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Resentment Is Information

Thu, 14 May 2026 06:22:34 GMT

What if the tiredness you call fine has another name? In this episode, we meet Claire- forty-three, functioning beautifully, quietly furious, and we follow the resentment she's been sitting on for years, held in her pelvis, gripped in her jaw, carried in shoulders. This isn't about blame, invisible loads, or one more thing to fix. It's about what the body keeps trying to tel us when we do not pause to listen or when we are too busy to listen. What becomes possible when we stop managing our resentment and get curious about what it's truly pointing to. Because the pelvic floor doesn't lie.

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Why Analogue Feels Like Mothering Myself

Wed, 22 Apr 2026 07:10:18 GMT

Connecting to ourselves in the digital world is what this episode explores. Less digital noise and more embodied living. Here we chat all things digital through the nervous system lens and how this links to pelvic floor healing and mothering ourselves. And I keep coming back to this question: What if some of the most regulating, healing, mothering choices we can make are beautifully simple? Technically, analogue transmits through waves, digital through 1s and 0s. But for me, analogue means more than this. For thirty minutes we explore the best analogue tools for digital detox and emotional wellbeing. More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat

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You’re Surrounded By People- So Why Do You Still Feel Alone?

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 06:57:16 GMT

It’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The question now is quieter, but sharper: why aren’t we living what we already know? Women keep saying they want community. “I just want community.” But what if that’s not quite true? We like the idea of community.Connection. Depth. Being seen. But real community? It asks something of you. More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat

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Why aren’t we living what we already know?

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 06:55:18 GMT

It’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The question now is quieter, but sharper: why aren’t we living what we already know?Where do women go when they’ve done the therapy, read the books, named the wounds… and still feel like something isn’t landing?Meet Jenna.I’m sharing fictitious client profiles so you can see the inner workings of the work I’ve done with women for over a decade. (TW: there are words that some readers may find challenging if they haven’t tended to them).Jenna is 35.She wants a partner and hasn’t found one because life just hasn’t met her there.She’s a creative, but working a job that drains her because it pays. This was a recent switch because her creative work felt draining as it didn’t feel like it paid enough. A cycle creatives know well.She feels guilty for even being in a space like this- the one where we talk about the pelvis. Like tending to herself is indulgent. Frivolous.In her twenties, Jenna was raped. She hasn’t told anyone. There were no visible scars, so she learned to downplay it. But her body didn’t.She lives with vaginismus which is pain with penetration.A body that closes. A body that says no, even when she doesn’t fully understand why. Jenna isn’t in crisis. She’s in holding.Grief from losing her father, who was her safety. A mother who now needs more, but has always struggled to give. Friendships that don’t quite land. A life that looks fine… but doesn’t feel like hers.She comes home from work and goes flat. Scrolling. Not eating well. Not tending to herself.She finds herself easily slipping into her freeze response tools.Jenna doesn’t need fixing.She doesn’t need to “heal her trauma” in the way she’s been taught. She needs to understand what her body is holding. Where her patterns come from. Why her system moves the way it does.Because when a woman can see that: she stops fighting and ignoring her innate needs.Jenna doesn’t need more information. She needs spaces where her body can speak.Where pain isn’t rushed. Where nothing is performed. Where she doesn’t have to explain why she feels the way she feels.Spaces where the deeper questions can exist:What is my body protecting me from?What happens when I finally acknowledge what I’ve lived through without talking it all through again?Can I trust myself to feel this… without needing to fix it?Jenna isn’t looking for answers, either. She’s looking for something she hasn’t had before: a place to land.And maybe that’s the real question for all of us now:Where do women like me go… when we’re ready to stop doing more therapy, and start listening to ourselves? More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat

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The Hidden Dissatisfaction of Mothers Who “Did Everything Right”

