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The Upsides For Workplace Warriors To Lead And Succeed - GUEST: Jordan Goldrich

Thu, 30 Jan 2020 01:57:07 GMT

Do you feel like a warrior when you go to work?

Do you feel like you MUST be a warrior?

Warriors are tough. Is that a necessity for getting people to work together and produce desired results?

My conversation with Jordan Goldrich, author of Workplace Warrior, had some surprises. The subtitle of his book is "People Skills for the No B.S. Executive." He immediately brought up the word, abrasive, to describe many leaders. Not a surprise! Sometimes people think they have to be tough, competitive, and yes, abrasive in order to be seen as a leader. Often, that backfires!

If you're going to be successful at work, you have to create a workplace that people are not afraid to go to. So, how does a leader create the desired balance?

Two big pieces of advice from Jordan:

"You have to show respect and compassion to others. Talk to them like they are human beings...because they are."

"Acknowledge and apologize for your past behavior."

That's where his seven steps to an apology come in.

Great insights for leaders who want to be better, leaders who need people skills!

Excellent information for everyone who goes to a workplace every day.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

Why do we need a war metaphor for this?
Why do workplace leaders think they have to aggressive?
What's the difference between what he calls "straight talk," and having no filters?
What makes leaders abrasive?
How can leaders and would-be leaders learn to be assertive without being degrading or demanding?
Why is it that abrasive executives are often overly-protected?
What are his seven steps to making an apology?

GUEST: Jordan Goldrich

Jordan Goldrich partners with executives to drive results without damanaging relationships. He is the co-author of the newly published book, "Workplace Warrior: People Skills For The No BS Executive."

He is a Chief Operations Officer, Master Corporate Executive Moach (MCEC), Professional Certified Coach (PCC) and California Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW.) He is partner in the business consulting firm CUSTOMatrix, Inc, and an executive coach for the Center for Creative Leadership.

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Ass-Kickin' Advice for Step-Moms GUEST: Kathy Hammond

Thu, 23 Jan 2020 19:34:26 GMT

We have so many images of step-moms. Angels, devils, and everything in between!

My guest, Kathy Hammond, is the author of How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms.

You might relate!

She says, "Books on step parenting hope to evoke a kumbaya feeling. That might work if everyone involved in the step family dynamic is mature, empathetic and certainly not narcissistic. In reality are very raw emotions of jealousy, anger, resentment and fear, experienced by ex-spouses and subsequent spouses and, as chief casualties, the kids."

Being a stepmom is difficult. You step into a place where someone else's shoes are already filled, in most cases. You're the bonus mom. You also may be perceived as the unnecessary extra mom, too.

Whoa! How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorney, and Then Some! Strong words. I'm sure many stepmoms will relate. Do you? Are you in a new relationship where you're screaming (at least, in your head)

"My husband's ex cannot let go! My husband's ex causes too many problems! My husband's ex won't let go!"

Maybe your partner's ex is a #Hijackal. If you're dealing with a #Hijackal ex--a difficult, toxic, unrelenting, demanding ex--when you're the new stepmom, you're going to have a steep learning curve. There will be days! You'll wonder why you ever said yes to taking on someone's children.

Will it strengthen your new marriage by working as a team, or will your new partner be overwhelmed by the stress? Maybe, you'll land somewhere in between.

Listen today and shortcut the journey to success as a stepmom. Feel better about your stepmom role. Kathy Hammond has twenty-seven years of experience as a stepmom so she's done some heavy lifting for you.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What do I do to get a great start when I take on someone else's children?
What CAN I do to improve family dynamics when I'm the stepmom?
What if my husband's ex is toxic?
How do I keep myself out of my husband's last relationship?
How do I handle the money situation when there is an ex in the picture?
Why is an annual review of child custody and child support essential?
How can I enforce my boundaries in a new relationship with his children?
What can I expect when the children's bio mom remarries?
What about divorce attorneys?
What about dealing with in-laws?

GUEST: KATHY HAMMOND

Kathy Hammond is an award-winning author, speaker and CEO of a recruitment solutions company in Orange County, California. The focus of her work is helping people find their voice and their place.

A native of Southern California, Kathy and her family moved to Guam after graduating high school, satisfying her newfound wanderlust. She attended the University of Guam, falling in love with Hemmingway and Margaret Mead. With a dream of writing her way through distant cultures, she landed a job selling ad space for This Month and Guam and Micronesia magazine where she begin writing commercially before becoming its Editor, also writing for the then-popular Off Duty military magazine.

Wanting to earn her writing chops on something bigger, after spending time in Japan and, later, while living in Switzerland, Kathy started writing a novel about American baseball players in Japan. She loved writing dialogue but fiction was not to be her genre. She returned to California and continued her career in sales.

While on a cruise to Mexico, on the night they set sale, Kathy met her husband-to-be and the catalyst for her latest work. They married seven weeks later and moved to John’s home state of Tennessee where she became stepmom to John’s two very young sons.

After later relocating to South Florida, she went on to earn a Master’s in Organizational Management while working as a sales executive in workforce solutions. She studied business coaching in South Africa, where she appeared on numerous radio and television shows and was keynote speaker on the coaching organization’s nationwide speaking tour. In 2011, Kathy and her husband returned to Southern California where she found her writing voice. The following year, she published her first book, The Road to Nē: A remarkable little tale about getting what you want by giving up just one little thing, an allegory on goal setting, winning honorable mentions at the 2013 Great Southwest, Paris and New York Book Festivals.

In 2019, Kathy published How to Kill Your Husband's Ex, Attorneys and Then Some: Ass Kickin' Advice for Stepmoms. Infusing Kathy’s grinding humor and practical advice to tackle life’s dilemmas is spurring Kathy’s “How to Kill …” series … though one will have to wait to see who is next.

Still going strong after 27 years of marriage, Kathy and her husband reside in Yorba Linda, California.

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Why Health and Healing Require Trust and Listening GUEST: Dr. Elizabeth Hughes

Wed, 15 Jan 2020 05:09:33 GMT

What do you do when you don't feel well?

Do you ignore it and hope it will go away?

Do you become interested in the needs of your body?

Just because your parent had a disease or condition, do you believe you're next?

Today's guest, Dr. Elizabeth Hughes, has exciting news:

"YOUR FUTURE IS NOT WRITTEN IN YOUR DNA."

What would change for you if you believed your future is not written in your DNA? Such an important belief to challenge!

Dr. Hughes talks about why it is important to listen to your body. She says,

'Our bodies communicate with us all the time. Our big job is to actively listen."

Are you listening to your body? Does it happen to be telling you that you're stressed, but you don't want to believe it?

So much wisdom, along with new insights, in today's episode.

Learn more about Complementary Medicine.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What is energy medicine?
Is western medicine not enough?
What caused you to expand beyond the traditional areas of western medicine?
Can we trust our bodies to lead us on the right journey to health?
What about denial of what our bodies tell us, are maybe screaming at us?
How did having a toxic relationship affect your life?
How does a toxic relationship affect your health?
How do feelings and beliefs change health, from a biological perspective?
What is the most important subconscious belief to change your health?
How do supportive relationships make you healthier?
How can I take steps to become healthier right away?

GUEST: ELIZABETH HUGHES, MD

Dr. Hughes is a dermatologist and former faculty member at Stanford University, where she taught dozens of physicians, including many nationally-recognized leaders in the field of dermatology.

Nearly twenty years after graduating from medical school, Dr. Hughes witnessed the rapid resolution of a patient’s chronic illness without any medical intervention. This event caused Dr. Hughes to question everything she had been taught about health and illness, and to look for better answers for “incurable” conditions.

Her quest lead her to investigate ancient spiritual traditions, non-western systems of health and healing, placebo research, and the emerging sciences of epigenetics and psychoneuroimmunology. In the process, she became a registered yoga teacher, a certified health coach, and a practitioner of several energy medicine modalities.

Dr. Hughes has developed a revolutionary approach to health based on establishing trust in the human body. Dr. Hughes believes that once each person has cultivated a deep and abiding trust in the power of the human body, our experience of health and illness will change for the better forever.

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Mid-Life Dating, Sex & Finding True Love GUEST: Jonathon Aslay

Fri, 10 Jan 2020 00:09:23 GMT

Fearful? Skeptical? Not sure you trust yourself to choose well? Unsure about trusting when you start to date again?

You'll likely have some of that when you're dating in mid-life, especially if you have left a toxic relationship?

You hear the term, self-love, so often these days. Do you know what it really means? What are your assumptions about it?

I actually don't use that term much because of the ambiguity. In today's episode, my guest, Jonothon Aslay, and I discuss this because sometimes the term causes me to roll my eyes. Really, that's true. But, I loved Jonathon's definition of self-love, and that makes the discussion all the more juicy!

It's awkward to know when the best time to ask about previous relationships is, right? Do you get it out of the way at the beginning, or is there a better time for that question?

See all the question below that I asked Jonathon. So much great information, and excellent insights, too.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What inspired Jonathon Aslay to write about dating and self-love?
What is his definition of self-love?
How does mid-life dating differ from dating earlier in life?
What are the red flags in mid-life dating?
Are there questions to be avoided on first dates?
When is the best time to talk about previous relationships when dating a new person?
Why does Jonathon call venting "empowered problem-solving?"
What are the roadblocks women face when understanding divorced men?
What questions should women ask when going out with a divorced man?
What are the differences between men who have been divorced and men who've never married?

GUEST: JONATHON ASLAY

The focus of one of America's Leading Mid-Life Dating Coach has expanded into a deeper, essential philosophy of what it truly means to LOVE.

After losing his 19-year-old son Connor in 2018, Jonathon Aslay’s grief led him on a soul-searching inner journey, where he became aware of an often-overlooked dimension of the dating conversation.

He realized that the process of dating reveals the most common emotional health issue faced by many singles seeking a partner: a distressing lack of self-worth, self-regard, and self-love.

Today, he is on a mission of encouraging both men and women to fully love themselves with a new book, "What The Heck Is Self-Love Anyway?"—packed with fun, engaging spiritual and personal growth practices—and his dynamic Mid-Life Love Mastery mentorship program, that inspires hundreds of people daily, around the world.

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Chapters from his book, What the Heck is Self-Love Anyway?

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How Living in Alignment with Your Human Design Leads to Success GUEST: Chetan Parkyn

Fri, 27 Dec 2019 17:53:55 GMT

HUMAN DESIGN? What immediately came to mind when you read that?

Human Design is a system that "illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input," as today's guest, Chetan Parkyn says.

"We get distracted in our lives from the moment we arrive here.

We become conditioned not only from the attitudes and behaviors of the family and circumstances in which we are born, but we also have ingrained in our genetic codes unconscious patterns from our ancestry.

Human Design illustrates the genetic codes in our personal makeup, both from a conscious perspective, and also from the unconscious ancestral input.

It highlights the "Cards we are dealt at birth," the Soul Agreement we made before the conditioning and before we were introduced to the concept of good or bad.

My work is to not only illustrate an individual's codes but also to indicate how to play these codes or "cards" to ensure personal recognition, self-acceptance, self-love and ultimate fulfillment.

Being in love with your own life, establishes a sure foundation for any an all interactions and relationships."

Understanding what Human Design offers you can change your direction. When I first encountered it, twelve years ago, I was relieved. What I had been doing to let people know about my work was the exact opposite of what my Human Design invited me to do.

Wow! Everything changed. I invite you to get Chetan Parkyn's free Human Design report to help you with initial insights. It may be just what you most need. The link is in the notes below.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What is the Human Design approach?
How are we "conditioned" to more away from our own specific Human Design?
Can we change the genetic codes ingrained in us from our ancestry?
What is Chetan's take on "self-love?"
What does it mean to be ultimately fulfilled?
How can we live the life we were mean to have before life intervened in our formative years?
How is Human Design a self-remembering system?
How can we learn to navigate toxic relationships better, knowing Human Design?
Why is is worthwhile to know my Human Design, and how can it help me going forward?

GUEST: CHETAN PARKYN

Chetan Parkyn was schooled in England, and traveled the world as a troubleshooting mechanical engineer and ocean-diving engineer. In India, in 1979, while with the enlightened mystic Osho, his abilities to read for people surfaced when his gifts were recognized by two savants, who told him to “get ready” for a system that would come into his life and that he would introduce to the whole world.

Chetan was encouraged to use his gifts to “Read” for people, and he commenced reading hands, cards, the IChing, astrology and other esoteric systems to prepare himself for the “new system.”

In 1993, he was introduced to Human Design, recognized right away this is what the savants had foretold, and has studied, read and taught it worldwide ever since.

His first book : Human Design: Discover the Person You Were Born To Be was first published in 2009 by Harper Collins UK, and is now available in 12 language versions, reaching best-seller status in Chinese, Russian and Bulgarian. Two more books on Human Design, The Book of Lines, and 21st Century View of the IChing, and The Book of Destinies, Discover the Life You Were Born To Live are already being translated and released in other language versions.

26 years after being introduced to Human Design, Chetan continues teaching Human Design online and in person, often with his wife and partner, Carola Eastwood. Chetan presently resides in San Diego, California.

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FREE Human Design Report.

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For the free Human Design App : www.TheHumanDesignApp.com

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Love, Lust & Love-Bombing! How to Tell the Difference to Stay Safe GUEST: Dr. Terri Orbuch

Fri, 20 Dec 2019 02:51:28 GMT

Never mistake love-bombing for love!

Never mistake lust for love!

Great advice for dating! Today's episode with Dr. Terri Orbuch is SO important, especially when you're dating. And, even more especially if you're dating after leaving a difficult, or toxic, relationship. You need to know these distinctions so that you feel more confident in the dating scene.

The big question we discuss is "How can you reignite passion in a relationship that has become a little humdrum, and maybe a little too indifferent. You can do it and Dr. Terri gives three surprising, yet simple things to consider...especially her tip about arousal-producing activities and the scientific reasons behind why they work to reignite passion.

Dr. Terri's advice is based on science, or her long-term research project following the same couples over time.

How to reignite the passion in your long-term relationship?

Passion and excitement decline in all relationships over time - it's inevitable. So, when that happens, it's important to practice strategies that can reignite that excitement of passion. We discuss science-based strategies to keep the flame alive!!

In addition, all couples go through relationship ruts - where your relationship becomes habitual, routine or the same old things over time. That's okay. It's part of a long-term relationship. BUT, if couples stay in that relationship rut for too long, boredom sets in, and boredom eats away at the happiness in a relationship. So, we discuss strategies to add things to your relationship so that boredom won't set in.

Dr. Terri Orbuch shares a great tip from her book, "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great.

"Contrary to what you've been told, keeping a marriage successful does not take hard work! Instead, it takes consistent small changes in behaviors and attitudes over time, to create happiness and transform your relationship.

The main reason marriages break up isn't conflict, lack of communication or sexual incompatibility. Rather, it's frustration (that is, the day-to-day disappointment or the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts) that's most damaging."

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

How does science-based research into dating and love help?
Can you learn to trust after betrayal?
Is it true that the US has a very high divorce rate?
At what point in a relationship is divorced more likely to happen?
When excitement and passion decline, does that mean the relationship is in trouble?
What can couples do to reignite the passion?
What is the difference between love and lust?
How is love is different from love-bombing?

GUEST: DR. TERRI ORBUCH

Dr. Terri Orbuch (aka The Love Doctor®) is a world-renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, professor, research professor, marriage and family therapist and media personality, whose practical science-based advice has helped thousands of people find and create the loving relationships they deserve.

Dr. Terri Orbuch earned her Ph.D. from the University of Wisconsin-Madison. She joined the faculty at Oakland University in 1998 and is now a Distinguished Professor of Sociology. She is also a research professor at the University of Michigan Institute for Social Research, and the director of a landmark research project, funded by the National Institutes of Health (NIH), where she has been following the same couples for almost 3 decades. It is the longest-running study of married couples ever conducted in the United States.

In addition, she is a certified marriage and family therapist (MFT) who has worked with individuals and couples for thirty years. She also does dating and relationship coaching with people across the world. She is well respected as a researcher and professor in the scientific world, and is also known by TV, radio, and online fans as The Love Doctor®, a popular relationship expert and advisor.

Dr. Orbuch is widely published in scientific journals and the author of five relationship books, including “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great,” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship.” Her website is: DrTerriTheLoveDoctor.com

About Dr. Terri

•Featured in national outlets such as, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Reader’s Digest, Real Simple, Bride, O, Good Housekeeping, WebMD, USA Today, Self, Women’s Health, Cosmopolitan, TIME magazine and more…

•Appeared on The Today Show, MSNBC, The Katie Couric Show, ESPN, HuffPost Live, CNN, and more…

•Her relationship segments are aired weekly on Fox-2 Detroit Morning News (2005 – present)

•National public television special (PBS), “Secrets from The Love Doctor”

•2,200,000+ views on her TEDx talk: Lust vs. Love; https://www.youtube.com/watch?time_continue=466&v=Siru3n3zIbM

•2 best-selling books: “5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage From Good to Great” and “Finding Love Again: 6 Simple Steps to a New and Happy Relationship”

•5 Simple Steps #1 best seller in Amazon for: (a) Marriage and Long-Term Relationships, (b) Marriage and Adult Relationships, & (c) Self Help Relationships

•Hosts an Empower Radio weekly program called “The Love Doctor is IN.” Archived on iTunes, Stitcher and iHeart Radio

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Healing Brain Fog, Fatigue & Depression Naturally GUEST: Dr. Brindusa Vanta

Wed, 11 Dec 2019 19:47:58 GMT

GO WITH YOUR GUT! How many times have you heard that?

Sure, most folks are talking about intuition and gut feelings, but did you know that the seat of health is in your gut, your microbiome?

Worth knowing, right? Better yet, and more worth knowing, is learning about taking good care of your microbiome to encourage health, in every way.

Dr. Brindusa Vanta has used her training as a medical doctor, and her vast interest and research, to understand the foundations of health, and how to return to it when it seems to be seeping away. She shares these findings with you, and helps you to find a path to better health. Fabulous!

Depressed? Anxious? Feeling like you can't think straight and everything's a bit fuzzy?

Dr. Vanta shares five important considerations for overcoming depression, and her four mindset shifts for overcoming disease in general. Yahoo! Only four. You can do that, right?

Because I help people who are--or, have been--experiencing toxic relationships, I asked Dr. Vanta about the effects of toxic relationships on the body and mind. In particular, I asked about the link between toxic relationships and the development of autoimmune diseases. You want to be very mindful of this. The sooner you leave the toxic situation, the sooner you can heal.

Got inflammation? You'll want to hear the psychoneurology and mind-body connections that can be involved. Let's all stop triggering inflammation now!

Listen in. You, your body, and your relationships will benefit from spending this time learning from Dr. Brindusa Vanta.

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What is included in "natural medicine?"
What is homeopathy?
How is brain health related to physical health?
What can happen to a body in a long-term toxic relationship?
What can I do to stop triggering inflammation in my body?
What are Dr. Vanta's four steps to overcoming disease?
What supplements does Dr. Vanta suggest for improving brain health?
What can you do that is both natural and helpful for overcoming depression?

GUEST: DR. BRINDUSA VANTA

Dr.Vanta graduated from a top medical school in Romania in 2001, with a wealth of knowledge and a strong belief that the use of prescription drugs is the only solution for overcoming diseases.

After moving to Canada, she was keen to get her MD license. Despite several obstacles, she successfully passed the tests required to apply for a Canadian license. While she was in a lengthy process of getting into the residency program in 2005, a personal event made her explore nutrition and alternative medicine.

She then enrolled in an advanced program for physicians at the Ontario College of Homeopathic Medicine in Toronto.

In 2008, she got involved in medical research focused on natural therapies and shifted her focus from conventional medicine to alternative medicine.

Dr.Vanta’s mission is to help people transform their health and vitality using the power of nutrition and natural medicine.

She is a medical researcher who makes use of latest and scientific studies on brain health and provides one on one consultations to clients from around the world.

Key area of expertise: brain health and how to supercharge your brain.Naturally.

FREE GIFT FROM DR. VANTA:

Test your brain health. Take her free quiz at DrVanta.com

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Overcoming the Heartbreak Of and For Foster Kids - GUEST: Richard Villasana

Wed, 04 Dec 2019 16:37:17 GMT

You've likely heard so much in the news about the separation of children from their families at the United States borders.

Children kept in cages.

Overcrowding conditions that don't seem to improve.

And, the issues of children being placed in foster homes for their own safety has always been with us.

HOW DO WE MAKE THE FOSTER CARE SYSTEM WORK WELL IN THE BEST INTERESTS OF CHILDREN AND FAMILIES?

That's the big, ongoing question. Today, my guest, Richard Villasana, helps us understand what the actual realities are for both children separated from their families at the US Border, and children separated from their families because their parents cannot--and sometimes should not--be caring for them,

You likely have a thought about the foster care system. Sad stories about the foster care system make their way into television dramas we enjoy watching. It makes us aware of the feeling of foster children. Recently, for instance, on Grey's Anatomy, two main characters bonded over a newly-discovered shared history of having been in foster care. It makes it more real for everyone to understand, and I applaud the writers of these shows for being socially conscious!

Richard Villasana is a leading light out of what can be a dark hole for many. This, of course, has been exacerbated by recent years of high-profile stories about the immigration difficulties and the separation of children from their families at the US border. So many children in such a short time...in cages. We've all seen it on the news. I have friends who have gone to the border to see exactly what is happening, and it is all very real, unfortunately.

I asked Richard Villasana why we hear that some children may never see their parents again, after having crossed the border. Of course, I am very concerned about emotional trauma and long-lasting emotional damage that these sad situations can create, and I asked Richard about how it is addressed. An equally sad answer!

See the Highlights below for the questions I made sure to ask him.

Listen in and learn more. This is very serious for the fabric of our society: that children are being well-cared for, in their best interests and on behalf of their well-being. .

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HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What is actually happening at the border of the United States with children being separated from their families?
Will these children ever see their families again?
Are mistakes being made in the processing of their families?
How is this family separation being addressed?
What is the process for finding family for this immigrant children?
What is the ideal placement for a foster child?
How do we improve foster care?
What effect do cultural differences have on the fostering situation?
How is the emotional trauma that foster kids too often suffer addressed, especially in the case of immigrant families

GUEST: RICHARD VILLASANA

Richard Villasana, founder of Forever Homes for Foster Kids, is a leading international authority on immigration issues and foster families. A proud Navy veteran,

Richard has been featured on CNN International, Univision, AP News, ABC TV, Costco Connections, Washington Post, and EFE, the world’s largest Spanish language media company. He is a olumnist with Foster Focus Magazine and an international speaker. He was honored as a California Hero. He has also translated for the United Nations.

For 25 years, his non-profit has worked with government agencies across the country reuniting immigrant and foster children with their families.

FREE GIFT FROM RICHARD VILLASANA: Not at this time.

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What's the Relationship Between Autoimmune Conditions & Emotional Well-being GUEST: Sharon Sayler

Sat, 30 Nov 2019 19:00:03 GMT

Do you think that there is a connection between what goes on in your emotional life and what goes on in your body?

You betcha!

Today's episode starts with me giving you some insights into the hows, whys, and benefits of creating uninterrupted time in your life frequently. Do you do that? Most people don't, so take this in. It can make a HUGE difference in your feeling of well-being!

