60 acast.com The MasculiniTea Podcast https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/the-masculinitea-podcast en Melina Cassidy Melina Cassidy conversations about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them MasculiniTea is a new podcast that invites you to pop the kettle on, brew up a mug of your hot beverage of choice, and join us for a relaxed and open conversation about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them. In the wake of #metoo and #timesup, what can men do to create a paradigm shift, how can they apply this to their everyday lives, and what can those who aren’t men do to support them, without exhausting themselves?


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I’m a queer radical who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied, authentic relationships. And, I love men. I really do. I see so many men struggling to reconcile how to embrace their identities in healthy, empowered ways, being held back by fear of call outs, judgement, and shame. I see men who truly want to learn how to be part of a solution, and not part of the problem, shutting down from connection because they don’t want to make a mistake. I believe in the possibility of a world where people can relate without shame or fear, and I’m committed to finding out how we could build such a world, together.

Our global culture seems to be at a turning point, and I’m having these conversations with men in my life, as well as people who love them. Some of them are ‘experts’ in particular fields; all of them are experts on their own experience. My hope is to generate conversations, provide spaces for solidarity, and build bridges so that we can all feel empowered to navigate our relationships to masculinity with authenticity, courage, strength, and love.

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]]> MasculiniTea is a new podcast that invites you to pop the kettle on, brew up a mug of your hot beverage of choice, and join us for a relaxed and open conversation about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them. In the wake of #metoo and #timesup, what can men do to create a paradigm shift, how can they apply this to their everyday lives, and what can those who aren’t men do to support them, without exhausting themselves?


Support the Patreon Here!


I’m a queer radical who guides social misfits and cultural rebels to experiences of joyful, embodied, authentic relationships. And, I love men. I really do. I see so many men struggling to reconcile how to embrace their identities in healthy, empowered ways, being held back by fear of call outs, judgement, and shame. I see men who truly want to learn how to be part of a solution, and not part of the problem, shutting down from connection because they don’t want to make a mistake. I believe in the possibility of a world where people can relate without shame or fear, and I’m committed to finding out how we could build such a world, together.

Our global culture seems to be at a turning point, and I’m having these conversations with men in my life, as well as people who love them. Some of them are ‘experts’ in particular fields; all of them are experts on their own experience. My hope is to generate conversations, provide spaces for solidarity, and build bridges so that we can all feel empowered to navigate our relationships to masculinity with authenticity, courage, strength, and love.

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]]> true Melina Cassidy info+5c1c762cca573391479832cb@mg-eu.acast.com 5c1c762cca573391479832cb the-masculinitea-podcast episodic https://assets.pippa.io/shows/undefined/1545369019044-d99f4a6d44f2e60138fc3339eb892d77.jpeg https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/the-masculinitea-podcast The MasculiniTea Podcast Inescapable Consequences ~ With Niels Petersen Inescapable Consequences ~ With Niels Petersen Sat, 07 Mar 2020 17:26:08 GMT 58:36 5e63d92d5a26d2bc64f0c3bf true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/inescapable-consequences-with-niels 5e63d92d5a26d2bc64f0c3bf 5c1c762cca573391479832cb inescapable-consequences-with-niels conversations about Men, Masculinity, and our relationships with them. full 1 12 "If you shove that emotion down and push it away, it waits for you and, in fact it accumulates... it's getting ready to come back at you so it will be acknowledged." ~ Niels Petersen



Niels is a polymath with an engineering background. He has worked as an engineer, brewer, ski designer, sailor, math teacher, rigger, book editor, and more. His current focus is on mental health and addiction recovery. His exploration in that area has taken him into men's work and shadow work. Niels has suffered from chronic pain since a nerve injury in 2009, and through research and experimentation on his own body, he has been able to transform his experience of pain and regain an able-bodied lifestyle. He believes that chronic pain, mental health and addiction can share a common root, and that doing the recovery work can be so beautiful an experience that a person can become grateful for the injury in the first place.



Music courtesy of Aaron Handford.

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]]> "If you shove that emotion down and push it away, it waits for you and, in fact it accumulates... it's getting ready to come back at you so it will be acknowledged." ~ Niels Petersen



Niels is a polymath with an engineering background. He has worked as an engineer, brewer, ski designer, sailor, math teacher, rigger, book editor, and more. His current focus is on mental health and addiction recovery. His exploration in that area has taken him into men's work and shadow work. Niels has suffered from chronic pain since a nerve injury in 2009, and through research and experimentation on his own body, he has been able to transform his experience of pain and regain an able-bodied lifestyle. He believes that chronic pain, mental health and addiction can share a common root, and that doing the recovery work can be so beautiful an experience that a person can become grateful for the injury in the first place.



