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sapphic signs you like her more than a friend

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 16:30:00 GMT

This week on giving (un)bothered, we’re exposing the real sapphic signs you like her more than a friend — from getting jealous (but pretending you’re chill), to fantasising about her in your dreams.

Whether you’re in a queer situationship, catching unexpected feelings for a friend, or deep in your bisexual/lesbian awakening, we’re breaking it all down with chaotic honesty, personal stories, and the kind of call-outs that might just change your perspective.

🫶 In this episode:

- Clear signs you have a crush on a girl

- Sapphic attraction vs friendship explained

- How to tell if you like her more than a friend

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Just a "Phase" : heated rivalry, s*x bucket list, wlw dirty talk

Wed, 04 Mar 2026 16:40:00 GMT

Season 3 is HERE and we’re starting messy, heated, and unapologetically.

In this episode of giving (un)bothered, we spiral over our obsession with Heated Rivalry, unpack the tension, the chemistry, and why we can’t stop thinking about it 👀 Then we turn up the chaos playing Just a “Phase”, the queer card game by Ali Saarela, answering all your burning questions about dating,intimacy, friendships, dirty talk, and everything inbetween.

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sapphic dating wrapped & etsy witch soulmate reading

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 16:30:00 GMT

As 2025 comes to a close, we’re unwrapping our sapphic dating lives. Think of it as the ultimate end-of-year recap, but messier. In this episode, we dive into our personal “Dating Unwrapped” stats: the unforgettable highs, the total disasters, awkward first dates, unexpected sparks, and everything in between. From ghosting fails to swoon-worthy moments, we’re sharing what this year really taught us about love, lust, and all the chaos that comes with modern queer dating.

And because we can’t resist a little magic, we’re also getting a soulmate reading from an Etsy witch: will it predict our future loves? Or just give us a good laugh? Either way, buckle up for stories, laughs, cringe-worthy confessions, and maybe a sprinkle of hope for 2026.

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the L word debrief : loving Bette Porter is a red flag

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 16:30:00 GMT

This week on giving (un)bothered, we’re deep-diving into The L Word — the iconic, chaotic, ahead-of-its-time series that transformed queer TV history and paved the way for modern LGBTQ+ representation in media. If you’ve ever searched for The L Word analysis, character breakdowns, or why this show still has such a cultural grip, this episode is for you.

We get into everything:

✨ The L Word characters we relate to most: the personalities and storylines that still hit today

🔥 The L Word characters we dislike: the ones who continue to divide fans

💖 The best L Word couples and the love stories that live rent-free in our minds

🤨 The weirdest dynamics and plotlines, because no show is messier in the best way.

🚀 Why the show was so ahead of its time and its lasting influence on queer storytelling.

We also touch on the hype around Wicked Part 2, sharing our thoughts and reactions after watching the movie!

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surviving long distance relationships : facetime dates, communication & staying independent

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 16:30:00 GMT

Long-distance relationships are NOT for the weak and on today’s episode, we’re unpacking everything that keeps a long distance relationship alive… and everything that can ruin it.

From FaceTime dates, to over-communicating vs. under-communicating, to figuring out how to stay independent while still being obsessed with your partner. We’re breaking down the real, unfiltered LDR experience.

If you're navigating a queer long-distance relationship, thinking about starting one, or deep into those “I miss you” spirals… this episode is your comfort listen. 💕📱✈️

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lesbian s*x for dummies: labels in the bedroom (with Katie from Labeless)

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 16:30:00 GMT

We sit down with Katie, founder of queer-owned s*x toy company Labeless, to unpack labels in the bedroom: top, bottom, pillow princess, and everything in between. Plus, our first experiences with women and the awkward truth about visiting a s*x shop for the first time.

