Make Your Damn Bed

1734 || escaping a shame spiral

Thu, 09 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

You can't outrun 'em, but you can revise your interpretation and your response, and that’s not for nothin’.

Access today's episode on Julie's Medium Blog.

Shame spirals, or negative feedback loops are chain reactions starting with:

The Trigger: something spurs a sense of emotionally activation or vulnerability; perhaps through a rejection, a crossed boundary, or a mistake.
The Story: immediately your brain connects the triggering event to a past experience, creating a narrative on how to perceive this “slight” that tends towards self-blame and some sort of “proof that you are not worthy or capable.”
The Reaction: next, your brain will attempt to protect yourself from the pain of this internalized toxic shame by over-performing or under-performing as a way to cope, furthering you from your authentic-self. i.e. fight/flight/freeze/fawn
The Reinforcement: you feel ashamed or disconnected from your authentic-self, so the narrative of feeling insufficient is reinforced, making us more sensitive to future triggers, and the cycle continues.

Ideally, we can create space to gain some control over the narrative and redirect our reactions into more thoughtful responses that reinforce new, more positive patterns.

Call it out: noting a shame spiral as it starts is a great way to stop it before it begins. Practice creating space between you and the response. Sometimes, this is enough to“unhook” yourself from the trigger and create a new chain of events.
Ground: use a somatic exercise to regulate your nervous system.
Reframe: recognize the feelings of shame as an attempt to feel safe, so you can guide yourself into a more effective response. Rewrite the narrative to better reflect reality, which is less shame based. Connect with someone more objective who can help you see more clearly, if needed.
Redirect: take an action towards a more positive and loving response, that is not rooted in shame/punishment/fear.
Realign: once you feel less triggered, reflect on the experience, and practice reinforcing more conscious responses in the future.

Some shame is unavoidable, and a healthy level of shame is essential to being a decent human. That said, many of us are harboring toxic levels of shame on a daily basis.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1733 || healthy shame is not a threat

Wed, 08 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

It’s not about eliminating all sources of shame, but aligning with the confidence that you’re able to handle it effectively.

In the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You by John Bradshaw, he compares shame to a “demonic” presence that takes over our whole being. I think this is a valuable analogy, because the presence leaves very little room for our conscious response, if we don’t recognize where we end and the “demon of shame” begins. Toxic shame is a liar. It’s a menace. In order to exercise these demons, we must address them head on.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1732 || authenticity is a practice, not a discovery || heal the shame that binds you

Tue, 07 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

you're not "finding" an authentic self, but rather, practicing ease and comfort when you feel it.

"as soon as she touches the water, she is immediately transformed into the most graceful creature."

find the water of your own belonging.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1731 || love yourself unconditionally || heal the shame that binds you

Mon, 06 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

dealing with rejection can feel impossible for people with internalized, toxic shame. there are rarely absolutes. life exists mostly in the gray area. not all good and not all bad.

people will go to extremes to avoid toxic shame, so they will force themselves to make it "either/or" when it may be healthier to think that things are "both/and"

it comes back to giving your "true self" unconditional love and respect.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1730 || decenter your mistakes || heal the shame that binds

Sat, 04 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

When you make a mistake and feel vulnerable, the best response is to acknowledge and repair. Don't harbor more shame. The mistakes are inevitable. You highlighting them makes the mistake seem like something worth worshipping, not something to learn from.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1729 || making mistakes doesn't mean you are one

Fri, 03 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

stop being so hard on yourself!! YOU ARE NOT YOUR MISTAKES.

Mistakes are simply feedback. Listen, take responsibility when needed, and adapt!!!! It's all part of the process.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1728 || positive brainwashing || healing the shame that binds you

Thu, 02 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

You really are worth it. There has never been anyone like you. Nor will there ever be anyone like you again. You are unique, unrepeatable and of precious worth. - John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1727 || common thought distortions

Wed, 01 Apr 2026 04:01:00 GMT

common cognitive distortions among shame-based people include: catastrophizing, mind-reading, all-or-nothing or either-or thinking, personalization, blaming, global blaming, filtering, cognitive bias affirmations, control thinking fallacies, "should" thinking, over generalizations, etc.

to combat this we must: become active listeners, abandon comparison, abandon "shoulds" and absolutes. focus on curiosity and flexibility. create more space for "unknowns".

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1726 || grief work || healing the shame that binds you

Tue, 31 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Grief work: identify, build awareness, re-route with corrective responses.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1725 || set your own anchor + ride the wave

Mon, 30 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Shame spirals tend to attach themselves to certain triggers or anchors we have created from our past experiences. If we are able to create safe, corrective anchors to attach to these triggers, we can avoid the spirals and instead, learn to ride the waves.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1724 || delayed grief || healing the shame that binds you

Fri, 27 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

delayed grief is how we end up creating false selves. it's our job to grieve fully, so we can release the attachments to our denial. connectedness, validation, and support are the way through.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1723 || connection is the antidote || healing the shame that binds you

Thu, 26 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

in order to be healed, we must come out of isolation.

identity formation is a social process, so unraveling toxic shame is also a social process. - John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1722 || you gotta feel it to heal it || healing the shame that binds you

Wed, 25 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

As long as our shame is hidden, there is nothing we can do about it.

“The only way out is through.”

"Embracing our shame involves pain. Pain is what we try to avoid. In fact, most of our neurotic behavior is due to the avoidance of legitimate pain. We try to find an easier way. This is perfectly reasonable. In the case of shame, the more we avoid it, the worse it gets.

We cannot change our “internalized” shame until we “externalize” it.

Externalization methods include:

1. Coming out of hiding by social contact, which means honestly sharing our feelings with significant others.

2. Seeing ourselves mirrored and echoed in the eyes of at least one non-shaming person. Reestablishing an “interpersonal bridge.”

3. Working a Twelve Step program.

4. Doing shame-reduction work by “legitimizing” our abandonment trauma. We do this by writing and talking about it (debriefing). Writing especially helps to externalize past shaming experiences. We can then externalize our feelings about the abandonment. We can express them, grieve them, clarify them and connect with them.

5. Externalizing our lost Inner Child. We do this by making conscious contact with the vulnerable child part of ourselves.

6. Learning to recognize various split-off parts of ourselves. As we make these parts conscious (externalize them), we can embrace and integrate them.

7. Making new decisions to accept all parts of ourselves with unconditional positive regard. Learning to say, “I love myself for . . .” Learning to externalize our needs and wants by becoming more self-assertive.

8. Externalizing unconscious memories from the past, which form collages of shame scenes, and learning how to heal them.

9. Externalizing the voices in our heads. These voices keep our shame spirals in operation. Doing exercises to stop our shaming voices and learning to replace them with new, nurturing and positive voices.

10. Learning to be aware of certain interpersonal situations most likely to trigger shame spirals.

11. Learning how to deal with critical and shaming people by practicing assertive techniques and creating an externalization shame anchor.

12. Learning how to handle our mistakes and having the courage to be imperfect.

13. Finally, learning through prayer and meditation to create an inner place of silence wherein we are centered and grounded in a personally valued Higher Power.

14. Discovering our life’s purpose and spiritual destiny.

All of these externalization methods have been adapted from the major schools of therapy. Most therapies attempt to make that which is covert and unconscious into something overt and conscious.

These techniques can only be mastered by practice. You must do them, then reinforce them by doing them again. They will work if you will work."

JOHN BRADSHAW - Healing the Shame that Binds You

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1721 || when the emotion becomes addictive || healing the shame that binds you

Tue, 24 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

"Being nice is primarily a way of manipulating people and situations." - John Bradshaw

"Perfectionism flows from the core of toxic shame. A perfectionist has no sense of healthy shame; he has no internal sense of limits. Perfectionists never know how much is good enough. Perfectionism is learned when one is valued only for doing... Condemning others as bad or sinful is a way to feel righteous. Such a feeling is a powerful mood alteration and can become highly addictive.

"A person who feels flawed and defective feels powerless and helpless. Such a person can alter her feelings of defectiveness by helping and taking care of others. When she is caregiving others, she feels good about herself. So the goal of the caregiver is the caregiving, not the good of the person being cared for. The caregiving is an activity that distracts one from one’s feelings of inadequacy. Distraction is a way to mood-alter. "

- John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1720 || our culture of shame || healing the shame that binds you

Sat, 21 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Our culture does not handle emotions well. We like folks to be happy and fine. We learn rituals of acting happy and fine at an early age. I can remember many times telling people “I’m fine,” when I felt like the world was caving in on me.

Toxic shame is true agony. It is a pain felt from the inside, in the core of our being. It is excruciatingly painful. - John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1719 || shame spirals

Fri, 20 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Sometimes, "“I feel shame” comes to mean “I am shameful, deficient in some vital way as a human being.” Shame is no longer one feeling among many, but comes to constitute the core of oneself. Internalized shame creates a frozen state of being. Shame is no longer an emotional signal that comes and goes. It is a deep, abiding, all-pervasive sense of being defective as a person.

This core of defectiveness forms the foundation around which other feelings about the self will be experienced.

Gradually, over a period of time, this frozen feeling of belief recedes from consciousness. In this way shame becomes basic to one’s sense of identity. One becomes a shame-based person." - John Bradshaw

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1718 || generational shame || book club

Thu, 19 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

We can't heal what we don't feel.

Unfortunately, one of the greatest powers of toxic shame is that it creates automatic, unconscious defenses: like Idealization, repression, denial, dissociation.

So most people don't heal this shame and end up passing it down to their children, through hierarchal power structures, coercion, and denial.

Dysfunctional Family Rules: Chaos or Control, Perfectionism or Anomie, Blame self or others, Denial of freedoms,

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1717 || when shame is a demon || book club

Wed, 18 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

The more one experiences shame, the more one is ashamed, and the beat goes on. It is this dead-end quality of shame that makes it so hopeless. But it's not hopeless, it just feels like it.

“Without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.” - Silvan Tompkins

When you internalize toxic levels of shame, you create a "false self" to cope. It takes lots of energy and hard work to live a false self.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1716 || book club || healing the shame that binds you

Tue, 17 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

“Without feeling, nothing matters, and with feeling, anything can matter.” - Silvan Tompkins

When you internalize toxic levels of shame, you create a "false self" to cope. It takes lots of energy and hard work to live a false self.

John Bradshaw's website.

Buy the book, Healing the Shame that Binds You

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1715 || regular shame vs. toxic shame

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Toxic shame is a deep feeling of worthlessness and self-hatred often starting in childhood due to trauma or neglect. Deconstructing internalized toxic shame is an intense and overwhelming process, but it's a rewarding one.

Read the TOXIC SHAME article from Very Well Mind.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1714 || "thawing out" from a freeze state

Fri, 13 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Analysis paralysis is a natural response to stress, but there are many ways to manage it.

Respect the "thawing" process: this takes time.
Ground yourself: breathing exercises, noting exercises, etc.
Practice physical release: dance, shake, sing, yell, etc.
Get therapeutic help: Practice healthier coping skills, uproot deeper issues.

Read the PsychCentral article.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1713 || imperfect action > inaction

Thu, 12 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Inaction is not neutral.

I know I’m capable of great things but I am too afraid to do anything I want to do because it is easier to do nothing.

It feels safer to do nothing but it’s not. Inaction is not neutral.

Just because I can’t solve every problem doesn’t mean I can’t solve any of them.

Its easy to criticize the problems and the issues and the systems even, and blame my inaction on that - but I do have space and time and energy where many people don’t and I don’t use it because much of it is self centered criticism of my own perceived ability to change the problem.

How many times I’ve said to myself something to the extent of, since I can’t fix the world so I may as well give up on this tiny corner of it.

And that’s sad. My fear of being imperfect to myself is holding me back from everything.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1711 || why the war

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

This war is a ponzi scheme by people who use "rapture accelerationism" as a manipulation tactic. People ARE resisting, but we need to address what's really happening if we want to resist it properly.

Professor Jiang's "Predictive History" Youtube.

Wikipedia on Professor Jiang Xueqin

Penn Live article on Jiang's predictions.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1712 || keep me kind

Wed, 11 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

Having a broken heart means you still have a heart. Feeling painful feelings means you can still feel.

It's all part of the process of processing.

"Keep my anger from becoming meanness.

Keep my sorrow from collapsing into self-pity.

Keep my heart soft enough to keep breaking.

Keep my anger turned towards justice, not cruelty.

Remind me that all of this, every bit of it, is for love.

Keep me fiercely kind." Laura Jean Truman

Watch Today's short Professor Jiang's video.

Professor Jiang's "Predictive History" Youtube.

Wikipedia on Professor Jiang Xueqin

Penn Live article on Jiang's predictions.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1710 || bell hooks || men aren't the enemy

Tue, 10 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

"By highlighting psychological patriarchy, we see that everyone is implicated and we are freed from the misperception that men are the enemy. To end patriarchy we must challenge both its psychological and its concrete manifestations in daily life.

To end male pain, to respond effectively to male crisis, we have to name the problem. We have to both acknowledge that the problem is patriarchy and work to end patriarchy. Terrence Real offers this valuable insight: “The reclamation of wholeness is a process even more fraught for men than it has been for women, more difcult and more profoundly threatening to the culture at large.” If men are to reclaim the essential goodness of male being, if they are to regain the space of openheartedness and emotional expressiveness that is the foundation of well-being, we must envision alternatives to patriarchal masculinity. We must all change." - bell hooks

Read the bell hooks work: understanding patriarchy.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1709 || bell hooks || patriarchy isn't funny

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 04:01:00 GMT

"No one has ever explained why accurately naming this system is funny. The laughter is itself a weapon of patriarchal terrorism. It functions as a disclaimer, discounting the significance of what is being named. It suggests that the words themselves are problematic and not the system they describe." - bell hooks

Read the bell hooks work: understanding patriarchy.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1708 || bell hooks on understanding patriarchy

Wed, 25 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Patriarchy is the single most life-threatening social disease assaulting the male body and spirit in our nation. Yet most men do not use the word “patriarchy” in everyday life. - bell hooks

By highlighting psychological patriarchy, we see that everyone is implicated and we are freed from the misperception that men are the enemy. To end patriarchy we must challenge both its psychological and its concrete manifestations in daily life. - bell hooks

Read the bell hooks work: understanding patriarchy.

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Info on War Tax Resistance.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1707 || stop assuming "it" is inevitable

Tue, 24 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

There is a tendency to think that what we see in the present moment will continue. We forget how often we have been astonished by the sudden crumbling of institutions, by extraordinary changes in people’s thoughts, by unexpected eruptions of rebellion against tyrannies, by the quick collapse of systems of power that seemed invincible.

What leaps out from the history of the past hundred years is its utter unpredictability. - Howard Zinn

Rebecca Solnit's blog + newsletter: https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/

Rebecca Solnit's Books: https://www.rebeccasolnit.net/books.html

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1706 || tortoise at the mayfly party

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

"We're all losers until we win." - Astra Taylor

"Change itself becomes invisible when your timeframe is shorter than that change and the short term view breeds defeatism and despair... The short term view breeds incomprehension and ineffectuality." - Rebecca Solnit

Rebecca Solnit's blog + newsletter: https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/

Rebecca Solnit's Books: https://www.rebeccasolnit.net/books.html

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund and the Sudan Relief Fund

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

Support JULIE (and the show!)

Support + get some bonus stuff over on PATREON.

Get an occasional personal email from me: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

Tune in on INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE or TIKTOK.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1705 || stop running from the feeling

Sat, 21 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The source: Feel your feelings

"This zine is all about why it’s important to cultivate the capacity to stay with our feelings, and how we can go about doing that. Hopefully working through the zine will help you to figure out your own emotional landscape (which feelings you tend to prefer, and which you tend to avoid). It’ll also give you several possible practices for learning to stay with your feelings. Different things work for different people so it’s all about figuring out what works best for you."

And: https://transitionnetwork.org/

More from Meg John Barker https://queercircle.org/queer-creative-health-zine-two/

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1704 || the f.e.a.r. technique

Fri, 20 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The source: Feel your feelings

And: https://transitionnetwork.org/

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1703 || sitting with the shit

Thu, 19 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The source: Feel your feelings

And: https://transitionnetwork.org/

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1702 || feeling your feelings

Wed, 18 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The source: Feel your feelings

And: https://transitionnetwork.org/

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1701 || ease the transition to a better world

Tue, 17 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Every group is different, shaped by local needs, but all share common goals: ecological justice, boosting local economies, and strengthening community connections.

The resource: Small Practical Project Ideas

And: https://transitionnetwork.org/

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1700 || beg change from a world that needs some

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

title credit: Alkaline Trio or read today's episode, here.

The only thing that has helped me to stop doom scrolling was remembering that worst people in the world want me to doom scroll.

We've become inundated and confused and overwhelmed and scared. And that's by design.

They're banking on us disconnecting. They've invested a lot in forcing us to tap out. I don't like people telling me what to do and how to think. You're gonna buy in sometimes, but when you realize it? Resist that shit as hard as you can.

Action is the remedy to hopelessness. Hope is a verb.

Someone once said, if you’re scared to lose your life you already have, and that stuck with me.

If we want real change in the long term? That requires us to be comfortable changing something now.

Things don’t change unless I do, and if I’m being honest with myself? It’s beyond time for a few changes.

Future Hope: https://transitionnetwork.org/

Read Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1699 || PRIMING || find your red balloon

Sun, 15 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

"Easy to spot a yellow car when you are always thinking of a yellow car.

Easy to spot opportunity when you are always thinking of opportunity.

Easy to spot reasons to be mad when you are always thinking of being mad,

You become what you constantly think about. Watch yourself." - @CryptoSeneca

Red Balloon Post on Tumblr

Mary Oliver's poem: Don't Hesitate

Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092

Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38

Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/7547849798762663198

Wiki Priming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(psychology)

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1698 || PRIMING || dynamic pricing

Sat, 14 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

What is the most you'd pay for lunch? What about baby formula? What about an uber home when your battery is on 1%?

Those numbers will be different depending on your mood, location, and personality.

Dynamic Pricing is a way for companies to exploit us out of the most possible money, by creating a personalized "profile" they can use to manipulate you into more profits.

This is a form of priming that we all need to pay attention to.

Watch: RONAN FARROW ON DYNAMIC PRICING.

“The world makes much less sense than you think. The coherence comes mostly from the way your mind works.” - Daniel Kahneman, Thinking Fast and Slow

Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092

Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38

Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/7547849798762663198

Wiki Priming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(psychology)

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1697 || PRIMING || the different forms

Fri, 13 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

How do you naturally prime yourself for your day? Brushing your teeth to feel refreshed, playing hype music to get in a better mood, opening windows to let in fresh air. These are all forms of priming that affect how our mind feels going into things.

We associate familiarity with ease.

What do we do when people use priming with negative intentions?

"Start by cultivating environmental awareness. Look around your workspace, your living room, and your digital feeds. What are they priming you for? Does your phone's home screen, filled with news and social media apps, prime you for distraction and outrage? Does your desk, cluttered with unfinished tasks, prime you for anxiety? You have the power to curate your environment." - madeupmind.org

“The world makes much less sense than you think. The coherence comes mostly from the way your mind works.” - Daniel Kahneman, Thinking Fast and Slow

Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092

Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38

Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/7547849798762663198

Wiki Priming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(psychology)

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1696 || PRIMING || the mere exposure effect

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

“The world makes much less sense than you think. The coherence comes mostly from the way your mind works.” - Daniel Kahneman, Thinking Fast and Slow

Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092

Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38

Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/7547849798762663198

Wiki Priming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(psychology)

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1695 || PRIMING || the nudges that influence us

Wed, 11 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Priming is not some all-powerful button that can reliably control someone's complex actions. Instead, they are small nudges that interact with a person's existing goals, personality, and environment. - Madeupmind.org on priming

Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092

Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38

Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/7547849798762663198

Wiki Priming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(psychology)

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1694 || a new secret type of shame + how to deal with it

Tue, 10 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

shame thrives in secrecy. sometimes just recognizing your shame arising is enough to stop it, but when that isn't enough? maybe you need a break. grounding exercises have changed my life. sometimes i really just needed a sandwich or a nap.

but when noticing + grounding isn't enough? there's the art of priming.

Priming on very well mind: https://www.verywellmind.com/priming-and-the-psychology-of-memory-4173092

Youtube Video on Priming: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=onSJvUgBG38

Pete Holmes on Self-Priming https://www.tiktok.com/@unconquerable_life/video/7547849798762663198

Wiki Priming: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Priming_(psychology)

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1693 || you don't have to read them

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

YOU DON’T HAVE TO READ THE FILES.

There are plenty of people pulling all nighters with this shit for their actual job, you (likely) don’t have to. You can’t retroactively stop these crimes by learning about them. Also, this has been one of the biggest assaults on victims privacy in history, the reductions protect the criminals, not the victims. You don’t have to fucking read them.

If you’re going to read them?

PROTECT YOUR ENERGY.

You can’t be an effective person that makes any type of change if you’re incapacitated by fear and despair. We talked about “flooding the zone” at the beginning of his presidency, and we’re talking about it again today. This is a tactic to overwhelm the masses into inaction. Don’t feed the machine. Set boundaries. Set limits. Put on an invisible cloche and protect your energy subconsciously. Respect yourself enough to know when a conversation isn’t productive or an article isn’t helpful or a feeling isn’t permanent. Don’t engage with the information, engage with the emotions + what they make you want to do. Rage and grief are normal reactions, but feeding into the things making you feel that way, instead of what the feelings are attempting to communicate, can create a cycle of inaction and frustration. Engage with what the feelings are communicating, not the content making you feel those feelings. Let that push you into some sort of connection or advocacy. Not just because it’s the right thing to do, but because it will make you feel better about doing the right thing, and we need more of that energy right about now.

Watch Therapy Jeff's Post from a therapist about the epstein files.

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1692 || culture and the epstein files

Sun, 08 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

(Content warning) The whole point of patriarchy is to dominate. To exert power over the powerless. To brutalize people to the point of submission. Imperialism, colonialism, slavery… These things were never about having enough resources to survive, as the dirty ass settlers and hideous ass enslavers tended to have plenty of means. Hierarchy will always result in someone being on top, and someone being on bottom. The patriarchy has always been about power. And what could offer a more efficient way to exploit others for power than in committing the most heinous, violent, volatile, and truly unbelievable acts on literal children? Nothing. Patriarchy, unchecked and in its purest form, is pedophilic.

BUT this is a cultural problem, and cultures can adapt. Many cultures don't have this same hierarchy. There are better options.

Sure, this has been a huge issue for generations, which is why I think we should take advantage of the fact that we're finally talking about it and change the fucking culture.

Read a few episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1691 || working class uprisings are as american as apple pie

Sat, 07 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

"The Working Class Uprising They Don't Teach You About" - Herman Husband

Watch the original PBS Origins episode of Rebels + Revolutionaries

Donate to support your local PBS station.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1690 || action is the antidote to despair

Fri, 06 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

“Everything is blowing up around us, but there are still those who care about a broken lock, and others who are dutiful enough to try to fix it … But maybe that’s the way it should be. Maybe working on the little things as dutifully and honestly as we can, is how we stay sane when the world is falling apart.”― Haruki Murakami, Desire: Vintage Minis

assess your capacity (energy, time, resources, boundaries, expectations)
prepare for challenges (doomerism protection)
set intentions
get connected with your community, assess who is already there, and how you can contribute to those relationships.
take the first step in improving your relationship with your community.
take personal actions, collective actions, or share resources in the direction of your goal.
reflect and learn from your experience.
celebrate all progress
rest
prepare for the next action steps

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1690 || how to ground yourself when the ground is on fire

Thu, 05 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

assess your capacity (energy, time, resources, boundaries, expectations)
prepare for challenges (doomerism protection)
set intentions

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1689 || what's next? idk.

Wed, 04 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1688 || reclaim what you care about

Tue, 03 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Every step in the right direction is a step in the right direction. Energetic changes are the best form of resistance we have. When you reclaim your energy, it gets easier to see clearly where you’re giving it away for free.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1687 || they lack imagination

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

“The scariest place you can be is believing nothing can be done, because something can always be done.” Dutch on Tiktok

"Cause and effect assumes history marches forward, but history is not an army. It is a crab scuttling sideways, a drip of soft water wearing away stone, an earthquake breaking centuries of tension." Rebecca Solnit on Substack

Ben Sheehan's Substack

PBS Civics Made Easy

Huffington Post on what we can do now.

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1686 || it's not useless, but it's not everything

Sun, 01 Feb 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The future is unwritten, and most of us have access to our respective pens. Pick that shit up and make your mark. We have an affect regardless of what we do.

Film ICE when you see them.
Call your representatives. IT WORKS.

When you get overwhelmed with information? Go do something with it. Anything. Action is the remedy.

Ben Sheehan's Substack

PBS Civics Made Easy

Huffington Post on what we can do now.

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1686 || tip of the iceberg

Sat, 31 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

We don’t hear about the wins, because that would motivate you to go out and make your own.

"Because here is nothing more dangerous to a regime predicated on lies than witnesses who capture the truth." Jon Stewart

When you get overwhelmed with information? Go do something with it. Anything. Action is the remedy.

My lighthouses:

Dutch on Tiktok

Dasia Does it on Youtube

Struthless on Youtube

Rebecca Solnit on Substack

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1684 || they're watching all of us

Fri, 30 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The churches aren't safe, the schools aren't safe, the streets aren't safe. The government is running a terrorist organization making our streets volatile and terrifying. The federal government is using their overreach to spy on you and me, so they can more easily kidnap innocent human beings.

Though the full impact of the technology is still being assessed, its usage and reach are expanding rapidly. Without safeguards, these tools risk deepening mistrust in public institutions and further alienating vulnerable families.

Today we talk about the harm in that, tomorrow we'll talk about what we can do about it.

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1683 || who polices the police?

Thu, 29 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Who the hell is ICE hiring? What if the enforcers of the law are the ones who break it? Who polices the police?

ONLY 5% of those detained by ICE have a violent conviction, 73% never had a single conviction in their life. Yet, ICE is constantly hiring criminals who don't pass basic background checks.

Read about Deportation Industrial Complex from Brennan Law Center.

Read the Slate article about getting hired by ICE with ease.

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1682 || ICE + the depravity of undermining democracy

Wed, 28 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

(content warning: sexual violence) ONLY 5% of those detained by ice have a violent conviction, 73% never had a damned Conviction in their life, and those that did have prior convictions, a majority of those were traffic + paperwork issues, because they WERE on the damned books, and trying to immigrate legally when the government went and changed the rules on them.

In episode 1344, I debunked some immigration myths, in 1345 I shared some resources about the rights that immigrants have in this country, and as much as I would like to never talk about these assholes again, it feels like it’s past time to talk about the nightmare in the room. ICE itself.

FACTS:

Olivia Rodrigo is older than ICE.
When ICE was founded they were given 3 billion of our tax dollars annually. This year they are promised 42 billion* of our tax dollars. *According to DHS they’ll be using $170 billion over next 4 years (170/4) **+ for context what we could do with that much money? Ending WORLD hunger is estimated to cost just $93 billion a year and were spending $170 billion on an agency that has been around less time than Kelly Clarkson’s has been an American Idol.
Between January 1 and January 13th of this year - that’s not even TWO WEEKS, there have been 26 cases of violent misconducts DURING RAIDS ALONE that have been VERIFIED and reported by the people who are actively funding said raids.
They are unregulated and violent, so there are many crimes going without acknowledgement.
Last year was the deadliest year on record for ICE, yet it was also their most profitable.
The AP recently reported that ICE officers have been given permission to enter homes without a warrant.

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

The American Immigration Council on Mass Deportation

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1681 || the cold hard truth about ice

Tue, 27 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

FACTS:

Olivia Rodrigo is older than ICE.
When ICE was founded they were given 3 billion of our tax dollars annually. This year they are promised 42 billion* of our tax dollars. *According to DHS they’ll be using $170 billion over next 4 years (170/4) **+ for context what we could do with that much money? Ending WORLD hunger is estimated to cost just $93 billion a year and were spending $170 billion on an agency that has been around less time than Kelly Clarkson’s has been an American Idol.
Between January 1 and January 13th of this year - that’s not even TWO WEEKS, there have been 26 cases of violent misconducts DURING RAIDS ALONE that have been VERIFIED and reported by the people who are actively funding said raids.
Last year was the deadliest year on record for ICE, yet it was also their most profitable.
The AP recently reported that ICE officers have been given permission to enter homes without a warrant.

Know your rights:

Defend yourself against ICE raids

ICE in your area.

How allies can help against ICE raids

RESOURCES: The House Democrats ICE oversight.

American Immigration Council on Student Harm

The Conversation on ICE impact on student Trauma

The UN "ending world hunger costs less than 1% of military spending"

Cost to end vs not end homelessness

ICE isn't arresting criminals

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1680 || morals over metrics

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Access the original source.

We often treat metrics like a mission, which leads us to focus on the wrong things. Leaving our values behind in exchange for numbers on a screen. This can lead us to abandon ourselves and our values more and more, until we've actually become our own worst enemy.

We must be careful what we wish for and pay attention to how we are measuring success.

How has our creativity and our communication been affected by our current tech? Auto-correct, autofill, and autosort takes control from us. It changes how we show up in the world.

Go through all of the amazing, free, easy to access courses from Humane Technology Center.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1679 || the rat problem

Sun, 25 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Access the original source.

Take the Hanoi Rat Massacre, for example.

We must be careful what we wish for and pay attention to how we are measuring success.

Go through all of the amazing, free, easy to access courses from Humane Technology Center.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1678 || humane tech is out there

Sat, 24 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The six tenets of humane technology are:

Sensitive to Human Nature: Technology should work in harmony with human vulnerabilities and biases, rather than exploiting them to grab attention.
Minimize Harmful Consequences: Product teams must account for and minimize the negative, unintended, or downstream consequences of their technology.
Center on Values: Technology should be designed to support human values (such as truth, connection, and well-being) rather than simply maximizing for engagement metrics.
Create Shared Understanding: Technology should foster trust, truth, and the shared understanding necessary for functioning democracies, rather than creating fragmented realities.
Support Fairness & Justice: Systems should promote a more just world by actively reducing bias and integrating the voices of people who experience harm.
Help People Thrive: Products should be designed to empower users to act in alignment with their deeper, long-term intentions, rather than exploiting short-term impulses.

Visit the Humane Tech Website and check out their public discourse.

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1677 || when the system is the problem

Fri, 23 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

How do we fight the very system we’re stuck in?

If every road we end up on bottlenecks to the same hole they want us stuck in, should we even bother?

There’s a place for all of us in the systemic fight, and it’s a matter of filling needs that you can fill, as they arise.

Some of us will need to stay in the bottle, but we can keep flooding the neck of the bottle from the inside, and because it’s already showing signs of cracking - we should never let up until it does. But some people hate the damned bottle, and will find they are best used outside of the bottle, throwing rocks at the facade to show how fallible it is. Some of us will have escaped the bottle already and be creating new, more connected and expansive roads for when the bottle shatters and we all need a new path, and some of us will be stuck, in the bottom of the bottle, waiting for the glass shards to fall and bury them, or for someone outside to pull them. Find a place for yourself. Building new roads, or breaking the bottle neck that has been causing so much harm.

It’s impossible to see your own issues when you’re in them.

If you’re stuck in the abusive system you’re not likely to see how abusive it is until you’ve escaped it.

You have to back up to see the whole picture.

Your nose is on the wall, back up a few steps and you’ll see how big and broken the wall is.

When we see how other systems are working, it becomes clear all the ways ours isn’t.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1676 || the other half of the battle

Thu, 22 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Knowing is half the battle, but what about the other half?

We'll never be free of all bias, perception, and susceptibility to manipulation.

It feels like we should be able to control what we understand, but unfortunately that's not the case.

As we learn consequences in real time, we have to be willing to recognize our personal vulnerabilities so we can avoid being exploited by persuasive technologies who don't have our best interest in mind.

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1675 || how the funhouse mirror works

Wed, 21 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Social media + persuasive technologies exploit our brain's vulnerabilities to ensure we stay engaged with their apps.

Creating a sense of urgency,
Encouraging constant seeking,
Comparing ourselves to others,
Engaging with negative content,
Isolating us in bubbles.

To combat this, slow the fuck down.

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1674 || the guilt gap: watching tv vs. scrolling social media

Tue, 20 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Weird how I can spend two hours on Instagram reels or tiktok and not feel bad about not cleaning my house, but when I sit to watch a movie? I am riddled with guilt and shame.

Slow content leaves room for thinking and autonomy. Fast-pased content led by algorithms, leave no room for independent thought or action.

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1673 || the internet is a funhouse mirror

Mon, 19 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The data brokers found out we can't look away from a car crash, so they made all of our available content a series of car crashes. This has convinced a lot of us that the world is simply, ALL car crashes. It's not. They're prioritizing profits + growth at the expense of the whole.

"We are on a path to a technology environment where we are surrounded by powerful technology that’s competing to track, influence, and monetize us."

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1672 || persuasive technology

Sun, 18 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The Khan Academy offers free courses and today I sped through their lesson on "persuasive technology" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1671 || attention economy

Sat, 17 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

The Khan Academy offers free courses, today I speed through their lesson on "the attention economy" and how we can push back against it, to reclaim what is ours.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1670 || what does machiavellian actually mean?

Fri, 16 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

I've been using the term "machiavellian" for years. Recently, I looked it up. Today, I'm sharing what I found.

Machiavelli was a teacher of "evil". He believed virtues were a waste of time. He said successful founders and supporters of government must be violent murderers to sustain control. Fear is a more powerful motivator than fear, so he encouraged brute force and violence as a means to an end.

We can combat this type of thinking by encouraging empathy, connection, and morality.

Wikipedia's Page on Machiavelli.

The Forbes Article on Workplace Machiavellians

Quora's Responses to someone feeling more Machiavellian.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1669 || when reality is up for debate

Thu, 15 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

This isn't about disagreeing about policies or politics, anymore. We currently live in a world with a sizable minority of people are disagreeing about reality itself.

We cannot allow those who disagree with reality to create a new one.

What do we do when we're forced to tolerate people who support authoritarianism?

How does a pluralistic democracy deal with people who threaten the existence of such a thing?

We must set firm and clear boundaries against actions + movements that threaten the pluralistic democracy that keeps them safe, provide a viable off-ramp from authoritarianism and intolerance, and teach explicitly a "tolerance for ambiguity and difference".

Watch Cybel Canterel's Original Video on TikTok.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1668 || Until death, failure is psychological.

Wed, 14 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

There's an Arabic saying, "لايدرك كله لا يترك كله" or "What cannot be achieved in its entirety should not be abandoned completely."

Until death, failure is psychological.

Little Miss Sunshine the grandpa reminds her she’s not a loser for failing, he explains that losers are the people who are too afraid to win, so they never try.

Very Well Mind's "What happens after I die?"

Maya Angelou's Poem "When I think of Death"

Read the Poem "If you're not planning on going to heaven, go to Norway."

Read the Poem "Your older self is begging you to enjoy right now"

Read the Medium Post "What's worse than dying"

Read Ebonee Davis' Tweet on "Trees Becoming Stronger"

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1667 || I'm not scared of dying, I'm afraid of not living.

Tue, 13 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

My family has never been one to talk about death, we pretend it doesn't exist until it blindsides us and ruins our lives. But building this wall around the inevitable has created a feeling of deep fear around the entire subject.

So, as I get older, and I am forced to face this reality more and more, I am beginning to realize that it's never been about my fear of "mortality" in and of itself, but my fears are in feeling like I never truly lived.

To face my fear of death, I have to be willing to face my fear of living fully.

Very Well Mind's "What happens after I die?"

Maya Angelou's Poem "When I think of Death"

Read the Poem "If you're not planning on going to heaven, go to Norway."

Read the Poem "Your older self is begging you to enjoy right now"

Read the Medium Post "What's worse than dying"

Read Ebonee Davis' Tweet on "Trees Becoming Stronger"

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1666 || death is the room, not the elephant

Mon, 12 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

“I imagine one of the reasons people cling to their hates so stubbornly is because they sense, once hate is gone, they will be forced to deal with pain.” James Baldwin

"Whatever goes up must come down." And here we are, at the center of the arc, trapped in the gaudiest, most valuable, and most improbable water wheel the world has ever seen. Everything now, we must assume, is in our hands; we have no right to assume otherwise.” James Baldwin

“Life is tragic simply because the earth turns and the sun inexorably rises and sets, and one day, for each of us, the sun will go down for the last, last time. Perhaps the whole root of our trouble, the human trouble, is that we will sacrifice all the beauty of our lives, will imprison ourselves in totems, taboos, crosses, blood sacrifices, steeples, mosques, races, armies, flags, nations, in order to deny the fact of death, the only fact we have. It seems to me that one ought to rejoice in the fact of death — ought to decide, indeed, to earn one’s death by confronting with passion the conundrum of life. One is responsible for life: It is the small beacon in that terrifying darkness from which we come and to which we shall return. One must negotiate this as nobly as possible, for the sake of those who are coming after us. But white Americans do not believe in death, and this is why the darkness of my skin so intimidates them.” James Baldwin

Baldwin's Book: The Fire Next Time

Wikipedia for The Fire Next Time

Alok V. Menon Video "Death is the room"

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1665 || how to not fear your death

Sun, 11 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

You cannot imagine what it would be like to be dead, because death is an absence of existence. There is, literally, nothing to imagine – because nothingness itself cannot be imagined. There is no perspective, no view from nothingness, nothing to which it can be approximated. So that is the first recommendation: realise that being dead isn’t an experience. Death itself isn’t really a thing at all. In Epicurus’ words: ‘Death is nothing to us.’ - Sam Dresser

Read the original Article on Psyche.co

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1664 || social media brings out our worst

Sat, 10 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Read this today's original source, here.

"When you’re overwhelmed with information, you don’t think deeply about it; you have to process it very quickly. So, you tend to process it through existing biases, and that encourages people to form groups in tension with other groups." - Superbloom: How Technologies of Connection Tear Us Apart Nicholas Carr

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1666 || an online AYCE buffet, what are you eating?

Fri, 09 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

If the internet is an AYCE buffet of unlimited, endless options, there’s bound to be items you find disgusting, that will make you physically ill. There’s also bound to be items you find delicious AND nourishing and can’t get enough of. But a majority of that buffet will be… fine.

It will be mediocre filler foods that you don’t remember eating at all. You may even fill yourself up on the “just okay ” foods and not realize how much better of a meal it could’ve been if you’d been more patient or critical with filling your plate.

Not to say that mindless consumption isn’t incredibly healing, sometimes.

I just think it’s become normal not to think about anything we engage with, and that can be more toxic than medicinal.

It is not all bad, it is not all good, but it is not neutral either. It is what I make of it. It is a reflection of how I engage with it.

It, like any tool, can be used as a weapon if we’re not being conscious with how we wield it.

This is why choosing to engage is such a powerful process.

Deciding when it’s too much, setting boundaries, creating realistic expectations, and being careful with not letting the algorithm co-opt my agency; all these take conscious effort.

The key is staying present and conscious as often as you can.

Engaging with shit because you want to, because you make the conscious choice to, not simply because it’s there.

I think a lot of us have become conditioned to believing “inconvenience is a barrier,” and in reality, on the other side of inconvenience is so much freedom and fulfillment.

A healthy amount of resistance is what builds muscles, minds, and ideas. Friction is not the enemy.

I think a healthy amount of well-placed friction is the only thing that keeps shit from sliding off the shelves and into a heap on the floor.

We are constantly bombarded with shit trying to make us numb, sad, hopeless, defeated, so that we become so overwhelmed with the idea of any additional discomfort (even when it’s the good kind) becomes absolutely unbearable.

The wealth-hoarding class wants us to be good little cattle who give over our time, data, energy, money, and peace without questioning.

So every time we act with intention, we push back against the systems of manipulation, profiting off of our misery.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1665 || what if the act of "choosing" is enough

Thu, 08 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

I accidentally ritualized something that is typically mundane, and that, in itself, is a magical and empowering act.

Now, as much as I want to push society towards more “analog” and “slow” options because I genuinely think it would be good for us all to get off of these algorithms for good, it’s not the only way to opt into more conscious consumption.

“Consciously consuming” as a ritual, instead of a burden, can be applied to almost any aspect of life.

When I take a moment to consider the vibe I’m seeking, before engaging with anything, I find myself being more critical with what I engage with. I also find the process to be ultimately more fulfilling and rewarding.

If you are addicted to social media or streaming, this may be a difficult transition, but you don’t have to change everything about your habits, right out of the gates.

You can start with one intentional act a day. As a practice.

Quickly, you’ll realize just how much time and energy you’ve spent digesting shit that you didn’t even enjoy. You’ll start to notice how unfulfilled you tend to feel after spending hours online with no sense of purpose, and how it doesn’t always have to feel that way.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1661 || being "above" it, means being apart from it.

Wed, 07 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

"It feels good to look down on people until you realize that being above society is also being apart from it. It pulls you deeper into your own home, your own phone." - quoted from Lily Alexandre's Youtube Video.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1660 || surveillance makes us docile

Tue, 06 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

How do we feel like we’re not being watched, when we are being watched?

Studies show that citizens tolerate being surveilled, and eventually stop thinking about it. But we tend to act more docile + reliable after we forget. The camera makes you more docile. It makes you a better employee. But the camera has taken something from you. Your complex and unstable kinetic energy. Everyday it reanimates your body in predictable loops.”

The first time I realized I was being surveilled without my knowing, was at my first job. Cold Stone Creamery ice cream shop. The rumor was they’d sit at home and watch us at work, but I didn’t believe it. One day, I mopped the front when I received a phone call saying, “you only dipped the mop once, the dining room requires three dips for a proper cleaning.”

Needless to say, 16 year old me was shook. I never mopped without doing it their way, again. I behaved differently on my shifts, from there on out. I feeling anxious and paranoid — but I’d completely forgotten about what caused it. I just thought, “this is what work feels like.”

So it effectively shocked me into submission, with very little effort.

The camera is a gun.

It’s about power. And we all recognize what the power a camera holds.

A video at our worst moment, can get you fired, arrested, or harassed.

We cope with this reality in our own ways.

We stop going out, we stop dancing, we stop interacting. We participate as viewers who critique and judge. Or we pick up the power ourselves, and turn the camera + surveillance and judgement to those around us.

How has the surveillance state affected your behavior?

Did you realize that the panopticon was affecting you at all?

The only way we can learn to cope + navigate without losing ourselves or our humanity, is if we’re willing to face it head on.

Watch Lily Alexandre's Youtube Video.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1659 || psychic burden of being surveilled

Mon, 05 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Cameras "take" and "capture" reality, but even when we know it's manufactured, we tend to trust what we can see. Today, we talk about the historical and psychological implications of photography.

Watch Lily Alexandre's Youtube Video.

Read episode scripts on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1659 || personal panopticon

Sun, 04 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

I have tried to be conscious of any of the personally imposed surveillance that I take part in.

It’s futile, I’m sure, but:

I opt out of everything I can possibly opt out of online.
I talk shit to and about every Ring doorbell to anyone who will listen.
I opt out of the biometric data collection at the TSA, despite some of the officers reminding me they have my data already.

The point is, I like exercising my rights where the options still exist. Even if it is futile.

And even if it is inconvenient for me, I’m not taking your online cookies.

It deeply infuriates me that I’m not “allowed” to opt out of more.

I can’t use my phone, camera, printer, or any other piece of tech without signing the terms and conditions that hold your item (and your family) hostage unless you give up the rights to your entire personhood in a written contract.

But you spend three paychecks on these items and it feels like a simple click will get you there, so you sign away without reading a damned thing.

Everything I buy feels like just another way for a company to get more access to more of my personal data. The merchandise or service they provide is so obviously an inconvenience to them, at this point.

Data is king. And for many companies, your attention has become far more valuable than cash.

The dollar may crash but the need for your unpaid labor and energy will never end!!!

READ THE SCRIPT FROM TODAY'S EPISODE on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1658 || personal system assessment

Sat, 03 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

I realized trying to balance things by pushing back and forcing a reset, rather than allowing the swing of humanity, with the full spectrum of human emotions, and restore my faith that just existing is enough.

I know that when I am my most inspired I can get inspired by a moth flying at a light, a mom smiling at her baby, and I am known to get emotional when an older person buys themselves ice cream. There is something beautiful and inspiring about the simple act of existence, in it’s purest form.

Let yourself be perceived just existing, and have faith that it’s enough, and you’ll automatically reset your systems so you can automatically begin building systems that push you towards the more sustainable, fulfilling, and balanced world you’re so desperate for.

But it starts with your own.

READ THE SCRIPT FROM TODAY'S EPISODE on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1657 || the year you give yourself a chance

Fri, 02 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

If the “experience” is the goal, failure ceases to exist.

“you will figure it out.” You should trust that. If you don’t believe it, maybe its time to give yourself a chance to prove yourself wrong.

In what ways have you been your own biggest bully? In what ways have you become your own opps?

Some of you* have been playing really small and trying to fit in boxes that were never built for you and you’re wondering why you’re uncomfortable? Meanwhile, you’re contorting to fit into a box when there’s sprawling land right underneath it, if you’d just stick a limb out and touch it.

*me

Until you find the right fit, but don’t blame yourself for cultural problems. Just recognize them so you can create better cultures and rituals around things, when and where you can.

READ THE SCRIPT FROM TODAY'S EPISODE on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1656 || controlled demolition

Thu, 01 Jan 2026 05:01:00 GMT

Sometimes, when the facades are crumbling, you may start to recognize the need for a controlled demolition. Not to destroy anything of value, but to strategically dismantle some of the more daunting aspects of your current human experience. Any routines, beliefs, relationships, that are no longer helpful, we must be willing to strip back to the foundation, so we can actually assess the underlying damage, reset, and rebuild.

The thought experiment of a controlled demolition is very helpful, not because it’s important to think of collapse, but because it can be empowering to remember your ability to rebuild better.

When you take place in a controlled demolition, you are attempting to address what is worth saving, what is worth improving, and what needs to be completely gutted and reimagined from the ground up.

READ THE SCRIPT FROM TODAY'S EPISODE on Julie's Medium Blog.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1655 || no shame new years

Wed, 31 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We write narratives about ourselves that we show up and reflect back. Address the narrative, and recognize you can show up around your "shame" and it doesn't have to be something you identify with.

You can allow shame to point, not guide. It's a tool, not a boss.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1654 || science news around a meaningful life

Tue, 30 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

2025 brought in some studies that left me with some hope about the future, and I wanted to share that with you.

You can read the ones I missed here at Berkeley's Greater Good Magazine Website.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1653 || it's not a debate

Mon, 29 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today is the finale of our series on street epistemology, and we're digging into what NOT to do.

Wonder: The big question.
Hypothesis: The interlocutor's proposed answer to the question.
Elenchus: Question and answer to discover what other reasonable propositions are likely to be true that refute the hypothesis. Proceed by mutual agreement at every step - elenchus is not a debate.
Accept or Revise: Refine or revise the hypothesis - either without vulnerability to that elenchus, with reduced confidence, or even rejecting it. On the other hand, if the hypothesis survives repeated attempts at elenchus, provisionally accept it.
Act accordingly: Reduce confidence in and reliance on the hypothesis that is refuted by elenchus.

Read about the brain in a vat argument.

Read about The Teapot Analogy.

Read: On the reception and detection of pseudo-profound bullshit

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1652 || when faith is more valuable than reason

Sun, 28 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Some people think their faith is "enough". Today I share ways to get them to reflect on the flaws in that thinking, and how to deal with people who refuse to budge.

Wonder: The big question.
Hypothesis: The interlocutor's proposed answer to the question.
Elenchus: Question and answer to discover what other reasonable propositions are likely to be true that refute the hypothesis. Proceed by mutual agreement at every step - elenchus is not a debate.
Accept or Revise: Refine or revise the hypothesis - either without vulnerability to that elenchus, with reduced confidence, or even rejecting it. On the other hand, if the hypothesis survives repeated attempts at elenchus, provisionally accept it.
Act accordingly: Reduce confidence in and reliance on the hypothesis that is refuted by elenchus.

Read: On the reception and detection of pseudo-profound bullshit

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1651 || elenchus

Sat, 27 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Wonder: The big question.
Hypothesis: The interlocutor's proposed answer to the question.
Elenchus: Question and answer to discover what other reasonable propositions are likely to be true that refute the hypothesis. Proceed by mutual agreement at every step - elenchus is not a debate.
Accept or Revise: Refine or revise the hypothesis - either without vulnerability to that elenchus, with reduced confidence, or even rejecting it. On the other hand, if the hypothesis survives repeated attempts at elenchus, provisionally accept it.
Act accordingly: Reduce confidence in and reliance on the hypothesis that is refuted by elenchus.

Read: On the reception and detection of pseudo-profound bullshit

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1650 || neutralizing language helps

Fri, 26 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

You can't change minds when people are defensive. Practice using neutral language and reframing techniques to minimize defensiveness. These are difficult conversations, but they shouldn't feel like confrontations. Today we talk about some ways to do that.

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. IWe are fallible. We can't "know that we know" everything. Street epistemology is based on reliabilism. It's not dogmatic, but it does help us recognize fallacies when people are claiming extraordinary events are true.

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1649 || embrace the silences

Thu, 25 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

You can affirm a person without affirming their ideas. Treat people with respect, leave space for silent reflections, and allow yourself humility in how you approach these dialogues.

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1648 || faith isn't enough

Wed, 24 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We are fallible. We can't "know that we know" everything. Street epistemology is based on reliabilism. It's not dogmatic, but it does help us recognize fallacies when people are claiming extraordinary events are true.

