60 acast.com BABS https://shows.acast.com/babs en Amanda Chang women,body image,coaching,life coach,self esteem,asian american,friends,friendships,girls struggling,struggling Amanda Chang Just a couple of Bay Area Brats Struggling Just two best friends who just turned 40 talking about their struggles--everything from relationships, to not feeling good enough, to dealing with depression and anxiety--in hopes of normalizing things and making people feel less alone.


Welcome to Bay Area Brats Struggling (BABS)! If you find yourself saying, “This is not what I thought my life would look like at this point,” you might be able to relate to this podcast.


Raised as Asian Americans who were promised successful lives if they just studied hard and focused on school, Amanda and Sam found themselves on the cusp of checking all the boxes. Careers. Marriage. Homeowners. Kids. 


Amanda got married to her college sweetheart, had twin girls after dealing with infertility, and lived a seemingly perfect life. Sam graduated law school, achieved her aspirations of working at a big law firm, and got engaged to her longtime boyfriend.


But then Amanda asked for a divorce and blew up her life. Sam called off her engagement and got a cat. They had career identity crises. They had to start using dating apps in their 30s. They suffer from anxiety and depression. And while they can recognize their complaints can seem bratty at times, they’re also realizing the common precedent leading up to their meltdowns is that they were struggling in silence for too long.


In trying to live life defined by other people’s standards, they lost themselves—or rather, they realized they never took the time to figure out who they were and what they wanted in the first place. So join them as they struggle through life, and hopefully you’ll realize you don’t have to struggle in silence… even if people call you a brat.



Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room.

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]]> Just two best friends who just turned 40 talking about their struggles--everything from relationships, to not feeling good enough, to dealing with depression and anxiety--in hopes of normalizing things and making people feel less alone.


Welcome to Bay Area Brats Struggling (BABS)! If you find yourself saying, “This is not what I thought my life would look like at this point,” you might be able to relate to this podcast.


Raised as Asian Americans who were promised successful lives if they just studied hard and focused on school, Amanda and Sam found themselves on the cusp of checking all the boxes. Careers. Marriage. Homeowners. Kids. 


Amanda got married to her college sweetheart, had twin girls after dealing with infertility, and lived a seemingly perfect life. Sam graduated law school, achieved her aspirations of working at a big law firm, and got engaged to her longtime boyfriend.


But then Amanda asked for a divorce and blew up her life. Sam called off her engagement and got a cat. They had career identity crises. They had to start using dating apps in their 30s. They suffer from anxiety and depression. And while they can recognize their complaints can seem bratty at times, they’re also realizing the common precedent leading up to their meltdowns is that they were struggling in silence for too long.


In trying to live life defined by other people’s standards, they lost themselves—or rather, they realized they never took the time to figure out who they were and what they wanted in the first place. So join them as they struggle through life, and hopefully you’ll realize you don’t have to struggle in silence… even if people call you a brat.



Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room.

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]]> true Amanda Chang info+65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35@mg-eu.acast.com 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 babs episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35/1754601486484-a4223f1d-1eed-43e3-b492-b3788265444b.jpeg https://shows.acast.com/babs BABS Struggling with recapping the best NYE in Vegas with BSB and besties Struggling with recapping the best NYE in Vegas with BSB and besties Wed, 04 Mar 2026 23:42:39 GMT 37:49 69a8c32cf413fba64f766f66 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/struggling-with-recapping-the-best-nye-in-vegas-with-bsb-and 69a8c32cf413fba64f766f66 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 struggling-with-recapping-the-best-nye-in-vegas-with-bsb-and full 2 9 It's February, but let's time travel back to the first week of January where Amanda and Sam were still riding the high of ringing in the New Year at the Backstreet Boys concert. It was SUCH a fun trip... and that's usually not what these brats say after a trip. They recap the weekend to try and pinpoint what made this trip energizing instead of exhausting, because we need to recreate more of that in our everyday lives.


Apparently, having fun requires not giving a [bleep] what people think about your outfits, giving yourself ample downtime between meals and going out, declaring your unapologetic devotion to Stranger Things even if no one cares, and deciding to try something new because your best friend is into it (even if you're worried it makes you look like a bandwagoner or lapdog).


Sam and Amanda also decide they're chaotic, but the good kind of chaos now, and that's what made this trip so fun. More of this please!

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]]> It's February, but let's time travel back to the first week of January where Amanda and Sam were still riding the high of ringing in the New Year at the Backstreet Boys concert. It was SUCH a fun trip... and that's usually not what these brats say after a trip. They recap the weekend to try and pinpoint what made this trip energizing instead of exhausting, because we need to recreate more of that in our everyday lives.


Apparently, having fun requires not giving a [bleep] what people think about your outfits, giving yourself ample downtime between meals and going out, declaring your unapologetic devotion to Stranger Things even if no one cares, and deciding to try something new because your best friend is into it (even if you're worried it makes you look like a bandwagoner or lapdog).


Sam and Amanda also decide they're chaotic, but the good kind of chaos now, and that's what made this trip so fun. More of this please!

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]]> Struggling with lotto scratchers, picking favorite Stranger Things characters, and reflecting on 2025 Struggling with lotto scratchers, picking favorite Stranger Things characters, and reflecting on 2025 Fri, 23 Jan 2026 01:07:16 GMT 34:49 6972c967d284f5cd092e3b45 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/6972c967d284f5cd092e3b45 6972c967d284f5cd092e3b45 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 full 2 8 It's our last podcast of 2025! Sam shares an update on being back with her boyfriend (it's a rollercoaster, we know), and Amanda discusses why lotto scratchers are a terrible holiday gift to receive from her ex... which somehow evolves into a conversation about how her dad and ex made her feel like she has too many emotions and is too much to handle.


