Hand on Heart

Listen to This When You're Heartbroken

Mon, 25 Aug 2025 19:58:57 GMT

In this episode, Vic says all the thingsy you might need to hear daily if you're heartbroken!

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Attachment Styles & Why 'the Work' Doesn't Feel Good

Mon, 18 Aug 2025 18:59:39 GMT

In this listener questios episode, Vic covers attachment styles: what they are, how they are formed, and more importantly...how we can use them as a tool for growth and self-understanding instead of using then to beat ourselves up or diagnose our exes. She also touches upon why the healing work doesn't feel great after a breakup, and why doing everything 'right' doesn't allow us to bypass the grief and loss of a relationship ending.

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Attachment Style Resources:

Podcasts: On Attachment by Stephanie Rigg, Let’s Talk Attachments by Jessica Da Silva

Books: Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum, Attached by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller

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My Year of Being Single

Mon, 11 Aug 2025 18:28:37 GMT

In this episode, Vic reflects on three things her year of singledom has taught her. From the urge to move on, to the incandescent rage that comes with heartbreak, and the need to live for the moment, these are the big lessons that a year single will teach you.

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Toughest Breakup Lessons

Mon, 04 Aug 2025 09:11:00 GMT

In this episode, Vic goes through the biggest and toughest pills we have to swallow when we've just gone through a relationship ending. Whether you've walked away or been left, this episode has some wisdom for you that helps you stand in your power, hold yourself accountable for your actions and wellbeing, and lets you show up as your best self!

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Help - I have to see my ex! [LISTENER QUESTIONS EPISODE]

Mon, 28 Jul 2025 09:11:00 GMT

Vic is back to give you tips on how to handle seeing your ex after a breakup. Whether you're meeting for one last conversation, irregularly bumping into each other, or having to see each other often, Vic's got tips and tricks for how you can stay grounded, confident, and healing.

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Hopecore for Breakups and Heartbreak [MINI EP]

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 09:11:00 GMT

In this bonus episode, Vic gives you some hopecore for your breakup/heartbreak.

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Blindside Breakups and Long-Term Heartbreak

Mon, 05 May 2025 09:11:00 GMT

In this listener questions episode, Vic talks about why blindside breakups hurt so much and take so long to recover from. She gives tips on how to avoid or get out of long-term heartbreak and the rumination and story telling that keeps us stuck.

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Processing being the third party and loving yourself after a breakup [LISTENER QUESTIONS]

Mon, 28 Apr 2025 09:11:00 GMT

In this listener questions episode, Vic helps us to unpack the feelings that come when we realise the person we’ve invested in isnt actually single. she also reminds us how to love ourselves after a breakup, and how to stop the ego spiral that comes with feeling like we weren’t good enough for someone.

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10 Hard Truths About Self Love

Mon, 24 Mar 2025 10:11:00 GMT

In this episode, Vic highlights ten hard truths about the self-love journey that all who want to love and cherish themselves more must grapple with. From losing friends and learning to be more resilient to backsliding and remaining vigilant, this episode highlights everything you'll be up against whilst on a journey to loving yourself more.

Don't forget our TikTok live Q&A on Monday 31st March 2025, 7pm UK time!

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Act Like You Love Yourself

Mon, 17 Mar 2025 10:11:00 GMT

In this episode, Vic guides us through the powerful journey of receiving and believing in love from ourselves and others. We’ll explore how self-worth shapes our ability to accept love from our friends and family and partners, how to challenge limiting beliefs about these relationships, and how to recognise love in everyday moments. This episode will give you practical strategies—like gratitude audits, embracing compliments, and practicing self-acknowledgment—to help open your heart to love without guilt or fear. As the self-love bootcamp nears its end, this episode invites reflection, celebration, and intention-setting for the future. Tune in for insights, affirmations, and a reminder that you are worthy of love—today and always.

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EFT for receiving: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4iftRjbAS5o

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Trust Yourself: The Foundation of Self-Love & Confidence

Mon, 10 Mar 2025 10:11:00 GMT

Do you struggle to trust your own abilities? Do you feel fearful of new opportunities, feel stuck when making decisions, and feel the constant need to get reassurance from those closes to you? If so, this episode is for you. Vic reminds us of the power of trusting ourselves, how we become unshakeable when we lean into the belief that we are built to withstand tragedy with resilience, and that we can afford to make mistakes and learn from them. This episode gives you a recipe for how to handle challenging situations with care and resilience and tips on how to build self-trust and a relationship with your intuition.