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1647 || the inner work required to bridge a connection

Tue, 23 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Challenge your biases + stereotypes. Focus on first-hand experiences. Focus on individual humanity, not their group membership. Assume good intentions. Be intentional with expanding your interactions with other cultures. Learn to engage with context not the connotation.

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1646 || "bridging our differences" isn't for everyone

Mon, 22 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

It's not about changing someone's mind, it's about finding common ideas so you can expose the vulnerabilities + biases, but there are risks involved.

You may start to identify your own faulty beliefs. This work isn't for everyone, all the time. It's not your responsibility to have productive conversations about everything, all the time. If you have the capacity, though, some of these strategies and skills can help us hone those skills.

Read Perth Skeptics collection of street epistemology resources.

Read Berkeley's "Bridging Differences Playbook"

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1645 || street epistemology

Sun, 21 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Lately I've been avoiding arguments by asking people about their "mode of justification" rather than the justification, itself. It's helped me in my genuine curiosity, which allows me to be more respectful when dealing with people whose beliefs seem ridiculous.

There's no formula or script, but asking "what evidence would change your confidence in the truth of this claim?" has changed my relationship with these types of conversations.

Working from where we do agree, and meeting people where they are, and exploring alongside each other - to understand HOW they got to the belief, rather than attempting to singlehandedly debunk the belief.

Visit the Street Epistemology Website.

Read the Wikipedia on Street Epistemology.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1644 || highly sensitive + trying not to lose that

Sat, 20 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

When you deep clean your kitchen cabinets, your guests won't know what a MESS it used to be. It's invisible labor. They won't see the chaos that you had to go through to get everything to an organized place, but that doesn't take away the value of an organized cabinet.

Finding a way to engage with the world productively, has been a chaotic mess of a project - but it's been worth it.

I'm highly sensitive and in a world that pushes us all towards numbness, it feels like a burden. But it's not. It's part of the essential process of making a softer + more equitable world.

Read the calmmarevolution article on Highly Sensitive Kids.

Watch MaisonRichie's tiktok on educational disposition.

Read scholarly teacher's article.

Read Know Atom's article.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1643 || how's your scholastic disposition?

Fri, 19 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Here are the learned dispositions that coincide with education + critical thinking:

Comfort with abstraction
Willingness to defer gratification
Belief that your questions are legitimate
Ease with formal language
Patience with hierarchal structures

Watch MaisonRichie's tiktok on educational disposition.

Read scholarly teacher's article.

Read Know Atom's article.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1642 || frustration tolerance

Thu, 18 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Kids are losing their tolerance for frustration, and it's showing up in their education. Have you noticed a change in your own?

The school system is broken, but that means we should invest MORE into it, not less.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1641 || how to deal with the constant flow of negative news

Wed, 17 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"Everything will seem like a world-ending crisis if we don't know what has/hasn't happened before. If it has happened before, it's can be hugely comforting to know how it was resolved and/or what might happen next." - Cindy Otis

Too much negativity leads to complacency, the inability to act, adopting a crisis perspective, depression, and PTSD. So we need to avoid overindulgence, accept your limits, set boundaries, take action where you can, be reasonable with yourself, pick ONE thing at a time, take some sort of action, and stop putting so much pressure on yourself to solve everything at once.

Read Cindy Otis' post on how to handle the deluge of neverending bad news.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1640 || live for the next cup of tea

Tue, 16 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Being dysregulated is actually a sign of a healthy nervous system. You don't need to focus on staying "regulated" but instead, learn to listen to the signals that arrive when you do become dysregulated so you can focus on the root cause, instead of the symptoms.

When we learn to listen to our feelings as information, we can decide which ones we need to address in real time.

It's not about avoiding discomfort altogether, but getting curious about the causes + feelings associated with it so you can start aligning your actions with your values + find comfort in that, instead.

We have to learn to see the value in planting seeds for trees you'll never know the shade of.

Read Janelle's Medium Post titled: Live for the next cup of tea.

Read the article on hope + resilience from Chris Johnstone + Joanna Macy.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1639 || 10 ways to connect to your purpose

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today I share 10 scientifically backed ways to connect with your personal (subjective) sense of purpose. You can watch the original video that I quoted in today's episode here.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

you're not running late (rerelease)

Sun, 14 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

You haven't peaked. You haven't plateaued. You aren't "cooked" or "spent" or "done". You may actually be suffering from something called "hurry sickness" and it can be managed with some conscious effort.

Psych Central's Hurry Sickness Article

Healthline on Hurry Sickness

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

the end result of chronic stress (re-release)

Sat, 13 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Originally posted on day 1375

Stage 1 – Honeymoon

Initial commitment and excitement to engage in tasks. For example, when you first start your journey in a new activism group.

Stage 2 – Onset of stress

Common symptoms of stress start being felt, such as fatigue, lower productivity and sleep disturbances.

Stage 3 – Chronic Stress

Lack of motivation + more intense symptoms felt on a very frequent basis. At this stage, bad habits such as smoking, drinking etc may begin

Stage 4 – Burnout

Difficulty even to cope with the minimum of daily tasks. Everything seems dull and ugly, and the person starts feeling either numb or else always overwhelmed.

Stage 5 – Habitual burnout

Symptoms of burnout become incorporated into normal life and person experiences chronic fatigue, depression and apathy.

The Resource: https://commonslibrary.org/activist-burnout-guide-with-videos/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1638 || breaking up with your phone

Fri, 12 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Instead of trying to get rid of dopamine, focus on stepping away from habits and behaviors that no longer serve you.

Read the Harvard Article on Dopamine Fasting here.

Read the Cleveland Clinic's: Dopamine Detoxes Don’t Work: Here’s What To Do Instead

Read Can the ‘Dopamine Detox’ Trend Break a Digital Addiction?

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1637 || how to stop scrolling so damn much

Thu, 11 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

How to stop scrolling.

Start from where you are.
Recognize what is a systemic issue.
Practice "deciding" with intention when scrolling.
Practice staying focused and catching yourself when you get distracted on your phone.
Decouple your association of "dopamine" with "scrolling.
Practice the standard addiction coping strategies: Make the desired habits more accessible + attractive. Make the habit you'd like to change less attractive + accessible.
Practice mindful breathing work while you scroll.
Practice ENGAGING with what you consume, instead of mindlessly consuming.
Remember problem isn't the dopamine, it's typically the source... so make the sources you'd rather engage with more accessible + attractive for yourself.

You don't have to climb out of the hole today - but you can celebrate the fact that you finally stopped digging.

Watch the Newel of Knowledge video "

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1636 || dopamine detoxes are useless

Wed, 10 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Why would you want to disconnect from your joy, when trying to restore your sense of joy?

You can't go on a T-break for pleasure. Instead, focus on the modifying the way you get your pleasure, instead of eliminating the pleasure itself.

Dopamine is just one neurotransmitter responsible for our sense of pleasure + joy. We can't and shouldn't want to detox our dopamine levels. Dopamine is essential to motivating us to do everything from moving our bodies, to sleeping properly. This is why people with dopamine issues, depression, ADHD, etc. often struggle with physical and executive functioning.

The problem isn't the dopamine, it's typically the source.

Read The Cleveland clinic's Dopamine Detox Article.

Read NPR's article on Dopamine Detoxing.

Read The Cleveland Clinic's description of Anhedonia.

Read the Anhedonia Coping Tips from UCI Health.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1635 || it really is these damn phones

Tue, 09 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

I've been working on my relationship with my phone, on and off, for years. Sometimes, I use it as a tool. Sometimes, it feels like it's using me as a tool.

Genuine + deeply rooted ad fatigue, traumatic events sprung upon me, most content is some form of engagement/rage/anxiety/fear bait, brain rot + ai slop, trolls + bot accounts. Misinformation + disinformation campaigns financed by literal government entities.

It's disheartening to feel like I am the tool being used, and I think I am finally ready to confront this toxic relationship.

Read The Cleveland Clinic's description of Anhedonia.

Read the Anhedonia Coping Tips from UCI Health.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1634 || when nothing sounds fun anymore

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

People associate the feeling of feeling the most alive when they’re laughing and playing and goofing off. People feel the most connected with their purpose and life and future and desire to make the world a better place, when they are connected to joy + their ability to have fun once in a while.

But for some reason, as we get older - we make less and less time for play. We find it frivolous and silly and a waste of time... but that means some us have lost our joie de vivre because we forgot how to play.

Read The Cleveland Clinic's description of Anhedonia.

Read the Anhedonia Coping Tips from UCI Health.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1633 || analyzing the fun out of it

Sun, 07 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

I overthink things that don't require second thought. I suck the fun out of joyful activities by worrying about doing it "correctly" or "perfectly" or performing "well enough to not embarrass myself" yet...

even when there is no audience, I find myself performing.

The expectations take away the true joy that comes from "creating" and "play" and "love" and "fun" and I'm trying to pay attention to this tendency so I can sit with the discomfort of not knowing if I will do a good job or not, but committing anyway.

Watch the Junk Journaling video that I referenced here.

Play the video game: Life is Strange.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1632 || allergic to wondering

Sat, 06 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We love answers. We love conclusions. We tend to steer clear of open ended problems and tasks, because of this.

But there are so many things that leave us with open ended problems that we will never be able to solve.

Learning to tolerate that discomfort is an important skill to practice.

The "right" answers don't exist. Let go of your "need" to know. Embrace the wholeness of the human experience; which means, we must learn to embrace the discomfort of wondering.

Listen to the "I Hate Mysteries" episode of This American Life.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1631 || are you becoming the morality police?

Fri, 05 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

have been trying to stop thinking of every single decision I make as some deep moral test. Every time I stay in the shower a little too long, or support a shitty company, or buy a product wrapped in single use plastic, isn’t a condemnation of all of my character. I am not going to hell. I am not broken. I am not a piece of shit. I am a human being, set up to fail, but doing my best any-damn-way.

It’s not your job to save the world, but don’t let yourself forget how fulfilling and important it can be to inconvenience yourself, on behalf of love, when the time is right.

I try to only focus on doing the next, right thing. Which, naturally, will be based on the context, the situation, the energy, the capacity of everyone involved, etc.

The key is balance and discretion, which I will call: alignment.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1630 || the swiss cheese method

Thu, 04 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

I have complex feelings about our personal responsibility. As we know the richest 1% cause more climate damage than over half of humanity. 57 companies are linked to 80% of greenhouse emissions, but our society has pushed us into the thinking its ALL our personal responsibility OR it's not at all. But all or nothing thinking is counter-productive and self-defeating.

Instead think of every single imperfect (but inspired) action as a slice of swiss cheese.

Sure, some harms may still make their way through the holes. But the more slices you stack on top of each other, the less those holes line up. And eventually, you create a pretty impenetrable block of actions that remind you that the holes were not a problem to begin with.

Imperfect action > no action.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

Read about the Swiss Cheese Method.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1629 || shifting from apathy to agency

Wed, 03 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We can actually build a better world, but we have to break the cycle of cynicism, first.

THE CYCLE OF CYNICISM

1. Finding out about a problem

2. Wanting to do something to help

3. Not seeing how you can help

4. Not doing anything about it

5. Feeling sad, powerless, angry

6. Deciding that nothing can be done

7. Beginning to shut down

8. Wanting to know less about problems

9. Repeat until apathy results.

THE CYCLE OF HOPE

1. Taking personal responsibility for being a good person

2. Creating a vision of a better world based on your values

3. Seeking out quality information about the world's problems

4. Discovering practical options for action

5. Acting in line with your values

6. Recognizing you can't do everything

7. Repeat until better world results.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1628 || shifting from a cycle of cynicism to a cycle of hope

Tue, 02 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We can actually build a better world, but we have to break the cycle of cynicism, first.

THE CYCLE OF CYNICISM

1. Finding out about a problem

2. Wanting to do something to help

3. Not seeing how you can help

4. Not doing anything about it

5. Feeling sad, powerless, angry

6. Deciding that nothing can be done

7. Beginning to shut down

8. Wanting to know less about problems

9. Repeat until apathy results.

THE CYCLE OF HOPE

1. Taking personal responsibility for being a good person

2. Creating a vision of a better world based on your values

3. Seeking out quality information about the world's problems

4. Discovering practical options for action

5. Acting in line with your values

6. Recognizing you can't do everything

7. Repeat until better world results.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1627 || but we're all so cynical

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We can actually build a better world, but we have to break the cycle of cynicism, first.

Read the Inner Self Article on How to Make the World a Better Place.

Watch a video about Kinesin (motor protein).

Read the report on Violent Crime And Media Coverage In One City: A Statistical Snapshot

Read the American Military University article on media coverage of violent crime.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1626 || time worship

Sun, 30 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

The invention of the modern clock has turned time into a commodity. It's something you can spend, save, waste, lose, or trade for money directly.

Clocks should be a tool, not a box. Yet we have curated our entire lives around the 24 hour clock, sometimes to the detriment of our natural biology.

World Atlas on the History of Time

The philosophy institute on Tribal Calendars

University of New Mexico on Time Keepers.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1625 || one must imagine sisyphus happy

Sat, 29 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

“Do you think that the trees grow tired every winter of having to shed their leaves and think to themselves, I don’t want to go through another bitter winter? And when it comes time to regrow them in the spring, do you think they say “I don’t want to push new buds out, I don’t want to form new growth and bear new fruits.”

“You don’t have to struggle your way to a state of perfection, you just have to surrender to the cycles and let yourself begin to enjoy the unfolding process of your life.” - Eliza Day

Access the free version of the original Camus text,

Access the Myth of Sisyphus wikipedia.

Watch the Eliza Day video from Tiktok.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1624 || longtermism

Fri, 28 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

A society grows great when old men plant trees under whose shade they know they’ll never sit.

Yesterday we discussed the difficult task of creating Long-term nuclear waste warning messages, today I want to talk about longtermism, or the idea of doing the right thing for the future generations.

William MacAskill on Longtermism
Read about Long Term Nuclear Waste Warning Messages at BBC.
Listen to 99% Invisible's Podcast or the Stuff You Should Know podcast on the long term messages.
More reading: https://longtermism.com/
And: https://80000hours.org/articles/future-generations/
And: https://www.forethought.org/longtermism

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1623 || what to talk about, after the arguing (the nuclear waste problem)

Thu, 27 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

If you need a conversation starter to break the awkward lulls and post-fight silences at your Thanksgiving dinner, I HIGHLY suggest looking up the wikipedia page for Long-term nuclear waste warning messages + discussing it with any and everyone who will engage.

The question: How can we effectively communicate a truly DEADLY danger 10,000 years in the future?

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1622 || the limiting nature of overthinking

Wed, 26 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"If we focus [too much] on ourselves and how we feel, then we are limiting our experiences by definition." Victoria Spratt wrote, in her article: "You’re Thinking About Yourself Too Much"

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1621 || finding purpose at an all you can eat buffet

Tue, 25 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Finding your purpose in life is like finding your favorite food at a brand new "all you can eat" buffet. You arrive hungry and excited, and everything looks pretty delicious.

You try to fit a little bit of everything on your plate. You try tiny nibbles and some disappoint. Others surprise. Others are what you expect. And when it’s time to go back up and try new things you know a littttle more and lose a lil initial excitement so you grab a lil of the things you missed the first time and so on.

You keep tasting and trying. And you get pickier as you go. Recognize what isn’t salted enough for you. What isn’t spicy enough. What’s too spicy. You get more of what works and less of what doesn’t. Until eventually you get a full plate of all the things you love.

When you eventually get hungry again and return to the buffet line? You’ll know.

But you can’t be mad you didn’t know on your first plate.

Sure, you technically "wasted" room on the plate that could’ve been more mashed potato or whatever but you didn’t know you liked the potato that much and if you started with a big plate of mash you’d be so jealous everyone else took a bite of something you hadn’t tried yet. Now you know.

So when you go and get the cake you know you love the most, and return to the table to find your mom loving her portion of the cobbler, you’ve already tried it yourself. You don’t resent her for having cobbler you recognize you can get up at any time and get some. But right now you chose cake.

And you know, you can always change it up for yourself in the future.

The buffet of life is abundant. Don't get caught up in counting calories. Don't get caught up worrying about making the best choice. Don't get caught up optimizing your perfect meal. Instead, try things. Get curious... and then get picky.

Never forget: you have so many options.

Try Huel with 15% OFF for New Customers today using code MYDB at https://huel.com/mydb.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1620 || self absorbed vs. self aware

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"If we focus [too much] on ourselves and how we feel, then we are limiting our experiences by definition." Victoria Spratt wrote, in her article: "You’re Thinking About Yourself Too Much"

Try Huel with 15% OFF for New Customers today using code MYDB at https://huel.com/mydb.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1619 || stop overthinking yourself

Sun, 23 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"I think about myself a lot, and not in a good way. I find myself obsessing over past mistakes, cringey moments, etc. and end up feeling guilty and panicked. Eventually I end up concluding that I'm a terrible person who deserves to be feeling this way." Here is the Original Post on the Meditation Reddit:

Read the Substack from Soft Perception who said: "the self is not optional. it is yours to inhabit, not theirs to consume. and it will begin to show up when the hand of obligation loosens, when attention turns inward.the floor may feel far below, but every step you take, every boundary you establish, every small act of attention or creation, lays the ground you were never given."

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1618 || we’re in a self-objectification crisis

Sat, 22 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Understanding your identity is honestly, none of your business. Don't attach yourself to an identity, because identity, is inherently limiting to it's understood definition.

Some of us are trying to fit in where we don't belong, and we wonder why we're uncomfortable.

Watch the full aurora quote: " It’s easy to feel safe in yourself when you stop analyzing yourself. And let go of the fact that people may be analyzing you. And let go go the control that we feel like we need to have another’s impression of us, it doesn’t matter. Be open, live freely."

Try Huel with 15% OFF for New Customers today using code MYDB at https://huel.com/mydb.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1617 || if your screen is your kingdom

Fri, 21 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Some of us don’t engage with the rest of the world anymore not because the rest of the world sucks any more than it always has - but because you have built an intolerance for the world where you are not the dictator.

As Siece Campbell put it, “your algorithm worships you. You are the only one who lives inside this tiny box, let’s say you’re spending 7+ hours on your phone every day, well those are hours that we used to spend in a reality in a world that didn’t revolve around you.”

We should all be worried about the rise of selfishness as a society because of an increase in addiction to convenience, isolation, comfort, and personal pleasure. She basically posits that we’re becoming so insulated from society that we’re becoming intolerant of the things that can actually bring us long term pleasure.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1616 || how to do hard things

Thu, 20 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

The brain’s main goal is to protect us, so when we ask it to do anything new (particularly if you are neurodivergent) it signals to the brain that there may be danger lurking - so it refuses to do it, because it believes that is what keeps us safe. Many brains looks at all new tasks like a hot stove. So how do we manage this? According to kdimerc we can:

Remove all unnecessary stoves. Look at the task objectively and ask yourself, “is this task really necessary or important?” If it’s not - take it off the burner completely, for now.
Turn off the stove, if you are able to! This will be different for everyone, but it’s typically the things I suggest on this podcast to help you get motivated. Things like body doubling, brain hacks, pairing actions with other triggers, like this podcast, or songs, therapy and medication may help to turn off, or at least, turn down the heat on these stoves.
Get really good at touching hot stoves. Like we have been discussing recently on the podcast, building your tolerance for distress is seemingly less and less optional at this point. But unfortunately there will be times where you can’t ignore a task, and you can’t make it less daunting, so you just have to power through the dread and do it anyway.

While you may not be able to control your motivation to do a daunting task, you can control your mindset around it. You can come to accept the dread as part of the process.

Watch Kdimerc’s video on the "Hot Stove Conundrum"

Read Beautiful Chaos’ blog post on "ADHD + The Hot Stovetop"

Try Huel with 15% OFF for New Customers today using code MYDB at https://huel.com/mydb.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1615 || the hot stove conundrum

Wed, 19 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Our brain’s main goal is to protect us, so when we ask it to do anything new (particularly if you are neurodivergent) it signals to the brain that there may be danger lurking - so it refuses to do it, because it believes that is what keeps us safe. Many brains looks at all new tasks like a hot stove. So how do we manage this? According to kdimerc we can:

Remove all unnecessary stoves. Look at the task objectively and ask yourself, “is this task really necessary or important?” If it’s not - take it off the burner completely, for now.
Turn off the stove, if you are able to! This will be different for everyone, but it’s typically the things I suggest on this podcast to help you get motivated. Things like body doubling, brain hacks, pairing actions with other triggers, like this podcast, or songs, therapy and medication may help to turn off, or at least, turn down the heat on these stoves.
Get really good at touching hot stoves. Like we have been discussing recently on the podcast, building your tolerance for distress is seemingly less and less optional at this point. But unfortunately there will be times where you can’t ignore a task, and you can’t make it less daunting, so you just have to power through the dread and do it anyway.

While you may not be able to control your motivation to do a daunting task, you can control your mindset around it. You can come to accept the dread as part of the process.

Watch Kdimerc’s video on the "Hot Stove Conundrum"

Read Beautiful Chaos’ blog post on "ADHD + The Hot Stovetop"

Try Huel with 15% OFF for New Customers today using code MYDB at https://huel.com/mydb.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1614 || how to do a cost/benefit analysis on your habits

Tue, 18 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

How do we hold space for two contradictory ideas? How do we hold space for the reality that things won't always make sense?

We can't control everything, but we can build up our "tolerance for distress", which can lead us to wanting to control the stuff we can't, less.

The source: https://dialecticalbehaviortherapy.com/distress-tolerance/cost-benefit-analysis/

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1613 || running from your shadow makes it bigger

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"Living systems theory has been so helpful to me. I think there is a drive within living systems to complexify, to wake up—there is an evolutionary movement. I speak out of the love and excitement generated by my little work, which many people are doing with me. It does require being able to experience pain. It does require tears and outrage. It does require positive disintegration. Our whole culture needs positive disintegration. It has to die to itself. So my Christian upbringing is relevant there: Good Friday and Easter, the necessity for death and rebirth. We are going to die as a culture, and it’s better for us to do it consciously, so we don’t inflict it on everyone else." - Joanna Macy

The main source: https://www.activehope.info/

Read the interview with Joanna Macy.

Read the first few chapters of the book ACTIVE HOPE.

Read Faron Sage's Article.

1612 || the great unraveling

Sun, 16 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today we talk about what Joanna Macy and Chris Johnstone's book Active Hope. Specifically the three stages of dealing with the current crisis.

“Business as Usual” - Those who refuse to change. The people that believe that the current system is the best or only way.

“The Great Unravelling” - Those who are inundated with despair about the fact that people are still in "business as usual" mode. The people that believe that the world is in serious decline + feel hopeless + helpless.

“The Great Turning” - Those who are working “to transition from a doomed economy of industrial growth to a life-sustaining society committed to the recovery of our world.”

Where are you? I waffle between 1, 2, and 3 seemingly all the time, but I spend most of my time in 2.

Read the first few chapters of the book ACTIVE HOPE.

Read Faron Sage's Article.

1611 || are we blaming the wrong guy?

Sat, 15 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

America has a habit of blaming poor people + immigrants for the problems that policy makers create. Stop letting the oppressors scapegoat the oppressed, and start focusing your outrage on the people who perpetuate (and profit from) this harmful false narrative.

The Big Short Script: https://www.sellingyourscreenplay.com/wp-content/uploads/screenplay/scripts/The-Big-Short.pdf

The "Careful, that foreigner wants your cookie" Meme: https://www.reddit.com/r/PoliticalHumor/comments/lwssxm/america_summed_up/

The "average taxpayer pays $36 in SNAP vs $300 corporate bailouts" meme: https://www.reddit.com/r/theydidthemath/comments/1kjoekc/request_is_this_accurate/

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1610 || break some rules for justice

Fri, 14 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"Perhaps the greatest failure of liberal democracies is their historical failure to successfully protect the vital economic and security interests of their less advantaged citizens through their institutions."

"It is a cruel irony that this great promise of democracy is rarely realized in practice."

"The job of trade unions, parties, and even radical social movements is precisely to institutionalize unruly protest and anger. Their function is, one might say, to try to translate anger, frustration, and pain into a coherent political program that can be the basis of policy making and legislation."

"As Martin Luther King, Jr., noted, “a riot is the language of the unheard.” Large-scale disruption, riot, and spontaneous defiance have always been the most potent political recourse of the poor. Such activity is not without structure. It is structured by informal, self-organized, and transient networks of neighborhood, work, and family that lie outside the formal institutions of politics. This is structure alright, just not the kind amenable to institutionalized politics."

JAMES C. SCOTT - TWO CHEERS FOR ANARCHISM

More from James C. Scott: https://politicalscience.yale.edu/people/james-scott

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1609 || how do you know?

Thu, 13 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

How do we really know anything? Well, it starts by connecting with what you feel.

Faron Sage's article: "How Do We Make Heads or Tails of What's Going On?"

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!)

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund AND THE Sudan Relief Fund

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM AND YOUTUBE

SUBSCRIBE FOR BONUS CONTENT ON PATREON.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1608 || when rules are meant to be broken

Wed, 12 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

It's that time again, where we take a step back and check in with the cop in our heads.

“One day you will be called upon to break a big law in the name of justice and rationality. Everything will depend on it. You have to be ready. How are you going to prepare for that day when it really matters? You have to stay "in shape" so that when the big day comes you will be ready. What you need is "anarchist calisthenics." Every day or so break some trivial law that makes no sense, even if it’s only jaywalking. Use your own head to judge whether a law is just or reasonable. That way, you'll keep trim; and when the big day comes, you'll be ready.” - James C. Scott Two Cheers for Anarchism

MochaEinstein: https://www.tiktok.com/@mochaeinstein27

Mocha Einstein's video: https://www.tiktok.com/@mochaeinstein27/video/7557378325279214861

TheOfficialJaiButle's video: rhttps://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DxV84u/

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1606 || buck what society says

Tue, 11 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Your brain does what is reliable, not what is best. It does what is safe, not what is productive. Our culture has shaped each and every one of us through rules + repetition.

How has society tampered down the way you connect to your body and to others? How has society's expectations stifled you? How have our societal norms impacted the way you feel? and react?

Can you buck some of those norms for a bit of nervous system regulation? If you can find a moment alone, scream. If you can find a moment to dance? Dance. Cry if you need to cry.

Address the ways you've been holding yourself back from feeling your feelings, to appease some made up rules.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1605 || habit hacking

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

optimize your cues + your environment to create + reinforce better habits + discourage your "not so good" ones.

Time cues < (paired with another) action cues. "I will do this at 7 am every single day" is waaaaay harder to commit to than committing to something with something else, "I will do this after I do that."

Intrinsic motivation > external rewards

Tweak your environment to reduce the friction between you and your desired habit.

Set yourself up for success + visualize it! Don't visualize the work.

https://www.joincarbon.com/blog/the-neuroscience-of-habit-formation

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1604 || old dog, new tricks

Sun, 09 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

You can, in fact, teach an old dog new tricks - if you use a couple of old ones.

Habits are formed and reinforced through repetition, salience (how much it stands out), time, intensity, specificity. Today we talk about what that means.

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1603 || repetition (for good vs. evil)

Sat, 08 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Repetition is how we learn, so be careful what (and who) you're listening to.

The source: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-main-ingredient/202509/harnessing-the-power-of-repetition-for-good-and-evil

More reading: https://www.neurolab360.com/blog/principles-of-neuroplasticity-repetition-matters

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1602 || satisfaction vs. pleasure

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today we talk about how to build your tolerance for discomfort.

THE SOURCE: https://shoesandshots.substack.com/p/discomfort-is-the-price-you-pay-for

Further reading: https://www.outsideonline.com/health/training-performance/dealing-pain-discomfort/

and: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/living-well-when-your-body-doesnt-cooperate/202405/stretching-distress-tolerance

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more.

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1601 || urge surfing

Thu, 06 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

It's not about giving in, and it's not about fighting it. Sometimes, you can just observe, ride the wave, and allow it to pass.

Resisting Impulse Spending: https://www.inc.com/jessica-stillman/holiday-shopping-personal-finance-spending.html

Urge Surfing: https://www.dartmouth-hitchcock.org/sites/default/files/2021-03/urge-surfing.pdf

Stop impulse Spending Hacks: https://bodybrainalliance.com/stop-impulse-spending-with-these-4-behavior-change-hacks

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more.

PLEASE Watch Kendra Austin's video on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyB7xE/

The incomparable Dollar Tree Dinners: https://www.youtube.com/@DollarTreeDinners

How to make Sandwich Bread: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyEXum/

Cheap vegan friendly grocery inspiration: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyqykN/

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1600 || broke, but connected

Wed, 05 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

You are not a failure if you’re struggling right now, though it may feel like it. But your value and worth is not reflected in your ability to pay your bills that don’t stop growing, and your ability to get up and do anything beyond work that never stops coming.

Poverty is a systemic failing, not a personal failing.

Remember you can’t really think straight when you’re really “broke” (I don’t use the word “broke” lightly, I genuinely think it’s the government’s attempt to break us as individuals) so don't be hard on yourself if you're not thinking straight.

Use findhelp.org is an amazing website where you can type in your zip code and it will show you free or reduced-cost resources like food, housing, financial assistance, health care, and more.

PLEASE Watch Kendra Austin's video on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyB7xE/

The incomparable Dollar Tree Dinners: https://www.youtube.com/@DollarTreeDinners

How to make Sandwich Bread: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyEXum/

Cheap vegan friendly grocery inspiration: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8DyqykN/

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1599 || becoming less reactive

Tue, 04 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Did you know you can "hack your brain" for things beyond your productivity? You can become more resilient, more conscious, more in control, through a few simple practices.

It's not about avoiding anything that makes us feel sad, but it's about becoming conscious of the process of engaging with it.

It's not about the content, but the process. Empowering vs. Disempowering yourself.

INSPIRED BY: https://adriennemareebrown.net/

and https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-exploration

Very Well Mind on Brain plasticity: https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-brain-plasticity-2794886#:~:text=Strengthening%20existing%20pathways:%20Neurons%20that,adapt%20to%20the%20changing%20environment.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1598 || a few more brain hacks

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Feeling disconnected or unsure? Dr. Pat suggests:

Body Check-In: When you consume news about social or political issues, what sensations do you notice in your body? Do you feel tense, numb, energized?

Triggers and Ancestry: Think about a recent moment you felt fear or shut down in response to authority or conflict. How might this reaction connect to your community’s historical or ancestral experiences?

Finding Ventral Vagal: What people, places, or practices help you feel safe and connected? How can you incorporate more of these in daily life, especially when fear in society is high?

From Reaction to Response: Recall a time you reacted in anger or froze up around an authoritarian figure/stressor. With compassion for yourself, consider how, if you had felt more grounded or supported, you might have responded differently? What support or boundaries would help in future similar situations?

Collective Care: How can you contribute to a sense of safety and solidarity in your community? Could you start a trauma-informed discussion group, a community care circle, or simply check on neighbors more often?

SOURCE: https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-exploration

Dr. Pat's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/pat.radical.therapist/?hl=en

Dr. Pat's substack: https://patradicaltherapist.substack.com/

Dr. Pat's original post: https://www.facebook.com/photo/?fbid=1281714603957641&set=pcb.1281714660624302

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1597 || easy brain hacks

Sun, 02 Nov 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Did you know you can "hack your brain" for things beyond your productivity? You can become more resilient, more conscious, more in control, through a few simple practices.

It's not about avoiding anything that makes us feel sad, but it's about becoming conscious of the process of engaging with it.

It's not about the content, but the process. Empowering vs. Disempowering yourself.

INSPIRED BY: https://adriennemareebrown.net/

and https://everythingispolitical.com/readings/your-nervous-system-under-fascism-a-decolonial-polyvagal-exploration

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1596 || your brain is play-doh

Sat, 01 Nov 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Our brains are malleable, and we can actually enrich our experiences to encourage more "plasticity" or adaptability in our own heads - if we know what to look for.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1595 || brains are lazy, we are not

Fri, 31 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Think about a good joke. If you knew the punchline right away? It's less funny. If you had to have the punchline explained? Less funny. But if you understood the punchline within a few moments, and got the satisfaction of "realization" in real time? That makes a BANGER of a joke.

It's all about the appropriate level of challenge and thinking.

According to Daniel Willingham's book, "Why Students Don’t Like School?" Curiosity is fragile. Learning is difficult as hell. Our brains are built for efficiency, not thinking. We can trick our brains into motivation by worrying about the difficulty of the challenge, rather than the topic or the content. We rely on our memories more than our thinking brain.

SOURCES:

Read Daniel's article for yourself, here: https://www.aft.org/sites/default/files/WILLINGHAM%282%29.pdf

Check out his website + other work: http://www.danielwillingham.com/books.html

Or read this synopsis of the book: https://classteaching.wordpress.com/2014/04/24/why-dont-students-like-school/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1594 || dropping the cognitive load

Thu, 30 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

It's not about spinning all the plates, it's about setting most of them down so you can actually focus on the spinning process.

THE SOURCES:

Reducing cognitive load to learn: https://theelearningcoach.com/learning/reduce-cognitive-load/

Getting into flow state: https://rts-1988.medium.com/getting-to-flow-state-while-studying-simulating-mental-effort-while-reading-543eecdee6ca

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1593 || parenting yourself with love + logic

Wed, 29 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

When I’m having a rough time, trying to treat myself like I liked to treat my students, with empathy, compassion, patience, kindness, attention, care, time, etc. and in an effort to build muscles that can provide them with that empathy, compassion, patience, kindness, attention, time, care, etc. for themselves? I feel like the everyday things that I sometimes struggle with, are more doable. More approachable.

The original source: https://www.loveandlogic.com/

Powerpoint of the main points of Teaching with Love and Logic: https://aae.lewiscenter.org/documents/AAE/Love%20and%20Logic/Teaching/Teaching%20With%20Love%20-%20Logic.pdf

PDF version of Parenting with Love and Logic: https://repository.poltekkes-kaltim.ac.id/645/1/Parenting%20With%20Love%20and%20Logic_%20Teaching%20Children%20Responsibility%20(%20PDFDrive.com%20).pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1592 || consulting with love + logic

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Instead of trying to control others, become a consultant.

"Children need thoughtful guidance and firm, enforceable limits. We set those limits based on the safety of the child and how the child’s behavior affects others. Then we must maintain those limits to help children understand that they are responsible for their actions and will suffer reasonable consequences for actions that are inappropriate. However, while the parents are drawing and holding these limits, it is important for them to continue encouraging their children to think about their behavior and help them feel in control of their actions by giving choices within those limits. This is where the consultant parent comes in."

The original source: https://www.loveandlogic.com/

Powerpoint of the main points of Teaching with Love and Logic: https://aae.lewiscenter.org/documents/AAE/Love%20and%20Logic/Teaching/Teaching%20With%20Love%20-%20Logic.pdf

PDF version of Parenting with Love and Logic: https://repository.poltekkes-kaltim.ac.id/645/1/Parenting%20With%20Love%20and%20Logic_%20Teaching%20Children%20Responsibility%20(%20PDFDrive.com%20).pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1591 || micromanager vs. drill sargent

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Effective parenting centers around love: love that is not permissive, love that doesn’t tolerate disrespect, but also love that is powerful enough to allow kids to make mistakes and permit them to live with the consequences of those mistakes. Most mistakes do have logical consequences. And those consequences, when accompanied by empathy — our compassionate understanding of the child’s disappointment, frustration, and pain — hit home with mind-changing power."

The original source: https://www.loveandlogic.com/

Powerpoint of the main points of Teaching with Love and Logic: https://aae.lewiscenter.org/documents/AAE/Love%20and%20Logic/Teaching/Teaching%20With%20Love%20-%20Logic.pdf

PDF version of Parenting with Love and Logic: https://repository.poltekkes-kaltim.ac.id/645/1/Parenting%20With%20Love%20and%20Logic_%20Teaching%20Children%20Responsibility%20(%20PDFDrive.com%20).pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1590 || tools for skeptical thinking || throwback

Sun, 26 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Enjoy this throwback episode (from day 872) before the new series drops on Monday!

"There's a sucker born every minute." - P.T. Barnum

Carl Sagan shares guidelines with us for how to critically think. Today, I share them with you!

Critical thinking never goes out of style. especially when we consider how MUCH information we are forced to take in on a daily basis.

Historically speaking, Never have people had so much information FORCED upon them - we gotta be diligent about how we learn new information so we’re not falling victim to the Riff-raff.

RESOURCES: https://stimpunks.org/glossary/critical-thinking/ and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Demon-Haunted_World

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1589 || the list for getting unstuck || throwback

Sat, 25 Oct 2025 04:01:26 GMT

ENJOY THIS THROWBACK EPISODE FROM DAY 751, BEFORE THE NEW SERIES DROPS ON MONDAY -

Make a list of all the shit you're good at + a list of all the good shit in your life + all the shit that bothers you about your life.

Using the first two lists, attempt to solve the last list and bingo-bango you've got yourself a lil action plan template.

WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1588 || why learning sucks

Fri, 24 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Curiosity is fragile. Learning is difficult as hell. Our brains are built for efficiency, not thinking. We can trick our brains into motivation by worrying about the difficulty of the challenge, rather than the topic or the content. We rely on our memories more than our thinking brain.

According to Daniel Willingham's book, "Why Students Don’t Like School?" "Thinking occurs when you combine information (from the environment and from long-term memory) in new ways. That combination happens in working memory."

SOURCES:

Read Daniel's article for yourself, here: https://www.aft.org/sites/default/files/WILLINGHAM%282%29.pdf

Check out his website + other work: http://www.danielwillingham.com/books.html

Or read this synopsis of the book: https://classteaching.wordpress.com/2014/04/24/why-dont-students-like-school/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1587 || a silly + true teacher story

Thu, 23 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Some of the lessons I prioritize, still: Stop being so hard on yourself when you’re struggling to learn or master or understand something new. You’re actually doing a great job as a learner. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be, trying, messing up, learning. If you knew already, you wouldn’t be learning anymore. Learning is impossible to mess up, unless you give up. It’s supposed to be challenging - but that doesn’t have to mean frustrating. Take your time to be a learner. Tests are hard for some of us, but that doesn’t mean you’re dumb. Judge a fish by ability to climb a tree, and all that.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1586 || some of my teacher stories || birthday episode

Wed, 22 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

And that’s the beauty of math, right? There are many ways to get there, but there is one answer.

It’s tidy, if you’re tidy.

It’s also why I hate math - because I am not the tidiest worker.

I try to be, and am training myself to be so I can enjoy the process of things more, and actually invest in the process as much as the outcome, but when I was younger and sometimes still, I really don’t have time for poorly worded instructions, and I tend to rush through shit if I don’t see the point in it.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1585 || dirt in a cog

Tue, 21 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Dirt in a cog is a way to embody resistance. It focuses on slowing down, jamming up, creating little bits of friction that make it difficult to keep attacking our citizens effectively.

We need all types of resistance, don't think there are limits to your modes of resistance. Make fascism hard. Don't normalize the violence we're seeing. Keep showing your community + your country that you aren't going to lie down and watch it burn.

You don't have to wait for one big act of revolutionary change to start pushing back. You can push back against the shift in everyday actions + choices, if you know where to look.

THE "DIRT IN A COG" ZINE: https://invisiblehistory.org/dirt-in-a-cog-zine/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1584 || the next best choice

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Joy is part of the practice.

When you can't find it and don't know where to start? Start small. Start by reminding yourself that joy still exists, and it's a frequency vibrating right above our heads, and if we can just poke our heads out of this damned hole, we can find it - tap into it, and use it like the resource it is.

Pay attention to the glimmers that make you feel seen.

The goal is to make the next best choice.

Reclaim your agency by starting with fun, whimsy, and joy.

Inspirational stuff that has helped to pry me from my funk lately:

DIRT IN A COG VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cyU50dserEY

CHAOTIC GUIDE TO MAKING STUFF INSTEAD OF DOOMSCROLLING: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2n8W6CBxc64&t=102s

RADICAL NEIGHBORING VIDEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dynQV-oKM0E

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1583 || tactical frivolity (joy is our way out)

Sun, 19 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Tactical frivolity is what happens when you use humor, whimsy, and joy to make those in power look ridiculous. It flips the script and reclaims agency. The optics matter, the message matters, and how the message arrives matters. So get involved, stop leaning into despair, and flip that damned script. Get some joy in your resistance. It's exactly what the world needs right now.

Threads: https://www.threads.com/@eorlins/post/DP8wkOgDfyt/have-you-heard-of-tactical-frivolityits-one-of-my-favorite-forms-of-protesttacti

Leeja Miller's Video on Tactical Frivolity: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zGiEhbaa8Ko

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1582 || mental gymnastics (and how to stop)

Sat, 18 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Beliefs require faith, rationality requires flexibility. Unless your belief is rooted in rationality, these things can conflict.

Refusing to acknowledge or label something doesn’t make it go away, but it does take your power away from being able to confront or address it.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1581 || analysis paralysis

Fri, 17 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Our brains have a tendency to over-value the effect of TINY inconsequential differences when comparing options.

Distinction bias is a cognitive bias that causes people to overestimate how different their options are when they compare them to each other rather than evaluating them independently, against some absolute standard. This bias often leads to an exaggerated perception of the differences between options. - ClearerThinking.org

Distinction Bias effects: https://www.clearerthinking.org/post/distinction-bias-definition-examples-and-effects

Distinction Bias Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Distinction_bias

Nir's take on Distinction Bias: https://www.nirandfar.com/distinction-bias/

Reddit's solutions: https://www.reddit.com/r/adhdwomen/comments/1ig89cd/anyone_else_agonize_over_decisions_and_then_end/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1580 || contrast effect

Tue, 14 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The contrast effect is a bias where the perception of something is distorted by being compared to something else, making the differences between them seem greater than they are.

SOURCES:

BUSTER BENSON'S MEDIUM POST: https://medium.com/@buster/cognitive-bias-cheat-sheet-55a472476b18

Contrast effect: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Contrast_effect#:~:text=%5Bclarification%20needed%5D-,Domains,The%20checker%20shadow%20illusion

Anchoring Bias: https://medium.com/illumination/anchoring-bias-how-your-mind-tricks-you-into-wrong-decisions-c60b1ef8728e

More biases here: Bizarreness effect, Humor effect, Von Restorff effect, Negativity bias, Publication bias, Omission bias

Anchoring effect: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anchoring_effect

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1579 || omission bias

Mon, 13 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The omission bias refers to our tendency to judge harmful actions as worse than harmful inactions, even if they result in similar consequences.

SOURCES:

BUSTER BENSON'S MEDIUM POST: https://medium.com/@buster/cognitive-bias-cheat-sheet-55a472476b18

OMISSION BIAS: https://thedecisionlab.com/biases/omission-bias

and https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Omission_bias

More biases here: Bizarreness effect, Humor effect, Von Restorff effect, Negativity bias, Publication bias, Omission bias

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1578 || different versions of negativity bias

Sun, 12 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Our brains are designed to notice interesting (or negative) events. This can lead us to make decisions based on the negative experiences in our lives, and forget to consider the positive.

SOURCES:

BUSTER BENSON'S MEDIUM POST: https://medium.com/@buster/cognitive-bias-cheat-sheet-55a472476b18

More biases here: Bizarreness effect, Humor effect, Von Restorff effect, Negativity bias, Publication bias, Omission bias

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1577 || how the brain copes with too much information

Sat, 11 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Too much information means our brain needs to take some shortcuts. Let's discuss how they work so we can know what to watch out for.

SOURCES:

BUSTER BENSON'S MEDIUM POST: https://medium.com/@buster/cognitive-bias-cheat-sheet-55a472476b18

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1576 || frictionless leads to swaglessness

Thu, 09 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Friction is a type of resistance that leads to consideration, growth, and unique solutions. Without friction, we all flatten into the same, boring, identity. Also, friction doesn't "go away" it shifts. So, where you find a frictionless experience, it means that someone else had to take that on.

Most importantly: Friction isn't the enemy. It is a valuable communicator, if we're willing to listen.

The sources:

https://rahultrikha.com/the-hidden-power-of-friction-why-resistance-creates-value-78b0441a066a

https://kyla.substack.com/p/the-most-valuable-commodity-in-the

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1575 || our frictionless society

Wed, 08 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Loneliness isn’t just personal. It’s institutional. It’s fiscal. It’s a bit engineered. It’s purposeful. - Kyla Scanlon

The Sources:

Kyla Scanlon's Substack Post: https://kyla.substack.com/p/the-most-valuable-commodity-in-the

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1574 || there is a better way forward

Tue, 07 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We are not cooked. We just have to learn how to imagine all the ways it CAN be better, first.

The Sources:

Faron Sage's Medium Post: https://medium.com/illumination-curated/everybody-needs-to-wake-up-the-world-17d4636d15dd

Projects like Moral Imaginations and Thrutopia and activists like Rob Hopkins and Manda Scott

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1573 || inside you are two wolves

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Which wolf will you feed?

The Source: https://theacademy.sdsu.edu/wp-content/uploads/2015/06/two-wolves-cherokee-story.pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

ADD FRICTION between you and the automatic habits you want to call into question (like scrolling endlessly) and remember it's like building any muscle. It takes time, sustained effort, and conscious attention to do it - but it's worth it.

And remember the internet, like you + me, is still very much alive. There is magic out there if you're willing to work a bit to discover it.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1572 || the life audit

Sun, 05 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

How often are you checking in with your values to see if your actions are aligning with them?

Today we're doing a life audit - starting with our personal consumer ideology: spend one week at a time, assessing your current consumption habits. You may wanna take it a step further and Audit Your Favorite Brands. Then, create your “In a Perfect World" Company.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

And remember the internet, like you + me, is still very much alive. There is magic out there if you're willing to work a bit to discover it.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1571 || in the zone (where even winning is a distraction)

Sat, 04 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Sometimes, when you're dissociating effectively, and really "in the zone" of distraction? You can find ANY interruption to be an inconvenience. Even winning.

I fear this is what has been happening to me when I lock into my phone too hard. Every interruption (even the good ones) feel like a shock to my system. Everything feels like a distraction.

Learning why this happens has been really helpful in my ability to address the "infinite scroll loop" trap that I sometimes find myself in.

THE SOURCE: https://www.abc.net.au/news/health/2017-10-14/gambling-addiction-the-zone-where-winning-is-a-distraction/9044598

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

And remember the internet, like you + me, is still very much alive. There is magic out there if you're willing to work a bit to discover it.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1570 || state sponsored disinformation

Fri, 03 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Did you know that your* government has run official, formal, propaganda campaigns against its own citizens to spread disinformation. They have manipulated media, created bot account farms to sow discontent, and created smear campaigns - all in the name of "political strategy".

"Remember kids, the next time someone tries to tell you the government wouldn't do that, oh yes, yes they would." If they want you to distrust your neighbor, don't buy in. Distrust the government, instead.

Today's resources:

Oxford's 2020's industrialized disinformation: https://demtech.oii.ox.ac.uk/research/posts/industrialized-disinformation/

Oxford's article: https://www.ox.ac.uk/news/2021-01-13-social-media-manipulation-political-actors-industrial-scale-problem-oxford-report#:~:text=Organised%20social%20media%20manipulation%20campaigns,as%20part%20of%20political%20communication.

NYT article: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/09/26/technology/government-disinformation-cyber-troops.html#:~:text=At%20Least%2070%20Countries%20Have,Finds%20%2D%20The%20New%20York%20Times

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

And remember the internet, like you + me, is still very much alive. There is magic out there if you're willing to work a bit to discover it.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1569 || alive internet theory

Thu, 02 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We've discussed the "dead internet theory" a bit in the past, but today I want to remind you that is by design - and the people who profit off of you believing the internet is dead are grateful you don't look for the alive parts of it, that are still there + pushing back against the pollution + misinformation they are spreading.

The internet is not trash. I think of it like thrifting. Most of it is trash, but there is the occasional treasure that is so worth sifting through the mountain of shit, you’d do it again in a heartbeat. But to find that good shit, you have to be intentional, pay attention to where your eyes go, stay curious and open, but never BUY anything without looking deeper - at the seams, at the little stains in certain light, at the source of the material. But sometimes you stumble upon work that is profound, and unique, and meant for your hands.) Is this metaphor too convoluted? Maybe. But the internet isn’t dead. Shit, it’s how we found each other.

Practice DECIDING FIRST (before you scroll, watch tv, play a game, consciously decide WHAT you want to do/watch/play and go from there.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

And remember the internet, like you + me, is still very much alive. There is magic out there if you're willing to work a bit to discover it.

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1568 || are ads inescapable?

Wed, 01 Oct 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Tech companies + advertising executives are manipulating us, no matter what.

Today we're talking about how they do it. Tomorrow we'll talk about what to do about it.

Main source: "Your Brain on Ads": https://www.npr.org/2011/06/14/137175622/this-is-your-brain-on-ads-an-internal-battle

Advertiser's Tactics (neuroscience): https://www.usdatacorporation.com/blog/brain-response-to-ads-the-neuroscience-of-effective-marketing/

How Does Advertising Affect Mental Health? https://adfreecities.org.uk/what-we-do/advertising-mental-health/

Tech Companies are profiling us from before birth: https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/tech-companies-are-profiling-us-from-before-birth/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1567 || gamergate + why it matters

Tue, 30 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we're talking about #gamergate and how it can help us understand what has been going on in our culture, just beneath the surface. Understanding that has changed my perspective on how I address certain topics with people I engage with.

"Leftists may have a better product to sell but conservatives know better how to two sell a product."

Did you know? Some studies show that "right-leaning individuals" actually understand that "left-leaning individuals" are more morally sound in their foundations. This is why logic and rationalization is pointless. They don’t need to be good. They don't need to be right. They aren’t trying to win. They are trying to keep the argument going. The argument isn’t supposed to end. They want to kick the can down the road, with no intention of recycling it.

