60 acast.com How To Have Sex https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex en Jay-Jay Feeney Melissa Vranjes intimacy, relationships, dirty talk, sex education, How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney, Melissa Vranjes, Podlab, sex podcast, love and sex, female orgasm, erotic activities, masturbation, porn Getting you in the right position for sexual success A podcast getting you in the right position for sexual success.


Hosted by:

Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women.

Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA


Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness.

Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy.

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]]> A podcast getting you in the right position for sexual success.


Hosted by:

Jay-Jay Feeney - 30+ years in radio, trusted voice for Kiwi women.

Melissa Vranjes - Certified Sex & Relationship Coach, featured in VOGUE & GRAZIA


Together, we combine humour and expert knowledge to normalise conversations around sexual wellness.

Breaking taboos. Building confidence. Supporting modern intimacy.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> true info+699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5@mg-eu.acast.com 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 how-to-have-sex episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5/1772390171060-786c44f6-0218-46f2-ad18-316ffc771eeb.jpeg https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex How To Have Sex 50c17b00-145c-11f1-8efc-414a2a3cc7b4 How to navigate low libido in pregnancy and sex postpartum (Mel’s story) How to navigate low libido in pregnancy and sex postpartum (Mel’s story) Tue, 14 Apr 2026 06:45:00 GMT 42:40 69ddb25dea8ef7a4e06b425b false https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-have-sex-after-baby-mels-story 69ddb25dea8ef7a4e06b425b 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 how-to-have-sex-after-baby-mels-story full Pregnancy can change everything.. your body, your hormones, your relationship to pleasure, and the way you feel about s*x.

In this deeply personal episode of How To Have S*x, Mel opens up about her first pregnancy, when she lost her libido at 15 weeks, stopped wanting s*x, and even lost the ability to have the internal org*sms she once loved.

Jay-Jay and Mel talk honestly about what happens when s*x changes during pregnancy, how scary it can feel when desire disappears, and the panic that can come with wondering whether your s*xuality will ever come back. Mel shares how different her second pregnancy has been, why her first experience felt so confronting, and what helped her and her partner stay intimately connected even when penetrative s*x was off the table for months.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt confused, shut down, touched out, disconnected from their body, or scared that a low libido season means something is wrong. It’s also a powerful listen for partners who want to understand how to stay close, supportive, and connected without adding pressure.

In this episode, we cover:

  • what low libido in pregnancy can actually feel like
  • the difference between “I don’t want s*x” and “I don’t feel s*xual at all”
  • how pregnancy affected Mel’s org*sms and body confidence
  • how to talk about the elephant in the room with your partner
  • how to stay intimately connected without penetrative s*x
  • returning to s*x postpartum slowly, gently, and without pressure
  • why self-touch can help before having penetrative s*x again
  • pelvic floor physio, healing, and what’s actually normal after birth
  • why you are allowed to be in a season
  • why different doesn’t mean broken

Mel also shares one of the most reassuring messages of the episode: you do not need to “bounce back.” Your body has changed, your life has changed, and your s*xuality may change too, but that does not mean it is gone forever.

Next episode: how to bring the erotic back into your s*x life.


This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.


SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney

Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes

Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Pregnancy can change everything.. your body, your hormones, your relationship to pleasure, and the way you feel about s*x.

In this deeply personal episode of How To Have S*x, Mel opens up about her first pregnancy, when she lost her libido at 15 weeks, stopped wanting s*x, and even lost the ability to have the internal org*sms she once loved.

Jay-Jay and Mel talk honestly about what happens when s*x changes during pregnancy, how scary it can feel when desire disappears, and the panic that can come with wondering whether your s*xuality will ever come back. Mel shares how different her second pregnancy has been, why her first experience felt so confronting, and what helped her and her partner stay intimately connected even when penetrative s*x was off the table for months.

This episode is for anyone who has ever felt confused, shut down, touched out, disconnected from their body, or scared that a low libido season means something is wrong. It’s also a powerful listen for partners who want to understand how to stay close, supportive, and connected without adding pressure.

In this episode, we cover:

  • what low libido in pregnancy can actually feel like
  • the difference between “I don’t want s*x” and “I don’t feel s*xual at all”
  • how pregnancy affected Mel’s org*sms and body confidence
  • how to talk about the elephant in the room with your partner
  • how to stay intimately connected without penetrative s*x
  • returning to s*x postpartum slowly, gently, and without pressure
  • why self-touch can help before having penetrative s*x again
  • pelvic floor physio, healing, and what’s actually normal after birth
  • why you are allowed to be in a season
  • why different doesn’t mean broken

Mel also shares one of the most reassuring messages of the episode: you do not need to “bounce back.” Your body has changed, your life has changed, and your s*xuality may change too, but that does not mean it is gone forever.

