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		<itunes:author>Crystal Marie</itunes:author>
		<itunes:subtitle>We think, therefore we ask.</itunes:subtitle>
		<itunes:summary><![CDATA[<p>Welcome to The Gadfly Talks, one woman’s answer to a world of soundbites and clapbacks. It’s inspired by Socratic dialogue, which involves cooperative, open-ended exploration rather than defensive one-upmanship or intellectual dominance.&nbsp;</p><br><p>This type of dialogue is portrayed in Plato’s <em>Symposium</em> by the temple priestess and mystic, Diotima of Mantinea, as she guides Socrates to insight about the nature of love (or eros, for my fellow Greek nerds).&nbsp;&nbsp;</p><br><p>The goal of Socratic dialogue is to temporarily suspend our beliefs, to allow space to explore ideas relationally and arrive at deep, collective insight — together. Refreshing, right? Think of it as making love to an idea rather than, well, the alternative.</p><br><p>This dialectical approach goes beyond black-and-white, zero-sum thinking to embrace complexity, paradox, and mystery. It helps us resolve ideological tension and factionalism not with concrete answers, but cooperative inquiry and the ability to sit with the unknown.</p><br><p>It asserts that wisdom begins with humility — not credentials— and culminates in wonder. Though some of the people I interview will be considered experts in their fields, I don't present them as sole purveyors of truth. Instead, I invite a variety perspectives to paint a kaleidoscopic picture of each topic we'll cover, one that's textured, nuanced. and even contradictory at times.</p><br><p>How can this approach shift our perspective on the prevailing narratives of our time? What might happen if we ask more questions instead of defending assertions? All I know is, I’m eager to find out.</p><br><p>I don’t offer medical advice or treatment, and this podcast shouldn’t replace it. But I do believe that healing happens in community. Maybe, just maybe, these talks can be a part of your healing, too.&nbsp;</p><br><p>Welcome to the podcast. The examined life starts here.</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></itunes:summary>
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			<title>How SSRI Withdrawal Led Me Into the Void</title>
			<itunes:title>How SSRI Withdrawal Led Me Into the Void</itunes:title>
			<pubDate>Mon, 27 Apr 2026 17:55:25 GMT</pubDate>
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			<itunes:subtitle>Tapering Zoloft, existential dread, and spiritual initiation.</itunes:subtitle>
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			<description><![CDATA[<p>This episode is a little different. I share a personal reflection on crossing invisible thresholds, tapering Zoloft, and learning to meet existential dread not as breakdown, but as initiation. Through memories of fear, medication, spiritual seeking, and the slow return of raw aliveness, this episode explores what it means to stand at the edge of the void and listen for what it has to say.</p><br><p>I cover:</p><p>•How tapering Zoloft is bringing me back to the edge of fear, meaning, and spiritual initiation.</p><p>•The history of antidepressants and their role in emotional processing</p><p>•What happens when medication falls away and the deeper questions return: fear, aliveness, and the threshold of initiation.</p><br><p>Chapters:</p><p>00:00 Crossing Invisible Thresholds</p><p>05:25 Experiencing the Edge of Reality</p><p>07:14 The Evolution of Psychopharmacology</p><p>09:30 The Cultural Shift in Mental Health</p><p>12:02 Tapering Off Medication: A Personal Journey</p><p>14:55 Embracing the Void: A New Perspective</p><p>17:27 The Process of Tapering and Its Challenges</p><p>20:17 Finding Meaning in the Void</p><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></description>
