Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Types of Support

Mon, 04 May 2026 12:00:00 GMT

On this episode, Katie explores a familiar moment in relationships when overwhelm hits and the simple question of “how can I support you” only makes things worse. This episode unpacks why so many couples miss each other in these moments, especially when past experiences or emotional neglect have shaped how support is understood. Katie explains that when the brain is flooded, it cannot problem solve or articulate needs clearly, which is why preparing for these moments ahead of time is key. She invites listeners to rethink support as something learned and discussed together, not figured out in the heat of stress, and emphasizes the importance of speaking the same emotional language as your partner.

Throughout the episode, Katie walks through seven types of support, including emotional presence, physical co regulation, cognitive clarity, practical help, mind body cues, autonomy through space, and reassurance for relational safety. She highlights how small, intentional actions like validating feelings, offering calm presence, or taking initiative with daily responsibilities can transform connection. The conversation encourages couples to get curious about what support actually feels like to each person and to create shared understanding before overwhelm happens. This episode is a guide to building deeper connection by moving from guessing to knowing how to truly show up for each other.

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Survival, Genuine Connection... Why Be in a Relationship?

Mon, 27 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Katie explores whether we enter relationships from genuine desire or from a deeper need for safety and attachment. She reflects on how early experiences and childhood narratives shape the way we connect, often leading to relationships that feel more like relief from anxiety than true compatibility.

Katie shares how easy it is to confuse infatuation and being chosen with real connection. When attachment is driven by survival, it can show up as urgency, fear of loss, and losing a sense of self in order to maintain closeness. In contrast, relationships rooted in choice feel more grounded, allowing space for honesty, individuality, and mutual curiosity.

She also emphasizes that even in healthy, chosen relationships, moments of anxiety can still surface. The goal is not to eliminate those responses, but to notice what’s driving them. Through reflection and simple questions, Katie invites listeners to better understand their patterns and move toward more intentional, authentic connection.

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Unhealthy, Abusive, Let's Talk About It

Mon, 20 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT

How do you know if a relationship is unhealthy or if it crosses into abuse? In this episode, we break down that question from the inside out, exploring why the answer is less about definitions and more about how you actually feel. We look at the real difference between unhealthy relationships, where both people can take accountability and work on patterns together, and abusive ones, which are rooted in power, control, and the slow erosion of someone's sense of self. The host shares her own experience growing up with an abusive mother and why the good moments made it so hard to see clearly for so long.

If you have ever found yourself constantly second-guessing your reality, shrinking to keep the peace, or feeling like you are always the problem, this episode is for you. We explore the questions worth asking yourself about any relationship in your life, and why naming what is happening inside of you is always the first step, even before you know what to do about it.

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What Is A Healthy Relationship?

Mon, 13 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT

This episode explores what a healthy relationship really means, especially for those who were never shown a clear model growing up. Many people say they want something “healthy” or “happy,” but haven’t defined what that looks like for them. The conversation focuses on getting curious about your own values, needs, and expectations instead of relying on unrealistic ideas shaped by culture or past experiences.

A healthy relationship is not about avoiding conflict, never feeling triggered, or always feeling good. It is built on safety, repair, and authenticity. That means being able to be yourself without performing, expressing your needs out loud, and trusting that disagreements do not equal disconnection. Conflict will happen, but what matters is the ability to come back together, take ownership, and reconnect.

The episode also highlights the importance of mutual effort. Healthy relationships are not one-sided. Both partners show up, communicate, and engage in growth. Over time, this creates a dynamic that feels more grounded, less tense, and allows space to relax instead of constantly walking on eggshells.

Listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own relationships by asking simple questions like: Can I be myself here? Can I express my needs? Do we repair after conflict? Do I feel respected? Are we both showing up?

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Mind-Read in Relationships

Mon, 06 Apr 2026 12:00:00 GMT

If you’ve ever thought “if they really cared, they’d just know,” this episode is for you. Katie unpacks mind reading in relationships and why it shows up so strongly for people who grew up with emotional neglect or unpredictable caregivers. What looks like poor communication is often a learned survival response. As kids, many learned to read the room to stay safe, anticipating others’ needs instead of expressing their own. That pattern can follow into adult relationships, where there’s an expectation that a partner will just notice. When they don’t, it can feel like rejection, leading to hurt, resentment, and distance.

Katie walks through how to break that cycle by slowing down, noticing the urge to expect mind reading, and getting curious about what you actually need. From there, it’s about regulating your body, creating a sense of safety, and practicing saying your needs out loud even when it feels uncomfortable. Expressing a need isn’t just communication, it’s vulnerability, especially for those who were taught it wasn’t safe to be seen. For partners on the receiving end, curiosity and validation go further than fixing. Bottom line: unspoken needs don’t disappear, they turn into resentment, and learning to express them is how connection grows.

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The Polka Dance

Mon, 30 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT

In this "polka dance" episode, Katie explores the “pursuer and withdrawer” dynamic in relationships, using the metaphor of a polka dance to illustrate how couples can get stuck in reactive cycles. When one partner seeks closeness, reassurance, and immediate resolution, the other may feel overwhelmed and pull away, leading to a pattern where both people unintentionally trigger each other’s deepest fears. The episode explains how these roles are rooted in past experiences and attachment patterns, not personal flaws, and how both partners are ultimately trying to protect the relationship.

You'll be guided through the emotional drivers behind each role, including fear of abandonment for pursuers and fear of conflict or overwhelm for withdrawers. The conversation shifts toward practical ways to interrupt the cycle, such as slowing down reactions, communicating needs more clearly, and creating safety both individually and together.

Remember: the goal is not to eliminate conflict, but to stay connected through it, repair more effectively, and build a secure, supportive partnership over time!

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Same Team, Different Storms

Mon, 23 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT

When conflict hits, it can feel like you and your partner are on opposite sides. In this episode, we talk about why that happens and how quickly we can lose sight of being on the same team. Past experiences, old wounds, and stress can all shape how we react, especially in heated moments.

This conversation breaks down what is actually happening in your brain and body during conflict, why your partner can start to feel like the enemy, and how common relationship patterns keep couples stuck. It also explores the idea that love is not just a feeling, but something we return to through awareness, communication, and repair.

Being on the same team does not mean avoiding conflict or always agreeing. It means choosing the relationship over being right, getting curious about what is underneath the reaction, and coming back together after things escalate. If you have ever found yourself wondering how things got so intense so fast, this episode will help you make sense of it and start shifting the dynamic.

Next episode, we will dive deeper into the patterns couples get stuck in and how to move through them.

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The Lense We Look Through

Mon, 16 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we explore the lens we bring into our relationships and how it shapes the way we interpret our partner’s behavior. Two people can experience the same moment but walk away with completely different stories about what happened. Much of that comes from our past experiences, childhood environments, and the beliefs we developed about conflict, safety, and connection.

We talk about how these internal filters can lead to misunderstandings, especially when silence, distance, or emotional reactions are interpreted through old patterns. When the brain senses a threat to connection, it can trigger protective responses like defending, withdrawing, over explaining, or trying to fix things quickly.

By becoming more aware of the lens we are looking through, we can begin to question the stories our brain creates and open the door to healthier communication, repair, and deeper connection in relationships.

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When Emotional Flooding Takes Over in Relationships

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 12:00:00 GMT

Ever found yourself in an argument with your partner that escalates fast, only to realize later it started over something small? In this episode, we talk about emotional flooding. That moment when your nervous system goes into survival mode and connection becomes almost impossible.

Emotional flooding can show up as yelling, shutting down, crying, defensiveness, or a racing heart. Many couples think they have a communication problem, when the real issue is that their bodies are overwhelmed and reacting to perceived danger.

This episode breaks down what flooding actually is, why it happens, and how childhood experiences can shape the way our bodies respond during conflict. You will also hear practical ways to recognize flooding in the moment, pause the conversation, and repair the relationship afterward.

You will also hear a personal story about how a small misunderstanding in the car could have turned into a long argument but instead ended in laughter.

If you want healthier conflict, stronger connection, and tools for navigating intense emotions, this episode will help you understand what is really happening beneath the surface.

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When they won't change

Mon, 02 Mar 2026 13:00:00 GMT

Why can’t they just change?

In this episode, we explore the painful hope that a parent or partner will finally listen, take accountability, or become more emotionally available — and the reality that they may not.

We talk about emotional immaturity, the fantasy of repair, and the grief of not getting the apology or understanding you deserve. Most importantly, we shift the focus from trying to change them to staying connected to yourself.

You can love someone and still set limits.

You can care — and stop chasing.

And you’re allowed to grow, even if they don’t.

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Childhood Roles in Adulthood Connections

Mon, 23 Feb 2026 13:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we explore the survival roles we learned in childhood — and how they continue to shape our adult relationships.

Inspired by the work of Lindsay Gibson, author of Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, we break down common adaptations like the Caretaker, Achiever, Peacekeeper, Invisible One, Rebel, and Therapist Friend. These roles once helped us feel safe, loved, or accepted — but over time they can lead to burnout, resentment, imbalance, and blocked intimacy.

You’ll hear how over-functioning, conflict avoidance, hyper-independence, emotional suppression, and hyper-awareness develop — and why they aren’t flaws, but intelligent survival strategies.

This episode is an invitation to notice your patterns without judgment, understand the core beliefs underneath them, and begin making small shifts toward deeper, more mutual connection.

Which role feels most familiar to you?

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You're Allowed to Edit Your Book of Laws

Mon, 16 Feb 2026 13:00:00 GMT

We’re adults now...but what do we do if we were raised by emotionally immature parents who aren’t going to change? In this episode, we explore how childhood survival patterns follow us into adulthood, the grief of not getting the parent we needed, and how to begin rewriting the “book of laws” we grew up with.

We talk about boundaries, anger, vulnerability, and learning that you’re allowed to have preferences, needs, and an ego. Healing isn’t about changing your parents—it’s about choosing how you care for yourself now.

You are allowed to edit your book of laws.

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From Survival Mode to Self-Trust: An Athlete’s Journey Out of Self-Abandonment

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 13:00:00 GMT

In this deeply honest and powerful conversation, Katie sits down with coaching client Kayla to explore what happens when strength, perfectionism, and survival mode stop working — and what it takes to rebuild self-trust from the inside out.