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truth or drink: sapphic age gaps & getting caught having s*x

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 16:30:00 GMT

We’re back with another Truth or Drink, and things got way too real. From sapphic fantasies to virginity stories we probably shouldn’t have shared, this one’s pure chaos in the best way. Grab a drink and dive into the mess of queer dating, lesbian love, and our very own red flag behaviour 🌶️

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gold star lesbians, baby gays & heartbreak advice

Wed, 15 Oct 2025 15:30:00 GMT

We’re answering your questions about gold star lesbians, baby gays, and queer heartbreak. Real listener confessions, breakup advice, and chaotic first-date stories: unfiltered and very gay. 🌈💔

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lesbian hot takes : why do lesbians sleep with their friends?

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 15:30:00 GMT

We’re back, season 2 of giving (un)bothered is here! 🎉 And we’re starting off strong with lesbian hot takes: all the unfiltered, spicy opinions you’ve been thinking (but maybe not saying out loud).

From controversial takes on queer dating to the unspoken truths about lesbian friendships and community dynamics, we’re laying it all on the table.

💌 Don’t forget to subscribe and drop your hottest take in the comments

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sapphic red flags : how to get over your first crush

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 15:30:00 GMT

Your first lesbian crush? Been there. Obsessed? Absolutely. Over it? …Eventually. In this episode, we dive deep into the sapphic red flags you should run from (👀), the ones we controversially find kinda hot (don’t judge us), and the emotional chaos of getting over your first lesbian crush.

From the seductive mystery of a girl who lovebombs just enough to keep you hooked, to the heartbreak of someone who wants girlfriend treatment but won’t commit — we’ve seen it all. We’re unpacking the most common red flags in queer dating, like hot-and-cold texting, exes who never fully exit the chat, and intense jealousy disguised as passion. And yes, we also admit the red flags that, controversially, we still find kind of hot (hello, “healthy” possessiveness 👀).

Whether you’re spiraling over a situationship, confused by your crush’s mixed signals, or trying to heal after your first real queer heartbreak, this episode is your survival guide to lesbian relationships, emotional growth, and choosing peace over chaos (eventually).

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let’s get naked: sexting, strapping & bedroom icks

Wed, 23 Jul 2025 15:30:00 GMT

In this unfiltered and hilarious episode, we’re getting real about what happens behind closed doors. From sexting fails to our biggest bedroom icks, nothing is off-limits. We dive into the juicy debate: fingering, scissoring or strapping – which one hits the spot? 👀 Plus, we’re talking threesomes, swinging, and what turns us on vs. what sends us running.

Whether you're queer, curious, or just here for the chaotic honesty, this episode is your go-to for sex-positive, queer-centered conversations.

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navigating long distance relationships (with Kelsey & Becky)

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 15:30:00 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the highs and lows of long-distance relationships. We’re joined by Kelsey and Becky, a couple who fell in love 5,000 miles apart after matching on Hinge — and yes, there was a ghosting plot twist 👀

From navigating a transatlantic relationship (UK to LA) to their first in-person meeting, we unpack how they’re making long-distance love work. We talk conflict resolution, healthy communication in long-distance relationships, building trust across time zones, and the realities no one warns you about.

Whether you're in a long-distance relationship, thinking about starting one, or just love a good modern-day love story, this episode is full of honest insights, relationship advice, and a real look at what it takes to stay connected when you're worlds apart.

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we got ghosted by the same girl?! WLW dating horror stories (with Amy Pozzilli)

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 15:30:00 GMT

This week, we're joined by our friend Amy to talk all things heartbreak, healing, and sapphic dating chaos. Amy shares how she rebuilt her confidence, stepped back into dating, and how it felt getting ghosted by the same girl as co-host Alana 👀💔 We unpack red flags, WLW dating patterns, navigating trust after betrayal, and what healing really looks like.

We also dive into spiritual healing after a breakup and the surprising ways energy work, intuition, and astrology can support healing.

Whether you've been ghosted, cheated on, or you're trying to date again after heartbreak—this one's for you.