			<itunes:summary><![CDATA[<p>This episode is a little different. I share a personal reflection on crossing invisible thresholds, tapering Zoloft, and learning to meet existential dread not as breakdown, but as initiation. Through memories of fear, medication, spiritual seeking, and the slow return of raw aliveness, this episode explores what it means to stand at the edge of the void and listen for what it has to say.</p><br><p>I cover:</p><p>•How tapering Zoloft is bringing me back to the edge of fear, meaning, and spiritual initiation.</p><p>•The history of antidepressants and their role in emotional processing</p><p>•What happens when medication falls away and the deeper questions return: fear, aliveness, and the threshold of initiation.</p><br><p>Chapters:</p><p>00:00 Crossing Invisible Thresholds</p><p>05:25 Experiencing the Edge of Reality</p><p>07:14 The Evolution of Psychopharmacology</p><p>09:30 The Cultural Shift in Mental Health</p><p>12:02 Tapering Off Medication: A Personal Journey</p><p>14:55 Embracing the Void: A New Perspective</p><p>17:27 The Process of Tapering and Its Challenges</p><p>20:17 Finding Meaning in the Void</p><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></itunes:summary>
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			<title>How Talking About Death Helps Us Live Better</title>
			<itunes:title>How Talking About Death Helps Us Live Better</itunes:title>
			<pubDate>Sun, 29 Mar 2026 22:53:34 GMT</pubDate>
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			<itunes:subtitle>With death doula Tracey Walker</itunes:subtitle>
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			<description><![CDATA[<p>This episode features <a href="https://www.letitbedeathdoula.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tracey Walker</a>, a death doula, educator, and funeral professional with a background in both human and animal medicine. She shares her journey from working as a paramedic and veterinary technician to finding her calling in holistic death care. </p><br><p>Tracey discusses the cultural taboos surrounding death, the parallels between birth and dying, and how preparing for the end of life can lead to a more intentional and peaceful experience. Follow her on instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/deathdouladiva/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@deathdouladiva</a></p><br><p><strong>About Tracey Walker:</strong>&nbsp;</p><ul><li>Death Doula (End-of-Life Doula) and educator in medicine and death care.</li><li>Funeral professional currently working in a funeral home setting.</li><li>Former paramedic with experience in emergency, acute, and palliative care.</li><li>Licensed veterinary technician with a background in primatology and animal medicine.</li><li>Specialist in helping humans navigate the death of their animal companions.</li></ul><p><strong>Topics:</strong></p><ul><li>Origin story: From a childhood fascination with dead animals to a career in medicine.</li><li>The transition from medical "death-adjacent" work to holistic death doula care.</li><li>Parallels between the biological processes of birth and death.</li><li>The concept of a "good death" and the role of privilege and acceptance.</li><li>Dealing with death anxiety, religious influences, and the "fire and brimstone" spectrum.</li><li>Practical steps for end-of-life preparation to ease the burden on loved ones.</li><li>The science and "woo-woo" of death: Energy, hormones, and what happens when the body shuts down.</li></ul><p><strong>Chapters:</strong></p><ul><li>00:00 Introduction and Tracey’s Origin Story</li><li>02:45 Discovering the Role of a Death Doula</li><li>03:38 Career in Emergency and Veterinary Medicine</li><li>05:42 Finding Calm in the Presence of Death</li><li>06:53 Fear vs. Practicality in End-of-Life Care</li><li>09:36 Conversations and Taboos Around Dying</li><li>11:17 Religion, Culture, and the Middle Ground</li><li>12:26 How the Body Knows How to Die</li><li>14:00 Parallels Between Birth and Death</li><li>15:59 What Makes a "Good Death"?</li><li>18:15 Acceptance and Supporting the Dying Process</li><li>19:57 Life as Preparation for Death</li><li>21:30 Discussing the Afterlife and NDEs</li><li>23:25 Energy, Science, and the "Woo-Woo" of Death</li><li>25:03 The Importance of Death Literacy</li><li>27:04 Cultural Shifts in Grieving Practices</li><li>27:55 Understanding Grief: A Complex Journey</li><li>32:47 Transformations at the End of Life</li><li>38:18 The Role of Death Doulas in Care</li><li>43:45 Medical Perspectives on Death and Dying</li><li>47:30 Why Talking About Death Makes Life Bigger</li></ul><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></description>
