Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This is the podcast where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me.’ We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.

Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears and let’s get started!

What happens when you leave a secure job, build a business around the work you actually care about, and then realise the workplace structure that used to hold you up is gone?

This week, Jayne flips the script and interviews Callie about what it’s really like to become a neurodivergent entrepreneur. They talk about the hidden executive functioning cost of working for yourself, why client work gets done while the business-building stuff gets pushed aside, and the strategies Callie is using to stay afloat, including separating what’s critical from what’s merely important, celebrating small wins, and creating somewhere to put the side quests.

Timestamps:

00:00 Intro

03:43 Jayne’s eye emergency and medical dismissal

09:39 Neurodivergence, healthcare bias, and the medical passport idea

14:11 Productive recovery weekend, and the floordrobe clean-out

17:14 TEDx news and neurodivergence in aged care

20:02 Should you leave your job to become an entrepreneur?

20:53 Why Callie left a secure government role

23:00 The real challenge of working for yourself

25:06 Why workplace structure matters more than you think

27:30 Client work vs business-building

29:06 Are ADHDers more suited to entrepreneurship?

30:32 Mask switching, family life, and the pressure of doing everything yourself

33:24 School holidays

34:22 Things that used to work but don’t anymore

42:58 Strategies that are helping now

51:08 Why it was still worth it

59:08 Wrap-up

If you’re an AuDHD or ADHD adult wondering whether to leave your job, build something of your own, or just trying to understand why everything feels harder without external structure, this one is for you.

Got a question, story or hot take? Email us at fthemfish@gmail.com.

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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Hello, hello, and welcome to F Them Fish: AuDHD for Grownups with your neurodivergent besties, Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne Gurton. This is the podcast where we talk about neurodivergence in real adult life: work, relationships, burnout, overwhelm, identity, and all the weird little things that make you think, ‘surely it’s not just me.’ We’re honest, occasionally sweary, and very much not interested in pretending to be polished.

Grab a beverage, or body double some life admin with us in your ears and let's get started!

In this week's episode, Callie and Jayne deep dive the podcast phenomenon 'Beth's Dead' - a limited series true crime podcast, all about parasocial relationships gone wrong.

More importantly, why is this relevant to neurodivergence? We will tell you with the help of some of our listener questions.

Timestamps

00:00 – Producer Callie says Hi

00:50 – Intro

04:33 – Last week’s homework and why Beth’s Dead got assigned

07:29 – What Beth’s Dead is about, plus spoiler warning

08:45 – Full recap of the podcast setup and the Beth storyline

12:18 – What a parasocial relationship actually is

14:20 – Beth was never real

15:04 – First reactions: gripping story or obvious manipulation?

15:55 – Boundaries, emotional emails, and where podcast hosts can get out of their depth

17:14 – The investigation: IP addresses, the professor theory, and the big phone call

19:36 – Callie’s theory: this never happened

21:41 – Jayne’s hesitation, the real expert moment, and why she’s less certain

23:42 – Why Callie still thinks key parts do not ring true

26:52 – Does it actually matter if the story was real, if it was well told?

27:53 – Listener question: when does a parasocial relationship stop being comforting and start being bad for your brain?

33:10 – Listener question: are neurodivergent people more vulnerable to intense online dynamics?

42:38 – Listener conspiracy theory corner

44:19 – Why this whole thing matters for neurodivergence

44:47 – Curiosity, needing receipts, and getting kicked out of class for too many questions

45:45 – Wrap-up, contact details, and next episode tease

Links

https://www.patreon.com/cw/BethsDead - listen to Beth's Dead

https://www.instagram.com/nobodyslisteningright/ - follow Elizabeth and Any on Instagram - tell them we sent you (they won't have a clue who we are!)

https://www.instagram.com/armchairexppod/ - follow Monica Padman's podcast

Connect

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Send your stories and questions to FThemFish@gmail.com

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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This week starts with Easter camping, mini golf, belly dancing, faffing, and a genuinely cursed run-in with paralysis ticks… then gets unexpectedly deep. Jayne shares a powerful realisation about the idea of being “enough” after years of feeling either too much or not enough, and together we unpack masking, self-worth, fibro fog, apologising for existing, and what it means to be the right amount of you.

Then Callie goes full truth-bomb on the neurodivergent drive for efficiency, why inefficiency can feel physically painful, and how leaving traditional work has exposed just how much executive function can be quietly held up by workplace structure. If you’ve ever looked high-functioning on the outside while privately relying on guard rails to keep life moving, this episode will probably hit a nerve. In a good way. Also, yes, there is a side quest about pink flip phones.

Timestamps

00:10 Welcome

00:48 Belly dance teacher era, camping, and post-holiday faffing

03:30 Paralysis ticks, dog panic, and Australia's hostile wildlife

07:31 Fibro flare-ups and the first big question: what does 'enough' even mean?

10:32 Why 'enough' is a social construct built around masking

16:02 Fibro fog, apologising for your brain and body, and self-protection

17:36 The perfect amount of Jayne, the perfect amount of Callie, and flexible authenticity

22:49 The relentless itch for efficiency and why inefficiency feels painful

29:07 Pink Motorola flip phones and the chaos of changing systems

31:37 Leaving structured work and suddenly confronting executive function failures

37:29 Homework: go binge Beth’s Dead before next week

Get in touch

Got a question, story, or hot take for the pod? Email us at fthemfish@gmail.com

Find us on socials @fthemfish_AuDHDforgrownups

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This week is pure listener-chaos in the best possible way. We asked for your stories and you absolutely delivered. We’re talking panic-bought concert tickets, masking too hard on first dates, accidentally sending a spicy text to the wrong person, rejection sensitivity turning a delayed reply into a full cheating scandal, and the very specific experience of wanting someone right up until they like you back. We also get briefly obsessed with Miranda Hart, blow bubbles for World Bipolar Day, and once again prove that this podcast is excellent body-doubling audio for laundry, dishes, or whatever life admin you’ve been avoiding. Questionable advice, strong opinions, and a lot of feeling very seen.

Timestamps

00:01 Intro

01:02 Jayne’s new favourite book: Miranda Hart and feeling deeply seen

06:05 Bubbles for World Bipolar Day

08:14 We get into your listener questions

09:55 ADHD tax: panic-bought concert tickets and a man who now breathes too loudly

15:01 Masking on first dates and when the truth is actually 14 half-finished moisturisers

18:47 Weird-smelling water bottles, crying, and an accidental detour into hygiene standards

20:35 The spicy text sent to the wrong person from school pick-up

22:31 Rejection sensitivity, delayed replies, Bunnings, and the imaginary second family with a yacht

29:02 Why some of us love people until they like us back

36:12 Bonus ear filler and elite body-doubling content

36:59 Send us your stories and questions for future episodes

Connect

Find us on YouTube, Instagram and TikTok @ FThem Fish_AuDHD for Grownups

Send your stories and questions to FThemFish@gmail.com

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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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We talk about family violence, abusive relationships, trauma, bullying, anxiety, depression, CPTSD, psychiatric hospitalisation, and some pretty heavy mental health stuff. So if this is not for you today, save it for a day when you’ve got a few more spoons.

Today it’s just me, no Jayne, and I’m joined by Jacinta Dubojski from Just Another Girl.

This is a different kind of conversation.

Jacinta is someone a lot of people would probably look at and make assumptions about. Tall, beautiful, polished, put together. And that is exactly part of why this conversation matters. Because people do that all the time. They look at someone and decide their life must have been easy.

It wasn’t.

We talk about bullying, low self-worth, abusive relationships, trauma, what it does to your brain and body, and what it takes to keep going when life has absolutely kicked the sh*t out of you.

Jacinta also talks about the work she now does with girls in schools through Just Another Girl, and why speaking up can genuinely change, and sometimes save, lives.

This one is raw. It wanders a bit in places. It gets heavy. It also has hope in it.

And the reason it belongs on this podcast is because neurodivergent people are more vulnerable to abusive relationships, family violence, coercion and other forms of harm than a lot of people realise. We do not talk about that enough.