Music courtesy of Aaron Handford.

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]]> Trans-forming Masculine Narratives ~ A Conversation With Oliver Trans-forming Masculine Narratives ~ A Conversation With Oliver Fri, 03 Jan 2020 22:34:01 GMT 1:00:26 5e0fc156fbe1393812cbd25b true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/trans-forming-masculine-narratives 5e0fc156fbe1393812cbd25b 5c1c762cca573391479832cb trans-forming-masculine-narratives conversations about men, masculinity, and our relationship with them full 1 11 "You can do masculinity howerver you want to do it. But, it's about getting the people around you to be alright with it, to be on board with it, and having the difficult conversations with them.... because that's the thing that holds us in these really hard roles: the people around us."

~ Oliver



Oliver is a Psychology student at the University of Victoria and a practicing Clinical Hypnotherapist. His training comes from various sources: college, university, and private classes. He has been working in clinics as a support person for over 10 years and continues to develop his compassionate listening skills. He is a passionate reader of many topics: philosophy, political science, psychology, and sociology. His training includes clinical hypnotherapy, reflexology, and aromatherapy. His active studies include Co-regulation and self regulation strategies; boundaries; intersectionality; gender studies; attachment; post traumatic stress disorder; and trauma informed care. Oliver’s life experiences have given him skills in; LGBTQA+ issues; borderline personality disorder; diverse-abilities; neuro-divergence; somatics; and poly-vagal theory.


Image: Dr Alan Hart, pioneering radiologist and epidemiologist, and transman.


Music courtesy of Aaron Handford.



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]]> "You can do masculinity howerver you want to do it. But, it's about getting the people around you to be alright with it, to be on board with it, and having the difficult conversations with them.... because that's the thing that holds us in these really hard roles: the people around us."

~ Oliver



Oliver is a Psychology student at the University of Victoria and a practicing Clinical Hypnotherapist. His training comes from various sources: college, university, and private classes. He has been working in clinics as a support person for over 10 years and continues to develop his compassionate listening skills. He is a passionate reader of many topics: philosophy, political science, psychology, and sociology. His training includes clinical hypnotherapy, reflexology, and aromatherapy. His active studies include Co-regulation and self regulation strategies; boundaries; intersectionality; gender studies; attachment; post traumatic stress disorder; and trauma informed care. Oliver’s life experiences have given him skills in; LGBTQA+ issues; borderline personality disorder; diverse-abilities; neuro-divergence; somatics; and poly-vagal theory.


Image: Dr Alan Hart, pioneering radiologist and epidemiologist, and transman.


Music courtesy of Aaron Handford.



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]]> The Somatic Man ~ A Conversation with David Yates The Somatic Man ~ A Conversation with David Yates Wed, 18 Dec 2019 00:03:28 GMT 57:17 5df96ccc6eeb4c793fe3929f true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/the-somatic-man-with-david-yates 5df96ccc6eeb4c793fe3929f 5c1c762cca573391479832cb the-somatic-man-with-david-yates conversations about men, masculinity, and our relationships with them full 1 10 "When movement and dance isn't happening, what's left? Are we sitting around at home or at a coffee shop acting as talking heads on top of bodies that have lost the ability to be at ease?.....

The path towards being whole beings— not just whole men— is to include movement."

~ David Yates


An internationally known musician, teacher, performer and dancer, for over twenty years David has been offering liberating and transforming experiences through his workshops and lessons. For the past four years he has also facilitated non-violence workshops for teen boys. As a student of orthobionomy, he has been led to explore more about Somatics and the deeper layers of the mind-body relationship.

You can find more of David's work at Breathwood.


Photo by Marilyn Grubb 

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]]> "When movement and dance isn't happening, what's left? Are we sitting around at home or at a coffee shop acting as talking heads on top of bodies that have lost the ability to be at ease?.....

The path towards being whole beings— not just whole men— is to include movement."

