Interstates & Heartbreak

100. Zero to 100 Episodes

Sun, 29 May 2022 07:01:00 GMT

Welcome to Interstates & HeartDRAKE, where I get IN MY FEELINGS about my journey from 0 TO 100 episodes. Things go from OVO to AMA as I answer listener-submitted questions about :

-- How I cope when I'M UPSET-- TIMELINES as they relate to exclusivity-- What I would do if I had no MORE LIFE to live after 5 months-- BACK TO BACK questions about the biggest lessons I learned from dating my first ex and producing the podcast…and the Johnny Depp v. Amber Heard trial, but I ran out of Drake lyrics.

Jk, here's one more - listen to the end if you want to SEE WHAT'S 'BOUT TO HAPPEN NEXT for Interstates & Heartbreak, OKAY?

Please don't un-follow me because of the Drake puns : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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99. Breakdowns, Breakups, and Heartbreak

Sun, 22 May 2022 07:01:00 GMT

The heartbreak podcast collab you didn’t know you needed- Interstates & Heartbreak welcomes Thank You Heartbreak host Chelsea Leigh Trescott to discuss reclaiming your breakup experience to “break upward.” She discusses her evolution from serial monogamist to intentionally single, and how her standards have raised along the journey. We discuss the nuances of heartbreak, like breaking your OWN heart by staying in a relationship that doesn’t serve you, or the often ignored heartbreak of being the one to end a relationship.

TRIGGER WARNING: Chelsea reflects on some heavier topics like a suicidal ex (16:27) and dating while struggling with disordered eating (12:05, 22:50, 1:04:40).

For the woman behind the sultry voice : @thankyouheartbreak

For help transitioning from breakup to glow up : chelsea@breakupward.com

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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98. Love is Blindfolded

Sun, 15 May 2022 07:01:00 GMT

Harrison Forman and Brandon Berman present a dating experience with all the intrigue of Love is Blind, but without the editing or gold chalices - UpDating. They recount the journey that inspired the live blindfolded reality dating show as it exists today, and the wildest on-stage connections and rejections to-date. We wrap with insights into our own dating lives, including their experience with clout chasers, their hypothesis on my type, Brandon's future UpDating proposal, and Harrison's recent date with a former Interstates & Heartbreak guest.

For DM slides (platonic or otherwise) : @htforman

For platonic DM slides ONLY : @bermmy16

For casting DM slides : @updatingshow (or apply at updatingshow.com)

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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Mother’s Day Throwback – Call Her Mommy

Sun, 08 May 2022 07:01:00 GMT

Interstates & Heartbreak gets personal today, as I bring my mom back for an encore interview to answer listener-submitted questions! Hear our unfiltered discussion about her thoughts on dating apps, her ideal man, which of my exes was the best, and more.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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96. Dating “Mr. Big” (and Other NY Men)

Sun, 01 May 2022 07:01:00 GMT

Stevie Bowen revisits the early 20's dating stories that inspired her modern Carrie Bradshaw moment - complete with her own version of Mr. Big. She dishes on the men behind the monikers in her memoir, The City of Dating…the one who (unknowingly) took her virginity, the one who fulfilled her sk8tr boi fantasy, the one who viewed protein powder as a food group…and the Charlottes, Mirandas, and Samanthas who were there to gossip with her over brunch the morning after.

For content to help you commiserate over your dating experience : @thecityofdating

For dating confessions that will help you feel better about your own love life : thecityofdating.com

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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95. Chronic Illness Dating Chronicles

Sun, 24 Apr 2022 07:00:00 GMT

Gigi Robinson provides visibility to a typically invisible condition - Ehlers-Danlos syndrome - and recounts the 10+ year journey post-diagnosis that ultimately led her to build a platform dedicated to awareness around chronic illness. She drags the men who've had (FAR) less than ideal responses to her condition in the past, from bouncing mid-makeout, to an attempted religious conversion. She also shares the secrets around confidence and body image that ultimately led her to a Sports Illustrated swim shoot.

To slide into Gigi's DMs about something OTHER than her Sports Illustrated photos: @itsgigirobinson

For all of the ways you can call her, beep her, if you wanna reach her : gigirobinson.com

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak .com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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94. What Happened in Vegas…

Sun, 17 Apr 2022 07:01:00 GMT

What happens in Vegas…gets recapped on this week's solo podcast episode as I share a story about a married man who embodies the "What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas" attitude. I divulge how a night out on a chill mother-daughter Vegas trip raised broader questions around infidelity, the politics of free drinks, and rejection etiquette.

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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93. I’m So F-ing Grateful For My Ex

Sun, 10 Apr 2022 07:01:00 GMT

Jenn and Julien from Ex Appeal podcast address an age old question - can straight men and women TRULY be friends? They share how their relationship evolved from hook up buddies to friends and podcast cohosts, and tackle questions like whether friendship can co-exist with sexual attraction, how much detail your partner needs to know about your past hookups, and whether accountants really need their own podcasts.

For more dating takes from your new favorite exes : @exappealpodcast

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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92. How NOT To Pick Up Women (From an ex-PUA)

Sun, 03 Apr 2022 07:00:00 GMT

This week Ryan Black pulls back the curtain on the motives of pick up artists - why they neg, casual sex (and why it's NOT a flex in this case), and their apparent nightclub obsession. He opens up about his own dating journey from prepubescence to present day and how it led him into the PUA community, and the true confidence and self-acceptance he's found since divorcing the game.

TRIGGER WARNING at 1:02:20 (gun violence & suicide mention)

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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91. If He Wanted To…Would He?

Sun, 27 Mar 2022 07:00:00 GMT

Jon Birger joins me on this week's episode to discuss shooting your shot - and I'm not talking about March Madness. We discuss his latest book, Make Your Move: The New Science of Dating, to break down what women stand to gain from asking men out. We analyze the sexist "science" that informs traditional dating gender roles, and the evolution into modern philosophies of "If he wanted to, he would." Jon also critiques my own feeble attempts at shooting my shot in years prior, and explains how meeting on Hinge impacts the likelihood of long term success with my current boyfriend.

To order Make Your Move or invite Jon to your book club : jonbirger.com

For more of Jon's musings on modern dating dynamics : @jon_birger1

To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak

For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com

For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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90. Tinder Swindler Schaudenfreude

Sun, 20 Mar 2022 01:00:00 GMT

Today I'm here solo to discuss reality dating shows and why they have such a hold on us. I analyze how my relationship to Love is Blind and The Bachelor is analogous to and old school Playboy Magazine, and dive into how The Tinder Swindler recently rounded out my trifecta of dating content consumption. I raise all the red flags - both those that foreshadowed the swindler victims' downfall AND the ones that would be showcased in a dating documentary about my own life, raising the question - am I myself Tinder Swindlable? Oh, and Google teaches me how to correctly pronounce "schadenfreude" on air. To email me your dating show reality thoughts, or your own PERSONAL dating horror stories : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : @interstatesandheartbreak on TikTokFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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89. Love is Blurry

Sun, 13 Mar 2022 08:01:00 GMT

Today I pull out the gold wine glasses with the ladies of Dope Shit My Therapist Says podcast return to discuss the Love is Blind season 2 finale and reunion. We dive into all of our unfiltered thoughts about the cast - from unofficial therapy diagnoses, to villain "edits," to the couples we stan (and the breakups we stanned more). Most importantly, I share why the reunion inspired me to withdraw my shade around "I'm Nick Lachey, OBVIOUSLY," and "My fiancé is hot like Beyoncé." For self care in the form of affirmations and validation for all your therapeutic indulgences : @dopeshttherapypod To hear more dope shit from the perspective of two practicing therapists : Dope Sh*t My Therapist Says podcast Or email them directly at: dopeshttherapypod@gmail.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I’m not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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88. You’re Toxic, I’m Slipping Under