If this one hits close to home, please check the support links below. And if you need to, send this episode to someone and just say, I need to talk.

Timestamps

00:00 Content warning

02:42 Intro and meeting Jacinta

04:10 Jacinta on her work, motherhood, trauma and why she shares her story

09:10 Modelling, bullying, appearance and being judged on the outside

18:28 How Just Another Girl started

21:44 Being bullied at school and not telling anyone

24:30 Domestic violence, trauma and feeling trapped

32:44 If this is your story too

36:31 Speaking in schools and trying to change lives early

39:18 Social media, girls, and protecting the next generation

42:48 What Jacinta would say to her younger self

47:49 Proof that things can get better

51:38 Reaching out when you’re struggling

58:46 Where to find Jacinta

59:47 Why this matters for neurodivergent people too

1:03:27 Final support message and wrap up

Find us on Youtube, Instagram and TikTok @FThemFish_AuDHDForGrownups

Email: Fthemfish@gmail.com

Find Jacinta

Just Another Girl Project

Instagram: @just.anothergirl_

Support

If this episode brings stuff up for you, please reach out for support.

www.MindSpot.org.au

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1800RESPECT

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1) WILDly Neuroinclusive Organisation: Recognises an organisation that has moved from awareness to structural action, changing how their systems, processes, or culture works for neurodivergent people.

2) WILDly Neuroinclusive Individual: Recognises a person who makes inclusion real for others through their daily actions, leadership, or advocacy, not just their identity

3) WILDly Neuroinclusive Event or Venue: Recognises a space or event that proved belonging doesn't have to be designed out, it can be designed in, for every kind of brain.

4) WILD Community Impact Award: Recognises work that reaches beyond a single workplace into communities, schools, or the public, making neurodiversity visible in the wider world.

5) WILD Change Maker: Recognises the biggest shift created in the last 6 months by a person, project, or team. This is about momentum, something moved because of them.

Tell us what you think: hello@ndwildglobal.org and tell us who you think should be in the running for the 2027 WILDly Neuroinclusive Awards!

Follow us on Youtube, Instagram and Tiktok @ndWILDGlobal

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In this episode, Callie and Jayne kick off Neurodiversity Celebration Week 2026 by unpacking what neurodiversity actually means, why it is a social identity rather than a medical label, and why so many workplace conversations still flatten it into stereotypes, checklists, and entry-level training.

They talk about the problem with ‘autism and others’ thinking, why resist the list matters, and what happens when organisations say all the right things but their systems, culture, and leadership behaviours do not actually change.

They also answer a listener question about the difference between awareness and real inclusion in practice, exploring microaggressions, assigning intent, conflicting needs between neurodivergent people, and how to tell whether a workplace is genuinely trying to improve.

This one is part celebration, part side-eye, and part practical reality check.

In this episode

• what neurodiversity actually means
• why it is bigger than autism and ADHD
• why awareness without systems change falls flat
• resist the list: the problem with stereotypes and trait checklists
• how to tell whether a workplace is truly inclusive
• microaggressions, intent, repair, and real progress
• a quick look at the WILDly Neuro-inclusive Awards

Timestamps

00:11 Welcome and Neurodiversity Celebration Week begins

01:40 What this episode is really about: awareness vs inclusion

02:03 Neurodiversity is bigger than autism and ADHD

02:42 Neurodiversity as a social identity, not a medical term

05:24 Why the numbers are likely bigger than reported

05:53 DCA and AMAZE’s Neurodiversity at Work Guide

08:08 Diagnosis, identity, and barriers to being recognised

08:46 The problem with ‘autism and others’ training

10:04 Resist the List and why stereotypes are harmful

11:24 Why entry-level training misses too many neurodivergent adults

12:39 Perimenopause, nervous systems, and the broader neurodiversity conversation

17:22 Listener question: awareness vs real inclusion at work

19:24 Why systems, processes, and leadership matter

21:22 What happens when neurodivergent needs clash

22:34 Pain, perfection, and the pressure for workplaces to get it right

23:48 Assigning intent and stepping back from the moment

24:24 Microaggressions, trauma lenses, and ‘micro receivings’

25:42 Don’t let perfection get in the way of progress

26:01 What genuine effort actually looks like

27:37 Acknowledging mistakes, correcting, and moving on

29:47 Launching the WILDly Neuro-inclusive Awards

31:22 Hope, frustration, and the future of neuroinclusion

32:35 Follow, subscribe, and send us your ADHD tax stories

Connect

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They unpack the emotional lift that comes from sorting cupboards, rediscovering forgotten treasures, and building systems that actually work for the way neurodivergent people live. From colour-coded towels and linen hacks to craft supplies, fabric finds, and childhood memories, this episode is equal parts practical, funny, and deeply familiar.

They also respond to a listener question about rejection sensitivity and bosses, exploring how much of workplace discomfort is about perception, how much might be a real shift, and why the relationship with your immediate manager can shape your whole experience at work. That conversation opens into a bigger reflection on leadership, vulnerability, responsibility, and the loneliness that can come with being the person expected to hold it all together.

To close, Callie shares a brand-new poem inspired by spoon theory, written in a hyperfocus burst and read aloud for the first time on the podcast. It is tender, sharp, funny, and likely to hit home for anyone who has ever been told they were inconsistent when really they were just running low on spoons.

Timestamps

00:11 Welcome back and chaotic bestie energy

01:49 Post-Sydney crash and the need to recover

02:38 ADHD bonus: organising the linen cupboard

04:46 Linen and quilt set hack: store sets inside a pillowcase

05:27 Why organisation brings joy when the timing is right

06:10 Designing homes and systems around how people actually live

07:17 Guest linen standards, stained sheets, and household rules

09:18 Offering tea, sandwiches, and emotional support to everyone

10:21 Cleaners as support, not luxury

11:24 Back to the cupboard: forgotten fabric and the ADHD memory bonus

14:11 Jayne’s craft reorganisation and rediscovering treasured fabrics

15:57 Buttons, pendants, sewing memories, and childhood signs no one spotted

18:50 Surprise podcast stickers and octopus merch joy

19:50 Love Hearts, nostalgia, and disappointing lolly messages

21:46 Listener question: how do I handle RSD with my boss?

23:42 Why your relationship with your manager matters so much

24:53 Perception, assigning intention, and scripting hard conversations

26:27 Looking at your boss with empathy without losing yourself

29:35 Leadership can be lonely

31:13 Boundaries, vulnerability, and leading as a human

33:10 What leaders owe people in moments of uncertainty

35:41 Why people look for someone who can hold the line

38:57 Creating the authorising environment for others to thrive

39:28 The emotional weight leaders carry behind the scenes

40:12 Hyperfocus, songwriting, and the origin of the spoon poem

42:05 Callie reads I’m Out of Spoons

45:47 Jayne responds: “I feel seen”

47:08 Where the poem might live next on socials

47:41 Wrap-up and goodbye

Connect with us

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Send questions, stories, poetry, songs, or kind thoughts to FThemFish@gmail.com

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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We’re getting vulnerable about rejection sensitivity dysphoria (RSD), the sting of unsolicited opinions, and what happens when you feel like you’re sitting at the intersection of not being neurodivergent, queer, or disabled enough.

In This Episode:

• Mardi Gras Post-Mortem: The highs of performing for 300,000 people (move over, Taylor Swift) and the fatigue that follows
• Being Rejected: Jayne shares a painful moment of perceived rejection from the crowd and how RSD can hijack a celebration
• Accessibility Fails: A look at what went wrong behind the scenes, from the removal of wheelchair ramps to the lack of support for disabled marchers.
• The ‘Not Enough’ Trap: Callie opens up about the struggle of feeling not gay enough, not AuDHD enough, or not disabled enough while occupying those spaces.
• Navigating Online Criticism: How to handle the gatekeepers on social media who try to police how we talk about our own neurodivergence.
• Parenting & Music: Answering a listener's question about bonding with a baby in utero through music

Neuro-Inclusion Guide: Check out the resources at ndwild.org/inclusion which saw a 1700% increase in traffic following the march!

