Give It To Me Bi

How do you actually know if you're bisexual?

Wed, 29 Apr 2026 23:07:12 GMT

If you've ever typed "am I bi" into a search bar at 2am, replayed every crush like courtroom evidence, or quietly made "exceptions" to the label you were using, this one's for you. Steve and Chad share real stories from the Give It To Me Bi community: wrong first labels, slow hindsight, dreams and crushes that didn't fit the boxes, and the moment "bisexual" finally became a word in someone's world. No checklist, no gatekeeping, no verdict required by the end of the episode. Just permission, patterns, and the company of people still figuring it out.

Chapters

00:00 — How do you actually know if you're bisexual?
01:09 — BiLights
07:47 — No single lightning bolt: wrong first labels & learning "bi" exists
31:15 — Messy clues: media, dreams, crushes & social noise
49:02 — Steve has questions about getting married
54:44 — Labels under the bi+ umbrella: bi, pan, queer, questioning, none
1:13:50 — What we wish someone had told us & the 11 positive aspects of bi identity

Related episodes:

Ep 26 — How to be bisexual in a monogamous relationship
Ep 27 — Coming out bisexual later in life
Ep 11 — Bisexuality Explained: Your Burning Questions
Ep 10 — Why Are Bisexual Men Still in Hiding in 2024?
Ep 7 — Coming Out as Bisexual in 2024

Links & Reading

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Coming out bisexual later in life

Mon, 20 Apr 2026 01:01:14 GMT

Coming out as bi+ doesn't come with a deadline.

If you came out (or you're still coming out) at 30, 50, 70, or any age that didn't match the storybook teen-coming-out timeline, this episode is for you. We want this to be a big warm hug.

Steve and Chad sit with the full range of what coming out later actually feels like. As Steve puts it on this episode, "all of these things can be true at once. It can be great, it can be amazing, it could be awful, it can be horrible, it can mean nothing, it can mean everything." Relief, panic, limbo, grief, pride, sometimes all in the same week.

We talk about telling your spouse, family, and friends, why you don't owe everyone the same level of access to your identity, the AIB model and split attraction, the grief of paths not taken, and how we talk about the lives we did or didn't live.

Out to a handful is still out. Later doesn't mean less. Forward this to whoever needs it.

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🔗 Read this month's column at the Star Observer: "No Script For This" by Chad → https://tinyurl.com/ycynw88w

📚 Resources mentioned in this episode:

• Bisexual Killjoy podcast → https://www.bisexualkilljoy.com/

• Star Observer on Leigh Ryswyk → https://tinyurl.com/5n8sb4c6

🎧 If this one resonated, our back catalogue has more:

• Ep 7 *Coming Out as Bisexual in 2024* — the baseline coming-out conversation

• Ep 3 *Bisexual Visibility and Generational Shifts* — language and scripts shifting across decades

• Ep 6 *Exploring Bisexual Relationships and Research* — relationship and research context

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How to be bisexual in a monogamous relationship

Sun, 12 Apr 2026 22:08:50 GMT

We're back. Season 2 is here and we are straight into it. Well, not straight...

This week we're tackling one of the most requested topics in the history of this show: how do you stay connected to your bi+ identity when you're in a monogamous relationship? And what does your partner actually need to know?

Whether you've ever thought maybe I'm not bi enough because I'm in a relationship, or you're a partner trying to figure out how to show up, this one's for both of you.

In this episode:

Attraction, identity and relationship agreement are three completely different things. We use Robyn Ochs' definition of bisexuality to unpack why the "scorecard" question is the wrong question entirely — and who keeps asking for it.
Mixed orientation relationships. What happens when one person in a relationship is bi+ and the other isn't, and why the unspoken agreement is almost always the most dangerous one.
For the partner listening. Your bi+ person isn't afraid of you. They're afraid of everything the world has told you about them. There's a difference and it matters.
The research is clear. Partner acceptance doesn't just make bi+ people feel better. It makes relationships better. We get into why.
Chad's personal story. Coming out to his late partner Heidi mid-relationship — the rupture it created, the conversations that followed, and how it became one of the greatest joys of his life.
And more!

Monogamy does not cancel bisexuality. Non-monogamy does not prove it.

Links:

Give It To Me Bi acknowledges that we live and work on Gadigal land. We pay our respects to elders past and present. Sovereignty was never ceded.