Next episode: how to bring the erotic back into your s*x life.


This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at www.wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.


SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney

Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes

Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment) How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment) Tue, 07 Apr 2026 06:45:00 GMT 40:09 69d4885ef44b357ce943fd98 true https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-dirty-talk-without-dying-of-embarrassment 69d4885ef44b357ce943fd98 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 how-to-dirty-talk-without-dying-of-embarrassment full Dirty talk makes Jay-Jay want to crawl under the bed and disappear… so naturally, that’s exactly what this episode is about.


In this episode of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes tackle one of the most cringe-inducing parts of intimacy: saying sexy things out loud without dissolving into laughter. If the thought of dirty talk makes you want to do your tax return instead, this episode is definitely for you.


Melissa breaks down why dirty talk doesn’t actually have to be “dirty” at all. It can be playful, flirty, intimate, teasing, affirming, and deeply connecting — whether you’re in the same room or doing long distance. The episode covers how to start small, why texting can be the perfect gateway, how to move away from performative porn-style language, and how to find words that actually feel natural for you.


Jay-Jay, meanwhile, does what Jay-Jay does best: says exactly what everyone else is thinking. Is it awkward? Yes. Will you laugh? Probably. Will you also come away with genuinely useful tips for talking sexy without feeling ridiculous? Also yes.


In this episode, we cover:

  • what dirty talk really is
  • why so many people find it harder than sex itself
  • why sexy texting can be the easiest place to start
  • the difference between porn talk and real-life turn-on
  • how anticipation can be hotter than explicit language
  • how to talk in a way that reflects what you actually desire
  • how to laugh through the awkwardness instead of shutting down
  • why aftercare and compliments can be part of erotic talk too

Plus, Melissa gives listeners a Pleasure Practice challenge for the week… and puts Jay-Jay on the spot with a live reading exercise that is every bit as awkward and hilarious as you’d hope.


Mel mentions here Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet! You can download a copy of that here


Next episode: Melissa opens up about pregnancy, libido loss, postpartum sex, and what happens when your body feels completely different to the one you used to know. 


This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.


SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com/

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex


How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz/


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Dirty talk makes Jay-Jay want to crawl under the bed and disappear… so naturally, that’s exactly what this episode is about.


In this episode of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes tackle one of the most cringe-inducing parts of intimacy: saying sexy things out loud without dissolving into laughter. If the thought of dirty talk makes you want to do your tax return instead, this episode is definitely for you.


Melissa breaks down why dirty talk doesn’t actually have to be “dirty” at all. It can be playful, flirty, intimate, teasing, affirming, and deeply connecting — whether you’re in the same room or doing long distance. The episode covers how to start small, why texting can be the perfect gateway, how to move away from performative porn-style language, and how to find words that actually feel natural for you.


Jay-Jay, meanwhile, does what Jay-Jay does best: says exactly what everyone else is thinking. Is it awkward? Yes. Will you laugh? Probably. Will you also come away with genuinely useful tips for talking sexy without feeling ridiculous? Also yes.


In this episode, we cover:

  • what dirty talk really is
  • why so many people find it harder than sex itself
  • why sexy texting can be the easiest place to start
  • the difference between porn talk and real-life turn-on
  • how anticipation can be hotter than explicit language
  • how to talk in a way that reflects what you actually desire
  • how to laugh through the awkwardness instead of shutting down
  • why aftercare and compliments can be part of erotic talk too

Plus, Melissa gives listeners a Pleasure Practice challenge for the week… and puts Jay-Jay on the spot with a live reading exercise that is every bit as awkward and hilarious as you’d hope.


Mel mentions here Dirty Talk Cheat Sheet! You can download a copy of that here


Next episode: Melissa opens up about pregnancy, libido loss, postpartum sex, and what happens when your body feels completely different to the one you used to know. 


This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.


SUBSCRIBE TO OUR SUBSTACK https://hthspodcast.substack.com/

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex


How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz/


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> How to Give World-Class Head How to Give World-Class Head Tue, 31 Mar 2026 06:00:00 GMT 44:44 69cb0c4592d007a7652e302d true https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-give-world-class-head 69cb0c4592d007a7652e302d 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 how-to-give-world-class-head full 2 Talking about oral sex makes Jay-Jay wildly uncomfortable… which is exactly why this episode had to happen.

