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66. Because of You - Lessons From My Bà Ý

Thu, 18 Apr 2024 01:44:15 GMT

Last week I visited my Bà Ý (great aunt) one last time to say goodbye to her. She was a pivotal figure in my life and today, I'm sharing personal stories and lessons learned from her. I reflecting on the profound impact she had on my upbringing and the foundational lessons she imparted. These lessons include the importance of independence, enjoying simple mornings, the essence of generosity, the power of being present, unconditional love, acceptance, and creating a safe space for mistakes. I share how these core values have shaped my identity and outlook on life and reflect on the lasting influence of loved ones on our personal journey and the legacy we carry forward.

Chapters:

01:34 The Heartbreaking Farewell and Last Visit

03:57 Inspirational Lessons from Bà Ý

10:51 Embracing Generosity and Presence

21:39 The Power of Unconditional Love and Acceptance

30:28 Reflecting on Impact and Pursuing Happiness

36:34 Closing Thoughts and Gratitude

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65. I Lied About My Virginity

Thu, 04 Apr 2024 06:10:11 GMT

Today I'm fessing up and discussing the impact of honesty on personal growth and relationships. Inspired by my commitment to truth and a recent incident with my mum's car, I reflect on the dangers of deceit, drawing on my own life where I frequently found myself lying to avoid trouble or meet others' expectations. I share some personal details about lying regarding my virginity due to cultural and religious pressures, highlighting how this not only shaped my identity but also affected my relationships. Through my journey, I've learned the importance of aligning words with truth, creating safe spaces for honesty, and the liberation that comes with living authentically.

01:01 The Road Trip Incident: A Catalyst for Honesty

02:55 Childhood Lies and Their Impact on Identity

06:44 The Complex Web of Lies Around Virginity

17:37 The Journey Towards Truth and Authenticity

26:41 Creating a Safe Space for Truth

31:43 Embracing Honesty and Authenticity

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64. Child-free In Your 30s

Wed, 27 Mar 2024 23:56:13 GMT

In this episode, Amanda delves deep into the personal and societal aspects of being in your thirties and choosing to live child-free. Amanda shares her reflections on societal pressures, personal growth, and the evolving understanding of fulfilment and legacy that comes with choosing not to have children. She openly discusses her journey from envisioning motherhood in her youth to embracing a child-free life, highlighting the freedom, personal development, and opportunities it has afforded her. Amanda tackles the challenges and misconceptions faced by those who decide against parenthood, emphasizing the importance of intentional living and the diverse paths to finding meaning and happiness. This episode offers insight, support, and encouragement for anyone navigating life choices around parenthood and seeking to understand the profound impact of these decisions on identity, relationships, and legacy.

Chapters:

(01:26) The Societal Pressure of Life Milestones

(07:07) Redefining Fulfillment: Life Without Children

(12:00) Navigating the Thirties: Challenges and Realisations

(18:03) The Decision Not to Have Children: Societal Reactions

(23:39) Considering Parenthood: A Personal Journey

(43:10) The Legacy of a Life Without Children

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63. Navigating Adult Friendships

Thu, 21 Mar 2024 09:35:24 GMT

Social media undeniably has an impact on how we form connections. Today I'm discussing the importance of strong friendships for a happy and healthy life and the challenges and complexities involved in sustaining and making new friendships. I talk about acknowledging the differences between acquaintances, peers, community, and true friends, noting the transient nature of many friendships versus the few that last a lifetime. I also offer some reflection points and tips for making new friends, emphasizing the value of vulnerability, openness, and actively seeking out connections with others who share core values, despite differing opinions or lifestyles.