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Even More Persistent Bi Myths, Busted

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 06:13:05 GMT

We’re busting more bi+ myths with clear, practical answers: identity vs politics, the “prove it” trap, couples seeking women on apps, ageing and labels, and why health gaps are about stigma—not sexuality. Plus Rainbow Election Forum takeaways, Qtopia’s Sydney Pride Fest news, and a moving tribute to Heidi.

KEY TAKEAWAYS

- You don’t owe anyone a dating résumé. Your identity isn’t up for audit.

- “Queer” can feel political; “bisexual” can be a simple description—both are valid.

- App dynamics are shaped by culture and numbers—don’t scapegoat bi+ people.

- Bisexuality doesn’t disappear with age; safety, language, and context shift.

- Bi mental-health gaps are driven by stigma and minority stress, not by being bi.

CHAPTERS

- Opening Thanks & Community Care

- Rainbow Election Forum: Wins and Gaps

- Qtopia Sydney Pride Fest: What’s Coming

- Star Observer: Why We Show Up

- Myth: “Bi Needs to Be Political”

- Myth: “You Must Prove Your Bi-ness”

- Myth: “Couples Only Seek Women on Apps”

- Ageing and Labels: What Actually Changes

- Bi Health: Stigma vs Sexuality

- Closing Notes + Tribute

RESOURCES MENTIONED

- Rainbow Election Forum — Community Q&A with political leaders — https://equalityaustralia.org.au/our-work/rainbow-votes/

- Health Equity Matters — https://www.healthequitymatters.org.au/

- Qtopia Sydney Pride Fest — Festival mentioned — https://qtopiasydney.com.au/pride-fest-2025/

- Star Observer — Monthly column — https://www.starobserver.com.au/category/give-it-to-me-bi

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MEMORABLE QUOTES

“You don’t have to prove anything to anyone.” — Host

“There’s no one correct way to be bi.” — Host

“It’s stigma—not sexuality—that harms our health.” — Host

CREDITS

Hosted by Steve Spencer and Chad Barnier.

Audio Production and Editing by Chad Barnier.

Podcast artwork by Chad Barnier.

CONTENT NOTE

This podcast often discusses themes of mental and physical health, suicide, minority stress, and politics.

TRANSCRIPT NOTE

Transcripts are auto-generated—apologies for any inaccuracies.

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ACKNOWLEDGEMENT OF COUNTRY

Give It To Me Bi acknowledge that we live and work on Gadigal Land. We acknowledge the Traditional Custodians of this land and pay our respects to Elders past and present. Sovereignty was never ceded.

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Are We Physically Okay? (Asking for All Bisexuals)

Sat, 12 Apr 2025 14:26:13 GMT

📝 Episode Summary

In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, Chad and Steve tackle the intersections of bisexuality and physical health, unpacking the unique disparities Bi+ folks face in health systems, studies, and lived experience. From breaking down minority stress and the AIB (Attraction, Identity, Behaviour) model to candid chats about disability, health journeys, and everything in between—this episode is a blend of research-backed insight and heartfelt personal stories. PLUS, a major announcement: the very first Give It To Me Bi Live Show is happening this June for Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney—and you're invited.

🔑 Key Points / Highlights

Bisexuals & Health Gaps: Why bisexual individuals face unique physical health risks—including earlier onset disability and chronic illness.
The AIB Model: Breaking down why attraction, identity, and behaviour all matter—and how research often fails us.
Internalised Ableism & Productivity Guilt: Chad and Steve get real about disability, chronic illness, and the societal shame around “doing less.”
What Actually Helps: From electrolyte trauma to walking with purpose—realistic, body-positive tips for health without shame.
Live Show Reveal! We’re kicking off Pride Month at Qtopia Sydney with our first-ever live podcast taping AND a bonus community panel night.

🎟️ Big Bi Night — Live at Qtopia Sydney

🗓️ Mon 2 June 2025 | Get Tickets

Join us for Give It To Me Bi: LIVE!, our first-ever live show and a powerful all-star Bi+ panel.

📚 Resources & Links

👉 How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual

Studies:

Dyar et al. (2019). Physical Health Disparities Across Dimensions of Sexual Orientation, Race/Ethnicity, and Sex: Evidence for Increased Risk Among Bisexual Adults. Archives of sexual behavior, 48(1), 225–242. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-018-1169-8
Fredriksen-Goldsen et al. (2012). Disability among lesbian, gay, and bisexual adults: disparities in prevalence and risk. American journal of public health, 102(1), e16–e21. https://doi.org/10.2105/AJPH.2011.300379
Taylor et al. (2019). Bisexual mental health: Findings from the 'Who I Am' study. Australian journal of general practice, 48(3), 138–144. https://doi.org/10.31128/AJGP-06-18-4615

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Bisexual Health Month: Mental Health with Bailey Merlin

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 13:12:43 GMT

Bisexual people face some of the worst mental health outcomes in the LGBTQIA+ community, but why isn’t this crisis talked about more? For this episode of our Bi+ Health Awareness Month series, we sit down with Bailey Merlin, board member of the Bisexual Resource Center, co-host of Bisexual Killjoy, and researcher at Harvard Medical School tackling bi+ mental health and erasure.

