The Uncommon Bloke Podcast

“I Feel a Sense of Gratitude”: Reflections on the First Season of TUBP (Live Recording)

Mon, 07 Oct 2024 23:00:26 GMT

The season finale of The Uncommon Bloke Podcast, live! Calum and Dan reflect on the first 15 episodes of the show, talking about whether they think they stayed true to the podcast's intentions, their favourite episodes and what they think could have been done differently.

As season one ends, both hosts just wanted to take this moment to thank you, loyal listeners, for allowing them to share our conversations. Till next season, bye for now.

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“We’re Not Taught How to Handle Disappointment When it Comes to Women”: Discussing Rejection Violence by Men Against Women

Mon, 30 Sep 2024 23:00:56 GMT

In this week's episode, Calum and Dan focus their conversation on the act of "rejection violence", whereby men can become violent to women within the context of feeling rejected when their romantic or sexual advances are not reciprocated. This episode contains a content warning, so please bare this in mind when choosing to listen.

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Show Notes

The Danger of "No": Rejection Violence, Toxic Masculinity and Violence Against Women.

Women Who Refuse (Tumblr).

Women Who Refuse (Reddit).

The Man Box (Tony Porter = YouTube Video).

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“It’s A Way For Men To Do Fancy Dress”: Holding Up A Mirror To Men's Relationships with Sport

Mon, 23 Sep 2024 23:00:20 GMT

In this week's episode we explore the world of sport. We discuss the many ways in which both interacting as a player and fan of sport can enhance a man's life. However, we also discuss the ways in which men can mask our insecurities behind the guise of sport.

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“Nuance is Not as Sexy as a Bugatti”: Are There Really No Positive Male Role Models?

Mon, 16 Sep 2024 23:00:43 GMT

Over the past few years, there has been an increased rise in misogynistic influencers; there is no doubt about that. But often, the easy answer as to why that comes down to there being a lack of positive male role models around. In this episode, prompted by an article from The Guardian, Calum and Dan question as to whether this is really the case, and point to a number of positive role models men could turn to if they are looking for one.

Role models mentioned in this episode

The Secondhand Therapy Pod

J.B. Copeland

Alok

Caroline Criado Perez

Laura Bates

Show Notes

How positive male role models are detoxifying the social media ‘manosphere’ (The Guardian, 2024)

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“Don’t be Afraid to Evolve”: Why Do Men Riot? (Live Recording)

Mon, 09 Sep 2024 23:00:12 GMT

What motivates men to get involved in rioting? In this live recording of The Uncommon Bloke Podcast, Calum and Dan discuss the recent UK riots following the murder of three young girls in Southport and fuelled by the misinformation that quickly spread online about the perpetrator. The conversation covers the typologies of rioters (i.e. professional, adventurer, revenge, and victim) and how aspects of masculinity are potentially linked to each one.

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Show notes

A Narrative Based Model of Differentiating Rioters (2017)

Extremism and Toxic Masculinity: the man question re-posed (2019)

Why are there riots in the UK? (BBC, 2024)

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“What About Them?”: Exploring Ghosting in Dating

Mon, 02 Sep 2024 23:00:20 GMT

This week in the Uncommon Bloke podcast we explore men's relationship with ghosting. We share our experiences with ghosting and discuss why people, specifically related to male behaviours, choose to abandon relationships without giving any notification.

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“Big Boys Don’t Cry”: An In Depth Exploration of Stoicism.

Tue, 27 Aug 2024 09:49:32 GMT

In this episode Calum and Dan discuss and explore the world of stoicism and it's impact on our ideas of masculinity and emotions. We differentiate between the portrayal of stoicism in the mainstream media and the philosophy of stoicism as well as discussing it's application in the role of men.

Show notes:

https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S0191886907004473

https://www.theswaddle.com/stoicism-has-become-a-masculine-ideal-that-values-repression-indifference-what-could-go-wrong

The daily stoic

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“It’s Not About You”: What Does it Mean to “Hold Space”?