They are very good at convincing you it's in "good faith", when it is not. Don't engage. Recognize that the "high road" doesn't exist.

WATCH THE INNUENDO STUDIO'S VIDEO: Endnote 5: A Case Study in Digital Radicalism https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLYWHpgIoIw

(I quote Innuendo Studios a lot, because this creator is incredible and "The Alt-Right Playbook" is required viewing, in my opinion.)

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1566 || the ideology of consumerism

Mon, 29 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We ALL have ideology that guides us. Developing a personal, social, and cultural ideology is an inescapable fact of life.

So let's consider your consumer ideology for a minute: How much of it is yours? How much of it was pushed upon you? How much of it is manufactured by advertisements? Do you have any brands you feel "loyal" to? Why? Is it a superior product? A better price? Or does it appear to align with your ideology?

Today's sources:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consumerism

https://academic.oup.com/jcr/article/49/1/74/6358727?login=false#355249712

https://business.columbia.edu/faculty/research/consumption-ideology

https://sserr.ro/wp-content/uploads/2023/12/sserr-10-2-145-149.pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1565 || finally back from the depths of despair

Fri, 26 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Hello! I am alive. Thank you for reminding me of my humanity. I needed it. It was really bad there for a minute.

Sometimes I take one mistake and turn it into my whole identity. I'm working on it.

That said, I'll be back Monday with regularly scheduled episodes.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1564 || identity = consumerism

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Embracing conscious consumerism is not about deprivation; it’s about re-prioritizing what truly matters. It’s about building an identity based on values, experiences, and meaningful connections, rather than fleeting material acquisitions."

Today's Source: https://lifestyle.sustainability-directory.com/term/identity-and-consumerism/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1563 || prosperity gospel

Sun, 14 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Prosperity Preachers" target people who belong to a culture that encourages "blind faith" and a lack of questioning. They target those are harmed most by the system and demonize all services that could help them within that system. And then, they convince these "targets" that they can buy their salvation, health, wealth, material gains - through giving to "the church". Meanwhile, these pastors are running frauds so lucrative, they make Walter White's scheme seem like child's play.

Listen to NPR talk about this: https://www.npr.org/transcripts/1013430166
Watch John Oliver talk about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7y1xJAVZxXg
Read about Prosperity Theology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prosperity_theology#:~:text=Prosperity%20theology%20(sometimes%20referred%20to,grace%20or%20favor%20and%20blessings.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1562 || prosperity gospel (the church of consumerism)

Sat, 13 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

If you thought the church was safe from the cult of capitalism + culture of consumerism?

Well, I hate to inform you, they're both victims + perpetrators of it.

For example: Blessings in the form of financial gains/cars/houses/jobs. Tithing as a way to get closer to God. The church's exploitation of tax exemptions. Wealth disparities in the church. Grifters selling snake oil as a way to "heal". Targeting vulnerable communities + promising salvation for a price. A history of scandals being covered up which take them from isolated incidents to systemic issues.

Listen to NPR talk about this: https://www.npr.org/transcripts/1013430166
Watch John Oliver talk about it: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7y1xJAVZxXg
Read about Prosperity Theology: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prosperity_theology#:~:text=Prosperity%20theology%20(sometimes%20referred%20to,grace%20or%20favor%20and%20blessings.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1561 || to have or to be?

Fri, 12 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Detaching our self-worth from our accomplishments is easier said than done. This difficulty stems, in part, from societal pressures that equate success with material wealth and professional achievements. Overcoming these pressures requires a conscious effort to redefine what success means on a personal level. It involves asking ourselves difficult questions about what truly brings us joy, fulfillment, and a sense of purpose beyond the superficial" - Ross Bruch

The Article: https://www.mappmagazine.com/articles/the-unshakable-self#:~:text=By%20engaging%20in%20the%20thought,radical%20act%20of%20self%2Dassertion.

Further reading; https://medium.com/@themindbodymanagementco/reimagining-self-care-moving-beyond-generic-trends-and-consumerism-29aeb96cc64f

REFERENCES: https://www.oxfordreference.com/display/10.1093/oi/authority.20110803095642910?rskey=3o8qwN&result=2

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1560 || the two definitions of consumerism

Thu, 11 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"In contemporary consumer society, the purchase and the consumption of products have evolved beyond the mere satisfaction of basic human needs,[1] transforming into an activity that is not only economic but also cultural, social, and even identity-forming."

"Today, people are universally and continuously being exposed to mass consumerism and product placement in the media or even in their daily lives. The line between information, entertainment, and promotion of products has been blurred, thus explaining how people have become more reformulated into consumerist behaviors. Shopping centers are a representative example of a place where people are explicitly exposed to an environment that welcomes and encourages consumption."

The Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Consumerism#:~:text=In%20contemporary%20consumer%20society%2C%20the,%2C%20and%20even%20identity%2Dforming.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1559 || history of consumerism + why it matters

Wed, 10 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Consumerism is made up. Imagined. Fake as hell. A kayfabe that we're all playing along with. Let's discuss the history, so we can better understand what we're dealing with.

The source: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20210120-how-the-world-became-consumerist (original here: https://thereader.mitpress.mit.edu/a-brief-history-of-consumer-culture/)

More from Kerryn Higgs: https://muckrack.com/kerryn-higgs/articles

The book: https://direct.mit.edu/books/book/3683/Collision-CourseEndless-Growth-on-a-Finite-Planet

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1558 || kayfabe economy

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We've been funneled into playing into the kayfabe of our current systems, and I want out. Today we talk about what a kayfabe is and how to push back against it.

The sources:

Defining Kayfabe: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kayfabe

More about the Kayfabe Economy: https://www.widemoatresearch.com/wide-moat-daily/the-kayfabe-economy/

The BBC article I referenced: https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20210120-how-the-world-became-consumerist

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1557 || reducing shame around ethical consumption

Sun, 07 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

“GROCERY STORES BASICALLY ASK US TO VOTE WITH OUR WALLETS FOR THE WORLD WE WANT TO LIVE IN. And in doing so, they shift the responsibility away from billion dollar corporations and onto us, as individual shoppers and consumers. Each of us doing our best to make good decisions but in a system that obscures the consequences of our choices. You shouldn’t have to choose between eating dolphin or not, slavery or not, because we shouldn’t have slavery in our damned food system. Why are YOU being asked to make the choice? It is not fair.

Learn more about Human Footprint: https://www.pbs.org/show/human-footprint

PBS Member Stations rely on viewers like you. To support your local station, go to: http://to.pbs.org/DonateTerra

Subscribe to PBS Terra so you never miss an episode! https://bit.ly/3mOfd77

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT JULIE (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1556 || how supermarkets rewired the planet

Sat, 06 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

PBS truly offers a light in a dark world, please consider donating if you can + want!!!!

"We can’t have it all. The convenience we crave comes at a cost that we don’t see at the check out."
"We can do better but it means changing our ways."
"We want things to change without wanting to have to do anything different," but that’s not how it works.
"People are good at reshaping the world, the hard part is reshaping ourselves."

Learn more about Human Footprint: https://www.pbs.org/show/human-footprint

PBS Member Stations rely on viewers like you. To support your local station, go to: http://to.pbs.org/DonateTerra

Subscribe to PBS Terra so you never miss an episode! https://bit.ly/3mOfd77

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1555 || culture = consumerism

Fri, 05 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Consumerism is addicting, attractive, seemingly

Language of economists + violence.

Consumerism has literally seeped into every crack of our lives.

Socially? It’s always been a signifier of success. How good of a job, how much money you make, never what a difference you’ve made or contributions to the greater good. But it’s deeper than that. Brands are so worshipped in this country (
A 2019 UK study has revealed 83% of children between the ages of five and 16 can’t identify a bumblebee. “How are we going to fall in love with the world if we don't pick berries?” — Robin Wall Kimmerer
Divest from a culture of consumerism. Don’t shame yourself here, because well… you get it… and though there is no ethical consumption under capitalism, it doesn’t mean there isn’t less and more ethical choices. And I recommend that each and every one of us occasionally check in with our current consumerism habits. How much online shopping do you do? Maybe you can reasonably cut back on at one or two purchases this month? But not just our literal shopping habits need evaluation.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1554 || murder of the middle class + cult of consumerism

Thu, 04 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Death of the middle class:

What is it: Anyone who has had to work to pay for rent, bills, food, etc.

How to reestablish it: Corporate regulation, People over profit, Wage theft prosecution (no more deferred accountability loopholes), etc.

(the upcoming series will contain specific examples)

What’s killing it: A system that prioritizes profits over people means: Catering to the wealthy and eliminating services + experiences for the middle class.

Eliminating the working class from every direction. Culture, economics, sustainability, livelihoods, nothing is safe.

Wage theft is the largest form of theft even if you take all of the other forms of theft that exist, combined. So they’re stealing our money, benefiting from corporate bailout loopholes that they lobbied for, which means their own workers are paying taxes into the system that robs them of their own profits, and THEN

Pricing us out with an increase in taxes, wage theft, and manufactured inflation.

They’ve privatized or are in the process of fully privatizing everything: Prisons, Healthcare, Vet care, Wellness, Dialysis, Education, Housing, Politics, and the land itself… literally everything that should be in the best interest of the public and the world at large has been bought and sold to the highest bidder.

But it is not hopeless. What is manufactured can be restructured. We can fight back, if we're strategic and conscious of the ways in which they're attacking us. This is psychological warfare, only when we recognize this, can we begin to push back + defend ourselves against these attacks.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1553 || wheel of awareness (rerelease)

Wed, 03 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I'm suffering from severe PMDD symptoms, so I'm re-releasing an oldie but goodie. I plan to be back tomorrow with a new one!

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1552 || a better option than capitalism

Tue, 02 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Yesterday I shared a few alternatives to capitalism. Things like Doughnut Economics, resourcebasedeconomy.org, degrowth, Progressive Utilization Theory (PROUT), Economic Democracy, Participatory Economics, Economy for the Common Good, Firewall Economics, and today we talk about indigenous alternatives + anarchism.

The Source: https://medium.com/illumination-curated/alternatives-to-capitalism-07f78fb8873f

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1551 || alternatives to capitalism

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Maybe it's Doughnut Economics or resourcebasedeconomy.org or degrowth or Progressive Utilization Theory (PROUT) or Economic Democracy or Participatory Economics or Economy for the Common Good or Firewall Economics, or maybe it's some combination of all of these models. Either way? We've got options + well thought out alternatives to our current corrupted system, and that makes me feel pretty damn good.

The Source: https://medium.com/illumination-curated/alternatives-to-capitalism-07f78fb8873f

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1550 || envisioning a better system

Sun, 31 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Tax the fucking rich.
End corporate bailouts.
Divest from war machine.
Divest from the surveillance + data collection machine.
Divest from the “Great American Ponzi scheme”.
Free, Universal Healthcare.
Provide Access to Social Services before Policing.
Decriminalize homelessness + mental illness.
End Gerrymandering.
Expand Voting Rights + Accessibility.
Campaign Finance Reform + End Lobbying.
End Corporate Donors + Political Interference.
Reduce Political Polarization + End Purity Politics + Culture Wars
Restore hard earned protections for marginalized communities.
Expand Democratic Elections + Disband 2 Party System
Restore the Fairness Doctrine
Mandate Civics Classes
Restore Public Trust + Promote Participation
Rank Choice Voting
Support Independent Journalism
Address Systemic Inequality + Racism through policy changes.
Support workers + workers unions
Support People with disabilities + Veterans,
Invest in local social safety nets + community care.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1549 || the hard truth about America

Sat, 30 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

It seems like there's nowhere to focus lately except on the crumbling of America’s foundation, but that disregards the fact that America’s foundation was never secure, safe, or fair + at some point, the bottom was going to fall out. It’s unfortunate, the manner in which it did, but it was only a matter of time.

And it makes sense that the bad guys got to it first, because the good guys would have wanted to do it safely and consciously, but because the bad guys called out the flawed system first, they get to exacerbate those flaws for their own personal gain until the good guys get enough momentum on their side to reclaim the ground and restore some justice and rebuild on a more solid/equitable/healthy foundation.

America has always been built to protect the elite/wealthiest/most racist/performative heteronormative white man’s property and never ever had the interest of the working people in mind.

If you have to work for a paycheck, you are the masses that the laws were meant to police.

As the hilarious and very real Brennan Lee Mulligan once said “Laws are threats made by the dominant socioeconomic-ethnic group in a given nation. It’s just the promise of violence that’s enacted and the police are basically an occupying army. You know what I mean?”

Which brings me to the also relevant wendigoon quote: “And remember kids, the next time that somebody tells you, "The government wouldn't do that," oh yes they would.”

Capitalism is a racket that is built to fail. Like a snake eating its own tail, there is only so much growth/exploitation/looting/violence you can get away with before you start to generate some pushback.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1548 || leaving my own pity party (NEW)

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Often I tend to exacerbate my problems by incapacitating myself with shame. Sometimes it helps to combat this thinking with psychologically verified strategies, but most of the time it's easier to simply change my environment. Leaving the room I got overwhelmed in, is sometimes more effective a tool than trying to change my mindset in that room.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1547 || the meaning of life (fan fave)

Sun, 24 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Embrace the idea that life may lack inherent meaning, but that doesn't mean you can't create your own. Define your own values, goals, and purpose in life, even if it's in the face of apparent meaninglessness.

RESOURCE: https://philosophy.stackexchange.com/questions/64941/what-is-the-meaning-of-life-in-the-myth-of-sisyphus AND https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Myth_of_Sisyphus

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1546 || how to finish tasks (rerelease)

Sat, 23 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Don't get down on yourself if you're unable to "visualize" your future + your goals. Focus on finding the feelings that drive you.

RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Time_management AND Pareto principle AND https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tickler_file

WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1545 || what if society was good, actually? (fan favorite episode)

Fri, 22 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Utopia feels far away, post-scarcity feels less so.

According to wikipedia: Post-scarcity is a theoretical economic situation in which most goods can be produced in great abundance with minimal human labor needed, so that they become available to all very cheaply or even freely.[1][2] Post-scarcity does not mean that scarcity has been eliminated for all goods and services but that all people can easily have their basic survival needs met along with some significant proportion of their desires for goods and services.[3] Writers on the topic often emphasize that some commodities will remain scarce in a post-scarcity society.

RESOURCES: https://lorenzopieri.com/post_scarcity/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-scarcity

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1545 || the drone of the magic around you (fan favorite episode)

Thu, 21 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

When things become familiar to us, we no longer acknowledge them. The drone of cicadas in the background becomes impossible to hear unless you’re really listening. The pile of papers on the table becomes impossible to see unless you’re reminded they need to move. Things that no longer pose a threat, become obsolete to our focus.

This is the same thing that happens with “the good stuff”. There is good stuff buzzing all around us, all day, every day. But because it doesn’t pose a threat, our brains set it aside as safe, and eventually we start to ignore the good altogether.

Sometimes the change is the thing we notice + we tend to emphasize the discomfort we feel from the transition, rather than the comfort we receive once we’re settled into the change.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1544 || true feminism is intersectional

Wed, 20 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

girlboss feminism + choice feminism prioritize individual privilege to the collective, which inherently means it is anti-feminist. today we read some discourse on what genuine feminism should look like.

The Sources:

"Embrace Intersectional Feminism" https://thebutlercollegian.com/2024/10/embrace-intersectional-feminism/
Empowerment > Choice Feminism https://www.tijdschriftlover.nl/english/choice_feminism_between_empowerment_and_brainswashing
Anita Sarkeesian on choice feminism: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uOmIIAact4s&t=117s
Reddit on choice feminism: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskFeminists/comments/zr92h6/what_exactly_is_choice_feminism_and_why_is_it_so/
Wiki on choice feminism https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Choice_feminism

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1543 || choice feminism

Tue, 19 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Choice freedom is the idea that any choice a woman makes is inherently feminist, but it's missing a LOT of context and ignores real consequences as a result. Today we're defining, tomorrow we're talking about how to avoid it.

The Sources:

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1542 || research for fun

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

How would you spend your time if you had more of it (and didn't need to monetize it)?

Other sources:

Why capitalism is stunting science: https://communist.red/why-capitalism-is-stunting-science

Reddit thread on hobbies/capitalism: https://www.reddit.com/r/LateStageCapitalism/comments/11fj1tj/hobbies_used_to_be_fun_weve_lost_our_way/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1541 || guilt is good, actually?

Sun, 17 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We've discussed in the past how "guilt" can be a sign of empathy and growth, but today we dig into the science + the practical ways to deal with debilitating guilt, when it goes too far.

THE SOURCE:

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1540 || some relationship advice

Sat, 16 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today I'm offering some relationship advice from people who have been in relationships for nearly 4 decades!!!

The source:

https://www.upworthy.com/marriage-advice

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1539 || how to escape an awkward conversations

Fri, 15 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Some people are bad at reading social cues, and they'll hold you hostage in a conversation. Today we talk about how to deal with those people.

The Source: https://www.upworthy.com/people-who-talk-too-much

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1538 || the final points of connection we all need

Thu, 14 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging.

1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact

2. Belong to a community of identity

3. Join an activity-based community

4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week

5. Finding your third place in the community

6. Volunteering in the community

The Source: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_six_points_of_connection_we_all_need

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1537 || the points of connection we all need

Wed, 13 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Research indicates that a variety of different social behaviors help prevent loneliness and foster a sense of community and belonging.

1. Have a neighborhood emergency contact

2. Belong to a community of identity

Tomorrow we cover the next four pieces to the puzzle:

3. Join an activity-based community

4. Connect with a friend or family member at least twice a week

5. Finding your third place in the community

6. Volunteering in the community

The Source: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/the_six_points_of_connection_we_all_need

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1536 || finding support in difficult times

Tue, 12 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Research from the HeartMath Institute has shown that our bodies pick up on the electromagnetic field of information that radiates from another’s heart. READ THE ARTICLE: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_support_in_difficult_times

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1535 || how to actually respond (the conclusion)

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today is the final day of the how to deal with "bad faith actors" series. I share an article from "Honor the Earth" about how to respond to fascism in real life.

https://www.honorearth.org/news/what-is-fascism-and-how-can-we-fight-it

The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate
"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1534 || antagonists gonna antagonize

Sun, 10 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether, and they're very skilled at baiting people into engaging with them in bad faith.

The Alt Right Playbook on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLJA_jUddXvY7v0VkYRbANnTnzkA_HMFtQ

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate
"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1533 || how to create an open + tolerant society

Sat, 09 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

OKAY WE SHOULDN’T ARGUE WITH BFAS, WHAT SHOULD WE DO? We should not bury our head in the sand about these beliefs, but amplifying problematic, anti-social ideas is does not help. We can’t win in debates but we can't do nothing. And for me, that starts by understanding the tolerance paradox.

Read Popper's Original Work (for free): https://archive.org/details/in.ernet.dli.2015.59272/page/n211/mode/2up?view=theater

The summary: https://unearnedwisdom.com/a-summary-of-the-open-society-and-its-enemies-by-karl-popper-8-10/

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1532 || why you can't argue with a BFA

Thu, 07 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Bad Faith Actors (or BFA's) don't give a fuck about the argument itself, they're playing a very different game altogether.

PROBLEM #1: The point is: You cannot win because the game is rigged and the points don’t matter.

PROBLEM #2: You are validating and platforming the position of the agitator, even if you “win” because (see problem #1).

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate
"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a
Toni Morrison's words: https://medicalhumanities.georgetown.edu/media-and-scholarship/media/racism-as-distraction/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1531 || discipline vs. devotion || a special patreon preview

Wed, 06 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Tune into the full episode on Patreon: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1530 || brandolini's law

Tue, 05 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

fascists don't give a shit about facts, logic, or reality. They only care about framing their narrative as legitimate, and as soon as you engage with them, you lose.

"A lie can travel half way around the world before the truth can even get its boots on."

Sartre's Words: https://redsails.org/sartre-reason-falsely/

Other Sources:

"Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage
"The Case for NOT Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e
"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full
"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate
"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1529 || the how + why of bad faith actors

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

BFA's are hell bent on preserving their identity, and they'd rather avoid reality completely than address the contradictions in theirs. Trolls don't care about reality at all, as long as they can engage you at all? They win.

And it bears repeating: You cannot reason with the unreasonable.

The Sources:

"Fascism is not an idea to be debated but a set of actions to fight": https://lithub.com/fascism-is-not-an-idea-to-be-debated-its-a-set-of-actions-to-fight/

Psychology Today's "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage

"The Case for Not Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e

"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full

"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate

"Why you shouldn't debate fascists": https://www.vaia.com/en-us/magazine/troll-on-the-internet/https://aurelmondon.medium.com/why-you-should-never-debate-fascists-racists-and-other-reactionaries-6478572c16a

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1528 || Defining "bad faith actors"

Sun, 03 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Bad Faith Actors - meaning going into interactions with either 1. the intention to deceive or 2. A belief and conviction and faith so profound that they become unable to confront facts or logic or reality that contradicts that belief in any way.

The Sources:

"Fascism is not an idea to be debated but a set of actions to fight": https://lithub.com/fascism-is-not-an-idea-to-be-debated-its-a-set-of-actions-to-fight/

Psychology Today's "Troll Wars": https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/culture-shrink/201411/troll-wars-and-narcissistic-rage

"The Case for Not Debating Fascists": https://criticalresist.medium.com/the-case-for-not-debating-fascists-3608623f00e

"Why are political discussions with fascists impossible?": https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/political-science/articles/10.3389/fpos.2022.951236/full

"Lose the Debate": https://armoxon.substack.com/p/lose-the-debate

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1527 || my fight with a bigot (a true story)

Sat, 02 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"He had sown chaos between me and my friend and he truly didn’t give a fuck. In fact, he looked like he was enjoying it. He was manipulating me and I was watching it happen but unaware of how to make it stop. I couldn’t let a man who didn’t deny being a nazi get away with this, but I truly had no idea how to stop him."

Later I learned, defusing and mediating and compromising ONLY works with people who are willing to compromise, mediate, and be defused.

THE LESSON: DON’T DEBATE WITH FASCISTS, DON’T FEED THE TROLLS (THE ONLY WAY TO DEFEAT A FASCIST IS TO SHAME + FIGHT)

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1526 || the problem with tragic optimism

Fri, 01 Aug 2025 04:01:00 GMT

According to Meg-John Barker at rewriting the rules, "My own way of dealing with meaninglessness in life, has also been to embrace it as an inevitable part of life which will happen with some regularity.

There will be times – perhaps quite frequently – when we feel that our projects are pointless in the grand scheme of things, or when the world feels an overwhelming and cold place to live in, or when disconnections and conflicts with others feel unbearable and we feel utterly broken by life.

If we see such times as evidence that we are ‘getting it wrong’ and try desperately to find some meaning quickly, we are – perhaps – likely to spiral even further into hopelessness.

When we have such moments, it can be useful to focus on the very basic mundane activities of life (walking the dog, making our breakfast, having a shower), getting on with it until it has passed. And sometimes we just have to be with the horror of the meaninglessness while it is there without trying to change it, and without being able to do anything whilst it is happening."

The Sources:

A blog post breakdown of "The Case for Tragic Optimism" https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/tragic-optimism/

Lit Charts for "The Case for Tragic Optimism": https://www.litcharts.com/lit/man-s-search-for-meaning/postscript-1984-the-case-for-tragic-optimism

Victor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" and "The Case for Tragic Optimism" https://antilogicalism.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/mans-search-for-meaning.pdf

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1525 || the case for tragic optimism

Thu, 31 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Because humanity has been here a while, and books exist where people write down what they do to deal with hard shit, there are plenty of first hand accounts of people not just surviving but thriving after dealing with the impossible.

Survival is context based and has no rules or generalizations that would be fair, so I’ll skip that - but beyond surviving, if you want to feel like you’re actually filling that deep, dark void that has been strategically implanted into all of us when we were born into a society that puts profits over people, you have to sometimes face or shoulder shit that shouldn’t be your responsibility to face or shoulder.

So how do we do it?

Victor Frankl makes a case for tragic optimism. Today we discuss what that means.

The Sources:

Victor Frankl's "Man's Search for Meaning" and "The Case for Tragic Optimism" https://antilogicalism.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/07/mans-search-for-meaning.pdf

A blog post breakdown of "The Case for Tragic Optimism" https://www.rewriting-the-rules.com/self/tragic-optimism/

Lit Charts for "The Case for Tragic Optimism": https://www.litcharts.com/lit/man-s-search-for-meaning/postscript-1984-the-case-for-tragic-optimism

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1524 || filling the "hole"

Wed, 30 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Maybe you don't need more things, you just need a thing.

What happens when the shit that surrounds us starts to feel like it’s weighing us down rather than free us? When it feels like more shit to deal with, rather than tools and resources, or sources of joy.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1523 || becoming optimistic using the ABCDE method

Tue, 29 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The ABCDE coaching model has five stages: Activating event or situation, Beliefs, Consequences, Disputation of the beliefs and Effective new approach to dealing with the problem. It's a coaching model that can help challenge your more pessimistic beliefs and actually improve how you respond to life.

The Source: https://worldofwork.io/2019/06/abcde-coaching-model/

A lil Worksheet: https://www.dau.edu/sites/default/files/Migrated/ToolAttachments/The%203Ps%20Worksheet.pdf

More sources: https://positivepsychology.com/albert-ellis-abc-model-rebt-cbt/

AND: https://www.mindfulnessmuse.com/cognitive-behavioral-therapy/gaining-control-is-as-easy-as-a-b-c-d-e

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1522 || learned optimism

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Some of us are predisposed to less optimistic than others. Fortunately, there are ways we can LEARN to be more optimistic with time and practice.

The source: https://positivepsychology.com/learned-optimism/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1521 || why don't I remember my childhood?

Sun, 27 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

You weren't absent, you were on high alert. Survival mode means. you can't make memories. Let's talk about ways to get out of survival mode, and why it's so important to do so with intention, regularly.

@TheCafeScrawls Post on Threads: https://www.threads.com/@thecafescrawls/post/DMBSvjtzCsq

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1520 || shame, cringe, + the fear of being perceived.

Sat, 26 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Cringe is the ultimate vibe killer. Plus, when I fear being judged that's me writing your story for you, and that's not fair for either of you. Today we talk about the fear of being perceived and how I'm working around it.

THE INSPIRATION VIDEO: https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZP8k8BVdo/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1519 || the "value" of nature part 2

Fri, 25 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Why have some gifts of nature remained free? By: Alyssa Battistoni

THE RESOURCE:

The Value of Nature: https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/the-value-of-nature/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1518 || the "value" of nature

Thu, 24 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Why have some gifts of nature remained free? By: Alyssa Battistoni

THE RESOURCE:

The Value of Nature: https://www.dissentmagazine.org/article/the-value-of-nature/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1517 || escaping the "skinner box"

Wed, 23 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

NOTE: This is an old episode that never got published!!!! I decided to release it today before we move on to new topics.

Science confirms that facebook is a skinner box and we are just rats but we can be more conscious with our most valuable asset (our attention) and life will improve. we just have to be conscious we're a part of the experiment.

RESOURCE: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-social-media-persona-considered-new-bf-skinner-box-bertrand

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1516 || revisiting the "skinner box"

Tue, 22 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Note: This is a revisitation of a past episode from 2023.

I used uptime.app to check out the brief spark notes version of

"Antisocial Media: Siva Vaidhyanathan's How Facebook Disconnects Us and Undermines Democracy"

(available here: https://global.oup.com/academic/product/antisocial-media-9780190841164?cc=us&lang=en&)

and he said: "Facebook is a modern day Skinner Box" which sent me down a rabbit hole to understand what that meant.

So today, I am sharing that with you!

RESOURCE: https://www.simplypsychology.org/what-is-a-skinner-box.html

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1515 || mixed emotions are worse than negative ones

Mon, 21 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Did you know that mixed emotions can be more emotionally taxing than purely negative ones? Today we talk about this + how to deal with it through things like “dialectical thinking," which is the attitude that opposite emotions are normal and compatible.

The Sources:

Arthur C. Brooks "Nothing Drains You Like Mixed Emotions" for The Atlantic: https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2023/01/psychology-of-mixed-emotions-feelings-meaning-examples/672758/'
Arthur C. Brooks Website: https://arthurbrooks.com/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1514 || you don't really look like that

Sun, 20 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I am starting to think some of us are looking at ourselves too much, and if you stare at anything too long, it will start to look weird after a while. Plus, the internet has warped our perception of what real humans + real aging is supposed to look like.

But today, I want to talk about the ways "selfie-culture" has distorted many people's perception of themselves. I think if more people realized how distorted our selfie cameras make us look, they'd feel a lot less critical of themselves.

Today's Sources:

Oohs St.Lou's Studios (The Visuals): https://oohstloustudios.com/the-science-of-the-selfie-no-you-dont-really-look-like-that#
ENT of Athens "Your Selfie is Lying to You": https://www.entofathens.com/your-selfie-is-lying-to-you/
Popular Science "Selfie Face Perception Distortion": https://www.popsci.com/technology/selfie-face-perception-distortion/
How to look better in selfies: https://www.slrlounge.com/why-your-selfies-look-awful-what-can-is-being-done-to-look-better-in-selfies/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1513 || self care in trying times (finale)

Sat, 19 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

With everything going on in the United States, chances are you’ve been working to stay informed, and maybe even help out in some ways — both of which can take a lot of mental energy. Your main goal is to find the balance between taking action and taking enough care of yourself that you’re actually able to work effectively. - Anna Borges

The Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/annaborges/recharge-then-resist

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1512 || self care in trying times

Fri, 18 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The Source: https://www.buzzfeed.com/annaborges/recharge-then-resist

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1511 || engaging ethically with AI

Thu, 17 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Engaging with AI ethically is never going to be black and white, but we shouldn't feel shame or guilt for using these things with more awareness and tact. Being conscious is the best way to avoid the risks + potential consequences that come from engaging with an unregulated new technology.

Managing our expectations and understanding the risks is incredibly important to these beginning stages of AI. Today we talk about a few of the ways I'm engaging with ai more consciously.

15 times it's good to use AI, 5 times not to: https://www.oneusefulthing.org/p/15-times-to-use-ai-and-5-not-to
Protecting the Freedom to opt out: https://theconversation.com/avoiding-ai-is-hard-but-our-freedom-to-opt-out-must-be-protected-255873
Preventing AI from doing all the thinking: https://spencereducation.com/cognitive-atrophy/
Avoiding AI article: https://www.voxweb.nl/en/they-are-not-using-ai-avoiding-it-is-actually-really-easy
Exploring the ethical use of AI: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0268401223000816

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1510 || AI's full list of downsides

Wed, 16 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We should be cautious about normalizing AI before establishing regulations:

Unreliable:https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11729512/#:~:text=This%20study%20indicates%20that%20ChatGPT,back%20to%20an%20existing%20publication. AND https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-024-07930-

Plagiarism machine: https://youtu.be/TWpg1RmzAbc?si=OjKaOsE7GWKfm15p&t=868

Environmental racism, Energy Waste + Terror: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/jul/08/terrorist-groups-artificial-intelligence

Training models = unethical. https://www.oii.ox.ac.uk/news-events/the-hidden-human-cost-of-ai-in-conversation-with-professor-mark-graham/

Exacerbates issues. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zKCynxiV_8I&t=3s AND https://apnews.com/article/chatbot-ai-lawsuit-suicide-teen-artificial-intelligence-9d48adc572100822fdbc3c90d1456bd0

Bad for Brains: https://www.media.mit.edu/publications/your-brain-on-chatgpt/

Stealing Jobs. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4uJHHOO5ZmY and https://www.vox.com/technology/418525/ai-chatgpt-google-office-work-white-collar-jobs

Biased. https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/even-chatgpt-says-chatgpt-is-racially-biased/ and https://news.uchicago.edu/story/ai-biased-against-speakers-african-american-english-study-finds

Privacy Violation. https://www.aclu.org/news/privacy-technology/machine-surveillance-is-being-super-charged-by-large-ai-models and https://www.govtech.com/artificial-intelligence/new-chatgpt-gov-enables-use-of-non-publicly-available-data

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1509 || The Downsides to ChatGPT + AI

Tue, 15 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Here are some reasons we should be cautious about normalizing AI + ChatGPT before establishing regulations:

It’s unreliable. https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11729512/#:~:text=This%20study%20indicates%20that%20ChatGPT,back%20to%20an%20existing%20publication. AND https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-024-07930-

It’s a plagiarism machine. https://youtu.be/TWpg1RmzAbc?si=OjKaOsE7GWKfm15p&t=868

Environmental racism, increasing consumer's energy bill.

Terrorism: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2025/jul/08/terrorist-groups-artificial-intelligence

Training these models is deeply unethical.

Exacerbates mental health issues.

Bad for User’s Brains: https://www.media.mit.edu/publications/your-brain-on-chatgpt/

Stealing Good Jobs.

Biased.

Privacy Violation.

Deepfakes + Harmful Misinformation: perpetuates extremism

Affects Societal Trust + Relationships.

Worst Corporations Backing AI

Moral Questions of Control + Freedom

As historian Yuval Noah Harari has written, to “never summon a power you cannot control”

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1508 || the downfall of ChatGPT

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

AI is becoming increasingly unavoidable. It's in our phones, our TV's, and emails. But ChatGPT is one we STILL have a choice on how much we use it.

There is a vast number of reasons we should be moderating the amount of AI we’re engaging with, while we still can.

Here are some reasons we should be cautious about normalizing AI + ChatGPT before establishing regulations:

It’s shockingly unreliable: ChatGPT is known to falsify sources, reinforce biases, and perpetuate misinformation. AI hallucinations are another increasing concern. According to one peer reviewed study: “ChatGPT is an unreliable source… as 64% of sources were deemed inaccurate, specifically referring to these sources as not able to be traced back to an existing publication.” https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC11729512/#:~:text=This%20study%20indicates%20that%20ChatGPT,back%20to%20an%20existing%20publication. AND https://www.nature.com/articles/s41586-024-07930-

It’s a plagiarism machine: steals directly from artists without credit or permission. https://youtu.be/TWpg1RmzAbc?si=OjKaOsE7GWKfm15p&t=868

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1507 || "livable wage" is a violent phrase

Sun, 13 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

People are more productive than ever before and YET our wages are not reflecting the growth in labor. Our wages have been stolen by the wealth hoarders and redistributed to shareholders at the expense of our dignity. We need to ensure their propaganda about laziness doesn't continue to influence the people around us.

The robber barons are worse than ever, but at least we're FINALLY talking about their crimes.

Justin Scott's TikTok video on Livable Wages: https://www.tiktok.com/@cypher.j/video/7525955994262834462
The Atlantic on Minimum wage: https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2016/05/raise-the-minimum-wage-reduce-crime/480912/
The NYTimes on calculating "livable wages": https://www.nytimes.com/2019/06/05/smarter-living/what-a-living-wage-actually-means.html
EPI's Productivity–Pay Gap Charts + Breakdown: https://www.epi.org/productivity-pay-gap/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1506 || Zohran Mamdani

Sat, 12 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I'm baaack!!! and today I'm diving into Zohran Mamdani's platform and campaign which has given me a surprising amount of renewed hope for the future of American politics, if we can stay focused on resistance, revolution, and harm reduction.

SOURCES:

NYTimes on Zohran: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/25/us/politics/what-is-democratic-socialism.html
Zohran's Platform: https://web.archive.org/web/20250701190438/https://www.zohranfornyc.com/platform
Who's afraid of socialism? https://ips-dc.org/whos-afraid-of-socialism/
The DSA’s “What is Democratic Socialism?” https://www.dsausa.org/about-us/what-is-democratic-socialism/
Britannica's Democratic Socialism: https://www.britannica.com/topic/democratic-socialism
Democratic Socialist Public Officials: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/List_of_Democratic_Socialists_of_America_public_officeholders

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

consequentialism - wait for it

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 04:01:26 GMT

there are so many different "consequentialisms" out there + it's important to not get lost in the "sauce" of the different combinations, but focus on the perspectives you can manage now, ideally the ones that affect you, your community, and the world around you.

RESOURCE: https://plato.stanford.edu/entries/consequentialism/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

the authoritarian playbook

Fri, 11 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

What to expect under an authoritarian regime:

1. Democratic election through fear mongering.

2. They will divide + rule.

3. They will subjugate media outlets to create a propaganda machine.

4. They will create a sense of chaos + fear.

5. They will distort truth and lie to create confusion.

6. They will slander their "enemies"

7. They will create distractions to fight while they pass more insidious legislation to dismantle democracy.

8. They will further marginalize groups.

9. They will attempt to dismantle the courts, the checks + balances.

10. They will limit our ability to protest + assemble.

11. They will distort language and steal words.

12. They will take over national symbols.

13. They will rewrite history.

14. They will alienate foreign powers.

15. They will manipulate our electoral system to fit their agenda.

be strong, fight, endure, and remember you’re on the good side of history.

EVERY authoritarian, totalitarian and fascist regime in history eventually failed, thanks to the PEOPLE.

– With love, your Eastern European friends

RESOURCES: https://verfassungsblog.de/the-authoritarian-regime-survival-guide/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

hyper-normalization

Thu, 10 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Hypernormalization: Pretending everything is fine, when it is obviously NOT fine. The goal is to keep us overwhelmed and confused and disengaged. Resist your apathy. Resist in any way you can. Join a co-op, a tenants union, a mutual aid network, a food pantry, local politics, and fight for a new reality that doesn't force so many to pretend it's not happening.

FOUSHY ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/p/DEhR7_Rge95/?hl=en

THE DOCUMENTARY WIKI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HyperNormalisation

THE DOCUMENTARY: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gr7T07WfIhM

DONATE TO KIDS IN PALESTINE: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

returning home

Wed, 09 Jul 2025 04:01:41 GMT

I'm back!!!! I've missed you so much and wanted to ramble about community again (for old time's sake).

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

stop intellectualizing everything + create something

Tue, 08 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

we tend to over-intellectualize our feelings because we don't allow ourselves to work through them. Working through means DOING, CREATING, ACTING, PLAYING, and SEEKING JOY. Let down your walls + learn to feel through the act of creation.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1500 || resisting the persuasion of reciprocity

Mon, 07 Jul 2025 04:01:19 GMT

It starts with recognizing the game. If someone is doing you a favor out of the kindness of their heart, it won't be so difficult to offer them a favor in return. When someone is attempting to manipulate you with that favor??? You're allowed to respond in whatever way you see fit.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

power under + how to find yours

Sun, 06 Jul 2025 04:01:08 GMT

When you change the way you show up in your world, you encourage others to do the same + like the butterfly effect, sometimes the smallest + simplest changes can make the largest and most complex impacts!

Resource: https://creaworld.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/All-About-Power.pdf

More resources:https://commonslibrary.org/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

hurry sickness

Sat, 05 Jul 2025 04:01:42 GMT

I’m the type of person who always feels like I’m running late despite the fact that I very rarely am.

I’ve been trying a new type of thought exercise where I take a moment to visit with a more senior or elderly me. Sometimes it’s my 81st birthday. I sit as her, with the underlying understanding that everything did eventually work itself out, and I had a great, full, and beautiful life despite all of its challenges.

As I sit in my 80 ish year old body, I take a moment to reflect on the good parts I can recall and then I bring her back to my 37 year old body. With the back that creaks so much less often and feet that ache so much less intensely. I bring my senior self back into the apartment she hasn’t seen for decades in the town she sometimes misses. She looks at her partner with adoring eyes as they haven’t wrinkled and spotted in the sun just yet. She puts sunscreen on us both and digs out the old hobbies she regrets not taking more seriously. She takes her time to cook a nourishing meal with hands that don’t shake and arms strong enough to lift the dutch oven. She eats slowly because there is no rush, and she has learned that in her many years of rushing on this planet. She feels excited to be in a body she used to not appreciate. She wants to wander and explore with these eyes that seem to see more clearly and bones that don’t tire so quickly.

She’s not afraid about missing a boat because she realized there is no single boat. So I try not to be afraid of missing the boat. She reminds me that we can build our own boats, or chill on the beach - it doesn’t really matter as long as we remember it doesn't matter. As long as the truly objectively important shit gets done, we need to stop pretending like it’s possible to get everything else done too. One way to remember that is to allow your future self to lend you some peace and wisdom once in a while. So she lends me her peace and she lends me her wisdom and with it she returns to me more energized, and grateful to be alive and able to experience this time again. For the first time in years she is awakened to the miraculous nature of this current life. She is happy to be here, and she is me.

EP: 1418

The source: https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/always-in-a-rush-maybe-its-time-urgency

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

save the planet (a practical guide)

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 04:01:02 GMT

It's not too late. Every action counts. But don't get overwhelmed with doing everything. Instead, choose something + act. Every little bit helps.

THE GUIDEBOOK: https://www.nottoolateclimate.com/_files/ugd/c8ef46_65f7332b00de468aa7091e31a4b2f772.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

contradictory feelings of hope + hopelessness

Fri, 04 Jul 2025 02:01:29 GMT

Another draft that (apparently) never got published, because I haven't been feeling well!

"I sat with two diferent feelings: the sense of success and the worry that we didn’t really make a change. I could have given in to either of them. But instead, I began to wonder: What’s strategic here? How do my local actions add up to real changes? How do we move from one-time actions to a whole movement, where all kinds of people from all walks of life are joined together in common cause? Tis book is for those of you who, like me, have been part of an action and wanted to know: What’s next? How can I not only feel — but be — more powerful?" - Daniel Hunter

BUY "HOPE IN THE DARK": https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM "HOPE IN THE DARK": https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR OF "HOPE IN THE DARK": http://rebeccasolnit.net/

READ THE " CLIMATE RESISTANCE HANDBOOK" https://trainings.350.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Climate-Resistance-Handbook-PDF.pdf

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

democratic socialism vs. socialism

Thu, 03 Jul 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Democratic Socialism has no singular definition, but the simplest way to describe it, academically, is an ideology, economic or political system, rooted in opposing capitalism's profit motive by shifting the power back to the people, through prioritizing workers instead of the corporations themselves. People > Profits.

That said, there can be a lot of descriptions which can lead to a lot of confusion. Today, we're digging into the spectrum of definitions and how it relates to our current context.

SOURCES:

Who's afraid of socialism? https://ips-dc.org/whos-afraid-of-socialism/
What is democratic socialism + critiques: https://socialstudieshelp.com/economics/what-is-democratic-socialism-key-features-and-criticisms/
Communism vs. Socialism https://www.investopedia.com/ask/answers/100214/what-difference-between-communism-and-socialism.asp
The DSA’s “What is Democratic Socialism?” https://www.dsausa.org/about-us/what-is-democratic-socialism/
Wiki's Socialism: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Socialism
Britannica's Democratic Socialism: https://www.britannica.com/topic/democratic-socialism
NYTimes on Mamdani: https://www.nytimes.com/2025/06/25/us/politics/what-is-democratic-socialism.html

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

staying hopeful in the unknown

Wed, 02 Jul 2025 04:01:44 GMT

I've been sick for the last two days and so today, we're jumping back in time to an older episode that I never published (oops!) from Rebecca Solnit's book, Hope in the Dark.

"We are used to constant flux in the daily details of existence, yet the basic structure of the status quo always looks so unalterable. But it’s not. Profound change for the better does occur, even though it can be difficult to see because one of the most common effects of success is to be taken for granted. What looks perfectly ordinary after the fact would often have seemed like a miracle before it.” - Christ Bright

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

the two VERY different definitions

Mon, 30 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The problem is, people aren't talking about the same things when they refer to socialism. Most people define socialism differently - but there is a definition (albeit broad) that we can and should all learn together, so we aren't reading to people who aren't even close to the same page.

SOURCES:

The 2022 research on American's views of socialism: https://www.pewresearch.org/politics/2022/09/19/modest-declines-in-positive-views-of-socialism-and-capitalism-in-u-s/
Who's afraid of socialism? https://ips-dc.org/whos-afraid-of-socialism/
What is democratic socialism + critiques: https://socialstudieshelp.com/economics/what-is-democratic-socialism-key-features-and-criticisms/
Communism vs. Socialism https://www.investopedia.com/ask/answers/100214/what-difference-between-communism-and-socialism.asp
The DSA’s “What is Democratic Socialism?” https://www.dsausa.org/about-us/what-is-democratic-socialism/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

core belief filter (re-release)

Sun, 29 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Back to talk about Zohran tomorrow, but for now let's talk about our core belief filter that shapes how we see the world.

For our entire lives, every single one of us has been developing a filter through which we see and interpret the world. This filter dictates the stories we tell ourselves about ourselves, about other people, and the world around us, but because we’ve carried this narrator with us our entire lives, it can be hard to tell which stories are actually fiction, and it can be even more difficult to remember that we can sometimes rewrite happier through line, for certain stories that aren’t as helpful anymore.

LINK:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7554706

https://positivepsychology.com/core-beliefs-worksheets/

https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Table-of-Common-Core-Beliefs.pdf

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

why are people scared of socialism?

Sat, 28 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Democratic socialism in the United States has been maligned since before I was born. After WWII, there was the Cold War (which was a series of proxy wars that ended with the dissolution of the USSR in 1991) and since then, there has been a deliberate effort to associate any form of socialism with dictatorships and communism and tyrannical government overreach.

But in reality most people I speak to are truly democratic socialists n the policies they’d like to see. And I know that sounds like a bold claim, and I don’t want to pretend like it would solve everything for everyone, but right now - it makes perfect sense to me and anyone I’ve interacted with about this stuff, as the next step in the seismic systemic shifts that need to occur.

SOURCES:

Who's afraid of socialism? https://ips-dc.org/whos-afraid-of-socialism/
What is democratic socialism + critiques: https://socialstudieshelp.com/economics/what-is-democratic-socialism-key-features-and-criticisms/
Communism vs. Socialism https://www.investopedia.com/ask/answers/100214/what-difference-between-communism-and-socialism.asp
The DSA’s “What is Democratic Socialism?” https://www.dsausa.org/about-us/what-is-democratic-socialism/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

propaganda is actually everywhere

Fri, 27 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I feel like a lot of people expect propaganda to be on the nose. War posters, Uncle Sam pointing directly at you to recruit you for the war or directly glorifying it. But I am starting to notice how propaganda is becoming more and more insidious and targeted and effective.

In an episode a long time ago, I remember talking about the concept of Dialectical thinking, which refers to the ability to hold space for multiple, contradictory truths at once. The ability to use multiple truths and perspectives to arrive at a more comprehensive understanding of things. But it is work. It may feel more intuitive for some people, but as I have come to realize, holding space for nuance and complexity in understanding something, is not a task every person is capable of doing.

So, if we’re talking about propaganda, and we are at the baseline of understanding that everything is political, I think it’s important to call out that this means propaganda is in EVERYTHING we consume, whether it’s in support of an ideology or a religion or control, it’s it is rarely obvious and typically buried in things we love for other reasons.

SOURCES:

Who's afraid of socialism? https://ips-dc.org/whos-afraid-of-socialism/
What is democratic socialism + critiques: https://socialstudieshelp.com/economics/what-is-democratic-socialism-key-features-and-criticisms/
Communism vs. Socialism https://www.investopedia.com/ask/answers/100214/what-difference-between-communism-and-socialism.asp
The DSA’s “What is Democratic Socialism?” https://www.dsausa.org/about-us/what-is-democratic-socialism/

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

the awareness wheel (re-relelase)

Thu, 26 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today is a refresher course on the "awareness wheel" which leads us into tomorrow's episode.

feeling outta whack? off kilter? need a lil grounding?

check in with where your attention has been going with a lil awareness wheel: YOU are the center. Around you are categories to prioritize BALANCE within like: health, relationships, career, hobbies, goals, rest, etc.

resource: https://www.als.net/ice-bucket-challenge/

WATCH THIS EPISODE + OTHER CONTENT: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

how's the resistance doing?

Wed, 25 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The resistance is diverse and often spontaneous. Additional disruptive action can win real gains (and already has).Large masses of people are experiencing, and expressing, a sense of solidarity with the oppressed. There are no guarantees. But there is every reason to maintain some optimism and keep our eyes open.

SOURCES:

Mel Bienenfeld's Article: https://tempestmag.org/2025/06/prospects-for-organized-mass-struggle/
David Whitehouse’s We need to do this together
the editorial In honor of Mayday
John Lewis’ “good trouble”, an idea with mainstream support,

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

my thoughts on the escalation

Tue, 24 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Preparation never includes: overthink everything from every angle all the time.

There’s a line between aware and too aware, and learning everything there is to know can’t save you from reality when it happens. The best preparation is hands on, so actually call your local politicians and see if you can speak to them one on one. Or if thats too much, go talk to your neighbors, or if that’s too much, go check out a library book and read it. And build upon that, and eventually maybe you can consider running for office and actually making a fucking difference in real tangible ways, or at least, find out who is in your local elections with your interests in mind, so you can support the fuck out of them.

Remember most control is given freely, most power is given freely. Take that shit back, so that when you start to feel empowered, you can really do something with it.

SOURCES:

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

freaking out about WWIII?

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Making this shit backfire in whatever way possible, is a great way to push back against further escalations. Keep talking about the protests, keep talking about the legality, keep talking about how unnecessary and expensive and deadly and cruel and violent and painful this war will be for everyone. Because this, like all the other chaos the regime has been enacting, is a very common dictator strategy. It’s another form of scapegoating. Get everyone focused and talking about this new real threat and fear of another potential outside enemy so we stop talking about the old real threat of the enemy domestically.

