60 acast.com The Beautiful Reality of Autism https://shows.acast.com/the-beautiful-reality-of-autism en Transforming Autism Beautiful Reality of Autism,transforming autism,autism,children,charity,therapy,autistic children,autism support,early intervention,family support,child support,Ocupational Therapy,divergent,neurodiversity,neurodiverse Transforming Autism The Beautiful Reality of Autism brings practical guidance and explores our guests’ real life experiences of bringing up their autistic children and/or being autistic.   We also talk to autism specialists, researchers and clinicians to approach the topic from all angles.  Our guest will share their insights and their successes that build connection at home, reduce stress and start to unlock a child’s true potential.  There’ll also be an opportunity to put your questions to one of our Transforming Autism therapists.


Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.

 

To enable us to help more families, please consider a donation.


Follow Transforming Autism:

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]]> The Beautiful Reality of Autism brings practical guidance and explores our guests’ real life experiences of bringing up their autistic children and/or being autistic.   We also talk to autism specialists, researchers and clinicians to approach the topic from all angles.  Our guest will share their insights and their successes that build connection at home, reduce stress and start to unlock a child’s true potential.  There’ll also be an opportunity to put your questions to one of our Transforming Autism therapists.


Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.

 

To enable us to help more families, please consider a donation.


Follow Transforming Autism:

Instagram, LinkedIn, X, Facebook, Website

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]]> false Transforming Autism podcast@transformingautism.org 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 the-beautiful-reality-of-autism episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6/1760606629485-14eb087d-2781-4cc8-b0bb-e21e17a2056e.jpeg https://shows.acast.com/the-beautiful-reality-of-autism The Beautiful Reality of Autism From Crisis to Beauty: Guy Shahar on Founding Transforming Autism From Crisis to Beauty: Guy Shahar on Founding Transforming Autism Mon, 22 Jun 2026 05:00:54 GMT 50:40 6a38f1dbb53e8a6e089b741d false http://transformingautism.org 6a38f1dbb53e8a6e089b741d 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 from-crisis-to-beauty-guy-shahar-on-founding-transforming full 1 9 The episode marks Transforming Autism’s Big Give Small Charities Week campaign, where all donations are doubled between 22nd June – 29th June 2026.

Donations can be made HERE.


In this episode, Pip Leaver (Trustee) interviews Transforming Autism Founder Guy Shahar about the story behind the charity, his family’s journey with autism, and why parent-child relationships are at the heart of lasting change.


Guy shares how autism first entered his life: through his own experience as an undiagnosed autistic child, and later through his son, whose early withdrawal and overwhelm led Guy and his wife into a difficult search for understanding and support. He talks openly about grief, confusion, the limits of mainstream services at the time, and the moment that pushed his family to look elsewhere.


The conversation explores how one family’s journey became a book, a TED Talk, and eventually a charity dedicated to helping parents build deep, accepting, trust-based relationships with their autistic children. 


Guy explains why self-acceptance is so vital, why parents are the vehicle for that message, and why the goal is not to “fix” the child but to help them feel safe, valued, and fully themselves.


What you’ll learn (bullets)

• How autism first became a central part of Guy Shahar’s family life

• Why early fear and grief are common for parents, and why they should not be judged for that

• How poor professional support can increase trauma for families

• Why Transforming Autism focuses on parents and relationships, not “fixing” the child

• How self-acceptance becomes a foundation for autistic wellbeing

• Why small charities can offer focused, specialist support that larger systems often cannot

• How donations to the Big Give campaign help Transforming Autism reach more families


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s well-being, contact your GP or relevant professional support.  


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate  

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives.  

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> The episode marks Transforming Autism’s Big Give Small Charities Week campaign, where all donations are doubled between 22nd June – 29th June 2026.

Donations can be made HERE.


In this episode, Pip Leaver (Trustee) interviews Transforming Autism Founder Guy Shahar about the story behind the charity, his family’s journey with autism, and why parent-child relationships are at the heart of lasting change.


Guy shares how autism first entered his life: through his own experience as an undiagnosed autistic child, and later through his son, whose early withdrawal and overwhelm led Guy and his wife into a difficult search for understanding and support. He talks openly about grief, confusion, the limits of mainstream services at the time, and the moment that pushed his family to look elsewhere.