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building a happy queer marriage (with Megan Elliott-Hewson)

Wed, 02 Jul 2025 15:30:00 GMT

In this episode, we sit down with queer writer, artist, and pottery studio owner Megan Elliott-Hewson to dive into the beauty and complexity of queer marriage, building a life in creative partnership, and the unfiltered truth about writing queer fiction.

👉 We talk:

💍 The honest reality of queer marriage

🖋️ Writing queer novels in a straight-centered industry

🫖 Creating safe, soft spaces through queer pottery classes

💬 Finding love, art, and community as a queer woman

Find Megan Elliott-Hewson on:

Instagram: @meganelliotthewson
Clay wild studio Instagram: @claywildstudio

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Hinge's love expert Moe Ari Brown on queer dating trends, label fatigue & identity pressure

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 15:30:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re joined by Moe Ari Brown (they / him) —Hinge’s Love & Connection Expert and a licensed therapist—to dive deep into the complexities of queer dating in 2025.

We talk about everything from label fatigue to performance pressure on dating apps, and what Hinge has learned about how LGBTQ+ people swipe, flirt, and connect differently than straight users.

Moe shares insights on:

How queer users are moving away from traditional identity labels
What it means to perform queerness on apps, often without realising it
Why the pressure to be “dateable” can lead to self-erasure
What underrated green flags to look for in queer dating
How non-binary and gender-expansive users navigate a still-binary app culture

We also ask Moe for practical advice on building a more authentic dating profile, understanding identity ambiguity, and flirting past stereotypes like “soft masc” and “femme top.”

Read Hinge’s 2025 LGBTQIA+ D.A.T.E report (love beyonds labels): https://hinge.co/newsroom/2025-LGBTQ-Report

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Instagram: @loveoutproud
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truth or drink: rebounds, exes & kinks

Wed, 18 Jun 2025 15:40:00 GMT

Being queer in your 20s means dating drama, messy breakups, and a few…questionable choices. This week, we play truth or drink and confess it all—from kinks to the ex we’re still not over.

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anxious vs avoidant attachment: how to become secure

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 15:40:00 GMT

Let’s talk about it: why do anxious girlies keep falling for avoidant people?

In this episode, we get personal about our own experiences dating avoidant partners while navigating anxious attachment. From spiraling over mixed signals to learning how to show up more securely, we’re unpacking what it really feels like to be in these dynamics — and how we’re slowly breaking the pattern.

If you’ve ever felt clingy, overthought a text for hours, or kept giving chances to someone who couldn’t meet you emotionally — you’re not alone.

🎧 Topics we touch on:

anxious vs avoidant attachment
dating while anxiously attached
our personal journey toward becoming secure

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WLW intimacy Q&A: debunking myths & inclusive sex ed

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 15:00:00 GMT

We're talking all things WLW sex in this weeks unfiltered episode!

We answer YOUR most asked questions:

- Is scissoring actually a thing?

- How do WLW deal with long hair during sex?

- What's a myth vs fact when it comes to lesbian intimacy?

Plus, we dive into the serious gaps in sex education when it comes to queer relationships, and how growing up without proper info left many of us confused and googling things we shouldn’t have had to.

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I’m best friends with my ex-girlfriend (with Abisha)

Wed, 28 May 2025 15:40:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re joined by queer model, actor, writer and artist Abisha for a candid and inspiring conversation. She opens up about being best friends with her ex-girlfriend—and how her current girlfriend has become part of the friendship too. We talk about meeting her girlfriend online during the pandemic, their bold U-Haul love story, and what it’s really like navigating relationships with openness and emotional maturity. Abisha also shares what inspired her to write an LGBTQ+ children’s book, the importance of representation in queer literature and she gets real about the challenges and lessons that come with dating someone in the public eye.