When you have difficulties--especially chronic stress and anxiety--from being raised by, living with, or leaving toxic people, #Hijackals, you are likely to have health issues. When you're young, you may not notice the cumulative effects so much. You may be unhappy, irritable, or feeling defeated, but your body is more resilient...for awhile.

As you stay in these toxic relationships, or at least, don't fully realize the toll these relationships have on you, you may well begin to experience small breakdowns in your body. You lose energy, feel fatigued, and don't bounce back as you used to. That's the beginning of more difficulties to come...if you stay.

Often, when you go to the doctor and describe this general malaise, the doctor will tell you that it's all in your head. In a way, that's true because you are experiencing emotional issues from destructive relationships. But, you're not crazy, or mentally unstable.

It's true, though, that when these conditions persist, you feel like you're living in a fog, surrounded by pain, unable and unwilling to participate.fully in life. Sound familiar? Time to change your mind, and today's episode of Emotional Savvy will definitely help.

Today's we'll explore the connections between emotional well-being and physical well-being, between the damaging effects of unhealthy relationships and the potential for autoimmune conditions.

DISCLAIMER: Neither my guest, Sharon Sayler, nor I are medical doctors. We are talking about other people's research and our own anecdotal experiences with clients, listeners, and friends.

GUEST: Sharon Sayler, Producer and Host of The Autoimmune Hour on Life Interrupted and creator of UnderstandingAutoimmune.com

Sharon Sayler is an international bestselling author and speaker known as the difficult people whisperer, and is listed on GlobalGurus.org as one of the top 20 worldwide for body language.

She also happens to be the host of the #1 show on OMTimes Radio, The Autoimmune Hour, where she offers hope and help for those with autoimmune conditions. Her own experience dealing with a rare medical condition propelled her to create The AutoImmune Hour to support others to become informed, courageous, and powerful self-advocates as they turn life's traumas into transformations regardless of their diagnoses.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What is the connect between intention and physical health
How to think about what you think about that might need changing
Sharon's experience with her own medical journey
Compliance vs non-compliance as patients
The power of the mind and the decision to put yourself first
Taking powerful steps to improve autoimmune conditions

CONNECT WITH SHARON SAYLER

Website: UnderstandingAutoimmune.com

Twitter: @SharonSayler

Facebook: Facebook.com/SharonSayler

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/SharonSayler

Instagram: Instagram.com/SharonSayler

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How to Forgive Who Broke Your Heart GUEST: Terri Levine

Wed, 20 Nov 2019 19:05:41 GMT

FORGIVENESS! It sounds right. Sounds good.

But, what does it really mean to forgive someone?

On Emotional Savvy, I'm often talking about those relentlessly difficult, toxic people that I call #Hijackals®. #Narcissists are #Hijackals, and they will do all they can to have power over you in every way, and exert control wherever they can. My guest, Terri Levine, has encountered them, and she talks about the terror.

You may have experienced the terror of being in relationship with a narcissist. Today's episode will really help you.

Would you like to be able to forgive?

Why is it important to you to forgive a toxic person?

As Terri Levine and I talk about her experiences, you may well see your experiences reflected there. As she wrote,

"Every human being is connected to us through our DNA."

How does this affect our interest in, and our ability to forgive?

Listen in and see what this brings up for you.

>>>>> AND, Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

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___________________________________

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

Is there such a thing as "untrue forgiveness?"
What makes the different from true forgiveness?
Why does Terri Levine think it is important to forgive toxic people?
Is there any reason to embrace toxic people?
What does Terri Levine think the steps to forgiveness are?
What does our DNA have to do with it?

GUEST: DR. TERRI LEVINE

Terri Levine (SAY Luh-VEEN) is the founder of Heart-repreneur® and is a business and executive coaching expert. She assists businesses worldwide with business growth, sales, and marketing. She has more than 40 years of business experience, encompassing work with more than 5,000 business owners and entrepreneurs in a variety of industries. She is also a best-selling author of dozens of titles, has her own radio and TV show and is also a keynote speaker.

Terri has a passion for helping businesses to grow with her own personal experience gained while building multiple successful businesses from the ground up. Terri has created the Heart-repreneur® cause teaching business owners to do business heart-to-heart.

Her latest book is her autobiography which teaches her process of forgiveness that has healed her and hundreds of others.

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HUGGING! Helpful, Healing, or Back Off! GUEST: Dr. Stone Kraushaar

Wed, 30 Oct 2019 19:19:38 GMT

HUGGING? Love it? Hate it? Only for really close people? Hug everybody?

Big questions! Hugging has had a renaissance in the last twenty years, and has even found its way into corporate culture. Should it be there? Is it appropriate?

I know people have some strong feelings about hugging. How about you?

This conversation with Dr. Stone covers all the bases of hugging how's, why's, and why not's.

According to Healthline.com :

"Hugs may boost your heart health.

Hugging can be good for your heart health. In one study, scientists split a group of about 200 adults into two groups:

One group had romantic partners hold hands for 10 minutes followed by a 20-second hug with each other.
The other group had romantic partners who sat in silence for 10 minutes and 20 seconds.

People in the first group showed greater reductions in blood pressure levels and heart rate than the second group.

According to these findings, an affectionate relationship may be good for your heart health."

What does hugging do for you?

Well, aside from the "feel good" aspects of it, Dr. Stone says great benefits are that it brings acceptance and connection. He tells us how a 20 second hug can actually do good--measurably good--things for our health.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

Why have we replaced the handshake with the hug so often?
Do we need permission to hug?
Should others ask before hugging us if they are not very close to us?
Why would you not hug?
What the heck are "cuddle parties?"
How can a person use hugging if they are not with other humans at the moment?
Hugging in the workplace???

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: DR. STONE KRAUSHAAR

Dr. Stone is a psychologist and therapeutic coach completely taken by the power of hugs and the difference they can make for each of us individually and in the world. AKA the The Hug Doctor, he passionately professes there really are no strangers - we all share a profound connection.

The Hug Doctor wants nothing more than for each of us to live a life full of joyful hugging that includes hugging ourselves, hugging our families, hugging our friends and hugging the world. He is a staunch advocate for longer hugs and more meaningful and inspirational hugs. Some hugs are literal while others are metaphorical.

He says the hug is a brilliant tool for knocking down walls within ourselves as well as those that divide us from each other. You will catch him on 21-day hugging journeys and inspiring others about what we can create together in the ‘space of a hug.’

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Not at this time, but he suggests you give away hugs!

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Website: TheHugDoctor.com

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Solving Invisible Issues for Women Leaving the Military GUEST: Ariel Shivers-McGrew

Wed, 23 Oct 2019 18:15:28 GMT

We are grateful for a woman's service in the military.

We need to consider the issues a woman faces when leaving the military, and re-entering civilian life.

Those of us who have not served need to understand these issues because we can help.

I asked my guest, Ariel Shivers-McGrew, what the greatest benefit she received from being a woman in the military. Her answers may surprise you! And, they were positive! Now, she helps women understand and solve the issues of re-entry into civilian life.

Re-entry can be difficult:

Finding work.
Re-establishing family life.
Substance abuse after leaving.
Finding a mentor to help with the transition.

A year ago, I found myself with bags of clothing to give away, clothing that reflected years on stage as a speaker. When I looked for a place to donate it, I was delighted to find that, on that very day, there was a clothing drive for women leaving the military and entering the civilian work force.

I hadn't thought about that need before. Have you?

Even though I haven't served myself, I saw that there were community needs for these women that I was unaware of. Today's guest draws

attention to the unique needs of women leaving the military.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

How do women in the military have to segment their lives?
What is the most common career trajectory for a woman leaving the military?
Why is this topic of issues facing women leaving the military so important at this time?
What are the pitfalls and landmines that military women face when leaving?
What about culture shock?
What issues do military women face when coming home?
How do military women find civilian jobs after their service?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

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___________________________________

GUEST: ARIEL SHIVERS-MCGREW

A careerist in the United States Army Reserves, an EOL (Equal Opportunity Liaison), a DARN (duty appointed reenlistment NCO), ASISTer (applied suicide intervention skills trained), primarily responsible for the analysis, development and distribution of intelligence used for information and psychological effect.

I’ve authored two young adult fictions, managed to find myself a lead contributor for a women veteran’s network in an online magazine and recently presented a proposal on Incivility in the workplace and career counselor preparedness in the 21st century as a PhD student.

I’m a former SFL-TAP (transition assistance program) Counselor. I’ve taught women veterans how to start their own business across the Chicagoland area as the Director, Women Vetrepreneurship while simultaneously serving as the Associate Director, Veterans Programs for the Veterans Business Outreach Center at the Women’s Business Development Center for a three-state region (WI, MN, IL).

FREE GIFT FROM ARIEL:

Career Genogram

You can find it by visiting her website.

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GOOD NEWS! Everyone Doesn't Have to Like You. GUEST: Tonya Hofmann

Thu, 17 Oct 2019 22:42:33 GMT

Were you brought up with the underlying understanding that, if you were a good person, everyone would like you? Most folks are.

So, you do your level best--even once you're an adult--to be pleasant, agreeable, and interesting so that will happen.

Sometimes, you go the extra mile in hope, right?

And, after you turn yourself into a pretzel, they still withhold approval and interest.

So, today's topic will relieve you of the notion that you are supposed to jump all the hoops that each person sets up, and find a way to get them to like you.

I know, as an adult, you might be able to say "I don't care whether people like me or not."

But, is it the truth that you actually--deep down--FEEL that way?

If so, you may be free of these expectations. If it's not true yet--or, you'd like it to be more true, today's episode offers valuable insights that can help!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

What helped you step around fear and create an international organization?
Were you afraid of what folks would think, or say?
How did your past promote or prevent you from doing this easily?
Why do we focus on others so much, and on what they think?
How did you get over the "Everyone Has to Like Me" issue?
Why do you need to filter some people out of your life?
What are your special "rules" for deciding who to keep in your life and how?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

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___________________________________

GUEST: TONYA HOFMANN

-CEO & Founder of the Public Speakers Association & Wowdible

-Globally Sought-After Speaker

-Cover of 5 Magazines

-Best Selling Author of 7 International Books

-Winner of Multiple National and International Industry and Association Awards

-Host of Tonya Hofmann’s Wow TV Show

FREE GIFT FROM TONYA HOFMANN :

Want to chat with Tonya Hofmann, CEO of Public Speakers Association?

You can by visiting her website.

CONTACT INFO FOR TONYA HOFMANN:

Website: PublicSpeakersAssociation.com

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: @TonyaHofmann

Facebook: @PublicSpeakersAssociation

Instagram: @Tonya_Hofmann

Twitter: @DebiSilber

YouTube: @TonyaHofmann

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Becoming Unshakable Even Post-Betrayal GUEST: Dr. Debi Silber

Fri, 11 Oct 2019 04:38:53 GMT

HAVE YOU EVER FELT BETRAYED?

HAVE YOU EVER FULLY BEEN ABLE TO TRUST YOURSELF OR ANOTHER AGAIN?

This episode looks at different forms of betrayal, including infidelity.

Who typically betrays?

One of the questions I had for my guest, Dr. Debi Silber, was on the topic of parental betrayal. Often, a person doesn't want to think or believe that they were betrayed by their parents. Because of brain development, and culture, we want to--and often need to--believe that our parents had our best interests at heart. That's not always true. #Hijackal parents, for example, only have their own best interests in mind, and their children are simply pawns in the process. Betrayal is real!

What do you think, feel, or do when the person, or people, you trust most in the world are the one's who betray you? A big question we talk a lot about as we define 'betrayal."

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

Why do you numb yourself, or avoid or distract yourself, when things are going very wrong?
What can you do to feel or face what really needs your attention?
What is Post Betrayal Syndrome?
What do you do to experience a Post Betrayal Transformation?
What are the five stages you go through--or, can go through--from betrayal to breakthrough?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: DR. DEBI SILBER

Dr. Debi Silber, founder of The PBT (Post Betrayal Transformation) Institute in New York and https://pbtinstitute.com is a holistic psychologist, a health, mindset, and personal development expert. She's an award-winning speaker, coach and author of the Amazon #1 Bestselling book: The Unshakable Woman: 4 Steps to Rebuilding Your Body, Mind and Life After a Life Crisis, The Unshakable Woman-The Workbook (the companion guide to the book) as well as 2 books recommended by Brian Tracy, Marshall Goldsmith and Jack Canfield.

Debi has contributed to FOX, CBS, The Dr. Oz show, TEDx, The Huffington Post, Shape, Self, Health, Working Mother, Forbes, Psychology Today, WebMD, Ladies Home Journal, Woman's World and Glamour to name a few. Her doctoral study led to three discoveries around how women experience and heal from betrayal.

Based on her findings, along with 27 years of health, mindset and lifestyle coaching, Dr. Debi has created a proven multi pronged approach to help women heal (physically, mentally and emotionally) from a life crisis, specializing in betrayal.

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Take the Quiz: Do You Have Post-Betrayal Syndrome?

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Detoxing Life: Home, Health and Heart GUEST: Brianna Wilkerson

Thu, 03 Oct 2019 17:50:54 GMT

Ever feel overwhelmed? That's all too common, right?

Does it seem to happen too often?

Life is busy. Expectations are high. You feel pushed and pulled by different needs of different people and roles in your life. STRESS!

Today, take a breather and listen in. With my guest, Brianna Wilkerson, a holistic health coach, we're giving you some great tips, strategies, insights, and next best steps to reduce stress, and detox life in all areas. Some ideas here are quick and easy. Others take time and consciousness. AND, they are all helpful.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Answers to...

Why do I say toxic things about myself?
Why am I so hard on myself?
Why am I not satisfied with my body?
How can I focus more clearly on my health?
What are the seven "must-haves" for a healthy body?
What mindset shifts do I need to create a healthier life?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: BRIANNA WILKERSON

Brianna Wilkerson is the Founder/CEO of Made Well 345, LLC. She is a Holistic Health & Life Coach with a heart to see women learn what healthy living really means so they can overcome yo-yo dieting, honor their bodies and get a healthy body they love and are proud of.

She is also an Essential Oils Advocate for doTERRA Essential Oils and empowers women to use non-toxic, natural solutions like essential oils for their health and those they love. She is also a Crossfit Level 1 Trainer to further serve women who want to get fit in a way that's functional, fun, and effective.

FREE GIFT FROM BRIANNA WILKERSON :

7 Day Healthy Body Challenge:

Free 7 Day Challenge to learn how you can honor your body and get a healthy body you are proud of.

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Website: MadeWell345.com

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Strong Men AREN'T Controlling! GUEST - Elliott Katz

Thu, 26 Sep 2019 21:31:00 GMT

Oh, a little--maybe, an understatement--controversy here! You'll want to weigh in in the comments, I'm betting.

Elliott Katz, today's guest, suggests that today's man is confused about his role in a relationship. Could be. What do you think? Of course, we talked about this at length.

When I read Katz' book, Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants, I had big reactions and equally big questions that I could hardly wait to ask him. My sense was that there is a subtext of taking charge in the relationship--and, not always in mutual ways. So, I asked about that. I wanted to know if he could embrace my idea that healthy relationships are built on equality, reciprocity, and mutuality. Hmmmm....interesting conversation!

Katz says,

" Men today have heard a bewildering messages about being a man in a relationship and can't understand why these ideas aren't working and women are so frustrated with them. Elliott Katz shares insights about being a man that many men today weren't taught. Interestingly, women tell men, "These is what I have been trying to tell you all this time."

That sparked a big conversation for sure! I'm looking forward to hearing your thoughts on this episode. Join in and like my Facebook page and comment: https://www.facebook.com/Emotional-Savvy-The-Relationship-Help-Show-2309873335890968/?modal=admin_todo_tour

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What Elliott Katz means by a "strong man"
A controversial view on decision-making for couples
Difficulties men have to calibrate the difference between leading and controlling
Katz' view on manipulation
Threats are not suitable communication

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: ELLIOTT KATZ

Elliott Katz is the author of Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man that is helping men around the world improve their relationships. It has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. For men who can't understand why women are frustrated with them, he shows them what they need to do to gain a woman's love and respect and inspire her to be his partner.

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Is Positive Self-Talk Actually Effective? Brain Stuff! GUEST: Dr. Marcia Reynolds

Sun, 15 Sep 2019 20:17:45 GMT

Is positive self-talk always positive?

is it effective?

Does positive self-talk have any downsides?

Can it always work?

Important questions, and today's guest, Dr. Marcia Reynolds, has given this a tremendous amount of thought and consideration. Such valuable work!

Dr. Reynolds says,

"Rationalizing and defending your behavior keeps you nestled in a safe and suffocating world. Mustering the courage to say, "Yes!" in the face of fear is a great gift to give yourself."

(from her book, OutSmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel.

In today's episode, we talk about conversations with yourself and with others that demonstrate respect, and positive intentions. Why is that so important? Find out. Listen in.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What it means to "outsmart your brain"
What is "The Discomfort Zone"?
Why we often prefer a safe, suffocating world
When and why positive self-talk is ineffective
Three ways to mentally prepare for a difficult conversation
What's Dr. Reynolds' AID model and how to use it

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS

Dr. Marcia Reynolds, Master Certified Coach, is fascinated by the brain, especially what triggers feelings of connection, commitment, and possibility. She draws on her research as she helps people make their difficult conversations become a difference-making experience. She has provided executive coaching, leadership and personal development training programs, and keynote speaking in 41 countries.

This highly sought-after behavioral scientist is happily obsessed with uncovering the latest discoveries in neuro/behavioral research and putting them into practical applications. With a doctoral degree in Psychology, and two master’s degrees in Adult Learning and Communications, Marcia’s expertise ranges from holding powerful conversations to activating the emotions of passion and courage at work and at home. Dr. Reynolds is the Training Director for the Healthcare Coaching Institute at Virginia Tech.

She was the 5th global president of the International Coach Federation. She is also faculty for the International Coach Academy in Russia and Create China Coaching in China. She is recognized by the Global Gurus as the #3 coach in the world. Interviews and excerpts from Marcia’s books -- Outsmart Your Brain: How to Manage Your Mind When Emotions Take the Wheel; The Discomfort Zone: How Leaders Turn Difficult Conversations into Breakthrough; and Wander Woman: How High-Achieving Women Find Contentment and Direction have appeared in many places including Psychology Today, Fast Company, Forbes.com, The Globe and Mail, and The Wall Street Journal.

When you face difficult conversations, Dr. Reynolds can help you flip defensiveness, create rapport, and connect in more meaningful ways. When she has the opportunity to be home, Marcia can often be found hiking the beautiful mountains in Arizona. You can learn more about Dr. Reynolds on her website, www.outsmartyourbrain.com

FREE GIFT FROM DR. MARCIA REYNOLDS :

ebook: From the Pits to the Peak: A new look at making life changes

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Website: OutsmartYourBrain.com

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How to Stand Your Ground in the Face of Parental Alienation - GUEST: Nikki Bruno

Tue, 10 Sep 2019 21:43:16 GMT

Are you Co-Parenting with a slippery, toxic ex who tries to turn the children against you?

Today's guest, Coach Nikki Bruno, had that experience, and she fought back...successfully! I asked her about her experiences leading to her development of her 10-Step Plan to counter parental alienation, and she shared her story. You'll want to hear it!

Staying calm and carrying on after going through a difficult, toxic relationship followed usually by a difficult, toxic, drawn-out court battle is difficult! Many of my clients tell me that they were so exhausted during this all that they didn't know if they could get through it all. They did!

And, so did Nikki Bruno. Fortunately, she was simply not going to take parental alienation lying down. She stood up, moved forward, and took a pro-active stance against parental alienation from her ex. Her free gift to you below is her 10-Step plan.

Wondering about these search topics? Today's episode of #EmotionalSavvy will give you great insights:

how to stop parental alienation
parental alienation how to stop it
parental alienation syndrome how to stop it
steps to take against parental alienation

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why parental alienation is child abuse
Why parental alienation is emotional abuse
Why parental alienation is parental abuse
Steps to take to confront parental alienation

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: COACH NIKKI BRUNO

Nikki Bruno became a professional coach in 2016, after 15 years in the book-publishing industry. In her core coaching program, The Epic Comeback, she helps women build joyful lives after being sidelined by divorce, domestic abuse, illness, or loss. Nikki holds a bachelor’s degree in anthropology from Princeton University and a master’s degree from the Harvard School of Education. A single mom of two, Nikki loves scuba diving, international travel, and helping women rediscover how incredible they are. Nikki’s work has been featured in Best Self Magazine, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, Glassdoor, and several podcasts, among other media outlets.

FREE GIFT FROM COACH NIKKI BRUNO:

Download her COUNTERING PARENTAL ALIENATION IN TEN STEPS gift at https://bit.ly/2klfRO5

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Helping Troubled Teens Find Their Way and Thrive GUEST: Dr. Brian Licuanan

Thu, 29 Aug 2019 01:11:35 GMT

Kids don't always grow out of things. They grow through things!

And, you need to be there to see it, understand it, and know what to do to help when things seem to be going sideways!

Today's guest, Dr. Brian Licuanan, and I talk about the difficulties in seeing problems kids want to hide from us, whether we're their parent, grandparent, teacher, or coach. It's very confusing to them because their brain development is not equipped to handle so much of it. Yet, they think they should be able to.

And, you as a parent, maybe think you should know what to do. You may, but if you're like most parents, you do not. You may have some ideas, but how do you get into the tough conversations with your kid?

Often, when you bring up a tough subject like your teen's emotional well-being, you are met with eye-rolling, and a quick escape from the room, right? Don't give up. Today we talk about ways to engage your kid in conversation and about tough things. It's not easy, and it takes perseverance.

You may need to get outside help for your family, too. Dr. Licuanan and I talk about this, and how to know when to reach out.

Today's episode may be just what you need to answer the questions:

"How do I bridge the gap between me and my teen?"

,"What do I need to know about talking with my teen so I can feel helpful rather than feeling helpless?"

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

How to know the difference between enabling, condoning, and actually helping your teen
Links between self-esteem, depression, anxiety, and substance abuse
What impacts the incidence of eating disorders
Why kids are not accessing mental health services...and, why they need to
SIGNS parents need to read that their child might be struggling with addiction or mental health issues
How parents can take the proper steps to get a child the help needed

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING?

___________________________________

GUEST: DR. BRIAN LICUANAN

Dr. Brian Licuanan is an addiction and mental health specialist who serves as the primary therapist at premiere treatment centers, A Better Life Recovery and A Mission for Michael, treating clients with complex mental health disorders and their co-morbidities which often includes substance abuse disorders. Additionally, he successfully treats clients struggling with anxiety, depression, stress management, PTSD, ADHD, and a variety of other severe mood disorders. Furthermore, Dr. Licuanan integrates Solution-Focused, Positive Psychology/Strength-Based, and Motivational Therapies into his treatment planning with clients. Dr. Licuanan received his Ph.D and M.S from the University of Oklahoma and his M.A. from Pepperdine University.

Realizing over 80% of his clients experience sleep deficiency, exacerbating their medical and psychological conditions, he specializes in treating sleep problems through Cognitive Behavioral Treatment for Insomnia (CBT-I) which is known to cure insomnia and has proven to be a highly effective course of treatment for those wanting to stop using sleep medications.

