from a friend, getting angry when they’re frustrated or squabbling with a sibling.

Listen in as I explain how to help your child understand that their behaviour is separate from their identity and doesn’t define them!


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]]> Great Habits for Super Young Children Great Habits for Super Young Children Wed, 06 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 37:39 934dae06-ea3c-4e1c-8abe-a51f10e19581 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ccc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 144 Here’s a thought for you – every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace – in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections – so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.

In this episode I’ll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it’s never too late to start.


Here are the highlights:

(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding

(03:41) Positive early development is critical

(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain

(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills

(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy

(17:23) Help your children to problem solve

(20:50) Understanding emotions

(25:32) Building natural curiosity

(28:03) The freedom to ask questions

(30:43) I can’t do that… yet


Listen to Ep 82: Wiring our children’s brains



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]]> Here’s a thought for you – every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace – in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections – so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.

In this episode I’ll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it’s never too late to start.


Here are the highlights:

(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding

(03:41) Positive early development is critical

(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain

(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills

(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy

(17:23) Help your children to problem solve

(20:50) Understanding emotions

(25:32) Building natural curiosity

(28:03) The freedom to ask questions

(30:43) I can’t do that… yet


Listen to Ep 82: Wiring our children’s brains



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How To Create New Habits Bucket Emptying Episodes; How To Create New Habits Sun, 03 Mar 2024 23:30:00 GMT 9:17 7f09491d-e94f-47bf-8f55-80d336a1afb5 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ccd 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen as it'll help both you and your children! 

It's all about creating new habits, and I share my top tips to not only establish new habits but to also maintain them in the long-term. 

Tune in now and discover how you can make positive changes in your life.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> This week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode is a must-listen as it'll help both you and your children! 

It's all about creating new habits, and I share my top tips to not only establish new habits but to also maintain them in the long-term. 

Tune in now and discover how you can make positive changes in your life.


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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> <![CDATA[Back-Chat & Boundaries]]> Wed, 28 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 29:56 3c02c229-4c44-42f6-8a6b-dc3950784386 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cce 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 143 I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. 


Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} Why are you seeing this behaviour?

{4:45} Give your child choices where you can

{9:11} Switch out of power dynamics

{14:10} Remember the 3 C’s 

{20:00} Daily connection with each child 

{24:00} Regularly check-in with yourself & your partner 


Listen to previous episodes mentioned during this episode:

Ep 6: Parenting & Co-parenting

Ep 13: Why punishments don’t work



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> I get asked about back-chat a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers being rebellious and pushing every boundary, but it’s about what’s happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour and I’ll share my top strategies to help and support. 


Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} Why are you seeing this behaviour?

{4:45} Give your child choices where you can

{9:11} Switch out of power dynamics

{14:10} Remember the 3 C’s 

{20:00} Daily connection with each child 

{24:00} Regularly check-in with yourself & your partner 


Listen to previous episodes mentioned during this episode:

Ep 6: Parenting & Co-parenting

Ep 13: Why punishments don’t work



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Can I Insist On No Devices For Sleepovers?? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Can I Insist On No Devices For Sleepovers?? Sun, 25 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 10:40 f8d9729c-5636-4a21-a16b-05ca33e8f0a6 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ccf 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I'm answering a listener question "Can I insist on no devices when my child is having a sleepover?" 

With the rise of technology, it's a question that many of you may face, and as the CEO of your family, you can insist on this! 


Listen in as share my strategies to manage this situation and ensure that your child has a device-free sleepover.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.




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]]> In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode I'm answering a listener question "Can I insist on no devices when my child is having a sleepover?" 

With the rise of technology, it's a question that many of you may face, and as the CEO of your family, you can insist on this! 


Listen in as share my strategies to manage this situation and ensure that your child has a device-free sleepover.



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend 

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.




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]]> The Power Of Words The Power Of Words Wed, 21 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 24:53 9bc134f6-b2da-463c-b383-5d8eb5c3f7b6 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 142 We have 6,000 thoughts a day - 80% are negative and 90% of which are habitual. If you have low confidence you're telling yourself 4,800 times day you're not good enough!! I'll share how you can help your child build a new narrative.


Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} The impact of words

{4:15} Our words shape our child’s brain

{6:50} They are always listening!

{9:21} Think about the gender-based language 

{12:50} Be mindful not to over praise 

{16:10} 80% of thoughts are repetitive and negative 

{18:05} Their incredible brain

{21:42} Mantras and affirmations



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> We have 6,000 thoughts a day - 80% are negative and 90% of which are habitual. If you have low confidence you're telling yourself 4,800 times day you're not good enough!! I'll share how you can help your child build a new narrative.


Here are the highlights: 

{1:18} The impact of words

{4:15} Our words shape our child’s brain

{6:50} They are always listening!

{9:21} Think about the gender-based language 

{12:50} Be mindful not to over praise 

{16:10} 80% of thoughts are repetitive and negative 

{18:05} Their incredible brain

{21:42} Mantras and affirmations



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Saying Yes Also Means Saying No! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Saying Yes Also Means Saying No! Sun, 18 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 12:24 6ba89d6d-e5ed-4fa3-a710-f201365a22e1 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Would you like to achieve a #winwin? This week’s Bucket Emptying episode is just what you need!

I’ll explain how your habit of completing routine tasks for your children is causing you to miss out on opportunities and hindering your children’s development of independence.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Would you like to achieve a #winwin? This week’s Bucket Emptying episode is just what you need!

I’ll explain how your habit of completing routine tasks for your children is causing you to miss out on opportunities and hindering your children’s development of independence.



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025




DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Why Children Need Boundaries Why Children Need Boundaries Wed, 14 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 23:03 cdf9340c-ff66-457a-b492-150cd36bec13 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 141 Parenting isn't a popularity contest. It's about making the difficult decisions, because we're playing the long game AND it won't make us popular. Boundaries allow children to grow and become the resilient adults we all want them to be.


Here are the highlights: 

{0:40} Positive parenting does not mean equal terms friendship

{2:00} What do we mean by boundaries?

{5:28} You children will hate you regularly as they grow up!

{7:40} Do you have unresolved childhood challenges?

{9:41} Children need a healthy sense of self

{13:00} Are you sharing learnable experiences or oversharing?

{17:15} Narrow lanes build resilience!

{18:25} Your relationship with your child is ever evolving



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Parenting isn't a popularity contest. It's about making the difficult decisions, because we're playing the long game AND it won't make us popular. Boundaries allow children to grow and become the resilient adults we all want them to be.


Here are the highlights: 

{0:40} Positive parenting does not mean equal terms friendship

{2:00} What do we mean by boundaries?

{5:28} You children will hate you regularly as they grow up!

{7:40} Do you have unresolved childhood challenges?

{9:41} Children need a healthy sense of self

{13:00} Are you sharing learnable experiences or oversharing?

{17:15} Narrow lanes build resilience!

{18:25} Your relationship with your child is ever evolving



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Stop Comparing Yourself To Others!! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Stop Comparing Yourself To Others!! Sun, 11 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 11:34 1278ffd0-3e73-4acd-b51a-a29cff0ed77e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This week's Bucket Emptying episode is a must-watch for all parents out there! 

Join me as I share my advice on how to stop comparing yourself to other parents and empty your own bucket. 

Let's break the habit and start focusing on our own journey. 


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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> This week's Bucket Emptying episode is a must-watch for all parents out there! 

Join me as I share my advice on how to stop comparing yourself to other parents and empty your own bucket. 

Let's break the habit and start focusing on our own journey. 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Let’s Talk Children’s Mental Health Revisited Let’s Talk Children’s Mental Health Revisited Wed, 07 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 34:40 090f37d2-75ac-4c92-a613-deea99ed1968 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 140 Children’s Mental Health Week takes place from 5-11 February 2024 in the UK and this year's theme is ‘My Voice Matters’. It was set up by children’s mental health charity Place2Be and shines a spotlight on the importance of children and young people’s mental health. My Voice Matters is about empowering children and young people by providing them with the tools they need to express themselves.


Today I'm revisiting an episode I released in May 2022, as I thought it would be helpful for parents, grandparents, teachers and anyone wanting to understand how to support children's mental health.

I'll discuss what mental health is, why we keep hearing about rising numbers, what are the common factors, and if some children are more likely to have issues with it. I'll then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health. 


This episode is an overview of mental health, if you’d like specific tips on how to spot mental health issues and how you can help your child, please listen to:

Ep 3: Anxiety Part 1 and Ep 10: Anxiety Part 2


If you’d like to understand the link between wellbeing and nutrition, please listen to:

Ep 9: The link between children's emotional wellbeing and nutrition with Lucinda Miller  


And finally if you’d like to understand the importance of play for children, listen to:

Ep 34: Play, a child's work

 

Here are the highlights: 

(1:20) What do we mean by mental health? 

(07:30) Common factors affecting mental health 

(16:40) Encourage problem solving

(19:45) Teach your child about self-care 

(24:15) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:00) Maintain connections 

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Children’s Mental Health Week takes place from 5-11 February 2024 in the UK and this year's theme is ‘My Voice Matters’. It was set up by children’s mental health charity Place2Be and shines a spotlight on the importance of children and young people’s mental health. My Voice Matters is about empowering children and young people by providing them with the tools they need to express themselves.


Today I'm revisiting an episode I released in May 2022, as I thought it would be helpful for parents, grandparents, teachers and anyone wanting to understand how to support children's mental health.

I'll discuss what mental health is, why we keep hearing about rising numbers, what are the common factors, and if some children are more likely to have issues with it. I'll then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health. 


This episode is an overview of mental health, if you’d like specific tips on how to spot mental health issues and how you can help your child, please listen to:

Ep 3: Anxiety Part 1 and Ep 10: Anxiety Part 2


If you’d like to understand the link between wellbeing and nutrition, please listen to:

Ep 9: The link between children's emotional wellbeing and nutrition with Lucinda Miller  


And finally if you’d like to understand the importance of play for children, listen to:

Ep 34: Play, a child's work

 

Here are the highlights: 

(1:20) What do we mean by mental health? 

(07:30) Common factors affecting mental health 

(16:40) Encourage problem solving

(19:45) Teach your child about self-care 

(24:15) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:00) Maintain connections 

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Are All Rewards Created Equally? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Are All Rewards Created Equally? Sun, 04 Feb 2024 23:30:00 GMT 10:15 9d717380-cb9c-4dd9-a626-c5d95ba060f8 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, "Are All Rewards Created Equally?", I share my insight and tips.

If you haven't had a chance to listen to the previous episodes, "Bribe or Rewards?" and "Help My Child Is Acting Entitled," be sure to check them out as the knowledge builds throughout the 3 episodes.


Here are the links for your convenience:

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Bribes or Rewards? https://drmaryhan.com/episode/should-we-use-bribes-or-rewards-with-our-children/

Ep 139: Help My Child Is Acting Entitled https://drmaryhan.com/episode/is-my-child-acting-entitled/



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]]> In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, "Are All Rewards Created Equally?", I share my insight and tips.

If you haven't had a chance to listen to the previous episodes, "Bribe or Rewards?" and "Help My Child Is Acting Entitled," be sure to check them out as the knowledge builds throughout the 3 episodes.


Here are the links for your convenience:

Bucket Emptying Episodes; Bribes or Rewards? https://drmaryhan.com/episode/should-we-use-bribes-or-rewards-with-our-children/

Ep 139: Help My Child Is Acting Entitled https://drmaryhan.com/episode/is-my-child-acting-entitled/



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]]> Help My Child Is Acting Entitled! Help My Child Is Acting Entitled! Wed, 31 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 25:45 95484913-a09b-4566-87b2-1e1470fd79c4 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 139 When our children act as though the world owes them a favour and they aren't prepared to work at something the alarm bells should be ringing. I'll explain what entitled behaviour is, how we inadvertently create it and what we need to do to fix it.


Here are the highlights:

(1:04) Is my child entitled?

(5:00) What behaviour do you show your children?

(8:09) Are you trying to be a friend or a parent?

(12:05) Bribes enforce entitlement

(14:51) Begin a regular practice of gratitude

(17:00) Praise effort not the outcome

(18:45) Expect your child to contribute to the upkeep at home

(22:31) Encourage your child to concentrate on their behaviour choices



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]]> When our children act as though the world owes them a favour and they aren't prepared to work at something the alarm bells should be ringing. I'll explain what entitled behaviour is, how we inadvertently create it and what we need to do to fix it.


Here are the highlights:

(1:04) Is my child entitled?

(5:00) What behaviour do you show your children?

(8:09) Are you trying to be a friend or a parent?

(12:05) Bribes enforce entitlement

(14:51) Begin a regular practice of gratitude

(17:00) Praise effort not the outcome

(18:45) Expect your child to contribute to the upkeep at home

(22:31) Encourage your child to concentrate on their behaviour choices



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Bribe Or Reward? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Bribe Or Reward? Sun, 28 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 8:20 b4fcfbbe-c0bc-4c08-92e7-d7d4d2ed8577 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Bribe or reward? Are they the same thing? No, they're not, and understanding the difference is crucial, especially when it comes to parenting. 

Tune into this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode where I'll explain more.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bribe or reward? Are they the same thing? No, they're not, and understanding the difference is crucial, especially when it comes to parenting. 

Tune into this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode where I'll explain more.



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]]> Managing Digital Devices Part 2 Managing Digital Devices Part 2 Wed, 24 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 23:57 089ec937-8dc2-4057-a2d6-bf3ec6764603 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 138 More discussion with Catherine around managing screen time, how social platforms affect emotional wellbeing and finding a balance.


Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Understanding how your child uses their devices

(9:45) Why do you need your phone close by?

(13:55) Tracking screen/device time?

(16:55) Which rules do you still follow?

(18:45) Catherine’s 3 top tips for parents



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]]> More discussion with Catherine around managing screen time, how social platforms affect emotional wellbeing and finding a balance.


Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Understanding how your child uses their devices

(9:45) Why do you need your phone close by?

(13:55) Tracking screen/device time?

(16:55) Which rules do you still follow?

(18:45) Catherine’s 3 top tips for parents



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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Helping Children Do Difficult Things Bucket Emptying Episodes; Helping Children Do Difficult Things Sun, 21 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 10:46 49ecfa4c-9fe0-4a7c-8240-acf962e41691 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cd9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As parents, we all want to give our children the tools to navigate the world with confidence. But what about when they're away from home? I was recently asked to write a blog post with guidance for parents managing their child’s first residential school trip, and I'm excited to share this advice with you in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode.

If you're looking for ways to help your child do difficult things, tune in to hear my valuable insights.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> As parents, we all want to give our children the tools to navigate the world with confidence. But what about when they're away from home? I was recently asked to write a blog post with guidance for parents managing their child’s first residential school trip, and I'm excited to share this advice with you in this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode.

If you're looking for ways to help your child do difficult things, tune in to hear my valuable insights.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Managing Digital Devices Part 1 Managing Digital Devices Part 1 Wed, 17 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 19:19 bb65f23f-6898-46f9-a302-c397e664f49c false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cda 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 137 I'm joined by my daughter to talk honestly about how she managed her own digital devices as part of her digital journey in the hope it helps you as parents have those conversations with your children.


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Catherine’s journey with digital devices

(5:25) Ages/stages and platforms

(7:30) Navigating friendships with parents digital device rules

(12:35) Instagram is a moment in time and not always real

(16:19) Support your child on their journey


We had so much to talk about, so you’ll have to wait until next week for Part 2 of our conversation!



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]]> I'm joined by my daughter to talk honestly about how she managed her own digital devices as part of her digital journey in the hope it helps you as parents have those conversations with your children.


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Catherine’s journey with digital devices

(5:25) Ages/stages and platforms

(7:30) Navigating friendships with parents digital device rules

(12:35) Instagram is a moment in time and not always real

(16:19) Support your child on their journey


We had so much to talk about, so you’ll have to wait until next week for Part 2 of our conversation!



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Do We Regulate Our Own Emotions? Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Do We Regulate Our Own Emotions? Sun, 14 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 10:52 578258b5-90e6-4670-9a54-3d3c5903607e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cdb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As parents, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by our own emotions, which can make it challenging to help our children manage theirs. But don't worry, I'm here to help! 

In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I share some practical tips to help you regulate your own emotions, so you can in turn help your children manage theirs. 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> As parents, it's not uncommon to feel overwhelmed by our own emotions, which can make it challenging to help our children manage theirs. But don't worry, I'm here to help! 

In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I share some practical tips to help you regulate your own emotions, so you can in turn help your children manage theirs. 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> 24 for 2024 24 for 2024 Wed, 10 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 28:19 d2d87408-ae63-41c1-9be2-2fe93c8f3466 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cdc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 136 Ditch the resolutions and set 'promises & intentions' instead. Helping children build their confidence is all about day to day behavioural changes. This is a super practical episode with a great free resource to get you started.


Here are the highlights:

(2:25) The top resolutions and who sets them 

(5:50) Let’s look at it differently

(8:00) Why intention setting is so useful for the whole family

(14:00) The Imagination Game

(16:20) How would this feel?

(19:35) Now let’s look at what this would mean on a daily basis

(21:25) Service as an intention

(22:25) The habit of reflection



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]]> Ditch the resolutions and set 'promises & intentions' instead. Helping children build their confidence is all about day to day behavioural changes. This is a super practical episode with a great free resource to get you started.


Here are the highlights:

(2:25) The top resolutions and who sets them 

(5:50) Let’s look at it differently

(8:00) Why intention setting is so useful for the whole family

(14:00) The Imagination Game

(16:20) How would this feel?

(19:35) Now let’s look at what this would mean on a daily basis

(21:25) Service as an intention

(22:25) The habit of reflection



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How To Get Your Children To Help Around The House Bucket Emptying Episodes; How To Get Your Children To Help Around The House Sun, 07 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 6:05 4aa6198d-a26b-456f-88cf-4b156e7253dd false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cdd 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home. 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Are chores causing arguments in your home? In this week's Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'll explain the importance of shifting the language we use to encourage family members to work together in maintaining the home. 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Managing Explosive Emotions Managing Explosive Emotions Wed, 03 Jan 2024 23:30:00 GMT 24:25 770c95c3-7bcb-430e-bb87-3c49f4bbfb22 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cde 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 135 How should we respond to a child or teen who swears, is physical and aggressive when they experience big emotions? We might not recognise our child or teen in these moments. I will share my top tips of what to do in the moment to diffuse things, and how best to approach the education piece in order to distinguish future explosive outbursts.


Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Recap from Ep 134 

(5:00) Explosive behaviours

(7:50) Don’t be drawn into name calling or abusive language

(10:40) Keep your voice calm and use few words

(13:24) Create a safe environment – don’t sent them away!

(15:48) Teach consequences for the behavioural choices

(18:55) Try to identify your child’s triggers

(21:00) Zoom out and reflect on your child as a whole


Listen to Ep 134: Managing Big Emotions


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> How should we respond to a child or teen who swears, is physical and aggressive when they experience big emotions? We might not recognise our child or teen in these moments. I will share my top tips of what to do in the moment to diffuse things, and how best to approach the education piece in order to distinguish future explosive outbursts.


Here are the highlights:

(2:15) Recap from Ep 134 

(5:00) Explosive behaviours

(7:50) Don’t be drawn into name calling or abusive language

(10:40) Keep your voice calm and use few words

(13:24) Create a safe environment – don’t sent them away!

(15:48) Teach consequences for the behavioural choices

(18:55) Try to identify your child’s triggers

(21:00) Zoom out and reflect on your child as a whole


Listen to Ep 134: Managing Big Emotions


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Learning To say No! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Learning To say No! Sun, 31 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 11:04 5a6a8f41-d9d5-48d8-8c3b-0e7235d0a891 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cdf 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Learning to say no can be a game-changer. 


Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most. 



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]]> Learning to say no can be a game-changer. 


Do you often find yourself saying yes to everything and everyone, only to regret it later? Setting boundaries takes practice and can be challenging, but it's worth it. In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I share my tips on how to learn to say no and prioritise what matters most. 



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]]> <![CDATA[Managing 'Big' Emotions]]> Wed, 27 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 31:50 8b8f8745-7294-4653-a955-fb71d923359d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 134 How a child or teen manages those 'big' emotions speaks volumes about their current well-being. I take a belts and braces approach covering why they may struggle with their feelings, how we ought to react in the moment, and how we can help them find more appropriate ways of responding.


Here are the highlights:

(3:15) What are big emotions?

(6:00) 4 principles of emotional behaviour

(11:10) Consider your child’s emotional stage not chronological age

(15:45) 3 things to do in the moment 

(23:45) 3 lessons for after the outburst 


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]]> How a child or teen manages those 'big' emotions speaks volumes about their current well-being. I take a belts and braces approach covering why they may struggle with their feelings, how we ought to react in the moment, and how we can help them find more appropriate ways of responding.


Here are the highlights:

(3:15) What are big emotions?

(6:00) 4 principles of emotional behaviour

(11:10) Consider your child’s emotional stage not chronological age

(15:45) 3 things to do in the moment 

(23:45) 3 lessons for after the outburst 


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Managing Overwhelm Over the Festive Season Bucket Emptying Episodes; Managing Overwhelm Over the Festive Season Sun, 24 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:10 eb5637a6-088a-4fb1-8da9-4654d1610128 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Happy Christmas everyone 🎄

Are you feeling overwhelmed during this festive season? Don't worry, I've got you covered! 

In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'm sharing 3 tips to help you manage expectations and make the most of this wonderful time. 


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]]> Happy Christmas everyone 🎄

Are you feeling overwhelmed during this festive season? Don't worry, I've got you covered! 

In this week’s Bucket Emptying podcast episode, I'm sharing 3 tips to help you manage expectations and make the most of this wonderful time. 


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]]> Encouraging Independence Encouraging Independence Wed, 20 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 25:17 7b55adce-3ba7-4aaf-b618-116d515244e8 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 133 Independence is the foundation to self-esteem and confidence. Independent children have stronger social skills, greater academic success, and fare better in life. So how do we foster independence? I'll share my top five tops.


Here are the highlights:

(0:35) What do I mean by independence?

(3:00) Reflect - what are you doing to model these skills?

(3:28) Encourage your child to make mistakes

(8:55) Give choices wherever possible

(14:08) Give stage appropriate responsibility

(16:30) Encourage your child/teen to have an opinion

(19:50) Ensure your child’s foundations are solid – who are they?


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]]> Independence is the foundation to self-esteem and confidence. Independent children have stronger social skills, greater academic success, and fare better in life. So how do we foster independence? I'll share my top five tops.


Here are the highlights:

(0:35) What do I mean by independence?

(3:00) Reflect - what are you doing to model these skills?

(3:28) Encourage your child to make mistakes

(8:55) Give choices wherever possible

(14:08) Give stage appropriate responsibility

(16:30) Encourage your child/teen to have an opinion

(19:50) Ensure your child’s foundations are solid – who are they?


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should I Lie About Santa? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Should I Lie About Santa? Sun, 17 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 7:45 6ab99ad6-4fd5-47c7-8cc0-8fa347bca9e9 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Have your children started asking if Santa, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny are real?

Are you struggling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell your children the truth about these mythical figures?

In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, I answer a listener's question on this very topic. Tune in to find out my take on this age-old parenting predicament. 


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]]> Have your children started asking if Santa, the Tooth Fairy, or the Easter Bunny are real?

Are you struggling with the dilemma of whether or not to tell your children the truth about these mythical figures?

In this week's Bucket Emptying episode, I answer a listener's question on this very topic. Tune in to find out my take on this age-old parenting predicament. 


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Stress-free Festive Holidays Stress-free Festive Holidays Wed, 13 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 23:31 801a7a72-afa5-4a92-89af-275155024618 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 132 It is aptly named the ‘silly season’ for a reason; all routine and rationale goes out the window. Unrealistic expectations and huge pressure to be one big happy of family can have us all pulling our hair out whether it's festive season or summer holidays. I'll share my five top tips to keep you sane.


Here are the highlights:

(3:00) Where are your flash points? 

(8:55) Have realistic expectations

(14:00) What’s your exit strategy?

(16:45) Try not to take things too seriously

(18:40) Have the difficult conversations in advance



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]]> It is aptly named the ‘silly season’ for a reason; all routine and rationale goes out the window. Unrealistic expectations and huge pressure to be one big happy of family can have us all pulling our hair out whether it's festive season or summer holidays. I'll share my five top tips to keep you sane.


Here are the highlights:

(3:00) Where are your flash points? 

(8:55) Have realistic expectations

(14:00) What’s your exit strategy?

(16:45) Try not to take things too seriously

(18:40) Have the difficult conversations in advance



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Much Screen Time? Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Much Screen Time? Sun, 10 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 11:14 9fc94f87-766d-4546-9ccf-1789fcac5dc3 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As a CEO of your family, you might be wondering how much screen time is appropriate for your children. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, you can guess I have an opinion. 

In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'll help you work out your child's 'big rocks' to start the calculation.



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]]> As a CEO of your family, you might be wondering how much screen time is appropriate for your children. While there is no one-size-fits-all answer, you can guess I have an opinion. 

In this week's Bucket Emptying episode I'll help you work out your child's 'big rocks' to start the calculation.



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Unmotivated Children!!! Unmotivated Children!!! Wed, 06 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 26:06 03610fc1-27cd-4643-a952-1e291a1a262b false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 131 Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead.


Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Mistakes and failure 

(4:45) Two types of motivation

(7:15) Three parental choices

(9:50) Setting standards and expectations

(14:00) Remember growth mindset

(17:45) Mastery goals matter, not performance goals

(20:35) Give children a sense of autonomy

(23:15) Challenge them just enough



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]]> Is it our responsibility to push our children so they achieve what they are capable of? Goodness knows where they'd end up if we didn't?!! I'll share why I think this approach is flawed and might actually back-fire. I'll also share what we should be doing instead.


Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Mistakes and failure 

(4:45) Two types of motivation

(7:15) Three parental choices

(9:50) Setting standards and expectations

(14:00) Remember growth mindset

(17:45) Mastery goals matter, not performance goals

(20:35) Give children a sense of autonomy

(23:15) Challenge them just enough



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parental guilt Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parental guilt Sun, 03 Dec 2023 23:30:00 GMT 8:55 a2a8978b-4f78-44f9-96ac-743fc1581d18 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 bucket-emptying-episode-parental-guilt full As a parent, guilt can often feel like an unavoidable part of the package. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, there are ways to manage parenting guilt. 

In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode I’ll share my top tips.


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]]> As a parent, guilt can often feel like an unavoidable part of the package. It can be overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be. In fact, there are ways to manage parenting guilt. 

In this week’s Bucket Emptying episode I’ll share my top tips.


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]]> Nutrition And Well-being Nutrition And Well-being Wed, 29 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 38:54 7607d250-cfaa-4412-967e-9f76bd707d94 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 130 We hear so much now about the importance of food and nutrition not only for our children’s physical health but also their emotional mental health. Lucinda shares her top tips and explains why ‘gut health’ is as important for children as it is for adults. You really are in for a treat!


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Importance of gut health for teens and tweens

(10:30) Lactobacillus is so important for neurotransmitters

(15:20) Eat the rainbow

(16:44) Zinc and the importance of breakfast

(27:48) Healthy snacks

(20:15) Children remember the emotional links to homemade food

(35:00) 3 quick wins



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> We hear so much now about the importance of food and nutrition not only for our children’s physical health but also their emotional mental health. Lucinda shares her top tips and explains why ‘gut health’ is as important for children as it is for adults. You really are in for a treat!


Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Importance of gut health for teens and tweens

(10:30) Lactobacillus is so important for neurotransmitters

(15:20) Eat the rainbow

(16:44) Zinc and the importance of breakfast

(27:48) Healthy snacks

(20:15) Children remember the emotional links to homemade food

(35:00) 3 quick wins



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Mealtime Management Bucket Emptying Episodes; Mealtime Management Sun, 26 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:16 77cb8644-8719-48f0-bae2-bfe3cb0cfc19 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ce9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all members of the family. 

Meals create not only an opportunity for our children to fuel their bodies, but time to connect with each other and learn great life skills.



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]]> Mealtime management is a crucial skill that can greatly impact the lives of all members of the family. 

Meals create not only an opportunity for our children to fuel their bodies, but time to connect with each other and learn great life skills.



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]]> Siblings; How To Create Harmony Siblings; How To Create Harmony Wed, 22 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 27:28 8322b2db-6df0-460c-9e50-780371a5dc6d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cea 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 129 A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn't just in how you deal with it in the moment it's in how your child sees themselves in your family.


Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family? 

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality



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]]> A must listen if you are struggling with sibling arguments and friction which is making life at home feel quite unbearable. The solution isn't just in how you deal with it in the moment it's in how your child sees themselves in your family.


Here are the highlights:

(1:25) Sibling rivalry is a natural part of family dynamics

(3:39) How does your child feel about themselves?

(5:31) What role does your child have within the family? 

(8:59) Birth order matters

(10:50) Do you find one child easier to parent?

(15:10) Don’t referee what you don’t see

(19:25) Don’t tell you children they must love each other

(22:21) Allocate time based on need, not equality



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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Supporting Children With An Alcoholic Spouse Bucket Emptying Episodes; Supporting Children With An Alcoholic Spouse Sun, 19 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 14:50 7e694cb6-be53-4215-941a-0c54641505e4 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ceb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Supporting children with an alcoholic spouse can be challenging, but there are steps you can take to help them cope wit this difficult situation.

This week's Bucket Emptying episode answers a listener question about this sensitive situation and I'll share my 3 tips.


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]]> Supporting children with an alcoholic spouse can be challenging, but there are steps you can take to help them cope wit this difficult situation.

This week's Bucket Emptying episode answers a listener question about this sensitive situation and I'll share my 3 tips.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Neurodiversity Behavioural Strategies Neurodiversity Behavioural Strategies Wed, 15 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 31:09 d7b02167-40a5-4d60-b286-bada7587f346 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cec 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 128 1 in 5 children are described as neurodivergent; affecting the way they experience, understand and interact with the world. I'll share the common characteristics neurodivergent children share - whether they present with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorder, or Dyslexia - and most importantly the best behavioural strategies to support them.


Here are the highlights:

(1:20) Neurodivergence context

(4:16) Characteristics of neurodivergence

(15:30) Be quick with descriptive praise 

(20:24) Keep instructions short and succinct

(22:04) Practice skills at home for social situations

(25:26) Teach consequences

(26:52) Remember there are strengths as well as challenges

(28:00) Help your child build their toolkit


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> 1 in 5 children are described as neurodivergent; affecting the way they experience, understand and interact with the world. I'll share the common characteristics neurodivergent children share - whether they present with Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder, Autistic Spectrum Disorder, or Dyslexia - and most importantly the best behavioural strategies to support them.


Here are the highlights:

(1:20) Neurodivergence context

(4:16) Characteristics of neurodivergence

(15:30) Be quick with descriptive praise 

(20:24) Keep instructions short and succinct

(22:04) Practice skills at home for social situations

(25:26) Teach consequences

(26:52) Remember there are strengths as well as challenges

(28:00) Help your child build their toolkit


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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Managing Change Bucket Emptying Episodes; Managing Change Sun, 12 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:15 f5c2b1f0-12aa-4523-88d8-418bf7c54d89 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453ced 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Managing change can be a challenging task for anyone, including children. However, with the right guidance and support, children can develop effective strategies to cope with, and adapt to change.

