Intimacy Unlocked

Ep 10. | Just The Tip LIVE from the Atlantic Sex Show - Season Finale

Wed, 18 Jun 2025 20:06:13 GMT

In this special season finale, Serena Haines takes the stage at the Atlantic Sex Show for Just the Tip LIVE! Joined by producer Sarah MacLellan, the duo dives into some raw and unfiltered listener questions in real time—from hemorrhoids and anal fisting to sexual desire and starfish partners.

This live episode is a playful, shame-free deep dive into real intimacy and modern pleasure.

Serena dives into:

Sex with a “starfish” partner (passivity vs reciprocity)
Navigating anal play with hemorrhoids
Anal fisting safety tips and lube recommendations
Responsive vs spontaneous desire
How to communicate a need for slower, more connected sex
Managing libido loss in perimenopause and menopause
Sex toys and gender inclusivity

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Just A Rant: Critical Curiousity In Modern Intimacy

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 13:54:48 GMT

In this no-holds-barred mini-episode, Serena Haines rants about the overuse of pop-psychology buzzwords like narcissism, attachment styles, and love languages on social media. With humor and honesty, she invites you to think critically, stay curious, and stop letting TikTok diagnose your love life.

Serena dives into:

Misuse of terms like narcissist and gaslighting
Attachment styles and context-specific behavior
Problems with love language expectations
Dangers of labels and rigid self-diagnosis
How to shift perspectives with curiosity
Why every relationship is a mirror for growth

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep 9. | It Shouldn’t Hurt: All About Anal

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 11:49:57 GMT

Ever wondered why anal feels taboo even when it feels good?

In this episode of Intimacy Unlocked, Serena Haines dives headfirst into one of her favorite topics: anal sex.

From busting myths and releasing shame to covering the step-by-step basics of safe, pleasurable backdoor play, this episode is equal parts permission slip and practical guide.

Serena covers:

•Why anal sex is misunderstood and often linked to shame

•How to start anal play safely and pleasurably

•The role of relaxation and the nervous system in anal pleasure

•Lube: how much you really need and how to use it effectively

•Understanding anal anatomy (two sphincters and their function)

•Prep, hygiene, and clean-up tips (including toy safety and condoms)

•Prostate play and why straight men should care

•How to talk to your partner about anal (plus safe words)

•Feeling guilt around receiving but not giving anal

•Unlearning shame and internalized stigma

•Why anal sex can feel more intimate than vaginal sex

•Listener questions about bisexuality, fantasy, and boundaries

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

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Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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JUST THE TIP #7 : How To Use The Pleasure Scale to Feel More Without Finishing

Wed, 28 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

What if the best sex of your life didn’t end in orgasm?

In this Just The Tip mini episode, Serena Haynes breaks down the pleasure scale—a powerful tool for anyone looking to deepen their sexual connection with themselves or a partner. It’s all about how to ride the wave of arousal without the pressure to climax. Whether you’ve struggled with orgasm, want to last longer, or just want to feel more, this episode reframes pleasure as a lived, sustained experience, not a finish line.

In 12 minutes you will learn:

What the Pleasure Scale is and how to use it
The benefits of staying at high arousal without climax
How edging builds sexual stamina
Edging techniques for solo and partnered play
How breath and awareness can expand pleasure
Why orgasm isn’t the only goal of good sex
Reframing sexual “performance” into exploration
Tools for lasting longer and feeling more connected

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

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Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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Ep 8. | Your Erotic Truth: Kinks, Fetishes and Feeling Seen

Wed, 21 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

What does it mean to be fully seen in your desires?

In this episode, Serena dives deep into the nuanced world of kinks, fetishes, and erotic identity. She answers listener questions and unpacks what happens when your desires go unmet in a relationship.You’ll walk away with clarity, practical tools and an emotional invitation to stay true to your erotic self. PLUS, listen to the end. Serena shares her own powerful and very personal story of erotic grief, and what it means to feel seen in your full sexual self.

Remember: that you are not too much. You are just awake.

Warning: This episode includes discussions of CNC (consensual non-consent). Please be mindful as you listen.

Topics covered:

•The difference between kinks and fetishes (and common misconceptions)

•How to know if a desire is part of your identity vs. a playful novelty

•When and how to talk to your partner about your kinks or fetishes

•Navigating mismatched erotic desires in long-term relationships

•How to ease a reserved partner into kink safely and supportively

•A beginner-friendly breakdown of BDSM

•Safer practices for erotic choking and communication around it

•Consensual Non-Consent (CNC): definitions, ethics, and entry points

•Aftercare: what it is and why it matters (for everyone)

•Personal reflections on erotic grief and unmet sexual desires

•Hormonal responses after sex and how they shape attachment and emotion

•The power of staying “big” in your desire, even when it feels hard

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Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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JUST THE TIP #6: How to Make Masturbation Exciting Again

Wed, 14 May 2025 15:39:40 GMT

In this mini “Just the Tip” episode of Intimacy Unlocked, Serena responds to a listener confession about solo pleasure feeling more like a task than a turn-on. If your self-pleasure practice feels flat, stale, or disconnected, you're not alone.. Serena's got the tips to bring back the spark. From switching up visual stimulation to exploring toys, touch, and prostate play, this episode is an invitation to reimagine masturbation as a full-body erotic ritual, not a rush job.

