A lot of people have a hard time “turning of their thoughts” and fear that because of this they
cannot experience hypnosis. In reality, “turning off our thoughts” is impossible. Like a fish
swims in water, people swim in thoughts. During this session you will think, you mind may drift, you may even remember something important that you don’t want to forget later, or get an idea. You do not have stress about whether this will keep you from experiencing hypnosis, it is actually a part of hypnosis. What I will be doing in this session is not having you ‘shut off the mind” -- that would be impossible, but rather, learning how to not follow a thought and just let it be a thought without becoming entangled in it.

This session is designed to teach you how to sleep. Perhaps your sleep difficulties come from
sensitivity to light, noises, stress, or even your sleep partner’s movements. It is amazing, but the mind actually has the ability to learn how to tune out these distractions and even use them as sleep cues to reinforce healthy sleep patterns.

 Do you want change in your life? Do you want to be able to bring life to the depression your
sleeplessness has brought you? Do you want to set aside the anxieties of the day and see your
life in a new way? Are you ready for peaceful nights of profound rest and to wake up in the
morning feeling your very best?

Then let’s begin!

As you relax in the chair where you are, make sure that you prepare for this time switching off any digital devices. By focussing  solely on this session, you will get the most benefit and discover new pathways for deep and relaxing sleep.

Dr. Celeste Fabrie
 
 

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The short answer is yes, real men meditate!

Mindfulness has been proven to reduce stress and anxiety as well as help you become more productive in your life (by focusing on the present). By practising mindfulness, men can learn how to deal with emotions such as anger or sadness rather than suppressing them which results in feelings of depression or isolation.

Mindfulness can be a very powerful tool for men to use, especially when it comes to improving your life. One of the many benefits that mindfulness can have is helping you cope with difficult emotions and negative thoughts.

 There is a lot of talk about mindfulness for women but it can also benefit men. Men have to deal with stress in their everyday lives. Work, family life and a wide selection of responsibilities and worries all contribute to stress in men. Stress over long periods of time can cause all sorts of mental and physical health problems.

 Men tell you what is on their minds, but not what is in their heart,” – I have had a lot of experience with male psychology and one of the biggest issues with my male patients was the word PURPOSE in Life.

Most of their problems started after they had lost their jobs, had major relationship problems, are a  war veteren, serious accidents, loss of face, huge life setbacks, going on pension, not having hobbies, interests, strong frienship circle etc. 

Once that „purpose“ for example, worker, husband, father, sportsman etc  was taken away from them then their real troubles started.

 Not coincidentally, boys and men commit the vast majority of violent acts, from domestic violence, to murder. Many struggle with expressing empathy and compassion.

The problem does not seem to center on mindfulness. 

Men practice high levels of mindfulness in a variety of arenas in our society. At military boot camps and police academies, men learn to control their breathing and focus on a target before firing a weapon. Sports are a great training ground for mindfulness: Basketball players are taught to clear their mind by going through a routine when shooting a free throw. Being in “the zone” is active meditation in its highest form.

Notice, however, that in all of these mindfulness practices, compassion is removed from the equation. These boys and men are being trained for win-or-lose competition. “It has been historically dangerous for a man to be vulnerable,” or a pussy. Men’s resistance to explore interior emotions like compassion is the result of hundreds of years of conditioning.

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Many of my clients and patients ask me this question.
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yfcd4oRHBKo

Buddhist meditation was designed not to make us happier, but to radically change our sense of self and perception of the world.

In terms of the modern mindfulness movement, the real difference is that Buddhist meditation happens in an overall context, the noble eightfold path, which gives the practice depth and meaning. Without such a context, mindfulness is still useful, but is more like a healthy mental exercise than a true spiritual path.

What is the Noble Eightfold Path simplified?

The Fourth Noble truth charts the method for attaining the end of suffering, known to Buddhists as the Noble Eightfold Path. The steps of the Noble Eightfold Path are Right Understanding, Right Thought, Right Speech, Right Action, Right Livelihood, Right Effort, Right Mindfulness and Right Concentration.

 Mindfulness is, however, a specialty of Buddhism. Buddha himself referred to it as “the path to enlightenment.

Do all Buddhists do “mindfulness practice”?

Many Buddhists do specifically undertake practices meant to cultivate mindfulness. Others may not, but it’s fair to say that the lion’s share of Buddhist practices help produce in us a greater sense of awareness and connection to the people and world around us. The very name “Buddha,” after all, means “Awakened One.”