Bailey breaks down the structural barriers bi+ people face in healthcare, the importance of finding community, and how activism itself can be a powerful tool for improving mental well-being. Plus, we chat about the Bi+ Book Gang, funding struggles for bi+ advocacy, and the power of storytelling in making change.

In This Episode:

🌈 Why the bi+ mental health crisis is worse than you think

📢 How to advocate for yourself in healthcare settings

📝 The role of research in addressing health inequities

🤝 How community and activism improve bi+ well-being

🎙 Inside the Bisexual Resource Center & Bi+ Book Gang

Whether you’re looking for mental health resources, advocacy insights, or just some bi+ solidarity, this episode is for you.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

📚 Bisexual Resource Center – Mental health resources, advocacy, and community events

📊 Bi+ Health Awareness Month – Learn more & spread awareness

📖 Bi+ Book Gang – A writers’ space for bi+ creatives

🎙 Bisexual Killjoy Podcast – Hosted by Bailey Merlin & Jase Peeples

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Bisexual Health Month: Our Sexual Health & HIV Deep Dive

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 05:45:59 GMT

We’re kicking off Bi Health Awareness Month 2025 by diving straight into Sexual Health and HIV—two areas where bi+ folks often face unique challenges and misinformation. This episode covers everything from safer sex strategies and HIV prevention to the tricky conversations we have (or don’t have) with healthcare providers about being bi+.

Chad and Steve share personal stories, discuss the stigma that keeps so many of us from getting tested or disclosing our identities at the clinic, and unpack how better resources can lead to better outcomes. Whether you’ve ever felt ignored in a “gay-only” health setting or worried your doctor wouldn’t “get it,” this conversation is for you.

And don’t worry—we’ll also point you to some awesome resources from the Bisexual Resource Center and beyond, so you can walk away feeling more informed and empowered than ever.

What We Cover

Bi Health Month 2025: Why it matters, and how the Bisexual Resource Center’s initiative helps.
Safer Sex & HIV Myths: Breaking down common misconceptions that affect bi+ people.
Healthcare Disclosure: Navigating awkward conversations and why being out to your provider can improve care.
Practical Resources: Links to brochures, articles, and orgs for more info on HIV prevention and sexual health.

Links & Resources

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Remember, knowledge is power—especially when it comes to looking after yourself and your community. Stay safe, stay curious!

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Bisexuals in Sports: On the Field, Off the Radar

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 00:48:32 GMT

Sport is supposed to bring people together—but for many bisexual athletes and fans, it has often been a hostile or invisible space. Whether it’s growing up in locker rooms where being queer felt unsafe or seeing top athletes afraid to come out, bi+ people face unique challenges in the world of sports.

So today, we’re tackling bi+ representation in sport—the triumphs, struggles, and moments of erasure that define the experience of bisexual athletes at every level.

🎤 Why does the conversation always focus on ‘gay athletes’ instead of asking, ‘Where are the bi ones?’
🏟 What impact does biphobia have on mainstream and local sports?
💪 Who are the bi+ athletes breaking barriers—and why don’t we hear more about them?

Plus, we break down Jeff Molina’s forced coming out in the UFC, the biphobia in the AFL and other mainstream leagues, and the inclusive spaces that are changing the game for bi+ athletes.

In This Episode:

🏅 The fight for visibility in sport: Why bi+ athletes are still sidelined
⚽ From the AFL to the UFC: The challenges of coming out in elite sport
🌍 Local sports teams creating inclusive spaces for bi+ and LGBTQ+ players
🏳️‍🌈 The backlash against Jeff Molina’s coming out & the risks for queer athletes

Whether you’re a die-hard sports fan, a casual spectator, or just someone looking for representation, this episode is for you.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

The BISHH Study! Closes this week!!

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Bisexuals in Musical Theatre: A Punchline or Just Invisible?