Sun, 06 Mar 2022 08:01:00 GMT

This week I interview Gabi Conti, author of Twenty Guys You Date In Your Twenties, and host of Am I Dating A Serial Killer podcast. Before diving into serial killers, we discuss serial dating - from lessons learned, to how going on thirty (yes, THIRTY) dates in one weekend indirectly led to meeting her husband. Gabi dives into how to avoid stranger danger on the apps, and we share our personal experiences of what NOT to do. We close with a discussion around self-proclaimed narcissist Che Diaz, and other pop culture icons with questionable personality traits.To relive Gabi's Andi Anderson-level dating escapades : @itsgabiconti To read about the Twenty Guys You Date in Your Twenties, or if you've ever asked yourself "Am I Dating A Serial Killer" : gabiconti.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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87. Insecure…ly Attached

Sun, 27 Feb 2022 08:01:00 GMT

Marla Goldstein of G-Spot Coaching joins the podcast to discuss your body's biggest sexual organ - the brain. We dive into her mission to help women find emotionally available partners, and identify the early online and IRL red flags that signal someone is emotional UNavailable. We then dissect the attachment styles and their correlation to availability, while analyzing our own attachment tendencies (along with every Love is Blind cast member's).To see Marla's personal dating app game in action : @gspotcoaching To let NPR psychoanalyze your dating style : NPR Attachment Style Quiz To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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86. Daters and Clout Chasers

Sun, 20 Feb 2022 08:01:00 GMT

This week I interview the Carrie B of Gen Z - author, actress, and influencer Carrie Berk. She candidly recaps her recent experience on the reality show Next Influencer, and how the show reinforced her decision to start dating outside of the influencer bubble. We dissect the male influencer f-boy archetype and the downsides that come with it, ranging from thirst traps to Snapchats. Carrie also pulls back the curtain on the clout chasers and love bombers that come along with so-called glamorous side of dating when you DO have a blue checkmark.To follow the modern day Carrie Bradshaw : @carrieberkk For the first scoop on Carrie's upcoming book : www.carrieberk.comTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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85. WE WERE ON A BREAK (w/my boyfriend Michael)

Sun, 13 Feb 2022 08:01:00 GMT

This Valentine's Day I interview none other than my boyfriend to fully dive into the ups and downs of our relationship to date. We discuss how we got together, spanning everything from the lie I told him when we first started talking, a first date that was nearly cancelled night of, and a risque and poorly-timed DTR discussion. From there, Michael admits to sliding back in for an unintentional Valentine's Day rekindling in 2021, and what broke us up in the first place. The episode closes with Michael's answers to listener submitted questions (plus a few bonuses thrown in by me). For a rare glimpse of Michael on my Instagram : @lesliegnope To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

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84. I’m Sorry. I Can’t. Don’t Hate Me.

Sun, 06 Feb 2022 08:01:00 GMT

This week Liana Pavane and I discuss modern breakups more realistic than Che Diaz's "two-FaceTime" story. She shares how a phone call breakup drove her to break out of toxic dating patterns and explore a "selfship" before getting back out there. We discuss why you need to create your own closure, and concrete steps towards to recovering from a breakup. On the flip side, we outline how to execute good breakup etiquette in regards to timing, location, and depth of explanation - and reflect on our past experiences that served as examples of what NOT to do.For more modern day ghost stories : @ghosts_ofdatespast For IRL connections (and to cut down on your screen time) : ttylnyc.com For all of Liana's dating insights and resources : lianapavane.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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83. Two Drink Max (and Other Dating Rules) w/Lindsey Metselaar

Sun, 30 Jan 2022 08:01:00 GMT

This week I'm joined by Lindsey Metselaar of We Met At Acme podcast to discuss the harsh dating truths she learned in her 20s. She confesses to past cringe dating behaviors, like drinking too much or lingering for too long after an early sleepover. We go over the dating rules she now swears by, and how they impact gender dynamics around paying for dates, sleeping with a new partner, and making the first move. When your group chat's dating advice isn't cutting it: wemetatacme.com To join in on my poll question addiction : @wemetatacme To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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82. Love At First Impression Rose

Sun, 23 Jan 2022 08:01:00 GMT

Today I'm joined by Christine Loera, a Story Producer on an infamous (and for the purposes of our interview, anonymous) reality dating show to discuss dating on-screen vs. IRL. We dissect the persona and the traits that correlate to success on reality TV, and contemplate the feasibility of falling in love over the span of a few weeks. Christine opens up about how her job has impacted her own dating life for the positive (by providing an unexpected opening to come out to her parents) and the negative (through setting unrealistic expectations for relationship progress).To DM Christine and help her reconnect with Daisy Ridley : @misslatinafey To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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81. Should Your BF Be Your BFF?

Sun, 16 Jan 2022 08:01:00 GMT

Today's solo is about doing things solo - even when you have a partner. I discuss my attempt to make Bachelor viewing a couples activity, and broader expectations for shared interests in a relationship. I also reflect on using independence as a coping mechanism against a partner who doesn't prioritize you, and the ways I acted out in response to that feeling in the past. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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80. Call Me By My Stripper Name

Sun, 09 Jan 2022 08:01:00 GMT

I'm in love with TWO strippers - Danica and Riley, today's guests and the cohosts of 50 Plus a Tip podcast. They share strip club insights ranging from the cost of a lap dance (hint: it's in the title of their show), how NOT to compliment a dancer, and straight female patron faux pas that range from cringy to downright rude. We also discuss the intersection of their careers and love life - including thoughts on dating customers, the effect stripping has on confidence, and when to disclose your line of work.The only way Danica and Riley will speak to you for free : 50plusatip.comAnd for the visual experience : @50plusatipTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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79. Grandma, Unfiltered w/Excuse My Grandma podcast

Sun, 19 Dec 2021 08:01:00 GMT

Kim Murstein and her Grandma Gail of Excuse My Grandma podcast join me to debate the pros and cons of modern dating- dissecting everything from self-proclaimed "entrepreneurs" on the dating apps, whether bad sex is a dealbreaker, and if there's any benefit to being exclusive before being bf/gf. We evaluate the merit of traditional beliefs around paying for dates, women making the first move, and co-habitating before marriage in today's dating landscape, and I tell a Venmo story that fails Grandma Gail's standard for manners.For more unfiltered grandmotherly advice : Excuse my Grandma on Apple Podcasts and Spotify For the coolest grandma content on TikTok : @excusemygrandma To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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78. Exes and the City w/Jenna Langbaum

Sun, 12 Dec 2021 07:12:03 GMT

Jenna Langbaum, author of Me In Search of You, gives an honest and unfiltered view of what it's actually like to date in New York through short stories that span everything from a first date rife with overshares, Bumble profile dealbreakers, and the sinking realization you're being ghosted by someone you weren't even that into. She distinguishes the few moments in the city that DO actually make you feel like Carrie Bradshaw vs. the modern dating experiences that are notably absent from Sex and the City, Gossip Girl, Friends, and the like.For more of Me in Search of You (and some bonus stories) : @jennalangbaum To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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77. Dating Like a Main Character w/Case Kenny

Sun, 05 Dec 2021 09:01:00 GMT

Case Kenny of New Mindset, Who Dis? podcast joins me to discuss how reckless fuckboy / fuckgirl accusations, main character energy, and other dating buzzwords are impacting our love lives. He breaks down ways to own your standards and sniff out a legitimate fuckperson in the process without being labeled as "crazy." Finally, we explore why we're quicker to label someone a sociopath than to reflect on what we're actually bringing to the table (or as Kelis would say, "to the yard").For daily dating inspiration : @case.kennyFor journals that will spark an internal glow up : newmindsetwhodis.comTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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76. Tryna Meet Your Mama On a Sunday

Sun, 28 Nov 2021 08:01:00 GMT

This week's solo episode touches on the respective struggles of celebrating Thanksgiving both single and coupled. I reflect on each time I've met a boyfriend's parent(s), including finding the right balance of alcohol consumption, and the meeting that was never supposed to take place at all.To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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75. Are Brooklyn Men Okay?