(00:46) The Evolution of Friendships: Seasons, Reasons, and Lifelong Bonds

(01:33) The Impact of Travel on Friendships: Challenges and Realizations

(02:59) Navigating the Complexities of Sustaining Friendships

(08:58) The Adventure of Making New Friends Abroad

(13:41) Reflecting on the Nature of Friendships and Self-Discovery

(22:42) Tips for Making New Friends and Embracing Change

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62. The Key to Personal Growth: Action Beyond Information

Thu, 14 Mar 2024 11:58:16 GMT

The focus is on understanding the crucial difference between gathering resources and information versus taking tangible action towards personal development. I talk about the idea that despite having access to the same information and resources, the distinction between individuals who experience radical change in their lives and those who remain stagnant lies in the readiness to take action and discipline. I talk about my personal journey of learning, gathering information, and eventually realizing that without action, no real change occurs. The episode invites listeners to reflect on their own lives and consider the actions they might be avoiding or need to take to see genuine personal development.

(02:45) The Journey of Self-Awareness and Growth

(05:46) The Importance of Taking Action for Personal Growth

(06:23) My Personal Journey: From Information to Action

(12:55) Learning to Love Myself Through Action

(21:54) Reflecting on Your Own Journey and Next Steps

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61. Awakening Joy and Authentic Expression With Francie Fishman

Wed, 06 Mar 2024 20:00:00 GMT

Joining me today is special guest, Francie Fishman, the founder of Pure Flow Yoga, a vocal empowerment coach, and a musician focused on sacred sounds. Francie shares her journey of moving to Bali, her experiences with running yoga retreats, and her path of reinvention following the closure of her yoga center due to COVID-19. She discusses the profound connection between trauma and voice loss, the healing power of music, and her process of rediscovering her voice through vocal activation and sound healing. Francie also dives into her work with Compassionate Inquiry, a program by Gabor Maté aimed at addressing underlying traumas. She talks about her encounters with plant medicine, specifically Ayahuasca, and its role in her healing journey. Additionally, Francie outlines her passion for helping others awaken their authentic voices through yoga, music, and joy practices, offering insights into how individuals can connect with their creativity and authentic self-expression.

(01:02) Francie's Journey to Bali and Yoga

(03:28) Awakening the Authentic Voice and Healing Through Music

(06:36) The Journey of Healing and Self-Compassion

(10:34) Exploring Compassionate Inquiry

(22:28) The Role of Plant Medicine in Healing

(31:22) The Power of Music in Personal Growth

(34:25) The Impact of Music and Community in Childhood

(35:42) The Journey to Becoming a Vocal Empowerment Coach

(38:30) The Transformational Power of Voice Work

(41:25) Upcoming Projects and Programs

(43:53) Who Can Benefit from Voice Work

(46:23) The Power of Joy Practices and Artist Dates

(52:30) Sharing a Powerful Hawaiian Mantra

About Francie:

Francie, the inspired founder of the award-winning Pure Flow Yoga school, recognized as one of the top 8 Retreats worldwide by The Guardian UK, is a trauma-informed Yoga Professional, Vocal Luminary, and Sacred Sounds Musician. Renowned for her vibrant, playful, and free-spirited enthusiasm, Francie has guided thousands globally through 200+ transformative Yoga retreats and teacher trainings. With university degrees in Psychology and Education, Francie, a devoted seeker and perpetual student of life, has delved deeply into the teachings of global master instructors. Currently, she is immersed in the study of Compassionate Inquiry, a somatic psychotherapeutic approach to trauma resolution. An educator at heart, Francie is passionate about sharing the profound power of healing through music. Currently based in Ubud, Bali, Francie offers ongoing Yoga Classes at the world-renowned Yoga Barn, alongside Transformational Retreats, Teacher Trainings, Singing Circles, Sound Healings, Virtual Courses and 1-on-1 Mentorships.

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Listen to Francie on Spotify

Learn more about Pure Flow Yoga

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60. Burnout: what is it and how do we prevent it?