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 04:28:05 GMT

Bisexuals in Musical Theatre: A Punchline or Just Invisible? 🎭🌈

Musical theatre has a reputation for being super queer-friendly—but does that just mean “gay-friendly,” while bi+ folks get sidelined? From Rocky Horror winks to a Cabaret nudge, bisexuality in theatre is often a punchline, a trope, or completely erased. Maybe this time, the bisexuals should take center stage.

🎤 Why does theatre lean so heavily on bi tropes?
🎭 Which musicals actually get bisexuality right?
🎶 How does theatre shape queer identity—and is it truly inclusive?

Plus, we celebrate our 20th episode milestone (!!!), talk about Chad’s new role in local LGBTQ+ advocacy, and Steve’s starring moment in an HIV well-being campaign.

In This Episode:

🎟 How musical theatre helped us discover our queer identities
🎭 The Rocky Horror Picture Show problem: Bisexual freedom or tired villain trope?
💡 How If/Then nails bisexual storytelling without falling into clichés
🔄 When source material is bisexual, but adaptations erase the queerness (The Color Purple, Hamilton)
🎬 Rewriting musicals: What shows should have explicit bi representation?

Whether you’re a theatre nerd, a casual musical lover, or just here for the campy chaos, this episode is for you.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

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Bisexuality in Music: Queerbaiting, Visibility and Marketing Gimmicks

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 05:27:49 GMT

Ever noticed how women’s bisexuality in pop music is either fetishised into a sexy gimmick, while bi men seem to vanish altogether? In this episode, we dive into queerbaiting, erasure, and whether the industry is genuinely celebrating bisexual identities—or just cashing in on them.

🎤 How does the music industry shape bisexual representation?

🎶 Are recording artists amplifying visibility or being controlled by industry expectations?

📢 Does queerbaiting exist in music, or is it just repackaged biphobia?

We also discuss bisexual empowerment in music, the songs that have helped us feel seen, and the unique experience of swapping pronouns in lyrics—whether to hide or flaunt bisexual identity. Plus, we break down the 2025 Grammys, possibly the queerest Grammys to date, and what it says about representation right now.

In This Episode:

🎵 The Grammys, Lady Gaga’s reign, and the rise of Chappell Roan
🎙 How music helps shape bisexual identity & self-acceptance
💡 The study exposing how women’s bisexuality is framed in pop music
🤔 Queerbaiting or self-expression? The industry’s control over artist personas
🔥 Clowns’ Bisexual Awakening—punk rock’s boldest bisexual anthem

Whether you’re a karaoke professional, a music lover, or just here for the Gaga worship, this one’s for you.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

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Does Hollywood Have a Bisexual Problem?

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 04:21:26 GMT

Does Hollywood Have a Bisexual Problem? 🎬🌈

From bisexual tropes that refuse to die to the characters that shaped how we see ourselves, this episode is a deep dive into how Hollywood portrays bisexuality—for better or worse.

We’re asking:

🎭 Why is bisexual representation still such a mess?
📺 What actually makes a “good” bi character?
🎥 How has cinema influenced the way we understand our own identities?

Plus, we unpack the GLAAD Media Report and the ongoing underrepresentation of bisexuality on screen, discuss how bi tropes have personally shaped our own experiences, and revisit the Hays Code—the old Hollywood censorship rules that forced bisexuality into subtext, villainy, or outright invisibility.

Also in this episode:

✨ Bisexual-coded villains & messy, imperfect representation—do we need more of it?
🌟 Why Hollywood struggles to say the word "bisexual"
🎬 Netflix’s upcoming bisexual romance drama & exciting LGBTQ+ news from Thailand

Whether you’re a film buff or just a casual viewer, this one is a must-listen.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

📩 Sign up for our newsletter – Stay updated on episodes, resources, and community events!
👥 Join our Facebook community group – Connect with other bi+ people.
🌐 Visit our website – Explore more episodes, resources, and updates.
📖 How to Support Someone Who’s Just Come Out as Bisexual – A guide for friends, family, and partners.

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The Personal Is Political: How to Reclaim Your Power and Fight for Hope

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 02:53:26 GMT

In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, we’re diving into the intersection of confidence, self-esteem, and activism—reminding you that the personal is always political. 🌈 Whether you’re faking it ’til you make it or embracing who you are unapologetically, this episode is all about reclaiming your power and finding hope, even when the world feels overwhelming.

We explore how to build confidence from the ground up, why grace and self-compassion are key to growth, and how identity shifts can help you become the person you’ve always wanted to be. 💪 Along the way, we tackle feelings of hopelessness with practical strategies for local action, showing how small steps can lead to massive change.