I'll share my tips to help.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Managing change can be a challenging task for anyone, including children. However, with the right guidance and support, children can develop effective strategies to cope with, and adapt to change.

I'll share my tips to help.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Personal Responsibility; The Key To Success Personal Responsibility; The Key To Success Wed, 08 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 26:06 36ffbc8d-4ddb-4f34-9931-1fc31fb5055f false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cee 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 127 Doing what you are told and taking responsibility are two very different things. We all want children who take ownership for their decisions - it's a life skill they will forever use. How we instil it in them can seem very elusive but it actually lies in the little day to day things. I'll share my top 7 tips which work regardless of your child's age.



Here are the highlights:

(3:30) Make your bed – a simple, but profound responsibility

(6:22) Encourage independence

(9:50) Provide bigger choices 

(13:30) Teach consequences and follow through

(16:24) Don’t rush to fix your children’s problems or emotions

(19:40) Set expectations

(23:00) Except they will fail


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025



DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Doing what you are told and taking responsibility are two very different things. We all want children who take ownership for their decisions - it's a life skill they will forever use. How we instil it in them can seem very elusive but it actually lies in the little day to day things. I'll share my top 7 tips which work regardless of your child's age.



Here are the highlights:

(3:30) Make your bed – a simple, but profound responsibility

(6:22) Encourage independence

(9:50) Provide bigger choices 

(13:30) Teach consequences and follow through

(16:24) Don’t rush to fix your children’s problems or emotions

(19:40) Set expectations

(23:00) Except they will fail


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; How Do We Manage Our Children's Homework?]]> Sun, 05 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 11:39 c18aab32-d50e-4539-86ae-d7ae8e4d73e9 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cef 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Homework. Does that word fill you with dread?


We often struggle to get our child to complete their homework, and sometimes end up doing it for them. I'll share my strategies on how to create a routine that prepares them for success.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Homework. Does that word fill you with dread?


We often struggle to get our child to complete their homework, and sometimes end up doing it for them. I'll share my strategies on how to create a routine that prepares them for success.


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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> When Tech Takes Over When Tech Takes Over Wed, 01 Nov 2023 23:30:00 GMT 25:39 277bc1d8-2bb9-46dd-9caf-7f7bb4f8876e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf0 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 126 This episode is for you if you are finding tech and its use has become totally out of control in your family. Whether that's teens permanently in bedrooms or constantly on games consoles. I'll share what you can do practically to move away from constant battles to a little more calm.





Here are the highlights:

(4:23) Accept you’re now on a journey

(6:00) You set the framework in your home

(7:58) Audit your own tech use 

(8:50) Understand your child/teen’s use of tech

(12.33) Start with the big rocks

(16:40) Shift parenting from monitoring to mentoring

(19:55) Help find new interests to run alongside tech

(22:18) Remember to work as a family

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]]> This episode is for you if you are finding tech and its use has become totally out of control in your family. Whether that's teens permanently in bedrooms or constantly on games consoles. I'll share what you can do practically to move away from constant battles to a little more calm.





Here are the highlights:

(4:23) Accept you’re now on a journey

(6:00) You set the framework in your home

(7:58) Audit your own tech use 

(8:50) Understand your child/teen’s use of tech

(12.33) Start with the big rocks

(16:40) Shift parenting from monitoring to mentoring

(19:55) Help find new interests to run alongside tech

(22:18) Remember to work as a family

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Juggling Work, Parenting & Other Responsibilities]]> Sun, 29 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:47 a9657cf5-6c1a-4886-8b58-f371592c464c false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf1 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of overwhelm. 

The struggle is real and in today's bucket emptying episode I'll share my tips to help you have a more balanced week.

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]]> As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of overwhelm. 

The struggle is real and in today's bucket emptying episode I'll share my tips to help you have a more balanced week.

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]]> Highly Sensitive Children?? Highly Sensitive Children?? Wed, 25 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:07 af8ce65e-caaa-4525-b924-b2884f241b52 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf2 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 125 I'll share my thoughts on this personality trait and what it means for children who we feel might be highly sensitive. There are always dangers in labelling children - least of all communicating their traits as fixed - so I will give you my honest advice on how best to navigate this new found knowledge.

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) Defining a highly sensitive person

(6:25) Let’s put this in context

(11:18) Please don’t label your child 

(14:45) Remember the brain is a muscle

(19:30) It’s just one trait

(21:13) Problem solve and encourage

(23:51) Descriptive praise

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]]> I'll share my thoughts on this personality trait and what it means for children who we feel might be highly sensitive. There are always dangers in labelling children - least of all communicating their traits as fixed - so I will give you my honest advice on how best to navigate this new found knowledge.

Here are the highlights:

(2:00) Defining a highly sensitive person

(6:25) Let’s put this in context

(11:18) Please don’t label your child 

(14:45) Remember the brain is a muscle

(19:30) It’s just one trait

(21:13) Problem solve and encourage

(23:51) Descriptive praise

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Cheerful Treats & Grumble Chores]]> Sun, 22 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 8:50 919e7467-df05-4837-a6fa-e03ffea4ead8 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf3 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Are you a parent struggling to keep your children motivated during school holidays?

Look no further! In this week's bucket emptying episode, I share my tips on how to turn grumble-inducing chores like food shopping, shoe shopping, and dentist visits into cheerful treats that your children will love.

This simple strategy helped me keep my kids motivated when they were young, and they can work for you too!

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]]> Are you a parent struggling to keep your children motivated during school holidays?

Look no further! In this week's bucket emptying episode, I share my tips on how to turn grumble-inducing chores like food shopping, shoe shopping, and dentist visits into cheerful treats that your children will love.

This simple strategy helped me keep my kids motivated when they were young, and they can work for you too!

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]]> Resilience Is What Matters Resilience Is What Matters Wed, 18 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 34:16 f106ad9d-0536-4404-b294-3d4844d4bb8b false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf4 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 124 Resilient children have an ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties, they remain flexible and adaptable to life’s challenges and bounce back from setbacks. A resilient person still experiences stress and big emotions - they simply respond to them differently than people who aren’t resilient. I'll share the 7 C's of resilience and how we can foster these at home.

Here are the highlights:

(0.45) Why does resilience matter?

(7:15) 7 C’s of resilience

(11:48) Competence can’t be acquired theoretically 

(16:07) Confidence grows by tackling challenges

(18:01) Connection strengthens our kid’s foundations

(22:24) Values underpin character

(24:26) Do they know their contribution is valued?

(26:19) Self-soothing fosters the ability to cope with big emotions

(29:07) Internal and external locus of control

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]]> Resilient children have an ability to withstand or recover quickly from difficulties, they remain flexible and adaptable to life’s challenges and bounce back from setbacks. A resilient person still experiences stress and big emotions - they simply respond to them differently than people who aren’t resilient. I'll share the 7 C's of resilience and how we can foster these at home.

Here are the highlights:

(0.45) Why does resilience matter?

(7:15) 7 C’s of resilience

(11:48) Competence can’t be acquired theoretically 

(16:07) Confidence grows by tackling challenges

(18:01) Connection strengthens our kid’s foundations

(22:24) Values underpin character

(24:26) Do they know their contribution is valued?

(26:19) Self-soothing fosters the ability to cope with big emotions

(29:07) Internal and external locus of control

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episode; When Should We Push Our Kids? Bucket Emptying Episode; When Should We Push Our Kids? Sun, 15 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:55 a2ed4fef-dc25-4edb-bb02-0525abb763e7 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf5 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As parents, we want our children to grow up and be the best version of themselves. However, it's important to remember that children need to be challenged, but not to the point where they crack under the pressure.


Finding the balance can be a delicate task. Let me talk you through my thoughts.


For more help with confidence listen to Episode 2: Confidence

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]]> As parents, we want our children to grow up and be the best version of themselves. However, it's important to remember that children need to be challenged, but not to the point where they crack under the pressure.


Finding the balance can be a delicate task. Let me talk you through my thoughts.


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]]> Conversations To Have With Boys Conversations To Have With Boys Wed, 11 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:00 1a4da4b7-43db-414e-91b0-d14099e46734 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf6 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 123 It’s not easy being a boy. Social expectations of masculinity are everywhere - don’t cry, be strong, keep your emotions in check! I’ll share the five conversations we should be having with our sons, nephews, godsons and male friends.

Here are the highlights:

(1:03) Birth-rate for boys is higher than girls

(3:00) Challenge male stereotypes

(6:55) Mental health is as important as physical health 

(13:15) Be conscious of confidence comparisons

(18:30) Risk-taking

(22:18) Communication is crucial

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]]> It’s not easy being a boy. Social expectations of masculinity are everywhere - don’t cry, be strong, keep your emotions in check! I’ll share the five conversations we should be having with our sons, nephews, godsons and male friends.

Here are the highlights:

(1:03) Birth-rate for boys is higher than girls

(3:00) Challenge male stereotypes

(6:55) Mental health is as important as physical health 

(13:15) Be conscious of confidence comparisons

(18:30) Risk-taking

(22:18) Communication is crucial

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help - My 4 Year Old Keeps Interrupting! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help - My 4 Year Old Keeps Interrupting! Sun, 08 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 9:15 c604410b-7009-4444-bac4-e3cb7b97ac96 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf7 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As parents, we all want our children to be bright and intelligent, but sometimes they can struggle with social etiquette. 


This week's listener's question raises a common issue: how to handle a child who won't stop interrupting despite being repeatedly told it's rude. While there's no one right answer, I’ll share some strategies that could be helpful.

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]]> As parents, we all want our children to be bright and intelligent, but sometimes they can struggle with social etiquette. 


This week's listener's question raises a common issue: how to handle a child who won't stop interrupting despite being repeatedly told it's rude. While there's no one right answer, I’ll share some strategies that could be helpful.

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]]> Managing Big Emotions Managing Big Emotions Wed, 04 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 24:55 5431294a-a964-4a34-a060-6a801bd0e616 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf8 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 122 We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) The 3 main reasons your child is having a meltdown

(4:19) Chronological and developmental age

(7:00) Don’t meet their fire with your own 

(13:34) Discussion after a period of calm

(16:30) Using a glitter jar to explain emotions

(22:00) Hand breathing strategy – use in times of calm first!

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]]> We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.

Here are the highlights:

(2:15) The 3 main reasons your child is having a meltdown

(4:19) Chronological and developmental age

(7:00) Don’t meet their fire with your own 

(13:34) Discussion after a period of calm

(16:30) Using a glitter jar to explain emotions

(22:00) Hand breathing strategy – use in times of calm first!

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; I've Caught My Teen Vaping]]> Sun, 01 Oct 2023 23:30:00 GMT 11:13 2e9bf86c-6062-4b4f-bddd-d3097f83d944 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cf9 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Are you a parent who recently discovered that your teen is vaping? You're not alone. In a recent listener question, a parent expressed concern over their teen's vaping habits. 

As a parent, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your teen about the dangers of vaping and why they are choosing to do it. 

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]]> Are you a parent who recently discovered that your teen is vaping? You're not alone. In a recent listener question, a parent expressed concern over their teen's vaping habits. 

As a parent, it's crucial to have an open and honest conversation with your teen about the dangers of vaping and why they are choosing to do it. 

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]]> Raising Confident Girls Raising Confident Girls Wed, 27 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:47 7a065671-9d37-489c-bd91-96ea091fb250 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cfa 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 121 There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hypervigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind 

(24:50) Praise bravery 

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]]> There are very real issues girls face growing up, which negatively impacts their resilience. Being a ‘good girl’ limits their potential. I’ll share my top tips for raising gutsy women who are not afraid to take chances.

Here are the highlights:

(2:20) Brain facts for context

(12:10) Language matters

(14:40) Be aware of confirmation bias & hypervigilance

(19:18) Shift the energy through action/movement

(22:30) Play tricks with the mind 

(24:50) Praise bravery 

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; My 3 year Old Won't Do What I Ask!]]> Sun, 24 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 12:15 b9109e73-8438-4235-9315-aac031da1916 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cfb 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Struggling with a toddler who won't listen can be a challenging experience for any parent.

A recent listener question asked for help with a 3-year-old who seems immune to traditional discipline methods like the naughty step and reward charts. If you're in the same boat, know that you're not alone! It can be tough to find the right approach that works for your child. Keep trying different methods and remember to stay patient and consistent.

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]]> Struggling with a toddler who won't listen can be a challenging experience for any parent.

A recent listener question asked for help with a 3-year-old who seems immune to traditional discipline methods like the naughty step and reward charts. If you're in the same boat, know that you're not alone! It can be tough to find the right approach that works for your child. Keep trying different methods and remember to stay patient and consistent.

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]]> My Parenting Journey My Parenting Journey Wed, 20 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 30:41 e2f6618f-f568-4e33-8d91-7cc01e1f4836 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cfc 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 120 Warning: This episode contains personal experience of child loss, childbirth and grief.

I thought it might be helpful to share my early parenting journey in as honest way as I can. As a heads up I am going to share experiences of loss and grief, which for some of you may trigger your own loss or grief. Go gently with yourself, and choose what is best for you - whether you listen or whether you skip this episode - be kind to where you are right now. 

Here are the highlights:

(2:50) I had no experience with children

(5:00) Setting the scene with my pregnancies

(7:35) First child lessons

(13:03) Context of my decisions

(16:15) I wish I hadn’t obsessed about my birth plan

(18:00) I wish I’d invested time in finding my tribe

(21:48) I wish I’d accepted ‘good enough’

(24:20) I wish I’d done the inner work

(27:00) I wish I’d taken time to take care of me

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]]> Warning: This episode contains personal experience of child loss, childbirth and grief.

I thought it might be helpful to share my early parenting journey in as honest way as I can. As a heads up I am going to share experiences of loss and grief, which for some of you may trigger your own loss or grief. Go gently with yourself, and choose what is best for you - whether you listen or whether you skip this episode - be kind to where you are right now. 

Here are the highlights:

(2:50) I had no experience with children

(5:00) Setting the scene with my pregnancies

(7:35) First child lessons

(13:03) Context of my decisions

(16:15) I wish I hadn’t obsessed about my birth plan

(18:00) I wish I’d invested time in finding my tribe

(21:48) I wish I’d accepted ‘good enough’

(24:20) I wish I’d done the inner work

(27:00) I wish I’d taken time to take care of me

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help My 8 Year Old Viewed Pornography! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help My 8 Year Old Viewed Pornography! Sun, 17 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:42 970efdf5-0b39-4cbd-9171-05558ced4d51 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cfd 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Warning: this episode briefly discusses types of pornography children may see online.

As parents, we never know when our children will be exposed to adult content. A listener's 8-year-old son had stumbled upon pornography whilst on a friend's phone.

I'll share my insights on how to approach this with your child, emphasising the importance of open communication and age-appropriate education. It's never too early to start these conversations and equip our children with the tools to navigate the digital world safely.

If you'd like more information about this topic listen to Ep 29: Why we need to talk to our kids about porn NOW!

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]]> Warning: this episode briefly discusses types of pornography children may see online.

As parents, we never know when our children will be exposed to adult content. A listener's 8-year-old son had stumbled upon pornography whilst on a friend's phone.

I'll share my insights on how to approach this with your child, emphasising the importance of open communication and age-appropriate education. It's never too early to start these conversations and equip our children with the tools to navigate the digital world safely.

If you'd like more information about this topic listen to Ep 29: Why we need to talk to our kids about porn NOW!

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]]> Self-Harm Self-Harm Wed, 13 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:29 4a8e9432-6ed8-4a43-b956-c81fc75c3278 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cfe 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 119 1 in 5 children aged between 10-18 years is self-harming and the numbers being admitted into hospital is rising - particularly in younger children. As parents what do we need to know about self-harm? What causes it and how we can help our children and teens if they self-harm?

Here are the highlights:

(1:15) What is self-harm?

(3:30) What are the signs to look out for?

(6:30) 1 in 5 children is initially self-harming

(7:55) Why do children and teens self-harm?

(13:20) What to do in the immediate and short-term

(21:00) Medium-term action points

(24:20) Look at the fundamental roots of why they have self-harmed

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]]> 1 in 5 children aged between 10-18 years is self-harming and the numbers being admitted into hospital is rising - particularly in younger children. As parents what do we need to know about self-harm? What causes it and how we can help our children and teens if they self-harm?

Here are the highlights:

(1:15) What is self-harm?

(3:30) What are the signs to look out for?

(6:30) 1 in 5 children is initially self-harming

(7:55) Why do children and teens self-harm?

(13:20) What to do in the immediate and short-term

(21:00) Medium-term action points

(24:20) Look at the fundamental roots of why they have self-harmed

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sleep Struggles Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sleep Struggles Sun, 10 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 11:39 12d34957-0f8b-4371-aa48-ffd6e2e99926 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453cff 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed. This episode responds to a listener question asking to how to help their child with sleep struggles.

If you need more support with this topic please also listen to Episode 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep




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]]> Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed. This episode responds to a listener question asking to how to help their child with sleep struggles.

If you need more support with this topic please also listen to Episode 5: Bedroom Routines and Sleep




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]]> Family Secrets Family Secrets Wed, 06 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 23:27 8a25fc4c-88f1-4473-a511-ad56726529de false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d00 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 118 Every family has a past which they want to shield their children from. It may be a relative with an addition, a past severe mental health issue, a criminal record or simply something you have not yet found the right way to talk to your children about. I will share my tips on if, when, and how we have these conversations with our children.

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Why it’s important to share family information

(6:45) Timing is everything

(7:50) Try to avoid it being a big conversation 

(12:30) Plan explanations in advance so you don't panic 

(15.45) Give you child time to process the information and encourage them to ask questions when they're ready

(19:00) Accept it's likely to open old wounds and everyone needs time to heal. Be kind to yourself!

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]]> Every family has a past which they want to shield their children from. It may be a relative with an addition, a past severe mental health issue, a criminal record or simply something you have not yet found the right way to talk to your children about. I will share my tips on if, when, and how we have these conversations with our children.

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Why it’s important to share family information

(6:45) Timing is everything

(7:50) Try to avoid it being a big conversation 

(12:30) Plan explanations in advance so you don't panic 

(15.45) Give you child time to process the information and encourage them to ask questions when they're ready

(19:00) Accept it's likely to open old wounds and everyone needs time to heal. Be kind to yourself!

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parenting Styles Bucket Emptying Episodes; Parenting Styles Sun, 03 Sep 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:43 f0ec81e4-4ec5-4152-b900-2bd4f1f3b167 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d01 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full One of the major contributors to filling our bucket is challenges around parenting with our partners. The biggest problem can be when we have different parenting styles to others involved in raising our children. 

Do you know your parenting style? Find out in the accompanying resource.


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]]> One of the major contributors to filling our bucket is challenges around parenting with our partners. The biggest problem can be when we have different parenting styles to others involved in raising our children. 

Do you know your parenting style? Find out in the accompanying resource.


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]]> My Daughter and Neurodiversity My Daughter and Neurodiversity Wed, 30 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 40:58 13ec120c-741f-4d27-8906-c68fdb4da84f false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d02 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 117 A very candid and honest conversation with my daughter about her neurodiversity. She opens up about feeling different to her friends from an early age - they seemed to play very differently. She shares why a diagnosis helped her know herself, her experience of medication, and how she's navigating life day to day. There are also come parenting do's and don'ts.

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Catherine shares her experiences pre-diagnosis

(10:01) Let’s talk about the diagnosis

(14:30) Helping parents understand how they may trigger anxiety

(28:00) Social anxiety

(33:20) Help your child celebrate their strengths and skills

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]]> A very candid and honest conversation with my daughter about her neurodiversity. She opens up about feeling different to her friends from an early age - they seemed to play very differently. She shares why a diagnosis helped her know herself, her experience of medication, and how she's navigating life day to day. There are also come parenting do's and don'ts.

Here are the highlights:

(2:30) Catherine shares her experiences pre-diagnosis

(10:01) Let’s talk about the diagnosis

(14:30) Helping parents understand how they may trigger anxiety

(28:00) Social anxiety

(33:20) Help your child celebrate their strengths and skills

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Gratitude Bucket Emptying Episodes; Gratitude Sun, 27 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 9:02 dc1133ed-f711-4c5f-9ae5-ca0833c7bea4 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d03 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Daily gratitude will help empty your bucket!

There is mounting evidence that the practice of gratitude not only makes us feel happier, but it also increases resilience, self-esteem, improves self-control and mental health. 

It’s even better if you write it down. You can purchase your Shine Planner here or a gratitude journal here  

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]]> Daily gratitude will help empty your bucket!

There is mounting evidence that the practice of gratitude not only makes us feel happier, but it also increases resilience, self-esteem, improves self-control and mental health. 

It’s even better if you write it down. You can purchase your Shine Planner here or a gratitude journal here  

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]]> Back To School Back To School Wed, 23 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:04 d8d313e7-574e-42f6-9672-871c583f2436 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d04 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 116 I'm talking “Back to School’ and how we can prepare our children and teens to go back to school, start school for the first time, transition to junior school, senior school, boarding school or university.

Whether you are listening to this before you child starts school or is well into the school term, the principles I share are helpful at any point in time when you need to reset patterns of being and behaviour which aren’t optimal for school and getting the best out of school and education. 

Here are the highlights:

(00:49) Creating the right habits

(04:29) Tailor a back to school plan for your child

(09:03) Sleeping patterns go out of the window during holidays

(14:45) Cultivating curiosoty through reading

(19:05) How to deal with back to school anxiety

(21:30) Maintain good social connections during school breaks

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]]> I'm talking “Back to School’ and how we can prepare our children and teens to go back to school, start school for the first time, transition to junior school, senior school, boarding school or university.

Whether you are listening to this before you child starts school or is well into the school term, the principles I share are helpful at any point in time when you need to reset patterns of being and behaviour which aren’t optimal for school and getting the best out of school and education. 

Here are the highlights:

(00:49) Creating the right habits

(04:29) Tailor a back to school plan for your child

(09:03) Sleeping patterns go out of the window during holidays

(14:45) Cultivating curiosoty through reading

(19:05) How to deal with back to school anxiety

(21:30) Maintain good social connections during school breaks

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help - My 6 year Old Wants A Mobile Phone! Bucket Emptying Episodes; Help - My 6 year Old Wants A Mobile Phone! Sun, 20 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:46 e1e7a4fb-bd83-4758-8472-97fbab24e572 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d05 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This week's bucket emptying episode addresses a common question: should 6-year-olds have phones? As a parent, I understand the temptation to give in to our children's requests, but in this case, it's important to consider the reasons behind it. In this episode, we explain why we believe that 6-year-olds do not need phones. Tune in to find out more!

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]]> This week's bucket emptying episode addresses a common question: should 6-year-olds have phones? As a parent, I understand the temptation to give in to our children's requests, but in this case, it's important to consider the reasons behind it. In this episode, we explain why we believe that 6-year-olds do not need phones. Tune in to find out more!

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]]> Unhelpful Statements About Parenting! Unhelpful Statements About Parenting! Wed, 16 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 27:39 4ed13de9-0247-43dd-8cb0-6217dcc0ca88 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d06 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 115 Everyone's got an opinion about parenting. The most irritating ones are the naive comments made by people who aren't parents themselves! At the least they are an irritant at their worst they are damaging to our wellbeing. Join me as I rant a little - then offer you some (hopefully) wise words to navigate more peacefully through them.

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) Parenting is one of the hardest things we’ll do

(3:40) Naïve conversations about parenting

(5:30) Gender stereotypes are harmful

(9:43) We have more than 18 summers with our children!

(15:14) Stay connected to what you know is true

(17:55) Give yourself permission to feel emotions

(22:07) Connect with your tribe

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]]> Everyone's got an opinion about parenting. The most irritating ones are the naive comments made by people who aren't parents themselves! At the least they are an irritant at their worst they are damaging to our wellbeing. Join me as I rant a little - then offer you some (hopefully) wise words to navigate more peacefully through them.

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) Parenting is one of the hardest things we’ll do

(3:40) Naïve conversations about parenting

(5:30) Gender stereotypes are harmful

(9:43) We have more than 18 summers with our children!

(15:14) Stay connected to what you know is true

(17:55) Give yourself permission to feel emotions

(22:07) Connect with your tribe

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; My child Won't Eat]]> Sun, 13 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 9:27 2899d0af-558a-427a-b38b-b1560492125a false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d07 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia?

Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.

If your child struggles with eating you might find these additional episodes helpful:

Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller

Ep 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller

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]]> Battles with our children at mealtimes can create stressful family situations. It’s helpful to identify why your child won’t eat, is it texture, specific food types or a phobia?

Please trust your gut instinct as a parent and if you are concerned, please consult your GP for medical advice.

If your child struggles with eating you might find these additional episodes helpful:

Ep 9: The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller

Ep 96: Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller

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]]> Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage Wed, 09 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 20:47 3180978a-9de9-4aed-864a-8dc1acbff45b false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d08 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 114 I published this first episode about Anxiety in June 2021, and it has been hugely popular. I've recently had lots of requests for help around anxiety, so thought it was a great time to republish it. As they say 'repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment!'

Even if you listened back in 2021, I think you'll find it useful to listen again, especially if your child is currently struggling with anxiety.

In the episode I talk about what anxiety is, how you might know your child is struggling with anxiety, and what can you start doing now to help.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:29) The scale of mental health issues

(3:52) Imagine a seesaw

(7:05) Think about it from your child’s perspective

(9:00) The physical effects of anxiety

(12:53) Managing the internal dialogue

(14:57) The common signs of anxiety

Listen to Ep 10: Anxiety (Part 2)

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]]> I published this first episode about Anxiety in June 2021, and it has been hugely popular. I've recently had lots of requests for help around anxiety, so thought it was a great time to republish it. As they say 'repetition is the mother of learning, the father of action, which makes it the architect of accomplishment!'

Even if you listened back in 2021, I think you'll find it useful to listen again, especially if your child is currently struggling with anxiety.

In the episode I talk about what anxiety is, how you might know your child is struggling with anxiety, and what can you start doing now to help.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:29) The scale of mental health issues

(3:52) Imagine a seesaw

(7:05) Think about it from your child’s perspective

(9:00) The physical effects of anxiety

(12:53) Managing the internal dialogue

(14:57) The common signs of anxiety

Listen to Ep 10: Anxiety (Part 2)

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sunday Planning Bucket Emptying Episodes; Sunday Planning Sun, 06 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:06 ac7accb0-339d-484d-8610-1a05b721b5f5 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d09 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full One of the most important things we can do as parents is spend some time as a family, each week, taking time to check in and see what’s working and what we need to adjust going forward.

Did you have a family planning meeting this week? 

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]]> One of the most important things we can do as parents is spend some time as a family, each week, taking time to check in and see what’s working and what we need to adjust going forward.

Did you have a family planning meeting this week? 

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]]> Summer Readiness Summer Readiness Wed, 02 Aug 2023 23:30:00 GMT 28:18 eb6d315c-c4af-48f7-a145-b6e254b24a99 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d0a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 113 How can we use a chunk of time - usually the summer, but not always - to work on readying our child for something? This might be a school / nursery start, a transition, or simply learning to be independent and confident. I share my top five tips and a free resource to help you get your child on board.

Here are the highlights: 

(3:10) Work with the end in mind

(6:40) Focus on the overall skills that your child is learning rather than the specific task

(14:43) Be creative in how your child may show those skills

(18:45) Involve your child by using the Ladder Resource

(21:20) Remember growth mindset!

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]]> How can we use a chunk of time - usually the summer, but not always - to work on readying our child for something? This might be a school / nursery start, a transition, or simply learning to be independent and confident. I share my top five tips and a free resource to help you get your child on board.

Here are the highlights: 

(3:10) Work with the end in mind

(6:40) Focus on the overall skills that your child is learning rather than the specific task

(14:43) Be creative in how your child may show those skills

(18:45) Involve your child by using the Ladder Resource

(21:20) Remember growth mindset!

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Why Does My Child Keep Saying No? Bucket Emptying Episodes; Why Does My Child Keep Saying No? Sun, 30 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 8:38 e53855c5-0248-43c3-9422-2a4e10b60a8d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d0b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full We simply ask our child to do something and repeatedly get the answer… No! It can be incredibly frustrating.

We know our children naturally go phases of saying no, but what can we do to help minimise the repeated no answer? 

I’ll talk you through a few quick strategies which should help, whatever the age of your child.

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]]> We simply ask our child to do something and repeatedly get the answer… No! It can be incredibly frustrating.

We know our children naturally go phases of saying no, but what can we do to help minimise the repeated no answer? 

I’ll talk you through a few quick strategies which should help, whatever the age of your child.

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]]> Everyone Else Is... Everyone Else Is... Wed, 26 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 32:29 7f58cf4d-14f6-4d4b-81b0-2297adb443de false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d0c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 112 Whether it's your child pulling the age old nag "everyone else is / has", or you get caught in the parental comparison that "everyone else is, so maybe we should" I'll help you navigate this minefield from both sides.

Here are the highlights: 

(3:10) Understand that the request comes from wanting to fit in

(6:40) Acknowledge what the request means to your child

(8:36) Avoid lecturing!

(10:50) Focus your response around ‘every family is different’

(17:08) Consider an allowance

(22:30) Draw yourself back to the uniqueness of your child

(26:30) Give yourself 48 hours

(26:50) Ask yourself lots of ‘why’ questions

(28:50) Reconnect with your family values

(29:30) Connect with your tribe

Previous episode mentioned:

Ep 55: 6 Essential Skills Your Children Need You to Teach Them

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]]> Whether it's your child pulling the age old nag "everyone else is / has", or you get caught in the parental comparison that "everyone else is, so maybe we should" I'll help you navigate this minefield from both sides.

Here are the highlights: 

(3:10) Understand that the request comes from wanting to fit in

(6:40) Acknowledge what the request means to your child

(8:36) Avoid lecturing!

(10:50) Focus your response around ‘every family is different’

(17:08) Consider an allowance

(22:30) Draw yourself back to the uniqueness of your child

(26:30) Give yourself 48 hours

(26:50) Ask yourself lots of ‘why’ questions

(28:50) Reconnect with your family values

(29:30) Connect with your tribe

Previous episode mentioned:

Ep 55: 6 Essential Skills Your Children Need You to Teach Them

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Morning Routines Bucket Emptying Episodes; Morning Routines Sun, 23 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 11:53 11ef474d-ff06-4ab3-bd0c-a654b312c5c3 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d0d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges, so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?

A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting.

I challenge you to try my SHINE Daily Practice for one week! Let me know the difference you notice at contact@drmaryhan.com

You can purchase your own SHINE planner at https://drmaryhan.com/books/

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]]> As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges, so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?

A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting.

I challenge you to try my SHINE Daily Practice for one week! Let me know the difference you notice at contact@drmaryhan.com

You can purchase your own SHINE planner at https://drmaryhan.com/books/

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]]> Battles Over Different Parenting Styles Battles Over Different Parenting Styles Wed, 19 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 27:54 b26f1da3-a957-4b8e-b355-b933b76ed25c false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d0e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 111 What can we do when we find our parenting varies so drastically from our partners that's it’s causing real issues at home - impacting our children, our relationship and making family life feel like a battleground??