Sun, 21 Nov 2021 08:01:00 GMT

I interview my former coworker and Queen of Staten Island, Marissa Ginsberg, about New York-specific dating woes. We compare the LA and NY male archetypes, and Marissa shares a range of dating app stories including red beard dye, psychedelics, and drenched attire that raise a broader question - Are Brooklyn men okay?? Marissa also opens up about the driving force behind getting on the apps after an extended break-up, and gives her take on whether or not exes can (and should) remain friends. To follow Marissa's comedy career, and her eventual IG rebrand : @marisssus To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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74. Un-HINGEd Dating w/Ilana Dunn

Sun, 14 Nov 2021 13:38:25 GMT

Ilana Dunn from Seeing Other People podcast shares her perspectives around online dating as a former Hinge employee (pre- Roses and voice prompts). We expose ill-advised dating behaviors driven by insecurity, like FBI-level social stalking and future-tripping after one date, and contrast what it feels like to finally date someone who you don't have to consult your group chat about. Ilana also opens up about the difficulties behind cohosting her podcast with someone she previously dated, and finally puts to rest the age old question of whether or not exes can truly be friends.For more unfiltered dating conversations : @seeingotherpeopleTo go from Seeing Other People to seeing Ilana : @ilana.dunnTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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73. Leveling Up Your Love Life w/In Your Twentys Podcast

Mon, 08 Nov 2021 00:51:30 GMT

Tinah Ogalo of In Your Twentys podcast shares her perspective on dating as a 23-year-old navigating post-college life. We discuss Tinder's reputation as a hookup app, its prominence in campus dating culture, and the situationships that have arisen from her own swiping. We close with the single piece of advice she thinks everyone in their 20s should follow, and why it essentially boils down to not giving a fuck.To watch Tinah slaying her 20s : @tinah.ogalo And to hear Tinah's advice on how you can slay your 20s : @inyourtwentys To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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72. The Fight For Reproductive Rights

Sun, 31 Oct 2021 07:01:00 GMT

I interview award-winning podcaster and investigative journalist Jordan Gass-Poore about the Texas legislation banning abortions after 6 weeks, Senate Bill 8. She shares how her perspective as a native Texan who's interviewed activists on both sides of the aisle has shaped her understanding of the legislation's supporters and its broader historical context. We discuss her personal connections to the topic, most notably her mom's admission to having abortions of her own. The episode closes with speculation around what this means for Roe V Wade and reproductive rights as a whole. To find Jordan's professional works : Chasing Life podcast and Local Switchboard NYC And to find her horror passion project : Pod of Madness To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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71. QUICKIE EPISODE – Thirty(One), Flirty, and Thriving

Sun, 24 Oct 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week is a quick solo episode where I give a peek into how I rang in 31 vs. 21, why I was decidedly NOT thriving in my first few months of turning 30, and the shared lesson learned from a my torn Achilles and 2020 break-up.To support the podcast at levels ranging from champagne room to gas station coffee : Patreon.com/interstatesandheartbreakTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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70. All the Single-ish Ladies

Sun, 17 Oct 2021 07:37:04 GMT

This week Ryanne Gatti rejoins me to dissect the subject of many a group chat - the situationship. What is it? (A mess.) What are the red flags to watch out for? ("Looking for something casual" on Bumble.) How do you tell if you're already in one? (If you have to ask, you probably are). We give real answers to all of these questions and share our advice on how to get out of your entanglement and into a committed relationship.For more deep podcast discussions from two girls who are legit qualified to give life advice : Dope Shit My Therapist Says on Apple Podcasts or SpotifyAnd for Instagrammable bites of therapy : @dopeshttherapypodTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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69. “He’s Just a Friend”

Sun, 10 Oct 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week, Nia Ruth shares how dating in NY impacted her opinions on marriage and finding the one, and how her now-husband eventually lifted her skepticism. We discuss why he initially friendzoned himself, and how a Bachelor-style outing elevated things to the next level years after their initial meeting. For a view into Nia's enviable Instagram : @niaruthwine For custom wine recs from Napa, Paso Robles…and maaaybe Temecula : niaruth.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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68. Hinge Cringe

Sun, 03 Oct 2021 07:01:00 GMT

I'm back for a solo episode to kick off Q4, and to advocate for why October undeniably marks the universal start of cuffing season. For those looking to get cuffed, I dive into why I think Hinge is the superior dating app, and tips for avoiding cringy pitfalls like bad prompts and paying to give out roses.See the full list of Hinge prompts hereTo make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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67. When Three Become One

Sun, 26 Sep 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Erica Troyer shares unfiltered insights into the modern day swingers community and what REALLY happens in sex clubs - like the etiquette around approaching another couple for sex, and why should you avoid going on single guys’ night. She chronicles her most recent relationship within the lifestyle, from the introductory dick pic, to marriage and shared commitment to a girlfriend, and an eventual divorce that started a custody battle over a $1000+ sex toy. For a behind-the-scenes view at the lifestyle from Erica's perspective : @erica_adams2917To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreakFor dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.comFor any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.comFor a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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66. Swipe Economy

Sun, 19 Sep 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Roland Toney, brother-in-law of former guest David Zeff, shares his perspective on dating apps as an elder millennial who's never used them. We analyze the dating app economics that favor fuckboy behaviors and undermine efforts to find a long-term partner, like A/B profile testing (evaluating which pictures/prompts have the highest success rate), level of investment (commitment to people you meet on an app vs. IRL), and paradox of choice (endless profiles to swipe through). To discuss DATING with Roland : @ro_tone To discuss DATA with Roland : Roland Toney III on LinkedIn To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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65. Shoot Your Shot Girl Summer

Sun, 12 Sep 2021 06:57:44 GMT

Katelyn Zeff, sister to my friend and former guest David Zeff, chronicles her journey of dating in NY in search of a meaningful connection. We discuss how how to remain confident and positive in the face of the ghosting, unsolicited sexts, and recurring threesome propositions that plague hot girl (AND boy) summer. To shoot your shot with Katelyn: @kzeffy To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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64. Porn: The Good, the Bad, and the Fugly

Sun, 05 Sep 2021 11:14:03 GMT

Join me and Azaria Menezes for a discussion about porn that won't leave you wanting to immediately clear your search history. We discuss the evolution of our relationship with porn, from our first encounters to the role it's played in shaping our sexuality to-date. Topics range from OnlyFans' empowerment of its creators, to porn's impact on labiaplasties and anal bleaching. To get more intimate with Azaria : azariamenezes.com And to hear more of Azaria's juicy takes on sex : Getting Intimate on Apple Podcasts To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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63. For Better…and For Worse

Sun, 29 Aug 2021 07:01:00 GMT

David Zeff opens up about dating after divorce in arguably the most vulnerable Interstates & Heartbreak episode to-date. He outlines the journey of his last relationship- from first Tinder swipe, to "I do," to eventually parting ways. We're left pondering questions around closure, and David's romantic future. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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62. The Carmen Sandiego of Dating

Sun, 22 Aug 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Mexico City local Mariana Villanueva shares international dating tales spanning her home country, Australia, Europe, Asia, and beyond. She unapologetically expresses her gripes with dating Mexican men, and the regional pros and cons of the men she's encountered during her travels. The episode concludes with a spontaneous three-week Nicaragua trip with a Tinder match, which evolved into a real life telenovela and a lesson on transparent communication. To learn how to flirt in Spanish from Mariana : Mariana at iTalki To book a tour of Mexico City with your own modern day Carmen Sandiego : @toursamigosmx To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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61. The Life Erotic with Monica Jayne (Pt. 2)

Sun, 15 Aug 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Erotic blueprint coach Monica Jayne returns to deep dive into owning your sexual experience and breaking free from societal expectations. We dive into how media depictions of sex impact expectations around penis size, dirty talk, mischaracterized sexual "disorders," and beyond. We wrap with tangible advice around broaching challenges ranging from gauging your partners' interest in introducing a third, to navigating conflicting stances on porn. To explore embarking with your own sexual journey with Monica Jayne: @iammonicajayne To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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60. Will You Accept This Hinge Rose?