Thu, 29 Feb 2024 10:11:48 GMT

Today we're discussing burnout. I was recently visiting Japan and reflected on how different it was for me when I was there last year. The last time I was there, I was burnt out and depleted, feeling hopeless and unmotivated. This time was different although I noticed early signs of burnout and managed to come out of it. I discuss what burnout is, signs to look out for and how to notice that you might be approaching burnout. I also talk about the recovery process and what tools you can implement to help support your health if you're burnt out. I talk about prevention methods and regular routines and habits to implement to keep you steadily in the green zone and to maintain a balanced and healthy life.

(00:00) Introduction and Welcome

(00:20) Personal Experience with Burnout

(07:24) Understanding Burnout

(08:10) Signs and Symptoms of Burnout

(11:57) Recovering from Burnout

(17:13) Preventing Burnout

(23:24) Recognising Pre-Burnout Signs

(26:20) Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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59. Dating People for Their Potential

Thu, 22 Feb 2024 00:00:44 GMT

Today I discuss the complex issue of dating people for their potential rather than who they currently are. I talk about the importance of self-awareness, and acceptance and how projecting our own goals, fears, and trauma onto our partners can create unhealthy dynamics within the relationship. There's a critical difference between being supportive of a partner's growth and trying to mould them into an ideal vision.

(00:00) Introduction and Welcome

(00:55) Optimism and Hope

(03:12) Projecting Our Desires and Potential onto Others

(06:23) The Role of Trauma

(10:16) The Hero Complex and Distraction from Self-Work

(13:42) Potential as a Source of Inspiration and Growth

(16:36) The Balance of Acceptance and Aspiration

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58. My Love Story

Wed, 14 Feb 2024 21:00:33 GMT

Happy lover's day to all the lovers out there. Today I'm sharing my love story with the most important person in the world to me.

Enjoy!

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57. The D Word... Divorce

Thu, 08 Feb 2024 01:26:30 GMT

Today I'm sharing my journey through separation and divorce. Together, we'll explore the ups and downs of rebuilding and self-discovery after the end of a significant relationship. This episode isn't just about my marriage falling apart—it's about finding myself again when everything feels like it's crumbling.

I'll talk about the pressure I felt from my religious community and the fear of being left out during my divorce. Sometimes, it felt like I was all alone in my search for acceptance and healing. But through my story, you'll see how important it is to find people who accept us just as we are.

I'm sharing these personal experiences in the hope that they'll offer comfort and understanding to anyone else going through a separation or looking for support during tough times.

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56. It's 2024! Welcome Back to SELF

Thu, 01 Feb 2024 02:54:11 GMT

I'm sorry. I know I disappeared for a few weeks there without notice. Well, I'm back with an episode to update you on what's been going on and what's head.

Back to weekly episodes every Thursday!

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55. My Search For Healing

Wed, 22 Nov 2023 20:00:29 GMT

I'm here to share my journey of healing and self-discovery, recounting the significant chapters of my life and how an understanding of trauma and self-work helped me peel back the layers to be more me. Our discussion will centre on the concept of trauma, not as something that happens to us, but as something our bodies remember and hold onto. I share insights from my yoga teacher training and the transformative power of embodied trauma integration.

Like many people, I spent a long time searching for healing outside of myself. I've since learned the incredible wisdom our bodies hold, the innate power to heal, and how it mirrors the healing process of a physical wound. I'll share my thoughts on the tools that can help regulate our nervous system and the necessity of creating a secure environment for our healing journey. The journey into self-healing is one that is vast and deeply personal, but the first steps can be straightforward: listen to your body, and give it the tools it needs to embark on its healing journey. Remember, the power to heal always exists within us, waiting to be harnessed. Let's unveil this power together and embark on a journey of self-awareness and healing.

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54. Reclaiming My Voice

Wed, 15 Nov 2023 20:00:14 GMT

I unpack an uncanny experience where I lost my voice for nine months. I unravel the intriguing tale of how my usually vocal self underwent a dramatic transformation when I suddenly lost my voice and had a husky tone for 9 months. I share some realizations from my recent yoga teacher training about this experience and recount the journey of regaining my voice and relearning to advocate for myself. I draw parallels between my physical voice loss and how I started suppressing my voice in my past relationship. Tune in for my journey that brings forth the power of voice and self-expression.