			<itunes:summary><![CDATA[<p>This episode features <a href="https://www.letitbedeathdoula.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Tracey Walker</a>, a death doula, educator, and funeral professional with a background in both human and animal medicine. She shares her journey from working as a paramedic and veterinary technician to finding her calling in holistic death care. </p><br><p>Tracey discusses the cultural taboos surrounding death, the parallels between birth and dying, and how preparing for the end of life can lead to a more intentional and peaceful experience. Follow her on instagram <a href="https://www.instagram.com/deathdouladiva/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@deathdouladiva</a></p><br><p><strong>About Tracey Walker:</strong>&nbsp;</p><ul><li>Death Doula (End-of-Life Doula) and educator in medicine and death care.</li><li>Funeral professional currently working in a funeral home setting.</li><li>Former paramedic with experience in emergency, acute, and palliative care.</li><li>Licensed veterinary technician with a background in primatology and animal medicine.</li><li>Specialist in helping humans navigate the death of their animal companions.</li></ul><p><strong>Topics:</strong></p><ul><li>Origin story: From a childhood fascination with dead animals to a career in medicine.</li><li>The transition from medical "death-adjacent" work to holistic death doula care.</li><li>Parallels between the biological processes of birth and death.</li><li>The concept of a "good death" and the role of privilege and acceptance.</li><li>Dealing with death anxiety, religious influences, and the "fire and brimstone" spectrum.</li><li>Practical steps for end-of-life preparation to ease the burden on loved ones.</li><li>The science and "woo-woo" of death: Energy, hormones, and what happens when the body shuts down.</li></ul><p><strong>Chapters:</strong></p><ul><li>00:00 Introduction and Tracey’s Origin Story</li><li>02:45 Discovering the Role of a Death Doula</li><li>03:38 Career in Emergency and Veterinary Medicine</li><li>05:42 Finding Calm in the Presence of Death</li><li>06:53 Fear vs. Practicality in End-of-Life Care</li><li>09:36 Conversations and Taboos Around Dying</li><li>11:17 Religion, Culture, and the Middle Ground</li><li>12:26 How the Body Knows How to Die</li><li>14:00 Parallels Between Birth and Death</li><li>15:59 What Makes a "Good Death"?</li><li>18:15 Acceptance and Supporting the Dying Process</li><li>19:57 Life as Preparation for Death</li><li>21:30 Discussing the Afterlife and NDEs</li><li>23:25 Energy, Science, and the "Woo-Woo" of Death</li><li>25:03 The Importance of Death Literacy</li><li>27:04 Cultural Shifts in Grieving Practices</li><li>27:55 Understanding Grief: A Complex Journey</li><li>32:47 Transformations at the End of Life</li><li>38:18 The Role of Death Doulas in Care</li><li>43:45 Medical Perspectives on Death and Dying</li><li>47:30 Why Talking About Death Makes Life Bigger</li></ul><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></itunes:summary>
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			<title>A Love Affair With Fear</title>
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			<pubDate>Thu, 19 Feb 2026 03:05:47 GMT</pubDate>
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			<itunes:subtitle>With Kristen Ulmer</itunes:subtitle>
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			<description><![CDATA[<p>This episode features <a href="https://kristenulmer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Kristen Ulmer</a>, a former world-famous extreme skier once celebrated as the "most fearless woman" in her sport. She shares how her perceived fearlessness was actually an unconscious, high-risk "love affair with fear." After retiring, she reflected on what her career taught her, leading her to coach others on how to embrace their fear rather than resist it.</p><br><p><strong>About Kristen Ulmer:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Former professional extreme skier, named the most fearless woman athlete in North America.</li><li>Spent 12 years as the best woman big-mountain extreme skier, starring in films and pioneering first descents.</li><li>High-performance facilitator and thought leader on fear and anxiety.</li><li>Long-time student of Zen and a voice dialogue facilitator.