Kayla shares her journey as a lifelong athlete whose identity was built on performance, discipline, and pushing through discomfort. After a major health event forced her to slow down, she realized she didn’t know how to listen to her body, sit with emotions, or show up for herself without abandoning her needs.

Together, Katherine and Kayla unpack self-abandonment, people-pleasing, hyper-independence, and trauma stored in the body — and why insight alone isn’t enough without real-time support and nervous system regulation.

This episode is a raw look at what healing actually looks like: messy, uncomfortable, nonlinear — and deeply human.

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Impact of Being Raised by Emotionally Immature Parents

Mon, 02 Feb 2026 13:00:00 GMT

How does growing up with emotionally immature parents shape the way we relate to others—and ourselves? In this episode, we explore patterns like people-pleasing, hyper-vigilance, and fear of conflict, and how they show up in adult friendships, romantic relationships, and self-trust.

Learn how healing doesn’t mean blaming, and discover ways to give yourself the care and connection you may not have received as a child.

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The Impact of Emotional Immaturity on Relationships

Mon, 26 Jan 2026 13:00:00 GMT

Season freakin’ FOUR… who would’ve thought we’d be here?

In this season opener, we dive head-first into relationships—with ourselves and with others—and how deeply they shape our healing. Healing doesn’t mean never having hard thoughts or feelings. It doesn’t mean perfection. Especially not in relationships.

This episode focuses on emotionally immature patterns, particularly in parents, and how growing up without emotional attunement impacts our self-talk, boundaries, attachment, and adult relationships. With compassion, humor, and real talk, we explore why emotional immaturity exists, how it shows up, and why healing happens in relationships, not in isolation.

If you grew up feeling rejected for being “too much,” learned to perform perfection to stay connected, or still struggle to trust your emotions—this season is for you.

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Coaching That Connects: Real Talk with Amber Grimmett

Mon, 15 Dec 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this final episode of Season 3, Katie talks with Amber about her experience with coaching at Oak Mountain Coaching. They discuss navigating birth trauma, motherhood, and mental health, and how coaching offers tools and support beyond traditional therapy.

What You’ll Learn:

Why coaching can be more actionable and connection-focused than therapy
Understanding the freeze response and reducing self-blame
Practical tools like butterfly tapping and bilateral stimulation
The benefits of virtual coaching and ongoing support

Connect with Amber:

Instagram: @fierce.not.fragile
Podcast: Wild and Fierce Podcast

If you’ve been considering coaching, lean into that nudge...investing in yourself is worth it!

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Thanks for being here!

-Katie O @katieostresscoaching

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Childhood Trauma

Mon, 08 Dec 2025 13:00:00 GMT

Episode Summary:

In this episode, we dive deep into the topic of childhood trauma—what it is, how it manifests in adulthood, and the ways it can shape our beliefs, behaviors, and relationships. Katie shares personal experiences and professional insights, exploring the spectrum of trauma, from overt events to the absence of emotional safety and connection. The episode also covers common adult adaptations, the importance of self-compassion, and how coaching can support healing and growth.

Key Topics Covered:

Defining childhood trauma: not just big events, but also the absence of safety, attunement, and connection.
Personal stories of growing up with emotional neglect and the impact on self-worth and relationships.
The spectrum of trauma: from abuse and chaos to neglect, perfectionism, and parentification.
How trauma is a state of overwhelm without support, not just a single event.
Common adult patterns: people-pleasing, hypervigilance, fear of conflict, over-responsibility, and difficulty setting boundaries.
The process of internalizing adult messages and forming limiting beliefs in childhood.
The role of the nervous system and body in carrying trauma responses into adulthood.
The importance of repair, self-compassion, and learning new ways to create safety and connection as adults.
How coaching and somatic techniques can help process and heal from childhood trauma.

Notable Quotes:

"Trauma is not an event. It's how alone we felt in that event."
"Our adaptations are brilliant and beautiful, and now as adults we get to learn how to befriend ourselves."
"Childhood trauma does not have to be a life sentence."

Resources & Contact:

Instagram: @KatieOStressCoaching
Email: info@oakmountainmh.com
If this episode brings up strong feelings or memories, please reach out for support.

If you resonated with this episode or have questions, connect with Katie for a chat about support or coaching. Stay tuned for more episodes diving deeper into specific patterns and healing strategies.

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Mind-Body Connection, Pelvic Health, and When to Refer Out with Lisa Becker-Schmall

Mon, 01 Dec 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Katie sits down with physical therapist Lisa Becker-Schmall, whose work centers on women’s health, pelvic floor conditions, and chronic illness. Together, they unpack the mind-body connection, how physical and emotional pain overlap, and how providers can recognize when it’s time to collaborate or refer clients for additional support.

What We Cover

Lisa’s work in pelvic health, hypermobility, dysautonomia, and women’s health across life stages
Why replicating pain in an evaluation helps guide treatment
When pain isn’t physical—and how emotional, relational, or trauma-related factors can show up as physical symptoms
The vulnerability of seeking help for pelvic pain and how to hold space with care
How PTs and mental health providers can collaborate without crossing scopes
The importance of asking open, supportive questions when heavier emotional content arises
Real examples of pain linked to emotional experiences, grief, and unresolved narratives
How to know whether you need physical care, mental/emotional support, or both
Why finding providers who “vibe” with you matters—and that it’s okay to seek someone who aligns with your needs

Key Takeaway

Physical pain is often influenced by emotional and psychological layers—and healing is most effective when providers work collaboratively, stay in their lane, and refer when needed. If something feels “missing” in your care, it’s okay to seek someone who sees the whole picture.

Connect with Lisa

Instagram: @lisa.b.schmall — DMs welcome for connection or inquiries.

Connect with Katie

Instagram: @katieostresscoaching — and don't forge to subscribe and follow for future episodes!

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Compassion and Accountability

Mon, 24 Nov 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this guided practice, we explore the “emotional flare-up hangover”—the shame, guilt, and looping thoughts that often follow a reactive moment. Instead of beating yourself up, this episode walks you through moving from shame → understanding → repair with compassion.

What We Cover

Why shame spirals happen after emotional flare-ups
How survival responses override “I should have known better”
Grounding the body through breath and simple affirmations
Naming what happened without judgment
Understanding the protective parts within you
Shifting into curiosity: What signs did I miss? What could help next time?
Repairing with yourself and others using clear, gentle accountability

Key Takeaway

You’re not striving for perfection—you’re learning to show up with awareness. Your reactions aren’t your identity, and giving your protective parts compassion is a powerful step toward repair.

Connect with Katie

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Spirituality, Connection, and Healing the Body with Kento Kamiyama

Mon, 17 Nov 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this heart-centered and thought-provoking conversation, Katie sits down with mind-body physical therapist and breathwork facilitator Kento Kamiyama to explore the essence of spirituality—beyond religion, dogma, or labels. Together, they dive into what it truly means to feel connected, whole, and real.

Kento shares his own journey of learning to pause, release perfectionism, and find meaning through connection—rather than constant self-improvement or “fixing.” Katherine and Kento unpack the ways spirituality, vulnerability, and playfulness intersect with emotional and physical healing, and how pain can often be an invitation to reconnect with ourselves and others.

You’ll hear candid stories, reflections on the link between fear and pain, and reminders that healing isn’t about becoming pain-free—it’s about realizing you’re never truly alone in the process.

Whether you’re a healer, a client, or simply someone curious about the intersection of body, mind, and spirit, this episode offers grounded insights and inspiration for living and healing with more presence and compassion.

Connect with Kento:

Find Kento on Instagram at @kento.bodymind.coaching to learn more about his holistic approach to physical therapy and mind-body connection. He also hosts monthly breathwork sessions that help you deepen your relationship with yourself and release stored emotional energy.

✨ Special Offer:

If you’ve listened all the way through this episode, DM Kento the code “stressmess20” on Instagram for 20% off your first breathwork session!

🌿 Connect with Katie:

Continue the conversation and explore mind-body-spirit wellness with host Katie O’Leary on Instagram at @katieostresscoaching. Don't forget to like & subscribe for more!

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I'm not the monk on the mountain, I am in the trenches with you

Mon, 10 Nov 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this solo episode, Katie reflects on a quote by London-based psychotherapist Sirit Chawla:

“I’m not the monk on the mountain. I’m in the trenches with you.”

Katie shares how this perspective shapes her work as a trauma and chronic stress coach. She explores why true healing isn’t about being “fixed” by an expert but about building connection, safety, and understanding.

She also discusses the pressure providers feel to have all the answers, how shame keeps people stuck, and why authenticity and compassion are essential in any healing relationship.

Key Takeaways

Healing happens through connection, not fixing.
Providers don’t need to have it all together to be effective.
Speaking shame aloud with understanding is deeply healing.
Growth requires patience, guidance, and honest connection.

Connect with Katie

Follow along on Instagram @katieostresscoaching and online at www.oakmountainmh.com

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Owning Your Power: Finding Humor and Healing in the Hard Stuff with Amber Grimmett

Mon, 03 Nov 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this heartfelt and hilariously honest episode, Katie O’Leary sits down with Amber Grimmett, founder of Fierce, Not Fragile.

Together, they dive into the beauty and chaos of personal growth, the power of owning your story, and how laughter can transform even the toughest seasons. This is an episode full of warmth, truth, and the kind of friendship that reminds you healing doesn’t have to be quiet or perfect. 💛

In This Episode:

How Amber built Fierce, Not Fragile to empower women to reclaim their strength
Why humor and authenticity are essential tools for healing
Letting go of perfection and showing up as your real self
The gift of friendship and creative collaboration

👩‍💼 About the Guest:

Amber Grimmett is the founder of Fierce, Not Fragile, dedicated to helping women step into their confidence, own their stories, and live boldly. She is a head coach who is a passionate advocate for women embracing their strength.