But the episode turns around when Sam and Amanda discuss their favorite Stranger Things characters because after ten years of talking about how much she loves Stranger Things and rewatches it more than Marvel Avengers, Sam finally convinced Amanda to binge watch and catch up on the show. Their answers surprisingly reveal a lot about their personalities!


Lastly Sam and Amanda share three words each that sum up their years, and share their hopes for one another in 2026. We'll preview those words here: empowering, infuriating, fun, calm, unsteady, crossroads, boundaries, vulnerability. Go listen to the episode to hear what's behind those words! Thanks for listening to us in 2025, and see you in 2026!

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]]> It's our last podcast of 2025! Sam shares an update on being back with her boyfriend (it's a rollercoaster, we know), and Amanda discusses why lotto scratchers are a terrible holiday gift to receive from her ex... which somehow evolves into a conversation about how her dad and ex made her feel like she has too many emotions and is too much to handle.


But the episode turns around when Sam and Amanda discuss their favorite Stranger Things characters because after ten years of talking about how much she loves Stranger Things and rewatches it more than Marvel Avengers, Sam finally convinced Amanda to binge watch and catch up on the show. Their answers surprisingly reveal a lot about their personalities!


Lastly Sam and Amanda share three words each that sum up their years, and share their hopes for one another in 2026. We'll preview those words here: empowering, infuriating, fun, calm, unsteady, crossroads, boundaries, vulnerability. Go listen to the episode to hear what's behind those words! Thanks for listening to us in 2025, and see you in 2026!

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with knowing love isn't enough, people not doing the work, and the state of the world]]> Fri, 23 Jan 2026 01:07:02 GMT 32:28 696ef927c7233db2074f4cae true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/struggling-with-knowing-love-isnt-enough-people-not-doing-th 696ef927c7233db2074f4cae 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 struggling-with-knowing-love-isnt-enough-people-not-doing-th full 2 7 After a crazypants October, your girls Sam and Amanda are burnt out and back to randomly crying at work. Amanda's fighting with her co-parent about books and softball through her daughters' therapists, Sam moved in with her boyfriend and broke up a day later. Plus, the state of the world is so bleak and depressing, it only makes them feel even more weary and heavy. But this is one of those conversations where you might not fix anything or come to any revelations, but just talking about it with your best friend makes you feel a bit better.


*Trigger Warning / Disclaimer: This episode does contain comments that may sound like suicide ideation, so please listen with extreme care or skip this episode if you are triggered and take care of yourself. The comments and this episode are not meant to promote it or make light of it--rather Sam and Amanda talk about how those types of comments have been Sam's way of coping since college, and instead of turning away from them because they made her uncomfortable, Amanda's learned to lean in and recognize them as a signal that Sam needs an extra check-in and support. Sam and Amanda have previously talked at length about what those comments mean when Sam brings them up, and how to keep one another safe and supported.


Disclaimer: We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> After a crazypants October, your girls Sam and Amanda are burnt out and back to randomly crying at work. Amanda's fighting with her co-parent about books and softball through her daughters' therapists, Sam moved in with her boyfriend and broke up a day later. Plus, the state of the world is so bleak and depressing, it only makes them feel even more weary and heavy. But this is one of those conversations where you might not fix anything or come to any revelations, but just talking about it with your best friend makes you feel a bit better.


*Trigger Warning / Disclaimer: This episode does contain comments that may sound like suicide ideation, so please listen with extreme care or skip this episode if you are triggered and take care of yourself. The comments and this episode are not meant to promote it or make light of it--rather Sam and Amanda talk about how those types of comments have been Sam's way of coping since college, and instead of turning away from them because they made her uncomfortable, Amanda's learned to lean in and recognize them as a signal that Sam needs an extra check-in and support. Sam and Amanda have previously talked at length about what those comments mean when Sam brings them up, and how to keep one another safe and supported.


Disclaimer: We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> Struggling with first date green flags and red flags, appropriate questions to ask, and naming our insecurities Struggling with first date green flags and red flags, appropriate questions to ask, and naming our insecurities Fri, 09 Jan 2026 04:30:26 GMT 36:17 69608463d8ac698e7e45f03c true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/struggling-with-debriefing-a-first-date-appropriate-question 69608463d8ac698e7e45f03c 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 struggling-with-debriefing-a-first-date-appropriate-question full 2 6 Amanda debriefs a first date with Sam in real time, and while they still have no idea how to date without overthinking it, this is honestly when they're at their best. And by that, we mean at their best being dumb with each other. Debriefing is the fun part of dating, so dive on in with us besties!


Green flags: he likes Taylor (but said she's not as popular with middle schoolers anymore!!!) (it doesn't matter, no one can ever convince us that loving Taylor is cringe); he is as good looking as his pictures; he's a girl dad; he's in therapy.


Red flags: he claims his ex-fiancee broke up with him out of nowhere (what woman breaks up with a man without an inciting incident?); he gave a boring interview answer to one of Amanda's tough shouldn't-be-a-first-date question; and... well, the third red flag might be an Amanda issue.


Other things the BABS still struggle with: getting Sam to ingest nutrients, adhering to proper first date protocol of not asking spicy questions, and being vulnerable enough to name our biggest insecurities.



** In full disclosure, this date happened in September, and while it seemed promising with some back and forth attempts to schedule a second date, nothing materialized. Still, it was fun to hope for a little bit!

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]]> Amanda debriefs a first date with Sam in real time, and while they still have no idea how to date without overthinking it, this is honestly when they're at their best. And by that, we mean at their best being dumb with each other. Debriefing is the fun part of dating, so dive on in with us besties!