Dr. Licuanan’s M.S in Industrial/Organizational Psychology–a specialized field of study dealing with workplace issues including leadership, work culture, motivation and job satisfaction, allows him to integrate this specialty into treatment for his clients struggling with career-related concerns. He also has helped coach various levels of executives and management on team-building and performance enhancement. Additionally, with his competition background in sports and as an active martial arts competitor, Dr. Licuanan has assisted numerous client athletes develop competitive mindsets, work through mental blocks, increase match readiness, and elevate their performance potentials. Personally, Dr. Licuanan is passionate about educating communities on mental health and addiction and volunteers as lead facilitator for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) specifically helping families in crisis strategize ways to get loved ones into treatment. Dr. Licuanan has been featured several times on the television talk show The Doctors and is asked to present regularly within the mental health community on addiction, ways to get highly acute clients into treatment, insomnia and sleep strategies.

FREE GIFT FROM DR. BRIAN LICUANAN :

Not at this time.

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. BRIAN LICUANAN:

Website: ABetterLifeRecovery.com

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3 Shifts That Can Make You Unstoppable After Toxic Relationships GUEST: Connie Pheiff

Tue, 20 Aug 2019 17:51:54 GMT

Wow! Does thinking of yourself as being UNSTOPPABLE light you up? Then, you'll love today's episode!

Connie Phieff was adopted--but she didn't know it until later in life--and lived her young life a bit like Cinderella. Now, you know that's not good, right? Cook, clean, take care of the kids, repeat!

How Connie overcame the pain of her past toxic life to go on and create such amazing accomplishments is inspirational. She became a leader in the community and in her own life in every way.

Yes, not only did she come from a toxic home, but she went on--as most of us do--to marry a toxic person. Oh, no, that didn't stop her, either. That's where she really started developing her recipe for lemonade from all the lemons in life. She knew she needed to cleanse the negativity from life if she wanted the life she envisioned. AND, she did it!

Listen as she shares her story, her vulnerabilities, her tears, and her learning. All this propelled her to the amazing successes she has now!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why what happened to you in your young life does not have to define your adult life
What it takes to turn those lemons into lemonade and succeed
How adoption and alienation played into Connie's young life
How you can find the confidence to live fully
Three top things that make you unstoppable...according to Connie Pheiff

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you.

ARE YOU--OR, HAVE YOU BEEN--IN A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP WITH A PARTNER, EX, PARENT, OR SIBLING? Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!

GUEST: CONNIE PHEIFF

From cleaning houses to filling houses, Connie Pheiff, Philanthropist, Social Venture Entrepreneur, and #BeyondMeToo Activist is the Jewel in the Crown of the Pheiff Group, Inc. With her distinctive voice audiences everywhere know her.

She is blessed from her work as a corporate CEO, award-winning speaker, Podcaster, Mentor, Coach, and author. She is provocative, edgy, and brings a genuine humor to the platform.

Connie is best known as the Unstoppable DIVA; Former Corporate Executive tuned Media Industrialist. Since founding the Pheiff Group, Inc. in 2007, she has become a Social Venture Entrepreneur, producer, and host of the Connie Pheiff Show; and founder of Talent Concierge, representing the World’s most daring minds. She has authored five business books, and coming soon is her most powerful book yet, about her Unstoppable life. She is the former CEO of Girl Scouts of Penn’s Woods Council, Recipient of the Community Leadership Award (2016); and most recently received the Inspirational Woman in Media Award (2019); and Finalist for the 2018 Indie Author Legacy Award. Insights Success Magazine calls her “a symbol of Exemplary Entrepreneurship.” Connie always shares a bit of herself; a life of spectacularly epic fails. Through it all, her success hasn’t come in spite of her failures, but because of them.

FREE GIFT FROM CONNIE PHEIFF :

Connie is happy to give you an autographed copy of her book, Marketing Masters. If you'd like to have one, email Connie at Connie@PhieffGroup.com

CONTACT INFO FOR CONNIE PHIEFF:

Website: talent.concierge.co

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Why It's Up to You to Take Charge of Your Emotional Reality GUEST: James L. Creighton

Tue, 30 Jul 2019 16:46:15 GMT

Got Empathy? That's one key that unlocks the willingness to enter into a problem-solving process with your partner, according to today's guest, Dr. James. L. Creighton. You need more!

Dr. Creighton says:

"Empathy allows us to enter into the emotional reality of our loved ones, so that even when there are differences, there is still shared experience."

In today's episode, I'm asking how to keep that 'shared experience' loving, kind, and helpful. It takes willingness, skill, finesse, and interest to keep a relationship strong and growing. Dr. Creighton has been married for a very long time. He openly shares the good and not-so-good moments, and how he and his wife have weathered the difficult ones.

His recent book, Loving Through Your Differences, draws on the latest research in cognitive science and developmental psychology to show how we invent our realities with our perceptual minds. He offers clear, concrete tools for shifting perceptions and reframing responses, with the result that couples move out of the fear and alienation of "your way or my way" and into a deep understanding of the other that allows for an "our way."

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why the ability to reframe is important to loving through your differences
How Dr. Creighton's Five Minute Rule helps let off steam
Important steps in the problem-solving process that can't be missed
How to get past not agreeing with each other
Do we have to share an "emotional reality" in order to stay together?

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Join my OptimizeCircles.com and get the insights and support you want--safely off social media and it works just like Facebook! Many other free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!

GUEST: JAMES L. CREIGHTON, PhD

James L. Creighton, PhD, is the author of Loving Through Your Differences. A psychologist and relationship consultant, he has worked with couples and conducted communications training for more than fifty years. Creighton recently developed and conducted couples conflict training for several hundred professional staff of the Thailand Department of Mental Health, based on a new Thai translation of his book, How Loving Couples Fight. He has taught throughout North America as well as in Korea, Japan, Israel, Brazil, Egypt, Russia, and the Republic of Georgia.

FREE GIFT FROM JAMES CREIGHTON : Not at this time.

CONTACT INFO FOR JAMES CREIGHTON:

Website: JamesLCreighton.com

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Dating After Divorce: Why Focusing on Relationship Potential Can Be Dangerous GUEST: Lara Richer

Wed, 26 Jun 2019 04:57:12 GMT

Dating? Is it a joy, a pleasure, a pain, or a concern? Sometimes, it's each of those, right?

And, sometimes, it's just downright scary!

If you've had past relationship with toxic people, or toxic relationships in your family, friends, or at work, you'll find this episode valuable. We also talk about the issues that come up when dating after divorce, AND, the ever popular subject of online dating.

My guest today, Laura Richer says, "

I focus on dating and romantic relationships and it is my belief that difficult relationships and people are optional. When we continually attract difficult situations to us, we must first start with doing our own inner work and see what we can do to shift this experience. I help clients cultivate self-love and self-respect so that they can attract joyous and fulfilling relationships into their lives, not difficult people and situations."

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What "authentic connection" is
How to know when you've made one
How your self-worth affects your dating effectiveness
How you can stop attracting undesirable people
Why focusing on the potential of a relationship is dangerous

GUEST: LAURA RICHER

Laura Richer is a certified Hypnotherapist, Life Coach, and Reiki practitioner, and the owner of Richer Healing Hypnosis, Rieki, and Life Coaching in Seattle, Washington. She is a graduate of Western Washington University.

Laura is currently completing her Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling at Antioch University. Her Hypnotherapy and Coaching practice over the last eight plus years has specialized in supporting clients in building confidence and self-worth so that they can attract the relationship they truly desire.

FREE GIFT FROM L:AURA RICHER : Not at this time.

CONTACT INFO FOR LAURA RICHER:

Website: D RicherLove.com

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The Joys & Pitfalls of Entering a New Relationship at MidLife GUEST: Dr. Margaret Rutherford

Thu, 13 Jun 2019 21:54:16 GMT

Are you a little shy about dating, or moving into a new relationship after a divorce?

What if you've been married once or twice? Do you have confidence to date again? Do you have confidence in choosing a new partner after divorce?

OK! Yes, there are a few fear-inspiring issues about dating again after a divorce, right?

Can I trust a new person?

Can I trust myself?

Will you see red flags?

When am I ready for emotional intimacy?

When do I consider moving to the bedroom and sexual intimacy?

What do I need to talk about to help a new partner understand me?

When do I talk about my past relationships?

Oh, yes! A few things to consider, for sure. That's why this fabulous conversation with Dr. Margaret Rutherford is so valuable--and practical--for you to listen to right now...and to share with your friends who are thinking about dating again.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What you need to discuss with a new partner
When is the right time to talk about your past relationships
How to approach dating again, especially after a difficult, toxic relationship
Aging is real. How to talk about all that.
What about boundaries?
How do you solve problems in a new relationship

GUEST: DR. MARGARET RUTHERFORD

Dr. Margaret Rutherford, a clinical psychologist, has practiced for twenty-six years in Fayetteville, Arkansas., Her work can be found at DrMargaretRutherford.com, where she blogs weekly, as well as HuffPost, Psych Central, The Mighty, the Gottman Blog and others. She hosts a weekly podcast, SelfWork with Dr. Margaret Rutherford. Her new book, Perfectly Hidden Depression, will be published by New Harbinger in 2019.

Dr. Margaret as she's known to her followers decided to extend the walls of her practice almost 7 years ago and now blogs and podcasts about her ideas on depression, perfectionism and its antidote -- vulnerability. Her podcast has earned more than half a million downloads as people are tuning in to learn more about therapy and what makes real change happen.

FREE GIFT FROM DR. RUTHERFORD: Not at this time.

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARGARET RUTHERFORD

Website: DrMargaretRutherford.com

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How You Can Overcome a Nasty Past and Thrive GUEST - Joy Idries

Thu, 30 May 2019 19:25:50 GMT

Sometimes, we learn out greatest lessons by going through terrible pain and trauma.

It's never "worth it," in my opinion. But, it does change us, and can be the catalyst for our insights and growth. So, in that sense, we can be grateful for it.

How that change shows up is in our attitude, understanding, and often in the quality of help we get to heal.

You may find some sad similarities in what Joy shares with the story of your relationship with a #Hijackal. For instance:

Do you feel imprisoned?

Held hostage?

Physically abused?

Drugged?

Joy shares her story and insights about moving through and past these terrible experiences in order to have a fulfilling life.

Her journey through pain to a rich life with an amazing, supportive partner is inspiring. Today, we also talk about her long-time partner, love, and husband, and their cross-cultural marriage...and, all the learning she has to offer. See the highlights below!

NOTE: I need to put a WORD in here: In my opinion, not everything that Joy shares May be directly applicable to your relationships with #Hijackals. Think about that, and ask me if you're wondering, by joining in at OptimizeCircles.com in the discussion threads.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

how fear is an important factor to look deeply into for your healing
why it is essential to reconnect with yourself at deep levels
how to find compassion, love, and wisdom to have it work for you
learning to let go, and the results it creates
the learning curve of marrying into a different culture...and, the joys
Joy's transformational process

GUEST: JOY IDRIES,

Joy Idries certainly knows from personal experience how to move beyond struggle, fear, suffering and pain in her life and relationships to lasting freedom, happiness and joy.

Her forthcoming book, “Goodbye Suffering Hello Joy” describes her experience of coming through various abusive relationships and the after effects of decades of chronic and life-threatening illness and how it is possible for others to move through it too. The moment she moved out of suffering and found her joy was when her ‘WHY’ was born, to help many thousands break free from the chains of suffering, to unleash their own true freedom and joy.

Her deep experiential wisdom and expertise as a therapeutic counsellor, international Inner Journey facilitator and spiritual teacher serve perfectly in enabling others to create a radical shift for themselves and their relationships, right from the inside out.

FREE GIFT FROM JOY:

Read her ebook, How to 'Be' in a Relationship: Taking a deeper look at what relationship issues are all about, HERE

CONTACT INFO FOR JOY IDRIES

Website: TrulyTransformational.co.uk

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What's Up With Emotionally Unavailable People? GUEST: Dr. Marni Feuerman

Wed, 01 May 2019 16:48:39 GMT

A comment complaint I hear in my practice--especially, of course, from people who have #Hijackal parents, partners, or exes, is that S/HE IS NOT EMOTIONALLY AVAILABLE!

I belong to many groups on Facebook, and this is a common complaint there, too.

"I'm attentive, collaborative, loving, nurture, and even compliant, and my partner just doesn't give anything back!"

Early on in a relationship that seems to be going somewhere good, you're affected by limerence. Dr. Marni talks about this in today's episode, that warm feeling when you're falling love, in lust, or infatuation. She says it's like being on cocaine. (I'm sure she's guessing about that, right? lol)

So, if you're ready to hear the truth about how you may have found yourself with an emotionally unavailable partner, you'll be fascinated by today's topic.

Oh, dear! Are you responding by becoming emotionally unavailable yourself? We talk about why you don't want to fall into that trap....and, why it doesn't work, either!

>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Many free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!

GUEST: DR. MARNI FEUERMAN

Marni Feuerman, MSW, PsyD, is a licensed psychotherapist, author, speaker and workshop presenter. As a nationally recognized relationship expert, she is a sought-after media contributor and syndicated freelance writer with content on numerous online media outlets including HuffoPo, Time, Marth Stewart Weddings, MSN and more.

Dr. Marni's debut self-help book is titled, Ghosted and Breadcrumbed: Stop Falling for Unavailable Men and Get Smart about Healthy Relationships (published by New World Library). She wrote this book for women who struggle with repetitive and unhealthy relationship patterns with men.

Dr. Marni lives in the South Florida area with her husband and twin daughters. She maintains a private practice where she works extensively with distressed couples and individuals with relationship struggles. In her spare time, she enjoys playing with her rescue dogs, cooking, yoga, and traveling.

FREE GIFT FROM DR. MARNI:

Watch her webinar, Why You Keep Repeating Unhealthy Relationship Patterns" and get her bonus checklist, "Is He Emotionally Available," when you SUBSCRIBE.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

How to tell if someone is emotionally available...although, I'm pretty sure you know, right?
Is it actually increasing? Are more people emotionally unavailable now?
How we define 'emotional unavailability".
The impact of having emotionally unavailable parents
Tips for dealing with an emotionally unavailable partner
How limerence affects our judgment in choosing a partner
and...why some women choose to stay in secret relationships with married men!

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. MARNI FEUERMAN

Website:: TheTalkingSolution.com

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Why You Won't Find the Intimacy You Long for If You're Needy GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman

Wed, 10 Apr 2019 19:02:51 GMT

What allows for growth of intimacy? You want an emotionally rich, intimate relationship. You'll never find it--in any healthy fashion--if you're needy. That's why you need to do your own work first!

You know I talk about "doing your own work" first frequently. It's because you need to be the healthiest you can be to attract--and sustain--a healthy, emotionally intimate relationship. You simply cannot do it if you are needy! (If you want to work on this, I can help.)

Today, I'm talking once again with Rabbi Manis Friedman. He brought such great information to you in an episode with him a few months ago, and I could hardly wait to talk with him again to bring you more good stuff!

You have real needs, and one of those is for love. That's the way it is with this being human business!

But, it's the "not needy" part of you that can attract a healthy, emotionally available partner!

Why does Rabbi Mannis Friedman talk so much about humility? What does it mean? What does humility in a relationship look like? It is an important ingredient in an emotionally intimate relationship. He'll tell you why today.

Do you believe--and understand--what Rabbi Friedman says?

"I'll never fix myself at your expense."

You'll want to understand that fully, and he explains it well today.

>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Many free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!

GUEST: RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and celebrated host of the cable television series, Torah Forum with Manis Friedman, syndicated throughout North America

World-renowned author, counselor, lecturer, and philosopher, Rabbi Manis Friedman uses ancient wisdom and modern wit as he captivates audiences around the country and the world. Over 150,000 copies of his provocative yet entertaining tapes, both audio and video, have been sold.

His first book, Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? was widely praised by the media and is now in its fourth printing. He has been featured internationally and has appeared on more than 50 television and radio talk shows.

Rabbi Friedman has helped thousands with his deep understanding of the human spirit and simplified common sense tips for our daily lives. A father of 14, and a great-grandfather, Rabbi Friedman spends his time traveling the world, lecturing on the topic of relationships. He says,

"Intimacy is an art."

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

The difference between a healthy relationship and an unhealthy relationship
What is real emotional growth
Why you are wise to work at releasing the needy part of you
The big difference between "being needy" and "needing to share" my life with another
Why it's important to do no harm
Why the focus has to be on making your partner's life better
Rabbi Friedman's three steps that shift businesses into growth

CONTACT INFO FOR RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN

Website:: TheJoyofIntimacy.com

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How to Help Schools Be Safer for Kids in Tough Situations GUEST: Aaron L. Smith

Thu, 28 Mar 2019 00:52:04 GMT

TOO MUCH BULLYING! TOO MANY TEEN SUICIDES!

This needs to stop, and we need to do whatever we can to stop bullying now, and intervene with bullying victims immediately.

Did you ever imagine that the internet would be so full of stories of bullying? And, then, did you think that the next thing would be too many teen suicides? Yes, it's a natural progression, but what a nasty one!

And, hey, parents! Are you teaching your children not to bully others?

Are you validating your child's self-worth at home, so they go out in the world with the self-esteem that allows them to interact in healthy ways?

Do you give your children your attention for who they are and not just for what they do?

That's your job!

Here's a few startling facts:

Suicide is the third leading cause of death among young people
Bully victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to consider suicide than non-victims
A study in Britain found that at least half of suicides among young people are related to bullying
According to statistics reported by ABC News, nearly 30 percent of students are either bullies or victims of bullying
In the US, ABC News reported that 160,000 kids stay home from school every day because of fear of bullying

http://www.bullyingstatistics.org/content/bullying-and-suicide.html

>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page for you. Many free & low-cost resources to help your relationships!

Today, Dr. Aaron Smith is here to help our audience learn how to help students in school from building relationships to changing their current situation from becoming a statistic to becoming a story.

GUEST: DR. AARON L. SMITH, Best-selling Author of Awakening Your STEM School, and of the upcoming, BLANK CHECK: Recreating America's Broken Schools

Dr. Aaron L. Smith is an expert with STEM and workplace readiness and is known around the world for his work. He assists schools, company leaders and communities to work together to develop and sustain a pipeline of competent and job-ready employees.

A 2008 graduate of Old Dominion University with a Doctorate in Educational Leadership, Dr. Aaron L. Smith has over two decades of experience in the classroom as a mathematics teacher and administrator.

Aaron has developed a passion for workplace readiness and STEM where he has shared his knowledge as an adjunct professor at Old Dominion University and Christopher Newport University. He and his work has been referenced over 30 times from Catcat to Teachthought.com.

A Best-Selling Author of “Awakening Your STEM School”, and a future book coming out in 2019, “Blank Check: Recreating America’s Broken Schools.”

Dr. Aaron L. Smith is now an expert consultant for school districts, leading communities, and individual schools to transform their educational systems to initiates, grow & sustain the creation of a pipeline of workforce-ready graduates thanks to his five-point STEMS initiative.

Aaron’s passion for workplace readiness and STEM has been shared on the local, state and national levels. He’s received the WHRO Technology Administrator Award and the Crystal Star Award from the National Dropout Prevention Center. Besides the numerous accolades, Dr. Aaron L. Smith’s proudest achievements are being married to wife and being a dad to his three kids who challenge him to reach for the stars every day.

Aaron has also been directly responsible for his former school receiving many workplace readiness related honors from becoming a PRIME School recognized by the Society of Manufactured Engineers Education Foundation to the awarding of over three-quarters of a million dollars in grants in just over four years.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

How to help kids who are experiencing a tough time in school
How to help kids feel more comfortable to talk with you as an educator
What to do and say when teens pretend to be disinterested in everything...especially in what you have to say
Ways to improve parent-teacher conferences to talk about difficult things
What to do when trying to help students in critical situations
How to know when, as an educator, you need to call in an agency like Child Protective Services
How to capture the interest of students in STEM subjects: science, technology, engineering, and mathematics and how Dr. Smith's school did a masterful job

CONTACT INFO FOR DR. AARON SMITH

Website:: https://WR.Solutions

Podcasts:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/WorkplaceReadinessSolutions

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/Sworkplacereadinesssolutions

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Twitter: https://twitter.com/WorkReadiness

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#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #self-love

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How To Make Lemonade From Lemons a Hijackal Left Behind GUEST: Stepahni Roberts

Fri, 22 Mar 2019 02:10:45 GMT

Escaping the Hijackal Trap! That's the name of one of my books, AND the focus of today's interview with Stephani Roberts.

First, you have to recognize you're in a #Hijackal trap, right? Then, you have to move on to find your best next steps.

Today, Stephani Roberts shares her journey from first recognition that she was in an emotionally abusive relationship--and the red flags she originally overlooked--to the realization that for the emotional safety of herself and her girls, she needed to remove herself from the toxic relationship. Brave move! And, not without it's perils!

>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page! <<<<<<<<

Where are you in this process? You might have tucked away your recognition of red flags to press on to get what you thought was possible in a relationship. Now's the time to wake up and smell the herbal tea on that one, and this conversation is a great place to start.

Extricating yourself from a #Hijackal is best done one step at a time, unless there is physical abuse, or sexual abuse going on. In those cases, call the police, and immediately get that on the record. But, if you can safely take your time, take your next best steps, and prepare to leave, that's the better approach. It gives you time to empower yourself, try new strategies, and make better decisions about the life you want to create once you've left.

Today's guest shares her journey beyond a #Hijackal ex, and how she definitely made lemonade that continues to sweeten her life.

GUEST: STEPHANI ROBERTS, The Authority Amplifier for Content Creators

Steph Roberts is an avid lifelong learner and spiritual seeker. She's a podcast host shining the spotlight on women freeing themselves from emotional abuse and finding a way to heal and thrive on their terms. She's a Digital Content Strategist who works with experts, coaches, and spiritual healers to Amplify their Authority online via podcast guesting and strategic repurposing of content.

"Jump off the content hamster wheel and make your content work for you by standing out from the noise," she says.

Stephani fell in love with a #Hijackal, a relentlessly difficult, toxic person. She talks about her journey to recognition of the toxicity of the relationship, and what she went through to remove herself and her girls in the most systematic way possible. Lots to learn there! She then went on to purposefully create a healthy, happy, joyful life for them. She shares what that took with you today.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

The great healing benefits of listening to podcasts
Tips for recovering from a toxic relationship
Dating red flags you might miss
How a toxic relationship affects your friendships ...and, it's not good!
Importance of careful planning to leave a toxic relationship , leaving a #Hijackal

CONTACT INFO FOR STEPHANI ROBERTS

Website:: https://StephaniRoberts.com

Podcasts: https://AudaciousMamas.com and https://TheAudaciousLife.com

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stephaniroberts/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephGetsSocial/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/audaciouslife/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/StephGetsSocial

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/stephaniroberts/?sub_confirmation=1

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#relationshipadvice #Hijackals #toxicpeople #RhobertaShaler #healingenergy #self-love

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Easing Out of Our Clutter & What Our Parents Left Behind GUEST: Sharon McRill

Thu, 07 Mar 2019 03:58:53 GMT

Any chance you have "stuff?" Or, whatever you prefer to call it!

Maybe, you've had it for awhile, and you're attached to it.

Maybe, you are always saying you're going to deal with it.

Maybe, you just inherited it from parents who have passed.

Maybe, it's a HUGE energy leak, and every time you think about it, you want to run away!