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Instagram: ⁠@abisha
Tiktok: ⁠@abishaofficial

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sapphic dating mistakes

Wed, 21 May 2025 15:40:00 GMT

Sapphic dating is a wild ride and we’ve made every mistake in the book. In this episode, we roast ourselves and unpack the biggest sapphic dating mistakes we’ve made so you don’t have to. From emotionally investing before even meeting IRL, to losing ourselves in situationships with women who never even knew our last names — we’ve been there, done that, and are finally learning our lessons.

Listen for relatable queer dating confessions, spicy mistakes, and the growth we’ve finally found on the other side.

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how to tell if you’re into women (Q&A)

Wed, 14 May 2025 15:40:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re getting into the messy, relatable realities of queer dating and identity from unpacking internalised homophobia to dealing with rejection in queer dating, we explore how to tell if you're genuinely into women or just curious. Plus: how the hell do you define the line between friendship and flirting between girls? 👀

Whether you're newly out, questioning your sexuality, or deep in the sapphic trenches, this one’s for you.

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sapphic breakups : how to heal from a heartbreak

Wed, 07 May 2025 15:40:00 GMT

Breakups are hard—but sapphic breakups? They hit different. In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of ending a queer relationship. Whether you’re healing from your first lesbian breakup or navigating the messy end of a WLW situationship, we’ve got you. Expect raw advice, personal stories, and healing tips to help you move on (without texting her at 2AM).

If you’ve ever Googled “how to get over a lesbian breakup” or “why do queer breakups hurt so much?”—this episode is for you.

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kicked out of Uber for being gay (with Aaron & Ryan)

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 15:40:00 GMT

We sit down with married queer couple Aaron and Ryan to talk about being kicked out of an Uber for being gay during Sydney Pride. We dive into the realities of LGBTQ+ discrimination, traveling while queer, and how to maintain healthy communication in relationships and marriages.

From navigating homophobia while traveling to sharing tips on building strong partnerships, this episode is packed with personal stories, laughs, and important conversations about why Pride still matters in 2025. Whether you're part of the LGBTQ+ community or an ally, this episode gives unfiltered insight into the challenges and joys of queer love and life.

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how to date women : sapphic edition

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 15:45:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on all things dating — the good, the awkward, and the (un)bothered. From decoding body language and making eye contact to navigating first date etiquette (who gets there first?!), we’re covering it all.

We talk about:

- How to flirt like a pro

- Who makes the first move — and why it doesn’t matter

- How to communicate your intentions without freaking out

- Why being your full self is the ultimate green flag

- The art of NOT trauma dumping on the first date

- How to avoid getting friend-zoned (unless that’s the vibe)

- Ditching gender roles in queer relationships

Plus, a Q&A with listener-submitted sapphic dating questions!

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being queer is woke? (with Aaron & Ryan)

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 15:45:00 GMT

This week, we’re joined by the iconic Australian duo Aaron and Ryan with powerful, heartfelt, and hilarious stories to share.

In Part 1 of this deep and chaotic two-part episode, we talk about:

Their personal coming out stories
What it’s like growing up queer in Australia
The complicated relationship between religion and LGBTQ+ identity
Dealing with homophobia and finding chosen family
The importance of queer representation

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let’s get naked : U-Hauling, role-play & cheating

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 15:45:00 GMT

In this unfiltered episode, we're talking cheating, U-Hauling, and role-play - aka the chaotic trifecta of queer dating. Through “Would You Rather” questions and relatable scenarios, we unpack it all: What to do if your partner’s kissing style isn’t it? Thoughts on role-play and strap-ons. Is cheating always a dealbreaker? And yes… how fast is too fast to U-Haul? Whether you're deep in your situationship or just here for the tea, this episode is full of laughs, honesty, and queer chaos.

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Queer Friendships, Internalised Homophobia & Fighting for Women’s Rights (with Zan Moon)

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 15:45:00 GMT

This week, we sit down with Zan Moon—women’s rights activist and founder of sapphic events in London. Zan takes us through her coming out story, from realising she was a lesbian in boarding school, to navigating a religious upbringing and internalised homophobia. She opens up about the challenges of finding queer community in London and why she started organising sapphic events to create safe spaces for the LGBTQ+ community. We also dive into her work as a women’s rights activist, including her role in helping British Transport Police campaigning for safer public spaces and tackling harassment. From the fight for queer visibility to advocating for safer public spaces, this episode is packed with insight, activism, and relatable LGBTQ+ experiences.