You can connect with Amber on Instagram @fierce.not.fragile and Katie is on Instagram as @katieostresscoaching

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Listening to Understand: Coaching Wisdom from John Flagg

Mon, 27 Oct 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this raw and deeply honest episode, Katie sits down with powerlifting coach & clinician, John Flagg. The very first person who helped her find and use her voice during one of the hardest seasons of her life. What follows is a conversation that pulls no punches. Touching on trauma, the power of presence, emotional regulation, and what it really means to hold space for someone without trying to fix them.

Together, they explore:

The moment John unknowingly became the catalyst for this very podcast
Why saying “I’m proud of you” might land the wrong way.. and what to say instead
How to support someone through pain without needing to fix or rescue them
Reframing emotions as messages, not problems
The underrated magic of curiosity over judgment
Using the barbell as a mirror for emotional and mental health
The phrase that helps re-center when things feel out of control: “Control the controllables”

If you're someone trying to show up more fully for yourself and the people you love, this episode will challenge you to rethink how you listen, how you lead, and how you heal.

Connect with John Flagg

Instagram: @john.rebuild_stronger
Website: https://rebuildstronger.net

Connect with Katie O'Leary, LPC

Instagram: @katieostresscoaching
Website: www.oakmountainmh.com

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The Body in Mind-Body Connection: Why Trauma Healing Must Include the Body

Mon, 20 Oct 2025 12:00:00 GMT

Have you ever been told to “just be more confident” — but no matter how many affirmations you say in the mirror, it just doesn’t feel true? That’s because confidence, healing, and self-worth can’t live in the mind alone. In this episode, Katie dives deep into why the body is essential in trauma healing — and what happens when we focus only on talk therapy and cognitive awareness without including the body.

Katie breaks down the difference between narrative memory (what we know happened) and procedural memory (what the body remembers), showing how trauma responses like freezing, pleasing, or shutting down are rooted in the body’s learned survival mechanisms.

You’ll hear real client examples, learn what it means to “update” the body’s memory, and discover how integrating somatic (body-based) techniques — like pendulation and bilateral stimulation — can help you truly feel safety, confidence, and trust from the inside out.

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Trauma, Pelvic Health & Reclaiming the Body with Dr. Jocelyn Wallace

Mon, 13 Oct 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this powerful and deeply personal episode, Katie sits down with Dr. Jocelyn Wallace—a pelvic health coach who helps women heal from hysterectomies, pelvic floor injuries, and chronic gynecological conditions such as fibroids and endometriosis.

Together, they explore the connection between childhood trauma, body image, and long-term health, and how survival responses from early life often shape our relationship with food, our bodies, and the healthcare system.

Jocelyn shares her personal story of growing up with severe fibroids, navigating bullying, emotional suppression, disordered eating, and the eventual turning point that led her to reclaim her body through strength training and health coaching.

This episode is a must-listen for anyone who’s struggled with trusting their body, has a history of chronic stress or trauma, or wants to understand how deeper emotional wounds can manifest physically—and how healing is still possible.

Connect with Dr. Jocelyn Wallace

Instagram: @drjocelynwallace
Website: www.drjocelynwallace.com

Connect with Katie O'Leary, LPC

Instagram: @katieostresscoaching
Website: www.oakmountainmh.com

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The Gray Area in Relationships: When to Prioritize the "I" and When to Prioritize "We"

Mon, 06 Oct 2025 12:00:00 GMT

This episode explores the complex tension between individual needs and relationship needs—the "I" and the "We." It's not always clear when to put yourself first or when to show up for the relationship, and for many, especially trauma survivors, this can feel overwhelming and confusing.

We unpack why this dynamic is so challenging, how past experiences shape our instincts to either self-abandon or self-protect, and what it looks like to navigate this gray space with more awareness and intention.

You’ll hear real-life examples (like saying no to social events or supporting a partner through a tough time) and be guided through two core reflection questions that help clarify what should be prioritized in a given moment. We also discuss how honest communication can prevent resentment and strengthen connection over time.

Ultimately, this conversation is about building flexibility, self-trust, and curiosity—so we can better honor both ourselves and the relationships we care about.

Reflection prompts from this episode:

Will prioritizing my need here strengthen or weaken the relationship long-term?
Will prioritizing the relationship here cause me to betray myself?

This episode invites you to notice where you lean—toward the “I” or the “We”—and how to find more balance in the in-between. Don't forget to follow on Instagram @katieostresscoaching

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Resilience and Letting Yourself Be Loved: Part 2 with Jared Maynard

Mon, 29 Sep 2025 12:00:00 GMT

Welcome back to Part 2 of our powerful and heartfelt conversation on resilience with the incredible Jared Maynard. Jared is a physiotherapist, coach, and founder of Unbreakable Strength. If you listened to Part 1, you know Jared’s story is one of deep personal and physical transformation. In this follow-up, we go even deeper.

Together, we unpack what resilience really means. Not just grit or toughness, but the ability to break, bend, rebuild, and receive help. Jared opens up about the moment he realized the version of himself he once knew was gone, and what it took to begin again.

We talk about:

Why resilience isn’t about bypassing or avoiding pain
Mental toughness vs. durability and how they're different
What it really feels like to “lose” your identity after trauma
How vulnerability, grief, and letting go are essential to rebuilding
The power of connection, community, and receiving love
Jared’s raw story of waking up in the ICU after life support
Why sometimes, resilience starts with simply accepting help
And the life-altering moment a mentor told him: “Let yourself be loved.”

This is more than a conversation about physical recovery, it’s about emotional survival, personal transformation, and the kind of strength that’s built when everything else falls away.

Guest Info:

Jared Maynard

Founder of Unbreakable Strength

IG: https://www.instagram.com/jared.unbreakable/

Book A Call With Jared HERE

Connect with Katie:

Katie O'Leary Trauma & Chronic Stress Coaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/katieostresscoaching/

Book A Call With Katie HERE

Listen to Part 1:

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Resilience in Real Life with Jared Maynard

Mon, 22 Sep 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this powerful and heartfelt episode of Stress Mess, Laughing Through Trauma, Katie sits down with Jared Maynard — a physio, strength coach, dad, and all-around inspiring human — to dive into the nuanced and sometimes messy world of resilience.

Jared shares his deeply personal journey from being the “fat kid” hiding during recess to becoming a confident, grounded leader in the strength and coaching space. He opens up about his experiences with Kung Fu, football, bodybuilding, and eventually powerlifting — and how the barbell became a catalyst for self-trust, discipline, and transformation.

Together, Katie and Jared explore:

What resilience really means beyond the buzzword
Why failure can be a powerful teacher (even if it sucks)
How chosen hardship (like lifting weights) builds inner strength
The tension between perfectionism and self-compassion
Parenting moments that are both hilarious and humbling
What it means to stay grounded in your values when “the shit hits the fan”

This episode is equal parts real talk, personal storytelling, and practical wisdom for anyone navigating adversity — whether you're lifting heavy in the gym, raising little humans, or just trying to get through a tough week.

Notable Quotes:

🗣️ “Resilience is how you keep going with and for the things and people that matter to you.”

🗣️ “The barbell doesn't care what kind of day you’ve had. It teaches you how to fail — and how to come back stronger.”

🗣️ “You don’t have to act on every emotion. But you do need to listen to them.”

Guest Info:

🎧 Jared Maynard

Founder of Unbreakable Strength

IG: https://www.instagram.com/jared.unbreakable/

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Connect with Katie:

Katie O'Leary Trauma & Chronic Stress Coaching

IG: https://www.instagram.com/katieostresscoaching/

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When to reconnect, When To Not

Mon, 15 Sep 2025 12:00:00 GMT

“If one more person tells me, ‘Just try again—they didn’t mean it,’ I don’t know what I’ll do…”

In this deeply personal and raw episode, we dive into the complicated emotions around reconnection, estrangement, and healing—especially when the harm is minimized, dismissed, or repeated.

Through an honest reflection on childhood wounds, family estrangement, and the long road of unlearning harmful dynamics, we explore critical questions:

How do you know when a connection is no longer healthy?
What are the signs it might be okay—or even healing—to try again?
And what happens when everyone else is pressuring you to reconcile, but your body is screaming “No”?

Part storytelling, part therapeutic unpacking, this episode invites you into an intimate session that blends vulnerability, insight, and somatic wisdom. If you've ever felt guilted into repairing a relationship that still hurts, or questioned whether you’re the “problem” for walking away, this one’s for you.

Topics Include:

The myth of “just try again”
Body cues that tell us the truth
Signs of unsafe vs. safe reconnection
Rewriting internalized shame from childhood
Permission to honor your boundaries—even if others don't understand

This episode isn’t just about letting go, it’s about reclaiming your right to choose who gets to stay in your life.

Don't forget to subscribe and leave a review! You can catch me on instagram @katieostresscoaching

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Exploring Desire, Erotic Aliveness & Communication with Lara Lark (Part 2)

Mon, 08 Sep 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode we continue an important conversation with Laura, a Certified Somatic Relationship Coach and Board-Certified Sexologist. We'll dive into the complex topics of low desire, erotic aliveness, and communication within relationships. The episode covers everything from the personal beliefs shaping our sexuality to the importance of embodiment and how couples can reconnect with their desires in a safe and open way. Topics covered include:

Low Desire Causes: Lara explains that low sexual desire in women often stems from emotional or relational dynamics (intimacy, body connection, unresolved resentment, hormones), not just medical issues.
Gender and Desire: Men are more likely to be treated with medications for low desire, while women often receive therapy-focused advice, reflecting societal attitudes toward gender and sexuality.
Medication Impact: Medications like antidepressants and conditions such as diabetes can affect libido, but this is often overlooked in medical care.
Shame and Sexuality: Societal norms, like purity culture, have shamed women’s sexual desire. Lara stresses the importance of overcoming shame to embrace one's sexuality without judgment.
Body Connection: Lara encourages reconnecting with one's body through sensory experiences, which fosters greater erotic awareness and pleasure.
Dating Yourself: Katie suggests "dating yourself" for a month to tune into your personal desires, similar to Lara’s approach of reconnecting with needs in daily life.
Shame and Taboo: Normalizing shame in sexual exploration creates a safe space for individuals to express their desires, promoting empowerment and acceptance.
Core Erotic Desires & Blueprints: Understanding core sexual needs (e.g., being seen or cherished) and erotic blueprints (romantic, kinky, energetic) helps partners communicate and connect better.
Fantasies & Boundaries: Exploring fantasies (romantic, kinky, energetic) and setting clear boundaries ensures consensual, empowering sexual exploration.