The conversation explores how one family’s journey became a book, a TED Talk, and eventually a charity dedicated to helping parents build deep, accepting, trust-based relationships with their autistic children. 


Guy explains why self-acceptance is so vital, why parents are the vehicle for that message, and why the goal is not to “fix” the child but to help them feel safe, valued, and fully themselves.


What you’ll learn (bullets)

• How autism first became a central part of Guy Shahar’s family life

• Why early fear and grief are common for parents, and why they should not be judged for that

• How poor professional support can increase trauma for families

• Why Transforming Autism focuses on parents and relationships, not “fixing” the child

• How self-acceptance becomes a foundation for autistic wellbeing

• Why small charities can offer focused, specialist support that larger systems often cannot

• How donations to the Big Give campaign help Transforming Autism reach more families


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s well-being, contact your GP or relevant professional support.  


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate  

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives.  

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Late discovery, bullying, and seeing the whole person (with Paul Isaacs) Late discovery, bullying, and seeing the whole person (with Paul Isaacs) Wed, 03 Jun 2026 10:00:00 GMT 44:34 6a1877b5847a83997eabe36a false http://transformingautism.org 6a1877b5847a83997eabe36a 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 late-discovery-bullying-and-seeing-the-whole-person-paul-isa full 1 8 In Episode 8 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Paul Isaacs, autism speaker and advocate. Paul grew up going through mainstream schooling without specialist support, and he describes being non-speaking until around the age of eight, alongside major information-processing challenges. 

 

Paul shares his childhood experiences of bullying and explains how community attitudes can shape whether difference is met with curiosity or hostility. He reflects on his parents’ efforts to support him with limited information, and the long-term impact of deficit-focused school meetings that centered on what a child ‘doesn’t do’ rather than what can help. 

 

A central message of this conversation is: do not make assumptions. Paul breaks down why communication differences are not the same as intelligence, and why it is vital to ‘presume competence’ and protect a child’s dignity. He also introduces Donna Williams’ ‘fruit salad’ analogy as a way to understand autism in a person-centered, three-dimensional way. 

 

This is a powerful episode for parents and educators who want to build understanding, reduce harm, and help autistic children grow up with a stable sense of self. 


What you’ll learn 

  • Why communication differences are not the same as intelligence 
  • How bullying can be driven by community attitudes and ‘difference’ stigma 
  • The risks of deficit-only framing in schools and professional meetings 
  • What ‘presume competence’ looks like in day-to-day parenting and education 
  • Why diagnosis and understanding are shaped by the culture around a family 
  • Exposure anxiety and why being ‘noticed’ can be overwhelming 
  • Donna Williams’ ‘fruit salad’ analogy for a person-centered view of autism 


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s well-being, contact your GP or relevant professional support.  


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate  

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives.  

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> In Episode 8 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Paul Isaacs, autism speaker and advocate. Paul grew up going through mainstream schooling without specialist support, and he describes being non-speaking until around the age of eight, alongside major information-processing challenges. 

 

Paul shares his childhood experiences of bullying and explains how community attitudes can shape whether difference is met with curiosity or hostility. He reflects on his parents’ efforts to support him with limited information, and the long-term impact of deficit-focused school meetings that centered on what a child ‘doesn’t do’ rather than what can help. 

 

A central message of this conversation is: do not make assumptions. Paul breaks down why communication differences are not the same as intelligence, and why it is vital to ‘presume competence’ and protect a child’s dignity. He also introduces Donna Williams’ ‘fruit salad’ analogy as a way to understand autism in a person-centered, three-dimensional way. 

 

This is a powerful episode for parents and educators who want to build understanding, reduce harm, and help autistic children grow up with a stable sense of self. 


What you’ll learn 

  • Why communication differences are not the same as intelligence 
  • How bullying can be driven by community attitudes and ‘difference’ stigma 
  • The risks of deficit-only framing in schools and professional meetings 
  • What ‘presume competence’ looks like in day-to-day parenting and education 
  • Why diagnosis and understanding are shaped by the culture around a family 
  • Exposure anxiety and why being ‘noticed’ can be overwhelming 
  • Donna Williams’ ‘fruit salad’ analogy for a person-centered view of autism 


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s well-being, contact your GP or relevant professional support.  