Sun, 08 Aug 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Alex and I dive into persistent dating app woes - is there any way to send a Rose or a Super Like without coming across as desperate? How do you deal with the ego hit of getting rejected by someone you weren't even into in the first place? Is it a dealbreaker if your match (or coworker) won't stop casually mentioning masturbation? And what new challenges arise when you finally meet someone IRL? To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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59. Unhappily Ever After

Sun, 01 Aug 2021 06:04:37 GMT

I interview the host of Meet Cute Actually, Kassandra Pollard, about a genre we both love and love to hate - rom coms. We discuss the overly romanticized "meet cute" and its indirect role in stigmatizing online dating. Throughout the episode, we debate how Hollywood has shaped our collective perceptions of romance through films ranging from Crazy Rich Asians to Clueless, and roast movies that missed the mark. To hear real happily ever afters without the Prince Charming : meetcuteactually.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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58. QUICKIE EPISODE – Gotta Get With My Friends (Pt. 2)

Sun, 25 Jul 2021 12:04:35 GMT

Karen returns for a quickie episode! She shares a story about the unexpected ramifications of inviting your Tinder date on vacation in Mexico, including (but not limited to) the continuous peer pressure to take body shots. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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57. Gotta Get With My Friends

Sun, 18 Jul 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week Karen and I dive into the intersection of the platonic and the romantic relationships in our lives, and explore the widespread impact of friendship dynamics on dating. We enter the dreaded friend zone, discussing how to determine if you're stuck in it, and her identity as "The Friend Zone Queen." We also unpack dynamics between friends and significant others, like when to introduce them, and how to deal if you don't like your friend's partner or vice versa - including a very unfiltered roast of my ex from Karen's perspective. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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56. Date Like a Matchmaker

Sun, 11 Jul 2021 14:00:46 GMT

On this week's episode I interview Ariel Rosen about her experience in a career field she was seemingly destined for - personal coaching and matchmaking. She reveals some of the most valuable dating philosophies she imparts on her clients, and how that impacts her own approach to relationships. We also dive into how her career impacts men's perceptions, and why her romantic rejections are often met with awkward and unsexy replies like "Can you coach me on how to get you?" To get matched by Ariel : mastermatchmakers.com or LinkedIn To connect with Ariel for all other coaching and guidance : @riel-light To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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55. Miss/Mister Independent

Sun, 04 Jul 2021 17:05:12 GMT

This week I'm independently recording for Independence Day to discuss involuntary independence - aka how to cope with a break-up. We're skipping past the cliches and diving into the lessons I learned from drunk dialing my exes, crying by myself in movie theaters, and adopting a drastic hairstyle change post-breakup. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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54. The Life Erotic with Monica Jayne

Sun, 27 Jun 2021 13:24:56 GMT

This week dives deep into eroticism with Monica Jayne- but begins with a backstory that is anything but erotic. Monica Jayne opens up about a conservative, religious upbringing in a town that literally inspired the movie Napoleon Dynamite, and the subsequent journey she underwent to fully embrace her sexuality both personally and professionally as an erotic blueprint coach. We have an unfiltered discussion about Monica Jayne's comprehensive efforts to have her first orgasm in her late 20's, and the steps people can take to better understand their own erotic blueprints, and in turn, their sexuality. To slide into Monica Jayne's DMs for the sex convos you won't get from Cosmo : @iammonicajayne To fully journey into your own life erotic with the guidance of a professional, look into Monica Jayne's private coaching options : monicajayne.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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53. BDE (Big Dateable Energy)

Sun, 20 Jun 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week I'm joined by the extremely dateable ladies of The Undateable Podcast, Jasmine and Lauren. We dive into what it means to be fuckable but not dateable, as well as the standards society expects you to meet in order to be classified as "wifey material." Jasmine and Lauren open up about both sexual adventures and misadventures, and discuss how to own so-called "undateable" moments (like a particular anal plug mishap) and transform them into unapologetic confidence.For a peek at the personal dating stories that inspired Jasmine to start a podcast to begin with : @thedoglord For all the Instagrammable photoshoot inspiration you could ever dream of : @lodofasho For the backstory of Lauren accidentally shitting her pants on a date, and MUCH more unmissable content : Undateable Podcast To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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52. Dating Post Ghost

Sun, 13 Jun 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Interstates & Heartbreak takes a turn into the horror genre with scary ghost stories of the dating variety. Mia Piatrafesa opens up about her experience dating in Denver as a New York transplant, concluding in a particularly harrowing tale of being ghosted after "I love you." We analyze the aftermath of getting ghosted, including tangible tips for creating your own closure, and dealing with the shame of drunk texting an ex. To hear more of Mia's takes on life and dating : Hey, It's Mi podcast To bring Mia's vision to your own business : scotchberry.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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51. Heartbreak Hot Seat

Sun, 06 Jun 2021 13:31:51 GMT

Interstates & Heartbreak has its most surprising guest yet, as I relinquish hosting duties and become the interview subject. High school friends Will Rippetoe and David Zeff unabashedly probe into my dating past, present, and preferences, covering topics like my unmatched love of female strippers, what makes someone a f***boy/girl, and a time when I myself was worthy of the f***girl title. For career and interview coaching tailored to companies ranging from Dominoes to Disney : @willrippetoe To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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50. HEARTBREAK ANNIVERSARY

Sun, 30 May 2021 11:24:10 GMT

Celebrate ONE YEAR of Interstates & Heartbreak with a peek into my most memorable dates since the start of the pandemic - the good, the bad, and the fugly. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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49. Case of the Ex

Sun, 23 May 2021 14:57:21 GMT

This week's episode has redacted names to protect the innocent AND the guilty in a discussion that dives into a tangled web of lies and deception. We dive into a 10-year saga of a guy who seemed like "the one," until he wasn't. A great lesson in trust, intuition, and strategic Instagram stalking. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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48. 10s Seeking An 11

Sun, 16 May 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week I interview Emily Hacker, host of OK So, I Met This Guy podcast, about the fundamental question that inspired Interstates & Heartbreak - Is dating in LA the worst? We unpack the dating challenges specific to a place best described as "a city of 10s seeking an 11," including the unavoidable male archetypes, why people are more likely to cancel date plans, and the very real struggle of traffic when you're attempting to traverse the city for back to back dates. To hear dating stories that will make you feel better about your own dating life (including my unfortunate Chuck E. Cheese date) : Ok So I Met This Guy podcast To submit a dating story that will make OTHER people feel better about their dating lives : @oksoimetthisguy To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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47. I Love You, [Wing]Man

Sun, 09 May 2021 08:07:51 GMT

This week on Interstates & Heartbreak, we hear a male perspective on dating in Los Angeles. I interview the primary beneficiary of my wingwoman skills, Ryan Pantages, to reflect on the role our friendship has played in our respective dating journeys over the years - including my unsolicited input into Ryan's choice of wardrobe and neighborhood, and his strong disapproval of two very specific individuals I dated in the past. To shoot your shot with Ryan via DM : @lesliegnope To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com