Green flags: he likes Taylor (but said she's not as popular with middle schoolers anymore!!!) (it doesn't matter, no one can ever convince us that loving Taylor is cringe); he is as good looking as his pictures; he's a girl dad; he's in therapy.


Red flags: he claims his ex-fiancee broke up with him out of nowhere (what woman breaks up with a man without an inciting incident?); he gave a boring interview answer to one of Amanda's tough shouldn't-be-a-first-date question; and... well, the third red flag might be an Amanda issue.


Other things the BABS still struggle with: getting Sam to ingest nutrients, adhering to proper first date protocol of not asking spicy questions, and being vulnerable enough to name our biggest insecurities.



** In full disclosure, this date happened in September, and while it seemed promising with some back and forth attempts to schedule a second date, nothing materialized. Still, it was fun to hope for a little bit!

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]]> Struggling, with a guest star (!) who invites BABS to a live show and shares why she wants everyone to know We Are Enough Struggling, with a guest star (!) who invites BABS to a live show and shares why she wants everyone to know We Are Enough Wed, 05 Nov 2025 14:00:00 GMT 39:40 690ac935fd4632b31f9fab6c true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/struggling-with-a-guest-star-who-invites-babs-to-a-live-show 690ac935fd4632b31f9fab6c 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 struggling-with-a-guest-star-who-invites-babs-to-a-live-show full 2 5 This is a super special episode (!!) because Amanda and Sam invite their first ever guest onto the podcast. Gail, owner of the event planning business Spoonful of Sunshines, invited BABS to speak at their first ever live show (!!), taking place at a festival in Palm Springs in January 2026 called We Are Enough (https://www.spoonfulofsunshines.com/weareenough). In return, Gail shares her story in this episode and how it birthed the idea for the We Are Enough festival.


Gail went to college with Amanda and Sam and even planned Amanda's wedding (oop!). But unbeknownst to college Amanda and Sam who saw Gail as a literal ray of sunshine and positivity, Gail was struggling to live up to her immigrant parents' dreams as she stared at an F on her midterm in the pouring rain and realized she wasn't going to be pre-med. She turned to partying to try and hide how lost she felt.


Post-graduation, Gail followed her love of food into the hospitality industry, but a couple pivotal moments - including the tragic loss of her cousin - changed the course of Gail's life and helped her discover her purpose in life... to help people talk about emotions, destigmatize mental health, and help everyone realize that We Are Enough.



*Trigger warning: This episode does talk about suicide, so please listen with extreme self-care or avoid if those thoughts are triggering.*


Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> This is a super special episode (!!) because Amanda and Sam invite their first ever guest onto the podcast. Gail, owner of the event planning business Spoonful of Sunshines, invited BABS to speak at their first ever live show (!!), taking place at a festival in Palm Springs in January 2026 called We Are Enough (https://www.spoonfulofsunshines.com/weareenough). In return, Gail shares her story in this episode and how it birthed the idea for the We Are Enough festival.


Gail went to college with Amanda and Sam and even planned Amanda's wedding (oop!). But unbeknownst to college Amanda and Sam who saw Gail as a literal ray of sunshine and positivity, Gail was struggling to live up to her immigrant parents' dreams as she stared at an F on her midterm in the pouring rain and realized she wasn't going to be pre-med. She turned to partying to try and hide how lost she felt.


Post-graduation, Gail followed her love of food into the hospitality industry, but a couple pivotal moments - including the tragic loss of her cousin - changed the course of Gail's life and helped her discover her purpose in life... to help people talk about emotions, destigmatize mental health, and help everyone realize that We Are Enough.



*Trigger warning: This episode does talk about suicide, so please listen with extreme self-care or avoid if those thoughts are triggering.*


Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> Struggling with chasing dopamine hits in the bread aisle at the grocery store Struggling with chasing dopamine hits in the bread aisle at the grocery store Mon, 03 Nov 2025 03:14:14 GMT 37:19 69081d2c52ec2a4b13284a20 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/struggling-with-chasing-dopamine-hits-in-the-bread-aisle-at 69081d2c52ec2a4b13284a20 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 struggling-with-chasing-dopamine-hits-in-the-bread-aisle-at full 2 4 Your girls are still going through something. Their sinks are full of dirty dishes, Sam ditched her emotional support podcast lollipop for a bottle of sparkling wine, and Amanda is tired AF from trying to cram in new activities like pole dancing and line dancing and dating again while her daughters are with their dad, then going through the nonstop cycle of making dinner and worrying about creating a strong emotional foundation for her girls' mental wellbeing for the rest of their lives.


She and Sam wonder what it is they're chasing because they're resorting to strolling the grocery store just to feel something and find dopamine hits in the bread aisle. But just when they start to tell themselves they do so much and don't need to endure like performance athletes, Sam's boyfriend told her she should hang out with friends more and not to sleep during the day... and he should now sleep with one eye open (just kidding).

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]]> Your girls are still going through something. Their sinks are full of dirty dishes, Sam ditched her emotional support podcast lollipop for a bottle of sparkling wine, and Amanda is tired AF from trying to cram in new activities like pole dancing and line dancing and dating again while her daughters are with their dad, then going through the nonstop cycle of making dinner and worrying about creating a strong emotional foundation for her girls' mental wellbeing for the rest of their lives.


She and Sam wonder what it is they're chasing because they're resorting to strolling the grocery store just to feel something and find dopamine hits in the bread aisle. But just when they start to tell themselves they do so much and don't need to endure like performance athletes, Sam's boyfriend told her she should hang out with friends more and not to sleep during the day... and he should now sleep with one eye open (just kidding).

