Big Time Fresh

Stranger Things 5.1 - Spoiler Alert Galore

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 02:10:41 GMT

I can't stress this enough: This is a SPOILER ALERT episode.

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Mom, why did you get divorced?

Thu, 18 Sep 2025 02:11:27 GMT

Bella and her Mom make a return to the podcast after the very first episode! With divorce now a weight on two generations, Bella's mom talks about some of the sacrifices, challenges, regrets, and the decisions that had to be made, which at the time were hard but ultimately proved exactly what was needed.

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Polite and Respectful Rejections Sound Like This Guy

Sun, 03 Aug 2025 00:38:04 GMT

Bella is literally in the middle of a text conversation to "break up" with a Tinder guy whom she has never met in person, and writes her final text to close the chapter. What followed was a phone call, text, three voice notes, and then a final text. Still, all respectful and appreciated, but it does show sometimes how difficult it may be for some to take no for an answer.

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What the F is a Pay Pig?

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 03:36:22 GMT

On this episode, we travel down the rabbit hole to explore the world of pay pigs and financial domination, including the psychological dynamics, ethical considerations, and societal perceptions surrounding these kinks. We eventually found ourselves building an AI character on an NSFW website to ask her about the possibility of World War 3.

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129 Ways to Get a Husband (in 1958)

Mon, 12 May 2025 04:10:57 GMT

Don't take a job in a company run by women. Be friendly to ugly men. If he is rich, tell him you like his money. 1958 was....different to say the least. Bella reads the 129 Ways to Get a Husband, then Melissa jumps in to fit as many 50s slang terms into the fictional conversation.

129 Ways to Get a Husband

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The dating and marriage side of Reddit is some hot tea

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 06:28:12 GMT

This was the first time I used AI to summarize the episode so I am curious as to how it will turn out...

In this conversation, Melissa and Bella explore various aspects of dating culture, relationships, and the challenges faced in American society. Throughout the discussion, they share personal anecdotes and insights, providing a humorous yet thought-provoking take on contemporary dating dynamics. In this conversation, Melissa and Bella explore various themes surrounding wealth, dating, and relationships. They discuss the subjective nature of wealth, the complexities of modern dating, and the importance of communication and boundaries in relationships. The conversation also touches on self-discovery, intimacy, and the challenges of maintaining attraction in long-term relationships, culminating in a humorous yet insightful discussion about a Reddit post regarding a husband's farting habits. In this conversation, Melissa and Bella delve into the complexities of relationships, focusing on themes of infidelity, sexual identity, and the importance of communication. They explore a scenario involving a husband using Grindr, discussing the implications of trust and boundaries in relationships.

IDK I think AI is doing too much....

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Research Wrap-Up: My Experiences on Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 16:10:24 GMT

After over a year on Tinder, Hinge, and Bumble trying the different features, going on dates, and learning how to put my foot down, it is finally time to consider this round of dating app research complete. These are my takeaways. Oh and a cautionary tale about checking the boxes of what you want in a partner rather than seeing the red flags for what they are...and a reminder that putting your foot down takes practice.

Next up, Melissa and I dig into lesser-known apps... Farmers Only, anyone?

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Reviewing Dating Horror Stories from TikTok

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 04:53:26 GMT

Have any bad dates lately? Hopefully they didn't go as bad as the ones we review on this episode.

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Sarcastic Banter with the guys from the Asked by Aliens Podcast

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 04:58:11 GMT

We don't talk about aliens.

(with the Asked by Aliens podcast)

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My Attempt at Improv on Asked by Aliens

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 14:09:09 GMT

New podcast alert! Asked by Aliens is the newest show on Cross the Streams Media network where guests get to make up a character and the hosts steer the conversation to some level of sanity - hopefully. Check out my guest appearance on the Asked by Aliens episode 158 - Listener Call-In on November 5, 2024, before the world might actually come to an end!

