Becoming Secure with Magsmindset

#66 You knew it was bad for you. You stayed anyway - with Bev Mitelman

Sat, 13 Jun 2026 13:15:24 GMT

If you've ever been addicted to a person,;the highs, the chaos, the 72-hour reprieves - this episode will explain why. And more importantly, it'll show you that it was never a character flaw.

Attachment therapist Bev Mitelman joins me to break down why we chase what hurts us, what anxious and avoidant attachment actually look like in real life, and what healing really means (hint: it's not what you think).

Meet Bev Mitelman: https://securelyloved.com/

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#65 This is why I know I am Secure

Sat, 06 Jun 2026 11:28:41 GMT

🎥 The video version of this episode is available on YouTube @Magsmindset.

"How do you know you're secure after spending years building Becoming Secure with Magsmindset?"

The answer took me all the way back to 2016, when my self-development journey began.

In this episode, I reflect on the past 10 years: what heartbreak taught me, how attachment theory changed my life, what it means to feel truly safe in a relationship, and why I no longer spend my days trying to decode what someone else is thinking.

I also share a recent experience from my trip to Malaysia with my boyfriend that made me realize just how much I've changed.

If you've ever struggled with anxiety in relationships, fear of abandonment, self-worth, or simply learning how to trust yourself, this episode is for you.

💗 Subscribe for more conversations about attachment theory, relationships, personal growth, and becoming secure.

#AttachmentTheory #PersonalGrowth #Relationships #BecomingSecure #SelfDevelopment #HealingJourney #Magsmindset

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#64 Unpause Your Marriage with Lee Baucom

Fri, 29 May 2026 22:00:00 GMT

NOTE! Video available on YouTube. In this episode, I sit down with marriage coach and former therapist Lee Baucom to talk about what really causes marriages to break down—and how to prevent it.

Lee explains that most couples unknowingly “hit the pause button” after committing, turning their focus to life demands and building habits of disconnection. We unpack the three levels of connection—physical, emotional, and spiritual—and why love alone doesn’t sustain a marriage without ongoing attention.

We also explore complacency, resentment, and what one partner can do when the other isn’t motivated, including inviting connection rather than chasing it. Finally, we discuss expectations, values-based responding, self-regulation during conflict, and shifting from competition to a team mindset, plus where to find Lee’s Save The Marriage and Unpause Your Marriage resources.

Un-Pause App: http://UnPauseYourMarriage.com

Save The Marriage System: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/system

My books: http://SaveTheMarriage.com/books

00:00 Lee Baucom

00:11 Introduction

01:10 Lee's Background & Origin Story

03:24 Why Marriages Fail: The Pause Button

11:48 The Three Levels of Connection

19:10 Rebuilding Connection: One Person Can Start

27:13 Attachment Theory & Personal Healing

28:07 Expectations & The Root of Frustration

32:49 Marriage as a Team

35:44 Self-Regulation & Responding from Values

45:21 Conflict That Serves the Relationship

47:13 Discovering Your Values

52:28 Wrap-Up & Resources

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#63 How to Receive Love Without Losing Yourself with Lorina

Sat, 23 May 2026 08:03:25 GMT

In this episode, I’m joined by Lorina Manzanita, a somatic intimacy coach and trauma resolution practitioner, to explore how attachment patterns and developmental trauma get encoded in the body and shape our relationships.

We talk about why empaths often self-abandon, people-please, and ignore their own needs, and how mindfulness and somatic awareness can build agency, boundaries, and healthier intimacy.

Lorina explains implicit memory in the first 18 months of life, the balance of connection and differentiation in secure attachment, and why attachment can differ with each parent. We unpack intermittent positive reinforcement (“pigeon brain”) and why inconsistent love becomes addictive, plus how breakups can feel like death yet lead to liberation when supported by self-compassion, community, and resourcing.

We also discuss eros as a life force, pleasure, and the power of gratitude and asking directly for what you need.

Website: www.LorinaManzanita.com

Nourished: The Neuroscience of Receiving Beautifully www.integratingeros.com/nourished-mini-course

00:00 Meet Lorina

02:00 Wounded Healer Origin

05:03 Somatic Intimacy Basics

07:39 Mindset Versus Body

10:03 Secure Attachment Foundations

12:13 Different Parents Different Styles

17:20 Pigeon Brain Love Pattern

22:57 Building Real Security

26:52 Breaking the Trauma Bond

30:26 Grief Feels Like Dying

31:21 Seven Attempts to Leave

33:10 Finding Real Safety

35:02 Triggers and Resilience

36:54 Surrender and Worthiness

38:51 Rewiring Limiting Beliefs

39:59 Asking Men Directly

40:45 Mending the Dad Bond

44:39 Eros Life Force Energy

46:37 Nature as Resourcing

48:05 Gratitude and God

49:54 Course Plug and Farewell

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#62 Dr. Wendy O’Connor: Why the Answer is NO, Burn Out, and How to Rebuild Self-Trust

Fri, 15 May 2026 22:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I talk with Dr. Wendy O’Connor, a licensed psychologist of 18 years who shifted from clinical practice to coaching after burning out while running private practices and raising three daughters under 3.