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with FOMO, Labubus, and "good" dads]]> Sat, 20 Sep 2025 15:00:00 GMT 42:19 68cdf3c1f5e00f6ca45c97b0 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/s2episode3 68cdf3c1f5e00f6ca45c97b0 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 s2episode3 full 2 3 "Are we going through something?" Even though the basis of our podcast is that we're always struggling with something, it feels like Sam and Amanda are going through something a little extra lately. They're searching for dopamine hits from Costco, Jazzercise, softball, and pole dancing (ok, maybe just Amanda), and they're struggling with FOMO and the loneliness epidemic. However, while Amanda allowed FOMO to coerce her into seeing the Backstreet Boys in Vegas during New Year's, she will not allow FOMO to be the reason she buys her girls Labubus.


Sam also shares an update on both the physical and mental recovery from her breast reduction surgery (shark bites are referenced). Then they get into some co-parenting challenges Amanda's been struggling with over books and markers, and the double standards and expectations for "good" dads and moms (if this episode sounds a little Frankensteined, it's because the original episode got a little too angry and off the rails, so they had to rerecord and stitch the episodes together).


(We recorded this a month ago, so spoiler alert: Amanda did allow FOMO to sucker her into buying Labubus for her daughters LOL).

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]]> "Are we going through something?" Even though the basis of our podcast is that we're always struggling with something, it feels like Sam and Amanda are going through something a little extra lately. They're searching for dopamine hits from Costco, Jazzercise, softball, and pole dancing (ok, maybe just Amanda), and they're struggling with FOMO and the loneliness epidemic. However, while Amanda allowed FOMO to coerce her into seeing the Backstreet Boys in Vegas during New Year's, she will not allow FOMO to be the reason she buys her girls Labubus.


Sam also shares an update on both the physical and mental recovery from her breast reduction surgery (shark bites are referenced). Then they get into some co-parenting challenges Amanda's been struggling with over books and markers, and the double standards and expectations for "good" dads and moms (if this episode sounds a little Frankensteined, it's because the original episode got a little too angry and off the rails, so they had to rerecord and stitch the episodes together).


(We recorded this a month ago, so spoiler alert: Amanda did allow FOMO to sucker her into buying Labubus for her daughters LOL).

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]]> Struggling with boob reduction surgery, energy drinks, and how much we love Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders Struggling with boob reduction surgery, energy drinks, and how much we love Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders Fri, 05 Sep 2025 22:28:26 GMT 37:04 68bb640ba4a9a4d945a3fa22 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/struggling-with-boob-reduction-surgery-energy-drinks-and-how 68bb640ba4a9a4d945a3fa22 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 struggling-with-boob-reduction-surgery-energy-drinks-and-how full 2 2 In this episode, Sam talks about her breast reduction surgery--something she's really wanted for the last couple years--and how shockingly complex and difficult it's been to say goodbye to her identity as Sam with big boobs. She equates the process or shock of how big of a change it was to... pregnancy and going to law school (it makes sense to her!). There are also references to ball sac boobs, dangling water balloons, and headlights. Just listen to the episode--trust us.


Then they dive into DCC - the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders series on Netflix, which Sam has been telling Amanda to watch for over a year and she's finally gotten on the bandwagon. They discuss their favorites, what it means to portray perfection, and how the DCC women's authenticity, kindness, and friendship is what really transcends it all and makes them worth rooting for.


**Disclaimer: we are ABSOLUTELY NOT MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS OR ADVISORS.


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]]> In this episode, Sam talks about her breast reduction surgery--something she's really wanted for the last couple years--and how shockingly complex and difficult it's been to say goodbye to her identity as Sam with big boobs. She equates the process or shock of how big of a change it was to... pregnancy and going to law school (it makes sense to her!). There are also references to ball sac boobs, dangling water balloons, and headlights. Just listen to the episode--trust us.


Then they dive into DCC - the Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders series on Netflix, which Sam has been telling Amanda to watch for over a year and she's finally gotten on the bandwagon. They discuss their favorites, what it means to portray perfection, and how the DCC women's authenticity, kindness, and friendship is what really transcends it all and makes them worth rooting for.


**Disclaimer: we are ABSOLUTELY NOT MEDICAL PROFESSIONALS OR ADVISORS.


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]]> Struggling with friendship insecurities, our bodies, and weighted vests Struggling with friendship insecurities, our bodies, and weighted vests Thu, 07 Aug 2025 15:00:00 GMT 38:13 6893f10386fca13628ce10f8 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/s2episode1 6893f10386fca13628ce10f8 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 s2episode1 full 2 1 Amanda and Sam are back for season 2! They address theories about why they stopped talking for a few months (maybe they're not struggling anymore? LOL yeah right), and while it's not as juicy as an explosive feud, it does show the realities of how friendships ebb and flow. They had different priorities at the time (Sam on her health, Amanda on her work) and their conversations were bringing up one another's insecurities and no longer motivating one another.


Don't worry though, your favorite brats are back in the same headspace, leaning on each other instead of their therapist, and on the other side of 40 (!!). Most importantly, they're still struggling... with all the health noise out there, whether achievements are only worth it if they're painful, and how to fuel their bodies with protein instead of lollipops and Redbulls. And yes, we talk about being 40 and walking with weighted vests because we're not just brats, we're basic brats.


Thanks for getting back on this ride with us!

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]]> Amanda and Sam are back for season 2! They address theories about why they stopped talking for a few months (maybe they're not struggling anymore? LOL yeah right), and while it's not as juicy as an explosive feud, it does show the realities of how friendships ebb and flow. They had different priorities at the time (Sam on her health, Amanda on her work) and their conversations were bringing up one another's insecurities and no longer motivating one another.