Got a curly question or a scandalous AuDHD tax story to share? We want to hear it!

• Email: fthemfish@gmail.com
• Instagram: @fthemfish_audhdforgrownups

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: Callie and Jayne check in on their current energy levels (feeling knackered and like total goblins).

01:10 Post-Mardi Gras Reflections: The emotional and physical crash following Sydney Mardi Gras, moving from high-adrenaline performance to post-event exhaustion.

03:10 The Physical Toll of Oxford Street: A look at the physical demands of the parade, including DJ BJ pulling a heavy music cart and Callie’s unexpected sciatica injury.

05:53 Rejection Sensitivity (RSD) at the Parade: Jayne shares a vulnerable story about interacting with a crowd member that triggered a deep spiral of rejection sensitivity.

10:38 Navigating Public Perception and Not Enough-ness: Exploring intersectionality and feeling judged in public spaces.

15:37 Performance: Callie masks through physical pain during the parade and the internal struggle of maintaining a public face while suffering.

18:30 Accessibility Fails and Advocacy: A critical look at the removal of accessibility supports during the event and the impact on disabled participants.

26:14 Online Criticism Callie recounts a recent experience on LinkedIn and why it is important to lead with kindness rather than policing language.

32:15 Listener Q&A: Parenting, Music, and Belly Raspberries We answer a listener's question about bonding with a baby in utero through music

38:43 Outro

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In this lively episode of the Wild Voice podcast, the hosts share their experiences and excitement as they prepare for the Sydney Mardi Gras. They discuss the joy of authenticity, the importance of representation, and personal stories of coming out, including the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals. The conversation highlights the sense of community and celebration at Mardi Gras, as well as the preparations and gratitude for the support received from sponsors and friends. The hosts express their eagerness to participate in the parade and connect with others in the LGBTQIA community.

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Mardi Gras Experience

01:49 The Joy of Authenticity at Mardi Gras

03:17 Personal Stories of Coming Out

09:34 Neurodiversity and Queerness

13:08 Preparing for the Parade

19:09 Gratitude and Looking Forward

Follow us on Instagram and YouTube @ndWILDGlobal. Send us your questions and comments to hello@ndWILD.org

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This month’s update is equal parts warmth, goblin-energy, and genuinely useful tools. The team unpacks a global research out of Hong Kong suggesting resilience isn’t a fixed personality trait, it’s something you can build, and highlights one standout protective factor for kids: having an adult who genuinely likes them. We make no apologies for getting a little emotional with this one! You can find the study here: https://doi.org/10.1007/s00787-025-02947-8

Then we share a community story from 'Shelly' (pseudonym), a 53-year-old in the UK who finally sought an autism/ADHD assessment, only to be told the wait could be 7.5 years. The conversation turns to what you can do while waiting: why self-identification can be valid, how to start learning your needs without waiting for permission, and how choosing your own labels can change the way you feel about yourself and interact with the world around you.

Finally, the team gears up for Mardi Gras, shouting out accessibility 'vibe shepherd' Pat O’Toole, and runs through WILD’s Top 3 Neuroinclusion Event Tips, because events are meant to be joyful, not something you have to push through.

How to get involved with WILD

Explore WILD’s free inclusion guides (including a Mardi Gras-specific version and pocket guide designed for screenshots) - www.ndwild.org/inclusion

Subscribe to the WILD Voice newsletter - www.ndwild.org

Submit your story / questions / research via the Share your WILD option on the website

Top 3 WILD Neuroinclusion Event Tips

1. Make a plan for your body and senses (water, snacks, sunnies, sound/light/crowds)
2. Plan your movement (arrival, meeting points, exits, toilets, transport/parking)
3. Plan to protect your nervous system (ask for help, take breaks, leave early if needed)

“Resilience isn’t a personality trait, it’s a muscle you can exercise.” Troy

“Until you choose your own labels, you wear the ones other people give you.” Callie

“Events are meant to be joyful, not something you have to push through.” Jayne

Chapters

00:00 Welcome to WILD Voice

02:42 Research nerd-out – global review: resilience isn’t a personality trait, it’s a muscle

08:45 The power of one adult who likes you, why it matters for kids and how to ‘polish the apple’

13:28 Community story: Shelly’s late-diagnosis journey

20:11 Navigating ADHD diagnosis barriers and the ridiculous UK adult wait times for services

23:14 Self-discovery & advocacy. Self-diagnosis validity, knowing your needs and choosing your own labels)

26:24 Preparing for big events: neuroinclusion & accessibility tips, tools and strategies

38:54 Bonus audio insert: Peek-a-Boo WILDly SSS NQE

Hidden Disability Sunflower program: https://hdsunflower.com

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Callie and Jayne are together in person (sleep-deprived, delighted, and hilariously unfiltered) for a “talkie-talkie” episode that swings from funny to deeply useful.

They start with neurodivergent life logistics—spoons, pain, sleep, and the reality of showing up when your nervous system is already taxed. Then they dive into why musicals can be such a powerful regulation tool for ADHD brains, including Callie’s “third track” theory: story + music + lyrics creating enough channels that the brain can finally settle.

The heart of the episode is a communication lens that explains a very common neurodivergent experience: feeling misunderstood even when you’re communicating clearly. They explore explicit language vs inferred meaning, and why reading into things can be predictive threat processing (protective scanning) rather than playful social inference.

They finish with a listener question (“Delta”) about asking for workplace accommodations without apologising, offering practical scripts and a reminder that you’re not asking for special treatment, you’re asking for what helps you do the job you were hired to do.

Note: lived experience and reflection, not medical advice.

Key takeaways

• Miscommunication isn’t always bad communication, it can be different cognitive pathways.
• Some brains prioritise explicit meaning (words = meaning), others prioritise inferred meaning (what’s implied).
• Threat-scanning (“did I mess up?”) is not the same as social inference (“what did they intend?”).
• Code-switching is exhausting, often the transition is the hardest part.
• Accommodation requests land better with short scripts than long justifications.
• Practice reduces the shame loop: you’re allowed to ask for what you need.

Send your stories, questions, and ADHD taxes to: Fthemfish@gmail.com.

Follow the show on Instagram, YouTube, and TikTok: @FThemFishAuDHDforGrownups.

Connect with Callie on LinkedIn: Callie Elward-Barrett and Jayne on LinkedIn/Instagram: Jayne Gurton.

Chapters

00:00  Introduction

01:45  Exploring Neurodivergence and Personal Experiences

06:12  Physical Health and Its Impact on Daily Life

09:05 The Importance of Connection and Communication

14:30  The Power of Musicals and Emotional Expression

23:10 Understanding Communication Styles in Neurodivergent Individuals

30:48  Understanding Social Inference vs. Predictive Threat Processing

33:25  Communication Styles: Neurodivergent vs. Neurotypical

34:53  The Importance of Empathy in Communication

37:06  Navigating Code-Switching in Relationships

39:56  The Role of Neurodiversity in Workplace Communication

40:37  Listener Question: Asking for Accommodations at Work

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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In this episode, Callie and Jayne get real about ADHD and autism - the messy, funny, frustrating parts and the genuinely helpful parts. They talk about crafting as both joy and overwhelm, the way body image pressures hit differently when your nervous system is already running hot, and the stress of big public-facing moments. Why “just do mindfulness” often doesn’t land for neurodivergent brains. For many of us, mindfulness works best through movement (walking, stretching, dancing, fidgeting, doing). They also dig into community as a survival tool, and share the why behind building the Neuro-Inclusive Collective. You’ll also hear an honest take on the coaching landscape in neurodiversity - why quick-fix solutions can be harmful, why lived experience matters, and how social media can warp perceptions of what ADHD/autism looks like.

Stay to the very end: there are laugh-out-loud outtakes right before the theme tune.