Here are the highlights: 

(2:30) Not minor disagreements, but core values 

(5:00) Parenting is a reflection of what is happening in your entire life, not just your role as a parent

(11:22) Is your relationship sound?

(15:25) Never undermine your partner’s parenting in the moment, unless…

(19:30) Don’t avoid the difficult conversations with your partner

(23:12) Have faith in your ability to work it out

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]]> What can we do when we find our parenting varies so drastically from our partners that's it’s causing real issues at home - impacting our children, our relationship and making family life feel like a battleground??


Here are the highlights: 

(2:30) Not minor disagreements, but core values 

(5:00) Parenting is a reflection of what is happening in your entire life, not just your role as a parent

(11:22) Is your relationship sound?

(15:25) Never undermine your partner’s parenting in the moment, unless…

(19:30) Don’t avoid the difficult conversations with your partner

(23:12) Have faith in your ability to work it out

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Kissing Relatives Bucket Emptying Episodes; Kissing Relatives Sun, 16 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 9:14 d2c9c1a5-5a75-4ab2-9106-d6e7c0382460 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d0f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full "Kiss you Grandma Oliver, there's a good boy" 

"No, I don't want to!!" 

Sound familiar? 

We can get caught in the middle between wanting to support our children, but also trying to keep our own parents happy. Join me as I share my strategies, and why it’s so important we support our children with the decisions they make about consent.

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]]> "Kiss you Grandma Oliver, there's a good boy" 

"No, I don't want to!!" 

Sound familiar? 

We can get caught in the middle between wanting to support our children, but also trying to keep our own parents happy. Join me as I share my strategies, and why it’s so important we support our children with the decisions they make about consent.

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]]> I Hate You!!! I Hate You!!! Wed, 12 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 27:22 28714920-035c-4105-88cb-9dbbe43c182d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d10 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 110 These three heartbreaking words elicits one of two responses from us - deep hurt, or anger at their ungrateful rudeness!!! I'll explain why our children and teens throw this at us and how best to respond - not only in the moment, but in longer term.

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) We’re not meant to be their best friend

(4.50) Try to stay compassionate and balanced 

(8:45} Please don’t panic

(10:18} Take a moment if you can

(15:35) Acknowledge they’re experiencing a big feeling

(17:30) Deal with it in a way that is appropriate to their development stage (not biological age)

(23:00) What’s at the root of the big feeling?

Previous episodes mentioned in episode 110:

Ep 1: Managing Emotions

Ep 89: Social & Emotional Development

Ep 90: Mum Guilt

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]]> These three heartbreaking words elicits one of two responses from us - deep hurt, or anger at their ungrateful rudeness!!! I'll explain why our children and teens throw this at us and how best to respond - not only in the moment, but in longer term.

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) We’re not meant to be their best friend

(4.50) Try to stay compassionate and balanced 

(8:45} Please don’t panic

(10:18} Take a moment if you can

(15:35) Acknowledge they’re experiencing a big feeling

(17:30) Deal with it in a way that is appropriate to their development stage (not biological age)

(23:00) What’s at the root of the big feeling?

Previous episodes mentioned in episode 110:

Ep 1: Managing Emotions

Ep 89: Social & Emotional Development

Ep 90: Mum Guilt

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Guilt & Judgement Part 2]]> Sun, 09 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 9:39 a4c13bb2-5530-4ec4-a3b0-cbab27249290 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d11 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full Before you listen to this episode you need to listen to Part 1. Have you?

Great, you've listened to the episode on guilt, now I’ll talk about judgement. 

We all feel judged as parents. By other parents, by friends and parents of our children's friends, as well as our own internal judgement, and the comparisons we make with the parenting influencers and high-profile mummies on social media. 

It's everywhere!! Do you ever feel judged as a parent? 






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]]> Before you listen to this episode you need to listen to Part 1. Have you?

Great, you've listened to the episode on guilt, now I’ll talk about judgement. 

We all feel judged as parents. By other parents, by friends and parents of our children's friends, as well as our own internal judgement, and the comparisons we make with the parenting influencers and high-profile mummies on social media. 

It's everywhere!! Do you ever feel judged as a parent? 






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]]> Generosity Is A Habit Generosity Is A Habit Thu, 06 Jul 2023 07:00:00 GMT 28:42 880b61a6-24a2-44ff-989a-f771e8d9f417 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d12 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 109 How can we cultivate generosity within our children and an understanding of how privileged they are? I'll share the three common things we do which don't work, and my top five tips for encouraging generosity, so we don't have to nag about how lucky they are!

Here are the highlights: 

{1:00} What is generosity?

{3:30} Three things we shouldn’t do… 

{10:40} Don’t wait for entitlement to show itself

{11:30} Model generosity graciously

{13:47} Privilege in the context of fairness

{16:45} Encourage volunteering

{21:45} Importance of giving

{24:45} Practice gratitude daily

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]]> How can we cultivate generosity within our children and an understanding of how privileged they are? I'll share the three common things we do which don't work, and my top five tips for encouraging generosity, so we don't have to nag about how lucky they are!

Here are the highlights: 

{1:00} What is generosity?

{3:30} Three things we shouldn’t do… 

{10:40} Don’t wait for entitlement to show itself

{11:30} Model generosity graciously

{13:47} Privilege in the context of fairness

{16:45} Encourage volunteering

{21:45} Importance of giving

{24:45} Practice gratitude daily

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]]> <![CDATA[Bucket Emptying Episodes; Guilt & Judgement Part 1]]> Sun, 02 Jul 2023 23:30:00 GMT 10:34 1d998406-72cb-45cf-9d38-378cfc32a068 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d13 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This episode is personal as I discuss the guilt and judgement we experience as parents, and specifically mothers. In fact it means so much to me that we had to split the recording into 2 episodes. This is Part 1 discussing guilt.

I wanted to record an episode about the guilt and judgement we feel as parents, especially mothers.

In fact it's a topic I feel so strongly about that we had to split the recording into 2 episodes as I share some of my personal experiences. I think that guilt comes with parenting in one package when we become parents.

So, here's Part 1 where I talk about guilt.

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]]> This episode is personal as I discuss the guilt and judgement we experience as parents, and specifically mothers. In fact it means so much to me that we had to split the recording into 2 episodes. This is Part 1 discussing guilt.

I wanted to record an episode about the guilt and judgement we feel as parents, especially mothers.

In fact it's a topic I feel so strongly about that we had to split the recording into 2 episodes as I share some of my personal experiences. I think that guilt comes with parenting in one package when we become parents.

So, here's Part 1 where I talk about guilt.

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]]> How to Be Your Best Self Online with Natasha Devon MBE How to Be Your Best Self Online with Natasha Devon MBE Wed, 28 Jun 2023 23:30:00 GMT 47:36 a1c81269-cfe2-4b24-b795-69b42cc29b43 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d14 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 108 Natasha Devon MBE is a writer, presenter & activist. She tours schools, universities and events delivering talks as well as conducting research on mental health, body image, gender & equality. You’re in for a real treat as we discuss her latest book ‘Clicks: How to be your best self online”.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:00} Universal mental health challenges

{9:48} What affects mental health 

{15:15} Don’t assume – ask lots of questions

{17:58} Get your child to teach you

{28:56} How to support our children

{32:35} Helping your child curate their feed

{37:25} social media isn’t going anywhere

{42:46} Parents can subtly reinforce gender behaviours

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]]> Natasha Devon MBE is a writer, presenter & activist. She tours schools, universities and events delivering talks as well as conducting research on mental health, body image, gender & equality. You’re in for a real treat as we discuss her latest book ‘Clicks: How to be your best self online”.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:00} Universal mental health challenges

{9:48} What affects mental health 

{15:15} Don’t assume – ask lots of questions

{17:58} Get your child to teach you

{28:56} How to support our children

{32:35} Helping your child curate their feed

{37:25} social media isn’t going anywhere

{42:46} Parents can subtly reinforce gender behaviours

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]]> Bucket Emptying Episodes; Separation Bucket Emptying Episodes; Separation Sun, 25 Jun 2023 23:30:00 GMT 9:35 61931d33-ec3f-45e9-9725-91dddf7bc996 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d15 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about.

"How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"

In this episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.

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]]> This episode responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about.

"How can I make separations easier for my child, for instance when being dropped at school, friends etc?"

In this episode I’ll explain separation anxiety and share strategies to support you, and your child understand why it is happening and to manage the situation.

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]]> Sibling Harmony Sibling Harmony Wed, 21 Jun 2023 23:30:00 GMT 26:25 018cf15b-496d-4b3c-8acd-1c1fdb4acb8a false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d16 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 107 This episode is about how you can achieve sibling harmony.

Now let me start by being totally honest and upfront – sibling rivalry, disagreements and fall outs are normal. Your children will want to kill each other at times and really dislike each other most of the rest of the time – and that’s normal, you aren’t a bad parent, we don’t all get along with everyone!

However, there are things we do as parents which can make the situation worse, which we need to stop doing, and there are strategies we can employ to help give our children the tools to manage difference.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:25} Sibling arguments are normal

{5:25} Comparisons

{8:25} Siblings won’t necessarily like each other

{12:10} Don’t referee what you don’t see

{19:27} Children are entitled to get annoyed or jealous 

{21:50} Children measure time differently and may feel marginalised

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]]> This episode is about how you can achieve sibling harmony.

Now let me start by being totally honest and upfront – sibling rivalry, disagreements and fall outs are normal. Your children will want to kill each other at times and really dislike each other most of the rest of the time – and that’s normal, you aren’t a bad parent, we don’t all get along with everyone!

However, there are things we do as parents which can make the situation worse, which we need to stop doing, and there are strategies we can employ to help give our children the tools to manage difference.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:25} Sibling arguments are normal

{5:25} Comparisons

{8:25} Siblings won’t necessarily like each other

{12:10} Don’t referee what you don’t see

{19:27} Children are entitled to get annoyed or jealous 

{21:50} Children measure time differently and may feel marginalised

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]]> The Bucket Emptying Episodes; The Bucket The Bucket Emptying Episodes; The Bucket Sun, 18 Jun 2023 23:32:00 GMT 7:15 28d5bdc6-f7ef-4717-a3b5-73f2cbb1ff14 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d17 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full All we see if the huge emotional explosion when we ask our child to put their toys away, but their bucket is already full from their day's experiences. What is the bucket and how can we empty it?

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]]> All we see if the huge emotional explosion when we ask our child to put their toys away, but their bucket is already full from their day's experiences. What is the bucket and how can we empty it?

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]]> The Bucket Emptying Episodes; Introduction The Bucket Emptying Episodes; Introduction Sun, 18 Jun 2023 23:30:00 GMT 2:15 390a4b2f-5b9a-41bc-9b25-0b4e4f293e2b false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d18 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full This is the first of my new bitesize Bucket Emptying episodes. You’ll find shorter 5-10 minute episodes released each Monday sharing my top tips and answers to your questions, all focusing on emptying your bucket!

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]]> This is the first of my new bitesize Bucket Emptying episodes. You’ll find shorter 5-10 minute episodes released each Monday sharing my top tips and answers to your questions, all focusing on emptying your bucket!

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]]> Rise Strong Rise Strong Wed, 14 Jun 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:09 d4bea60d-e25b-427e-9d4f-4e165fb8963d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d19 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 106 Here are the highlights:

Regulate emotions (4:00)

Input matters (8:11)

Sleep (9:26)

Exercise daily (13:36)

Silence (16:34)

Toxins impact thinking (19:40)

Reflective practice (21:20)

Opportunities for growth (22:40)

Novelty fires neurons (24:42)

Gratitude practice (24:00)

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]]> Here are the highlights:

Regulate emotions (4:00)

Input matters (8:11)

Sleep (9:26)

Exercise daily (13:36)

Silence (16:34)

Toxins impact thinking (19:40)

Reflective practice (21:20)

Opportunities for growth (22:40)

Novelty fires neurons (24:42)

Gratitude practice (24:00)

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]]> One Moment Could Make All The Difference One Moment Could Make All The Difference Wed, 07 Jun 2023 23:30:00 GMT 28:09 e3e55e07-3e91-436f-a9a4-9c0e97dbf2d8 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d1a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 105 Children want to talk at the most inopportune of moments, and there is a reason why they do this. If we lean into those moments we could significantly improve their emotional wellbeing and safeguard them from mental health issues.



Here are the highlights:

(3:26) Moments can make all the difference

(8:35) Why does it matter?

(10:01) Every interaction leaves a trace

(13:37) Create connection

(17:58) Lean in

(19:55) Listen to fully understand

(23:16) Learn

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]]> Children want to talk at the most inopportune of moments, and there is a reason why they do this. If we lean into those moments we could significantly improve their emotional wellbeing and safeguard them from mental health issues.



Here are the highlights:

(3:26) Moments can make all the difference

(8:35) Why does it matter?

(10:01) Every interaction leaves a trace

(13:37) Create connection

(17:58) Lean in

(19:55) Listen to fully understand

(23:16) Learn

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]]> Shy or Introverted?? Shy or Introverted?? Wed, 31 May 2023 23:30:00 GMT 23:43 2ba61376-bb18-4d65-a9ba-01d3cbfe982a false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d1b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 104 Being shy and being introverted aren't the same thing, although they may look the same. I'll help you understand which your child is, and how to best help them flourish more in social situations.



Here are the highlights:

(1:55) Difference between introvert and shy person

(3:00) A shy child

(6:02) An introverted child

(10:26) Get super clear on whether it’s shyness or introversion

(11:25) Do not label 

(14:37) Set up scaffolded social situations 

(18:31) Rehearse and role play

(20:45) Set small goals

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]]> Being shy and being introverted aren't the same thing, although they may look the same. I'll help you understand which your child is, and how to best help them flourish more in social situations.



Here are the highlights:

(1:55) Difference between introvert and shy person

(3:00) A shy child

(6:02) An introverted child

(10:26) Get super clear on whether it’s shyness or introversion

(11:25) Do not label 

(14:37) Set up scaffolded social situations 

(18:31) Rehearse and role play

(20:45) Set small goals

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]]> The Happiness Illusion The Happiness Illusion Wed, 24 May 2023 23:30:00 GMT 27:29 30096734-fa3e-4848-86c4-5512c22d232a false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d1c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 103 Is the pursuit of happiness for our children an illusion? Are we doing them a disservice making happiness our focus because it just isn't possible to feel that way all the time! Maybe we should be focusing on something else??

Here are the highlights:

(1:44) Why do we focus so much on happiness?

(4:08) We should be accepting of every emotion

(5:15) Don’t rush in to fix

(10:05) We need to regulate our own emotions in that moment

(15:06) How need to be emotional role models

(19:17) We need to empathise

(23:10) Don’t create a habit of trading feelings

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]]> Is the pursuit of happiness for our children an illusion? Are we doing them a disservice making happiness our focus because it just isn't possible to feel that way all the time! Maybe we should be focusing on something else??

Here are the highlights:

(1:44) Why do we focus so much on happiness?

(4:08) We should be accepting of every emotion

(5:15) Don’t rush in to fix

(10:05) We need to regulate our own emotions in that moment

(15:06) How need to be emotional role models

(19:17) We need to empathise

(23:10) Don’t create a habit of trading feelings

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]]> Is this just a phase??? Is this just a phase??? Wed, 17 May 2023 23:30:00 GMT 28:20 8dac9d37-ba88-41ac-b31b-128549a2a899 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d1d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 102 I’m talking about the question we all ask ourselves and each other. “Is my child’s behaviour a phase, or is it a more permanent issue which they might need help with, and how do I know the difference??" 

We know our children will naturally go through ages and stages as they go from baby to adult - I’m talking about whether there’s a way of knowing for sure

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) Is it an age or stage or do you need support?

(6:50) What else is going on in their life?

(12:09) Consistent scaffolding

(16:25) Has there been any regression in other areas?

(19:15) Are there accompanying changes in sleep, appetite or behaviour?

(22:09) Is the change in behaviour affecting their daily life?

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]]> I’m talking about the question we all ask ourselves and each other. “Is my child’s behaviour a phase, or is it a more permanent issue which they might need help with, and how do I know the difference??" 

We know our children will naturally go through ages and stages as they go from baby to adult - I’m talking about whether there’s a way of knowing for sure

Here are the highlights: 

(2:00) Is it an age or stage or do you need support?

(6:50) What else is going on in their life?

(12:09) Consistent scaffolding

(16:25) Has there been any regression in other areas?

(19:15) Are there accompanying changes in sleep, appetite or behaviour?

(22:09) Is the change in behaviour affecting their daily life?

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]]> Unplugging Our Children Unplugging Our Children Wed, 10 May 2023 23:30:00 GMT 26:18 634ecb4e-b154-4f96-a5bf-6b61af9ceba7 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d1e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 101 Is it really possible for us to help our children unplug on a regular basis?? Absolutely! We just need to know how. I will help you recognise when your child or teen needs to unplug, and ways we can create balance for our children and family.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:15) Is it possible to unplug children completely? 

(4:00) Patterns of behaviour that show your child needs to unplug

(6:21) Why is unplugging important?

(11:16) Tech has no place at mealtimes

(14:06) Tech has no place in bedrooms whilst sleeping

(17:10) No magic bullet

(19:53) Not a one hit wonder; have regular conversations

(21:19) It's about balance

(23:00) Role model

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]]> Is it really possible for us to help our children unplug on a regular basis?? Absolutely! We just need to know how. I will help you recognise when your child or teen needs to unplug, and ways we can create balance for our children and family.

Here are the highlights: 

(1:15) Is it possible to unplug children completely? 

(4:00) Patterns of behaviour that show your child needs to unplug

(6:21) Why is unplugging important?

(11:16) Tech has no place at mealtimes

(14:06) Tech has no place in bedrooms whilst sleeping

(17:10) No magic bullet

(19:53) Not a one hit wonder; have regular conversations

(21:19) It's about balance

(23:00) Role model

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]]> <![CDATA[Tests, Exams, Revision & stress]]> Wed, 03 May 2023 23:30:00 GMT 25:50 56a786f3-95fe-4529-8d58-2b8c734fe77b false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d1f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 100 How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand 

(03:00) Our role as parents

(4:00) Practical support

(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation

(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children

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]]> How can we help our children and teens when they are taking tests and exams? Whether they are lacking motivation and doing absolutely no work, or they are overworking and getting themselves super stressed. Understanding some basic principles is crucial. We can then step up to be the support they need, and they can step up and be their best.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:40) Revision should be a time our children refresh something they already understand 

(03:00) Our role as parents

(4:00) Practical support

(10:00) Reasons your child may lack motivation

(19:20) Self-care, especially for highly driven children

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Teen Friendships Teen Friendships Wed, 26 Apr 2023 23:30:00 GMT 31:42 7de3c5eb-f5e9-4dde-800b-7f4f86ef4152 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d20 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 99 Friendships can be hard at any time, however when you're also juggling a new school, raging hormones, and working out who you are it can feel like a whole new ball-game. I’ll share how we can support teens to build their friendships, how to spot an unhealthy friendship and ways we can support a shy / anxious teen to make friends. Whilst the focus is on the specific challenges teens face, the advice holds true for any age child.

Here are the highlights: 

(03:02) Keep the line of communication open 

(07:37) How to recognise the different types of friendship 

(12:37) An unhealthy or a toxic relationship? 

(21:38) Supporting a shy teenager 

(23:40) Internal back chat can be crippling 

(26:11) Help your children move forward 

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]]> Friendships can be hard at any time, however when you're also juggling a new school, raging hormones, and working out who you are it can feel like a whole new ball-game. I’ll share how we can support teens to build their friendships, how to spot an unhealthy friendship and ways we can support a shy / anxious teen to make friends. Whilst the focus is on the specific challenges teens face, the advice holds true for any age child.

Here are the highlights: 

(03:02) Keep the line of communication open 

(07:37) How to recognise the different types of friendship 

(12:37) An unhealthy or a toxic relationship? 

(21:38) Supporting a shy teenager 

(23:40) Internal back chat can be crippling 

(26:11) Help your children move forward 

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]]> <![CDATA[How to Sleep Better with The Sleep Mums' Cat & Sarah]]> Wed, 19 Apr 2023 23:30:00 GMT 39:18 3871d6bb-2204-4be8-8c05-a4ed39ef6fdb false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d21 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 98 Sleep and routines are probably the two biggest challenges we want answers to as parents regardless of how old our children are! Cat and Sarah's approach is refreshingly honest and super practical so you're in for a treat.

Listen to The Sleep Mums podcast

Buy the book 'Sleep Better Baby'


Here are the highlights: 

(02:45) Do you have a routine or not? 

(08:37) Every child has different needs 

(10:46) The difference between babies and children 

(15:11) Routine is like a crib sheet 

(17:44) Don’t get sucked into comparison 

(23:26) How to help older children settle 

(26:23) How to make sure you get enough sleep 

(32:11) Is there a difference between men and women’s sleep? 

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]]> Sleep and routines are probably the two biggest challenges we want answers to as parents regardless of how old our children are! Cat and Sarah's approach is refreshingly honest and super practical so you're in for a treat.

Listen to The Sleep Mums podcast

Buy the book 'Sleep Better Baby'


Here are the highlights: 

(02:45) Do you have a routine or not? 

(08:37) Every child has different needs 

(10:46) The difference between babies and children 

(15:11) Routine is like a crib sheet 

(17:44) Don’t get sucked into comparison 

(23:26) How to help older children settle 

(26:23) How to make sure you get enough sleep 

(32:11) Is there a difference between men and women’s sleep? 

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]]> We Still Need to Talk We Still Need to Talk Wed, 12 Apr 2023 23:30:00 GMT 32:13 cef0d923-0cb9-4089-aeed-a99f58b41a86 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d22 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 97 Repetition is the mother of all learning, which is why this week I'm revisiting an important past episode.

Today’s episode “We Still Need To Talk’ is all about how we can have meaningful conversations with our children and teens. You know what I mean - conversations which are two-sided, you learn more than you teach, and you feel a connection. Whether that’s talking about big things such as sex, boyfriends and worries or everyday conversations about using their voice, kindness, compassion.

These conversations are probably more important, more impactful, and more character building for our children than any other conversations we have.

Here are the highlights:

(01:07) Pick your moments

(04:00) Chronological vs developmental age

(07:06) You have got to listen!

(08:54) Communication isn’t just words

(12:21) Leave judgment at the door

(15:52) Show empathy

(18:39) Look for opportunities to avoid parenting hell!

(21:33) Whatever you do, do it consistently

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]]> Repetition is the mother of all learning, which is why this week I'm revisiting an important past episode.

Today’s episode “We Still Need To Talk’ is all about how we can have meaningful conversations with our children and teens. You know what I mean - conversations which are two-sided, you learn more than you teach, and you feel a connection. Whether that’s talking about big things such as sex, boyfriends and worries or everyday conversations about using their voice, kindness, compassion.

These conversations are probably more important, more impactful, and more character building for our children than any other conversations we have.

Here are the highlights:

(01:07) Pick your moments

(04:00) Chronological vs developmental age

(07:06) You have got to listen!

(08:54) Communication isn’t just words

(12:21) Leave judgment at the door

(15:52) Show empathy

(18:39) Look for opportunities to avoid parenting hell!

(21:33) Whatever you do, do it consistently

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller Nutrition for ADHD with Lucinda Miller Wed, 05 Apr 2023 23:30:00 GMT 35:50 398cd5c6-e5f5-4673-aa8a-82f16ef7e495 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d23 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 96 A conservative estimate states 3-5% of the worldwide population has ADHD. With numbers of children being diagnosed increasing, what can we do as parents if we suspect our child has ADD or ADHD? I am joined by the incredible Lucinda Miller who shares her 20 plus years experience supporting neurodiverse children using nutrition.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:23) A neurodivergent family 

(09:38) Genetics are the gun and your environment is the trigger 

(15:59) It’s all about the protein 

(18:35) The role of food in an ADHD diagnosis 

(21:13) Growth spurts, periods and puberty 

(27:05) Join Lucinda’s course 

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]]> A conservative estimate states 3-5% of the worldwide population has ADHD. With numbers of children being diagnosed increasing, what can we do as parents if we suspect our child has ADD or ADHD? I am joined by the incredible Lucinda Miller who shares her 20 plus years experience supporting neurodiverse children using nutrition.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:23) A neurodivergent family 

(09:38) Genetics are the gun and your environment is the trigger 

(15:59) It’s all about the protein 

(18:35) The role of food in an ADHD diagnosis 

(21:13) Growth spurts, periods and puberty 

(27:05) Join Lucinda’s course 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Glass children Glass children Wed, 29 Mar 2023 23:30:00 GMT 24:33 adcd2006-9a47-458d-bb86-b871adefa2b1 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d24 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 95 The hashtag 'glass child' has been trending on social platforms and refers to children growing up in home where a sibling requires a disproportionate amount of parental energy. Leaving them feeling as though we look right through them. What can we do as parents to avoid our children growing up and feeling they were 'glass children'?

Here are the highlights: 

(02:28) Don’t overplay the guilt 

(07:22) They might say they’re ok, but they’re not 

(12:19) Communication is crucial 

(14:42) Apportioning time based on need 

(17:22) How to support your glass children 

(19:15) The elephant in the room 

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> The hashtag 'glass child' has been trending on social platforms and refers to children growing up in home where a sibling requires a disproportionate amount of parental energy. Leaving them feeling as though we look right through them. What can we do as parents to avoid our children growing up and feeling they were 'glass children'?

Here are the highlights: 

(02:28) Don’t overplay the guilt 

(07:22) They might say they’re ok, but they’re not 

(12:19) Communication is crucial 

(14:42) Apportioning time based on need 

(17:22) How to support your glass children 

(19:15) The elephant in the room 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Attachment Theory Attachment Theory Wed, 22 Mar 2023 23:30:00 GMT 25:15 b1db258b-f167-4525-87ac-d72f134b8bb6 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d25 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 94 Attachment theory argues a child's early experiences creates a blueprint for all future relationships. Secure attachments are the result of emotionally sensitive parenting and the child feeling their emotional needs are met. So it's crucial for teaching emotional regulation, and how we achieve this isn't just what we do when our children are babies.

In this episode we go back to basics to help you understand what attachment theory is, how it can manifest in our children's actions and behaviour, and what we can do as parents to support our children.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:15) Why is attachment theory so important? 

(08:06) The Strange Situation 

(12:59) These behaviours are normal 

(18:34) Responding to our child’s emotional needs 

(20:35) Emotionally responsive vs emotionally sensitive 

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Attachment theory argues a child's early experiences creates a blueprint for all future relationships. Secure attachments are the result of emotionally sensitive parenting and the child feeling their emotional needs are met. So it's crucial for teaching emotional regulation, and how we achieve this isn't just what we do when our children are babies.

In this episode we go back to basics to help you understand what attachment theory is, how it can manifest in our children's actions and behaviour, and what we can do as parents to support our children.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:15) Why is attachment theory so important? 

(08:06) The Strange Situation 

(12:59) These behaviours are normal 

(18:34) Responding to our child’s emotional needs 

(20:35) Emotionally responsive vs emotionally sensitive 

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> I Can Do Difficult Things I Can Do Difficult Things Wed, 15 Mar 2023 23:30:00 GMT 35:17 7214b3f0-2853-475a-8e00-4a157904d084 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d26 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 93 Wouldn't it be amazing if our children and teens could conquer their fear of failing? So often they stop doing something or don't even try because they worry about not being good enough, being judged, not being accepted or looking silly. This episode is for all parents and educators who want to help their children or teens feel the fear and do it anyway!!

Here are the highlights: 

(02:20) Imagine a seesaw 

(07:23) Whats does success look like to our children? 

(09:39) Identify the internal chatter 

(17:13) Common symptoms of anxiety in children 

(22:19) Help our children build their ladder 

(29:15) Identify the root of the issue 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

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]]> Wouldn't it be amazing if our children and teens could conquer their fear of failing? So often they stop doing something or don't even try because they worry about not being good enough, being judged, not being accepted or looking silly. This episode is for all parents and educators who want to help their children or teens feel the fear and do it anyway!!

Here are the highlights: 

(02:20) Imagine a seesaw 

(07:23) Whats does success look like to our children? 

(09:39) Identify the internal chatter 

(17:13) Common symptoms of anxiety in children 

(22:19) Help our children build their ladder 

(29:15) Identify the root of the issue 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> The Best Bits The Best Bits Wed, 08 Mar 2023 23:30:00 GMT 33:13 e38b731d-d800-4d1d-9c8d-269ea5c7d878 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d27 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 92 They say 'repetition is the mother of all learning' so we've pulled together some of the best bits from my most downloaded episodes to help give you a little extra support, and a new booster resource.

Enjoy!

Here are the highlights: 

(01:33) Ep 001 - any attention is better than no attention 

(05:28) Ep 011 – needs over equality 

(08:55) Ep 027 – I've noticed that... 

(14:14) Ep 037 – I am the adult, do as I say 

(16:35) Ep 044 – no bad emotions 

(20:50) Ep 055 – small talk is an essential skill 

(24:37) Ep 060 – small opportunities make a big difference 

(26:04) Ep 072 – reframe the situation 

(29:44) Ep 084 – the power of ‘yet’ 

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]]> They say 'repetition is the mother of all learning' so we've pulled together some of the best bits from my most downloaded episodes to help give you a little extra support, and a new booster resource.

Enjoy!

Here are the highlights: 

(01:33) Ep 001 - any attention is better than no attention 

(05:28) Ep 011 – needs over equality 

(08:55) Ep 027 – I've noticed that... 

(14:14) Ep 037 – I am the adult, do as I say 

(16:35) Ep 044 – no bad emotions 

(20:50) Ep 055 – small talk is an essential skill 

(24:37) Ep 060 – small opportunities make a big difference 

(26:04) Ep 072 – reframe the situation 

(29:44) Ep 084 – the power of ‘yet’ 

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]]> Life Skills Every Child Needs to Learn Life Skills Every Child Needs to Learn Wed, 01 Mar 2023 23:30:00 GMT 29:31 33653ef7-b98c-46b2-aef8-74df18ecdc88 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d28 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 91 At some point our children will grow up and they will need to navigate adult challenges. They'll need to get a job, or start a business, manage their finances, cook, clean, learn to manage conflict, plan, prioritise, and so on and so on.

What are the skills they will need, and how can we better prepare them in childhood so we’re not leaving all the learning until adulthood?

Here are the highlights: 

(02:34) Striking up conversations with strangers 

(04:49) Building confidence in small steps 

(09:56) Making beds, laying tables and cooking meals 

(17:19) The lost art of the handwritten letter 

(20:17) How to answer a landline phone 

(25:36) The importance of life skills for children 

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]]> At some point our children will grow up and they will need to navigate adult challenges. They'll need to get a job, or start a business, manage their finances, cook, clean, learn to manage conflict, plan, prioritise, and so on and so on.

What are the skills they will need, and how can we better prepare them in childhood so we’re not leaving all the learning until adulthood?