Don't worry though, your favorite brats are back in the same headspace, leaning on each other instead of their therapist, and on the other side of 40 (!!). Most importantly, they're still struggling... with all the health noise out there, whether achievements are only worth it if they're painful, and how to fuel their bodies with protein instead of lollipops and Redbulls. And yes, we talk about being 40 and walking with weighted vests because we're not just brats, we're basic brats.


Thanks for getting back on this ride with us!

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]]> Struggling to figure out why we stopped podcasting and mentally prepare for turning 40 Struggling to figure out why we stopped podcasting and mentally prepare for turning 40 Thu, 07 Aug 2025 14:00:00 GMT 37:41 6893eb9386fca13628cd327b true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/s2episodezeropointfive 6893eb9386fca13628cd327b 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 s2episodezeropointfive full 2 0.5 Oh my god, we're back again! Sort of. Sam and Amanda attempt to kick off a season 2 of BABS by explaining why their podcast dropped off the face of the planet and trying to figure out why they mutually stopped talking to each other for the second half of 2024. They recap what's been happening (spoiler alert: trying to fix their broken bodies and broken hearts), revisit season 1 episode 1 and laugh at how dumb those girls were (while trying to have compassion for their naiveté too), and share their goals for their upcoming 40th birthdays.


* It's called Episode 0.5 because they recorded it in January hoping they'd get back into the podcast momentum, but it was a false start. Which is why they haven't posted it till they were sure they have our mojo back for real.

** Amanda references a "lost episode" they recorded in August that she hadn't edited and posted yet, but says she will. ...She won't because she can't find the file anymore on her computer. Oops!

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]]> Oh my god, we're back again! Sort of. Sam and Amanda attempt to kick off a season 2 of BABS by explaining why their podcast dropped off the face of the planet and trying to figure out why they mutually stopped talking to each other for the second half of 2024. They recap what's been happening (spoiler alert: trying to fix their broken bodies and broken hearts), revisit season 1 episode 1 and laugh at how dumb those girls were (while trying to have compassion for their naiveté too), and share their goals for their upcoming 40th birthdays.


* It's called Episode 0.5 because they recorded it in January hoping they'd get back into the podcast momentum, but it was a false start. Which is why they haven't posted it till they were sure they have our mojo back for real.

** Amanda references a "lost episode" they recorded in August that she hadn't edited and posted yet, but says she will. ...She won't because she can't find the file anymore on her computer. Oops!

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with the word lazy, weight & body issues, and first dates with the same guy]]> Fri, 12 Jul 2024 15:00:59 GMT 52:14 668b4566fc882c395b840fbf true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-20 668b4566fc882c395b840fbf 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-20 Episode 20 full

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]]> Struggling with ominous positivity, anti-heroes, and boob jobs Struggling with ominous positivity, anti-heroes, and boob jobs Mon, 08 Jul 2024 00:59:38 GMT 57:04 668b37999bf81dc06a329b01 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-19 668b37999bf81dc06a329b01 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-19 Episode 19 full Amanda and Sam take their first reader submission and discuss the concept of "ominous positivity," which leads them down another path of realizing they don't know what words mean including ominous, meme, and anti-hero.


They go from sounding bitter about men and dating, to sounding literary as they discuss whether Jay Gatsby is an anti-hero. To Sam's horror, they realize that they are in fact just like Gatsby -- unable to let go of the past.


Amanda shares what it was like seeing her ex again, Sam talks about why she wants a boob job, and they both question if they're capable of feeling anything for people anymore.

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]]> Amanda and Sam take their first reader submission and discuss the concept of "ominous positivity," which leads them down another path of realizing they don't know what words mean including ominous, meme, and anti-hero.


They go from sounding bitter about men and dating, to sounding literary as they discuss whether Jay Gatsby is an anti-hero. To Sam's horror, they realize that they are in fact just like Gatsby -- unable to let go of the past.


Amanda shares what it was like seeing her ex again, Sam talks about why she wants a boob job, and they both question if they're capable of feeling anything for people anymore.

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]]> Struggling with our recent fight, being in love with exes, and Asian stereotypes Struggling with our recent fight, being in love with exes, and Asian stereotypes Thu, 27 Jun 2024 04:12:12 GMT 1:04:58 667ce663c53804ed0e161c85 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-18 667ce663c53804ed0e161c85 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-18 Episode 18 full

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]]> Struggling with dating apps (again), self-loathing thoughts, and how to get home Struggling with dating apps (again), self-loathing thoughts, and how to get home Thu, 13 Jun 2024 05:16:16 GMT 1:09:10 666a8014fea455001259af56 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-17 666a8014fea455001259af56 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-17 Episode 17 full Sam is recovering from both a cold and the harsh reality that getting under somebody new doesn't help you get over someone you loved (sorry to Sam's brother who has to listen to this!). After trying a matchmaker and shuffle dating, she's back to the apps and is immediately appalled at the amount of men who ask her if she's a Dom or Sub.


After ranting about the woeful despair of the dating app experience and questionable "conversations" with men, Amanda and Sam get back into deep topics in the second half of the podcast. Sam said she doesn't feel like she's where she's supposed to be and has felt like this for the last 20 years; she wants to go "home" but doesn't know what that means. Amanda shares the self-loathing thoughts she berates herself with everyday, likely from the recent changes, and how she finally reached out to her ex to address the awkwardness of their new work situation.


Then Amanda and Sam struggle to end the podcast on a positive note, and Amanda's still struggling with mic / laptop / sound issues, so apologies if it's a bit hard to hear her at times!