Highlights:

The importance of embodiment in reconnecting with desires.
The role of belief systems and shame in shaping sexual experiences.
A deep dive into exploring erotic desires through core desires and blueprints.
A conversation about consent, agency, and the power of boundaries in healthy sexual relationships.
And more

This episode is a powerful reminder that sexual desire is complex and multifaceted. By exploring our beliefs, reconnecting with our bodies, and openly communicating with our partners, we can reignite erotic aliveness and cultivate healthier, more fulfilling relationships.

Resources:

If you're curious about exploring this topic further, reach out to Lara on Instagram @lara_lark_coaching to help you navigate these conversations
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Intimacy, Stress, and Connection: A Conversation with Lara Lark

Mon, 01 Sep 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we sits down with somatic relationship and intimacy coach, and board-certified sexologist, Lara Lark. Together, they explore the messy intersection of stress, intimacy, and connection — from navigating emotional challenges to embracing physical closeness with more presence and ease.

Lara opens up about her own journey of overcoming relationship struggles, what drew her into intimacy coaching, and why stress integration is so critical for healthy relationships. Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this conversation will leave you with practical insights and a deeper sense of compassion for yourself and others.

💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode

How stress shows up in relationships — and what you can do about it
The role of somatic practices in building intimacy and trust
Lara’s personal story of turning relationship challenges into her life’s work
Why both emotional and physical intimacy matter for connection
Practical steps to integrate stress so you can show up more fully in love and life

👤 About Our Guest

Lara Lark is a somatic relationship and intimacy coach and a board-certified sexologist. She helps people reconnect with themselves and their partners by blending science, somatic practices, and compassionate coaching. Her work focuses on helping others navigate intimacy, stress, and connection with more ease.

Don't forget to subscribe and follow us on Instagram @katieostresscoaching and @lara_lark_coaching

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Am I Too Much? Rewriting the Narrative of Emotional Overwhelm

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 12:00:00 GMT

Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “I’m too much... I’m being dramatic... I should tone it down”? You’re not alone — and more importantly, you’re not too much.

In this episode, we dive deep into the origins of the “I’m too much” narrative — how many of us were conditioned to believe that big feelings meant we were wrong, dramatic, or overwhelming. From childhood messages that minimized or shamed our emotions, to the subtle (or not-so-subtle) ways we’ve learned to silence ourselves, this episode unpacks the emotional imprints we carry and why they show up today.

We’ll explore:

The difference between emotional overwhelm and being "too much"
How to shift from shame to understanding when big emotions arise
What it means to co-regulate vs. emotionally outsource
Somatic tools and nervous system practices to sit with discomfort — without collapsing, running, or dumping
How to be the inner caregiver we needed when our emotions were once met with rejection

This isn’t about fixing yourself — it’s about reclaiming your right to feel. Tune in to begin untangling the shame loop and learn how to be with your emotions in a more grounded, compassionate way.

Don't forget to subscribe and follow along on Instagram @katieostresscoaching

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Motherhood, Business, and the Power of Showing Up

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this raw and honest episode, we dive deep into the beautiful chaos of juggling motherhood, entrepreneurship, and friendship with our incredible guest, Dr. Liana Sved (@the_jawpaindoc).

Together, we pull back the curtain on what it really looks like to show up every day as moms, business owners, and women trying to do it all. From chaotic mornings filled with cereal spills and toddler meltdowns to late-night emails and moments of quiet doubt, we talk about the unfiltered truth behind the highlight reels.

We explore the emotional rollercoaster that so often comes with building a business while raising a family—the pressure to be everything to everyone, the guilt, the breakthroughs, and the small wins that keep us going. Dr. Liana opens up about her journey as a mom and doctor, how she’s learned to find support in unexpected places, and the powerful role that female friendship and vulnerability have played in her growth.

This conversation is a love letter to every woman who’s ever felt overwhelmed, burned out, or questioned whether she’s doing enough. If you've ever cried on the bathroom floor, doubted your purpose, or simply needed someone to say "me too," this episode is for you.

Because the truth is: you don’t have to have it all figured out to keep going. You just have to keep showing up.

✨ Follow Dr. Liana on Instagram @the_jawpaindoc

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Let’s Talk About Safety—Not Just the Buzzword

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we're unpacking what safety really means—beyond just physical security. Emotional, cognitive, and relational safety are often overlooked, yet they deeply shape how we move through life, especially as trauma survivors.

We cover:

The 4 types of safety: physical, emotional, cognitive, relational
Why you might feel “unsafe” even if you had a “good” childhood
How trauma teaches us to outsource safety—and how to reclaim it
Practical ways to build internal and external safety
The role of boundaries, predictability, and self-awareness

“Safety isn’t the absence of triggers. It’s the presence of support, choice, and tools to navigate whatever arises.”

This episode is for anyone who’s been told they're “too much,” or who’s learning how to feel at home in their own body and mind.

Let me know what you thought of this episode by sending a DM to @katieostresscoaching on Instagram.

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What is the "Root Cause?" Rethinking Chronic Illness & Healing with guest Taylor Goldberg

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In today’s episode, Katie is joined once again by the insightful and ever-curious Taylor Goldberg. A chiropractor turned virtual hypermobility coach to unpack a buzzword we hear everywhere in the chronic illness world: “root cause.”

Is there really one root cause for chronic symptoms? What does that term even mean and is it helping or hurting the healing journey?

Together, Katie and Taylor explore:

Why the search for a root cause can create shame, pressure, and false hope
How symptoms are often misunderstood—and why they’re not always bad
The danger of over-labeling and iatrogenic diagnoses
How practitioners can shift from “fixing” to curious collaboration
The value of an integrative, multifactorial approach to chronic illness and trauma

Whether you’re a practitioner, a patient, or someone navigating long-term symptoms, this episode will challenge how you think about healing—and offer a more compassionate, realistic path forward.

Let’s stop chasing the perfect answer and start listening to the full story.

🔗 Connect with Taylor:

@thehypermobilechiro

thehypermobilechiro.com

🔗 Connect with Katie:

@katieostresscoaching

oakmountainmh.com

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The Power of Small Habits in Trauma Healing

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 12:00:00 GMT

When we think about trauma healing, it’s easy to imagine we need to dive headfirst into the hardest parts like reliving stories, unpacking everything at once, and somehow healing fast. But what if real healing starts with something much simpler?

In this heartfelt and vulnerable episode, I talk about the quiet power of small habits. The daily actions that rebuild self-trust, confidence, and connection. From taking a walk even when it feels hard, to drinking water, going to the doctor without shame, or opening up to a friend, these small promises to ourselves can create massive change.

I also open up about my own current season being three months postpartum, navigating a new family dynamic, and processing difficult news about my daughter’s upcoming heart surgery. Through it all, it was the tiny acts of care that got me through.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re not “doing enough” to heal, this episode is for you. Let’s shift the lens from dramatic transformation to gentle, daily rituals of self-love. At the end, I’ll leave you with one question to carry forward:

✨ What is one small habit you can start today to show up for yourself? Let me know by sending me a DM on Instagram @katieostresscoaching

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Empowered Healing: A Conversation on Chronic Pain, Self-Awareness, and the Mind-Body Connection

Mon, 21 Jul 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Katie sits down with Dr. McKinsey Cummings (@‌dr.mckinseycummings), a chiropractor who specializes in chronic pain and illness management for women. Blending personal experience with professional expertise, Dr. McKinsey shares powerful insights into the healing journey and what it truly means to support the body—and mind—through chronic health challenges.

Together, they explore the deep interconnection between physical and emotional well-being, the role of self-awareness in healing, and why individualized approaches matter. From breaking negative thought patterns to embracing coaching and self-exploration, this conversation is full of thoughtful takeaways to help you feel more empowered and in tune with your own health.

Whether you're managing chronic pain or simply seeking a more holistic understanding of wellness, this episode offers inspiration and practical wisdom for your personal journey.

Tune in to learn:

The importance of the mind-body connection in chronic illness
How self-awareness and mindset shape healing
Why personalized care makes a difference
Tools for breaking unhelpful patterns and reclaiming your health journey
And so much more!

Don't forget to follow us on instagram @katieostresscoaching and @‌dr.mckinseycummings and send us a DM to let us know what you thought of this episode!

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Nurturing Connection: Understanding Regulation and Self-Care

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this heartfelt solo episode, we kick things off with a real-life mom moment — potty training, body check-ins, and a little one reminding us what it truly means to listen to our bodies. From that sweet story, we dive into a deep reflection on a word that's everywhere these days: Regulation.

Katie unpacks the pressures we often attach to regulating “perfectly,” and how the concept has become more of a performance than a practice. But what if we reframed it entirely? What if regulation was less about "fixing" and more about tuning in, offering compassion, and meeting ourselves with TLC?

Whether it’s throwing plastic bottles in frustration, going for a walk with anxiety, or simply checking in with “what do I need right now?”, this episode is a gentle but powerful reminder that regulation isn’t one-size-fits-all — it’s a messy, ongoing relationship with ourselves.

✨ Topics Covered:

Why “regulation” might feel triggering or performative
How to reframe regulation as self-parenting and body kindness
Why “doing it right” doesn’t exist — and that’s okay
Real examples of non-linear, everyday regulation practices
The connection between early trauma and the struggle to self-soothe

Stick around for a sneak peek at the next episode featuring a very special where we explore chronic illness, pain, stress, and how to reclaim safety in our bodies.

💬 We'd love to hear your thoughts — what does regulation mean to you now? DM me on Instagram at @katieostresscoaching

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Normalization of Chronic Stress and Trauma

Mon, 07 Jul 2025 12:00:00 GMT

Welcome to Season 3 of Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma!

This season we're diving back in with heart, humor, and honesty, while naming the stressors that have been creeping in under the radar.