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46. Going Dutch

Sun, 02 May 2021 09:00:00 GMT

This episode of Interstates & Heartbreak comes to you from the home of the one and only Red Light District as I interview college friend and current Amsterdam resident Julie Lee. Julie and I reminisce on the UCLA shenanigans that bonded us, including questionable fake IDs and adult diapers, and reflect on how vastly our college personas differed from the expectations and standards our immigrant parents held for us. We then dive into Julie's current relationship, and how a Facebook DM slide evolved into a loving and successful cohabitation abroad. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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45. Mr. Worldwide

Sun, 25 Apr 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak is best enjoyed with an Aperol Spritz, because we're going to Italy! I interview Rafael Di Furia about his decision to leave America in favor of a European lifestyle, and his subsequent experience dating women spanning over a dozen different nationalities. Tune in to hear us dish about the good (no more dating app quotes about The Office), the bad (one particularly awkward interaction involving a girlfriend's grandma and a kitchen knife), and the ugly (the ever-present fear of falling victim to a passport hunter) of dating as an ex-pat. To see and hear more about the travel experiences that earned Rafael the nickname Mr. Worldwide : Rafael di Furia - Not Your Average Globetrotter Or keep up with his travels on social @rafaeldifuria on Instagram and Twitter To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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44. The Samantha To My Carrie

Sun, 18 Apr 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week I interview the Samantha to my (reluctant) Carrie - my longtime friend Ari Schechter! We dive into the origin behind our designated Sex and the City classifications, the characteristics we eschew (bad outfits, worse taste in men) and those we embrace (creative expression and confidence). Ari also describes her experience moving to the East Coat and adjusting from bros in San Diego to bureaucrats in Albany - and how she eventually avoided both during her search for her current partner. To learn what your local ACLU can do for you : aclu.org To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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43. Call Her Mommy

Sun, 11 Apr 2021 07:01:00 GMT

Interstates & Heartbreak gets personal today, as I bring my mom back for an encore interview to answer listener-submitted questions! Hear our unfiltered discussion about her thoughts on dating apps, her ideal man, which of my exes was the best, and more. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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42. Live, LAUgh, Love

Sun, 04 Apr 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week Interstates & Heartbreak steps into the GLAMOROUS side of dating in Los Angeles with Kyle Lau - producer, director, and WGA Award nominated writer on shows like Family Guy, Fresh Off The Boat, and Nora From Queens. We discuss all aspects of young professional life in Hollywood, including dating around a hectic work schedule, working in male-dominated spaces, and navigating romantic interactions in an industry with historically blurred boundaries. Kyle opens up about what it was like to transition from being notoriously single and swiping, to breaking the comedy writer stereotype by entering a happy long term relationship. For proof that Kyle IS in fact a sexy Asian man : @kidklau And for proof that he's much more than just a pretty face : kylelau.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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41. Thousand Dollar Dating

Sun, 28 Mar 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week, Interstates & Heartbreak provides the male take on matchmaking from none other than a former guest's first date through Three Day Rule Matchmaking (40. "Painting Red Flags Pink" w/Jenna Cutter). Brandon Maier opens up about what it's like to utilize a matchmaker on both the client side and the match side, with insights into what he looked for in a matchmaking company, non-negotiable partner traits, and his TRUE motivation behind signing up for Three Day Rule. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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40. Painting Red Flags Pink

Sun, 21 Mar 2021 07:01:00 GMT

This week I interview Jenna Cutter - fashion entrepreneur, business woman, and founder of Chloe Madison LA. We discuss what it looks like to hold high standards for yourself in dating - from finding happiness on your own, to refusing to put other relationships on a pedestal. Jenna shares how her standards inspired her to take dating into her own hands and sign up for Three Day Rule's matchmaking services. We also dive into her past relationship with her daughter's dad, and what that taught her about red flags and narcissistic tendencies. For a glimpse into Jenna's life AND closet : @chloemadisonla To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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39. Coming Of Age & Coming Out

Sun, 14 Mar 2021 08:01:00 GMT

This week I interview the Notorious RZB - Rustom Z. Birdie. We open with a nostalgic discussion about our friendship, during which I reveal the height of my alcohol-induced narcolepsy, and my college crush that never went further than a makeout session prior to Rustom coming out. The remainder of the episode dives into all aspects of coming to terms with your sexuality - breaking the news to traditional parents, understanding how your identity fits within the broader gay community, thoughts on performative allyship, and diving into the wilder side of the gay scene in San Francisco. We close with a game of red flag dealbreaker - Silicon Valley tech bro edition. Don't slide into Rustom's LinkedIn DMs - but DM him on Instagram for more SF bar recs : @zebirdman To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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38. Once Upon A Time In Westwood

Sun, 07 Mar 2021 08:01:00 GMT

This week I interview long time friend and enabler in shenanigans, Nandini Taneja. We reminisce on the poor life decisions made at UCLA that put both our livelihood and dignity at risk on a number of occasions, and bonded us through the process. From there, we discuss the mindset behind being perpetually single, reluctance around defining the relationship, and coping with gaslighting and deception immediately after giving into the concept of exclusivity. Finally, Nandini opens up about the unintentional impact that her approach to dating had on gender roles and power dynamics, and explains how her approach and relationship status have evolved over time. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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37. The Birds, The Bees, and My Mom

Sun, 28 Feb 2021 08:01:00 GMT

This week Interstates & Heartbreak features none other than my mom! She opens up with her honest thoughts about the podcast, and shares her side of some stories that I've told in previous episodes. From there, we dive into her experience teaching sex ed and the concept of healthy relationships as a high school biology teacher. We cover everything you "should" know (How do vasectomies really work? How do I calculate my ovulation cycle?) and the questions you never knew you needed the answers to (Does anyone really use dental dams? What's the scientific name for blue balls?). To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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36. Stop “Waiting” For Mr. Right

Sun, 21 Feb 2021 08:44:27 GMT

This week, Interstates & Heartbreak throws it back to episode one, with my inaugural podcast guest Denzel Walkes. We open with an update on Denzel's dating life, and how one of my former guests inspired him to revamp his strategy on the apps. From there we unpack all of the implications around women asking men out, with a discussion ranging from the games people play in dating, traditional gender roles, and whether we've fully evolved beyond them. The episode closes with an unabashed critique of the traditional dating handbook, The Rules. For even MORE hot takes from Denzel : @thatdenzel And to hear his theatrical takes : No Concessions Podcast To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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35. OK, Cupid.

Sun, 14 Feb 2021 09:40:11 GMT

This Valentine's Day I practice some self love...in the form of my second solo episode! I chronicle my experience joining OKCupid during a week with added dating pressure and my polarizing approach to crafting app bios. I then outline the profile tropes I encountered - ranging from seasonal fuckboys to Shakesperean poets. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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34. Maturing Into Motherhood & Teen Pregnancy

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 16:09:13 GMT

This week I interview Alex Noble about millennial motherhood, the experience of getting pregnant with her first child in high school, and her unadulterated account of the bodily changes that result. She opens up about breaking the news to her boyfriend's Muslim parents, her mom's priceless response, and coming to terms with reactions ranging from surprise to disappointment. We discuss learning how to co-parent after splitting from your partner, and the impact that motherhood has on your approach to re-entering the dating world. Finally, Alex reflects on grieving the loss of a partner, and her approach to guiding a child through the process of losing their parent. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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33. 50 Worst Dates

Sun, 31 Jan 2021 10:39:41 GMT

This week I interview Rachel Scheer, dating coach and author of Date to Find Your Soulmate. Rachel shares some of her more memorable dating mishaps, including rodent-infested vehicles, a third-wheeling dad, and one particular noteworthy date that had a not-so-happy ending. We explore the impact that these experiences have had on her relationship philosophy to-date, and discuss lessons to be gleaned through all stages of dating, from swiping right, to defining the relationship, to cohabitation. Order your copy of Date To Find Your Soulmate To book time with Rachel one-on-one : lovelaughleisure.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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32. thank u, next