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate  

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives.  

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> From judgement to understanding: helping autistic children regulate (with Dr Janet Rose) From judgement to understanding: helping autistic children regulate (with Dr Janet Rose) Wed, 20 May 2026 05:00:00 GMT 49:33 6a09ab65efd1f558b02eb11f false http://transformingautism.org 6a09ab65efd1f558b02eb11f 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 ep7 full 1 7 In Episode 7 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Dr Janet Rose, Principal of Norland College, co-developer of Transforming Autism’s First Steps programme, and a parent of an autistic son. 

 

Janet shares her early parenting journey and the challenges that didn’t fit the stereotypes: a child who was an early talker and early reader, but who struggled with sleep, sensory sensitivities, change, and emotional regulation (especially at home). She describes the fear, self-blame and tension that can build when parents judge surface behaviour, rather than understanding what is happening underneath. 

 

Janet explains emotion coaching: a strengths-based, relationship-led approach that looks ‘under the iceberg’ of behaviour. It validates the child’s feelings, supports calming and co-regulation first, and then teaches self-regulation skills over time. She shares vivid examples of how this can shift a child’s language and behaviour, and how it also requires adult self-regulation. 

 

This episode is a practical reset for parents: compassion without permissiveness, boundaries without shame, and connection as the pathway to growth. 

What you’ll learn (bullets) 

  • Why behaviour is the ‘tip of the iceberg’ and what sits underneath 
  • How emotion coaching supports co-regulation and self-regulation 
  • Why sensory sensitivities and transitions can trigger stress responses 
  • How to validate feelings without accepting harmful behaviour 
  • Why adult self-regulation is central to helping a child regulate 
  • Why progress takes time, and what realistic change looks like 
  • How a strengths-based view changes family life 

This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s well-being, contact your GP or relevant professional support.  


 

If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate  

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> In Episode 7 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Dr Janet Rose, Principal of Norland College, co-developer of Transforming Autism’s First Steps programme, and a parent of an autistic son. 

 

Janet shares her early parenting journey and the challenges that didn’t fit the stereotypes: a child who was an early talker and early reader, but who struggled with sleep, sensory sensitivities, change, and emotional regulation (especially at home). She describes the fear, self-blame and tension that can build when parents judge surface behaviour, rather than understanding what is happening underneath. 

 

Janet explains emotion coaching: a strengths-based, relationship-led approach that looks ‘under the iceberg’ of behaviour. It validates the child’s feelings, supports calming and co-regulation first, and then teaches self-regulation skills over time. She shares vivid examples of how this can shift a child’s language and behaviour, and how it also requires adult self-regulation. 

 

This episode is a practical reset for parents: compassion without permissiveness, boundaries without shame, and connection as the pathway to growth. 

What you’ll learn (bullets) 

  • Why behaviour is the ‘tip of the iceberg’ and what sits underneath 
  • How emotion coaching supports co-regulation and self-regulation 
  • Why sensory sensitivities and transitions can trigger stress responses 
  • How to validate feelings without accepting harmful behaviour 
  • Why adult self-regulation is central to helping a child regulate 
  • Why progress takes time, and what realistic change looks like 
  • How a strengths-based view changes family life 

This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s well-being, contact your GP or relevant professional support.  


 

If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate  

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Jessica Whalley on acceptance, self-care, and late diagnosis Jessica Whalley on acceptance, self-care, and late diagnosis Wed, 06 May 2026 05:00:00 GMT 48:00 69f33bf8ad98579289201784 false https://transformingautism.org 69f33bf8ad98579289201784 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 jessica-whalley-on-acceptance-self-care-and-late-diagnosis full 1 6 In Episode 6 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Jessica Whalley, a late-diagnosed autistic mum whose son Jude is autistic and non-verbal. 


Jessica reflects on growing up as an autistic girl who ‘masked’ to fit in, why many autistic women are missed, and how her own diagnosis came after Jude’s. She shares what it was like when autism first entered her life: fear about the future, hyperfocus on speech, and feeling as if parenting had become a job. 