Highlights include:

✨ Building confidence through “faking it,” trusting the process, and letting go of others’ opinions

❤️ Practicing grace: self-compassion, celebrating wins, and embracing your mistakes

💡 Shifting your focus from results to identity: How to align your habits and goals with who you want to be

🌟 Fighting for hope: Why local action matters and how to make an impact

We’ll also share practical ways to get involved in your community—from joining local boards and advocacy groups to participating in public hearings. The next four years might feel daunting, but disengaging isn’t the answer. Together, we’ll discuss how to reclaim your voice, your power, and your hope.

This is an empowering episode for anyone looking to rebuild confidence, take action, and find strength in community. 💥

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

📩 Sign up for our newsletter: Stay updated on episodes, resources, and community events!

👥 Join our Facebook community group: Connect with other bi+ people.

🌐 Visit our website: Explore more episodes, resources, and updates.

📖 How to Support Someone Who’s Just Come Out as Bisexual: A guide for friends, family, and partners.

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How to Be the Best Bi in 2025

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 22:43:18 GMT

New year, new you! Chad and Steve dive into everything you need to know to make 2025 your best bisexual year yet. From setting resolutions to embracing authenticity, this episode is packed with stories, practical tips, and some bi+ banter.

We talk about:

How to set resolutions that celebrate your bisexuality – from coming out to upgrading your self-care.
Doechii’s epic bisexual clapbacks and why they’re inspiring bi+ confidence worldwide.
Stats and trends showing why 2025 is the Year of the Bisexual.
Building your bi+ community and finding spaces where you truly belong.
Embracing joy and authenticity in all areas of life – even when the world feels overwhelming.

Plus, we share personal stories, community highlights, and the moments that are making us laugh, cry, and cheer as we step into the new year.

Links and Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

Sign up for our newsletter: Stay updated on episodes, resources, and community events! Join here.
Join our Facebook community group: Connect with other bi+ people. Join here.
Visit our website: Explore more episodes, resources, and updates. Explore here.
How to Support Someone Who’s Just Come Out as Bisexual: A guide for friends, family, and partners. Read here.
Participate in the BISHH study: Help create the world’s largest bi+ specific health survey. Take the survey here.

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"Gay Passing" Bisexuals in Same Gender Relationships

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 05:30:41 GMT

In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, we tackle the nuanced experiences of bisexual people in same-gender relationships. Have you ever felt "not straight enough to be bi"? For many bi+ individuals, being in a queer-presenting or same-gender relationship often leads to being mistaken as gay or lesbian, resulting in unique challenges and privileges.

We unpack what it means to navigate the world as a bi person in a same-gender relationship, the dynamics of "gay-passing" privilege, and how these intersections shape identity, community, and visibility. We also explore how to embrace your bisexuality fully, foster meaningful connections, and address feelings of imposter syndrome within the LGBTQIA+ community.

Highlights include:

Navigating "gay-passing" privilege and the visibility struggle in same-gender relationships
Overcoming internalised biphobia and toxic masculinity in forming same-sex platonic friendships
Dating in same-sex circles as a bisexual person—unique joys, challenges, and navigating spaces
How your partner can support your visibility and identity

Plus, we dive into listener questions and comments, including a video submission on why it's important to clarify "gay-passing" relationships, and explore how to find pride in your unique place in the queer spectrum.

This is a can't-miss episode for anyone navigating identity, visibility, and community as a bisexual person in same-gender relationships.

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"Straight Passing" Bisexuals in Different Gender Relationships

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 06:16:35 GMT

In this episode, Chad Barnier and Steve Spencer delve into the complexities of bisexuality in different-gender relationships. They tackle the challenges of societal perceptions, biphobia, and "straight-passing privilege." Through personal anecdotes and insights from the bi+ community, the hosts explore the need for visibility, validation, and joy in bisexual identities. Together, they confront myths, celebrate positive representations, and offer practical resources for bisexual individuals and their allies.

Key Points/Highlights

The Myth of Straight-Passing Privilege: The misconception that bisexuals in different-gender relationships have an advantage is debunked with personal insights and research data.
Reframing the Narrative: Shifting the focus from doom and gloom to joy and thriving in bi+ relationships.
Community Insights: Contributions from the Give It To Me Bi Facebook group highlight real-life experiences and challenges.
Partner Support: Navigating the journey of coming out in a relationship, with an emphasis on communication and allyship.
The Role of Communication: How vulnerability and open dialogue can strengthen relationships and challenge stereotypes.
Intersection with Mental Health: The impact of erasure and exclusion on bisexual individuals' mental health.
Resources for Allies: Tools and information to help allies support their bisexual loved ones effectively.