What you’ll learn

• Why crafting can be regulating… until it’s not
• How body image and 'should' thinking collide with neurodivergent stress
• Why movement-based mindfulness often works better than stillness
• What community support looks like when you actually need it
• The difference between neuroinclusive coaching and quick-fix promise culture
• How social media misinformation shapes ADHD/autism expectations

We’re not medical professionals! This episode is lived experience, reflection, and practical ideas to take what helps and leave what doesn’t.

Chapters

00:00: Neurodivergence check-in: ADHD, autism, and lived experience

03:29: Crafting & creativity: joy, frustration, and the overwhelm cliff

06:26: Body image & self-perception under pressure

11:25: Too many roles at once: the neurodivergent bandwidth problem

13:46: Mindfulness for ADHD/autism: why movement often works best

16:31: The Neuro-Inclusive Collective: building real community support

19:04: The neurodiversity industry: what helps vs what’s hype

27:36: Staying credible: learning, updating, and avoiding certainty theatre

31:26: Short-form content: helpful education vs oversimplified takes

38:48: Emotional reality: shame, overwhelm, humour, and self-compassion

42:23: Community stories: share your experiences!

46:00: Outtakes / bloopers (stay for this - genuinely funny)

47:27: Theme tune

What is neurodivergence?

Neurodivergence is a non-medical umbrella term describing brains that develop or operate differently from what society treats as 'typical'. It includes ADHD and autism, among other differences. The key idea is variation, not deficit, while still acknowledging real support needs.

Why doesn’t traditional mindfulness work for many people with ADHD or autism?

Traditional mindfulness often assumes stillness, sustained attention, and low sensory load. For many neurodivergent people, those conditions can increase agitation or rumination. Movement-based mindfulness can work better because it regulates the nervous system while attention settles.

What is movement-based mindfulness?

Movement-based mindfulness is paying attention to the present moment while moving - walking, stretching, dancing, yoga, or even rhythmic fidgeting. The movement provides sensory input and regulation, making it easier to notice breath, thoughts, and feelings without overload.

What should you watch for in neurodiversity coaching quick fixes?

Be wary of absolute promises (fast cures, universal hacks) and shame-based messaging. Neurodivergent support should be personalised, flexible, and transparent about limits. Good coaching helps you build sustainable strategies, not mask harder.

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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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We talk twice exceptionality (2e) and the very real grief of having a brilliant brain and executive functioning that sometimes blocks you from using it. We unpack the practical stuff that actually helps - lighting options, quiet spaces, fidgets, noise-cancelling headphones, protein on hand - and the bigger leadership moves that matter most: curiosity, clarity, and conversations before there’s a problem.

You’ll also hear a grounded take on the classic objections (“it’s not fair”, “people will take advantage”, “they were fine before they got diagnosed”) and why the answer isn’t doing nothing, it’s doing the basics well, keeping performance expectations clear, and remembering that neuroaffirming is just... person-affirming.

Links / contact

www.empactgroup.com.au

Find Empact on LinkedIn: Empact Group

Email the show: fthemfish@gmail.com

Key topics

• ADHD / AuDHD at work
• twice exceptional (2e), giftedness + ADHD
• late diagnosis (women)
• neuroaffirming workplace, reasonable adjustments, fairness vs equity, and psychological safety
• executive functioning
• sensory needs at work, communication preferences - the workplace prenup
• leadership vulnerability (with boundaries)
• employee value proposition (EVP)

Takeaways:

1. Twice exceptional (2e) can look like instant systems insight, plus a brain that blocks the follow-through.
2. A neuroaffirming workplace is built on curiosity and clarity, not special treatment.
3. Small environmental changes (light, space, fidgets, headphones) can make a massive difference.
4. Fairness isn’t everyone getting the same thing, fair is people getting what they need to do their best work.
5. Leaders can set the tone by being appropriately open (and not making it an HR performance).
6. Edge cases exist, but they’re rare, don’t use the fear that someone might take advantage as an excuse to do nothing.
7. Late diagnosis often doesn’t change someone, it gives them language, tools, and permission to stop burning out.
8. The 'workplace prenup' idea: agree early on how you work best, what stress looks like, and what helps, so you’re not guessing later.

Claire's Quotes:

“Empact comes from, Empower to Act.”

“We are making exceptions to the rule. All of. The. Time.”

“A neuroaffirming workplace is actually just a person affirming workplace.”

Chapters

00:00: Welcome

01:08: Claire: ADHD, 2e (twice exceptional), and giftedness as neurodivergence

02:12: What '2e' means (and why it’s both a gift and a grief)

04:53: Amy: late-diagnosed ADHD in women over 40 and masking

08:07: What Empact is (and why 44% disclosed neurodivergence matters)

12:54: “Empower to Act”: how Empact got its name

14:53: The neuroaffirming office: fidgets, lighting, quiet spaces, practical design

17:20: Building trust and mutuality (and why symbolism can still matter)

18:22: The practical supports: headphones, protein, meds, and brain fog

21:00: “Limits” (the word we hate): principles, sustainability, and client realities

23:37: Mutual responsibility: support and adulting

31:57: Objection 1: “If I give it to them, it’s not fair”

37:39: Objection 2: “People will take advantage” (and why most won’t)

40:45: Objection 3: “They were fine before diagnosis”

50:04: How to have the “preferences” conversation early (workplace prenup)

54:06: Leaders: make it safe without making it HR-y

57:07: What Claire would do differently as a founder

58:46: Why neuroaffirming is good business (and not more expensive)

1:01:19: Where to find Empact (LinkedIn) and how to contact the pod

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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From there, they get into sensory overload, emotional regulation, and what it’s like living in a world that’s basically always a bit too loud.

There’s also a thoughtful (and careful) reflection on Australia Day/January 26, plus why community and creativity can be both a lifeline and a rage-inducing craft project.

If you’re searching for:

• ADHD tax (real-life examples)
• sensory overload and what it feels like
• emotional regulation for AuDHD/ADHD adults
• neurodivergent burnout/overwhelm and coping
• creativity as a regulation tool (and why it can still be frustrating)

Takeaways:

• If you’re neurodivergent, your brain will eventually invoice you for skipped tech checks. (Hello, ADHD tax.)
• Sensory overload isn’t a personality flaw, it’s your nervous system saying “nope, we’re full.”
• Emotional regulation gets harder when your senses are already maxed out
• ADHD tax isn’t just money, it’s re-doing, recovering, over-explaining, and repairing.
• Creativity can be medicine… and also a shortcut to “why is this GLUE ruining my life?”
• Community is regulation. Being with people who get it can drop your stress faster than any hack.
• Personal stories teach what fact sheets can’t, especially when told with care and context.
• Humour isn’t minimising, it’s a survival skill and a bridge into the serious stuff.

Chapters

00:00 - Tech Fail Cold Open: “I Didn’t Turn It On” (ADHD Tax Energy)

02:17 - What F Them Fish Is About: AuDHD for Grownups (No Pretending)

05:25 - Sensory Overload: When Everything Is Loud, Bright, and Too Much

08:56 - Emotional Regulation: Why Overwhelm Escalates Fast

12:13 - Sensory Sensitivity in Real Life (And Why You’re Not ‘Dramatic’)

14:58 - Food Sensitivities, Preferences, and Social Expectations

17:02 - Australia Day / January 26: Cultural Sensitivity Without the Hot Takes

17:10 - ADHD Tax Explained: The Hidden Costs of Daily Life

21:24 - Work + Life + Social Events: The Calendar Spiral

26:50 - Crafting & Creativity: Joy, Frustration, and Nervous System Relief

30:36 - Community & Being Seen: The Stuff That Actually Helps

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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In this inaugural episode of the WILD podcast, hosts Callie Elward-Barrett, Jayne Gurton, and Troy Heland introduce the ND WILD movement, a global initiative aimed at amplifying neurodivergent voices. They discuss their personal journeys with neurodivergence, including late diagnoses and the importance of community support. The conversation highlights the intersectionality of neurodiversity and LGBTQIA+ identities, particularly in the context of the upcoming Sydney Gay and Lesbian Mardi Gras, where they plan to participate with a group of neurodivergent and queer individuals. The hosts emphasize the need for inclusivity and accessibility in large events, aiming to create a sensory-friendly environment for all participants.