Sun, 24 Jan 2021 12:51:12 GMT

This week, Laily Sharifzadeh and I look back at all of the past relationships (and non-relationships) that have shaped us into the daters we are today. We discuss leveling up from previous expectations (key word : ex), knowing your worth, and setting standards for future relationships. The episode rounds out with our online dating experiences, including Laily's almost whirlwind romance and my attempt to DTR at the worst possible moment. For affirmations and a glimpse into the photos that allow Laily to underpromise and overdeliver on the apps : @daily_laily To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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31. Democracy Is My Love Language

Sun, 17 Jan 2021 13:10:42 GMT

This week, Interstates & Heartbreak gets political with activist and congressional campaigner Patrick Malkoun. We discuss how the modern political climate has seeped into our dating lives, including renewed dating criteria around political involvement and ideals, first date discussions around formerly taboo topics, and how love languages translate to community engagement. Patrick's exposure to politically divided households on the campaign trail leads us to contemplate when and how couples with opposing views can move forward - and when ideological differences become a dealbreaker. In the midst of our heavier topics, Patrick provides a comeback for unwanted ass-grabbing, we debate the validity of chicken tenders as an entreé, and I reveal Patrick's involvement in what went down as the worst date of my life. For more fire commentary and content : @iammalkoun To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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30. “Why Am I Like This?” (w/Enneagram Expert Jenn Whitmer)

Sun, 10 Jan 2021 10:00:35 GMT

This week on Interstates & Heartbreak, conflict resolution coach and Enneagram specialist Jenn Whitmer is here to provide an upgrade from your typical Buzzfeed personality quizzes. She guides us through the nuances of the nine Enneagram types at their healthiest and most pathological, identifies their corresponding love language, and reveals wihch personality is most likely to fall victim to the vices of lust, greed, and beyond. Our interview also reveals my type's unexpected propensity for deception, and reveals why I'm more likely to cry during a commercial than IRL. To access Jenn's coaching resources, find her social links, or sign up for a free session : jennwhitmer.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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29. Finding MY Stage 5 Clinger

Sun, 03 Jan 2021 12:21:33 GMT

The first episode of the year features OKCupid success stories Megan Ladd and Will Rippetoe, returning for a joint episode! They share the anatomy of a good profile, what went into crafting their own OKCupid profiles, and what actually proved effective in attracting each other. We then dive into the creation of my own profile, which leads to debate over whether it's appropriate to compare myself to Kobe, questioning how weird is TOO weird in a partner, and the realization that I may be a golddigger. This episode is the perfect motivation for anyone who resolved to get back on the apps or revamp their dating game in the new year. Alternatively, those entering 2021 with a partner can enjoy some renewed gratitude through the knowledge that the copious struggles of online dating are now behind you. For corporate career advice, inspiration for your next dating app pick-up line, or to simply level up your marketing lingo : @willrippetoe For tangible advice around how to successfully lean into your instincts, particularly as it comes to forging your career path : @megladd To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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28. New Year, New Me?

Sun, 27 Dec 2020 08:48:58 GMT

This year I wrap up Interstates & Heartbreak the way many of us spent our quarantines - alone. For my first ever solo episode, I take time to reflect - not on the horror that was 2020, but on ghosts of New Year's resolutions past taken straight from my 8th and 9th grade diaries. Take a listen for insight into the non-relationships that eventually shaped my relationship philosophy, insecurities around inexperience, and the crush that inspired one particularly "stupid and shallow" resolution. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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27. A Chrismukkah Story : Dating Outside Your Faith

Sun, 20 Dec 2020 08:01:00 GMT

'Tis the season for an episode of Interstates & Heartbreak that delves into the challenges that arise when two faiths intersect, including the impact on holiday merriment and traditions. "Relationship Rabbi" Judy Greenfeld of the Nachshon Minyan congregation in Los Angeles shares the guidance that she provides interfatih couples through all stages of their relationship. Judy shares insight around all of the potential questions that may come up when entering an interfaith relationship. How early is too early to address religious differences? When is it right for one partner to convert to the other's faith? How can we cope if their parents don't accept my religion? And do I need to make my children choose between chocolate gelt and candy canes? To learn more about Judy's congregation : nachshonminyan.org To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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26. Queer’s Gambit

Sun, 13 Dec 2020 08:01:00 GMT

I interview Anna Goodman (aka Kevin from the Backstreet Butches, aka Dandy Frank) about growing up queer in Ohio and her eventual L-Word inspired move to LA. She shares how her now extensive network within the queer LA community essentially grew out of a DM slide at age 19 and solo nights out in West Hollywood. We address preconceived notions about the lesbian community, including incestuous friend groups and what people on Tinder really want when they say they’re “looking for a third.” Finally, we dive into the highs and lows of the dating apps, and get Anna’s (and my) honest reactions to personal ads. For a peek into Anna's life (and her Dandy Frank alter ego), find her on Instagram : @annargoods If you're looking for a way to virtually connect with the queer community in Los Angeles, check out @jqinternational and @opendykenight To see Kevin's contoured abs in full boyband action, check out : @backstreetbutches To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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25. Here For a Guten Time, Not a Long Time

Sun, 06 Dec 2020 08:01:00 GMT

This week Interstates goes international with Sydney native Kylie Tran, as we discuss her dating experiences during the time she spent in Berlin. She explains how fuckboys vary by continent, and how the European men she encountered compared to the stereotypes of their respective homelands. In diving into her dating history, she reveals her tendency to remain friends with exes, a particularly troubled fuckboy who perpetually lingers in her DMs, moving in with a boyfriend one month into dating, and the lessons to be learned from these men and more. For the ultimate food and travel porn, along with the occasional dog, find Kylie on Instagram : @kylieyeah To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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24. Personally Victimized By Regina George

Sun, 29 Nov 2020 08:01:00 GMT

This week I interview author Julie Glynn about the voice in your head that tells you you're a "fugly slut" - your inner mean girl. We discuss how to combat her negativity, whether she's mentally cockblocking you from pursuing the relationship you deserve, or convincing you that you shouldn't join the Mathletes because it would be social suicide. From there, we identify ways that this toxicity manifests itself IRL, in the form of bullies, frenemies, and unsupportive partners, aad how to cut out all of the poison from those relationships. Finally, we debate which famous mean girl deserves the title of Queen Bee. To order a copy of If My Ass Were Smaller, Life Would Be Perfect - And Other Lies the Mean Girl in Your Head tells you : julieglynn.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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23. Me, My Self Care, & I

Sun, 22 Nov 2020 08:01:00 GMT

This week I interview the co-hosts of Dope Sh*t My Therapist Says podcast, Lauren Fractor and Ryanne Gatti. This episode addresses the ways we let dating impact our mental health - like pressuring ourselves to maintain a cool girl façade, or saying yes to dates you’re lukewarm about because “this could be the one.” Lauren and Ryanne dish out tangible, concrete advice about moving on from your ex, and reveal why you’re probably better off severing ties and blocking them on social. And for anyone seeking external support with their internal health, they offer professional insights into how to go about finding a therapist who meets your needs, plus affordable resources to make the financial commitment less daunting. For self care in the form of affirmations and validation for all your therapeutic indulgences : @dopeshttherapypod To hear more dope shit from the perspective of two practicing therapists : Dope Sh*t My Therapist Says podcast Or email them directly at: dopeshttherapypod@gmail.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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22. How To Be Single

Sun, 15 Nov 2020 08:01:00 GMT

I interview Alina Tang about coming into your own while you're on your own, discussing the transition from serial monogamy to the dating apps. We reflect on the challenge of balancing your partner with your own needs and interests, and ponder how to maintain the best version of yourself even while you're in a relationship. We end the episode with a game of red flag or dealbreaker that debates the very red flags that exes have helped us identify and avoid. To hear more of Alina's poignant takes on dating and relationships, check out Alina's Medium page To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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21. Shooting Your Shot