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Instagram: ⁠@zan_moon_
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escaping the male gaze : after coming out

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 17:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we talk about how the male gaze shaped our fashion and behaviour to gain validation. Since coming out, we’ve stepped away from these influences, reclaiming our confidence and dressing for ourselves. We discuss how shedding the male gaze has allowed us to express our true identities authentically and embrace freedom in our style and behaviour.

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lesbian stereotypes : signs she’s into women

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 17:00:00 GMT

This week, we’re breaking down iconic lesbian stereotypes—from vegans & carabiner code to tattoos and rock climbing lesbians—We’re decoding the ultimate signs of sapphic energy and asking the real question: are these just fun tropes, or are we all guilty?

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sapphic sex : strap-ons & scissoring

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 17:01:26 GMT

In this episode of Let’s Get Naked, we’re getting real about sapphic sex! We dive into all the juicy details—strap-ons, scissoring, tantric sex, and some hilariously awkward sex stories. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just here for the laughs, we’re breaking down the myths, sharing personal intimacy experiences, and spilling the tea on what really goes down in the bedroom.

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navigating your 20s: people pleasing and post break-up glow ups

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 17:18:47 GMT

Your 20s are a wild ride, and in this week's episode, we’re spilling all the hard-earned lessons we’ve learned along the way. From navigating friendship breakups, realizing the importance of family time, and embracing the ultimate post-breakup glow-up, to taking risks and chasing your dreams—we’re covering it all. Plus, we dive into how your friendships can shape your sexuality journey in ways you might not expect.

If you’ve ever questioned a friendship, gone through a major life shift, or felt like you're still figuring it all out—this one's for you. Tune in for real talk, personal stories, and the best advice we wish we had in our early 20s.

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LGBT+ Mental Health : OCD, Anxiety & Depression

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 16:00:00 GMT

In this week’s episode, Alana shares her journey of self-discovery, mental health, and embracing her identity. From being diagnosed with OCD, anxiety, and depression as a teenager to understanding how her struggles were tied to her sexuality, Alana opens up about the challenges she’s faced and the resilience that got her through.

Join us for a powerful and unfiltered conversation about mental health, coming out, and navigating life as part of the LGBT+ community.

Helplines:
United Kingdom:

Samaritans – 24/7 confidential support for anyone in distress. Call 116 123 or email jo@samaritans.org(samaritans.org)
Shout – Free, confidential 24/7 text service. Text "SHOUT" to 85258 (giveusashout.org)
Mind – Offers advice and support for mental health challenges. Call 0300 123 3393 (Monday to Friday, 9 am–6 pm) or text 86463 (mind.org.uk)
OCD Action – Support for individuals affected by OCD. Call 0300 636 5478 (Monday to Friday, 9:30 am–8 pm) or email support@ocdaction.org.uk

United States:

988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – 24/7 support for individuals in crisis. Call or text 988 (988lifeline.org)
Crisis Text Line – Free 24/7 text support. Text "HOME" to 741741 (crisistextline.org)
International OCD Foundation (IOCDF) – Resources for those affected by OCD. Visit iocdf.org for guidance on finding help

Please remember, if you or someone you know is in immediate danger, call emergency services. You're not alone—help is available.

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I’m not cheating, I’m networking (with Chloe Barker)

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 17:00:00 GMT

Would you stay unbothered if your partner was still close with their ex? What about “networking” on dating apps? In this episode, we’re playing a game of Bothered or Unbothered? with our guest Chloe Barker, debating relationships scenarios that blur the line between harmless and sketchy. From liking thirst traps to still wearing an ex’s hoodie, we’re spilling all the tea.