In this lesson of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes get very practical about what makes oral sex actually feel good for everyone. This is not about porn moves, performance, or trying to “get it right.” It’s about confidence, communication, anatomy, connection, and learning how to give pleasure in a way that feels good for you too.

Melissa breaks down what “world-class head” really means, why so many people feel pressure around oral sex, and the biggest lies porn has taught us about blowjobs and going down on women. The episode covers hand techniques, oral techniques, sore jaw and lockjaw hacks, how to ask for what you want without dying inside, and why slowing down is often the fastest path to better sex.


You’ll also hear:

  • why oral sex feels so vulnerable
  • how to stop focusing on performance
  • blowjob tips and hand techniques
  • oral sex tips for pleasuring a vulva
  • why anatomy creates confidence
  • how to communicate during sex without killing the mood
  • the importance of rhythm, teasing and anticipation
  • why pleasure should be about connection, not pressure

And of course, Melissa gives Jay-Jay, and you, a new Pleasure Practice for the week: how to give head in a way that feels good for you as well.

 

Next episode: How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment).



This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.



How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz/


SUBSTACK: https://hthspodcast.substack.com


Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@hths_podcast

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Talking about oral sex makes Jay-Jay wildly uncomfortable… which is exactly why this episode had to happen.

In this lesson of How To Have Sex, Jay-Jay Feeney and sex & relationship coach Melissa Vranjes get very practical about what makes oral sex actually feel good for everyone. This is not about porn moves, performance, or trying to “get it right.” It’s about confidence, communication, anatomy, connection, and learning how to give pleasure in a way that feels good for you too.

Melissa breaks down what “world-class head” really means, why so many people feel pressure around oral sex, and the biggest lies porn has taught us about blowjobs and going down on women. The episode covers hand techniques, oral techniques, sore jaw and lockjaw hacks, how to ask for what you want without dying inside, and why slowing down is often the fastest path to better sex.


You’ll also hear:

  • why oral sex feels so vulnerable
  • how to stop focusing on performance
  • blowjob tips and hand techniques
  • oral sex tips for pleasuring a vulva
  • why anatomy creates confidence
  • how to communicate during sex without killing the mood
  • the importance of rhythm, teasing and anticipation
  • why pleasure should be about connection, not pressure

And of course, Melissa gives Jay-Jay, and you, a new Pleasure Practice for the week: how to give head in a way that feels good for you as well.

 

Next episode: How to Dirty Talk (Without Dying of Embarrassment).



This podcast is proudly sponsored by Wild Secrets.

Shop online at wildsecrets.co.nz & use the code HAVESEX for 20% off sitewide…

Pleasure Delivered.



How To Have Sex is produced by PodLab, Auckland. https://www.podlab.co.nz/


SUBSTACK: https://hthspodcast.substack.com


Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@hths_podcast

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> <![CDATA[EP 00: Foreplay (Get in Bed with Jay-Jay & Mel)]]> Tue, 24 Mar 2026 06:00:00 GMT 42:35 69bf678862f6c66afe2ccc16 true https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/foreplay-get-in-bed-with-jay-jay-mel 69bf678862f6c66afe2ccc16 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 foreplay-get-in-bed-with-jay-jay-mel full Welcome to How To Have Sex ... the podcast giving everyday New Zealanders the practical tools to have better, more confident, more satisfying sex lives.

Before we get into the good stuff, we're starting where all great sex starts: foreplay. This episode is your introduction to hosts Jay-Jay Feeney - veteran NZ broadcaster, podcaster, and self-confessed awkward sex-talker, and Melissa Vranjes, certified holistic sex and relationship coach, somatic therapist, and founder of Sex School.

We get into bed (literally), share how this podcast came to be, and start pulling back the covers on everything from the orgasm gap and sexual confidence, to why most of us learned about sex from porn, and why that's a problem.

No shame. No judgment. Just two women in bed having the conversations everyone's secretly Googling.


For adults 18+. Headphones recommended.

🎙️ Follow, subscribe, and leave us a review. It helps more people find us!


This podcast was produced at PodLab Studios, Auckland https://www.podlab.co.nz/

Bedding by Dehei https://dehei.co/

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@how.to.have.sex.p

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


We launched our podcast on 25 March 2026 and had a party to celebrate.

We would like to thank our incredible Day One supporters who kindly donated toward our party, and goodie bags.