We discuss how high-achieving women can do “all the right things” yet still feel unfulfilled, and why she began focusing on helping women thrive through positive psychology. Wendy explains why women overcommit and say yes to gain approval, belonging, and safety, often leading to self-abandonment, resentment, and anxiety.

We cover practical ways to reconnect with yourself, including doing a time audit, tuning into body cues, aligning choices with values, and building resilience and self-trust by taking uncomfortable steps. We also explore how depression and anxiety relate to past and future focus, and we plan a future conversation about Alison Armstrong’s books.

Wendy's website:

https://www.drwendyoconnor.com/home

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#61 The Silent Bully with Jacquie Elliot

Sat, 09 May 2026 07:00:00 GMT

In this podcast episode, I talk with Jacquie Elliot—certified life, relationship, and spiritual coach, retreat leader, and author of The Silent Bully—about the “abusive brain chatter” that drove her. Jacquie shares how childhood trauma, including witnessing her mother’s suicide attempt and later sexual abuse, shaped core beliefs and anxious attachment, and how she used her ABC method (Awareness, Believe, Challenge) to become aware of self-bullying, build a spiritual center, and challenge limiting beliefs. We discuss tools like journaling, voice dialogue, identifying emotional abuse patterns, handling fear and criticism while posting online, dating with criteria instead of “pick me” attachment, and reframing body image as an “earth suit.”

Find Jacquie here: https://jacquieelliottclc.com/about/

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#60 Adopted Twice: How Trauma Shapes Love, Attachment & Healing - Mike Elliott

Fri, 01 May 2026 22:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I sit down with relationship coach Mike Elliott, who shares how being separated from his biological mother at birth and then being adopted twice shaped his early life. This led him into drugs, dealing, and dangerous criminal dynamics, and later fueled unhealthy relationship patterns even while he appeared to be living the “American Dream.”

He describes a breaking point when his wife left on Valentine’s Day, triggering a visceral realization that he was reliving his earliest abandonment wound, and how that moment pushed him to seek deep coaching, emotional integration, and a new way of relating.

We also dive into Alison Armstrong’s work - especially Understanding the Development of Men, and how these ideas changed my own relationships, including my relationship with my father.

Email @ transform@itsmikeelliott.com

IG @mikeelliott.relating

Website@ itsmikeelliott.com

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#59 From Dentistry to Top 1% Podcasting with Agi Keramidas

Fri, 24 Apr 2026 22:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I sit down with Agi, a Greek-born podcaster living in the UK, who trained and practiced as a dentist before pivoting into personal development and creating the Personal Development Mastery podcast, now in the top 1% of podcasts.

Agi shares how a loss of passion after completing a master’s in aesthetic dentistry triggered his search for answers, why personal development is an ongoing journey rather than a destination, and how fear often protects us but can block fulfillment.

We talk about staying curious, exploring without burning the boats, and using faith and perseverance—illustrated by the Chinese bamboo tree story—to keep going when results aren’t visible.

Agi's Website: https://personaldevelopmentmasterypodcast.com/

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#58 First On-Camera Solo Ep: Moving Back 2 Norway, Slowing Down, and Healing My Relationship with my Dad

Fri, 17 Apr 2026 22:00:00 GMT

NOTE!! I Recommend watching the YouTube version of this episode: https://youtu.be/pAoBsUxkpmY

In my first on-camera solo episode, I do a casual “glow up” while reflecting on how my life has changed since moving back to Norway over six months ago after burnout and leaving the US due to health and a work-visa job situation.

I share how slowing down, living with my parents and family, and prioritizing time with my nieces and grandparents has grounded me, even through uncertainty like long-distance with my boyfriend and months of job searching until a March offer for a well-paid part-time role that leaves space for my podcast and my book, I’m Secure.

I talk about healing my relationship with my dad by communicating needs clearly and practicing gratitude, inspired by Alison Armstrong’s book The Keys to the Kingdom. I also touch on faith, peace, creativity, and choosing daily presence over hustling.

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#57 Adoption, Attachment Styles & Healing with Donna Pope

Fri, 10 Apr 2026 22:00:00 GMT

In this podcast episode, I talk with Donna Pope, adoptive mother of three adults and founder of Heart to Heart Adoptions, an adoption agency she started in 1998 after careers in teaching and medical research, and has run for about 30 years, completing 70–100 adoptions a year. Donna explains key attachment styles (secure, anxious, avoidant, and fearful) and how attachment develops through early caregiver connection.