</li><li>Author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Art-Fear-Conquering-Wont-Instead/dp/006242341X" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won’t Work and What to Do Instead</em></a>.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Topics:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>From a meek, shy kid to a world-famous extreme danger athlete.</li><li>Her "love affair with fear": addiction to adrenaline and feeling intensely alive.</li><li>The turning point: retiring and realizing she didn't understand fear.</li><li>Fear as a person living in your body: shifting from resistance to relationship.</li><li>What "intimacy with fear" actually feels like in the body.</li><li>Flow states, extreme sports, and why the best danger athletes relate to fear differently.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters:</strong></p><ul><li>00:00 Introduction to Fear and Kristen Ulmer's Journey</li><li>03:43 The Relationship Between Fear and Anxiety</li><li>06:45 From Unconscious to Conscious: Kristen's Athletic Career</li><li>08:25 The Love Affair with Fear</li><li>11:24 The Message: Embracing Fear Instead of Conquering It</li><li>14:05 The Transition to Teaching and Facilitating</li><li>17:06 Secrets of High-Performance Athletes</li><li>19:38 Understanding Intimacy with Fear</li><li>22:31 Resistance vs. Intimacy: The Key to Flow</li><li>25:02 Practical Advice for Managing Panic and Anxiety</li><li>28:02 The Nature of Fear and Its Manifestations</li><li>30:17 Rethinking Mental Health: The War on Fear</li><li>31:43 Levels of Dealing with Fear: From Resistance to Intimacy</li><li>36:09 Embracing Fear: The Path to Intimacy</li><li>39:03 The Role of Trauma in Anxiety Disorders</li><li>41:09 Zen Influence: Handling Fear in Life and Sports</li><li>45:16 Choosing to Embrace Fear in Sports and Life</li><li>52:29 The Control of Thoughts and Positivity</li><li>53:29 Rethinking Anxiety Management</li><li>54:51 The Cost of Resistance</li><li>57:44 The Domino Effect of Fear</li><li>01:00:09 Intimacy with Emotions</li><li>01:03:02 Navigating Fear and Control</li><li>01:04:53 The Spiritual Component of Fear</li><li>01:13:47 Embracing Fear as a Messenger</li></ul><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></description>
			<itunes:summary><![CDATA[<p>This episode features <a href="https://kristenulmer.com/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Kristen Ulmer</a>, a former world-famous extreme skier once celebrated as the "most fearless woman" in her sport. She shares how her perceived fearlessness was actually an unconscious, high-risk "love affair with fear." After retiring, she reflected on what her career taught her, leading her to coach others on how to embrace their fear rather than resist it.</p><br><p><strong>About Kristen Ulmer:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Former professional extreme skier, named the most fearless woman athlete in North America.</li><li>Spent 12 years as the best woman big-mountain extreme skier, starring in films and pioneering first descents.</li><li>High-performance facilitator and thought leader on fear and anxiety.</li><li>Long-time student of Zen and a voice dialogue facilitator.</li><li>Author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/Art-Fear-Conquering-Wont-Instead/dp/006242341X" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank"><em>The Art of Fear: Why Conquering Fear Won’t Work and What to Do Instead</em></a>.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Topics:</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>From a meek, shy kid to a world-famous extreme danger athlete.</li><li>Her "love affair with fear": addiction to adrenaline and feeling intensely alive.</li><li>The turning point: retiring and realizing she didn't understand fear.</li><li>Fear as a person living in your body: shifting from resistance to relationship.</li><li>What "intimacy with fear" actually feels like in the body.</li><li>Flow states, extreme sports, and why the best danger athletes relate to fear differently.