~ David Yates


An internationally known musician, teacher, performer and dancer, for over twenty years David has been offering liberating and transforming experiences through his workshops and lessons. For the past four years he has also facilitated non-violence workshops for teen boys. As a student of orthobionomy, he has been led to explore more about Somatics and the deeper layers of the mind-body relationship.

You can find more of David's work at Breathwood.


Photo by Marilyn Grubb 

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]]> Not All Heroes Wear Capes ~ with Van Connor Not All Heroes Wear Capes ~ with Van Connor Sat, 23 Nov 2019 07:56:19 GMT 1:07:07 5dd8db50de444bad79c0bd8e true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/not-all-heroes-wear-capes-with-van-connor 5dd8db50de444bad79c0bd8e 5c1c762cca573391479832cb not-all-heroes-wear-capes-with-van-connor conversations about men, masculinity, and our relationships with them full 1 9 For this episode I'm joined by a very dear friend, the wonderful Van Connor: London-based film critic and all-around pop culture aficionado.


We get to chatting about male role models in film and television media, the changing personas of super heroes, action heroes, James Bond, men's sexuality on screen, and how media influences the way men relate to themselves.


As well as working as a film critic for BBC Radio and talkRADIO, Van also hosts OffScreen - the self-proclaimed “ultimate seven day movie guide” - every Friday on podcast platforms and is the writer and creator of animated film review web series Memovies.


http://pod.link/OffScreen

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_B9sykGmBZn35DF061bI6A


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]]> For this episode I'm joined by a very dear friend, the wonderful Van Connor: London-based film critic and all-around pop culture aficionado.


We get to chatting about male role models in film and television media, the changing personas of super heroes, action heroes, James Bond, men's sexuality on screen, and how media influences the way men relate to themselves.


As well as working as a film critic for BBC Radio and talkRADIO, Van also hosts OffScreen - the self-proclaimed “ultimate seven day movie guide” - every Friday on podcast platforms and is the writer and creator of animated film review web series Memovies.


http://pod.link/OffScreen

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC_B9sykGmBZn35DF061bI6A


music courtesy of Aaron Handford

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]]> The Sensual Man ~ A Conversation with Devi Ward Erickson The Sensual Man ~ A Conversation with Devi Ward Erickson Tue, 15 Oct 2019 03:55:42 GMT 1:02:03 5da5392d38b7d3af12ed2463 false https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/the-sensual-man-a-conversation-with-devi-ward-erickson 5da5392d38b7d3af12ed2463 5c1c762cca573391479832cb the-sensual-man-a-conversation-with-devi-ward-erickson conversations about Men, Masculinity, and our relationships with them full 1 8 "Reclaiming your birthright to your full sexual pleasure is a revolutionary act."

~ Devi Ward Erickson


Tantra educator Devi Ward Erickson joins me to talk about supporting men's sexuality. What traumas do men hold from childhood around their sexual expression, how do these impact our relationships, how can men overcome these, and what can those of us who have sexual relationships with men do to support them?

This conversation covers a wide range of topics, from circumcision to somatic dissassociation, from the relationship between trauma and sexual predation, to the possibilities for a new kind of sensual masculine sexuality.



Devi Ward Erickson is a Tantra Expert, Sex Coach, an ACS Certified Sexologist and the Founder of The Institute of Authentic Tantra Education.

As a trusted and sought after Tantra expert and Sex Coach, Devi has had the privilege and honor of witnessing the profound healing that occurs for women, men, and couples when sexuality is honored as sacred and practiced with awareness, compassion, and loving-kindness. She specializes in using Tantra and “pleasure as medicine” to awaken more connection, passion, and inner bliss in every area of life.

Devi has been teaching meditation and personal growth workshops since 2000 and has devoted her entire adult life to studying the “essence” that infuses all of life through meditation, Tibetan Tantra, Sensual Dance, and Compassionate Communication.


https://deviwardtantra.com/

https://www.authentictantra.com/



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]]> "Reclaiming your birthright to your full sexual pleasure is a revolutionary act."

~ Devi Ward Erickson


Tantra educator Devi Ward Erickson joins me to talk about supporting men's sexuality. What traumas do men hold from childhood around their sexual expression, how do these impact our relationships, how can men overcome these, and what can those of us who have sexual relationships with men do to support them?

This conversation covers a wide range of topics, from circumcision to somatic dissassociation, from the relationship between trauma and sexual predation, to the possibilities for a new kind of sensual masculine sexuality.