Donna describes challenges adoptees face, the importance of honesty and openness, avoiding a “tug of war” between families, and shares stories from her sons’ experiences, including questions about birth family and reunion. She also mentions an upcoming platform, “Adoptions, Community and Connections,” to connect people across the adoption community through Heart to Heart Adoptions.

Find more information: https://hearttoheartadopt.com/about-us/

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#56 Ed McCarthy and The Roadmap to Wealth, Wisdom & Happiness

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 22:00:00 GMT

I sit down with Ed McCarthy on Becoming Secure with Magsmindset to talk about how a near-death snowmobiling accident in the Colorado backcountry became the catalyst for his book series, Life Letters: Five Decisions to Wealth, Wisdom and Happiness.

He recounts being trapped for 12 hours in sub-zero temperatures before being rescued, and how that experience sparked a legacy project originally written as letters to his children. We explore gratitude, being present, problem-solution “paradigm shifts,” career disruption from AI.

Ed also invites listeners to thelifeletters.com and his free Wisdom Transfer Platform community.

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#55 From Hustle to Instinct with Liam Naden

Sat, 28 Mar 2026 17:03:21 GMT

In this episode, Liam shares how goal-setting, affirmations, and relentless planning didn’t work for him, and how a rock-bottom decision to “do nothing” created a shift that helped him follow instinct one step at a time as opportunities and the right people appeared.

We explore his idea that our brains evolved to operate through present-moment instincts rather than language-driven stories that trigger constant threat-scanning and stress, affecting everything from work to relationships. We also connect this to faith, surrender, and living with less attachment to outcomes.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/liamnaden/

Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset!

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#54 Remove Your Limiting Beliefs with Blake Lefkoe

Sat, 21 Mar 2026 09:30:50 GMT

I thought I knew what limiting beliefs were before I started this episode. Turns out I did not know the debt of it. This is one of those episodes you reflect on long after it's done, because you begin to notice how much of the limiting beliefs still exist in you. I sit down with Blake Lefkoe, daughter of the late Morty Lefkoe (creator of the Lefkoe Method), to explore how limiting beliefs drive emotional and behavioral patterns like procrastination, addiction, anger, anxiety, depression, people-pleasing, and imposter syndrome.

She shares how to contact her at blakelefkoe.com and blakelefkoe@gmail.com for a free 20-minute Zoom call - it will be worth it.

Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset!

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#53 Enough With the Secrets, Mama: Lin Green on Mother-Daughter Healing, Attachment, and Faith

Sat, 14 Mar 2026 08:09:35 GMT

In this podcast episode, I talk with Lin Green, a Puerto Rico–born writer raised in a Dominican immigrant family, about her book Enough with the Secrets Mama, which explores mother-daughter relationship issues, emotional neglect, and healing from maternal heartache. Lin shares how secrecy and feeling “not enough” shaped her insecurity, perfectionism, and attachment patterns, affecting her romantic relationships and identity.

She describes a pivotal conversation with her mother that prompted her to pull back and begin a healing journey grounded in awareness, boundaries, grace, and faith, including forgiveness. Lin also discusses her advocacy work with a local law enforcement agency in crisis settings, her nonprofit consulting business with her husband, her passion for speaking with teens, and her experiences with juvenile justice.

Lin's Website: https://issalivestyle.com/

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#52 Larry Kesslin on Finding Peace, Letting Go of Scarcity, and Living from Within

Fri, 06 Mar 2026 23:00:00 GMT

Larry Kesslin shares how two big trips changed his life: teaching inner-city kids to ski in Aspen in 1993, when he realized he had “everything” but felt miserable, and visiting Uganda and Kenya in 2012 - where he saw people with less living with more joy. Those moments pushed him to leave corporate life, become self-employed, and focus on coaching, giving back, and connecting people.

He talks about joy as something internal—more like peace—rather than chasing money, status, or “needs” that are really wants. He explains his “sky and clouds” metaphor for not being your thoughts and feelings, his “ascension ladder” idea, and why comparison and identity traps can kill joy.

Find Larry's book "The Joy Molecule here.

Www.5-dots.com

Contact Larry: larry@larrykesslin.com

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#51 From Avoidant to Securely Attached with Roselyn

Fri, 27 Feb 2026 23:00:00 GMT

Roselyn, a licensed clinical social worker with 15 years of experience, who explains how a sudden relationship crisis and 10-month separation from her husband after nearly 20 years together led her to focus her work on survival-based patterns, the nervous system, and subconscious wounds. Roselyn shares that her core wounds were abandonment and unworthiness, describing how trauma can persist even when someone can talk about events without feeling triggered, and how her avoidant-leaning attachment style showed up as a fear of vulnerability and a need to be needed.