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How to Build Self-Esteem through Self-Validation

Mon, 03 Mar 2025 10:11:00 GMT

Do you want to rely less on others for your self-esteem? Do you want to feel good in your own right? In this episode, Vic teaches you how to cultivate self-validation and self-celebration—the powerful practice of recognising your own emotions, experiences, and decisions as valid, and yourself as great, without needing external approval. She breaks down why we often seek validation from others and how it can weaken our self-trust. You’ll learn practical ways to affirm your own feelings, honour your experiences, and make decisions with confidence. If you’ve ever doubted yourself or looked to others for reassurance, this episode will help you become your own safe space. Tune in to start validating yourself—because your voice, your truth, and your choices matter.

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Love Your Nervous System to Love Yourself

Mon, 24 Feb 2025 10:11:00 GMT

In this episode Vic reminds us how important it is to be calm and regulated if we want a successful journey to self-love. To experience calmness we want to work with one specific part of our body: the nervous system! With a dysregulated nervous system, we cannot find the breathing room to respond to life rather than reacting to it, so we keep the same old thought and behaviour patterns. Since all of us here on this self-love journey are about breaking destructive patterns, we need to regulate our nervous systems to do that. Vic gives you tips and tricks for nervous system regulation and encourages you to build your own toolbox for keeping calm and grounded no matter what is going on!

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Resources for Dorsal Shutdown (Freeze Response)

Somatic Yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4-7XX2AhAs

Restorative yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nylNjxeOeSw

Resources for Hyperarousal (Flight / Fight Response)

Somatic shaking: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ySJT7EBMDH4

Somatic yoga: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UQgXSO5O7Tg

EFT: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K6kq9N9Yp6E

Resources for Every Day NS Regulation:

Phsiological Sigh (breathwork): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ak7B-yQRjII

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How to Build Self-Love Rituals

Mon, 17 Feb 2025 10:11:00 GMT

In this episode Vic helps you to plan out your daily, weekly, monthly and yearly self-love rituals. These are things that fill your cup so that you can give to others without depleting your energy too much! Having self-love practices grounds our self-love journey in a physical reality, allows us to truly be present and mindful during joyous moments, and builds a positive feedback loop for feeling good and doing good towards ourselves. If that sounds good to you, then its time to build your self-love rituals, find time and energy for you, and solidify that relationship with yourself!

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Lonely on Valentines Day? Listen to this! [BONUS EPISODE]

Thu, 13 Feb 2025 16:05:07 GMT

Single, lonely or heartbroken on Valentine's Day? Have no fear, Vic is here: to remind you that you can use this day to heal, to love yourself, and to set your standards HIGH for the next person who is going to hold your heart on Valentine's-Days-to-come. Listen to this episode if you want to feel less alone and gain useful tips for how to spend your day on 14th Feb!

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How to Stop People Pleasing

Mon, 10 Feb 2025 10:11:00 GMT

Why do we people please? Why do we project expectations and opinions on to others that they might not even have? In this episode, Vic clears all that up and helps you see that your people pleasing tendencies are not as helpful as you might think: they don’t protect you from rejection, but they do block you from authentic connection. If you want to show up more authentically, have deeper connections, and take up more space, this episode is for you. Let’s dive into it.

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How to Accept Yourself as You Are

Mon, 03 Feb 2025 10:11:00 GMT

Will you ever be enough for yourself? Do you struggle to give yourself the grace you give to others? In this episode, Vic reminds us that we know ourselves more intimately than we know anybody. That means we have to come eye to eye with our flaws, demons and dark side. This can be one reason why we struggle to accept ourselves, give ourselves grace, and find it hard to like or love ourselves. In this episode, you’ll learn why we are conditioned to not accept ourselves, what impact this has on our lives, and how you can go about accepting your flaws and limitations whilst taking responsibility for the things you want (and deserve) to change.