Devi Ward Erickson is a Tantra Expert, Sex Coach, an ACS Certified Sexologist and the Founder of The Institute of Authentic Tantra Education.

As a trusted and sought after Tantra expert and Sex Coach, Devi has had the privilege and honor of witnessing the profound healing that occurs for women, men, and couples when sexuality is honored as sacred and practiced with awareness, compassion, and loving-kindness. She specializes in using Tantra and “pleasure as medicine” to awaken more connection, passion, and inner bliss in every area of life.

Devi has been teaching meditation and personal growth workshops since 2000 and has devoted her entire adult life to studying the “essence” that infuses all of life through meditation, Tibetan Tantra, Sensual Dance, and Compassionate Communication.


https://deviwardtantra.com/

https://www.authentictantra.com/



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]]> <![CDATA[Reimagining Masculinities ~ A Conversation with Sheldon Kitzul & Tanille Geib]]> Wed, 11 Sep 2019 03:26:31 GMT 1:01:15 5d786967e976f35d72bf57cc false https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/reimagining-masculinities-a-conversation-with-sheldon-kitzul 5d786967e976f35d72bf57cc 5c1c762cca573391479832cb reimagining-masculinities-a-conversation-with-sheldon-kitzul conversations about men, masculinity, and our relationships with them full 1 7 In this episode I'm joined by Tanille and Sheldon, two of the people behind the Reimagining Masculinities Conference in Victoria, BC. We chat about what the healthy masculine role model of the future might be, accessing emotions, and the importance of not doing this work in isolation from one another.


Tanille Geib is a Lover of Humans. She is an intimacy coach & coordinator, sexuality educator & curriculum developer, advocate, community leader, creative producer, and artist. In the past 5 years she has educated and worked with over 4000 people on healthy sexuality and relationships. Currently she is known as Victoria’s Consent Captain where she supports events to create safer spaces and educate communities on the nuances of consent. To find out more about her work, passions, and upcoming events check out her website: www.tanillegeib.ca


Sheldon Kitzul is a Leadership Coach, Social Worker, and Educator. His work provides inspiration for clients through energy, insight, and enthusiasm, and is centred on evidence-based practice and response-based principles. He works from a place where it is evident that sexualized violence is, in our current social malaise, covertly taught as acceptable to boys and girls. As many others have expressed, sexualized violence is a men’s issue and as such, he works toward re-educating boys and men to step out of gendered boxes and put a stop to violence in every form. 

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]]> In this episode I'm joined by Tanille and Sheldon, two of the people behind the Reimagining Masculinities Conference in Victoria, BC. We chat about what the healthy masculine role model of the future might be, accessing emotions, and the importance of not doing this work in isolation from one another.


Tanille Geib is a Lover of Humans. She is an intimacy coach & coordinator, sexuality educator & curriculum developer, advocate, community leader, creative producer, and artist. In the past 5 years she has educated and worked with over 4000 people on healthy sexuality and relationships. Currently she is known as Victoria’s Consent Captain where she supports events to create safer spaces and educate communities on the nuances of consent. To find out more about her work, passions, and upcoming events check out her website: www.tanillegeib.ca


Sheldon Kitzul is a Leadership Coach, Social Worker, and Educator. His work provides inspiration for clients through energy, insight, and enthusiasm, and is centred on evidence-based practice and response-based principles. He works from a place where it is evident that sexualized violence is, in our current social malaise, covertly taught as acceptable to boys and girls. As many others have expressed, sexualized violence is a men’s issue and as such, he works toward re-educating boys and men to step out of gendered boxes and put a stop to violence in every form. 

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]]> From Bangladesh to Burlesque: A Conversation with Khan From Bangladesh to Burlesque: A Conversation with Khan Tue, 11 Jun 2019 05:21:57 GMT 54:14 5cff3a75c2d2ac8a4a87a25f true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/from-bangladesh-to-burlesque-a-conversation-with-khan 5cff3a75c2d2ac8a4a87a25f 5c1c762cca573391479832cb from-bangladesh-to-burlesque-a-conversation-with-khan conversations about men, masculinity, and our relationships with them full 1 6 In this episode I sit down with my friend Khan. His journey is an inspiring one. Our conversation explored the expectations of masculinity in Islamic cultures, the liberating power of rave culture and electronic dance music, to the transformation potential of burlesque.