What are the “Four Foundations of Mindfulness?

The Four Foundations of Mindfulness, as taught by the historical Buddha and ever since, are key things that we should practice being mindful of. These are: our bodies, our feelings, our minds themselves, and phenomena / the world around us. By training in mindfulness of these four foundations, we see, more and more, how all of these things really are, outside from our conceptual ideas of them. Training in the four foundations of mindfulness is training in seeing reality with more clarity and equanimity.

We suffer, according to Buddhism, not because there’s anything inherently wrong with us but simply because we misunderstand the nature of reality. Buddhist practice helps us come to terms with reality by cultivating our awareness of the “three characteristics of experience,” also known as “the three marks of existence.”

These are: impermanence, suffering, and insight—words that will likely be familiar to anyone who’s read about Buddhism more than a little. Contemplating them, can help liberate us from fear and suffering. Living mindfully and with concentration, we see a deeper reality and are able to witness impermanence without fear, anger, or despair.”

Dr. Celeste Fabrie

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 Mindfulness is a type of meditation in which you focus on being intensely aware of what you're sensing and feeling in the moment, without interpretation or judgment. Practicing mindfulness involves breathing methods, guided imagery, and other practices to relax the body and mind and help reduce stress. Join me on this relaxing  cosmic journey listening to the soothing backround music and beautiful symphony of pictures.  You will feel completely relaxed and full of positive energy after this 20 minute "Cosmic" mindfullness training.

 The 8 Pillars of Mindfulness

     1: Attention & the Now. A core component of mindfulness practices, is focusing attention 

        on the present moment. ...

    2: Automaticity. ...

    3: Judgment. ...

    4: Acceptance. ...

    5: Goals. ...

    6: Compassion. ...

    7: The Ego. ...

    8: Integration.

 Origin of Mindfulness

 Mindfulness originated from ancient eastern and Buddhist philosophy and dates back around 2500 years. The concept of mindfulness was introduced to the western world by Jon Kabat-Zinn.

We can think of mindfulness as two parts: attention and curiosity. Attention means that we take time to focus our attention and awareness on physical sensations, thoughts that come up, or the environment around us.

 The practice of mindfulness meditation is gaining popularity in the business world. It's gained interest because it changes the wiring and makeup of our brains; allowing us to better manage stress and anxiety.

 Mindfulness and meditation are mirror-like reflections of each other: mindfulness supports and enriches meditation, while meditation nurtures and expands mindfulness. ... Mindfulness is the awareness of “some-thing,” while meditation is the awareness of “no-thing.”

 Dr. Celeste Fabrie - Psychologist

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But first of all I would like to explain as a Psychologist how I became involved in this continuous and rather controversial debate with the Cannabis Industry and the many interesting characters who support this strongly growing movement worldwide: From medical, legal, political, religious and businessmen to name a few.

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Assume a comfortable position. Shut your eyes as you start to relax. Take in a deep breath, now breathe out, emptying your lungs entirely. And once again. Take full deep breaths, never strained or rushed.

Breathe in strength, breathe out tension. Carry on to relax. Take full deep breaths. Allow your breathing to discover its own natural, unhurried pace. And as ideas enter your mind, allow them to go without attachment.

As you sink into comfort and relaxtion, see yourself enjoying a waterfall of sunlight and crystal water.

As the sun and water cascade over your body, you absorb the healing oxygen carried inside your blood vessels through your whole system.

The oxygen heals and releases the holding contraction of each muscle. Every muscle becomes taffy… soft and pliable.

All tension gives way to easiness. The cascade of sunlight reminds you of the source of all energy.

Your whole being sings with release and renewal as the source refuels and strengthens your body and spirit.

In healingall is possible. As you heal your spirit and body your gifts to the universe emerge. The healing vision of cascading sunshine and water is yours whenever you want it to be.

Your breathing is unstrained. Relax your toes and feet. Relax your ankles and knees. Relax your leg muscles. Your breathing is deep and relaxing. Relax your fingers and hands. Loosen up your wrists and elbows. Relax your arms.

Your breathing is slow and peaceful. Feel your feet and legs get heavy and warm. Feel your hands and arms get warm and heavy. Simply breathe as your thoughts come and go.

Center on your breathing. Let go of tension as your body falls into a state of peaceful quiet. Unclench your jaw. Relax your face and let go of your tongue. Your heartbeat and breathing are serene and steady. Your breathing is relaxed. Void your mindof all thoughts. Your abdomen is soft and warm, your limbs are heavy and warm.