This whole thing is rooted in a classic dictator strategy. Get people talking about something else because the media can’t not talk about THIS! It’s wwIII, forget the tanking economy, the grocery prices, the climate crisis, the gun crisis, the political violence crisis, the protests, the formal legal inquiries into a stolen election, the AI crisis, the surveillance and privacy crisis, the attacks on women, trans people, immigrants, and people who look like immigrants. Don’t talk about the waste of $45 million on a parade that looked like a chore, and don’t even think about the 5 million people that protested it.

SOURCES:

1. https://www.journals.uchicago.edu/doi/abs/10.1017/S0022381609990879

2. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diversionary_foreign_policy

3, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eFiGzEvdNUs

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

if it makes you happy (a re-release)

Sun, 22 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Tomorrow I'll be back with a NEW episode, but for now, enjoy this fan favorite from episode 300 and something. According to science, humans kind of suck at knowing what will genuinely make us happier in the long run. Society tells us what we really want is to find love and money and success, but in reality, we may already have all the things that we could ever want to be happy people, but were too busy trying to meet some arbitrary societal deadline to notice.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

other your inner voice || re-release

Sat, 21 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

On day 342 of this podcast, I said this: "If you’re like most people, the voice inside your head is probably pretty incessant. It’s probably very critical and anxious.

That voice is not you.

If it was you, it wouldn’t need to share all of it’s wild ideas with you.

You would know the message and have already made decisions, instead you engage in these dialogues or arguments with yourself because you’re not that voice. You know it’s wrong or mean or negative and you recognize it. The work you must do is continue to recognize it. Continue to notice when it’s chatting with you.

Other the voice and name it, or address it with love - because in reality the voice is looking out for you in the only way it knows how. Which, yeah, we can agree this voice is not a great parent, but it does love us. So address this voice, ask it to sit down. Hear it out, and then thank it for its concern. Remind it you’re safe and that the advice it is sharing is not helpful or needed at the moment.

Then you can move on with you leading the way, rather than this wildcard with random ideas and thoughts leading you through fear. Other it, welcome it, and recognize our thoughts and feelings are often valid but not always rooted in truth or reality.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

save the work for the work (a re-release)

Fri, 20 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Save the work until you get to the work.

So often, we get caught up in our heads about potential problems and our workloads that we basically double the work on our plate by basically having to go through it twice.

Have you ever been driving to work and pre-writing emails, or pre-planning meetings, or predicting problems?

How many times have you left a job and started planning for the next day? Or worse - deciding what you can finish when you get home?

Some jobs don’t allow you to leave the work at work - but I still encourage you to schedule in adequate time to take c are of yourself so you don’t burn out.

In the show abbott elementary - which I cant get enough of and think everyone should watch immediately it’s so funny and heartfelt - but in case you haven’t seen it I will butcher a beautiful moment in my retelling of an episode where the main character was trying to do everything in her power to “save the school” on her own and she kinda screws everything up in a comedy of errors and another teacher offers a beautiful monologue explaining that the more experienced teachers aren’t stepping into the line of fire because they don’t care but because they don’t want to burn out. We care so much we refuse to burn out. If we burn out who’s here for the kids?

And that’s something I had to learn the hard way as a teacher. I had to learn that in order to make the difference i was so desperate to make - I had to preserve my own wellbeing first. I had to create healthy boundaries or id work myself to the bone and never be able to recover.

If you take it like a staircase instead of a projectile, you’re less likely to fall straight back down to the earth.

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

32: my rant at the school board

Thu, 19 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Book bans are unconstitutional. Florida is in a crisis.I'm on my way to rant at these people.

"What is unfolding in Hillsborough County is not the measured application of parental concern. It is a calculated effort to consolidate power through fear, to bypass legal precedent, and to silence diverse voices in Florida’s public schools. Educators and parents view this campaign as a state-directed form of censorship intended to intimidate professionals into abandoning their expertise. Books are being targeted and removed without meaningful review, and without regard for the input of local families or communities."

THE SOURCES:

HCSB meeting Live Stream: https://www.youtube.com/live/7tMHsGztEbY?si=cM-Y50XEBZ8LvIG_

The PEN article: https://pen.org/floridas-hillsborough-county-faces-a-frightening-state-driven-censorship-campaign/

The Beacon Article: https://www.tampabeacon.com/hillsborough_county/under-fire-from-state-hillsborough-s-ayres-pledges-to-pull-more-books/article_d6826981-001d-4f36-818b-4c6b6af7a4e8.html

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

31: fighting florida's book ban crisis

Wed, 18 Jun 2025 04:02:00 GMT

historically speaking, the good guys have never restricted access to information. In fact, well intentioned people tend to provide MORE information so everyone involved can make the most informed decisions based on their situation. The Nazi party, the Soviet Union, Communist China, + North Korea all advocated for suppression and censorship which always started and never ended with government overreach through things like book bans.

THE SOURCES:

The PEN article: https://pen.org/floridas-hillsborough-county-faces-a-frightening-state-driven-censorship-campaign/

The Beacon Article: https://www.tampabeacon.com/hillsborough_county/under-fire-from-state-hillsborough-s-ayres-pledges-to-pull-more-books/article_d6826981-001d-4f36-818b-4c6b6af7a4e8.html

Resources for Resisting a Coup: https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

30: the protests are working

Tue, 17 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Successful protests start by rupturing the narrative. It takes time to make real change, but we're moving the needle. Don't stop.

THE SOURCES:

https://makeyourdamnbed.medium.com/practical-guides-to-resisting-a-coup-b44571b9ad66

https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/voices-of-resistance-and-insight-on-the-eve-of-no-kings-day/

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

29: hope after the protest

Sun, 15 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

He's losing, and we the people are realizing our power.

THE SOURCES:

https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/voices-of-resistance-and-insight-on-the-eve-of-no-kings-day/

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

28: a lil hope for the protest

Sat, 14 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Hope isn’t a mood. It’s a decision.

And if you’re struggling to find it—borrow mine.

I’ve lived through a coup. I’ve lived under martial law.

And I’m telling you right now: This moment isn’t over.

We’re still writing the ending."

- Confetti Tactics

THE SOURCES:

The Thread: https://www.threads.com/@confettitactics/post/DKs5QjQIQn9

Protest advice: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/asia/hong-kong-protest-latest-bruce-lee-riot-police-water-a9045311.html

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

27: the heart of the matter

Fri, 13 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"I am not giving up. I'm hopeful because I believe in

civil society, I believe in our power, and I believe in our idealism. I don't

know what is going to happen, because we make the future in the present, but in

the present I see solidarity, commitment, principle, and courage." - Rebecca Solnit

THE SOURCES:

Rebecca Solnit's Blog: https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/the-heart-of-the-matter/

The Newsletter by Ruth Ben Ghiat: Lucid

SUPPORT Julie (and the show!): https://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed

DONATE to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

26: the optics of the american flag

Thu, 12 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The stage before the success stage is all about shifting public sentiment, and we do that by working on our communication. Optics are crucial.

One tactic is to reclaim the American flag and wave them at the front of the ICE protests. That way, when the National Guard shoots into a crowd of Americans waving American flags, it will look so horrific that NOBODY could support it and may actually start to shift the media narrative, too.

Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

The reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/behindthebastards/comments/1l85hyi/bring_american_flags_to_protests/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

25: are we in the success stage now?

Wed, 11 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Success often doesn't feel like success because of the backlash paradox: Authoritarians escalate violence when they lose control, not when they’re strong. We're slowly shifting the overton window and creating mass support for the movement of the people. We're closer to success than we'd think.

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

AND "Doing Democracy In the 21st Century

AND The Moyer Model

AND https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2025/6/9/freedom-flotillas-a-history-of-attempts-to-break-israels-siege-of-gaza

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

24: continuing success

Tue, 10 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

There is no end. There is only the continuing struggle, acted out in cycles of social movements. The process of winning one set of demands creates new levels of citizen consciousness and empowerment, and generates new movements on new demands and issues.

Today we're going through the conclusion of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that the public is unaware (or feels defeated in face) of the violations of the general public's rights/values/interests.
Prove the failure of Institutions - A prolonged period of increasing stress on the system.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVEaRYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.
Identity Crisis of Powerless: (The movement is meant to move on to stage 6, but many activists move into this stage, instead.) Many activists lose sight of the long game + quit.
Majority Popular Support: Long game of garnering the public's support for your cause. It feels like nothing is happening, but depends on grassroots engagement to challenge the status quo.
Success: when the long process of building opposition reaches a new plateau + the new social consensus turns the tide of power against the powerholders, an endgame process leads to the movement's success. This process can take three forms: dramatic showdown, quiet showdown, or attrition.
Continuing the Struggle: Celebrate success, Follow up (local, national, etc.), Work on other demands, New social consciousness issues, Beyond reform to social change. Alternative systems not just opposing the ones that exist.

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

AND "Doing Democracy In the 21st Century

AND The Moyer Model

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

23: the pitfalls of success

Mon, 09 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The movement needs to recognize successes achieved, follow up on the demands won, raise larger issues, focus on other demands which are in various stages, and propose larger alternatives and a new paradigm.

Today we're going through step 7 (success) of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that the public is unaware (or feels defeated in face) of the violations of the general public's rights/values/interests.
Prove the failure of Institutions - A prolonged period of increasing stress on the system. The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs + values.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVERYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.
Identity Crisis of Powerless: (The movement is meant to move on to stage 6, but many activists move into this stage, instead.) Many activists lose sight of the long game + quit.
Majority Popular Support: Long game of garnering the public's support for your cause. It feels like nothing is happening, but depends on grassroots engagement to challenge the status quo.
Success: when the long process of building opposition reaches a new plateau + the new social consensus turns the tide of power against the powerholders, an endgame process leads to the movement's success. This process can take three forms: dramatic showdown, quiet showdown, or attrition.
Continuing the Struggle: Celebrate success, Follow up (local, national, etc.), Work on other demands, New social consciousness issues, Beyond reform to social change. Alternative systems not just opposing the ones that exist.

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

22: what success looks like

Sun, 08 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we're going through steps 6 - 7 of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that the public is unaware (or feels defeated in face) of the violations of the general public's rights/values/interests.
Prove the failure of Institutions - A prolonged period of increasing stress on the system. The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs + values.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVERYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.
Identity Crisis of Powerless: (The movement is meant to move on to stage 6, but many activists move into this stage, instead.) Many activists lose sight of the long game + quit.
Majority Popular Support: Long game of garnering the public's support for your cause. It feels like nothing is happening, but depends on grassroots engagement to challenge the status quo.
Success: when the long process of building opposition reaches a new plateau + the new social consensus turns the tide of power against the powerholders, an endgame process leads to the movement's success. This process can take three forms: dramatic showdown, quiet showdown, or attrition.
Continuing the Struggle: Celebrate success, Follow up (local, national, etc.), Work on other demands, New social consciousness issues, Beyond reform to social change. Alternative systems not just opposing the ones that exist.

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

21: overcoming disempowerment

Sat, 07 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Rather than feeling depressed and powerless, activists now need to recognize the power and success of themselves and their movement." - Bill Moyer

Today we're going through steps 5 - 6 of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that the public is unaware (or feels defeated in face) of the violations of the general public's rights/values/interests.
Prove the failure of Institutions - A prolonged period of increasing stress on the system. The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs + values.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVERYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.
Identity Crisis of Powerless: (The movement is meant to move on to stage 6, but many activists move into this stage, instead.) Many activists lose sight of the long game + quit.
Majority Popular Support: Long game of garnering the public's support for your cause. It feels like nothing is happening, but depends on grassroots engagement to challenge the status quo.
Success: when the long process of building opposition reaches a new plateau + the new social consensus turns the tide of power against the powerholders, an endgame process leads to the movement's success. This process can take three forms: dramatic showdown, quiet showdown, or attrition.
Continuing the Struggle: Celebrate success, Follow up (local, national, etc.), Work on other demands, New social consciousness issues, Beyond reform to social change. Alternative systems not just opposing the ones that exist.

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

Donate:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

20: remember, you're not powerless.

Fri, 06 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we're going through steps 4 - 5 of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

In stage 5, large swaths of activists quit because they feel powerless, despair, and generally like they've failed.

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that the public is unaware (or feels defeated in face) of the violations of the general public's rights/values/interests. Power-holders lie about their intentions and the most of the public buys into the status quo.
Prove the failure of Institutions - A prolonged period of building up the stress on the system. The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements to occur can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs and values.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVERYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.
Identity Crisis of Powerless: (The movement is meant to move on to stage 8, but many activists move into this stage, instead.)
Majority Popular Support
Success
Continuing the Struggle

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

19: the identity crisis of powerlessness

Thu, 05 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"The crisis of identity + powerless is a personal crisis for activists. After the experience of a movement in take-off stage, their view of the world and themselves is transformed. They come to realize that the problem is more serious than they had thought, the governmental institutions, powerbrokers, and democratic processes which they thought would help solve social problems were actually part of the problem, and that the problem can only be resolved if they are part of the solution. Rather than feeling depressed and powerless, activists now need to recognize the power and success of themselves and their movement." - Bill Moyer

Today we're going through steps 3-4 of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that the public is unaware (or feels defeated in face) of the violations of the general public's rights/values/interests. Power-holders lie about their intentions and the most of the public buys into the status quo.
Prove the failure of Institutions - A prolonged period of building up the stress on the system. The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements to occur can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs and values.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVERYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.
Identity Crisis of Powerless: (The movement is meant to move on to stage 8, but many activists move into this stage, instead.)
Majority Popular Support
Success
Continuing the Struggle

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

18: when a movement takes off

Wed, 04 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we're going through steps 3-4 of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that people are unaware or feel defeated in face of the violations of the general public's rights. Power-holders lie about their intentions and the most of the public buys into the status quo.
Prove the failure of Institutions - Build up stress on the system - The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements to occur can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs and values.
Ripening Conditions - The calm before the storm. Nobody feels like anything is happening.
The Take Off - Seemingly overnight, a social problem becomes something EVERYONE is talking about, based on a trigger event AND a non-violent action campaign, that can be repeated on a local level throughout the country.

THE SOURCE: Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

17: admit things aren't normal

Tue, 03 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we're going through steps 1 - 3 of Bill Moyer's 1987 Movement Action Plan (A Framework for Effective Social Movements).

Normal Times - "Business as usual" - Politically quiet times that people are unaware or feel defeated in face of the violations of the general public's rights. Power-holders lie about their intentions and the most of the public buys into the status quo.
Prove the failure of Institutions - Build up stress on the system - The intensity of public feeling, opinion, and upset required for social movements to occur can happen only when the public realizes that the governmental policies violate widely held beliefs and values.

THE SOURCE:

Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

16: WIN PUBLIC SENTIMENT

Mon, 02 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We are in a war for the hearts, minds, and support of the general public. The power holders are violating our values, so we have to raise consciousness around these violations.

The movement's strategy needs to accomplish the following:

Publicly show that the social conditions and powerholder policies violate values, traditions, and self-interests of the general public. This includes publicly revealing the difference between official and operative policies and doctrines.
Keep the issue and moral violations in the public spotlight and on society' agenda of hotly contested issues.
Keep the issue and powerholders' policies on society's political agenda, such as having aid to the contras voted on in Congress rather than carried out secretly by the CIA.
Counter the powerholders' social myths, justifications, anddenials that the problem exists.
Counter the powerholders' demonology. For example, the thousands of American "citizen diplomats" who visit Russia counter the Reagan demonology that the Soviets are monsters and an "evil empire" by revealing that the Russians are people like us.
Involve increasingly larger portions of the public in programs that challenge the powerholders' policies and promote alternative visions and programs.
Don't compromise too much too soon.
After a large majority of public opinion is won, have an "endgame" strategy that mobilizes the populace and institutions to create change, despite the determined opposition of the central powerholders.
Finally the movement's organizations and leadership, especially at the national and regional levels, should serve, nurture, and empower the grassroots activists and promote participatory democracy within the movement.

THE SOURCE:

Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

15 : SHIFT POWER (hearts, mind, and public support)

Sun, 01 Jun 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The process of achieving social change through social movements is the struggle between the movement and powerholders of the hearts, minds, and support (or acquiescence) of the general public. The powerholders advocate policies that are to the advantage of society's elites, but often to the disadvantage of the majority population and in violation of its strongly held values. Before movements begin, however, the populace is usually unaware of the problem and the violation of their values, but they would be very upset and easily spurred to action if they knew. - Bill Moyer

THE SOURCES:

Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

14: UNDERSTAND SOCIAL MOVEMENTS

Sat, 31 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"There needs to be a revival of democracy through "people power".The increasingly centralized power of the state and other social institutions, combined with the new use of the mass media to carry out the political process, has all but eliminated effective citizen participation in the decision-making process. Centralized power-holders now make decisions in the interests of a small minority, while simultaneously undermining the common good and aggravating critical social problems." - Bill Moyer

THE SOURCES:

Bill Moyer's (MAP): https://www.historyisaweapon.com/defcon1/moyermap.html

Nuclear Power Info: https://world-nuclear.org/information-library/country-profiles/others/nuclear-power-in-taiwan

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 13 : BUILD BETTER OPTIONS

Fri, 30 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Authoritarianism thrives when people are isolated and dependent — when food, energy, housing and safety are controlled by a handful of elites. But when communities feed each other, house each other, teach each other and protect each other — they are less dependent on dominant systems, which allows them to mount a more effective resistance. Such communities, then, don’t just survive. They become ungovernable by any unjust governing body, regardless of who is in power.

Not every system can be fixed. But every broken system is an opportunity to build something better. Because once you build it yourself — you never have to ask permission again." - Barbara Peterson

The Sources:

Barbara Peterson's Article: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2025/05/building-alternatives-key-counter-authoritarianism/

See if local actions are happening near you: https://www.mobilize.us/

Indivisible is doing some cool work + has great action items: https://indivisible.org/coup

https://indivisible.org/resources

We should be calling our representatives (+ reminding them they work for us): https://5calls.org/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 12 : stay engaged without getting overwhelmed

Thu, 29 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"You don’t need to tackle the entire regime to weaken its foundation. You need leverage points — clear, concrete places to act."

I wanted to read the whole article I referenced yesterday, because it was really good.

When we do a "force field analysis" it makes it easier to know what's worth our attention.

The Sources:

Daniel Hunter's Article: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2025/05/dont-let-the-news-overwhelm-you-use-this-tool-to-stay-engaged/

Useful Trainings in a Trump Era: https://choosedemocracy.us/trainings-in-a-trump-era/

See if local actions are happening near you: https://www.mobilize.us/

Indivisible is doing some cool work + has great action items: https://indivisible.org/coup

https://indivisible.org/resources

We should be calling our representatives (+ reminding them they work for us): https://5calls.org/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 11 : MICROREVOLUTIONS

Wed, 28 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Most of us don't have the time, energy, or bandwidth to do anything extra right now, but I hope these guides can be a reminder that there are lots of different ways to engage on a practical level, on any scale.

As long as you're alive, you're engaging and that's truly enough. BUT, if you have been feeling the same kind of "listless" that I have, ideally one of these tactics can motivate you (and me) to engage more enthusiastically because there are people are already out there doing the thing, and once you start to create WITH them, you'll start to feel less listless (and less defeated).

There are limitless opportunities + countless ways to engage. Find one. Start small, but start somewhere.

Do a "force field analysis" and act with intention, so you can feel more courageous when it comes to larger actions.

Practice microrevolutions in your day to day life, and remember: We are not cooked, chat.

The Sources:

Daniel Hunter's Article: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2025/05/dont-let-the-news-overwhelm-you-use-this-tool-to-stay-engaged/

Useful Trainings in a Trump Era: https://choosedemocracy.us/trainings-in-a-trump-era/

See if local actions are happening near you: https://www.mobilize.us/

Indivisible is doing some cool work + has great action items: https://indivisible.org/coup

https://indivisible.org/resources

We should be calling our representatives (+ reminding them they work for us): https://5calls.org/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 10 : TAKE ONE TINY ACTION

Tue, 27 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

There are limitless opportunities + countless ways to engage. Find one. Start small, but start somewhere.

The Main Source: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Other Sources:

Useful Trainings in a Trump Era: https://choosedemocracy.us/trainings-in-a-trump-era/

See if local actions are happening near you: https://www.mobilize.us/

Indivisible is doing some cool work + has great action items: https://indivisible.org/coup

https://indivisible.org/resources

We should be calling our representatives (+ reminding them they work for us): https://5calls.org/

Billionaire resistance: https://www.teslatakedown.com/ AND https://www.change.org/p/dear-t-mobile-ditch-the-starlink-partnership

For Security Forces: https://www.nonviolent-conflict.org/blog_post/for-members-of-security-forces-a-guide-to-supporting-pro-democracy-movements/

Deep Canvass https://deepcanvass.org/

Tax Resistance: https://actionnetwork.org/forms/we-will-not-give-money-to-a-king/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 9: GROUP ACTION PLAN

Mon, 26 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Action Plan for affinity groups:

Choose an action
Make a plan
Support each other
Make decision on actions
Debrief + evaluate

Affinity Group guide: https://www.seedsforchange.org.uk/affinitygroups

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Counseling for Social Change: https://www.counsellingforsocialchange.org.uk/activists/

Activist Trauma Resources: https://www.activist-trauma.net/

How to get a quick consensus: https://www.seedsforchange.org.uk/quickconsensus

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 8: START AN AFFINITY GROUP

Sun, 25 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

An affinity group is a small group of people who come together to prepare for and take direct action. They make decisions together, and support each other during and after action. Sometimes these groups are formed just for one action, but often they are ongoing groups that organise and take part in actions over a number of years.

Affinity groups are often organised along the principles of non-hierarchy and autonomy. This means that decisions are made directly within the group by all its members, and responsibility and power is shared so that everyone has an equal voice.

Affinity group guide: https://www.seedsforchange.org.uk/affinitygroups

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Daniel Hunter's Analysis on Staying Grounded: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/?utm_source=Climate+Advocacy+Lab+Members&utm_campaign=8cf646d623-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2025_01_22_04_22&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_-8cf646d623-547145900

Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews

Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 8: START AN AFFINITY GROUP || patreon

Sun, 25 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Affinity group guide: https://www.seedsforchange.org.uk/affinitygroups

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews

Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 7: MAKE POLITICAL VIOLENCE BACKFIRE

Sat, 24 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The HOPE-PV guide offers us some tactics in safely + effectively pushing back against perpetrators of political violence.

Combat the cover-up with the Reveal – Expose the injustice.
Combat devaluation + Redeem – Validate the target.
Combat reinterpretation + Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.
Combat official channels + Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.
Combat intimidation or rewards + Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

RESOURCES:

The Free HOPE-PV Guide to ending Political Violence: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/guide

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews

Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 6: COMBAT POLITICAL VIOLENCE

Fri, 23 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we're talking about how to combat the common tactics that perpetrators of political violence rely on from the HOPE guide (linked below):

Combat the cover-up with the Reveal – Expose the injustice.
Combat devaluation + Redeem – Validate the target.
Combat reinterpretation + Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.
Combat official channels + Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.
Combat intimidation or rewards + Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

RESOURCES:

The Free HOPE-PV Guide to ending Political Violence: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/guide

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews

Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 5: UNDERSTAND POLITICAL VIOLENCE

Thu, 22 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The ideal of democracy is that it can contain ALL of our diversity and differences and channel into safe, institutionally protected representation without the use of threat and violence. Democracy depends on societal trust, free + fair elections, widespread participation, free + fair media, due process, etc. Democracy can be undermined by people using threat/violence so we must make the cost of political violence too high to enact. We must take offensive and defensive strategies when addressing political violence. Tomorrow, I'll share some of those historically effective strategies.

RESOURCES:

The Free HOPE-PV Guide to ending Political Violence: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/guide

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews

Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 4: REFRAME POWER

Wed, 21 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Thinking of power as an upside-down triangle is a great way to remember where power lies. Everyday individuals hold the structures of power up with their daily labor within the system. This is why mass noncooperation movements are so successful in toppling powerful dictatorships. We have to take back our power by demanding the system work for US, rather than us for it. Handling fear isn't about suppression, it's about redirection. Fear can paralyze you into submission, or fuel your demands for justice.

RESOURCES:

What can I do? Choose Democracy Resource: https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Democracy is a verb: Interview series: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/07/democracy-is-a-verb/#interviews

Wisdom from the Fight for Democracy in Serbia. https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/05/overcoming-despair-apathy-win-democracy-otpor-serbia-ivan-marovic/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 3: PICK A LANE

Tue, 20 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Things are chaotic (by design) so after we start to rebuild internal trust + social trust, we can start to address our own needs, and eventually our community's. Develop boundaries, coping skills, resilience strategies. Grieve, learn to accept reality + then address what is within your control. From there, you can pick a lane.

When we try to do too much, we get overwhelmed and don't accomplish half the stuff we could accomplish if we had just picked ONE thing to work on at a time.

HOW TO RESIST THE COUP?

Build Internal Trust
Build Social Trust
Grieve, Accept, Build Resilience
Identify your locus of control
Pick a lane:

a. Protect People

b. Defend Civic Institutions

c. Disrupt + Disobey

d. Build Alternatives

The sources:

What can I do to resist the coup? https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Grounding yourself in a chaotic time: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/?utm_source=Climate+Advocacy+Lab+Members&utm_campaign=8cf646d623-EMAIL_CAMPAIGN_2025_01_22_04_22&utm_medium=email&utm_term=0_-8cf646d623-547145900

CIVIL DISOBEDIENCE BOOK: https://www.ericachenoweth.com/research/wcrw

COMMUNITY PRACTICE: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1sdKeqajKC5X7tyhowqRTYgMRHelIwo9T5cTzCT0i1b8/edit?tab=t.0

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 2: ASSESS YOUR CONTROL

Mon, 19 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

When we try to do too much, we get overwhelmed and don't accomplish half the stuff we could accomplish if we had just picked ONE thing to work on at a time.

HOW TO RESIST THE COUP?

Build Internal Trust
Build Social Trust
Grieve, Accept, Build Resilience
Identify your locus of control
Pick a lane

The sources:

What can I do to resist the coup? https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

what can we do? || 1: REBUILD TRUST

Sun, 18 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Over the next few days we're gonna do a deep dive on the various ways, we as individuals, can actually resist this coup. Remember, it's easier to resist tyranny today, than it will be in a month. Today, we're starting with the internal work of learning to trust ourselves (and each other) with intention. Our distrust is manufactured, it's time to push back against that belief.

We've got more in common than we're led to believe.

"Authoritarian power is derived from fear of repression, isolation from each other and exhaustion at the utter chaos. We’re already feeling it. Thus, for us to be of any use in a [chaotic] world, we have to pay grave attention to our inner states, so we don’t perpetuate the autocrat’s goals of fear, isolation, exhaustion or constant disorientation." - Daniel Hunter

The sources:

What can I do to resist the coup? https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1450 || promotion vs prevention mindset

Sat, 17 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Those with “promotion-focused” mindset (i.e., those who tend to focus on achieving their goals and aspirations) are more resistant to conspiracy theories than those with a “prevention-focused” mindset (i.e., those who focus on protecting what they already have)" - Harvard Business Review: https://hbr.org/2020/07/how-to-inoculate-your-team-against-conspiracy-theories

OTHER SOURCES:

Scientific American article: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-can-you-fight-conspiracy-theories/

The research: https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/0146167218775070

Information overload resource: https://www.lifehack.org/922480/information-overload

The Mayo Clinic on Cognitive overload: https://www.mayoclinichealthsystem.org/hometown-health/speaking-of-health/cognitive-overload

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1449 || how to resist demoralization

Fri, 16 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Resisting subversion means we need to stop playing defense with our consumption habits and start playing offense. Get aggressive with deciding who and what you offer your attention.

Identify content as Adversarial or Productive:

Adversarial leaves you feeling defeated, or angry, or upset, or hateful, or more disconnected, or trying to sell you something. Attempting to elicit a negative emotional response.

Productive has an action item or leaves you with a sense of hope + direction + purpose + support for your tool belt. If it’s selling you something, they aren’t using predatory tactics. Useful, valuable, informative, accurate, and makes you feel more connected with humanity &/or community.

RESOURCE: https://www.theframelab.org/putin-failed-to-conquer-navalny-or/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1448 || why "facts" don't seem to matter anymore

Thu, 15 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Most of {demoralization} is done by Americans to Americans, due to a lack of moral standards. Exposure to true information doesn't matter anymore. One who is demoralized is unable to assess true information. The facts tell nothing. Even if I shower him with information, with authentic proof, even if I take him by force... and show him a concentration camp, he will refuse to believe it - until the military boot crushes his balls, then he will understand - but not before that.

The next stage is destabilization... economy, foreign relations, and defense systems. The next stage is crisis. And after crisis, with a violent change of power, structure, + economy, you have the so-called period of normalization. It may last indefinitely.

This is what will happen in the United States if you allow all these schmucks to bring the country to crisis, to promise people all kinds of goodies and the paradise on Earth, to destabilize your economy, to eliminate the principle of free market competition, and to put a Big Brother government in Washington, D.C., with benevolent dictators... who will promise lots of things. Never mind whether the promises unfulfillable or not... He will create false illusions that the situation is under control. The situation is not under control. The United States is in the state of war.

Whether I scare some people are not, I don’t give a hoot. If you are not scared by now, nothing can scare you. But you don’t have to be paranoid about it. You have to force your government to stop."

THE SOURCES: Watch the interview: https://bigthink.com/the-present/yuri-bezmenov/

Read about Bezmenov: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yuri_Bezmenov

Research source: https://www.historians.org/sixteen-months/the-causes-of-our-national-demoralization/

Research source: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/russian-misinformation-seeks-to-confound-not-convince/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1447 || dissecting an interview with a KGB defector.

Wed, 14 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"This is the greatest paradox in the history of mankind when the capitalist world supports and actively nourishes its own destructor." - Yuri Bezmenov

THE SOURCES:

Watch the interview: https://bigthink.com/the-present/yuri-bezmenov/

Read about Bezmenov: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Yuri_Bezmenov

Research source: https://www.historians.org/sixteen-months/the-causes-of-our-national-demoralization/

Research source: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/russian-misinformation-seeks-to-confound-not-convince/

Research source: https://www.beyondintractability.org/newsletter-245

The Yuri Bezmenov interview transcript: https://math-physics-problems.fandom.com/wiki/Ideological_Subversion_Interview#A_Transcription_of_the_1984_Interview_Between_G._Edward_Griffin_and_Yuri_Bezmenov

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

avoiding happiness (a re-release)

Tue, 13 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

This is a re-release of an older episode because I found out my resource for the planned episode was bogus and I have to rewrite around a more reputable idea. I'll be back tomorrow to wrap up the disinformation series!

- Julie

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1446 || our biggest study about misinformation

Mon, 12 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Interacting with misinformation only is nearly unavoidable at this point, but spreading it further can be reduced if we're conscious of how it works.

THE SOURCE: https://www.theatlantic.com/technology/archive/2018/03/largest-study-ever-fake-news-mit-twitter/555104/

THE COURSE: https://courses.sogicampaigns.org/disinformation/

PAYWALL BYPASS: https://12ft.io/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1445 || disinformation vs. misinformation

Sun, 11 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The difference is in the intention, but the intention may surprise you.

SOURCES:

https://commonslibrary.org/disinformation-in-the-digital-age/

https://commonslibrary.org/disinformation-and-7-common-forms-of-information-disorder/?gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw5PK_BhBBEiwAL7GTPWE2DOUrW3xeY1ZONqvuHRGIJKJfrWaQrhZYLgA8cf3uJUxPmxjTyhoCC_8QAvD_BwE

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1444 || art vs. entertainment

Sat, 10 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The goal is to “consume consciously” more often than you’re letting shit "consume you, unconsciously”.

James Baldwin puts it like this: “The industry is compelled, given the way it is built, to present to the American people a self-perpetuating fantasy of American life. Their concept of entertainment is difficult to distinguish from the use of narcotics. To watch the TV screen for any length of time is to learn some really frightening things about the American sense of reality. We are cruelly trapped between what we would like to be and what we actually are. And we cannot possibly become what we would like to be until we are willing to ask ourselves just why the lives we lead on this continent are mainly so empty, so tame, and so ugly. These images are designed not to trouble, but to reassure. They also weaken our ability to deal with the world as it is, ourselves as we are.”

Josh Johnson: “Art can save your life but entertainment will never be your salvation. Entertainment by and large is escapism and no one has ever escaped their chains by forgetting they were shackled.”

Watch Josh Johnson's special: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TgKsG6NZSIo

Read James Baldwin's words: https://www.esquire.com/news-politics/a23960/james-baldwin-cool-it/ (If there's a paywall, you can go to a paywall bypass site to avoid subscription fees!!!)

IF YOU CAN:

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1443 || trad wife movement alternatives

Fri, 09 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We all have limited time and if shit doesn’t make us feel empowered or better or less nihilistic, then we have to remember we’ve ultimately got the power to change that.

You’re allowed to and supposed to watch entertainment for joy and motivation and pleasure and curiosity and even to be petty as long as you don’t forget that the entertainment is affecting you in more than one way so in my experience being aware of the presence of a pipeline towards alt right extremism is a very crucial step in not sliding down it or unknowingly promoting it.

Alternative influencers who "homestead" but aren't afraid to talk about the elephant in the room:

Alexis Nicole (Forager + Educational + So charming): https://www.instagram.com/blackforager/?hl=en

Science Based Homestead farmer: https://www.tiktok.com/@thezenhenandthehoneybee?_t=ZP-8wBf6CAjQ47&_r=1

Chaotic Forager: https://www.tiktok.com/@chaoticforager?_t=ZP-8wBeyyPNULv&_r=1

Homestead + Farmer: https://www.tiktok.com/@offgridhomesteadfam?_t=ZP-8wBeyOPObJX&_r=1

TODAY'S MAIN SOURCES:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwife#:~:text=A%20tradwife%20(a%20neologism%20for,of%20being%20a%20traditional%20wife.

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/what-is-a-tradwife

IF YOU CAN:

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1442 || the hidden meaning of the trad wife movement

Thu, 08 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The title buries the lede, because there is no upside, but there are ways to avoid falling victim to the trap of consuming with no idea of the impact.

It's good practice to assume that everything you're consuming online or on TV is marketing, either of a person, an ideology, or a product, which wouldn't be a big deal if it was honest with us.

The lie leads to shame and homogeny and an overall feeling of "insufficiency".

At the very best, it steals your time. At it's worst - it steals more.

Don't let it.

MAIN SOURCES:

https://www.mediamatters.org/tiktok/study-tradwife-influencers-are-quietly-spreading-far-right-conspiracy-theories

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8022555/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tradwife#:~:text=A%20tradwife%20(a%20neologism%20for,of%20being%20a%20traditional%20wife.

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/what-is-a-tradwife

IF YOU CAN:

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1441 || revealing the scam of trad wife movement

Wed, 07 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

These influencers make careers out of convincing you to give yours up.

It seems pretty obvious that it’s supposed to benefit men but in reality it benefits nobody - people that don’t fall sharply into a gender binary suffer, women suffer, and unfortunately even men suffer under this system.

The whole thing contradicts itself. It’s snake oil. Toxic fumes to huff so you’re too high to notice them abusing your free labor and support.

Pretends to be empowering, when it's the opposite.

Pretends to make you more secure, when it's the opposite.

Pretends to be aesthetic and peaceful, when it's the opposite.

These influencers make careers out of convincing you to quit yours.

It's a grift. Don't fall for it.

Glamorizing hard work without acknowledging the true difficulty and depths of demands of it is DANGEROUS.

SOURCES:

https://www.mediamatters.org/tiktok/study-tradwife-influencers-are-quietly-spreading-far-right-conspiracy-theories

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC8022555/

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/what-is-a-tradwife

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1440 || the trad wife scam

Tue, 06 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I think the skeeziest lie about the trad wife movement is that it’s just a type of stay at home mom. Unlike stay-at-home moms, who may choose to stay home for practical reasons, like saving money on child care or because they genuinely want to, trad wives adhere to incredibly strict traditional gender roles - regardless of what the woman actually wants. A woman's identity becomes "the family" and looking "good" for the family, anything outside of that is to be shamed explicitly.

According to wikipedia: Tradwives have been linked to the alt-right movement.

Patriarchy need the gender binary so they can claim that things fit neatly into it. If I say men and women exist and there’s no spectrum of how that presents, despite there being no proof - I also get to say that some work is women’s work and I won’t ever have to do it.

Washing the dishes is a life skill that anyone who has eaten off of a dish should master. Laundry is a life skill. Cooking is a life skill. Child rearing is a life skill. Hygiene is a life skill. Communication is a life skill. If you have a life, it will benefit from knowing how to do these skills.

Forced binaries are an attempt to control the uncontrollable. To justify rules where rules shouldn’t exist.

Organically + intentionally falling into "traditional gender roles" is wonderful, but gender roles shouldn't exist in the first place, so we absolutely need to avoid forcing people into them.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1439 || manufactured insecurities +. face filters

Mon, 05 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

It's not the filters, or the photoshops, or the ads - it's a combination of all of it. It's keeping us so insecure that we don't do anything but focus on how we look.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1438 || "reality" tv isn't real + why that matters

Sun, 04 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Bachelor Contestants have spoken out about how dates, meltdowns, and interactions were directed by producers. Pawn Stars admits to rehearsing and choosing their interactions. House Hunters pretends to have them choose between three houses, but their house was already purchased. The other two were just for the show. Survivor contestants admit to getting help and storylines from off camera. Storage Wars producers place valuable items in the lockers to make it seem more exciting and profitable. Property Brothers is fake. Catfish is fake. Love Island is fake.

And like - fine. It’s all fake. We can argue that because we all know, or because it is sometimes very obvious, that it doesn’t matter. But it does because it shifts our idea of normal and acceptable. It makes us feel like everyone behaves like a character. It convinces us that we're not normal if we're not always camera ready.

But because it’s normal to sell us things plan your vacation around instagram, or stage your house because you want to look cool on a tiktok, or have a face filter every time you post, It’s not just becoming harder to tell what’s fake, there’s simply very little left that isn’t.

Ray Richmond quotes about reality TV: https://www.today.com/popculture/just-how-real-are-reality-tv-shows-2D80554998

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1437 || reclaiming agency through dancing

Sat, 03 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I think everything these days wants to steal our attention. And if it’s been a while since we checked in with that and how comfortable we are giving up all of life‘s best moments for bullshit that (if we could remember) would not matter at all.

So it’s nice to reclaim a bit of it for ourselves. In whatever ways we can manage. If that’s carving out a few minutes a day to dance? I think that’s a beautiful way to start.

SOURCES:

The Dance vs. Depression Study: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10813489/

Another study: https://www.bmj.com/content/384/bmj-2023-075847

Articles on the topic:

INDEPENDENT: https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/dance-best-exercise-depression-b2501113.html

RELIEF MENTAL HEALTH: https://reliefmh.com/blog/dance-therapy-depression-anxiety/

DANCE MAG: https://dancemagazine.com/dancing-with-depression/#gsc.tab=0

HARVARD: https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/dancing-

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1436 || dance as an anti-depressant

Fri, 02 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Dance has been outperforming SSRI's, anti-depressants, and all other forms of exercise in combatting depression symptoms in multiple studies.

It makes sense to me that the combination of mental + physical coordination, the way it grounds you + forces you to be present, and the social aspect would have a profound effect on our health but it makes you wonder what other cultural practices and wisdom we've overlooked.

SOURCES:

The Dance vs. Depression Study: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10813489/

Another study: https://www.bmj.com/content/384/bmj-2023-075847

Articles on the topic:

INDEPENDENT: https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/dance-best-exercise-depression-b2501113.html

RELIEF MENTAL HEALTH: https://reliefmh.com/blog/dance-therapy-depression-anxiety/

DANCE MAG: https://dancemagazine.com/dancing-with-depression/#gsc.tab=0

HARVARD: https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/dancing-

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1435 || the key to effective self care

Thu, 01 May 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Reminder 1. The point of self care is to care for yourself, not add unnecessary shame or heighten the stakes.

Reminder 2: You can’t optimize yourself out of experiencing all pain and discomfort.

Reminder 3: There is no one size fits all fix to any problem.

REMINDER 4: Sometimes, if we’re really lucky - we will find things that can help offer guideposts through a very tricky existence.

ACTION ITEM: read, listen, watch, and pay real close attention to the things that make you feel lucky to enough to see.

ACTION ITEM: Compile a list of those anything that helps you feel seen or heard or validated. Bonus: Share it with others who you think may feel “seen” by it, too.

KEY LESSON: What’s cool about this exploration is that, when you’re always on the lookout for your humanity in others, you’ll start to see it in everything and everyone.

Until then, just let yourself enjoy the process of exploration.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1434 || the problem with self care

Wed, 30 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

THE PROBLEM WITH SELF CARE + HOW TO DEAL WITH IT

PROBLEM 1: NO SIMPLE DEFINITION

But because being a human includes incredibly diverse experiences, and inherently dealing with messy and complicated things, we can safely assume that caring for yourself is bound to be a little messy and complicated, too.

PROBLEM 2: CAPITALISM:

People are constantly trying to bottle and sell you something that isn’t bottlable or sellable, so it will take some discretion and emotional literacy in being able to decipher what self care is actually worth a damn.

PROBLEM 3: People treat self care like a goal, rather than a practice.

Self care is not optional, but it is a practice you can improve upon. The challenge is, effective self care is an ongoing, ever changing practice of discovery and self soothing and accountability and challenge. The main problem I have with “self care” is there’s no simple or universal definition for it.

KEY LESSON: The key to effective self care is KNOWING WHAT YOU REALLY NEED (underlying wants, impulses, and emotions) AND UNDERSTANDING THE BEST WAY TO GIVE THOSE UNDERLYING NEEDS ATTENTION.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1433 || repost - passionate for food

Tue, 29 Apr 2025 14:55:05 GMT

Hey friend!

I had a technical difficulty today + the episode I planned didn't upload properly but I have fixed it (I think) and it will be uploaded tomorrow, as normal.

Hope you enjoy this repost of my passion for food in the meantime.

I AM SORRY + I LOVE YOU.

-- Julie

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1432 || the final "rules of thumb" for a good life

Mon, 28 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Some rules of thumb we review today include:

"Is there a better use of my time?"

"Stress vs. Reward Analysis"

"It's okay to not finish a book you were reading for pleasure."

"The braggers razor: the more someone brags, the less you should believe them."

"Writing knife block: If struggling to understand something, write it down."

"Opinions are earned, not owed."

"Under-promise, and over-deliver."

Rules of thumb should be applied in context. No rule should be applied universally! They're there to make life more rewarding and easier, so use them as a tool to help reduce over-analyzing things to death.

THE SOURCES:

https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-most-powerful-decision-making-razors

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-to-do-life/201911/24-rules-of-thumb-for-a-better-life

https://thetotalliving.medium.com/the-astonishing-power-of-simple-rules-of-thumb-593c03e35aab

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1431 || some good "rules of thumb"

Sun, 27 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Feynman Razor: If you can't explain it to a 5 year old, you don't really understand it.

The Luck Razor: Much of what we call "luck" is the macro result of thousands of micro actions.

The Arena Razor: When faced with two paths, choose the path that puts you in the arena. Once you're in the arena, never take advice from people on the sidelines.

The Optimist Razor: When choosing who to spend time with, prioritize spending more time with optimists.

Taleb's "look the part" test: If forced to choose between two options of seemingly equal merit, choose the one that doesn’t look the part.

The Gratitude Razor: The more you show gratitude, the more you see things to be grateful to.

Invested vs. Spent test: Time is either invested or spent.

The Rooms Razor: Choose the room where you aren't the smartest in it.

The New Project Razor: Are you excited? Would you still do it if it was twice as long and half as successful?

Uphill Decision Razor: Easy now, hard later OR hard now, easy later.

Listen Mode: Listen more than you speak to people you disagree with.

Lion Razor: Sprint + Rest, rather than expecting consistent work mode 8 hours a day.

Young + Old Test: Make choices your 80 year old + 10 year old self would be proud of.

Duck Test: If it looks like a duck, swims like a duck, and quacks like a duck, it’s probably a duck. Just make sure you're judging true habitual characteristics + not context based outliers.

THE SOURCE:

https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-most-powerful-decision-making-razors

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1430 || philosophical shortcuts

Sat, 26 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Alder's Razor: If something cannot be settled by experiment or observation, then it is not worthy of debate.

Sagan Standard: Positive claims require positive evidence, extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence.

Grice's Razor: Conversational implications are to be preferred over semantic context for linguistic explanations.

Chekhov's Gun: If it appeared in foreshadowing, it will likely be used in the future.

Epileptic Trees: The wild, off-the-wall theories that happen when you are looking for Chekov's gun.

THE SOURCES:

https://www.sahilbloom.com/newsletter/the-most-powerful-decision-making-razors

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_razor

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/ChekhovsGun

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/EpilepticTrees

https://tvtropes.org/pmwiki/pmwiki.php/Main/WildMassGuessing

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chekhov%27s_gun#:~:text=Chekhov's%20gun%20(or%20Chekhov's%20rifle,fired%20at%20some%20later%20point.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1429 || philosophical razors

Fri, 25 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Occam's Razor: The simplest answer is often the answer.

Hanlon's Razor: Never attribute to malice that which can be adequately explained by stupidity.

Hitchen's Razor: I must provide evidence for my claim, rather than demand you provide evidence against it.

and Hume's Guillotine: You can't derive a moral imperative from a factual description of nature.

THE SOURCES:

The Philosophical Razors: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Philosophical_razor

Hitchen's Razor: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hitchens%27s_razor

Hanlon's Razor: https://thedecisionlab.com/reference-guide/philosophy/hanlons-razor

Hanlon's Razor Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hanlon%27s_razor

Hume's Guillotine Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Is%E2%80%93ought_problem

Reddit "Humes Guillotine" https://www.reddit.com/r/explainlikeimfive/comments/r1v09x/eli5_humes_guillotine/

Reddit "is-ought" problem: https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-is-ought-problem-in-simple-understandable-terms

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1428 || Silver Springs (The Fleetwood Finale)

Thu, 24 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Here's the final part to the Fleetwood Mac deep dive.

Watch the Silver Springs Video: 1997 "The Dance" vs. 2003's Boston Show https://www.tiktok.com/@m0dser/video/7437140094764469536:

Official 1997 Silver Springs Full Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eDwi-8n054s

THE SOURCES:

Fleetwood Mac Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleetwood_Mac

1997 Interview for Rolling Stone https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/fleetwood-mac-back-on-the-chain-gang-243176/5/

Lindsay + Stevie's Relationship Timeline: https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/music/story/2021-09-10/stevie-nicks-lindsey-buckingham-relationship-timeline

Reddit timeline breakdown by an amazing user: https://www.reddit.com/r/FleetwoodMac/comments/12yd1ab/that_silver_springs_the_moment_stevie_nicks_knew/

Various Stevie Nicks Quotes: http://www.inherownwords.com/lindsey.htm

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1427 || stevie nicks + lindsay buckingham lore

Wed, 23 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The Stevie Nicks + Lindsay Buckingham lore runs DEEP. Here's part 3.

THE SOURCES:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleetwood_Mac

https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-news/fleetwood-mac-back-on-the-chain-gang-243176/5/

https://www.latimes.com/entertainment-arts/music/story/2021-09-10/stevie-nicks-lindsey-buckingham-relationship-timeline

http://www.inherownwords.com/lindsey.htm

https://www.tiktok.com/@michellegomez.simppp/video/7477581755222936840

https://www.reddit.com/r/FleetwoodMac/comments/12yd1ab/that_silver_springs_the_moment_stevie_nicks_knew/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1426 || A Deep Dive into Fleetwood Mac Lore (part 2)

Tue, 22 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Fleetwood Mac lore runs DEEP and today we're breaking it down from the beginning.

Part 1: Peter Green creates a band, does some bad drugs, and quits the band. The guitarist does some bad drugs, quits the band and joins a cult. The rest of the band keeps touring and putting out albums every six months because apparently there were also good drugs at the time.

Part 2: The new guy has an affair with Fleetwood's wife so the band breaks up and Fake Fleetwood Mac takes over. The OG Fleetwood Mac sues their manager for their name. They settle out of court and hire Lindsay Buckingham and Stevie Nicks and record an album titled "Fleetwood Mac" which does really well. Like, chart-topping well. They're facing increased pressure to create a follow up hit and all of their personal relationships start to fall apart. They decide to air their dirty laundry and create Rumours which does even better than their other smash hit. They got a grammy and charted for 30

Sources:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleetwood_Mac

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Green_(musician)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeremy_Spencer

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christine_McVie

https://www.elle.com/culture/music/a42977664/fleetwood-mac-timeline/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=mgu_ga_elm_md_pmx_hybd_mix_us_20071786260&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20076302534&gclid=Cj0KCQjwtpLABhC7ARIsALBOCVp66ZaJM2lsCY1Twljnoj8GemOzPt-Vec6ZdLa0yVmv2MWffDuLgNwaAozqEALw_wcB

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1425 || A Deep Dive into Fleetwood Mac Lore (part 1)

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Fleetwood Mac lore runs DEEP and today we're breaking it down from the beginning.

Sources:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fleetwood_Mac

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_Green_(musician)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jeremy_Spencer

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Christine_McVie

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1424 || "christian" grifters

Sun, 20 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

There's been an uptick in far-right/christo-fascist content on almost all of my various feeds lately. I've personally got a VERY niche "far left"/"abolitionist" social media feed, but recently this wildly problematic propaganda has been sneaking into every corner. But it's not just me.

