Nicky Crosby and Ellie Fanyinka are two friends who became mothers and then realised nobody had handed them the full picture. So they started talking about it.
Every episode is an honest, warm and often very funny conversation about real life with children, and real life beyond them. The invisible load. The pressure to get it all right. Friendships that shift. Bodies that change. Turning 40 and wondering what's next. Reinvention, ageing, desire, and the big question: who are you when no one needs you?
Some weeks it's just Nicola and Eleanor. Other weeks they're joined by guests who bring real expertise and lived experience, from sleep coaching and gut health to raising autistic children, single parenting and redefining what success as a mum actually looks like.
No perfect answers. No judgement. Just two women who happen to be mums, saying the things you've probably thought yourself.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Watch the full episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happentobemums
Follow along on Instagram and TikTok: @happentobemums
Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
Produced by Core LDN.
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]]>Nicky Crosby and Ellie Fanyinka are two friends who became mothers and then realised nobody had handed them the full picture. So they started talking about it.
Every episode is an honest, warm and often very funny conversation about real life with children, and real life beyond them. The invisible load. The pressure to get it all right. Friendships that shift. Bodies that change. Turning 40 and wondering what's next. Reinvention, ageing, desire, and the big question: who are you when no one needs you?
Some weeks it's just Nicola and Eleanor. Other weeks they're joined by guests who bring real expertise and lived experience, from sleep coaching and gut health to raising autistic children, single parenting and redefining what success as a mum actually looks like.
No perfect answers. No judgement. Just two women who happen to be mums, saying the things you've probably thought yourself.
New episodes every Tuesday.
Watch the full episodes on YouTube: https://youtube.com/@happentobemums
Follow along on Instagram and TikTok: @happentobemums
Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
Produced by Core LDN.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
]]>She tells us how a conversation on a bench by Tower Bridge led to seven years of phone sex work to feed her boys, what thousands of calls taught her about what men really want, and the moment she finally owned her story in front of 200 women. Then she leads us through the Velvet Command (try it at home), a releasing ritual, and a conversation about shame, pleasure, people-pleasing and who we are underneath all the labels.
Explicit, honest and surprisingly emotional. You’ll walk away with your shoulders back.
Follow us: @happentobemums
▫️https://www.LadyVelvet.co.uk
▫️IG: @Lady_Velvet_Official
▫️Birmingham Fetish Weekend
https://www.instagram.com/birminghamfetishweekend/
▫️Big and Buff Bespoke
https://linktr.ee/bignbuffbespoke?
00:00 Cold open: "What's your book about?"
01:05 Meet Lady Velvet, the Mistress of Choice
01:50 Teenage single mum, boarding school in Jamaica
06:45 Gut and Glory (partner)
08:35 "Why don't we do phone sex?"
16:02 How Lady Velvet was born
18:08 What men really want in bed
20:19 From dominatrix to owning the label "sex worker"
23:38 "I don't want to be a lady, Grandma"
28:32 The Velvet Temple
37:00 Telling 200 women the truth
41:17 The Velvet Command (say it with us)
47:36 Swallowing your no
54:53 "Who are you?"
1:01:32 "My children saved my life"
1:06:34 Gifts and goodbyes
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]]>She tells us how a conversation on a bench by Tower Bridge led to seven years of phone sex work to feed her boys, what thousands of calls taught her about what men really want, and the moment she finally owned her story in front of 200 women. Then she leads us through the Velvet Command (try it at home), a releasing ritual, and a conversation about shame, pleasure, people-pleasing and who we are underneath all the labels.
Explicit, honest and surprisingly emotional. You’ll walk away with your shoulders back.
Follow us: @happentobemums
▫️https://www.LadyVelvet.co.uk
▫️IG: @Lady_Velvet_Official
▫️Birmingham Fetish Weekend
https://www.instagram.com/birminghamfetishweekend/
▫️Big and Buff Bespoke
https://linktr.ee/bignbuffbespoke?
00:00 Cold open: "What's your book about?"
01:05 Meet Lady Velvet, the Mistress of Choice
01:50 Teenage single mum, boarding school in Jamaica
06:45 Gut and Glory (partner)
08:35 "Why don't we do phone sex?"
16:02 How Lady Velvet was born
18:08 What men really want in bed
20:19 From dominatrix to owning the label "sex worker"
23:38 "I don't want to be a lady, Grandma"
28:32 The Velvet Temple
37:00 Telling 200 women the truth
41:17 The Velvet Command (say it with us)
47:36 Swallowing your no
54:53 "Who are you?"
1:01:32 "My children saved my life"
1:06:34 Gifts and goodbyes
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]]>Then Ellie tries a period facial (yes, really), we ask why we’re still calling it menopause, and we imagine we’re on the government’s new misogyny task force. First to go: “the missus”, “female CEO”, and dads who “babysit” their own children. Plus why motherhood should be at the centre of everything, “Spermageddon” and falling birth rates, and what the world’s blue zones can teach us about connection.
The good, the bad and the ugly. What would YOU do if you were on the task force? Tell us in the comments.
Follow us: @happentobemums
00:00 Coffee, guts and why “sunshine” is patronising
01:59 The gilet ick
03:22 Splattering foundation on a stranger
04:21 A tough week: hives in the woods
05:54 George, autism, EHCP and home education
07:03 Rejected from a cooking class
09:22 Turned down by a mainstream school
09:58 Leaving Qatar: was it the right call?
10:50 Who is school really for?
14:56 I tried a period facial
17:20 Why we need a new word for menopause
19:23 The misogyny task force
20:26 Retire “the missus”
20:56 Drop “female” from job titles
21:37 “Who’s looking after the kids?”