It’s Listener Call-In Night at Beyond Strange AM… or at least it was until an ACTUAL witch decided to crash the party. Can AP & Chase figure out where this “Jerri Poppins” (Big Time Fresh’s Bella Mars) came from and how they ended up at the studio door? Why does she keep talking about collecting children? Is she from the UK, Australia, America? Seriously, please tell us if you find out. Ep 158 Listener Call-In

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Bella and Melissa React: 80s Dating Video Service and Other Shockers

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 00:09:50 GMT

Did you know a microwave in the 80s was a flex? Or how about AI fails using some of the worst words out there? Bella and Melissa searched far and wide for some inappropriate, hilarious, and cringe from across the internet.

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Dating Profile First Impressions (and how to improve them)

Sun, 15 Sep 2024 20:13:21 GMT

Bella and Melissa continue the deep dive into Hinge and Tinder, reviewing bios and voice prompts that give off a terrible first impression. They provide some basic feedback on how it can be improved as well as general tips to make the profiles a little better.

Tinder and Hinge are not associated with this episode.

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High School Stories and Movie Trivia with The Boys (of the Movie Gap Podcast)

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 14:31:42 GMT

Bella brings on the guys from the Movie Gap podcast as they jump in the time machine back to high school and the chaos caused by these former theater nerds. These best friends are pitted against each other in a game of movie trivia, followed by some "interesting" music videos from Reily Reid and Joe Pesci that have not aged well.

Check out the Movie Gap podcast here and stay tuned for the new Cross the Streams Media podcast premiere, Asked by Aliens (coming soon)!

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Hinge voice prompts: The good, the "needs improvement", and the hilarious

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 00:20:42 GMT

In this conversation, Bella and Melissa discuss their experiences with Hinge profiles and play a game matching voice prompts to profiles. They discuss:

Voice prompts in dating profiles can give a better sense of a person's personality
Clear communication is important in dating profiles to avoid misunderstandings.
Positivity is important in dating profiles to attract potential matches.
Avoid negative experiences and accusations in dating profiles.
Beware of bots and spam on dating apps.
Communication and setting boundaries are crucial in relationships.

The full YouTube version will be out soon!

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We're baaack! Bad pick up lines and Tinder profiles

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 21:47:33 GMT

Bella and Melissa catch up after a few months hiatus starting with the strange sexual requests Bella received recently. To skip to the sections that don't need visuals, check out the timestamps below.

6:12 - Bad Pick-Up lines part 1

8:13 - Reviewing Tinder profiles to discuss the good, the bad, and the WTF. (No identities or bullying involved)

23:04 - Bad Pick-Up lines part 2

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Making friends is hard, so I'd rather not.

Tue, 26 Mar 2024 02:35:39 GMT

Friendships, relationships, language policing, being laid off, and work-life balance - adulting is hard. Bella and Melissa discuss their post-COVID personal lives and the isolation that can come from going through difficult times and the need to prioritize personal life over work.

Apologies for the audio quality! I will be back in the studio next week.

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Tina's Oddities: Bats, Sculls, and Teeth... Oh My

Wed, 13 Mar 2024 00:16:25 GMT

Tina's creepy collection may be scary for some, but we get to see them all and where they came from.

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The Superbowl and the Taylor Swift Effect

Wed, 28 Feb 2024 21:24:36 GMT

JP and Roberta are back after an eventful football season! The success of the Kansas City Chiefs and their potential as a dominant team in the future leads to a discussion about Tom Brady's retirement and his decision to come back and win another Super Bowl. From there, you know we must do a deep dive into the Taylor Swift effect on family dynamics, role models, inspiration, and personal growth. Taylor and Travis Kelce's very public relationship will be under immense pressure to be positive role models in how to handle negativity and criticism, boundaries, toxic masculinity, supportive relationships, public scrutiny, and judgment, and counter that with being the example of relationships full of appreciation and support, the importance of simple gestures, and the impact of toxic and fragile masculinity.