A pivotal moment came when Jessica realised she didn’t want to lose Jude’s childhood to worry. She describes the shift from chasing outcomes to enjoying her son for who he is, reducing pressure, and building a secure, positive home environment 


The conversation also covers self-care and respite, routines, empathy, and why acceptance is not ‘giving up’ but the foundation for progress. Jessica also shares her book, The Autistic Mom.  


What you’ll discover: 

  • Masking in autistic girls 
  • Why many women are diagnosed later  
  • How a child’s diagnosis can lead parents to recognise themselves  
  • How to stop ‘worrying away’ your child’s childhood  
  • Why dropping pressure around speech can help connection and confidence  
  • How autistic traits (routine, hyperfocus) can support parenting  
  • Why self-care and respite are requirements, not rewards  
  • How to talk about autism as ‘difference’, not tragedy  


Jessica’s book (The Autistic Mom): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autistic-Mom-diagnosis-raising-neurodivergent/dp/1916572952 

Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_theaalife_/ 


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate 

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives.  


Transforming Autism: https://transformingautism.org/ 


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

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]]> In Episode 6 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Jessica Whalley, a late-diagnosed autistic mum whose son Jude is autistic and non-verbal. 


Jessica reflects on growing up as an autistic girl who ‘masked’ to fit in, why many autistic women are missed, and how her own diagnosis came after Jude’s. She shares what it was like when autism first entered her life: fear about the future, hyperfocus on speech, and feeling as if parenting had become a job. 


A pivotal moment came when Jessica realised she didn’t want to lose Jude’s childhood to worry. She describes the shift from chasing outcomes to enjoying her son for who he is, reducing pressure, and building a secure, positive home environment 


The conversation also covers self-care and respite, routines, empathy, and why acceptance is not ‘giving up’ but the foundation for progress. Jessica also shares her book, The Autistic Mom.  


What you’ll discover: 

  • Masking in autistic girls 
  • Why many women are diagnosed later  
  • How a child’s diagnosis can lead parents to recognise themselves  
  • How to stop ‘worrying away’ your child’s childhood  
  • Why dropping pressure around speech can help connection and confidence  
  • How autistic traits (routine, hyperfocus) can support parenting  
  • Why self-care and respite are requirements, not rewards  
  • How to talk about autism as ‘difference’, not tragedy  


Jessica’s book (The Autistic Mom): https://www.amazon.co.uk/Autistic-Mom-diagnosis-raising-neurodivergent/dp/1916572952 

Jessica on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_theaalife_/ 


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate 

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives.  


Transforming Autism: https://transformingautism.org/ 


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> What autism is, and how to build a world that works (with Sir Simon Baron-Cohen) What autism is, and how to build a world that works (with Sir Simon Baron-Cohen) Wed, 22 Apr 2026 05:00:00 GMT 43:14 69d9561097d78f9e2b727469 false https://transformingautism.org 69d9561097d78f9e2b727469 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 what-autism-is-and-how-to-build-a-world-that-works full 1 5 In Episode 5 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Sir Simon Baron-Cohen (University of Cambridge), one of the world’s leading autism researchers. Simon reflects on how autism has been understood over the decades, from parent-blaming theories to today’s view of autism as neurodevelopmental, with strong genetic contributions.  


They explore autism through the lens of neurodiversity: differences in social communication and coping with change, alongside strengths such as attention to detail, memory for detail, and pattern recognition. Simon explains why repetitive behaviour can be part of an autistic learning style, not something to extinguish, and why education and workplaces often need reasonable adjustments.  


A major focus is mental health: high rates of anxiety and depression, and the urgent suicide risk in autistic adults. Simon shares what can reduce risk, including belonging, anti-bullying, supportive relationships at home, peer ‘buddy’ approaches at school, and making time to check in with a child’s wellbeing.  


The episode closes with a clear vision: autistic people’s human rights must be recognised, protected, and actively supported.  


What you’ll learn:

  • What autism is, and how the field’s understanding has changed  
  • Neurodiversity: strengths and challenges without stigma  
  • Why repetitive behaviour can be part of learning (pattern seeking)  
  • How to tailor education to a child’s learning style  
  • Why mental health risks are so high, and what protects wellbeing  
  • Why diagnosis can be a ‘passport’ to support (Equality Act and reasonable adjustments)  
  • A human-rights vision for autism inclusion  


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


Transforming Autism: https://transformingautism.org/ 


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> In Episode 5 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Sir Simon Baron-Cohen (University of Cambridge), one of the world’s leading autism researchers. Simon reflects on how autism has been understood over the decades, from parent-blaming theories to today’s view of autism as neurodevelopmental, with strong genetic contributions.  