Watch your thoughts come and go like clouds in the sky. Your hands are warm, your forehead is cool, and your breathing is deep and relaxed. Feel your breath sink lower and lower into your lungs. As your shoulders drop, feel your breath fill the upper part of your chest. You’re relaxed and peaceful.

Your breathing is deep and relaxed. Warm hands, cool forehead. Empty your lungs totally. Hear the silence grow as your mind hushes. You are relaxed, calm, and centered. Your heart rate and breathing are calm and steady. Warm hands, cool forehead. Your breathing is deep and relaxed. Enjoy the quiet.

When you know it is time to leave this place, begin to return. Let your breathing bring you back. Gently take a couple of deep breaths. Pause a moment. Remember one last time that you can return to this place any time you wish. It may only be for a moment, but it will remind you of the sense of peacethat’s yours.

Open your eyes. Feel the goodness of the meditation for a few moments.

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Lying, on one hand, refers to telling someone something that is not accurate. In this sense, it is either verbal or written. Deception, on the other hand, is much broader. It usually refers to causing someone to believe something false as the truth. But both can leave a path of destruction behind them.

 I am going to begin my discussion with just 5 questions.

1.       When was the last time someone lied to you?

2.       How many times can you recall a close friend or partner who has lied to you?

3.       Do you feel sad, disgusted or helpless when you are lied to continuously?

4.       When somone lies to you, do you tell them this or do you just shrug it off?

5.       Have relationships been ruined because of lies and deception?

The fact is, why do we often accept lies as been part of human nature? Why don’t we just address those people with their own lies? Many of us do not know how to recognise those signs of behaviour and often fall victim to all kinds of manipulation tactics and devious conduct.

I will briefly explain my background as to why I am doing this podcast today.

 Introduction

My job as a  psychologist and criminologist (profiling) often overlap each other. In fact both professions really are beneficial  to understand your client, patient and generally speaking most people we come into contact with on a daily basis either privately or in business.

My profession entails making accurate decisions based on facts from criminal, military, police and psychological records etc. How often have I sat in front of prisoners and have been told „I am innocent and should not be sitting here“. How often have I had dealings with lawyers and doctors who could lie the „hind legs off a donkey!“  Then there were the soldiers wanting to end their services in one way or the other and try to convince us professionals that they had psychological disorders. Strangely enough PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) was one of the most common.

When it comes to pathological liars, it is observed that people who have an antisocial personality disorder (APD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) indulge in lying. A pathological liar is often goal-oriented (i.e., Very focused in order to get their way.). They are the most  challenging of patient and client to expose! They often create a great amount of destruction in their paths.

The list is long and each one of us have had to deal with family, colleagues, bosses, friends etc. But in my profession it is important to read the verbal and non-verbal behaviour of our clients and patients as well as keep a clear conscious facing dilemmas of all kinds and also human tragedies that people are faced with and where deception is their only way out to feeding their families or survival against all odds.

The digital world has created unfortunately a breeding ground for deceptive practices. Social media platforms encourage this phenomenal development much to the detriment of mental health. We are social creatures wanting to be part of the big picture but at what price?

I have been asked several times if men are bigger liars than women. A study has found that men don’t just rank higher than women in terms of how often they lie – they also consider themselves better liars. This is according to researchers from the University of Portsmouth. Men were more than twice as likely to consider themselves expert liars who got away with it.

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 I will be talking about the loss or losses in your life and the recognition of the pain that one suffers. This is not just an average podcast today but a very deep thinking matter which all of us encounter or have encountered in our lives and are still having to face the emotional or devastational consequences. 

But you are not alone out there. There are many of us who have o rare going through these emotional, spiritual and physical pains and are seeking comfort with those who understand the deep pains and sufferings that we are experiencing. This is why I have dedicated this special podcast to all of you to comfort you in those hours of grief.

 “No one ever told me that grief felt so like fear.” “You care so much you feel as though you will bleed to death with the pain of it.” “Only people who are capable of loving strongly can also suffer great sorrow, but this same necessity of loving serves to counteract their grief and heals them.”

 Let us begin with a short description about loss and what it means in context. When we undergo grief, we are confronting a natural emotional response to the loss of someone close, such as a family membe, friend, partner, animal or a job. Grief can also occur after a serious illness, a divorce or other significant losses. Grief often involves intense sadness, and sometimes feelings of shock, numbness or even denial and anger.