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let's get naked: foot fetishes, virginity stories & sex life struggles

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 17:00:00 GMT

This week, we get real about everything related to sex, relationships, and all those juicy topics we’re told to avoid with another round of Let’s Get Naked. We’re talking about sex drought struggles, first-time experiences, and diving into fetishes. Plus, we’re opening up about our experiences with one-night stands and discussing what we truly enjoy when it comes to intimacy—whether that’s using our hands, our mouths, or something else entirely.

Get ready for a raw and honest conversation about navigating sexual desires, exploring new territories, and breaking free from the shame and taboo surrounding sexuality.
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sapphic signals: is she friendly or flirting?

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 17:00:00 GMT

Is she making you a mixtape… or just being nice? Does that deep eye contact mean she’s into you, or is she just an intense listener? This week, we’re diving into the chaotic world of decoding sapphic signals. From reading each other’s birth charts to writing love poems "as a friend," we’re breaking down the fine line between flirty and friendly.

Are lesbians just naturally romantic, or are we all doomed to misinterpret the signs? We spill our own confusion-filled stories and debate the ultimate queer love language.
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Hinge icks: threesomes, thirst traps & short-term relationships

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 16:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re spilling the tea on the icks and dealbreakers that make us swipe left on dating apps like Hinge, Raya and Tinder. Join us as we reveal our top dating app pet peeves, discuss how our profiles can make or break a connection, and laugh at some of the most outrageous dealbreaker moments we’ve experienced. Get ready for a real talk on online dating and how to avoid the biggest profile mistakes.
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why is trump obsessed with what's in our pants?

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 17:00:32 GMT

In this episode, we unpack Trump’s two-gender policy and our thoughts on it. We also get real about homophobic encounters, how to handle them, and why some people still feel the need to show up at Pride just to hate. We share our experiences traveling abroad, the challenges we’ve faced, and why queer-friendly spaces feel so important to us.
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let’s get naked : sex parties, orgasms & open relationships

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 17:00:00 GMT

This week, we’re raising the temperature with another round of Let’s Get Naked—the ultimate card game that sparks bold, unfiltered conversations about sex, intimacy, and modern relationships. From jaw-dropping confessions and expert tips to navigating open relationships, this episode is packed with laughs, insights, and all the juicy details you didn’t know you needed. Whether you’re curious, experienced, or just here for the fun, this is your go-to listen for all things love and desire.

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did I ruin the relationship?

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 17:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re getting brutally honest about the biggest relationship mistakes we’ve made and how they’ve shaped us:

That time we stayed in a toxic relationship (oops)
How our attachment styles turned conflicts into chaos
Why jealousy and silent treatments were so toxic (and how we’ve learned to handle conflict better)
The lessons we’ve learned about love, healing, and setting boundaries

This episode is a mix of self-reflection and plenty of laughs as we look back on our messy love lives and the glow-ups that came after. Tune in for relatable stories, hard-won wisdom, and all the chaos you’ve come to expect from us

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2024 was a hot mess, but we’re still trying

Wed, 01 Jan 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re reflecting on the highs and lows of 2024—turning all those hot mess moments into valuable lessons. From setting boundaries to leaving behind toxic habits, we’re sharing our resolutions for 2025 and how we’re embracing personal growth and self-love. We talk about everything from ending the year with lessons learned to entering the new year with a fresh mindset. Get ready for a mix of humor, real talk, and some serious inspiration for your own 2025 glow-up
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2024 dating unwrapped : who said dating women is easier?