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53. Masculine and Feminine Polarity with Ryan Moresby-White

Thu, 09 Nov 2023 02:00:00 GMT

Have you ever considered how the balance of masculine and feminine energies influences your relationships? In an insightful discussion with Ryan Moresby-White, we delve into the power of these energies, and how they shape not just our interactions, but also our personal development. Ryan’s journey from a depressed carpenter to a purpose-driven individual paints a vivid picture of the importance of healing our hurtful pasts and embracing our core energy.

Our conversation explores the dynamics and roles these energies play in relationships. It's not about who’s male or female, but rather about the roles we embody, and the equilibrium we establish. We discuss how masculine energy can offer a safe space for feminine energy to flow, and how an imbalance can lead to the depolarization of these energies in relationships. You'll pick up valuable insights into the three C's and three U's of recognizing when depolarization is happening, and how you and your partner can tackle these issues.

We also delve into the true roles of masculine and feminine energies, shedding light on the bright and dark aspects of these energies, the necessity for men to tap into their heart space, and the value of structure and flow in relationships. You'll hear about the stages of relationships, the three essential needs men have in a relationship, and the importance of finding true freedom within oneself. Ultimately, we emphasize that relationships should never be a means to compensate for our unfulfilled needs. Tune in for this transformative conversation with Ryan and discover how to create a balanced and harmonious relationship connection.

About Ryan:

Ryan is a 26-year-old Gold Coast local who has gone from a depressed carpenter and business owner in the construction industry to building a 6 figure online business living a purpose-driven life. He’s the founder of The Inspired Man & Embodied Woman, a personal development program for men & women to go from lacking self-belief, direction and purpose to living their most inspired life every day. His mission is to help people create the most meaningful and abundant life by conscious design and in doing so, raise the level of consciousness on this planet.

Contact Ryan:

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Learn more about Ryan's courses: Inspired Project Website

Check out Ryan's YouTube

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52. ONE YEAR OF SELF!!!

Wed, 01 Nov 2023 20:00:17 GMT

Can you believe it's been a year already? As we commemorate the first anniversary of SELF, I'm taking a little walk down memory lane and back to the heart of some of my favourite conversations and episodes. From the candid stories shared by my courageous guests, to the technological hiccups I've faced, it's been a year of invaluable learning and authenticity. Join me in reliving these experiences, revealing how they've shaped my journey and continue to inspire my future direction.

Moving forward with SELF, the podcast will continue as I launch into the space of online workshops where we collectively explore significant life topics and retreats where we equip ourselves with a toolbox for self-regulation. As we raise a toast to the past and future of SELF Podcast remember, the mission here is to make you feel less alone in your human journey. What a ride it has been, and what an adventure awaits!

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51. Exploring the Concept of Giving Freely

Wed, 25 Oct 2023 19:00:24 GMT

I found myself deep into the exploration of the concept of giving freely - from my personal experiences, and cultural influences to the quest for self-awareness. With anecdotes from my Vietnamese upbringing, I delve into a wide spectrum of giving - from the simple acts in everyday life to more meaningful ones - unearthing how our cultural context deeply influences our perspective on giving.

Navigating through the complexities of giving freely, we further probe how our innate need for safety and belonging affects this act. We grapple with the challenging aspect of setting boundaries without being ruled by the fear of disappointing people. We question the conditioned response of an immediate 'yes' and encourage the idea of thoughtful consideration. The aim? To give freely without any subconscious expectations or strings attached, making our 'yes' truly meaningful. Let's journey together through these uncharted territories, illuminating the essence of true giving.