In this premiere episode, we explore the invisible pressures that fuel chronic stress and trauma but are often overlooked because they’ve become normalized. From the mental load of daily life (think planning meals, scheduling appointments, remembering everything) to social masking, caregiving burnout, and health anxiety, we uncover how these subtle, everyday experiences keep our minds and bodies stuck in survival mode.

Host, Katie O'Leary, breaks it all down with compassion and real talk; plus some surprise office visits from a sweet little voice in the background!

If you've ever felt like you're "on" all the time, carrying a weight no one sees, or wondering why you're so tired despite “nothing major” happening... this one’s for you.

Let us know what resonates, and get ready for a season filled with validating conversations, expert guests, and a whole lot of stress-busting insight. Send a DM to @katieostresscoaching

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Navigating the Unexpected Journey of Motherhood and Stress

Mon, 16 Jun 2025 12:00:00 GMT

After a short hiatus, Katie back with a deeply personal and raw solo episode to close out Season 2 of Stress Mess.

In this episode, we unpack what happened when life took an unexpected—and very real—turn: an unplanned early induction, a whirlwind of medical decisions, and ultimately, the birth of baby Eleanor via C-section.

From navigating the stress of medical uncertainty to confronting internal narratives around perfectionism, natural birth, and societal expectations, this episode is a heartfelt reflection on what it means to stay grounded in your values when everything is in flux.

You'll hear how past podcast conversations with guests like Kelsey, Lisa, and Clinician Kate echoed in real-time during this transformative experience, and how connection, informed choice, and being truly seen made all the difference.

Topics covered:

The pressure of "staying consistent" vs. honoring real life
Medical decision-making and agency during childbirth
Letting go of shame around a non-"natural" birth
How emotional support impacts physical healing
The value of human connection in both therapy and medicine

Season 3 launches Monday, July 7th with even more expert voices, stories, and tools on stress, trauma, and healing. Until then, take care, and remember: you're doing f***ing amazing. 💛 Follow along on IG @katieostresscoaching for more!

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Embracing The Messiness of Healing

Mon, 21 Apr 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this raw and candid episode, we dive into the often overlooked reality of healing and mental health. Society, social media, and even popular culture often portray mental health as something neat and tidy—like flipping to Chapter 15 of your self-help book and following a clear set of steps to fix everything. But the truth is, healing is messy. It's emotional flare-ups, triggered states, and moments where things just aren't pretty.

We talk about the importance of embracing our messiness and the power of accepting ourselves—imperfections, emotions, and all. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, we explore how shaming ourselves for feeling "messy" can be a major roadblock in our healing journey. The reality is, being able to sit with discomfort, pain, and difficult emotions without judgment is one of the strongest things we can do.

If you've ever felt pressured to have it all together, this episode is a reminder that messiness is not only normal, it’s a part of the work. We discuss how healing isn’t about being perfect or always having a polished, curated exterior—it’s about being real, sitting with the difficult moments, and accepting every part of ourselves as we navigate our emotional journey.

Key takeaways:

Embracing the messiness of life as part of the healing process
How shame around difficult emotions can hinder progress
The importance of finding a supportive, judgment-free space for healing
Why being real and imperfect is where the true growth happens

Don't forget to follow us on Instagram @kaiteostresscoaching and let us know what you thought of this episode!

If you're tired of trying to fit into a perfect narrative of healing and want to learn how to love your messy, real self—this episode is for you.

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Building Resilience

Mon, 14 Apr 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the concept of resilience and how it helps us navigate life's toughest moments. We kick things off by recognizing that trauma survivors are already resilient by nature, having developed survival techniques along the way. But even the most resilient can feel overwhelmed by stressors, leading to a state of "freeze mode" where everything feels like it's too much to handle.

Resilience isn’t about bypassing difficult emotions—it’s about sitting in the discomfort, acknowledging the pain, and finding the strength to move forward, even when it feels impossible. We discuss the key components of resilience, including curiosity, self-belief, courage, patience, and emotional regulation. Through this conversation, we explore how resilience is a skill we can grow and strengthen, rather than something we're simply born with.

Whether you're dealing with chronic stress, trauma, or just the ups and downs of life, this episode offers practical insights and tools to help you build resilience. Tune in for a heart-centered conversation about how to sit with the discomfort, face challenges head-on, and remind yourself that even in the toughest times, you have the strength to weather the storm.

Key takeaways:

Understanding what resilience truly is and what it’s not
The importance of self-awareness and emotional regulation
How resilience is built through practice and growth mindset
Real-life examples of how to apply resilience in everyday life

If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck in your struggles and learn how to bounce back stronger, this episode is for you. Don't forget to follow us on instagram @kaiteostresscoaching!

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Understanding Chronic Stress & Trauma

Mon, 07 Apr 2025 12:00:00 GMT

On this episode of Stress Mess, Laughing Through Trauma, we welcome fellow Oak Mountain Coach, Kate Tokarski, who will help us dive into the understanding of Chronic Stress & Trauma along with the realities of living with lifelong challenges of chronic illnesses.

We explore the emotional and psychological impact of chronic illness and trauma, acknowledging the often overlooked grief, stress, and medical PTSD that accompany these conditions. We talk about how to navigate the ups and downs, whether it’s the physical burden of illness, the mental toll of constant stress, or the difficult emotional journey of acceptance and advocacy.

With insights from our own personal experiences and professional backgrounds, we offer practical coaching tools to help you cope, find community, and embrace your journey. It’s not about "fixing" – it’s about understanding, validating, and taking the steps toward empowerment and healing.

If you're living with chronic illness or trauma, or supporting someone who is, this podcast is for you. Join us as we explore how to live your best life with chronic conditions, share raw and real conversations, and offer you the support you deserve.

Remember: You’re not alone, and it’s okay to say, "F*** off" when you need to. Let’s get real about it, together.

Follow us on Instagram at @katieostresscoaching or email us at info@oakmountainmh.com to learn more about our coaching services.

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Stressed Managing Stress

Mon, 31 Mar 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the growing obsession with stress management and the overwhelming pressure society places on "reducing stress." We explore how wellness professionals, social media, and even doctors can often make us feel like stress is something to eradicate completely, leading to confusion, guilt, and shame. Is stress really something we need to eliminate, or is it simply a natural part of life that we need to learn how to interact with in healthier ways?

Join me as I unpack the all-or-nothing mentality surrounding stress, the anxiety caused by endless wellness trends, and how we can start to reclaim our power over our bodies and minds without falling into the stress-reduction rabbit hole. I’ll share my own experiences with stress and offer practical advice, like connecting with your body, listening to your needs, and gently learning how to manage stress rather than trying to fight it.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by the pressure to be "stress-free" or questioned whether you're doing enough to combat stress, this episode is for you. Let’s break the cycle of stress shame together and approach it in a way that feels real and empowering. Tune in and share your thoughts with me – you’re not alone in this!

DM me on Insta @kaiteostresscoaching with your thoughts after listening.

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Titrating Feelings: The Balance Between Feeling and Distracting

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we'll explore the delicate dance between feeling and distracting when it comes to our emotional experiences. If you've been in therapy or mental health support for years, you might find yourself intellectually understanding your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, but still feeling stuck or overwhelmed so today we'll dive into the concept of intellectualizing feelings—where we overthink and analyze but struggle to actually feel—and why it’s so important to start engaging with our emotions in a deeper, more embodied way.

Through the practice of titration and pendulation, we'll talk about how sitting with our emotions, in a safe and supported way, allows us to experience feelings without becoming overwhelmed. You’ll learn how to recognize when it’s time to feel and when it’s okay to distract in order to avoid re-traumatizing yourself or spiraling into emotional overwhelm. Whether you're in therapy or navigating emotions on your own, this episode offers practical insights on how to start feeling your feelings without fear—and why those feelings are a vital guide to living a fuller, more authentic life.

Tune in for tips on how to dip into your emotions in a manageable way, and understand when to pause and take a break. It’s all about balance—and the journey to emotional healing starts with being present with yourself.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re stuck in the loop of knowing but not feeling, this episode is for you. Join us for a compassionate dive into the complexities of emotional healing.

Don't forge to follow us on social over @katieostresscoaching and send me a DM to let me know what you think of this episode!

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Breaking the Stigma: Navigating Pregnancy, Postpartum, and Motherhood

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 12:00:00 GMT

On today's episode, we dive into the often misunderstood and stigmatized journey of pregnancy, birth, and postpartum. We welcome special guests Kelsey Castek, DPT and Lisa Becker-Schmall, DPT, as they break down the pressures, expectations, and self-doubt that many women face along the way. From navigating the physical and mental challenges of pregnancy to embracing the postpartum experience and beyond, the conversation touches on the reality of "Am I doing it right?" and how we can redefine what "right" really means.

Dr. Kelsey, a women’s health physical therapist, and Dr. Lisa, a pelvic floor therapist & strength coach, share their insights on how to tune in to your body, let go of societal pressures, and focus on what works best for YOU. They discuss common myths, managing mental health, and offer empowering advice for women in every stage of motherhood.

Tune in to break free from the guilt, shame, and unrealistic expectations and embrace the truth that every journey is unique. If you’ve ever questioned your own path or felt overwhelmed by advice from all directions, this episode is for you. Let’s build a community of support and understanding where you can feel confident in your body and your choices!

Don't forget to follow us on Instagram: @katieostresscoaching, @empoweredpelvis.withkelsey, and @lisa.b.schmall, and reach out to let us know if this episode spoke to you!

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Rethinking Health, Healing, and Expectations

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 12:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the complexities of health, healing, and what it truly means to be "healed."

Many people approach coaching or therapy with the goal of healing—hoping for an absence of pain, trauma, or difficult emotions. But is healing about perfection, or is it a continual process of choices and self-awareness?

We explore the idea that healing isn’t the absence of struggle, but the ability to navigate life's challenges with resilience, self-compassion, and understanding. From the fluctuating nature of mental health to the pressures of societal expectations, this episode offers a refreshing perspective on what it means to be healthy and whole.

Join us as we challenge black-and-white thinking about health, reflect on how we define healing for ourselves, and discuss the importance of self-awareness in the healing process. If you’ve ever struggled with the idea of being “healed” or wondered if you’re doing it right, this episode is for you.