Trump appointed a grifter to sell "prayer" that would heal your illnesses and give you wealth for the ridiculously egregious cost of $1000. This person is an official white house representative being paid very well by our hard earned tax dollars. Mark Wahlberg and Gwen Stefani are selling a subscription based prayer app. A pastor sold "God Coin" crypto scheme and rug pulled his supporters.

Spoiler alert: God's grace isn't hidden behind a paywall.

Independent Journalist to support: https://www.propublica.org/

Activist to support: Bree Newsome: https://x.com/breenewsome?lang=en

More Progressive Pastors to support: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/01/28/us/politics/black-pastors-biden-gaza-israel.html

THE SOURCES:

https://www.snopes.com/news/2025/03/31/trump-white-house-faith-advisor/

https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/gwen-stefani-teams-catholic-app-193050197.html

https://www.christianitytoday.com/2025/03/paula-white-house-faith-passover-video-supernatural-blessing-prosperity-gospel-exodus/

https://baptistnews.com/article/trumps-faith-adviser-selling-seven-easter-blessings-for-1000-gift/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1423 || 4 common stages of political evolution

Sat, 19 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The four common phases of political evolution are:

That's sad,

That's fucked up,

Fuck this shit,

How do we get free?

Original source was removed but here's a repost from another great creator: https://www.instagram.com/ijeomaoluo/p/C9VPQIZPE5z/?img_index=10

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1422 || strategies for breaking up with your phone

Fri, 18 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today I'm sharing a few techniques that can help to build a healthier relationship with me and my screens.

Putting a rubber band or hair tie around your phone is a cheap and super effective way to increase your mindfulness of your usage.

20-20-20 rule. Every 20 minutes, take a 20 second break looking at something 20 feet away.

Having an alternative available builds the muscle of doing other activities rather than scrolling every single time our hands are idle.

Turn off notifications. Delete apps you don't want to spend so much time on. Set screentime limits. Use an app to gamify your habits. Don't use your phone as an alarm clock. Put your phone on grayscale.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Mindfulness strategies, and somatic therapy may help in certain circumstances, as well.

The main resource: https://www.addictioncenter.com/behavioral-addictions/screen-addiction/

More techniques: https://nosidebar.com/phone-addiction/

And one last resource: https://www.helpguide.org/mental-health/addiction/smartphone-addiction

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1421 || is it really phone addiction or just another unhealthy relationship

Thu, 17 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Screen use is a complex phenomenon with a continuum of behaviors ranging from severe use to complete abstinence. Some forms of use are safer than others and this should be discussed with children upfront. Remember that use and unhealthy use aren’t the same as addiction." - Kevin Y Xu , Tiffany Tedrick, Jessica A Gold

Screen Use and Social Media “Addiction” in the Era of TikTok: What Generalists Should Know: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10743327/

Differences in Screen "Addiction" in the Past 15 Years: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC10815312/

Children's screen "addictions": https://www.nicklauschildrens.org/campaigns/safesound/blog/why-are-kids-so-addicted-to-screens

Addiction Center insights on screen addictions: https://www.addictioncenter.com/behavioral-addictions/screen-addiction/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1420 || addressing screen hypnosis

Wed, 16 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Lately, I’ve found myself using the internet less like a learning machine with limitless potential and more like a hypnosis machine slowly stealing my limitless potential.

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1419 || time poverty

Tue, 15 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Instead of worrying about flawlessly juggling all the balls in your life, try to figure out if any of the glass balls are replaceable, or if you have any backup to help you balance or tidy or judge which balls need to be gently set down for a while.

And if you step on some glass and feel some pain -You feeling pain isn’t a signal of failure but a reminder you’re human.

Is it possible to lower the stakes? Can you downgrade a glass ball from needing perfection to just needing completion? Can you put on a pair of shoes to protect yourself from these inevitable drops? Through boundary setting, therapists, community aid, etc.

You feeling overwhelmed is a sign you’re paying attention, which is more than most people can say. Society has a way of telling us we’re doing a bad job no matter how well we’re doing, so let’s do better at reclaiming our agency over that feeling. Arbitrary timelines aside, what really matters? Socially mandated achievements aside, what do you really want?

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1418 || hurry sickness

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

I’m the type of person who always feels like I’m running late despite the fact that I very rarely am.

The source: https://psychcentral.com/anxiety/always-in-a-rush-maybe-its-time-urgency

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1417 || resisting DARVO + how to change minds

Sun, 13 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Megan Phelp’s 4 rules for productively engaging with people who you disagree with:

Don’t assume bad intent but instead, assume good or neutral intent.
Ask questions: This signals that the person is being heard, and they also feel safer to ask questions in return.
Stay calm: "right" doesn’t justify "rude". Pause, step away, use a digital buffer for social media exchanges, and then come back.
Make the argument: don’t assume the value of your position should be obvious; it isn’t to others. If we want them to change, make the case for it.

DARVO: Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim + Offender - Aggressive avoidance of accountability

SEP: Somebody Else's Problem - Passive avoidance of accountability

Tips for talking to people you disagree with: https://ideas.ted.com/4-tips-for-talking-to-people-you-disagree-with/

DARVO wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/DARVO

SEP wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somebody_else%27s_problem

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1416 || common trolling tactics + how to deal with them

Sat, 12 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

COMMON TROLLING TACTICS:

Ad Hominem attacks, Whataboutism, Just Asking Questions, Devil's advocate, Sockpuppets, Astroturfers, Do Your Own Researchers, Strawman, Tribalism, Tone policing, Hate mongering, Concern trolling, Moving the Goalposts, Red herring, False dilemma, Circular reasoning, DARVO, Thought terminating cliches, Outrage baiting, Derailing, Dogpiling, Virtue Signaling.

HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM:

Name the tactic: ("This is a classic strawman.")
Refocus on facts: ("Here is what we’re actually discussing.")
Set boundaries: ("If you keep [tactic], I’m done.")
Disengage if needed: Don’t feed the damn trolls.

Samantha North on Internet Trolling Tactics https://samanthanorth.com/internet-trolling-tactics

Samantha North on Astroturfing: https://samanthanorth.com/astroturfing-on-social-media

Logical Fallacy List: https://opexsociety.org/body-of-knowledge/effective-arguing-beware-of-logical-red-herrings/

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1416 || common trolling tactics + how to deal with them || patreon

Sat, 12 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

COMMON TROLLING TACTICS:

HOW TO DEAL WITH THEM:

Name the tactic: ("This is a classic strawman.")
Refocus on facts: ("Here is what we’re actually discussing.")
Set boundaries: ("If you keep [tactic], I’m done.")
Disengage if needed: Don’t feed the damn trolls.

Samantha North on Internet Trolling Tactics https://samanthanorth.com/internet-trolling-tactics

Samantha North on Astroturfing: https://samanthanorth.com/astroturfing-on-social-media

Logical Fallacy List: https://opexsociety.org/body-of-knowledge/effective-arguing-beware-of-logical-red-herrings/

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1415 || troll tactics

Fri, 11 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Internet trolls have gotten out of hand, so today we're talking about the common trolling tactics and how to deal with them.

Samantha North on Internet Trolling Tactics https://samanthanorth.com/internet-trolling-tactics

Samantha North on Astroturfing: https://samanthanorth.com/astroturfing-on-social-media

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1414 || learning when to disengage

Thu, 10 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

As someone who gets flustered and frustrated during confrontations, I tend to use humor as my first line of defense, which can be a powerful tool to disarm without escalating. But when people double down, I get flustered, especially when dealing with bad-faith arguments or deeply entrenched beliefs. I am focused on learning when to escalate, confront, engage, or disengage, and it has completely changed my perspective on what makes a "successful conflict".

Not every battle needs fighting. Ask: Is this person open to dialogue, or just looking to provoke? Will bystanders benefit from your response, even if the bigot won’t? Is your energy better spent elsewhere?

If they’re just trolling, sometimes the best response is disengagement. Read the room and react accordingly.

Further Reading: https://www.beyondintractability.org/essay/escalation

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1413 || collaborating with the enemy

Wed, 09 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"There is much unneeded suffering in the world and in our institutional life, much of it caused by our desire to have our own way or to adapt to what we don’t believe in. Collaboration with the enemy is one form of the politics we have been waiting for: a reachable way for power, love, and neighborliness to reshape our collective lives." - Peter Block

Adam Kahane's book: https://reospartners.com/resource-library/collaborating-with-the-enemy

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1412 || a well designed life is based on the context

Tue, 08 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Human nature is not a machine to be built after a model, and set to do exactly the work prescribed for it, but a tree, which requires to grow and develop itself on all sides, according to the tendency of the inward forces which make it a living thing. - John Stuart Mill

The resource from Henrik Karlsson: https://www.henrikkarlsson.xyz/p/unfolding

Part 2: “Becoming perceptive”

Part 3: “Rationality is an underrated way to be authentic”

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1411 || laziness does not exist

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"If a person can’t get out of bed, something is making them exhausted. If a student isn’t writing papers, there’s some aspect of the assignment that they can’t do without help. If an employee misses deadlines constantly, something is making organization and deadline-meeting difficult. Even if a person is actively choosing to self-sabotage, there’s a reason for it — some fear they’re working through, some need not being met, a lack of self-esteem being expressed.

People do not choose to fail or disappoint. No one wants to feel incapable, apathetic, or ineffective. If you look at a person’s action (or inaction) and see only laziness, you are missing key details. There is always an explanation. There are always barriers. Just because you can’t see them, or don’t view them as legitimate, doesn’t mean they’re not there. Look harder." - Devon Price

Devon Price's Blog Post: https://humanparts.medium.com/laziness-does-not-exist-3af27e312d01

Buy the book: https://www.simonandschuster.com/books/Laziness-Does-Not-Exist/Devon-Price/9781797120591

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1410 || radical hope letters of love + dissent in dangerous times

Sat, 05 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

“It is love that pushes us to face the journey toward justice without flinching, love that impels us to keep going on the long, hard road, love that provides the moral compass and the map.” - Carolina De Robertis, Radical Hope: Letters of Love and Dissent in Dangerous Times

The Book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/557986/radical-hope-by-carolina-de-robertis/

Donate to the Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1409 || protest alternatives

Fri, 04 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

There are thousands of alternatives and accommodations for those of us who can't physically attend a protest or rally. Some are less glamorous than others, but some will feel like the right fit. It's a long haul. Don't give up on the fight, just keep moving forward. Add a little good where you can and reduce a little bad where you can, but don't be too critical on yourself (or your community) if you're unable to do it all at once, or you need to take breaks. We will need breaks. We will need self-care. We will need community care. We will need to be patient and kind to ourselves in the process.

Ways to Protest from Home by Chico Democracy: https://chicodemocracy.weebly.com/protest-from-home.html

@mochaeinstein27 thoughts on the Bake Sale: https://www.instagram.com/p/DF_TKjPP0NH/?locale=es_ES%2F

Reddit for filing a complaint with the Attorney General: https://www.reddit.com/r/50501/comments/1j5i2ag/we_the_people/

More Ethical Investing: https://www.ethic.com/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1408 || tear gas protocol

Thu, 03 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Remember, if you stay prepared, you don't have to get prepared.

If you're tear gassed:

Get out of the cloud of tear gas and away from the general area as soon as you can. Seek high ground.

Walk, don’t run. Running may cause you to breath more heavily, filling your lungs with more tear gas. Try to keep breathing even.

If your eyes have been exposed and are burning or blurry, flush them with water immediately. Try not to touch your eyes, nose, or mouth. Use water from your water bottle to flush. If you can find an open drinking fountain or sink in a public restroom, flush your eyes with water for 10 to 15 minutes.

There is no evidence that baking soda or milk is better than cool water alone. There is one small randomized controlled trial that found that baby shampoo is no better than water. Using baby wipes or makeup wipes if water is not immediately available may cause increased irritation.

If possible, and you are not affected yourself, help others by moving them to a clean and ventilated area.

Do not try to remove the tear gas canisters, as doing so may put you at an increased risk for further harm and injury.

Protest Preparedness: https://www.hrc.org/resources/tips-for-preparedness-peaceful-protesting-and-safety

Know Your Rights: https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/protesters-rights

Digital Security Checkup: https://securityinabox.org/en/

Tear Gas Protocol: https://phr.org/our-work/resources/preparing-for-protecting-against-and-treating-tear-gas-and-other-chemical-irritant-exposure-a-protesters-guide/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1407 || protest preparedness

Wed, 02 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Before the Protest:

Burner Phone: Ditch smartphones (or remove batteries, use Faraday bags). Use encrypted apps (Signal, but assume it’s compromised).
Buddy System: Assign check-in times with someone not at the protest. Share arrest plans (e.g., lawyer’s contact).
Write Emergency Contacts on Skin: In Sharpie, under clothing. Cops tend to confiscate bags/phones.

During the Protest:

Masks & No Distinctive Clothing: Cover tattoos, wear generic attire.
Hands Visible, No Sudden Moves: Assume any interaction with police could escalate.
Locate Medics: Find them early. Know basic first aid for tear gas (cool, clean water works best).

If Arrested:

Say ONLY: “I want a lawyer.” Never talk to cops.
Expect Isolation: Authorities aren't the good guys, designate an external person to sound alarms if you're arrested.

Protest Preparedness: https://www.hrc.org/resources/tips-for-preparedness-peaceful-protesting-and-safety

Know Your Rights: https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/protesters-rights

Digital Security Checkup: https://securityinabox.org/en/

Tear Gas Protocol: https://phr.org/our-work/resources/preparing-for-protecting-against-and-treating-tear-gas-and-other-chemical-irritant-exposure-a-protesters-guide/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1406 || whimsy and humor as resistance

Tue, 01 Apr 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"There are no exact guidelines. There are probably no guidelines at all. The only thing I can recommend at this stage is a sense of humor, an ability to see things in their ridiculous and absurd dimensions, to laugh at others and at ourselves, a sense of irony regarding everything that calls out for parody in this world. In other words, I can only recommend perspective and distance. Awareness of all the most dangerous kinds of vanity, both in others and in ourselves. A good mind. A modest certainty about the meaning of things. Gratitude for the gift of life and the courage to take responsibility for it." - Václav Havel

“Nothing can burst the balloon of pomposity and dictatorial rhetoric better than comedy. Comedy brings religious persecutors, dictators and tyrants to their knees faster than any other weapon.” - Mel Brooks

THE RESOURCES:

Mel Brooks Interview: https://www.pbs.org/wnet/americanmasters/podcast/comedy-writer-mel-brooks/

The Politics of Humor: https://www.commonwealmagazine.org/whose-laughter-which-comedy

Theories of Humor: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Theories_of_humor

Manifesto: Mad Farmer Liberation Front: https://cales.arizona.edu/~steidl/Liberation.html

Václav Havel: https://en.wikiquote.org/wiki/V%C3%A1clav_Havel

Whimsy in the Face of Fascism: https://pshares.org/blog/domestic-whimsy-in-the-face-of-fascism/

Humor against Hitler: https://www.bbc.com/culture/article/20190829-how-britain-fought-hitler-with-humour

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1405 || manufacturing consent

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

This month's patreon episode is about: Raw milk, Instagram Face, and Manufactured Consent: The relationship between the rise in homogeny, purity culture, and conservatism; and how we can reclaim our agency. The culture of “anti-cringe”, leads to a fear of standing out, which pushes us towards not just one type of look, but one type of ideology as well.

This pipeline, which mass-produces conformity, is exactly what authoritarian systems crave. Purity politics and rising conservatism aren’t just eroding individuality—they’re manufacturing consent for control. When we dress, look, crave, and think the same, we become self-policing agents of the authoritarian state. They don’t need to enforce rules; we do it for them. And when we do the work for them, we become much easier to control.

“THE MASS MEDIA SERVE AS A SYSTEM FOR COMMUNICATING messages and symbols to the general populace. It is their function to amuse, entertain, and inform, and to inculcate individuals with the values, beliefs, and codes of behavior that will integrate them into the institutional structures of the larger society. In a world of concentrated wealth and major conflicts of class interest, to fulfil this role requires systematic propaganda.”

These 5 filters (ownership, revenue, sourcing, flak, and fear) ensure that the media marginalizes alternative viewpoints and reinforces the status quo and though they were talking about television media, news, advertisements, and movies, much of the same implications can be applied to the media we consume on the internet. In a lot of ways, the internet didn’t just continue the propaganda model—it optimized it.

Edward S. Herman + Noam Chomsky's Manufacturing Consent: https://chomsky.info/consent02/

Wiki for Manufacturing Consent: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manufacturing_Consent

Buy the book: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/78912/manufacturing-consent-by-edward-s-herman-and-noam-chomsky/

Olivia Petter's article: Are we all going to end up with the same face? https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/beauty-features-same-face-instagram-b2534111.html

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1404 || sour grapes

Sun, 30 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

There are many who pretend to despise and belittle that which is beyond their reach. - aesop's fables

The Fable: https://read.gov/aesop/005.html

The Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Fox_and_the_Grapes

A post about it: https://medium.com/@alankay/sour-grapes-cognitive-dissonance-e21245597cb6

The Study: https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0022103119305967

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1403 || the asch conformity experiments

Sat, 29 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Would you go along with the group consensus, even if you knew they were wrong? Psychologist Solomon Asch wanted to find this out (in an experiment on college boys) and the findings were enlightening, to say the least.

The source: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asch_conformity_experiments

The other source: https://www.simplypsychology.org/asch-conformity.html#Factors-Affecting-Conformity

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1402 || library boards

Thu, 27 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We all love the public library, so today we dig into how we can protect them given the current attacks.

The Source:

For the People: Libraries 101: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/64063be39637e16c30d774ef/t/67303df9932af1200bf3aeef/1731214855888/Public+Libraries+101+v2+%28digital%29.pdf

Addiitional FTP Resources: https://www.librariesforthepeople.org/resources

Get involved in libraries: https://substack.com/home/post/p-153870103

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1401 || history of the US public library

Wed, 26 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

We all love the public library, so let's dig into the history of it here in America so we can continue to preserve this valuable institution.

The Source: https://www.bloomberg.com/news/articles/2019-02-19/how-american-cities-got-their-libraries

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1400 || on tyranny (do not obey in advance)

Tue, 25 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

“Do not obey in advance. Most of the power of authoritarianism is freely given. In times like these, individuals think ahead about what a more repressive government will want, and then offer themselves without being asked. A citizen who adapts in this way is teaching power what it can do.” - Timothy Snyder

Timothy Snyder's website: https://timothysnyder.org/

By the book: On Tyranny: https://timothysnyder.org/on-tyranny/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1399 || purity culture

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today we’re talking about purity culture, homogeneity, and surveillance capitalism, which pushes us towards authoritarian control, which works to erode our individuality and agency.

Purity Culture: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purity_culture

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1398 || The Empathy Exams

Sun, 23 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Empathy involves listening to and validating other people's experiences, even when they challenge our own beliefs. Can empathy be learned, or is it an innate quality? Empathy is not perfect but its limitations don't diminish its importance.

Just because you have to try, it doesn't mean your empathy isn't genuine. Empathy is an active practice that requires us to step out of ourselves and allow space for that imperfection.

Leslie Jamison's book: http://www.lesliejamison.com/the-book

Borrow it from the public library: https://share.libbyapp.com/title/1412756

The Empathy Exams on Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-iPj9ApVGz8

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1397 || Dana Fisher's Apocalyptic Optimism

Sat, 22 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"It’s time for us to all be apocalyptic optimists: prepared for the shocks that are coming and ready to rally as activists, disruptors and bridge builders. Together, we can pressure the state and the market to adopt the changes that our communities require to survive. Here's my advice about how to be the change makers we need." - Dana Fisher

Climate shocks are a stark reminder of what’s at stake, but they don’t have to be the only catalyst for change. By acting now: through policy reform, grassroots organizing, environmental justice, and technological innovation, we can work to prevent the worst impacts of the climate crisis and build a more just and sustainable future.

The power to shape our future is in our hands. Every active stance we take today, reduces the need for reactive responses tomorrow.

Resources:

Dana's Ted Talk: https://www.ted.com/talks/dana_r_fisher_how_to_be_an_apocalyptic_optimist

Dana Fisher's Website: https://danarfisher.com/

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1396 || backlash is a good thing, actually.

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

People in positions of power resist reform because it threatens their position. That means backlash isn't a sign we failed, in fact it's a sign of the opposite. Persistence is the beating heart of change. =

TODAY'S SOURCES:

Remake Our World's Post: https://www.instagram.com/remakeourworld/p/DCm2oZ-zDzE/?img_index=9

Suz Howard's blog: https://medium.com/@suz.howard/why-social-progress-often-swings-back-lessons-on-change-backlash-and-moving-forward-fbda6f7a1cc1

The Gary Chambers Jr. Post: https://www.instagram.com/garychambersjr/p/C2pX7eYushV/?img_index=8

https://www.thepanthernewspaper.org/opinions/the-cycle-of-progress-and-backlash

The Atlantic Article: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/05/white-backlash-nothing-new/611914/

Navigating Backlash: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/dei-paradox-navigating-backlash-progress-2025-esginsports-oh1pe

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1396 || backlash is a good thing, actually || patreon

Fri, 21 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

TODAY'S SOURCES:

Remake Our World's Post: https://www.instagram.com/remakeourworld/p/DCm2oZ-zDzE/?img_index=9

Suz Howard's blog: https://medium.com/@suz.howard/why-social-progress-often-swings-back-lessons-on-change-backlash-and-moving-forward-fbda6f7a1cc1

The Gary Chambers Jr. Post: https://www.instagram.com/garychambersjr/p/C2pX7eYushV/?img_index=8

https://www.thepanthernewspaper.org/opinions/the-cycle-of-progress-and-backlash

The Atlantic Article: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/05/white-backlash-nothing-new/611914/

Navigating Backlash: https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/dei-paradox-navigating-backlash-progress-2025-esginsports-oh1pe

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1395 || final thoughts on 2 cheers for anarchism

Thu, 20 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Isolation breeds despair. But once you step back to understand your life’s purpose thru a collectivist lens & spend more time building community, then you realize that despair is merely a phase in a broader journey towards figuring out how you can actually care for community IN community & OUTSIDE the system." - Ayesha Khan

The Resource: "Two Cheers for Anarchism" by James C. Scott: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/james-c-scott-two-cheers-for-anarchism

Ayesha Khan's Post: https://substack.com/home/post/p-157974340?source=queue

Collective Illusions: https://standtogether.org/stories/strong-safe-communities/breaking-cultural-norms-that-have-become-collective-illusions

Further reading: https://medium.com/@leila.jamison.ipo/anarchist-calisthenics-flexing-the-muscles-of-critical-thought-63c891d81533

Desire Paths: https://jjbrowndesign.medium.com/desire-paths-urban-planning-and-their-impacts-on-ui-design-55236f6d31f

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1394 || groupthink

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Groupthink is a psychological phenomenon that occurs within a group of people in which the desire for harmony or conformity Cohesiveness, or the desire for cohesiveness, in a group may produce a tendency among its members to agree at all costs. This causes the group to minimize conflict and reach a consensus decision without critical evaluation. - wikipedia

The Resource: "Two Cheers for Anarchism" by James C. Scott: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/james-c-scott-two-cheers-for-anarchism

Groupthink: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Groupthink

Collective Illusions: https://standtogether.org/stories/strong-safe-communities/breaking-cultural-norms-that-have-become-collective-illusions

Further reading: https://medium.com/@leila.jamison.ipo/anarchist-calisthenics-flexing-the-muscles-of-critical-thought-63c891d81533

Desire Paths: https://jjbrowndesign.medium.com/desire-paths-urban-planning-and-their-impacts-on-ui-design-55236f6d31f

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1393 || anarchist calisthenics

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"You know, you and especially your grandparents could have used more of a spirit of lawbreaking. One day you will be called on to break a big law in the name of justice and rationality. Everything will depend on it. You have to be ready. How are you going to prepare for that day when it really matters? You have to stay ‘in shape’ so that when the big day comes you will be ready. What you need is ‘anarchist calisthenics.’ Every day or so break some trivial law that makes no sense, even if it’s only jaywalking. Use your own head to judge whether a law is just or reasonable. That way, you’ll keep trim; and when the big day comes, you’ll be ready.”" - James C. Scott

The Resource: "Two Cheers for Anarchism" by James C. Scott: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/james-c-scott-two-cheers-for-anarchism

Further reading: https://medium.com/@leila.jamison.ipo/anarchist-calisthenics-flexing-the-muscles-of-critical-thought-63c891d81533

Desire Paths: https://jjbrowndesign.medium.com/desire-paths-urban-planning-and-their-impacts-on-ui-design-55236f6d31f

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1392 || 2 cheers for anarchism || PART 2

Sun, 16 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Democratic institutions have, to a great extent, become commodities themselves, offered up for auction to the highest bidder. If relative equality is a necessary condition of mutuality and freedom, how can it be guaranteed except through the state? Facing this conundrum, I believe that both theoretically and practically, the abolition of the state is not an option. We are stuck, alas, with Leviathan, though not at all for the reasons Hobbes had supposed, and the challenge is to tame it." - James C. Scott

The Resource: "Two Cheers for Anarchism" by James C. Scott: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/james-c-scott-two-cheers-for-anarchism

Further reading: https://medium.com/@leila.jamison.ipo/anarchist-calisthenics-flexing-the-muscles-of-critical-thought-63c891d81533

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1391 || 2 cheers for anarchism!

Sat, 15 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The Resource: "Two Cheers for Anarchism" by James C. Scott: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/james-c-scott-two-cheers-for-anarchism

Further reading: https://medium.com/@leila.jamison.ipo/anarchist-calisthenics-flexing-the-muscles-of-critical-thought-63c891d81533

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1390 || indivisible's guide to democracy on the brink FINALE

Fri, 14 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"Indivisible is a movement for people who are determined — people who turn fear, anger, and grief into action. People who come together in community to hold each other up, protect each other, and fight for our values. If that sounds like you, we invite you to join us.

We can’t tell you that everything will work out OK over the coming years—no one can. But we can tell you with a lot of confidence that nothing will be OK unless we fight for it.

And there’s so much that’s worth fighting for." - Indivisible

The Practical Guide to Democracy on the Brink: https://indivisible.org/resource/guide

Safety + Security Guide: https://indivisible.org/resource/safety-security-and-digital-preparedness-second-trump-administration

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1389 || indivisible's guide to protecting democracy

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

The current establishment is banking on us giving up our power. They want us to forget that we pay their bills, we hire them, and we fire them. They can work out their contracts but if they don’t deliver? We have to hold them accountable.

Today I share concrete strategies to pressure your representatives and reclaim some of the power they’re so desperate to convince you they’ve taken.

Access the "Guide to protecting democracy" here: https://indivisible.org/resource/guide

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1389 || indivisible's guide to protecting democracy || patreon

Thu, 13 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Today I share concrete strategies to pressure your representatives and reclaim some of the power they’re so desperate to convince you they’ve taken.

Access the "Guide to protecting democracy" here: https://indivisible.org/resource/guide

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1388 || keeping the faith in humanity

Wed, 12 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

There are no perfect revolutionaries, and Gandhi is no exception, but that doesn't mean we can't learn from their work. So, as Gandhi reminds us, "We must never lose our faith in humanity.”

And he's right. We are all connected, we are all in this together, and cooperation is the best bet for winning this thing - for us, our allies, and unfortunately our enemies, too.

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/metta/2025/02/gandhis-faith-in-humanity-is-a-call-to-action/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1387 || "people get ready" by rebecca solnit

Tue, 11 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

"... we shall not flag or fail. We shall go on to the end.

We shall fight in the Bronx and along the border, we shall fight in the national parks and forests, we shall fight with growing confidence and growing strength in the streets, we shall defend our nation, whatever the cost may be.

We shall fight on the public beaches, we shall fight to protect the public lands, we shall fight in the fields and in the streets, we shall fight in the hills; we shall never surrender.

And even if, which I do not for a moment believe, this nation or a large part of it were subjugated and starving, then our teenagers and youth would carry on the struggle, until, in God's good time, the New World that is our beautiful multicultural future, with all its renewable power and grassroots might, steps forth to the rescue and the liberation of the Old." - Winston Churchill

"I don't know when this regime will end or how, but I know that it will, and that we have a role to play in that and whatever comes after." - Rebecca Solnit

The source: https://www.meditationsinanemergency.com/people-get-ready/

Choose Democracy's mailing list: Choose Democracy

Handbook for nonviolent resistance campaigns: https://www.nonviolent-conflict.org/resource/handbook-for-nonviolent-campaigns/

Join an affinity Group:

Resistance Rangers

https://indivisible.org/groups

Third Act

Tesla Takedown

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1386 || on cooperation

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 04:01:00 GMT

Cooperation is good for the goose and good for the gander, but it's built on trust. Our current society does a lot of work to convince us that we can't trust each other - and that is to our detriment. I'm here to remind you that humans are worthy of trust + cooperation.

The main resource: Cooperation: https://open.maricopa.edu/culturepsychology/chapter/cooperation/

Big Think: https://bigthink.com/neuropsych/secrets-of-cooperation/

Strategies to reduce social loafing: https://www.athleticinsight.com/sports-psychology/social-loafing

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1385 || tit for tat (the winning strategy)

Sun, 09 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

In multi-cycle versions of the prisoner's dilemma, the most successful winning strategy was tit for tat (and later, tit for two tats) because it was:

Nice, (didn't defect first)

Retaliatory, (so they didn't get exploited for being too nice)

Forgiving, (they retaliate, and then return to cooperation. Not petty or vengeful.)

Non-envious (they didn't strive to get more than their opponent.)

I think this can teach us a lot about cooperation and mutual-beneficiaries, even in relationships where we have to work with people we don't like or trust.

Cooperation is still a better strategy than constant fighting, and that is exciting to me.

THE SOURCES:

Prisoner's Dilemma: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma#The_iterated_prisoner's_dilemma

The Evolution of Cooperation Book Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Evolution_of_Cooperation

Tit for Tat strategy wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tit_for_tat

Check out this Veritasium video for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mScpHTIi-kM

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1384 || the prisoner's dilemma

Sat, 08 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Believe it or not, in the official studying of strategy within game theory, cooperative strategies fared the best, even amongst those selfish motivations. Let's talk about the prisoner's dilemma and what we can learn from the thought-experiment.

Game Theory Wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Game_theory

Prisoner’s Dilemma wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Prisoner%27s_dilemma#The_iterated_prisoner's_dilemma

Find ways to get involved in your community: mobilize.us

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1383 || the twilight zone finale

Fri, 07 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today we discuss the Twilight Zone, its controversy, and a few of its more profound (and controversial) episodes.

If you like this stuff let me know by emailing mydbpodcast@gmail.com!

If you don't like this stuff, you can also let me know by emailing mydbpodcast@gmail.com!

The source: https://www.rogerebert.com/features/the-metaphor-years-writing-lessons-from-the-twilight-zone

The other source: https://gamerant.com/twilight-zone-most-controversial-episodes/

And this one: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rod_Serling

Some of the episodes I discussed are broken down here:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Shelter_(The_Twilight_Zone)

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Monsters_Are_Due_on_Maple_Street

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/I_Am_the_Night%E2%80%94Color_Me_Black

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Obsolete_Man

Access the full guide to The Twilight Zone here: https://www.twilightzonemuseum.com/show/index.php

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1382 || rod serling + censorship (part II)

Thu, 06 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today we’re talking about Rod Serling’s dealings with censorship and how he turned his frustrations into something profound and timeless.

“The writer's role is to menace the public's conscience. He must have a position, a point of view. He must see the arts as a vehicle of social criticism and he must focus on the issues of his time.” - Rod Serling

Article 1 I referenced: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/arts-culture/early-run-censors-led-rod-serling-twilight-zone-180971837/

Article 2 I referenced: https://jfk.blogs.archives.gov/2024/12/18/jfk-in-the-twilight-zone-rod-serlings-letters-to-president-john-f-kennedy/

Article 3 I referenced: https://www.pbs.org/wnet/americanmasters/rod-serling-about-rod-serling/702/

Serling Quotes: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/840774-the-writer-s-role-is-to-menace-the-public-s-conscience-he

Read about Emmett Till: https://nmaahc.si.edu/explore/stories/emmett-tills-death-inspired-movement

VIDEO: The Emmett Luis Till documentary: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bvijYSJtkQk&rco=1

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1381 || the twilight zone - rod serling || part I

Wed, 05 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today we explore who Rod Serling was before he created The Twilight Zone (which became a brilliant example of resilience, social commentary, and rebellion).

The Sources: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rod_Serling

https://www.pbs.org/wnet/americanmasters/rod-serling-about-rod-serling/702/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1380 || "feeling like a punching bag" part II

Tue, 04 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"...the most important move a frozen person can make is whatever breaks the cycle. When so many people are isolated, community-affirming events are vital. When everything feels like it is simultaneously too much, and not enough, we must recognize the importance of beginning.

As Mariame Kaba reminds us, we must strive to reduce the distance between our actions and our values. Whatever brings us closer to other people, whatever allows us to act, rather than simply react, is worthwhile." - Kelly Hayes

THE KELLY HAYES' NEWSLETTER: https://organizingmythoughts.org/how-to-be-a-fighter-when-you-feel-like-a-punching-bag/

Mariame Kaba + Kelly Hayes book: Let This Radicalize You—a text about organizing in catastrophic times

Dean's Book Love in a F*cked-Up World: How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together,

Aaron Goggans: WildSeed Society,

Elise Granata: “Becoming a High Agency Person,”

Subscribe to Kelly's work: https://organizingmythoughts.org/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1379 || on "feeling like a punching bag" - by kelly hayes

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Most of us feel disconnected and unsure of where to begin. That's by design. We must be willing to redesign our reactions so we can reclaim a bit of agency we've been stripped of.

THE BLOG POST BY KELLY HAYES: https://organizingmythoughts.org/how-to-be-a-fighter-when-you-feel-like-a-punching-bag/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1378 || reclaiming agency

Sun, 02 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

What sources remind you most of your own innate power? What saps you of it?

What helps you feel the most "free to act" and how can you curate more of that feeling?

How can you lessen the gap between having an idea and acting on it?

The "Group Hug" Substack by Elise Granata: https://grouphug.substack.com/p/becoming-a-high-agency-person?r=iw9zm&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&triedRedirect=true&ref=organizingmythoughts.org

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1378 || reclaiming agency || patreon

Sun, 02 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

What sources remind you most of your own innate power? What saps you of it?

What helps you feel the most "free to act" and how can you curate more of that feeling?

How can you lessen the gap between having an idea and acting on it?

The "Group Hug" Substack by Elise Granata: https://grouphug.substack.com/p/becoming-a-high-agency-person?r=iw9zm&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web&triedRedirect=true&ref=organizingmythoughts.org

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1377 || hopepunk isn't utopia

Sat, 01 Mar 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Hopepunk is a much needed reaction to decades of dystopian and nihilistic fiction. It explores how goodness, joy, optimism, and collective action can be acts of rebellion.

Alexandra Rowland's Tumblr: https://ariaste.tumblr.com/post/163500138919/ariaste-the-opposite-of-grimdark-is-hopepunk

Sam's Monologue to Frodo: https://mountebank.org/sams-speech/

A Blogpost on Hopepunk: https://www.centreforoptimism.com/blog/hopepunk

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1376 || hopepunk

Fri, 28 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"We want the world to be better—kinder, more just, more merciful. We still yearn toward noblebright, toward an honest and desperate belief that love conquers all. Except, when the other guy has more guns and fewer moral objections than we do, it doesn’t.

We forget, sometimes, that we have knives too in this empire. That we can unsheathe them, that we can turn our blades to the defense of an atom of justice and a molecule of mercy that might not even exist—except . . . except for where we make them exist, in the hands we hold out to each other, and in the shelter we offer even when we ourselves are exhausted, footsore, and filthy, with the wolves at our doors.

There are no heroes and no villains. There are just people. That’s hopepunk: Whether the glass is half full or half empty, what matters is that there’s water in that glass. And that’s something worth defending." - Alexandra Rowland

Alexandra Rowland's post about Hopepunk: https://festive.ninja/one-atom-of-justice-one-molecule-of-mercy-and-the-empire-of-unsheathed-knives-alexandra-rowland/

Hopepunk on Wikipedia: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hopepunk

A conspiracy of Truths by Alexandra Rowland: https://www.alexandrarowland.net/a-conspiracy-of-truths

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1375 || burnout refresh

Thu, 27 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Stage 1 – Honeymoon

Initial commitment and excitement to engage in tasks. For example, when you first start your journey in a new activism group.

Stage 2 – Onset of stress

Common symptoms of stress start being felt, such as fatigue, lower productivity and sleep disturbances.

Stage 3 – Chronic Stress

Lack of motivation + more intense symptoms felt on a very frequent basis. At this stage, bad habits such as smoking, drinking etc may begin

Stage 4 – Burnout

Difficulty even to cope with the minimum of daily tasks. Everything seems dull and ugly, and the person starts feeling either numb or else always overwhelmed.

Stage 5 – Habitual burnout

Symptoms of burnout become incorporated into normal life and person experiences chronic fatigue, depression and apathy.

The Resource: https://commonslibrary.org/activist-burnout-guide-with-videos/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1374 || what is a "wicked problem" + how do we solve them!?

Wed, 26 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Horst and Webber's examples of wicked problems:

There is no definitive formulation of a wicked problem.
Wicked problems are often ongoing.
Solutions to wicked problems are not true or false, good or bad.
There is no immediate and no ultimate test of a solution to a wicked problem.
All attempts to find solutions have effects that may not be reversable.
Wicked problems do not have a set of solutions.
Every wicked problem is essentially unique.
Every wicked problem can be considered to be a symptom of another problem.
There are many explanations for wicked problems.
There are no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ answers.

The wicked problems article: https://commonslibrary.org/what-are-wicked-problems/

More information on wicked problems: https://uq.pressbooks.pub/publicinterestcomm/chapter/wicked-problems/#term_53_357

The UN's 2030 Agenda example: https://sdgs.un.org/2030agenda

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1373 || expressive vs. instrumental resistance

Tue, 25 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

“I had to examine, in my dreams as well as in my immune-function tests, the devastating effects of overextension. Overextending myself is not stretching myself. I had to accept how difficult it is to monitor the difference. Necessary for me as cutting down on sugar. Crucial. Physically. Psychically. Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” - Audre Lord

"The best actions are both expressive and instrumental, but it is more important than ever to approach direct action from an earnest, strategic perspective, with an eye toward what harms we can halt and what values we can materially enact." - Kelly Hayes

TODAY'S RESOURCES:

Kelly Hayes Article: https://truthout.org/articles/how-must-we-reorient-our-movements-under-a-second-trump-administration/

Kelly Hayes Blog: https://organizingmythoughts.org/collective-survival-adaption-and-direct-action/

Resistance Resources:

Choose Democracy "what can I do?": https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Find Local protests + actions: https://www.buildtheresistance.org/actions

More action resources: https://www.buildtheresistance.org/actions

Donate:

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1372 || essential self care

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

TODAY'S RESOURCES:

The article: https://www.refinery29.com/en-us/2021/05/10493153/reclaiming-self-care-audre-lorde-black-women-community-care

Read Audre Lord's A Burst Of Light: https://eddierockerz.com/wp-content/uploads/2021/05/a-burst-of-light-and-other-essays-pdfdrive-.pdf

Buy Audre Lord's A Burst Of Light: https://www.akpress.org/catalog/product/view/id/3259/s/aburstoflight/category/6/

Resistance Resources:

Choose Democracy "what can I do?": https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Find Local protests + actions: https://www.buildtheresistance.org/actions

More action resources: https://www.buildtheresistance.org/actions

Donate:

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1371 || what can I do to fight the coup?

Sun, 23 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

There are limitless ways people are showing up to resist the coup and protect democracy so today I want to share some more examples of ways we can personally show up as a part of the resistance. You can't do everything, but you can do something. Here's a lil compilation of somethings we can begin.

RESOURCES:

Choose Democracy "what can I do?": https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Compilation of current stories of Resistance: https://choosedemocracy.us/resist-list/?ref=meditationsinanemergency.com

Affinity Groups: https://www.seedsforchange.org.uk/affinitygroups

Find Local protests + actions: https://www.buildtheresistance.org/actions

More action resources: https://www.buildtheresistance.org/actions

Guide to stopping the coup: https://indivisible.org/coup

Guide for Military: https://www.nonviolent-conflict.org/blog_post/for-members-of-security-forces-a-guide-to-supporting-pro-democracy-movements/

Guide for Feds: https://docs.google.com/document/d/14p6FJMp6qTJZpPKom32BLtm1ynp9xho5HmOP_Bpkl9k/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.yetwg1phrfmp

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1370 || specific action suggestions to stop authoritarianism

Sat, 22 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

There are 4 pathways to resisting authoritarianism: 1. Protecting people. 2. Defending Civic Institutions, 3. Disrupting + Disobeying 4. Building alternatives.

RESOURCES:

The "Some actions to resist authoritarianism" Guide: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PnA86CvqKNo1le3TEczIBQftX6Pq1n7G5ROHxS_fj1E/edit?pli=1&tab=t.0

Choose Democracy "what can I do?": https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Worth Fighting For: https://weareworthfightingfor.org/

Tax Resistance: https://nwtrcc.org/ and: https://www.warresisters.org/

Mutual Aid 101: https://docs.google.com/presentation/d/13lh98gyLn1sHSxtFHoInMV5Mz44IICVfPehvvXWJOtg/edit#slide=id.g30bd7fb412d_0_102

Other Sources for different types of Resistance:

Pen (Fighting Book Bans) https://pen.org/book-bans/

Local Abortion Fund Map: https://abortionfunds.org/find-a-fund/

The Welcoming Project: https://thewelcomingproject.org/

Mobilize (find local action): https://www.mobilize.us/

National Bail Fund Network Democracy: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/en/nbfn-directory

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1369 || pathways to stop authoritarianism

Fri, 21 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

There are 4 pathways to resisting authoritarianism: 1. Protecting people. 2. Defending Civic Institutions, 3. Disrupting + Disobeying 4. Building alternatives.

The "Some actions to resist authoritarianism" Guide: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1PnA86CvqKNo1le3TEczIBQftX6Pq1n7G5ROHxS_fj1E/edit?pli=1&tab=t.0

Choose Democracy "what can I do?": https://choosedemocracy.us/what-can-i-do/

Civil Servant's Serve the People Doc: https://drive.proton.me/urls/4W0PN5CZQG#u3PMOGzXgZjT

National Security Leaders for America: https://www.nsl4a.org/

Protect our elections: https://www.protectourelection.com/contact-county-election-officials

Run for Something: https://runforsomething.net/

Pen (Fighting Book Bans) https://pen.org/book-bans/

Local Abortion Fund Map: https://abortionfunds.org/find-a-fund/

The Welcoming Project: https://thewelcomingproject.org/

Mobilize (find local action): https://www.mobilize.us/

National Bail Fund Network Democracy: https://www.communityjusticeexchange.org/en/nbfn-directory

News: Resistance Idaho: https://idahocapitalsun.com/2024/03/28/idaho-leaders-united-calls-out-extremist-culture-of-permission/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1368 || some simple ways to opt out

Thu, 20 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Some ways to opt out:

Cancel superfluous subscriptions,

Shop at local grocers and small ethnic markets for groceries.

Reduce meat + dairy consumption.

Boycott fast fashion.

Digital detox.

Avoid single use plastics.

Opt out of all data tracking.

Refuse to participate in "grind culture".

Avoid trendy diets.

Don't engage with trolls or trash content.

Support worker strikes + boycotts.

Reject overachieving + perfectionism.

Cancel Amazon Prime.

Buy secondhand or borrow.

Rely on the library first.

SOURCES: https://www.businessinsider.com/subscription-services-forgotten-cost-consumers-payments-2022-6

https://x.com/IAmAaronWill/status/1441745602786779136

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1367 || opting out

Wed, 19 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Sometimes, the most powerful form of protest isn’t about what you do, it's about what you don't do.

The simplest way to fight back against a system that thrives on your consumption is to simply... opt out of it as much as humanly possible.

It’s going to be super inconvenient at first, but once you get the hang of it you’ll realize the perks: it’s better for the environment, better for your wallet, and a surprisingly powerful tool to weaponize in a capitalist society.

And the best part? You don’t have to do anything. In fact, the less you do, the better.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1366 || dysregulation as resistance

Tue, 18 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

@pat.radical.therapist asks: "What if dysregulation is a form of resistance?" and "What if liberation isn't in the perfect regulation of our nervous systems but in the deep, embodied permission to exist as we are - in movement, in mess, in rage, in laughter, in all the things that were never meant to be tamed?" - Patricia

Trying to regulate our dysregulation the time, instead of really listening to it, can be counterintuitive.

Maybe it's time we stop trying to ground ourselves in unstable soil. Maybe it's time we listened to what our nervous system is saying instead of trying to battle it into submission.

"Our healing is not about being soothed into submission. It is about remembering that we are meant to feel, meant to move, meant to be alive in our fullest range." - Prentis Hemphill

@Pat.Radical.Therapist IG post: https://www.instagram.com/p/DFdJtaYOIfw/?img_index=6&igsh=NmJoZmY2N3IwY2dj

3 stages of trauma recovery: https://healingfromcomplexptsd.com/stages-trauma-recovery/

@sia_ontheotherside IG post: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DCT_cwfOoeE/?igsh=MnVtNHczc3IxaWFw

Psychotherapist Pete Walker: https://pete-walker.com/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1365 || resistance motivation

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

You haven't heard about any major acts of resistance because they don't want you to think it's happening, but just because you can't see the helpers, doesn't meant they're not there. Look for them, and if you can't find any? Become one.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/politics/2025/02/14/federal-unions-resistance-trump-power/

https://www.nytimes.com/2025/02/02/us/politics/democrats-trump.html

https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/jan/27/government-workers-trump

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/donald-trump/week-legal-setbacks-one-big-win-trumps-agenda-rcna192032

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1364 || CIA guide to simple sabotage

Sun, 16 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

“Insist on doing everything through ‘channels.’ Never permit short-cuts to be taken in order to expedite decisions.”
“Make ‘speeches.’ Talk as frequently as possible and at great length. Illustrate your ‘points’ by long anecdotes and accounts of personal experiences. Never hesitate to make a few appropriate ‘patriotic’ comments.”
“Bring up irrelevant issues as frequently as possible.”
“Haggle over precise wordings of communications, minutes, resolutions.”
“‘Misunderstand’ orders. Ask endless questions or engage in long correspondence about such orders. Quibble over them when you can.”
“In making work assignments, always sign out the unimportant jobs first. See that the important jobs are assigned to inefficient workers of poor machines.”
“To lower morale and with it, production, be pleasant to inefficient workers; give them undeserved promotions. Discriminate against efficient workers; complain unjustly about their work.”
“Hold conferences when there is more critical work to be done.”
“Multiply paperwork in plausible ways.”
“Make mistakes in quantities of material when you are copying orders. Confuse similar names. Use wrong addresses.”
“Work slowly. Think out ways to increase the number of movements necessary on your job”
“Pretend that instructions are hard to understand, and ask to have them repeated more than once. Or pretend that you are particularly anxious to do your work, and pester the foreman with unnecessary questions.”
“Snarl up administration in every possible way. Fill out forms illegibly so that they will have to be done over; make mistakes or omit requested information in forms.”
“Report imaginary spies or danger to the Gestapo or police,”
“Act stupid.”
“Be as irritable and quarrelsome as possible without getting yourself into trouble,”
“Cry and sob hysterically at every occasion, especially when confronted by government clerks.”

The article I read: https://www.404media.co/declassified-cia-guide-to-sabotaging-fascism-is-suddenly-viral/

The Field Guide: https://www.gutenberg.org/ebooks/26184?

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1363 || play: learning what comes naturally

Sat, 15 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

The 3 elements to a full and productive life are love, work, and play. Self initiated play nourishes our imaginations and our creativity, and they are like a muscle you must build through practice.

David Elkin's writing for Museum of Play: https://www.museumofplay.org/app/uploads/2022/01/1-1-article-elkind-the-power-of-play.pdf

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1362 || a moving rant

Fri, 14 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Earlier this week I talked about the lessons I learned from moving, today I want to talk about how full of shit I was.

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1361 || low-stakes creativity

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

If you've ever said, "I'm not creative" or "I'm not good at that", I'm here to remind you that creativity is not a personality trait but a skill that you build.

Museum of Play's Journal of Play: https://www.museumofplay.org/journalofplay/

STUDY: Dopamine + Art: https://www.frontiersin.org/articles/10.3389/fnhum.2018.00283/full

STUDY: Reducing Cortisol through Art: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/07421656.2016.1166832

STUDY: Creativity as a skill: https://www.pnas.org/doi/10.1073/pnas.1713532115

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1360 || we are stronger than we think

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"There will be more acts of repression, cruelty and abuses of power coming from federal, state and local officials in the weeks and months ahead. There is no formula for deciding how to respond to authoritarian attacks, and being constantly on the defensive is exhausting and demoralizing. Reclaiming agency in defining the terrain of struggle away from repressive control and towards individual and community empowerment is key to building and maintaining momentum, as well as hope." - Maria J Stephan

Maria J Stephan's Article: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2025/02/we-are-stronger-than-we-think/

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1359 || breaking the doom scroll loop

Tue, 11 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Doomscrolling feels like control but actually steals our energy, today we talk about how to take it back.