Maybe, today is the day it will all make sense how to go about deciding what stays and what goes, what you keep and what you release.

>>>>>> Don't miss all the good stuff at the bottom of this page! <<<<<<<<

Clutter is something we hear about often, and read about. Somehow, this information is slanted to make it sound like clutter is always a bad thing. No judgment here! We've all heard about the positives of creative clutter, too.

What's clear, though, is that you want to have consciously decided what to keep in your possession because you want to have consciously chosen to do so. Today's interview will shed a whole lot of light on clearing the clutter, and knowing exactly what you have, and what you want to keep.

Of course, there are many kinds of clutter: physical clutter, emotional clutter, mental clutter, financial clutter, and so on. Today, of course, I talk a little about emotional clutter, and why that's just as important--if not more so in my not so humble opinion...lol--to deal with. Most often, emotional and physical clutter reflect one another, and that's a fine reason for taking the time to listen to how to reduce both today.

GUEST: Sharon McRill, Owner and President of The Betty Brigade.a personal assistance and concierge company working from Ann Arbor, Michigan

Sharon McRill likes to help busy people get things done. The Better Brigade helps busy professionals with moving, home staging, organizing, and handy-man services--with virtually anything clients need done but have no time to do themselves.

Laid off from a corporate marketing job in 2003, Sharon turned joblessness into an opportunity in the midst of an ailing economy. As a busy professional herself, she'd fantasized about having a personal assistant. She has grown her team to ten members, including professionals in organizing, home project management, and staging.

What an engaging and enlightening--in every sense of the word--conversation. Here are the highlights:

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What leads you to have an emotional relationship with your stuff?
Why is it so hard to let go of some things?
Is it necessary to let go of stuff?
What is helpful to replace the thoughts, "What if I need it again?" or "It's still good?"
What about hoarding? Why does it happen and can you help?
What should you do with treasures from another era that you don't really like?
And, what business papers do I HAVE TO KEEP and for how long?

CONNECT WITH SHARON MCRILL:

Website: https://www.BettyBrigade.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/BettyBrigade

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/TheBettyBrigade/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharonmcrill/

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What is Emotional Savvy & Using it to Heal Relationships Energetically GUEST: Kerri Hummingbird

Wed, 27 Feb 2019 18:45:40 GMT

Wow! Seventy three episodes and I'm finally talking about what Emotional Savvy means.

You know that "to be savvy" means that you know what's up and what's going on. You're awake, aware, and alert. You're "with it!"

Great! You may have the practical knowledge, but it's not much use if it's not applied. Relationships require emotional savvy. Otherwise, you don't make good judgments. You don't see what's really going on, and maybe prefer denial. Not much emotional savvy there, right?

Emotional savvy covers all areas that impact our emotional lives: mental, intellectual, spiritual, financial, health, well-being, relationships--everything that impacts making our way in the world. So, some good things to think about in the first segment, for sure!

GUEST: Kerri Hummingbird, SoulGuide

Kerri Hummingbird has served as a social activist, leader, and philanthropist for over three decades. She is the founder of the Skills Not Pills Movement, and Host of the Soul Nectar show. Ms. Hummingbird inspires people to lead their lives wide awake, with an authenticity, passion, and purpose that positively impacts others.

She catalyzes mind-shifts that transform life challenges into gifts of wisdom with her Reinvent Yourself programs for individual and group mentoring. She is the author of the award-winning best-selling book, Awaken to Me: One Woman's Journey to Self Love."

She says, "Your life is for YOU. Live it how you CHOOSE. It's your secret conversation with the DIVINE."

You'll get a new perspective from Kerry, for sure. Lovely conversation. Inspiring and motivating.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What it means to Kerry Hummingbird to be "wide awake" in the shamanic ways
How to shift life's challenges into gifts of wisdom that serve you well
What the impact of the message "If I leave, I'll be bad" is, and how to change it
How to reduce your fear so you can see relationships more clearly
Why it's important to get into the flow of life energetically, how fear gets in the way, and how to reduce fear

Kerri's gift to you: Ebook, :Reinvent Yourself: Indulge Your Deepest Desires By Becoming Who You Are Starving To Be"

GET IT HERE.

CONNECT WITH KERRI HUMMINGBIRD:

Website: KerriHummingbird.com

Twitter: @KerriHummingbird

Facebook: Facebook.com/Kerri.Hummingbird.Author.Speaker.SoulGuide

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com

Instagram: KerriHummingbird

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Why We're Reluctant to Call It Abuse: One Woman's Story of Escape GUEST: April Giaque

Wed, 20 Feb 2019 18:51:36 GMT

Why are we so reluctant to call it abuse?

Today's episode starts with my response to this question. Of course, no one wants to think of themselves as being abused. So, you justify it, rationalize, and make excuses for it. Sometimes, you even decide it's your own fault! WRONG! And, I'll explain why today.

Verbal abuse and emotional abuse start small, usually. You write it off as someone "having a bad day" or "going through a rough patch." Then, you want to avoid looking at the overall patterns that are developing, right? That would mean one more thing to face in a life that's getting more difficult by the day. So, you don't.

Not a good idea! Best to wake up as early as possible, call it the abuse that it is, and make it stop. I've talked about this in so many episodes and I invite you to go through them and find the ones that are most like your situations and give them a listen now.

GUEST: April Giaque, author of Pinpoints of Light: Escaping the Abyss of Abuse

April Tribe Giaque, escaped the abyss of abuse and she's written about it in her recent book. She has experienced homelessness with her five children--three who have Autism--following her escape. Yet, she remained focused and earned her Master's degree after leaving domestic violence. She took her knowledge and experience with Autism and now helps puzzled parents, teachers, and administrators to find support, social skills and inclusion for those with Autism, helping them to thrive in school, social settings, and life.

April is remarried to Scott and has four more children (two who are also deaf) with him. She is now the mother of nine. April has taken her pinpoints of light and turned it into a Beacon of Light to enlighten and illuminate the world.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Imagine finding that your husband has an imaginary business partner that all the money is going to!
When something slips from a potential personality disorder to a mental illness
Where the definition of your worth and value arises from
April's take on the power of clarity
Insights into what might be going on in your relationship...that you may not want to see.

CONNECT WITH APRIL TRIBE GIAQUE:

Website: AprilTribe.com

Twitter: @AprilTribe

Facebook: Facebook.com/AprilTribeGiaqueAuthor

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com

Instagram:

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Is There a Right Way or Wrong Way to Divorce? GUEST: Jennifer Hurvitz

Thu, 14 Feb 2019 01:20:37 GMT

DIVORCE! Many people fear that process. Others welcome it.

Where are you on this spectrum?

Is there really a right to divorce? Is there a wrong way to divorce?

What makes the difference?

WHO makes the difference?

My guest, Jennifer Hurvitz, is the best selling author of the novella, One Happy Divorce, and winner of the Best Television Episode Screenplay Aware at the Atlanta Comedy Film Festival for her TV pilot based off her blog, The Truth Hurvitz.

Jennifer's readers describe her as "raw and in-your-face" and they're right!

(P.S. Jennifer agreed to keep the "raw" down for our interview today. Thanks, Jennifer! )

But, no, Jennifer didn't stop at her highly successful book. She's popped out a new one just in time for Valentine's Day. It's called Woulda. Coulda. Shoulda: A Divorce Coach's Guide to Staying Married! Now, isn't that ironic! See, that's why you'll want to listen to this episode!

Jennifer says that "Just like being happily married takes work, so does being happily divorced. If you put your egos aside, and your kids first...it is not impossible."

Big thoughts to wrestle with...and, it's a fun interview!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What is the wrong way to divorce...or is there one?
Getting on with the divorce once you've decided there will be one
What to consider in the "shall I go or shall I stay" debate
How to be respectful in the divorce process
Tips for putting your kids first ...and keeping it that way
What if your partner is not an emotional grown-up

CONNECT WITH JENNIFER HURVITZ:

Website: JenniferHurvitz.com

Twitter: @TheTruthHurvitz

Facebook: Facebook.com/JenniferHurvitzBiz

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com

Instagram: Instagram.com/JenniferHurvitzBiz

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Is There a Growing Chasm Between Men & Women? GUEST: Robert Manni

Thu, 31 Jan 2019 05:49:22 GMT

Men and Women. How different are men and women from one another? What about the research on the differences between men's and women's brains? How does this play out in behavior?

What you need to know first!

You'll hear fascinating perspectives from today's guest, so I've opened this episode with some actual, researched facts about the differences in the brains of men and women. You might be surprised what this high-level, long-term research from Stanford University.

When you look at all the information on the differences between the brains of men and women, you'll see everything from "there is no difference" to "there are huge differences." I decided to look to well-regarded studies to bring you a whole lot of well-documented differences in my introduction to the show.

GUEST: Robert Manni. Host of Guy's Guy Radio, Novelist, Former CEO

My guest today, Robert Manni, is the host of Guy's Guy Radio, and author of The Guys' Guy's Guide to Love, praised as the "men's successor to Sex and the City." That book has been developed into two feature-length adapted screenplays, a scripted television series, and a series of non-scripted Guy's Guy show concepts.

I ask Robert "Why now? What makes a Guy's Guy?" He said:

"There's never been a better time for men to be whoever they want to be. Yet, it's also never been less clear who men really are. The Guy's Guy platform redefines and re-imagines modern men with a fresh approach of timely content across media platforms.

Whether it's navigating modern dating and relationships, bonding, male friendships, or men's wellness and spirituality, Robert makes it a point to share his insights and possibilities for the modern man's emancipation and success through his "Guy's Guy" lens.

Robert's varied background includes writing for and advertising campaigns for many of the world's leading brands, and also being an energy worker with master certifications in Reiki and hypnosis.

So, I've asked Robert as many questions as I could that I thought you would want answers to. Look at these highlights...

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why is the best time for a man to be whomever he wants to be?
Why is a "guy's guy?"
How do you think roles are defined in today's world between men and women?
Is there a growing chasm between men and women?
What about men and emotional IQ?

CONNECT WITH ROBERT MANNI:

Website: RobertManni.com

Twitter: @RobertManni

Facebook: Facebook.com/Manni

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com

Instagram: Instagram.com/RobertManni

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

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How to Prevent Others from Stealing Your Peace of Mind. GUEST - Shanthi Yogini

Wed, 23 Jan 2019 19:28:21 GMT

Would you like more peace of mind? Do you let other people steal your peace of mind? Then, today's episode will be of great interest to you!

Do you feel badly when you think you're judging?

Do you catch yourself judging other people's motives?

Do you know the difference between judgment, discernment, and observation?

In today's episode, those are the things I talk about before the interview. So worthwhile thinking about! You may be beating yourself up for no good reasons, and that's worth finding out by listening, right?

GUEST: Shanthi Yogini, Former Software Engineer & Founder of Yoga for Happiness Academy

Shanthi Yogini is an internationally recognized exponent on the ancient science of Yoga. Her ideal students are spiritual seekers and aspiring leaders willing to liberate Yoga from being chained to fitness exercises and learn spirituality and spiritual leadership through Yoga.

Shanthi offers training for independent 2-minute Yoga practices in order to be liberated from any limitation--physically, mentally, intellectually, and socially. She offers eye-opening presentations of Yoga, not just as a solution for life problems, but as a path to live to one's highest potential. She is a former software engineer, and now if the founder of the Yoga for Happiness Academy, where Yoga is learned as a science in its authentic, pristine, and purest form in-person, online, and via digital media.

Through the various aspects of Yoga, Shanthi's clients become free from depression and gain clarity in life. They are trained to feel whole and complete with themselves first in order to heal their relationship with their loved one. She is also a trained classical dancer, storyteller, interactive workshop presenter, and art and culture educator. She uses story creation and story narration through dance as a means of healing past hurts of her students.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

How you can become more responsive and less reactive
Finding inner peace to create outer peace
Why peace of mind is elusive
How using affirmations can center yourself
How yoga can help you stay calm when arguments get messy
What to do with your own toxic feelings

CONNECT WITH SHANTHI YOGINI:

Website: YogaForHappiness.com

Twitter: @YogaToHappiness

Facebook: Facebook.com/YogaForHappinessAcademy

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/ShanthiYogaForHappiness

Instagram:

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

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If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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What About Men...and Those Confused By Them? GUEST: Robert Kandell

Thu, 17 Jan 2019 03:09:28 GMT

Is life confusing for men these days? Are men confusing to you these days?

So, what's this all about?

Why are men and women confused about the roles of men? Or, are they? My guest thinks they are!

Personally, I think that there is much confusion over roles, and that they are fluid in each family. It's a BIG, IMPORTANT conversation for every couple to have before they get married: to learn about each other, talk about values, vision for life, beliefs, and goals. Talk about how those values will play out in the roles each of you want, and/or accept, BY AGREEMENT.

Making agreements requires willingness to communicate deeply. Now, we're getting into the thorny issues about why these issues can all be too fuzzy. People don't want to talk about difficult things. They want to stay with their fantasies about a life together all magically working out. It doesn't.

It's not news that you have to consciously work on your relationship. You have to work on it and at it. You have to be present, and willing to talk, change, grow together.

Listen in to this fascinating conversation, and see what questions it leaves you with. You can ask them by liking my Facebook page, Relationship Help Shows, and we can talk there.

If you want my help directly, we can do that, too.

GUEST: Robert Kandell, Coach, Lecturer, Consultant

My guest today, Robert Kandell, hailed as “part football coach, part loving dad, and part slightly crazed drill sergeant”, has spent the last 20 years helping people re energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through authentic connection and honest communication.

After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded One Taste (orgasmic meditation) in 2004. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own consulting firm, Kandell Consulting, which helps small businesses become marketable and profitable.

Robert is also an accomplished coach, and lecturer with over 400 workshops under his belt. He also brings his enthusiasm and passion to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love (over 100k downloads) on subjects around relationships, intimacy, sex, communication and gender dynamics.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why men are so obsessed with their phones
What Robert Kandell means by a "chasm of intimacy"
Why he says "aggrieved entitlement" is what causes your man to withdraw
What Robert thinks about the idea that the #MeToo movement causes men to be scared
How women can encourage men to speak about their anger

CONNECT WITH ROBERT KANDELL:

Website: RobertKandell.com

Twitter: @RobertKandell

Facebook: Facebook.com/Robert.Kandell

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RobertKandell

Instagram: Instagram.com/Robert.Kandell

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Dating? How to Spot Men Who'll Only Waste Your Time GUEST Ronnie Ann Ryan

Fri, 11 Jan 2019 16:53:34 GMT

Are you dating? Have you kissed more than your fair share of frogs?

Today's episode will help you stop doing that. Really!

Although it's addressed to women, MEN, you need to listen in, too. You need to know this!

Women, are you with a man who won't protect your name and won't protect the relationship, either. Any chance that he won't profess you to his friends, proudly tell his friends about you?

Yes? Believe me, then: HE'S NOT SERIOUS. And, don't believe he is! That's what I'm taking about in the first part of today's episode.

Of course, casual dating is different from creating a long-term relationship. The relationship help I'm offering is what you need before you make the shift from casual to serious. You need to think about these things, FOR SURE!

GUEST: Ronnie Ann Ryan, Love and Dating Coach

Ronnie Ann Ryan has worked with successful women who have a hot career, but a chilly love life for over sixteen years. She shows you how to overcome obstacles and attract high-quality men with easy, proven strategies.

You'll discover how to better understand men to reduce frustration in dating, reduce confusion, and to stop spending time with the wrong guy.

Ronnie Ann is the author of the Amazon bestseller, Is He the One? Find Mr. Right by Spotting Mr. Wrong, and three other books. She has been featured by ABC, NBC, and Fox News, as well as the BBC, NPR, the Huffington Post, and eHarmony.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Easily identifiable behaviors that tell you you're wasting your time with the wrong guy
What about texting when dating? What's its place?
One big thing you have to admit that just might be happening and you're putting up with it
How to know if he's interested, or just biding time until something better comes along
What red flags are you missing? (You may not have thought of these.)
What the 5 MUST-HAVES are to know that this guy may be a keeper

FREE GIFT FROM RONNIE ANN RYAN:

ebook: 12 First Date Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances for Love GET IT HERE!

CONNECT WITH RONNIE ANN RYAN:

Website: NeverTooLate.biz

Twitter: @RonnieAnnRyan

Facebook: Facebook.com/RonnieAnnRyanDatingCoach

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/RonnieAnnRyan

Instagram:

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. Join my Optimize Circles! CLICK HERE

And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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The Mindset Shift It Takes To Live the Life You Want GUEST Ashley Logndon

Thu, 03 Jan 2019 19:49:03 GMT

Wow! It's 2019. Happy New Year!

Did you make New Year's Resolutions?

Are any the same as last year?

Oops! Why is that? Why do we make resolutions and let them drop?

Or, say we want something to happen in our lives, and do little to get it?

Or, say we believe something, and not demonstrate it by living it?

Today's show is about actually taking the steps necessary to live the life you most want. Yes, really!

Whether you call them goals, intentions, desires, or purposes doesn't really matter. What does matter is that you have thought them through, know they're for you, and take steps to actually bring them into your life. And, sometimes, we do...and, sometimes, we don't.

Why? Is there a better way to achieve your goals? Can you have a the life you envision? YES!

Today, I'm giving some insights into how to achieve what you want in your life, relationships, health, family, and career.

TODAY'S GUEST: ASHLEY LOGSDON, Podcast host of MamaSaysNamaste.com and amazing creator of the life she wants with her family

Ashley helps families move from chaos and reaction mode to living a life of intention and not waiting for "one day" to truly thrive. Through her podcast, blogging, coaching and personality "snapshots," she provides tools and action steps to aid families in creating a life they love to come home to.

With her husband and podcast co-host, three unschooling daughters and a dog, Ashley is RVing the United States full-time. They focus on authenticity, awareness, and embracing love in the present moment.

Ashely says, "Pay attention to who you are, and learn what your strengths are and what triggers negative reactions. Then look beyond to your family. The more we recognize how we tick, the more grace we have for others. And, ultimately, we find that the uniqueness in each of us strengthens all of us."

You'll want to hear this! Ashley has a very CHOSEN LIFESTYLE, and it may inspire you to embrace your vision for your life, too. It sure made me think!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What it takes to decide to live your life according to your values, no matter what other people think.
What might be stopping you for stepping into your life, living the goals and intentions you desire.
How you can create a sanctuary in your own home.
What you can do to not get trapped in toxicity, in your home, your relationships, and your life.
Inspiration to live the life you envision, even though it may seem difficult, or even impossible, right this minute

FREE GIFTS FROM ASHLEY LOGSDON:

Two free printables to post as reminders for keeping the "Namaste" mindset, along with some guidelines for creating your life based on your family vision, as Ashley's family has: DOWNLOAD THEM HERE.

CONNECT WITH ASHLEY LOGSDON

Website: MamaSaysNamaste.com

Twitter: @NamasteMamaRose

Facebook: Facebook.com/MamaSaysNamaste

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AshleyLogsdon

Instagram:

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

JOIN MY "OPTIMIZE CIRCLES" HERE.

WANT ANSWERS TO YOUR QUESTIONS, MORE SUPPORT, AND A COMMUNITY TO BE A PART OF?

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What You Need First If You Want to Have Great Relationships. Host Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Fri, 28 Dec 2018 00:15:03 GMT

Today's episode is so important: a required ingredient for a great relationship! And, it may not be what you think.

We all live, work, or play with other humans, and we know it sometimes takes more skills than at other times. Some people are more work. Some people are toxic and you need to recognize that right away, and steer clear!

And, you may think that your past relationships define you. They can, but I hope they do not!

It's not rocket science to understand that your early training continues to play out in your life. What we got from our families tends to be your base line until you decide to consciously change your mind, and make things different. Are you ready and willing to change?

To have a rich, rewarding relationship with another human, you need to have one with yourself. It's that simple, but it's sure not easy. Learn some tips today to make it easier!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

No matter what has happened to you in the past, you can change the present and future.
A rel-life example of how the past almost ruined a relationship with potential to be great...and long-lasting
Is it possible you go the extra mile for others, but you don't for yourself? What's that about?
The importance of your internal conversation about yourself
Do you deserve to have great relationships? The answer is "Absolutely YES!"

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

WANT TO ASK ME QUESTIONS AND HAVE DIRECT ACCESS TO ME IN MY SECRET (Off Facebook) GROUPS?

You can. CLICK HERE And, get my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy via email FREE!

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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How to Have the Best Divorce From a Narcissistic Hijackal GUEST: Jason LeVoy

Wed, 12 Dec 2018 03:22:19 GMT

Best divorce possible from a narcissistic Hijackal? Does such a thing exist? Stay tuned.

Yes, divorce is often messy, and definitely messier when there is a difficult person, or a toxic person involved, those people I call Hijackals®!

All divorces--in my opinion--go in two clear ways: one end is a Divisive Divorce, and the other end is the Collaborative Divorce. There is a third that takes in the benign, neutral space in the middle that some people wander in, too.

If you're divorcing--or, divorced from--a narcissist, a Hijackal, you're definitely going to be on the Divisive end. That's because Hijackals MUST win, and divorce doesn't feel like that. So, the Hijackal wants to win every way to Sunday IN the divorce. That creates divisiveness, for sure, and also pain, stress, anxiety, and too much uncertainty and chaos. Nasty, but true.

Listen to these suggestions I have in the first part of today's episode of Emotional Savvy, and see how you could move towards a more collaborative arrangement--IF you're not an ex of a Hijackal, that is!

GUEST: Jason Levoy, The Divorce Resource Guy, and former divorce attorney.

Jason Levoy aka The Divorce Resource Guy, is a former divorce attorney turned divorce coach who works with people who have attorneys, or are representing themselves to get through the divorce process as quickly as possible, without spending thousands of dollars wasting time.

Jason is the creator of DivorceU, the most comprehensive and affordable divorce resource on the internet.

In today's conversation, Jason and I discuss the pitfalls of divorce, and how to prepare to avoid them. Especially when you've divorcing a relentlessly difficult person, you need these particular insights we're sharing today.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Need to know things that make divorcing a narcissist different
Ways you can recognize that you're dealing with narcissism during a divorce (...just in case you weren't sure, right? lol)
Why preparation is particular important BEFORE you say you want a divorce
What preparation is required to divorce a narcissist
How to best shortcut the divorce process when a narcissist, a Hijackal, wants to make the divorce process last as long as possible
How to save money on legal bills in a divorce

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ebook: Tips on How to Co-parent with an A-Hole GET IT HERE!

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Website: JasonLevoy.com

Twitter: @JasonLevoy

Facebook: Facebook.com/YourDivorceResource

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/JasonLevoy

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How to Create the Intimacy You Crave Without the Fear GUEST: Allana Pratt

Tue, 27 Nov 2018 19:09:14 GMT

In today's episode, I'm talking about what it takes to get past the fear of intimacy that a past relationship has taught you. It happens so often, doesn't it?

You fall in love, and really trust someone. You are tell them your secrets, and share your vulnerabilities. You so want to have that one person you can share life with, warts and all. You want to believe you are safe.

Sometimes, you are safe, and it all works beautifully. It deepens, grows, and enriches over your time together.

Then, there are the times where you share deeply, and the other person uses what you said, turns your fears into weapons, and beats you with them in future arguments. Does that sound at all familiar?