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Acceptance Meditations:

Welcoming Acceptance by Bethany Auriel-Hagan: https://insighttimer.com/crystaltreeroad/guided-meditations/welcoming-acceptance?_branch_match_id=1414547636764147575&utm_source=more&utm_medium=guided_meditation&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXz8wrzkzXyyjRz3ROjzKNMPRzDUyyrytKTUstKsrMS49PKsovL04tsnXLBIrlVwAA5gLutzcAAAA%3D

Acceptance by Annemaree Rowley: https://insighttimer.com/annemareerowley/guided-meditations/acceptance-16?_branch_match_id=1414547636764147575&utm_source=more&utm_medium=guided_meditation&_branch_referrer=H4sIAAAAAAAAA8soKSkottLXz8wrzkzXyyjRN43MdnYsNPZzDUyyrytKTUstKsrMS49PKsovL04tsnXLBIrlVwAACeYxUzcAAAA%3D

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What is Self-Care and How Do We Do It?

Mon, 27 Jan 2025 10:11:00 GMT

Self-care is not always comfy and cosy! In this episode, Vic reminds us that self-care is more about living a life that is balanced and harmonised rather than succumbing to the latest trendy workout or beauty subscription box. Caring for ourselves can rarely be as neatly packaged and marketed as we might think, and often it involves doing the things we don’t want to do: booking our appointments, cleaning our living spaces, changing lightbulbs! A life caring for the self is treading the rope between responsibility on the one hand and joy on the other, and Vic is here to help you figure out how to walk that tightrope.

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How to Uncover Your Inner Worth

Mon, 20 Jan 2025 10:11:00 GMT

You. Are. Worthy. And you deserve to know it and feel it! In this episode, Vic shares her insight on self-worth and explains how we can adopt a mindset that we are all inherently worthy human beings, so that we can have a stable foundation to build the rest of our relationship with the individual self. If you feel you lack self-worth, or feel you have not been in touch with your worth, this episode is for you.

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Self-Worth Resources

Positive Affirmations by Lavendaire: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yo1pJ_D-H3M&list=PL37ErCJmMWd2uRFJBv19A2zC-oYmzvX25

Louise Hay Affirmations: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P6y7Hhmp-9I

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WNhwwu27RFA

Self-Worth Meditations:

https://insighttimer.com/lisaromano/guided-meditations/healing-unworthiness-guided-alpha-binaural-beats-meditation

https://insighttimer.com/lindahall/guided-meditations/waterlily-meditation-for-self-worth

Anxiously Attached by Jessica Baum: https://www.beselffull.com/anxiouslyattached

Journalling Prompts for Inner Child Work:

What is something you wish I understood?
What would you like to tell me?
What do you need right now?
What would bring you joy and fun?

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How to Treat Yourself with Compassion

Mon, 13 Jan 2025 10:11:00 GMT

Do you struggle with a critical self-view? Do you find it hard to forgive and accept yourself? If so, this is the episode for you! In this ep Vic is here to guide you through how to act more compassionately towards yourself and why it is so important to do so. Although it takes patience and care, changing the way we treat ourselves - especially when we’re at our lowest - can have hugely positive impacts on our lives, and how we see and feel about ourselves.

Music by Lemon Music Studios from Pixabay.

SELF-COMPASSION RESOURCES:

Self-Compassion exercises: https://self-compassion.org/self-compassion-practices/#self-compassion-exercises

Meditation to Increase Self-Compassion / Acceptance: https://insighttimer.com/sarahblondin/guided-meditations/i-would-like-to-give-you-permission

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Kickstart Your Self-Love Journey with Self-Respect

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 10:11:59 GMT

In this episode Vic tells us that self-love must be built over time, and one way you can start building it is by embodying self-respect. This episode teaches you the importance of your core values and aligning our behaviors with them. If you think you could do with a life and relationship audit to examine habits and relationships, and want encouragement to set boundaries that honor your values and demonstrate the respect you have for yourself, this ep is for you!