Zeigernik Effect: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/zeigarnik-effect

Dr. Rick Hanson's Website: https://rickhanson.com/writings/books/hardwiring-happiness/

Dr. Gloria Mark's website: https://gloriamark.com/

Dr. Anna Lembke's website: https://www.annalembke.com/dopamine-nation

Donate to Palestinian Children’s Relief Fund::www.pcrf.net

Donate to Mutual Aid Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1358 || moving day

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

I've been in the process of moving (again) and I've learned a lot about patience, flexibility, and acceptance. I have also learned that I have waaaaay too much shit.

MUTUAL AID HUB: https://www.mutualaidhub.org/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1357 || trans allyship

Fri, 07 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Do not comply with transphobic policy or rhetoric.
Give money, time, resources directly to people who need it.
Build solidarity.
Call your reps and voice your anger.

Trans Mutual Funds: https://www.folxhealth.com/library/mutual-aid-funds

8 Things for Allies to do: https://www.instagram.com/p/DFnpQl-PVwz/?img_index=11&igsh=cjRxbjlycjZzMGNq

Kai Cheng Thom's Post (What's at stake for Trans people): https://www.instagram.com/p/DFmLwRTOkJN/?img_index=1

Trans Equality Resource: https://transequality.org/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1356 || meditations in an emergency (rebecca solnit)

Thu, 06 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"But they are few and we are many. A coup, which is what we are having this week, is never the end of the story: all across the world we can find examples of how people resisted kings and dictators and wrote the next chapter themselves as civil society." - Rebecca Solnit

"They do not understand that the reason they need to be authoritarian is because they are at war with the will of the people (not all the American people, of course, but a whole lot of us). Much of what they are doing is wildly unpopular and will only become more so. They do not understand power itself, and the limits on theirs. They do not understand that they cannot strong-arm all of us into abandoning our beliefs, values, commitments, and knowledge." - Rebecca Solnit

Rebecca Solnit's emergency meditations: https://meditations-in-an-emergency.ghost.io/welcome-to-meditations-in-an-emergency/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or impl

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1355 || Rebecca Solnit fan club

Wed, 05 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"No one can deal with every issue at once, and choosing which part of the problem to commit to is part of the work of resistance. Some of you are already doing important work on human rights or climate or criminal justice. Some of you can commit to addressing immigration or the underground railroads for abortions. Some of you will find your commitment or have skills and resources to bring to multiple issues. Daniel Berrigan, the Jesuit priest turned anti-war organiser, once wrote: “One cannot level one’s moral lance at every evil in the universe. There are just too many of them. But you can do something; and the difference between doing something and doing nothing is everything.”" - Rebecca Solnit

The Rebecca Solnit Article I referenced today: https://www.theguardian.com/world/2024/nov/09/authoritarians-like-trump-love-fear-defeatism-surrender-do-not-give-them-what-they-want

Rebecca Solnit's emergency meditations: https://meditations-in-an-emergency.ghost.io/welcome-to-meditations-in-an-emergency/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or impl

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1354 || finding your herd

Tue, 04 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"Some say that murmurations – those beautiful flights of thousands of starlings undulating and pulsating as they whirl through the sky together – create flocks that are hard for predators to attack. There’s safety in numbers, which is why a lot of prey animals move in herds and flocks and schools. For those who dissent from what this new administration intends to do, we may sometimes be able to surround an Ice van or march by the thousands, but every time we dissent we make room for others to dissent. Courage, like fear, is contagious. For a lot of us, right now, we get to choose, and what we choose has an impact on what others choose." - Rebecca Solnit

ED KILGORE'S ARTICLE: https://nymag.com/intelligencer/article/trump-shock-awe-strategy-chaos.html

REBECCA SOLNIT'S ARTICLE: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2025/feb/02/resistance-trump-administration

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

The opinions expressed by Julie Merica and Make Your Damn Bed Podcast are intended for entertainment purposes only. Make Your Damn Bed podcast is not intended or impl

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1353 || your overwhelm is the point

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 05:01:00 GMT

They are banking on us feeling so hopeless that we don’t fight back. This is why they constantly overload us with information about the constant threats and violence against humanity. It’s a tool meant to paralyze you to keep you from the work that needs to be done. You can’t focus on everything, but you can pick a lane and prepare to fight.

"This is a strategic exploitation of our cognitive limits." - Jennifer Walter

"Move quickly through the shock and condemnation, into identifying what needs to be done." - Pete Buttigieg

Identify an effective motivation. Mine is doing everything as an act of resistance. Knowing the wealth-hoarding class doesn't want me creating, focusing, strategizing, enjoying, taking care of myself, taking care of my community, means I will do exactly that, as an act of resistance.

Start to recognize where you don't have to spend extra money, time, energy + reclaim it for whatever you decide to spend it on for a change.

Good news, you're joining a fight that has been happening a long time

Pete Buttigieg’s “we cannot be mesmerized” speech from Now This Impact on Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@newdealleaders/video/74464197836727288 63r=1&t=ZT-8tOK2pzU7nnb

Sociologist Jennifer Walter’s Threads Account post on what to expect + what to do: https://www.threads.net/@itsjenniferwalter/post/DFIu3Q2q-5P

@Rachellapointe on Tiktok "Destroy the Cop Inside Yourself": https://www.tiktok.com/@rachellapointe/video/7464761756963966239

@JamyleCannon on Tiktok " Everything we're about to face, we've already overcome": https://www.tiktok.com/@jamylecannon/video/7461288218533612831?lang=en

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1352 || the white rose papers (leaflet 5 + 6)

Fri, 31 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"Prove by your deeds that you think otherwise. A new war of liberation is about to begin. The better part of the nation will fight on our side. Cast off the cloak of indifference you have wrapped around you. Make the decision before it is too late."

LEAFLET 5: https://libcom.org/library/white-rose-leaflet-5

LEAFLET 6: https://libcom.org/library/white-rose-leaflet-6

DONATE to Palestine Children's Relief Fund:www.pcrf.net

DONATE to American Civil Liberties Union: https://www.aclu.org/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1351 || the white rose papers (leaflet 4)

Thu, 30 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"We will not be silent. We are your bad conscience. The White Rose will not leave you in peace!"

THE SOURCE: https://libcom.org/library/white-rose-leaflet-4

DONATE to Palestine Children's Relief Fund:www.pcrf.net

DONATE to American Civil Liberties Union: https://www.aclu.org/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1350 || the white rose papers (leaflet 3)

Wed, 29 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"Every individual human being has a claim to a useful and just state, a state which secures freedom of the individual as well as the good of the whole. For, according to God's will, man is intended to pursue his natural goal, his earthly happiness, in self-reliance and self-chosen activity, freely and independently within the community of life and work of the nation.

Is your spirit already so crushed by abuse that you forget it is your right - or rather, your moral duty - to eliminate this system? But if a man no longer can summon the strength to demand his right, then it is absolutely certain that he will perish.

Many, perhaps most, of the readers of these leaflets do not see clearly how they can practice an effective opposition. They do not see any avenues open to them. We want to try to show them that everyone is in a position to contribute to the overthrow of this system. It is not possible through solitary withdrawal, in the manner of embittered hermits, to prepare the ground for the overturn of this "government" or bring about the revolution at the earliest possible moment. No, it can be done only by the cooperation of many convinced, energetic people - people who are agreed as to the means they must use to attain their goal.

Do not give a penny to public drives (even when they are conducted under the pretence of charity). The government does not need this money; it is not financially interested in these money drives. After all, the presses run continuously to manufacture any desired amount of paper currency. But the populace must be kept constantly under tension, the pressure of the bit must not be allowed to slacken! Do not contribute to the collections of metal, textiles, and the like. Try to convince all your acquaintances, including those in the lower social classes, of the senselessness of continuing, of the hopelessness of this war; of our spiritual and economic enslavement at the hands of the National Socialists; of the destruction of all moral and religious values; and urge them to passive resistance!" - The White Rose Leaflets, 1942

THE SOURCE: https://libcom.org/library/white-rose-leaflet-3

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1349 || the white rose papers (leaflet 2)

Tue, 28 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Nazi ideology cannot be engaged with on an intellectual level because it lacks the coherence, logic, and moral foundation required for meaningful debate. True intellectual discourse requires a shared commitment to truth, reason, and ethical principles. The Nazis, however, rejected these values in favor of propaganda, manipulation, and brute force.

Sound familiar?

THE SOURCE: https://libcom.org/library/white-rose-leaflet-2

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1348 || the white rose papers (leaflet 1)

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Nothing is so unworthy of a civilised nation as allowing itself to be governed without opposition by an irresponsible clique that has yielded to base instinct. It is certain that today every honest German is ashamed of his government.

Who among us has any conception of the dimensions of shame that will befall us and our children when one day the veil has fallen from our eyes and the most horrible of crimes - crimes that infinitely outdistance every human measure - reach the light of day? If the German people are already so corrupted and spiritually crushed that they do not raise a hand, frivolously trusting in a questionable faith in lawful order of history; if they surrender man's highest principle, that which raises him above all other God's creatures, his free will; if they abandon the will to take decisive action and turn the wheel of history and thus subject it to their own rational decision; if they are so devoid of all individuality, have already gone so far along the road toward turning into a spiritless and cowardly mass - then, yes, they deserve their downfall.

Goethe speaks of the Germans as a tragic people, like the Jews and the Greeks, but today it would appear rather that they are a spineless, will-less herd of hangers-on, who now - the marrow sucked out of their bones, robbed of their centre of stability - are waiting to be hounded to their destruction. So it seems - but it is not so. Rather, by means of gradual, treacherous, systematic abuse, the system has put every man into a spiritual prison. Only now, finding himself lying in fetters, has he become aware of his fate.

Only a few recognised the threat of ruin, and the reward for their heroic warning was death. We will have more to say about the fate of these persons. If everyone waits until the other man makes a start, the messengers of avenging Nemesis will come steadily closer; then even the last victim will have been cast senselessly into the maw of the insatiable demon.

Therefore every individual, conscious of his responsibility as a member of Christian and Western civilisation, must defend himself as best he can at this late hour, he must work against the scourges of mankind, against fascism and any similar system of totalitarianism. Offer passive resistance - resistance - wherever you may be, forestall the spread of this atheistic war machine before it is too late. - the white rose papers 1942

SOURCE: https://libcom.org/library/white-rose-leaflet-1

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1347 || hope (re-release)

Sun, 26 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Today is a re-release about HOPE because it still feels really important.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1346 || mutual aid refresher

Sat, 25 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Mutual aid is natural. Individualism is manufactured. Let's get back to our roots and tear down the walls that individualism has built.

In the words of Open Democracy Net, mutual aid resolves issues from the bottom up, not from the top down.

THE SOURCE: https://www.theconsciouscitizens.org/solidarity-not-charity-why-to-choose-mutual-aid/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1345 || know your rights (immigration edition)

Fri, 24 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

The fundamental constitutional protections of due process and equal protection embodied in our Constitution and Bill of Rights apply to every person, regardless of immigration status.

Know your rights!

Cops can lie to you, and although you can't lie to them, you can and should remain silent when interacting with them.

Today, we dig into your individual rights and what to do if you're stopped by law enforcement.

SAMPLE WARRANT + know your rights list: https://immigrantjustice.org/know-your-rights/ice-encounter

States with Stop + Identify Statute: https://www.ilrc.org/sites/default/files/resources/stop_identify_statutes_in_us-lg-20180201v3.pdf

ACLU know your rights PDF: https://www.aclu.org/sites/default/files/field_document/bustcard_eng_20100630.pdf

Toolkit for dealing with ICE raids: https://www.nilc.org/wp-content/uploads/2019/05/Raids-Toolkit-web-2019-05.pdf

Understanding the "ruse" (tactics cops use to lie): https://www.immigrantdefenseproject.org/ice-ruses/

DONATE TO ACLU: https://www.aclu.org/

DONATE support aid for children in Palestine: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1344 || debunking myths about immigrants

Thu, 23 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

FACT: Immigrants are 60% LESS likely to commit a crime than an American born citizen. It's been studied for decades and immigrants make our community + nation SAFER, not more dangerous.

FACT: Immigrants contribute BILLIONS to our economy and don't benefit from the systems they pay into.

FACT: No human being is illegal... especially when you consider we are on stolen land.

KNOW YOUR RIGHTS: https://www.aclu.org/know-your-rights/immigrants-rights

Immigrant resources: https://www.wehaverights.us/

THE "debunking myths" SOURCE:

https://iine.org/2024/04/dispelling-10-common-myths-about-immigrants-and-refugees/#:~:text=Myth%3A%20Immigrants%20are%20more,rate%20than%20U.S.%2Dborn%20individuals.

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1343 || the white rose campaign

Wed, 22 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

We don't often hear stories of non-violent resistance, today we explore the influential "white-rose campaign" used in 1942 to resist Nazi Germany.

Today's source: https://nvdatabase.swarthmore.edu/content/white-rose-resistance-hitlers-regime-1942-1943

The other ones: https://www.nationalww2museum.org/war/articles/sophie-scholl-and-white-rose

Another source: https://encyclopedia.ushmm.org/content/en/article/white-rose

And the wiki: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/White_Rose

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1342 || 8 steps to manage eco-anxiety

Tue, 21 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Dealing with eco-anxiety is easier with the UPSTREAM method, as introduced by Karen Magruder.

Understanding + compassion

Participating

Self-talk

Trauma (processing)

Reduce isolation

Ecotherapy

Acts of self-care

Mindfulness

THE SOURCE: https://theconversation.com/keeping-your-cool-in-a-warming-world-8-steps-to-help-manage-eco-anxiety-212174

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1341 || changeable optimism against doomerism

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Optimism is the only thing that works — but only if we don’t assume that progress is inevitable.

Hannah Richie's article for Vox: https://www.vox.com/the-highlight/23622511/climate-doomerism-optimism-progress-environmentalism

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1340 || what to know about the impending doom

Sun, 19 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Understand how doom filled headlines aim to manipulate you.
Focus on the science, and on the fact that scientists see a path forward.
Take action, because the future you make possible when you act is one worth working for.

Liz's article about Doomers: https://www.worldwildlife.org/stories/what-you-need-to-know-about-climate-doomers

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1339 || rules for resisting authoritarianism

Sat, 18 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

7 RULES on Approaching Authoritarian Supporters

What if your neighbor, friend or family member supports the authoritarian regime?

Rule 1

Don’t look down on them, don’t patronize them, even if you know what they’re saying has no factual basis or you find it offensive. Don’t preach, ask questions. Try to understand them, where they are coming from, what their problems are and why they see solutions to them in the regime. Treat them as people, as equals.

Rule 2

Don’t get emotional, don’t get provoked into heated arguments. Fight the other side’s emotions with your calm, logical approach. The angrier they get, the calmer you should be.

Rule 3

Focus on what you have in common. Do you live in the same neighborhood? Do you work in the same company or sector? The smaller the community, the easier it is.

Rule 4

Use their language, don’t treat it as inferior or below you – don’t seem patronizing (see rule 1). If they curse, curse with them. If they approach you with humor, don’t get angry or uptight about it, reply with humor. As long as you communicate on two different planes, you will never meet.

Rule 5

Don’t block their news sources, don’t turn away from their leaders and authority figures. Use them to your advantage, to better prepare for their arguments. Whenever you don’t agree with something or detect a lie, voice it calmly, expose it with factual arguments.

Rule 6

Pinpoint the practical, negative effects of their side’s actions, ones that affect them directly. Find examples of how they, their families, children or friends will be personally impacted by their policies, or how it will affect your shared community.

Rule 7

If all else fails, don’t turn away, don’t abandon your friends and family, don’t shun your neighbors. Remember, an authoritarian wants to divide you to control you. So invite them over to your BBQ, crack open a beer, and who knows, maybe they’ll realize you’re not so different after all.

be strong, fight, endure, and remember you’re on the good side of history.

EVERY authoritarian, totalitarian and fascist regime in history eventually failed, thanks to the PEOPLE.

– With love, your Eastern European friends

RESOURCES: https://verfassungsblog.de/the-authoritarian-regime-survival-guide/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1338 || what to expect from an authoritarian regime

Fri, 17 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

What to expect under an authoritarian regime:

1. Democratic election through fear mongering.

2. They will divide + rule.

3. They will subjugate media outlets to create a propaganda machine.

4. They will create a sense of chaos + fear.

5. They will distort truth and lie to create confusion.

6. They will slander their "enemies"

7. They will create distractions to fight while they pass more insidious legislation to dismantle democracy.

8. They will further marginalize groups.

9. They will attempt to dismantle the courts, the checks + balances.

10. They will limit our ability to protest + assemble.

11. They will distort language and steal words.

12. They will take over national symbols.

13. They will rewrite history.

14. They will alienate foreign powers.

15. They will manipulate our electoral system to fit their agenda.

be strong, fight, endure, and remember you’re on the good side of history.

EVERY authoritarian, totalitarian and fascist regime in history eventually failed, thanks to the PEOPLE.

– With love, your Eastern European friends

RESOURCES: https://verfassungsblog.de/the-authoritarian-regime-survival-guide/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1337 || for the doomers

Thu, 16 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Doomerism is a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you don't think there's hope, you won't take the action towards a more hopeful future. It's in our best interests to become the "right" kind of optimists.

This is a re-release from an episode from November of 2023, and I am bringing it back as an introduction into my new optimism series! I hope you enjoy it!!!!!!!

RESOURCES: https://calhum.org/files/uploads/program_related/Disc%20Guide%203%20Paradise.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1336 || a paradise built in hell (part II)

Wed, 15 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"In an era whose sense of the human psyche is dominated by entertainment and consumerism and by therapy culture—the personal and private are most often emphasized to the exclusion of almost everything else. Conventional therapy, necessary and valuable at times to resolve personal crises and suffering, presents a very incomplete sense of self.

As a guide to the range of human possibility it is grimly reductive. It will help you deal with your private shames and pains, but it won’t generally have much to say about your society and your purpose on earth.

It won’t even suggest, most of the time, that you provide yourself with relief from and perspective on the purely personal by living in the larger world. Nor will it ordinarily diagnose people as suffering from social alienation, meaninglessness, or other anomies that arise from something other than familial and erotic life.

It more often leads to personal adjustment than social change.

Such a confinement of desire and possibility to the private serves the status quo as well: it describes no role for citizenship and no need for social change or engagement." - Rebecca Solnit

Buy the Book: http://rebeccasolnit.net/book/a-paradise-built-in-hell/

Borrow the Book: https://www.overdrive.com/media/258355/a-paradise-built-in-hell

The Internet archives copy of the book: https://archive.org/details/a-paradise-built-in-hell/page/10/mode/2up

The wiki about the book: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Paradise_Built_in_Hell

A reader's take on the book: https://tornes.medium.com/a-paradise-built-in-hell-the-extraordinary-communities-that-arise-in-disaster-by-rebecca-solnit-96ff3a349aca

Make a donation to help the kids: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1335 || paradise built in hell

Tue, 14 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

"If paradise now arises in hell, it's because in the suspension of the usual order and the failure of most systems, we are free to live and act another way" - Rebecca Solnit

Buy the Book: http://rebeccasolnit.net/book/a-paradise-built-in-hell/

The archived book: https://archive.org/details/a-paradise-built-in-hell/page/10/mode/2up

The wiki about the book: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Paradise_Built_in_Hell

A reader's take on the book: https://tornes.medium.com/a-paradise-built-in-hell-the-extraordinary-communities-that-arise-in-disaster-by-rebecca-solnit-96ff3a349aca

Make a donation to help the kids: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1334 || debunking the myth of post-disaster chaos

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 05:01:00 GMT

Contrary to widespread belief, there is not an increase in crime after disasters. In fact, the opposite is true. After every disaster, there is an increase in prosocial behavior. These myths perpetuate harmful stereotypes and we need to combat them so we can focus on what really matters: solidarity, mutual assistance, and community.

"Prioritizing the humanitarian needs of hurricane survivors not only addresses threats to residents’ health and livelihoods, it also helps mitigate the survival appropriation behavior that may account for some criminal activity in the absence of assistance." - Natural Hazards Center

Naomi Klein's The Shock Doctrine: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Shock_Doctrine

An Article on the Myth: https://nextcity.org/urbanist-news/the-myth-of-disaster-looting

Research: https://hazards.colorado.edu/news/research-counts/looting-or-community-solidarity-reconciling-distorted-posthurricane-media-coverage

Rebecca Solnit's "A Paradise Built in Hell": https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/A_Paradise_Built_in_Hell

Myth of Lawlessness Article: https://www.gastongazette.com/story/opinion/2017/09/08/matthew-t-mangino-myth-of-lawlessness-in-wake-of-disaster/18856137007/

LA Wildfire Relief Request Spreadsheet: https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1itHRf_K30jebqz1vYMjhjMsu7OV549gV-_G58hXPOYs/edit?gid=0#gid=0

Palestinian Children's Relief Fund: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1333 || hypernormalization

Sun, 12 Jan 2025 05:01:58 GMT

FOUSHY ON IG: https://www.instagram.com/p/DEhR7_Rge95/?hl=en

THE DOCUMENTARY WIKI: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/HyperNormalisation

THE DOCUMENTARY: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gr7T07WfIhM

DONATE TO KIDS IN PALESTINE: www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1332 || responding to the dystopian reality

Sat, 11 Jan 2025 05:01:14 GMT

"The constant generation of novel and fantastic apocalyptic scenarios serves to extend the horizon for the arrival of the hellish conditions contained in dystopia - if oppression is a nebulous but ever-approaching threat, it’s perpetually obscured, lifted away into a sub-fictional ether. It needs not be interrogated, not now, anyway. Which is how power prefers it." - Brian Merchant

RESOURCE: https://onezero.medium.com/its-always-been-a-dystopia-858ef606832f

ANOTHER RESOURCE:https://medium.com/20minutesintothefuture/the-dystopia-is-already-here-4a4304807e2e

ONE MORE RESOURCE: https://thefrailestthing.com/2017/11/09/the-dystopia-is-already-here/

OH THIS TOO: https://www.wired.com/story/dystopia-tips-prepare-fight-back/

AND FINALLY: https://communemag.com/dystopias-now/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1331 || the dystopia is already here

Fri, 10 Jan 2025 05:01:39 GMT

The dystopia isn’t coming, it’s been here, and we’re finally starting to see it. Fictional dystopias are not imaginative horrors - they are reframed versions of lived experiences for marginalized communities. It's our job to recognize the reality that "looming dystopia" is already here for so many people, and it's our job to help those involved fight against it before it grows to envelope all of us.

RESOURCE: https://onezero.medium.com/its-always-been-a-dystopia-858ef606832f

ANOTHER RESOURCE:https://medium.com/20minutesintothefuture/the-dystopia-is-already-here-4a4304807e2e

ONE MORE RESOURCE: https://thefrailestthing.com/2017/11/09/the-dystopia-is-already-here/

OH THIS TOO: https://www.wired.com/story/dystopia-tips-prepare-fight-back/

AND FINALLY: https://communemag.com/dystopias-now/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1330 || "convenient" isn't always good

Thu, 09 Jan 2025 05:01:41 GMT

"We must never forget the joy of doing something slow and something difficult, the satisfaction of not doing what is easiest." - Tim Wu

THE SOURCE: https://www.nytimes.com/2018/02/16/opinion/sunday/tyranny-convenience.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1329 || filling your cup IN community

Wed, 08 Jan 2025 05:01:17 GMT

"The burnt out don't need more alone time." - Ayesha Khan Ph.D.

"A world where we are isolated is a world where it is easier to pit us against each other." - Luke Allen

RESOURCE 1: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/you-dont-need-to-fill-your-cup-first

RESOURCE 2: https://substack.com/home/post/p-138757510?utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1328 || true community is inconvenient, too.

Tue, 07 Jan 2025 05:01:44 GMT

Capitalism + consumer culture has taught us that independence = success, but what if our culture is wrong? What if community's inconveniences are less cumbersome than the inconveniences that come from isolation?

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1327 || true friendship is inconvenient

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 05:01:48 GMT

"That's why it's hard to make friends when you're older," she said. "Friendship is rude."

Her friend's eyes widened. "What?"

"Think about it! When we're kids we decide who we like and stick by them no matter what. As adults, we're taught to be polite. But, friendship is an imposition— at least, I want it to be. Call me after nine o'clock. Don't think you'll ever wear out your welcome. Overshare, show up at my door, go to the grocery store with me so we can waste another hour chatting. We'll never be friends if we spend all of our energy trying not to bother each other." - LAURA CLIFT

RESOURCES: https://www.instagram.com/l.a.clift/reel/DDubSuJpihV/

AND: https://www.nytimes.com/2012/07/15/fashion/the-challenge-of-making-friends-as-an-adult.html

AND: https://www.buzzfeed.com/ravenishak/friendships-small-favors-economy-anticapitalism-tiktok

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1326 || tyranny of the ideal woman (part two)

Sun, 05 Jan 2025 05:01:40 GMT

Jia Tolentino said "We have not “optimized” our wages, our childcare system, our political representation; we still hardly even think of parity as realistic in those arenas, let alone anything approaching perfection. We have maximized our capacity as market assets. That’s all. For the way out, I think, we have to follow the cyborg. We have to be willing to be disloyal, to undermine. The cyborg is powerful because she grasps the potential in her own artificiality, because she accepts without question how deeply it is embedded in her."

Today I share the final part to Jia Tolentino's article titled "Athleisure, Barre and Kale: the tyranny of the ideal woman."

THE SOURCE: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2019/aug/02/athleisure-barre-kale-tyranny-ideal-woman-labour?utm_source=chatgpt.com

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1325 || the tyranny of the ideal woman

Sat, 04 Jan 2025 05:01:36 GMT

Jia Tolentino said "Figuring out how to “get better” at being a woman is a ridiculous and often amoral project – a subset of the larger, equally ridiculous, equally amoral project of learning to get better at life under accelerated capitalism. In these pursuits, most pleasures end up being traps, and every public-facing demand escalates in perpetuity. Satisfaction remains, under the terms of the system, necessarily out of reach." and I felt that.

Today I share the introduction to her article titled "Athleisure, Barre and Kale: the tyranny of the ideal woman."

THE SOURCE: https://www.theguardian.com/news/2019/aug/02/athleisure-barre-kale-tyranny-ideal-woman-labour?utm_source=chatgpt.com

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1324 || slow living as a resolution

Fri, 03 Jan 2025 05:01:29 GMT

"Slow living is a conversation inherently steeped in privilege. “So many systems are stacked against members of our society who are, in theory, desperate to slow down, but the structure of capitalism is built around burnout and scarcity,” explains DeVos. With this in mind, let's consider some strategies for practicing slow living in your life:

Take it back to the origins of the movement and focus on food.
Schedule breaks.
Live mindfully.
Set boundaries.
Do what you can, where you can."

THE RESOURCE: https://www.verywellmind.com/the-end-of-the-resolution-6823991

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1323 || the best advice of 2024 (part 3)

Thu, 02 Jan 2025 05:01:47 GMT

It’s their first time being a person too. Grief distorts reality. Joy is not passive. Done > perfect. The obstacles in your path are your path. Be a good parent to you. Instead of figuring it all out become fascinated with the process. You don’t have to be agreeable to be likable. Real happiness, contentment, life satisfaction, etc. is an inside job. Most shit comes back to balance. Nobody is judging you as harshly as you’re judging yourself. Don’t let short term feelings affect long your term decision making. Leave it better than you found it. Sensitivity isn’t a curse but it can feel like it. Learn rituals to reset and protect yourself. You have to feel weak to get strong you have to feel stupid to get smart. If it can be done in less than three minutes do it now. Keep a list of things that make you feel at home and comfortable and safe. Instead of trying to “fix” your life all at once focus on adding good things until the goodness outgrows the things that need fixing. Rest is growth. Fear won’t keep you from dying but it will keep you from living. Self awareness isn’t only critical. If you’re claiming to be self aware you also have to be aware of the good stuff too. If you can’t find community make it. Sometimes the trash takes itself out. Confidence is less about people liking you and more about knowing you’ll be okay if they don’t. The future isn’t real. Only the present matters. Your attention is the most valuable asset you have.The things you do are not means to an end. Look for the magic in everything you do. If you’re struggling to find happiness, seek interesting instead. Nobody is mad at you. Criticism without empathy is bullying. Confrontations don’t have to be scary. Happiness is a direction, not a destination.If you want to heal a wound, you can’t keep messing with it. Gardens work in seasons and so do you. We can’t change what we refuse to notice. Quit waiting for a better time to get your shit together. Authentic magnetism means both attracting and repelling. The words you speak become the house we live in. Just because it didn’t last doesn’t mean it wasn’t real. Your job is to BE the light. Not make anyone see it. You are a Human being. Not a human doing. Let others be the one to tell you no. Learning should add to your sense of agency. Not remove it. Live your values. Don’t just claim them as an identity. There are many ways up a mountain. Don’t break a sweat on an escalator. Think globally, act locally.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1322 || the best advice of 2024 (part 2)

Wed, 01 Jan 2025 05:01:03 GMT

17. People show love in many different ways. At some point, we have to understand that just because someone isn’t capable of communicating love in a healthy way doesn’t mean they don’t love you. But it also doesn’t mean you have to put up with it.

18. Romantic love is overrated.

19. You’re not better than anyone. Noone is better than you. Being further ahead than someone doesn’t disqualify their wisdom. We have something to learn from and share with every living being on this planet.

20. We never know where people had leg-ups, and we never know what invisible struggles people are experiencing.

21. People’s responses to your boundaries, wants, needs, values, etc. say more about them than you.

22. Action is the remedy. The key to getting over cycles of worry and rumination and overthinking and fear is to focus on the next best step.

23. Pain, uncertainty, effort are the three unavoidable aspects of reality we will all experience.

24. Shoot your shot. Closed mouths don’t get fed. The squeaky wheel gets the grease. Don’t hesitate to speak up when you have shit to say.

25. Nobody knows what the fuck they’re doing. Adults are just babies in grown up costumes. Life is hard as hell - you’re not weird for not having a damned clue what the fuck is happening.

26. It’s never too late. Time is a construct. You can slow it down with intentionality or speed it up with mindless actions like doom scrolling.

27. Get comfortable in silence. Learn when it’s time to mind your business and when it’s time to speak your mind. You’re allowed to take up space but you’re also allowed to sit back and cease to be perceived.

28. Every single human just wants to feel seen, valued, and loved. Be kind. Be open. Focus on the little moments with people + really listen. However, not all people deserves all access to you.

29. Social media is a tool. It’s also a manipulative marketing addiction machine. Be careful with it. Set boundaries and check in with your emotions during and after your usage.

30. Future you appreciates your attention, thoughtfulness, and love more than anyone. Intentionally show yourself the same kindness and attention you show to the people you care most about.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1321 || the best advice of 2024

Tue, 31 Dec 2024 05:01:57 GMT

1. You get one body. Be kind to it. Whatever sucks about it (more than likely) doesn’t compare to what doesn’t suck about it. Learn to appreciate the badass vessel that it is + honor your commitment to it. You’re stuck with it, so you may as well get along with it.

2. You get one mind. See above.

3. You get one round at this life. How you spend your days is how you spend your life, so don’t put it off waiting for shit to happen to you - instead go out there and make it happen for you.

4. You are not your thoughts.

5. Your reality isn’t the only reality. All realities are valid despite sometimes conflicting. Work to adopt more neutral perspectives to gain more objective reflections on reality.

6. Change your perspective, change your experience. You change the outcome by changing your interpretation of the situation. Bringing the right attitude can greatly improve almost any situation.

7. Slow the fuck down. Timelines are literally bullshit. Don’t rush it. Don’t stress it. Let shit flow and learn to enjoy the between times.

8. They aren’t mad at you. If you didn’t give them a reason to be mad, and they didn’t directly communicate to you that they were mad at you? Stop worrying. 99% of the time they’re busy + distracted + forgot to respond. Relax. Unless you fucked up, stop feeling bad for shit you didn’t do.

9. In fact, nobody is paying attention to you as closely as you think they are. Your life is yours. Write your story, don’t stress over the critics. As long as you’re not hurting anyone else, you’re allowed to do whatever the fuck you want, whenever the fuck you want.

10. You are not unlovable. You are a badass human. You have had positive impacts on humans you literally didn’t remember existing + the world is genuinely a better place simply because you’re in it. You haven’t yet met all the people who will love you.

11. You don’t need to work so hard to be “liked”. Protect your peace, set appropriate boundaries, say no, but be kind + vulnerable + honest. The best way to be a crowd pleaser is not to be a people pleaser.

12. Leave shit better than you found it.

13. Internal peace is more rewarding and sustainable than happiness.

14. Your looks are the least interesting thing about you.

15. Practice pausing before responding. Automatic reactions are human, but they’re typically not reflective of our reality. Take an extra second to think.

16.Giving yourself the love/attention/value you seek from others is the key to being open to actually receiving the love you seek.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1320 || advice article from 2024

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 05:01:00 GMT

Here's the 2024 compilation of articles from Vox, Atlantic, Medium, Linked in, and NYT, offering their advice from 2024. Stay tuned for mine!

SOURCES:

https://www.nytimes.com/2024/12/28/briefing/your-best-advice-of-2024.html

https://www.theatlantic.com/newsletters/archive/2024/12/most-memorable-advice-2024/681125/

https://medium.com/mr-plan-publication/heres-some-advice-for-2024-if-you-re-in-your-early-20s-521cd17f09f0

https://www.vox.com/even-better/391465/best-expert-advice-relationships-friendship-mental-health-2024

https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/5-golden-pieces-advice-make-2024-your-best-year-yet-jakub-szrodt-fwqze

RESOURCES:

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1319 || Best advice from the last year (2023) || patreon

Sun, 29 Dec 2024 05:01:40 GMT

I'm still a little under the weather but tomorrow I'm sharing advice from 2024 in preparation for 2025 so today, I thought I'd do a little recap of last year's episode featuring advice from 2023.

The source: https://www.vox.com/even-better/23989636/best-expert-advice-2023

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1318 || use your fancy equipment (and take care of it)

Sat, 28 Dec 2024 05:01:31 GMT

Gratitude is a practice that gains momentum as we do it. Slowing down takes brain power, which forces us to remember that this is worth the extra effort. Conscious awareness can transform routine into ritual. Slowing down frees up some time and opportunity to notice the magic.

Rushing adds an extra layer of stress that causes chaos to snowball.

Slowing down adds a buffer of leisure that causes peace to snowball.

Sometimes the extra effort is worth it because it forces you to appreciate all the effort, not just the extra bits.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1317 || brain plasticity (re-release)

Wed, 25 Dec 2024 05:01:08 GMT

Another re-release for the holiday. Hope you enjoy!

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1316 || favors for future me (re-release)

Tue, 24 Dec 2024 05:01:05 GMT

Another re-release for the holiday. Hope you enjoy!

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1315 || conflict resolution highlights

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 05:01:57 GMT

1. Let go of winning.

2. Share your story and invite others to do the same.

3. Ask questions to understand.

4. Acknowledge the role of emotions.

5. When possible, seek common ground.

BY: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/five_ways_to_have_more_constructive_disagreements

H = Hedge your claims,
E = Emphasize agreement.
A = Acknowledge the opposing perspective.
R = Reframing to the positive.

BY: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_steps_to_help_people_feel_listened_to

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1314 || inner voice check (re-release)

Sun, 22 Dec 2024 05:01:45 GMT

(this is a re-release) If your inner voice manifested into a human form today, would you be friends with it? I think a lot of us would have to teach our new friend some manners before going into the real world. Which is wild to think about - that the most common voice, our most reliable narrator, our internal operator is kind of an asshole? Is really sad to me. If the voice we live with, and listen to the most, is not nice? What does that mean?

Negative self talk quickly trains your brain to believe that the criticisms of it are true. This is why it’s so crucial to train your brain that the good shit can be true, instead. If you cuss yourself out every time you drop something, or call yourself names when you make mistakes, I highly recommend this tactic:

EVERY time you catch yourself thinking or saying something negative about yourself (or someone else) you MUST say OUT LOUD two unique positive things to counteract that thought. And take a second to absorb it and try to believe it. Train your brain that there are alternate ways of thinking and believing and perceiving. I fully recognize that reframing isn’t a miracle cure for everyone and everything, but this one, with enough practice and redirection - does work. And the less we complain, the less we see the world as a thing to complain about, and find a lot of the shit we were complaining about was not that big of a deal to begin with. Notice it.

Then replace it with more positive thoughts.

Then reward yourself with a lil hell yeah.

And if this sounds hokey and too much for a simple thought - the magic of the practice is because it IS too much, it doesn’t reallllly take that long to stick in theory. Think about it, nobody is gonna wanna self correct and think of new original and unique compliments all day, especially if we struggle with positive self talk, so it’s a real solid rebuttal strategy!

The brain is a giant computer.

Computer needs updates + reprogramming occasionally.

We should be keeping up with this shit anyway. We need to “sleep and shut down” to keep the battery healthy. But this is a great way to do so.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1313 || perfectionism is the enemy

Sat, 21 Dec 2024 05:01:32 GMT

"Perfectionism is just control dressed up in a different costume." - Seth Hughes

"Perfection is just another attempt to tidy up a scruffy universe. You see what this world needs is humanity. Being rough around the edges. ANd a beautiful sustainable restorative and regenerative human culture understands how to balance poles not tries to make one ond of the polarity beat the other." - Seth Hughes

Seth Hughes Tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@_sethhughes/video/7449752069940055329

Brene Brown: https://brenebrown.com/art/tgoi-perfectionism/

Elizabeth Gilbert: https://www.elizabethgilbert.com/books/big-magic/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1312 || so many possibilities so little time

Fri, 20 Dec 2024 05:01:54 GMT

You can pivot whenever you need to. Maybe you’ve been on a path that felt right for a while, but now it doesn’t. That’s okay. We outgrow shit. Goals that used to fire us up can start to feel like obligations, and that’s not failure, it’s growth. There’s no rule that says you have to stay the same person you were 5 minutes ago, let alone 5 years ago. You’re allowed to change. To take breaks. To dream new dreams. To pause. To explore. To try new things and risk falling flat on your face because, honestly!?!? That’s where the most growth happens.

When you embrace the idea that life is full of paths, you stop being afraid of getting it “wrong.” You realize that every path you take, no matter how rocky or unplanned, is leading you somewhere.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1311 || digging holes (a re-release)

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 05:01:02 GMT

This is a re-release.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1310 || food is my passion (so why do I struggle with it?)

Wed, 18 Dec 2024 05:01:54 GMT

The real thing I enjoy about cooking and working out - is when the effort is the least interesting part about it. I hate treadmills, but give me a cocktail and a disney pass, I’m walking MILES without a second thought. I hate arm day but I LOVE rowing a boat into the middle of a water feature and snacking with a pal. I hate cycle classes but will bike for hours in a pretty neighborhood. And the same goes for cooking.

I wasn’t enjoying cooking for myself because I wasn’t really looking for the joy of it.

And listen, most nights - there is no joy to be found in cooking - because I’m tired and burnt out and already hangry. But! When I do have the space/time to cook and make a thing and really lean into the “art” of it? I have the best time, and make the best results, and feel great about it.

I still use my pre-made/half made meals regularly, but I also don’t like stress myself out over having to make something from scratch when I do. I get in my head sometimes so bad that everything seems intimidating, especially feeding myself and my partner - but when I stop overthinking shit and just make do with what we have on hand, like an episode of chopped, it becomes an almost meditative experience.

Intention really is everything. If I hate the idea of cooking, The Chef soundtrack can put me right back into it.

Bourdain said “If you dont want to take teh time to peel garlic, then you don’t deserve to eat fresh garlic.” and he’s harsher than I am, and maybe he meant to be - but I interpreted that as - we all deserve the fresh garlic, and we deserve to take the time to peel that garlic.

CLAIRE SAFFITZ makes drumsticks: https://youtu.be/Qd0TQeVQ2Z0?si=w1QkTI24xAu74J-n

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1309 || always go to the funeral

Tue, 17 Dec 2024 05:01:35 GMT

"In my humdrum life, the daily battle hasn't been good versus evil. It's hardly so epic. Most days, my real battle is doing good versus doing nothing." - Dierdre Sullivan

"It's so rare. It's so rare that somebody'd look out for you. Thoughts and Prayers are all they'd do." - Gigi Perez

The Diedre Sullivan piece: https://www.npr.org/2005/08/08/4785079/always-go-to-the-funeral

Gigi Perez's "Fable + Truth": https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=spwcEiZtAlQ

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1308 || to quit or not to quit

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 05:01:53 GMT

One way to know if it's time to quit is to ask: "If I weren’t already invested in this, would I choose it today?"

The key to quitting "well" is:

Honesty —with yourself and others. Own your decision.
Having an exit plan. Quitting isn't ghosting. Whether it’s a job, hobby, or a relationship, think about how you can leave things respectfully. Tie up loose ends/make the transition as smooth as possible.
Focusing on what’s next. Quitting is just the beginning. It’s not about running away—it’s about moving toward something better. Channel that energy into building what’s next for you.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1307 || rules for radicals

Sun, 15 Dec 2024 05:01:24 GMT

RULES FOR RADICALS:

"Power is not only what you have but what the enemy thinks you have."
"Never go outside the experience of your people."
"Whenever possible go outside of the experience of the enemy."
"Make the enemy live up to its own book of rules."
"Ridicule is man's most potent weapon. There is no defense. It is almost impossible to counterattack ridicule. Also it infuriates the opposition, who then react to your advantage."
"A good tactic is one your people enjoy."
"A tactic that drags on too long becomes a drag."
"Keep the pressure on."
"The threat is usually more terrifying than the thing itself."
"The major premise for tactics is the development of operations that will maintain a constant pressure upon the opposition."
"If you push a negative hard and deep enough it will break through into its counterside; this is based on the principle that every positive has its negative."
"The price of a successful attack is a constructive alternative."
"Pick the target, freeze it, personalize it, and polarize it."

RESOURCES: https://commonslibrary.org/rules-for-radicals-by-saul-alinsky/

ACCESS THE BOOK: https://archive.org/details/RulesForRadicalsSaulAlinskyOCR/mode/2up

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1306 || buying a lifestyle

Sat, 14 Dec 2024 05:01:23 GMT

In today’s world, we're sold far more than just products. We're sold lifestyles/belief systems that tell us who we should be, how we should act, and what will make us 'successful.' Brands like Apple, Nike, Lululemon, etc. have moved beyond selling shoes or tech gadgets—they sell you the idea that buying their product makes you part of something bigger. It makes you 'better.' But here’s the catch: these beliefs don’t liberate us. They bind us. It’s a trick. A trick to make you think that changing who you are on the outside—buying a new product, following the latest trend—will change the world. It won’t. It will just keep the cycle going.

THE ARTICLE: https://subpixel.space/entries/life-after-lifestyle/

THE SPEECH: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iK3oK50AFlg

THE AUTHOR: https://tobyshorin.com/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1305 || just a little movement can help your brain

Fri, 13 Dec 2024 05:01:35 GMT

How much exercise do we need to impact our mental health? 15 minutes. That's it. Just 15 minutes (of any type of movement) can improve your well-being. Maybe it's time we start focusing on quality over quantity.

RESOURCES: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-your-brain-needs-exercise/

AND: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/dec/11/just-do-something-you-enjoy-have-official-targets-made-exercise-a-chore-and-happiness-more-elusive

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1304 || exercise for your brain

Thu, 12 Dec 2024 05:01:49 GMT

What if I told you that aerobic exercise was as valuable for our cognitive health as our physical health? What if there was a way to exercise that multiplied it's positive effects without any additional physical effort? Would you change anything about the way you show up?

RESOURCES: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-your-brain-needs-exercise/

AND: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2024/dec/11/just-do-something-you-enjoy-have-official-targets-made-exercise-a-chore-and-happiness-more-elusive

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1303 || dopamine dressing

Wed, 11 Dec 2024 05:01:30 GMT

When was the last time you dressed for joy? What we wear has a greater impact on us than we think. Don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and wear the thing that makes you feel good, even if it's "loud" or "bright" or "showy". If it makes you happy??? Put that shit on!!!

RESOURCE: https://www.verywellmind.com/color-psychology-2795824#:~:text=Color%20is%20a%20powerful%20communication,%2C%20increased%20metabolism%2C%20and%20eyestrain.

RESOURCE: https://www.verywellmind.com/dopamine-dressing-how-to-dress-for-your-happiness-in-2022-5217231

RESOURCE: https://www.oliver-charles.com/blogs/repeat/the-enclothed-cognition-in-dopamine-dressing?srsltid=AfmBOoqPtHOd_pvlGyHP-tPO4vEtNAcWcvVjFESRT7AE7w8mA9dGDmsH

FURTHER READING: https://medium.com/demagsign/the-colors-of-protest-46289d141e2b

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1302 || ethical contradictions

Tue, 10 Dec 2024 05:01:06 GMT

How do we make ethical decisions? Are there "universal moral truths"? What can we do if a situation is not morally "black and white"?

There are countless factors that apply to every ethical question. Context is crucial.

I think, in general, we're all bound to be a little wrong and a little right - and understanding all of the factors that go into that is the clearest way to ensure we're not overwhelmed with that responsibility.

Ethics 101: https://www.bbc.co.uk/ethics/introduction/intro_1.shtml

Another Intro to Ethics: https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Historical_Introduction_to_Philosophy/Ethics

And another: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nicomachean_Ethics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1301 || intro to ethics

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 05:01:17 GMT

At its simplest, ethics is a system of moral principles that affect how we make decisions and lead our lives. Ethics (or moral philosophy) is about with what is good for individuals and society.

Ethics 101: https://www.bbc.co.uk/ethics/introduction/intro_1.shtml

Another Intro to Ethics: https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Historical_Introduction_to_Philosophy/Ethics

And another: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Nicomachean_Ethics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1300 || Keep Hope Alive by Ayesha Khan (revisited)

Sat, 07 Dec 2024 05:01:52 GMT

This is a re-release of an episode I got great feedback from: "Hopelessness is often most pervasive among the privileged who are more insulated from from overt violence." - Ayesha Khan

SOURCE: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/how-do-we-keep-hope-alive-in-our

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1299 || sponge cities

Fri, 06 Dec 2024 05:01:45 GMT

Sponge cities use nature and science to work with the environment and improve the ecosystem. Sustainable infrastructure is not only good for the people in the city, but the environment as a whole.

The definition: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sponge_city

The main source article: https://www.theurbanist.org/2023/02/08/urbanism-101-what-is-a-sponge-city/#:~:text=The%20term%20%E2%80%9CSponge%20City%E2%80%9D%20first,water%20during%20times%20of%20rainfall.

Further reading: https://climatechampions.unfccc.int/what-are-sponge-cities-and-how-can-they-prevent-floods/

Kongjian video that inspired this episode: https://www.tiktok.com/@museumofscience/video/7432675896617700650?_r=1&_t=8ryGZXBFZiJ

Kongjian interview I pulled quotes from: https://metropolismag.com/viewpoints/kongjian-yu-interview/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1298 || the right to swing your fist

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 05:01:03 GMT

"your right to swing your fist ends where my nose begins"

"The Paradox of Tolerance disappears if you look at tolerance, not as a moral standard, but as a social contract. If someone does not abide by the terms of the contract, then they are not covered by it. In other words: The intolerant are not following the rules of the social contract of mutual tolerance. Since they have broken the terms of the contract, they are no longer covered by the contract, and their intolerance should NOT be tolerated." - Tolerance is Not a Moral Precept by Yonatan Zunger

SOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradox_of_tolerance#:~:text=The%20paradox%20of%20tolerance%20is,the%20very%20principle%20of%20tolerance.

OTHER SOURCE: https://medium.com/extra-extra/tolerance-is-not-a-moral-precept-1af7007d6376

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1297 || the tolerance paradox

Wed, 04 Dec 2024 05:01:22 GMT

"The paradox of tolerance is a philosophical concept suggesting that if a society extends tolerance to those who are intolerant, it risks enabling the eventual dominance of intolerance, thereby undermining the very principle of tolerance." - Wikipedia

SOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Paradox_of_tolerance#:~:text=The%20paradox%20of%20tolerance%20is,the%20very%20principle%20of%20tolerance.

OTHER SOURCE: https://medium.com/extra-extra/tolerance-is-not-a-moral-precept-1af7007d6376

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1296 || what's really getting me through it

Tue, 03 Dec 2024 05:01:35 GMT

Here are some things that helped me survive lately:

Thinking of rest and joy as resistance.

Intentional rest and joy are essential to the whole thing. When I start to have a little shame spiral about feeling a little bit of joy or hope or when I start to feel guilty about needing a break or rest — I remind myself that some weirdo want’s me to feel that way so that I get tired and give up — and I try to let myself move (or not move) with a little more grace.

Reminding myself to slow down.

I have never not been in a rush. I sometimes notice I’m rushing for nothing only to realize my heart is racing and I’m breathing like I ran a marathon.

Plus, lately I’ve been cooking and baking more and that shit is dangerous (and devastating) if you mess up. So, slowing down is a good idea in general.

I’ve been doing a lot more “music + ambience” on youtube, and it’s been a game changer for my focus while working, writing, or cooking.

Allowing myself to feel shit as it comes up.

Basically, I’ve been crying a lot, panicking sometimes, and then fully ready to stress clean or stress cook or stress bake until I can muster up the energy to face life again — and instead of shaming myself about it and feeling worse, I’ve been trying to respond with patience and compassion instead.

And who would’ve thought? It helps.

Taking action + reclaiming a sense of control.

So when I’m feeling like I’m overwhelmed with the world or angry with the world, I remember that I’m not alone in that anger and the best place to put it is to use.

There are people already creating the future that we want. There are people who want the same things I do from humanity and they are all around me, all the time but I can’t see them because they’re busy doing shit to make it happen. The sooner I seek out the people already involved in the work, the sooner I can put a hand or two in it, as well.

