The Practice of Love Podcast

Silent Divorce: What Happens When We Stop Reaching for Each Other

Tue, 09 Sep 2025 16:55:13 GMT

Episode 17. Silent divorce is one of the most dangerous places a relationship can land — not because of explosive fights, but because of silence. In this episode, we explore how couples drift into emotional divorce, and how to interrupt the drift. For some, it's a chance to reclaim intimacy. For others, it's a wake-up call to consciously uncouple.

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The Practice of Love Podcast is a raw, real, and often humorous conversation between licensed therapist Lair Torrent and soul mentor Ashley Torrent.

Together, they explore what it truly means to love— with intentionality, curiosity, and care. Whether navigating the complexities of relationship or the tender terrain of personal healing, their conversations offer grounded insights and practical tools for anyone walking the path of conscious connection.

You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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After the Rush: Loving Each Other Without Losing Yourself

Wed, 07 May 2025 10:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we explore what happens after the initial rush of love—the limerence, the passion, the all-consuming desire to be together. Ashley and Lair talk about the natural and necessary phase of individuation that follows, when the real work of relationship begins. How do we return to our rhythms, our routines, our own inner lives—without disconnecting from the relationship? We reflect on the importance of allowing space for personal growth, how to navigate this shift with curiosity instead of fear, and why the conversations during this time are some of the most important for deepening emotional intimacy and long-term connection.

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The Practice of Love Podcast is a raw, real, and often humorous conversation between licensed therapist Lair Torrent and soul mentor Ashley Torrent. Together, they explore what it truly means to love—with intentionality, curiosity, and care. Whether navigating the complexities of relationship or the tender terrain of personal healing, their conversations offer grounded insights and practical tools for anyone walking the path of conscious connection.

You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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When Joy Feels Dangerous

Wed, 19 Mar 2025 22:35:41 GMT

In this episode of The Practice of Love Podcast, Ashley and Lair open up about Lair’s recent surf accident—an experience that brought fear, PTSD, shame, and deep vulnerability to the surface. They reflect on the tension between joy and fear, the subconscious beliefs that can make happiness feel unsafe, and how they navigated this crisis together in the midst of an already intense life transition. Through honesty and reflection, they explore the complexities of trauma, resilience, and the practice of love in the face of unexpected challenges.

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Lair and Ashley Torrent host the Practice of Love Podcast. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.

You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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Embracing Change

Wed, 12 Feb 2025 22:29:27 GMT

Change is a constant in life, but how we respond to it shapes our experience. In this episode, Lair and Ashley explore the tension between resistance and acceptance, uncovering why they struggle with change and how surrendering can lead to transformation. Having just moved to Costa Rica, they share their own experiences of navigating major life transitions and the challenges of stepping into the unknown. They discuss the role of spiritual practice in embracing change, the inevitability of chaos in transformation, how to protect inner peace amidst uncertainty, and the importance of staying deeply connected to the soul through it all.

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The Power of Vulnerability: Redefining Strength in Men

Thu, 19 Dec 2024 12:11:24 GMT

In this episode, Lair and Ashley dive deep into the concept of vulnerability—what it truly means and what it looks like, particularly in men. We explore why vulnerability in men is often misunderstood or even seen as a turn-off, shedding light on societal conditioning and outdated definitions of masculinity. Together, we discuss why embracing vulnerability is not a weakness but a profound act of courage and strength.

The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual counselor and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.

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You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholistictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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The Void Between Us: How Silence Erodes Connection

Thu, 05 Dec 2024 14:30:43 GMT

In this episode, Ashley and Lair explore how silence can quietly erode trust and intimacy in relationships. They discuss why avoiding difficult conversations can feel safer, how unspoken emotions create distance, and offer practical ways to move from silence to open, meaningful communication.

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You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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Should Our Relationships Be This Hard? Part 2

Tue, 21 May 2024 18:55:40 GMT

In this episode, we explore part 2 of the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. We dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it’s not what you will find in a Google search.

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You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website at ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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Should Our Relationships Be This Hard?

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 19:20:44 GMT

In this episode, we explore the question, should our relationships be this hard? As it turns out, yes they should but not for the reasons most people are experiencing. In part one of a two-part answer, we dive into the real reason relationships are hard and it's not what you will find in a Google search.

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Mourning the Living

Tue, 05 Mar 2024 16:17:17 GMT

In this episode, we discuss the difficult decision that many, including ourselves, have made to walk away from a familial relationship. We share our experience, how we have dealt with the judgment around this unpopular choice, and what we have discovered on the other side of it.

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You can find Ashley on Instagram at @ashleytorrent29 or on her website ashleytorrent.com.

You can find Lair on Instagram at @lairtorrentholisitictherapist or on his website lairtorrent.com.

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Finding Your Intrinsic Goodness

Wed, 20 Dec 2023 15:35:10 GMT

In this episode, we explore how changing our inner narrative transforms our relationship with our personal history and we ask the question, "After everything you have been through, how are you who you are?"

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The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual therapist and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves, and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.

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Vulnerability: The Unlikely Path to the Authentic Self

Mon, 02 Oct 2023 18:29:32 GMT

In this episode, Lair and Ashley talk about processing emotion, dealing with and accessing different parts of self, and how vulnerability paves the way to a heart-centered connection with your most authentic self.

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The Practice of Love Podcast is hosted by Lair and Ashley Torrent. Lair is a psychotherapist and author of The Practice of Love and Ashley Torrent is a psycho-spiritual therapist and intuitive medium. Together they discuss from a personal and clinical perspective what it means to practice love in our relationships with our partners, friends, family members, children, ourselves and our work. They also share the ups and downs of their 21-year relationship and how the practice of love has kept it alive, sexy, and connective.

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When Repressed Childhood Sexual Trauma Surfaces

Tue, 23 May 2023 04:24:00 GMT

After years of wondering what happened to her, Ashley’s repressed childhood sexual trauma surfaced. In this episode, Ashley and Lair share how they are walking through this revelation. They also discuss how this type of trauma may reveal itself, how to navigate it within a relationship, and how the practice of love can hold space for it.

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Parenting as a Practice of Love

Thu, 13 Apr 2023 13:47:13 GMT

In this episode, Ashley and Lair discuss parenting a highly sensitive child. They have learned that at its core parenting is a practice of love that requires a vast amount of curiosity and the courage to go against the grain, question societal norms, and surmount some of our deepest wounds and fears.

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Maintaining Intimacy In All It’s Forms

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 08:59:00 GMT

In this episode, Lair and Ashley discuss how to maintain intimacy both physical and emotional over a long term relationship and how they keep things sexy over the long haul. They share how they navigated a very difficult time that lasted years and what helped them come out the other side even closer than before.

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Ultimatums: Do They Really Work

Tue, 17 Jan 2023 07:31:00 GMT

In this episode, Lair and Ashley discuss ultimatums and whether they are effective. Lair believes that sometimes they might be necessary and Ashley firmly disagrees and states that she does believe in fairies, however, she does not believe in giving ultimatums.

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How to Handle Mistakes and Missteps in Our Relationships

Tue, 03 Jan 2023 17:03:45 GMT

In this episode, Lair and Ashley share moments in their relationship when mistakes were made, what they learned, and how we can handle our partners when they drop the ball.

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Conversations and Curiousity

Tue, 08 Nov 2022 12:36:50 GMT

It's the things we don't talk about that hurt our relationships. In this episode, Ashley and Lair discuss how they met and how deep conversations and curiosity have been one of the keys to their long-lasting love affair even when those conversations have been difficult.

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