You can recover from this nonsense, pain, and trepidation. Really! You can. I'll give you some hints, and so will today's guest.

GUEST: ALLANA PRATT, Intimacy Expert

Wow! So delighted to have Allana on Emotional Savvy! She's a delightful spirit and a lovely friend, as well as a colleague helping folks to grow past the pain.

Allana Pratt is an Intimacy Expert--on all levels. She inspires open-hearted, unapologetic living, and does it, as she says, "with delicious sass!" Her inspiring vulnerability and courage has landed her a featured weekly column on the GoodMenProject.com , featured as an Icon of Influence, and as guest expert on CBS, TLC, FOX, Forbes, People Magazine, and Huffington Post.

Were you wondering why to listen? After reading that, any questions...lol?

Allana is a cum laude graduate of Columbia University, and the author of four books. She hosts the empowering podcast, Intimate Conversations, with guests like Grammy-award winning Alanis Morissette. Allana is a certified coach, and was invited to work with Leeza Gibbons during Dancing with the Stars. With over 3.7 million viewers on YouTube, Allana is the go-to authority when struggling to trust again after a harsh breakup so followers can create hot, healthy, thriving intimate relationships.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What happened to Allana at 16 years old that changed everything
How to move towards vulnerable, honest, transparent relationships
Why Allana knows the Universe cares
How to live an unapologetic life after being with a #Hijackal
Why moving past the bad stuff is a choice and how you can make it
What can be learned from a nasty divorce, and difficult custody battle
Learning to trust yourself after divorce
Empowering yourself to live fully

CONNECT WITH ALLANA PRATT

Website: AllanaPratt.com

Twitter: @AllanaPratt

Facebook: Facebook.com/CoachAllanaPratt

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/AllanaPratt

Instagram: Instagram.com/AllanaPratt

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If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Great Relationships Require Trust. How Can You Build & Rebuild it? GUEST: Scott Schilling

Tue, 13 Nov 2018 22:04:57 GMT

In today's episode, I'm talking about what you really need to have if you want a great relationship.

If you have the ingredients, you can put them into the relationship. If you're missing them within yourself, and you go looking for them in another, you won't be able to have the relationship you know you want. You've heard me say many times that you cannot give a gift you do not have. That applies to relationships, too. What you put into it is so important.

How have your past relationships taken a toll on your current one? I give an example of a couple I worked with and how this was the biggest issue between them. Yay! We resolved it. You'll want to hear this, and understand more fully what might be going on in your relationship.

Blame? No, that doesn't work. You know that. You don't like to be blamed, so that means you don't blame others, right? Oops! Learn more about this, too, in today's episode.

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GUEST: SCOTT SCHILLING, The Significance Expert and Co-Founder of YouPlus1

Scott Schilling has achieved the pinnacle of success within the speaking, training and business coaching industries having achieved the top platforms worldwide sharing the stage with likes of General Colin Powell, Suze Orman and many more. He has personally closed millions of dollars in business, while helping clients grow their businesses closing hundreds of millions. He has helped countless numbers of people find success within their businesses, and passions.

Scott’s reach spans the globe and his time is sought after by people all around the world. Scott reminds us that,

"Legacy is not what you have accumulated throughout your life to leave behind once you pass...it should be what you are known for as you live!"

Today, I'm engaging Scott in a conversation about trust. Scott says,

"Relationships take time, energy, and investment. In order to truly create a prosperous relationship, others must know, like and trust you. Because we live in an immediate gratification society, many people are not willing to put in the time, energy or investment to earn others trust. Trust is hard to earn and easily lost...but it is imperative that others trust you to have a true relationship."

This is a very in-depth conversation. Get yourself a cup of something warm, and settle in for a deep listen!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What can you do when trust is broken
New thoughts on why trust is so critical to relationships
What congruence has to do with rebuilding relationships
How feedback can be used to improve relationships
Getting clear within yourself to have the relationship you want
What Scott Schilling learned from Talking with Giants and what you can, too.

CONNECT WITH SCOTT SCHILLING

Website: ScottSchilling.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/ScottSchilling8

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Speaking Up! Escaping Domestic Abuse: What It Takes & Why It Takes So Long GUEST: Mickie Zada

Wed, 07 Nov 2018 01:59:08 GMT

In today's episode, I give you some new perspectives--and effective words to say--when people treat you in ways you do not appreciate.

For many listeners, "ways I do not appreciate" usually come from one particular person, a #Hijackal®. Whether that is true for you or not, you want to feel and be confident that you can trust yourself to speak up when someone says something rude, wrong, or abusive, without concern that you will turn into a blaming, shaming, or abusive person yourself. That's the goal of my segment today.

Learning to respond from your best self rather than lose it and react is a skill! The ideas I've shared here really work. I hope you find them useful immediately for dealing with unexpected hostility, rudeness, and the desire of a Hijackal to squish you like a gnat!

GUEST: MICKIE ZADA, Advocate for women who have escaped emotional abuse.

Mickie Zada, lived in domestic abuse for thirty-four years. In spite of enduring emotional, financial, and physical abuse, for twenty-three years she pretended her life was "normal." Even after admitting her reality, it took eleven more years to leave.

Mickie got help from both an experienced counselor, and a psychologist who understood the issues and depth of domestic abuse, who realized and recognized the verbal abuse, emotional abuse, AND the domestic abuse she lived with. She wisely gave herself five years of time to gather, embrace, and apply personal growth insights, understanding that, if she didn't change, she would return to her abuser or attract another abuser.

Sixteen years later, Mickie is now a content creator, catalyst, and advocate for women who have escaped domestic abuse. Her business, Surviving Abuse Network, includes weekly podcasts, live videos, and articles created to support and inspire women who have escaped.

Mickie's first book, Looking Behind Closed Doors: Domestic Abuse - If You Don't Change, Nothing Changes, is available on Kindle through Amazon

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why it took so long to believe it was abuse
What to do when the thought that you've allowed this to happen paralyzes you
The important of a "getaway" plan
How Mickie created that "getaway" plan
What to do when you're so afraid of your abuser
Why it's not a good idea to broadcast the idea that you're leaving to your abuser, or to anyone who will tell him or her

CONNECT WITH MICKIE ZADA

Website: SurvivingAbuseNetwork.com

Twitter: https://twitter.com/mickie_Zada

Facebook: Facebook.com/SurvivingAbuseNetwork

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/mickiezada

Instagram: https://instagram.com/mickie.survivingabusenetwork

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What About Mediation? And, Debunking Divorce As Failing or Not Good For the Kids GUEST: Anthony Diaz

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 01:52:35 GMT

In today's episode, I give you five solid reasons why mediation is a good choice...and, why it may not work well with a #Hijackal! There are several important things to know about mediation. Some folks don't know about them, and I wanted to be sure you did. It's important when deciding how to proceed to resolve differences in partnerships of any kind, and relationships of all kinds.

I've mediated in workplace settings, in primary family relationships, with estranged sisters in two parts of the country, with parents who have been alienated from their children for quite a while, and, of course, I've mediated many, many divorces. And, mediation is, in my opinion, the best way to go when both parties want a fair--or, even somewhat fair--settlement so they can move on with life with less stress and angst.

Things can go well, or go south, though, when mediating where one person is a relentlessly difficult person. No surprise, right?

Enjoy this segment, and learn why mediation may be the best first strategy for you.

GUEST: ANTHONY DIAZ, THE PEACE CATALYST

Anthony Diaz, Esq. is a family law attorney and mediator specializing in resolving disputes easily, effortlessly, and amicably. In his practice, he is known as the Peacemaker. He is also a Licensed Practitioner with the Centers of Spiritual Living. As a coach, attorney, and mediator, Anthony utilizes his spiritual practices to guide others from pain to peace. He is also an international speaker whose passion, mission, and purpose are to help those in pain to move on from their divorce with dignity to co-create the life they were meant to live.

Your kids are watching! You know that, and I'm sure it worries you when you and your partner are often arguing, or worse, right? One big thing a parent has to always keep in mind is, that even at your worst moments, you are being a model for your children. We talk about that today. It's a big deal!

What about the practical things? Like coming to agree, or not? What can you expect? Anthony gives you the inside look at mediation, and what you can expect, realistically. Of course, sometimes, things just don't get resolved, and we talk about that, too.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why being a model for your children needs to be a high-priority conscious act
What to do in the face of resistance
How do you choose between attorney's and a mediator
Is it "spiritual" to divorce?
How you can know if it's time to quit a relationship
What is Collaborative Divorce?

CONNECT WITH ANTHONY DIAZ

Website: AnthonyJDiaz.co m

Twitter: @The1PeaceMaker

Facebook: Facebook.com/AJDCPA

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/the1peacemaker

Instagram: Instagram.com/the1peace_maker

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Finding Yourself Again After Trauma, Grief & Loss GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier

Wed, 24 Oct 2018 03:27:48 GMT

In today's episode, I talk about steps you can take to manage the pain of trauma or loss. You've experienced these things, no matter when in your life they occurred. Until you work them through, they will interfere with your health and the health of your current relationships, as well as with your perspective on life.

You don't want to be carrying past issues into current relationships. That's often a primary cause of marriages not working: partners bring the pains of previous relationships, and are on guard for them showing up in the new relationship. That's not helpful to getting the love, respect, trust, and support you want in life!

Consider these steps I outline in today's episode to find emotional freedom to engage in the present. It will help you heal.

GUEST: Dr. Sherry Cormier, Psychologist and Professor Emerita at West Virginia University, author of Author of Sweet Sorrow: Finding Enduring Wholeness After Loss and Grief

Dr. Sherry Cormier is a licensed psychologist and Professor Emerita in the Department of Counseling, Rehabilitation Counseling, and Counseling Psychology at West Virginia University. She was in private practice in adult psychotherapy in Morgantown, WV, and was a former faculty member at the University of Tennessee. She is a certified bereavement trauma specialist, the author of two textbooks, and lives now in a Chesapeake Bay community where she engages in public speaking, training, and consulting.

Wow! Dr. Sherry brings a great deal of experience and expertise to today's conversation!

Clearly, what's trauma to one person can be trivial to another. That's what makes it difficult. Each person has a different home life growing up, different experiences, and different nervous systems, too. That's why communication in primary relationships is SO important: you need to understand where each other is coming from--and WANT to understand!

Dr. Sherry Cormier wrote this:

"1. There is a continuum of grief and loss elicits many emotions. At the more severe end, loss can be traumatic and can become complicated grief and require professional treatment.

2. Loss is a universal human experience; our reactions to it vary greatly and depend upon what and whom we lost. If we lost someone precious to us, as I did, we learn that death is a transition not a disappearance.

3. To heal from traumatic loss, we have to re establish attachment bonds and make connections with a tribe or social network that can provide support and comfort."

When you experience trauma, grief, or loss, you need to be able to gauge what's going on within you or the other person. That happens by reflecting on what you know about them, who you know them to be, and your willingness to communicate with them.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What to do when you "can't get it out of your head" or "cannot believe it is gone"
Know how to gauge if your grieving process is healthy
How to know if you need professional help
What the difference is between secure attachment and insecure attachment and why it matters
The components of resilience
How to recognize and overcome the isolation of grief

CONNECT WITH DR. SHERRY CORMIER

Website: SherryCormierAuthor.com

Twitter:

Facebook: Facebook.com/sherry.cormier.9

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Instagram: Instagram.com/Cormier1749

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Believe Behavior! Why Narcissists Exploit & Laugh at Your Vulnerabilities GUEST - Kim Saeed

Tue, 16 Oct 2018 19:23:43 GMT

In today's episode, I talk about something that is SO important to keep top of mind.

Too many people readily believe the words a person speaks, even when their behavior is screaming the opposite. Why do they do that? Why do you? It's an interesting, though detrimental, habit.

Yes, it's a habit, one that you learned as a child. Today, I give you some very good reasons why it is not serving you--or your relationships--well, and what to replace it with. This can change EVERYTHING in the way you approach life, too.

You may not want to believe it's true, but IT IS!

Get this one right down to your toes, and your life will be SO much better. I promise!

GUEST: KimSaeed of LetMeReach.com

Kim Saeed is an internationally respected self-help author and educator specializing in recovery and rebuilding after toxic relationships. She is the founder of Let Me Reach, a life transformation site that teaches people to flourish after narcissistic abuse.

Kim is the author of the Kindle bestseller, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss! and is currently writing an upcoming book, The Way of the Warrior.

"During the detox from a toxic relationship, it's very common for those in recover to ruminate obsessively over their EX and the events that led to the disintegration of the relationships. This results from addiction to the reward-and-punishment peptides that the victim's brain formed during the course of the relationship.

Obsessive thinking is often the result of your subconscious mind's attempt to re-abuse you in the absence of your toxic partner, simply in order to get those peptides flowing again." ~ from Kim's ebook, How to Do No Contact Like a Boss.

And, why do Hijackals® exploit you, and laugh at you, especially after you've shared a vulnerability? Listen in, and learn a new way.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Learn three kinds of empathy that can help with understanding the Hijackal behavior
How Hijackals learn what to do to get what they want from you
Why Hijackals are scornful of your vulnerabilities--even though they encourage you to share them
What the biggest misconceptions about Hijackals--including those narcissists--is

KIM SAEED'S GIFT FOR YOU: The Beginner's Healing Toolkit GET IT HERE!

CONNECT WITH KIM SAEED

Website: LetMeReach.com

Twitter: @KimSaeed

Facebook: Facebook.com/LetMeReachwithKimSaeed

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Are You Spiritually-Minded? What About Intuition? GUEST - Terry Wildemann

Tue, 09 Oct 2018 14:00:36 GMT

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks: "Are you spiritually-minded?"

Being spiritually-minded is not simply having an interest in spiritual things. It's much more than that.

Are you basing your thinking on the spiritual principles you hold dear? That's the real question.

What about the mind? Your mind? Can you point to it? Can it be surgically isolated? Even though you cannot indicate its physical whereabouts, you do understand that you have a mind, or, more precisely, that you use one. It's more than your brain, isn't it?

Your mind is creative. When I wrote my book, What You Pay Attention to Expands, I was writing about the very things I'm introducing into the conversation today on Emotional Savvy. It's impossible to have a "mind by-pass" so it's important to think about how you're using your mind every day.

In today's episode, as something completely new, I talk about the difference between the objective, conscious mind, and the subjective, sub-conscious mind. An introduction.

If you enjoy this topic, please go to my show page on Facebook and let me know, or leave feedback or ask questions about any topic I've covered there. I'll see it, and respond. I promise. Facebook.com/RelationshipHelpShow

GUEST: Terry Wildemann, of IntuitiveLeadership.com

Terry Wildemann is a high performance coach, helping socially conscious small business owners and leaders to accelerate their businesses with intuition, speed, and ease. She's know for the speed with which she helps her clients achieve results, and the ease with which they do it. No more burning out, she says. No more spinning your wheels. No more wondering how to grow your business quickly.

So, what's this talk of intuition, angels, and other spiritual ideas? Terry uses all these in the effective work she does with clients. As you listen, you'll clearly see how she integrates and intertwines these ideas with high-level business and interpersonal practices to create success.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What's the difference between intuition and guidance?
Why is intuition important in business?
Does everyone have it?
What stops people from using intuition?
What is the relevance of intuition to leadership?
How does that apply in your own life?

TERRY WILDEMANN'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Use this technique to shift into your heart and get grounded in the moment. Gift is available in both English and Spanish QuickShiftZone.com

CONNECT WITH TERRY WILDEMANN

Website: IntuitiveLeadership.com

Twitter: @TerryWildemann

Facebook: Facebook.com/TerryWildemann

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/TerryWildemann

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Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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The Impact of Emotional Abuse on Children and The Adults They Become. GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb

Wed, 03 Oct 2018 04:57:07 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

UNDERSTANDING THE IMPACT OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE AND NEGLECT ON CHILDREN...AND ON THE ADULTS THEY BECOME.

GUEST: DR. JONICE WEBB, Author of the first book written on Childhood Emotional Neglect ( CEN )

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER asks:

"Do you recognize what emotional abuse of children is? It's much more than you might think."

Abuse is any behavior that is designed to control or dominate another person. Whether that is through fear, humiliation, intimidation, isolation, guilt, blaming, manipulation or denial. Therefore, emotional abuse is simply any abuse that is emotional rather than physical.

It can include belittling, discounting, manipulating the emotions of another and constant criticism. It can be less obvious than that, such as continuous disapproval, or the refusal to ever be pleased by another in any way.

It can be engaging children in age-inappropriate behavior, or engaging in age-inappropriate confidences. When a parent tries to engage a child to take his/her side against the other parent, this is emotional abuse.

Emotional abuse of children is often more subtle than the systematic wearing away of their self-esteem and self-confidence. Emotional abuse cuts to the core of their being, creating scars, impressions and perceptions that are far deeper and longer-lasting than physical ones. An attempt to distort or undermine a child’s perception of the world is emotional abuse.

In today's episode, I've given a very clear example of a situation that might not sound abusive on first hearing, but, once you've listened to this, you'll see things differently!

GUEST: Dr. Jonice Webb, author of the first books ever on Childhood Emotional Neglect

Jonice Webb, PhD, is a licensed psychologist, speaker, blogger, and best-selling author. Dr. Webb wrote the first book ever written about Childhood Emotional Neglect, and is recognized worldwide as the pioneer of Childhood Emotional Neglect, CEN .

Dr. Webb is dedicated to bringing awareness of the power of Childhood Emotional Neglect to people everywhere. She is the author of Running On Empty: Overcome Your Childhood Emotional Neglect, and Running On Empty No More: Transform Your Relationships.

Were you ever shamed for having emotions in your early life? That's a prime example of a type of Childhood Emotional Neglect. You may never have thought about it in those terms, and today's episode will bring much more than this to light for you.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Wondering why you may downplay your own needs and not ask for much?
If you've experienced Childhood Emotional Neglect, how do you become more confident?
Why you may still be tamping down your anger?
What is the connection between Childhood Emotional Neglect, and troubles in relationships?
How can a person who has experienced CEN begin to get in greater touch with their emotions?
What are the likely impacts of CEN in an adult's life?

DR. WEBB'S FREE GIFT FOR YOU: Take her Childhood Emotional Neglect Questionnaire

CONNECT WITH DR. JONICE WEBB

Website: DrJoniceWebb.com

Twitter: @JWebbPhD

Facebook: Facebook.com/JWebbPHD/

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

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...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Go for the Gold. Be a Leader in Your Own Life. GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske

Wed, 26 Sep 2018 00:14:45 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

GO FOR THE GOLD. BE A LEADER IN YOUR OWN LIFE

GUEST: LISA MARIE PLATSKE, AWARD-WINNING LEADERSHIP EXPERT

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Important Principles To Achieve the Results You Want

Today, I'm sharing four important--actually essential--principles to grow your business, increase your effectiveness, and create relationships you most want. Tall order...and, these work!

You've heard that "attitude is everything." There's truth in that, and we also need focus, attention, and intention, too. There really is method in the madness of achieving the success in life that you want, on all levels. AND, I want to encourage you to create success on your own terms. Not success based on "shoulds" or societal expectations. Success based on who you are, what you value and believe, and what you feel called to create.

These four principles are the keys to conscious creation. Use them daily.

GUEST: Lisa Marie Platske, CEO of UpsideThinking, and award-winning leadership, connection, and positioning expert

Lisa Marie Platske is an award-winning leadership expert and a #1 international best-selling author of Designing Your Destiny and Turn Possibilities into Realities. She uses her law enforcement journey. which began on the piers of New York and ended post 9/11, and shares what exceptional leaders do differently and how to be positioned as an expert in order to seize big opportunities. She understands how to develop the skills, mindsets, and abilities to be a leader worth following!

Lisa Marie shares how she overcame toxicity in her own life, and her strategies for staying toxic-free. A big part of that journey is arriving at the clarity required. Listen for those tips.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why it's so important to know and live your values
How to get clarity on your goals and purposes
What it requires to be present--truly present--to someone's pain
Why is it essential to recognize the facts of an experience, and not just the emotional components.
What does it mean to be a leader, and a leader in your own life

Lisa Marie helps leaders in business develop themselves to live and express their values and vision. Being congruent in these ways is an amazing foundation for being a wildly successful, influential leader, no matter the size of the community you lead.

CONNECT WITH LISA MARIE PLATSKE

Website: UpsideThinking.com

Twitter: @UpsideThinking

Facebook: Facebook.com/Lisa.Marie.Platske

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

NEW! FINDING MY CONTENT USEFUL? SUPPORT MY WORK ON PATREON AND GET FURTHER GREAT BENEFITS

...like access to a Secret Facebook Group, my 21 Steps to Empowered Emotional Savvy program, and monthly "Ask Me Anything" calls.

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Relieving the Mess of Chronic Stress in Toxic Relationships GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance

Tue, 04 Sep 2018 15:30:33 GMT

In today's episode, DR. RHOBERTA SHALER talks about 'Clearing Your Head When Chronic Stress and Anxiety Have Clouded Your Thinking.'

Much research has been done that shows the effects of chronic stress coupled with chronic anxiety. When you're in a troubling or toxic relationship, you have that combination of stress and anxiety. It has been shown to lead to chronic illness, and seems very likely to produce inflammation and autoimmune issues, particularly. Of course, each body is different, and each will react differently as well.

Your brain changes with chronic stress and anxiety. Your hippocampus in your brain shrinks, causing fuzzy thinking and reduced ability to remember things well. Your amygdala enlarges and you become more prone to fear-based anxiety. The amygdala triggers the sympathetic nervous system, and your body goes on the alert. Living like that--hyper-vigilant--is very hard on the body.

Today, Dr. Shaler talks about what goes on in your brain when you're living with the chronic stress and anxiety of toxic people. YOU NEED TO KNOW THIS!

GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance, Expert on Stress Management in Relationships

Dr. Ganz Ferrance is a speaker, author, and registered psychologist from Edmonton, Alberta. For more than twenty-five years, Dr. Ganz has been helping individuals, couples, families, and corporations reduce their stress, improve their relationships, and enjoy more success.

Today, Dr. Shaler taps his thinking to focus on overcoming chronic stress...and all that it takes to do it!

So many times, particularly when you're with a Hijackal®, you will try to keep yourself safe by trying to appease him or her. That won't work, and you'll understand why when you listen to this episode.

Dr. Ganz has been on Emotional Savvy before, and he brought great insights and wisdom. Be sure to listen to the other episodes with him.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What "sneaky stress" is and how it affects you
How you fool yourself into thinking that you have no stress
The sad effects of a toxic relationship on your body
Where to find your hidden stressors
How, as Dr. Ganz says, "stress affects your state"

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy to help you understand why it is essential to your health to get away from the troublesome combination of chronic stress AND chronic anxiety.

The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

CONNECT WITH DR. GANZ

Website: DrGanz.com

Twitter: @DrGanzFerrance

Facebook: Facebook.com/GanzFerrance

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Got Energy Leaks? Procrastination? Denial? Resentment? Forgiveness? GUEST: Brenda Adelman

Wed, 29 Aug 2018 21:38:35 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Stop Emotional Energy Leaks! What About Forgiveness?

GUEST: Brenda Adelman, Acclaimed Actor. Author. Recipient of Hero of Forgiveness Award.

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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Do You Have Unfinished Business from Emotional Energy Leaks?