They explore autism through the lens of neurodiversity: differences in social communication and coping with change, alongside strengths such as attention to detail, memory for detail, and pattern recognition. Simon explains why repetitive behaviour can be part of an autistic learning style, not something to extinguish, and why education and workplaces often need reasonable adjustments.  


A major focus is mental health: high rates of anxiety and depression, and the urgent suicide risk in autistic adults. Simon shares what can reduce risk, including belonging, anti-bullying, supportive relationships at home, peer ‘buddy’ approaches at school, and making time to check in with a child’s wellbeing.  


The episode closes with a clear vision: autistic people’s human rights must be recognised, protected, and actively supported.  


What you’ll learn:

  • What autism is, and how the field’s understanding has changed  
  • Neurodiversity: strengths and challenges without stigma  
  • Why repetitive behaviour can be part of learning (pattern seeking)  
  • How to tailor education to a child’s learning style  
  • Why mental health risks are so high, and what protects wellbeing  
  • Why diagnosis can be a ‘passport’ to support (Equality Act and reasonable adjustments)  
  • A human-rights vision for autism inclusion  


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


Transforming Autism: https://transformingautism.org/ 


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Three essentials for empowering autistic children (with Andrew Shahan) Three essentials for empowering autistic children (with Andrew Shahan) Wed, 08 Apr 2026 05:00:00 GMT 56:08 69d66c1b3ae78d6f11456e39 false https://transformingautism.org 69d66c1b3ae78d6f11456e39 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 three-essentials-for-empowering-autistic-children-with-andre full 1 4 In Episode 4 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Andrew Shahan, an early childhood special educator with 35 years’ experience working with autistic children and their families.


Andrew reflects on what autistic people have taught him about authenticity, connection, and unconditional love, and why so much distress can be created when adults bring pressure, agendas, or a ‘fixing’ mindset into interactions.


Andrew then shares three practical, grounding principles for parents: 

(1) see and value your child unconditionally, making space to notice strengths in a system that often spotlights deficits, 

(2) relax and prioritise pressure-free connection over ‘performance’, and

(3) trust your own intuition and relationship with your child, rather than constantly deferring to professional advice that may not fit your child’s nervous system.


Chapters:

•⁠ ⁠00:00–01:19 Welcome, what this episode is about, and Andrew’s background

•⁠ ⁠01:19–06:58 What Andrew has learned from 35 years: authenticity and ‘relearning humanness’

•⁠ ⁠06:58–11:33 Andrew’s childhood lens and why unconditional love mattered so much

•⁠ ⁠11:33–15:38 Unconditional love, presence, and the cost of adult dysregulation

•⁠ ⁠15:38–26:54 1) See and value your child: strengths, not deficits

•⁠ ⁠26:54–36:25 2) Relax: no-pressure connection and dropping the agenda

•⁠ ⁠36:25–53:58 3) Trust yourself: intuition, reassurance, and resisting shame

•⁠ ⁠53:58–56:09 Closing, thanks, where to find Andrew, and final thoughts


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


Transforming Autism: https://transformingautism.org/ 


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> In Episode 4 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy Shahar is joined by Andrew Shahan, an early childhood special educator with 35 years’ experience working with autistic children and their families.


Andrew reflects on what autistic people have taught him about authenticity, connection, and unconditional love, and why so much distress can be created when adults bring pressure, agendas, or a ‘fixing’ mindset into interactions.


Andrew then shares three practical, grounding principles for parents: 

(1) see and value your child unconditionally, making space to notice strengths in a system that often spotlights deficits, 

(2) relax and prioritise pressure-free connection over ‘performance’, and

(3) trust your own intuition and relationship with your child, rather than constantly deferring to professional advice that may not fit your child’s nervous system.