Here are the highlights: 

(02:34) Striking up conversations with strangers 

(04:49) Building confidence in small steps 

(09:56) Making beds, laying tables and cooking meals 

(17:19) The lost art of the handwritten letter 

(20:17) How to answer a landline phone 

(25:36) The importance of life skills for children 

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]]> Mum Guilt Mum Guilt Wed, 22 Feb 2023 23:30:00 GMT 30:50 98cb3771-e27b-4374-839f-3831b504d491 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d29 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 90 This episode addresses what I feel gets stamped on our foreheads the moment we become parents. Guilt. 

This guilt comes from the stories we tell ourselves about what it means to be a good mum, so, what are the stories you are really telling yourself and how are they currently serving you??

Plus, I answer a question from one of my listeners, who wants to know what to do about toys in the bedroom!

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) Listener question: toys in the bedroom 

(05:11) The geography of parenting has changed 

(07:31) What is mum guilt? 

(15:15) What you do versus what you advise your friends 

(18:14) How is your current behaviour serving you? 

(23:26) Trusting your instincts 

(26:21) Find a support group for your mum guilt 

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]]> This episode addresses what I feel gets stamped on our foreheads the moment we become parents. Guilt. 

This guilt comes from the stories we tell ourselves about what it means to be a good mum, so, what are the stories you are really telling yourself and how are they currently serving you??

Plus, I answer a question from one of my listeners, who wants to know what to do about toys in the bedroom!

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) Listener question: toys in the bedroom 

(05:11) The geography of parenting has changed 

(07:31) What is mum guilt? 

(15:15) What you do versus what you advise your friends 

(18:14) How is your current behaviour serving you? 

(23:26) Trusting your instincts 

(26:21) Find a support group for your mum guilt 

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]]> <![CDATA[Social & Emotional Development]]> Wed, 15 Feb 2023 23:30:00 GMT 35:59 345b8130-0188-41aa-9e08-9c9b2eed43ad false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d2a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 89 Social and emotional development is made up of skills which help children develop their resilience and manage their thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

For me, they are the crucial components to safeguarding our children's long term wellbeing.

It’s no guarantee they won’t struggle with their mental health later in life - but it does mean they’ll be better equipped to navigate any future crisis.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:41) The biggest factors to our child’s development 

(04:38) Helping our children manage healthy relationships 

(08:31) Building resilience, self-esteem and confidence 

(17:06) Identify and label emotions 

(20:05) The concept of “I am” 

(23:06) Make it fun! 

(28:42) The importance of active listening 

(31:16) Grab a spoon 

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]]> Social and emotional development is made up of skills which help children develop their resilience and manage their thoughts, feelings and behaviour.

For me, they are the crucial components to safeguarding our children's long term wellbeing.

It’s no guarantee they won’t struggle with their mental health later in life - but it does mean they’ll be better equipped to navigate any future crisis.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:41) The biggest factors to our child’s development 

(04:38) Helping our children manage healthy relationships 

(08:31) Building resilience, self-esteem and confidence 

(17:06) Identify and label emotions 

(20:05) The concept of “I am” 

(23:06) Make it fun! 

(28:42) The importance of active listening 

(31:16) Grab a spoon 

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]]> Children Who Hit Children Who Hit Wed, 08 Feb 2023 23:30:00 GMT 35:08 7e8e82ff-07aa-4ccc-b43f-1a31e1764bf0 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d2b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 88 This episode is all about children who get physical and hit. How we respond to hitting follows the same general rules and principles however there will be some additional factors to consider depending on our child's age. For example a young pre-verbal child hitting is a very different matter to an 18 year old.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:33) Why do children hit? 

(09:42) The importance of establishing around kindness with our hands 

(14:44) Recognising and dealing with inappropriate behaviour 

(21:40) What do they need in the moment? 

(28:09) Communication is key 

(31:01) Dealing with laughter 

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]]> This episode is all about children who get physical and hit. How we respond to hitting follows the same general rules and principles however there will be some additional factors to consider depending on our child's age. For example a young pre-verbal child hitting is a very different matter to an 18 year old.

Here are the highlights: 

(02:33) Why do children hit? 

(09:42) The importance of establishing around kindness with our hands 

(14:44) Recognising and dealing with inappropriate behaviour 

(21:40) What do they need in the moment? 

(28:09) Communication is key 

(31:01) Dealing with laughter 

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]]> Lying Lying Wed, 01 Feb 2023 23:30:00 GMT 32:47 a0e63c0d-2ff4-4b00-8310-aba447ec91b0 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d2c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 87 I want to talk about all things connected with lying. Why children do it, when does it develop, what can we do to encourage our children to tell the truth, and what to avoid in the moments when we catch them.

Understanding why children do it is crucial to helping us respond in the best way for our child.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:29) The most common reasons our children lie 

(02:14) Lying is developmentally normal 

(07:27) A false belief task 

(12:02) Lying out of curiosity 

(15:03) Our children are no different to us 

(19:12) Encouraging our children to tell the truth 

(21:32) Positive reinforcement 

(24:36) Have conversations about family values 

(28:48) Liar is a dirty word 

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]]> I want to talk about all things connected with lying. Why children do it, when does it develop, what can we do to encourage our children to tell the truth, and what to avoid in the moments when we catch them.

Understanding why children do it is crucial to helping us respond in the best way for our child.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:29) The most common reasons our children lie 

(02:14) Lying is developmentally normal 

(07:27) A false belief task 

(12:02) Lying out of curiosity 

(15:03) Our children are no different to us 

(19:12) Encouraging our children to tell the truth 

(21:32) Positive reinforcement 

(24:36) Have conversations about family values 

(28:48) Liar is a dirty word 

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]]> Tantrums and Meltdowns Tantrums and Meltdowns Wed, 25 Jan 2023 23:30:00 GMT 46:05 fb6775bc-3325-4ec1-b6d6-97a5e9c43043 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d2d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 86 “Tantrums & Meltdowns” is all about how we tackle those inevitable moments when our children simply lose the plot, their emotions get the better of them, or they feel debilitatingly overhwlemed. Of course you may think this is just the domain of the dubbed 'terrible twos' but this can happen to any child, at any ages.

In this episode I'll talk about what causes them, how we can prevent them, and what to do in the midst of the meltdown.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:22) Our children will have a meltdown... it’s inevitable 

(04:44) It’s not just toddlers who struggle with communication 

(08:49) Four things you need to know about tantrums 

(12:41) How to help children communicate their basic needs 

(17:43) Spotting and managing triggers 

(20:29) Praise the positives! 

(25:56) Stop using “no” as a default response 

(29:21) Knowing your child’s limits 

(33:43) Model calm behaviour 

(38:13) I disagree with the parenting books 

(41:45) It’s always easier said than done! 

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]]> “Tantrums & Meltdowns” is all about how we tackle those inevitable moments when our children simply lose the plot, their emotions get the better of them, or they feel debilitatingly overhwlemed. Of course you may think this is just the domain of the dubbed 'terrible twos' but this can happen to any child, at any ages.

In this episode I'll talk about what causes them, how we can prevent them, and what to do in the midst of the meltdown.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:22) Our children will have a meltdown... it’s inevitable 

(04:44) It’s not just toddlers who struggle with communication 

(08:49) Four things you need to know about tantrums 

(12:41) How to help children communicate their basic needs 

(17:43) Spotting and managing triggers 

(20:29) Praise the positives! 

(25:56) Stop using “no” as a default response 

(29:21) Knowing your child’s limits 

(33:43) Model calm behaviour 

(38:13) I disagree with the parenting books 

(41:45) It’s always easier said than done! 

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]]> So You’re Expecting So You’re Expecting Wed, 18 Jan 2023 23:30:00 GMT 34:45 abcee854-a300-4d23-844b-15daec3fd14b false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d2e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 85 I am talking all about what we can do when we’re expecting the arrival of our child - however we find ourselves embarking on the journey to parenting. 

It's also supremely relevant for all the other stages of our children's lives as they reach them -as these are another birth - walking, talking, preschool, school, university, first job, leaving home...

My six pointers will help keep you grounded and sane.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:14) Parents-to-Be consume information by the barrel load 

(05:13) Read about different milestones, not just birth 

(08:02) Parenting isn’t black and white 

(11:12) It’s always messier than you expect! 

(14:16) Don’t fall into this parenting trap... 

(16:46) The right time to have difficult conversations with partners 

(20:36) Make sure communication with co-parents is open and often 

(23:17) Different do what they see, not what we say 

(26:32) Self-care is critical 

(30:22) Every child develops and adapts uniquely 

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]]> I am talking all about what we can do when we’re expecting the arrival of our child - however we find ourselves embarking on the journey to parenting. 

It's also supremely relevant for all the other stages of our children's lives as they reach them -as these are another birth - walking, talking, preschool, school, university, first job, leaving home...

My six pointers will help keep you grounded and sane.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:14) Parents-to-Be consume information by the barrel load 

(05:13) Read about different milestones, not just birth 

(08:02) Parenting isn’t black and white 

(11:12) It’s always messier than you expect! 

(14:16) Don’t fall into this parenting trap... 

(16:46) The right time to have difficult conversations with partners 

(20:36) Make sure communication with co-parents is open and often 

(23:17) Different do what they see, not what we say 

(26:32) Self-care is critical 

(30:22) Every child develops and adapts uniquely 

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]]> Great Habits for Super Young Children Great Habits for Super Young Children Wed, 11 Jan 2023 23:30:00 GMT 36:35 0182acf9-b954-4185-9201-c5a550ae6414 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d2f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 84 Here's a thought for you - every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace - in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections - so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.

In this episode I'll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it's never too late to start.



Here are the highlights: 

(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding 

(03:41) Positive early development is critical 

(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain 

(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills 

(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy 

(17:23) Help your children to problem solve 

(20:50) Understanding emotions 

(25:32) Building natural curiosity 

(28:03) The freedom to ask questions 

(30:43) I can’t do that... yet 

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]]> Here's a thought for you - every interaction you have with your child will leave a trace - in the wiring of their brain. Repeated interactions of the same type will build permanent connections - so we want these to be helpful ones which build resilience rather than reliance.

In this episode I'll share the five core skills we should be teaching our under five year olds to give them the best possible start whilst reminding you it's never too late to start.



Here are the highlights: 

(01:02) Our children are the house, and we provide the scaffolding 

(03:41) Positive early development is critical 

(06:26) Every interaction with your child affects the wiring in their brain 

(10:13) Managing big emotions with good communication skills 

(14:10) Activities to aid your child’s emotional literacy 

(17:23) Help your children to problem solve 

(20:50) Understanding emotions 

(25:32) Building natural curiosity 

(28:03) The freedom to ask questions 

(30:43) I can’t do that... yet 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Problems Making Friends (Listener Question) Problems Making Friends (Listener Question) Wed, 04 Jan 2023 23:30:00 GMT 30:43 01d49ade-53fa-47bd-803a-44a092f6096d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d30 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 83 This episodes responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. How do we know if our children or teens are struggling making / keeping friends and if they are - when and how do we help??

In this episode I'll share how best to uncover any potential issues and then how to support them to make the very best of friendships for them.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:30) Leslie’s question 

(02:27) Building a tribe 

(06:45) Figure out your starting point 

(12:26) The fear of initiating 

(15:24) Our children value different things from friendships 

(18:52) Green friends and red friends 

(22:20) Finding friendship through common interests 

(26:06) Connecting with their own judgment 

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]]> This episodes responds to a listener question highlighting something so many parents worry about. How do we know if our children or teens are struggling making / keeping friends and if they are - when and how do we help??

In this episode I'll share how best to uncover any potential issues and then how to support them to make the very best of friendships for them.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:30) Leslie’s question 

(02:27) Building a tribe 

(06:45) Figure out your starting point 

(12:26) The fear of initiating 

(15:24) Our children value different things from friendships 

(18:52) Green friends and red friends 

(22:20) Finding friendship through common interests 

(26:06) Connecting with their own judgment 

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

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]]> <![CDATA[Wiring Our Children's Brains]]> Wed, 28 Dec 2022 23:30:00 GMT 32:29 71cde523-7857-4034-a374-d45d8d50b7f1 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d31 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 82 Children's brains are built. At birth they have nearly 90 billion brain cells, and these cells makes connections which then wire together. Understanding how this happens and the role experience plays is crucial if we are to raise children who become happy, confident, resilient adults. I'll share four facts we all need to know.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:00) Neuroplasticity 

(03:44) Brain stats 

(08:02) Neurons that fire together, wire together 

(14:00) Nature and nurture’s influence on brain development 

(20:04) Pruning 

(22:30) The brain’s capacity to change never stops 

(26:07) A workout for your brain 

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]]> Children's brains are built. At birth they have nearly 90 billion brain cells, and these cells makes connections which then wire together. Understanding how this happens and the role experience plays is crucial if we are to raise children who become happy, confident, resilient adults. I'll share four facts we all need to know.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:00) Neuroplasticity 

(03:44) Brain stats 

(08:02) Neurons that fire together, wire together 

(14:00) Nature and nurture’s influence on brain development 

(20:04) Pruning 

(22:30) The brain’s capacity to change never stops 

(26:07) A workout for your brain 

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Interview with Nadim Saad – Part 2 Interview with Nadim Saad – Part 2 Wed, 21 Dec 2022 23:30:00 GMT 35:08 463cc4e7-c0c0-4af6-86aa-d88db433edd3 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d32 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 81 My next interview was so good I’ve split it into two parts! So for the next two I am joined by the excellent Nadim Saad. 

Nadim is a parenting and relationship coach and author of seven books including the highly acclaimed Kids Don’t Come With a Manual, Happy Confident Me Journal series and Raising Happy Confident Kids. Father of three and founder of The Happy Confident Company – focused on helping children become the best version of themselves. We talk parenting, how our childhood affects our parenting and the ten life skills all children needs to learn. Our conversation was so good, we had to break it up into two episodes! You are in for a huge treat.   

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:27) The power of resilience 

(04:16) Teaching the importance of creativity 

(07:43) Kindness has a ripple effect 

(11:27) How to become a better human 

(14:41) Being present is about quality over quantity 

(18:37) What are you going to do about it? 

(22:48) The parents’ inner critic 

(26:34) The power of optimism 

(31:05) Learning to address feelings, not shut them down 

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]]> My next interview was so good I’ve split it into two parts! So for the next two I am joined by the excellent Nadim Saad. 

Nadim is a parenting and relationship coach and author of seven books including the highly acclaimed Kids Don’t Come With a Manual, Happy Confident Me Journal series and Raising Happy Confident Kids. Father of three and founder of The Happy Confident Company – focused on helping children become the best version of themselves. We talk parenting, how our childhood affects our parenting and the ten life skills all children needs to learn. Our conversation was so good, we had to break it up into two episodes! You are in for a huge treat.   

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:27) The power of resilience 

(04:16) Teaching the importance of creativity 

(07:43) Kindness has a ripple effect 

(11:27) How to become a better human 

(14:41) Being present is about quality over quantity 

(18:37) What are you going to do about it? 

(22:48) The parents’ inner critic 

(26:34) The power of optimism 

(31:05) Learning to address feelings, not shut them down 

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]]> Interview with Nadim Saad – Part 1 Interview with Nadim Saad – Part 1 Wed, 14 Dec 2022 23:30:00 GMT 43:13 dcfe6235-b428-48ee-ab91-40b6772d47f0 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d33 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 80 My next interview was so good I’ve split it into two parts! So for the next two I am joined by the excellent Nadim Saad. 

Nadim is a parenting and relationship coach and author of seven books including the highly acclaimed Kids Don’t Come With a Manual, Happy Confident Me Journal series and Raising Happy Confident Kids. Father of three and founder of The Happy Confident Company – focused on helping children become the best version of themselves. We talk parenting, how our childhood affects our parenting and the ten life skills all children needs to learn. Our conversation was so good, we had to break it up into two episodes! You are in for a huge treat.   

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:37) The challenge of opposing parenting styles 

(06:10) We lose it from time to time, and that’s ok 

(09:53) Coaching a change in mindset 

(13:14) The salad leaf incident 

(18:55) Changes take time to be noticed 

(21:56) The science of parenting 

(27:01) Helping our children to manage negative feelings 

(30:27) It’s ok to be angry sometimes 

(33:33) The power of introspection 

(37:15) I’m not the only one 

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]]> My next interview was so good I’ve split it into two parts! So for the next two I am joined by the excellent Nadim Saad. 

Nadim is a parenting and relationship coach and author of seven books including the highly acclaimed Kids Don’t Come With a Manual, Happy Confident Me Journal series and Raising Happy Confident Kids. Father of three and founder of The Happy Confident Company – focused on helping children become the best version of themselves. We talk parenting, how our childhood affects our parenting and the ten life skills all children needs to learn. Our conversation was so good, we had to break it up into two episodes! You are in for a huge treat.   

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:37) The challenge of opposing parenting styles 

(06:10) We lose it from time to time, and that’s ok 

(09:53) Coaching a change in mindset 

(13:14) The salad leaf incident 

(18:55) Changes take time to be noticed 

(21:56) The science of parenting 

(27:01) Helping our children to manage negative feelings 

(30:27) It’s ok to be angry sometimes 

(33:33) The power of introspection 

(37:15) I’m not the only one 

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]]> Getting Children to Do As We Ask Getting Children to Do As We Ask Wed, 07 Dec 2022 23:30:00 GMT 31:04 d6e315da-6d79-4b94-8dc5-dedf2859622e false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d34 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 79 This episode is all about ways we can encourage our children to do what we ask first time! I know it’s probably one of the most frustrating things we can up against as parents - ask isn’t once, twice, three times and then getting angry and frustrated that our children haven’t listened. 

Now I’m going to tackle this in two half’s because there’s the dealing with it in the moment and then there’s the putting expectations in place. The more we’re clear in communicating our expectations and consistently applying them the easier the in-moment stuff will be and the less you’ll find yourself having to handle it. 

I recently shared in my newsletter an article about Japanese fans and players at the Qatar World Cup both of whom after each match have tidied up the stands of rubbish and tidied their dressing room. This isn’t new behaviour specific to this World Cup - they’ve done it at previous tournaments. Why am I sharing this? The relevance is Japanese culture instils a sense of pride in tidying and children are raised to do this from a young age - they tidy their classrooms at school for example. The reason why it’s so relevant to this podcast episode is the notion of expedition and consistently in application. Children are capable of anything we consistently communicate we expect and consistently apply those expectations. For example we all expect our children to walk - so we encourage them as they toddle around and fall on their bottoms knowing that in time they’ll get there - they just need our encouragement. We don’t throw our hands in the air in exasperation when they fall on their bottoms because we have faith they will get there. The same rules apply to getting children to do what we ask - honestly it is.   

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:41) Tackling on both fronts 

(05:01) Expectation and consistency 

(12:42) Do you have their attention? 

(15:33) Be specific and clear 

(18:19) Approach one thing at a time 

(21:22) Repeating back the request 

(25:43) Consistency gives you the tipping point 

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]]> This episode is all about ways we can encourage our children to do what we ask first time! I know it’s probably one of the most frustrating things we can up against as parents - ask isn’t once, twice, three times and then getting angry and frustrated that our children haven’t listened. 

Now I’m going to tackle this in two half’s because there’s the dealing with it in the moment and then there’s the putting expectations in place. The more we’re clear in communicating our expectations and consistently applying them the easier the in-moment stuff will be and the less you’ll find yourself having to handle it. 

I recently shared in my newsletter an article about Japanese fans and players at the Qatar World Cup both of whom after each match have tidied up the stands of rubbish and tidied their dressing room. This isn’t new behaviour specific to this World Cup - they’ve done it at previous tournaments. Why am I sharing this? The relevance is Japanese culture instils a sense of pride in tidying and children are raised to do this from a young age - they tidy their classrooms at school for example. The reason why it’s so relevant to this podcast episode is the notion of expedition and consistently in application. Children are capable of anything we consistently communicate we expect and consistently apply those expectations. For example we all expect our children to walk - so we encourage them as they toddle around and fall on their bottoms knowing that in time they’ll get there - they just need our encouragement. We don’t throw our hands in the air in exasperation when they fall on their bottoms because we have faith they will get there. The same rules apply to getting children to do what we ask - honestly it is.   

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:41) Tackling on both fronts 

(05:01) Expectation and consistency 

(12:42) Do you have their attention? 

(15:33) Be specific and clear 

(18:19) Approach one thing at a time 

(21:22) Repeating back the request 

(25:43) Consistency gives you the tipping point 

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]]> Real Life Parenting with Izzy Judd Real Life Parenting with Izzy Judd Wed, 30 Nov 2022 23:30:00 GMT 43:23 e65adc8b-f227-4cff-9d97-bdb61cdcc76c false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d35 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 78 Wife to Harry, Mummy to Lola Kit & Lockie, Violinist, and Author of Dare to Dream & Mindfulness 4 Mums. 

With all the ‘perceived’ privilege and celebrity status people might attach to someone with over three hundred thousand followers on Instagram Izzy couldn’t be more real, humble, and honest about her and Harry’s parenting journey - from IVF, childhood anxiety, to juggling three children. 

I know Izzy’s honesty has been a lifeline to so many mothers who relate so much to her stories and her tips for integrating mindfulness into day-to-day parenting, in a way which brings our children on board is incredible. 

You’re in a for a real treat.    

 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:12) How’s the juggle? 

(06:35) I was failing my family 

(11:17) A constant reminder of the pain 

(16:53) I need control 

(23:47) Tackling the mum guilt 

(28:20) The Story of the Day 

(33:44) Mindfulness for mums 

(37:30) Searching for the right way 

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]]> Wife to Harry, Mummy to Lola Kit & Lockie, Violinist, and Author of Dare to Dream & Mindfulness 4 Mums. 

With all the ‘perceived’ privilege and celebrity status people might attach to someone with over three hundred thousand followers on Instagram Izzy couldn’t be more real, humble, and honest about her and Harry’s parenting journey - from IVF, childhood anxiety, to juggling three children. 

I know Izzy’s honesty has been a lifeline to so many mothers who relate so much to her stories and her tips for integrating mindfulness into day-to-day parenting, in a way which brings our children on board is incredible. 

You’re in a for a real treat.    

 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:12) How’s the juggle? 

(06:35) I was failing my family 

(11:17) A constant reminder of the pain 

(16:53) I need control 

(23:47) Tackling the mum guilt 

(28:20) The Story of the Day 

(33:44) Mindfulness for mums 

(37:30) Searching for the right way 

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]]> <![CDATA[They're Watching You]]> Wed, 23 Nov 2022 23:30:00 GMT 30:23 4c3dad2c-cd87-4541-820d-b1b987ca3c42 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d36 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 77 Resilience is all about our children’s ability to bounce back from setbacks and it is very closely related to confidence and self-esteem. Resilience isn’t innate, it’s learnt and as their greatest teachers you can use my simple strategies to start developing your child’s resilience as well as asking yourself this simple question - “how am I modelling resilience??” 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:36) Our children are like computer programs 

(04:12) Framing the situation 

(10:45) The importance of modelling good goal-setting 

(15:34) Promote problem solving 

(19:32) Encourage risk-taking 

(22:54) Practicing daily gratitude 

(26:42) Developing good friendships 

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]]> Resilience is all about our children’s ability to bounce back from setbacks and it is very closely related to confidence and self-esteem. Resilience isn’t innate, it’s learnt and as their greatest teachers you can use my simple strategies to start developing your child’s resilience as well as asking yourself this simple question - “how am I modelling resilience??” 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:36) Our children are like computer programs 

(04:12) Framing the situation 

(10:45) The importance of modelling good goal-setting 

(15:34) Promote problem solving 

(19:32) Encourage risk-taking 

(22:54) Practicing daily gratitude 

(26:42) Developing good friendships 

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]]> Finding Peace of Mind with Zoe Blaskey Finding Peace of Mind with Zoe Blaskey Wed, 16 Nov 2022 23:30:00 GMT 41:30 e647302f-12f8-43e9-b602-16af2fa63156 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d37 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 76 In life there are times when you come across people who you just know are going to be instrumental in changing your perspective on life and I am really not over playing it when I say this about Zoe. She has read, trained and pulled together all the research and best practice on navigating motherhood with self-awareness and her insights on intergenerational cycles, conditioning and what every child craves are tempered with super practical things we can do with this new found self-awareness. 

I wish Zoe had been around when I was raising my two children as I know I would have found peace of mind in my own parenting so much sooner for having known her. You’re in a for a real treat.    

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:57) The most precious inheritance is happiness 

(06:07) 80% of parenting is modelling 

(11:54) We didn’t talk about feelings enough 

(16:38) Preparing for parenthood 

(24:49) Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and yoga 

(30:25) Three core needs 

(33:59) Making complex science pallatable 

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]]> In life there are times when you come across people who you just know are going to be instrumental in changing your perspective on life and I am really not over playing it when I say this about Zoe. She has read, trained and pulled together all the research and best practice on navigating motherhood with self-awareness and her insights on intergenerational cycles, conditioning and what every child craves are tempered with super practical things we can do with this new found self-awareness. 

I wish Zoe had been around when I was raising my two children as I know I would have found peace of mind in my own parenting so much sooner for having known her. You’re in a for a real treat.    

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:57) The most precious inheritance is happiness 

(06:07) 80% of parenting is modelling 

(11:54) We didn’t talk about feelings enough 

(16:38) Preparing for parenthood 

(24:49) Self-care isn’t just bubble baths and yoga 

(30:25) Three core needs 

(33:59) Making complex science pallatable 

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]]> 23 for 2023 23 for 2023 Wed, 09 Nov 2022 23:30:00 GMT 31:30 08be903d-846f-4364-baa9-291d9186fbe3 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d38 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 75 Alright, so this episode is all about New Year's resolutions and its only November!!! Please just go with it as it could quite literally change your life and inspire your children too. 

It all starts with this simple question “If you could design your life for 2023; how it makes you feel, who you want to spend it with, and what experiences you want to have, how would you design it?”. 

In this episode I will share the answers I gave in 2020 for my 21 for 2021 and how I’m doing it differently in 2023. Are you ready to join me?? 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(22:22) The most wonderful time of the year 

(06:45) Ask yourself one simple question 

(12:19) A love-hate relationship with meditation 

(16:10) Be more intentional 

(19:48) 70% of our behaviour is driven by subconscious habit 

(23:46) The start of my 23 for 2023 

(26:47) Are you doing what you really want to do? 

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]]> Alright, so this episode is all about New Year's resolutions and its only November!!! Please just go with it as it could quite literally change your life and inspire your children too. 

It all starts with this simple question “If you could design your life for 2023; how it makes you feel, who you want to spend it with, and what experiences you want to have, how would you design it?”. 

In this episode I will share the answers I gave in 2020 for my 21 for 2021 and how I’m doing it differently in 2023. Are you ready to join me?? 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(22:22) The most wonderful time of the year 

(06:45) Ask yourself one simple question 

(12:19) A love-hate relationship with meditation 

(16:10) Be more intentional 

(19:48) 70% of our behaviour is driven by subconscious habit 

(23:46) The start of my 23 for 2023 

(26:47) Are you doing what you really want to do? 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Finding Balance with Helen Hopkins Finding Balance with Helen Hopkins Wed, 02 Nov 2022 23:30:00 GMT 44:49 32252351-1caa-4043-b595-a612983d3631 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d39 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 74 As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of exhaustion. 

Helen Hopkins is a Wellness Coach and approaches balance from the perspective of habits and how we can find opportunities for balance in those habitual ‘dead times’. You will quite literally be blown away by her simple techniques – a must listen! 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:05) Helping people find their unique balance 

(08:57) Our definition of balance is subjective 

(13:13) 32,000 decisions every day 

(19:03) Changing habitual habits for quick wins 

(25:17) Looking after someone else starts with looking after yourself 

(30:00) Give yourself permission 

(34:11) It’s ok to not be ok 

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]]> As the saying goes, ‘we all juggle multiple hats’ as parents and finding balance seems to be illusive to most of us. Some days we feel we’re acing it, yet I think I speak for most of us when I say we more often than not feel like we are constantly teetering on the edge of exhaustion. 

Helen Hopkins is a Wellness Coach and approaches balance from the perspective of habits and how we can find opportunities for balance in those habitual ‘dead times’. You will quite literally be blown away by her simple techniques – a must listen! 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:05) Helping people find their unique balance 

(08:57) Our definition of balance is subjective 

(13:13) 32,000 decisions every day 

(19:03) Changing habitual habits for quick wins 

(25:17) Looking after someone else starts with looking after yourself 

(30:00) Give yourself permission 

(34:11) It’s ok to not be ok 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> <![CDATA[Helping Girls Navigate Friendships with Amy & Jess]]> Wed, 26 Oct 2022 23:30:00 GMT 49:33 165c24bd-3d29-4557-b0ec-3371b7b6520d false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d3a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 73 Friendships can be one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did. They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys. 

CLICK HERE TO BUY I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships NOW 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:41) How the book came to be 

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls 

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children 

(17:12) Mom has issues too 

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you 

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle 

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned 

(42:03) Be humble 

 

Connect with Sister I Am With You: 

VISIT THE WEBSITE 

JOIN THE FACEBOOK COMMUNITY 

FOLLOW ON INSTAGRAM 

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]]> Friendships can be one of the biggest challenges our girls have to navigate. It can cause so much upset and make life miserable. So, Amy and Jess wrote a book to help their daughters so they never had to struggle with friendships as they did. They hope the hard lessons they learned help smooth the road for young girls and help them walk with their heads held high, never doubting who they are, or wondering if they are enough.  Whilst the book was written for girls, the lessons and techniques are just as usual for boys. 

CLICK HERE TO BUY I'll Be There (And Let's Make Friendship Bracelets): A Girl's Guide to Making and Keeping Real-Life Friendships NOW 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:41) How the book came to be 

(05:59) The difference between boys and girls 

(10:52) Normalising vulnerability with our children 

(17:12) Mom has issues too 

(23:59) Someone is either with you or against you 

(31:45) Standing on the outside of the circle 

(37:15) Friendship shouldn’t be earned 

(42:03) Be humble 

 

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]]> Headstrong Children - How to Manage Them Headstrong Children - How to Manage Them Wed, 19 Oct 2022 23:30:00 GMT 32:43 4fedb4e1-34fe-4a23-bbf7-f66812bb26c3 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d3b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 72 When we have a child who seems hellbent on arguing with everything we ask of them, making up their own rules, and struggling to manage their emotions – it can leave its mark on all of us.   

We often feel like we’re parenting in a war zone and then feel guilty and sad with how we’ve handled things. There isn’t a magic wand approach which will change everything, yet my seven strategies could just save your sanity and relationship with your child, without breaking their spirit. 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:41) There’s no quick fix 

(05:45) Reframing the situation 

(10:51) Give your children control within set parameters 

(17:36) Experiential learning 

(22:54) You cannot over-communicate with a headstrong child 

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]]> When we have a child who seems hellbent on arguing with everything we ask of them, making up their own rules, and struggling to manage their emotions – it can leave its mark on all of us.   