The conversation covers spirituality, how teachings can be misinterpreted through fear and shame, the role of energetic frequencies in relationship dynamics, and how letting go of control can invite change. Roselyn outlines an approach centered on identity work, distinguishing between conscious ‘known identity’ and subconscious ‘felt identity’, and argues that lasting change requires emotional regulation, not only mindset work.

Roselyn shares where to find her work at Insightful Essence on social platforms and at https://insightfulessence.com.

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#50 Breaking Patterns in Love with Mark & Lynetta

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 23:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I talk with Mark and Lynette, a married couple of 12 years who have lived full-time in an RV for about 11 years and whose work focuses on helping people break repeating life and relationship patterns. We explore how trauma, attachment wounds, and generational patterns can affect relationships, and Mark and Lynette explain their approach to intimacy: acknowledgements, radical acceptance, and “presence,” plus a framework they call “workability” (moving beyond right/wrong, compromise, and sacrifice).

They discuss making clear declarations about what you want, removing the language of “worthy,” and partnering as a team to address triggers by identifying past roots rather than finger-pointing. We also talk about receiving love, shame, and guilt reframes, men’s desire to give and feel useful, and practical intimacy distinctions, including how menopause changed their dynamic.

https://www.facebook.com/marksiedler/

https://www.facebook.com/LynettaAnnAvery

https://www.facebook.com/whythiskeepshappening

https://www.instagram.com/whythiskeepshappening

https://www.tiktok.com/@why.this.keeps.happening

https://www.linkedin.com/in/whythiskeepshappening

https://whythiskeepshappening.substack.com/

Check out their free 2-minute relationship scorecard: https://tally.so/r/vGYED0

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#49 Tell The Truth

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 10:49:09 GMT

Ever notice how much time you spend having conversations in your head that never actually happen?

In this episode, I reflect on what changed in my life when I started telling the truth. First to myself, and then to the people around me. From confronting uncomfortable conversations, to releasing shame about past versions of myself, to experiencing peace in my relationship without anxiety attached to it… Everything shifted. Let yourself get inspired today!

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#48 Embracing Authenticity and Navigating Life's Twists with Hillary Spiritos

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 23:00:00 GMT

Join me in this engaging episode as I chat with Hillary Spiritos, the dynamic founder of BaT Outta Hell, a path-finding consultancy dedicated to helping young adults overcome challenges and live their most authentic lives. We explore how upbringing shapes our beliefs, the importance of living an authentic life, and how facing uncertainty and embracing change are essential skills for growth.

Hillary shares her journey of returning to childhood passions and the significance of being kind to oneself. Don't miss this heartfelt conversation filled with wisdom, personal stories, and practical advice on navigating life's twists and turns.

Website: https://batouttahell.net/
TikTok/Instagram: @bat.outta_hell
Calendly: https://calendly.com/batouttahell

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#47 From Near-Death to Unstoppable: Jay's Incredible Journey

Sat, 07 Feb 2026 15:26:53 GMT

In this deeply moving episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset, I sit down with Jay Setchell, a man whose resilience and determination are nothing short of extraordinary. Jay shares his story of surviving multiple near-death experiences, including severe farm accidents, a catastrophic car crash, and a life-threatening swimming pool incident, all resulting in 73 surgeries and a diagnosis of being partially disabled. Despite the immense physical and emotional challenges, Jay's indomitable will to live and help others has never wavered. Discover the mindset that transforms scars into strength and despair into purpose. Brace yourself for an inspiring journey that proves it's always too soon to quit.

His book!

https://neverquittrying.com/

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#46 Beat Yesterday: The System That Changes Lives

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 23:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I speak with Stanley Bronstein who shares his transformative life story. From the tragic loss of his mother at a young age, leading to a lifelong battle with weight, to his empowering journey of achieving excellence in health and wellness.

Stanley, a lawyer turned life coach, delves into the profound impact of attachment theory, his transformative realization at 50, and his inspiring message of constant improvement. Now, at 66, he has walked over 72,000 miles and advocates for a plant-based lifestyle, demonstrating that it's never too late for positive change and personal growth.

https://thewayofexcellence.com/

https://millionpoundweightlosschallenge.com/

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#45 A Year of Becoming Secure

Sun, 25 Jan 2026 23:30:40 GMT

This episode marks one full year of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset. I wanted to pause and reflect on the podcast, on the moves between two continents, on the lessons, the letting go, and the becoming. I share some of my favorite moments from this year, what attachment theory has taught me about love and safety, and how releasing control has made room for abundance. This is a conversation about presence, gratitude, resilience, and honoring the season you’re in — while still dreaming forward. As I close out Season 1 and look toward 2026, this episode is my thank-you, my reflection, and my reminder: growth happens when we stay connected to ourselves.