Don't forget to follow along with us on instagram @katieostresscoaching or you email us at info@oakmountainmh.com

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Choices

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we're diving deep into the topic of choices—a word that can feel both empowering and overwhelming. We'll explore how trauma and chronic stress can cloud our ability to recognize the choices we actually have, often making us feel stuck or powerless. Using insights from The Four Agreements, we discuss how we can become "auto-domesticated" by unconscious beliefs and societal "laws" that shape our thoughts, actions, and emotions.

Through a powerful conversation about mindset shifts and somatic practices, we uncover how connecting the body with the mind can help us rewrite those ingrained beliefs. The episode also touches on how to approach mantras, emotions, and responses to life’s challenges in a way that honors both the mind and body. Tune in to discover how we can break free from rigid patterns and take charge of our responses, making empowered choices even in the face of adversity.

Be sure to follow along on Instagram @katieostresscoaching and DM me your thoughts on today's episode!

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Trauma and Whole Health Recovery

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this episode, Katie sits down with Joanne Fearns (ishnutrition.com) a Trauma and Nutrition Health Coach that we like to call "your friendly neighborhood Trauma & Nutrition Health Coach," to discuss the powerful connection between trauma, the mind, body, and nutrition. Joanne shares her personal journey, from surviving childhood abuse and a challenging foster care experience to the pivotal moments that led her to find healing and ultimately build a career helping others do the same.

Joanne opens up about how her own trauma impacted her relationships and mental health, and how she learned to confront and heal the damage she was unknowingly carrying. With her deep knowledge of trauma-informed care and nutrition, she explores the ways our bodies respond to emotional wounds and how holistic healing practices can support true recovery.

This conversation is full of raw honesty, self-reflection, and practical insights for anyone on a healing journey. Tune in for a thought-provoking discussion on the importance of understanding your body’s needs, owning your past, and making space for authentic self-love and growth.

Be sure to follow along on Instagram: Katie @kaiteostresscoaching and Joanne @ishnutrition to learn more and schedule a discovery session.

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Psychosocial Development and Trauma

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the fascinating intersection of psychosocial development and childhood trauma. The conversation starts by exploring Erik Erikson's stages of development, from infancy to adulthood, and how each stage builds on emotional, cognitive, and social milestones. We then examine how trauma—whether from neglect, abuse, or inconsistent caregiving—can disrupt these stages, often leading to long-lasting impacts on self-worth, trust, and relationships.

Through the lens of childhood trauma, we discuss how certain stages like trust vs. mistrust, autonomy vs. shame, and identity vs. role confusion can be affected, leading to struggles with shame, doubt, and fear of intimacy in adulthood. The episode emphasizes that trauma often shifts the focus from healthy exploration to mere survival, and how understanding these developmental processes can reduce shame, increase self-compassion, and guide individuals toward healing and self-parenting.

If you're ready to explore how past experiences shape your present behavior and relationships, or just curious about how childhood trauma impacts your journey, this episode offers a mix of education, compassion, and tools to help you heal.

Don't forget to follow along on Instagram @katieostresscoaching, and send me a DM if this sounds like you or if you have any questions!

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What the heck does consistency mean?

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 13:00:00 GMT

On this episode, Katie sits down with Dr. Josh Glasmann, a chiropractor, strength coach, and wellness expert, to discuss the power of consistency in health and fitness. As a father of five, Dr. Josh shares how he balances his career and family life while staying committed to his own wellness journey. From quick, effective workouts to maintaining a healthy lifestyle, the conversation covers how to integrate movement into everyday life—even with kids in tow. They explore the importance of modeling healthy habits for children, including making exercise fun, building confidence, and promoting mental and emotional well-being. Tune in for a refreshing, realistic take on creating a sustainable wellness routine that fits into busy family life. Be sure to follow us on Instagram @katieostresscoaching and @Dr.josh_unbound.sms

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Toxic Positivity and Focusing on the Positive

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the complex world of toxic positivity, exploring how it often conflicts with our natural emotional responses, especially when dealing with trauma. Host Katie opens up about her own experiences with toxic positivity and the challenges of being told to “just focus on the positive” when dealing with deep emotional pain. Is it possible to acknowledge the hard stuff—like anger, sadness, and frustration—without getting stuck in it? Or are we expected to bypass those feelings and constantly stay upbeat?

Katie explores how toxic positivity can invalidate real emotions, leading to guilt, shame, and isolation, particularly for those struggling with trauma. She highlights the importance of holding space for both the pain and the hope, creating a space where growth and resilience can coexist with the darker emotions. In this conversation, we discuss the importance of acknowledging the struggle while also allowing room for moments of joy and healing.

Throughout the episode, Katie emphasizes the power of emotional resilience and the need to validate our feelings while still embracing the potential for recovery and growth. The conversation sheds light on how to integrate both the pain and the progress, finding balance between focusing on the positive and honoring the reality of life's challenges.

If you’ve ever felt torn between holding onto your struggles and trying to stay positive, this episode will give you tools to navigate that tension. And we’d love to hear your thoughts—feel free to DM Katie at @KatieOStressCoaching to join the conversation.

Stay tuned for next week’s episode, where we’ll bring in a special guest to dive even deeper into these themes!

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Chronic Illness, Shame, and Stigma: Breaking the Silence with Taylor Goldberg & Naomi Bauer

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this powerful episode, I'll sit down with two trailblazers in the chronic illness and holistic health space—Taylor Goldberg and Naomi Bauer.

Together, they explore the multifaceted world of chronic illness, shedding light on the challenges of navigating a healthcare system that often overlooks the complexity of these conditions.

Taylor, a hypermobility coach specializing in hypermobile Ehlers-Danlos syndrome (hEDS), and Naomi, a physical therapist and coach working with individuals affected by POTS (Postural Orthostatic Tachycardia Syndrome) and Long COVID, bring their unique insights on how chronic illness impacts not just the body, but the mind and spirit as well. They delve into the invisible nature of many chronic conditions, how individuals are often gaslit or dismissed, and why traditional medical models don't always provide the comprehensive care people need.

In a conversation that highlights the importance of an integrative, holistic approach, Taylor and Naomi discuss the need for self-advocacy, the trial-and-error process of finding what works for each person, and the significance of redefining "recovery" beyond just being symptom-free. They also explore the role of shame and stigma in chronic illness, offering empowering perspectives on how to reduce both.

Tune in to hear how both Western medicine and holistic practices can coexist to support individuals living with chronic illnesses, and why understanding the whole person—rather than just focusing on isolated symptoms—can make all the difference in healing and empowerment.

We also chat about the complexity and invisibility of chronic illnesses, why chronic conditions often require an integrative approach, the relationship between physical and mental health in chronic illness, reframing "recovery" and healing beyond the medical model, how to reduce shame and stigma surrounding chronic illness and much more.

Don't miss this enlightening and empowering conversation with these remarkable leaders in chronic illness support. Be sure to follow along with us on Instagram!

Katie: @katieostresscoaching, Taylor: @thehypermobilechiro and Naomi: @its_all_about_that_pace

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 13:00:00 GMT

In this deeply personal episode, we explore the often avoided topic of emotions, especially the difficult and intense ones that society tends to bypass or dismiss.

This episode delves into the importance of allowing all emotions, even the “harder” ones, to be felt and processed. We dive into the pervasive culture of toxic positivity and “good vibes only,” advocating instead for the transformative power of human connection, empathy, and the simple act of being present with another person’s feelings.

Drawing from research in trauma and mental health, this episode underscores how validating emotions and holding space for them can significantly reduce mental, emotional, and even physical suffering.

Join us in this eye-opening conversation about the power of emotion, the necessity of connection, and why we must resist the urge to bypass what makes us human and don't forget to follow over on instagram @katieostresscoaching.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 13:00:22 GMT

Welcome to Stress Mess, Laughing Through Trauma – Season 2!

In this season, we’re diving deep into the integration of mind-body health with more guest experts, exploring the holistic and medical models of care, and the space where they intersect. We'll take you through fascinating topics that challenge the traditional "either/or" mindset when it comes to health – breaking down stigma, offering humor, and creating space for healing through both medical and holistic approaches.

In this episode, we kicks things off by discussing the concept of "Transcend and Include," where we look beyond the limitations of any one system and explore how to bring the best of both worlds together. Whether it's the evidence-based medical model or the whole-person, preventative approach of holistic care, I believe we can integrate them in a way that empowers us all to live healthier, more balanced lives.

This season, expect to hear about:

The strengths and limitations of the medical and holistic models
How both approaches can work together to improve mental health
The importance of patient empowerment and the mind-body connection
Why health should never be one-size-fits-all and how to navigate this complex journey

It’s going to be a fun, thought-provoking, and empowering season – so join us as we explore the beauty of integrating diverse approaches to health, laughter, and life. Don’t forget to DM me (@KatieOStressCoaching) with the secret words for a special giveaway, and stay tuned for more inspiring conversations ahead!

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 13:00:26 GMT

In this season finale of Season 1, we'll take a moment to reflect on the journey so far—how this podcast has evolved, the importance of reducing shame around trauma, and the power of open conversations.

As we head into the holiday season, today's episode explores the pressures and expectations that come with the holidays, both external and internal. Whether it's the dynamics within family units, the stress of pleasing others, or the weight of our own self-imposed standards, this episode is an invitation to take back your power. How can we navigate these challenging moments without losing ourselves in the process? How do we identify and confront those old survival mechanisms that no longer serve us?

From practicing boundaries to honoring your own needs, this episode is all about giving yourself the space to breathe, reflect, and make conscious choices—especially in moments when you're expected to give it all away. With plenty of humor, heart, and real-life insights, this is the perfect send-off for Season 1 as we look forward to the new year and Season 2, packed with amazing guests and even more meaningful conversations.

Join us for this heartfelt finale, and remember: through it all, you have the power to take back control, one choice at a time.