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Season 2: Self-Love Bootcamp

Mon, 06 Jan 2025 09:10:48 GMT

In this Season of the Hand on Heart Pod, I'll lead us through a 12-week self-love bootcamp. Although we might feel pressure to "reinvent" ourselves each New Year, I'm here to remind you that self-love isn’t an aesthetic or quick fix—it’s a journey built brick by brick. With validation, vulnerability and warmth, this season will share my her personal growth from self-hatred to self-respect, and lead you through all the key milestones to self-love. We'll work on your self-worth, compassion, care, and emotional availability. Together, we'll confront challenges, embrace imperfections, and celebrate progress, however messy. Tune in Mondays for practical tools, heartfelt insights, and empowering reminders that you are already worthy, lovable, and amazing. Let’s grow together!

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Book Recommendations for Heartbreak [Listener Question]

Mon, 30 Dec 2024 11:11:41 GMT

Vic continues the listener questions series and gives some reading recommendations for your broken heart.

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A Christmas Message from the Hand on Heart Pod

Wed, 25 Dec 2024 10:11:27 GMT

Here's a quick drop-in to wish you a Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year, and to remind you that if this season doesn't look how you hoped and you're feeling alone... you're far frome alone.

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How to Get Over Them Leaving You for Someone Else [Listener Question]

Mon, 23 Dec 2024 11:11:25 GMT

Vic answers a new listener question and delves into the reasons why people jump from one relationship to the next, and tells you why you shouldn't take it personally or let it make you feel insecure.

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Top 5 Tips for Healing from Heartbreak [Listener Question]

Mon, 16 Dec 2024 10:11:52 GMT

In this episode, Vic gives her top 5 tips for recovering from heartbreak and tries to summarise the most important points of the last 15 episodes.

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Repairing a Relationship After Infidelity

Mon, 09 Dec 2024 10:11:42 GMT

In the final episode for this season, Vic helps us to navigate the stormy seas of staying in a relationship and doing the repair work when one partner has strayed and the other is handling the heartbreak of that. Here at this show, we understand and validate that there's no shame in staying, so we’re here to provide practical tips for healing and repairing so that you have the best chance at success. From scheduling regular processing sessions, managing triggers through regulation techniques, communicating needs clearly, and establishing new boundaries, Vic stresses the importance of being an active participant in the repair work both individually and relationally. Are you ready to make your relationship brand, spanking new? Then let’s get into it!

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Moving Forward After Infidelity

Mon, 02 Dec 2024 10:11:43 GMT

In this episode, Vic dives into the devastating topic of infidelity and provides guidance for you if you’re experiencing - or have experienced - this horrendous type of heartbreak. Betrayal and hurt are challenging, and the destabilising effect on our reality is often the most damaging aspect of being cheated on. This episode is going to validate your messy feelings, help you challenge any unhelpful thought patterns and encourage you to take the space and healing time you need, as well as help you start to rebuild your self-worth and self-trust.

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Surviving the Holidays Single

Mon, 25 Nov 2024 10:11:15 GMT

In this episode, Vic guides us through strategies for navigating the holiday season as a single person. This time of year can leave us feeling lonely and disappointed, so we need to really look after ourselves and work that little bit harder to find the magic of the season. Sharing key tips on how to stay grounded, sane, and optimistic, this episode not only validates all the feelings you have about the winter months, but also teaches the importance of self-care, nervous system regulation, and finding magic in independence. If you want to show yourself love, manage your expectations of the season, and get through the end of the year feeling courageous and peaceful, then this episode is dedicated to you.

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Dating After Heartbreak

Mon, 18 Nov 2024 10:11:13 GMT

In this week's short and sweet episode, Vic guides us through the delicate process of re-entering the dating scene after experiencing heartbreak. Emphasizing the importance of self-reflection and clarity about our dreams, wishes, and underlying intentions before diving back in, this episode reminds us to take things slow, manage our expectations, and be prepared for emotional ups and downs that come with being in the dating pool after we’ve been burned before. If you want validation for how difficult getting back into dating is, tips on how to increase your chances of success in finding a good match, and the knowledge of how to stay sane and connected to your intuition and inner wisdom in the process, this episode is for you.

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What to do when your ex was 'the one'

Mon, 11 Nov 2024 10:11:07 GMT

In this episode, Vic guides us through the pain of feeling like you have found and then lost "the one" for you. She talks about why it might be hurting you to think of your ex as your lost soulmate, and what might be a healthier mindset to adopt. She shares her personal journey from believing she'd lost her one true love to realising that while the connection was special, it wasn't her only chance at happiness. Emphasising the importance of challenging the narrative of "the one," acknowledging red flags in past relationships, and committing to healing, this episode encourages listeners to recognise that deep love doesn't always equate to compatibility and that it's possible to form meaningful connections with others. Vic gives you a reminder to be your own "one," and to view your past loves as "a one" rather than "the one" so you can find the peace and openness to future relationships that you deserve.