We often feel like we’re parenting in a war zone and then feel guilty and sad with how we’ve handled things. There isn’t a magic wand approach which will change everything, yet my seven strategies could just save your sanity and relationship with your child, without breaking their spirit. 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:41) There’s no quick fix 

(05:45) Reframing the situation 

(10:51) Give your children control within set parameters 

(17:36) Experiential learning 

(22:54) You cannot over-communicate with a headstrong child 

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]]> Helping Children Manage Exam Stress with Stephanie Haynes Helping Children Manage Exam Stress with Stephanie Haynes Wed, 12 Oct 2022 23:30:00 GMT 40:10 110d4344-5212-450e-a34a-6fbca4f6318f false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d3c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 71 In this episode Stephanie shares her strategies as an educational consultant and coach for supporting children and teens as they navigate tests and exams. 

Whether your children are taking tests which measure their progress, exams to get into their next schools, or exams at 16 and 18 which are likely to determine University or career pathways you’ll want to listen to this. In fact I found so many great tips for talking to our children about life and challenges - beyond tests - so you’re in for a real treat. 

BUY STEPHANIE’S BOOK ‘COLLEGE IS NOT MANDATORY’ HERE 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:11) A test grade does not define our children 

(08:37) We live in a comparison culture 

(13:48) Teachers and parents need to use the same language 

(20:27) Separating our identity from what we do 

(22:01) The football analogy 

(27:37) Taking the anxiety out of tests 

 

Also mentioned in this episode: 

Ep 051: Helping Children Feel Confident About Their Future with Stephanie Haynes 

 

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]]> In this episode Stephanie shares her strategies as an educational consultant and coach for supporting children and teens as they navigate tests and exams. 

Whether your children are taking tests which measure their progress, exams to get into their next schools, or exams at 16 and 18 which are likely to determine University or career pathways you’ll want to listen to this. In fact I found so many great tips for talking to our children about life and challenges - beyond tests - so you’re in for a real treat. 

BUY STEPHANIE’S BOOK ‘COLLEGE IS NOT MANDATORY’ HERE 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:11) A test grade does not define our children 

(08:37) We live in a comparison culture 

(13:48) Teachers and parents need to use the same language 

(20:27) Separating our identity from what we do 

(22:01) The football analogy 

(27:37) Taking the anxiety out of tests 

 

Also mentioned in this episode: 

Ep 051: Helping Children Feel Confident About Their Future with Stephanie Haynes 

 

Connect with Stephanie: 

Visit the Website 

Follow on Instagram 

Connect on LinkedIn 

Subscribe on YouTube 

Follow on Facebook 

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]]> Why Are Children So Unhappy? Why Are Children So Unhappy? Wed, 05 Oct 2022 23:30:00 GMT 30:40 6a42e6f1-9a4d-4983-8d58-dc4fb367fa36 false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d3d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 70 A whole generation of children and teens are desperately unhappy.  A recent survey by the Children’s Society ranked UK children amongst the unhappiest in Europe, although the unhappiness trend is not just a UK phenomenon. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why so many children are unhappy and what we can do to reverse this worrying trend. 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:28) The three reasons your child might be unhappy 

(04:31) Life is too fast 

(08:49) Never underestimate a good bedtime routine 

(15:35) Being outside has a huge impact on wellbeing 

(19:24) Set healthy boundaries 

(24:04) Encourage your children to problem solve 

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]]> A whole generation of children and teens are desperately unhappy.  A recent survey by the Children’s Society ranked UK children amongst the unhappiest in Europe, although the unhappiness trend is not just a UK phenomenon. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why so many children are unhappy and what we can do to reverse this worrying trend. 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:28) The three reasons your child might be unhappy 

(04:31) Life is too fast 

(08:49) Never underestimate a good bedtime routine 

(15:35) Being outside has a huge impact on wellbeing 

(19:24) Set healthy boundaries 

(24:04) Encourage your children to problem solve 

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]]> Investing in Yourself with Heather Black Investing in Yourself with Heather Black Wed, 28 Sep 2022 23:30:00 GMT 33:17 fcc6013c-c08a-44c6-8599-df25b7c04ddf false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d3e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 69 This is the first in my Investing In Yourself mini-series where incredible people share their wisdom and expertise across different areas in which we can invest in ourselves as parents. 

Heather, the driving force and dynamo behind Supermums talks about her journey investing in herself, and how we might go about doing the same. Whether we want a new career or a better balance between work and home, she’ll share how she made the decision to invest in herself and start a new career. 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:31) Becoming Supermum 

(08:18) So many jobs and not enough talent 

(10:51) A recession-proof career in Salesforce 

(18:20) Not just a training program, but a support group to help you succeed 

(24:37) Laying the groundwork and getting clear on what you want 

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]]> This is the first in my Investing In Yourself mini-series where incredible people share their wisdom and expertise across different areas in which we can invest in ourselves as parents. 

Heather, the driving force and dynamo behind Supermums talks about her journey investing in herself, and how we might go about doing the same. Whether we want a new career or a better balance between work and home, she’ll share how she made the decision to invest in herself and start a new career. 

 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:31) Becoming Supermum 

(08:18) So many jobs and not enough talent 

(10:51) A recession-proof career in Salesforce 

(18:20) Not just a training program, but a support group to help you succeed 

(24:37) Laying the groundwork and getting clear on what you want 

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]]> How to Talk to Children About Loss How to Talk to Children About Loss Wed, 21 Sep 2022 23:30:00 GMT 27:11 416b2963-0e46-4816-91ad-e959a7be76ad false https://drmaryhan.com/ 6675695ca4ecc30012453d3f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 68 Whilst the release of this episode is immediately after the death Queen Elizabeth II, the approach I suggest is intended to cover any situation where a child comes into contact with the death of someone - whether that’s a direct relative, a friend, neighbour, public figure etc. 

For some the current world event may mean you are talking about death for the very first time and your child might be really still quite young, for others the Queen’s death might be bringing up old sadness for a loved one who has already died, others might have people in their lives who are currently unwell, or your children are asking questions about your own longevity. 

I’ll talk you through the eight principles to be mindful of when starting, and maintaining those conversations about death.    

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) The Queen’s death may prompt difficult questions 

(03:02) Be honest, clear and direct 

(05:54) Children’s biggest fear is abandonment 

(10:34) Crying make us human 

(14:12) Communication is key 

(17:22) We don’t always have the perfect answer 

(20:27) There’s no one size fits all 

(23:22) We want our children to know the facts 

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]]> Whilst the release of this episode is immediately after the death Queen Elizabeth II, the approach I suggest is intended to cover any situation where a child comes into contact with the death of someone - whether that’s a direct relative, a friend, neighbour, public figure etc. 

For some the current world event may mean you are talking about death for the very first time and your child might be really still quite young, for others the Queen’s death might be bringing up old sadness for a loved one who has already died, others might have people in their lives who are currently unwell, or your children are asking questions about your own longevity. 

I’ll talk you through the eight principles to be mindful of when starting, and maintaining those conversations about death.    

 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) The Queen’s death may prompt difficult questions 

(03:02) Be honest, clear and direct 

(05:54) Children’s biggest fear is abandonment 

(10:34) Crying make us human 

(14:12) Communication is key 

(17:22) We don’t always have the perfect answer 

(20:27) There’s no one size fits all 

(23:22) We want our children to know the facts 

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]]> Juggling work and Parenting Juggling work and Parenting Wed, 14 Sep 2022 22:30:00 GMT 28:11 a613318e-a3b1-4bed-9cae-8aaf649c6513 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/episode-067-juggling-work-and-parenting 6675695ca4ecc30012453d40 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 67 Do you feel overwhelmed with the task of having a full work life whilst being present for your children? Juggling work and being a parent can be a challenge, prioritising one without the other being affected is something many parents struggle with. In this episode I discuss tips and tricks on how to manage this balance and reduce stress. 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:23) 45% of parents feel burnt out 

(07:07) Asking for help 

(11:42) Managing expectations 

(17:38) Recharge 

(22:28) Plan B 


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]]> Do you feel overwhelmed with the task of having a full work life whilst being present for your children? Juggling work and being a parent can be a challenge, prioritising one without the other being affected is something many parents struggle with. In this episode I discuss tips and tricks on how to manage this balance and reduce stress. 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:23) 45% of parents feel burnt out 

(07:07) Asking for help 

(11:42) Managing expectations 

(17:38) Recharge 

(22:28) Plan B 


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]]> I’m Not Very Good At... I’m Not Very Good At... Wed, 07 Sep 2022 22:30:00 GMT 27:38 8a6c525e-4ce2-484c-8e90-d6d57a360390 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-066-im-not-very-good-at 6675695ca4ecc30012453d41 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 66 We have all heard a variation of one of these comments from our children - “I am not very good at... ‘this is rubbish’, ‘I can’t’, I’m not good at…’ but what does it mean?? There are potentially 6 different reasons why and yet, it is doesn’t really matter which reason it is – the comments tell us something about how they are experiencing things right now AND how to help them.

I will talk you through my 6-point solution – what to do and how to solve the issue longer term.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) From low confidence to attention-seeking - what does it mean? 

(04:02) Children are insanely present 

(07:06) We have two ears and only one mouth 

(10:38) Acknowledging how our children feel 

(15:46) Failure is a part of life 

(19:46) We need to get real and be honest with our kids 

(23:02) Silencing the inner critic


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]]> We have all heard a variation of one of these comments from our children - “I am not very good at... ‘this is rubbish’, ‘I can’t’, I’m not good at…’ but what does it mean?? There are potentially 6 different reasons why and yet, it is doesn’t really matter which reason it is – the comments tell us something about how they are experiencing things right now AND how to help them.

I will talk you through my 6-point solution – what to do and how to solve the issue longer term.

Here are the highlights: 

(00:33) From low confidence to attention-seeking - what does it mean? 

(04:02) Children are insanely present 

(07:06) We have two ears and only one mouth 

(10:38) Acknowledging how our children feel 

(15:46) Failure is a part of life 

(19:46) We need to get real and be honest with our kids 

(23:02) Silencing the inner critic


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]]> Interview with Josh Connolly; Being Dad and Talking Emotions Interview with Josh Connolly; Being Dad and Talking Emotions Wed, 31 Aug 2022 22:30:00 GMT 35:55 87d742ce-e5a2-4559-b612-c9c99378b43c false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-065-interview-with-josh-connolly-being-dad-and-talking-emotions 6675695ca4ecc30012453d42 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 65 Josh is one of the UK’s most influential mental health advocates. Josh has also spoken in the House of Commons, contributed to mental health policy and even advised the scriptwriting team on Hollyoaks. He has run resilience workshops for village schools and global brands alike. Additionally, he is an ambassador for Nacoa – a national charity supporting people affected by a parent’s drinking.

In this episode he talks about being a dad, resilience, children’s emotions and how it all has to start with us. A must listen whether you’re a parent, someone who cares for children, or a friend of a parent.

Connect with Josh: CLICK HERE TO VISIT HIS WEBSITE 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:19) Helping people to understand resilience 

(05:27) Learning from my own experiences 

(10:29) I lacked someone who could help me make sense of the darkness 

(15:48) The system needs to get their priorities straight! 

(20:59) Start from a place of being emotionally ready 

(24:09) Your kids have a right to feel mad and sad 

(29:10) Show up in your most authentic way 


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]]> Josh is one of the UK’s most influential mental health advocates. Josh has also spoken in the House of Commons, contributed to mental health policy and even advised the scriptwriting team on Hollyoaks. He has run resilience workshops for village schools and global brands alike. Additionally, he is an ambassador for Nacoa – a national charity supporting people affected by a parent’s drinking.

In this episode he talks about being a dad, resilience, children’s emotions and how it all has to start with us. A must listen whether you’re a parent, someone who cares for children, or a friend of a parent.

Connect with Josh: CLICK HERE TO VISIT HIS WEBSITE 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:19) Helping people to understand resilience 

(05:27) Learning from my own experiences 

(10:29) I lacked someone who could help me make sense of the darkness 

(15:48) The system needs to get their priorities straight! 

(20:59) Start from a place of being emotionally ready 

(24:09) Your kids have a right to feel mad and sad 

(29:10) Show up in your most authentic way 


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]]> <![CDATA[Social Media - The Good, The Bad, & The Downright Ugly]]> Wed, 24 Aug 2022 22:30:00 GMT 29:26 fd6ae455-66d1-43a8-9369-ff21e6a3880b false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-064-social-media-the-good-the-bad-the-downright-ugly 6675695ca4ecc30012453d43 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 64 Let’s talk honestly about the impact of social media. From Twitter to TikTok and the whole Metaverse in between, it is now well documented to have a significantly negative impact on our children’s mental health – linked to depression, anxiety, and increase suicide rates. What do we need to know about these platforms, how do we help our children and teens navigate these platforms, and where do we draw the lines.

I’ll be answering these questions and setting out my honest thoughts on social media and how mindless use, in my view, is as dangerous for their long-term health and wellbeing as smoking.

Here are the highlights:

(00:59) Jonah Hill is yet another A-lister quitting social media

(04:57) Excessive social media use can also have physical repercussions

(10:42) Maintain a continual dialogue with your children

(16:26) Model the behaviour you want from your kids

(19:53) Actively track social media use

(23:42) You are the sum of your 5 closest friends 

 

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]]> Let’s talk honestly about the impact of social media. From Twitter to TikTok and the whole Metaverse in between, it is now well documented to have a significantly negative impact on our children’s mental health – linked to depression, anxiety, and increase suicide rates. What do we need to know about these platforms, how do we help our children and teens navigate these platforms, and where do we draw the lines.

I’ll be answering these questions and setting out my honest thoughts on social media and how mindless use, in my view, is as dangerous for their long-term health and wellbeing as smoking.

Here are the highlights:

(00:59) Jonah Hill is yet another A-lister quitting social media

(04:57) Excessive social media use can also have physical repercussions

(10:42) Maintain a continual dialogue with your children

(16:26) Model the behaviour you want from your kids

(19:53) Actively track social media use

(23:42) You are the sum of your 5 closest friends 

 

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]]> Sibling Dynamics Sibling Dynamics Wed, 17 Aug 2022 22:30:00 GMT 29:29 e227e370-18b9-4ac6-a625-32b765e8c3e8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-063-sibling-dynamics 6675695ca4ecc30012453d44 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 63 Siblings argue, this is perfectly normal. They are vying for a limited resource – our time.

Yet the type of battles our children have with each other, are very much influenced by the ‘role’ our children play within the family dynamics. You cannot begin to make meaningful changes, until you fully understand, and potentially address any issues which arise from these roles.

I will talk about ‘roles’ and how they are created, before moving onto how we can avoid constantly refereeing our children’s arguments.

Here are the highlights:

(00:22) Introduction

(03:26) Sibling roles, from the naughty one to the mini-Mummy

(06:03) Understanding the roles we have created within the family

(07:55) Start with a family audit

(12:14) Do not referee arguments you didn’t witness

(17:23) How to de-escalate situations

(20:53) My strategies to deal with sibling dynamics


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]]> Siblings argue, this is perfectly normal. They are vying for a limited resource – our time.

Yet the type of battles our children have with each other, are very much influenced by the ‘role’ our children play within the family dynamics. You cannot begin to make meaningful changes, until you fully understand, and potentially address any issues which arise from these roles.

I will talk about ‘roles’ and how they are created, before moving onto how we can avoid constantly refereeing our children’s arguments.

Here are the highlights:

(00:22) Introduction

(03:26) Sibling roles, from the naughty one to the mini-Mummy

(06:03) Understanding the roles we have created within the family

(07:55) Start with a family audit

(12:14) Do not referee arguments you didn’t witness

(17:23) How to de-escalate situations

(20:53) My strategies to deal with sibling dynamics


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]]> Back to School Back to School Wed, 10 Aug 2022 22:30:00 GMT 28:00 9379f46c-aa75-436e-a7e5-3179988765cd false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-062-back-to-school 6675695ca4ecc30012453d45 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 62 I’ll be talking “Back to School’ and how we can prepare our children and teens to go back to school, start school for the first time, transition to junior school, senior school, boarding school or university.

Whether you are listening to this before you children start school or well into the school term, the principles I am going to share are helpful at any point in time when you need to reset patterns of being and behaviour which aren’t optimal for school and getting the best out of school and education.

Here are the highlights:

(01:03) Repetition is the mother of all learning

(05:55) Bedtime routines slip during the holidays

(11:13) Keeping and creating structure

(13:58) How to help our children gain independence

(18:43) Conversations to help kids deal with back to school anxiety

(23:18) Role play is for everyone


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]]> I’ll be talking “Back to School’ and how we can prepare our children and teens to go back to school, start school for the first time, transition to junior school, senior school, boarding school or university.

Whether you are listening to this before you children start school or well into the school term, the principles I am going to share are helpful at any point in time when you need to reset patterns of being and behaviour which aren’t optimal for school and getting the best out of school and education.

Here are the highlights:

(01:03) Repetition is the mother of all learning

(05:55) Bedtime routines slip during the holidays

(11:13) Keeping and creating structure

(13:58) How to help our children gain independence

(18:43) Conversations to help kids deal with back to school anxiety

(23:18) Role play is for everyone


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]]> Being a Step-Mum with Katie Harrison Being a Step-Mum with Katie Harrison Wed, 03 Aug 2022 22:30:00 GMT 37:01 e18c858c-71a7-4f04-ac6f-4887815817e3 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-061-being-a-step-mum-with-katie-harrison 6675695ca4ecc30012453d46 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 61 This episode isn’t just for you if you are step-mum, it’s for every mum, dad, grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle, nanny etc who stands at the school gate, does nursery or pre-school pick up.

Blended families are on the increase and societally we have failed to recognise and support step-mums and the unique challenges they face.

Being a step-mum can be incredibly isolating and as a result the incidence of mental health issues are much higher than birth mothers.

Join my conversation with Katie Harrison of Stepmumspace to get a glimpse into a step-mum's daily challenges, and how we can all better support each other – in whichever way we become parents.

Here are the highlights:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:33) A coincidental journey fueled by passion

(05:33) Fairy tale stereotypes of the evil step-mother

(09:41) Our role in society

(14:38) Bereavement versus separation

(17:30) Societal gender biases

(20:29) The relationship between step-mum and biologcal mum

(25:01) Projecting our own anxiety on to our children

(28:08) It’s ok to talk about feelings 


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]]> This episode isn’t just for you if you are step-mum, it’s for every mum, dad, grandmother, grandfather, aunt, uncle, nanny etc who stands at the school gate, does nursery or pre-school pick up.

Blended families are on the increase and societally we have failed to recognise and support step-mums and the unique challenges they face.

Being a step-mum can be incredibly isolating and as a result the incidence of mental health issues are much higher than birth mothers.

Join my conversation with Katie Harrison of Stepmumspace to get a glimpse into a step-mum's daily challenges, and how we can all better support each other – in whichever way we become parents.

Here are the highlights:

(00:00) Introduction

(02:33) A coincidental journey fueled by passion

(05:33) Fairy tale stereotypes of the evil step-mother

(09:41) Our role in society

(14:38) Bereavement versus separation

(17:30) Societal gender biases

(20:29) The relationship between step-mum and biologcal mum

(25:01) Projecting our own anxiety on to our children

(28:08) It’s ok to talk about feelings 


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]]> We Need to Talk We Need to Talk Wed, 27 Jul 2022 22:30:00 GMT 28:42 c33beae7-16f2-4288-bb28-ba223b72eb6a false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-060-we-need-to-talk 6675695ca4ecc30012453d47 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 60 Today’s episode “We Need To Talk’ is all about how we can have meaningful conversations with our children and teens. You know what I mean - conversations which are two-sided, you learn more than you teach, and you feel a connection. Whether that’s talking about big things such as sex, boyfriends and worries or everyday conversations about using their voice, kindness, compassion.

These conversations are probably more important, more impactful, and more character building for our children than any other conversations we have.

Here are the highlights:

(01:07) Pick your moments

(04:00) Chronological vs developmental age

(07:06) You have got to listen!

(08:54) Communication isn’t just words

(12:21) Leave judgment at the door

(15:52) Show empathy

(18:39) Look for opportunities to avoid parenting hell!

(21:33) Whatever you do, do it consistently


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]]> Today’s episode “We Need To Talk’ is all about how we can have meaningful conversations with our children and teens. You know what I mean - conversations which are two-sided, you learn more than you teach, and you feel a connection. Whether that’s talking about big things such as sex, boyfriends and worries or everyday conversations about using their voice, kindness, compassion.

These conversations are probably more important, more impactful, and more character building for our children than any other conversations we have.

Here are the highlights:

(01:07) Pick your moments

(04:00) Chronological vs developmental age

(07:06) You have got to listen!

(08:54) Communication isn’t just words

(12:21) Leave judgment at the door

(15:52) Show empathy

(18:39) Look for opportunities to avoid parenting hell!

(21:33) Whatever you do, do it consistently


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]]> Toxic Friendships - How to Spot Them and Support Your Child Toxic Friendships - How to Spot Them and Support Your Child Wed, 20 Jul 2022 22:30:00 GMT 31:45 705c180a-b21e-4773-9860-6e2a1e2ca9b9 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-059-toxic-friendships-how-to-spot-them-and-support-your-child 6675695ca4ecc30012453d48 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 59 Toxic relationships are on the rise! They are friendships which aren’t healthy – they’re not about mutual respect, trust, and sharing. Instead, they are manipulative, controlling, one-sided and make our children feel awful about themselves.

In this episode I will talk about how we can spot the signs our child or teen is in a toxic friendship and how we can then best support them to get out of it – and the answer isn’t to go all guns blazing and tell them to stop spending time with them! 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:03) Red and Green Friends 

(04:15) The signs of a toxic friendship 

(10:36) Do not villainize the other child 

(14:28) Acting with a growth mindset 

(17:55) The power of listening 

(20:25) Friendship is like a game of Jenga 

(25:48) Stopping the cycle of toxic relationships 


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]]> Toxic relationships are on the rise! They are friendships which aren’t healthy – they’re not about mutual respect, trust, and sharing. Instead, they are manipulative, controlling, one-sided and make our children feel awful about themselves.

In this episode I will talk about how we can spot the signs our child or teen is in a toxic friendship and how we can then best support them to get out of it – and the answer isn’t to go all guns blazing and tell them to stop spending time with them! 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:03) Red and Green Friends 

(04:15) The signs of a toxic friendship 

(10:36) Do not villainize the other child 

(14:28) Acting with a growth mindset 

(17:55) The power of listening 

(20:25) Friendship is like a game of Jenga 

(25:48) Stopping the cycle of toxic relationships 


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]]> School Holidays – Beyond Surviving! School Holidays – Beyond Surviving! Wed, 13 Jul 2022 22:30:00 GMT 33:41 51dcbfde-6d89-4bbb-8fb9-692dbb620fd8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-058-school-holidays-beyond-surviving 6675695ca4ecc30012453d49 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 58 This episode is all about school holidays and how we can not only survive them – we can thrive as a family. Cliché I know but go with it.

I will share with you the tools I used when my children were younger, which worked so well – my children asked for them each holiday! 

The holidays are long but they don’t have to be a huge juggling act, battleground, or source of untold stress. 

I also have a bumper set of free resources to help you. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:00) Suddenly everyone is home 

(06:37) Get children involved in planning your holidays 

(09:17) Set realistic expectations 

(13:14) It’s ok to ask for help 

(15:49) Cheerful Treats & Grumble Chores 

(21:35) GEARS 

(25:10) Setting challenges for ourselves 


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]]> This episode is all about school holidays and how we can not only survive them – we can thrive as a family. Cliché I know but go with it.

I will share with you the tools I used when my children were younger, which worked so well – my children asked for them each holiday! 

The holidays are long but they don’t have to be a huge juggling act, battleground, or source of untold stress. 

I also have a bumper set of free resources to help you. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:00) Suddenly everyone is home 

(06:37) Get children involved in planning your holidays 

(09:17) Set realistic expectations 

(13:14) It’s ok to ask for help 

(15:49) Cheerful Treats & Grumble Chores 

(21:35) GEARS 

(25:10) Setting challenges for ourselves 


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]]> Has My Child Got an Eating Disorder? Has My Child Got an Eating Disorder? Wed, 06 Jul 2022 22:30:00 GMT 28:59 18e909b5-2850-436d-89bd-65593a80ff11 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-057-has-my-child-got-an-eating-disorder 6675695ca4ecc30012453d4a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 57 It is estimated 1.25 million people have an eating disorder in the U.K. and the data is pretty similar worldwide. Eating disorders are a mental health condition where you use the control of food to cope with feelings and other situations.

Unhealthy eating behaviours may include eating too much or too little or worrying about your weight or body shape.

The key, in my view, is being able to pick up on the early warning signs, so support and intervention can be put in place before it becomes an established disorder. In this episode I talk through the top 7 patterns of behaviour to look out for.

If you’ve been affected by the content in this episode, you can access further information and support via BEAT EATING DISORDERS - THE UK'S EATING DISORDER CHARITY

Here are the highlights: 

(01:44) From anorexia to bulimia - what is an eating disorder? 

(05:16) The warning signs of eating disorders 

(07:08) Brene Brown and guilt vs shame 

(11:50) Mechanisms of control 

(16:47) Body confidence and self-criticism 

(22:42) Role modelling positive relationships with food


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]]> It is estimated 1.25 million people have an eating disorder in the U.K. and the data is pretty similar worldwide. Eating disorders are a mental health condition where you use the control of food to cope with feelings and other situations.

Unhealthy eating behaviours may include eating too much or too little or worrying about your weight or body shape.

The key, in my view, is being able to pick up on the early warning signs, so support and intervention can be put in place before it becomes an established disorder. In this episode I talk through the top 7 patterns of behaviour to look out for.

If you’ve been affected by the content in this episode, you can access further information and support via BEAT EATING DISORDERS - THE UK'S EATING DISORDER CHARITY

Here are the highlights: 

(01:44) From anorexia to bulimia - what is an eating disorder? 

(05:16) The warning signs of eating disorders 

(07:08) Brene Brown and guilt vs shame 

(11:50) Mechanisms of control 

(16:47) Body confidence and self-criticism 

(22:42) Role modelling positive relationships with food


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]]> <![CDATA[Should I Be Worried About My Child's Mental Health]]> Wed, 29 Jun 2022 22:30:00 GMT 29:06 b764ca45-db0c-4d25-9d58-29348e7d61e5 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-056-should-i-be-worried-about-my-childs-mental-health 6675695ca4ecc30012453d4b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 56 This episode touches on the slightly uncertain ground many parents face as to whether they should or shouldn’t be worried about their child’s mental health.

Maybe your child lacks a little confidence, they struggle to manage their emotions sometimes or often, maybe they even say they don’t like themselves or they wish they weren’t around anymore. Is this something which all children go through or should you be worried???

Here are the highlights: 

(00:27) Raising confident, resilient kids 

(02:30) Prevention is better than cure 

(07:37) Equipping our children with emotional literacy 

(13:00) Accept your child’s reality in that moment 

(16:52) Acknowledge how your child feels 

(23:58) Consider the impact of external factors 

(26:13) Let’s do a family audit 


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]]> This episode touches on the slightly uncertain ground many parents face as to whether they should or shouldn’t be worried about their child’s mental health.

Maybe your child lacks a little confidence, they struggle to manage their emotions sometimes or often, maybe they even say they don’t like themselves or they wish they weren’t around anymore. Is this something which all children go through or should you be worried???

Here are the highlights: 

(00:27) Raising confident, resilient kids 

(02:30) Prevention is better than cure 

(07:37) Equipping our children with emotional literacy 

(13:00) Accept your child’s reality in that moment 

(16:52) Acknowledge how your child feels 

(23:58) Consider the impact of external factors 

(26:13) Let’s do a family audit 


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]]> 6 Essential Skills Your Children Need You to Teach Them 6 Essential Skills Your Children Need You to Teach Them Wed, 22 Jun 2022 22:30:00 GMT 26:31 de4061f1-96a1-4d30-b45d-5dc0d97c6c06 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-055-6-essential-skills-your-children-need-you-to-teach-them 6675695ca4ecc30012453d4c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 55 This episode is all about the six essential skills your children wish you'd teach them before they became adults. The skills which are crucial to successful adulting and you will be surprised by what’s on the list!  

Some of them may seem too simple, possibly irrelevant but as every successful adult can attest – without these skills, the world of work and adulthood can be tricky to navigate.  

And of course if you find this show helpful, please do subscribe, share and leave a review to help other parents find us so we can spread the love. 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:09) How to make small talk 

(05:58) How to use the telephone 

(08:55) How to use their voice and speak in public 

(14:42) How to time manage effectively 

(17:48) How to manage stress 

(21:19) How to manage money 


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]]> This episode is all about the six essential skills your children wish you'd teach them before they became adults. The skills which are crucial to successful adulting and you will be surprised by what’s on the list!  

Some of them may seem too simple, possibly irrelevant but as every successful adult can attest – without these skills, the world of work and adulthood can be tricky to navigate.  

And of course if you find this show helpful, please do subscribe, share and leave a review to help other parents find us so we can spread the love. 

Here are the highlights: 

(02:09) How to make small talk 

(05:58) How to use the telephone 

(08:55) How to use their voice and speak in public 

(14:42) How to time manage effectively 

(17:48) How to manage stress 

(21:19) How to manage money 


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]]> Promoting Healthy Body Image Promoting Healthy Body Image Wed, 15 Jun 2022 22:30:00 GMT 27:28 e55393ca-24aa-498e-b257-f9493e4b48d6 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-054-promoting-healthy-body-image 6675695ca4ecc30012453d4d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 54 Over 50% of children worry about how they look, 36% say they will do whatever it takes to look good, and 57% have considered going on a diet! Scary statistics when all we want is happy children who celebrate their own uniqueness.  

That’s why today’s episode is all about body image - a tricky subject for us as parents to navigate, so hope by listening to this podcast you come away with some easy to implement techniques.

And of course if you find this show helpful, please do subscribe, share and leave a review to help other parents find us so we can spread the love.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:04) Children worry about body image too! 

(04:31) The media has a huge impact on our children 

(08:53) We must be self-aware about our own body image first 

(14:28) Being fit does NOT mean not feeling fat 

(16:43) Making healthy choices 

(22:46) Teach our children to be media savvy 

(24:22) Creating a healthy narrative 


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]]> Over 50% of children worry about how they look, 36% say they will do whatever it takes to look good, and 57% have considered going on a diet! Scary statistics when all we want is happy children who celebrate their own uniqueness.  

That’s why today’s episode is all about body image - a tricky subject for us as parents to navigate, so hope by listening to this podcast you come away with some easy to implement techniques.

And of course if you find this show helpful, please do subscribe, share and leave a review to help other parents find us so we can spread the love.

Here are the highlights: 

(01:04) Children worry about body image too! 

(04:31) The media has a huge impact on our children 

(08:53) We must be self-aware about our own body image first 

(14:28) Being fit does NOT mean not feeling fat 

(16:43) Making healthy choices 

(22:46) Teach our children to be media savvy 

(24:22) Creating a healthy narrative 


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]]> One Million Moments One Million Moments Wed, 08 Jun 2022 22:30:00 GMT 17:55 eda9255b-5220-40b5-83c2-3eaf6b6d1aed false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-053-one-million-moments 6675695ca4ecc30012453d4e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 53 This podcast episode is a bit different - it’s about my worldwide campaign - One Million Moments which launched on 8th June 2022 and aims to positively impact 1 million lives. Can you help me spread the word, and give your children the tools to be emotionally resilient?