Mon, 19 Aug 2024 23:00:22 GMT

In this episode, Calum and Dan think about what it means to “hold space”, a term that is potentially used quite a lot in discussions about mental health and relationships on social media; but is perhaps not fully understood or explained that well (as with a lot of therapy-speak). As always, have a listen and let us know your thoughts.

Show Notes:

What Does It Mean to Hold Space?

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“Can’t You Take a Joke, It’s Just Bants”: Exploring the Use of Banter in Male Friendships (Live Recording)

Mon, 12 Aug 2024 23:00:57 GMT

This is the second live recording of The Uncommon Bloke Podcast. In today's episode, and continuing on the theme of male friendships from the last live recording, Dan and Calum discuss the use of banter in male friendships. While it might just seem like a bit of a laugh, if has the potential to be more impactful. Take a listen and let us know your thoughts.

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“Chivalry Was More About Look At Me”- An In Depth Look At Chivalry And Ambivalent Sexism

Mon, 05 Aug 2024 23:00:28 GMT

Calm and Dan explore the link between chivalry and benevolent sexism, a lesser (but by no means less impactful) form of sexism that sits on the continuum of what is known as ambivalent sexism.

Show notes:

Ambivalent Sexism

No, chivalry is not dead – but it’s about time it was (Conversation Article)

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“I Just Crack On”: What It Means To Be Vulnerable.

Mon, 29 Jul 2024 23:00:48 GMT

In today's discussion we discuss and explore the nuances of what it means to be vulnerable. Through some candid, open and - fitting with the theme of today's conversation - vulnerable shares, we explore the different forms of vulnerability and the relationship between vulnerability and masculinity.

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“Just Do it Badly the First Time”: The Nothing Box and Weaponised Incompetence

Mon, 22 Jul 2024 23:00:52 GMT

Following on from the conversation about the mental load of women, Calum and Dan explore the concepts of "The Nothing Box" and "Weaponised Incompetence" as possible aspects of men's socialisation and behaviour that contribute to the extra cognitive burden of women.

Show notes:

The Nothing Box (YouTube Video)

Weaponised Incompetence (Psychology Today)

Men are being called out by women on TikTok for using ‘weaponised incompetence’ to avoid chores (Glamour Magazine)

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“You Could Live to a Hundred”: Men and Friendships (Live Recording)

Mon, 15 Jul 2024 23:00:09 GMT

The first ever live recording of The Uncommon Bloke Podcast. Dan and Calum, taking a lead from a follower comment, discuss their experiences of male friendships, and their importance for your mental and physical health (you could potentially live to 100 years old!)

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“How Big are Your Arms, Bro?”: Is Exercise Better Than Therapy?

Mon, 08 Jul 2024 23:00:34 GMT

Is exercise better than therapy? This is a question Dan once got asked in his side gig as a "psychologist on social media". And who better to have this conversation with than someone (that being Calum) who is big into their fitness and also big into their therapy? This is an insightful and (as always) reflective conversation about all things exercise, therapy, and male identity.

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“Babe, Why Didn't You Say Something”: The Mental Load of Women

Mon, 01 Jul 2024 23:00:58 GMT

If you are a woman, you are more than likely familiar with the "mental load." If you are a man, possibly less so. However, even in the most progressive relationships between men and women, women may still hold more invisible labour. In this episode, through some candid self-disclosure, Calum and Dan reflect on what contributes to women's mental load and offer some thoughts on what men could do to lighten this particular burden.

References:

What is the Mental Load? The Invisible Labor Falling on Women's Shoulders - Kelly Gonsalves (2022)

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“Just Another Day”: Men and Their Birthdays

Mon, 24 Jun 2024 23:00:11 GMT

In this, the first episode of The Uncommon Bloke Podcast hosts Calum and Dan discuss men and birthdays and the idea that for some men, it is "just another day." Using their own testimonies and those of men they contacted for the podcast, they hypothesise why that might be.

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The Uncommon Bloke Podast

Sat, 15 Jun 2024 23:00:58 GMT

Join hosts Calum and Dan, two men with therapeutic backgrounds who are keen on rethinking what it means to be a man. One conversation at a time.

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