Mad Dog Backdrops                               https://maddogbackdrops.co.nz/

Carmen Bird Photography                  https://www.carmenbirdphotography.co.nz/

Oh Cleoh Condoms                                 https://www.ohcleoh.com/

Rumer Lube                                               https://byrumer.co.nz/

Girls Get Off                                               https://girlsgetoff.com/

Moodi Hormone Gummies                   https://www.moodiblends.com/

Cursive Craft                                               https://cursivecraft.co.nz/

Eve Wellness                                              https://evewellness.com/

XO Gifts                                                      https://xogifts.co.nz/

Framingham Wines                                  https://framingham.co.nz/

Zeffer Cider & Alcoholic drinks         https://zeffer.co.nz/

Woman’s Day Magazine                         https://www.nowtolove.co.nz/




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]]> Welcome to How To Have Sex ... the podcast giving everyday New Zealanders the practical tools to have better, more confident, more satisfying sex lives.

Before we get into the good stuff, we're starting where all great sex starts: foreplay. This episode is your introduction to hosts Jay-Jay Feeney - veteran NZ broadcaster, podcaster, and self-confessed awkward sex-talker, and Melissa Vranjes, certified holistic sex and relationship coach, somatic therapist, and founder of Sex School.

We get into bed (literally), share how this podcast came to be, and start pulling back the covers on everything from the orgasm gap and sexual confidence, to why most of us learned about sex from porn, and why that's a problem.

No shame. No judgment. Just two women in bed having the conversations everyone's secretly Googling.


For adults 18+. Headphones recommended.

🎙️ Follow, subscribe, and leave us a review. It helps more people find us!


This podcast was produced at PodLab Studios, Auckland https://www.podlab.co.nz/

Bedding by Dehei https://dehei.co/

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@how.to.have.sex.p

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


We launched our podcast on 25 March 2026 and had a party to celebrate.

We would like to thank our incredible Day One supporters who kindly donated toward our party, and goodie bags.


Mad Dog Backdrops                               https://maddogbackdrops.co.nz/

Carmen Bird Photography                  https://www.carmenbirdphotography.co.nz/

Oh Cleoh Condoms                                 https://www.ohcleoh.com/

Rumer Lube                                               https://byrumer.co.nz/

Girls Get Off                                               https://girlsgetoff.com/

Moodi Hormone Gummies                   https://www.moodiblends.com/

Cursive Craft                                               https://cursivecraft.co.nz/

Eve Wellness                                              https://evewellness.com/

XO Gifts                                                      https://xogifts.co.nz/

Framingham Wines                                  https://framingham.co.nz/

Zeffer Cider & Alcoholic drinks         https://zeffer.co.nz/

Woman’s Day Magazine                         https://www.nowtolove.co.nz/




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]]> EP 01: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life EP 01: How to Have the Best Sex of Your Life Tue, 24 Mar 2026 06:00:00 GMT 51:31 69bf75e61861d127d53be37c true https://shows.acast.com/how-to-have-sex/episodes/how-to-have-the-best-sex-of-your-life 69bf75e61861d127d53be37c 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 how-to-have-the-best-sex-of-your-life full 1 What actually separates good sex from great sex? Spoiler: it's not the positions, the toys, or the techniques.

In this episode, sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes and Jay-Jay Feeney get into the real foundations of hot sex, and it turns out most of us have been thinking about it completely wrong. Mel introduces her erotic mind mapping method, breaks down the three types of desire (and why most women experience desire very differently to men), and explains why safety, connection, and communication are the actual ingredients for the best sex of your life.

Plus: JJ gets her first Pleasure Practice assignment live on air, and it gets surprisingly vulnerable.

This is sex education for real humans in real relationships. No pressure. No porn scripts. Just honest conversation.


For adults 18+. Headphones recommended.

🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe so you never miss one!



This podcast was produced at PodLab Studios, Auckland https://www.podlab.co.nz/

Bedding by Dehei https://dehei.co/


Mel's Sex Menu: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ELEGkI8NyWl2EAA9tYjlZ2oHs-q8ryns/view

Support the podcast! https://buymeacoffee.com/howtohavesex

INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@how.to.have.sex.p

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HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


We launched our podcast on 25 March 2026 and had a party to celebrate.

We would like to thank our incredible Day One supporters who kindly donated toward our party, and goodie bags.


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]]> What actually separates good sex from great sex? Spoiler: it's not the positions, the toys, or the techniques.

In this episode, sex and relationship coach Melissa Vranjes and Jay-Jay Feeney get into the real foundations of hot sex, and it turns out most of us have been thinking about it completely wrong. Mel introduces her erotic mind mapping method, breaks down the three types of desire (and why most women experience desire very differently to men), and explains why safety, connection, and communication are the actual ingredients for the best sex of your life.