Resources & Links

Books Mentioned:

Podcasts Mentioned:

The Man Enough Podcast

Articles and Videos:

Helpful Resources:

How to Support Someone Who Has Recently Come Out as Bisexual

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What Every Bisexual Should Know This World AIDS Day

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 04:30:36 GMT

In this World AIDS Day special, Chad and Steve deliver an open, heartfelt, and deeply informative conversation about HIV and AIDS. Steve shares his personal journey as a person living with HIV, exploring the importance of testing, treatment, and education. We dive into groundbreaking medical advancements, including the U=U (Undetectable Equals Untransmittable) campaign and PrEP, while also tackling stigma and the historical impact of the HIV/AIDS crisis on the LGBTQ+ community. This episode is packed with life-changing insights, resources, and a message of hope for ending the HIV epidemic.

Key Points/Highlights:

World AIDS Day Themes: Discussion of the global theme "Take the Rights Path" and Australia's "It Starts With Me," highlighting rights-based approaches to ending the HIV epidemic.
U=U Explained: Steve shares his experience of achieving an undetectable viral load through antiretroviral treatment, emphasising that undetectable equals untransmittable.
HIV Testing Advocacy: The importance of regular testing, with a shoutout to free, at-home HIV test kits available at hivtest.au.
Breaking Stigma: Tackling misconceptions and societal judgment faced by people living with HIV, especially in the bi+ community.
PrEP and Prevention: An introduction to pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP), its effectiveness, and how it empowers individuals to prevent HIV transmission.
Personal Stories: Steve opens up about his diagnosis journey, sharing how community support and modern medicine transformed his outlook on life.
Historical Context: Reflecting on the devastating impact of the HIV/AIDS crisis and the resilience of the queer community.

Resources & Links:

HIV Self-Testing Kits: hivtest.au
PrEP Access Now: pan.org.au
BiSHH Study: bishhstudy.com
Documentary: How to Survive a Plague (2012)
Bi Positive Advocacy Network: bipan@napwha.org.au

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10 Bisexual Truths That Will Surprise You + Bi Myth Busting

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 04:30:44 GMT

In this episode, 10 Surprising Truths About Bisexuality and Bi Clapbacks, we're unpacking the realities of being bi—the unexpected, the challenging, and the joyful. We’re taking a deep dive into the truths of bisexuality, from the misconceptions to the moments of pride that make it all worthwhile.

But we’re not stopping there. We’re also equipping you with the ultimate clapbacks for those tired stereotypes that bi folks hear all too often. Whether it’s the classic "Isn’t bisexuality transphobic?" or "Why do you have to tell everybody?", we've got the perfect responses to help you handle them with confidence and humour.

We’re exploring topics like:

The surprising truths about being bi that most people don’t talk about.
How biphobia shows up, even in queer spaces, and how we deal with it.
Our favourite clapbacks to common misconceptions about bisexuality.

Whether you’re bi, questioning, or just want to learn more, this episode is packed with insights, laughs, and the tools you need to navigate bisexuality with pride.

Resources & Links:

BISHH Study: The first community-led and conducted online national survey to ask bi+ people in Australia about their sexual health, relationships, wellbeing, and more. The survey is anonymous, takes about 30-45 minutes, and is open to anyone under the bi+ umbrella.
How to Support Someone Who's Just Come Out as Bisexual - A helpful guide for friends, family, and allies.
Join our community on Facebook and connect with other bi+ folks!
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Bisexuality Explained: Your Burning Questions

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 00:31:10 GMT

In this special follow-up to our AMA episode, we're diving into your questions about bisexuality. We had so many fantastic questions from our community that we decided to split our AMA into two parts—this one is all about bisexuality, identity, and everything in between.

We’re tackling questions like:

How do you stay visible as a bisexual person in a heteronormative world?
What’s it like to come out as bi after identifying as gay?
How do you express your attraction to other genders in a monogamous relationship?

Whether you're questioning, out and proud, or just curious, this episode covers a wide range of topics, from personal insights to practical advice. Plus, we explore how bisexuality intersects with masculinity, relationships, and the different ways people can experience attraction.

If you’ve ever felt caught between labels or struggled with how to stay true to your identity, this episode is for you.