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 08:51:59 GMT

Mother Profile: SofiaIt’s 2026. We’re done with fixing. We understand the solutions. The fire horse year asks one question: how do we live with what we already know? Where is the community for women who have done the books, the therapy, the circles, and still feel… quiet dissatisfaction?Meet Sofia. I’m going to do some fictitious client profiles so you can see the inner workings of this work I have done with clients for ten years on a 1-1.So Sofia, she did everything “right.” Two children, career, a partner who works full-time, a mother who loves her grandchildren more than her. Life should feel softer now the children are at school. Because, now has has more time, right? Instead, she notices things she can’t name: sex that sometimes hurts, joy that doesn’t feel quite whole, knowledge that comes from all the ‘work’ she has done but it’s not integrated. Sofia isn’t in crisis. She’s in integration pressure. She doesn’t need more answers because she has them from books and therapy. She did counselling for years. she needs places and people and spaces to land.. Spaces where desire, resentment, motherhood, power, money, and pleasure can be spoken without pretense. Real community. Evidence that another way of adulthood exists.No therapy. No webinars. Just women who see it, live it, and share it, sometimes maybe even, over a quick chai latte after a school run.The question for Sofia, for all of us: “Where do women like me gather when they are done pretending?” More holding Found Here:The Vagina Book Gold Standard Pelvic JourneyPostpartum Care JourneySubstack Insight TimerMain Websitehello@thisisnaomigale.co.uk@thisisnaomigale #fannychat

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Betty on vaginisumus, postnatal tending and birth

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 00:00:00 GMT

Betty Sharpe is a Kent doula who actively supports at births around East Kent. She runs Folkey Birth Club which is a local CIC holding birth cirles and nourishment circles. Betty chats about her experience of vaginismus and what it looked like to have the birth she wanted but the lack of postnatal care she realised she needed. Within this episode we discuss tears, childborth, tending to ourselves and just the general culture around the system- whether we are having painful sex or having a baby.

Betty Sharpe: https://www.kentdoulacollective.com/betty-sharpe

Folkey Birth Club: https://www.folkeybirthclub.co.uk/

Fanny Chat

Resentment Is Information

Why Analogue Feels Like Mothering Myself

You’re Surrounded By People- So Why Do You Still Feel Alone?

Why aren’t we living what we already know?

The Hidden Dissatisfaction of Mothers Who “Did Everything Right”

Betty on vaginisumus, postnatal tending and birth

Lindsey Isla on vaginismus, being child free and tracking

Amber Topaz and normalising singing about the vulva

Alistair and all things donor sperm

Season One- an intro

Socialising is not rest

How to transition into Spring

97% of your thoughts matter

What is a vagina reading

Sex can hurt but shouldn't

RIP Social media and wtf is Substack

Your vagina's holding pattern

A January Hello

My husband told me I wasn't accessing my joy

In your vagina book cover

Emma Wilson

My Vipassana Experience

Laura Wallace AkA Laura Aura

Melissa Rose Hirsch

we all deserve more mothering

The vagina called

Dawn Rivers

My husband's vagina massage experience

what is pain in and around the vulva

Kayleigh Castle

Adrianna Zaccardi

stop calling feminine beings healing holistically dangerous

What is a vagina massage, anyway?

What is vaginismus

Landing in your 2022

Reflecting on 2021

Bringing in more of your heart

What does it mean to commit to ourselves

Lauren Barber on how amenorrhea kickstarted her journey

Introduction to my new path

How to bring in more compassion with Value Your Mind

A chat with siobhan from this sister scribes

A 2020 round-up

Creating healthy boundaries

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Things we chat about:

Vegan hair dressing, a mental health journey and positive affirmations

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your relationship with your phone- tit bit

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Honouring yourself and the art of slowing down

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Taking a break from Instagram for one month

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Loving your naked self, body hair and free bleeding

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Healing and Forgiving

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using your enthusiasm

finding emotional freedom

Making friends when you become a mum

Introduction

letters to a down to earth girl trailer