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]]> Sam is recovering from both a cold and the harsh reality that getting under somebody new doesn't help you get over someone you loved (sorry to Sam's brother who has to listen to this!). After trying a matchmaker and shuffle dating, she's back to the apps and is immediately appalled at the amount of men who ask her if she's a Dom or Sub.


After ranting about the woeful despair of the dating app experience and questionable "conversations" with men, Amanda and Sam get back into deep topics in the second half of the podcast. Sam said she doesn't feel like she's where she's supposed to be and has felt like this for the last 20 years; she wants to go "home" but doesn't know what that means. Amanda shares the self-loathing thoughts she berates herself with everyday, likely from the recent changes, and how she finally reached out to her ex to address the awkwardness of their new work situation.


Then Amanda and Sam struggle to end the podcast on a positive note, and Amanda's still struggling with mic / laptop / sound issues, so apologies if it's a bit hard to hear her at times!

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]]> Struggling with reorgs, depressive thoughts, and Marvel tattoos Struggling with reorgs, depressive thoughts, and Marvel tattoos Tue, 28 May 2024 01:01:22 GMT 39:10 66552c4bd950260012fbb1cb true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-16 66552c4bd950260012fbb1cb 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-16 Episode 16 full In true Bay Area brats style, Amanda and Sam talk about getting reorged (as in, their work organization reorganized) and the impact on their mental health. Amanda fell into a depressive episode after her bosses were laid off and she was moved to a team with her ex, but shares what Sam did to help her through some particularly dark thoughts. Just in time to help Sam make some impulsive dating decisions and to get tattoos together. This is how all healthy friendships work, right?



*Trigger warning: This episode does allude to self-harm, so please listen with extreme self-care or avoid if those thoughts are triggering.*


Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> In true Bay Area brats style, Amanda and Sam talk about getting reorged (as in, their work organization reorganized) and the impact on their mental health. Amanda fell into a depressive episode after her bosses were laid off and she was moved to a team with her ex, but shares what Sam did to help her through some particularly dark thoughts. Just in time to help Sam make some impulsive dating decisions and to get tattoos together. This is how all healthy friendships work, right?



*Trigger warning: This episode does allude to self-harm, so please listen with extreme self-care or avoid if those thoughts are triggering.*


Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> Struggling with whether our anxiety is making everyone worse and getting annoyed with ourselves Struggling with whether our anxiety is making everyone worse and getting annoyed with ourselves Sun, 12 May 2024 16:56:31 GMT 52:37 6640f43f1f998c001235bcb9 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-15 6640f43f1f998c001235bcb9 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-15 Episode 15 full

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]]> Struggling with letting go of the past, or rather the past letting go of us Struggling with letting go of the past, or rather the past letting go of us Fri, 12 Apr 2024 19:56:42 GMT 40:54 661991a12732af001710cd56 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-14 661991a12732af001710cd56 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-14 Episode 14 full

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with being judged for being almost 40 & single and thinking love is supposed to be painful]]> Fri, 05 Apr 2024 15:00:22 GMT 35:41 6608fb05f993490016c37c40 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-13 6608fb05f993490016c37c40 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-13 Episode 13 full

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with the consequences of our dating decisions, and figuring out what's in our heads and what's real]]> Fri, 29 Mar 2024 16:00:57 GMT 1:06:04 65fddf2e8d6ad8001665eea2 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-12 65fddf2e8d6ad8001665eea2 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-12 Episode 12 full Sam and Amanda talk about anxious attachment again, creating scenarios in their heads and assigning meaning to things in their minds that are not necessarily true (aka causing a freakout), which makes it hard for them and others around them to know what they're really feeling and what they need.


Sam gives an update on where she and her ex stand after she confessed her feelings, and Amanda gives an update about her rollercoaster of a weekend with her cross-country fling. Honestly, both girls are struggling to understand what healthy romantic relationships should look like, how to feel strong and secure in one, and one thing is clear after this podcast... they haven't figured it out at all. But at least they're in it together!

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]]> Sam and Amanda talk about anxious attachment again, creating scenarios in their heads and assigning meaning to things in their minds that are not necessarily true (aka causing a freakout), which makes it hard for them and others around them to know what they're really feeling and what they need.


Sam gives an update on where she and her ex stand after she confessed her feelings, and Amanda gives an update about her rollercoaster of a weekend with her cross-country fling. Honestly, both girls are struggling to understand what healthy romantic relationships should look like, how to feel strong and secure in one, and one thing is clear after this podcast... they haven't figured it out at all. But at least they're in it together!

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]]> Struggling with February, letting friends go, and disappointing ex-husbands Struggling with February, letting friends go, and disappointing ex-husbands Fri, 15 Mar 2024 18:15:39 GMT 56:35 65eb6fd9128cfd00171b57cc true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-11 65eb6fd9128cfd00171b57cc 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-11 Episode 11 full Well, Amanda and Sam finally made it to the end of February, and they are not well. They recap their week of being apart where Amanda lost her shit on a boat and Sam was tired in Miami, they both forgot their anti-anxiety meds, and worst of all... they were apart and unable to communicate for a couple days.


Amanda is still dealing with anxious attachment, Sam is still getting texts from "friends" guilt-tripping her for not responding, and Amanda's twincesses turned 7! It's an occasion that comes with a trauma anniversary though, so Amanda grapples with that as well as feeling disappointed in her ex.


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For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> Well, Amanda and Sam finally made it to the end of February, and they are not well. They recap their week of being apart where Amanda lost her shit on a boat and Sam was tired in Miami, they both forgot their anti-anxiety meds, and worst of all... they were apart and unable to communicate for a couple days.