Click here to find out more about ONE MILLION MOMENTS   

Here are the highlights: 

(00:36) Children’s mental health is a global issue 

(02:57) One in six children 

(06:49) Seize the moments to connect 

(09:16) Let’s really listen 

(11:45) How you can support One Million Moments 


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]]> This podcast episode is a bit different - it’s about my worldwide campaign - One Million Moments which launched on 8th June 2022 and aims to positively impact 1 million lives. Can you help me spread the word, and give your children the tools to be emotionally resilient?

Click here to find out more about ONE MILLION MOMENTS   

Here are the highlights: 

(00:36) Children’s mental health is a global issue 

(02:57) One in six children 

(06:49) Seize the moments to connect 

(09:16) Let’s really listen 

(11:45) How you can support One Million Moments 


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]]> Helping Children Succeed at School Helping Children Succeed at School Wed, 01 Jun 2022 22:30:00 GMT 24:09 80f26cda-81c0-4eaa-b759-86a80864c534 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-052-helping-children-succeed-at-school 6675695ca4ecc30012453d4f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 52 Let’s talk about how we can help our children succeed at school. Success at school is of course linked to academics, but it is also linked to social aspects such as friendships, and confidence. So I will talk about how our children can succeed by becoming independent learners, and owing their learning journey.  

You might find this useful if your teen is studying for big exams as well as for children owning their school success - whether it’s homework, friendships, reading, or just being curious about the world and wanting to learn. 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:37) It’s about more than academics 

(03:00) Focus on process, not outcomes 

(06:41) Set regular goals as a family 

(11:19) Confidence is contagious 

(16:10) be prepared for trial and error 

(20:24) Setting up a good study routine 


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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Let’s talk about how we can help our children succeed at school. Success at school is of course linked to academics, but it is also linked to social aspects such as friendships, and confidence. So I will talk about how our children can succeed by becoming independent learners, and owing their learning journey.  

You might find this useful if your teen is studying for big exams as well as for children owning their school success - whether it’s homework, friendships, reading, or just being curious about the world and wanting to learn. 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:37) It’s about more than academics 

(03:00) Focus on process, not outcomes 

(06:41) Set regular goals as a family 

(11:19) Confidence is contagious 

(16:10) be prepared for trial and error 

(20:24) Setting up a good study routine 


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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Helping Children Feel Confident About Their Future with Stephanie Haynes Helping Children Feel Confident About Their Future with Stephanie Haynes Wed, 25 May 2022 22:30:00 GMT 45:36 8a0886ee-61d0-433d-9486-caef884f0554 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-051-helping-children-feel-confident-about-their-future-with-stephanie-haynes 6675695ca4ecc30012453d50 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 51 In this episode I am joined by Stephanie Haynes, education coach and consultant. We talk about how we can raise children who believe all options are open for their furure - whether that’s going to university, an apprenticeship, entrepreneurship, or something else AND it starts earlier than you think. Some truly mind-blowing revelations and advice. A must listen whether your child is 2 or 22! 

BUY STEPHANIE’S BOOK ‘COLLEGE IS NOT MANDATORY’ HERE 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:09) What is an education coach? 

(08:15) More awareness around the impact of student debt 

(14:23) Our goal is to help our children be happy and successful 

(18:33) Live the values you teach 

(24:20) What kind of adult do you want to raise? 

(29:24) Become the best version of yourself 

(32:38) How to check in with yourself 

(35:35) Helping our children choose the right path 

(39:55) Return on investment

 

Connect with Stephanie: 

Visit the Website 

Follow on Instagram 

Connect on LinkedIn 

Subscribe on YouTube 

Follow on Facebook 

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]]> In this episode I am joined by Stephanie Haynes, education coach and consultant. We talk about how we can raise children who believe all options are open for their furure - whether that’s going to university, an apprenticeship, entrepreneurship, or something else AND it starts earlier than you think. Some truly mind-blowing revelations and advice. A must listen whether your child is 2 or 22! 

BUY STEPHANIE’S BOOK ‘COLLEGE IS NOT MANDATORY’ HERE 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:09) What is an education coach? 

(08:15) More awareness around the impact of student debt 

(14:23) Our goal is to help our children be happy and successful 

(18:33) Live the values you teach 

(24:20) What kind of adult do you want to raise? 

(29:24) Become the best version of yourself 

(32:38) How to check in with yourself 

(35:35) Helping our children choose the right path 

(39:55) Return on investment

 

Connect with Stephanie: 

Visit the Website 

Follow on Instagram 

Connect on LinkedIn 

Subscribe on YouTube 

Follow on Facebook 

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Promoting A Growth ‘Can-Do’ Mindset Promoting A Growth ‘Can-Do’ Mindset Wed, 18 May 2022 22:30:00 GMT 25:28 fdc27709-1177-4c13-9e9b-904906d3c583 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-050-promoting-a-growth-can-do-mindset 6675695ca4ecc30012453d51 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 50 In this episode I want to talk about how we can promote a can-do growth mindset in our children. Helping our children to see they are capable of almost anything they set their minds to and helping set high aspirations for themselves. 


Here are the highlights: 


(02:07) A fixed versus growth mindset 

(05:35) Teaching our children how the brain works 

(09:27) Using the right vocabulary 

(12:04) Turn it back on the adult 

(17:11) Use problem solving language 

(18:23) The power of yet 



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> In this episode I want to talk about how we can promote a can-do growth mindset in our children. Helping our children to see they are capable of almost anything they set their minds to and helping set high aspirations for themselves. 


Here are the highlights: 


(02:07) A fixed versus growth mindset 

(05:35) Teaching our children how the brain works 

(09:27) Using the right vocabulary 

(12:04) Turn it back on the adult 

(17:11) Use problem solving language 

(18:23) The power of yet 



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Let’s Talk Children’s Mental Health Let’s Talk Children’s Mental Health Wed, 11 May 2022 22:30:00 GMT 34:59 2c7e8aaa-05b2-45f7-923c-13a6bda91986 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-049-lets-talk-childrens-mental-health 6675695ca4ecc30012453d52 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 49 I want to talk about children’s mental health. What is it, why do we keep hearing about rising numbers in it, what are the common factors which affect it, and are some children more likely to have issues with it???? I will then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health.   

Here are the highlights: 

(00:52) What do we mean by mental health? 

(04:19) Our experiences leave a chemical signature 

(07:20) Common factors affecting mental health 

(13:19) It’s ok to be a parent with mental health issues 

(17:03) Children must learn how to problem solve 

(19:52) Teach our children about self-care 

(24:42) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:15) Maintain connections 

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💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> I want to talk about children’s mental health. What is it, why do we keep hearing about rising numbers in it, what are the common factors which affect it, and are some children more likely to have issues with it???? I will then share my top 5 tips on how we can best equip our children to safeguard their mental health.   

Here are the highlights: 

(00:52) What do we mean by mental health? 

(04:19) Our experiences leave a chemical signature 

(07:20) Common factors affecting mental health 

(13:19) It’s ok to be a parent with mental health issues 

(17:03) Children must learn how to problem solve 

(19:52) Teach our children about self-care 

(24:42) Promote regular reflective practice 

(28:15) Maintain connections 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Interview with Anna Mathur Interview with Anna Mathur Wed, 04 May 2022 22:30:00 GMT 42:14 18e4b054-6004-4c9f-ac86-22d34384e72a false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-048-interview-with-anna-mathur 6675695ca4ecc30012453d53 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 48 Enjoy my conversation with the amazing Anna Mathur, a psychotherapist, mother of three and best selling author of Mind Over Mother.  Anna’s passion for taking therapy out of the therapy room has culminated in her wonderful new book The Little Book of Clam for New Mums, which I feel is a must read for any mother regardless of the age of your children. We talk rage & irritability, fears of judgements, self-care, and missing our pre-children life. A must listen for every mum.   

Click here to buy THE LITTLE BOOK OF CALM FOR NEW MUMS by Anna Mathur 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:17) The Little Book of Calm for New Mums 

(05:51) Dealing with overwhelm as a new mum 

(09:08) Losing your voice of intuition 

(15:44) We don’t always like our children... and that’s ok! 

(21:57) Validate your emotions 

(24:23) The importance of self-care 

(28:24) The shame of missing our old lives 

(35:42) It’s harder to reflect when you’re full of feeling 


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]]> Enjoy my conversation with the amazing Anna Mathur, a psychotherapist, mother of three and best selling author of Mind Over Mother.  Anna’s passion for taking therapy out of the therapy room has culminated in her wonderful new book The Little Book of Clam for New Mums, which I feel is a must read for any mother regardless of the age of your children. We talk rage & irritability, fears of judgements, self-care, and missing our pre-children life. A must listen for every mum.   

Click here to buy THE LITTLE BOOK OF CALM FOR NEW MUMS by Anna Mathur 

Here are the highlights: 

(03:17) The Little Book of Calm for New Mums 

(05:51) Dealing with overwhelm as a new mum 

(09:08) Losing your voice of intuition 

(15:44) We don’t always like our children... and that’s ok! 

(21:57) Validate your emotions 

(24:23) The importance of self-care 

(28:24) The shame of missing our old lives 

(35:42) It’s harder to reflect when you’re full of feeling 


💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> <![CDATA[Sex, Drugs & Rock n Roll! When should we have these difficult conversations?]]> Wed, 27 Apr 2022 22:30:00 GMT 28:07 dd61461e-a74a-43e2-9bd1-16d752438e6b false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-047-sex-drugs-rock-n-roll-when-should-we-be-have-these-difficult-conversations 6675695ca4ecc30012453d54 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 47 I have had a number of conversations this week with friends - without breaking any confidences - who’s children have either become very drunk, they have caught their children vaping, looking at porn, taking drugs, or sneaking downstairs to switch the wifi back on and grab their devices!

These are all incredible parents, wonderful parents in fact who have a great relationship with their children. They talk a lot and they thought they had several years yet before they had to have that difficult conversation and than bam!!   


So this is going to be a slightly different type of podcast. I want you to imagine I am your friend and we are sat having a cup of something, and I am sharing my advice. Enjoy! 


Here are the highlights: 

(02:22) Get comfortable with the uncomfortable 

(3:28) Use age appropriate information 

(07:54) If the conversations feels uncomfortable, think about why 

(12:30) Educate yourself 

(17:09) Be non-judgmental 

(21:44) Focus on safety over prevention 



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> I have had a number of conversations this week with friends - without breaking any confidences - who’s children have either become very drunk, they have caught their children vaping, looking at porn, taking drugs, or sneaking downstairs to switch the wifi back on and grab their devices!

These are all incredible parents, wonderful parents in fact who have a great relationship with their children. They talk a lot and they thought they had several years yet before they had to have that difficult conversation and than bam!!   


So this is going to be a slightly different type of podcast. I want you to imagine I am your friend and we are sat having a cup of something, and I am sharing my advice. Enjoy! 


Here are the highlights: 

(02:22) Get comfortable with the uncomfortable 

(3:28) Use age appropriate information 

(07:54) If the conversations feels uncomfortable, think about why 

(12:30) Educate yourself 

(17:09) Be non-judgmental 

(21:44) Focus on safety over prevention 



💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.


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]]> Raising Independent Children Raising Independent Children Wed, 20 Apr 2022 22:30:00 GMT 33:49 2fdb1918-1640-4688-b980-4e996c218c1e false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-046-raising-independent-children 6675695ca4ecc30012453d55 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 46 Doesn’t every parent want an independent, self motivated, resilient child or teen who takes ownership of their learning (and revising), their bedroom, their behaviour and their choices??  

Sound too good to be true?  It’s really not but the secret is starting early and please don’t worry if you’ve already got a teen - all is not lost!!  

Independence breeds confidence and confidence leads to resilience. What distinguishes those who are the most successful in life is their ability to pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and start all over again!! I’ll share my top seven tips.   

Here are the highlights: 

(02:42) Are we too risk averse with our children? 

(06:36) Our role is to raise independent children 

(11:12) Set growth-appropriate expectations 

(13:58) Reflect on your own attitides towards risk 

(17:31) Your children should contribute around the house 

(21:29) Encourage children to do tasks in their own way 

(24:26) Help them to problem solve independently 

(26:04) Teach responsibility through an allowance 

Also Mentioned in this Episode: 

Old Enough – Watch Now on Netflix 

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Doesn’t every parent want an independent, self motivated, resilient child or teen who takes ownership of their learning (and revising), their bedroom, their behaviour and their choices??  

Sound too good to be true?  It’s really not but the secret is starting early and please don’t worry if you’ve already got a teen - all is not lost!!  

Independence breeds confidence and confidence leads to resilience. What distinguishes those who are the most successful in life is their ability to pick themselves up, dust themselves down, and start all over again!! I’ll share my top seven tips.   

Here are the highlights: 

(02:42) Are we too risk averse with our children? 

(06:36) Our role is to raise independent children 

(11:12) Set growth-appropriate expectations 

(13:58) Reflect on your own attitides towards risk 

(17:31) Your children should contribute around the house 

(21:29) Encourage children to do tasks in their own way 

(24:26) Help them to problem solve independently 

(26:04) Teach responsibility through an allowance 

Also Mentioned in this Episode: 

Old Enough – Watch Now on Netflix 

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Listener Questions Listener Questions Wed, 13 Apr 2022 22:30:00 GMT 43:31 6e67504d-1db9-4e93-97c1-7d9ebeabb37d false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-045-listener-questions 6675695ca4ecc30012453d56 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 45 This episode I am doing something a little different. I am answering 4 listener questions which cover ADHD, Autism, Teen Friendships, Death and a Fear of Flying. Your children or teens might not be struggling with the exact same challenges but I can guarantee you will get some very useful tips from listening. So here goes.. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:10) I think my son has ADHD 

(16:54) My daughter is being excluded by her friends 

(25:42) Talking to my child about death 

(33:24) My child has a fear of flying – help! 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> This episode I am doing something a little different. I am answering 4 listener questions which cover ADHD, Autism, Teen Friendships, Death and a Fear of Flying. Your children or teens might not be struggling with the exact same challenges but I can guarantee you will get some very useful tips from listening. So here goes.. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:10) I think my son has ADHD 

(16:54) My daughter is being excluded by her friends 

(25:42) Talking to my child about death 

(33:24) My child has a fear of flying – help! 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> The Secrets to Raising Happy Children The Secrets to Raising Happy Children Wed, 06 Apr 2022 22:30:00 GMT 39:31 82be9f85-ab22-4570-8cd3-c95773c0db29 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-04-the-secrets-to-raising-happy-children 6675695ca4ecc30012453d57 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 44 I want to talk about what might possibly feel like the elusive art of raising happy children. Everywhere we are reading about children and teenagers struggling with their mental health and yet there are a vast number of children growing up happy. What’s the secret??  

Sometimes it is hard to get the balance right between what makes our children happy and what’s actually in their best interests. This episode is not about always taking the line to happiness but I do think happiness and what’s right are not mutually exclusive. You can most definitely raise a happy child by always doing what’s in their best interests. I’ll share my top 6 tips.   

Here are the highlights: 

(05:06) A bit about my own children 

(08:58) You must work on your own happiness 

(12:15) Encourage your child to build relationships 

(16:29) Promoting optimism as a state of mind 

(22:00) Teach our children to connect with their emotions 

(28:13) Create habits 

(33:32) Connect regularly as a family 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> I want to talk about what might possibly feel like the elusive art of raising happy children. Everywhere we are reading about children and teenagers struggling with their mental health and yet there are a vast number of children growing up happy. What’s the secret??  

Sometimes it is hard to get the balance right between what makes our children happy and what’s actually in their best interests. This episode is not about always taking the line to happiness but I do think happiness and what’s right are not mutually exclusive. You can most definitely raise a happy child by always doing what’s in their best interests. I’ll share my top 6 tips.   

Here are the highlights: 

(05:06) A bit about my own children 

(08:58) You must work on your own happiness 

(12:15) Encourage your child to build relationships 

(16:29) Promoting optimism as a state of mind 

(22:00) Teach our children to connect with their emotions 

(28:13) Create habits 

(33:32) Connect regularly as a family 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> A Letter to All Ambitious Mothers A Letter to All Ambitious Mothers Wed, 30 Mar 2022 22:30:00 GMT 28:32 e8c5f279-0079-48af-bbe9-7601409f1f9f false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-043-a-letter-to-all-ambitious-mothers 6675695ca4ecc30012453d58 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 43 In this episode I talk about being a mother and having personal ambitions.  Wanting something for you which feels worthwhile striving for and yet comes with a whole host of guilt about whether you are failing at motherhood because of your ambitions. 

At 52 I no long worry what anyone thinks of me, my drive, or my ambition. I am unapologetically me, and by the way –  I know I am a great mother!!

What I know now to be true has always been true, I just wish I could have told my younger self and spared myself years of unnecessary self-criticism and worry. So, allow me to gift you the wisdom I have gained over the past five decades.

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:41) My children didn’t need me anymore 

(05:36) Find your tribe 

(10:33) We set unrealistic benchmarks for ourselves 

(15:43) Leave comparison at the door 

(20:01) Practice self-compassion 

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]]> In this episode I talk about being a mother and having personal ambitions.  Wanting something for you which feels worthwhile striving for and yet comes with a whole host of guilt about whether you are failing at motherhood because of your ambitions. 

At 52 I no long worry what anyone thinks of me, my drive, or my ambition. I am unapologetically me, and by the way –  I know I am a great mother!!

What I know now to be true has always been true, I just wish I could have told my younger self and spared myself years of unnecessary self-criticism and worry. So, allow me to gift you the wisdom I have gained over the past five decades.

 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:41) My children didn’t need me anymore 

(05:36) Find your tribe 

(10:33) We set unrealistic benchmarks for ourselves 

(15:43) Leave comparison at the door 

(20:01) Practice self-compassion 

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]]> Parenting the Child You Have and Not the Child You Secretly Wanted! Parenting the Child You Have and Not the Child You Secretly Wanted! Wed, 23 Mar 2022 23:30:00 GMT 29:27 f2594495-1b96-4ae8-9fc5-4dfcb1a6a1d8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-040-parenting-the-child-you-have-and-not-the-child-you-secretly-wanted 6675695ca4ecc30012453d59 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 42 You know that time when you are expecting and you’re lost on those dreams of what your child will be like? The interests you think they are likely to have because of you and your partner’s interests and passions. The qualities you feel they will inherit and how they will utilise them. Maybe you are both musical and you imagine them growing up to have an appreciation of classical music, as you do. Maybe you are super sporty and you imagine which sports they will choose to take up or maybe you are super creative and you imagine what form their creativity might take   

Then they are born grow up and their natural interests could not be more out of alignment to your own and you wonder - what the hell happened??!!!!   

How do we get to know and parent the child we have, rather than the child we secretly hoped we’d have 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:26) Lost in dreams of what your child might be 

(04:04) Three health warnings 

(09:51) A practical exercise to get to know your children 

(15:14) Describing yourself in 10 words 

(23:09) Understanding your child’s aspirations 

(25:59) Applying this exercise in real life 

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]]> You know that time when you are expecting and you’re lost on those dreams of what your child will be like? The interests you think they are likely to have because of you and your partner’s interests and passions. The qualities you feel they will inherit and how they will utilise them. Maybe you are both musical and you imagine them growing up to have an appreciation of classical music, as you do. Maybe you are super sporty and you imagine which sports they will choose to take up or maybe you are super creative and you imagine what form their creativity might take   

Then they are born grow up and their natural interests could not be more out of alignment to your own and you wonder - what the hell happened??!!!!   

How do we get to know and parent the child we have, rather than the child we secretly hoped we’d have 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:26) Lost in dreams of what your child might be 

(04:04) Three health warnings 

(09:51) A practical exercise to get to know your children 

(15:14) Describing yourself in 10 words 

(23:09) Understanding your child’s aspirations 

(25:59) Applying this exercise in real life 

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]]> <![CDATA[Real Parenting - Parenting Consistently When You're Knackered]]> Wed, 16 Mar 2022 23:30:00 GMT 29:50 fd17be02-4abc-4f89-8c0c-3afa03492d50 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-040-real-parenting-parenting-consistently-when-youre-knackered 6675695ca4ecc30012453d5a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 41 This is episode is brought to you as a result of a listener email. We are going to talk about real parenting - the messy, dirty, ugly, crying, shouting, despairing trials which confront us - often it feels, on a daily basis!!

Whether you’re feeling totally knackered, as though you’re failing. Feeling as though you are throwing random threats out when your children make poor choices and then not being able to follow through - maybe even feeling as though your children are ganging up on you - being deliberately non-compliant and hatching a plan to completely mess with your mind!!!! This episode is for you 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:26) We have all been there 

(04:40) Cut yourself some slack 

(08:10) Quick wins vs longer lasting changes 

(11:29) Review your household rules regularly 

(15:40) You are the CEO of your family 

(21:12) Check in on you 

(27:09) My give this week 

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]]> This is episode is brought to you as a result of a listener email. We are going to talk about real parenting - the messy, dirty, ugly, crying, shouting, despairing trials which confront us - often it feels, on a daily basis!!

Whether you’re feeling totally knackered, as though you’re failing. Feeling as though you are throwing random threats out when your children make poor choices and then not being able to follow through - maybe even feeling as though your children are ganging up on you - being deliberately non-compliant and hatching a plan to completely mess with your mind!!!! This episode is for you 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:26) We have all been there 

(04:40) Cut yourself some slack 

(08:10) Quick wins vs longer lasting changes 

(11:29) Review your household rules regularly 

(15:40) You are the CEO of your family 

(21:12) Check in on you 

(27:09) My give this week 

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]]> Mental Health Is A Whole Family Project Mental Health Is A Whole Family Project Wed, 09 Mar 2022 23:30:00 GMT 25:33 f9465a04-0876-4f6f-bf48-a5f470d7f9a6 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-040-mental-health-is-a-whole-family-project 6675695ca4ecc30012453d5b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 40 Societally we juggle more than our parents ever did when they were raising us.

We are a generation raised on the notion we could have it all - a great marriage, fulfilling careers, wonderful children, holidays, a big house, nice cars, after school paid activities, tutoring, the best schools, and so on and so on.

Add social media, rolling news, and the need to be constantly 'on' and it's no wonder we have the mental health issues we have today. Whilst some children will need the support of a specialist, there is so much we can do to help at home, and it starts with us asking ourselves "How am I really feeling, and what am I doing to take care of my stresses, anxieties and overwhelm?". 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:54) One in six children have a probable diagnosable mental health issue 

(06:50) Do a ‘stress audit’ on your typical day 

(10:18) Make small but meaningful changes 

(15:12) The power of family meetings 

(18:16) Include children in the decision-making process 

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]]> Societally we juggle more than our parents ever did when they were raising us.

We are a generation raised on the notion we could have it all - a great marriage, fulfilling careers, wonderful children, holidays, a big house, nice cars, after school paid activities, tutoring, the best schools, and so on and so on.

Add social media, rolling news, and the need to be constantly 'on' and it's no wonder we have the mental health issues we have today. Whilst some children will need the support of a specialist, there is so much we can do to help at home, and it starts with us asking ourselves "How am I really feeling, and what am I doing to take care of my stresses, anxieties and overwhelm?". 

Here are the highlights: 

(00:54) One in six children have a probable diagnosable mental health issue 

(06:50) Do a ‘stress audit’ on your typical day 

(10:18) Make small but meaningful changes 

(15:12) The power of family meetings 

(18:16) Include children in the decision-making process 

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]]> How to Talk to Children About Scary World Events How to Talk to Children About Scary World Events Wed, 02 Mar 2022 23:30:00 GMT 31:57 da1ebf65-4fda-4eb7-9bb1-54e43535948b false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-039-how-to-talk-to-children-about-scary-world-events 6675695ca4ecc30012453d5c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 39 In this episode I want to tackle the complex subject of how do we have conversations with our children about scary world events. 

Now if you are listening to this episode in March 2022 you may find this relevant for explaining to children about what is happening with Ukraine and Russia. However, the advice I will give is relevant across a number of issues, whether it’s climate change, wars, riots, unrest or widely publicised prosecutions. Anything which bursts our children’s bubble of the world being an inherently good and safe place. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:28) The world can be a scary place for children 

(05:01) Children pick up on others’ concerns 

(12:06) Focus on the facts 

(15:35) Be honest when you don’t know the answer 

(17:49) How to help your child manage their fear and anxiety 

(20:14) The balloon technique 

(26:20) A daily practice of gratitude 

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]]> In this episode I want to tackle the complex subject of how do we have conversations with our children about scary world events. 

Now if you are listening to this episode in March 2022 you may find this relevant for explaining to children about what is happening with Ukraine and Russia. However, the advice I will give is relevant across a number of issues, whether it’s climate change, wars, riots, unrest or widely publicised prosecutions. Anything which bursts our children’s bubble of the world being an inherently good and safe place. 

Here are the highlights: 

(01:28) The world can be a scary place for children 

(05:01) Children pick up on others’ concerns 

(12:06) Focus on the facts 

(15:35) Be honest when you don’t know the answer 

(17:49) How to help your child manage their fear and anxiety 

(20:14) The balloon technique 

(26:20) A daily practice of gratitude 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> If Only I Knew If Only I Knew Wed, 23 Feb 2022 23:30:00 GMT 18:03 2049008a-8e4f-49bc-b7e8-228a9ed382cd false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-038-if-only-i-knew 6675695ca4ecc30012453d5d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 38 This is episode takes a slightly different tack to parenting - looking at it from the perspective of “If only I knew!”   


It takes the approach if I knew then what I knew now - how would I parent differently? I believe quite strongly that it’s never too late to start afresh, we genuinely cannot screw up our kids, if we approach parenting consciously - constantly reflecting back on choices we’ve made and why we made them - and then making changes when we need to.   


So if you’re an expectant parent with your first child and you’re listening to this, or you’re expecting your second, third, fourth child or maybe you’re a parent looking at making a fresh start with your parenting. This episode is for you. 


Here are the highlights: 


(00:32) It’s never too late 

(04:35) Listening to our Inner Child 

(07:33) What kind of adult do you want to raise? 

(12:50) Children do what they see, not what we say 

(15:22) Parenting is a work in progress 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> This is episode takes a slightly different tack to parenting - looking at it from the perspective of “If only I knew!”   


It takes the approach if I knew then what I knew now - how would I parent differently? I believe quite strongly that it’s never too late to start afresh, we genuinely cannot screw up our kids, if we approach parenting consciously - constantly reflecting back on choices we’ve made and why we made them - and then making changes when we need to.   


So if you’re an expectant parent with your first child and you’re listening to this, or you’re expecting your second, third, fourth child or maybe you’re a parent looking at making a fresh start with your parenting. This episode is for you. 


Here are the highlights: 


(00:32) It’s never too late 

(04:35) Listening to our Inner Child 

(07:33) What kind of adult do you want to raise? 

(12:50) Children do what they see, not what we say 

(15:22) Parenting is a work in progress 



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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025


DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Back-Chat and Pushing Boundaries Back-Chat and Pushing Boundaries Wed, 16 Feb 2022 23:30:00 GMT 30:06 8a629301-6d17-4f70-bc90-38f8ea931591 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-037-back-chat-and-pushing-boundaries 6675695ca4ecc30012453d5e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 37 In this episode we are talking about back-chat and pushing boundaries. I get asked about this a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers; thirteen, fourteen-year-olds being rebellious and pushing every boundary. Yet what I know to be true is this pattern of behaviour is not limited to any age. It’s much more to do with what is happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour more and more, and in younger and younger children. I will also share my usual five top strategies to help and support. 


Here are the highlights: 


(01:05) Children want control over their lives just like us 

(05:25) All decisions come with consequences 

(10:39) Help our children make choices 

(15:24) Punishments don’t work, but consequences do 

(19:55) Be clear, be consistent and follow through 

(24:19) Regularly check in with yourself 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> In this episode we are talking about back-chat and pushing boundaries. I get asked about this a lot as I know it’s something we can really struggle with as parents.  

We usually associate this type of behaviour with the teenagers; thirteen, fourteen-year-olds being rebellious and pushing every boundary. Yet what I know to be true is this pattern of behaviour is not limited to any age. It’s much more to do with what is happening in our children’s internal world than something which is specifically related to a given age or stage of development. 

I’ll share my thoughts on why we are seeing this behaviour more and more, and in younger and younger children. I will also share my usual five top strategies to help and support. 


Here are the highlights: 


(01:05) Children want control over their lives just like us 

(05:25) All decisions come with consequences 

(10:39) Help our children make choices 

(15:24) Punishments don’t work, but consequences do 

(19:55) Be clear, be consistent and follow through 

(24:19) Regularly check in with yourself 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Children’s Willpower: A Battery Which Needs Recharging Children’s Willpower: A Battery Which Needs Recharging Wed, 09 Feb 2022 23:30:00 GMT 23:36 9a51b290-cd2e-4caa-ba78-f7aad52cf0c8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-036-childrens-willpower-a-battery-which-needs-recharging 6675695ca4ecc30012453d5f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 36 Children’s willpower is like a rechargeable battery; it starts the day full and slowly drains away to nothing, before sleep recharges it for the next day.    

How quickly your child’s battery runs flat depends in part on their character, how much their willpower has been used throughout the day, and whether they have regularly visited a recharge station.    

In this episode I will share with you my five simple ways to ensure your child’s battery has enough charge to get them through their day.   

Plus, I answer the question of the week from a parent who can’t get her child to talk to her. What should she do? 



Here are the highlights: 


(01:57) 5 simple ways to keep our children’s batteries charged 

(06:38) A simple card game 

(09:28) The marshmallow experiment 

(13:18) Promote the right mindset 

(20:35) Parent question of the week 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Children’s willpower is like a rechargeable battery; it starts the day full and slowly drains away to nothing, before sleep recharges it for the next day.    

How quickly your child’s battery runs flat depends in part on their character, how much their willpower has been used throughout the day, and whether they have regularly visited a recharge station.    

In this episode I will share with you my five simple ways to ensure your child’s battery has enough charge to get them through their day.   

Plus, I answer the question of the week from a parent who can’t get her child to talk to her. What should she do? 



Here are the highlights: 


(01:57) 5 simple ways to keep our children’s batteries charged 

(06:38) A simple card game 

(09:28) The marshmallow experiment 

(13:18) Promote the right mindset 

(20:35) Parent question of the week 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> Help! I’ve Completely Lost It with My Children Help! I’ve Completely Lost It with My Children Wed, 02 Feb 2022 23:30:00 GMT 25:59 e3f3bad7-a80b-49e6-8b4c-7377097956db false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-035-help-ive-completely-lost-it-with-my-children 6675695ca4ecc30012453d60 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 35 I want to regularly answer your most burning questions as part of my Help! Question. So here is our first. Help!! I’ve completely lost it with my children!!