Sun, 08 Nov 2020 08:01:00 GMT

This week, Jonathan Hernandez and I commiserate about the inherent biases built into the online dating process, discussing how external factors like perceptions about race or height preferences can serve to limit your options on the app. Jonathan reveals the one fate worse than the friend zone, and shares his tactics for escaping. Finally, we dive into how to keep romance alive in spite of the difficulties of dating during quarantine.To hear Jonathan talk about pro NBA players shooting THEIR shot, check him out on The Lakers Legacy Podcast on: Apple Podcasts, Twitter, and YouTube To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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20. Emily in Ottawa

Sun, 01 Nov 2020 10:02:06 GMT

This week's episode features a young woman named Emily, who finds herself pursuing a career faraway from home, and highlights her journey and experiences dating men in the capital of a foreign country. Only this time, it's not Emily in Paris, it's Emily in Ottawa. She opens up quite candidly about living in a city with a population smaller than that of your high school, and the associated feeling that your dating life is public knowledge to everyone, even border patrol. We discuss the adjustments that come with dating men who demonstrate distance in a multitude of ways - physical distance, emotional distance, distance in political views, and even distance between their two bottom teeth. The episode ends with a series of Canada-themed pick-up lines that go increasingly off the rails. To see visuals of Emily's outdoor adventures in Madrid (New York, not Europe) and the occasional thotty photo : @escapadeswithemily To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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19. Modern Matchmaking (w/Three Day Rule Founder Talia Goldstein)

Sun, 25 Oct 2020 07:01:00 GMT

This week I interview the founder of matchmaking company Three Day Rule, Talia Goldstein. We discuss how the dating game has evolved since the company's inception in 2013, and she reveals why her business has flourished in the face of both an upswing in dating apps and an unforeseen pandemic. We discuss how seemingly limitless options on the apps lead people to set impossibly high standards - like seeking out the wealthy, 6-foot tall businessman who represents a mere 1% of the male dating pool. We close out the episode with Talia's expert opinion on which fictional couples are actually well-suited for each other, and which are better off broken up. Follow Three Day Rule for dating life inspiration and heartwarming success stories : @threedayrule Dive into the world of matchmaking and sign-up for the database at : threedayrule.com To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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18. Beaus in Different Area Codes

Sun, 18 Oct 2020 07:01:00 GMT

This week I interview long-term high school friend Amanda Gittleman. We reflect on how growing up in "America's Finest City" shaped our predisposition to hating Los Angeles, and how our opinions have changed after twelve years, days worth of traffic, and a handful of memorable celebrity encounters. Amanda shares what it was like to work one block off of Rodeo Drive, in a job that indirectly introduced her to Janice Dickinson, Bradley Cooper, and most importantly, her now-husband, Davey Varella. We recap the journey of their relationship, which evolved from a chemistry-fueled friendship into a serious relationship just months before she moved across the country for two years. A very relatable listen for anyone who's ever struggled with any aspect of a long distance relationship, like how to resolve fights from afar, ensuring love language needs are being met, and managing the often unfair expectations people place on your relationship when you do finally return to the same city. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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17. First Date Fourplay (w/Dating App Co-Founders Julie Griggs & Danielle Dietzek)

Sun, 11 Oct 2020 12:01:02 GMT

Today's episode explores a different philosophy around online dating, as I interview cofounders Julie Griggs and Danielle Dietzek about the vision behind their dating app, Fourplay. We discuss how one spontaneous, unsuccessful double date experience evolved into a much more successful business venture centered around dating exclusively in duos. They explain how their mission extends beyond giving people a built-in wingperson, and actually serves to reduce the anxiety and dangers currently associated with meeting a stranger for a one-on-one date. The episode closes with a spirited debate around which guy would get our attention if we found ourselves on a double date with these iconic bromance pairs.Download "Fourplay - Double Dating App" from the Apple App Store or Google Play Store to bring a little more Fourplay into your dating life! Find them on: fourplaysocial.com @fourplaysocial on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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16. The Science of Swiping

Sun, 04 Oct 2020 08:00:00 GMT

This week I interview Chris Best - the previously unnamed dating app expert referenced in episode 1 ("Interstates & Tinder Dates"). Here to reveal the science and strategy behind the wisdom he's shared with my premiere guest Denzel Walkes (and to refute claims that he is a sex addict), Chris dives straight into the scientific, if unromantic, truths behind how dating apps actually work. Chris' insights serve to break us out of the damaging trap of tying emotional well-being into our experience on the app, through exposure into the degree of control that the app engineers hold, and candid discussions about what we can do to break free from that control (HINT: it involves money). This discussion is perfect for anyone who's ever wondered "where did all of the attractive people go?" while swiping, who struggle to maintain momentum when they DO get an attractive match, or who have simply experienced the feeling of disillusionment around the app experience as a whole.for more musings, delectable cocktails to up your quarantine drinking experience, and insight into the fitness journey that resulted in an actual shoutout from fitness influencer Chloe Ting : @chr1sbest To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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15. Marriage Story

Sun, 27 Sep 2020 07:01:00 GMT

Marriage Story highlights entertainment executive Mimi Slavin and her journey of finding love, coming to a breaking point that nearly resulted in divorce, then salvaging the relationship to come out stronger than ever. She opens up about the disheartening online dating experiences that led her to take a ten-year hiatus, and how a friend’s forced dating app sign up was the push needed to get back out there and find her now husband. Throughout the episode, Mimi imparts wisdom around the benefits of looking beyond your dating checklist, working through the process of rebuilding trust, and validating your partner for healthy communication. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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14. Co(vid)habitation

Sun, 20 Sep 2020 17:00:00 GMT

This week I catch up with former coworker and dating life confidante Darice Murphy, who is currently thriving in quarantine - despite moving in with her partner ONE day before shelter in place took hold. We backtrack to reflect on the dating history that led to her present day relationship, including the guesswork around platonic vs. flirtatious interactions and the role apps play in minimizing that as a queer individual, shifting from casual to intentional dating, and learning how to stop pretending to be the "cool girl." Our discussion rounds out with Darice's insights into how to set yourself up for success when co-habitating, plus a game of partner Red Flag or Dealbreaker. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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13. “I Don’t Date Actors”

Sun, 13 Sep 2020 07:01:00 GMT

Today's episode brings the perspective of a Hollywood success story in the midst of her rise to fame - Cassidi Parker of Netflix's Dear White People and FX's Better Things, whose career also boasts commercial acting, stage performance, and sketch comedy at UCB. Cassidi divulges all of her candid thoughts on dating within the acting community, including her choice to actively avoid dating fellow actors in her earlier stages of dating. She explains many of the misconceptions around acting, and how they can manifest in a relationship. Finally, she shares her secret for maintaining a healthy self image in a career that's stereotypically stringent about appearance. For a behind the scenes look at life as an actress : @classcity For tales from the middle of an actor's success : Before You Know My Name podcast To answer the question "What has she been in?" : cassidiparker.com and Cassidi Parker on IMDb To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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12. How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 2)

Sun, 30 Aug 2020 07:01:00 GMT

Picking up where the cliffhanger of "How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 1)" left off, this week's episode dives into my history with Nick Geilenfeldt, who undeniably knows me more…intimately than any former guest. I candidly dive into my own personal experience dating an introvert and debate whether or not it inspired me to (VERY uncharacteristically) make the first move. From there, I open up about my thoughts on the highlights and difficulties of that relationship, and the circumstances that eventually led to its demise. Finally, the episode ends with a Los Angeles-inspired game of Would You Rather, after Nick makes a passionate case against LA. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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11. How to Date an Introvert (Pt. 1)