Chapters:

•⁠ ⁠00:00–01:19 Welcome, what this episode is about, and Andrew’s background

•⁠ ⁠01:19–06:58 What Andrew has learned from 35 years: authenticity and ‘relearning humanness’

•⁠ ⁠06:58–11:33 Andrew’s childhood lens and why unconditional love mattered so much

•⁠ ⁠11:33–15:38 Unconditional love, presence, and the cost of adult dysregulation

•⁠ ⁠15:38–26:54 1) See and value your child: strengths, not deficits

•⁠ ⁠26:54–36:25 2) Relax: no-pressure connection and dropping the agenda

•⁠ ⁠36:25–53:58 3) Trust yourself: intuition, reassurance, and resisting shame

•⁠ ⁠53:58–56:09 Closing, thanks, where to find Andrew, and final thoughts


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here: https://tinyurl.com/tap-donate

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


Transforming Autism: https://transformingautism.org/ 


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On masking, meltdowns, and strength-first parenting (with Alex Manners) On masking, meltdowns, and strength-first parenting (with Alex Manners) Wed, 25 Mar 2026 06:00:43 GMT 35:05 69c3ddfda3dddd45e978f3fa false https://transformingautism.org 69c3ddfda3dddd45e978f3fa 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 on-masking-meltdowns-and-strength-first-parenting-with-alex full 1 3 In this episode, Guy is joined by Alex Manners, a 28-year-old autism advocate, speaker, and author. Alex shares what it was like growing up autistic, getting diagnosed at 10 (Asperger’s at the time), and navigating school when support wasn’t always there. 

We talk about masking, bullying, anxiety, and why meltdowns often happen after school, once the stress has built up all day. Alex also shares the coping strategies that genuinely helped, including using special interests as a calming reset. 

We also look at what schools and workplaces can do better, and why reasonable adjustments and autism training should be standard, not something families have to fight for. 


Chapters:

  • 00:00-00:49 Welcome + who Alex is
  • 00:49-02:50 The Undateables: how Alex got on the show + first date
  • 02:50-04:56 Before diagnosis: why the world felt confusing
  • 04:56-06:45 Diagnosis + "special powers" framing
  • 06:45-13:17 School experience: bullying, teachers, feeling misunderstood
  • 13:17-15:29 Masking: "hidden disability" and its cost
  • 15:29-22:09 Meltdowns after school: the "final straw" effect
  • 22:09-(end) Coping strategies: special interests, regulation tools, what helped most


Alex Manners: www.thealexmanners.com


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here.

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s wellbeing, contact your GP or relevant professional support.


Follow Transforming Autism:

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Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? Click here


About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  

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]]> In this episode, Guy is joined by Alex Manners, a 28-year-old autism advocate, speaker, and author. Alex shares what it was like growing up autistic, getting diagnosed at 10 (Asperger’s at the time), and navigating school when support wasn’t always there. 

We talk about masking, bullying, anxiety, and why meltdowns often happen after school, once the stress has built up all day. Alex also shares the coping strategies that genuinely helped, including using special interests as a calming reset. 

We also look at what schools and workplaces can do better, and why reasonable adjustments and autism training should be standard, not something families have to fight for. 


Chapters:

  • 00:00-00:49 Welcome + who Alex is
  • 00:49-02:50 The Undateables: how Alex got on the show + first date
  • 02:50-04:56 Before diagnosis: why the world felt confusing
  • 04:56-06:45 Diagnosis + "special powers" framing
  • 06:45-13:17 School experience: bullying, teachers, feeling misunderstood
  • 13:17-15:29 Masking: "hidden disability" and its cost
  • 15:29-22:09 Meltdowns after school: the "final straw" effect
  • 22:09-(end) Coping strategies: special interests, regulation tools, what helped most


Alex Manners: www.thealexmanners.com


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here.

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s wellbeing, contact your GP or relevant professional support.


Follow Transforming Autism:

Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, Website


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? Click here


About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> On grit, advocacy, and never giving up (with Anna Kennedy OBE) On grit, advocacy, and never giving up (with Anna Kennedy OBE) Wed, 11 Mar 2026 06:00:00 GMT 39:59 69b00427b58ea3074d0c18c4 false https://transformingautism.org 69b00427b58ea3074d0c18c4 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 on-grit-advocacy-and-never-giving-up-with-anna-kennedy-obe full 1 2 In Episode 2 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy is joined by Anna Kennedy OBE to discuss what happens when families are left without the right support, and what determined advocacy can achieve. 