</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters:</strong></p><ul><li>00:00 Introduction to Fear and Kristen Ulmer's Journey</li><li>03:43 The Relationship Between Fear and Anxiety</li><li>06:45 From Unconscious to Conscious: Kristen's Athletic Career</li><li>08:25 The Love Affair with Fear</li><li>11:24 The Message: Embracing Fear Instead of Conquering It</li><li>14:05 The Transition to Teaching and Facilitating</li><li>17:06 Secrets of High-Performance Athletes</li><li>19:38 Understanding Intimacy with Fear</li><li>22:31 Resistance vs. Intimacy: The Key to Flow</li><li>25:02 Practical Advice for Managing Panic and Anxiety</li><li>28:02 The Nature of Fear and Its Manifestations</li><li>30:17 Rethinking Mental Health: The War on Fear</li><li>31:43 Levels of Dealing with Fear: From Resistance to Intimacy</li><li>36:09 Embracing Fear: The Path to Intimacy</li><li>39:03 The Role of Trauma in Anxiety Disorders</li><li>41:09 Zen Influence: Handling Fear in Life and Sports</li><li>45:16 Choosing to Embrace Fear in Sports and Life</li><li>52:29 The Control of Thoughts and Positivity</li><li>53:29 Rethinking Anxiety Management</li><li>54:51 The Cost of Resistance</li><li>57:44 The Domino Effect of Fear</li><li>01:00:09 Intimacy with Emotions</li><li>01:03:02 Navigating Fear and Control</li><li>01:04:53 The Spiritual Component of Fear</li><li>01:13:47 Embracing Fear as a Messenger</li></ul><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></itunes:summary>
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			<itunes:subtitle>Fear as a Part of a Meaningful Life with Dr. Eric Goodman</itunes:subtitle>
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			<description><![CDATA[<p>Dr. Eric Goodman is a clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, OCD, and phobias. He shares his own history with two major phobias (public speaking and flying) he later treated using exposure principles.</p><br><p>We dive into what fear and anxiety really are, why they so often feel irrational, and how we can relate to them more skillfully instead of trying to get rid of them. Instead of chasing “anxiety‑free” promises, we explore how curiosity, humility, and shared stories can help us live well with fear while still moving toward what matters.&nbsp;</p><br><p>If you’re someone who has tried to logic your way out of fear, or who feels like anxiety means you’re broken rather than deeply human, this conversation is for you.</p><br><p><strong>About Dr. Eric Goodman</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, OCD, and phobias</li><li>Lecturer in the psychology department at California Polytechnic State University (Cal Poly) with a <a href="https://coastalcenter.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">private practice in San Luis Obispo, California</a></li><li>Author of:</li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Freak-Out-rescue-manual-being/dp/1922539368" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Mindful Freak‑Out: A Rescue Manual for Being at Your Best When Life Is at Its Worst</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Your-Anxiety-Beast-You-Compassionate/dp/1925820335/ref=sr_1_1" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Your Anxiety Beast and You: A Compassionate Guide for Living in an Increasingly Anxious World</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Social-Courage-thriving-reality-anxiety/dp/1925335755/ref=sr_1_1" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Social Courage: Coping and Thriving with the Reality of Social Anxiety</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Topics</strong></p><ul><li>Eric’s personal journey through public‑speaking fear and a severe flying phobia</li><li>What exposure therapy really is, and why it must be done without safety behaviors</li><li>Safety behaviors vs. compulsions, and how they keep anxiety stuck</li><li>The “big, dopey guard dog” metaphor for anxiety</li><li>Hunter‑gatherer nervous systems in a modern, always‑on world</li><li>Social media, news, and the rise of generalized anxiety</li><li>Existential dread: death anxiety, fear of hell, and spiritual abuse</li><li>Learning to tolerate uncertainty and live alongside fear</li><li>“We hurt where we care”: anxiety around work, creativity, and relationships</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><br><p>00:00 Introduction to Fear and Anxiety</p><p>03:14 Personal Experiences with Fear</p><p>08:07 Understanding Phobias and Safety Behaviors</p><p>14:53 The Language of the Nervous System</p><p>21:24 