This episode covers:

Why solo sex can feel boring
The power of novelty in self-pleasure
Male vs. female gaze in porn
Erotic massage and full-body touch
Using toys and lube for men
Exploring prostate and perineum play
Changing up timing and position
Reframing masturbation as ritual

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

Shop the Pleasure Pods in Stores at Pure Pharmacy in BC, or online at Amazon Canada.

Join the webinar "Menopause in the Bedroom - Breaking Barriers to Better Sex" with Amanda Otterman and Serena Haines on Tuesday, May 20th.

Buy tickets here

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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Ep 7. | It's Probably Perimenopause: Pleasure Through the Chaos

Wed, 07 May 2025 09:00:00 GMT

Has your sex drive vanished overnight? You’re not alone. But you’re also not broken.

In this raw and reassuring episode, Serena Haines dives into what no one tells you about perimenopause and menopause. From the longer-than-you-think list of unexpected symptoms, to understanding the disconnect between your brain and your body, Serena covers it all. This one’s for every woman navigating the quiet chaos of hormonal changes, and for the partners trying to keep up.

You’ll hear about:

How Pleasure Pods are changing the game for women navigating dryness and discomfort
How to know if you’re in perimenopause (spoiler: you probably are)
What perimenopause really does to your body and mood
The real, emotional impact of hormonal changes on connection and confidence
The art of warming up your erotic engine
Why self-pleasure and lubrication are acts of reclaiming, not just coping
How to talk to your partner when sex feels different—or difficult
Learning to love the evolution, rather than fighting it

Menopause doesn’t mean the end of pleasure. It’s an opportunity to unlock a new way of experiencing it.

Learn more about The Pleasure Pods—the new luxury in intimate care at thepleasurepods.com/

Shop The Pleasure Pods on Amazon Canada.

Join the webinar "Menopause in the Bedroom - Breaking Barriers to Better Sex" with Amanda Otterman and Serena Haines on Tuesday, May 20th.

Buy tickets here

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

Submit it through our anonymous form or send in a voicemail!

Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

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JUST THE TIP #5: How To Prepare For An Open Relationship (Maybe)

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 11:16:04 GMT

Curious about opening up your relationship? In this candid Just the Tip mini-episode, Serena breaks down what needs to be in place before exploring non-monogamy—emotionally, relationally, and practically. From boundaries and consent to jealousy and communication, consider this your open-relationship starter pack for how to open up without blowing up.

In10 minutes, Serena covers:

The real meaning of “opening up” (beyond sex)
Why a solid relationship foundation is key
Boundaries vs. ultimatums
Consent culture in open spaces
Managing jealousy and emotional regulation
Low-pressure ways to start exploring

Join us for our Dying For Sex Group Chat discussion about the powerful docuseries on Wednesday, April 30th at 7pm AST. Click here for the zoom link.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep. 6 | The Messy Side Of Intimacy: How to Reset, Repair, and Reconnect

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 09:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Serena dives into the messy, beautiful complexity of modern intimacy, unpacking the real-life challenges of sustaining desire.

Whether you are trying to break unhealthy habits, trying to reignite a spark, pre-paring for long distance challenges or introducing another person into your relationship,

this conversation offers honest insights and practical steps to help you reset, repair, and reconnect.

In this episode:

An emotional reflection and review of the docuseries Dying for Sex
How to stay emotionally and erotically connected in long distance relationships
Strategies to break free from the addiction of familiar, but unhealthy cycles
Navigating threesomes and group intimacy
The feedback loop of rushed or routine sex
How to rekindle desire in long-term relationships
Orgasm challenges and shame
Why attraction fades and how to bring it back

Come see Serena LIVE at The Sunday Night Sex Show at North Brewing on Sunday, April 27th! Click here for tickets.

Join us for our Dying For Sex Group Chat discussion about the powerful docuseries on Wednesday, April 30th at 7pm AST. Click here for the zoom link.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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JUST THE TIP #4: What "More Sex" Really Means

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 09:00:00 GMT

What if “I want more sex” is really a plea for connection?

In this mini-episode, Serena Haines unpacks the deeper emotional needs hiding behind sexual frustration and explores how couples can better understand and meet each other’s desires—emotionally and erotically.

Serena dives into:

What “I want more sex” actually means
Emotional connection and how it differs for everyone
The difference in how sexual energy flows in men vs. women
The cycle of erotic energy in long-term relationships
Reframing desire to deepen intimacy

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep. 5 | Congratulations, You're A Squirter!