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Louthefather and Bella trade conspiracy theories

Thu, 15 Feb 2024 22:29:14 GMT

My good friend and artist/rapper Louthefather joins me to discuss the CRAZIEST conspiracies while we fight off a stalker in real time. Then we do a positive exercise to remind Lou of how far he's come and push him to keep going.

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New Swifties talking about Tay Tay and Travis Kelce

Tue, 16 Jan 2024 03:54:06 GMT

Lily and Bella cover Taylor Swift - favorite songs, The Eras Tour movie, "Catching Kelce" and Lily's reactions to seeing herself on the screen :)

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Breaking Down the Terrifying Off-Brand Laser Hair Removal Instructions

Fri, 29 Dec 2023 21:51:56 GMT

Bella and Melissa read real ChatGPT style instructions for the at-home, whole-body (but also not whole-body) off-brand laser hair removal kit that Bella bought herself for Christmas.

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The grossest horror movies and books that are too crazy to forget

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 01:03:10 GMT

Warning: Descriptive and Explicit Language used while disscussing content from the horror genre

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Emma Succubus, Horror Hound and Demonatrix gather for a read from Chandler Morrison's "Dead Inside" and Duncan Ralston's "Woom" before discussing the horror movies that you will not be able to forget.

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A selection of the best worst scary movies of all time

Fri, 27 Oct 2023 18:56:49 GMT

Emma Succubus with her two best growl pals, the demented dominatrix and gory Laurie Horrorhound submitted for the approval of the Midnight Snack Society, is today's episode of "Shh...Did you hear that?!"

The best worst scary movies in this episode:

Birdemic
Velocipastor
Rubber
Killer Klowns from Outer Space
Frankenhooker
The Nun 2

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Shh...Did You Hear That?!

Wed, 11 Oct 2023 01:08:56 GMT

Hello and welcome to a bonus episode on Big Time Fresh called Shh… Did you hear that?! hosted by Emma Succubus, Demonatrix, and Horror Hound. We are three horror, spooky, creepy crawly, supernatural, oddities, and true crime enthusiasts that met one day and decided “Let’s talk about what we love!”. Nobody here claims to be an expert in said things, but we make up for it in excitement and swear words!

In this episode, we go through 4 horror movies from 2023 that we felt are noteworthy and definitely worth discussing! We may veer off track at time or discuss topics you find boring. If that’s not for you, tell us what YOU would like to hear at: boo@bigtimefresh.com. Thank you for listening, supporting strong women, and please follow, like, and subscribe wherever you find us!

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Bella and Melissa Read the Responses from the Hinge Profile

Sun, 01 Oct 2023 21:51:29 GMT

Bella's Hinge awkward profile went live and resulted in some "likes" with some ...interesting... responses both written and voice. Melissa announces our new campaign to see if people want to hear their profile roasted in an episode. A phone call interrupts and the speakerphone causes problems.

Next up... a review of the men's POV of Hinge!

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Bella and Melissa Build a Hinge Profile

Thu, 14 Sep 2023 04:17:19 GMT

Bella and Melissa sign up for Hinge and build a profile based on Bella's pics. We answer some of the written prompts and have fun with the voice prompts as well.

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Seven Deadly Sins: ENVY

Sat, 26 Aug 2023 21:15:16 GMT

Is it ENVY or GREED? These two deadly sins have a lot in common. Roberta schools Bella and JP on ENVY and how we may be guilty of committing this sin more often than we think...

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Tinder Talk w/Bella & Melissa: Political and Gross Bios

Fri, 11 Aug 2023 07:20:24 GMT

Bella and Melissa are back! They are taking their talents back to the streets and mining for the craziest bios out there from politics to crazy disgusting. A few bios made a good impression, so they dissect what makes the profile format and flow of information rise to the top.

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Seven Deadly Sins: SLOTH

Mon, 07 Aug 2023 21:12:06 GMT

Boredom, laziness, or just not giving a f*** are only some of the ways that SLOTH is defined as one of the seven deadly sins. Roberta takes Bella and JP through the research for discussion.