Modern Anxiety in a Digital World</p><p>27:48 Existential Dread and Coping Mechanisms</p><p>33:55 Spirituality, Fear, and Healing</p><p>36:39 Cultural Messages About Fear</p><p>37:31 Understanding Anxiety: A Natural Part of Life</p><p>42:45 The Role of Mindfulness in Managing Anxiety</p><p>45:06 When Anxiety Becomes Detrimental</p><p>48:57 Facing Fears: The Path to Overcoming Anxiety</p><p>53:18 The Wisdom of Fear: Navigating Life's Threats</p><p>57:22 The Dual Nature of Fear: Protection vs. Paralysis</p><p>01:01:18 Reframing Fear: From Pain to Power</p><p>01:05:26 Practical Steps for Managing Anxiety</p><p>01:07:12 Understanding Anxiety as a Protective Mechanism</p><p>01:08:11 Fear: A Companion in Modern Life</p><br><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></description>
			<itunes:summary><![CDATA[<p>Dr. Eric Goodman is a clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, OCD, and phobias. He shares his own history with two major phobias (public speaking and flying) he later treated using exposure principles.</p><br><p>We dive into what fear and anxiety really are, why they so often feel irrational, and how we can relate to them more skillfully instead of trying to get rid of them. Instead of chasing “anxiety‑free” promises, we explore how curiosity, humility, and shared stories can help us live well with fear while still moving toward what matters.&nbsp;</p><br><p>If you’re someone who has tried to logic your way out of fear, or who feels like anxiety means you’re broken rather than deeply human, this conversation is for you.</p><br><p><strong>About Dr. Eric Goodman</strong></p><p><br></p><ul><li>Clinical psychologist specializing in anxiety disorders, OCD, and phobias</li><li>Lecturer in the psychology department at California Polytechnic State University (Cal Poly) with a <a href="https://coastalcenter.org/" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">private practice in San Luis Obispo, California</a></li><li>Author of:</li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Mindful-Freak-Out-rescue-manual-being/dp/1922539368" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The Mindful Freak‑Out: A Rescue Manual for Being at Your Best When Life Is at Its Worst</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Your-Anxiety-Beast-You-Compassionate/dp/1925820335/ref=sr_1_1" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Your Anxiety Beast and You: A Compassionate Guide for Living in an Increasingly Anxious World</a></li><li><a href="https://www.amazon.com/Social-Courage-thriving-reality-anxiety/dp/1925335755/ref=sr_1_1" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Social Courage: Coping and Thriving with the Reality of Social Anxiety</a></li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Topics</strong></p><ul><li>Eric’s personal journey through public‑speaking fear and a severe flying phobia</li><li>What exposure therapy really is, and why it must be done without safety behaviors</li><li>Safety behaviors vs. compulsions, and how they keep anxiety stuck</li><li>The “big, dopey guard dog” metaphor for anxiety</li><li>Hunter‑gatherer nervous systems in a modern, always‑on world</li><li>Social media, news, and the rise of generalized anxiety</li><li>Existential dread: death anxiety, fear of hell, and spiritual abuse</li><li>Learning to tolerate uncertainty and live alongside fear</li><li>“We hurt where we care”: anxiety around work, creativity, and relationships</li></ul><p><br></p><p><strong>Chapters</strong></p><br><p>00:00 Introduction to Fear and Anxiety</p><p>03:14 Personal Experiences with Fear</p><p>08:07 Understanding Phobias and Safety Behaviors</p><p>14:53 The Language of the Nervous System</p><p>21:24 Modern Anxiety in a Digital World</p><p>27:48 Existential Dread and Coping Mechanisms</p><p>33:55 Spirituality, Fear, and Healing</p><p>36:39 Cultural Messages About Fear</p><p>37:31 Understanding Anxiety: A Natural Part of Life</p><p>42:45 The Role of Mindfulness in Managing Anxiety</p><p>45:06 When Anxiety Becomes Detrimental</p><p>48:57 Facing Fears: The Path to Overcoming Anxiety</p><p>53:18 The Wisdom of Fear: Navigating Life's Threats</p><p>57:22 The Dual Nature of Fear: Protection vs. Paralysis</p><p>01:01:18 Reframing Fear: From Pain to Power</p><p>01:05:26 Practical Steps for Managing Anxiety</p><p>01:07:12 Understanding Anxiety as a Protective Mechanism</p><p>01:08:11 Fear: A Companion in Modern Life</p><br><p><br></p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></itunes:summary>