What are emotional energy leaks?

procrastination
denial
resentments
grudges
unresolved relationship issues

for a few! Which ones are plaguing you?

Rhoberta gives you insights into why you may be keeping these leaks in place, and why you need to get rid of them now. You are holding yourself back, creating obstacles, and preventing your growth towards satisfying goals in life.

GUEST: Brenda Adelman. Author of My Father Killed My Mother and Married My Aunt: Forgiving the Unforgivable

Brenda is an award-winning actor, a recipient of a Hero of Forgiveness award, and a sought after guest. She's performed her critically-acclaimed one-woman show, My Brooklyn Hamlet, about the power of forgiving the unforgivable for over 12,000 people worldwide, including women prisoners, youth-at-risk, domestic violence coalitions, spiritual communities, and the US Military.

Brenda teaches mission-drive entrepreneurs how to use their story to heal themselves, inspire others, and be memorable on stage and video.

Today, Brenda offers her three-step, proven forgiveness process to help you on your journey to ending your energy leaks!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Brenda tells her horrific story of loss and how she came to forgive her father for killing her mother
What is forgiveness?
Why we should engage with it when the pain is still there
What needs to change in your thinking to make forgiveness possible
What people find most challenging about forgiveness...and why
What to do to forgive now.

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on the practical and spiritual aspects of forgiveness, even in the most seeming impossible circumstance.

The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

HIS FREE GIFT: Brenda offers you her ebook. CLICK HERE

CONNECT WITH BRENDA ADELMAN

Website: ForgivenessandFreedom.com

Twitter: @BrendaAAdelman

LinkedIn: LinkedIn.com/in/BrendaAAdelman

Facebook: Facebook.com/BrendaAAdelman

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

#unconditionallove #creating peace #relationshipadvice #TipsForRelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople #intimacy #emotionalintimacy #mindbodyconnection #forgiveness

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What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family GUEST: Jeff Jones

Wed, 22 Aug 2018 02:00:16 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

What About Toxic Shame? Powerful Strategies to Help With Addiction in the Family G

GUEST: Jeff Jones, therapist, addiction counselor, interventionist, and family recovery coach.

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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How to Give Up, Give Back, and Recover From Shame

Have you ever felt shame? Been shamed? If you haven't, you've been extremely fortunate. Most people have. Shame is when someone does their best to make you feel small, unimportant, unworthy, and a waste of space and breath. Nasty behavior!

You've been guilty of something, for sure. You did put your hand in the cookie jar, right?

Guilt, in my books, is simply a verdict. NOT A FEELING! Turning it into a feeling, to my mind, is something that was "invented" to allow some people to have power over you. To keep you feeling "less than," wrong, not good enough.

Guilt? You are guilty of doing something, or you're not. You're sorry, or you're not. You fix it if you can. You regret it if you cannot. Then, DROP IT!

Shame, though, is when someone else suggests YOU are a mistake. Know this, for sure, that it had nothing to do with you. A person who shames another is a person who is very insecure, sometimes unstable, and definitely experiencing needs for power and control. S/he likely feels badly about themselves, but takes it out on you. IT WAS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Toxic shame, though, is when you take up repeating the words of a toxic shamer and repeating--and unfortunately, believing--that they are true. You take up where the shamer left off, and you never ever give yourself a break! Fortunately, you can stop this.

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you insights and strategies for dumping guilt and stopping shame, and recovering well from it to have your best life, and relationships, possible. Listen! Don't go another minute being hard on yourself.

GUEST: Jeff Jones, Licensed Professional Counselor, Addiction Counselor, and Certified Intervention Professional

Jeff is a therapist, addiction counselor, interventionists, and family recovery coach working online with families with an addicted loved one. He's expanded the context of addiction and created a three-phase program that empowers families to safeguard their loved one in an addictive cycle or recovery, while they engage in a process to stop the addiction cycle in this generation.

After putting it online and wrapping a user-friendly online community around it, Jeff is moving towards his goal of empowering families to connect with like-minded people, family-specific resources, and expertise when they are ready.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why timing is such a big issue in the recovery process
Why a "recovery message" is important to create
Understanding how not to marginalize or isolate the person in recovery
The importance of knowing the natural recovery process
How to be aware of warning signs of addiction

Listen to understand why Jeff says, "I'd rather see you sit in an AA/NA meeting in resistance than not being in the room at all."

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.

The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

HIS FREE GIFT: Contact Jeff at his website for his 3 Tips to Ensure Your Loved One's Recovery

CONNECT WITH JEFF JONES

Website: TheFamilyRecoverySolution.com

Twitter:

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

Facebook: Facebook.com/JeffJones.792740

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection GUEST: Jolen Philbrook

Tue, 14 Aug 2018 17:03:06 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Abundance, Prosperity & Tapping Into The Body-Mind Connection

GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert

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DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Prosperity Starts Between Your Ears

Sometimes, people are surprised when I talk about prosperity and relationship in the same sentence or breath. They simply haven't connected the two. Today, I'm talking about where prosperity is actually created: between your ears. And, then, how that actually plays out in your daily life.

Prosperity is much more than money or success, right? So is abundance! I'm offering you some clear examples and strategies you can use immediately to create prosperity in your life, AND, in your relationships.

Do you know what you actually want? What would make you happy? Or, are you focused on what isn't working, and is making you miserable? These mindset shifts that help you create the prosperity you want are ones you can make immediately. Really!

You are powerful--no matter what some Hijackal has tried to tell you--and what you think most about is what you will create more of. That's why I wrote What You Pay Attention to Expands in 2002. It's still available on Amazon, too.

Gather these insights, and use these strategies. Use the one's from today's guest, Jolen Philbrook, to create powerful shifts in your body and in your life.

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler gives you clear reasons, encouragement, and practical strategies to create more of what you want in your life: prosperity on every level.

GUEST: Jolen Philbrook, Abundant Mindset Expert, author of From Tears to Triumph

Jolen Philbrook is known as the abundant mindset expert who intuitively clears prosperity blocks. Her specialty is shifting the inner game and releasing stuck negative emotions to attract more success, prosperity, and happiness in your life.

In 2008, Jolen survived a rare type of breast cancer, went through a custody suit with no income. Then, one year later, she survived kidney cancer. Now, she shares her wisdom so that you can find your inner strength, prosperity, and happiness to live your greatest life.

She is the author of 365 Days of Gratitude, Reflections, and From Tears to Triumph.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

Why it's important to know precisely what you want in your life
What to do when you recognize you are suffering from the resentment you're carrying
How an abundant mindset can help you deal with toxic people, #Hijackals
How Jolen dealt with someone who was always attacking her
The vital connections between what you are thinking and what you are creating in life
How Jolen successfully dealt with two bouts with cancer

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on abundance, prosperity, and the links to health on every level.

The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

HER FREE GIFT:Are You Stressed About Money? - GET IT HERE.

CONNECT WITH JOLEN PHILBROOK

Website: JolenPhilbrook.com

Twitter: @Julen_Philbrook

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/jolen-philbrook-bb004b50

Facebook: Facebook.com/JolenPhilbrook

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Love, Dump, Or...? What About Radical Acceptance? GUEST: Andrea Miller

Thu, 09 Aug 2018 18:28:04 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Love, Dump, Or, ...? What About Radical Acceptance?

GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: How Do You Create and Experience Acceptance in Your LIfe?

You want to be seen, heard, known, acknowledged, appreciated, and accepted in life. By your parents. By your partner. By others in your world. Not everyone is willing or capable of doing that. I've written about this more in my book, Kaizen for Couples.

Where does that acceptance that you long for come from? In today's episode, I'm talking about finding acceptance for yourself, within. That's where it starts as a adult. Hopefully, you received it as a child, but many people simply didn't. Your brain was somewhat undeveloped, and you took in ideas about yourself and your worth from people who could not see you, in all your beauty. Maybe, they had problems of their own.

Now is the time to become your own best friend, and I give you insights into how to become accepting of yourself so that you feel secure and feel confident within yourself every day. It begins with acceptance.

When you begin to experience it from within, you'll be surprised how things can change in your world. Listen to these vital ideas. Yes, vital! They keep you feeling alive!

GUEST: GUEST: Andrea Miller, CEO of YourTango.com, author of Radical Acceptance

Andrea Miller is the founder and CEO of YourTango.com, the leading digital publisher dedicated to love, relationships, and self-empowerment. Andrea recently made her debut as an author with her first book, Radical Acceptance: The Secret to Happy, Lasting Love, published by Simon and Schuster. Quite an accomplishment for a first time author!

"You can't cherry pick the qualities you like or love in someone," she says, "It's the whole package. You have to make peace with those challenging qualities and attempt to extend empathy and compassion to them, or get out. You cannot be in a healthy relationship where you are constantly trying to change someone."

Of course, I asked Andrea if she was suggesting you can just decide to love someone unconditionally, no matter how badly they behave. There are folks who actually believe that, you know. You'll want to hear her answer!

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What should you do if you are in a toxic relationship and feel you are to blame?
How do you know when to terminate a relationship?
How do you know when you love enough about a person to accept what you don't love?
What can I do about toxic people at work? (Remember, Andrea runs a large enterprise, and she knows!)
I'm told about unconditional love, and now I'm confused. How do I get clear?
How does Radical Acceptance help someone in a difficult, toxic relationship?

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on creating enriching, healthy, empowering relationships.

Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show: A new voice, A new vision. Enjoy!

CONNECT WITH ANDREA MILLER:

Website: RadicalAcceptance.love

Twitter: @YourTango

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Andrea-Miller-94238

Facebook: Facebook.com/YourTango

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Intimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman

Thu, 02 Aug 2018 18:33:50 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Intimacy, Pleasure, and How to Get More of Both

GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Creating and Enriching Emotional Intimacy with your Partner

"The deepest principle of human nature is the craving to be appreciated." ~ William James

Emotional intimacy allows you to feel appreciated--and known, seen, heard, accepted, and acknowledged, too. When that is not present in a relationship, you don't feel fully connected and secure. There is insufficient emotional intimacy.

The first--and most important--step towards creating emotional intimacy is to know yourself well. That means spending time with yourself and digging deep.

"As long as we are looking outside ourselves for intimacy, we will never have it and we will never be able to share it. In order to be intimate with another person, we have to know who we are, what we feel, what we think, what our values are, what is important to us, and what we want. If we do not know these things about ourselves, we can never share them with another person." ~ Ann Wilson Shaef

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler offers insights into creating emotional intimacy, and how to make it safe to be emotionally intimate.

GUEST: Rabbi Manis Friedman, author of The Joy of Intimacy, and Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore?

Rabbi Friedman is a world-renouwned author, counselor, teacher, and speaker, well-known for his provocative and incisive wit and wisdom. His international speaking tour, seminars, and retreats take him around the world. He has been featured in many publications, such as The New York Times, Rolling Stone, and Publishers Weekly.

Rabbi Friedman is the author of the new book, The Joy of Intimacy: A Soulful Guide to Love, Sexuality, and Marriage. He has been counseling and teaching about relationships and marriage to audiences around the world for more than forty years, and he is here for you today.

HIGHLIGHTS OF TODAY'S EPISODE:

What is intimacy and how is it developed?
How can it be enriched?
If you're in a troubled relationship, how do you know to leave?
What about unconditional love?
What about the idea that love is a decision?
How can you get more pleasure in your relationship?

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy, as well as a refreshing and different perspective on intimacy. The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

HIS FREE GIFT: Rabbi Friedman's ebook: Doesn't Anyone Blush Anymore? - GET IT HERE.

CONNECT WITH RABBI MANIS FRIEDMAN

Website: TheJoyOfIntimacy.com

Twitter: @ManisFriedman

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/Manis-Friedman

Facebook: Facebook.com/ManisFriedman

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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What About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace? GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha

Wed, 25 Jul 2018 00:48:29 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

What About Unconditional Love and Creating Peace in Relationships?

GUEST: Swami Sadashiva Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, host of the TV show, Talking with Our Angels

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER: Four Scary Reasons Unconditional Love May be a Dangerous Myth

"Wait! Don't run away. I'm not taking away the idea of unconditional love. Hear me out...please. "

~ Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler steps way out to talk about something you may have thought about in this way: unconditional love. You might immediately think,

"Why is she talking about unconditional love as a possibly dangerous myth? I love the idea of unconditional love." Yes, so does she, however, in the contexts she is talking about it is really worthwhile to re-think the idea, and understand it more fully.

Unconditional love can be both beautifully freeing, and sadly entrapping. So important to recognize these possibilities. Ask yourself,

"Has anyone ever blamed me or tried to make me feel guilty for something I may or may not have said or done by saying to me 'You're so judgmental. I thought you believed in unconditional love?'"

That is VERY telling...especially if they succeeded and you felt guilty! So, please hear Dr. Shaler out on this to see what you might take from this short segment.

GUEST: Swami Sadashina Tirtha, The Orange Cowboy, Host of Talking With Our Angles, Best-selling author of the Ayurveda Encyclopedia

Swami 's speaking clients include the White House Alternative Medicine Commission, and Johns Hopkins University. Swami has more than four decades of teaching wellness and consciousness.

At the age of ten, he began having spiritual experiences that altered his live in divine ways. Swami survived a devastating tragedy at the age of seventeen by seeking spiritual pathways, which led him to discover his mission of spreading joy.

He is sought after by conscious leaders and their teams. How he helps is by strengthening leaders' connection with their angels. Clients report rediscovering their joy, authenticity, and better decision-making. Swami's mission is to help create world peace. He is targeting his first movie--a comedy about listening to your heart and trusting your authenticity--to have global impact.

Swami teaches people how to communicate with their inner voice, or God, or angels--which ever word you prefer. The first relationship is the one with yourself. When you love yourself and hear your highest guidance, all other relationships and career visions flow smoothly.

This episode brings a new topic to Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, a new voice, a new vision. Enjoy!

HIS FREE GIFT: Swami Tirtha's free gift for you is a beautiful meditation with Tibetan Bells - GET IT HERE.

CONNECT WITH SWAMI SADASHIVA TIRTHA:

Website: OrangeCowboy.com

Twitter: @MonkMedium

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/MonkMedium

Facebook: Facebook.com/swamisadashivatirtha

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Creating a Safe Place to Love Yourself GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose

Wed, 18 Jul 2018 00:03:53 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Creating A Safe Place To Love Yourself...and Doing It

GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist, Self-Love Mentor, and Founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about what the term, "self-love" really means. We hear it spoken of so frequently that we may not think about what it actually means. It's not about being vain, arrogant, conceited, or self-centered. It's a very positive thing...when done in the light of what Rhoberta says today!

"I remember when I would say anything positive, or good about myself. My mother would say, "That's conceited. Don't brag." I was left to wonder if it was some terrible sin to say I did well on a science test. Am I not supposed to mention anything I do well? I wondered how this all worked. Maybe you were raised with that big question, too. Very confusing!"

If this is at all familiar, listen in to recognize and realize that's all changed. It's healthy to have self-love, and it's the only thing that can help you find and enjoy healthy relationships, too. There is a new way of looking at self-love, and it's important to see it, enjoy it, and live fully expressing as a result.

GUEST: Pernilla Lillarose, Hakomi Therapist

Pernilla shows women who feel unfulfilled inside how to stop compromising themselves and pleasing others. She helps them trust what they already know, so they can act from wisdom and power and step out of situations where they are not living their own deepest truth.

She is a Certified Hakomi Therapist, Self Love Mentor and Meditation Teacher and founder of Young Women Empowerment Circle. She is the author of numerous books relating to Self Love, Kindness and living in alignment with you who truly are. She also offers online classes about the global impact of True Self Love.

During this episode, Pernilla talks about the importance of feeling love vs. hearing someone say they love you. That's HUGE!

From a difficult childhood, Pernilla learned what it takes to actually feel loved, and to allow yourself to be loved, too.

Here's some interview highlights:

What is the distinction between hearing "I love you" and actually feeling loved
What does it take to "feel filled up" with love
Why listening to yourself is essential to loving self-care
Is it possible you're not allowing yourself to have your feelings, and truly feel into them?
How anger can be your ally

HER FREE GIFT: Pernilla Lillarose's free ebook Get it HERE.

CONNECT WITH TRACY MALONE:

Website: NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Twitter: @TracyAMalone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TracyAMalone

Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/188681268196044

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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How Personal Trauma Gave Rise to Strength, Courage, and Empowering Others GUEST: Tracy Malone

Tue, 10 Jul 2018 23:18:19 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

How Personal Trauma Gave Rise to Strength, Courage, and Empowering Others

GUEST: Tracy Malone, All around amazing woman, and founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler talks about "Gaslighting." It's a real thing. When someone else wants to tell you what you think, feel, intend, or have done, and they insist they are right, there's a very good chance that they are gaslighting you.

Gaslighting leads to second-guessing yourself, and questioning your sanity.

"Can I be mistaken about what actually happened to me?"
"Do I remember that incident so wrongly/"
"What's happening to my mind? I swear it didn't happen that way?"
"I think you're re-writing my history, and it's confusing."

Ever felt that way? Thought those things? You may have been gaslighted by a toxic, manipulative person looking for power over you. Learn the finer points of this is today's episode.

GUEST: Tracy Malone, All around amazing woman, and founder of NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

A traumatic series of life events─including being thoughtlessly discarded by her partner─thrust Tracy Malone into a personal downward spiral. As she sought the answer to, “Why me?”, she discovered that she had been a victim of narcissist

Like many, before that moment, Tracy had no idea about the personality disorder known as narcissism. So she began to study it voraciously. Today, passionate about raising awareness on the subject, she is excited to share the empowering story of how she turned her life around in an effort to help others do the same. Tracy’s inspirational and humorous presentations leave your audience with a deeper understanding of narcissistic behaviors and how they can thrive after experiencing such difficult and troubled relationships.

An expert on destructive relationships, Tracy’s Narcissist Abuse Support website offers resources to victims from more than 145 countries

Realizing that you attracted a Hijackal® and, although you didn't like his behavior, it somehow seemed familiar, is a common story among many. You become the "unwitting prey" of Hijackal predators. When you begin to realize that your family set a pattern of behavior and expectations, and you didn't see it before, it's a HUGE WAKE-UP CALL!

During this interview, we discuss the distinctions between being helpful and enabling. BIG!

So many points you are wise to recognize; seeing the red flags that were somehow excused earlier in the relationship.We talk about why they can be easy to miss, and how we rationalize and excuse them. THEN, what it takes to step away, and see all this from a more empowering, wise perspective. Tracy certainly had to do that when the reality of the behavior of her ex made escaping these realizations impossible.

Here's some interview highlights:

How do you deal with the "new supply" that a narcissistic person requires?
What role does co-dependency play in the Hijackal equation?
How gaslighting plays out in real life situations
How do you know when you're helping someone, OR are actually enabling bad behavior
Why narcissists are on the look out for people-pleasers

HER FREE GIFT: Tracy Malone's RED FLAG CHECKLIST Get it HERE.

CONNECT WITH TRACY MALONE:

Website: NarcissistAbuseSupport.com

Twitter: @TracyAMalone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TracyAMalone

Facebook: Facebook.com/groups/188681268196044

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

#relationshipadvice #tipsforrelationships #Hijackals #toxicpeople #mentalhealthmatters #MHNRNetwork #RhobertaShaler #narcissists #borderlines #antisocial #difficultpeople #emotionalabuse #verbalabuse #stoptoleratingabuse #toxicrelationships #manipulation #walkingoneggshells #mentalhealth #emotionalhealth #abuse #narcissisticabuse #boundaries #personalitydisorder #difficultpeople

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How to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change GUEST: Tina Dietz

Tue, 19 Jun 2018 21:43:20 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

How to Speak Up Powerfully When You Want Things to Change - Episode 44

GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.

What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.

How are you with reasons, rationalizations, justifications, and plain ol' excuses? Maybe, it's time to think them through and see how they are serving you. Listen in for insights and inspiration for moving forward more powerfully.

You deserve to take up space and draw breath, so, why not take stock and see if you're making the most of it? There is no right way to be, and you are at your best when you are examining, and re-examining your focus, your goals, and your desired results. Rhoberta will help you think that through today. Listen in and be inspired to move in the direction of the life and love you want.

GUEST: Tina Dietz, Speaker, Audiobook Publisher, Podcast Producer, Content Marketing Expert

Tina Dietz is an award-winning and internationally acclaimed speaker, audiobook publisher, podcast producer, and content marketing expert who has been featured on media outlets including ABC. Inc.com, Huffington Post, and Forbes. Tina's podcast, The Start Something Show, was named by INC magazine as one of the top 35 podcasts for entrepreneurs. Tina's company, StartSomething Creative Business Solutions, connects leaders, entrepreneurs and experts with larger audiences, resulting in expanded influence and income. Tina divides her time between the US and Cost Rica, where she is part of a leadership team building a conscious community called Vista Mundo.

Tina knows some big things about speaking up! In fact, you could say she's outspoken...lol! With her support, so many people have found their voice and created their businesses, including podcasts. She helps them to become outspoken, too, to give the world the power of their insights, learning, and strategies for growth.

How does someone's voice affect you? Are you aware of its effect on you? You actually are calibrating another person's voice without even realizing...and so is everyone else!

How does your voice affect others? Your voice speaks volume--even before the impact of your words!

Your early life set you up for how you listen, what you pick up, and what you ignore or deny. What did you take on, and how is it serving me now?

Tina Dietz help people express themselves in the world through audio publishing. In Part Two of today's episode, Tina shared her entrepreneurial journey, and how she came to her current work. She is an international expert at helping her clients turn their books and ideas, into audio books and products.

How to ask good questions is imperative to interviewing others. Big talking points about this today!

So many turns and twists in this episode through life stories, Hijackals, and creating a wonderful business. You'll enjoy this, I think!

Here's some interview highlights:

Do you realize how you use your listening to navigate your life and relationships?
Are you in tune with it?
Why is it that you can hear your name spoken, even in a crowded room?
What did you learn early in life about who you are, and how intuitive you are?

Tina gives you insights into why this is and what the impact of it is on how you create your life, relationships, and business.

HER FREE GIFT: Tina's ebook, Launch Your Audio Book. Get it HERE.

CONNECT WITH TINA DIETZ:

Website: StartSomethingCreativeBizSolutions.com

Twitter: @TheSuperStarter

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/TinaDietz

Facebook: Facebook.com/StartSomethingBusinessSolutions

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Change Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus GUEST: Candy Barone

Wed, 13 Jun 2018 15:17:29 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Change Your Life with Powerful Self-Talk & Heart-Centered Focus - Episode 43

GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES! Catalyst and change agent

In today's episode, Dr. Shaler shares compelling ideas about how you can be keeping yourself from having the life and relationships you most want.

What's getting in your way? What's stopping you? Do you know? Stop and think about it...seriously.

GUEST: Candy Barone of You Empowered Strong: YES!

Candy Barone is a leadership expert, a trainer, and executive coach. As a catalyst and change agent, she works with executives and emerging leaders to help bring "heart" back to leadership while feeding the soul of their business. With twenty years in corporate, she is a master at building exceptional, high-performing teams, maximizing and leveraging ROI, growing emerging leaders, and catapulting individuals to achieve explosive growth.

No matter where you are in life--home or work--you're going to experience some difficult conversations. You'll meet some conflict, and some unreasonably folks, too. To be effective--and to feel really good about yourself--you start with the conversations you're having with yourself...especially the ones you don't want to examine.