Amanda is still dealing with anxious attachment, Sam is still getting texts from "friends" guilt-tripping her for not responding, and Amanda's twincesses turned 7! It's an occasion that comes with a trauma anniversary though, so Amanda grapples with that as well as feeling disappointed in her ex.


Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> Struggling with being hella grumpy and trying not to cover up our uncomfy feelings with laughter Struggling with being hella grumpy and trying not to cover up our uncomfy feelings with laughter Tue, 05 Mar 2024 00:07:57 GMT 34:16 65e6619cc6c67d0016482a61 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-10 65e6619cc6c67d0016482a61 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-10 Episode 10 full This is affectionately referred to as the "grumpy episode," which honestly wasn't going to see the light of day.


Amanda and Sam were being burnt out by the month of February--all good things, but exhausting nonetheless, and they were only halfway through the month at this point!--and they were hella grumpy while recording. Feeling like it was too bratty to post, they were going to shelve it. But after a re-listen, they decided this is the point of the podcast... to be real and share honest conversations about their feelings, especially when they feel uncomfortable and guilty about complaining. It's their realest episode yet.


Also Sam manages to weave in analogies about both Marvel and cat videos. Genius.


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For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> This is affectionately referred to as the "grumpy episode," which honestly wasn't going to see the light of day.


Amanda and Sam were being burnt out by the month of February--all good things, but exhausting nonetheless, and they were only halfway through the month at this point!--and they were hella grumpy while recording. Feeling like it was too bratty to post, they were going to shelve it. But after a re-listen, they decided this is the point of the podcast... to be real and share honest conversations about their feelings, especially when they feel uncomfortable and guilty about complaining. It's their realest episode yet.


Also Sam manages to weave in analogies about both Marvel and cat videos. Genius.


Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. For resources on eating disorders, visit https://edrcsv.org/get-help/.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.

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]]> Struggling with anxious attachment and F boys with dirty bathrooms Struggling with anxious attachment and F boys with dirty bathrooms Sat, 17 Feb 2024 07:46:49 GMT 57:51 65d05fb7213c30001802f2fd true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-9 65d05fb7213c30001802f2fd 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-9 Episode 9 full Surprise! It's a supersized episode because Amanda met somebody she's finally excited about--but the twist is he lives across the country and now her anxious attachment has reared its ugly head and she's forgotten how to play it cool. Sam assumes the role of the calm, supportive voice of reason... even though they accidentally manifested F boys coming back from the past and she got a "hey you up?" text from a good time guy (with a dirty bathroom), while still waiting for her ex to respond to her declaration of feelings for him.


Whew, we couldn't make this stuff up if we tried. Let's see how this role reversal works out for them.

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]]> Surprise! It's a supersized episode because Amanda met somebody she's finally excited about--but the twist is he lives across the country and now her anxious attachment has reared its ugly head and she's forgotten how to play it cool. Sam assumes the role of the calm, supportive voice of reason... even though they accidentally manifested F boys coming back from the past and she got a "hey you up?" text from a good time guy (with a dirty bathroom), while still waiting for her ex to respond to her declaration of feelings for him.


Whew, we couldn't make this stuff up if we tried. Let's see how this role reversal works out for them.

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with guys who don't respect your boundaries and feelings for your ex]]> Mon, 05 Feb 2024 01:45:29 GMT 35:05 65c03ced7944ac0016945272 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode- 65c03ced7944ac0016945272 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode- Episode 8 full It's been a week, Brats. Amanda shares how the guy she was dating turned out to be the type who says one thing over text but acts a different way in person. Someone said to her, "The universe will keep sending you lessons until you learn it," and her lesson is around setting and holding boundaries with men who keep violating her safe space. Sam did a brave thing (we think) and told her ex she still has feelings for him, and even though Amanda had no idea about any of this, Sam is following what feels right for her. This one ends on a cliffhanger though!



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]]> It's been a week, Brats. Amanda shares how the guy she was dating turned out to be the type who says one thing over text but acts a different way in person. Someone said to her, "The universe will keep sending you lessons until you learn it," and her lesson is around setting and holding boundaries with men who keep violating her safe space. Sam did a brave thing (we think) and told her ex she still has feelings for him, and even though Amanda had no idea about any of this, Sam is following what feels right for her. This one ends on a cliffhanger though!



Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room. If you suspect that you or someone you know has been violated, please know you can always reach out to the National Sexual Assault Hotline at rainn.org/resources.

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]]> Struggling with what depression looks and feels like Struggling with what depression looks and feels like Mon, 05 Feb 2024 01:45:17 GMT 36:44 65c03a4b5424de0018271320 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-7 65c03a4b5424de0018271320 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-7 Episode 7 full After a couple lighter episodes about dating, Amanda and Sam get back to talking about mental health and what depression looks like... because from the outside a person might look completely fine, but you never know what they're struggling with. If there's only one thing you take away from this episode, it's that when someone tells you how they're feeling, believe them. Sam and Amanda also get vulnerable about their struggles with body image and emotional eating.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.



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]]> After a couple lighter episodes about dating, Amanda and Sam get back to talking about mental health and what depression looks like... because from the outside a person might look completely fine, but you never know what they're struggling with. If there's only one thing you take away from this episode, it's that when someone tells you how they're feeling, believe them. Sam and Amanda also get vulnerable about their struggles with body image and emotional eating.


For a great resource to help with understanding depression and anxiety, and advice on how to help and what to say, check out one of our favorites, @realdepressionproject on Instagram.