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			<description><![CDATA[<p>In 4th century Athens, a man was put to death for “corrupting the youth.” What made Socrates so dangerous wasn’t radical sermons or manifestos. It was something much simpler: he asked questions.</p><br><p>He almost never offered his own answers. Instead, he asked the kind of childlike questions that seem innocent at first, then slowly unravel what we think is obvious. The more people tried to defend their beliefs, the more those beliefs slipped through their fingers—until frustration, even rage, bubbled up where certainty used to be.</p><br><p>Socrates wasn’t just threatening people’s status or power. He was threatening their sense of who they were — how they made meaning, justified their choices, and kept their deepest fears at bay. Because when we really start asking questions, we’re pushed into a liminal space: the place of not‑knowing. And as a species, we’re not very comfortable there.</p><br><p>That space can feel like a void. But a void can also be a womb — the birthplace of all possibility. A teacher of mine once said, “I don’t know is God’s true name.” That’s the spirit of this show.</p><br><p>This is The Gadfly Talks, a podcast where we practice that dangerous but innocent curiosity together. Each episode, we set aside easy answers and ask the questions we’re not supposed to ask — about mental health, meaning, power, and what it really means to be human.&nbsp;</p><br><p>By stripping away what we think we know, we move closer to what Taoism calls “the uncarved block”: a state of deconditioning, vulnerability, and authenticity. Maybe, like children wondering at the obvious, we can rediscover our shared humanity — if none of us really knows, maybe we’re all in the same boat after all.</p><br><p>If you’re tired of hot takes and hungry for honest questions, hit follow and join the conversation. Welcome to the podcast where — we think, therefore we ask.</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></description>
			<itunes:summary><![CDATA[<p>In 4th century Athens, a man was put to death for “corrupting the youth.” What made Socrates so dangerous wasn’t radical sermons or manifestos. It was something much simpler: he asked questions.</p><br><p>He almost never offered his own answers. Instead, he asked the kind of childlike questions that seem innocent at first, then slowly unravel what we think is obvious. The more people tried to defend their beliefs, the more those beliefs slipped through their fingers—until frustration, even rage, bubbled up where certainty used to be.</p><br><p>Socrates wasn’t just threatening people’s status or power. He was threatening their sense of who they were — how they made meaning, justified their choices, and kept their deepest fears at bay. Because when we really start asking questions, we’re pushed into a liminal space: the place of not‑knowing. And as a species, we’re not very comfortable there.</p><br><p>That space can feel like a void. But a void can also be a womb — the birthplace of all possibility. A teacher of mine once said, “I don’t know is God’s true name.” That’s the spirit of this show.</p><br><p>This is The Gadfly Talks, a podcast where we practice that dangerous but innocent curiosity together. Each episode, we set aside easy answers and ask the questions we’re not supposed to ask — about mental health, meaning, power, and what it really means to be human.&nbsp;</p><br><p>By stripping away what we think we know, we move closer to what Taoism calls “the uncarved block”: a state of deconditioning, vulnerability, and authenticity. Maybe, like children wondering at the obvious, we can rediscover our shared humanity — if none of us really knows, maybe we’re all in the same boat after all.</p><br><p>If you’re tired of hot takes and hungry for honest questions, hit follow and join the conversation. Welcome to the podcast where — we think, therefore we ask.</p><hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>]]></itunes:summary>
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