Plus: JJ gets her first Pleasure Practice assignment live on air, and it gets surprisingly vulnerable.

This is sex education for real humans in real relationships. No pressure. No porn scripts. Just honest conversation.


For adults 18+. Headphones recommended.

🎙️ New episodes every Wednesday. Subscribe so you never miss one!



This podcast was produced at PodLab Studios, Auckland https://www.podlab.co.nz/

Bedding by Dehei https://dehei.co/


Mel's Sex Menu: https://drive.google.com/file/d/1ELEGkI8NyWl2EAA9tYjlZ2oHs-q8ryns/view

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EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com


HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney – Media Personality

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney


Melissa Vranjes – Certified Somatic Sex & Relationship Coach

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram: @melissavranjes


Ready to feel more confident, connected, and turned on in your body? Join Sex School here: https://www.melissavranjes.com/sex-school

Want more from Mel? She writes a weekly sex column for Woman's Day magazine.

Pick up the latest issue to read it.


We launched our podcast on 25 March 2026 and had a party to celebrate.

We would like to thank our incredible Day One supporters who kindly donated toward our party, and goodie bags.


Mad Dog Backdrops                        https://maddogbackdrops.co.nz/

Carmen Bird Photography              https://www.carmenbirdphotography.co.nz/

Oh Cleoh Condoms                        https://www.ohcleoh.com/

Rumer Lube                                    https://byrumer.co.nz/

Girls Get Off                                    https://girlsgetoff.com/

Moodi Hormone Gummies              https://www.moodiblends.com/

Cursive Craft                                    https://cursivecraft.co.nz/

Eve Wellness                                   https://evewellness.com/

XO Gifts                                           https://xogifts.co.nz/

Framingham Wines                          https://framingham.co.nz/

Zeffer Cider & Alcoholic drinks         https://zeffer.co.nz/

Woman’s Day Magazine                  https://www.nowtolove.co.nz/





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]]> WE ARE COMING! WE ARE COMING! Fri, 27 Feb 2026 22:41:29 GMT 1:19 69a21d99f8755e109da3088b true https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast 69a21d99f8755e109da3088b 699e41e8a4a9e6b7fd8ba4c5 we-are-coming Podcast launching 25th March trailer One’s a sex coach. The other one’s awkward.

Both are getting into bed to talk about it.


How to Have Sex is hosted by Jay-Jay Feeney — one of New Zealand’s most recognisable voices — and Melissa Vranjes, a holistic sex & relationship coach and somatic therapist.


Jay-Jay has the questions you’re too shy to ask.

Melissa has the answers (and the experience).


From world-class head to low libido, orgasms to pregnancy sex, this podcast breaks down shame, stigma, and bedroom confusion — with humour, honesty, and zero judgement.


If you’ve ever thought:

“Am I normal?”

“Why don’t I feel horny?”

“How do I ask for what I want?”

You’re in the right bed.


Launching 25 March.


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INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

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YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com

HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney

Melissa Vranjes

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram/TikTok: @melissavranjes

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.vranjes.5

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]]> One’s a sex coach. The other one’s awkward.

Both are getting into bed to talk about it.


How to Have Sex is hosted by Jay-Jay Feeney — one of New Zealand’s most recognisable voices — and Melissa Vranjes, a holistic sex & relationship coach and somatic therapist.


Jay-Jay has the questions you’re too shy to ask.

Melissa has the answers (and the experience).


From world-class head to low libido, orgasms to pregnancy sex, this podcast breaks down shame, stigma, and bedroom confusion — with humour, honesty, and zero judgement.


If you’ve ever thought:

“Am I normal?”

“Why don’t I feel horny?”

“How do I ask for what I want?”

You’re in the right bed.


Launching 25 March.


____________________________________________________


INSTAGRAM https://www.instagram.com/howtohavesexpodcast

TIKTOK https://www.tiktok.com/@how.to.have.sex.p

YOUTUBE https://www.youtube.com/@Howtohavesexpodcast

FACEBOOK https://www.facebook.com/HowToHaveSexPodcast

EMAIL howtohavesexpodcastnz@gmail.com

HOSTS:

Jay-Jay Feeney

Instagram/TikTok: @JJFeeneyNZ

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/JayJayFeeney

Melissa Vranjes

www.melissavranjes.com

Instagram/TikTok: @melissavranjes

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/melissa.vranjes.5

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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