We have all been there right?? You know, those times when we become some sort of mum/dad zilla - unleashing anger, fury, and frustration in a way which almost feels like an out of body experience, and you just can’t seem to stop yourself. In this episode I will share my 5 step plan of what to do once it’s happened, and I will share a free resource to help reduce the chances of it happening again.   


Here are the highlights: 


(02:37) We need to own our mistakes 

(05:18) No ifs, no buts, just say sorry 

(10:11) We help our children build their own lives 

(14:40) We must reflect – the bucket analogy 

(23:43) Being a parent is just one of our roles 



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DISCLAIMER: The content in the podcast is not intended to constitute or be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Always seek the advice of your doctor or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition. Never disregard professional medical advice or delay in seeking it because of something you have heard on the podcast or on my website.

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]]> I want to regularly answer your most burning questions as part of my Help! Question. So here is our first. Help!! I’ve completely lost it with my children!!

We have all been there right?? You know, those times when we become some sort of mum/dad zilla - unleashing anger, fury, and frustration in a way which almost feels like an out of body experience, and you just can’t seem to stop yourself. In this episode I will share my 5 step plan of what to do once it’s happened, and I will share a free resource to help reduce the chances of it happening again.   


Here are the highlights: 


(02:37) We need to own our mistakes 

(05:18) No ifs, no buts, just say sorry 

(10:11) We help our children build their own lives 

(14:40) We must reflect – the bucket analogy 

(23:43) Being a parent is just one of our roles 



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]]> Play - A Child’s Work Play - A Child’s Work Wed, 26 Jan 2022 23:30:00 GMT 25:09 c747029a-c52e-4510-9659-2adcbc36ee8b false https://traffic.libsyn.com/secure/drmaryhan/Episode_34_Play_A_Childs_Work.mp3 6675695ca4ecc30012453d61 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 34 This episode is all about the importance of play for our children.

I am often asked about how much time school-aged children should have to play each day. My answer is always the same…I believe play is the single most important activity for children to engage in, each and every day, for at least one hour.


The research evidence is overwhelming in documenting the power of play for children’s emotional wellbeing, social development, AND academic achievement.  

I will share with you my five top reasons why you should be scheduling play into your child’s day, before anything else. 


Here are the highlights: 


(01:00) Play has a huge impact on your child’s emotional wellbeing 

(08:14) Wind down and recharge through playtime 

(12:34) Play teaches social skills 

(16:35) Don’t stifle your children’s creativity 

(22:11) Let them communicate with their internal chatter 



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]]> This episode is all about the importance of play for our children.

I am often asked about how much time school-aged children should have to play each day. My answer is always the same…I believe play is the single most important activity for children to engage in, each and every day, for at least one hour.


The research evidence is overwhelming in documenting the power of play for children’s emotional wellbeing, social development, AND academic achievement.  

I will share with you my five top reasons why you should be scheduling play into your child’s day, before anything else. 


Here are the highlights: 


(01:00) Play has a huge impact on your child’s emotional wellbeing 

(08:14) Wind down and recharge through playtime 

(12:34) Play teaches social skills 

(16:35) Don’t stifle your children’s creativity 

(22:11) Let them communicate with their internal chatter 



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]]> Friendships - The Highs and Lows Friendships - The Highs and Lows Wed, 19 Jan 2022 23:30:00 GMT 32:33 999a3634-8126-4e74-93eb-bd90dbffb372 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-033-friendships-the-highs-and-lows 6675695ca4ecc30012453d62 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 33 This episode is all about childhood friendships; the high and lows, ins and outs and how we can help our children navigate them better.


As humans we are social animals - we want to belong, we want to be accepted, be part of a collective and friendships serve that purpose for us. When it comes to school - friendships are the reason children stay happy and bounce into school. When they are struggling with friendships it can create a whole host of other issues.


These issues occur across all ages from pre-schoolers all the way up to our school leavers and university attending young adults - the language used is just different.

I’ll share the qualities of a good friend and the five friendship truths. 


Here are the highlights: 


(01:55) The importance of friendships for our children 

(03:15) Qualities of a good friendship 

(14:33) Identifying our strengths and weaknesses 

(20:14) How to react when your child is struggling with friendships 

(22:09) The 5 truths about friendships your child should understand 



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]]> This episode is all about childhood friendships; the high and lows, ins and outs and how we can help our children navigate them better.


As humans we are social animals - we want to belong, we want to be accepted, be part of a collective and friendships serve that purpose for us. When it comes to school - friendships are the reason children stay happy and bounce into school. When they are struggling with friendships it can create a whole host of other issues.


These issues occur across all ages from pre-schoolers all the way up to our school leavers and university attending young adults - the language used is just different.

I’ll share the qualities of a good friend and the five friendship truths. 


Here are the highlights: 


(01:55) The importance of friendships for our children 

(03:15) Qualities of a good friendship 

(14:33) Identifying our strengths and weaknesses 

(20:14) How to react when your child is struggling with friendships 

(22:09) The 5 truths about friendships your child should understand 



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]]> Navigating Uncertainty Successfully Navigating Uncertainty Successfully Wed, 12 Jan 2022 23:30:00 GMT 32:38 26d5d5df-ac5b-48db-ba76-c4e145228aa6 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-032-navigating-uncertainty-successfully 6675695ca4ecc30012453d63 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 32 I want to talk about all things related to uncertainty. You might instinctively think about the global pandemic, yet there are so many other types of uncertainty our children, teens, and young adults will need to learn to navigate – changing school, applying to university, moving house, forming new friendships. 


Some people have a high tolerance to uncertainty, whilst others worry excessively and become paralysed with fear. I will share my top five strategies to help navigate uncertainty more successfully. 


Here are the highlights:


(02:27) Does your child have a low tolerance to uncertainty?

(07:49) Top 5 strategies to manage your child’s tolerance 

(09:17) No. 1 – Be fully present 

(14:19) No. 2 – Focus on the things you CAN control 

(17:16) No. 3 – Practice being contrary  

(21:53) No. 4 – Manage your internal chatter 

(28:14) No. 5 – Practicing gratitude  



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]]> I want to talk about all things related to uncertainty. You might instinctively think about the global pandemic, yet there are so many other types of uncertainty our children, teens, and young adults will need to learn to navigate – changing school, applying to university, moving house, forming new friendships. 


Some people have a high tolerance to uncertainty, whilst others worry excessively and become paralysed with fear. I will share my top five strategies to help navigate uncertainty more successfully. 


Here are the highlights:


(02:27) Does your child have a low tolerance to uncertainty?

(07:49) Top 5 strategies to manage your child’s tolerance 

(09:17) No. 1 – Be fully present 

(14:19) No. 2 – Focus on the things you CAN control 

(17:16) No. 3 – Practice being contrary  

(21:53) No. 4 – Manage your internal chatter 

(28:14) No. 5 – Practicing gratitude  



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]]> Creating a Positive Learning Environment with Clare Ford Creating a Positive Learning Environment with Clare Ford Wed, 05 Jan 2022 23:30:00 GMT 43:54 21f48473-2060-4af7-897e-2457a4940b54 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-031-creating-a-positive-learning-environment-with-clare-ford 6675695ca4ecc30012453d64 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 31 In this episode I am joined by Clare Ford as we talk about how we can create a positive learning environment for our children to succeed academically. I know this is a topic I get asked about all the time! 

We talk through the common challenges we face as parents - how do we encourage our children to learn without nagging!!  


Clare is an award winning education expert with over 20 years’ teaching experience, an international best-selling author and Founder of SwitchedON!, the cutting-edge global education platform offering inspirational education and parenting solutions.   


Here are the highlights: 


(03:24) Let’s think about what we don’t want 

(07:31) Create a space to talk and identify the triggers 

(16:19) Trust your child’s better judgment 

(20:59) Respect your child’s unique skills and attributes 

(28:25) Every child is different 

(32:31) The benefits of being fully present 

(37:03) The higher self is where the magic happens 

Click here to find out more about SwitchedON! 



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]]> In this episode I am joined by Clare Ford as we talk about how we can create a positive learning environment for our children to succeed academically. I know this is a topic I get asked about all the time! 

We talk through the common challenges we face as parents - how do we encourage our children to learn without nagging!!  


Clare is an award winning education expert with over 20 years’ teaching experience, an international best-selling author and Founder of SwitchedON!, the cutting-edge global education platform offering inspirational education and parenting solutions.   


Here are the highlights: 


(03:24) Let’s think about what we don’t want 

(07:31) Create a space to talk and identify the triggers 

(16:19) Trust your child’s better judgment 

(20:59) Respect your child’s unique skills and attributes 

(28:25) Every child is different 

(32:31) The benefits of being fully present 

(37:03) The higher self is where the magic happens 

Click here to find out more about SwitchedON! 



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]]> Back to School Back to School Wed, 29 Dec 2021 23:30:00 GMT 26:42 9c4c48bf-46eb-4d43-81c2-a861337d62b1 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-030-back-to-school 6675695ca4ecc30012453d65 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 30 This episode I talk about all things Back to School! We’re talking about preparing our children’s mindsets, cultivating curiosity, dealing with back-to-school anxieties and creating good habits.  

This episode is for you whether you have a 5-year-old or a 20-something your old going back to University/Work! 


Here are the highlights: 


(00:49) Creating the right habits 

(04:29) Tailor a back to school plan for your child 

(09:03) Sleeping patterns go out of the window during holidays 

(14:45) Cultivating curiosoty through reading 

(19:05) How to deal with back to school anxiety 

(21:30) Maintain good social connections during school breaks 



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]]> This episode I talk about all things Back to School! We’re talking about preparing our children’s mindsets, cultivating curiosity, dealing with back-to-school anxieties and creating good habits.  

This episode is for you whether you have a 5-year-old or a 20-something your old going back to University/Work! 


Here are the highlights: 


(00:49) Creating the right habits 

(04:29) Tailor a back to school plan for your child 

(09:03) Sleeping patterns go out of the window during holidays 

(14:45) Cultivating curiosoty through reading 

(19:05) How to deal with back to school anxiety 

(21:30) Maintain good social connections during school breaks 



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]]> Why We Need to Talk to Our Kids About Porn NOW Why We Need to Talk to Our Kids About Porn NOW Wed, 22 Dec 2021 23:30:00 GMT 28:32 a1ae4316-5c48-42a0-9cdb-ff92544227b6 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-029-why-we-need-to-talk-to-our-kids-about-porn-now 6675695ca4ecc30012453d66 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 29 This episode is all about what can often feel like the ‘icky’ subject of pornography, and why we need to have that conversation with our children NOW!!

A recent study by The Children’s Commission in the UK has revealed over half of children will be exposed to online pornography before they leave primary school!! Some as young as 7 years old!

Whilst this data is from the UK, the exposure is online, and so is likely to follow similar trends globally. As parents we have to act, and we have to act now!!

I share my top four tips for broaching the subject of pornography and consent.

Here are the highlights:  

(01:24) Whatever age you think the conversation should happen... it's younger 

(07:15) We project guilt and shame on our children 

(11:10) Porn is no longer reserved for top shelf magazines 

(16:40) This is not a one-off conversation but the start of many 

(21:00) Teaching our children about consent 

(24:15) Use the actual words 

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]]> This episode is all about what can often feel like the ‘icky’ subject of pornography, and why we need to have that conversation with our children NOW!!

A recent study by The Children’s Commission in the UK has revealed over half of children will be exposed to online pornography before they leave primary school!! Some as young as 7 years old!

Whilst this data is from the UK, the exposure is online, and so is likely to follow similar trends globally. As parents we have to act, and we have to act now!!

I share my top four tips for broaching the subject of pornography and consent.

Here are the highlights:  

(01:24) Whatever age you think the conversation should happen... it's younger 

(07:15) We project guilt and shame on our children 

(11:10) Porn is no longer reserved for top shelf magazines 

(16:40) This is not a one-off conversation but the start of many 

(21:00) Teaching our children about consent 

(24:15) Use the actual words 

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]]> I Want, I Want, I Want... Avoiding Entitlement at Christmas I Want, I Want, I Want... Avoiding Entitlement at Christmas Wed, 15 Dec 2021 23:30:00 GMT 20:03 67560a11-9407-4b7c-a0dd-86fc24779a30 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-028-i-want-i-want-i-want-avoiding-entitlement-at-christmas 6675695ca4ecc30012453d67 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 28 I want to talk about how we can avoid entitlement at Christmas - you know what I mean - what feels like the constant “I want, I want, I want” 

Whether this come from a place of comparison - so and so has chocolates for breakfast in their advent calendar, to long list of demands for Christmas presents you can’t afford, or feels excessive and before you know it you’re being sucked into excess when you know that’s not what you want to do. 

Here are the highlights:  

(00:34) Don’t be sucked into excess at Christmas 

(03:52) What does Christmas mean to you? 

(09:03) Let’s start by educating our children 

(12:21) Your traditions should reflect your family values 

(15:14) Overcompensating may be a manifestation of guilt 

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]]> I want to talk about how we can avoid entitlement at Christmas - you know what I mean - what feels like the constant “I want, I want, I want” 

Whether this come from a place of comparison - so and so has chocolates for breakfast in their advent calendar, to long list of demands for Christmas presents you can’t afford, or feels excessive and before you know it you’re being sucked into excess when you know that’s not what you want to do. 

Here are the highlights:  

(00:34) Don’t be sucked into excess at Christmas 

(03:52) What does Christmas mean to you? 

(09:03) Let’s start by educating our children 

(12:21) Your traditions should reflect your family values 

(15:14) Overcompensating may be a manifestation of guilt 

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]]> Stop Nagging and Get Children Listening Stop Nagging and Get Children Listening Wed, 08 Dec 2021 23:30:00 GMT 32:03 c41a51da-8fed-4663-9b27-14d33b8aeaf7 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/episode-027stopnagging-and-get-children-listening 6675695ca4ecc30012453d68 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 27 I know we can all relate to this one! This week’s episode is all about how we can stop nagging and instead encourage our children to listen more, do more, and take on more responsibility. I can imagine a lot of you will be thinking this is an impossible task but I can reassure you there is a better way.  

I will talk you through my 3 simple steps and then gift you my How To sheet.  

It’s not a quick fix way, but a way which could genuinely be transformational for your family. It just has to start with some home truths and honesty and of course, in my usual way, I will say this all with love!! 

Here are the highlights: 

(06:11) Set clear and developmental appropriate expectations

(11:06) Every child can make a contribution

(13:43) Consequences work so much better than punishment

(15:26) You need to communicate these expectations effectively

(29:47) Follow through and be consistent

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]]> I know we can all relate to this one! This week’s episode is all about how we can stop nagging and instead encourage our children to listen more, do more, and take on more responsibility. I can imagine a lot of you will be thinking this is an impossible task but I can reassure you there is a better way.  

I will talk you through my 3 simple steps and then gift you my How To sheet.  

It’s not a quick fix way, but a way which could genuinely be transformational for your family. It just has to start with some home truths and honesty and of course, in my usual way, I will say this all with love!! 

Here are the highlights: 

(06:11) Set clear and developmental appropriate expectations

(11:06) Every child can make a contribution

(13:43) Consequences work so much better than punishment

(15:26) You need to communicate these expectations effectively

(29:47) Follow through and be consistent

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]]> Becoming Our Best Selves Becoming Our Best Selves Wed, 01 Dec 2021 23:30:00 GMT 21:35 759b53c7-d733-4de0-9f1f-e60317722759 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-026-becoming-our-best-selves 6675695ca4ecc30012453d69 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 26 I want to dedicate this episode to you as parents, first and foremost. We will do a separate episode for how you can integrate these principles for your children.   

Trust me you are absolutely not going to want to miss this. I want this episode to be an inspiring one, one which I hope you will refer back to time and time again.   

Whilst the context behind what I am going to talk you through is very much linked to the New Year - the principles are something which you can quite genuinely do any time of the year when you want to commit to making some real changes in your life! 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:01} New Year’s Resolutions do not work 

{4:25} Effective goal-setting for the new year 

{11:19} It’s about more than ticking boxes 

{16:33} Helping our children begins with helping ourselves 

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]]> I want to dedicate this episode to you as parents, first and foremost. We will do a separate episode for how you can integrate these principles for your children.   

Trust me you are absolutely not going to want to miss this. I want this episode to be an inspiring one, one which I hope you will refer back to time and time again.   

Whilst the context behind what I am going to talk you through is very much linked to the New Year - the principles are something which you can quite genuinely do any time of the year when you want to commit to making some real changes in your life! 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:01} New Year’s Resolutions do not work 

{4:25} Effective goal-setting for the new year 

{11:19} It’s about more than ticking boxes 

{16:33} Helping our children begins with helping ourselves 

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]]> Helping Children Find Their Voice and Respect the Choice of Others Helping Children Find Their Voice and Respect the Choice of Others Wed, 24 Nov 2021 23:30:00 GMT 28:06 b4e1656b-0871-46a7-96d2-4cab2576d0ce false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-025-helping-children-find-their-voice-and-respect-the-choice-of-others 6675695ca4ecc30012453d6a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 25 Children who find their voice have a strong sense of who they are, are able to stand up for themselves, can express their views without fear, are respectful of others, accept differences, and as a result are well-liked by their peers. I believe, as parents, we should all be striving to raise children with a voice as all these character traits are key to living an adult life confidently and compassionately. 

In this podcast episode I share my top five strategies and a great free resource to help you get started! 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:38} Children are buildings under construction 

{5:38} Create opportunities for children to express their opinion 

{8:03} The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary 

{11:42} The power of undivided attention 

{15:12} Introvert vs Extrovert 

{22:29} Pay attention and listen to your child’s perspective 

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]]> Children who find their voice have a strong sense of who they are, are able to stand up for themselves, can express their views without fear, are respectful of others, accept differences, and as a result are well-liked by their peers. I believe, as parents, we should all be striving to raise children with a voice as all these character traits are key to living an adult life confidently and compassionately. 

In this podcast episode I share my top five strategies and a great free resource to help you get started! 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:38} Children are buildings under construction 

{5:38} Create opportunities for children to express their opinion 

{8:03} The Conscious Parent by Shefali Tsabary 

{11:42} The power of undivided attention 

{15:12} Introvert vs Extrovert 

{22:29} Pay attention and listen to your child’s perspective 

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]]> Fear - How It Stops Our Children from Being Their Best Selves Fear - How It Stops Our Children from Being Their Best Selves Wed, 17 Nov 2021 23:30:00 GMT 27:45 cd563289-ddd7-4aeb-a400-503d300f1ebd false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-024-fear-how-it-stop-our-children-from-being-their-best-selves 6675695ca4ecc30012453d6b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 24 Broadly speaking I would put fear into two categories. The fear which is real and the fear which we perceive. 

Perceived fear occurs when we encounter a situation which feels overwhelming. We imagine all manner of scenarios which don’t bode well. We are in no real life threatening or immediate danger but our body reacts as though it were. Our fight, flight or freeze mechanism is activated.  

This type of fear holds us and our children back from reaching our full potential. So, in this episode I get super practical and share with you exactly how I help children move on from fear to find their courage. 

Here are the highlights: 

{2:54} Fight, flight or freeze 

{9:52} The Serenity Prayer 

{13:30} Our perceived fear at work 

{19:32} Your inner cheerleader 

{24:05} Do not fear failure 

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]]> Broadly speaking I would put fear into two categories. The fear which is real and the fear which we perceive. 

Perceived fear occurs when we encounter a situation which feels overwhelming. We imagine all manner of scenarios which don’t bode well. We are in no real life threatening or immediate danger but our body reacts as though it were. Our fight, flight or freeze mechanism is activated.  

This type of fear holds us and our children back from reaching our full potential. So, in this episode I get super practical and share with you exactly how I help children move on from fear to find their courage. 

Here are the highlights: 

{2:54} Fight, flight or freeze 

{9:52} The Serenity Prayer 

{13:30} Our perceived fear at work 

{19:32} Your inner cheerleader 

{24:05} Do not fear failure 

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]]> Social Media - What We Need to Wise Up to As Parents Social Media - What We Need to Wise Up to As Parents Wed, 10 Nov 2021 23:30:00 GMT 29:01 e779cd7e-8d15-4448-869f-6b2aec6881a5 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-023-social-media-what-we-need-to-wise-up-to-as-parents 6675695ca4ecc30012453d6c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 23 Some of you may know that on 28th October 2021 I wrote across all my social media accounts that I had found my continued use of social media platforms untenable with my passion for children's wellbeing. 

I want this episode to be an honest conversation about social media so we can make more informed decisions about their use for our families.  

As parents we should know the dangers these platforms pose for our children’s emotional wellbeing and feel confident we can help equip our children make better choices about social media use. 

Here are the highlights: 

{0:32} My decision to quit social media 

{7:32} Social media can fuel self-confidence issues in our children 

{13:29} We need to educate ourselves as parents 

{17:13} With privilege comes responsibility 

{22:28} Our children can be accidentally exposed to harmful content 

Find out more and connect with Dr. Maryhan at www.drmaryhan.com  

To access the free resources mentioned in this episode visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 

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]]> Some of you may know that on 28th October 2021 I wrote across all my social media accounts that I had found my continued use of social media platforms untenable with my passion for children's wellbeing. 

I want this episode to be an honest conversation about social media so we can make more informed decisions about their use for our families.  

As parents we should know the dangers these platforms pose for our children’s emotional wellbeing and feel confident we can help equip our children make better choices about social media use. 

Here are the highlights: 

{0:32} My decision to quit social media 

{7:32} Social media can fuel self-confidence issues in our children 

{13:29} We need to educate ourselves as parents 

{17:13} With privilege comes responsibility 

{22:28} Our children can be accidentally exposed to harmful content 

Find out more and connect with Dr. Maryhan at www.drmaryhan.com  

To access the free resources mentioned in this episode visit https://drmaryhan.com/library 

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]]> How to Support Children Through a Separation How to Support Children Through a Separation Wed, 03 Nov 2021 23:30:00 GMT 26:09 37651df4-7f1a-49fd-b40a-13fcf45d442f false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-022-how-to-support-children-through-a-separation 6675695ca4ecc30012453d6d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 22 This might be something you are right in the middle of, something you think might be coming, or you are simply listening because you want to be there for a friend or someone in your family. Either way I am glad you’re here and I hope you find it useful.  

Let’s start by taking away any guilt or judgement you might be harbouring. No one embarks on the process of separating from a partner lightly. It comes with a great deal of considered thought and guilt too. Quite often the relationship has not been right for a long time. 

Staying in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the children IS more damaging to their wellbeing than separating. Full stop. 

This episode is not about persuading people to leave an unhappy relationship but it is an episode which encourages us all to be more compassionate to those who find themselves in this heart wrenching situation. Please let’s park judgment and truly seek to understand and for those in the midst of this - please know you are not alone and things will get better in time - they just feel pretty rubbish right now. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:02} Nobody takes a separation lightly 

{3:08} Children see and know more than we think 

{9:41} Sometimes we don’t have all the answers 

{16:27} Children thrive on boundaries 

{22:03} It’s not a popularity contest 

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]]> This might be something you are right in the middle of, something you think might be coming, or you are simply listening because you want to be there for a friend or someone in your family. Either way I am glad you’re here and I hope you find it useful.  

Let’s start by taking away any guilt or judgement you might be harbouring. No one embarks on the process of separating from a partner lightly. It comes with a great deal of considered thought and guilt too. Quite often the relationship has not been right for a long time. 

Staying in an unhappy relationship for the sake of the children IS more damaging to their wellbeing than separating. Full stop. 

This episode is not about persuading people to leave an unhappy relationship but it is an episode which encourages us all to be more compassionate to those who find themselves in this heart wrenching situation. Please let’s park judgment and truly seek to understand and for those in the midst of this - please know you are not alone and things will get better in time - they just feel pretty rubbish right now. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:02} Nobody takes a separation lightly 

{3:08} Children see and know more than we think 

{9:41} Sometimes we don’t have all the answers 

{16:27} Children thrive on boundaries 

{22:03} It’s not a popularity contest 

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]]> Helping Children Get a Good Night’s Sleep Helping Children Get a Good Night’s Sleep Wed, 27 Oct 2021 22:30:00 GMT 27:55 f84c6a88-e6f1-4f64-b271-d6b4f61d194f false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-021-helping-children-get-a-good-nights-sleep 6675695ca4ecc30012453d6e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 21 A recent survey by the NHS found that 29% of six to 10-year-olds had trouble sleeping on three or more nights in the previous week. Problems getting to sleep, waking in the night or waking early were even more common among older children, affecting 38% of 11- to 16-year-olds and the majority – 57% – of young people aged 17 to 23. 

To me, it’s no wonder we have rising numbers of mental health challenges with sleep data like this!!! 

I want this episode to be super practical and informative so you can help your child, or teen, if they are one of these children struggling. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:03} The 3 different functions of sleep 

{5:36} Keeping the worries out of the bedroom 

{10:52} With privilege comes responsibility 

{13:25} Dressing the bedroom 

{18:34} Help them find their own strategies 

{22:52} The small things that shift the emphasis of the day 

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]]> A recent survey by the NHS found that 29% of six to 10-year-olds had trouble sleeping on three or more nights in the previous week. Problems getting to sleep, waking in the night or waking early were even more common among older children, affecting 38% of 11- to 16-year-olds and the majority – 57% – of young people aged 17 to 23. 

To me, it’s no wonder we have rising numbers of mental health challenges with sleep data like this!!! 

I want this episode to be super practical and informative so you can help your child, or teen, if they are one of these children struggling. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:03} The 3 different functions of sleep 

{5:36} Keeping the worries out of the bedroom 

{10:52} With privilege comes responsibility 

{13:25} Dressing the bedroom 

{18:34} Help them find their own strategies 

{22:52} The small things that shift the emphasis of the day 

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]]> Raising Compassionate Children Raising Compassionate Children Wed, 20 Oct 2021 22:30:00 GMT 25:10 9031800d-26e8-456a-847f-1fbf832e5db8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-020-raising-compassionate-children 6675695ca4ecc30012453d6f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 20 The world has never felt more divisive. Globally we have the hugely divisiveness of political views, whether this relates to vaccination, climate change or in the United Kingdom the whole division which was created around Brexit. 

Extremism and radical views aren’t born, they are made and when we live in a society in which we either consciously or unconsciously place people into groups or give them labels we are in real danger of dehumanising people.  

How does this relate to compassion and children I hear you ask? 

It comes into our everyday living. When our child comes home from School and says another child has repeatedly pushed them over in the playground we might describe the other child as naughtily, unkind, mean, a bully and encourage our child to stay away from them.  

These seemingly small acts lead to greater divisions. So how do we teach our children to be compassionate? In my view the secret is in 5 regular practices, which I share in this episode 

Here are the highlights: 

{00:53} Labels can be dehumanizing 

{04:10} Adopting a growth mindset 

{6:54} The power of yet 

{13:47} Modelling compassion 

{19:32} Practicing gratitude 

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]]> The world has never felt more divisive. Globally we have the hugely divisiveness of political views, whether this relates to vaccination, climate change or in the United Kingdom the whole division which was created around Brexit. 

Extremism and radical views aren’t born, they are made and when we live in a society in which we either consciously or unconsciously place people into groups or give them labels we are in real danger of dehumanising people.  

How does this relate to compassion and children I hear you ask? 

It comes into our everyday living. When our child comes home from School and says another child has repeatedly pushed them over in the playground we might describe the other child as naughtily, unkind, mean, a bully and encourage our child to stay away from them.  

These seemingly small acts lead to greater divisions. So how do we teach our children to be compassionate? In my view the secret is in 5 regular practices, which I share in this episode 

Here are the highlights: 

{00:53} Labels can be dehumanizing 

{04:10} Adopting a growth mindset 

{6:54} The power of yet 

{13:47} Modelling compassion 

{19:32} Practicing gratitude 

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]]> The Importance of a Good Morning Routine The Importance of a Good Morning Routine Wed, 13 Oct 2021 22:30:00 GMT 28:55 28428c5e-d034-4d23-80c5-6ec20e2b9636 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-019-the-importance-of-a-good-morning-routine 6675695ca4ecc30012453d70 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 19 This episode is all about the importance of a morning routine and how it helps us to become more effective parents. In fact, I’m going to be even more specific than that’s and talk to all you mothers out there. Now it’s not that this episode won’t be relevant to dads, it absolutely will, I have just found in my experience mum’s gain the most from the shift in emphasis - as will become evident as we go through the process. 

As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?  

A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting 

Here are the highlights: 

{00:47} Getting stuck in habits 

{03:50} When we take care of ourselves, we can better take care of others 

{07:56} A good morning routine starts with bedtime 

{11:43} S is for Silence 

{15:01} H is for Hydration 

{18:22} I is for Intention & N is for Notetaking 

{23:10} E is for Exercise

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]]> This episode is all about the importance of a morning routine and how it helps us to become more effective parents. In fact, I’m going to be even more specific than that’s and talk to all you mothers out there. Now it’s not that this episode won’t be relevant to dads, it absolutely will, I have just found in my experience mum’s gain the most from the shift in emphasis - as will become evident as we go through the process. 

As parents we often find ourselves in patterns and cycles which have become habitual, and which don’t serve us, or our family. Maybe we tolerate behaviour because we’re too exhausted to make the change, or we know we are likely to encounter challenges so we maintain the status quo to keep everyone happy?  

A good morning routine helps us step out of auto-pilot and more into conscious parenting 

Here are the highlights: 

{00:47} Getting stuck in habits 

{03:50} When we take care of ourselves, we can better take care of others 

{07:56} A good morning routine starts with bedtime 

{11:43} S is for Silence 

{15:01} H is for Hydration 

{18:22} I is for Intention & N is for Notetaking 

{23:10} E is for Exercise

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]]> Talking to Children About Race and Discrimination with Rania Robinson Talking to Children About Race and Discrimination with Rania Robinson Wed, 06 Oct 2021 22:30:00 GMT 35:06 b1e97191-97d6-4c90-8001-3320392364f8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-018-talking-to-children-about-race-and-discrimination-with-rania-robinson 6675695ca4ecc30012453d71 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 18 I am delighted to be joined by the incredible Rania Robinson, MD of Quiet Storm the ad agency responsible for the Haribo ads we all love where the adults talk with children’s voices.  

As a woman of colour raising two mixed race children she shares her personal insights on how she has navigated discussions around race and discrimination.  

I believe we all have a responsibility to educate ourselves and our children so we can eradicate discrimination. So many parents have not known how to start discussions around Black Lives Matters and Rania shares the most incredible insights from her own family. This is a must listen for every parent - regardless of race or ethnicity.  

She also just happens to be my sister. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:58} Starting school for the first time 

{5:06} A strong sense of being different 

{11:40} The 'Angry Black Man' 

{16:07} Black Lives Matter vs All Lives Matter 

{19:03} Black communities are disproportionately affected 

{23:06} He's not a thief, he's my husband 

{28:00} Changing perceptions one ad at a time 

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]]> I am delighted to be joined by the incredible Rania Robinson, MD of Quiet Storm the ad agency responsible for the Haribo ads we all love where the adults talk with children’s voices.  

As a woman of colour raising two mixed race children she shares her personal insights on how she has navigated discussions around race and discrimination.  