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Coping When Your Ex (or Crush!) Starts Dating Someone New

Thu, 07 Nov 2024 14:10:26 GMT

In this episode, Vic guides us through the emotional minefield of discovering an ex or crush has begun dating someone else. She acknowledges the gut-wrenching pain of this situation—a universal experience many of us have faced. Whilst stressing the importance of fully embracing our emotions, be it sadness, jealousy, or anger, this episode cautions against letting these feelings overwhelm us indefinitely. This episode is for you if you want practical coping strategies for when you have to come to terms with the person you want being suddenly off the market. Rise to the occasion and challenge negative thought patterns, bolster your self-esteem and take good care of yourself. This episode is here to remind you that someone else's new relationship neither diminishes your worth nor negates the significance of your past connections. As always, this ep is here to validate all your messy feelings and reassure you that this pain is temporary and that focusing on personal growth and self-love is the surest path to recovery.

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Navigating Loneliness When You're Single

Mon, 28 Oct 2024 10:11:08 GMT

In this episode, Vic validates your feeling of loneliness and intense yearning for someone after heartbreak. Missing someone after a connection ends is normal and doesn't indicate failure to heal or move on, and it is best to accept the feelings of yearning rather than fighting them and facing added pain and hurt when they don’t go away. Also, Vic gives you coping strategies to deal with heartbreak loneliess by telling you what to do and not to do (pro tip: don’t keep looking at pictures of your ex and don’t shove yourself straight onto dating apps to fill that void!). With this ep, you’ll learn how to look after your own needs that were being met by the connection you had, how to connect with your love language and speak it to yourself, and how to build or re-build communities of support around you to fill your time and your life.

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Want to get in touch with a listener question? You can email me at handonheartpod@gmail.com!

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LOVE LANGUAGE QUIZ:

Want a quick and easy way to figure out your love language? Take this quiz to get yourself startedr: https://5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/love-language

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Accountability and Heartbreak

Mon, 21 Oct 2024 09:11:40 GMT

In this episode, Vic helps us out with how to overcome that desperate (but entirely reasonable) need for an apology from an ex. We all have an ex who should be chartering a sky writing plane to score an apology to us into the clouds. Unfortunately, not everybody who we enter into connections with will have the self-awareness or capability to take accountability for the way their actions hurt us. We have a choice: cling on to the pain in the hopes that one day they will come and own it, or acknowledge and move through the pain ourselves so that the load gets a little lighter. If you wish your ex would come and take accountability for the hurt they caused you, but absolutely want to move on with your life and stop living in pain, this episode is for you.

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How to Go No Contact

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 10:11:43 GMT

In this episode, Vic leads you through understanding what no contact is and why it is beneficial, and also gives you tools and tricks for making the transition a little easier and monitoring your progress and thoughts during. No contact may be a simple but effective method for healing after heartbreak, but it is often difficult to implement. Hence, this episode validates all the horrible feelings and fears you have about going no contact, whilst reassuring you that it IS often the best thing for YOU and can help you either move on from a heartache or get yourself on a better path to reconciliation.

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No Contact Journal Prompts:

Intensity of want to reach out of them: ?/10
If higher than 5: what am I really needing from that communication? What do I want to hear and how do I want to feel because of it? Are there other ways to secure that feeling / need?
What would I say to them if not in no contact? What do I want them to understand about my experience of this break up? Are they the type of person who could understand this?
Distractions Attempted:
Distractions that Worked:
Reminder of why I’m in no contact (if needed):

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Finding Closure After a Breakup

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 09:11:44 GMT

In this episode, Vic discusses how we usually go about finding closure at the end of a relationship, and why it might not be conductive to healing and moving on. Often, closure is sought when we need it least, typically right after a breakup when emotions are raw. The intense desire for one last conversation or for answers to questions that we simply need in order to close a chapter, are actually masking a desire for reconciliation or validation. However, these last conversations can buckle under the weight of the expectations we place on them and can lead to further pain. Whilst curiosity about an ex's feelings or mindset is a common occurrence and very natural, leaning too far into that can be counterproductive to healing, as it so often puts your emotional healing in their hands. In this episode, you'll find healthier approaches to moving on and giving yourself closure, by focusing on self-healing and personal growth rather than seeking external validation. After all, true closure comes from within, by processing emotions and learning from the experience.