Happy holidays, and see you in January! -@katieostresscoaching

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 13:00:29 GMT

On this deeply reflective episode, we explore the complex relationship between health, self-worth, and perfectionism, particularly in the context of chronic illness, trauma, and recovery. Many of us have internalized the belief that if we aren't perfectly healthy, productive, or "well," then we are somehow less worthy or have failed in our healing journey.

We dive into the common narrative that links self-worth to how we feel physically or mentally on any given day, and how this can lead to an exhausting cycle of striving for perfection and fearing any sign of struggle. This episode challenges the idea that we must always be "well" to be worthy of love, care, and respect, and instead encourages listeners to redefine their value beyond their health status.

We also examine how societal expectations of resilience, productivity, and outward appearance often mask the deeper truths of human experience—like the inevitability of pain, imperfection, and setbacks. Healing is not linear, and struggling doesn't mean you’re failing.

This episode offers a powerful reminder: You are worthy just as you are, even in the midst of pain or hardship. Healing doesn’t make you more valuable; you’ve always been enough.

Tune in for a thoughtful conversation on self-compassion, breaking free from the all-or-nothing mindset, and the importance of grounding ourselves in values rather than perfectionism and be sure to follow along on instagram @katieostresscoaching for more.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 13:00:59 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the journey of self-acceptance and healing by acknowledging how our past survival mechanisms shaped us. We all learn how to survive challenging environments—whether that’s a toxic family dynamic, a difficult upbringing, or a system that made us adapt in ways we didn’t even realize. But what happens when those survival patterns no longer serve us, and we want to change?

We'll go through the emotional struggle of relinquishing these survival patterns, shedding light on how the mind and body, while trying to protect us, can make change feel incredibly difficult. With compassion and honesty, we'll explain how these survival behaviors were learned and how they can still impact our reactions today—even in safer environments. She shares insights on how to break free from old patterns, step by step, and encourages us to approach ourselves with grace, not shame, during the process.

If you’ve ever felt stuck in your own survival strategies or overwhelmed by the shame of your past behaviors, this episode offers both understanding and practical ways to move forward with TLC (tender loving care).

Tune in for a comforting reminder that you’re not alone, and change, though challenging, is absolutely possible with time, patience, and the right kind of support. Don't forget to follow @katieostresscoaching on instagram for more.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 13:00:01 GMT

In this episode, we're diving into the often elusive, sometimes overwhelming concept of "feeling the feels." Have you ever been told to just feel your emotions, but weren’t sure how to do it or how long to sit with them? You’re not alone. Today, we’re going to walk through a simple, powerful practice to help you tune into your emotions, sit with them without judgment, and really feel them in your body.

We'll talk about how emotions are not right or wrong—they're just messages from your body—and how to separate the feeling from the story. Together, we’ll explore how to notice what’s coming up, identify where it’s showing up in your body, and even how to breathe through it. Plus, I’ll guide you through a grounding technique to bring you back to the present moment when things feel too much.

This episode is perfect for anyone wanting to reconnect with their emotions, process discomfort, or simply be more present with what’s going on inside. Tune in and practice with me to learn how to sit with your feelings, no matter how intense or complicated they might be.

Remember: it's okay to feel, and it’s okay to not have all the answers. Just breathe and be with it. -@katieostresscoaching

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 13:00:31 GMT

In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional impact of vulnerability—especially when we were taught early in life that expressing our true feelings and needs could lead to shame, danger, or rejection. We explore how this early conditioning can create an emotional scar, pushing us to suppress our vulnerability and abandon our own needs in order to gain approval or avoid conflict.

Over time, this survival mechanism can leave us feeling disconnected from ourselves, exhausted, resentful, and trapped in a cycle of people-pleasing. But what happens when we hit a breaking point and realize our current life isn’t working for us? How do we begin to reconnect with our authentic selves, face our fears, and stop abandoning ourselves for the sake of others?

Join me as we discuss how to start the journey toward self-acceptance, emotional support, and healthy boundaries. We also reflect on how to handle the discomfort that comes with showing up as our true selves, and why it's so difficult (but necessary) to ask for and receive support from others.

By the end of the episode, you’ll be prompted to reflect on how you respond to vulnerability, and how you can begin to break free from the cycle of emotional self-abandonment.

Questions for Reflection:

How do you feel when you ask for help or receive support?
What comes up for you when you share your emotions or thoughts with others?

DM me your thoughts and feelings from this episode at @katieostresscoaching—let’s keep this conversation going!

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 13:00:25 GMT

In today's episode, we dive into the powerful concepts of resistance and radical acceptance—two psychological responses that can either keep you stuck or help you move forward when faced with difficult realities. If you've ever found yourself saying, "This isn't fair" or "I can't believe this is happening to me," you're not alone. These thoughts reflect resistance, a defense mechanism that keeps us from accepting what we can't change.

We'll explore how resistance can show up in many forms—avoiding, deflecting, or rationalizing—and how staying in this state for too long can negatively impact your mental, emotional, and physical well-being. But there's a way out: radical acceptance. Based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), radical acceptance doesn't mean you have to like your circumstances, but it does mean acknowledging reality as it is, which opens the door to healing and growth.

You'll learn practical strategies for embracing radical acceptance, including how it encourages self-compassion, supports distress tolerance, and helps you find a sense of agency even in the most challenging moments. Whether you're coping with a personal loss, a difficult relationship, or unexpected life changes, this episode provides insights on how to let go of resistance, sit with uncomfortable emotions, and regain control of your life.

Tune in to discover how accepting what you can't change can actually empower you to move forward—and how letting go of resistance might just be the key to your healing journey. Don't forget to follow along with me on Instragram @katieostresscoaching.com

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 13:00:18 GMT

Welcome back to another episode of Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma. Now, this episode is brief but intentional. I'm going to ask two questions for listeners to reflect on. One, how has your mind, body, and spirit changed innately learned to survive in your systems? And two, how is that working for you right now?

Take some time to reflect on those questions and then DM me your answers. I can be found on Instagram @katieostresscoaching.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 04 Nov 2024 13:00:11 GMT

In this episode, I dive deep into the complexities of self-soothing behaviors that can sometimes lead us down unhealthy paths. Join me as I unpack the struggle between seeking comfort and the realization that certain habits—like overeating, substance use, or extreme dieting—may no longer serve us. I’ll explore the psychological roots of these behaviors, especially in the context of trauma and chronic stress, and discuss how societal pressures often normalize unhealthy coping mechanisms.

You'll hear personal anecdotes, including experiences of shame and the longing for relief that can come from temporary pleasures. Learn the importance of self-compassion and awareness, guiding you on how to confront these survival responses without judgment. Discover how to ride the waves of urges and cultivate a supportive community to help you navigate discomfort.

If you've ever felt overwhelmed by your coping strategies or wondered if there's a healthier way to soothe yourself, this episode is for you. Tune in for an insightful conversation that blends psychology, personal growth, and a dash of humor as we learn to embrace our imperfections together. After you listen, I'd love to hear your thoughts about this topic. DM me on Instagram @katieostresscoaching and we'll continue the conversation!

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 12:00:35 GMT

Welcome to another episode of Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma! In today's episode, host Katie O'Leary engages in a heartfelt conversation with two inspiring guests, Brian Beutel and Kento Kamiyama. Together, they explore the intricate connections between emotional and physical pain, diving deep into how our experiences shape our understanding of healing.

Brian, a doctor of physical therapy and performance coach, shares his passion for empowering individuals to defy age-related limitations and embrace their potential. Kento, who works with those facing chronic illness, brings his unique perspective on the emotional nuances of pain and recovery.

In this episode, you'll discover how emotional responses can impact physical healing, the importance of understanding what pain means to each individual, and the profound effect of compassionate care. Through their candid discussions, Katie, Brian and Kento challenge conventional beliefs and inspire listeners to rethink their approach to pain and wellness.

Whether you're navigating your own healing journey or seeking insights into the mind-body connection, this episode offers valuable wisdom and encouragement.

Tune in and be inspired to embrace resilience and strength in the face of life's challenges.

Be sure to follow along with our guest on Instagram to learn more about what they do! You can find Katie @katieostresscoaching, Brian @circusdpt and Kento @kamiyamapt.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 12:00:32 GMT

On this episode, we'll cover the art of self-soothing! Katie explores the essential skills needed to cultivate inner peace and comfort. We'll delve into the journey of learning to self-soothe—a skill often overlooked in environments that fail to model emotional care. Join us as we unpack the nuances of co-regulation, the impact of trauma, and the quest for healthier coping mechanisms.

We’ll share practical tools and techniques for recognizing emotional distress and turning to positive self-care practices. From the warmth of a hug to the soothing effects of music and mindful movement, discover how to reconnect with your body and mind. Together, we’ll learn to embrace our feelings, combat unhealthy patterns, and foster resilience in the face of life's challenges.

Whether you're seeking to understand your own experiences or support others, this podcast offers a compassionate space to nurture your healing journey. Tune in and empower yourself with the art of self-soothing! Don't forget to follow us on Instagram @katieostresscoaching

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 12:00:44 GMT

On this episode, Katie O'Leary LPC, takes us on dive deep into the transformative journey of change and healing, focusing on the concepts of neuroplasticity, awareness, action, and integration. Katie also shares personal stories and expert insights on overcoming trauma and chronic stress.

We'll explore the misconception that change is impossible, especially for those who have lived with trauma for years. Learn how our brains can rewire themselves and how awareness can spark the first steps toward healing. The episode emphasizes the importance of recognizing survival responses, creating a safe space for reflection, and developing actionable plans to foster new, healthier patterns.

Join us as we discuss the challenges and triumphs of the healing journey, offering hope and encouragement to anyone feeling stuck in their past. By the end, you'll understand how embracing neuroplasticity can empower you to rewrite your story and reclaim your choices in life. After you tune in, be sure to follow along on our instagram page: @katieostresscoaching

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 12:00:05 GMT

In this episode, host Katie O'Leary welcomes licensed clinical social worker Jenn Gil to the podcast. Listen as they delve into the profound connection between mind and body, emphasizing the importance of somatic work in healing. Both therapists, having crossed paths at a community health center and now thriving in private practice, share their experiences and insights into trauma and self-trust.