Candy shares insights on knowing if your inner dialogue needs a tune-up. If it's not working for you, or it's not sufficiently empowering, you are settling for less in life.

Great tips on more empowering ways to talk to yourself and why it's important for having the life and career you say you want. Self-talk is the beginning of everything in your life.

What does it mean to be a leader in your own life? What does it take to be a leader...anywhere?

Knowing how to have what Candy calls "courageous, connected conversations" makes a huge difference in your potential for growth. You need to get comfortable having difficult conversations, to learn to have healthy conversations about conflict.

Are you ready? It might be daunting and difficult at first, but the rewards are HUGE!

Listen in and get these tips and insights to empower yourself to have a better, courageous, connected day!

Here's some interview highlights:

How does your language have to change to be more empowering when you're speaking to yourself
What strategies will work when you walk towards difficult conversations, rather than shy away
Why it is imperative to give up fear of conflict, and develop confidence
What gets in the way of most folks and how they prevent themselves from having what they want

HER FREE GIFT: Take Candy Barone's "Say YES!" quiz HERE.

CONNECT WITH CANDY BARONE:

Website: CandyBaroneInternational.com

Twitter: @Candy_Barone

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/candybarone

Facebook: Facebook.com/YouEmpoweredStrong

Instagram: Instagram.com/candy_barone

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Mental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, or More GUEST: Kristin Walker

Tue, 05 Jun 2018 22:26:55 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

Mental Health: Know What To Do When It's Slipping Into Anxiety, Depression, and More - Episode 42

GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER'S TOPIC: Mental Illness Scares Us More Than A Broken Leg

Today, Dr. Shaler talks about the prevalence of mental health issues in our world, and why it is so essential to remove any stigma from it.

People feel sorry for you, and behave in understanding ways, when you have heart surgery and a twelve-week recovery. Why do people not recognize, and be compassionate, when someone has a twelve-week period of depression, or a day or two of extreme anxiety? It scares them!

The American Psychiatric Association at Psychiatry.org tells us:

"Mental illnesses are health conditions involving changes in thinking, emotion or behavior (or a combination of these). Mental illnesses are associated with distress and/or problems functioning in social, work or family activities.

Mental illness is common. In a given year:

nearly one in five (19 percent) US adults experience some form of mental illness
one in 24 (4.1 percent) has a serious mental illness
one in 12 (8.5 percent) has a substance use disorder

Mental illness is treatable. The vast majority of individuals with mental illness continue to function in their daily lives."

So, let's get real. Mental illness happens to folks around us. Let's be compassionate. Let's not be afraid. Let's not tell them to "snap out of it." Let's help them get the help they need to recover.

GUEST: Kristin Walker, CEO of Mental Health News Radio Network

Kristin's news network was born from her popular podcast downloaded in over 170 countries. It has been on air for four years and has over one million listens. She now produces additional podcasts for others in the field of behavioral health as well as organizations such as McLean Hospital in Boston, Springbrook Behavioral Health in Greenville, SC, and many others. Currently, Kristin's organization is producing over eighteen additional podcasts on the network, all dedicated to eradication of stigma around mental health and addiction disorders.

Kristin is also the CEO of EverythingEHR, a behavioral health consulting firm.

The stigma of mental illness is prevalent, and we need to shift that. Kristin had a Hijackal® home, and the too frequent first marriage to a Hijackal as a result. She knows what we talk about here on Emotional Savvy, and on my sister podcast, Save Your Sanity: Help for Handling Hijackals.

Kristin is all too familiar with the challenges of mental health. I loved what she said about Hijackals:

"They use you as a waste receptacle for their unhealed wounds. Then, dump on you to get a vacation from their waste." Familiar? It was to me!

Kristin shares with us her refreshing look at why we don't recognize how we've been drained without knowing it and what we need to do to refill ourselves...in healthy ways.

Here's some interview highlights:

How can early childhood sexual abuse set you up for having toxic people in your life as an adult
How you can remove yourself from narcissistic relationships
What steps you can take to move out of co-dependent relationships

CONNECT WITH KRISTIN WALKER:

Website: MentalHealthNewsRadio.com

Twitter: @mhnrnetwork

Instagram: @kristinsunanta

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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Help! What About the Money When Thinking About Divorce? GUEST: Michelle Jacobik

Wed, 30 May 2018 00:18:08 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

HELP! What About The Money When Thinking About Divorce - Episode 41

GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce

In this episode, Dr. Shaler introduces a new topic: prosperity. This is the first time she's addressed this.

As you know, Dr. Shaler has written many books, and one called "What You Pay Attention To Expands" offers the keys to understanding how powerful your mind is. Today, she talks about how you can purposefully and intentionally use it because, as she says, "Prosperity begins between your ears."

Prosperity is the state of thriving. Today's tips on how to draw prosperity to you--whether that is relationships, health, success, career, family, whatever kind of prosperity--can help you make shifts in your mindset that will make significant changes in your world.

GUEST: Michelle Jacobik, author of Prosperity After Divorce

Money? It's a big consideration when the topic of divorce comes up. In fact, it keeps people from actually divorcing, sometimes, for a long time! Each time they think of divorcing, they step back because of money issues. Does that sound familiar?

On the back of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce, she wrote,

"Money is linked to our deepest identification with security, fulfillment, stability, and freedom." So, it's quite possible that before we even had a difficult relationship with a partner, we already had a difficult relationship with money. True?

Of course, money is a huge part of every divorce negotiation. And, it's best if you've been used to talking about money with your partner BEFORE YOU DIVORCE. But, if that has not been the case, you need the mindset, skills, and insights that Michelle is sharing in this episode.

Do you know what "compensatory spending" is?" You need to know that, and we discuss it during the episode.

Here's some interview highlights:

How facing your money issues increase your self-confidence
How to keep from feeling like you're free-falling financially
Why you were always told that budgets are good ideas
Insights into debt reduction planning, and saving...even if there is no rainy day in sight

HER FREE GIFT: Free chapter of Michelle's book, Prosperity After Divorce CLICK HERE

CONNECT WITH MICHELLE JACOBIK:

Website: MichelleJacobik.com

Twitter: @MichelleJacobik

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/michellejacobik

Facebook: Facebook.com/prosperityafterdivorce

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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How to Keep Yourself Safe: Verbally, Physically, Emotionally GUEST: Susan Harrow

Thu, 17 May 2018 23:20:57 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO KEEP YOURSELF SAFE: VERBALLY, PHYSICALLY, EMOTIONALLY - Episode 40

GUEST: Susan Harrow, Creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls

Do people respect you? Or, do they take you for granted? Maybe, there are only one or two people who get your knickers in a twist in that way, and this needs straightening out right away.

Don't feel like a victim. There's no need. You can do something about it.

You might have "Boundary-itis!" Dr. Shaler talks about how you can empower yourself by clarifying, expressing, and maintaining your boundaries...and WHY that's essential to your well-being!

Sure, you know that setting boundaries is a good thing, but this information is SO compelling that you'll want to listen so you can put it in place right away!

GUEST: Susan Harrow, CEO of PRSecrets.com and creator of TRUE SHIELD: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls

Susan Harrow is a world renowned media coach and martial artist. She has a black belt in Aikido and is author of the best-selling book, Sell Yourself Without Selling Your Soul (HarperCollins). For the past 28 years she's run Harrow Communications, a media consultancy, where she's media trained thousands of people in verbal and non-verbal communications.

She’s created a course called True Shield: Verbal Self-Defense For Girls that teaches young women 12-24 how to protect themselves in 10 of life’s most difficult and dangerous situations that they’ll likely encounter — and stay safe. Her newest offering is a woman’s empowerment course that helps prevent sexual harassment in the workplace, in social situations and at school. Women can get free training in her Prevent Sexual Assault Vault + #NotMe Movement

In this empowering episode with Susan, we covered some new areas of keeping yourself safe. I asked Susan why she thinks we need to be empowered. Interesting answer.

Here's some interview highlights:

Why you need to set boundaries that send a clear message and head off sexual harassment, sexual assault, tough challenges, unwanted flirtation or invasion of your space
How you can set up situations properly to prevent arguing about your boundaries, rules, or standards
Responding appropriately--and effectively--to intimidation
How Susan found Akido a key to empowering herself and the girls she teaches
Using language as self-defense to prevent an attack

And, she helps you understand how to create physical distance in threatening situations, too.

HER FREE GIFT: The 100 word email that can get the media calling you for interviews. CLICK HERE

CONNECT WITH SUSAN HARROW:

Website: PRSecrets.com

Twitter: @SoundBiteSiren

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/susanharrow

Facebook: Facebook.com/susanharrow

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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How to Leave a Hijackal With Your Spiritual Self Intact GUEST: Lily Sanders

Tue, 08 May 2018 19:08:51 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: The Relationship Help Show

with Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO LEAVE A HIJACKAL WITH YOUR SPIRITUAL SELF INTACT - Episode 38

GUEST: Lily Sanders, Author of Truth to Triumph: A Spiritual Guide to Finding Your Truth

DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

You've likely not happy when you blurt something out, and think better of it later, right?

You want to have the presence of mind to be your best self, even in the face of irrationality, rudeness, and toxicity.

Today's show begins with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler sharing how to be able to respond, rather than react, even in difficult circumstances, with difficult, toxic people. You can bring your best self forward, even in those moments.Using these tips can significantly increase your self-confidence, too.

GUEST: Lily Sanders

Lily Sander's life experiences with domestic violence, co-parenting, and intense compassion have gifted her a purpose to write, influence and coach others. She specializes in transition and spiritual guidance. She teaches others how to stop seeing themselves as a victim, and instead, learn how to use these experiences to become an empowered expression of love and truth.

Being held captive by a relentlessly difficult, unpredictable partner is frightening. And, it gets worse when you have children! Today's guest, Lily Sanders, walked through this, and she shares her journey and the wisdom she gained from the experience. You may be in a similar situation, and her story can light your path to a safer future. A few things we discussed:

How to get ready to face the truth of a long-term difficult relationship
What is takes to recognize what's happening as abuse
How "guarding your thoughts" applies to parenting
Key things you can change in your life to experience inner peace

CONNECT WITH LILY SANDERS:

Website: LilySanders.live

Twitter: @LilySanders11

LinkedIn: Linkedin.com/in/lilyproject1415

Facebook: Facebook.com/lilysanders.live

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

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How To Live With Few Regrets & Move Towards Success GUEST: Scott Kimbro

Wed, 04 Apr 2018 01:00:00 GMT

The Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW TO LIVE WITH FEW REGRETS AND MOVE TOWARDS SUCCESS

Highlights:

Dr. Shaler talks about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?"

Guest: Scott Kimbro, Author of SubmUrgency: How To Live & Die Without Regrets

Dr. Shaler offers her own tricks on how to stop wasting time on regrets

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Moving towards success is never a straightforward path...at least, not for most people. There are curves, sidelines, and setbacks. Sometimes, we're derailed. Sometimes, though, we derail ourselves. Dr. Shaler starts today's show off by talking about "Are You Mistaking Activity for Progress?" It's a very important question to consider.

So easy to fool yourself. As long as you're busy, you're doing the right thing. Not actually true, right? You can get quite caught up in finding out if there really are 1000 staples in that little box while you're actively putting off finishing a project!

Do you know your high-value activities, and do them first? Your productivity--and your self-esteem--will rise when you stop mistaking activity for progress.

Today's guest, Scott Kimbro, is the author of SubmUrgency: How to Live and Die Without Regret . You define success for yourself. No matter what that is, you'll need to be able to trust yourself to make good decisions.

Scott and Dr. Rhoberta Shaler talk about empowering yourself to confidently step up and live fully. Even if things are difficult--or have been--you can feel good about how you respond to life, and the results you create. It's possible to not recognize how urgent something really is. That's a good starting place.

In submUrgency, Scott defines three kinds of urgency in life:

" Obvious Urgency - A situation that demands immediate attention that usually has negative consequences if not addressed.

Limited/Optional Urgency - A situation that one can choose to embrace or ignore; however, if it is embraced and fulfilled with a high degree of urgency, it can have amazing results.

Hidden Urgency or SubmUrgency - A situation that is right in front of us but is not readily seen unless we are taught how to find it."

Scott Kimbro offered this wonderful quote from Pablo Picasso:

"Only put off until tomorrow what you are willing to die having left undone."

Wow! That's a wake-up call, isn't it? Whether that's a call to your mother, kissing your partner, or finishing your book, only you know what you want to do, and how you want to use your time. We discuss this more fully in today's show.

And, more about living without regrets from Dr. Shaler. There are a few things you can think through that will help you make decisions without regrets. She offers one big thing to think about that can help you feel good about your decisions, and reduce the likelihood of regretting your choices in life and relationships.

Learn more about the finer points of seeing and responding to these levels of urgency, and moving forward towards the life and relationships you want during today's show.

Click here for more About Scott Kimbro:

I am Scott Kimbro, a man who loves to teach. I am a Christian, husband, father, author, inspirational speaker and teacher. I, my wife, and our two daughters live in Spring Hill, Tennessee. My professional background includes accounting, banking, various managerial positions and entrepreneur of both traditional and network marketing companies.

In traditional business, I was the Chief Operating Officer of Kimbro Oil Company in Nashville, Tennessee. In the network marketing space my wife and I became Diamond Executives with a wellness company.

Click here for more About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent & ongoing care for relationships in crisis. She awakens listeners to recognize--and stop tolerating abuse from--the relentlessly difficult, toxic people she calls Hijackals®. Author: 16 books. Host of The Relationship Help Show. She works with clients worldwide through video conferencing. You can schedule a free consultation at https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Dr. Shaler website: https://forRelationshipHelp.com

Subscribe to her YouTube Channel: https://YouTube.com/ForRelationshipHelp

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's newsletter, Tips for Relationships

If you have not worked with Dr. Shaler before, you can have your first one-hour session for only $97.

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Is Your Family History Ruining Your Relationship Life? GUEST: Johanna Lynn

Wed, 28 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT

Relationship Help Show with Dr Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Dr. Shaler opens the show with thoughts on things you might believe about yourself if you were raised by a Hijackal®

Guest, Johanna Lynn, Clinical Hypnotherapist

All that happened to you in life affects everything that is currently happening in your life. If you are not getting the results in life and relationships that you want, then, you want to listen to this episode for sure.

Dr. Shaler talks about a common issue: hoping someone will bring up a difficult situation so you don't have to.

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Raised by a Hijackal®? You Might Believe This Deep Down...and It's a Lie!

Unless you've had a reason or taken the time to think deeply about the home your grew up in, you might not recognize that you had a relentlessly difficult, toxic parent. If you did, the things you learned before you even could walk are affecting everything, on auto-pilot. That Hijackal parent taught you who you were and what to expect from life, and that parent lied to you. Really! Listen in.

When you recognize what you were raised in, and who you were raised by, you'll recognize the need for help to change a few things that can make your life and relationships so much more fulfilling.

Schedule a free consultation with Dr. Shaler: https://ForRelationshipHelp.com/free-consult

Enjoy her videos on YouTube: httsp://youtube.com/forrelationshiphelp

GUEST: Johanna Lynn Part 1 Inherited Family Ties and Traits

Why are you comfortable being treated in ways that make you uncomfortable? Learn how your nervous system learned this, and may be settling for taking crumbs from the family table.

Families share operating systems, family patterns, family traits. Learn how your inner images of yourself and your family play out in your life now. Epigenetic patterns.

GUEST Johanna Lynn Part 2 Inherited Family Ties and Traits

Did you have an emotionally unavailable parent? Did you have an absent parent? The loss that this created is part of your "emotional body."

Trust. Where did you learn to trust, or why not to trust? Your family! Listen as Johanna and Dr. Shaler share the impact of your family on your daily life today.

It's easy to say to yourself, "Yes, I know. My family was tough, and I'm doing OK." You like are. The thing is, if you take the time to dive into some beliefs you have that you might not even be aware of, you can unleash the power within you to have the life, love, and success you want. Discover where you may have been shut down early on. This can limit you, and it's not necessary.

Johanna Lynn spoke of her process:

"The first thing I do is I want to take a little bit of family history from both sides so that we can make sense of what is pretty much dysfunctional of where it feels familiar, why it feels right or or common in the body to feel disrespected, to be spoken to poorly, whatever the the need and want kind of ratio that push pull between a couple can be that are immersed in high conflict, so a lot of times when we can get a little bit of family history, we can step beyond the story."

Learn more about Johann Lynn HERE

Are You Waiting For Someone Else To Go First?

Are you afraid to bring up issues, or talk about a conflict, a need, or your feelings? Many people hope their partners will bring up problems. That doesn't work well.

Dr. Shaler give you some insights into what's really going on when these are the dynamics of a relationship. More importantly, she helps you know how to approach a problem, and how to talk it through. Feel confident bringing up difficult things, and increase your chances of solving problems. Be assertive. Then, you won't be afraid of becoming aggressive.

Stay in touch. Subscribe to Dr. Shaler's TIPS FOR RELATIONSHIPS: https://forrelationshiphelp.com/subscribe

CONNECT WITH DR. RHOBERTA SHALER:

Facebook: RelationshipHelpDoctor

The Relationship Help Show with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

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How to Manage Uncertainty, Ambiguity and Chaos in Relationships GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones

Wed, 21 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT

HOW TO MANAGE UNCERTAINTY, AMBIGUITY & CHAOS IN RELATIONSHIPS

Toxic people thrive on--and, therefore create--uncertainty, ambiguity and chaos. That's how they gain power and control over people, conversations, and circumstances. Today's show will help you see where and how you are being controlled by uncertainty...even when you don't think it's possible.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you strategies for safely saying what you mean, at the time it needs to be said.

Guest, Dr Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty, offers a definition of uncertainty and why it can be a good thing. Who knew? Dr. Shaler asks him a whole lot of questions about this! For instance, can you be fully present and detached at the same time?

Q & A Today: My partner left me. Should I take my partner back?

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How To Learn To Say What You Mean - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

You're often taught to bite your tongue, right? Somehow, speaking your truth is discouraged, almost as though what you have to say has no value and doesn't matter. Then, you get in the way of not speaking up when you are discounted, degraded, or verbally abused. That leads to emotional abuse. So, these insights can help you find your voice...and use it!

GUEST: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones, author of The Art of Uncertainty

Hijackals®, those toxic people who are impossible to please and difficult to live with make it their life's work to keep you in uncertainty and second-guessing yourself. Dennis gives another view of uncertainty that is much more positive and appealing. He offers spiritual views for dealing with practical matters in a refreshing way.

Dennis says that,

"The whole point of this book is that you'd have no control over the future. You have absolutely no control over your next breath in the present moment. So the the choice should be: how are you going to choose to experience this moment? Because it is a choice we have when we can understand that we can deal with fear differently than perhaps we have in the past. It doesn't mean fears going to go away, but it means we develop a new relationship with fear that allows us to be in charge of our experience in the moment."

Would you like to know how to know when to let go of wrongs, worries, fears, and pain? In this segment, we talk about four important pillars: choice, faith, curiosity, and action. All help you to create a life that moves in positive directions and towards manifesting the relationships and dreams you most want.

Q&A: Should I Take My Partner Back Again?

So many times, Hijackals® leave in a fit of righteousness to punish you. Hijackals must be right...always. You've likely noticed that. Then, they want to come back. They "love bomb" you: saying and doing all the right, loving things you've been longing to hear. Here's why you have to think clearly, remember well, and stand your ground.

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Is That Passive-Aggressive? GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance

Wed, 14 Mar 2018 01:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Is the behavior you're upset about passive-aggressive? Dr. Shaler gives you tips for recognizing and managing passive-aggressive behaviors. They can be so frustrating and infuriating. Respond well to passive-aggressive behavior. If you don't, it will continue, and the relationship will stay stuck!

Guest: Dr. Ganz Ferrance talks about men and his book, The ME Factor: Your Systematic Guide to Getting What the Hell You Want.

#1 Introduction to Episode 35#2 What is Passive-Aggressive Behavior?

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you recognize passive-aggressive traits. Her book, Stop! That's Crazy-Making! How To Quit Playing the Passive-Aggressive Game, is also a big help for you to know how to respond in healthier and more effective ways to the sneaky nature of passive-aggressive behavior.

#3 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 1

Dr. Ganz wrote his book, The ME Factor, to focus on men--particularly men thirty to fifty years old--and why their stress often goes unnoticed, and why it's important for them to focus on reducing it as early as possible. Cultural conditioning has much to do with it, however, awareness can be the biggest factor. Learn what you need to do to reduce stress--physical, emotional, relationship, career stress,

#4 GUEST: Dr. Ganz Ferrance Part 2

How do you strike a balance in life? How can men, in particular, find balance between taking care of themselves and their families and careers? What are the pitfalls? How do you avoid them? What do you need to be aware of to have the life you want?#5 How to Stop Second Guessing Yourself - Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

If you were raised by Hijackals® or were in relationship with one, you are going to be confused. And, the Hijackal is going to do his or her best to keep you confused, uncertain, and preferably, living in emotional chaos. The point: to keep you second-guessing yourself. Learn how to stop now. It can save your sanity!

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Dr. Ganz presents his information in a straightforward, down-to- earth, no-nonsense way and does not present anything that he has not personally put his blood, sweat, and tears into. This approach has made him sought-after in media and as a public speaker. He has been interviewed on Good Morning Canada, and in Psychology Today, Ebony magazines as well as many other radio, TV shows and publications.

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Do Hijackals Become Wonderful With A New Partner? GUEST: Bree Bonchay

Wed, 07 Mar 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

HOW CAN I LEARN TO TRUST? Part 2

Today. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler offers further insights into learning to trust, and learning to trust AGAIN.

Trust is such an essential element in a healthy relationship. You may have had previous experiences with folks in your life where you sadly learned you could not trust them. This tends to color your new relationships. Dr. Shaler offers insights to help you gain a new perspective on building trust, a new way of thinking about it that can offer help and hope.

If you missed Part 1, listen to Episode 33.

DO HIJACKALS BECOME WONDERFUL WHEN THEY GET A NEW LOVE?

GUEST: Bree Bonchay, MSW, LCSW

Can a toxic partner really change? A Hijackal®?

What is up with the Hijackal leaving you after being verbally and emotionally abusive, and taking up with a new partner, all sweetness and light? Can a Hijackal really change? And, that quickly?

Does a new partner bring out the best in a narcissist? It often seems that way, doesn't it? And, then, you wonder,

"If s/he can be that happy, laughing and loving, with someone new, was it me? Was I inadequate?"

And, you know what, that's exactly what the Hijackal delights in you thinking. That's because--wait for it--everything was your fault, right?

Bree Bonchay and I take a loaded psychological phrase that is really helpful in understanding why this is all so confusing and we unpack it. You'll understand better why you have the misgivings, and why and how you can set them to rest now.

In Part 2 of the interview, interesting insights into attitude and agreeableness. You'll want to hear about this agreeableness, and it's not what you think.

Very helpful interview to understand why you have such mixed emotions when leaving a Hijackal, and then, when the Hijackal finds new "supply" and seems to be so different from the person you last knew. Listen in.

Why does it seem that the Hijackal® has become an amazing, wonderful person with the new love of their life. Is it real? Today's show will help you to see what's really going on. You need to know.