Keywords: neurodiversity, ND WILD, ADHD, inclusivity, LGBTQIA+, Mardi Gras, neurodivergent voices, community support, podcast, neuroinclusivity

Takeaways

• WILD is all about amplifying neurodivergent voices wherever they are.
• We want this to be a collective perspective and growing that community around all of you.
• Our tagline is no masking required.
• We are the evolution of humanity.
• If we can do something as massive as Mardi Gras in a sensory inclusive way, then do not tell me we can't do other things.

Chapters:

1. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast
2. 01:05 Meet the Hosts and Their Mission
3. 06:30 The Importance of Neurodiversity and Inclusivity
4. 12:48 Upcoming Events and Community Engagement
5. 14:32 The Bop Drop and Generational Language
6. 15:36 Sponsorships and Community Support for Mardi Gras
7. 17:48 Creating a Sensory-Inclusive Experience
8. 22:13 The Importance of Accessibility Guides
9. 25:19 Spotlight on Neurodiversity Champions
10. 28:54 I See You Video.mp4

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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We're back and there's been a few changes. Callie takes on the show as a solo host, with the first episode featuring an interview in front of a live audience of public servants! It is a little more... well... demure than you may be used to, but it is full of GOLD!

This conversation with the ACT Government in Australia, explores the importance of neurodiversity in the workplace, discussing how organizations can better support neurodivergent individuals. It covers the definition of neurodiversity, the role of managers, common experiences of neurodivergent employees, practical adjustments that can be made, and the rise in diagnoses. The discussion also addresses misconceptions about neurodivergence and emphasizes the need for compassion and understanding in creating inclusive work environments.

Takeaways:

• Neurodiversity includes all brains, not just those with diagnoses.
• Just ask people about their preferred language and don't assume you know what someone needs - we say this all the time!
• Kindness and compassion are crucial in supporting neurodivergent colleagues, especially when we are trying to navigate our masks and the toll that can take.
• Practical adjustments can benefit everyone, not just neurodivergent staff.
• Creating a culture of psychological safety is essential for open conversations about neurodiversity.

You can download the 5Cs model for neuroinclusion Callie talks about in the episode. Just make sure to attribute credit when you use it.

Find out more about working with Callie at: https://executivefunctioning.com.au/

Check out the global Neurodiversity Initiative at: https://ndwild.org/

Join the conversation on Linked In, Instagram, and TikTok: F Them Fish_ AuDHD for Grownups

Chapters in this episode

• 00:00 Introduction to Neurodiversity in the Workplace
• 02:38 Understanding Neurodiversity
• 08:33 The Role of Managers in Supporting Neurodivergent Employees
• 12:10 Common Experiences of Neurodivergent Individuals
• 18:28 Practical Adjustments for Neurodivergent Staff
• 25:11 The Rise in Neurodivergent Diagnoses
• 31:36 Addressing Misconceptions About Neurodivergence
• 37:08 Creating Inclusive Work Environments
• 40:18 Coping with Anxiety and Rejection Sensitivity
• 48:20 Resources and Community Support

Keywords: neurodiversity, workplace inclusion, neurodivergent, mental health, support strategies, workplace adjustments, compassion, understanding, leadership, employee experience

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Iiiiit's Episode 30!!! This will be the last episode for this season before we take a teeny tiny break. There's a lot going on and we are going to recharge our batteries before coming back even stronger! Will Callie finally figure out remote recording? YES SHE WILL! Maybe... hopefully.

In this episode, we explore the connection between ADHD and Intuition - we know that as an ADHDer you have wondered if you have more intuition than other people. We hear you and we're going to look into it.

Topics covered:

• Beard chat - this thing pretty much has its own postal code!
• Threads - is it good?
• Is this the end of the world?
• Pattern recognition, mimicry, and hyperawareness
• Rituals, deja vu, and spirituality - do ADHDers have a 6th sense?
• Magiv versus neuroscience

Sidequests:

• 90s song lyrics - we ollld
• WAP CPR
• Was Merlin neurodivergent?
• Nursery rhymes and superstitions
• History is written by the victor - why are women always evil?

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Andrew is back for episode 29 (basically ep 28 part 2) this is a special bonus episode, let us know if you like the episodes shorted and spread over 2 weeks - we can do that!

Topics covered:

• Stimming - vocal and physical
• Laughing at other people's conversations in public
• Time optimism
• How to use post-its to save your spoons
• Importance vs interest for ADHDers
• Sour taste test

Sidequests:

• Plot of land
• Repetitive noises give me uncontrollable rage
• stop interrupting!
• A day in the life of Andrew
• Are Twisties basically straight Cheezels?

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Andrew is back for episode 28! If you heard episode 26, you'll have heard the listener feedback and know that there was a big call for him to come back and talk more about his experiences as a late-diagnosed ADHD and austistic man. This talk was long and I didn't want to cut any of it, so we will bring you part 2 next week as a special bonus episode - lucky!

Topics covered:

• Is it harder for men to get a late diagnosis?
• Revisiting ADHD and Autistic intersectionality
• Feeling invalid with 'only' having ADHD
• Reimagining the diagnostic criteria
• Insight into Callie's incredibly weird brain where songs are waiting so burst out at all times
• Maladaptive daydreaming

Sidequests:

• Lauchy has weaponised music against me!
• 2003 was 20 years ago...
• Shiz! My eyes are closed
• The origins of Spoon Theory

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

It's episode 27! Sharna is back and we are going deep into the tricky subject of ADHD and lying. This is one of the most challenging and shameful things that comes with having a neuromagical brain. We pull apart the various things that contribute to the common misconception that ADHDers a compulsive liars and dig into the elements that actually happen and why they can make it seem like we're lying. We also look at the fact that many neurodivergent people simply cannot actually lie and what does this contradiction mean for navigating the multitude of relationships we need to on a daily basis. This was a fascinating subject and we all learnt a lot about ourselves doing the research for this one.

Topics covered:

• Listener Question: How to communicate authentically when you're incapable of lying?
• Exaggeration and embellishment
• Lying to avoid rejection
• Is masking basically lying?
• lying vs surviving
• when someone else lies... WE KNOW!

Sidequests:

• Beards and bacteria
• 'Neurospicy' has been cancelled
• The ADHD situational personality
• Digging into 'Diversity'

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Dr Di is back for episode 26! This is her third visit and today she is taking us through some of the challenges some ADHDers have with food and obesity. We want to be clear, we are not here for any form of size-shaming nor do we believe that larger bodies are in any way bad or wrong. What is interesting is looking at the sensory issues that might be affecting your relationship with food and how when we go looking for dopamine, sometimes that means we empty the pantry - this isn't a good thing in many ways! As Dr Di is a scientist and a Doctor, she explains some of the medications that could be used for treating some of these dopamine and mood challenges. Another reminder that if you have ANY questions about treatments or medications, you need to speak with your health care provider and do not take this as advice, because it absolutely isn't.

Topics covered:

• RSD vs Narcisism
• Exaggeration - it's a thing!
• Lifesavers taste test
• Food avoidance
• Dopamining (I'm totally claiming this)
• Types of taste that we crave

Sidequests:

• The correct way to hang toilet paper
• Colonoscopy prep
• Hermione Grainger is autistic
• ADHD, Autism and email hell

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

In episode 25, we go into the nooks and crannies of Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria and while it may not be one of the diagnostic criteria for ADHD, it is incredibly common for people who are neuro-magical. We take some listener feedback and Callie goes into an RSD pit. We then explore a listener question - How do you cope when someone you work with doesn't like you?