Resources & Links:

BISHH Study: The first community-led and conducted online national survey to ask bi+ people in Australia about their sexual health, relationships, wellbeing, and more. The survey is anonymous, takes about 30-45 minutes, and is open to anyone under the bi+ umbrella.
How to Support Someone Who's Just Come Out as Bisexual - A helpful guide for friends, family, and allies.
Join our community on Facebook and connect with other bi+ folks!
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Why Are Bisexual Men Still in Hiding in 2024?

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 04:30:37 GMT

In Episode 10, we take on a question that’s been floating around for ages: “Where are all the bi men?”

We dive deep into the unique challenges that bi men face, from societal expectations to internalised fears. We’re talking about everything—how masculinity and patriarchal norms have shaped our understanding of bisexuality, the stigma within both queer and straight communities, and the mental health impacts of staying closeted.

You’ll hear personal stories, the ups and downs of being out, and some heartfelt advice for anyone struggling to accept their own bi identity. We also celebrate our recent partnership with Star Observer! This episode has something for everyone, whether you're out, questioning, or just curious.

Resources & Links:

The Elixir Effect: Book Launch

Chad will be MC’ing the launch of The Elixir Effect, a story about identity, masculinity, and family. Join us for this exclusive event to meet the author, Peter Matthews, hear excerpts, and get a signed copy.

📅 Wednesday, 6 Nov, 5:50 pm - 8 pm AEDT
📍 Pullman Sydney Hyde Park, Darlinghurst, Australia

Facebook Group

Join our community on Facebook, share your experiences, and stay connected with other bi+ folks and allies.

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How to Support Someone Who’s Just Come Out as Bisexual

We know coming out is a big deal, so we’ve put together this guide for allies who want to offer meaningful support.

Read the Guide

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Bisexual AMA: Candid Answers to Questions You’re Afraid to Ask

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 04:24:06 GMT

Chad and Steve dive headfirst into all of your burning questions and nothing’s off-limits!! From heartfelt insights into coming out, to the complexities of bi+ relationships–we’ve got stories about personal growth, awkward moments, and how we make sense of being bi+ in today’s world.

You’ll hear candid reflections on identity, practical advice for navigating relationships, and maybe a few confessions from our younger years. Whether you’re figuring it all out or feeling comfortable in your identity, there’s something here for everyone.

Plus, we couldn't resist sharing some music recommendations—tunes that have been our vibe lately (check out the playlists below!).

Spotify Playlists:

Cunty Chappel Roan Summer: Listen Here
Nancy Myers Kitchen Mix: Listen Here
Bimlow - Jessica Bellef: Listen Here

Additional Resources:

BISHH Study: Participate Here
GITMB Website: Explore Here
How to Support Someone Who's Just Come Out as Bisexual: Read the Guide

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The Truth About Pegging No One Talks About

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 04:30:19 GMT

Curious about pegging but unsure where to start? In this episode, we pull back the curtain on everything you’ve ever wanted to know about pegging—from the practical, to the taboo, to the emotional. Whether you're new to the concept or an experienced enthusiast, our experts break down the myths, provide useful tips for first-timers, and dive into the personal and social dynamics that make pegging a unique and powerful experience.

You’ll hear from Steve and Britt as they share insights from their pegging workshops, discuss how to introduce pegging into your relationship, and why it has nothing to do with gender or sexuality. Plus, we tackle the often-avoided subject of douching, discuss consent, and offer some expert advice on how to make your experience safe, fun, and shame-free.

Resources & Links:

"TGA: Don't Ban Poppers!" – Steve’s Change.org petition
"‘It’s a war on bottoms’: poppers may soon be banned in Australia pending a TGA decision" – Steve in Star Observer RE Poppers Ban
"The Australian Government Wants to Ban Poppers" – Steve in VICE RE Poppers Ban
"Should amyl be banned? The TGA wants you to have your say" – triple j Hack

Coming Out as Bisexual in 2024

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 04:30:12 GMT

Hey everyone! In this episode, we (Chad and Steve) dive into the topic of coming out as bisexual. We talk about the different ways people experience coming out, how it's evolving into more of an "inviting in" process for some, and the unique challenges that bi people face compared to our gay and lesbian siblings.

We share stories of personal growth, community support, and the cultural shifts happening around bisexuality. Plus, we give you the inside scoop on the Buy Rainbow event we're co-hosting and discuss how visibility for the bi community is changing, both online and offline. Hope you enjoy!