22:19 Dads don’t babysit
22:59 Why are balls the measure of bravery?
23:58 Put motherhood at the centre
26:42 “Spermageddon”: falling birth rates
28:43 Humankind, blue zones and connection
30:54 Wrap up and next week
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
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]]>Then Ellie tries a period facial (yes, really), we ask why we’re still calling it menopause, and we imagine we’re on the government’s new misogyny task force. First to go: “the missus”, “female CEO”, and dads who “babysit” their own children. Plus why motherhood should be at the centre of everything, “Spermageddon” and falling birth rates, and what the world’s blue zones can teach us about connection.
The good, the bad and the ugly. What would YOU do if you were on the task force? Tell us in the comments.
Follow us: @happentobemums
00:00 Coffee, guts and why “sunshine” is patronising
01:59 The gilet ick
03:22 Splattering foundation on a stranger
04:21 A tough week: hives in the woods
05:54 George, autism, EHCP and home education
07:03 Rejected from a cooking class
09:22 Turned down by a mainstream school
09:58 Leaving Qatar: was it the right call?
10:50 Who is school really for?
14:56 I tried a period facial
17:20 Why we need a new word for menopause
19:23 The misogyny task force
20:26 Retire “the missus”
20:56 Drop “female” from job titles
21:37 “Who’s looking after the kids?”
22:19 Dads don’t babysit
22:59 Why are balls the measure of bravery?
23:58 Put motherhood at the centre
26:42 “Spermageddon”: falling birth rates
28:43 Humankind, blue zones and connection
30:54 Wrap up and next week
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
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]]>We play Bin It or Bed It with the sleep trends all over your feed (melatonin gummies, magnesium, white noise, the SNOO, blackout blinds, lavender and the bath before bed), share our own bedtime chaos, and ask the big question: what if your sleep setup is working fine as it is?
No shame, no one-size-fits-all rules. Just real mums and an expert who’ll help you find the one change that makes the biggest difference.
Find Gemma: childsleepspecialist.co.uk
Follow us: @happentobemums
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
🎧 Watch on YouTube: @happentobemums
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
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]]>We play Bin It or Bed It with the sleep trends all over your feed (melatonin gummies, magnesium, white noise, the SNOO, blackout blinds, lavender and the bath before bed), share our own bedtime chaos, and ask the big question: what if your sleep setup is working fine as it is?
No shame, no one-size-fits-all rules. Just real mums and an expert who’ll help you find the one change that makes the biggest difference.
Find Gemma: childsleepspecialist.co.uk
Follow us: @happentobemums
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
🎧 Watch on YouTube: @happentobemums
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
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]]>Nicky is fighting for her son George, who is six, autistic and minimally speaking. She's working three jobs, homeschooling while the family waits on an EHCP, and asking why getting your child into school can take a tribunal and two years. She also gets through a day of sickness with a kitchen knife, a mango and no backup.
Elle opens up about a weekend with friends' young families. It brought up something she didn't expect: resentment, exhaustion, and the question every single mum asks herself at some point. Am I giving her enough? Then an unexpected message from a friend brings it full circle.
Plus: the neighbour who said "I just feel so sorry for you in there with those children" (and then delivered the triple whammy), the dark world of Jerry Springer and Jeremy Kyle, Celine Dion's comeback, and this week's icks, which turn out to be each other. One gilet, one red fleece nightie with a side zip, and no apologies.
Finally, we settle it: what IS Celine singing in Think Twice, and what does Gabrielle have inside her shoe?
Real, funny and honest. Because we just happen to be mums.
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
🎧 Watch on YouTube: @happentobemums
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
Produced by Core LDN.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
]]>Nicky is fighting for her son George, who is six, autistic and minimally speaking. She's working three jobs, homeschooling while the family waits on an EHCP, and asking why getting your child into school can take a tribunal and two years. She also gets through a day of sickness with a kitchen knife, a mango and no backup.
Elle opens up about a weekend with friends' young families. It brought up something she didn't expect: resentment, exhaustion, and the question every single mum asks herself at some point. Am I giving her enough? Then an unexpected message from a friend brings it full circle.
Plus: the neighbour who said "I just feel so sorry for you in there with those children" (and then delivered the triple whammy), the dark world of Jerry Springer and Jeremy Kyle, Celine Dion's comeback, and this week's icks, which turn out to be each other. One gilet, one red fleece nightie with a side zip, and no apologies.
Finally, we settle it: what IS Celine singing in Think Twice, and what does Gabrielle have inside her shoe?
Real, funny and honest. Because we just happen to be mums.
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
🎧 Watch on YouTube: @happentobemums
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
Produced by Core LDN.
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
]]>Then things get personal. We talk about Botox, plus period facials and why you might want to try it.
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
🎧 Watch on YouTube: @happentobemums
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
Produced by Core LDN.
This episode shares personal experiences only and is not medical or skincare advice.
#WeJustHappenToBeMums #MumPodcast #ExPatLife #Botox #PeriodFacials
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]]>Then things get personal. We talk about Botox, plus period facials and why you might want to try it.
🔔 Subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday
🎧 Watch on YouTube: @happentobemums
📸 Instagram: https://instagram.com/happentobemums
🎵 TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@happentobemums
✉️ Get in touch: happentobemums@coreagency.uk
Produced by Core LDN.
This episode shares personal experiences only and is not medical or skincare advice.
#WeJustHappenToBeMums #MumPodcast #ExPatLife #Botox #PeriodFacials
Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
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