*Sorry....Audio quality may be lower than usual for this one!

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The Tinder Bio Match Game

Sun, 16 Jul 2023 00:45:43 GMT

This episode was made for video for a visual component, but the commentary is all here! Bella and Melissa play "match that bio to the Tinder profile". Don't worry, we left faces and names out and chose different cities across the US. Then we go through the app store and found some 18+ apps that were quite eye opening. Profiles include: bragging about eggplants, submission holds, asian pen pals, failed comedy, cats and a "proud creator of 6 single moms".

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Seven Deadly Sins: PRIDE

Sun, 02 Jul 2023 04:08:09 GMT

Episode 3 of the Seven Deadly Sins mini-series. Roberta walks us through the good and the bad of real-world situations for PRIDE.

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F/Marry/Vote: Presidential Edition

Mon, 19 Jun 2023 17:46:14 GMT

F, Marry or Vote: Obama, Trump, and Biden.

You know the game. But we switched it up to avoid a visit from the FBI and used "vote" as the third option. We had a few scenarios to discuss, but the "tangent of the day" was Obama which took us down the rabbit hole to react to some SNL and Boyz II Men music videos.

Video Episode coming soon!

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Seven Deadly Sins: GREED

Wed, 07 Jun 2023 01:36:19 GMT

Episode 2 of 8: Roberta's research on everything from the origins to modern-day examples of GREED is discussed.

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Tinder Talk: Volume 2

Thu, 01 Jun 2023 18:09:23 GMT

Melissa analyzes Bella's Tinder profile pictures and bio before jumping into some feedback on other random biographies on what might be helpful to update for more matches. We also look at some crazy profile bios that get really...descriptive....But it's Bella's mindset on being single that is coming into question, and she is her own worst enemy when it comes to dating. I think the word is "projecting"...

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BONUS EPISODE: Dwayne Answers All My MCU and DC Questions

Fri, 19 May 2023 03:36:04 GMT

Dwayne answers all my current MCU and DC questions and how things compare to the comic books.

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Intro to Seven Deadly Sins

Thu, 11 May 2023 04:19:24 GMT

Bella, JP, and Roberta set off on a multi-episode discussion of the Seven Deadly Sins. This first episode sets us up for a deep dive into each sin.

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The Concept of "Me Time"

Thu, 11 May 2023 03:39:48 GMT

Bella, JP, and Roberta discuss "me time". We talk about the definition of "me time" and how differently we spend our time away and alone for some "me time".

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Hollywood Controversies and Cancelations Throughout the Years

Tue, 02 May 2023 00:39:50 GMT

Melissa and I talk showbiz offenses and the rules that have changed since the 2000s.

Comedy can be hard to defend for some, but for us, it is all about context. You can't cancel ALL the moments in pop culture that are definitely offensive today, but a movie from 2008 versus a movie released in 2023 has so many more rules to avoid the public backlash that could result in boycotts, apologies and broken endorsements. Some can be defended, others… definitely not. But as long as people learn and accept the changes to the rules in pop culture, we will be ok.

Watch the video version here!

We talk about:

Emma Stone's Role in Aloha

SNL Weekend Update

Michael Che's Intern Joke

Tropic Thunder

White Chicks

Wedding Planner

Australian Influencer's childhood animal cruelty

Chris Pratt Meme

Friends episode with Joey's tailor

Mr. Roger's farts

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BONUS EPISODE: Bye Bye Tucker and Don

Wed, 26 Apr 2023 05:00:09 GMT

Tucker Carlson and Don Lemon, two of the biggest on-air personalities at Fox and CNN, were both let go. One was mutual, the other not so much. So let's compare the news websites to see what each one is saying about the whole mess.