Anna shares her journey from diagnosis delays and school exclusion to opening specialist provision, building support networks, and creating platforms like Autism’s Got Talent to raise confidence and challenge stigma.

You will hear practical advice for parents on early intervention, preparing for meetings, planning for adulthood, and celebrating small but meaningful milestones. 

If you are supporting an autistic child and feeling overwhelmed, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone and that progress is possible. 


Anna Kennedy Online: www.annakennedyonline.com 

Autism’s Got Talent info and auditions: https://annakennedyonline.com/applications-open-for-autisms-got-talent-2026/ 


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here.

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


Chapters:


  • 00:00 - Opening reflection: a hard but rewarding journey 
  • 00:22 - Introduction and Anna’s wider impact 
  • 01:36 - Diagnosis in the 1990s and early family challenges 
  • 04:46 - Discovering the diagnosis and school struggles 
  • 11:33 - Running a school while parenting without enough respite 
  • 13:47 - Adult provision, trusts, and long-term planning 
  • 17:00 - Building the school: funding, staffing, and persistence 
  • 26:29 - Why Autism’s Got Talent began 
  • 29:47 - Global impact, confidence, and friendships
  • 33:46 - Practical advice for parents 
  • 39:04 - Final message: your child can help you find your voice 
  • 17:00 - Building a school with community support 
  • 22:57 - Expanding into adult services and residential care 


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s wellbeing, contact your GP or relevant professional support.


Follow Transforming Autism:

Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, Website


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? Click here


About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> In Episode 2 of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy is joined by Anna Kennedy OBE to discuss what happens when families are left without the right support, and what determined advocacy can achieve. 

Anna shares her journey from diagnosis delays and school exclusion to opening specialist provision, building support networks, and creating platforms like Autism’s Got Talent to raise confidence and challenge stigma.

You will hear practical advice for parents on early intervention, preparing for meetings, planning for adulthood, and celebrating small but meaningful milestones. 

If you are supporting an autistic child and feeling overwhelmed, this conversation is a reminder that you are not alone and that progress is possible. 


Anna Kennedy Online: www.annakennedyonline.com 

Autism’s Got Talent info and auditions: https://annakennedyonline.com/applications-open-for-autisms-got-talent-2026/ 


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here.

Every contribution means we can support even more young Autistic children to fulfil their potential and, with their families, live happy, fulfilling lives. 


Chapters:


  • 00:00 - Opening reflection: a hard but rewarding journey 
  • 00:22 - Introduction and Anna’s wider impact 
  • 01:36 - Diagnosis in the 1990s and early family challenges 
  • 04:46 - Discovering the diagnosis and school struggles 
  • 11:33 - Running a school while parenting without enough respite 
  • 13:47 - Adult provision, trusts, and long-term planning 
  • 17:00 - Building the school: funding, staffing, and persistence 
  • 26:29 - Why Autism’s Got Talent began 
  • 29:47 - Global impact, confidence, and friendships
  • 33:46 - Practical advice for parents 
  • 39:04 - Final message: your child can help you find your voice 
  • 17:00 - Building a school with community support 
  • 22:57 - Expanding into adult services and residential care 


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s wellbeing, contact your GP or relevant professional support.


Follow Transforming Autism:

Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, Website


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? Click here


About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Love first, skills second: a roadmap for parents (with Tony Attwood) Love first, skills second: a roadmap for parents (with Tony Attwood) Wed, 25 Feb 2026 06:00:00 GMT 52:44 699d95a13a5156c5d2f82b22 false https://transformingautism.org 699d95a13a5156c5d2f82b22 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 love-first-skills-second-a-roadmap-for-parents full 1 1 In this episode of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy is joined by Tony Attwood, a clinical psychologist with 50 years’ experience supporting autistic children and their families. Together, they unpack five pieces of advice that can change the feel of day-to-day parenting: consistent love (and understanding autistic love languages like proximity), supporting emotion regulation and anxiety, building independence through small steps, becoming your child’s “social mentor”, and learning to advocate as a translator between autistic and non-autistic worlds. 