This episode is a heartfelt exploration of how integrating body awareness and self-trust can transform the therapeutic journey, offering valuable insights for both professionals and those seeking healing. Tune in for a thought-provoking conversation that encourages listeners to reconnect with their bodies and embrace their emotional experiences.

If you loved this episode and want to hear more from Katie & Jenn, you're in luck! The pair are hosting a workshop on October 19th and you're invited. See details below and purchase your tickets at www.oakmountaintherapy.com/events

Don't forget to follow us on social @katieostresscoaching

Workshop Announcement!

Get The F*** in The Body. Understanding and Connecting with Self-Trust

hosted by: Katie O’Leary, LPC + Jennifer GIl, LCSW

Join us on October 19th from 1:00-5:00pm for our immersive workshop designed to reconnect you with your authentic self. Through a unique blend of education, group EMDR, restorative yoga, and somatic practices, you'll embark on a journey to shift from overthinking to embodying true confidence and inner strength. This workshop is a holistic exploration aimed at getting out of your head and deeply into your body, fostering resilience, relaxation, and self-empowerment.

Register Today! www.oakmountaintherapy.com/events

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 12:00:28 GMT

On today's episode of Stress Mess, Laughing Through Trauma, we dive deep into the concept of self-abandonment—a behavior many have learned to adopt as a means of survival in the face of trauma, societal expectations, and family dynamics. Discover how messages from childhood and societal pressures can lead us to prioritize others' needs over our own, resulting in people-pleasing behaviors and a loss of identity.

Join us as we explore the psychological mechanisms behind self-abandonment, including self-criticism, gaslighting oneself, and the disconnection from our emotions that often accompanies these patterns. We discuss the importance of reconnecting with our needs, feelings, and values—a process we like to call re-dating oneself.

Throughout the episode, we highlight the signs of self-abandonment, from overcommitting and neglecting self-care to the struggle with guilt when trying to prioritize our own well-being. We also share relatable examples from popular culture, such as characters in movies who exemplify self-abandonment, and reflect on how these narratives resonate with our own experiences.

Finally, we encourage YOU to reflect on your own journeys, examining how self-abandonment might be serving you and what it would look like to embrace self-care and authenticity.

Tune in for an insightful discussion that aims to reduce shame and foster a deeper understanding of your relationship with yourself. Don’t forget to DM us with your favorite movies or shows that portray self-abandonment at @katieostresscoaching

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 12:00:04 GMT

In this episode, we'll dive deep into the essence of interpersonal connection and community with our wonderful guest, Erin Snelling! Erin is a licensed clinical social worker with over 13 years of experience in the school systems. Erin brings a wealth of knowledge on anxiety, trauma, and holistic health, and she's here to shed light on how these elements intertwine with our sense of belonging.

Join us as Erin shares her insights on the crucial role of human connection in our lives, both from a professional standpoint and personal experience. We explore why, despite living in a hyper-connected world, many of us still feel isolated and how we can cultivate more meaningful relationships.

Erin opens up about her unique journey, including her intriguing (and slightly humorous) claim to fame involving a historic barn in McCall, Idaho, her passion for holistic health and the therapeutic power of music, including how she unexpectedly found connection at a Noah Kahn concert in Fenway this summer.

Whether you're looking to strengthen your existing relationships or build new ones, this episode offers valuable insights and actionable strategies to help you reconnect with what truly matters. Don’t miss this engaging conversation with Erin Snelling that promises to inspire and empower.

Be sure to follow us on Instagram @kaiteostresscoaching for future episode updates!

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 12:00:08 GMT

In today's episode, we'll dive deep into the heart of what makes therapeutic relationships truly transformative. Join us as we explore the impact of humanity and genuine connection in therapy, inspired by characters from Good Will Hunting and Patch Adams. We dissect the contrast between the sterile, clinical approach of some therapists and the deeply human, empathetic connection demonstrated by Robin Williams' character in Good Will Hunting.

Our discussion also touches on the limitations of the medical model and insurance practices that often prioritize efficiency over empathetic care. We share personal anecdotes and professional insights on integrating humanity into therapy and how this integration can profoundly affect healing outcomes.

From challenging impersonal methods of traditional therapy to celebrating the importance of authenticity and connection, this episode is a call to both therapists and clients to seek and create meaningful, respectful relationships in mental health care. Tune in for a passionate conversation about bringing your full self into the therapeutic space and the vital role of human connection in healing.

Be sure to follow us on instagram at @katieostresscoaching and stay tuned for new episodes every week!

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 12:00:08 GMT

In today's episode of Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma, we dive into the intricate and often challenging world of human connection, especially in the context of trauma and chronic stress. Here’s what you can expect from this insightful discussion:

We'll dive into the Importance of Connection: Understand why connection is essential for our well-being, how it supports us during tough times, and the role of mirror neurons in our social interactions. We'll also talk about Attachment Trauma, Navigating Trust and Vulnerability, Emotional Regulation and Self-Esteem, Codependency, Dating and Modern Relationships, Self-Acceptance and Connection.

Join us as we explore these critical topics and provide practical advice for navigating the complex landscape of human connection. Whether you’re dealing with trauma or just seeking a deeper understanding of your relationships, this episode offers valuable insights and a compassionate perspective.

Connect With Us:

For more episodes, updates, and to join the conversation, follow us on instagram @katieostresscoaching

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 12:00:59 GMT

Welcome to this week's episode of Stress Messing: Laughing Through Trauma. Today, we’re thrilled to have size inclusive fitness and mindset coach Abigail Brankin, as our guest.

Abigail, who specializes in supporting individuals in larger bodies, joins us for a deep dive into the complex notions of worthiness and self-acceptance.

In this episode, Abigail and I sit down to explore the powerful yet often misunderstood phrases like "you are worthy" and "you are not too much." Drawing from our shared experiences in trauma recovery, we will discuss how these concepts resonate differently for people with a history of developmental trauma and self-doubt.

Abigail candidly shares some of her personal journey, shaped by her past struggles. Together we'll dive in and cover:

The impact of affirmations on individuals with a history of trauma.
How worthiness and self-acceptance are perceived in the context of continuous self-improvement.
Balancing self-acceptance with the drive for personal growth and healing.
Using humor to heal, connect with others and feel seen
And more!

Join us for this thought provoking conversation that sheds light on the journey from self-doubt to self-acceptance and offers practical insights for navigating those challenging struggles, and don't forge to find Abigail on her website here: https://www.abigailbrankin.com

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 26 Aug 2024 12:00:18 GMT

Welcome to episode four of Stress Mess, Laughing Through Trauma!

In today's episode we're going to do deep dive into the profound effects of trauma and chronic stress on both mental and physical health. We’ll explore the signs and symptoms of these experiences and discuss practical ways to manage them. We will also explore the emotional extremes, relationship difficulties, and physical health challenges that arise from trauma and chronic stress, and discuss holistic approaches to healing and recovery.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 12:00:13 GMT

In this episode, we'll dive into the Mind-Body Connection and the importance of understanding the mind-body connection, particularly in dealing with trauma and chronic stress. We'll discuss how focusing solely on cognitive or "top-down" approaches to mental health is insufficient because it doesn't account for the physiological states that affect mental well-being.

Top-Down: This approach, often associated with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), focuses on changing conscious thoughts and beliefs to influence mental states.

Bottom-Up: This approach addresses mental health through physical sensations and bodily experiences. This method, which includes practices like yoga, tai chi, and massage therapy, is crucial for trauma and stress recovery, as it aligns with how the body processes and stores trauma.

We believe that educating individuals about the mind-body connection can empower them and reduce feelings of shame related to emotional flare-ups. Understanding how trauma affects both the mind and body can improve overall mental health outcomes.

Today's episode also covers practical ways to engage with the mind-body connection, such as mindfulness, body awareness, and physical movement, while exploring the importance of physical health issues alongside mental health concerns.

Be sure to follow us at @katieostresscoaching for more!

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 12:00:52 GMT

In today's episode we're going to review chronic stress, trauma (including the BIG T's and little t's), emotional wounds, emotional scars, developmental trauma, shock trauma, and the whole shebang. We'll dive into what it all means and also, how sometimes, yes, a label can matter.

Join us on Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma, Episode Two, to hear more.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 12:00:30 GMT

On this episode we talk about some of my backstory and you'll learn more about "my why." We'll talk about attachment developmental trauma, and looking back at my journey, just recognizing, the stigma that's associated with mental health.

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Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma

Thu, 01 Aug 2024 20:21:09 GMT

Welcome to Stress Mess: Laughing Through Trauma!

Whether you're here out of curiosity, you're seeking connection, you're looking for a good laugh, or you're just like what the F is going on in my mind and body - Welcome!

My name is Katie O'Leary. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor. I am a trauma and chronic stress coach.

I am reiki trained, EMDR trained, a yoga teacher. I am this, I am that, I am everything, I am nothing.

I am here because I have spent years navigating the complexities of trauma, both personally and professionally, and I'm just here to share and connect with what I've learned along the way.

In this podcast, we will dive into the messy yet extremely transformative aspects of trauma and chronic stress. You can expect real-life stories, expert insights, education about trauma, the mind and body, empowerment tools, and a blend of humor and empathy that just makes sense of life's stress mess.

I started Stress Mess because I truly, truly believe in the power of connection and laughter and honesty. Trauma and chronic stress can feel extremely isolating.

It has also taught me that there can be wonderful resilience and growth. I also really want to squash the shame that so many people feel and experience on a daily basis because what they've gone through or because the thoughts and feelings and sensations they may be having.

And I want to show y'all that there is healing in sharing our stories. My vision is pretty simple. It's to create a space where we can laugh through our trauma.

Find moments of connection and just freaking celebrate our human resilience. My goal is to offer validation, some practical advice, tools, education, and a reminder that you're not alone on this journey.

Whether you're navigating trauma yourself or you're supporting someone who is, Stress Mess is here for you. So join me in this mission.

Let's explore the ups and the downs and the unexpected joys of living with trauma and chronic stress together.

You can follow me on Instagram at @katieostresscoaching

You can also subscribe now and tune in to Stress Mess; because sometimes laughter is truly the best medicine!

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