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#44 Embracing Vertical Development with Ryan Gottfredson

Sat, 17 Jan 2026 14:53:59 GMT

Join us as we dive deep into a transformative conversation with Ryan Gottfredson, a leadership professor at Cal State Fullerton and an expert in vertical development. Ryan shares his journey of self-discovery, healing, and the pivotal moments that led him to understand his own attachment style and the impact of trauma on leadership. Through personal anecdotes and insightful analogies, Ryan discusses how emotional healing and mindset shifts can elevate one's leadership capabilities and improve relationships. Perfect for anyone interested in personal growth, attachment theory, and transformational leadership.

Find Ryan's website here: https://ryangottfredson.com/

PS: I do apologize for the abrupt ending on the episode. The audio started breaking up. Thank you for understanding!

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#43 Become a Storyteller Expert with Danny Brassell

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 23:00:00 GMT

Danny Brassell is a storyteller expert, speaker coach, and the author of 21 books. A former journalist and longtime teacher, Danny has taught everyone from preschoolers to rocket scientists — and now helps entrepreneurs and leaders communicate with clarity, confidence, and purpose. After rebuilding his life following a major financial setback, Danny’s work centers on one powerful belief: knowledge isn’t power — applied knowledge is. Learn more about Danny: https://wellcraftedstoryworkshop.com/workshop

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#42 What Children Learn From How We Love with Nikki Allen

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 23:00:00 GMT

In this episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset, I’m joined by Nikki Allen: singer, songwriter, and author of Loved You, Hated You. Nikki’s story instantly intrigued me: what began as a song became a screenplay, and eventually transformed into a novel rooted in emotional truth.

We talk about what it’s really like to lose yourself inside a relationship, how subtle abuse can look when there are no bruises, and parental influence.

Nikki ends with a powerful reminder: your life is a journey like a quilt — messy on the back, beautiful when you look at the full picture.

✨ Learn more about Nikki and her book here: https://officialnikkiallen.com/

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#41 Abuse, Drugs, and Recovery with Jorid Arnoy

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 14:11:50 GMT

⚠️ Content warning: This episode includes sexual abuse, drug abuse, suicidal thoughts, and suicide. Please take care of yourself while listening.

Today’s episode is a raw, honest conversation with someone I love deeply—because I truly believe this kind of truth can save lives. I sit down with Jorid, someone I’ve known since she was seven. We talk about growing up in an unstable home, carrying trauma in silence, the devastation of not being believed, and how pain can spiral into rebellion and substance abuse. We also talk about guilt, shame, faith, and the moments that bring you back from the edge—plus what it teaches you to witness young lives lost too soon.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt stuck in a pit and wondered if it will ever get better. I want you to hear this: you’re not alone, and this too shall pass. We end on a reminder that has carried us through: “Even the worst of my mistakes are miracles in the making.”

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#40 Awkward, Honest, Necessary: Talking Racism with Darrin Taylor

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 21:48:34 GMT

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Darrin for one of the most honest and vulnerable conversations I’ve ever had about race, privilege, and what it actually feels like to live inside two very different realities. This all started because I recently spent a weekend with a childhood friend from an Indigenous Norwegian community and realized how little I actually knew about her history. I felt ashamed that I’d never asked. And I noticed the same thing with Darrin: I love him, I care about him, but I’d never really asked about what it’s like to be Black in America, until now.

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#39 Become Unshamable with Emma Lyons

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 14:46:56 GMT

Today’s episode is a deep dive into shame, narcissistic family dynamics, and the subconscious patterns that keep so many of us stuck. My guest Emma Lyons — creator of Trauma Matrix — uncovers how shame becomes the silent engine behind trauma, manipulation, self-attack, and generational pain. She teaches BREAK, which is an acronym for breaking the cycle and how to do it.

🔗 Substack: https://traumamatrix.substack.com

🎁 Free Guide — 5 Signs It’s Time to Break Up with Your Inner Narcissist: https://tinyurl.com/NotTodayNarc

📱 Instagram: @trauma.matrix

📱 TikTok: @trauma.matrix

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#38 The Female Cycle

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 16:46:41 GMT

This episode sounds like it’s for women, but make no mistake: it’s for men. If you’ve ever wanted the cheat-code to understanding women, supporting them better, deepening emotional intimacy, and becoming a more emotionally intelligent partner… this is it. I break down the female cycle in the simplest, most practical way possible — backed by biology and real research, so you can finally understand what’s actually happening in her body during all four phases: menstruation, follicular, ovulation, and luteal. Women aren’t “moody” or “irrational.” They’re cyclical, hormonal, rhythmic, and knowing how those rhythms shape her energy, sex drive, emotions, confidence, and needs is an unmatched superpower for men. You’ll learn why she needs compassion during PMS, why she becomes magnetic during ovulation, why her energy changes month-to-month, and how men can use this knowledge to create safer, deeper, and more loving relationships. Because a woman who feels seen and understood becomes softer, more open, more affectionate, more loyal, and more connected. This episode is about biology, communication, empathy, and why love matters more than pride. If you want to become the kind of man women feel safe loving, listening and learning starts here.