Khan has been a community builder and facilitator in the Victoria polyamorous community for over 5 years, and cares about supporting and welcoming people into this community. He is passionate about supporting social justice, consent education and alternative relationship models. Khan is also a passionate and professional Software Engineer, and on his time off, a Photographer, Burlesque dancer and an EDM DJ.

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]]> In this episode I sit down with my friend Khan. His journey is an inspiring one. Our conversation explored the expectations of masculinity in Islamic cultures, the liberating power of rave culture and electronic dance music, to the transformation potential of burlesque.


Khan has been a community builder and facilitator in the Victoria polyamorous community for over 5 years, and cares about supporting and welcoming people into this community. He is passionate about supporting social justice, consent education and alternative relationship models. Khan is also a passionate and professional Software Engineer, and on his time off, a Photographer, Burlesque dancer and an EDM DJ.

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]]> <![CDATA[Men's Work & Vulnerability : with James Bell & Devin Gleeson]]> Fri, 10 May 2019 06:18:54 GMT 1:02:53 5cd516d7152caa4378cc9beb true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/mens-work-vulnerability-with-james-bell-devin-gleeson 5cd516d7152caa4378cc9beb 5c1c762cca573391479832cb mens-work-vulnerability-with-james-bell-devin-gleeson conversations about men, masculinity, and our relationships with them full 1 5 "We have this culture that says there's something really wrong with feelings... Starting to feel, you can direct your anger, you can use your sadness to deeply connect with someone. Feelings are one of the greatest gifts we have as human beings, they are the house of intuition, and to not have access to them is to be limited in our humanity."

~ Devin Gleeson.


In this episode I'm talking to two men who live and breathe something called 'men's work'. I know both of these men through different communities that practice Zegg Forum, a community vulnerability ritual, and our conversation covers a lot of ground on men's work with emotions, vulnerability, and the incredible impact this has on men's relationships to themselves, and the others in their lives.


James Bell helps people get unstuck in their lives using a combination of coaching, deep breathing and bodywork. He has also been involved in mens' work as a member of the Samurai Brotherhood for the last 2 years. You can find out more about him here www.ourhealingroom.com


Devin Gleeson is a personal growth and purpose coach who helps clients discover and pursue the work and lives closest to their hearts. During the last several years, he’s immersed himself in desire coaching, orgasmic meditation, sacred sexuality, communal living, and feelings work – all of which he brings to bear in his 1:1 coaching. He also co-hosts an online sexuality group for men wishing to release sexual shame and come into deeper contact with their own authentic desires. Learn more about Devin at https://devingleeson.com/



Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford.

Cover Image by Prince Photos

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]]> "We have this culture that says there's something really wrong with feelings... Starting to feel, you can direct your anger, you can use your sadness to deeply connect with someone. Feelings are one of the greatest gifts we have as human beings, they are the house of intuition, and to not have access to them is to be limited in our humanity."

~ Devin Gleeson.


In this episode I'm talking to two men who live and breathe something called 'men's work'. I know both of these men through different communities that practice Zegg Forum, a community vulnerability ritual, and our conversation covers a lot of ground on men's work with emotions, vulnerability, and the incredible impact this has on men's relationships to themselves, and the others in their lives.


James Bell helps people get unstuck in their lives using a combination of coaching, deep breathing and bodywork. He has also been involved in mens' work as a member of the Samurai Brotherhood for the last 2 years. You can find out more about him here www.ourhealingroom.com


Devin Gleeson is a personal growth and purpose coach who helps clients discover and pursue the work and lives closest to their hearts. During the last several years, he’s immersed himself in desire coaching, orgasmic meditation, sacred sexuality, communal living, and feelings work – all of which he brings to bear in his 1:1 coaching. He also co-hosts an online sexuality group for men wishing to release sexual shame and come into deeper contact with their own authentic desires. Learn more about Devin at https://devingleeson.com/



Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford.

Cover Image by Prince Photos

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]]> <![CDATA[Consent & Accountability ~ A Conversation with Kim Dee, Victor Salmon & Justin Roll]]> Tue, 09 Apr 2019 05:43:02 GMT 1:08:20 5cac30e5dd43c76e3c694b5b true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/consent-accountability 5cac30e5dd43c76e3c694b5b 5c1c762cca573391479832cb consent-accountability conversations about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them full "Being in a situation where someone is telling you, okay you have to sit down and learn about this and you are forced into this conversation — they're not consenting to being in the room to talk about consent, and there's a problem there. If we want to move forward as a society, everyone needs to learn about this, but doing this in a way where we are forcing people into it?... There's a lot of animosity among a lot of young men... they see it as an attack on them. They see the conversations around consent and trying to be a better person as that there is something wrong with them."


