I’m talking about the trap of unmet expectations — not just on Mother’s Day, but on birthdays, holidays, family days, regular Tuesdays, all of it. Because when we expect the people in our lives to magically know what we want, show up exactly how we want, and appreciate us in the exact way we were hoping for… we usually end up feeling disappointed. And then what do we want to do? Eat, numb, soothe, reward ourselves, or spiral into resentment.

So today I’m walking you through how to get your power back. Not by pretending you don’t care. Not by swallowing your feelings. Not by turning Father’s Day into revenge day. But by learning how to release the “manuals” you have for the people around you, communicate what you actually want, and take responsibility for creating the experience and feelings you want to have.

We’re also talking about why your partner is probably not a mind reader, why “if I have to ask, it doesn’t count” is not helping you, and why lowering or letting go of expectations can be one of the most freeing things you ever do.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

- Why Mother’s Day can turn into the day of unmet expectations

- How disappointment and resentment lead to emotional eating

- What “manuals” are and how they keep us stuck

- Why letting people be who they are creates more peace for YOU

- How to plan a do-over when a holiday doesn’t go the way you wanted

- Why over-communicating your ideal day is actually loving, not needy

- My “come on, compliment me” game for feeling appreciated without waiting around

- How to write yourself the appreciation letter you wanted from someone else

- Why feeling disappointed is allowed — and how to process it without eating over it

And if this hit home, please send this episode to a mom who had a crappy Mother’s Day or who tends to feel let down on holidays. Also, since Free The Moms is a brand new podcast feed, I would be so grateful if you’d take 30 seconds to leave a rating and review. Pretty please with a cherry on top.

If you want help with this work — the real root work underneath the food, the urges, the resentment, and the self-abandonment — go to lauraconley.com and book a coffee chat. We can talk about where you’re stuck, what you’re struggling with, and whether the Yummy Mummy Experience is the right fit for you. The next cohort starts in July, and we have a super fun challenge coming in June.

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In this episode of Free The Moms, I’m talking about how to stop handing your emotional wellbeing over to your kids, your partner, your family, or any holiday that has historically left you feeling disappointed. Mother’s Day can be tender, complicated, or loaded for so many reasons—and this episode is not about forcing magic where there’s grief, strain, or heaviness. It’s about getting honest about what you want, giving yourself permission to want it, and taking your power back.

I’ll walk you through how to dream up your actual best Mother’s Day—not the obligatory version, not the “I shouldn’t want that” version, not the one where everyone magically reads your mind. The real one. Maybe that’s sleeping in. Maybe it’s brunch with your best friend. Maybe it’s a two-hour massage, a hotel night alone, flowers, handmade cards, time with your family, or zero time with your family. Anything goes.

And then comes the part most of us avoid: saying it out loud. Because our people are not mind readers. Follow-through can be romantic. Asking can still be powerful. And even if they don’t do it perfectly? You still get to decide how you want to feel.

Listen in to hear:

- Why Mother’s Day and holidays can feel so emotionally loaded

- How to create your dream Mother’s Day without guilt, obligation, or “shoulds”

- Why wanting what you want is not selfish

- How to ask clearly for flowers, cards, alone time, connection, or whatever actually matters to you

- Why your emotional wellbeing cannot depend on everyone else getting it right

- How to hold your requests lightly without giving away your joy

- Why buying yourself the damn flowers still counts

I also share about the brand-new Free The Moms website and rebrand at [lauraconley.com](http://lauraconley.com), where you can poke around, check out upcoming retreats, and book a call if you want to join the next Yummy Mummy: Lose Weight For The Last Time cohort.

If you’re in the Denver/Boulder area, I’m also hosting Mom’s Actual Mother’s Day on May 9th—a mini retreat with yoga, massage, intuitive readings, wine, and all the things moms actually want. Reach out to me at [laura@lauraconley.com](mailto:laura@lauraconley.com) or DM me on Instagram [@lauraconleycoaching](https://instagram.com/lauraconleycoaching) if you want a ticket.

And pretty, pretty please: this is a brand-new podcast feed, which means Free The Moms needs reviews! If you loved this episode, leave a five-star written review to help get this new podcast out into the world.

P.S. Lose Weight For The Last Time still exists! Free The Moms is the new sister podcast where we’ll be talking about freedom, motherhood, self-prioritization, joy, pleasure, burnout, people-pleasing, and all the ways moms get to take our lives back.

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This week, we've got a special Coco & Lala Show-style conversation with Nicole Sciacca, and we're getting real about the tension every mom feels: you *know* you need to take care of yourself... but *how* do you actually fit it in when you've got kids, work, and everything else pulling at you?