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#37 Bridge the Gap - Pause with Neena Perez

Sun, 16 Nov 2025 00:39:23 GMT

This episode dives into the reality of surviving trauma and learning to rebuild your identity from scratch. Neena Pérez openly shares her story of abuse, near-death experiences, teen motherhood, and years of survival mode—and how faith, self-awareness, and emotional regulation became the foundation for her healing. We talk about attachment theory, breaking toxic cycles, the role of faith in transformation, self-worth, and how to move from victimhood to victory. If you’re seeking clarity, courage, or a reminder of who God designed you to be, this conversation will touch you deeply.

Find out more about Neena Perez here!

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#36 I just wanna do Hoodrat sh*t with my friends

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 14:28:00 GMT

In this episode, Matthew Shield and I discuss life, faith, and manifestation. Learn how Matthew was falsely diagnosed with a heart condition that would have changed how I approached life forever. Fortunately, Matthew's intuition was stronger than his parents' and doctors' convictions.

Follow Matthews TikTok here!!

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#35 Struggles of the Job Hunt with Jim Martin

Sat, 01 Nov 2025 16:01:45 GMT

In this episode, I am grateful to have you observe a conversation with my mentor as I navigate through the struggle of the job hunt. I am constantly reminded that I have to pick up and utilize the tools of building and rebuilding my confidence, based on what I am going through in life. The job hunt is one of those times that knocks me down and I need a reminder of the mission I am on. Today Jim really helps me do so, and I am positive he will provide value for you as well, especially if you are job hunting too.

Access Jim's website here: https://thepathfinders.club/

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#34 Boundaries in Intimacy

Mon, 13 Oct 2025 14:07:38 GMT

I have been meaning to find the words to explain boundaries in a way that's understandable and easy to practice. I shouldn't say easy, but comprehensible. When you know yourself and what you are trying to accomplish, you realize what is and is not in alignment with that. Boundaries aren't "don't treat me like that", it's for you to act in accordance with how people treat you. Welcome to another episode of Becoming Secure with Magsmindset!

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#33 You're Making this way too Hard

Sat, 04 Oct 2025 08:55:29 GMT

In this episode, I talk with Angelo, author of You’re Making This Way Too Hard: Find YOUR Easy Way to Enjoy Life, about finding peace, purpose, and joy after life’s hardest moments. After losing his wife to ALS and navigating decades of business and personal challenges, Angelo shares what he’s learned about overcoming self-doubt, worry, and pressure, and how to start living life on your own terms.

Angelo's website!

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#32 Raising Supaman: Fatherhood with Nathaniel Turner

Sat, 27 Sep 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this episode, I talk with Nathaniel A. Turner, author of Raising Supaman, about raising children with intention, breaking cycles of generational trauma, and healing father wounds. Nathaniel shares his inspiring story as a dad and offers wisdom for parents and anyone who wants to live with greater purpose.

Before we wrap up today’s episode, be sure to check out Nathaniel A. Turner’s free resource at https://www.nathanielaturner.com/product-page/the-life-template-starter-kit— it’s where you can download his powerful tool, ‘The Life Template Starter Kit.’ Whether you’re a parent trying to raise an exceptional child or an adult trying to live with purpose, this free guide will finally help you start designing the life you’ve always imagined — on purpose, with a plan.

https://www.nathanielaturner.com/

Why It Matters for You:

Most people just “wing it” through life or parenting. This free resource helps them stop reacting and create a real plan leading to success, peace, and legacy. It’s easy to understand, simple to use, and immediately valuable.

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#31 Freedom of Speech

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 19:36:33 GMT

In this episode, I reflect on the death of Charlie Kirk and what it reveals about freedom of speech, emotional regulation, and the danger of silencing voices. Instead of blaming sides, I invite you to consider how healing our own wounds and learning to listen with humility is the only way we can move toward unity.

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#30 Attachment, Parental Figures, and Sex

Sat, 06 Sep 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In Part 2 of my conversation with David Pasqualone, we delve deeper, exploring how faith, attachment, and generational trauma are woven together in our lives. This episode is about healing the wounds we carry, finding freedom in God, and creating a legacy of strength and purpose.