Topics covered:

• Listener feedback - do we do too many sidequests?
• How to seek and give feedback
• Should you approach the person in question?
• Preemptive groundwork to avoid conflict
• Things to stop doing immediately
• What if it can't be fixed
• THAT Panorama episode
• Taste test - raspberry Twisties

Sidequests:

• Kia ora koutou Aotearoa (so sorry for the shocking pronunciation!)
• Facebook Marketplace funnies
• Tone of voice doesn't mean tone!!
• Bad coffee
• Misheard song lyrics

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

It's episode 24! Occupational therapist Rachel is back and she has got some really great tips for anyone who thinks they would benfit from asking for some accommodations in the workplace and doesn't know where to start. As well as Rachel, we have another special guest in Baby B, who spent the entire 2 hours recording time strapped into a Tula and slept the whole time - we get some bonus baby snuffles every now and again, so strap your ovaries in as it is cuuuuuuuuute!

Topics covered:

• Callie has an apology to make
• What is an occupational therapist? Why should you get one?
• How to ask for workplace accommodations
• What is reasonable vs unreasonable?
• Step by step suggestions for accommodations that might help neurospicy people in the workplace
• Seeking vs sensitive
• Listener challenge - Rachel was a Peruvian meme, can you find it?

Sidequests:

• Neurodiversity or neurodivergence?
• Radio jingles from way back
• Other useless songs taking up brain space
• White noise is rage-inducing
• Fidgets

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Welcome to Episode 23! In this episode, we speak with Andrew, who was diagnosed with ADHD and Autism (ASD2) around 6 months ago. Andrew is incredibly generous with his story, sharing all of the details around the journey he has been on before, during, and since diagnosis. Being only our second male guest, Andrew offers a perspective that has some differences but also similarities with the stories of our other guests over the last few months. We know you will be fascinated by what he has to say - we were, which is why this episode is our longest yet!

Note: in a completely unexpected turn of events, Andrew was diagnosed by one of our previous guests - Bianca! This wasn't set up and Bianca didn't know until we told her after recording. Canberra is a pretty small city!

Topics covered:

• Internal hyperactivity in ADHD
• Sensory issues in ADHD versus autism
• ADHD and memory issues
• An in-depth description of diagnosis involving clinical psychology and psychiatry
• looking at misleading stereotypes
• All about medication
• Synesthesia (seeing sound)
• Intrusive thoughts
• What's your meme?

Sidequests:

• When random song breakouts attack!
• Toe wedgie listener callout
• things that got us into trouble as kids
• Maths or math?

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

In Episode 22, we are joined by the sensational and highly talented Bianca Calabria. Bianca is a clinical psychologist and academic researcher, with a speacial interest in all things ADHD and Autistic. Bianca also talks from a lived experience perspective as a person with both ADHD and Autism. She has some incredible professional and personal perspectives that will make you shiver and maybe give you something new to think about.

Topics covered:

• Who is Bianca?
• Self-determination in research
• The strengths of ADHD 'deficits'
• What is Orthogonal thinking in ADHD
• Thinking styles and ADHD
• Flat Affect, pattern recognition, and autism crossovers
• The power of 'I believe you'
• What's your meme?

Sidequests:

• Google - BackRub? What??
• ADHD and forgetting names
• 6th Sense the movie
• Tattoos

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

It's Episode 21 and Callie's Mum is here! We managed to get her Dad to say hi, but he was still recovering from the spider encounter.

Topics covered:

• We answer some listener questions about our separation and how neurodivergence plays a part
• Chat GPT - will AI help NDers or make it worse?
• Gizoogle, not Jizzoogle
• Holiday to the south coast - bugs, bugs, bugs!
• Embarassing stories of Callie as a kid - were there signs of ADHD?
• What's your meme?

Sidequests:

• Haunted household appliances
• Plat-ya-puss
• Just add water
• Poo Corner
• Never play Cards Against Humanity with your parents
• Maths isn't real

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

It's Episode 20!! What better subject to revisit than music?! We speak with special guest Smitchie (aka Ritchie). Smitchie is a volunteer firefighter and a long-term DJ. He shares his diagnosis journey and how PTSD led to his subsequent ADHD diagnosis, with an important message about mental health for anyone who is currently pushing through tough times. We laughed so much during this episode, the witch cackle is out in force!

Topics covered:

• Being a volunteer firefighter with ADHD
• Diving deeper into music as a tool for ADHD brains
• Musicians with ADHD
• We were parented a little differently...what happened in the garage?
• What's your meme?

Sidequests:

• Zebonkey!
• Early 2000s UK Garage and House music
• He's in my pass basket...Ronald McDonald??
• Imagine being the third Hemsworth though
• I bought a boat

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Welcome to episode 19! We started this podcast with a commitment to authenticity. While it isn't always easy, we figure that the only way this remains relevant is if we are honest about our experiences. This episode, we live that honesty more than ever before. Please be kind.

Topics covered:

• You'll always be my best friend
• New segment: What's your meme?
• Callie can't find the song and life is hard
• Autistic people can talk for themselves
• Coded vs canonised characters

Sidequests:

• Get consent Justin!!
• What the numbers mean on toasters
• Escalator etiquette
• Encyclopedias
• Merch

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This podcast is all about our experience with late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool. That applies for any guests we have on too!

Welcome to episode 18! She's baaack! Dr Di is back, but as you've never heard her before. We have had so many requests to hear more about how Di navigates life as a triple threat, with diagnoses (diagyeses) of Autism, ADHD, and dyslexia. If you haven't met Di before, she is a General Practitioner medical professional, biologist, and did a PhD in Neuroscience. Despite being told her whole life that she wasn't smart enough to practice medicine, she set about proving everyone wrong. She IS a medical doctor and learnt a few other things on the way there. Di is also a parent, with her daughter, Seija (Slug Sleija) present in the studio as an honorary producer. Her story is incredibly interesting and of course we have multiple sidequests along the way.

Note: We did get a bit loose in this ep...sorry not sorry!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Topics covered:

• What it's like having both ADHD and Autism, the good and the less good
• The importance of language - person first or identity first?
• Are 'Neurodivergent' and 'Neurotypical' still valid terms?
• Rules are rules people!
• Octopus facts

Sidequests:

• Seija killed my Rainbow Slug x 5
• Gravity Wells
• Cooker (stove top) handles

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

Welcome to episode 17! Grab the popcorn! Today Callie and Lauchy go deep into some of the realities (and conflicts) within an ADHD relationship, where one person is neurotypical. There are some uncomfortable moments! But as always, they keep the commitment to honesty and not hiding the very real issues that can come up.

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com).

Topics covered:

• needing a space to decompress
• boredom
• monogamy
• routine and disruptions
• managing expectations
• guilt, shame and rejecting them both
• some relationship advice from social media - is it any good for ADHDers?

Sidequests:

• Miley is having a moment
• Time blindness and hyperfixation
• Revisiting chip flavours
• The history of marriage
• Childhood recipes when you grow up poor
• ADHD and queerness

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups (don't bother...we do nothing!)

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

Welcome to episode 16! Today Callie and Lauchy are talking all about motivation, task initiation, and how to navigate these really tricky, and common symptoms that many ADHDers struggle with. Many of the things we talk about in this episode are totally relevant to non-neuromagical people and well worth listening to if you sometimes find yourself struggling with getting motivated. We were so into this topic that didn't do very many sidequests!

We love hearing about our listeners' experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM (socials are at F them fish_ADHD for grownups) or an email (fthemfish@gmail.com). This week we're asking you to send us your motivations and NOtivations. We also want your splashback/urinal stories, AND who's right - Callie or Lauchy? Ledge or no ledge? Finally, if you want to talk with us about music and ADHD, we'd love to have you record with us!

Topics covered:

• We absolutely, flipping, completely, bloody love our listeners! With people in 45 countries now, (a single download counts!!) it is those of you who come back every week that are our faves
• Listening to podcasts is a commitment from our listeners, as a longer content form, you may be surprised at how low listeners numbers are compared to other media. We celebrate with another podcast whose first episode just reached 500 downloads.
• Urinal Dilemma! Honestly...I haven't laughed that much in ages!!
• Exercise experiment and Circadian reset update
• Motivation versus task initiation - what is the difference? How to avoid NOtivation.
• What is the 'ADHD Pause'? And how it connects to ADHD Paralysis

Sidequests:

• Callie went OUT out!
• We have 1...ONE blueberry on our bush, go near it at your peril
• If Books could kill podcast and The Secret episode
• Cleaning the shower - spoiler alert, get a drill

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups (don't bother...we do nothing!)