And sure, I can’t do everything, but that sure as shit doesn’t mean I shouldn’t do anything.

And doing anything, starts with something.

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1295 || coping tools vs. weapons

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 05:01:15 GMT

If we look at our coping mechanisms at face value, it can add to the stress that we’re attempting to take away. It can feel like a bandaid for a symptom rather than a direct address to the roots of the problem.

But not everything can be a full uprooting of systemic damages. Sometimes, effective coping is about surviving the moment.

So let’s lump all of the coping strategies I listed (and any others you can think of), and see them for what they really are: survival tools.

They are tools to help us survive. They are strategies to protect our health internal and external in literally any way that our brain possibly can. So they are morally neutral. Not bad, not good.

A hammer can be a valuable tool or a dangerous weapon, depending on how it’s yielded. So check your tools, sure, but also don’t be afraid to check in with your wielding strategies, too.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1294 || a break from politics

Sat, 30 Nov 2024 05:01:01 GMT

Listen, we’ve gotten pretty political over the past month, and I wanted to defend my reasoning for the seasoning before I talk about why I wanna switch it up a bit. Unfortunately life is political. Not addressing the elephant in the room doesn't remove the elephant from the room. And I wish more than anything we lived in a society where we didn’t have to talk about the ways the systems impact us and everything around us. That said, I never want to push anyone away from radical solidarity and community action.

So, we're mixing it up over the next season of the podcast and we're gonna start infusing some neuroscience, psychology, art, friendship, and community themes back into the regular rotation so we can keep our momentum sustainably!

TINY BUDDHA QUOTE: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/what-it-means-to-live-life-with-open-palms-and-how-this-sets-us-free/

THE HOPE GUIDE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

AND: https://www.bmartin.cc/pubs/backfire.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1293 || make amazon pay day

Fri, 29 Nov 2024 05:01:14 GMT

"My medium spicy take is that it takes a lot of pressure off of you. You can celebrate any holiday any way you want because taking the holiday and changing it to fit to your needs is truly traditional. The important thing is we take days off work, gather together, and spit in the face of a harsh earth." - Alex Falcone.

"Amazon is everywhere but so are we." - Varsha Gandikota-Nellutla

Alex Falcone: https://alexfalcone.ninja/

Varsha Gandikota-Nellutla: https://www.instagram.com/varshagandikota/?locale=en_US%252525252Cen_US%252525252Cen_US%252525252Cen_US&hl=ar

Amazon Protest information: https://uniglobalunion.org/news/map24/

A reason to boycott walmart: https://www.al.com/news/2024/11/birmingham-activists-call-for-walmart-black-friday-boycott-after-dei-rollback.html

Another reason to boycott black friday: https://www.essence.com/news/protesters-plan-boycott-black-friday/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1292 || contextualized history of thanksgiving

Thu, 28 Nov 2024 05:01:13 GMT

I tend to get a bit overwhelmed when thinking about Thanksgiving. When I feel overwhelmed by something, it's typically because I lack context. Here is some of the context I discovered on my journey to better understand Thanksgiving's true history, from the perspective of the Wampanoag people.

THE MAIN RESOURCE: https://ictnews.org/archive/the-wampanoag-side-of-the-first-thanksgiving-story

THE SUPRESSED WAMSUTTA (FRANK) JAMES SPEECH: http://www.uaine.org/suppressed_speech.htm

ANOTHER GOOD SOURCE: https://indiancountrytoday.com/archive/what-really-happened-at-the-first-thanksgiving-the-wampanoag-side-of-the-tale

A BUNCH OF OTHER GREAT RESOURCES LINKED HERE: https://native-american.dartmouth.edu/news/2020/11/thanksgiving

AND A GREAT LIL LESSON PLAN: https://annmichaelsen.com/2022/12/03/lesson-plan-after-helping-pilgrims-todays-wampanoag-tribe-fight-for-their-ancestral-lands/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1291 || reframing violent rhetoric

Wed, 27 Nov 2024 05:01:35 GMT

Often these methods are effective at preventing or reducing backre. However, sometimes the perpetrators’ tactics fail, and backfire occurs. When it does, it is often because people relied on ve principles (which can be remembered as the “5 Rs” below) to heighten outrage and increase mobilization against injustice. These principles are:

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

HOPE guide 2024: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

Violent Rhetoric Overview: https://www.projectoverzero.org/media-and-publications/a-refresher-on-narratives-and-violence

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1290 || backfire method in action

Tue, 26 Nov 2024 05:01:48 GMT

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

RESOURCE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

AND: https://www.bmartin.cc/pubs/backfire.html

AND: https://commonslibrary.org/wp-content/uploads/Organizers_Handbook.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1289 || backfire tactics

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 05:01:28 GMT

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.

RESOURCE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

AND: https://www.bmartin.cc/pubs/backfire.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1288 || reveal, redeem, reframe, redirect, resist

Sat, 23 Nov 2024 05:01:47 GMT

Often these methods are effective at preventing or reducing backre. However, sometimes the perpetrators’ tactics fail, and backre occurs. When it does, it is often because people relied on ve principles (which can be remembered as the “5 Rs” below) to heighten outrage and increase mobilization against injustice. These principles are:

1. Reveal – Expose the injustice.

2. Redeem – Validate the target.

3. Reframe – Interpret the event as an injustice.

4. Redirect – Mobilize support and avoid official channels.

5. Resist – Resist intimidation and bribes.2

RESOURCE: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1287 || hope guide to resisting political violence

Fri, 22 Nov 2024 05:01:16 GMT

"When threats achieve their intended results, they embolden those who use them. It’s clear that inciting PV has become politically or economically profitable for certain individuals and groups. Some perpetrators also find threat-making to be psychologically gratifying. For these reasons, the very small minority in the US who incite, threaten, and enact PV won’t stop on their own. We, the vast majority, must take action to stop them by imposing costs on their actions." - Hardy Merriman

THE HOPE GUIDE PDF:

https://static1.squarespace.com/static/666b71d25d155b3509763e61/t/6696c79b4483c7565da3e43c/1721157535696/HOPE+PV+End+Political+Violence+Guide+07-16-24+version.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1286 || stay engaged

Thu, 21 Nov 2024 05:01:00 GMT

"We shouldn’t think of our struggle as a finite game, but an infinite game in which there will be many different opportunities to engage. We should be learning how to do better from our failures and our successes. Power may go back and forth over that period of time, over the years ahead of us, so don’t despair too much about whatever happens in the next couple months. Stay hopeful, stay engaged, and recognize that even if the pro-democracy movement loses some ground in this election year, we could also win." - Scot Nakagawa

Read that here: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/08/anti-authoritarian-organizer-scot-nakagawa-participation-advantage-confronting-political-violence/

Kristianna on tiktak said: “you’re using your imagination power to prepare for their best case scenario rather than thinking about how to use the chaos of this moment to make your best case scenario happen.

Watch that here: https://www.tiktok.com/@mochaeinstein27/video/7437529671580814622)

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1285 || an activist's take on all this

Wed, 20 Nov 2024 05:01:58 GMT

"People also need to avoid conspiracy theories — and they need to avoid scaring people and doing the job of authoritarians for them. Political violence is a key strategy of authoritarians because it scares people, right? It scares people out of participating in the political system..." - Scot Nakagawa

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/08/anti-authoritarian-organizer-scot-nakagawa-participation-advantage-confronting-political-violence/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1284 || waging nonviolent resistance

Tue, 19 Nov 2024 06:01:17 GMT

Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency.

THE SOURCE :https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/how-we-can-meet-challenges-of-authoritarianism/

THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/

AND THIS ONE: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/

AUTOCRACY THREAT TRACKER: https://www.justsecurity.org/92714/american-autocracy-threat-tracker/

ARTICLE ABOUT EFFECTIVE RESISTANCE STRATEGIES: https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2017/jun/20/authoritarianism-trump-resistance-defeat

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

re-release - reprioritizing survival mode

Sun, 17 Nov 2024 06:01:43 GMT

This is a re-release of episode 745: "getting out of survival mode" because I had a microphone issue and didn't want to ghost you on the final episode of the "grounding yourself after a Trump win" series.

But this one felt relevant to me - and hoping it can help someone if you're feeling the same.

Escaping the cycles of chronic stress... well... sucks. I often want to reach for things that further disconnect me, when in reality, the way out is through connecting more intentionally and deliberately with my current self in what is affecting me, how it's affecting me, and what I NEED, instead of want.

If you're in survival mode currently. I am with you. We will get out of it, in due time. Don't do more than is necessary and remember that you got this, cutie.

RESOURCES: https://www.verywellmind.com/chronic-stress-3145104

WATCH: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

BUY SOME MERCH: https://www.teepublic.com/stores/make-your-damn-bed-podcast?ref_id=27657

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Get bonus content on Patreon

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

re-release - core beliefs

Sat, 16 Nov 2024 06:01:23 GMT

This is a re-release of episode 888 "core beliefs" because I had a microphone issue and didn't want to ghost you on the final episode of the "grounding yourself after a Trump win" series.

But this one felt relevant to me - and hoping it can help someone if you're feeling the same.

LINK:https://www.verywellmind.com/how-to-challenge-your-negative-core-beliefs-7554706

https://positivepsychology.com/core-beliefs-worksheets/

https://positive.b-cdn.net/wp-content/uploads/2020/06/Table-of-Common-Core-Beliefs.pdf

GET A MONTHLY NOTE FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1283 || grounding yourself for a Trump presidency

Fri, 15 Nov 2024 05:01:05 GMT

Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency.

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/

THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/

AND THIS ONE: https://www.endpoliticalviolence.org/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1282 || staying grounded in a Trump win

Thu, 14 Nov 2024 05:01:52 GMT

Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency.

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/

THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1281 || more grounding strategies

Wed, 13 Nov 2024 05:01:57 GMT

Today I'm sharing some strategies on how to stay grounded during a trump presidency.

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/

THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1280 || ways to feel grounded

Tue, 12 Nov 2024 05:01:29 GMT

there's a new wave of valuable movements on the horizon, and I highly suggest you catch one.

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/

THE OTHER SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/10-things-to-do-if-trump-wins/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1279 || new wave of movements

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 05:01:28 GMT

there's a new wave of valuable movements on the horizon, and I highly suggest you catch one.

THE SOURCE: https://wagingnonviolence.org/2024/11/a-new-wave-of-movements-against-trumpism-is-coming/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1278 || the first step

Sat, 09 Nov 2024 05:01:41 GMT

Some of us have work to do. Some of us are terrified, but we're ready to take action. This is your reminder to do it scared. Time will pass either way, so we may as well put in a fight along the way.

Rachel Maddow's Message: https://www.msnbc.com/rachel-maddow-show/maddowblog/maddow-trump-election-win-defend-democracy-rcna179201

Sophie Diener's Poem: https://www.instagram.com/sophiediener/reel/DAGaFkARf3m/?hl=en

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1277 || the glass cliff + election anger

Fri, 08 Nov 2024 05:01:12 GMT

Another day of election grief ranting and some information on a "new-to-me" term: "The Glass Cliff".

Links to the inspirational resources I referenced are here:

Glass Cliff: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Glass_cliff

@imdaven on tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@imdaven?lang=en

@WhaleDetective on tiktok: https://www.tiktok.com/@whale_detective?lang=en

@BlackLiturgies on instagram: https://www.instagram.com/blackliturgies/?hl=en

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1276 || election hangover

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 05:01:34 GMT

Today I'm ranting about my election grief in lieu of a regular style episode.

Links to the inspirational resources I referenced are here:

Rebecca Solnit's Twitter: https://x.com/RebeccaSolnit ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor

Rebecca Solnit's Website: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

Robert Reich's Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@rbreich/video/7434148767412030763?lang=en

Robert Reich's Resources: https://robertreich.org/

@YourKoreanDad's account: https://yourkoreandad.com/

Nikita Gill's Poetry: https://www.instagram.com/nikita_gill/?hl=en

We The Urban's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/wetheurban/?hl=en

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1275 || build + broaden positive emotions

Wed, 06 Nov 2024 05:01:27 GMT

Today I'm sharing even more techniques using neuroscience to help us escape negative thought spirals. All this is extremely subjective and not meant to be used all at once. Pick one, try it, and give it some time and repetition. Maybe it helps, maybe you move on to the next. Don't be so hard on yourself, either way!!!

Unfortunately, negative emotions have a tendency to compound, however there is building evidence that positive thoughts and behaviors (when practiced in contextually appropriate ways) can compound as well.

RESOURCES:

THE ARTICLE: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2908186/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1274 || escaping doom spirals

Tue, 05 Nov 2024 05:01:27 GMT

RESOURCES:

THE ARTICLE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flipping-out/202207/doom-spiral-when-negative-thoughts-get-out-of-control

PART 2: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/flipping-out/202208/doom-spiral-what-to-do-if-your-inner-voice-goes-too-far

Ethan Kross's interview: https://magazine.columbia.edu/article/best-way-stop-negative-thought-spiral

The science: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2908186/

Cognitive distortions list: https://psychcentral.com/lib/cognitive-distortions-negative-thinking#5-tips-to-stop-cognitive-distortions

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1273 || dealing with a thought spiral

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 05:01:05 GMT

Today I'm sharing various techniques using neuroscience to help us escape negative thought spirals. All this is extremely subjective and not meant to be used all at once. Pick one, try it, and give it some time and repetition. Maybe it helps, maybe you move on to the next. Don't be so hard on yourself, either way!!!

RESOURCES:

Marsha Linehan's Technique: https://www.campuswell.com/cognitive-distortions/#1690237279413-809f9f34-cc86

Lisa Daino's technique: https://www.talkspace.com/mental-health/conditions/articles/catastrophic-thinking-thought-spirals-how-to-stop/

Dilshad Edibam Khurana's technique: https://mpowerminds.com/blog/Understanding-the-psychology-behind-downward-spiral

Ashley Fletcher's Techniques: https://www.mindful.org/halting-the-spiral-navigating-repetitive-thought-patterns/

Ethan Kross's interview: https://magazine.columbia.edu/article/best-way-stop-negative-thought-spiral

The science: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2908186/

Cognitive distortions list: https://psychcentral.com/lib/cognitive-distortions-negative-thinking#5-tips-to-stop-cognitive-distortions

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1272 || negative thought spirals

Sun, 03 Nov 2024 04:01:27 GMT

Today we're talking about some common cognitive distortions. Not to brag or anything, but I’m kind of a professional spiraler. I have done it so well for so long that my internal anxious voice has taken me full circle and essentially become background noise. So while I have a million personal stories about me catastrophizing or spinning out about the future, I realize I don’t really have a ton of actionable solutions. So, I did what I do when I have an idea for the podcast and I spiraled into a resource hole so I could find any of the relevant neuroscience and therapeutic remedies so that we could practice getting ourselves out of the grip of the spiral once and for all.

RESOURCES:

Ethan Kross's interview: https://magazine.columbia.edu/article/best-way-stop-negative-thought-spiral

The science: https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC2908186/

Cognitive distortions list: https://psychcentral.com/lib/cognitive-distortions-negative-thinking#5-tips-to-stop-cognitive-distortions

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1271 || final thoughts on hope for cynics || patreon

Sat, 02 Nov 2024 04:01:50 GMT

"Cynicism is a tool of the status quo." - Jamil Zaki

"Billions of us are taught that life is a battle where winners take all and losers are everywhere. Our trust and hope are mocked as naive. By now,you know better. You can stay skeptical and avoid knee-jerk assumptions about people. You can remember that the media warps our view of one another and look for better data. Most of all, you can realize that hope is not a weakness, but a path to being less wrong and more effective. We can use that hope, like a divining rod, to locate others who want thesame things we do, building solidarity and common cause." - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1270 || creative maladjustment || hope for cynics 9

Fri, 01 Nov 2024 04:01:34 GMT

"I am sure that we will recognize that there are some things in our society, some things in our world, to which we should never be adjusted. There are some things concerning which we must always be maladjusted if we are to be people of good will. We must never adjust ourselves to racial discrimination and racial segregation. We must never adjust ourselves to religious bigotry. We must never adjust ourselves to economic conditions that take necessities from the many to give luxuries to the few. We must never adjust ourselves to the madness of militarism, and the self-defeating effects of physical violence." - Martin Luther King Jr.

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1269 || peace vs. justice || hope for cynics

Thu, 31 Oct 2024 04:01:17 GMT

Peace does not always represent justice or equity. Sometimes, it's good to be agitated. I think we can be hopeful AND angry. I truly believe there is room for both.

“The challenge for us... is not to grieve over social change, but to guide it.” - Robert Putnam

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1268 || disagree better || hope for cynics || 7

Wed, 30 Oct 2024 04:01:11 GMT

"Studies reveal a recipe for disagreeing better:

Good disagreers ask questions instead of making statements.
They work to get underneath people’s opinions to their stories.
When they spot common ground, good disagreers name it.
When they are unsure about something, they say so rather than pretending to be confident.

These ingredients each decrease the chance that dissent will devolve into toxic conflict. But good disagreement is more than nice; it’s powerful. In experiments, people given the recipe you see here listened more intently and asked better questions. But the people they talked with also became more open-minded, even though they received no training. Outrage is contagious, but so are curiosity and humility.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1267 || trust is created, not earned || hope for cynics || day 7

Tue, 29 Oct 2024 04:01:24 GMT

"Ernest Hemingway once said, "The best way to find out if you can trust somebody is to trust them." He was half right. Trust doesn't just teach us about people; it changes them. It's a gift they repay. A reciprocity mindset means understanding this. Leaps of faith are actions inspired by that knowledge: deliberate bets on other people.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1266 || hope for cynics (day 5)

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 04:01:37 GMT

"Any of us can seek out more accurate, less cynical news. But don't forget that the stories you tell influence others, too. Gossip is our ancient media, and someone is probably tuned in to yours. Try to balance negative conversation with celebration of the kindness and honesty that you've witnessed. Be someone else's nourishing media.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1265 || hope for cynics (day 4)

Sat, 26 Oct 2024 04:01:09 GMT

Researchers find that people regularly fail to realize how charitable, trustworthy, and compassionate others are. Helpers are all around; we just don’t see them. Some of these mistakes reflect how our minds are tuned. Negativity bias means people pay more attention to bad things than good. Again, this

makes evolutionary sense: It’s safe to ignore a sunset, but not a tsunami. As psychologist Fred Bryant says, “Troubles kick our door in and come and find us… whereas the pleasures and the joys, they don’t hunt us down and force us to enjoy them. They wait and they sometimes hide.” - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1264 || hope for cynics (part 3)

Fri, 25 Oct 2024 04:01:53 GMT

"Cynics often get people wrong, but that doesn’t mean it’s smart to put faith in everyone, all the time. Skeptics update their beliefs based hundreds of children, and then checked in with them a year later. When it came to depression and friendships, cynical children ended up the worst off, but extremely trusting kids did less well than those in the middle.Why? When judging humanity, both cynics and trusters behave like lawyers in humanity’s trial. Trusters represent the defense. They disregard suspicious signs, forget betrayals, and hold on to any evidence of human goodness. Cynics work for the prosecution, explaining away kindness and cataloging every instance of human viciousness. Both attorneys are inclined to ignore half of the evidence, even if they’re opposite halves.Lawyering is a fine way to argue, but a terrible way to learn. A growing science finds that real wisdom arrives when people know what they don’t know. Likewise, social wisdom doesn’t mean believing in everyone or no one. It means believing in evidence—by thinking less like a lawyer and more like a scientist. And despite the different instruments they use, all sorts of scientists share an intellectual tool:skepticism, the questioning of old wisdom and hunger for more information. Skeptics update their beliefs based on new information, allowing them to adjust to a complex world" - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1263 || hope for cynics (part 2)

Thu, 24 Oct 2024 04:01:40 GMT

"Cynicism is the theory that people are selfish, greedy, and dishonest. Like any theory, it changes how we see reality and react to it—in this case, the social world. Cynicism changes how we think, what we do, and what we don’t do." - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1262 || hope for cynics

Wed, 23 Oct 2024 04:01:21 GMT

"Cynicism is an understandable response to injustice and inequality. But in many cases, it is misplaced. Dozens of studies find that people fail to realize how kind, generous, and open-minded others really are. And cynical thinking worsens social problems: when we expect the worst in people, we often bring it out of them." - Jamil Zaki

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/how_to_find_hope_when_youre_feeling_cynical

https://www.theguardian.com/books/article/2024/aug/23/hope-for-cynics-by-jamil-zaki-review-beating-the-trust-recession

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/show/in-hope-for-cynics-researcher-explores-how-seeing-the-good-in-others-is-good-for-you

THE BOOK: https://www.jamil-zaki.com/hope-for-cynics

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1261 || habits to bridge gaps (2)

Tue, 22 Oct 2024 04:01:10 GMT

Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits.

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_habits_of_effective_bridge_builders

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1260 || habits to help bridge gaps

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 04:01:49 GMT

Today, we're reading the first few tips from "Eight Habits of Effective Bridge-Builders" and discussing what it means to build these habits.

RESOURCES: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/eight_habits_of_effective_bridge_builders

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1259 || the HEAR technique to bridge gaps

Sun, 20 Oct 2024 04:01:57 GMT

Four Steps to Help People Feel Listened To:

H = Hedge your claims, even when you feel very certain about your beliefs. It signals a recognition that there are some cases or some people who might support your opponent’s perspective.
E = Emphasize agreement. Find some common ground even when you disagree on a particular topic. This does not mean compromising or changing your mind, but rather recognizing that most people in the world can find some broad ideas or values to agree on.
A = Acknowledge the opposing perspective. Rather than jumping in to your own argument, devote a few seconds to restating the other person’s position to demonstrate that you did indeed hear and understand it.
R = Reframing to the positive. Avoid negative and contradictory words, such as “no,” “won’t” or “do not.” At the same time, increase your use of positive words to change the tone of the conversation.

RESOURCE: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/four_steps_to_help_people_feel_listened_to

AND: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1258 || final thoughts on grief

Sat, 19 Oct 2024 04:01:53 GMT

Grief isn’t linear.

Grief doesn't happen in stages.

Grief is chaotic.

Grief convinces you that it’s all encompassing.

There’s no right or wrong way to grieve (aside from the obvious).

Be gentle with yourself.

I’m not asking you to pretend it doesn't exist, but I am asking you to endure it.

It’s going to be okay. It’s going to be different, but it will be okay.

If you want to feel more connected:

The Shared Grief Project - https://sharedgrief.org/
Articles, blogs, community re, resources, etc. https://whatsyourgrief.com/
Additional resources: https://alicaforneret.co/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1257 || grief is emotional chaos

Fri, 18 Oct 2024 04:01:33 GMT

I recently received a request for resources on grief and loss, and I’ve collected a lot over the years because I’ve never been the most efficient at dealing with my grief; and although I don’t think grief is something that ever fully goes away, I do know from experience (and the wisdom that comes from it) - that it won’t always be unbearable. Today I share some science from Mary Frances O'Connor.

The Shared Grief Project: https://sharedgrief.org/

Mary Frances O'Connor's Site: https://maryfrancesoconnor.org/

Today's resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6844541/

Today's secondary resources: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1256 || how grief affects our neural pathways

Thu, 17 Oct 2024 04:01:40 GMT

The Shared Grief Project: https://sharedgrief.org/

Mary Frances O'Connor's Site: https://maryfrancesoconnor.org/

Today's resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6844541/

Today's secondary resources: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1255 || dealing with grief (the science)

Wed, 16 Oct 2024 04:01:40 GMT

The Shared Grief Project: https://sharedgrief.org/

Mary Frances O'Connor's Site: https://maryfrancesoconnor.org/

Today's resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6844541/

Today's secondary resources: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-the-brain-copes-with-grief/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1254 || dealing with decision fatigue

Tue, 15 Oct 2024 04:01:56 GMT

In 1998, Psychologist Roy Baumeister conducted a foundational study that showed decision-making depletes cognitive resources, much like physical exertion depletes muscles.

Baumeister’s studies found that decision fatigue leads to impulsive choices (gravitating toward immediate rewards or default options) or avoidance of decision-making (procrastination or refusal to choose).

For example, judges in a 2011 study were more likely to grant parole early in the day, and less likely as they became mentally fatigued, demonstrating how mental depletion affects critical decision-making.

So, preplan what you can. Limit excess decision making. Account for much needed rest + recovery. Rely on default decisions where applicable. Know + respect your limits. Practice mindfulness + compassion. Be patient. Remember you're human.

DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:

https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities

DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/

ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/

MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1253 || regret from a life not lived

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 04:01:04 GMT

Years ago, when I was grieving the loss of a very serious break up, I was explaining to a friend that the grief was really intense not only because I was grieving a loss of this, but I was also grieving the loss of who I was going to be with that person, and I think about this a lot, the anxiety of all of the un lived lives. I’ll never get the unknown of all of the paths I didn’t and couldn’t take.

TIPS: Practice radical acceptance: Accept that you can't live every life. For every door you open, another closes.

Get present: Ground yourself in the life you're living right now. Try mindfulness exercises to bring you back to the present moment.

Embrace "good enough": Aim for a life that's good enough, not perfect.

Reframe your past: View your past choices as steps in your unique journey, rather than as failures.

Live authentically: Make decisions based on your values—not societal expectations.

DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:

https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities

DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/

ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/

MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1252 || escaping survival mode (revisited)

Sun, 13 Oct 2024 04:01:35 GMT

Today we revisit an episode from March 2023:

what does survival mode look like for you? how can we get out of the patterns that put us into our default mode?

we've all experienced stress, but when stress is prolonged - we can forget how to relax.

Mindfulness, patience, compassion, and practice can help us escape that constant vigilance and return to a state of calm.

DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:

https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities

DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/

ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/

MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1251 || we're all traumatized (revisited)

Sat, 12 Oct 2024 04:01:09 GMT

Today we revisit an episode from March 2023:

Every single one of us has experienced some level of trauma. We're only capable of acting and responding at the level we're internally ready for. Practicing mercy + empathy can really help us to be more patient with strangers.

DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:

https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities

DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/

ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/

MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1250 || burning out + tapping out

Fri, 11 Oct 2024 04:01:18 GMT

Life sometimes feels like a constant battle between fighting burnout and fighting tapping out.

The middle path between burnout and disassociation isn’t about perfection.

It’s about giving yourself permission to rest without checking out, and working without burning out. It’s not an easy balance, but it’s one worth striving for.

Some days will be meant for rotting, some days will be meant for grinding - but most days will be about striking a healthy balance between the two.

DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:

https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities

DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/

ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/

MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1248 || fighting dread + doom + gloom

Thu, 10 Oct 2024 04:01:26 GMT

Feeling like you can’t do everything doesn’t mean you can’t do something.

So, when things feel heavy, when the weight of the world feels like it’s sitting on your chest, I want you to take a breath and remember that no act of kindness, no matter how small, is wasted.

DISASTER ASSISTANCE FOR THOSE WITH DISABILITIES:

https://www.disasterassistance.gov/information/people-with-disabilities

DISASTER RELIEF MUTUAL AID: https://mutualaiddisasterrelief.org/

ASHEVILLE MUTUAL AID LINKS: https://www.rjcavl.org/mutual-aid-resources/

MORE ASHEVILLE RESOURCES: https://linktr.ee/avlsurvival

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1245 || anti-ideological activism

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 04:01:00 GMT

" In effect we are saying the end is not as important as the means, we are turning hundreds of years of political form and content on its head by putting the means before the ends, by putting context in front of ideology, by rejecting purity and perfection." - Rebecca Solnit

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1244 || hope in the dark

Sun, 06 Oct 2024 04:01:16 GMT

"What could have happened if we could have spoken directly to the people in that wave, if we could have found common ground, if we could have made our position neither right nor left but truly grassroots? What would have happened if we had given them an alternate version of how local power was being sapped, by whom, and what they might do about it? We need them, we need a broad base, we need a style that speaks to far more people than the left has lately been able to speak to and for." - Rebecca Solnit

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1243 || victory is the journey

Sat, 05 Oct 2024 04:01:17 GMT

"Paradise is not the place in which you arrive but the journey toward it. Sometimes I think victories must be temporary or incomplete; what kind of humanity would survive paradise? The United States has tried to approximate paradise in its suburbias, with luxe, calme, volupte, culde-sacs, cable television and two-car garages, and it has produced a soft ennui that shades over into despair and a decay of the soul suggesting that Paradise is already a gulag. Countless desperate teenagers will tell you so. For paradise does not require of us courage, selflessness, creativity, passion: paradise in all accounts is passive, is sedative, and if you read carefully, soulless." - Rebecca Solnit

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1242 || comedic alternatives to history

Fri, 04 Oct 2024 04:01:18 GMT

"After all, most environmental victories look like nothing happened; the land wasn’t annexed by the army, the mine didn’t open, the road didn’t cut through, the factory didn’t spew effluents that didn’t give children asthma. They are triumphs invisible except through storytelling." - Rebecca Solnit

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1241 || joy in resistance

Thu, 03 Oct 2024 04:01:19 GMT

"It’s always too soon to go home. Most of the great victories continue to unfold, unfinished in the sense that they are not yet fully realized, but also in the sense that they continue to spread influence." - Rebecca Solnit

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GW University: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1240 || peace movements + their butterfly effect

Wed, 02 Oct 2024 04:01:45 GMT

changing the world is not one with a tidy end goal that we will one day reach. it is an ever changing process that means we will always be working with it. and everything counts. no strategy is too small, as it often surprises us what actually makes change stick. the complexities are undeniable, but the straightforward knowing of what is right vs. what is wrong isn't complicated. we simply need to fight for the rights of all people and the planet, all the time.

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1239 || hope in despair

Tue, 01 Oct 2024 04:01:52 GMT

there is power in active hope. despair can even be liberatory if we can learn not to be consumed by it. despair can turn us away from the deprivation that comes from refusing to seek out alternatives.

if nothing else, please don't get attached to negative outcomes - even if they feel like the most realistic potential. hope should never been confined to certain limits.

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1238 || hope in the dark (via Rebecca Solnit)

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 04:07:44 GMT

We often mistake unknowability for dread. We sometimes forget that darkness can be a place for rebirth and hope, not just fear and hopelessness. Today, I'm reading from Rebecca Solnit's essay/book "Hope in the Dark".

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.haymarketbooks.org/books/791-hope-in-the-dark

READ FROM THE BOOK: https://blogs.helsinki.fi/vallisaari/files/2018/06/Solnit_Hope_in_the_dark.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1237 || what we can do about the climate emergency

Sun, 29 Sep 2024 04:01:39 GMT

Today is part four of our "how to take action towards the climate crisis" and we're talking about what type of action needs to be taken.

Remember: It's not too late. Every action counts. But don't get overwhelmed with doing everything. Instead, choose something + act. Every little bit helps.

THE GUIDEBOOK: https://www.nottoolateclimate.com/_files/ugd/c8ef46_65f7332b00de468aa7091e31a4b2f772.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1236 || where to start (saving the planet)

Sat, 28 Sep 2024 04:01:19 GMT

Today is part three of our "how to take action towards the climate crisis" and we're talking about what type of action needs to be taken.

Remember: It's not too late. Every action counts. But don't get overwhelmed with doing everything. Instead, choose something + act. Every little bit helps.

THE GUIDEBOOK: https://www.nottoolateclimate.com/_files/ugd/c8ef46_65f7332b00de468aa7091e31a4b2f772.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1235 || how to save the planet

Fri, 27 Sep 2024 13:45:39 GMT

Today is part two of our "how to take action towards the climate crisis" and we're talking about choosing a group.

Remember: It's not too late. Every action counts. But don't get overwhelmed with doing everything. Instead, choose something + act. Every little bit helps.

THE GUIDEBOOK: https://www.nottoolateclimate.com/_files/ugd/c8ef46_65f7332b00de468aa7091e31a4b2f772.pdf

THE AUTHOR: http://rebeccasolnit.net/

THE RESOURCES FROM GWUniversity: https:// onlinepublichealth.gwu.edu/resources/sources-for-climate-news/

MORE RESOURCES: 350.org AND https://hiphopcaucus.org/action-center/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1233 || seeking interdependence

Wed, 25 Sep 2024 04:01:04 GMT

Some of us struggle with a lack of intimacy, some of us struggle with severe codependency, but what is the balance? A healthy interdependency is essential to building self-worth within a relationship.

RESOURCE: https://www.impossiblepsychservices.com.sg/our-resources/articles/2023/07/19/the-importance-of-interdependence-for-a-healthy-relationship

AND: https://www.impossiblepsychservices.com.sg/our-resources/articles/2024/01/19/common-signs-of-validation-seeking-behaviour-in-relationships

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1232 || external validation

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 06:45:33 GMT

The need for validation is normal. But, like most things in life, it’s really all about balance. Listen, some degree of attention and validation seeking makes perfect sense to me. From an evolutionary standpoint, it makes sense that we’d seek out external validation because it helps us to feel more secure in social settings and I dunno if you know this, but humans are inherently social creatures and rejection is deeply uncomfortable while positive reinforcement feels pretty ding-dang incredible.

The problem is, constantly hunting for approval is not a sustainable way to live. When validation comes from external sources, self-esteem becomes contingent on others’ opinions, making it vulnerable to fluctuations based on approval or criticism.

RESOURCES:

https://hbr.org/2023/12/overcoming-your-need-for-constant-validation-at-work

https://psychcentral.com/health/steps-to-stop-seeking-approval-from-others

https://www.reddit.com/r/DecidingToBeBetter/comments/14kmiwv/how_do_i_stop_seeking_validation_from_everyone/

https://www.impossiblepsychservices.com.sg/our-resources/articles/2024/01/19/common-signs-of-validation-seeking-behaviour-in-relationships

https://psychcentral.com/blog/what-drives-our-need-for-approval

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1231 || how to be sillier

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 04:01:42 GMT

just because you became an adult doesn't mean you have to be serious all the time. here's how you can infuse more silliness in your everyday: intentionality

RESOURCES: https://www.reddit.com/r/AskWomenOver30/comments/126e9by/i_feel_weighed_down_by_how_serious_life_can_be/

AND https://clementinefraser.wordpress.com/2018/01/29/silly-play-all-day-how-silliness-helps-you-adult/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1230 || the philosophy of silliness

Fri, 20 Sep 2024 04:01:36 GMT

To be silly in a serious society is a revolutionary act. By embracing a sense of silliness, you can almost create + enter a new reality within the reality you’re currently in. You can create a new world within the current one, simply by embracing the silliness that appears in the mundane.

Choosing to be silly is a valid response to trauma as well as the general chaos of the world, and should be interpreted as such

RESOURCES ON SILLINESS:

https://www.davispoliticalreview.com/article/a-case-for-humor-how-girls-silliness-is-bridging-the-confidence-gap

https://medium.com/@kellyhackmann/the-virtue-of-silliness-736b9edeccb3

https://meandmine.com/blogs/meandmine-blog/the-science-of-silliness

https://avidly.lareviewofbooks.org/2012/11/20/silly-theory/

https://www.davispoliticalreview.com/article/a-case-for-humor-how-girls-silliness-is-bridging-the-confidence-gap

https://www.aplayfulpath.com/another-kind-playful-revolution/

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/aug/23/why-it-is-sensible-to-be-silly-serious-times-call-for-drawing-smiley-faces-on-fruit

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1229 || let's get silly

Thu, 19 Sep 2024 04:01:48 GMT

We’ve discussed the philosophy of absurdism in the past - the concept of embracing meaningless as a freedom, or even the idea of finding or creating meaning on our own when there is no obvious meaning available. But today, instead of focusing on finding meaning in the absurd, I want to focus on finding the absurd in the meaningful.

DEFINITIONS: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Silliness

https://www.oxfordlearnersdictionaries.com/us/definition/english/silliness

RESOURCES ON SILLINESS:

https://www.davispoliticalreview.com/article/a-case-for-humor-how-girls-silliness-is-bridging-the-confidence-gap

https://medium.com/@kellyhackmann/the-virtue-of-silliness-736b9edeccb3

https://meandmine.com/blogs/meandmine-blog/the-science-of-silliness

https://avidly.lareviewofbooks.org/2012/11/20/silly-theory/

https://www.davispoliticalreview.com/article/a-case-for-humor-how-girls-silliness-is-bridging-the-confidence-gap

https://www.aplayfulpath.com/another-kind-playful-revolution/

https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2020/aug/23/why-it-is-sensible-to-be-silly-serious-times-call-for-drawing-smiley-faces-on-fruit

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1228 || 5 pillars of mindfulness

Wed, 18 Sep 2024 04:01:01 GMT

Today, I'm bringing you a blog post from Nicole Howard, who said this: "Ultimately, this [mindfulness] is a journey that will never end. We are constantly changing, and life around us is forever moving, so there will always be a need for reflection. You might become great at recognizing your feelings and staying present, but it will still be something you should practice to maintain."

NICOLE HOWARD'S BLOG POST: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/5-pillars-of-mindful-awareness-that-transformed-my-life/

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1227 || how to make friends (if you're awkward)

Tue, 17 Sep 2024 04:01:48 GMT

Making friends as an adult can feel overcomplicated, but I think it's because we've become increasingly self-aware of our weaknesses and not nearly self-aware enough of our strengths. Maybe it's time to practice what we already know: staying present, active listening, and mutual respect - so we can really build some relationships worth of maintenance.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1226 || confidence building theories

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 04:01:37 GMT

Today we're talking about some theories and paradoxes that help remind me that my insecurities are just a natural negative bias that many other people experience, and if we can take active strides towards moving through those insecurities, we can forge and maintain deeper and more fulfilling friendships without the fear of being "unlikable", because (spoiler alert) we're not!!!!

BEHIND THE SILK: https://linktr.ee/behindthesilk

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1225 || do you even know how to be happy? (revisted)

Sat, 14 Sep 2024 04:01:26 GMT

today we revisit an older episode and discuss prioritizing what makes us feel good. if you're dwelling on all the shit that stresses you out in order to avoid it, you're focusing a LOT of attention on your stress. we focus so much on productivity, but what if we focused on rest, joy, or pleasure?

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1224 || debating hacks (how to diffuse an argument)

Fri, 13 Sep 2024 04:01:20 GMT

Reasoning with the unreasonable can feel impossible, but here are some techniques to diffuse intense arguments and encourage others to challenge their own cognitive dissonance with curiosity and care.

For starters, it's important to find common values to come back to, use metaphors and anecdotes to break down complex ideas and humanize them, remember it's you vs. the problem (not you vs. them), and remember that you're attempting to better understand each other - rather than change each other.

RESOURCE 1: https://tinybuddha.com/blog/when-you-strongly-disagree-with-someone-how-to-find-common-ground/

RESOURCE 2: https://www.betterup.com/blog/finding-common-ground-with-anyone-a-quick-and-easy-guide

YOUTUBE VID BONUS: REASONING WITH UNREASONABLE PEOPLE: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFWF_VnlFAg

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1223 || how to reason with the unreasonable

Thu, 12 Sep 2024 04:01:11 GMT

How do we reason with someone who is experiencing cognitive dissonance?

For example: I know people who claim to believe in free speech but also support banning pronoun usage, race discussion, and even certain books in schools.

How do we rectify the dissonance they've created to support two contradictory ideas?

Unfortunately we can't change other people, but we can help them towards the path of changing themselves. With gentle, genuine questions, we can help them to reflect on where the disconnect lies. Timing and tone are essential pieces to this puzzle, but like with most things, we can get better at it with practice + patience.

RESOURCE: https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326738#summary

ANOTHER RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cognitive_dissonance

A HEAVIER RESOURCE: https://dornsife.usc.edu/wendy-wood/wp-content/uploads/sites/183/2023/10/Matz.Wood_.2005_Cognitive_dissonance_in_groups.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1222 || active in love + happiness

Wed, 11 Sep 2024 04:01:43 GMT

love is an active process that involves engagement, gratitude, and practice.

RESOURCE: https://psycnet.apa.org/record/2008-15454-002

RESOURCE: https://www.apa.org/topics/marriage-relationships/brain-on-love

RESOURCE: https://hms.harvard.edu/news-events/publications-archive/brain/love-brain

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1221 || reasoning with the unreasonable

Tue, 10 Sep 2024 04:01:37 GMT

When we focus on curiosity, respect, and genuine understanding, we're more likely to bridge gaps with people we disagree with, but this takes practice. This means there is no room for contempt, defensiveness, criticism, and stonewalling, but that's easier said than done.

RESOURCES: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/

https://www.gottman.com/blog/why-turning-against-your-partners-bids-is-so-harmful/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1220 || love is so scary

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 04:01:20 GMT

When we open ourselves up to love, we open ourselves up to pain and loss, but the loss of the love is what we will grieve, so we shouldn't resist that vulnerability. Embracing love's impermanence will deepen our experience with it.

“love is not permanently gifted, it is loaned.” - James Sexton

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.” - Rumi

Avoiding Avoidance (Healthline Article) https://www.healthline.com/health/mental-health/pushing-people-away#how-to-stop

James Sexton on Diary of a CEO: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MGyiqVjdKI

Thich Nhat Hanh's Hugging Meditation: https://www.themarginalian.org/2015/05/04/thich-nhat-hanh-hugging-meditation/

CS Lewis Quote: https://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/14816053-the-four-loves

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1219 || the social withdrawal cycle

Fri, 06 Sep 2024 05:01:58 GMT

There is a feedback loop that seems to happen whenever I’m spending more time alone. I notice that my need for connection seems to dissipate as my anger towards humanity inflates. Psychologists have noted this through various research and confirmed that “lonely individuals tend to think more negatively of others and see them as less trustworthy.”

If the feeling of loneliness really worked as it should, it would prompt prosocial behaviors that fulfill our need for belonging. It’s like a craving. Our bodies are craving social connection, so we should then seek it out to rectify that craving. But unfortunately, that’s not always the case. Especially for me.

Basically, when you feel lonely, you probably also feel more depressed, which means you’re not feeling like your most “you, you”. And because you feel a bit unpleasant, it can exacerbate these issues.

Scientists have long studied the correlation between depression symptoms and loneliness, but there seems to be less focus on the cyclical nature of these implications.

The study I’ve been referring to did its best to track the associations between these feelings of loneliness and prosocial behaviors.

Apparently this means the results from this study came with two distinct findings:

Loneliness often comes with:

An increase in motivation to support others, but a poorer interpretation or execration of that social contact.

That idea that we want + seek out connections but feel an absence of soothing and support still, is the part that tends to push us further in the cycle of loneliness and despair.

I thought it was interesting though, that it wasn’t just relationships with others we tend to be more negative about, when we’re lonely. According to the study, we also tend to evaluate ourselves more negatively as well. This lower sense of self confidence means that the odds are stacked against us.

We feel lonely, so we feel more insecure, AND we feel more hesitant to let others in, which causes a validation of those negative biases.

THE RESOURCE: https://www.nature.com/articles/s41598-020-75712-3

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1218 || loneliness is bigger than we thought

Thu, 05 Sep 2024 05:01:35 GMT

Studies show intrinsic goals make us much happier than extrinsic ones, but society tells us to focus our time on the material stuff. Why do we think that is?

RESOURCE: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/archive/2021/10/howto-friendship-loneliness-arthurbrooks-vivekmurthy-happiness/620281/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1217 || i'm lonely (and it isn't really my fault)

Wed, 04 Sep 2024 05:01:17 GMT

I'm on my way out the door of my apartment and it's starting to hit me just how isolated I've become. A lot of it is self inflicted: ignoring phone calls and texts, neglecting plans, or foregoing the follow up. That said, I still can't take all the credit. A majority of my feelings of isolation are systemic: it's expensive outside, I'm exhausted all the time, and I don't feel that connected to my neighbors (who don't always see eye-to-eye with me).

So, let's talk about it and see if we can start a more "upward cycle" towards connectedness rather than isolation.

RESOURCES: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2023/08/hillary-clinton-essay-loneliness-epidemic/674921/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1216 || Nietzsche was onto something here

Tue, 03 Sep 2024 05:01:42 GMT

“Nobody can build the bridge for you to walk across the river of life, no one but you yourself alone. There are, to be sure, countless paths and bridges and demi-gods which would carry you across this river, but only at the cost of yourself; you would pawn yourself and lose. There is in the world only one way, on which nobody can go, except you: where does it lead? Do not ask, go along with it.” — Nietzsche

THE RESOURCE: https://medium.com/personal-growth/5-controversial-truths-by-nietzsche-that-changed-my-life-e8eb712a52c8

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1215 || a little rant (about stoics)

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 04:01:39 GMT

Here is a little rant about people who co-opt beautiful theories + ideas and twist them in order to justify behaviors that are actually counter to its core principles. It's infuriating, but it makes sense... Let's dig into why this happens and what we can learn from the teachings, to stop it.

RESOURCES:

WIKI:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stoicism#:~:text=Stoicism%20teaches%20the%20development%20of,the%20universal%20reason%20(logos).

LANUSSE ON THE PARADOX: https://rickylanusse.medium.com/the-stoic-paradox-can-we-achieve-happiness-without-enjoyment-2e5f3da5233f

REDDIT WITH CRITIQUES: https://www.reddit.com/r/askphilosophy/comments/srj643/are_there_credible_criticisms_against_stoicism/

GREAT ARTICLE ON THE CRITIQUES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-three-minute-therapist/202301/a-critique-of-stoicism

DONATE: www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1214 || cosmetic procedures || bonus episode!!!

Sat, 31 Aug 2024 04:01:37 GMT

Today is a very special BONUS episode that gives you a sneak preview of what we're doing over at patreon. this is just 10 minutes of this month's 55 minute episode and it gets JUICY.

If you want to listen to the entire episode, plus the backlog, (and all the dailies ad-free!!!) join our little community on patreon and subscribe from there!

The Main Resource: How I defined Cosmetic Procedures: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5300934/

The "complications" resource:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4728899/

THE OTHERS:

https://www.americanboardcosmeticsurgery.org/patient-resources/cosmetic-surgery-vs-plastic-surgery/

https://saberplasticsurgery.com/blog/risky-plastic-surgeries/

https://fashionista.com/2022/08/plastic-cosmetic-surgery-reversal-trends

https://www.popsugar.com/beauty/cosmetic-surgery-reversals-49175684

https://www.clearstepsrecovery.com/addiction-recovery-blog/plastic-surgery-statistics-and-facts

https://www.refinery29.com/en-gb/2022/07/10999857/reversible-plastic-surgery-procedures

https://www.buzznet.com/2024/07/the-most-dangerous-beauty-trends-in-history/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1213 || critiquing the stoics

Fri, 30 Aug 2024 04:01:34 GMT

Like most philosophies, I have notes - but that's not to say I can't learn something from the practice of stoicism. Today we talk about some of the paradoxes and some of the common critiques, but then we dig into the 3 core values of stoicism.

RESOURCE:

WIKI:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Stoicism#:~:text=Stoicism%20teaches%20the%20development%20of,the%20universal%20reason%20(logos).

LANUSSE ON THE PARADOX: https://rickylanusse.medium.com/the-stoic-paradox-can-we-achieve-happiness-without-enjoyment-2e5f3da5233f

REDDIT WITH CRITIQUES: https://www.reddit.com/r/askphilosophy/comments/srj643/are_there_credible_criticisms_against_stoicism/

GREAT ARTICLE ON THE CRITIQUES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-three-minute-therapist/202301/a-critique-of-stoicism

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1212 || only the strong go crazy

Thu, 29 Aug 2024 04:01:37 GMT

"only the strong go crazy, the weak go along." - Assata Shakur

THE QUOTE: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/8762432-only-the-strong-go-crazy-the-weak-just-go-along

THE RESOURCES: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/maybe-madness-and-illness-is-the

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

https://adriennemareebrown.net/2024/07/03/toshi-she-gather-me-artists-talking/

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1211 || staying hopeful (emergent strategy)

Wed, 28 Aug 2024 04:01:42 GMT

"This is an intergenerational, evolved evolutionary movement. They never looked out for each other the way that a lot of the groups I see organizing are looking out for each other.

They didn’t have rest. They didn’t ‘watch out for our own patriarchal natures’ and all of this stuff. There’s a reason why a lot of those people died young. We are doing so much and we are, I believe, a part of a foundational evolution for humans on the planet.

But this awareness is: this violence has got us.

So we are in the war zone. And I think anybody who’s in the war zone feels that sense that you’re feeling, like we’re all here together trying to make something change. And we can’t, because that’s what it is, it is war and then creating the laws that support war and taking all of the resources to support war.

It feels like a failure because its intention is to make us feel like we’re failing, and its intention is to keep us quiet, and its intention is to steal. You feel the way that they intend for you to feel. The difference is, we know that we are not just here on this particular plane doing this particular work — we are a wider circle.

We need to cast into that energy of our spirit and our ancestral and our future selves. That’s what I’m holding on to." - Toshi Reagon

RESOURCE: https://adriennemareebrown.net/

https://toshireagon.com/

AND https://adriennemareebrown.net/2024/07/03/toshi-she-gather-me-artists-talking/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1210 || when it feels bad to feel good

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 04:01:34 GMT

I have started to feel so guilty about positive feelings lately. I think it's because I've become a bit more comfortable with the stress that has become an undercurrent of my daily life lately. That said, there are plenty of strategies to restore joy, hope, and excitement. I just have to get better at implementing them.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1209 || questioning your thoughts

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 04:01:18 GMT

One technique often used in CBT is socratic questioning and it's a really great way to get ahold of our negative thinking patterns. They're usually open ended questions that encourage us to "think about thinking"in a more productive way.