Find Davids contact info following this link: https://davidpasqualone.com/

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#29 Faith Journey with David Pasqualone

Sat, 30 Aug 2025 19:34:30 GMT

Abandoned at birth, misdiagnosed by doctors, and nearly killed by a tumor the size of an orange, David Pasqualone’s story is one of survival, faith, and resilience. In Part 1, he shares the trials that shaped him and the powerful lessons God has taught him along the way.

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#28 Gender, Teens, and Trans Women in Sport with Bobbi Barrington

Sat, 23 Aug 2025 07:00:00 GMT

After 26 years in the wrong marriage, 40 years in the wrong career, and 59 years in the wrong body, Bobbi Barrington shares her raw, inspiring journey of transformation, proving it’s never too late to rewrite your life and live in complete freedom.

Find and Contact Bobbi:

http://www.bobbibarrington.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobbibarrington/

https://www.instagram.com/bobbibarrington/

http://link.bobbibarrington.com/LiveYourTruth

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#27 Becoming a Woman with Bobbi Barrington

Sat, 16 Aug 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Find and Contact Bobbi:

http://www.bobbibarrington.com/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/bobbibarrington/

https://www.instagram.com/bobbibarrington/

http://link.bobbibarrington.com/LiveYourTruth

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#26 Turning Grief into Impact with Martin Salama

Sat, 09 Aug 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Martin Salama, author of From Worrier to Warrior, shares how the loss of his younger brother shaped his life and led him to a mission of healing through community and purpose. A powerful reminder that even in the depths of grief, we can find strength, connection, and meaning. Enjoy the episode!

Check out Martin's website here: https://thewarriorslifecode.com/

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#25 Life Update

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 20:01:21 GMT

Guys we are flying solo today and Im just checking in with yall. Im here to give you my latest life update! A lot of changes ahead... and please!! I want to hear from you. Email me @ magsmindset@gmail.com , I cant wait to hear from you!

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#24 Where Our Loyalties Clash, We Choose to Speak

Sun, 20 Jul 2025 16:53:11 GMT

Willie Handler is a Toronto-based writer and the son of Holocaust survivors. He is active in the Holocaust second-generation community and volunteers at the Toronto Holocaust Museum, where he helps educate visitors and students. His upcoming memoir, Out From the Shadows (November 9, 2024), shares his family’s Holocaust history and his personal experience growing up in the shadow of that trauma.

Check out Willie's Website and his books!

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#23 Growing up with Holocaust Survivors

Sat, 12 Jul 2025 05:00:00 GMT

Check out Willie's Website and his books!

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#22 Taking Accountability with Kurt Bush

Sat, 05 Jul 2025 05:00:00 GMT

In today's episode I am guested by author and podcast host Kurt Bush. We tap into the power of taking accountability and how not doing so can bleed into every relationship dynamic you find yourself in.

Find Kurt's Podcast following this link!

Here is the link to Kurt's book. It's called "Live Fully. Lead Authentically. The Surprising Link Between Self-Awareness and Your Impact".

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#21 The Personality Types Test

Sat, 28 Jun 2025 05:00:00 GMT

This episode is about personality types and how you can leverage knowing your own personality type to your advantage!

Eric is a professional who has written the book "The Power of Personality" and today he is sharing some of that wisdom with us.

Personality Type Test: https://youtopiaproject.com/youtopia-16-assessment-2/

The Power of Personality: Book

Eric's Website: https://www.projectyoutopia.com/

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#20 Personality Types with Eric Gee

Sat, 21 Jun 2025 15:51:27 GMT

This episode is about personality types and how you can leverage knowing your own personality type to your advantage!

Eric is a professional who has written the book "The Power of Personality" and today he is sharing some of that wisdom with us.

Personality Type Test: https://youtopiaproject.com/youtopia-16-assessment-2/

The Power of Personality: Book

Eric's Website: https://www.projectyoutopia.com/

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#19 How the 4th marriage is a successful one

Sat, 14 Jun 2025 07:00:00 GMT

Podcast host of the Life is Crazy Podcast Brandon Held is talking about how the fourth marriage is going to be a successful one and fatherhood in the second part of our chat together. Find his podcast here: https://linktr.ee/brandonheld

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#18 Toxic Childhood, The Provider & 90 Day Fiancé with Brandon Held

Sat, 07 Jun 2025 19:29:16 GMT

From childhood trauma to military service, four marriages, and fatherhood—today’s guest shares a raw, powerful story of resilience and how he’s turning pain into purpose to help others heal. Brandon Held has his own podcast "Life is Crazy", go check it out!

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#17 Think Steps not Swings

Sat, 31 May 2025 19:51:25 GMT

This episode explores the concept of "thinking steps, not swings"—inspired by a sermon from Pastor Steven—as a powerful mindset for achieving goals and emotional resilience, emphasizing that lasting change and healing come from small, intentional actions rather than extreme, unsustainable shifts.