~ Justin Roll



In this episode we're talking about Consent: what is it as a concept, what is it in practice? What's the difference between seeking permission and finding a space of mutual agreement? And how do we engage with accountability when we learn that we've done harm to others?


Joining me are three experts on Consent Advocacy and Education.


Kim Dee is a passionate educator with over 18 years of teaching, facilitation, and outreach training and experience. She holds a PhD in evolution and behaviour, is a co-lead of the GVIAS Conduct Committee, and co-founder of the Vancouver-based Consent Crew.


Justin Roll is a consent advocate and youth and children's program organizer living in Vancouver. In addition to volunteering with The Consent Crew, Justin previously facilitated workshops in both high schools and elementary schools across the lower mainland, talking with young men about masculinity and consent. 


Victor Salmon is an intersectional mixed-race feminist. Queer relationship anarchist. Educator. Consultant. Volunteer.  Mediator. MVK director at large and Accountability Subcommittee member. Restorative justice and accountability blogger. Vancouver Consent Crew Facilitator. Podcast host for Intimate Interactions.   





Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford.


Cover image: still of actor Harrison Ford as Han Solo in Star Wars: A New Hope

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]]> "Being in a situation where someone is telling you, okay you have to sit down and learn about this and you are forced into this conversation — they're not consenting to being in the room to talk about consent, and there's a problem there. If we want to move forward as a society, everyone needs to learn about this, but doing this in a way where we are forcing people into it?... There's a lot of animosity among a lot of young men... they see it as an attack on them. They see the conversations around consent and trying to be a better person as that there is something wrong with them."


~ Justin Roll



In this episode we're talking about Consent: what is it as a concept, what is it in practice? What's the difference between seeking permission and finding a space of mutual agreement? And how do we engage with accountability when we learn that we've done harm to others?


Joining me are three experts on Consent Advocacy and Education.


Kim Dee is a passionate educator with over 18 years of teaching, facilitation, and outreach training and experience. She holds a PhD in evolution and behaviour, is a co-lead of the GVIAS Conduct Committee, and co-founder of the Vancouver-based Consent Crew.


Justin Roll is a consent advocate and youth and children's program organizer living in Vancouver. In addition to volunteering with The Consent Crew, Justin previously facilitated workshops in both high schools and elementary schools across the lower mainland, talking with young men about masculinity and consent. 


Victor Salmon is an intersectional mixed-race feminist. Queer relationship anarchist. Educator. Consultant. Volunteer.  Mediator. MVK director at large and Accountability Subcommittee member. Restorative justice and accountability blogger. Vancouver Consent Crew Facilitator. Podcast host for Intimate Interactions.   





Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford.


Cover image: still of actor Harrison Ford as Han Solo in Star Wars: A New Hope

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]]> <![CDATA[Queering Masculinity ~ A Conversation with Levi Chase & Bram Singleton]]> Mon, 04 Mar 2019 02:50:16 GMT 1:01:54 5c7c9263edf06b0c5b6c5e0a false https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/queering-masculinity-a-conversation-with-levi-chase-bram-sin 5c7c9263edf06b0c5b6c5e0a 5c1c762cca573391479832cb queering-masculinity-a-conversation-with-levi-chase-bram-sin conversations about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them full 1 3 "What are you saying is not masculine— and how can you turn it around and include it?"

~ Bram Singleton.


This week I'm joined by Bram and Levi. Both identify as queer, having been assigned male at birth. It was an absolute joy to chat with both of them about queer perspectives on masculinity, and on embracing aspects of masculinity as a conscious choice.


Levi Chase is a queer, non binary facilitator and volunteer counsellor. They do work in men’s circles and are passionate about healing and supporting men and masculine people to learn new and healthier ways to express and experience masculinity.


Bram Singleton describes themselves as queer in gender, and queer in orientation. A photographer and avid cyclist, they are very involved in a variety of queer and trans communities in their home town, Winnipeg.




Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford.

Cover image: still of actor John Wayne, film unknown.