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

Welcome to the first episode of 2023! We are talking with listener and friend, Sharna, about parenting and family dynamics when there are multiple people with ADHD in a household. Additionally, we talk about ongoing mental health struggles after a late diagnosis and how it isn't a silver bullet that will fix everything.

It's great to hear other experiences with ADHD, and we'd love to hear yours if you want to join us on the mics - drop us a DM or an email.

Topics covered:

• Kids with ADHD and medication - how do you decide to pursue a diagnosis for them? Are meds a good idea?
• When anxiety and depression are actually undiagnosed ADHD
• Post-diagnosis problems
• Mum's groups when you have a newborn - they can be the best or absolute worst!
• Kids mimic our worst habits - so embarassing!
• Brisbane - humidity and spiders...don't live there (jks, don't come for us)
• Summernats, aka bogan car festival - Sharna loves it, Callie does not
• Listener questions - ADHD tax, dating, who is funnier?

Sidequests:

• Octopus chat - now seals are getting in on the unnecessary violence
• Getting old
• Body parts that give us the ICK
• Callie is obsessed with a South Korean drama on Netflix
• Aitch vs Haitch
• Vanilla is not an appropriate scent for candles

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups (don't bother...we do nothing!)

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 14 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us xx

This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

Welcome to the final episode for 2022! In this minisode, we try to stick to 20 mins...we don't manage it and you get 30 whole minutes of us reacting to questions, comments and stories we have received from our incredible listeners. There are some great questions and some funny stories. We'd love to hear from you, so send us your questions, comments, and stories via whichever preferred messaging method and we'll read them on air! Let us know if you want to stay anonymous.

Topics covered:

• listener hair extension stories
• do Lauchy and Callie get on as well in real life as on the podcast?
• some Spotify wrapped feedback - we got 2nd place!
• Callie's weird brain helps others feel less weird
• ADHD-friendly shops
• Matilda the Musical

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups (don't bother...we do nothing!)

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 13 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us xx

This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

This is the Christmas episode!! Just how can you navigate your ADHD overwhelm in the lead up to Christmas? And what about your kids? Callie offers a couple of tips and tries not to get cranky at Lauchy about how hard it is to buy him a Christmas present.

Topics covered:

• Lauchy has a bone to pick with Callie
• How do you put your jocks on? Lauchy seems to think toe-jam is involved...
• Lauchy's midnight booty-call - it's not as exciting as you think!
• Christmas trees, presents, movies, and meltdowns
• The power of a good teacher and what happens when they leave the school?

Sidequests:

• What order are your drawers in?
• Alice in Wonderland
• Spitting on mozzie bites
• School concerts
• ADHD executive dysfunction fool-proof hack

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups (don't bother...we do nothing!)

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 12 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us xx

This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

This episode is classic Callie and Lauchy format, with the pair of them just trapping shiz about all the things that have happened over the last couple of weeks. It is their 11th wedding anniversary, so they do mention that a few times! We're just as bewildered that it's lasted this long! Topics covered:

• Can they make a whole show with zero edits? Spoiler alert - no. It would be very pausey
• That well-known skeleton-head phenomenon
• Lauchy has been putting up Christmas lights on the faux-gola and everywhere else
• Lauchy is convinced he has discovered the link between ADHD and dopamine...
• Callie got hair extensions and is having a time of it
• Exercise and a call for help
• Plus a guest appearance from Pod-Cat, who has a LOT to say

Sidequests:

• The joys of fertility treatment
• what is the best flavour of crisps? Answer, salt and vinegar
• Lauchy did not book the holiday and Callie is PISSED
• Maltesers juice up your nose - Lauchy does not recommend
• Twitter or Twatter?

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials.

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 11 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us xx

This podcast is all about our experience with Callie's late ADHD diagnosis and the questions we have as we continue to navigate life. This podcast is in no way medical advice or intended to be used as a diagnostic tool.

In this episode, you asked and we answered - we are back with the inimitable Dr Di and her incredible crossover knowledge of biology, neuroscience, and medicine. Specifically, she teaches us all about estrogen, progesterone, and testosterone, and how these affect ADHD during different parts of the menstrual cycle for anyone who has one. Exactly what is the difference between splurting, splurging, and shooting? Please note, we use the term 'female' in this podcast to include all people with a uterus and/or ovaries, who might experience the biological effects of hormones as discussed in this episode. This is in no way limited to outdated perceptions of gender. All people and experiences are welcome here.

We learn how different hormones at different times of the cycle can affect ADHD medication, and how dopamine can help or hinder. We ask questions from our lovely listeners about menopause, HRT, and how to deal with some of the more annoying symptoms, such as night sweats and sleeplessness. Lauchy wants to know more about dopamine and we find out how it relates to some other mental health issues. Lauchy is SMRT and Callie likes it!

As well as her academic and professional expertise, Dr Di has lived experience as a person with ADHD, Autism, and Dyslexia, so you will need to accept our non-linear conversation, Star Trek references, and multiple sidequests!

Sidequests:

• Famous inventors with ADHD (dust motes deep dive anyone?)
• Kesha - so fancy
• Reincarnation and rebirth - different cultural norms play a big part in how we consider ND
• Callie is convinced she is Highlander...or Xena Warrior Princess

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

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Love Callie and Lauchy xx

Show Links:

https://www.britannica.com/science/menstrual-cycle

https://www.independent.ie/life/health-wellbeing/health-features/french-women-dont-do-menopause-is-this-really-the-case-36910479.html

https://www.scijournal.org/articles/famous-scientists-with-adhd

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 10 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners who have just found our octopus community and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us. We love that we can be part of your experience xx

In this episode, we completely forget to introduce ourselves!! Just a reminder, we are definitely not professionals.

Halloween - it's not American! And the 'tricks' they used to do in England in the 80s... "it's just hooliganism!"

We said we would do a deep dive into the the Australian guidelines for diagnosis and treatment of ADHD. Turns out this is going to take a lot more than one episode, so we only look at part 1 - Identification (see the link to the summary below). We spend most of the episode talking about things around the guidelines, most importantly - how to read them! They are designed for clinicians so a level of assumed knowledge and critical thinking is important. To help with this, we've linked the factsheet for people with lived experience of ADHD at the bottom.

We talk a lot about our recent experience with school and our child - Trigger Warning - we do talk about suicidal thoughts. Parenting ADHD kids is really hard - would a flexible school structure help? What do you think? ADHD is a recognised disability and some people do find it debilitating. How much difference would it make to have funded education for parents and teachers?

It will surprise no one to hear that the guidelines acknowledge that women are often underdiagnosed, but that's not all. Have a listen to what else the identification guidelines say about women.

Sidequests:

• Callie's accent - where exactly is is from? Hint: it's not The Midlands
• Guy Fawkes - remember, remember, the 5th of November. Gunpowder, treason, and plot.
• What is a Celt?
• What is the collective noun for 'uterus'?
• Hysteria in women...sound familiar? Lauchy thought a lobotomy was a what??

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

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Love Callie and Lauchy xx

Show Links:

ADHD Guidelines Summary: https://adhdguideline.aadpa.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2022/10/ADHD-Clinical-Practice-Guide-Summary-of-Recommendations-031022.pdf

Guidelines factsheet for people with lived experience of ADHD: https://adhdguideline.aadpa.com.au/lived-experience-factsheet/

(F)ailing women in psychiatry: lessons from a painful past: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5962395/

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 9 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners who have just found our octopus community and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us. We love that we can be part of your experience xx

In this episode, we talk about October being ADHD awareness month and where you can find more information. We preview the NEW Australian clinical guidelines for diagnosis and treating ADHD - this is a big deal!! We go deep into why ADHD is not a 'fad' and that we are actually playing catch up for all the people missed - Lauchy wonders whether we will see another change in diagnosis criteria. We also pay a small tribute to the late Angela Lansbury.