I believe we all have a responsibility to educate ourselves and our children so we can eradicate discrimination. So many parents have not known how to start discussions around Black Lives Matters and Rania shares the most incredible insights from her own family. This is a must listen for every parent - regardless of race or ethnicity.  

She also just happens to be my sister. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:58} Starting school for the first time 

{5:06} A strong sense of being different 

{11:40} The 'Angry Black Man' 

{16:07} Black Lives Matter vs All Lives Matter 

{19:03} Black communities are disproportionately affected 

{23:06} He's not a thief, he's my husband 

{28:00} Changing perceptions one ad at a time 

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]]> Managing Sibling Conflict Managing Sibling Conflict Wed, 29 Sep 2021 22:30:00 GMT 27:26 1ab29865-83e9-4dba-805e-2b41216de677 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-017-managing-sibling-conflict 6675695ca4ecc30012453d72 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 17 This episode is all about how to manage sibling conflict.  

Now let me start by being totally honest and upfront - sibling rivalry, disagreements and fall outs are normal. Your children will want to kill each other at times and really dislike each other most of the rest of the time - and that’s normal, you aren’t a bad parent, you haven’t failed and they are certainly not going to turn into a psyho killer!! 

However, there are things we do as parents which makes things worse, which we need to stop doing, and there are some new strategies we can employ to help give our children the tools to manage conflict. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:10} You aren't a bad parent 

{3:08} If you don't see it, you can't referee it 

{6:00} Be calm and keep separate 

{9:52} Don't be tempted to get sucked in 

{12:53} Our children have a right to feel annoyed 

{15:25} Look at things objectively 

{19:06} Children measure time differently to us 

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]]> This episode is all about how to manage sibling conflict.  

Now let me start by being totally honest and upfront - sibling rivalry, disagreements and fall outs are normal. Your children will want to kill each other at times and really dislike each other most of the rest of the time - and that’s normal, you aren’t a bad parent, you haven’t failed and they are certainly not going to turn into a psyho killer!! 

However, there are things we do as parents which makes things worse, which we need to stop doing, and there are some new strategies we can employ to help give our children the tools to manage conflict. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:10} You aren't a bad parent 

{3:08} If you don't see it, you can't referee it 

{6:00} Be calm and keep separate 

{9:52} Don't be tempted to get sucked in 

{12:53} Our children have a right to feel annoyed 

{15:25} Look at things objectively 

{19:06} Children measure time differently to us 

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]]> A Step by Step Guide to Helping Children Move Out of Their Comfort Zone A Step by Step Guide to Helping Children Move Out of Their Comfort Zone Wed, 22 Sep 2021 22:30:00 GMT 35:25 fa8d6622-5e50-4c45-99d9-526d6ccb54db false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-016-a-step-by-step-guide-to-helping-children-move-out-of-their-comfort-zone 6675695ca4ecc30012453d73 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 16 In this episode I am going to take you through a step by step guide to helping your children move out of their comfort zone. By comfort zone I mean that place where they are coasting - doing things they are familiar with and not stretching themselves beyond that. Moving out of their comfort zone is all about trying new things, meeting new people and all the slightly scary things they always so ‘thank you but no thank you to’ not because they don’t want to do them - rather they feel far too scary to even try. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:50} Supporting our children beyond their comfort zone 

{4:36} Being get drawn into who's the best parent 

{8:49} The ladder strategy 

{11:54} Consolidating step by step 

{16:28} Helping our children to manage their internal dialogue 

{20:29} The power of post-it notes 

{25:17} Visualising the progress 

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]]> In this episode I am going to take you through a step by step guide to helping your children move out of their comfort zone. By comfort zone I mean that place where they are coasting - doing things they are familiar with and not stretching themselves beyond that. Moving out of their comfort zone is all about trying new things, meeting new people and all the slightly scary things they always so ‘thank you but no thank you to’ not because they don’t want to do them - rather they feel far too scary to even try. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:50} Supporting our children beyond their comfort zone 

{4:36} Being get drawn into who's the best parent 

{8:49} The ladder strategy 

{11:54} Consolidating step by step 

{16:28} Helping our children to manage their internal dialogue 

{20:29} The power of post-it notes 

{25:17} Visualising the progress 

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]]> The Secrets to School Success The Secrets to School Success Wed, 15 Sep 2021 22:30:00 GMT 29:03 411e81c1-b8c6-4a8e-b64c-2e82f9a5ab8f false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-015-the-secrets-to-school-success 6675695ca4ecc30012453d74 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 15 In this episode I am talking about the secrets to school success and it has nothing to do with academics!  

As parents we must always keep in mind the end goal, which is to raise children who become confident, resilient adults equipped to live life happily and successfully - whatever success looks like for them NOT US!!!  

I will share with you my top three tips and how you can implement these in your family today. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 

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]]> In this episode I am talking about the secrets to school success and it has nothing to do with academics!  

As parents we must always keep in mind the end goal, which is to raise children who become confident, resilient adults equipped to live life happily and successfully - whatever success looks like for them NOT US!!!  

I will share with you my top three tips and how you can implement these in your family today. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:16} There's not much time to reflect as parents 

{3:59} We must prepare our children for long-term success 

{10:51} Long-term success teaches skills 

{13:34} Demonstrating the growth mindset 

{17:22} Praise the process, not the outcome 

{20:37} 'Yet' is a powerful word 

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]]> Dr Maryhan’s Childhood Story Dr Maryhan’s Childhood Story Wed, 08 Sep 2021 22:30:00 GMT 37:11 de5786da-2eed-4fc7-932e-dda275c0a9c9 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-014-dr-maryhans-childhood-story 6675695ca4ecc30012453d75 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 14 This is a very personal episode where I share my childhood story. Whilst I have very fond memories of growing up, I never quite felt comfortable or confident in who I was. I am convinced this is why I do what I do, and why I do it the way I do it.  

I hope this episode will help you as a parent see things from the viewpoint of a child, and how they experience the world. It’s also a reminder that you cannot judge a book by its cover. 

Here are the highlights: 

{4:00} A typical middle child 

{5:35} Coping with tragedy 

{10:02} I just had to get on with it 

{14:55} It's important to understand our child's perspective 

{18:20} I felt uncomfortable in my own skin 

{21:13} Where was the support? 

{24:53} It's crucial to keep talking about emotions 

{28:46} Trust parental instincts 

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]]> This is a very personal episode where I share my childhood story. Whilst I have very fond memories of growing up, I never quite felt comfortable or confident in who I was. I am convinced this is why I do what I do, and why I do it the way I do it.  

I hope this episode will help you as a parent see things from the viewpoint of a child, and how they experience the world. It’s also a reminder that you cannot judge a book by its cover. 

Here are the highlights: 

{4:00} A typical middle child 

{5:35} Coping with tragedy 

{10:02} I just had to get on with it 

{14:55} It's important to understand our child's perspective 

{18:20} I felt uncomfortable in my own skin 

{21:13} Where was the support? 

{24:53} It's crucial to keep talking about emotions 

{28:46} Trust parental instincts 

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]]> Why Punishments Don’t Work Why Punishments Don’t Work Wed, 25 Aug 2021 22:30:00 GMT 25:27 938f99aa-4369-4999-8205-16f375c5a440 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-013-why-punishments-dont-work 6675695ca4ecc30012453d76 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 13 If you’re anything like me, you have probably read a dozen books in an attempt to get your children to do more of what you ask. Why don’t they listen and do what we ask them to do first time and why is it so hard?!! 

Traditional books talk about discipline and punishment, which in my view only creates power struggles, battle-lines and confrontation and no-one wants these. In this episode I will explain why using an approach focused on consequences works each and every time, talk you through my simple do’s and don’t as well as showing you how to create routines and structure which work. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:04} Our children are like buildings 

{5:30} Appropriate consequences 

{9:07} Random rewards 

{12:09} The talk through strategy 

{15:31} Let children be part of the decision-making process 

{21:28} Access the free resources 

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]]> If you’re anything like me, you have probably read a dozen books in an attempt to get your children to do more of what you ask. Why don’t they listen and do what we ask them to do first time and why is it so hard?!! 

Traditional books talk about discipline and punishment, which in my view only creates power struggles, battle-lines and confrontation and no-one wants these. In this episode I will explain why using an approach focused on consequences works each and every time, talk you through my simple do’s and don’t as well as showing you how to create routines and structure which work. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:04} Our children are like buildings 

{5:30} Appropriate consequences 

{9:07} Random rewards 

{12:09} The talk through strategy 

{15:31} Let children be part of the decision-making process 

{21:28} Access the free resources 

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]]> A Conversation with Dr Maryhan’s Children A Conversation with Dr Maryhan’s Children Wed, 18 Aug 2021 22:30:00 GMT 46:32 7bdaf49a-8ca4-4b3e-b466-f624afdfa14b false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-012-a-conversation-with-dr-maryhans-children 6675695ca4ecc30012453d77 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 12 This episode Dr Maryhan’s children talk about their childhood. We hear about sibling rivalry, meltdowns in the car because of spellings, competitiveness and Catherine’s childhood trauma thanks to Maryhan’s passion for gardening!! 

The children also talk candidly about how they have managed tech, social media, comparisons and becoming confident adults.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:45} Most valuable lessons from parents 

{7:53} The garden center trauma 

{11:07} Dealing with social media 

{18:53} How parenting impacts our relationship with technology 

{22:53} "but my other friends are allowed to do it" 

{30:18} The pressure to achieve academically 

{36:57} Sibling rivalries 

{44:18} How much screen time is healthy? 

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]]> This episode Dr Maryhan’s children talk about their childhood. We hear about sibling rivalry, meltdowns in the car because of spellings, competitiveness and Catherine’s childhood trauma thanks to Maryhan’s passion for gardening!! 

The children also talk candidly about how they have managed tech, social media, comparisons and becoming confident adults.

Here are the highlights: 

{3:45} Most valuable lessons from parents 

{7:53} The garden center trauma 

{11:07} Dealing with social media 

{18:53} How parenting impacts our relationship with technology 

{22:53} "but my other friends are allowed to do it" 

{30:18} The pressure to achieve academically 

{36:57} Sibling rivalries 

{44:18} How much screen time is healthy? 

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]]> Secrets of a Happy Family Secrets of a Happy Family Wed, 11 Aug 2021 22:30:00 GMT 32:19 264e9733-ecbf-4514-b15d-0729349d5365 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-011-secrets-of-a-happy-family 6675695ca4ecc30012453d78 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 11 This episode is all about the secrets to a Happy Family. Now I am going to be upfront here - there is no such thing as a perfectly happy family - that’s just not reality. What I am going to talk about are the key components we need to master to make family life as harmonious as we can possibly make it. And the biggest secret is about managing our own expectations.  

The three core components I will cover are:

  • Siblings relationships
  • Roles within the family
  • Communication 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:23} Myth-busting sibling relationships 

{4:15} Our interference causes the most problems 

{9:14} Never referee your children's arguments 

{12:03} Step in when you hear raised voices 

{17:32} "I've noticed that..." 

{19:51} Roles within the family 

{22:36} Perception of self and others 

{25:20} Family meetings 

{29:38} Be on the same parenting page 

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]]> This episode is all about the secrets to a Happy Family. Now I am going to be upfront here - there is no such thing as a perfectly happy family - that’s just not reality. What I am going to talk about are the key components we need to master to make family life as harmonious as we can possibly make it. And the biggest secret is about managing our own expectations.  

The three core components I will cover are:

  • Siblings relationships
  • Roles within the family
  • Communication 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:23} Myth-busting sibling relationships 

{4:15} Our interference causes the most problems 

{9:14} Never referee your children's arguments 

{12:03} Step in when you hear raised voices 

{17:32} "I've noticed that..." 

{19:51} Roles within the family 

{22:36} Perception of self and others 

{25:20} Family meetings 

{29:38} Be on the same parenting page 

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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]]> Anxiety Part 2 Anxiety Part 2 Wed, 04 Aug 2021 22:30:00 GMT 33:31 e521bd0f-3699-4b39-83d9-51907aa4519d false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-010-anxiety-part-2 6675695ca4ecc30012453d79 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 10 This episode is all about practical strategies. How can you as a parent, educator, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or nanny help a child in those moments of angst? 

I’ll explain why it is so important to help our children recognise where their anxieties show up in their body, and how the techniques help alleviate the overwhelm.  

I’ll talk you through four strategies to help build your child’s unique toolkit, and how they can use them to go from angst to courage 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:24} The wellbeing seesaw and perceived resources 

{4:50} Draw a gingerbread person 

{7:39} Help children identify where the anxiety comes from 

{10:04} The glitter jar 

{15:12} Breathing exercise 1 - Take 10 

{20:38} Breathing exercise 2 - The Hand Breathing Technique 

{23:14} The internal critic 

{25:21} Reframing the internal chatter 

{30:42} It's like running an experiment 

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]]> This episode is all about practical strategies. How can you as a parent, educator, grandparent, aunt, uncle, or nanny help a child in those moments of angst? 

I’ll explain why it is so important to help our children recognise where their anxieties show up in their body, and how the techniques help alleviate the overwhelm.  

I’ll talk you through four strategies to help build your child’s unique toolkit, and how they can use them to go from angst to courage 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:24} The wellbeing seesaw and perceived resources 

{4:50} Draw a gingerbread person 

{7:39} Help children identify where the anxiety comes from 

{10:04} The glitter jar 

{15:12} Breathing exercise 1 - Take 10 

{20:38} Breathing exercise 2 - The Hand Breathing Technique 

{23:14} The internal critic 

{25:21} Reframing the internal chatter 

{30:42} It's like running an experiment 

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]]> The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller The Link Between Children’s Emotional Wellbeing and Nutrition with Lucinda Miller Wed, 28 Jul 2021 22:30:00 GMT 46:25 c7c006b0-e4d2-475c-b7ba-89051ec01713 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-009-the-link-between-childrens-emotional-wellbeing-and-nutrition-with-lucinda-miller 6675695ca4ecc30012453d7a 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 9 In this episode I get to share the podcast microphone with Lucinda Miller; the best selling author of two family cookbooks, and an incredible Naturopath.  

There is mounting evidence of the link between good gut health and mental health and wellbeing. Lucinda explains how this link works in practice without blasting us with science, and then gives us some super practical ways, as parents, we can encourage our children to eat more of the good stuff! 

Whether you are a parent, grandparent, aunty, uncle, nanny, or anyone else interested in improving children’s wellbeing one snack or meal at a time, this podcast episode is for you! 

Here are the highlights: 

{4:03} Lucinda Miller introduction 

{9:39} The connection between the brain and the gut 

{12:33} Chronic inflammation now leads to almost all modern day diseases 

{16:01} The micro-biome is super important 

{18:45} The importance of GABA 

{24:08} The side-effects of ultra processed foods 

{33:28} How do we start to make the right changes? 

{35:44} Cooking and eating as a family 

{42:23} How to make bad foods less bad 

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]]> In this episode I get to share the podcast microphone with Lucinda Miller; the best selling author of two family cookbooks, and an incredible Naturopath.  

There is mounting evidence of the link between good gut health and mental health and wellbeing. Lucinda explains how this link works in practice without blasting us with science, and then gives us some super practical ways, as parents, we can encourage our children to eat more of the good stuff! 

Whether you are a parent, grandparent, aunty, uncle, nanny, or anyone else interested in improving children’s wellbeing one snack or meal at a time, this podcast episode is for you! 

Here are the highlights: 

{4:03} Lucinda Miller introduction 

{9:39} The connection between the brain and the gut 

{12:33} Chronic inflammation now leads to almost all modern day diseases 

{16:01} The micro-biome is super important 

{18:45} The importance of GABA 

{24:08} The side-effects of ultra processed foods 

{33:28} How do we start to make the right changes? 

{35:44} Cooking and eating as a family 

{42:23} How to make bad foods less bad 

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Managing Tech and Digital Devices Managing Tech and Digital Devices Wed, 21 Jul 2021 22:30:00 GMT 21:57 98a69c7f-bd61-462a-91bf-df9f0313528e false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-008-managing-tech-and-digital-devices 6675695ca4ecc30012453d7b 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 8 This is such a huge topic so I am going to try to cover as much as I can so I can give all of you, whether you have a 2 year old all the way up to a 22 year old, some useful, practical advice to start using today. 

To keep things nice and simple this episode is for you if…..

  • You haven’t yet parted with an electronic device and you want to know how to best set the right ground rules.
  • Your child already has a tablet, mobile phone, gaming console and you are pulling your hair out trying to manage their time on it!
  • You feel you have lost complete control over the use of devices - they’re in bedrooms at night, they’re on them all the time, you are constantly arguing over them, and you just can’t see a way forward 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:41} Tech is part of our children's lives 

{2:33} Children do what they see, not what we say 

{3:32} Set some ground rules

{6:30} Set up family check-ins 

{8:41} Don't make tech the enemy 

{9:48} Reward good choices 

{11:37} Agree on the rules... and stick to them 

{13:55} What are the consequences of breaking rules? 

{17:40} Communicating this with your children 

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]]> This is such a huge topic so I am going to try to cover as much as I can so I can give all of you, whether you have a 2 year old all the way up to a 22 year old, some useful, practical advice to start using today. 

To keep things nice and simple this episode is for you if…..

  • You haven’t yet parted with an electronic device and you want to know how to best set the right ground rules.
  • Your child already has a tablet, mobile phone, gaming console and you are pulling your hair out trying to manage their time on it!
  • You feel you have lost complete control over the use of devices - they’re in bedrooms at night, they’re on them all the time, you are constantly arguing over them, and you just can’t see a way forward 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:41} Tech is part of our children's lives 

{2:33} Children do what they see, not what we say 

{3:32} Set some ground rules

{6:30} Set up family check-ins 

{8:41} Don't make tech the enemy 

{9:48} Reward good choices 

{11:37} Agree on the rules... and stick to them 

{13:55} What are the consequences of breaking rules? 

{17:40} Communicating this with your children 

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💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

💚 Access the free resources mentioned in the episodes

💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> A Personal Mental Health Journey with Kim Burrows A Personal Mental Health Journey with Kim Burrows Wed, 14 Jul 2021 22:30:00 GMT 44:03 dfb25880-a716-4a67-a536-684dde3f9db1 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-007-a-personal-mental-health-journey-with-kim-burrows 6675695ca4ecc30012453d7c 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 7 In this episode I am joined by Kim Burrows who shares their personal mental health story with us.  

We know there is a rising mental health crisis and by talking so candidly about their journey Kim helps us as parents see things from the perspective of a child. An opportunity not to be missed! 

Kim’s mental health journey started at just 6 years old!!! Now at 30 years old, Kim has a real drive to advocate and talk opening about their mental health journey in the hope it helps others find their voice too. 

So as parents, educators, grandparents, nannies or anyone else interested in raising confident, resilient children, I hope you are able to come away and reflect on how you might approach things slightly differently with your children - now you are armed with all this new knowledge. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:50} Identifying as non-binary 

{4:04} Developing an eating disorder at six 

{9:23} I was very aware of judgment 

{13:30} Mental heath seen as behavioural issues 

{15:30} The youngest child syndrome 

{21:10} Fulfilling the sibling roles into adulthood 

{25:54} The fear of not being good enough 

{32:14} Good kids aren't rewarded for being good 

{35:59} A late bloomer 

{41:08} Don't assume you know why a child is acting out 

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]]> In this episode I am joined by Kim Burrows who shares their personal mental health story with us.  

We know there is a rising mental health crisis and by talking so candidly about their journey Kim helps us as parents see things from the perspective of a child. An opportunity not to be missed! 

Kim’s mental health journey started at just 6 years old!!! Now at 30 years old, Kim has a real drive to advocate and talk opening about their mental health journey in the hope it helps others find their voice too. 

So as parents, educators, grandparents, nannies or anyone else interested in raising confident, resilient children, I hope you are able to come away and reflect on how you might approach things slightly differently with your children - now you are armed with all this new knowledge. 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:50} Identifying as non-binary 

{4:04} Developing an eating disorder at six 

{9:23} I was very aware of judgment 

{13:30} Mental heath seen as behavioural issues 

{15:30} The youngest child syndrome 

{21:10} Fulfilling the sibling roles into adulthood 

{25:54} The fear of not being good enough 

{32:14} Good kids aren't rewarded for being good 

{35:59} A late bloomer 

{41:08} Don't assume you know why a child is acting out 

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]]> Parenting and Co-Parenting Parenting and Co-Parenting Wed, 07 Jul 2021 22:30:00 GMT 24:38 0306e898-1c26-4612-ada1-6ba7dce5cb76 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-006-parenting-and-co-parenting 6675695ca4ecc30012453d7d 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 6 Parenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably. 

This podcast episode is for you if….. 

You want to be more consistent with your parenting 

You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent - warts and all 

You want practical ways to co-parent without the battles

Here are the highlights: 

{0:39} The 5 bedtime parenting styles 

{2:45} Children thrive on consistent parenting 

{8:34} Children's behaviour tells us how they're feeling 

{10:13} Children learn how to self-regulate through observation 

(13:41} Answering back is disrespectful 

{18:50} Children should be grateful for all we do 

{21:17} The Sunday family meeting template

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]]> Parenting is harder now than it has ever been. We are busier than ever, juggling more, and we don’t always share the same views as our partner about how to best parent. It’s then a whole different minefield to navigate if you and your partner have split and are now co-parenting; not always amicably. 

This podcast episode is for you if….. 

You want to be more consistent with your parenting 

You are prepared to take a really honest look at how you parent - warts and all 

You want practical ways to co-parent without the battles

Here are the highlights: 

{0:39} The 5 bedtime parenting styles 

{2:45} Children thrive on consistent parenting 

{8:34} Children's behaviour tells us how they're feeling 

{10:13} Children learn how to self-regulate through observation 

(13:41} Answering back is disrespectful 

{18:50} Children should be grateful for all we do 

{21:17} The Sunday family meeting template

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]]> Bedroom Routines and Sleep Bedroom Routines and Sleep Wed, 30 Jun 2021 22:30:00 GMT 30:18 d25fe260-fb08-47b8-bc44-59942af255b7 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-005-bedroom-routines-and-sleep 6675695ca4ecc30012453d7e 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 5 Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed! This podcast will look at ways we can establish good bedtime routines, how we help children who need us there in order to fall asleep as well as those children who struggle to switch off that busy brain. I will also be talking about extra considerations we need for our teenagers, particularly around devices.

Here are the highlights: 

{1:30} Sleep is the librarian of the brain 

{3:36} A bedroom is an environment to help unwind 

{5:21} The 4 basic rules 

{8:50} The self-soothe method 

{12:16} Useful techniques to help your child sleep 

{17:13} Worry balloons 

{22:25} Teenagers and the effects of puberty 

{25:39} Redressing the bedroom 

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]]> Sleep is so important for children and yet we often have so many issues getting our children to bed! This podcast will look at ways we can establish good bedtime routines, how we help children who need us there in order to fall asleep as well as those children who struggle to switch off that busy brain. I will also be talking about extra considerations we need for our teenagers, particularly around devices.

Here are the highlights: 

{1:30} Sleep is the librarian of the brain 

{3:36} A bedroom is an environment to help unwind 

{5:21} The 4 basic rules 

{8:50} The self-soothe method 

{12:16} Useful techniques to help your child sleep 

{17:13} Worry balloons 

{22:25} Teenagers and the effects of puberty 

{25:39} Redressing the bedroom 

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]]> The Two Most Common Ways to Screw Up Your Kids The Two Most Common Ways to Screw Up Your Kids Wed, 23 Jun 2021 22:30:00 GMT 15:21 bb5fcf68-efd4-4746-a773-a1c476909744 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-004-the-two-most-common-ways-to-screw-up-your-kids 6675695ca4ecc30012453d7f 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 4 The two most common ways we screw our kids up don’t come from a place of neglectful parenting. Quite the contrary, they come from a place of feeling we need to be A*** otherwise we’re not a good parent. This often means losing who we are in the process – as everything becomes about our children – at the expense of everything else!! 

What I will share in this episode comes from a place of love not criticism, and if we can master these two common mistakes, parenting gets a whole load easier, and we begin to find our true selves again.  

Here are the highlights: 

{1:02} Don't lose sight of who YOU are as an individual 

{4:36} Trying to correct your own childhood 

{7:15} Turn off the autopilot 

{8:21} SHINE 

 

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]]> The two most common ways we screw our kids up don’t come from a place of neglectful parenting. Quite the contrary, they come from a place of feeling we need to be A*** otherwise we’re not a good parent. This often means losing who we are in the process – as everything becomes about our children – at the expense of everything else!! 

What I will share in this episode comes from a place of love not criticism, and if we can master these two common mistakes, parenting gets a whole load easier, and we begin to find our true selves again.  

Here are the highlights: 

{1:02} Don't lose sight of who YOU are as an individual 

{4:36} Trying to correct your own childhood 

{7:15} Turn off the autopilot 

{8:21} SHINE 

 

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]]> Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage (Part 1) Anxiety; Taking Children from Angst to Courage (Part 1) Fri, 18 Jun 2021 22:30:00 GMT 20:47 a53fe69a-23f6-424c-aa1c-ad6659a21e6c false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-003-anxiety-taking-children-from-angst-to-courage-part-1 6675695ca4ecc30012453d80 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 3 For some context - the latest data suggests 1 in 6 children has a probable mental health challenge - so in a typical state school class of 30 children that’s 5 children in each and every class in every school from aged reception all the way up to year 11 struggling with their mental health. Now, not all will have anxiety - but understanding the basic principles around mental health are key if we are going to turn the tide on this scary epidemic - and it starts young!!! 

In this episode we will talk about what anxiety is, how you might know your child is struggling with anxiety, and what can you start doing now to help.

Here are the highlights: 

{1:29} The scale of mental health issues 

{3:52} Imagine a seesaw 

{7:05} Think about it from your child's perspective 

{9:00} The physical effects of anxiety 

{12:53} Managing the internal dialogue 

{14:57} The common signs of anxiety

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]]> For some context - the latest data suggests 1 in 6 children has a probable mental health challenge - so in a typical state school class of 30 children that’s 5 children in each and every class in every school from aged reception all the way up to year 11 struggling with their mental health. Now, not all will have anxiety - but understanding the basic principles around mental health are key if we are going to turn the tide on this scary epidemic - and it starts young!!! 

In this episode we will talk about what anxiety is, how you might know your child is struggling with anxiety, and what can you start doing now to help.

Here are the highlights: 

{1:29} The scale of mental health issues 

{3:52} Imagine a seesaw 

{7:05} Think about it from your child's perspective 

{9:00} The physical effects of anxiety 

{12:53} Managing the internal dialogue 

{14:57} The common signs of anxiety

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💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Confidence Confidence Wed, 16 Jun 2021 22:31:00 GMT 18:20 3b5aa1ea-9056-4e6d-a514-0b5036f78c3c false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-002-confidence 6675695ca4ecc30012453d81 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 2 “The most valuable lesson we can teach our children is how to be happy and confident with who they are. Everything else falls into place when they truly believe in themselves.”

That is my absolute honest belief and it’s not because I don’t value education and what qualifications give our children - it’s just without confidence children can never ever really reach their full potential - and who wants a child growing into an unfulfilled adult???

Join me as I blow the lid off what Confidence isn’t and share my three Confidence Codes to help your child take those first steps to becoming their best selves.

Here are the highlights:

{2:08} 2 misconceptions about confidence

{3:20} Understanding the internal dialogue

{6:31} Helping your children communicate their inner feelings

{8:53} Helping our children problem solve

{9:55} Don't be a super fixer

{11:22} It's all about timing

{12:57} Encourage your children to set goals

{14:48} Appreciate the journey

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]]> “The most valuable lesson we can teach our children is how to be happy and confident with who they are. Everything else falls into place when they truly believe in themselves.”

That is my absolute honest belief and it’s not because I don’t value education and what qualifications give our children - it’s just without confidence children can never ever really reach their full potential - and who wants a child growing into an unfulfilled adult???

Join me as I blow the lid off what Confidence isn’t and share my three Confidence Codes to help your child take those first steps to becoming their best selves.

Here are the highlights:

{2:08} 2 misconceptions about confidence

{3:20} Understanding the internal dialogue

{6:31} Helping your children communicate their inner feelings

{8:53} Helping our children problem solve

{9:55} Don't be a super fixer

{11:22} It's all about timing

{12:57} Encourage your children to set goals

{14:48} Appreciate the journey

💚 Let's grow our village together, please share this episode with at least one friend

💚 Complete the listener poll to let me know what you'd like in future episodes

💚 You can watch the Bucket Emptying Episodes on Youtube

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💚 Join our campaign One Million Moments to reduce the number of children struggling with mental health challenges from 17% to 10% by 2025.

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]]> Managing Emotions Managing Emotions Wed, 16 Jun 2021 22:30:00 GMT 27:19 b79500b6-d203-4b1d-9c62-cba4e6602131 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/ep-001-managing-emotions 6675695ca4ecc30012453d82 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 full 1 We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.  

 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:53} The 3 main reasons why your child is having a meltdown 

{4:29} Chronological vs developmental age 

{7:12} Why not to meet fire with fire 

{11:03} Managing emotions after a confrontation 

{13:17} Be the role model for your child 

{16:49} Glitter jars 

{24:36} Create opportunities for children to practice

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]]> We’ve all been there right? Whether it’s because we’ve said ‘no’ to something, asked them to do something they don’t want to do, or called ‘time for dinner, bed, bath, school, homework etc ……. and they’ve totally lost the plot.

Their reaction seems so disproportionate, you’d think we’d cut off a limb, and yet to them it’s the end of their world and to us we’re struggling to know what to say and how to keep our own emotions in check.

Join me as I share the three main reasons why children struggle to manage their emotions, and what we can do to help support them.  

 

Here are the highlights: 

{1:53} The 3 main reasons why your child is having a meltdown 

{4:29} Chronological vs developmental age 

{7:12} Why not to meet fire with fire 

{11:03} Managing emotions after a confrontation 

{13:17} Be the role model for your child 

{16:49} Glitter jars 

{24:36} Create opportunities for children to practice

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]]> Trailer: How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Trailer: How Not to Screw Up Your Kids Thu, 10 Jun 2021 10:49:00 GMT 8:23 3c74e63a-29fb-401a-bc66-eb5db39018c8 false https://drmaryhan.libsyn.com/how-not-to-screw-up-your-kids-trailer 6675695ca4ecc30012453d83 66756955a4ecc30012453c07 trailer Welcome to the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast; I am Dr Maryhan and I will be your host. Join me to find out more about what to expect in upcoming episodes from me and my guest experts.

I will also share an analogy, which for me best describes our role as parents, and I would invite you to consider it each time your children present you with a challenge, decision or a dilemma.


To access the free resources mentioned in this podcast visit: https://drmaryhan.com/library

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]]> Welcome to the How Not to Screw Up Your Kids podcast; I am Dr Maryhan and I will be your host. Join me to find out more about what to expect in upcoming episodes from me and my guest experts.

I will also share an analogy, which for me best describes our role as parents, and I would invite you to consider it each time your children present you with a challenge, decision or a dilemma.


To access the free resources mentioned in this podcast visit: https://drmaryhan.com/library

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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