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#16 Ripple Effects of Loving Yourself

Sat, 24 May 2025 05:00:00 GMT

This episode is about how cultivating deep self-love and self-awareness creates a powerful ripple effect in your life—leading to less judgment, greater authenticity, and the courage to grow into the person you truly want to be.

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#15 Dating With Integrity After Pain

Sat, 17 May 2025 03:50:57 GMT

A reflection on healing after heartbreak, taking accountability, and learning to date with self-worth, integrity, and clarity about what you truly want.

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#14 Men, I dont understand you

Sat, 03 May 2025 07:00:00 GMT

This episode is a heartfelt and vulnerable reflection on my desire to understand modern men and bridge the gap between the genders in order to build meaningful, committed love—despite the confusion, pain, and disconnect I have experienced along the way.

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#13 Fulfillment, Responsibility & Gender Roles

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 01:31:35 GMT

This episode explores self-fulfillment, responsibility, and modern gender dynamics, highlighting how men and women can step into their highest selves through personal growth, accountability, and intentional relationships.

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#12 Dating with an Attachment with Michael

Sat, 19 Apr 2025 07:00:00 GMT

This is the third and last part of my conversation with my friend and neighbor Michael. In this episode we talk about dating and what we learn from our relationships.

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#11 Identifying Generational Trauma with Michael

Sat, 12 Apr 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Michael and I dive into the Attachment Style quiz. If you want to take the quiz yourself, follow link.

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#10 Becoming Disorganized Attached with Michael

Sat, 05 Apr 2025 07:00:00 GMT

In this Episode I am chatting with my friend and neighbor Michael Zanini about attachment theory and generational trauma.

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#9 Shame 🔔

Sat, 29 Mar 2025 07:00:00 GMT

This episode is about releasing shame, taking accountability for past actions, and choosing to move forward with honesty, self-respect, and personal growth instead of staying stuck in a victim mindset.

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#8 Part 2 - Bad Breakups

Sat, 22 Mar 2025 07:00:00 GMT

This episode is about the journey of healing from anxious attachment, learning self-respect, embracing emotional growth, and taking accountability for one's relationship choices to manifest healthier, more fulfilling connections.

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#8 Part 1 - Bad Breakups

Sat, 15 Mar 2025 07:00:00 GMT

This episode explores the grieving process of a breakup through the lens of an anxiously attached individual, highlighting the emotional turmoil, attachment dynamics, and the importance of healing and self-respect to ultimately move forward.

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#7 Power of Vulnerability

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 08:00:00 GMT

Healing is a humbling journey of self-empathy and strength, and in this episode, I share a raw conversation with my best friend Arina, revealing the insecurities and battles I continue to face.

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#6 Sex

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 08:00:00 GMT

This episode is an honest and deeply personal reflection on my relationship with sex, how it was shaped by early exposure and societal norms, and the impact it has had on my self-worth, relationships, and healing journey. Through my story, I hope to challenge the normalization of casual sex, highlight the importance of boundaries, and shed light on the deeper emotional and psychological effects that many may not even realize they carry.

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#5 - 477 Best Friends Forever

Sat, 22 Feb 2025 06:00:00 GMT

From Norway to 477: Finding Freedom, Friendship, and Growth in the American Dream.

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#4 Breaking the Cycle

Sat, 15 Feb 2025 06:00:00 GMT

This episode dives into the messy, raw, and powerful journey of leveling up emotionally, breaking free from toxic relationship patterns, and unapologetically owning the vision of a secure, loving, and committed partnership that aligns with non-negotiable dreams of marriage and family, all while trusting the process and God’s timing.

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#3 Get Comfortable with Discomfort

Sat, 08 Feb 2025 06:00:00 GMT

This episode reveals the journey of overcoming deep-rooted insecurities, self-doubt, and the fear of isolation. It emphasizes the power of sitting with discomfort, embracing growth, and becoming your own source of strength and confidence.

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#2 A Daughter Needs her Father

Sat, 01 Feb 2025 06:00:00 GMT

This episode explores how personal insecurities can stem from childhood experiences and the influence of caregivers, highlighting the journey of self-discovery and growth through understanding parental dynamics, attachment theory, and personal accountability. It emphasizes the power of using emotions like jealousy as a guide for self-improvement, the importance of discipline and consistency, and the transformative potential of addressing and overcoming self-imposed limitations.

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#1 Diving Into My Story

Sat, 25 Jan 2025 21:00:00 GMT

This episode introduces a personal journey of understanding attachment styles and how they influence relationships. It emphasizes the importance of self-awareness, accountability, and healing from past trauma without placing blame on caregivers or others, ultimately empowering individuals to grow and create healthier connections.

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#0 Welcome to Becoming Secure with Magsmindset

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 02:15:11 GMT

Introduction

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