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Red Flags in Relationships

Mon, 24 Apr 2023 05:49:28 GMT

How old were you when you heard the word "Gaslighting"? Bella, JP, and Roberta explore the word "gaslighting" from our own perspective and talk about what we have learned about it over the years about the red flags we saw and missed along the way.

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Serial, Netflix, Horror Movies and The African Clawed Frogs

Mon, 17 Apr 2023 17:11:23 GMT

We catch up on the details of some murder cases that have come back to life and say goodbye to the African Clawed Frogs who have overstayed their welcome. Also we don't like Game of Thrones so we talk about that too.

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Artifical Intelligence - Scary or Not?

Sun, 09 Apr 2023 04:15:43 GMT

20 years ago, an average citizen thought Artificial Intelligence (AI) was something from a sci-fi movie that was a fictional portrayal of what the world will look like in our lifetimes. Today, workers from nearly all sectors that require valuable skill sets like writing, food service, and other industries are seeing their jobs succumb to some form of AI technology essentially cutting them out as the middleman. We aren't there just yet, but it seems to be moving way faster than it started. Bella and Melissa talk about Artificial Intelligence and how it is going to change the world as we know it. We hope you like it! Check out Bigtimefresh.com and follow us on Instagram:@bigtimefresh @bellaamars

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Marriage...What is it good for?

Mon, 03 Apr 2023 00:17:57 GMT

Three friends who got married in their early 20s discuss their current stages of divorce and have a deep conversation about the emotions - from guilt to strength to empathy. JP's cousin Roberta (a soon-to-be divorced single mom) joins Bella (a divorced for 5 years working single mom) and JP (a remarried dad) on a deep dive into how we feel about life today, what we would do differently, and what divorce feels like for the other person in the relationship. Check out the full conversation on the Big Time Fresh YouTube channel here! #relationships #relationship #divorce #relationshipadvice #marriageadvice #gaslighting #weddings Follow @BigTimeFresh on Instagram and check out BigTimeFresh.com for more content every week!

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The Tinder Experiment with Bella and Melissa Part 1: Bios are a MUST

Mon, 27 Mar 2023 01:21:19 GMT

Melissa and I discuss a selection of Tinder profiles and bust some myths on the quality of the bios. Yes, we read the bios.

Tinder verification: real or fake?
Constructive criticism of selected profiles
Suggestions for edits to improve guys profiles
Common themes across men's profiles
Random tangent: Zombie Squad role in a post-apocalyptic world

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Chris Rock - "Selective Outrage" and the Woke Society

Fri, 10 Mar 2023 04:17:39 GMT

Chris Rock made Netflix history with his highly anticipated stand-up special, "Selective Outrage", as the first comedy special to be streamed live on the platform. "Selective Outrage" was also highly anticipated for another reason - revisiting the infamous Oscar moment where Will Smith slapped Chris Rock.

It had everything to be expected from a Chris Rock stand-up special - good, bad and ugly. JP joins me for a conversation about the topics covered through the jokes, as well as the role of "woke" in today's world.

Apologies for the terrible mic! I'm getting a new one for the next episode.

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TikToker Phillip Good and Rockstar John Stella Make the List

Tue, 28 Feb 2023 07:39:30 GMT

Call it fate, a coincidence or pure luck, the collaboration between Phillip Good and John Stella on their new track "Simon Says" was the driving force that landed the track on #88 on the top #100 new releases on Apple Music. Understanding the importance of how to promote their music, networking and their consistency creating content is what will be what takes them to the top.

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Bella Reads Her Tinder Profile

Wed, 22 Feb 2023 04:31:34 GMT

It's been a little over a year since Bella had an active Tinder profile, so she downloads the app to see what she's been missing. Melissa enters the chat and gives the feedback she needs to hear.

Advice from our parents that we won't be passing down

Wed, 15 Feb 2023 04:40:55 GMT

New parents often reflect on their own childhoods when laying the foundation for what they want for their first born, taking the good and bad experiences to create a roadmap that leads to an emotionally stable and happy life. JP and I discuss what life advice we will pass down to the kids.