Sun, 23 Aug 2020 18:47:53 GMT

On this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, Nick Geilenfeldft opens up about dating as an introvert. We debate what it means to be an introvert in the first place, from the actual definition to the ways in which it manifests itself. Nick reveals the difficulties of being an introvert within the dating landscape, like reluctance to go out and the anxiety around approaching girls when you do, and overall the overall impact it has on self-confidence. Additionally, we rehash some stories of when introversion met its match - alcohol. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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10. Don’t Want No Scrubs

Sun, 16 Aug 2020 07:01:00 GMT

Get ready for some HOT takes on this week's episode of Interstates & Heartbreak, as I speak with Tuesday English about how to hold yourself and the men you date to Rihanna-level standards. We discuss "bitchy" behaviors like refusing to cook or pay for things early in the dating process, and hypothesize why these acts may actually be beneficial to attracting quality men. This is the perfect episode for anyone who's feeling fatigued by swiping through the seemingly endless sea of scrubs on the apps, or who wonders if they've ever been guilty of being or dating a scrub themselves. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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9. First Date to Fiancé

Sun, 09 Aug 2020 07:01:00 GMT

This week Ana Rivas and I recap the course of her six-year relationship, which nearly fell victim to a last minute first date cancellation. We talk about every facet of their relationship, beginning with the unorthodox way Chris got her number at a holiday party, through their eventual engagement. Ana divulges the difficulties they navigated along the way, like fluctuating excitement during the first few dates, recovering from a break, and ending cohabitation without ending the relationship. She then gives detailed insight into the wedding planning process and overcoming the difficulties associated with booking a venue less than five months ahead of the date, before being rudely thwarted by Coronavirus. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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8. Dating Before DMs

Sun, 02 Aug 2020 07:01:00 GMT

This week's interview takes place in the DreamWorks Animation offices with VP of Global Brand Partnerships & Marketing, David Bynder. We compare David's Los Angeles dating exploits in the 90's to my present day experience, and evaluate the merits of single's dances vs. app swipes, written personal ads vs. DM slides, and dinner dates vs. cannabis cafes. He also reveals the dating routines he abandoned upon meeting his now wife, and the first date spot that led to a 20-year marriage. The generational discussion moves past X and Y to conclude with Gen Z, as we discuss his kids' entrance into the dating world, and identify the red flags and dealbreakers that dads encounter on behalf of their children. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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7. Here to Make Friends

Sun, 26 Jul 2020 07:01:00 GMT

This week Ariel Cowell and I recount 7 years of dating history that spanned our time as roommates - ranging from a first date at Chuck E. Cheese, receiving nearly identical Christmas presents from separate men, and dates with (multiple) coworkers. We deep dive into all aspects of friendships as they relate to dating. At what point do you introduce the guy you're dating to your friends? Is it beneficial to let friends know when you're not a fan of their partner, and what do you do if you're on the receiving end of that feedback? And how do you successfully navigate out of the friend zone and into a successful long-term relationship and cohabitation? To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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6. L.A. Ex

Sun, 19 Jul 2020 08:30:00 GMT

This week brings a discussion with former LA resident Stormy (no connection to Trump or the Kardashians). She shares her frank and unapologetic opinions about Los Angeles, the dating culture it creates, the men who contribute to that culture, and why she eventually returned to San Diego. Throughout the episode, we dive into the male mindset, like whether or not guys actually want you to make the first move, if they can truly appreciate a powerful woman, and whether they're all capable of cheating. Finally, we debate the merits of bros in San Diego vs. Los Angeles, and play a game of Would You Rather to determine which city has the most cringeworthy dating stereotypes. To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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5. To All the Boys I’ve Swiped Before

Sun, 12 Jul 2020 07:01:00 GMT

This week I interview former work wife and current wingwoman, Victoria Caruso, for a deep dive into all aspects of single life. We compare notes on our dating strategies and debate the merits of our vastly different approaches, asking questions like whether two dates in one day is too intense, whether a guy needs to catch your attention in his first dating app photo to warrant a right swipe, and if simply smiling at a guy at the bar is enough effort. The conversation spans every bizarre, shady, and unwanted behavior we've encountered on the apps, and concludes with a game of red flag or dealbreaker inspired by actual Hinge profile content. For visual proof that dating Victoria is, in fact, like living your best life, follow her on Instagram : @toricaruso To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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4. Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger (Pt. 2)

Sun, 05 Jul 2020 07:01:00 GMT

On part two of "Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger," I interview Megan's husband Will Rippetoe to get his perspective. Will takes us on his online dating journey, beginning with 100+ dates that included a tear-inducing first kiss and a second date ultimatum, and concluding with the OkCupid match that finally drove him to delete the apps. Will reveals how his inner Stage 5 Clinger was born out of an immediate desire to lock things down in pursuit of a lifelong relationship with Megan, and how clear and consistent communication were critical to helping them overcome the difficulties posed by distance. Along the way, Will shares his hot takes, like the reason he prioritizes new female friendships over new bromances, why nothing has changed since he's gotten married, and how having a puppy is harder than having a baby. The episode wraps with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker - doggy style.To see Will's life post-transition HP to Amazon, and to find out why he's known as Will da Beast, follow him on Instagram : @willrippetoe To see the actual four-legged beast behind the man : @doodwheresmykona To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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3. Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger (Pt. 1)

Sun, 28 Jun 2020 07:01:00 GMT

On part one of "Finding Your Stage 5 Clinger," we hear from life and career coach Megan Ladd for an empowering message about how trusting her gut and staying true to her standards helped her find the one. For anyone who's experienced burnout or frustration over a seemingly aimless slew of online dates, Megan dives into grounding yourself in a vision that will give your dating life renewed purpose. Learn how the moniker "Stage 5 Clinger" helped her weed through the duds in order to find her husband Will, and close out the episode with a recap of their dream wedding (which I will probably never shut up about).If you can't get enough of Megan's wisdom and are looking for affirmations designed to help you maximize success in all aspects of her life, find her on Instagram : @megladd To inquire about coaching opportunities : megan-ladd.com For a peek into some of the OKCupid profiles that didn't quite make the cut 🙅🏻‍♀️ : @convoswithcupid To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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2. Not a Regular Dad, a Cool Dad

Sun, 21 Jun 2020 06:59:00 GMT

I talk to Martin Sohikish for a conversation that spans bottled Blue Moons to bottled baby formula. Martin provides the perspective of one-half of a high school sweetheart romance, and shares both the benefits and struggles of staying with someone as your interests (and alcohol tastes) evolve. As we dive into life as a dad, we uncover some lesser-known insights into early parenthood, like the lost luxury of procrastinating chores, nuances of formula, and when to actually say "no." The episode concludes with me forcing Martin to live up to the paternal stereotype by delivering dad jokes - including one that borders on creepy.To see live recordings of bands residing in and touring through San Diego : @realityhousewest To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : lesliegnope

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1. Interstates & Tinder Dates

Sun, 14 Jun 2020 07:59:39 GMT

Join me as I interview Denzel Walkes, whose friendship has withstood overly drunken nights and even a slap in the face. He discusses the difficulties of re-acclimating to the relationship world after eight years of unencumbered bachelor life, and candidly addresses the drastic shifts that evolved his attitude from savage to…somewhat less savage. Denzel recounts two wild first Tinder date experiences, and unabashedly critiques my own dating profile photo choices. The episode closes out with a hotly debated game of Would You Rather, during which we earnestly weigh the merits of food vs. sex.Looking for more hot takes from Denzel? Follow him on Instagram : @thatdenzel To make things Instagram official : @interstatesandheartbreak For dating commentary from my inner Carrie : interstatesandheartbreak.com For any questions, business inquiries, or love letters : interstatesandheartbreak@gmail.com For a glimpse into my life when I'm not talking about dating : @lesliegnope

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Interstates & Heartbreak : A Teaser

Thu, 21 May 2020 19:00:00 GMT

A peek into the average and unglamorous world of dating in Los Angeles.

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