Thu, 26 Dec 2024 18:04:00 GMT

As 2024 comes to a close, we’re taking a stroll down memory lane—or should we say, the dating battlefield. In this episode, we break down our “Dating Wrapped” stats: the best moments, worst dates, unexpected sparks, and total flops. From lessons learned to love lost (or found?), we’re getting real about what this year taught us about the wild world of modern romance. Buckle up for some laughs, a few cringe-worthy confessions, and maybe a little hope for 2025!
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let's get naked

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 17:37:46 GMT

This week, we’re turning up the heat with Let’s Get Naked—a provocative card game that dives into all things bedroom! We answer juicy, hilarious, and downright awkward questions about intimacy, sex, and relationships. From shocking confessions to spicy tips, this episode is packed with unfiltered fun and fresh perspectives on love and desire.

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attachment styles and texting: how they impact your romantic connections

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 00:01:00 GMT

In this episode of giving (un)bothered, we took a quiz to uncover our own attachment styles and reflect how they shape the way we communicate through texts. We share our personal reactions, dive into what these styles mean for our texting habits, and explore how they affect romantic communication.

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Nail gun to my head & sleeping with the boss

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 22:13:22 GMT

In this episode, we’re sharing some of our most shocking and uncomfortable workplace experiences. Alana opens up about the time her boss crossed all kinds of boundaries. Meanwhile, Jelka spills on the dark side of the modeling industry. Buckle up for a jaw-dropping ride through the chaos behind the scenes of our careers!

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Weird icks & turn ons

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 00:01:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re diving into the little things that give us the “ick” and the surprising quirks that make us swoon. From awkward first-date habits to oddly specific turn-ons, we’re sharing the moments that make us question—or double down on—our dating choices. It’s a rollercoaster of cringe, laughs, and maybe a few unexpected confessions.

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Commitment in the age of casual swipes

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 19:48:06 GMT

In this episode, we’re diving into what it’s like to love intensely in a world that often mistakes passion for love-bombing. Is there such a thing as being too much in modern dating? We share our own stories of loving hard, explore why it can feel so intimidating (or downright scary) for others, and chat about finding the balance between showing up authentically and not freaking people out. Get ready for laughs, some serious self-reflection, and maybe even a few tips on how to navigate love in a swipe-right culture.

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Part 2: Our sexuality stories

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 17:58:52 GMT

Part 2: In this episode we're peeling back the layers and diving into our personal stories of discovering, exploring, and embracing our sexualities. Each of us shares the twists, turns, and surprises that have shaped our journeys, from early realizations to game-changing moments. Whether it's the fun, the awkward, or the downright unexpected, we're opening up in ways we never have before. Join us for a raw, hilarious, and heartwarming conversation about what it really means to find and own who we are.

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Part 1: Our sexuality stories

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 03:13:41 GMT

In this episode we're peeling back the layers and diving into our personal stories of discovering, exploring, and embracing our sexualities. Each of us shares the twists, turns, and surprises that have shaped our journeys, from early realizations to game-changing moments. Whether it's the fun, the awkward, or the downright unexpected, we're opening up in ways we never have before. Join us for a raw, hilarious, and heartwarming conversation about what it really means to find and own who we are.

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Bewitched or bothered?

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 16:22:20 GMT

In this Halloween special, we’re mixing spooky fun with our usual girly banter! Join us as we play "Bewitched or Bothered?" where each host shares dating stories and personal experiences with a Halloween twist. We’ll dive into scenarios that make us blush or bolt. Are these tales charming—or just plain creepy? Tune in for laughs, chills, and a little Halloween magic!

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Dating disasters and everything in-between

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 23:01:00 GMT

In this episode, we’re spilling all the details on our most hilarious and cringe-worthy dating disaster stories. From awkward moments to unexpected mishaps, nothing is off-limits! Plus, we’ll break down some of the best (and worst) pickup lines we’ve encountered. Get ready to laugh, cringe, and relate to the wild ride that is dating!

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Likes and lies; social media's toxicity

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 23:01:00 GMT

In this episode, we discuss the pressure of showing a "perfect life" online and how editing apps like Facetune contribute to unrealistic beauty standards. These trends lead to harmful comparisons, lowering self-esteem and distorting reality. Join us for a discussion on breaking free from online pressures and embracing a healthier digital life.

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