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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with first dates and if we liked them or just didn't hate them]]> Fri, 26 Jan 2024 04:46:04 GMT 33:50 65b1e779e969a60016c90b42 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-6 65b1e779e969a60016c90b42 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-6 Episode 6 full

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]]> Struggling with getting back on dating apps and spiraling anxiety Struggling with getting back on dating apps and spiraling anxiety Thu, 25 Jan 2024 04:09:41 GMT 36:03 65b1de4799426a0015cbba8b true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-5 65b1de4799426a0015cbba8b 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-5 Episode 5 full

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]]> Struggling with being a depressed friend, repressed memories of bullying, and committing to plans Struggling with being a depressed friend, repressed memories of bullying, and committing to plans Mon, 08 Jan 2024 16:00:19 GMT 35:09 65983d01e6581c0016029390 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-4 65983d01e6581c0016029390 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-4 Episode 4 full Amanda and Sam struggle with how to be a good friend/daughter/sister when your mental health makes everything harder, including saying no or committing to plans. Amanda recalls that traumatic time in high school when a guy photoshopped her picture and shared it around school and everyone made it seem like no big deal so she thought it was no big deal, and Sam explains her 2024 "15% cancellation policy" that she's trying to implement to set boundaries.



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]]> Amanda and Sam struggle with how to be a good friend/daughter/sister when your mental health makes everything harder, including saying no or committing to plans. Amanda recalls that traumatic time in high school when a guy photoshopped her picture and shared it around school and everyone made it seem like no big deal so she thought it was no big deal, and Sam explains her 2024 "15% cancellation policy" that she's trying to implement to set boundaries.



Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room.

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with matchmakers, dating apps, and if we're supposed to like the guys we date]]> Mon, 08 Jan 2024 16:00:09 GMT 37:31 658386305d9d5f00150b6b94 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/episode-3 658386305d9d5f00150b6b94 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 episode-3 Episode 3 full ** FAMILY & COWORKERS OF SAM & AMANDA -- YOU MIGHT NOT WANT TO LISTEN TO THIS ONE. ** We talk about dating, sex, and what we affectionally call our Chaos Era.


Amanda shares what it's been like dating for the first time post-divorce and doing all the crazy exploring she should've done in their 20's, Sam shares her experience taking a break from the dating apps and trying a matchmaker. We get right into it - first dates with guys who gave us the ick, why it was more fun when we wanted to make bad decisions (shoutout to Boyband Josh, DJ Chris, and Oregon Bobby), and learning that the beauty of dating is ultimately about getting to know and love ourselves (the boys are just supporting characters).

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]]> ** FAMILY & COWORKERS OF SAM & AMANDA -- YOU MIGHT NOT WANT TO LISTEN TO THIS ONE. ** We talk about dating, sex, and what we affectionally call our Chaos Era.


Amanda shares what it's been like dating for the first time post-divorce and doing all the crazy exploring she should've done in their 20's, Sam shares her experience taking a break from the dating apps and trying a matchmaker. We get right into it - first dates with guys who gave us the ick, why it was more fun when we wanted to make bad decisions (shoutout to Boyband Josh, DJ Chris, and Oregon Bobby), and learning that the beauty of dating is ultimately about getting to know and love ourselves (the boys are just supporting characters).

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]]> <![CDATA[Struggling with bad days, ex-fiances and ex-husbands, and the way people respond when you tell them you're depressed]]> Tue, 21 Nov 2023 00:29:54 GMT 36:44 65837defada55500168e77da true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/babs-episode-2 65837defada55500168e77da 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 babs-episode-2 full 2 Amanda and Sam struggle with the guilt for having bad days and being grumpy over "small" things, how people respond to mental health and what you should say instead, getting a call from your ex-fiance telling you he's married now and can no longer be your friend, and becoming a shell of yourself in a marriage that's just "fine."



Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room.

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]]> Amanda and Sam struggle with the guilt for having bad days and being grumpy over "small" things, how people respond to mental health and what you should say instead, getting a call from your ex-fiance telling you he's married now and can no longer be your friend, and becoming a shell of yourself in a marriage that's just "fine."



Disclaimer:  We are NOT mental or physical health specialists. If you believe you or someone you know is struggling with anxiety, depression, or suicidal ideation, or any other mental health challenges we encourage you to contact your doctor or a medical professional. If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 988, call 911, or go to your local emergency room.

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]]> BABS Intro BABS Intro Mon, 06 Nov 2023 23:23:02 GMT 34:52 6583775d7a7eb20017b3bcf6 true https://shows.acast.com/babs/episodes/babs-intro 6583775d7a7eb20017b3bcf6 65611ffc9b92aa0012d76a35 babs-intro full 1 In this first episode, Amanda and Sam test out podcasting and struggle to introduce themselves and what their podcast is about in a short amount of time. Oh, and struggle to understand how to use the mics without an echo (we fix it in Episode 2, we promise!).


They talk about figuring out how to let go of our identities as academic achievers, getting divorced (a big no-no in Asian culture), grappling with anxiety and Sam's recent diagnosis of depression, and the importance of talking about your struggles no matter how privileged you know you are.


We also talk about what we're watching or reading because we can be fun too.

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]]> In this first episode, Amanda and Sam test out podcasting and struggle to introduce themselves and what their podcast is about in a short amount of time. Oh, and struggle to understand how to use the mics without an echo (we fix it in Episode 2, we promise!).


They talk about figuring out how to let go of our identities as academic achievers, getting divorced (a big no-no in Asian culture), grappling with anxiety and Sam's recent diagnosis of depression, and the importance of talking about your struggles no matter how privileged you know you are.


We also talk about what we're watching or reading because we can be fun too.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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