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]]> "What are you saying is not masculine— and how can you turn it around and include it?"

~ Bram Singleton.


This week I'm joined by Bram and Levi. Both identify as queer, having been assigned male at birth. It was an absolute joy to chat with both of them about queer perspectives on masculinity, and on embracing aspects of masculinity as a conscious choice.


Levi Chase is a queer, non binary facilitator and volunteer counsellor. They do work in men’s circles and are passionate about healing and supporting men and masculine people to learn new and healthier ways to express and experience masculinity.


Bram Singleton describes themselves as queer in gender, and queer in orientation. A photographer and avid cyclist, they are very involved in a variety of queer and trans communities in their home town, Winnipeg.




Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford.

Cover image: still of actor John Wayne, film unknown.

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]]> The Beast Within ~ a conversation with Mehdi Darvish and Cosmo Meens The Beast Within ~ a conversation with Mehdi Darvish and Cosmo Meens Sun, 03 Feb 2019 23:43:27 GMT 59:32 5c577c7271ce463513f1c017 true https://shows.acast.com/the-masculinitea-podcast/episodes/the-beast-within 5c577c7271ce463513f1c017 5c1c762cca573391479832cb the-beast-within conversations about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them full 1 2 This week I'm joined by Mehdi and Cosmo, two of the wise beings behind The Apollo Project.


Mehdi is a trauma-focussed bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator with two decades of experience as a psychotherapist specializing in trauma and attachment.

Cosmo is a Sex Educator and Chef- two skills which he has been known to combine! He is often found working with his wife, Caitlin, also a well established and respected sex educator. Together they launched a booking app to help connect sex education professionals with clients, Happy Touch.

Together, the three of them have birthed a new kind of men's retreat, The Apollo Project, launching in April 2019.



Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford

Image: Bruce Banner and the Hulk. Artist Unknown.

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]]> This week I'm joined by Mehdi and Cosmo, two of the wise beings behind The Apollo Project.


Mehdi is a trauma-focussed bodyworker and Somatic Sex Educator with two decades of experience as a psychotherapist specializing in trauma and attachment.

Cosmo is a Sex Educator and Chef- two skills which he has been known to combine! He is often found working with his wife, Caitlin, also a well established and respected sex educator. Together they launched a booking app to help connect sex education professionals with clients, Happy Touch.

Together, the three of them have birthed a new kind of men's retreat, The Apollo Project, launching in April 2019.



Intro soundtrack courtesy of Aaron Handford

Image: Bruce Banner and the Hulk. Artist Unknown.

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]]> The Man Code ~ a conversation with Chris Dierkes The Man Code ~ a conversation with Chris Dierkes Sun, 06 Jan 2019 21:01:54 GMT 1:01:00 5c326cbe9c06f32938270da9 false http://www.patreon.com/masculinitea 5c326cbe9c06f32938270da9 5c1c762cca573391479832cb health-masculinity-a-conversation-with-chris-dierkes conversations about masculinity, men, and our relationships with them full 1 1 To launch the show, I sat down with my friend Chris Dierkes. A former monk and later Anglican priest, Chris is a husband, father, and spiritual coach, and was the co-founder of Beams and Struts. We talked about Chris' experience growing up within the white-christian-western-male trope of maleness, the archetypes and role models for masculinity, and the "rewilding of the masculine". We talked about He-Man, Star Wars, Trump, and the damage of the culture where men know they are judged by criteria external to themselves, whether or not they signed up for that.


"All men are real, there's no un-real men... Masculinity is so often defined by an external prototype rather than letting men decide for themselves what that means for them."


Music courtesy of Aaron Handford.

Episode image from La Luz De Jesus Gallery.

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]]> To launch the show, I sat down with my friend Chris Dierkes. A former monk and later Anglican priest, Chris is a husband, father, and spiritual coach, and was the co-founder of Beams and Struts. We talked about Chris' experience growing up within the white-christian-western-male trope of maleness, the archetypes and role models for masculinity, and the "rewilding of the masculine". We talked about He-Man, Star Wars, Trump, and the damage of the culture where men know they are judged by criteria external to themselves, whether or not they signed up for that.


"All men are real, there's no un-real men... Masculinity is so often defined by an external prototype rather than letting men decide for themselves what that means for them."


Music courtesy of Aaron Handford.

Episode image from La Luz De Jesus Gallery.

Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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