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BONUS EPISODE: Wix and Vibes Luxury Candles Brings Some New Valentine's Day Ideas

Tue, 07 Feb 2023 07:00:45 GMT

Melvin Johnson, CEO Candle Maker at Wix and Vibes joins me to talk about how to level up your Valentine’s Day with the limited edition box set perfect for a romantic experience like no other. It has been less than two years since the inception of Wix and Vibes, and they have already established partnerships with Nordstrom, relationships with non-profit organizations in the Houston area, and found a niche market of celebrities and athletes including James Harden who can’t get enough of the Wix and Vibes luxury candles.

Visit their website to order the Valentine's Day box: https://wixandvibes.com/

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Melissa and I think we are hilarious

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 06:00:46 GMT

"Did we just become best friends?!"

I've known Tony for 20 years but his wife is my new favorite gal pal. We talk about:

Us being banned a bunch of times for Facebook comments
Meeting mom friends but then things get weird
We create a new character that is a real estate agent that thinks he can win fights, isn't afraid of blood but is afraid of the dark and a bunch of cool things
Texas vs. Florida
Robots
Day Drinking with Seth and Lizzo
New careers: Ancient Alien Theorist and Paranormal Sketch Artist
Roasting Tony because Melissa forgot that he was at her parent's house for 40 minutes

Its one of those conversations where we go back and forth to make each other laugh. So there's a bunch of laughing.

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Mental Health with JP part 2 - 2023's Self-Improvement resolutions

Tue, 10 Jan 2023 21:53:13 GMT

Mental Health with JP part 2 - 2023's New Year's Self-Improvement resolutions

The part 2 of 2 episode revisiting last year's observations of what needs improvement in our lives so we have the goals to keep each other accountable for, We touch on:

Damar Hamlin - The wake up call we all needed
Moments in pop culture that were a big deal
Personal wins and losses in 2022
Which areas in your life we will focus on next year
Personal development
Parenting flaws

Big Time Fresh, Bella Mars and JP are not professional mental health professionals, so the suggestions are based on personal experience. To the listeners: a certified mental health counselor/therapist etc. is where you should start.

For more information on Mental Health, here are a list of resources:

https://mhanational.org/

https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

MentalHealth.Gov - Get Help Now

Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org

Veterans Crisis Line

Dial 988 then press 1

Text 838255

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Mental Health, Imposter Syndrome and Words that Destroy Families

Sun, 01 Jan 2023 00:49:25 GMT

With the most drastic changes to lives in recent years - lockdowns, job loss, school shootings and other topics - taking care of your mental health is more important than ever.

JP and I talk about our individual lives and the dark days that brought us to the breaking point where mental health became a priority. Divorce, foreclosure, job loss, death of family members and a bunch of life events can be easier to deal with when spaced out, but when compacted back to back, we talk about how it changed the way we looked at the world.

I wish everyone a very happy new year! 2023 is here.

For more information on Mental Health, here are a list of resources:

https://mhanational.org/

https://www.mentalhealth.gov/

MentalHealth.Gov - Get Help Now

Call or text 988 or chat 988lifeline.org

Veterans Crisis Line

Dial 988 then press 1

Text 838255

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Blue State, Red State, My Take, Your Take

Fri, 02 Dec 2022 05:41:20 GMT

As two former Californians, JP and I discuss our stance on guns now that we live in deep red states. After 25 years of friendship, we talk about a subject that we probably wouldn't even consider relevant if we stayed in California. Unchecked mental health undoubtedly plays a part in how young people decide to use their firearm, so we also talk about the ways we are raising our kids so that mental health is a key component of their development.