There are proven cases when a long term partner has died that the other dies soon afterwards from a broken heart. This phenomena also takes place in the animal kingdom. Some of you might have heard about a canary parter who mourns her or his mate and suddenly dies a few days later.

Although losing someone close is a highly personal life event, most of us tend to share the same range of emotions and reactions. Realising that these feelings are normal can help you get through such a difficult time. Below you will find four of the more common emotional effects of bereavement.

Of course, every one of us is different, and so, the way we cope with grief will differ greatly. The important thing to remember is that the feeling won’t last forever. Over time, you will come to understand these feelings and know what you need to do to manage them.

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What Are the Stages of Grief?

• Denial: When you first learn of a loss, it’s normal to think, “This isn’t happening.” You may feel shocked or numb. This is a temporary way to deal with the rush of overwhelming emotion. It’s a defense mechanism.
• Anger: As reality sets in, you’re faced with the pain of your loss. You may feel frustrated and helpless. These feelings later turn into anger. You might direct it toward other people, a higher power, or life in general. To be angry with a loved one who died and left you alone is natural, too.
• Bargaining: During this stage, you dwell on what you could’ve done to prevent the loss. Common thoughts are “If only…” and “What if…” You may also try to strike a deal with a higher power.
• Depression: This is a sadness which sets in as you begin to understand the loss and its effect on your life. Signs of depression will include crying, sleep disturbances, and a decreased appetite. You may feel overwhelmed, regretful, and lonely.
• Acceptance: In this final stage of grief, you accept the reality of your loss. It can’t be changed. Although you still feel sad, you’re able to start moving forward with your life. 

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This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change. 

Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything to earn the appreciation of those around you, but it’s a boost that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health. 

When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you. 

If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you. 

That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love. You will know how precious you are. 

The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else. 

There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment. 

The more you stay involved with people who use you as a pillow, a background option or a therapist for emotional healing, the longer you stay away from the community you want. 

Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it. This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life. 

The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence. 

When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen. 

You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else. Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed. 

You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favours you have granted. It’s your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve. 

Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.
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Aber die wichtigsten Lebenslektionen habe ich von meinen großartigen Eltern erhalten: Sie waren das YIN und YANG meiner Erziehung.

Mein Vater war eine Sportskanone und meine Mutter der sanfte Energiefluss des Spirituellen und die Elastizität der Bewegung in allem, was sie tat oder berührte. Eine unglaubliche Lebenskraft aus Yoga, Meditation und afrikanischer Medizin. Sie sprach die einheimische Zulu-Sprache so fließend, wie es nur wenige Europäer während der Zeit des Apartheid-Regimes beherrschte.

Meine erste harte Lektion im Leben, noch bevor ich laufen konnte, war, als mein Vater, ein Tiefseetaucher, mich in den Indischen Ozean warf. Er wollte mich dazu bringen, in dem von Haien verseuchten Wasser auf natürliche Weise zu schwimmen! Sein unglaublicher Instinkt wusste, dass es für seine kleine Tochter sicher war. Sein selbstgebauter Haifischspeer lag immer auf dem Boot bereit. 

Und das war der Beginn meiner Ausbildung in den alten Traditionen der Kampfkünste, der japanischen Katana-Schwertkunst, der Meditation, des Yoga, des Qigong, des Tai-Chi in all seinen wunderbaren und spirituellen Formen. Mir wurde beigebracht, wie man einen Speer selbst herstellt, wie man die alten Kunstfertigkeiten des Katana-Schwerts übt, wie man Bambusstäbe unterschiedlicher Länge und Größe für Koordination und Konzentration verwendet. Mein Vater war ein Karatemeister des zweiten Dan und ein Pionier des Tiefseetauchens und Speerfischens. 

Meine Mutter wiederum war meine Mentorin und eine leidenschaftliche Meisterin in der Kunst des Yoga und der Meditation. Diese erstaunlichen Qualitäten in Verbindung mit meinem Beruf als Psychologin beziehen jeden Aspekt des Mentalen, Physischen und Spirituellen in den Heilungsprozess der Probleme meiner Klienten ein.