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50. Finding Peace with Our Inner Anxious Timekeeper

Wed, 18 Oct 2023 20:00:10 GMT

Picture an older, stern woman with a watch permanently affixed to her wrist, brandishing a clipboard like a weapon - meet my inner timekeeper. This ever-vigilant presence, constantly ticking away, was born from a deep-seated dread of disappointing others and the fear of trouble's consequence. With her ceaseless vigilance, my world was dominated by scarcity of time, a fear of missing out, and an overwhelming anxiety that I could never quite shake. But through a journey of self-discovery, I've been learning to separate myself from this anxious timekeeper, trying to navigate life without her constant ticking in my ear.

The power of pausing, of taking a breath, and being mindful of our energy and resources has been transformational for me. I've turned to practices like breathwork to not only manage time but to fully live in the present moment. The realization that we can't seize every opportunity that comes our way is a hard pill to swallow, but the freedom it brings is unparalleled. Join me, as we traverse this path towards understanding the true value of our time, embracing the art of slowing down, and gaining the courage to say no. Together, we will explore ways to manage this inner anxious timekeeper and make peace with her constant ticking.

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49. The Global Nomad's Journey with Marianto

Thu, 12 Oct 2023 05:40:38 GMT

Maria Antonia Vergara (Marianto) is back in the hot seat today as we explore the realities of our nomadic lifestyle. Listen in as Maria shares her journey from a government job in Panama to becoming a world traveler, fueled by her dream of international travel. Tune in as we uncover the struggles and triumphs of a nomadic life, discussing everything from the mental challenge of working amidst vacationing individuals to the importance of finding solitude in turning off notifications.

Our conversation continues as we explore the more personal aspects of a nomadic lifestyle. We reflect on the sacrifices and the fulfillment it brings, the challenge of finding a partner who shares the same lifestyle, and the intricacies of unconventional relationships. Our stories of vulnerability, risk-taking, and the importance of clear communication in relationships, especially long-distance ones, are bound to resonate with many. We also touch on the fear of financial insecurity that can come with a nomadic lifestyle and the ways we balance between making the most of life and being financially smart.

In the final segments of our chat, we look at the need to create a sense of home when living nomadically, and the importance of small comforts that make a place feel like home. We share our tips on navigating medical necessities, the challenges of obtaining visas, and practical travel tips like the value of staying in a place for at least four weeks. We close the conversation by reflecting on our different lifestyles and the importance of having the choice to change our lives if needed.

Contact Marianto:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marianto_v/

What we discuss:

(0:07:43) Work, Travel, and Pandemic Experiences

(0:11:10) Constant Travel Lifestyle and Challenges

(0:18:27) Prioritizing Living and Finding Balance

(0:23:41) Love and Fulfillment as a Nomad

(0:34:41) The Challenges of Long-Distance Relationships

(0:40:35) Financial Insecurity and Finding Balance

(0:48:29) Creating a Home Away From Home

(0:55:27) Relationships, Family, Gratitude, and Health

(0:59:09) Visas, Travel Tips, and Nomadic Life

(1:08:17) Choice and Perspectives on Different Lifestyles

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48. The Journey Towards Healing: A Difficult Dialogue with My Father

Wed, 04 Oct 2023 20:00:04 GMT

Journey with me as I discuss the importance of compassion and understanding while setting boundaries in a parental relationship. I recount a conversation with my dad, sharing my experiences over the years and the reasons for my distance. Despite his defensiveness, I managed to stay grounded and reconnect with my own needs. This was a critical moment of healing and self-realization for me.

In the final chapter of this episode, I explore how I set boundaries with my father and did so with kindness and compassion. I reflect on the importance of having an honest conversation and the significance of understanding human nature. By the end of this episode, I hope to leave you with an understanding of the complexities of familial relationships, the importance of self-care and the courage to confront and address challenging situations. Tune in for an episode full of personal revelations, healing conversations, and heartfelt moments.

What I discuss:

(0:00:00) Exploring a Challenging Conversation With Dad

(0:13:36) Family Dynamics and Healing Conversation

(0:27:17) Boundaries and Healing Relationships With Parent

(0:32:55) Boundaries, Compassion, and Parents

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