 

Along the way they explore the double empathy problem, why bullying targets difference, and how peer support inside schools can be one of the strongest protective factors. You will also hear practical tools you can try at home, including backward chaining, social stories, and a simple “GPS” approach for staying calm during meltdowns.


What you will learn 

  • What “autistic love languages” can look like (and why proximity matters) 
  • The double empathy problem, and why misunderstanding works both ways 
  • How to model calm problem-solving so children can borrow your strategies 
  • Building independence with backward chaining and social stories 
  • A parent’s role as social mentor, advocate, and translator between cultures 


Tony Attwood and Michelle Garnett’ website: www.attwoodandgarnettevents.com

Tony Attwood’s book: From Like to Love for Young People with Asperger's Syndrome


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s wellbeing, contact your GP or relevant professional support.


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here.

Every contribution helps us keep creating practical resources for families.


Follow Transforming Autism:

Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, Website


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? Click here


About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  

To enable us to help more families, please consider a donation.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> In this episode of The Beautiful Reality of Autism, Guy is joined by Tony Attwood, a clinical psychologist with 50 years’ experience supporting autistic children and their families. Together, they unpack five pieces of advice that can change the feel of day-to-day parenting: consistent love (and understanding autistic love languages like proximity), supporting emotion regulation and anxiety, building independence through small steps, becoming your child’s “social mentor”, and learning to advocate as a translator between autistic and non-autistic worlds. 

 

Along the way they explore the double empathy problem, why bullying targets difference, and how peer support inside schools can be one of the strongest protective factors. You will also hear practical tools you can try at home, including backward chaining, social stories, and a simple “GPS” approach for staying calm during meltdowns.


What you will learn 

  • What “autistic love languages” can look like (and why proximity matters) 
  • The double empathy problem, and why misunderstanding works both ways 
  • How to model calm problem-solving so children can borrow your strategies 
  • Building independence with backward chaining and social stories 
  • A parent’s role as social mentor, advocate, and translator between cultures 


Tony Attwood and Michelle Garnett’ website: www.attwoodandgarnettevents.com

Tony Attwood’s book: From Like to Love for Young People with Asperger's Syndrome


This episode is shared for information and support. It is not medical advice. If you are worried about your child’s wellbeing, contact your GP or relevant professional support.


If you have found this episode helpful and would like to support Transforming Autism’s work, you can make a donation here.

Every contribution helps us keep creating practical resources for families.


Follow Transforming Autism:

Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook, Website


Music: My Starwing by Nathaniel Weilein

Prefer to watch this episode on YouTube? Click here


About Transforming Autism:

Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a strong emphasis on the earliest years (0-4). We help parents reconnect with their autistic child through strong trust-based relationships and create environments where children and the whole family can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  

To enable us to help more families, please consider a donation.


Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> Trailer Trailer Thu, 16 Oct 2025 08:00:00 GMT 0:30 68effef1c68aefb908a83da0 false https://transformingautism.org 68effef1c68aefb908a83da0 68efb2c251a2f46134c39ff6 trailer The Beautiful Reality of Autism full 1 The Beautiful Reality of Autism brings practical guidance and hopeful stories to families of autistic children in the early years. Each episode features clinicians, parents and autistic voices sharing tools that build connection at home, reduce stress and unlock potential. You will hear how small, relationship-centred changes can make a big difference, and where to find early support if you need it. 


Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a particular emphasis on the earliest years. We help parents nurture strengths, strengthen relationships and create environments where children can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  

 

To help more families, please consider a donation.



Follow Transforming Autism 

Instagram, LinkedIn, X, Facebook, Website



Music: 'My Starwing' by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

]]> The Beautiful Reality of Autism brings practical guidance and hopeful stories to families of autistic children in the early years. Each episode features clinicians, parents and autistic voices sharing tools that build connection at home, reduce stress and unlock potential. You will hear how small, relationship-centred changes can make a big difference, and where to find early support if you need it. 


Transforming Autism is a UK charity focused on early autism support for children aged 0–12 and their families, with a particular emphasis on the earliest years. We help parents nurture strengths, strengthen relationships and create environments where children can flourish. To learn more or access support, visit transformingautism.org.  

 

To help more families, please consider a donation.



Follow Transforming Autism 

Instagram, LinkedIn, X, Facebook, Website



Music: 'My Starwing' by Nathaniel Weilein

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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