Quick caveat: Neither of us are fully educated on the specific details of what we talk about so if it sounds wrong, you are probably right :)

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JP IZ my abandonment therapist

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:18:50 GMT

What happens when the ones you count on to be there for you decide to leave the decades of good times, memories and promises of best friends forever without warning or reason? My friend of over 20 years joins me as we talk about the paths we embarked upon after high school and the lows, highs, achievements, loss, love and the reality of expectations. More importantly, we get into how what we separately thought what was rock bottom actually was the step that changed life for the better.

Thanks JP for being my (unofficial) therapist for the episode!

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Abuse, Trafficking, Assault and Neglect in Texas Foster Care Will Only Get Worse After Abortion Bans

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:18:48 GMT

The subject matter that is referenced in this article may cause distress or discomfort to some sensitive topics around child trauma, abuse, neglect, assault and other potentially triggering information. Reader discretion advised.

With the overturn of Roe v. Wade, the implications are catastrophic on so many levels. If the baby is born to a mother under the age of 13, how will she legally work? Does this mean the grandmother is given custody? What if the grandmother is unstable? If a 15 year old can't work, doesn't have a place to live, can't pay for diapers, electricity, water or food then where does that life that began at conception go?

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Roads? Where we're going, we don't need roads.

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:18:46 GMT

Ricky joins me to talk about my strategies on how I help musicians and artists get out of the negative self-doubt and celebrate their progress.

But for the two of us....Are we successful or are we just adequate at checking off the boxes on the to-do list that we think makes us successful? For both of us, it took our rock bottom experiences to realize that there may not be a definition or end game. For the ambitious or the serial lifestyle changers who don't see success in their life it might be time to think again.

Also we talk about how comedians are supposed to be offensive, why I am scared to do live streams and my story of the string of bad life choices that everyone supported at the time. And general banter that gets outta hand as per usual.

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Life is Grape...Soda Henderson

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:18:38 GMT

Rapper/singer/songwriter GrapeSoda Henderson talk hustle, drive and hip-hop trivia. I've been working as his manager/publicist for a few years now so we take a look back at the past, present and future of his career and the skills that can make or break an artist's success in the industry.

Check him out on:

Instagram: @thtgrapesodaboy

Facebook: /LifeIsGRAPEsoda

Merch: lifeisgrapeclothingcompany.com

YouTube: Villa Vibez

And all music streaming platforms!

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The 27 Club

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:18:37 GMT

On this episode, Bella and Ricky run through the list of the infamous 27 Club members and talk about how fentanyl, heroin, and weed affect substance abuse. Then we watch the Stanger Things Master of Puppets scene right after a heated discussion about why I get scared at the movies which then evolves into an argument about the definition of danger.

This episode is dedicated to the late legendary musician and drummer, Taylor Hawkins.

"Foo Fighters together with the Hawkins family have teamed up with Paramount to take their all-star celebration of the memory and music of a rock legend worldwide: Paramount will present the September 3rd Taylor Hawkins Tribute Concert live to the world from Wembley Stadium in its entirety". -Foofighters.com

If you need help with addiction or substance abuse, call SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357)

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Stop Pushing My Buttons

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:18:30 GMT

My friend of 18 years Ricky Vorias joins me to discuss music, politics and other things as we go from deep conversations to debates with the goal of annoying me. He succeeds so I annoy him with random facts about the band Queen.

Here is a breakdown of the conversations:

Pick up the conversation in progress - start

Friends with benefits in your 30s - 5m10s

Noise Complaints past midnight 10m30s

Complaining about the process of making music - 13m50s

Music is business, not for the love of music - 18m20s

Requirements for holding political office - 22m25s

Civil War - 25m20s

Failed attempt to play a music game - 27m30s

Stranger Things (minor spoiler alert) - 29m00s

Shows to watch, Things to Listen to - 31m04s

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She Get it From Her Mama

Wed, 16 Nov 2022 03:15:03 GMT

On this very first episode of BTF, I ask my mom all the questions I've never asked about her time as a lead singer in a classic rock cover band with my dad. From touring across the country to making $1,500 a weekend, we talk about how the early 80s were part of the good ol days where musicians actually got paid.

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