Bree Bonchay is licensed psychotherapist with almost two decades of experience working in the field of mental health and trauma recovery. She specializes in helping people recover from toxic relationships, and shares her insights about Narcissistic Personality Disorder and psychopathy in her blog FreeFromToxic. Her articles have been featured in major online magazines, she is the founder World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day, (WNAAD), which is celebrated every 1st of June, and she is on the Board of Directors for The Association for NPD/Psychopathy Educators & Survivor Treatment More About Bree Bonchay, LCSW, psychotherapist

Rhoberta Shaler, PhD, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the convenience of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals. More About Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

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Guest: Michael Wayne Regier, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Marriage Therapist

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How to Get Over Betrayal and Trauma to Trust Again

Wed, 28 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

How Can I Trust? Recovering from Relationship Trauma & Betrayal

Dr. Michael Wayne Regier received his PhD from the California School of Professional psychology. Early in his career he was on the faculty in the department of psychiatry at the Johns Hopkins School of medicine. He did a post doctoral internship in couples group psychotherapy with Dr. Judy Coche in Philadelphia.

He is currently the founder and Director of The Center for Relational Excellence in Visalia where he works full time as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.

He and his wife Paula have written a book for couples called Emotional Connection: The Story and Science of Preventing Conflict and Creating Lifetime Love.

Dr. Regier works with couples in crisis and toxic relationships. Many couples have traumatic injuries due to relationship betrayals. Often couples come in on the verge of divorce looking for some way to escape their destructive cycle and rediscover the love that brought them together.

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Learn to Say NO! to Toxic People GUEST: Laura Rubinstein

Wed, 21 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

New insights on how to find love and support within yourself, to commit to creating and maintaining your healthy, safe life with other humans.

Do You Want to Feel Showered with Appreciation?

Do these things. Insights from Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Guest Conversation with Laura Rubinstein -

Learn to Say No. What it Takes and Why We're Reluctant to Do It

Toxic people, difficult people, push you to do what they want you to do. Learn to say no.

They will shame you, blame you, and game you into it…or, at least try.

And, when you allow the manipulation, you feel one of two things:

hopeful that, if you do what they want, they will like you more, or treat you better, or
defeated, and ashamed or sorry, that you once again are giving in to them.

Neither of those feelings is helpful when you are in a relationship with a Hijackal®, right? Either way, you are disempowered.

You want to be in control of what you do, think, feel, and want. That's your right!

Toxic people will even go so far as to tell you what you feel or think, or at a minimum, what they think you should do, think feel, and want. You’ve noticed that, I’m sure. Don’t let them do that. They want to define your reality for you. If you let them, they will take over your life.

Focus on saying YES! to yourself.

What do you want?
What do you value?
What is OK with you?
How do you want to be treated?
What is your vision for your life?
How do you want to feel in relationships?
What do you believe and how are you demonstrating that?

You have the absolute right to do your life your way! Therefore, you need to learn to say no to others sometimes, and learn to say yes to yourself more often. That's usually what's required to regain your balance.

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Laura Rubinstein is a Certified Hypnotherapist, Master Leadership Coach, Bestselling Author, and award winning Social Media and Marketing Strategist. She is the creator the Savvy Social Media Success course, and founder of Social Buzz Club. During the past 20+ years, Laura has optimized brand marketing strategies for over 1,000 businesses. She is the author of the bestselling book Social Media Myths Busted, Transform Your Body in the Mental Gym and the Feminine Power Cards (endorsed by John Gray, PhD of Mars Venus). These wisdom cards offer practical tools that allow people to make profound shifts in their relationships and professional life. Laura’s writings are featured in a variety of publications including the Amazon bestselling books Women Living Consciously and Journey to Joy, as well as on genConnect.com, YourTango.com and her popular TransformToday.com blog.

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Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor, provides urgent and ongoing care relationships in crisis. She particularly helps the partners, exes, adult children & co-workers of the crazy-making, relentlessly difficult people she calls “Hijackals®.” She helps them save their sanity and stop the crazy-making. Even the United States Marines have called on her for help!

A relationship expert, mediator, speaker & author of sixteen books, Dr. Shaler consults with clients worldwide through the magic of the internet. She is the host of two podcasts: Emotional Savvy: The Relationship Help Show, and Save Your Sanity! Help for Handling Hijackals.

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Love Yourself, Tune Up Your Self-Confidence, & Step Out! Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Wed, 14 Feb 2018 02:57:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Valentine's Day Show: It All Starts With Loving Yourself.

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler gives you insights, wisdom, and great tips for jumpstarting self-confidence.

It Happened To Me - True Stories: Wendy Newman - Dating a Wealthy Man and Oops!

Do you really need a new love story? It starts with you.

What You Really Need to Have a Great Relationship

Tune In and Turn Up Your Self-Confidence.

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CHANGES: Is It Time to Change? GUEST: Filippo Voltaggio

Wed, 07 Feb 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

CHANGES: Do You Need to Change To Have the Life & Relationship You Want? What Needs to Change?

Guest: Filippo Voltaggio, Life Coach / Author / Radio Host

Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.

From early childhood Filippo Voltaggio never believed in pigeonholing himself into any one thing. When asked, “what he wanted to be when he grew up,” he would proclaim, “I want to be Filippo.”

Filippo grew up to be Filippo, and his career path and life experiences have been unique to only him.

From early childhood to adulthood he acted and sang on stages from small to large, local to International, in plays, musicals, operas and his own concerts, including he and his music being in a handful of Hollywood Films and CDs played on international radio stations.

Early on as a business professional he worked as a Junior Manager at IBM, a Fortune 500 Company, in the number three slot, at the time.

From business to life coach, radio host and...

Filippo has been recognized with several awards. Most notably, he received two awards from President Barack Obama, one in his first term, “The President’s Call to Service Award,” and one at the end of his second term, “The President’s Lifetime Achievement Award.” He also received the “Master Award” from the Save The World Foundation.

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BULLYING: At Home, at work, at School. GUEST: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond

Wed, 31 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

BULLYING. It could be happening to you, at home or at work. It could be happening to your child. Timely, practical insights into how to make it stop.

Guest: Dr. Nekeshia Hammond talks with Dr. Shaler about how you can help your children deal with bullying, ADHD, and school issues. Learn how to respond well and speak up effectively.

Dr. Nekeshia Hammond was raised in Orlando, Florida and now resides in the Tampa Bay area with her spouse and 5-year-old son. When not working, she greatly enjoys spending time with her family and learning about the joys of life through the eyes of her young son.

Dr. Hammond is the owner of Hammond Psychology & Associates, a private practice designed to help children, teens, families, and adults. She has over a decade of experience working in the field of psychology. She has also been featured in various TV, radio, and magazines throughout the country, and she is the TV host of Parenting Explained with Dr. Hammond. The show features parenting experts who provide their knowledge about different parenting issues, such as education, mental health, family bonding, and self-care, to name a few, and episodes will begin airing in early 2018. To learn more about the shows, please visit: DrHammondShow.com.

Dr. Hammond is the author of The Practical Guide to Raising Emotionally Healthy Children; Finding Balance in a Stressful World: A Short Guide for Today's Busy Mom; as well as ADHD Explained: What Every Parent Needs to Know (to be released on May 8, 2018).

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Call It What It Is: Abuse! US Olympic gymnasts. GUESTS: Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner

Wed, 24 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

URGENT TOPIC! Dr. Shaler has convened two insightful women to join her In a timely response to the court statements of Aly Raisman of US Gymnastics Team to her accused abuser, Dr. Larry Nassar.

ABUSE! Systemic abuse! Why doesn't anyone listen to the victims? Is it because they are children? OUTRAGEOUS!

Guests Liberty Forrest and Christine Baumgartner discuss how to recognize all kinds of abuse...and call it what it is!

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Attachment: What Happens When It Goes Sideways. Guest: Dr. Gary Salyer

Wed, 17 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

ATTACHMENT: WHAT HAPPENS WHEN IT GOES SIDEWAYS AND WHY THAT MATTERS

Guest: Gary Salyer, PhD, author of Safe To Love Again

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.

Dr. Salyer is the creator of the Safe to Love Again™ Workshop and the Extraordinary Couples™ and Extraordinary Singles™ Retreats. He is also a highly sought after guest on various podcasts, TV and radio shows such as The Aware Show on Hay House Radio.

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Intuition, Loving Yourself and New Beginnings. Guest: Liberty Forrest

Wed, 10 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Guest: Liberty Forrest - What It Takes To Trust Your Gut and Intuition

Liberty Forrest is an award-winning author, a columnist and Huffington Post contributor. She's written articles for numerous publications in several countries and has written several books. Previously, she specialised in non-fiction inspirational self-help books but she now focuses on family saga fiction with a paranormal element.

Liberty's professional background is in social work and counselling, later adding hypnosis to her bag of tricks to further help her clients.

Drawing on her own turbulent life and healing journey, which had its roots in childhood abuse, she combines her personal and professional experiences with her passion for writing, resulting in gripping, compelling stories that readers say they can't put down.

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Hijackals, Conflict and Tough Conversations. Guest: Charmaine Hammond

Wed, 03 Jan 2018 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Guest: Charmaine Hammond, Communication, Collaboration, Conflict Resolution Expert

Charmaine Hammond, CSP, expert in communication, collaboration & conflict resolution has facilitated the resolution of some of the most complex workplace and family conflicts. She is a professional speaker, author and is passionate about building more kindness in workplaces, and communities. She now works with businesses and entrepreneurs to help them build relationships and successful collaborations.

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Stop the Toxic Dance and Recognize Hijackals® with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Tue, 26 Dec 2017 15:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Today's episode is all Dr. Shaler. She created the non-clinical term, Hijackals®, to give everyone a way to talk about the patterns, traits, and cycles of people with tendencies towards personality disorders.

It's important to recognize when you're with a Hijackal. If you don't, you will think that everything in the relationship is your fault, because that's what the Hijackal tells you. You'll soon be making yourself into a people-pleasing pretzel, trying to be good enough. And, it's not your fault.

THIS IS AN IMPORTANT EPISODE. Listen.

Seg. 1: How to Spot a Hijackal & Stop the Toxic Dance

Seg. 2: Love-Bombing: It's Not as Desirable As It Sounds

Seg 3: 12 Signs Your Are in a Love/Hate Relationship That Needs Help

Seg 4: Recognize Verbal Abuse For What It Is Now

Seg 5: Q & A: My mother is always finding fault and I can't stand it another minute. "

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Hijackals & Spirituality. Guest: Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones

Tue, 19 Dec 2017 09:44:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Guest, Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones

Intro - Hijackals, Power, and Spirituality

Unconditional Love Can Be a Very Dangerous Myth with a Hijackal in Your Life

GUEST:

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 1 Becoming Who You Were Born to Be

Dr. Dennis Merritt-Jones - Part 2 Spirituality is Not About Having Power Over People

Dr. Rhoberta Shaler - Spirituality, Hijackals, and You. What To Do.

Throughout his lifetime, Dennis Merritt Jones has been on a quest to inspire and lift people to a higher expression of life. His personal vision is to guide people to their purpose, knowing that when one fully awakens to who they are and why they are on the planet, they begin to naturally share their gift with humankind and, in the process, create an enriching life for themselves and the world around them.

In addition to his books, Dennis is a columnist for the Huffington Post and for Science of Mind magazine. He is also a member of the Leadership Council for the Association for Global New Thought (AGNT), an organization whose mission is to consciously bring forth the evolving human and an awakened world through the practice of universal spiritual principles and the energy of unconditional love.

Dennis believes we each have the capacity and, ultimately, the responsibility to contribute something positive to this world, leaving it a better place than it was when we arrived. His teachings promote a contemporary, life-affirming, spiritually logical and positive outlook on life, which are reflected in his writings.

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Recognizing Relationship Predators: Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Wed, 13 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT

Have You Become the Unwitting Prey of a HIjackal® Predator?

SEG 2 - Jan: I Knew Better But I Married Him Anyway

SEG 3 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 1. Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

SEG 4 - Hijackals are Predators - Pt 2 Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

SEG 5 - Dating Red Flags That Mean Long-Term Relationship Trouble

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Co-Parenting and Keeping Your Sanity. Guest: Karen Covy

Wed, 06 Dec 2017 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Guest, Karen Covy - Divorcing A Hijackal® When Children Are Involved

Karen Covy, divorce adviser, attorney, coach. It is imperative to know how to divorce a difficult person, a Hijackal, a toxic person. It is a different approach with different preparation. You have to know how to present things effectively to your attorney, and how to present yourself in court. SO much to know. That's the gift of today's episode.

Effective Co-Parenting with A Difficult Ex - Part 1

Effective Divorce Agreements for Co-Parenting, Part 2

What You Need To Do For Your Kids When Co-Parenting With A Hijackal® Ex

I help people get through their divorce with dignity and confidence so that, when their divorce ends, they are ready to begin again, and create a life that they love. I am a divorce attorney, mediator, Collaborative Divorce professional, arbitrator, consultant and coach. I have spent decades helping people get divorced in every way that there is to do that. So, at this point, I know what works and what doesn't. I'm dedicated to sharing that information with those thinking about or facing divorce so that they can get through their divorce with less destruction.

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How to See Red Flags of Dating Disasters Guest: Lorna Poole

Tue, 28 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Guest, Lorna Poole - Going from Dating Disaster to Finding Long-Time Love

How's Your Dating Radar? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler helps you see why you may be missing red flags

Guest, Dating Coach Lorna Poole, talks candidly how dating disasters woke her up to what she really wanted and how she found long-time love and what it took to get it.

She is the Founder & CEO of Lorna Poole, Magnet For Love Coaching. After her own love disaster; she decided it was time to get it right. She realized she kept attracting the wrong guys and knew if she never took her love life seriously, she would never meet her Mr. Right. Luckily for Lorna, she is now in a loving relationship with her “great guy”.

Lorna Poole is an associated certified coach (ACC) through the International Coach Federation (ICG) as well as an Energy Leadership Index Assessment Master Practitioner (ELI-MP). She is podcast show host for Magnet For Love Podcast and professional speaker passionate about empowering women to move beyond the fear, pain, and regret that has held them back from attracting the partner they truly want and deserve.

She has been featured on Good Men Project, YourTango, Thoughtcatalog Eharmony, TodayFM & Newstalk Ireland, telesummits and podcasts alike.

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Hijackals at Work: Workplace Bullying. Guest: Judy Hoberman

Wed, 22 Nov 2017 02:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

GUEST: Judy Hoberman, author of Walking on the Glass Floor on Workplace Bullying

Workplace bullying is a top cause of stress, and a leading cause of quitting. It creates a hostile and toxic environment, often because the bullies are allowed to get away with their behavior. In this episode we discuss how to effectively deal with these types of people in your workplace, so you can get on with enjoying your job, and lowering your stress levels.

Intro: Difficult People at work

How to Deal with Difficult People at Work

Judy Hoberman Pt 1 - First impressions: Important, Accurate or Not

Judy Hoberman Pt 2 - How to distance yourself from difficult people and succeed in the work world

What to do with a bully at work

Judy Hoberman, President of Selling In A Skirt- International Speaker, Trainer, Coach and Mentor. Her 30 years in sales has given her both the knowledge and sense of humor about how men and women sell, work and live differently will enlighten you in learning how both genders can support each other’s successes in a more productive way.

Her audiences, from 10 to 10,000 are engaged with details wrapped in memorable stories that are easily implemented that same day. In 2016 she was a TEDx speaker talking about pre-judging people, something we all do without even thinking. She is the author of “Selling In A Skirt”, “Famous Isn’t Enough”, “Pure Wealth” and her latest book on Women Who Lead will be released shortly.

Judy’s mission…to help her clients live the S.K.I.R.T. philosophy-Standing Out, Keys to Success, Inspiring Others, Results Oriented and Time Management…while having fun.

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Hooked on Hope & Hijackals. Guest: Shirlene Reeves

Tue, 14 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT

Seg 1 - Intro - Hooked on Hope & Hijackals

Seg 2 - Verbal Abuse is Too Common

Seg 3 - Shirlene Reeves Part 1 - How Hijackals Changed My Life

Seg 4 - Shirlene Reeves Part 2 - How I left. What I learned. Being Hijackal-free.

Seg 5 - Too much drama

Shirlene Reeves, one of only 253 Certified Financial Educators in the US, a web TV show host and a syndicated radio host on BBS Radio, publisher of Wealthy Woman Magazine and the author of Selling Through Your Heart - Empowering You To Build Relationships For Financial Freedom. Shirlene is an in-demand international keynote speaker specializing in educating coaches, authors and entrepreneurs with answers for transforming their businesses by selling with heart, developing confidence, and stepping onto stages, web TV, podcasts and radio for massive, marketing visibility.

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Signs of Abuse. Guest: Dr. Lee Baucom

Tue, 07 Nov 2017 14:00:00 GMT

How do you know if you're actually experiencing verbal abuse? What can you do to stop it? How best to respond?

GUEST: Dr. Lee Baucom, creator of the Save The Marriage System. We'll discuss when and what marriages can be saved, and how to know when it's time to part ways.

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Dr. Lee Baucom is the creator of the internet marriage program, Save The Marriage. Dr. Baucom has over a quarter of a century of experience helping couples and individuals learn to thrive. Dr. Baucom is trained as a therapist and life coach. In addition to therapy and coaching, Dr. Baucom has provided consultation for organizations and businesses. Dr. Baucom is also a popular speaker on a number of topics relating to thriving.

Dr. Baucom is happily married, having just celebrated a 28th anniversary. He and his wife have two children. In his spare time, Dr. Baucom scuba dives, paddleboards, and trail runs.

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Difficult or Dangerous? Dr. Rhoberta Shaler

Wed, 01 Nov 2017 01:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

A new season begins! New format, new guests!

Seg 1 - 6 minutes Intro to Episode

Seg 2 - Q & A Filed for Divorce

Seg 3 - What's up? Power in Positions - Harvey Weinstein

Seg 4 - Is Your Relationship Difficult or Dangerous?

Seg 5 - Have You Given Up Your Boundaries?

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Trauma-Bonding. What and How. Guest: Dr. Gary Salyer

Wed, 25 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT

Are you so attached to someone that you are "hooked on hope" that one day they will treat you better? Today, we talk about trauma-bonding and why you need to know about it.

Guest, Dr. Gary Salyer, talks about the six rights you have in life, and how having or not having them will make all the difference in creating healthy relationships. Dr. Salyer is the author of Safe to Love Again, a book you absolutely need if you've ever been deeply hurt by a relationship.

Dr. Gary Salyer speaks to audiences across the country as a featured expert, inspirational speaker on how to create the love we all deserve. He is an expert in Attachment Theory, the science of relationships, Bert Hellinger's Family Systems approach and Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). As a master transformational relationship coach, Dr. Gary helps people re-write the rules for love in their brains.

Smart, savvy, professional women in their thirties, forties and fifties who are tired of the heartache in their love lives are resonating with the message of ‘safe to love again.’ Gary’s biggest passion is to help both singles and couples discover how they can have a loving sweetheart lying beside them at night, rather than a lonely pillow or a frustrated, distant partner.

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Are You Emotionally Safe? Guest, Antia Boyd

Wed, 18 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT

Are you emotionally safe in your relationships? You may not have been, even with your parents. In this episode, Dr. Shaler talks about how to recognize and create emotional safety.

Guest, Antia Boyd, of MagnetizeTheMan.com emphasizes that the ability--and safety--to be vulnerable in your primary relationship is paramount.

Don't miss this.

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Antia Boyd struggled for years with fear, wasting time and attracting emotionally unavailable men before she finally broke through, hired a dating coach and met her loving, spiritual and supportive husband! She has now helped thousands of single women all over the world to start finding the right man for them to share their life with & have a loving relationship quickly without lack of trust, poor communication or old issues getting in the way for over 11+ years.

Antia studied Personality Psychology at U.C. Berkeley, has spoken at Google and on hundreds of stages and radio shows all over the world, and for over a decade studied everything that she could get her hands on in the areas of men, dating & attracting a happy, long-term & safe relationship with the right man effectively without the fear of vulnerability, sadness or anxiety. She now lives in the beautiful San Diego area of California with her open, handsome and honest husband Brody.

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Building Self Confidence - Guest Betsy Chasse

Wed, 11 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT

Would you like to feel more self-confident? Able to speak up and show up as strong and empowered? Today's show is all about the how-to's for that.

Guest, Betsy Chasse, embodies an empowered life. An award-winning filmmaker, author, and entrepreneur, Betsy openly shares the ups and downs she's experienced and how she boldly treads forward...confidently.

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Betsy is an award winning filmmaker (What The Bleep Do We Know?!, Song of The New Earth, Pregnant In America) and a Best-Selling Author (Tipping Sacred Cows, Dancing In The Unknown (new), It Came out of My Vagina, Now What?! (A book on Conscious Parenting). She recently launched a new web series Radical Dating which follows 5 singles over 40 as they embark on a journey to finally find lasting love.

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Perils of the People Pleaser Guest: Filippo Voltaggio

Wed, 04 Oct 2017 18:00:00 GMT

Do you notice that you feel somehow obligated to meet the needs of other people? Why is that?

In this episode, we talk about that, and my guest, Filippo Voltaggio, talks about why some people find it so difficult to say "No." Recognizing that, as an adult, you can choose to change your mindsets and patterns, he talks about his work, The Recalibration.

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Filippo's work as a Life Coach, Speaker, Author, Workshop Creator and Leader, and as Host of The LIFE CHANGES Show, revolves around change, and the wholeness and expansion of The Self.

From business to life coach, radio host and...

Filippo's lifelong interests in the Esoteric Sciences have also lead him to pursue and achieve certifications in many of the Sciences.

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Is OK Great Enough? Guest: Johnathan Mitchell

Wed, 27 Sep 2017 18:00:00 GMT

Do you feel good about yourself? Are you OK with where you are in life? Or, have you been caught up in the endless push to be more, do more, have more? Where did you learn this?

Guest, Jonathan Mitchell, talks about unleashing greatness within yourself. Is it a must, a push, a realistic expectation? Or, is it hype? Listen in.

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Jonathan is a certified life, success, and emotional health mentor. He is also an award winning songwriter, singer, and producer with his songs being featured on FOX Sports and Mood Media. He is passionate about assisting others in bringing out their passion and greatness. He has coached thousands of people from one on one clients to group coaching both on and offline. He also has created his own coaching certification process to assist those who want to know how to coach more effectively using his methods.

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Compassionate Communication. Guest: Laura Jack

Wed, 20 Sep 2017 01:00:00 GMT

EMOTIONAL SAVVY: THE RELATIONSHIP HELP SHOW

with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler, The Relationship Help Doctor

Guest: Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code

Were you ever told to "be nice" or to "play nicely?"

Any chance that turned into negating what you wanted in order to make other people happy?

This show focuses on what you may be losing in life if you're still following that early "Be nice!" admonition.

Guest, Laura Jack, author of The Compassion Code, joins in to discuss the distinctions between being compassionate and living up to the expectations of others. Big difference!

Laura Jack teaches compassionate communication and how we can relate to one another more effectively during the challenging moments in life. Her mission is to cultivate a culture of compassion, starting with self, and to create a better understanding of loss and its accompanying grief.

Her book The Compassion Code: How to say the right thing when the wrong thing happens is available here.

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