Highlights

The shift from "coming out" to "inviting in"
Personal stories about our own coming out journeys
Unique challenges bisexual individuals face compared to their gay and lesbian counterparts.
The role of community support in embracing and celebrating bisexual identities.
Steve may or may not have sent an 'interesting' picture to the wrong person

Connect with Us:

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Exploring Bisexual Relationships & Research

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 04:30:11 GMT

Join us in this enlightening episode as we chat with Professor Christy Newman, a leading researcher from UNSW. We delve into the groundbreaking Bisexual+ Sexual Health and HIV (BISHH Study) that's opening new avenues for understanding. Christy shares insights on how research can shape real-world change and dives deep into the dynamics of bi+ relationships. From dating tips to partner support, and exploring bisexuality in monogamous relationships, we cover it all.

Highlights:

The groundbreaking BISHH Study and how you can participate
How research insights transform into real-world changes
Navigating bi+ relationships: dating, partner support, and more

Resources:

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Smashing the Lies About Bisexuality You Still Believe

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 05:30:58 GMT

In this episode of Give It To Me Bi, we’re tackling one of the biggest challenges bisexual folks face—those pesky myths and stereotypes. Whether it’s the tired accusation of “confusion,” the hypersexualisation, or the constant assumptions about monogamy, we’re here to break it all down.

We’ve both faced these myths in our own lives, and we know how damaging they can be. So, we’re sharing personal stories, using a bit of humour, and offering practical, empowering ways to respond when these stereotypes come up.

If you’ve ever struggled with how to answer someone who just doesn’t get it—or if you’ve heard one too many myths yourself—this episode is for you. Let’s dive in, debunk these myths together, and show the world what it really means to be bi.

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Bisexual Community Organising and Bi+ Visibility

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 06:26:26 GMT

In this episode, Chad and Steve are joined by their first guest, Amber Loomis (they/them), the driving force behind the Sydney Bi+ Network (SBN). Amber shares their journey in community organising, highlighting how SBN became a vital space for Bi+ visibility and connection. The trio dives into the challenges of running a community organisation, touching on burnout, resource limitations, and the importance of values-driven leadership. They also discuss the power of creating spaces where Bi+ people feel seen, supported, and celebrated.

Join them for an inspiring conversation about the impact of grassroots advocacy and the role of love and community in sustaining long-term organising efforts.

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Bisexual Visibility and Generational Shifts

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 05:30:40 GMT

In this episode, Chad and Steve explore the topic of bisexual visibility and how it has evolved across generations. They discuss personal experiences and reflect on data from the latest Gallup polls, revealing a significant increase in bisexual identification among Gen Z compared to previous generations. The hosts share insights on the challenges bisexual men face in coming out and the disparities in visibility between bisexual men and women. They also touch on the importance of counting bisexual individuals for funding and resources, and how The Mummy played a role in Steve's bisexual awakening (I mean, same).

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Bisexual Activism and Advocacy in the Bi+ Community

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 05:31:00 GMT

In this episode, Chad and Steve dive into the crucial topic of activism and advocacy within the Bi+ community. They share personal stories about how advocacy has shaped their lives and discuss the importance of being visible advocates. The episode also honours key historical and contemporary Bi+ activists, such as Brenda Howard and Sylvia Rivera, while exploring the future of Bi+ advocacy in the digital age. The hosts emphasise the significance of connecting with others, both online and offline, to create meaningful change.

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Bisexual Pride: A Celebration and History of Bisexual Visibility

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 05:30:55 GMT

In our inaugural episode of Give It To Me Bi, hosts Chad and Steve dive into the heart of Pride and what it means for the Bi+ community. We discuss the rich history of Pride, from its roots in the Stonewall Riots to the pivotal role of bisexual activist Brenda Howard. Join us as we explore the challenges and triumphs of the Bi+ community, share personal stories, and celebrate the importance of visibility. Whether you're Bi+, an ally, or simply curious, this episode offers a candid and insightful look at what Pride means to us all.

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Give It To Me Bi Trailer

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 03:11:42 GMT

Welcome to Give It To Me Bi, the podcast that dives deep into the rich and complex experiences of the Bi+ community—creating a space where Bi+ individuals and allies can explore identity, history, and advocacy. Expect candid conversations, expert interviews, and personal stories that aim to challenge stereotypes and celebrate the diversity within the Bi+ community. Whether you're Bi+, questioning, or an ally, this podcast is your go-to resource for thoughtful, engaging, and humorous discussions on what it means to live and thrive as a Bi+ individual in today's world.

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