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Navigating the Uniqueness and Universality of Heartbreak

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 09:11:54 GMT

In this episode Vic explores how we need to honour the uniqueness of our relationships whilst being supported by the universality of love and heartbreak as human experiences. If you have ever found yourself struggling to make your friends and family understand that you and your ex were just tormented, star-crossed lovers who were meant to be, this episode is for you. When we lean too much into the idea that our love story was the love story of the century, we cut ourselves off from a support network that basically includes the entire adult population. Everybody has been through a heartbreak, and many of the experiences of it (including feeling our love was too unique and unmatched to be understood) are universal. When we recognise this, we start to feel less crazy and more human. Deconstructing the narrative that the love we experienced was unmatched and magical also helps us release the power we have given to our love story and reclaim it back for ourselves, an important step in the healing journey.

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Reclaiming Your Self-Worth After a Breakup

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 09:11:30 GMT

In this episode Vic leads you through the process of challenging all the mean, degrading thoughts you have about yourself post-breakup. Whilst validating your experience of spiralling into self-blame, shame, and unworthiness, we're going to gently but firmly question whether all of those negative thoughts actually reflect the reality of how worthy and wonderful you are (spoiler alert: they don't). If you want to step out of the negative narrative you've built about yourself post-breakup and learn tools to give yourself a healthy, sustainable source of self-esteem, this episode is for you.

Music by Lemon Music Studios from Pixabay.

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Processing a Breakup

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 09:11:23 GMT

In this episode, I'm taking you on a journey through relationship losses and how to handle them. Losing a relationship includes so much more than loss of a person in your life. It can feel like grieving for the past, the present and the future all at once. I give you some tips and tricks for how to handle this. You'll figure out how to leave begind the projections and insecurities that come with heartbreak, and how to move forward with the good memories in your pocket, how to reclaim your stability and build a solid future for YOU. This way, you'll stay away from any behaviour that won't make you feel good (no building any shrines to your ex, no getting yourself in trouble for harassment!).

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Getting Over a Situationship

Sun, 08 Sep 2024 07:18:49 GMT

In this episode, we're doing a deep dive on situationships. Particularly, we're talking about why the ending of a situationship seems to hurt so much more than, say, a long term relationship ending. On the surface, it makes no sense. On a deeper level, we know that unexplored potential leaves a gaping hole of questions and what-aboutery for us to come to terms with. With this episode, you'll be validated for having strong ass feelings for your situationship, becoming overwhelmed with grief by the loss of one, and you'll find out how you can go about your healing journey.

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How to Get Them Out of Your Head

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 17:57:03 GMT

In the first week of her series on Heartbreak, professional heartbroken person Vic tells you her tips and tricks to get 'that person' out of your head. We'll dive into the importance of being kind to yourself, observing your patterns, and findind ways to gently redirect your attention to happier things.

Journal Prompts:

What has been the context of the last 5 instances of thinking about my ex/person? Are there any overlapping themes?
How does it benefit me to ruminate and find the logic in my heartbroken thoughts and feelings?
In a perfect world, what would make this heartbreak go away? How can I give myself what I need?
How might my heartbreak feelings ultimately be trying to do me good/protect me?
What would I need to hear to heal me? Can I say these things to myself?

Emotional release meditation:

My favourite emotional release meditaiton is by Stefi Daskalopoulou, see here: https://insighttimer.com/stefidask/guided-meditations/emotional-release

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Introduction to the Hand on Heart Pod!

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 17:56:56 GMT

Welcome to the hand on heart podcast, where I’ll spend the next however-many episodes touching on themes that you might find useful, such as how to overcome heartbreak, deal with self-loathing or low self-esteem, and overall become a more accepting and (hopefully) well-rounded individual. Stick around if that sounds good to you!

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