We talk all about how music may just be the food of love for ADHD people, and conveniently we are recording today in the bedroom! In the second half of the show, we look into 8D music versus layered music, with a dive into Callie's current obsession - binaural beats and the research that sits behind them. We discuss exactly why music is so important for ADHD and how it can help to stay on track. Music is also important for people with dementia, big shout out to Lauchy's late nan x

Sidequests:

• Gaslight - the movie
• Cruel Intentions - the musical (we've seen it dontcha know)
• Bridgerton - the show...Callie watches it for the music...honest
• Tiktok keeps telling Callie to dump Lauchy
• the Islets of Langerhans
• Lauchy's interesting take on airports

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Love Callie and Lauchy xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 8 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners who have just found our octopus community and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us. We love that we can be part of your experience xx

In this episode, we continue the conversation with the fabulous Dr Diana Kirk, and there are lots of laughs! We cover so, so much in the second half of this conversation. Lauchy asks exactly how GPs might broach the subject of ADHD with a patient, we talk about the importance of psychologists within a complete diagnosis and treatment plan for ADHD, and we take a brief look at natural supplements - a drug, is a drug, is a drug! We revisit the challenge when a health professional can't admit they got it wrong when medicine evolves and the importance of vulnerability in any type of leadership. Callie keeps trying not to talk about ADHD and women's health...yet, but we promise to do a full episode soon. Is ADHD genetic? How can you be a good partner to a neurodivergent person? (Turns out Dr Di does actually do marriage counselling...). And so much more.

Sidequests:

• There are a few sidequests into brain biology stuff...it's a thing
• Princess Bitchface... bear with us, it's a parenting strategy
• Someone should use TikTok to research neurodivergence
• How to build a WHAT?? You won't believe what Dr Di's dad taught her!

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en
• Twitter: https://twitter.com/home

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Thanks xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 7 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners who have just found our octopus community and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us. We love that we can be part of your experience xx

In this special episode, we talk to our family GP (General Practitioner) - our regular family Doctor, for everyone listening in other parts of the world wondering what a GP is. Dr Diana Kirk is incredibly open about her own neurodivergence - having multiple diagnoses - and how that complements her extensive professional and academic experience, to give her incredible insight and empathy for people seeking answers about their own potential neurodivergence.

You don't want to miss these episodes. We do not hold back from the questions sent in by listeners, and Dr Di, is authentic and vulnerable, as well as being very funny!

Sidequests:

• The US Healthcare System - they don't have GPs!
• Dr Di's rom com romance - seriously romantic
• Freud is gross and Skinner was abusive...we put them firmly in the bin

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!:

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AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to Episode 6 of F#@% them fish: ADHD for grownups. A big welcome to all our new listeners who have just found our octopus community and a massive hug to all our regular listeners... we love how many of you come back each week and share your stories with us. We love that we can be part of your experience xx

This episode is all about the wonders of self-regulation and stimming - what is stimming? What does it do? How does it help? Should you stop someone from stimming? Is vocal stimming actually a thing?? Plus, Callie and Lauchy talk about masking and the affects of masking on partners and families.

Sidequests (Lauchy has finally made a jingle, can you do better?):

• We love P!nk! Take a tour through the lyrics that speak to Lauchy about all things ADHD
• ADHD after-dark...should there be an adult-only version?
• Cutlery-gate - it's a TikTok thing
• Bienvenidos a Mexicanos!
• ADHD is not a get out of jail free card for being an ass

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. Don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Thanks xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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In this episode, Callie and Lauchy revisit self-diagnosis and how it is a valid option when the barriers to formal diagnosis are too great. They take a closer look at diagnosis for children and the toll that can take on parents and caregivers. They also explore the critical role schools play and how they are not always up to the task. They talk about how incredible Telehealth is and the possibilities it could open up for people to get a diagnosis where there are no local options available.

Sidequests:

• Lauchy the hero... seriously dude, so sensitive
• Pantry gin... and snacks
• Love Languages - Callie's favourite sidequest yet into a whole new slant on the traditional love languages
• a little bit of anaphylaxis

Come and join the F them fish community on the socials. We don't want to say 'viral' but TikTok is going OFF!:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. And don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Thanks xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Sidequests include:

• TV and movie characters - we could talk about Bruno, but the others are far more interesting!
• Renaming ADHD....DAVE? EDVARD?
• Icebergs

and

• a very brief sojourn to Harry Potter - Lauchy has never read or watched any movies, so this one didn't go far.

For socials:

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/fthemfish_adhdforgrownups/
• Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups
• Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. And don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know. Especially your nan!

Thanks xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/fthemfishADHDforgrownups

Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@fthemfish_adhdforgrownup?lang=en

For the visuals of everything we talk about during this episode and previous episodes. It will all make perfect sense when you see them!

Sidequests include:

• Ikea and a rather fabulous analogy that has Callie feeling very pleased with herself
• Lauchy's first birthday and how terrible he is to buy presents for
• Exactly what happened in the pantry...
• Celebrities and Callie's complete inability to conduct herself with any sort of decorum - cool factor: minus 7
• Husband tax
• Being a dad to a neurospicy kid

Please like, rate, (5 stars are the only stars :D ) and follow the podcast wherever you listen. It really helps. And don't forget to share with absolutely everyone you know.

Thanks xx

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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We look at changes to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual for Mental Disorders (DSM-5) that saw the language change from Asperger's and Autism as separate, to the full spectrum as a diagnosis.

Sidequests:

• Toxic trends on TikTok - 'trendy' versus 'trend' (as in research)
• self-diagnosis and how to do it properly (link below)
• the level of privilege you need just to get a diagnosis
• stimming
• Doom boxes
• and a little bit of marriage counselling (watch out for the gremlin!)

They meander through all that while Lauchy keeps trying to bring them back to the main topic.

Finally, Lauchy is really trying to make fetch happen. Rachel is supportive of a diag-yes-is, Callie not so much.

Check out socials: TikTok, Instagram and Facebook - @fthemfish_ADHDforgrownups

Link to WHO's Adult ADHD Self-Report Scale: https://add.org/wp-content/uploads/2015/03/adhd-questionnaire-ASRS111.pdf

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Welcome to F them fish: ADHD for grownups. This podcast is for people with ADHD, people who know someone with ADHD, and people who think they may have ADHD

In the first episode of the podcast, Callie and Lauchy introduce themselves and talk about how Callie found out she has ADHD as a fully-formed adult with a real job, real marriage and real child! We take a detour into a driving story....see what we did there, and Callie talks about an ick she has - for Lauchy. There is some real talk about how it felt growing up and knowing you weren't likeable, and the importance of feeling enough acceptance from the people around you to have the courage to take the step to diagnosis.

We also find out where the name of the podcast came from and answer some follower questions. If you have a question for Callie and Lauchy, or a story you want to share, send them an email at fthemfish@gmail.com. Come and find them on Instagram and Facebook: fthemfish_ADHD for grown ups, and be an OG member of the community. Like and follow the podcast and please share with your friends, your family, and anyone else you think might need to hear this content. Thanks!

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

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Callie and Lauchy will unpick the various things that Callie's adult ADHD diagnosis has shed a new light on. In an effort to understand life, themselves, and other people, including the rage-inducing triggers that she always thought was just her being an asshole. This is not a professional exploration of ADHD, it is a sweary, relatable attempt to navigate ADHD through the eyes of the inexperienced and often frustrated.

In the tailer, Lauchy misses his cue to introduce himself and then completely over-dramatises what it's like living the ADHD life. Callie is having none of it.

First episode will drop Wednesday 17 August and every Wednesday after that...hopefully.

F#@% them fish is recorded on Ngunnawal / Ngambri country.

AuDHD for grownups: honest, funny conversations about work, relationships, sensory overload, identity, and the stuff nobody explains after diagnosis.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.