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 09:00:00 GMT

This week's episode of Intimacy Unlocked does not hold back, as Serena dives into the questions you’re too shy to Google but dying to ask.

From the ins and outs (literally) of tantric sex and the mystery of squirting, to blow job confidence, 69ing and fisting fundamentals—no topic is off limit this week.

Topics include:

Same-sex fantasies & strap-on struggles
Tantric sex and the Kama Sutra
The science and sensations of squirting
The misunderstood magic of the 69
Blow job fears, first-timer advice & swallowing truths
Fisting fundamentals (yes, really!)
Breakup detangling and emotional boundaries

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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JUST THE TIP #3: What Might Be Killing Your Desire

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 09:00:00 GMT

In this mini-episode of Intimacy Unlocked: Just the Tip, Serena Haynes answers a listener’s question about low libido and struggles with arousal. She explores the fascinating science behind desire, breaking down the dual control model—the concept of “brakes” and “accelerators” in our sex drive. Through a surprising study involving rats and Iggy Pop, Serena explains why environment plays a crucial role in pleasure and arousal. If you’ve ever wondered why your desire fluctuates, this episode offers insightful and actionable advice to help you reignite the spark.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep. 4 | The Lost Art Of Manual Play

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 09:00:00 GMT

This week it’s all in the hands! In this info-packed episode, Serena Haines does a deep dive into the lost art of manual play for vulvas and penises.

Serena covers:

Pleasure anatomy education for vulvas and penises
Techniques for manual stimulation (aka fingering and hand jobs 101)
The importance of mindful masturbation
The role of toys in manual play
Mutual masturbation and the story of Kunyaza
Myths about orgasm and lubrication

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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JUST THE TIP #2: Navigating Same Sex Fantasies

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 09:00:00 GMT

This week Serena covers a listener's vulnerable question of how to navigate same sex fantasies and fetishes.

Serena lets us know why it's more common than you think and how to share your true desires with your partner.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep. 3 | Understanding Your Sex Life: Desire Droughts, Libido Shifts & Unexpected Fantasies

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 09:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Serena helps listeners better understand their sex lives, answering questions around desire, shifting sexual dynamics and unexpected fantasies.

Serena provides thoughtful insights into the following juicy topics:

How to ease into vulnerability to prepare for Serena's Vulva Revolution Workshop.
The psychology behind men exploring same-sex fantasies
Creating a self-pleasure practice that boosts solo pleasure and mimics partner intimacy
How to navigate shifting libidos in long-term relationships
How to navigate one-sided sexual preferences
The best positions for female orgasm

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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JUST THE TIP #1: How To Introduce Sex Toys Into Your Relationship

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 10:00:00 GMT

So you want to bring sex toys intro your relationship. Where do you even start?

In this week's JUST THE TIP, Serena Haines fills us in on her tips for how to introduce sex toys into your relationship.

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep. 2 | Jelqing, Vulva Hugs and Sex Dreams

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 10:00:00 GMT

Serena is revving things up on Episode 2 of Intimacy Unlocked answering listener's juicy questions.

In this episode, she dives into:

Tips on how to deep throat
A very innovative penis enlargement technique called jelqing
How to navigate low sexual desire
The power of the vulva hug
The “5-Minute Rule” for spontaneous desire

PLUS: Serena tells us about her approach to working with queer couples and individuals, and walks us through how no one (mostly) is too big for a condom.

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

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Ep. 1 | Everything To Do With Sex Coaching

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 10:00:00 GMT

What actually is sex coaching?

Does it involve watching people have sex? Giving hands-on lessons? Or… something else entirely?

In this candid first episode, certified sex and intimacy coach Serena Haines breaks down what sex coaching is and isn’t.

Serena lets us in on the wildest misconceptions about her job, what she actually does to help people unlock pleasure in her sessions, the importance of boundaries and her personalized approach to sessions. Plus: we get to meet her well-loved (and slightly broken) clitoris model.

Have a juicy confession or burning question?

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

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Introducing: Intimacy Unlocked with Serena Haines

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 01:12:36 GMT

Welcome to Intimacy Unlocked, the podcast that helps you break free from shame and unlock deeper intimacy.

Hosted by intimacy and relationship expert and certified sexologist Serena Haines, this podcast is your safe space to ask the questions you’ve always been too nervous to say out loud. Whether you’re in a long-term relationship, flying solo, or just here to be a fly on the wall, Serena’s candid, research-backed insights will help you unlock your pleasure potential with confidence.

Let’s unlock your pleasure potential, one question at a time!

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Serena Haines is an intimacy & relationship expert and certified sexologist, helping individuals and couples learn, connect, and nurture their sexuality.

Learn more about her services at https://www.serenahaines.com/

Follow Serena on Instagram at @serena_haines

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