Here's the shift: self-care isn't something you squeeze in—it's something you build your life around.

Nicole breaks down how she makes self-care the *baseline* of her day (not an afterthought), and we dig into what it actually takes to change your priorities, your mindset, and your follow-through so this becomes real—not just something you agree with intellectually.

Because it's not that you don't have time. It's that your current system isn't set up to support *you*.

We're also talking about:

- Why most moms *get* self-care intellectually—but still don't do it

- The "oxygen mask" idea—and why it doesn't stick

- How to make self-care your foundation instead of your fallback

- Simple daily practices (tapping, affirmations, intentional mornings)

- Why fun, connection, and social time are NOT optional—they're essential

- The role of discipline (yep, we go there 👀)

- How your brain will fight to keep you stuck—and how to interrupt it

- Why choosing yourself can feel unsafe—and how to shift that

- The power of containers, coaching, and accountability

We also go deeper into worthiness, truth, and why so many of us avoid even asking what we actually want. (This part... 🔥)

And if you've ever thought, "Must be nice..."—we flip that too. This isn't luck. It's priorities.

✨ Mentioned in this episode:

- Nicole Sciacca → https://sweatandstillness.com

- TikTok: @thenicolesciacca

- Instagram: Nicole Sciacca

- Podcast: *Shock & Y'all*

- Laura Conley → https://lauraconley.com

- Join Free The Moms → https://lauraconley.com/free

- Instagram: @lauraconleycoaching

If this episode is hitting and you're ready to actually implement this—not just think about it—come join us inside Free The Moms. This is exactly what we do: rewire your patterns, reset your priorities, and help you build a life that actually includes you.

You don't need more time—you need a new way of showing up for yourself.

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This one is pulled straight from my 21 Day Challenge: Lose 10 Pounds While Life Is Life—and we’re diving into one of the biggest mindset shifts that will change your weight loss journey forever. The scale is neutral. Yep. Just data. Not your worth. Not your effort. Not your identity.

And when you really get this? Everything gets easier.

We’re talking about how your brain has been trained to make the number mean something about you (spoiler: it’s not true), and how to take your power back so you can stop the emotional rollercoaster and actually stay consistent.

Because babe—this is how you lose weight for the last time.

In this episode, you’ll hear:

- Why the scale is just measuring gravitational pull (and nothing more)

- The real reason the number triggers you (hint: it’s your thoughts, not the scale)

- How to stop spiraling into shame, frustration, or “what’s wrong with me?”

- Why weighing daily can actually help you (yes, really)

- How to use the scale as data instead of drama

- The simple mindset shift to decide your mood BEFORE you step on the scale

- Why your weight loss graph is supposed to go up and down (that’s normal!)

- How to stop letting one number ruin your entire day

This is your reminder: nothing outside of you gets to decide how you feel. Not the scale. Not your bank account. Not your kid’s tantrum. Not anything.

You decide.

And if you’re ready to build a weight loss plan that actually works for YOU (not some one-size-fits-all nonsense), come join me for my free peptide webinar where we’ll map out your custom toolbox:

👉 lauraconley.com/pep

Let’s stop making this so hard… and actually start having fun with it.

Love you. Mean it.

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If you’ve been stuck in overthinking, trying to control every outcome, or feeling like everything is on you… this episode is going to give you a different way to approach it. We’re talking about prayer as a tool for manifestation, clarity, and actually calming your nervous system so you can stop gripping so hard.

Nicole shares her daily prayer routine, how she uses gratitude and awe to shift her mindset fast, and the exact “remove it from my life” prayer that worked within 24–48 hours (multiple times). We also get into why you’re already manifesting all day—and how to start doing it on purpose.

And if you’re ready to take action:

Nicole’s Comeback Series starts April 9th—30 workouts in 60 days, plus walk & talks and quick “bare minimum” options for busy days. You can sign up at sweatandstillness.com.

I’m also running a 21-day challenge: Lose 10 Pounds by Memorial Day. It’s simple, interactive, and gives you the tools to lose weight for the last time—whether you’re on a GLP-1 or not. Join here: lauraconley.com/drop10

Try this for a week: start with “thank you,” loosen your grip a little, and see what shifts.

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I’m Laura Conley, life coach, mom of two, and founder of the Free The Moms Movement. And inside this podcast, we’re doing things differently.

You don’t have to be exhausted to be a great mom.

You don’t have to be perfect.

And you don’t have to wait until your kids are older to start living your life.

If you’re craving:

→ more joy, freedom, and feeling like YOU again

→ less burnout, people-pleasing, and overwhelm

→ real tools that actually work in real mom life

You’re in the right place.

Hit follow, and let’s go.

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