RESOURCES: https://www.therapistaid.com/worksheets/socratic-questioning

https://www.trigonweb.com/dowload/SOCRATIC%20QUESTIONS.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1208 || cognitive behavioral therapy 101

Fri, 23 Aug 2024 06:01:01 GMT

When I first heard about CBT, I was annoyed. It felt generic, but that's because of how I learned about it. When I started applying the appropriate techniques to my specific situation, I realized how much the techniques can really affect (and improve) my life. Today we discuss what CBT is, and eventually we will get into the techniques that have helped me overcome my personal issues.

Resources: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/books/NBK279297/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1207 || how to build self awareness using time travel (revisited)

Thu, 22 Aug 2024 06:01:49 GMT

today we're revisiting episode 1011 which was all about the "time traveling" we must do to discover our sense of self. by learning how to listen to the past, envision the future, and accommodate the present, we expand our sense of self to align within this current time in our lives.

how does the sense of self affect how we behave? how does our self referential identity create our reality? and do we have a say in changing it? i think we do.

RESOURCE: https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/how-our-brain-preserves-our-sense-of-self/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1206 || there is good stuff all around you

Wed, 21 Aug 2024 04:01:00 GMT

Sometimes the change is the thing we notice + we tend to emphasize the discomfort we feel from the transition, rather than the comfort we receive once we’re settled into the change.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1205 || contradictory feelings of returning home

Tue, 20 Aug 2024 04:01:44 GMT

The act of returning home after spending a decade 1,100 miles away is a daunting one. There are direct contradictions to the way I feel at nearly every turn. Learning to bend with them has been a process but I am starting to realize, that's the whole damn point.

The.Ashfiles Original Video: https://www.tiktok.com/@the.ashfiles/video/7396990066129784069

The Cut Advice Column: https://www.thecut.com/2016/11/ask-polly-i-moved-back-home-and-im-miserable.html

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1204 || learning to dance with the chaos

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 04:01:49 GMT

There’s something freeing about realizing it’s time to let go.

Life’s cycles sometimes match with my own, and things feel serendipitous and “meant to be” but more often than not, life cycles move faster than my own + I’m forced to play catch up on changes and news that I wasn’t just unprepared for, but in denial about. But things do happen. Life surprises you. And no matter how much you resist that reality, it doesn’t change it. I think life is a little bit fate and a little bit chaos. Like an improvised dance. Some steps may surprise you and others may feel like second nature, once you learn to stop resisting the unpredictability of it.

Because the steps are not meant to become more predictable to us, we’re just supposed to get better at flowing with it. Of learning as we go. Of learning how to let go when there is a mis-step and to have faith that the dancing will get more fun and beautiful as we continue.

But just because we stop cold in the middle of the dance, doesn’t mean the dancing stops. You can take a break, get a water, and become a wallflower if you want, but the real power comes from stepping back into the chaos and embracing the next moves with as much enthusiasm and joy as possible.

Because even if you choose to “hate dancing” and “sit this one out” life will eventually sweep you off your feet, and it’ll feel a lot more comfortable and enjoyable if you know how to confidently take a step or two for yourself, once in a while.

Learning a new way to dance in a new environment is not just possible, it can actually be enjoyable if I stop worrying about what I look like, or what the song was supposed to sound like, and instead I focus on finding my own rhythm within the flow that’s currently taking place.

I think I’ve spent a long time waiting for a more familiar song to play, so I can dance with confidence, but the longer I wait, the more resistant I get. If I can learn to jump in and “figure it out”, then the unfamiliar becomes familiar and the newness I feared is no longer new, and the resistance loses its power.

It feels counterintuitive, but sometimes the thing you’re resisting is the resistance itself. Once you stand up and listen to the music that’s playing, you may find yourself actually enjoying the process of finding your place within it.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1203 || life is absurd

Fri, 16 Aug 2024 04:01:28 GMT

Absurdism claims that existence, as a whole, is absurd and although objective meaning does not exist, it doesn't mean we can't find + create our own. We're allowed to change our minds + reflect at any time, because the only meaning that matters, is the meaning we decide matters.

“The only way to deal with an unfree world is to become so absolutely free that your very existence is an act of rebellion”. — Albert Camus

RESOURCE: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Absurdism#:~:text=Absurdism%20is%20the%20philosophical%20theory,a%20conflict%20with%20the%20world.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1202 || moving out + breaking down

Thu, 15 Aug 2024 04:01:02 GMT

personal rant about my current state. moving has made me realize how stagnant I really was.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1201 || conspiracy thinking

Wed, 14 Aug 2024 05:01:01 GMT

People are in denial, because admitting we may need to become a part of the change is scary. Resistance is a common response to accountability. People will jump through mental hurdles to avoid admitting there may be a new physical one. That said, knowing better and doing better are two very different beasts.

RESOURCES: https://www.psychologicalscience.org/observer/debunking-misinformation

https://medium.com/@bellacaledonia/diagonalism-the-cosmic-right-and-the-conspiracy-smoothie-d827b1650e39

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-forensic-view/202408/conspiracies-in-mind

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1200 || conspiracy theories

Tue, 13 Aug 2024 05:01:55 GMT

conspiracies are all fun and games until they scapegoat entire groups of humans and cause real world harm. today, we're digging into the reality of conspiracy theories + what makes someone take a conspiracy too far.

RESOURCES: https://www.gavi.org/vaccineswork/conspiracy-theories-are-dangerous-even-if-very-few-people-believe-them

https://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/conspiracy%20theory https://commission.europa.eu/strategy-and-policy/coronavirus-response/fighting-disinformation/identifying-conspiracy-theories_en

https://newhampshirebulletin.com/2024/05/08/how-to-tell-if-a-conspiracy-theory-is-probably-false/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1199 || taking life too seriously is goofy

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 05:01:23 GMT

so, here are some ways to take it a little less seriously.

RESOURCE: https://medium.com/@lukaboenisch/dont-take-life-so-seriously-it-doesn-t-take-you-seriously-either-613fb1bef264

https://medium.com/@valuable_mindaro_jellyfish_659/14-things-that-make-games-fun-to-apply-to-gamify-life-06557a1bd722

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1198 || our guts + our mental health

Fri, 09 Aug 2024 05:01:09 GMT

Our microbiome has a direct impact on our mental health, and the science is growing to support this. The more diverse our diet + microbiome, the healthier we are as we age.

RESOURCE: https://www.brainfacts.org/thinking-sensing-and-behaving/diet-and-lifestyle/2024/the-growing-link-between-microbes-mood-and-mental-health-062724

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1197 || social constructionism

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 05:01:19 GMT

Today we're talking about Vivien Burr's book: Social Constructionism. The key ideas are: language impacts our reality, our history + culture + social hierarchy impacts our language, and we should be critical of everything we consider "true" because of this socialization. We put everything in a box to better understand it, but sometimes it can be helpful to throw that box away + consider things outside of them.

Resource: https://medium.com/@reading_group/unlocking-the-foundations-of-understanding-a-summary-of-an-introduction-to-social-40bbaffb4edb

https://www.researchgate.net/publication/316052889_Social_Constructionism

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1196 || fostering hope

Wed, 07 Aug 2024 05:01:17 GMT

Hope is one of the more valuable practices, but I often forget it's a practice + kinda just wait for it to hit, instead. Today we're discussing some thoughts about hope before diving into some actionable items on how to create + nurture more of it in your life.

RESOURCES:

https://news.asu.edu/20210615-solutions-science-hope-more-wishful-thinking

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/making-hope-happen/201304/looking-hope

https://thefemalegaze.org/2019/02/12/light-in-the-dark-staying-hopeful-in-a-dystopian-mediascape/#:~:text=We%20need%20to%20respond%20by,to%20actively%20find%20better%20content.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1195 || motivation rewind

Tue, 06 Aug 2024 05:01:12 GMT

decided on a compilation of past nuggets that never made it to the IG feed (or did they???) but came from our magical backlog of over 1100 episodes. hope you enjoy this as much as I did!

Familiar will typically always be more comfortable than the unfamiliar. Even if that familiar is fairly unhealthy. Many people are miserable and comfortable. Many people can find comfort in sadness. There is no shame in it, because often, we’re so used to the sadness, anger, or shame that we don’t even realize there is another way. - Day 230

You should never feel too cool to get enthusiastic about your life. Lean in, make your life romantic even if it’s not aesthetic or instagram worthy. Move in silence, focus on your mindset, and remember regularly how fucking dope the life you’ve created really is.

A lot of us are numbing ourselves until the bad shit we can’t be numb for hits us in the teeth and then we go right back to numbing ourselves. That means some of us are literally only fully experiencing the bad shit. We are numb for the goodies and tap in only for the crisis and that is truly depressing. - Day 173

Stop waiting for the other shoe to drop when good things are happening to you. You deserve good things to happen to you and they are happening because of your commitment to yourself. Just don’t forget to continue that commitment by honoring what you really need in each present moment. - Day 170

Gravitate towards the things that bring you joy instead of waiting for them to knock on your door. Ask yourself regularly what would bring you the most peace in any given moment and pursue that shit with full force. - Day 181

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1194 || collective power is all around

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 05:01:20 GMT

"I alone cannot do much. I am powerless as an “individual” in isolation. There is no effective organizing I can do alone. The most I can do is unlearn, seek community, radicalize enough to know in my soul that it is on US to struggle together & be open to an never-ending uncomfortable but liberating evolution of my political beliefs & ideas. The rest of the answers will gradually come to us in the process of figuring out how to get free in community." - AYESHA KHAN PH.D

RESOURCE: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/we-have-more-power-to-save-ourselves

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1193 || fear of happiness

Fri, 02 Aug 2024 05:01:15 GMT

Sometimes I feel guilty about seeking happiness when I consider the state of the world. Apparently, this is a fairly common thing for people who are: lonely, anxious, depressed, perfectionist, experienced childhood trauma, etc. I hit quite a few of those checkboxes so I feel especially attacked. As a way to improve the maladaptive response, I am focusing on gratitude and exposure therapy. Addressing the feeling when they arise and allowing myself to sit with them.

RESOURCES: https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/jclp.23165

and https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/your-future-self/202407/the-fear-of-happiness

and https://www.wellandgood.com/what-is-cherophobia/#:~:text=Indeed%2C%20Dr.,happiness%20or%20being%20happy%20altogether.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1192|| project 2025 intro

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 05:01:35 GMT

Today's episode is a preview of an hour long extended episode I have available on Patreon.

I have been wanting to talk about Project 2025 since I heard about it, but to say it's dense would be an understatement. This is my sincere attempt to make it more digestible.

According to Wikipedia: Project 2025, also known as the 2025 Presidential Transition Project, is a proposed plan published by the Heritage Foundation, which aims to promote conservative and right-wing policies to reshape the United States federal government and consolidate executive power should Donald Trump win the 2024 presidential election.

SUBSCRIBE ON PATREON FOR THE ENTIRE EPISODE: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

PROJECT 2025: https://static.project2025.org/2025_MandateForLeadership_FULL.pdf

OTHER RESOURCES: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Project_2025

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Heritage_Foundation

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1191 || Plant Awareness Deficiency

Wed, 31 Jul 2024 04:01:58 GMT

a lot of us struggle with identifying plants + relating to them, despite how important they are to sustaining us. in 2016 a study found that children were able to identify 1000 corporate logos and less than 10 native plants + animals. it's our job to become intentional about our attention to plants.

RESOURCE: https://lithub.com/seeing-green-why-we-should-all-be-paying-attention-to-plants/

https://perfectinnerpeace.com/nature-deficit-disorder/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1190 || time flies when we're doing more

Tue, 30 Jul 2024 04:01:22 GMT

If you become intentional about viewing your experience as a physical process, it can help you control how you perceive time. You can physically slow time or speed it up, depending on how you approach the mental process within each experience.

RESOURCES: https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/05/210518205451.htm

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2024/07/240718205236.htm

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2021/05/210526085053.htm

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1189 || avoidance in relationships

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 04:01:42 GMT

Relationships are difficult because we all have cognitive biases we're dealing with on a constant basis. It's important to implement personal and relational boundaries so we can ensure we're approaching our situations with thoughtfulness + clarity. There are some tips to make that easier, but it takes practice to find the right balance for you and yours.

RESOURCES: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intentional-insights/202407/mind-games-unmasking-the-biases-sabotaging-your-love-life

AND: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-hacks/202407/why-am-i-avoiding-my-partner-if-i-love-them

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1188 || intuition

Thu, 25 Jul 2024 04:01:55 GMT

Resource: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/intuition

https://lithub.com/gut-feelings-how-does-intuition-work-anyway/

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/202407/3-ways-to-harness-your-intuition-to-make-flawless-decisions

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1187 || Highly Sensitive Kid

Wed, 24 Jul 2024 04:01:02 GMT

Highly sensitive children's deep processing makes them more likely to have a pessimistic outlook. They keenly analyze everything, which can take them to a dark place, wondering and worrying, "What if...?" Helping them reconsider their perspective - Claire Lerner LCSW-C

RESOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/zero-to-six/202407/how-to-support-children-who-have-a-pessimistic-outlook AND https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/basics/highly-sensitive-person

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1186 || benevolent childhood experiences

Tue, 23 Jul 2024 04:01:07 GMT

Psychology has historically focused its research on adverse childhood experiences. There is growing research on benevolent childhood experiences (BCEs). BCEs are correlated with flourishing and the light triad. A positive childhood environment influences the development of human flourishing and personality. - Scott Barry Kaufman

RESOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/beautiful-minds/202407/why-we-should-focus-on-positive-childhood-experiences

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1185 || making peace with your past self

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 04:01:36 GMT

"A person's past can direct what they think, what they feel, how they behave, and how they interact.The influence of one's past self can often be unhealthy for one's present self. Empathy, embracing humanity, forgiveness, and acceptance can help people make peace with their past selves.Taking ownership, making amends, being the best version of ourselves, and living our best life are our future." Jim Taylor Ph.D.

RESOURCE: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-power-of-prime/202407/8-steps-to-making-peace-with-your-past-self

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1184 || reframing survival mode

Fri, 19 Jul 2024 04:01:46 GMT

today we revisit an older episode that felt really relevant about reframing + escaping survival mode.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1183 || a pep talk for the hopeless

Thu, 18 Jul 2024 04:01:54 GMT

Tides change every day, and so can you. It’s never too late to change your scenery, to change your routine, to change your vibe, or change your perspective. You have some control, and even when you feel like you’ve lost it, I promise you, it’s within your grasp when you’re ready to pick up the reigns again.

I wrote a “healing handbook” a long time ago, and never finished it, but I wrote this as the opening:

WHEN IT COMES TO GETTING YOURSELF OUT OF A FUNK - START SMALL. BE PATIENT AND REMEMBER THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH TAKING TIME FOR YOURSELF. EVERYTHING IS TEMPORARY AND THE LESS WE RESIST THE HARD FEELINGS THE SOONER WE CAN GET OUT ON TOP OF THEM AGAIN. SO BREATHE. TAKE ALL THE TIME YOU NEED THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS - THE WORLD IS A BETTER PLACE BECAUSE YOU ARE IN IT. I KNOW IT MAY NOT FEEL THAT WAY RIGHT NOW BUT THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO ARE IN YOUR CORNER, + WE ARE ROOTING FOR YOU. EVEN IF YOU CAN'T SEE US. WE'RE HERE. IT’S IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER, THAT AS LONG AS YOU AREN'T HURTING YOURSELF OR OTHERS, YOU ARE ALLOWED TO GRIEVE HOWEVER YOU DAMN WELL PLEASE.

THERE IS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU FOR FEELING THE WAY YOU FEEL RIGHT NOW. IT'S HUMAN. YOU'RE HUMAN.+ SOMETIMES BEING HUMAN REALLY FUCKIN' SUCKS. IT’S ALSO IMPORTANT TO REMEMBER THIS ISN’T PERMANENT. THE TOXIC THOUGHTS THAT HAVE BEGUN TO CREEP IN WILL EBB IN TIME WITH A LITTLE REDIRECTION. THE HOPE YOU LOST WILL BEGIN.TO RETURN + LIFE WILL LIGHTEN BACK UP AGAIN. I KNOW IT DOESN'T FEEL THAT WAY NOW, BUT RESPITE IS COMING.

GO EASY ON YOURSELF IN THE MEANTIME. THIS REALLY SUCKS. THERE’S NO WAY AROUND IT. SUFFERING REALLY DOES FUCKING SUCK... BUT WITH TIME YOU'LL BEGIN TO HEAL. SLOWLY BUT SURELY, THE MAGIC WILL REAPPEAR AND YOU WILL BE GRATEFUL FOR THE VERSION OF YOU WHO STUCK THIS HARD PART OUT. SO KEEP STICKING IT OUT.YOU DESERVE TO THRIVE. YOU DESERVE TO FLOURISH. AND JUST LIKE YOU HAVE OVERCOME ALL THE SHIT BEFORE, YOU WILL ABSOLUTELY OVERCOME THIS SHIT, TOO. IT MAY ANNOY YOU TO HEAR BUT THERE'S NO DENYING THE FACT THAT YOU ARE A RESILIENT + POWERFUL BADASS. YOU AREN'T BROKEN, YOU JUST NEED A LITTLE BREAK. IF IT SUCKS, ALLOW IT TO SUCK, PROCESS IT AS IT IS SO YOU CAN ACTUALLY MOVE THE FUCK ON WHEN THE TIME IS RIGHT.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1182 || how I deal with my suicidal thoughts

Wed, 17 Jul 2024 04:01:32 GMT

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1181 || my solution to overplanning

Tue, 16 Jul 2024 04:01:13 GMT

for me, it starts with getting more comfortable with doing rather than getting it done. i'm a creative and imaginative person, so if i were to plan for every potential experience, i would never stop planning. delegating tasks to myself like a manager has helped me put in perspective how much extra rumination and over-planning i have put on myself, and it's also helped me stop the cycle of over-thinking that often leaves me wanting to skip the "doing".

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1180 || resetting after a rot session

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 04:01:32 GMT

it makes perfect logical sense that we choose to disassociate when we're feeling overwhelmed. if you've been in a perpetual cycle of overwhelm, it may help to focus on creating more space between you and the things that trigger that anxiety. it also may help to focus on one of the pillars of mental health: social connection, boundaries, time in nature, movement, mindfulness practice. in general, it's the endless "to-do list" that sends me back into my hole, so approaching those "to do's" with resources (friends, the internet, etc.) helps me to regain that sense of control that i lost when i was in the cycle of overwhelm.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1179 || disassociation

Fri, 12 Jul 2024 04:01:56 GMT

Disassociation is a standard responses to the trauma we experience from living in a wildly intense society - but, like most things, if we're not careful, we may get caught in a cycle of disassociation and hopelessness. I wanted to offer some reassurance around it + some ways to break out of the cycle with ease.

RESOURCES: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/capitalist-colonial-origins-of-disassociation?utm_source=publication-search

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1178 || how to do nothing

Thu, 11 Jul 2024 04:01:19 GMT

Jenny Odell wrote the book "How To Do Nothing: Resisting the Attention Economy" + much to my surprise, it's not just any old 'self help book', this is the real deal. Today, we discuss the concept of "usefulness" and "worth" based on two very different perspectives.

Jenny Odell's writing: https://www.jennyodell.com/writing.html

BUY THE BOOK: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/600671/how-to-do-nothing-by-jenny-odell/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1177 || field guide to rotting (how to disconnect with intention)

Wed, 10 Jul 2024 04:01:29 GMT

Disconnecting is an essential practice that I think a lot of us overlook the value of. For me, if I don’t take time to intentionally disconnect once in a while, my body will disconnect for me, without warning - in a way that is not easy to reconnect from. Of course, everyone’s experience with dissociation and disconnecting will be different. But - Here’s my personal field guide on how to rot with intention:

It’s better to set yourself up before you need it. Listen to your body. Don’t let yourself get desperate for a break. Make a list of meals and snacks that make you feel better, things to do, or watch, or listen to, or play to help get you off of your phone, or people you can reach out to - even if it feels uncomfortable.

A strategy that has worked for me is to imagine I am a kid with a cold, and then imagine how the best parental figure would take care of me to make me feel better. Think comfort foods, comfortable environments, and comfortable vibes.

If this is tough for you, remember that relaxation is an investment. Your brain is a vital organ that benefits from rest. Rest is productive. It may help to change the language around it and call it recovery rather than rest. I also remind myself often that it is an act of rebellion to indulge in rest. But if you feel guilty or ashamed, remind yourself that is societal conditioning talking and not something you need to validate.

Remember that it’s normal to want to disconnect from an overconnected world, and it can be healthy if we’re doing so with the knowledge that it’s not forever. That said, it is essential we address the need to escape at it’s core, in a healthy way. Needing to constantly detach and disconnect can be a sign of a deeper issue, such as anxiety, depression, dissociative disorder, and more, and it can lead to dangerous and unhealthy coping mechanisms like excessive screetime, and substance abuse. The real problem with chronic detachment is, like most things, the effects can be cyclical. These can further your feelings of despair/hopelessness and keep you from resetting - which is a natural part of the ebb and flow process of life.

You can and must disconnect once in a while, but don’t get too lost and forget that the feeling of reconnection after a well deserved break, is often the best part.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1176 || sphere of influence vs. radius of awareness

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 04:01:27 GMT

Constant exposure to information and crisis can reduce our ability to react, respond, or move forward with hope. It's incredibly overwhelming to know everything without knowing what to do with it. You must take action in your own life, in your own community, in your own ecosystem - if you want to shed that feeling of hopelessness.

Our investment in things we have no control over is exhausting + debilitating. The ripple effect of small changes is real. So take some small changes + see how much more hopeful you feel.

We are NOT powerless. "We have the ability to make significant change in the world, but only if we are willing to take grounded action within our sphere of influence." - Eliza Day

RESOURCE: https://www.apa.org/monitor/2022/11/strain-media-overload

AND: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-not-to-think/202406/the-psychological-dangers-of-marketing

AND: https://www.tiktok.com/@elizadaylight/video/7387530742621981998?_r=1&_t=8npvby6IGFi

SOURCE: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/rituals-with-your-homies-make-life

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1175 || the purpose of life is...

Fri, 05 Jul 2024 04:01:36 GMT

My life is now divided into 2 parts: the pre-Ayesha Khan version of me and the post-Ayesha Khan version of me. I truly started to feel like I was screaming into a void and though people "understood" where I was coming from, nobody seemed to know what to say about it. Ayesha Khan not only "gets it" but her hopefulness + intentionality has renewed my own hope.

Today, we discuss the reality that our purpose IS community. It is connection + the rituals within those connections. We've been robbed from our interdependence, so we must be intentional with reclaiming it.

"we need to be interdependent because the daily acts of care that support other people or the lands survival are THE thing that gives our lives purpose." - Ayesha Khan of Cosmic Anarchy

SOURCE: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/rituals-with-your-homies-make-life

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1174 || low power mode (revisited)

Thu, 04 Jul 2024 04:01:46 GMT

Today we revisit an old nugget: low power mode.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1173 || escaping the riptide of despair: patreon preview

Wed, 03 Jul 2024 05:01:57 GMT

Sometimes I’m painfully reminded that hope is really all we have. When I am suffering most from the effects of grief, the hopelessness becomes overbearing and all-consuming. It feels impossible to avoid and it typically makes me feel like that’s how things will “always” be.

This is why, I often encourage myself (and others) to take action as a reminder that there is more than overthinking and dwelling in despair. The “touch grass” advice is always so funny to me - because that’s really all it takes sometimes. And maybe for you it’s not grass, because, if I’m honest, it’s not grass for me, either. But it is as small and accessible as grass - so I count it. Sometimes it’s the fresh air itself - reminding me that the world is still spinning. Other times it’s watching strangers going about their day - reminding me that the world is still spinning. But it’s always subtle, it’s always incomprehensibly tiny + it still seems to affect me so deeply. I think of all negative emotions, but especially hopelessness, like a ripcurrent.

The more you resist it, the more it will exhaust all of your resources and cause you to panic and drown. You are really meant to let it sweep you away for a moment, then swim alongside it calmly for another, and then when you see it begin to clear, you can head safely to the shoreline with less struggle and resistance and pain.

But it’s our natural inclination to swim against the current. To get the fuck out as fast as possible, and that would be back the way we came. But that’s not how emotions or riptides work.

Similarly to a rip current, they are smooth looking on the surface but have traumatic and extreme conditions, right underneath - too deep to identify clearly but too powerful to resist logically. So we must get comfortable discarding logic every once in a while. We must learn to let the tides take us, and lean into the fear rather than the panic. To allow ourselves to flow with the current conditions + then, when it’s safe to do so, reflect + adjust our patterns to adapt to the new environment.

Because sometimes, like a riptide, it can be more dangerous to resist the environment than it is to allow it to move us before we move away from it.

RESOURCE LINKS: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/we-keep-us-safe-by-fighting-back

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1172 || keeping hope alive (a la Ayesha Khan - Cosmic Anarchy)

Tue, 02 Jul 2024 05:01:56 GMT

"Hopelessness is often most pervasive among the privileged who are more insulated from from overt violence." - Ayesha Khan

SOURCE: https://wokescientist.substack.com/p/how-do-we-keep-hope-alive-in-our

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1171 || the four horsemen of social change

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 05:01:07 GMT

There are four main roles to play (when it comes to creating social change) and those are the

citizen,
reformer,
rebel,
change agent.

Where do you feel the most natural?

MAIN SOURCE: https://commonslibrary.org/bill-moyers-movement-action-plan-and-four-roles-of-activism/

Another resource: https://creaworld.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/All-About-Power.pdf

More resources:https://commonslibrary.org/

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1169 || power structures + how to claim yours

Thu, 27 Jun 2024 05:01:47 GMT

Yesterday I rambled on about power structures and today I want to clarify some of those thoughts.

Primarily when it comes to the definition of Power.

When a concept is this abstract it carries a different meaning for different individuals - based on our experiences and situations. There are so many words that carry different meanings for people: power, democracy, equality - but the more we can discuss the different meanings and narrow down our definitions, the easier it is to communicate effectively, act effectively, and create change effectively.

Luckily the commons library had plenty of valuable information to share and that’s where I stumbled upon: Srilatha Batliwala, All About Power: Understanding Social Power and Power Structures, where she acknowledges the nuance of understanding power in it’s many forms while also recognizing that we have to understand it fully to really achieve any kind of social change - regardless of our specific areas of work.

Srilatha begins with this: “As activists, we are concerned about the injustice, inequality, marginalization, exclusion, discrimination, stigma, and violence that we see around us. But do we always recognize that power is at the heart of each of these, and at the heart of every social problem? Do we realize that injustice and inequality of every kind is actually an expression of power or a symptom of power structures? The fact is that power lies at the heart of human relationships and of how societies are organized. So when activists try to change people’s lives, or tackle the injustices they face, we are actually trying to change power equations.”

RESOURCE: https://creaworld.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/07/All-About-Power.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1168 || power from the commons

Wed, 26 Jun 2024 05:01:04 GMT

Empowerment starts as a personal experience, then grows to our close relationships, and eventually becomes the collective. Today, we dig into the concept of power as discussed in Jo Rowland's 1997 work: Empowerment Examined.

THE COMMONS: https://commonslibrary.org/wp-content/uploads/How-to-Make-a-Difference-5-Stepes-to-be-an-Effective-Change-Maker-2022_Commons-Library.pdf

VIDEO RESOURCES FROM THE COMMONS: https://commonslibrary.org/9-videos-from-key-thinkers-on-how-to-change-the-world/

JO ROWLANDS EMPOWERMENT EXAMINED: https://pages.uoregon.edu/aweiss/Intl640/Rowlands%20Empowerment%20Examined.pdf

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1167 || authenticity + sense of self || rerelease

Tue, 25 Jun 2024 05:01:41 GMT

If we become curious about ourselves, we'll start to realize what parts of our identity are really ours vs. what we think other's expect from us.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1166 || intentional happiness || rerelease

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 05:01:00 GMT

just getting back from a trip and a delayed flight means a re-release of a classic.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1164 || the power of persuasion

Thu, 20 Jun 2024 05:01:20 GMT

Humans are animals and I can’t tell you how hard it is for me to remember that fact. This is why it feels like, every time I am reminded of that fact - that we are all just big dumb animals - there’s a part of me that is humbled but there is a bigger part of me that is relieved because it feels like my failings are less of a personal attack and more of a common symptom of what happens in the life of a human animal.

One thing in particular I feel VERY conscious of my humanness in is when it comes to my struggles with restlessness and wanting - because there are billion dollar corporations manipulating our animal instincts to make us feel that way.

The best shoppers are the restless, wanting shoppers + I spend every day resisting my urges to go buy a little trinket or tasty treat or new business venture for myself. Every time I see a targeted ad, I curse out that company’s marketing budget because it’s really violently targeted to what I want and they’re only getting more specific. My phone literally knows what I want before I do - often and that’s not only scary for privacy reasons, it’s also super fucking manipulative.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1163 || connecting through gift giving

Wed, 19 Jun 2024 05:01:32 GMT

It’s not about giving someone the world, it’s about making them feel like they are an important part of yours. Which means, it’s hard to do properly. It’s a ton of cognitive load to pay attention to, remember what, and constantly hunt for things with a perfect discernment. It’s really easy to fuck it up, and that’s okay too. I think,, fucks ups are easy to overlook if your intention is genuinely pure, and probably why we should be a little more socially conscious of the things people give to us.

I do also find it powerful to recognize that if you focus too much on the reaction, you’re losing sight of the purpose of gift giving altogether. You wanna give them something nice, not force them to smile.

Most people are just happy you thought of them at all, don’t overthink it if it’s becoming stressful, just lean into your first instincts, or do what I do, ask around and get some ideas for fan favorites, and again, so many people are just happy to get a gift, it doesn’t matter if it’s prolonged eye contact. That’s how attention starved so many of us are.

DONATE:www.pcrf.net

Get Involved:Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1162 || fighting the powers that be (and winning)

Tue, 18 Jun 2024 05:01:29 GMT

"Climate change is here because of the current global systems, and that means that, eventually, the system will become obsolete. It already is when it comes to the survival of humanity. I think that ultimately people will come to see that the system doesn’t work for them. It’s never been designed to work for the masses." - Murrawah Maroochy Johnson

RESOURCE: https://peoplesworld.org/article/how-an-aboriginal-woman-fought-a-coal-company-and-won/

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1161 || deescalating conflict + a little Deepak Chopra

Mon, 17 Jun 2024 05:01:03 GMT

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

According to Deepak Chopra: "Language and action go together. If you are stuck in the metaphor of war, with its winners and losers, revenge, enmities that last for generations, and the macho image of the warrior, you can never end war even though you want to.

There is no clean end to war once you are in a war mentality. Winners in one war become losers the next, and combat runs into a quagmire in which it is obvious that neither side will be able to claim victory,. As history teaches us from World War I to Afghanistan, wars are at once pointless, relentless, and endless. War heroes on one side are war criminals on the other.

There is a way to end war, and one sees signs of the solution appearing wherever people realize that we share the same goal, to achieve a prosperous, healthy, sustainable planet.

War doesn’t serve this shared goal, and the question is how long it will take for a positive global purpose to overshadow the metaphor of war that is embedded in nationalism, tribalism, racial and ethnic divides, and the other fellow travelers of war.

All of these divisions are mind-made.

They exist because we constructed them, and the secret is that whatever you made you can unmake."

LINKS + RESOURCES: https://www.wsws.org/en/articles/2016/02/18/icfi-f18.html

https://choprafoundation.org/consciousness/10-ways-to-resolve-all-conflicts-and-end-war/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anti-war_movement

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1160 || the ethics of wealth || patreon

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 05:01:48 GMT

Most nations are more intent on policing the poor than the rich, when the opposite would be more effective, lucrative, and important. Tax evasion is estimated to cost Austria about one thousand times more than welfare fraud.

RESOURCES: https://insidestory.org.au/the-case-for-banning-billionaires/

https://newint.org/equality/2024/what-if-we-banned-billionaires

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1160 || the ethics of wealth

Fri, 14 Jun 2024 05:01:40 GMT

RESOURCES: https://insidestory.org.au/the-case-for-banning-billionaires/

https://newint.org/equality/2024/what-if-we-banned-billionaires

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1159 || anti-capitalism 101

Thu, 13 Jun 2024 05:01:03 GMT

Riley Brooke wrote a dope ass article and I need everyone to hear it. Today we're talking capitalism, means of production, unions, exploitation, scabs, and profits.

RESOURCE: https://rileybrooke.medium.com/for-beginners-what-is-capitalism-what-does-it-mean-to-be-anti-capitalist-9670e14f1122

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1158 || ban the billionaires

Wed, 12 Jun 2024 05:01:23 GMT

You cannot earn a billion dollars. You can take a billion dollars, but you can't make it. Every billionaire has built their "empire" off of the exploitation of laborers.

UNFUN FACTS:

Jeff Bezos could give every single one of his 876,000 employees a $105,000 bonus and he’d still be as rich as he was at the start of the pandemic.
The median U.S. salary is $34,612, but even if you tripled that and saved every penny for a lifetime, you still wouldn’t accumulate anywhere close to a billion dollars.
Jeff Bezos makes $149,353.12 EVERY SINGLE MINUTE.
Every 14 minutes, Elon Musk earns as much as an average american earns in their entire lifetime.
Full time employees at Walmart + Amazon are the biggest utilizers of federal food programs like SNAP and Welfare. While the CEO's make more money than is possible to spend in a lifetime.

Something's gotta give.

RESOURCES: https://insidestory.org.au/the-case-for-banning-billionaires/

https://www.teenvogue.com/story/billionaires-should-not-exist

https://www.prospectmagazine.co.uk/views/columns/60885/philosopher-at-large-should-we-ban-billionaires + https://simpletexting.com/blog/tech-ceo-salary/

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1157 || post-scarcity society || patreon

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 05:01:54 GMT

Utopia feels far away, post-scarcity feels less so.

RESOURCES: https://lorenzopieri.com/post_scarcity/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-scarcity

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1157 || post-scarcity society

Tue, 11 Jun 2024 05:01:17 GMT

Utopia feels far away, post-scarcity feels less so.

RESOURCES: https://lorenzopieri.com/post_scarcity/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Post-scarcity

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1156 || deepfakes and ai deception

Mon, 10 Jun 2024 05:01:08 GMT

Becoming a "deep-fake detector" was not on my 2024 bingo card, but here we are. As AI generative tech improves, we must improve at our fact-checking.

RESOURCES:

https://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/research-reports/how-detect-and-guard-against-deceptive-ai-generated-election-information

https://www.brennancenter.org/our-work/research-reports/artificial-intelligence-and-election-security

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1155 || Henry David Thoreau: Civil Disobedience

Fri, 07 Jun 2024 05:01:50 GMT

"The soldier is applauded who refuses to serve in an unjust war by those who do not refuse to sustain the unjust government which makes the war." Henry David Thoreau

RESOURCES: https://blogs.law.columbia.edu/uprising1313/files/2017/10/Civil-Disobedience-by-Henry-David-Thoreau.pdf

and https://www.britannica.com/biography/Henry-David-Thoreau/Move-to-Walden-Pond

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1154 || civil disobedience

Thu, 06 Jun 2024 05:01:49 GMT

Today we're talking: civil disobedience

RESOURCES: https://datadetoxkit.org/en/home/

https://nonviolentpeaceforce.org/quick-resources/

https://www.amnesty.org/fr/wp-content/uploads/2024/02/ACT1074712024ENGLISH.pdf

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1153 || anhedonia + a lack of support

Wed, 05 Jun 2024 05:01:01 GMT

Anhedonia is the lack of enjoyment or pleasure and is a common symptom of depression. Today I share some of my more negative defense mechanisms and then attempt to share some healthier ones.

RESOURCE 1: https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/symptoms/25155-anhedonia

RESOURCE 2: https://www.verywellmind.com/unsupportive-friends-and-family-1067469

RESOURCE 3: https://www.webmd.com/depression/features/depression-traps-and-pitfalls

MENTAL HEALTH RESOURCE: NAMI + Mental Health America

DONATE: https://www.pcrf.net/

GET INVOLVED: Operation Olive Branch: Spreadsheets + Links

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1152 || if you're not depressed are you paying attention?

Tue, 04 Jun 2024 05:01:06 GMT

I've been dealing with depression since I was 12 and the world hasn't gotten more "fun" but that doesn't mean I'm hopeless. I'm just reminded it's time to get busier but I can't do that in good conscious without addressing a few elephants that have been in the room.

CHECK OUT MY RESOURCE: https://screening.mhanational.org/content/how-can-i-be-ok-when-world-terrible/

SUPPORT MUTUAL AID IN GAZA: https://www.instagram.com/gazamutualaid/?hl=en AND https://www.instagram.com/thepcrf/?hl=en

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1151 || pity the teens

Mon, 03 Jun 2024 05:01:10 GMT

I feel for the kids. They have been shorted so many experiences because of the pinpointed attacks on our brains from social media companies and corporations. We need third spaces. We need community. We need belonging.

RESOURCE: https://www.nytimes.com/2024/02/21/magazine/aesthetics-tiktok-teens.html

https://www.editcm.com/blog/2024/1/12/offline-oasis-why-teens-need-non-digital-third-spaces

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1150 || red pill

Fri, 31 May 2024 04:01:39 GMT

Let's talk about manipulation in relationships for a few.

RESOURCES:

https://www.reddit.com/r/everymanshouldknow/comments/29hbtj/emsk_why_the_red_pill_will_kill_you_inside/

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Red_Pill

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manosphere

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1149 || the manosphere

Thu, 30 May 2024 04:01:11 GMT

Manipulation to achieve a desired reaction is despicable work and it's time we talked about it.

RESOURCES:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pickup_artist

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Red_Pill

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manosphere

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1148 || femininity is a performance

Wed, 29 May 2024 04:01:14 GMT

In contemporary society, women face significant pressure to adhere to beauty standards that include practices like shaving body hair and wearing makeup. These expectations are not merely personal choices but are deeply entrenched in societal norms that equate femininity with specific, often restrictive, behaviors and appearances. When women deviate from these norms, they are frequently criticized and labeled as "masculine," underscoring the idea that femininity is a performance that requires continuous effort.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1147 || beauty is in the eye of the beholder

Tue, 28 May 2024 04:01:02 GMT

The world operates on a profit model that often thrives on human misery. From the moment we enter this world, we're bombarded with messages insinuating that our self-worth is intricately tied to material possessions, consumer goods, pharmaceuticals, therapy, and a shitstorm of other products and services promising to alleviate our discontent.

As author and activist Audre Lorde once said, "Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." Recognizing that true liberation begins with reclaiming ownership of our self-worth and embracing our inherent value as human beings.

RESOURCE: https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/liking-yourself-is-a-rebellious-act

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1146 || misery is profitable

Mon, 27 May 2024 04:01:28 GMT

RESOURCE: https://www.strikemagazines.com/blog-2-1/liking-yourself-is-a-rebellious-act

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1145 || invisible work

Fri, 24 May 2024 04:01:02 GMT

invisible work—a term coined by sociologist Arlene Kaplan Daniels to describe work that goes unpaid, unacknowledged, and thus, unregulated—is often overlooked and underpaid. it is taxing to be expected to perform invisible labor day in and day out. The first step in overcoming these unregulated expectations, is to make the invisible labor visible.

RESOURCE: https://time.com/charter/6317237/how-to-end-the-unfairness-of-invisible-work/

RESOURCE 2: https://synd.io/blog/invisible-labor-in-the-workplace/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1144 || lessening the mental load

Thu, 23 May 2024 04:01:14 GMT

The mental load, also known as: Invisible labor, managing a life, managing a household, cognitive work, emotional labor, scheduling, shopping lists, etc. is never ending, invisible, and boundary-less. So, we need to make a conscious choice with how we take ownership of it. Otherwise, it'll take ownership of us.

RESOURCES: https://www.uclahealth.org/news/article/mental-load-what-it-and-how-manage-it#:~:text=What%20is%20mental%20load%3F,add%20to%20your%20total%20load.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1143 || resisting tyranny

Wed, 22 May 2024 04:01:04 GMT

all oppression is connected. get involved and speak up.

RESOURCE: https://en.wikiversity.org/wiki/Confronting_Tyranny#Responding_to_Tyrants:

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1142 || The 4B movement || Part 2

Tue, 21 May 2024 04:01:11 GMT

From Wikipedia: This digital movement functions as an online community where women engage in open discussion about navigating and envisioning a future without men. It serves as a platform for women to vent their frustrations and concerns about living in a conservative society while fostering a sense of solidarity. Additionally, the platform aims to motivate and inspire women to protest against dating, engaging in sexual relationships, getting married, and having children. Through a robust social media presence, the movement seeks to raise awareness and recruit more advocates to amplify its impact.

RESOURCES: https://twentythirdstation.wordpress.com/2016/01/25/%EB%AF%B8%ED%98%BC-mihon-vs-%EB%B9%84%ED%98%BC-bihon-word-of-the-day/

https://www.thecut.com/2023/03/4b-movement-feminism-south-korea.html

https://www.goodgoodgood.co/articles/4b-movement

https://maracas-cod-ecag.squarespace.com/flowers-of-fire

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1141 || the 4B movement

Mon, 20 May 2024 04:01:05 GMT

The 4B movement in South Korea is a feminist initiative that emerged around 2019 and has recently gained significant attention on social media platforms like TikTok. The movement is rooted in rejecting traditional gender norms and roles that are prevalent in South Korean society, which is often criticized for its patriarchal values and systemic misogyny.

The term "4B" stands for four principles:

Bihon - No heterosexual marriage
Bichulsan - No childbirth
Biyeonae - No dating men
Bisekseu - No heterosexual sexual relationships

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1140 || boundary setting paradox

Fri, 17 May 2024 05:01:24 GMT

Setting boundaries is crucial for maintaining healthy relationships and preserving one's well-being. Dr. Brené Brown, a research professor and author, emphasizes the importance of boundaries, stating, "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves even when we risk disappointing others." By establishing clear boundaries, individuals can communicate their needs and expectations effectively, reducing the likelihood of resentment and conflict.

One example of the importance of setting boundaries can be seen in the workplace. Research conducted by the American Psychological Association found that employees who have difficulty setting boundaries with their colleagues are more likely to experience higher levels of stress and job dissatisfaction. Employers play a crucial role in fostering a culture that values work-life balance and respects employees' boundaries.

In personal relationships, boundaries are essential for maintaining mutual respect and understanding. Dr. Henry Cloud, a clinical psychologist, observes, "Boundaries define us. They define what is me and what is not me." When individuals fail to assert their boundaries, they may find themselves in one-sided relationships where their needs are consistently overlooked. This imbalance can lead to feelings of resentment and frustration.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1140 || boundary setting paradox || patreon

Fri, 17 May 2024 05:01:04 GMT

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1139 || people pleasers || day 23 revisited

Thu, 16 May 2024 05:01:52 GMT

Overall, while people-pleasers may not intend to manipulate others, their behavior can inadvertently perpetuate manipulative dynamics in relationships. By recognizing the underlying motives and consequences of people-pleasing behavior, we can work towards establishing healthier boundaries, fostering genuine communication, and cultivating more authentic and fulfilling relationships.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1139 || people pleasers || day 23 revisited || patreon

Thu, 16 May 2024 05:01:14 GMT

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1138 || perception of time || day 22 revisited

Wed, 15 May 2024 05:01:33 GMT

In our modern society, time dictates so much of our lives, the ticking of the clock underscores our routines. There is always a sense of urgency for some sort of deadline looming over our heads, whether self-inflicted or fantastical, the fear of time passing us by is always there. We are taught to parcel out our days into tidy increments of hours, minutes, and seconds, striving to make the most of every fleeting moment, and ashamed if we don’t or can’t. However, this relentless pursuit of productivity often leaves us feeling stressed and overwhelmed, as if we are constantly racing against an invisible clock. There's this inherent sense that we need to utilize every single second of every single day in order to achieve the highest heights and every second “lost” is a second wasted.

But what if time is not as rigid as we perceive it to be? What if, instead of bending to the demands of the relentless march of time, we could learn to embrace the fluidity of it and actually begin to intentionally savor each passing moment? This idea may seem counterintuitive in a world that prizes efficiency and speed, but there is wisdom to be found in slowing down and paying attention to the subtle rhythms of life. As I get older I find so much beauty in the mundane, the boring, the tedious.

Start noticing who you're around when time begins to fly. Notice what you're doing when you lose track of time and stop thinking you're late for something. In life, your timeline is different from everyone else's because it's supposed to be. Relax, trust that everything is coming in divine timing. What is meant for you will not pass you. In the meantime, try to enjoy the experience that is the roller coaster of times—those moments that feel like days, and those days that feel like moments—because even though the time is passing, either way, you are not late for anything.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1137 || perspective of control || day 21 revisited

Tue, 14 May 2024 05:01:31 GMT

This is a rerelease and update of episode 21.

It seems like we keep getting caught up working towards something to the point where we don't appreciate that these are the days; but this is your life. You can feel all the anxiety in the world, and it is not going to change the fact that tomorrow is still coming. And you can feel all the guilt in the world, and it does not change your past.

You have to start being more intentional and mindful of the moment, the now, the present, if you want to really begin to feel in control at all. So let’s check in. As you are here, now listening to this podcast, making your bed, have you been present? or have you been planning ahead? There's nothing wrong with thinking about what you have to do today, but there is power in being tactful with your mindfulness.

https://positivepsychology.com/internal-external-locus-of-control/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1136 || screentime check

Mon, 13 May 2024 05:01:52 GMT

This is your yearly reminder that the world exists outside of your house and outside of a screen. So many of us feel this deep seated pressure to post every aspect of our life, I know friends that refuse to walk without their apple watch charged or go to brunch without photographing it. “Instagram or it didn’t happen” is a common phrase from my generation both ironically and not. At this point, it’s become deeply ingrained in our cultural norms.

The thing that worlds best for me is to Create as much space as possible between myself and the craving. Deleting the app, creating strict limits around non-negotiables, and reflecting honestly so I can be realistic about the negative effects.

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1135 || finale - the artist's way

Fri, 10 May 2024 05:01:57 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 12:

"Hatching an idea is a lot like baking bread. An idea needs to rise." - Julia Cameron

"Life is meant to be an artist date." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1135 || finale - the artist's way || patreon

Fri, 10 May 2024 05:01:22 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 12:

"Hatching an idea is a lot like baking bread. An idea needs to rise." - Julia Cameron

"Life is meant to be an artist date." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1134 || week 12 || the artist's way

Thu, 09 May 2024 05:01:31 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 12:

"Hatching an idea is a lot like baking bread. An idea needs to rise." - Julia Cameron

"Life is meant to be an artist date." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1133 || week 11 + week 12 || the artist's way

Wed, 08 May 2024 05:01:39 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 11:

"To a large degree my life is my art, and when it gets dull, so does my work." - Julia Cameron

"Creativity is oxygen for our souls." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1132 || week 11 || prestige is silly || the artist's way

Tue, 07 May 2024 05:01:13 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 11:

"To a large degree my life is my art, and when it gets dull, so does my work." - Julia Cameron

"Creativity is oxygen for our souls." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1131 || week 11 || a sense of autonomy || the artist's way

Mon, 06 May 2024 05:01:03 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 11:

"To a large degree my life is my art, and when it gets dull, so does my work." - Julia Cameron

"Creativity is oxygen for our souls." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1130 || week 10 || competition + tasks || the artist's way

Fri, 03 May 2024 05:01:23 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 10:

"Ride out the anxiety and see where you emerge. Anxiety can be fuel. " - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1129 || week 10 || workaholism is a block || the artist's way || patreon

Thu, 02 May 2024 05:01:20 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 10:

"Ride out the anxiety and see where you emerge. Anxiety can be fuel. " - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1129 || week 10 || workaholism is a block || the artist's way

Thu, 02 May 2024 05:01:19 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 10:

"Ride out the anxiety and see where you emerge. Anxiety can be fuel. " - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1128 || week 10 || toxic avoidance (workaholism) || the artist's way

Wed, 01 May 2024 05:01:00 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 10:

"Ride out the anxiety and see where you emerge. Anxiety can be fuel. " - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1127 || week 9 finale || the artist's way

Tue, 30 Apr 2024 05:01:48 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 9:

"You're not lazy, you're blocked."

"We shouldn't call an inability to start laziness, we should call it fear."

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1126 || you're not lazy, you're blocked || the artist's way || week 9

Mon, 29 Apr 2024 05:01:42 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 9:

"You're not lazy, you're blocked."

"We shouldn't call an inability to start laziness, we should call it fear."

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

1125 || tiny steps make real progress || week 8 - the artist's way

Fri, 26 Apr 2024 05:01:54 GMT

We're doing a deep dive on Julia Cameron's Twelve Week Process of The Artist's Way. This is week 8:

"One of the most difficult tasks an artist must face is a primal one: artistic survival. All artists must learn the art of surviving loss: loss of hope, loss of face, loss of money, loss of self-belief. In addition to our many gains, we inevitable suffer these losses in an artistic career. They are hazards of the road and, in many ways, its signposts. Artist losses can be turned into artistic gains and strengths—but not in the isolation of the beleaguered artist’s brain." - Julia Cameron

https://juliacameronlive.com/

GET AN OCCASIONAL PERSONAL EMAIL FROM ME: www.makeyourdamnbedpodcast.com

TUNE IN ON INSTAGRAM FOR COOL CONTENT: www.instagram.com/mydbpodcast

OR BE A REAL GEM + TUNE IN ON PATREON: www.patreon.com/MYDBpodcast

OR WATCH ON YOUTUBE: www.youtube.com/juliemerica

Support this show http://supporter.acast.com/make-your-damn-bed.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.