Ich trainiere täglich bei Regen, Wind und Sonnenschein, um meine Fähigkeiten und Stärken zu verbessern. Die Wetterelemente sind nicht mein Feind, sondern meine Motivation und Disziplin.  Man könnte praktisch sagen, dass ich seit über 50 Jahren Qigong praktiziere, indem ich die Technik entwickelt oder die alten Formen von vor 5000 Jahren modifiziert habe, indem ich die bestehenden Archive der Vergangenheit studierte. 

Es gibt nicht die eine perfekte Qigong-Denkschule, sondern viele verschiedene Institutionen oder andere Schulen auf der ganzen Welt, die ihre Art der Qigong-Lehre anbieten.

 Am Ende ist es eine individuelle Entscheidung, solange man die allgemeinen Grundlagen der korrekten Atemtechniken, Pferdestellungen oder Mabu befolgt, den Willen zum Erfolg hat und dann sein solides Haus Stein für Stein aufbaut, bis man mit seinem Fortschritt zufrieden ist. Es ist ein nie endender Prozess, der nie endet. Das ist es, was Qigong so besonders macht. "Wir wissen, dass das Dach unseres Hauses nie fertig wird." Das mag viele am Anfang frustrieren.  Ich bezeichne dies als Arbeit in Hinblick auf das Nirvana, einen Ort oder einen Zustand, in dem man in Frieden oder vollkommen glücklich mit sich selbst ist.

Mit dieser darauf, dass ich meine Erfahrung und meine Leidenschaft mit allen Altersgruppen teilen kann. Aber es erfordert Disziplin und regelmäßiges, hartes Training, um den Körper in Schwung zu halten.

Und deshalb ist es für mich das schönste und aufregendste Vergnügen, diese Leidenschaft und meine südafrikanische Erfahrung mit anderen zu teilen. Es ist so beglückend, zu sehen und zu spüren, wie sich meine Klienten in Richtung eines Besseren, positiveren und gesünderen Lebens entwickeln.

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But the most important life lessons were taught to me by my incredible parents: they were the YIN and YANG of my upbringing.

My father was a sports whiz and my mother the softer energy flow of the spiritual and the elasticity of movement in everything she did or touched. An incredible life force of yoga, meditation and African medicine. She spoke the local Zulu language with a fluency that very few Europeans could speak during that period of the Apartheid regime.

My first rough lesson in life, before I could walk, was when my father, a deep sea spear diver, threw me into the Indian Ocean. He was trying to get me to swim naturally in the shark-infested water! His incredible instincts knew it was safe for his young daughter. His homemade spear was always ready from the boat. 

And that was the beginning of my training in the ancient traditions of martial arts, Japanese Katana Sword skills, meditation, yoga, qigong, tai chi in all its wonderful and spiritual forms. I was taught how to make a homemade spear, how to practice the ancient skills of the Katana Sword, how to use bamboo sticks of different lengths and sizes for coordination and concentration. My father was a second dan karate master and a pioneer in deep sea diving and spear fishing. 

My mother, in turn, was my mentor and a passionate teacher in the art of yoga and meditation. These amazing qualities combined with my profession as a psychologist involve every aspect of the mental, physical and spiritual in the healing process of my clients' problems. 

I train daily in rain, wind and sunshine to enhance my skills and strengths. The weather elements are not my enemy, but my motivation and discipline.  One could practically say that I have been doing Qigong for well over 50 years developing the technique or modifying the ancient forms from 5000 years ago by studying the existing archives of the past. 

There is not one perfect Qigong school of thought, but many different institutions or schools around the world who offer their kind of Qigong Teachings.

 It is at the end an individual choice so long as one follows the general basics of correct breathing techniques, horse-stances or Mabu, the will to succeed and then build your solid house brick by brick until you are happy with your progress. It is a never-ending process which never ends. This is what makes Qigong so special. „We know that the roof of our house never gets to be built.“ This might frustrate many at the beginning.  I refer to this as working towards Nirvana; a place or state of being in peace or complete happiness with yourself.

I encourage my clients with this philosophy to work towards the healing process to balance mind, body and spirit with each other.

This form of health promotion can be practiced at all stages of life, no matter how old you are, whether you are fat or thin. I am 60 years old and am proud that I can share my experience and passion with all ages. But it takes discipline and hard training on a regular basis to keep the body in tune.

 And this is why  it is the most beautiful and most exciting pleasure for me to share this passion as well as my South African experience with others. It is so exhilirating to witness and feel my clients improvement towards a better, more positive and healthier life.

This book depicts only a sample of some of the amazing choreography which Qigong has to offer.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cXA67l3kkSk

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